Jessica, thank you so much. When you said that it isn't good to just power through when we're miserable, that it's good to use that energy instead to seek out a way to make something interesting and rewarding to us, it brought tears to my eyes. For decades I've tried to *push through* on so many things! The idea that this was making my brain associate those things with misery had never occurred to me. If I can instead use that sense of unhappiness to remind me to try to pull that task-somehow-into the joyful dance of my life, everything will improve. Thanks again!
Same!!! My parents tell me it's an important skill to be able to push through. Maybe they're right but I think things will get a lot better if I cut that out 😅
I am so happy to see you are reaching so many people. I'm one of the people who found you and subbed in December. I thought I was broken, worthless, and so many other things. You saved my life by helping me see I was different, but not broken. And most importantly not alone. Thank you.
You’re amazing! You have helped me speak about my own adhd as well. I used to be afraid to tell anyone.. especially telling anyone close to me I’m medicated also and doing cognitive behavioral therapy. The responses were lackluster and unsupportive. Thankyou for being a voice, leader, and I feel - a friend. I’ll buy your book no doubt! Congratulations on all of this success and opportunity. You have stories to tell and I can’t wait to hear and read them!!!
I just found adhd 2 years ago at age 36. After always feeling like I was failing at life. I got diagnosed. But now I can't get a doctor to perscribe. Hearing your struggle getting a new doc made me feel better I'm not alone
Yey! Congradulations!!! You deserve all the great things, you worked sooooo hard. I'm a 42 year old nurse, recently diagnosed with ADHD and I work in psychiatry with many patients with diagnosed ADHD. But I love it when I can see the signs and get them evaluated and see their life's change like it did for me. Your channel is a great support for me and to my English speaking patients I recommend to check out for the great advice, validation, strategies and it's at their own time. Thank you for all your hard work. Much love from a Mexican nurse in Sweden.
I almost spit out my coffee when you said that executive function was getting your Christmas cards out on time, because I had just emailed a friend to say I hoped to get them out by the end of January! 🤣 Thank you for everything you do! 🏆🥇👏👏
I’m still procrastinating my high school graduation thank you letters to the people who gave me cards/money… it’s only been a year and a half. To be fair though, covid pushed my graduation ceremony back a few months soooo it didn’t fully feel like I graduated and ALSO I’m lazy and if anybody still cares about that then… sorry I guess 💀
Jessica, your videos helped me seek out treatment for my own ADHD. I just got prescribed meds for the first time in my life (gotta love ADHD treatment hoops). You're an angel. Truly. You've helped myself and my mom both with understanding our AFAB ADHD presentations, habits, and reasons for being the way we are. Thank you so much for everything you do.
Congratulations on the book! This is super exciting ⭐️ You have helped thousands of people and I refer your videos to friends and students. Thank you for your wisdom and your courage. ❤️🧡💛💜🙏
"We are asking for the space where we deserve to exist." That last comment of yours hit me the hardest, because at the heart of it all, that's all we really want isn't it? Acceptance to just exist as we are. Thank you so much for all that you do for us ADHD'ers on this channel!
When she said "I have a rule that I don't force my brain to do something it doesn't want to, but I do try to find ways to make it want to" I felt that bc literally YESTERDAY I tried forcing myself to do geometry I didn't want to and ADHD paralysis'd my way thru the whole day Next time I'm gonna try strategies and stuff instead, I just wish my parents (who homeschool me) would support me like that cuz I could definitely use that advice lol The geometry is still not done but the tears have been cried 👍
Maybe try telling them that as the people responsible for your education they should be open to educating themselves on the best way to maximize your potential and get the most out of it with the least frustration possible. Then direct them here to help them understand. You could send them links to the videos that you connect with most so they can see how best to give you the education I'm sure they want to see you receive. Good luck to you!
@@lowercase_ash So much about ADHD is very frustrating! Keep watching videos to learn how to minimize your symptoms and continue to just subtly slip in bits of information as you go, just taking every opportunity you can find to just make small examples and observations. Hopefully it will help improve things over time!
I watched a RUclips ADD/ADHD where the presenter is going to take some tests to prove that her brain will not do math. She's one math class away from finishing college. She's failed the subject more than once. Sorry, I don't remember where I saw her.
I didn't have my ADHD diagnosis until just over 2 months ago at age 29. I can't tell you how many times I sat at the kitchen table for hours with 15 minutes worth of homework that I helped other students finish before the class had even ended only to not have it done for class the next day. I didn't even consider ADHD a real possibility until I learned that I had immediate family that had been diagnosed with it 20-some years earlier. Parents that don't understand ADHD can be a big obstacle; whether they mean to or not no one can make you feel more ashamed of not achieving your potential (especially if you fall into the twice-exceptional category). My advice would be to introduce them to this channel. There are so many things here that I wish we had known while I was growing up.
Yes!!! I'm so glad that you get to do the audiobook I hate whenever they have somebody else besides the author read it especially if it's somebody that you know through RUclips or listening to a podcast or something so that's amazing that you get to read it!!!!
I cried like 3 times watching this. Thank you for sharing and for everything you do. ❤ I used to think everyone struggled like I do, and never could understand why I failed so hard while being smarter than most of my peers. I'm trying to get help and so far I got prescribed antidepressants which help a little but my ADHD is still so very present. It's embarrassing how forgetful I am. I'm in my 30s but have the memory of a 90 year old grandmom. Life is a struggle when you have ADHD.
I was just officially diagnosed with adhd in December (at age 37) after researching for 4 months about the struggles I’ve had. This channel has been key to understanding how my brain works. Thank you!!!
Laughing out loud at the ADHD secret Santa story - it could almost be a sketch on SNL. Congratulations on the 1m subs! I’m a new sub, who’s just been diagnosed, and your channel has been such a huge help to me. Edit: just joined as a Patreon too. My way of giving back and help the channel educate more people about ADHD.
