I should note: This isn't to cry victim or poor me. This is to share what's really happening and how I really feel. Being human is messy. Better days are ahead. We just have to keep forging forward. 💛
Often times, those who are alone have the brightest of smiles. In life most things aren’t guaranteed but the thought of trying counts and long term can be progress, whether it be big or small. Everyone’s path is different, also those who use your kindness aren’t worth it when you’re on top of the world. Letting go can be hard but remember the sake of your sanity, this small group of people can make a good impact reminds me of a wholesome community. When rough days come remember the ones you thought were impossible but conquered them up to this point. You got this and this message goes to everyone else who may come across it
I am giving you a virtual hug . I know YT is a one-way medium of connecting with strangers but we hear you, support you and we care. Don 't lose hope. We need you. ❤
Hi, Rebecca. 🤗 I'm sorry to see you feeling this way, but I'm glad you decided to share with us. I had just returned home from a very stressful and emotional situation and decided to pick up my phone to distract myself. Hearing your sadness made me completely forget about all that for the moment. I understand the cyclical darkness, though it is different for each of us who experiences it. I'm glad you can enforce boundaries. I am starting to re-learn how to do that. I think it is most important for us to use boundaries to take care of ourselves, and if it pushes people away...they weren't worth having around. We're here for you. Reach out if you want to talk.
So glad this could help! And here I thought people would be completely turned off by it. Sorry you're going through it. 🥺 Hang in there and know you aren't alone. Guess we are building a supportive online community, it seems. 💛🤗💛
Sometimes you just gotta vent. And I just sat and listened not to try to solve your problems but just an ear to hear. I kind of feel a lot of loneliness myself which I’m sharing on my channel so I get how you feel.
It sucks you have to deal with this, month over month. 😪 But it's good you understand it now/why. The people pleaser thing is VERY hard.... good job on setting boundaries! I have alot to learn there still.... But you are right... you will have alot of "Friends" then, but not REAL friends.
Thanks! Yeah, when these awful feelings and symptoms showed up like clockwork each month, I knew something was up and it wasn't just the blues. And thanks for the kudos on the boundary setting. I still feel guilty when I do it, even though I know it's the right thing. 🙃 Ahh, to heal all these childhood issues/traumas...🫠
@@RebeccaPebble Yes... the childhood stuff is very hard to get past sometimes... I thought I was beyond some of it too, but am realizing... nope, maybe not!! haha. But at least we are recognizing it and confronting it! Unfortunately I feel like many people bury it/or dont want to admit/acknowledge or do the work. Or maybe blame everyone else/not take responsibility of their own.
You're not alone... I used to be in a band constantly surrounded by friends and suppose it friends, and the moment all that ended they all disappeared I feel and know your pain. You got something special and it's only a matter of time before the world realizes it just got to stick with it and grind. This will only make you stronger. And I😊 and the rest of your subscribers have your back.
I see you and feel you little sister!!! 👋 Life is a series of ebbs and flows. Be patient with yourself and others. Big hugs from me and your YT fans. When we are weak, we need each other. When we are strong, we still need each other. Get up, dress up, and show up. Go out and accept the gift of a smile from someone. I'm pulling for you. You got this girl. 🙂💛 🙏
Hi Rebecca! New viewer here (sorry I can't help balance out the gender gap!) I hope you can see from all these comments that we are glad you're here. We're glad you are being real, I totally agree with you on getting sick of AI. I too, wish there was an in-person place where I feel I could belong...it is so rare in this day and age. Thank you so much for your courage in posting this. You give so much, please take all the time you need to process and feel. Sending you hugs during this hard time.
Hi! So glad you're here! Thank you so much for your sweet encouragement. Means a lot! Please take care of yourself. Maybe the pendulum will swing the other way and people will gather once more. One can hope. 💛
hey rebecca! Thank you for sharing your vulnerable side with us. its okay and necesary to let your feelings out instead of hiding them away, Soo sorry you dont have anyone in your real life who doesnt get you,,,that is mesed up. if there was a way id come over to florida and give you a big fat hug. feel hugged virtually from me, okay?
Despite being an introvert, I relate to what you were saying with everyone leaving as soon as you assert boundaries. Guess it's the EJ experience! I personally have a lot less people in my life now, and I'm definitely kinda lonely, but the people who I do have are people with whom I have mutually beneficial relationships where we can actually build shit together, which ends up being worthwhile in a way that being friends with dicksuckers who want something from you never will be. I think in this second stage of life is about building something worthwhile rather than settling for worthless friendships with worthless people due to being a desperate idiot. (talking about myself, I'm sure you're not an idiot.)
Yes, the EJ experience. 🫠 And it's crazy how we have to find the people, places, and things (all the nouns!) that truly resonate once we find ourselves. Such is life, I suppose. Nice to know I'm not alone.
