Sticking up for oneself is the core issue most men have these days in my opinion. Be it with other men or especially women. Not only will the others lose respect for you, but you yourself lose that respect for yourself which is the most devastating part. How can you expect to be happy in life if you don't even have the courage to be yourself. A lesson i learned just a few weeks ago. Lifes been different since then i tell you.
Ya, this is hard for a lot of guys. There is room for you in the world and it's more than ok to set boundaries. It's also important to know that you can stick up for yourself without being rude, aggressive, defensive, or belittling of other people. Which is also difficult, but so important to learn.
Being accountable for your actions, being forthright and trustworthy, taking on challenges and following through with your responsibilities, controlling your emotions, and not letting them interfere with your ability to reach your goals and care for those you are responsible for, and keeping a sense of humor about it all, to me this is the heart of masculinity and anything else is meaningless.
Its quite difficult to be a man today and i dont particularly mean being strong and manly and all that. The former qualities of masqulinity are just not apply to today's standards.. and society hate us like shit if we are not perfect 7/24, and cant behave perfectly all the times, if we dont provide all day all night we are blamed and forced to feel like shit.. I can completely feel you bro. Following your own goals and make efforts to achieve these goals what makes you a man.
It's a human condition for sure. Trying to live up to societal pressures. And those pressures are definitely unique depending on where you live, what you look like, how you are born, etc. I agree with you, it matters how we deal with those pressures - we need to make more individual goals. Chase goals for ourselves, our loved ones, and our own well being - not the goals that others try to make for us.
I realize this may not at all be helpful, but being a man NOW is a lot harder than it was when I was 34 years old. We are living in society where it's becoming uncommon to hear MASCULINITY without "TOXIC" in front of it. The message being sent is this - if you're a man or act in a manly way, you are inherently bad. We are hearing that women have so much more challenges than men... that men have it easy and have no pressures, struggles, or hardships. All created by a society that wants to weaken its very own strength. Women provide blessings to a society; men provide blessings to a society. Just because they are DIFFERENT blessings don't make one type better than the other. It's just so silly to me. My unsolicited two cents. :)
Thanks for the thoughts Ted! I find it a very interesting topic for sure. I’ve noticed a lot of opinions about masculinity online but not a lot of healthy conversations about it. I’ve also noticed a lot of men around me feeling isolated - and not to discredit the female struggle by any means, but I can’t personally speak to that so I didn’t haha.
Sticking up for oneself is the core issue most men have these days in my opinion. Be it with other men or especially women. Not only will the others lose respect for you, but you yourself lose that respect for yourself which is the most devastating part. How can you expect to be happy in life if you don't even have the courage to be yourself. A lesson i learned just a few weeks ago. Lifes been different since then i tell you.
Ya, this is hard for a lot of guys. There is room for you in the world and it's more than ok to set boundaries. It's also important to know that you can stick up for yourself without being rude, aggressive, defensive, or belittling of other people. Which is also difficult, but so important to learn.
Being accountable for your actions, being forthright and trustworthy, taking on challenges and following through with your responsibilities, controlling your emotions, and not letting them interfere with your ability to reach your goals and care for those you are responsible for, and keeping a sense of humor about it all, to me this is the heart of masculinity and anything else is meaningless.
Well said Duncan. Very well said.
And just another great video! Thank you!
Appreciate you!
Lose the necklace and get a chain like a man.
Nah, the necklace is fine. I'd rock it while kicking ass .
Its quite difficult to be a man today and i dont particularly mean being strong and manly and all that. The former qualities of masqulinity are just not apply to today's standards.. and society hate us like shit if we are not perfect 7/24, and cant behave perfectly all the times, if we dont provide all day all night we are blamed and forced to feel like shit.. I can completely feel you bro. Following your own goals and make efforts to achieve these goals what makes you a man.
It's a human condition for sure. Trying to live up to societal pressures. And those pressures are definitely unique depending on where you live, what you look like, how you are born, etc. I agree with you, it matters how we deal with those pressures - we need to make more individual goals. Chase goals for ourselves, our loved ones, and our own well being - not the goals that others try to make for us.
I realize this may not at all be helpful, but being a man NOW is a lot harder than it was when I was 34 years old. We are living in society where it's becoming uncommon to hear MASCULINITY without "TOXIC" in front of it. The message being sent is this - if you're a man or act in a manly way, you are inherently bad. We are hearing that women have so much more challenges than men... that men have it easy and have no pressures, struggles, or hardships. All created by a society that wants to weaken its very own strength.
Women provide blessings to a society; men provide blessings to a society. Just because they are DIFFERENT blessings don't make one type better than the other.
It's just so silly to me.
My unsolicited two cents. :)
Thanks for the thoughts Ted! I find it a very interesting topic for sure. I’ve noticed a lot of opinions about masculinity online but not a lot of healthy conversations about it. I’ve also noticed a lot of men around me feeling isolated - and not to discredit the female struggle by any means, but I can’t personally speak to that so I didn’t haha.
love your necklace
In the words of Michael Jordan: Stop it. Get some help.
The goat. The real question is if '86-87 Jordan could beat '92-97 Jordan one on one.
I published on this topic in academia. How do I contact you privately? I'll link you to the research article. You'd find it interesting.
Would love to read it! I have lonely-ass twitter I used for about a week last year. Let's try that! x.com/jake_enslin
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