Congrats! You rock! You have inspired me so much. I watched the chunk of the video where you said “getting distracted is not a moral failing” over and over and over…mind blowing…still working on undoing the old mindsets, since I’m just at the start of the journey. Acknowledging and learning about adhd DOES matter!!! I’m starting to wake up 😮
Awesome stream! Thanks for Tweetering it out!! Regarding advocacy, when you decide to advocate, how do you handle the stress and triggers of living your thing loud-and-proud for everyone to see in the beginning and ongoing? I have no problem with having my diagnosis or talking about it, but I don’t display it.
Today I was having a rough time focusing so of course I went to RUclips. A math problem video showed up in my feed so I decided to go ahead and try and solve me. Took me a while, but I figured it out and was able to take that feeling and knock out the things I was struggling with. Doing something fun whenever you’re stuck can really help!
I'm at the point where you're talking about being overwhelmed. One of my strategies has been to ask people to send me an email so I have both a reminder to think about and time (also less social pressure) to think about it.
Ha, ha, ha 😆 🤣 😄 me laughing at both of us. Today, a person was closing out a meeting with me, telling me what was going to happen next. 🙃 I suddenly couldn't understand anything she was telling me. I stopped her and asked her to email or text me about it.
I missed the live….but I wanna say thanks for all you’ve done!! You literally allowed me to understand my so much more and put names to the emotions I’ve felt, and even got me thinking “hey…that sounds like me… I should probably get checked out….” Turns out, yep, ADHD + But thanks to all of this, I have understanding and I’m getting treatment with meds and therapy. Thanks for all you’ve done and all you’re doing!
Hi, I haven’t even Gott close to finish watching but at the ~12:40 mark you talk about imposter syndrome. I understand that feeling very much as I have it often. But I thought, maybe, telling you something’s about me might help. I have found your videos incredibly helpful in providing insight and not only into myself, but also my patients. I am a Family Medicine Physician and our training was exceedingly neurotypical oriented. I thought I might be ADHD, but never really explored it because I was finding ways to cope that more or less worked (it took me a while I didn’t start Med School until I was 30) but watching your videos has helped develop the courage and compassion to explore this potential dx in myself. I decided to bring it up to my therapist this week, ironically before I could ask she asked me if I’d ever been dx with adhd. I’m like wow I haven’t let myself seriously consider it until the past month after watching your channel and she brings it up minutes before I do. I then tell her why I think it might be the case, and mention your channel, which she has not only seen but also finds it to be very helpful in understanding her pts. My mind was blown, I’m still in shock that she brought it up first, and that she knows of a you tuber I really like and find helpful. Anyway I thought it might be encouraging that a physician and counselor both watch your channel and find it to be very helpful. Thank you so much for what you do.
Thank you so much for the stream! My bf and I both have adhd, and we sometimes have trouble communicating with each other. It's especially difficult when we are both experiencing pretty intense RSD. We are both extremely people pleasing, and when we are in a particularly difficult conflict, end up at a stalemate of not wanting to hurt each others feelings, but feeling extremely guilty and upset and worried about the other person's emotions. How can we reset and resolve our communication issues after we've both shut down from our RSD?
I suggest learning more interpersonal communication skills. Communication skills like that are useful whether you have ADHD or not. You could tweek the skills to better reflect your ADHD needs. I bet there's a RUclips video about this. Because ADHD tends to run in families, there are lots of other people in your same situation, amongst family members.
7:12 Stream starts 7:59 When did you hit a million? ; New home 8:26 Ask me questions. Don't spam them; Moderators 9:01 Cool Christmas 10:50 Donations to the channel Questions: 11:30 What does it feel like to reach at least 1M people? 13:10 How do you build up the confidence to talk about stuff on RUclips? How many people did you have helping with the production in the beginning? 16:48 Do you still struggle with imposter syndrome despite this huge success? 19:01 How to ADHD? - The book 19:17 About the book: Can you yell us any details of the content? 21:04 What was your inspiration to start this channel? 25:59 Have you heard of public speaking being particularly taxing for people with ADHD? 28:06 Why didn't the livestream happen last week? 33:17 How do you survive overwhelm? Best way to hold your life together? More timestamps coming later...
So far this is the best channel I have found as far as tips on dealing with my adhd. Most of the other ones are only about explaining what adhd is. Thank you!
I CANT BELIEVE THAT YOU FINALLY REACHED 1 MILLION SUBSCRIBERS! You have helped so many people through this channel, and you're the reason I had the courage to get my diagnosis. You will always be an inspiration to this community.💜
You're looking good and healthy, Jess. Glad to see it going well, and thanks for all the helpful videos you have put out, as they have helped me understand my ADHD to a much greater degree.
Thank you for your stream! Regarding your book that you intend to write, it would be really helpful to see how you go about goal setting for it. I struggle a lot with effective goal setting for my writing tasks. If I reach my daily goal I feel like it wasn't hard enough probably and if I don't I think I'm a failure... So what you said during the stream happens and I didn't even notice I started associating writing with misery when it used to be something I love.
@@ruaoneill9050 Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. It means a lot! How do you deal with it? My friend told me to maybe find a writing group online to talk to others in similar situations. Is that something you tried and found helpful?
That was WAAY better than I expected and the last 5 minutes were POWERFUL!!! You totally struck an emotional spot with me. My spouse does not accept my adhd faults and I wrote down the quote, "my value dies not lie in my ability to conform to their neurotypical world." I'm so emotionally buoyed!!! I'll be sharing this video with my child's teachers!! Thank you SOO much for the generosity of your time!
You are great! I am watching you from the begining and I learnt so much from your videos! Congratulation to 1 million subscribers! Please if you have time for one episode for me - I have little twins - boys, 3 months old.. Theire father is ADHD and they have sympthomps for ADHD. Could you please do one episode about little babies/children ADHD and how parents can support them in big world? Thanks so much.. P.S. I am from Czech republic, sorry for my english :-)
I'm so glad you are doing a book and it will be on audible! I love audible! I also think you have a great voice for it. Make sure you have big pretty fonts for your sections...maybe some popouts. LOL.