🥺I don't know what to say other than I feel for you and consider you a friend even if it's just virtual for whatever it's worth. Maybe one day we can hang out in person, but my agoraphobia gets the best of me most days and I am housebound for the most part. So virtual friends are all I have for the time being. Please do whatever you need to do for your own well being, Rebecca. If this internet thing doesn't fulfil or you need to strike a healthy balance with the real physical world than just know you don't owe us viewers anything and you deserve to live a life that brings you joy. I don't have any other real good advice cause my own life is a mess, lol. Life is strange isn't it? At the end of the day Jesus is the answer to all my heart ache and fears, everything else is a beautiful letdown; as a song from my favorite christian band Switchfoot sings. You are infinitely loved by God and He has you safely in his arms forever more.
Thank you so much! Yes, I'd love a meetup with everyone here. It's a lofty goal, but perhaps one day...and I am glad you have this space. Didn't realize you were battling agoraphobia. 🥺 Sending you hugs. 💛
I love the raw authenticity and vulnerability in this video, but at the same time I'm sorry youre struggling. Miht be good to hang around with other high Fe users who can relate? We can get taken advantage of for sure but i expect not wanting to be a victim of it we'd be more understanding with others of the same type Also we've all got the bad sides to us (yes even the 7s and 3s). We're gonna be popular as people pleasers because very few people want to do that (we know why later on oops) but i think we might be making ourselves too perfect early on and deciding to change later and no one likes that, they'd probably stick around more if we were assertive at the beginning like everyone else, who knows
The one who told you to not put up vids that express tougher thoughts and times, bless him, but he was wrong. A large disservice we do ourselves and others is to express only that all is fine and roses. This is false and damaging to ourselves and others, as this teaches dualism rather than integration. It is unrealistic to think and express that anyone, spiritual or motivational, does not have ups and downs and difficulties. I would not trust someone to help me through a hard time if they never experienced one themselves. It is the perseverance, vulnerability, and Truth that brings wisdom and healing. I think I've lost a friend recently, too. Eight years of friendship, and I'm like? I will share a link that's helped me with that. It is tough even for introverts to be alone all the time. It is not meant to be so for any of us, as we are tribal. As for us being spread out geographically, there is a school of thought as to that...that were we all together, we may just enjoy that and not touch the lives we are meant to while here...as light codes can be exchanged in a smile with a stranger, a seemingly out of place leaf, stick, seed, or feather at our door, words in a song on the radio or in our head or on our heart. These are meant to remind us we are not alone. Yet; while we are here, they also remind us how separate we are. I love you, beautiful friend. ruclips.net/user/shortsJM0fozpzKsY?si=_Wv6UD1JHYNo_UNO
Thank you, Melinda! You get it and are so very wise. Glad you're sharing your wisdom and insights on your channel and through your music as well. So sorry to hear about your friend. 😔 Sending you a hug. 💛
@@RebeccaPebblehugs back! I added some to that after you read it, I think. Do you like potato soup? I've made a pot of hardy, warm, soulful potato soup this morning. I miss sharing, and imagine sharing with you. Take care.
I should note: This isn't to cry victim or poor me. This is to share what's really happening and how I really feel. Being human is messy. Better days are ahead. We just have to keep forging forward. 💛
@@RebeccaPebble Oh yeah right on I hear U🌞
@@RebeccaPebble 💛your like an enchanting type female character right out of a novel. Name, also. Obviously!
You're voice is heard.
Praying for you as you walk this difficult path in life
@@funkysawmanwright5077 Thank you!!💛🥹💛
not _completely_ alone;
I'm here.
🙂
Thank you! 🥹🥰
Often times, those who are alone have the brightest of smiles. In life most things aren’t guaranteed but the thought of trying counts and long term can be progress, whether it be big or small. Everyone’s path is different, also those who use your kindness aren’t worth it when you’re on top of the world. Letting go can be hard but remember the sake of your sanity, this small group of people can make a good impact reminds me of a wholesome community. When rough days come remember the ones you thought were impossible but conquered them up to this point. You got this and this message goes to everyone else who may come across it
Beautiful. Thank you!🌟💛🌟
@ you’re welcome this video got recommended and it resonates. Just remember take it one day at a time the rest will into place
I am giving you a virtual hug . I know YT is a one-way medium of connecting with strangers but we hear you, support you and we care. Don 't lose hope. We need you. ❤
Aww thank you so much!! This is incredibly sweet and touching!💖🥹💖
your ex was wrong - we get drawn to authenticity - love to you - wish i could hug you - i go thru the same thing -
You're right, he was wrong. Ain't nothing like the real thing. Everyone is human at the end of the day.
