Thank you Abdul Integration is a life journey and is never completed. If we have family history of cruelty violence and trauma then we can be faced with a huge challenge. I found it so. Intergenerational violence is perhaps the biggest issue, that requires healing by the Divine interventions along with our inner journey that we must seek to understand and undertake everyday.
I'd love to learn more about healing from childhood trauma and anxious preoccupied or disorganized attachment style in adult life. As this is a problem for millions of people, it might be a good topic to discuss.
I'm surprised such issues are rarely discussed. I finally found useful guided meditation videos on RUclips that helped with eliminating obsessive thoughts after my mother's death. One must listen to many...before finding the one for you.
Dear Dr. Saad, would it be too much to ask you to share your own journey in confronting your ego and shadow. Your intimate understanding of the process, as well as the empath/narcissist dynamic, leads me to believe you have a testimony I would be humbled to hear. In any case, I love you like a father and deeply respect your humility and kindness. May God bless you for the profound and exquisite good you provide in each and every video.
@Lynn your summary is well written. During the last 4 weeks I've done quite a bit of RUclips research on Empaths and narcissist and I've noticed 2 of 3 most reliable sources have a testimony.
1) capacity to tolerate negative emotions (stability of moods) 2)capacity to experience stable internal sense of self that doesn't shift rapidly under stress 3) reliable and realistic self esteem, 4) capacity to experience others in a stable way 5)well deveoepd conscience, morality, ethics 6) impulse control/delayed gratification 7) reality testing ability under pressure/ capacity to mentalize 8) capacity to be flexible, vs. dogmatic 9) capacity to experience ambiguity, ambivalence, shades of grey 10)capacity for humor 11)accept setback, limitations 12)engage in leisure, passion, vitality 13) self disclosure to appropriate others 14) form secure stable relationships 15) experience of autonomy and agency Thank u for this
Intergration is when you are synced both mentally and emotionally. When you are not intergrated your emotions are separate from your mental thinking, it's a power struggle a tug of war where your emotions usually wins. So instead of your behavior being driven mentally it's driven emotionally. The first time you are aware that a habit or behavior is driven by emotion, it is eye opening and very powerful experience. Probably one of the most powerful experience you would have in your life. The healing process is very involved and takes years, but the realization that you can head towards improvement is a huge relief.
Please do a series on self love. On how we can love and accept ourselves to a level that we will not be easy prey for someone to take advantage of us and we will not go out into the world seeking validation from others. Thank you so much for what you do, you have helped me so much, I am so grateful for you. God bless you. Debbie
Thank you for clearing up that we do get knocked off balance but we recover faster. I would like to know about empaths and attracting the right partner and whats normal after you have transformed. It feels so strange now that l have boundaries. l m empowered but lonley yet ... l won't allow myself to engage in superficial or toxicity to fill it. also you know what narrcist and toxic ppl are running from me faster lol they are scared once they realize l will not be oppresed...l hope to do some work on my anger. For so long l didnt feel anger but now that l do ...l realize its a learning process to control it...it's a very powerful emotion. As always thanks for the enlightenment and Happy New Year !!!
I find that the more you know and trust yourself, the better you can handle the toxic people. You no longer feel an obligation to fix them, help them, chase after them, solve their problems, etc. Then you don’t have to “ban them” from your life, because you can deal with their nonsense, as long as it’s not directly harmful or dangerous. (Some behaviors are obviously deal-breakers.)
This self-transformation series has been my personal favorite. The information couldn't have been more timely for me. I listened to each video multiple times. Thank you so very much.
Topics: 1) timeline expectations of integration. For me I've been heavy focused on this for over 2 years and the journey is fraught with obstacles, unseen self deceptions (the Trickster); 2) which archetypes to develop in what succession and how to do so for each...I developed caregiver first and it helped immensely with silencing inner critic and reigning in ego, then sage for discernment and intuition...etc. 3) how to use a therapist to help achieve this development. 4) the role of spirituality in conjunction with this process and with your reality/shared reality and right choice/balance
The HEALED Empath... moving forward in an authentic you. How about, developing empathic abilities or spiritual gifts through integration of a healthy self. Love and light
Yes, I would like any information on utilizing my sensitivities once integrated. In the past, my intuitive sensitivity was used by others and myself in keeping me bound to my core wounds. Now free, how do they flourish in the new, authentic me?