The episode of 'Monk' that Jess was in was called "Mr. Monk Goes to Group Therapy" She was there for a quick scene in a supermarket as the cashier and did a good job 👏 👍 👌 Just brace yourself for the pigtails. Seriously, I'm suddenly craving a burger from Wendy's 😄
You are really good at this. Thank you! Nice short and to the point. Very informative especially as you obviously have the perspective of being someone with ADHD and "get it". I can't remember the podcast or the doctor on it, but the doc said sadly, due to lack of research on ADHD, TikTok has some of the best life hacks and other practical ways to deal with ADHD. Therapy doesn't always teach tactile real-world examples. Take care!
I love that you are breaking through all these barriers ! Life is super good ! I am opening 3 businesses! One is a t shirt making business! One is a house of games situation! And then I am opening a comedy club!
Hey Jessica, congrats on the one million subscribers. It's certainly a testament to how passionate you are to helping us brains. You mentioned that you would be willing to answer some questions in the comments, so here it goes: What are your thoughts on Learned Helplessness and how it relates to/is caused by ADHD? I only recently discovered Learned Helplessness from a Martin Seligman book, and it resonates hard with me. I am willing to bet a large portion people with ADHD suffer from it as well.
THANK YOU! Please, please share writing resources: organization strategies, editor recommendations, anything! I have been at this for years now. It should not be this hard.
I stumbled across this channel through the episode on ADHD from Anthony Padilla and I relate heavily to ADHD and also with the symptoms I answer often or very often to many of them in the self tests (which I'm aware are not a diagnostic tool). The research I'm doing keeps confirming things (although I know confirmation bias is a thing so I do have to question my thinking sometimes). Anyway, I have friends with the condition so I'm somewhat familiar in how it can present for some. I might discuss this with my therapist before going to a physiatrist. The process in the UK is pretty awful as the NHS in underfunded, particularly mental health support. Often you go to your doctor who refers you to mental health services before an ADHD assessment can even begin and the in-between bit is when the whole process falls apart or you do get a referral but the waiting time is 3-5 years plus.
I adore your channel..I've never found anything so relatable in my life! Thank you for the time you put in to your work! Thank you for sharing your struggles, it really does help! I wish I had a fraction of your bravery for doing what you do. 😊
I'm really excited for your book! I don't have a diagnosis for ADHD, but I relate so much to the things that you talk about on this channel. I find a lot of the information really helpful because even though I don't have a diagnosis, I have hope that there is a good explanation for my struggles and maybe even a way to manage my life better. My family has always had such high expectations for me, but I've always had trouble sticking with something long enough to be successful. I'm supposed to be the "golden child" that has so much potential, but I fail at things often and then feel super ashamed of it. I'm going through my 7th job change in about a year, and everything feels so chaotic and overwhelming. I feel like I'm behind in life because a lot of my peers seem so much more successful. I feel like I'm constantly struggling with imposter syndrome and feelings of not really belonging anywhere. I want so bad to find a purpose, but I just don't feel confident or adequate to do the things that I want to succeed at. Most of the time I give up before I even begin because I don't want to experience the feelings I get when I fail at something. I'm trying to push through it, but it hasn''t be easy. I would like to ask you what the process of getting a diagnosis is like because I think it would help. I just don't know how I would approach a doctor about this type of concern. It's almost like I feel shame around the idea of asking for a diagnosis because I grew up being told that there is no reason for me to need help, and that I just need to be more motivated or ambitious.
Congrats Jess! Having one million subscribers is the BEST Christmas gift 🎁 I’m proud to see how far this channel has come. I can’t wait to see what’s in store for you in 2022 ✨
Congrats on 1 million subscribers and thank you for being you and sharing your knowledge and experience with those who may or may not be struggling. You provide so much positivity and information in a down to earth and very relatable level that is greatly appreciated!!
Thank you and your team so much. I don‘t think you realize, how much you‘ve changed my life❤️ I was wondering, if you have tips on how to do you‘re research? I wanted to start reading more studies, but i don‘t even know what to type in on pubmed, and how will I know if it is a good study?
Thank you for the live stream. My adult son and I are struggling with his ADHD, any suggestions or resources you can recommend to help him embrace and thrive with his ADHD?
Omg. 1 million. That's insane. Congratulations that's amazing. Hope millions more will subscribe in the future. The information and you must be seen, but mostly the information ❤
I often start watching, even when I don't have time, but then I can go thru my history and watch in full. Kinda like saving to watch later, but don't have that option on tv so history works better for me.
Can’t remember if I posted already but it seems like so many products or business ideas start out with someone doing something to help themselves fix something or fill a gap they notice personally and they share it with others and it snowballs. 😊 this is a great example! I am one that has found your channel thinking I might have adhd and your tips have been helping even without a diagnosis! Have loved this channel and your video styles and topics. Super excited for the book!
1stly, thank u so so much for everything. 2ndly... Please could u do more on adhd and autism combined? I'm going through the diagnosis now to get diagnosed with autism (when I was diagnosed with adhd they only gave one diagnosis and not more) and I'm realising some things I thought was the adhd might be autism. (like fidgeting might be my stim) But also that some things that are autism contradict adhd (like having one main focus/interest). So I'd love to hear more on this.
Congratulations on your million+ subscribers Jessica. May the Lord bless your endeavors and empower you to reach your goals for your army. "It's a blessing, it's a curse." -Monk
Hey I missed the live but just wanted to ask, in your video "How to know if you have ADHD", you say "Everyone struggles with these things sometimes, but not everyone has ADHD." Do you have any insight on when these struggles become too much to be neurotypical? In other words, when do "normal" ADHD-related struggles become "abnormal" enough for a diagnosis?
People usually set out to get diagnosed when they realize their suffering is at a level they can't out-cope. One important determining factor is that the struggle must present in several different areas of life. It's a complex process and the only way to know is to talk to a good doctor - one that specialises in AD(H)D would be best! No one's symptomology is exactly the same, it takes some time and interviews and sometimes you go through different diagnoses before they figure out your personal combination.