Hi, Rebecca. 🤗 I'm sorry to see you feeling this way, but I'm glad you decided to share with us. I had just returned home from a very stressful and emotional situation and decided to pick up my phone to distract myself. Hearing your sadness made me completely forget about all that for the moment. I understand the cyclical darkness, though it is different for each of us who experiences it. I'm glad you can enforce boundaries. I am starting to re-learn how to do that. I think it is most important for us to use boundaries to take care of ourselves, and if it pushes people away...they weren't worth having around. We're here for you. Reach out if you want to talk.
So glad this could help! And here I thought people would be completely turned off by it. Sorry you're going through it. 🥺 Hang in there and know you aren't alone. Guess we are building a supportive online community, it seems. 💛🤗💛
@@RebeccaPebbleThanks. I hope you are doing better tonight.
Sometimes you just gotta vent. And I just sat and listened not to try to solve your problems but just an ear to hear. I kind of feel a lot of loneliness myself which I’m sharing on my channel so I get how you feel.
Thank you!🙏 Sometimes ya gotta vent indeed. Sorry to hear you are dealing with loneliness as well. Seems so common these days.🥺
It sucks you have to deal with this, month over month. 😪 But it's good you understand it now/why. The people pleaser thing is VERY hard.... good job on setting boundaries! I have alot to learn there still.... But you are right... you will have alot of "Friends" then, but not REAL friends.
Thanks! Yeah, when these awful feelings and symptoms showed up like clockwork each month, I knew something was up and it wasn't just the blues. And thanks for the kudos on the boundary setting. I still feel guilty when I do it, even though I know it's the right thing. 🙃 Ahh, to heal all these childhood issues/traumas...🫠
@@RebeccaPebble Yes... the childhood stuff is very hard to get past sometimes... I thought I was beyond some of it too, but am realizing... nope, maybe not!! haha. But at least we are recognizing it and confronting it! Unfortunately I feel like many people bury it/or dont want to admit/acknowledge or do the work. Or maybe blame everyone else/not take responsibility of their own.
You're not alone... I used to be in a band constantly surrounded by friends and suppose it friends, and the moment all that ended they all disappeared I feel and know your pain. You got something special and it's only a matter of time before the world realizes it just got to stick with it and grind. This will only make you stronger. And I😊 and the rest of your subscribers have your back.
I'm sorry to hear that. 😔 And thank you for your kind, supportive words! Means a lot!🌟🙌🌟
@@RebeccaPebble I'm here for you.
Hopefully that didn't come out weird or anything. I know this is the internet and all. But I mean what I say.
@@volourondonut74 Not at all! I appreciate your kind words and support!🌟
I see you and feel you little sister!!! 👋 Life is a series of ebbs and flows. Be patient with yourself and others. Big hugs from me and your YT fans.
When we are weak, we need each other. When we are strong, we still need each other.
Get up, dress up, and show up. Go out and accept the gift of a smile from someone. I'm pulling for you. You got this girl. 🙂💛 🙏
Thank you! 💛🙌💛 Yes, doing my best even on the hard days. 🤗
@@RebeccaPebble I hope that you're having a better day. You remain in my prayers. 🙏
Hi Rebecca! New viewer here (sorry I can't help balance out the gender gap!) I hope you can see from all these comments that we are glad you're here. We're glad you are being real, I totally agree with you on getting sick of AI. I too, wish there was an in-person place where I feel I could belong...it is so rare in this day and age. Thank you so much for your courage in posting this. You give so much, please take all the time you need to process and feel. Sending you hugs during this hard time.
Hi! So glad you're here! Thank you so much for your sweet encouragement. Means a lot! Please take care of yourself. Maybe the pendulum will swing the other way and people will gather once more. One can hope. 💛
hey rebecca! Thank you for sharing your vulnerable side with us. its okay and necesary to let your feelings out instead of hiding them away, Soo sorry you dont have anyone in your real life who doesnt get you,,,that is mesed up. if there was a way id come over to florida and give you a big fat hug. feel hugged virtually from me, okay?
Aww! I know you would! I still need to visit Germany sometime. I heard it is stunning! And thanks for the hug. I feel it. 🤗
@@RebeccaPebble if you ever happen to visit germany feel free to reach out, okay?
Despite being an introvert, I relate to what you were saying with everyone leaving as soon as you assert boundaries.
Guess it's the EJ experience!
I personally have a lot less people in my life now, and I'm definitely kinda lonely, but the people who I do have are people with whom I have mutually beneficial relationships where we can actually build shit together, which ends up being worthwhile in a way that being friends with dicksuckers who want something from you never will be.
I think in this second stage of life is about building something worthwhile rather than settling for worthless friendships with worthless people due to being a desperate idiot. (talking about myself, I'm sure you're not an idiot.)