@@JEHOVAH485 Great question Lynn. I’m now aware of a similar background and experience. Family/Folks tended to use my good side rather than appreciate it. My responsibility now. Please let me know if you find some answers or solutions that work for you. Namasté.
I was ready to step into my authentic self and you were sent my way. I am thankful. I respect, appreciate and value the work you do. It is wonderfully generous of you to share your experience, expertise and knowledge with us, your audience. Happy new year. I trust that 2019 will enrich you, your family and business.
I cant express how grateful I am for people like you in my universe. For the past year, I have been trying to find the contents of this video, and I'm very grateful a medical professional took the time and effort to make this video. As an empath, I get lost in other peoples emotions often, and it's been an ongoing struggle to see who I am, and what I am repressing, and how I differ and relate in regards to those surrounding me. The perspective these few videos have supplied me with is going to help me greatly, thank you for helping me traverse this cosmic soup
How to HEAL in areas of: Trauma bonding Abandonment Self esteem (regaining or establishing true self esteem) Boundaries Loneliness Fear Finding True Self I could go on and on. I’m asking for videos on learning to truly heal.
I'm new to your videos but very happy to have found these. Your thinking and presentation style is extremely accessible and informative. I'm using your teaching to help me as I go through my own transformation. Thank you! I hope we get to see some new videos soon.
Your advice about magnesium n zinc has been very helpful to me. Also helps my medical conditions. Now I promote these things and your vmp to others when appropriate. You are much appreciated. The best to You in 2019 and thank you ever so much for all you do.
It is a true blessing that I found you dear doctor. I had just finished an audio entitled Daughter Detox, reclaiming your life from an unloving mother. I had no idea what it would do to my mind, in fact I didn’t even finish the last 10 minutes. Her demeaning voice is back in my head, poor sleep, weeping, anxiety and panic attacks again. Before I did not know what a narcissist was. Your Covert Narcissistic video helped bring me back a bit. I always gained confidence and short term happiness when distanced from her. I never knew why until I found names for people like me and her. I am an empath seeking to find who I am and understanding for why I was raised unloved. My suggestion is possibly more on mother daughter interaction. Also On how to stick to your boundaries. I trust you and have found great comfort in each video you have produced. You are doing gods work as you would be too expensive to go to in person. Thank you thank you thank you!
Thank you so much for all the help you give people who have suffered for so many years from being an Empath without realising what a truly horrendous effect this can have on their lives and how this causes you to attract the Narcissists and Manipulators into your life and the consequent disastrous results. I have only come to full realisation of my own situation within the last year and what I needed to do to reverse the situation, mainly through watching your videos. I was the daughter of a Bipolar mother who ruled me for years from a very early age and it has taken me until now at 68 years of age to redress this situation. I cannot thank you enough. God bless you and your work.
You get into parts of our awareness of self, healing, and integration without slamming the other! You have opened my eyes a little too see myself more clearly when I thought I was such an innocent victim although I know nothing happens in my world without my permission so I'm the cause, not them! I am kinda shocked right now and not sure where to go or what to do, but I thank you for this new awareness in healing and transformation! I'm one of those whose been stuck in self suffering for many years, waiting for someone to come save me! Like Mel Robbins says, "No one is coming to save you!" Sometimes I don't like her! Lol
Hello, I am so happy I found your channel because I have been exploring the connection between what I eat and my mental state. I have gone whole food plant based and have had many unforeseen benefits. Thank you for all your work and I will keep watching and learning!
Hello from Canada! I'm really glad you've posted these videos. I'm going through a huge struggle in my life right now and videos like this really help me figure out my brain.
I’ve tried to do what I call personal inventory where I try to be open and honest with myself about recognizing where my faults lie, but your videos are presenting new information that makes me think about all the ways I fall short even more. I experienced severe abuse as a child and it left me feeling very broken and I have not had a very successful life because of it. I really grieve for the potential I’ve not been able to realize. Always feels 2 steps forward 2 steps back. I’ve never been able to heal all that damage. It is hard to do the shadow work because I start inevitably looking only at the negative parts of my personality patterns. It is painful and discouraging. I will keep trying until I die.