Awesome Q&A video. Disappointed that I missed the live stream, but so glad that the video is up. I'm excited at the thought of a HowToADHD book! I had a moment when Jessica was talking about the value of getting a diagnosis, and she used the word "sus" as a verb (a few seconds past 1:10:12). I had to send that to my son, who I know has played "Among Us".
I have used that contact cleaner and it works great, but you do have to follow the directions especially the steps regarding rinsing them thoroughly once clean.
I used to use that contact solution. Thankfully the eye doctor talked me through it a few times. I liked watching the bubbles. Now I have daily contacts cause I forget to wear them and usually end up just going with my glasses.
Wish I could shoes you my Freya!! You’re talking about animals and responsibility!! She’s a Boston terrier and I don’t know what I would’ve done without her in my life this last year… Honestly and she’s absolutely beautiful
You know I'm gonna put my question here, take your time! Well uuh I have two questions, how do you manage to get motivated for the things you do? Lately I haven't had that much motivation to do my hobbies so yeah if you answer it'll help me a lot! And what do you want parents to know about mental health, psycology and ADHD? Thats all, thank you a bunch! Continue like that!
Came in late so looked st the beginning after the stream ended. I think its amazing that you're going to read the audiobook. I talked with some people I study with today about how boring it is to listen to a computer voice or a really bored reader, reading study material. I said the authors should do it, because they like the subject and are passionate about it. And they know which words to put a weight on. It would be so much easier to get the information in. Listening to a book with facts, and the reader is bored out of his mind, just makes it so hard to listen to and learn, and so hard to not feel bored myself. So it's great you're recording it yourself! I'll probably buy the book, it's mostly fact books I have a hard time reading. I bet yours will be very interesting for me. Hope it goes well, I'm really looking forward to it! And thanks for the channel, its awesome! Cheers from Sweden!
Possible solution: Maybe creating a Q&A of common questions for people ask and posting it up can help prevent you from having to repeat answers and also would help others to help themselves when they are new to your channel to get some answers that don’t require you to be there for and save them time for having to watch loads of your videos to figure out the answer to maybe just 1 specific question they had.
Re: neurodivergence & chronic pain- I’m ADHD (and possibly ASD) and have fibromyalgia. I’ve noticed a lot of crossover between my fibro support groups and ADHD support groups on FB. There were frequently threads discussing this focused on disorders such as Ehlers-Danlos.
Pro-Tip: Adult 64 here, and I learned early on to Take written notes in meetings as my 'Fidget', and ask for water, coffee, or 'smoke-breaks' every hour or so. I don't smoke, but that would let me get out and fidget in other ways to counter my ADHD symptoms.
Thank you for an excellent video. There's so much in it! I shall have to watch it again and this time make some notes so that I might have a fighting chance of remembering some of the details.
I am a teacher and I believe I am very effective handling adhd students…there’s empathy most of the times towards them. I am planning to put up a school about it..
This was SOOOO INCREDIBLY ENJOYABLE , INFORMATIVE and HELPFUL, Jessica‼‼‼ THANK YOU,,, Thank You.... thank you❣❣❣ XOXOX Oh ... and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! 🥳🎉🎉🎉 Extraordinary work 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Congrats and thank you for the info and your honesty and vulnerability. I identify HARD. Hope your eye is better and your mission to write the book and whatever else for 2022 goes well. You deserve the attention, I also love being called a [Hello] brain[s] for some reason.
33:38 - "Guard your yes with your life". That kinda reminds me of a video i saw of Ali Abdaal where he said he learned a great philosophy of "Hell yeah. Or no." Basically, if someone comes to you and is like "Hey, do you want to do this thing?" If your reaction is something along the lines of "Ummm, maybe, sounds kinda cool." then you should say no. But if your response is "Hell yeah!" then you do it.
28:35 OMG! I DID THIS TOO!! 😖😭 that special cage looking case should have been a red flag. Luckily I didn’t end up in the ER. Just had a beat red eye for a few days.
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Jessica, thank you so much. When you said that it isn't good to just power through when we're miserable, that it's good to use that energy instead to seek out a way to make something interesting and rewarding to us, it brought tears to my eyes. For decades I've tried to *push through* on so many things! The idea that this was making my brain associate those things with misery had never occurred to me. If I can instead use that sense of unhappiness to remind me to try to pull that task-somehow-into the joyful dance of my life, everything will improve. Thanks again!
This is so relatable and I hope you take care of yourself now. You are valuable.
Same!!! My parents tell me it's an important skill to be able to push through. Maybe they're right but I think things will get a lot better if I cut that out 😅
How does she/you suggest making things rewarding or interesting?
This brought me to tears. This is such a nugget of wisdom and compassion for self. May you be blessed
Congrats Jessica!!! You deserve every bit of the celebrations! So proud of you. You are helping so many! US included. Your team is such a treasure.
Jessica, Heartfelt Congratulations You’re absolutely amazing. Thank you to you and your incredible team so much.
I am so happy to see you are reaching so many people. I'm one of the people who found you and subbed in December. I thought I was broken, worthless, and so many other things. You saved my life by helping me see I was different, but not broken. And most importantly not alone. Thank you.
You’re amazing! You have helped me speak about my own adhd as well. I used to be afraid to tell anyone.. especially telling anyone close to me I’m medicated also and doing cognitive behavioral therapy. The responses were lackluster and unsupportive. Thankyou for being a voice, leader, and I feel - a friend. I’ll buy your book no doubt!
Congratulations on all of this success and opportunity. You have stories to tell and I can’t wait to hear and read them!!!
I just found adhd 2 years ago at age 36. After always feeling like I was failing at life. I got diagnosed. But now I can't get a doctor to perscribe. Hearing your struggle getting a new doc made me feel better I'm not alone
Yey! Congradulations!!! You deserve all the great things, you worked sooooo hard.