Yes, the EJ experience. 🫠 And it's crazy how we have to find the people, places, and things (all the nouns!) that truly resonate once we find ourselves. Such is life, I suppose. Nice to know I'm not alone.
🥺I don't know what to say other than I feel for you and consider you a friend even if it's just virtual for whatever it's worth. Maybe one day we can hang out in person, but my agoraphobia gets the best of me most days and I am housebound for the most part. So virtual friends are all I have for the time being. Please do whatever you need to do for your own well being, Rebecca. If this internet thing doesn't fulfil or you need to strike a healthy balance with the real physical world than just know you don't owe us viewers anything and you deserve to live a life that brings you joy. I don't have any other real good advice cause my own life is a mess, lol. Life is strange isn't it? At the end of the day Jesus is the answer to all my heart ache and fears, everything else is a beautiful letdown; as a song from my favorite christian band Switchfoot sings. You are infinitely loved by God and He has you safely in his arms forever more.
Thank you so much! Yes, I'd love a meetup with everyone here. It's a lofty goal, but perhaps one day...and I am glad you have this space. Didn't realize you were battling agoraphobia. 🥺 Sending you hugs. 💛
🤗 Hoping things look brighter soon.
Thank you, Brad!🌟
I hope to meet someone just like you someday ❤
Thank you! That's very sweet!💛
This dark cloud will pass and the sun will find you again!
So true! It always does.🌞
I love the raw authenticity and vulnerability in this video, but at the same time I'm sorry youre struggling. Miht be good to hang around with other high Fe users who can relate? We can get taken advantage of for sure but i expect not wanting to be a victim of it we'd be more understanding with others of the same type
Also we've all got the bad sides to us (yes even the 7s and 3s). We're gonna be popular as people pleasers because very few people want to do that (we know why later on oops) but i think we might be making ourselves too perfect early on and deciding to change later and no one likes that, they'd probably stick around more if we were assertive at the beginning like everyone else, who knows
Thank you!🥹 Yes, it's a lot to contemplate. 🤔
Wow❤ another Female Angel on Earth... you're so Gorgeous 🥰
Aww thank you! 🥹Definitely didn't feel my best when recording this. 🫣😅
@RebeccaPebble Roger That Ms. Pebble. Beautiful beyond Belief...your unmatched....in a way, to ALL Women in past, present and future...
@RebeccaPebble Love at first sight....💘if I may say so...your voice is really Amazing..
Thank you so much!😍😭
Thank you, Hillary! 🥹💖
if you ever want to capture a conversation for your channel - i'd be open to it - i just want to support you - i've been thru a divorce too - 2013 -
Likewise.
Thank you! You're open to a Zoom convo? 🤗
Thank you! Might not be a bad idea! Some collabs...🤔
@@RebeccaPebble my email is on my about me - description - hugs -
Absolutely!
can I be friends with your words?
Of course! 🤗
@@RebeccaPebble cool
I feel bad for you love❤️
@BoukeSchengenga-lx2mf Please don't feel bad.😌 I'm feeling much better today. 💖🤗💖
@@RebeccaPebble I'm glad you're feeling better, I feel bad for you❤️
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The one who told you to not put up vids that express tougher thoughts and times, bless him, but he was wrong.
A large disservice we do ourselves and others is to express only that all is fine and roses. This is false and damaging to ourselves and others, as this teaches dualism rather than integration.
It is unrealistic to think and express that anyone, spiritual or motivational, does not have ups and downs and difficulties. I would not trust someone to help me through a hard time if they never experienced one themselves. It is the perseverance, vulnerability, and Truth that brings wisdom and healing.
I think I've lost a friend recently, too. Eight years of friendship, and I'm like? I will share a link that's helped me with that.
It is tough even for introverts to be alone all the time. It is not meant to be so for any of us, as we are tribal.
As for us being spread out geographically, there is a school of thought as to that...that were we all together, we may just enjoy that and not touch the lives we are meant to while here...as light codes can be exchanged in a smile with a stranger, a seemingly out of place leaf, stick, seed, or feather at our door, words in a song on the radio or in our head or on our heart. These are meant to remind us we are not alone. Yet; while we are here, they also remind us how separate we are.
I love you, beautiful friend.
ruclips.net/user/shortsJM0fozpzKsY?si=_Wv6UD1JHYNo_UNO
Thank you, Melinda! You get it and are so very wise. Glad you're sharing your wisdom and insights on your channel and through your music as well.
So sorry to hear about your friend. 😔 Sending you a hug. 💛
@@RebeccaPebblehugs back! I added some to that after you read it, I think.
Do you like potato soup? I've made a pot of hardy, warm, soulful potato soup this morning. I miss sharing, and imagine sharing with you.
Take care.