I would like you to consider a series on core shame. This affect is such a fundamental structure associated with how we can operate healthily in the world. It is primarily a non-verbal, right brain affect and so no amount of cognitive energy has allowed me to resolve my deep, core shame. My defence mechanisms won't even allow me to address the matter from a body brain perspective. Thank you for your work thus far. It is very insightful material . Geoff
Awww! I am so happy you feel connected to us! We feel connected to you too and I wish you all the best for 2019! I look forward to all your videos and am so glad you have taken the time to talk about these topics with us. You have helped me greatly. I was just talking to my therapist about you and your last video I saw on the things that annoy us. With your work and hers I was able to answer my questions concerning that. So thank you! 🙏🏼 I would be interested in knowing some extra information on existential crises and how we can get through them. 😅 I am finally breaking some ground but like to get as many perspectives as possible. Thank you again!
I have had years of therapy after dealing with a narcissistic father, abusive mother, and antisocial brother. It's so hard to let go of the idea of having a real family of origin, so here I am. I'd like to see a video on breaking down my internal walls of resistance and finally letting go of the past.
Dr. Saad, You have given my life so much light during this past year. I am in the process of a major life transformation, having left a long term marriage that I believed was a good one (but was actually toxic) to finding and owning myself. Your approach is so helpful to me as I need to understand things clearly. You turn complex concepts into common sense ideas. I thank you and will continue to follow your work.
8:13 this is very important when being realistic or truthful about others being overly idealistic about us - an activity we gratefully mopped up at the time but was used against us later on. Protection from idealisation is just as an important step as protection from abuse, or at least that we are aware of it happening at the time.
Thank you so much. So good for you to generously provide us not only information and possible action steps, but also to encourage us in the direction of hope! Thank you.
Hi Abdul. My life as an Empath working as an integrative GP has led me to your site. I really appreciate your work on Empaths and am so grateful to be able to recommend it to my patients. Your recent Transformation/ Integration work has really helped me “fast track “ my own recovery. Inner Warrior!! OMG I have artistic representations of her all over the house! Now I am ready to internalise her!! Sending you much gratitude and Admiration across the “energetic bridge”. God bless you ....and all of us. T
This has been a wonderfully helpful series......I've been faced with a marriage breakdown as my husband is a gambler and I couldn't cope with that lifestyle anymore. In order to move forward I have experienced my own self transformation and these video's have been encouraging and affirming....thank you
I have been following you for well over a year and want to express my sincere gratitude for all your insight and wisdom. You absolutely have awakened my desire to take myself on and transform into the authentic soul I so desire to be. I am so certain that you have made a difference in so many lives and thank you beyond words!
The approach you utilize in the offering this information and self transformation is done in a way that offers one to digest this with an openness that is invited through your humility and genuine desire to serve the wellness of others. I have more hope and optimism then I have ever experienced in seeking to expand into my authentic self. I raise my hands to you and your work. I am also implementing this experience into my own work - supporting womyn towards their own self actualization and acknowledging our worth in the world as equal and valuable human beings. hiy hiy All My Relations
I m so blessed to have come across your blog thankyou always for giving many valuable inputs and insight about human nature🙏looking forward for more knowledge
This is what I have known since my awakening that I have needed to do, but wasn't exactly clear on how to go about it until these videos. The hardest thing we can do is look at ourselves, including our shadows, but it is absolutely necessary so we don't continue repeating patterns and remaining stuck! Thanks again!
I would love to see what you just said in writing. You have so much knowledge to share and I so appreciate your ability to explain narcissism in professional and laymen terms. Your work has helped me a great not only understanding narcissism but understanding myself. Thank you so much, keep up the good work, its priceless.
This series has been fantastic. I've waited with baited breath for what was to come in all subsequent videos. It's very wise and profound of you to provide precise vocabulary and framework which I find so helpful in moving from a place of confusion and doubt to curiosity and self acceptance. I've also been lucky enough to do one year of DBT and feel that your work weaves in very well with it. Also helpful beyond measure was you finishing with a list of observable indicatores to an integrated self. If I could make a request for further topic, I would ask for an exploration of how our family systems change and are challenged when an elderly parent develops dementia. It is a challenge in my family and, as the yougest daughter, I feel that my older sisters have resorted to old patterns of using me as an emotional punching bag similar to when we were adolescents. I've only been feeling able to stay true to myself and state clear boundaries with them within the last year or so and they aren't taking it well. Thanks you for all that you do and Happy New Year to you and your family!