I'm a 42 year old nurse, recently diagnosed with ADHD and I work in psychiatry with many patients with diagnosed ADHD. But I love it when I can see the signs and get them evaluated and see their life's change like it did for me. Your channel is a great support for me and to my English speaking patients I recommend to check out for the great advice, validation, strategies and it's at their own time. Thank you for all your hard work. Much love from a Mexican nurse in Sweden.
I almost spit out my coffee when you said that executive function was getting your Christmas cards out on time, because I had just emailed a friend to say I hoped to get them out by the end of January! 🤣
Thank you for everything you do! 🏆🥇👏👏
I switched to New Year’s cards back around 1990, and by 2000 they were more like every 3-5 years.
I’m still procrastinating my high school graduation thank you letters to the people who gave me cards/money… it’s only been a year and a half. To be fair though, covid pushed my graduation ceremony back a few months soooo it didn’t fully feel like I graduated and ALSO I’m lazy and if anybody still cares about that then… sorry I guess 💀
happy valentines day is the ADHD merry Christmas
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This just reminded me my wife and I got married back in October and still haven't sent out thank you cards 😂. Probably a bit too late now lol.
Jessica, your videos helped me seek out treatment for my own ADHD. I just got prescribed meds for the first time in my life (gotta love ADHD treatment hoops). You're an angel. Truly. You've helped myself and my mom both with understanding our AFAB ADHD presentations, habits, and reasons for being the way we are. Thank you so much for everything you do.
You don't know how much you've helped me as a Brain. Much love.
Congratulations on the book! This is super exciting ⭐️ You have helped thousands of people and I refer your videos to friends and students. Thank you for your wisdom and your courage. ❤️🧡💛💜🙏
"We are asking for the space where we deserve to exist."
That last comment of yours hit me the hardest, because at the heart of it all, that's all we really want isn't it? Acceptance to just exist as we are.
Thank you so much for all that you do for us ADHD'ers on this channel!
When she said "I have a rule that I don't force my brain to do something it doesn't want to, but I do try to find ways to make it want to" I felt that bc literally YESTERDAY I tried forcing myself to do geometry I didn't want to and ADHD paralysis'd my way thru the whole day
Next time I'm gonna try strategies and stuff instead, I just wish my parents (who homeschool me) would support me like that cuz I could definitely use that advice lol
The geometry is still not done but the tears have been cried 👍
Maybe try telling them that as the people responsible for your education they should be open to educating themselves on the best way to maximize your potential and get the most out of it with the least frustration possible. Then direct them here to help them understand. You could send them links to the videos that you connect with most so they can see how best to give you the education I'm sure they want to see you receive. Good luck to you!
@@kattaylor2687 thanks! I'm trying to have ongoing discussions, it's just so exhausting
@@lowercase_ash So much about ADHD is very frustrating! Keep watching videos to learn how to minimize your symptoms and continue to just subtly slip in bits of information as you go, just taking every opportunity you can find to just make small examples and observations. Hopefully it will help improve things over time!
I watched a RUclips ADD/ADHD where the presenter is going to take some tests to prove that her brain will not do math. She's one math class away from finishing college. She's failed the subject more than once. Sorry, I don't remember where I saw her.
I didn't have my ADHD diagnosis until just over 2 months ago at age 29. I can't tell you how many times I sat at the kitchen table for hours with 15 minutes worth of homework that I helped other students finish before the class had even ended only to not have it done for class the next day.
I didn't even consider ADHD a real possibility until I learned that I had immediate family that had been diagnosed with it 20-some years earlier. Parents that don't understand ADHD can be a big obstacle; whether they mean to or not no one can make you feel more ashamed of not achieving your potential (especially if you fall into the twice-exceptional category).
My advice would be to introduce them to this channel. There are so many things here that I wish we had known while I was growing up.
Yes!!! I'm so glad that you get to do the audiobook I hate whenever they have somebody else besides the author read it especially if it's somebody that you know through RUclips or listening to a podcast or something so that's amazing that you get to read it!!!!
I cried like 3 times watching this. Thank you for sharing and for everything you do. ❤ I used to think everyone struggled like I do, and never could understand why I failed so hard while being smarter than most of my peers. I'm trying to get help and so far I got prescribed antidepressants which help a little but my ADHD is still so very present. It's embarrassing how forgetful I am. I'm in my 30s but have the memory of a 90 year old grandmom. Life is a struggle when you have ADHD.
You are my HEROINE! My role model and spirit animal 🙃
Me too! Diagnosed at 65, about two months ago. Being on meds has been like putting on glasses the first time - amazing!
Ha! You just said the same thing!
Thank you so much! It was a great stream, I was able to get to a task I was avoiding while tuning in.
I was just officially diagnosed with adhd in December (at age 37) after researching for 4 months about the struggles I’ve had. This channel has been key to understanding how my brain works. Thank you!!!
Laughing out loud at the ADHD secret Santa story - it could almost be a sketch on SNL. Congratulations on the 1m subs! I’m a new sub, who’s just been diagnosed, and your channel has been such a huge help to me.
Edit: just joined as a Patreon too. My way of giving back and help the channel educate more people about ADHD.
I have had ADHD since 1993, thank you, I'm always looking to learn more about ADHD, I cry with you everytime.
Congratulations on your new home 🏡.
Congrats! You rock! You have inspired me so much. I watched the chunk of the video where you said “getting distracted is not a moral failing” over and over and over…mind blowing…still working on undoing the old mindsets, since I’m just at the start of the journey. Acknowledging and learning about adhd DOES matter!!! I’m starting to wake up 😮
Awesome stream! Thanks for Tweetering it out!!
Regarding advocacy, when you decide to advocate, how do you handle the stress and triggers of living your thing loud-and-proud for everyone to see in the beginning and ongoing? I have no problem with having my diagnosis or talking about it, but I don’t display it.
Today I was having a rough time focusing so of course I went to RUclips. A math problem video showed up in my feed so I decided to go ahead and try and solve me. Took me a while, but I figured it out and was able to take that feeling and knock out the things I was struggling with.