I wish to have topics revolving around peer-to-peer abuse or bullying among teens that commonly transpire both in school and in cyberspace. This might not be a new phenomenon but the rising degree of violence exhibited by the juvenile bullies are shocking, much more, their pride of having their victims abused in public and with videos or tweets in social media as platforms to showcase these acts. I also want to know how a bullied minor can recover from peer-to-peer abuse. Thank you and a toast to 2019. More power to this channel!
Thank you for all of the work that you do. For people like myself who must rely predominantly on self-directed development, you are doing such a service. You help distill complex concepts into understandable and practical terms.
thank you, Dr Saad. I have watched you so many times, I too feel a connection through these wires & screens. I understand more about myself and my loved ones, and i feel very grateful for your help and understanding.
topic1: how to heal from mental brake down, burn out, etc. dealing with the regret of the damage done to ones self from allowing this to happen. topic 2: medication, anti depressants, anti anxiety tablets. Self medication. The burden of being addicted to them and the notion that one might not fully be able to heal themselves with out confronting their true self while under the influence of them.
All of your topics have been outstanding. When thinking of more to cover...(1) how to appropriately let go of things from the past, allowing for process and not suppressing, but also not dwelling - actually the same for emotions...(2) healthy emotional life, (3) how to reparent oneself
The “harmony of reality”...sweeter words were never spoken. :) I have learned so much from all of your series and cannot thank you enough. I feel more grounded, more at peace, less anxious, less serious, and that has been the pivot point for me. The capacity for humor was missing in my life. I have surprised myself when noticing when I giggle or laugh aloud. I now understand that for too long I was responding to reality in a way that continually sucked my inner joy and made it so difficult to relax, to feel free. Your work has helped me not just in understanding the dynamics in the roles of narcissists and empaths but in understanding addiction more as well. Happy New Year!
Beautiful! I am seeing this series late, but it is very good. Thank you so very much for your videos. Grateful for your knowledge and your ability to be so giving. Thank you so very much. Blessings to you.
I would love to learn more about the integration process for those who are grieving--how does one transform while integrating the truth of a previously unimaginable loss?
Marvelous video. This is the place I have begun to experience "autonomy" being able to navigate through life, the people and circumstances that arise. So much easier not getting caught up.
Thank you soooo much for all of your videos. I've watched just about all of them and they are incredibly informative and validating. I feel a surge of hope as I learn more about whats happened to me, what Im going through now and that I am not the only one in the type of journey Im on. Please consider doing a series on individuals who grew up under emotional neglect and how one would work through that into integration, restoration and wholeness. Thank you!
Thank you very much for your detailed insight into psychological issues. I would very much like to explore the bridge between the mind and the body. In particular, I would very much like to understand how physical activity plays a part in personal integration. I would be interested to know if physical activity can help psychologically.
Dealing with individuals with sharp elbows in the workplace can really tip me over. People who instantly say NO to change, then fight like hell for a status quo that was quaint, but comfortable to those bullies. There is a fine line between being cooperatively compliant and being the doormat for a bully.
Thanks Dr. Saad! Just watching your videos has helped me to evolve from a pathological empath towards a whole person (a journey I realize I already had begun on my own). I would love to see a video on setting appropriate boundaries and when and how to compromise. I think empaths early in the healing process can sometimes go overboard in refusing to compromise in any situation. We know we need to set boundaries but have little practice doing it. This can lead to problems at work or with the good people in our life who actually want to support us.
I was able to identiry from your final list of attributes of an integrated empath, the 4 areas where I am not managing well, also to appreciate from the others that I am making progress. Thanks you.
Dr. Saad, Greetings from Connecticut, USA. I enjoy your videos and watch them often. They’re easy to watch and listen to because I think you’re authentic and believable, sweet and approachable, skillful and deeply knowledgeable. Psychology is not my field but I like to measure myself against your analyses to see if I’m all right and I trust you. Occasionally, I check out other psychology videos but find them unwatchable. Listening to you is quite captivating. Thanks, Michael
Connection - yes we are out here receiving our personal therapy, reading spiritual and poetic texts that enrich our lives, and we receive an insightful and caring boost from you. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your gift you send to me from your home office. I gratefully share your gifts often. May you & all you love have blessed & prosperous year. 💞💓💞 #WeCreate #TeamEarth
You have helped me so much. I have gone through the narcissistic empath series. I wish there was more about how to deal with breaking off with the Narcissist. I am dealing with panic, shame guilt at having cut him out and don't know what to do.
I don't know if I'm an empath, but I am very self conscious around people. I feel like there's something wrong with me, or that people are always looking at me and judging. I feel exhausted and overwhelmed just with the day to day. I am sensitive to my environment. As far as transformation, what you say is very logical. It all makes sense, but the emotional state is another matter. How do you harmonize what you're really feeling with logical thinking? It's hard.
I feel a valuable connection with you as well. I'm so grateful for all of your work and the contribution you've made to my self-transformation and integration. Happy New Year!! I look forward to your coming videos, whatever they may be.
My life has really been a blessing considering I've been an empath surrounded by some narcissist who have taken important place in my life. I've kind of escaped safetly from them even having to change from continent and having to start all over again. I'm a more or less recognized artist and found out some people just come to me to take my experience but not as friends.. Thanks. But with your words I'm sure I will be more cautious and continue life in an optimistic way. Thanks!!! Sometimes...I find people who envy my progress... I recognize it but still hurts a little. If you could tell about how to reject or accept or whatever... this. Thanks!!!
Thank you Abdul
Integration is a life journey and is never completed. If we have family history of cruelty violence and trauma then we can be faced with a huge challenge. I found it so.
Intergenerational violence is perhaps the biggest issue, that requires healing by the Divine interventions along with our inner journey that we must seek to understand and undertake everyday.
I'd love to learn more about healing from childhood trauma and anxious preoccupied or disorganized attachment style in adult life. As this is a problem for millions of people, it might be a good topic to discuss.
+1 exactly those things
I have this attachement style as well, and escaping its' grip would be pretty profound..
In my experiences, group ceremony with experienced shaman with plant medicines most potent tool for cleansing the trauma at its core
I'm surprised such issues are rarely discussed. I finally found useful guided meditation videos on RUclips that helped with eliminating obsessive thoughts after my mother's death. One must listen to many...before finding the one for you.
@@kirstinstrand6292 The Headspace App is very very good. First ten sessions are free, but you'll be buying it after ten sessions.. ;)
Dear Dr. Saad, would it be too much to ask you to share your own journey in confronting your ego and shadow. Your intimate understanding of the process, as well as the empath/narcissist dynamic, leads me to believe you have a testimony I would be humbled to hear.
In any case, I love you like a father and deeply respect your humility and kindness. May God bless you for the profound and exquisite good you provide in each and every video.
Lynn Holbrook Now here is a good question!
@Lynn your summary is well written. During the last 4 weeks I've done quite a bit of RUclips research on Empaths and narcissist and I've noticed 2 of 3 most reliable sources have a testimony.
Sir pls make a video on toxic shame, low self esteem and how to overcome them.
Seconded!
Voting for this too!
1) capacity to tolerate negative emotions (stability of moods)
2)capacity to experience stable internal sense of self that doesn't shift rapidly under stress
3) reliable and realistic self esteem,
4) capacity to experience others in a stable way
5)well deveoepd conscience, morality, ethics
6) impulse control/delayed gratification
7) reality testing ability under pressure/ capacity to mentalize
8) capacity to be flexible, vs. dogmatic
9) capacity to experience ambiguity, ambivalence, shades of grey
10)capacity for humor
11)accept setback, limitations
12)engage in leisure, passion, vitality
13) self disclosure to appropriate others
14) form secure stable relationships
15) experience of autonomy and agency
Thank u for this
Intergration is when you are synced both mentally and emotionally. When you are not intergrated your emotions are separate from your mental thinking, it's a power struggle a tug of war where your emotions usually wins. So instead of your behavior being driven mentally it's driven emotionally. The first time you are aware that a habit or behavior is driven by emotion, it is eye opening and very powerful experience. Probably one of the most powerful experience you would have in your life. The healing process is very involved and takes years, but the realization that you can head towards improvement is a huge relief.