Doing something fun whenever you’re stuck can really help!
THANK YOU, to Jess and team! So appreciate what you do.
I'm at the point where you're talking about being overwhelmed. One of my strategies has been to ask people to send me an email so I have both a reminder to think about and time (also less social pressure) to think about it.
Ha, ha, ha 😆 🤣 😄 me laughing at both of us. Today, a person was closing out a meeting with me, telling me what was going to happen next. 🙃 I suddenly couldn't understand anything she was telling me. I stopped her and asked her to email or text me about it.
I missed the live….but I wanna say thanks for all you’ve done!! You literally allowed me to understand my so much more and put names to the emotions I’ve felt, and even got me thinking “hey…that sounds like me… I should probably get checked out….” Turns out, yep, ADHD + But thanks to all of this, I have understanding and I’m getting treatment with meds and therapy. Thanks for all you’ve done and all you’re doing!
Congrats, Jess! Your channel is relatable and I am learning so much!
Hi, I haven’t even Gott close to finish watching but at the ~12:40 mark you talk about imposter syndrome. I understand that feeling very much as I have it often. But I thought, maybe, telling you something’s about me might help.
I have found your videos incredibly helpful in providing insight and not only into myself, but also my patients. I am a Family Medicine Physician and our training was exceedingly neurotypical oriented. I thought I might be ADHD, but never really explored it because I was finding ways to cope that more or less worked (it took me a while I didn’t start Med School until I was 30) but watching your videos has helped develop the courage and compassion to explore this potential dx in myself. I decided to bring it up to my therapist this week, ironically before I could ask she asked me if I’d ever been dx with adhd. I’m like wow I haven’t let myself seriously consider it until the past month after watching your channel and she brings it up minutes before I do. I then tell her why I think it might be the case, and mention your channel, which she has not only seen but also finds it to be very helpful in understanding her pts. My mind was blown, I’m still in shock that she brought it up first, and that she knows of a you tuber I really like and find helpful. Anyway I thought it might be encouraging that a physician and counselor both watch your channel and find it to be very helpful. Thank you so much for what you do.
I just got diagnosed, I'm 48 yrs old. Thanyou so much for your content. It definitely played a role for me seeking help
Thank you so much for the stream!
My bf and I both have adhd, and we sometimes have trouble communicating with each other. It's especially difficult when we are both experiencing pretty intense RSD.
We are both extremely people pleasing, and when we are in a particularly difficult conflict, end up at a stalemate of not wanting to hurt each others feelings, but feeling extremely guilty and upset and worried about the other person's emotions.
How can we reset and resolve our communication issues after we've both shut down from our RSD?
I suggest learning more interpersonal communication skills. Communication skills like that are useful whether you have ADHD or not. You could tweek the skills to better reflect your ADHD needs. I bet there's a RUclips video about this. Because ADHD tends to run in families, there are lots of other people in your same situation, amongst family members.
7:12 Stream starts
7:59 When did you hit a million? ; New home
8:26 Ask me questions. Don't spam them; Moderators
9:01 Cool Christmas
10:50 Donations to the channel
Questions:
11:30 What does it feel like to reach at least 1M people?
13:10 How do you build up the confidence to talk about stuff on RUclips? How many people did you have helping with the production in the beginning?
16:48 Do you still struggle with imposter syndrome despite this huge success?
19:01 How to ADHD? - The book
19:17 About the book: Can you yell us any details of the content?
21:04 What was your inspiration to start this channel?
25:59 Have you heard of public speaking being particularly taxing for people with ADHD?
28:06 Why didn't the livestream happen last week?
33:17 How do you survive overwhelm? Best way to hold your life together?
More timestamps coming later...
Awesome thank you!
You’re definitely helping! Thank you! I also recommend your/this channel to family (like my father), letting the help expand! 🎉
Right...
So far this is the best channel I have found as far as tips on dealing with my adhd. Most of the other ones are only about explaining what adhd is. Thank you!
Great stream! And congrats on 1 million! 🎉🎉🎉
I CANT BELIEVE THAT YOU FINALLY REACHED 1 MILLION SUBSCRIBERS! You have helped so many people through this channel, and you're the reason I had the courage to get my diagnosis. You will always be an inspiration to this community.💜
You're looking good and healthy, Jess. Glad to see it going well, and thanks for all the helpful videos you have put out, as they have helped me understand my ADHD to a much greater degree.
Thank you for your stream! Regarding your book that you intend to write, it would be really helpful to see how you go about goal setting for it. I struggle a lot with effective goal setting for my writing tasks. If I reach my daily goal I feel like it wasn't hard enough probably and if I don't I think I'm a failure... So what you said during the stream happens and I didn't even notice I started associating writing with misery when it used to be something I love.
I relate so much 😭😭😭
@@ruaoneill9050 Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. It means a lot! How do you deal with it? My friend told me to maybe find a writing group online to talk to others in similar situations. Is that something you tried and found helpful?
That was WAAY better than I expected and the last 5 minutes were POWERFUL!!! You totally struck an emotional spot with me. My spouse does not accept my adhd faults and I wrote down the quote, "my value dies not lie in my ability to conform to their neurotypical world."
I'm so emotionally buoyed!!!
I'll be sharing this video with my child's teachers!!
Thank you SOO much for the generosity of your time!
That's so cool!! 1Mill and KEYS talk about readying up for the future!!
You are great! I am watching you from the begining and I learnt so much from your videos! Congratulation to 1 million subscribers! Please if you have time for one episode for me - I have little twins - boys, 3 months old.. Theire father is ADHD and they have sympthomps for ADHD. Could you please do one episode about little babies/children ADHD and how parents can support them in big world? Thanks so much.. P.S. I am from Czech republic, sorry for my english :-)
I'm so glad you are doing a book and it will be on audible! I love audible! I also think you have a great voice for it. Make sure you have big pretty fonts for your sections...maybe some popouts. LOL.
Congratulation! I still remember your 'we reached 25k' post. What an achievement in such a short time. Hugs!
The episode of 'Monk' that Jess was in was called "Mr. Monk Goes to Group Therapy"
She was there for a quick scene in a supermarket as the cashier and did a good job 👏 👍 👌
Just brace yourself for the pigtails. Seriously, I'm suddenly craving a burger from Wendy's 😄
You are really good at this. Thank you! Nice short and to the point. Very informative especially as you obviously have the perspective of being someone with ADHD and "get it". I can't remember the podcast or the doctor on it, but the doc said sadly, due to lack of research on ADHD, TikTok has some of the best life hacks and other practical ways to deal with ADHD. Therapy doesn't always teach tactile real-world examples. Take care!
I love that you are breaking through all these barriers ! Life is super good ! I am opening 3 businesses! One is a t shirt making business! One is a house of games situation! And then I am opening a comedy club!
Hey Jessica, congrats on the one million subscribers. It's certainly a testament to how passionate you are to helping us brains. You mentioned that you would be willing to answer some questions in the comments, so here it goes:
What are your thoughts on Learned Helplessness and how it relates to/is caused by ADHD?
I only recently discovered Learned Helplessness from a Martin Seligman book, and it resonates hard with me. I am willing to bet a large portion people with ADHD suffer from it as well.
THANK YOU! Please, please share writing resources: organization strategies, editor recommendations, anything! I have been at this for years now. It should not be this hard.
I stumbled across this channel through the episode on ADHD from Anthony Padilla and I relate heavily to ADHD and also with the symptoms I answer often or very often to many of them in the self tests (which I'm aware are not a diagnostic tool).
The research I'm doing keeps confirming things (although I know confirmation bias is a thing so I do have to question my thinking sometimes). Anyway, I have friends with the condition so I'm somewhat familiar in how it can present for some. I might discuss this with my therapist before going to a physiatrist. The process in the UK is pretty awful as the NHS in underfunded, particularly mental health support. Often you go to your doctor who refers you to mental health services before an ADHD assessment can even begin and the in-between bit is when the whole process falls apart or you do get a referral but the waiting time is 3-5 years plus.
I adore your channel..I've never found anything so relatable in my life! Thank you for the time you put in to your work! Thank you for sharing your struggles, it really does help! I wish I had a fraction of your bravery for doing what you do. 😊
I'm really excited for your book! I don't have a diagnosis for ADHD, but I relate so much to the things that you talk about on this channel. I find a lot of the information really helpful because even though I don't have a diagnosis, I have hope that there is a good explanation for my struggles and maybe even a way to manage my life better. My family has always had such high expectations for me, but I've always had trouble sticking with something long enough to be successful. I'm supposed to be the "golden child" that has so much potential, but I fail at things often and then feel super ashamed of it. I'm going through my 7th job change in about a year, and everything feels so chaotic and overwhelming. I feel like I'm behind in life because a lot of my peers seem so much more successful. I feel like I'm constantly struggling with imposter syndrome and feelings of not really belonging anywhere. I want so bad to find a purpose, but I just don't feel confident or adequate to do the things that I want to succeed at. Most of the time I give up before I even begin because I don't want to experience the feelings I get when I fail at something. I'm trying to push through it, but it hasn''t be easy. I would like to ask you what the process of getting a diagnosis is like because I think it would help. I just don't know how I would approach a doctor about this type of concern. It's almost like I feel shame around the idea of asking for a diagnosis because I grew up being told that there is no reason for me to need help, and that I just need to be more motivated or ambitious.
Yay! Congratulations on the one million!!!!!
I’m so excited for your book congrats !!! The maturity piece resonates so hard for me. And I feel so much shame because of it.
Congrats Jess! Having one million subscribers is the BEST Christmas gift 🎁 I’m proud to see how far this channel has come. I can’t wait to see what’s in store for you in 2022 ✨
Congrats on 1 million subscribers and thank you for being you and sharing your knowledge and experience with those who may or may not be struggling. You provide so much positivity and information in a down to earth and very relatable level that is greatly appreciated!!
Jessica thank you for your videos,Your a inspiration to Many and I truly love your words of wisdom.Keep doing what your doing
Thank you and your team so much. I don‘t think you realize, how much you‘ve changed my life❤️
I was wondering, if you have tips on how to do you‘re research? I wanted to start reading more studies, but i don‘t even know what to type in on pubmed, and how will I know if it is a good study?
Thank you for the live stream. My adult son and I are struggling with his ADHD, any suggestions or resources you can recommend to help him embrace and thrive with his ADHD?
Omg. 1 million. That's insane. Congratulations that's amazing. Hope millions more will subscribe in the future. The information and you must be seen, but mostly the information ❤
I often start watching, even when I don't have time, but then I can go thru my history and watch in full. Kinda like saving to watch later, but don't have that option on tv so history works better for me.
Congratulations on the book- it is much-deserved!!!😀
Can’t remember if I posted already but it seems like so many products or business ideas start out with someone doing something to help themselves fix something or fill a gap they notice personally and they share it with others and it snowballs. 😊 this is a great example!
I am one that has found your channel thinking I might have adhd and your tips have been helping even without a diagnosis! Have loved this channel and your video styles and topics. Super excited for the book!
yaaas Valheim! Love the channel, and good luck on the book
I hope you never stop doing these videos because you have helped me so much!!!! Thank you 🙏🏽
1stly, thank u so so much for everything.
2ndly... Please could u do more on adhd and autism combined? I'm going through the diagnosis now to get diagnosed with autism (when I was diagnosed with adhd they only gave one diagnosis and not more) and I'm realising some things I thought was the adhd might be autism. (like fidgeting might be my stim) But also that some things that are autism contradict adhd (like having one main focus/interest). So I'd love to hear more on this.
Yes mugs are definitely a thing, they do not tip over as easy as other glasses. No more crying over spilled milk, use a mug.
Congratulations on your million+ subscribers Jessica.
May the Lord bless your endeavors and empower you to reach your goals for your army.
"It's a blessing, it's a curse."
-Monk
Ooo, congrats on the book deal! Looking forward to it! 😁
Congratulations 🎉🎉👏👏👏 SOOO monumental!! Cheers Brain 🧠👑 Queen!! Take a bow yo!!! Ay Dee To the Fricken HD!! 🥰🥰🥰👍🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Hey I missed the live but just wanted to ask, in your video "How to know if you have ADHD", you say "Everyone struggles with these things sometimes, but not everyone has ADHD." Do you have any insight on when these struggles become too much to be neurotypical? In other words, when do "normal" ADHD-related struggles become "abnormal" enough for a diagnosis?
People usually set out to get diagnosed when they realize their suffering is at a level they can't out-cope. One important determining factor is that the struggle must present in several different areas of life. It's a complex process and the only way to know is to talk to a good doctor - one that specialises in AD(H)D would be best! No one's symptomology is exactly the same, it takes some time and interviews and sometimes you go through different diagnoses before they figure out your personal combination.
Omg congratulations on getting a book deal!! That is amazing!! :D
Awesome Q&A video. Disappointed that I missed the live stream, but so glad that the video is up. I'm excited at the thought of a HowToADHD book!
I had a moment when Jessica was talking about the value of getting a diagnosis, and she used the word "sus" as a verb (a few seconds past 1:10:12). I had to send that to my son, who I know has played "Among Us".
You deserve all the success! Thank you for all you do 🥊
Congratulations and thank you for your channel!!!
I have used that contact cleaner and it works great, but you do have to follow the directions especially the steps regarding rinsing them thoroughly once clean.
I’ve never been more excited just to see your name on a book!!
I used to use that contact solution. Thankfully the eye doctor talked me through it a few times. I liked watching the bubbles. Now I have daily contacts cause I forget to wear them and usually end up just going with my glasses.
Wish I could shoes you my Freya!! You’re talking about animals and responsibility!! She’s a Boston terrier and I don’t know what I would’ve done without her in my life this last year… Honestly and she’s absolutely beautiful
your channel has helped me so much. there was a lot I learned about myself through you
You know I'm gonna put my question here, take your time!
Well uuh I have two questions, how do you manage to get motivated for the things you do? Lately I haven't had that much motivation to do my hobbies so yeah if you answer it'll help me a lot!
And what do you want parents to know about mental health, psycology and ADHD?
Thats all, thank you a bunch! Continue like that!
Came in late so looked st the beginning after the stream ended.
I think its amazing that you're going to read the audiobook. I talked with some people I study with today about how boring it is to listen to a computer voice or a really bored reader, reading study material. I said the authors should do it, because they like the subject and are passionate about it. And they know which words to put a weight on.
It would be so much easier to get the information in.
Listening to a book with facts, and the reader is bored out of his mind, just makes it so hard to listen to and learn, and so hard to not feel bored myself.
So it's great you're recording it yourself! I'll probably buy the book, it's mostly fact books I have a hard time reading. I bet yours will be very interesting for me. Hope it goes well, I'm really looking forward to it!
And thanks for the channel, its awesome!
Cheers from Sweden!
After 7 minutes of that theme music, the stream should have opened with Jessica setting aside a trumpet and gasping for air.
😄
Hooray for Seattle!!
Possible solution: Maybe creating a Q&A of common questions for people ask and posting it up can help prevent you from having to repeat answers and also would help others to help themselves when they are new to your channel to get some answers that don’t require you to be there for and save them time for having to watch loads of your videos to figure out the answer to maybe just 1 specific question they had.
Re: neurodivergence & chronic pain- I’m ADHD (and possibly ASD) and have fibromyalgia. I’ve noticed a lot of crossover between my fibro support groups and ADHD support groups on FB. There were frequently threads discussing this focused on disorders such as Ehlers-Danlos.
Ohn dang it. I was busy doing something else and didn’t see my notifications. Anyway, congrats on 1 million!! You definitely did that
Well done Jessica and team!! u guys rock
Pro-Tip: Adult 64 here, and I learned early on to Take written notes in meetings as my 'Fidget', and ask for water, coffee, or 'smoke-breaks' every hour or so. I don't smoke, but that would let me get out and fidget in other ways to counter my ADHD symptoms.
I never pre order books but I am fucken pre ordering this one!
Thank you for an excellent video. There's so much in it! I shall have to watch it again and this time make some notes so that I might have a fighting chance of remembering some of the details.
Congratulations! You are amazing
I am a teacher and I believe I am very effective handling adhd students…there’s empathy most of the times towards them. I am planning to put up a school about it..
This was SOOOO INCREDIBLY ENJOYABLE , INFORMATIVE and HELPFUL, Jessica‼‼‼
THANK YOU,,, Thank You.... thank you❣❣❣ XOXOX
Oh ... and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! 🥳🎉🎉🎉
Extraordinary work 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Aloha Jessica, You are Appreciated!
Congrats and thank you for the info and your honesty and vulnerability. I identify HARD. Hope your eye is better and your mission to write the book and whatever else for 2022 goes well. You deserve the attention, I also love being called a [Hello] brain[s] for some reason.
33:38 - "Guard your yes with your life". That kinda reminds me of a video i saw of Ali Abdaal where he said he learned a great philosophy of "Hell yeah. Or no." Basically, if someone comes to you and is like "Hey, do you want to do this thing?" If your reaction is something along the lines of "Ummm, maybe, sounds kinda cool." then you should say no. But if your response is "Hell yeah!" then you do it.
Congratulations on both your book deal and hitting a million!
Question from another brain... How long is your "watch later" RUclips list?
hahaaa. i am invested in this question. (mine is miles long)
Wow. This music is kinda helping me focus on my tasks here.
Better than Chill-fi or whatever they call it. LoFi.
28:35 OMG! I DID THIS TOO!! 😖😭 that special cage looking case should have been a red flag. Luckily I didn’t end up in the ER. Just had a beat red eye for a few days.