Please do a series on self love. On how we can love and accept ourselves to a level that we will not be easy prey for someone to take advantage of us and we will not go out into the world seeking validation from others. Thank you so much for what you do, you have helped me so much, I am so grateful for you. God bless you. Debbie
Debbie Yes we need more on looking within and stopping the inner critic. I’ve grown so much since I flipped that first light switch.
Doc really appreciate your insights
You videos have provided me with the necessary insight that I have been searching for. Thank you.
Thank you for clearing up that we do get knocked off balance but we recover faster. I would like to know about empaths and attracting the right partner and whats normal after you have transformed. It feels so strange now that l have boundaries. l m empowered but lonley yet
... l won't allow myself to engage in superficial or toxicity to fill it. also you know what narrcist and toxic ppl are running from me faster lol they are scared once they realize l will not be oppresed...l hope to do some work on my anger. For so long l didnt feel anger but now that l do ...l realize its a learning process to control it...it's a very powerful emotion. As always thanks for the enlightenment and Happy New Year !!!
This is just a part of your shadow self - it's normal to be angry under certain circumstances- accept it and integrate it
I think about the same. And i believe u can find partner or healthy relations here, people who are in the way, and have some work done.
I find that the more you know and trust yourself, the better you can handle the toxic people. You no longer feel an obligation to fix them, help them, chase after them, solve their problems, etc. Then you don’t have to “ban them” from your life, because you can deal with their nonsense, as long as it’s not directly harmful or dangerous. (Some behaviors are obviously deal-breakers.)
Me too!
I would love for you to do an attachment style video. Avoidant, anxious, etc. You are next level.
This self-transformation series has been my personal favorite. The information couldn't have been more timely for me. I listened to each video multiple times. Thank you so very much.
Topics: 1) timeline expectations of integration. For me I've been heavy focused on this for over 2 years and the journey is fraught with obstacles, unseen self deceptions (the Trickster); 2) which archetypes to develop in what succession and how to do so for each...I developed caregiver first and it helped immensely with silencing inner critic and reigning in ego, then sage for discernment and intuition...etc. 3) how to use a therapist to help achieve this development. 4) the role of spirituality in conjunction with this process and with your reality/shared reality and right choice/balance
The HEALED Empath... moving forward in an authentic you. How about, developing empathic abilities or spiritual gifts through integration of a healthy self. Love and light
Jason Bell I second this, 👏🏾 love and light
Yes, I would like any information on utilizing my sensitivities once integrated. In the past, my intuitive sensitivity was used by others and myself in keeping me bound to my core wounds. Now free, how do they flourish in the new, authentic me?
@@JEHOVAH485 Great question Lynn. I’m now aware of a similar background and experience. Family/Folks tended to use my good side rather than appreciate it. My responsibility now. Please let me know if you find some answers or solutions that work for you. Namasté.
I was ready to step into my authentic self and you were sent my way. I am thankful.
I respect, appreciate and value the work you do. It is wonderfully generous of you to share your experience, expertise and knowledge with us, your audience.
Happy new year. I trust that 2019 will enrich you, your family and business.
What's a good starting point becoming authentic? What are some steps to becoming an authentic integrated person?
I cant express how grateful I am for people like you in my universe. For the past year, I have been trying to find the contents of this video, and I'm very grateful a medical professional took the time and effort to make this video. As an empath, I get lost in other peoples emotions often, and it's been an ongoing struggle to see who I am, and what I am repressing, and how I differ and relate in regards to those surrounding me. The perspective these few videos have supplied me with is going to help me greatly, thank you for helping me traverse this cosmic soup
U r the Best!! Such resolve!! A healed Empath has no need to get even, only to get EMPOWERED!!
Thanks doc! God bless u and Happy New Year❤️💜
How to HEAL in areas of:
Trauma bonding
Abandonment
Self esteem (regaining or establishing true self esteem)
Boundaries
Loneliness
Fear
Finding True Self
I could go on and on. I’m asking for videos on learning to truly heal.
I'm new to your videos but very happy to have found these. Your thinking and presentation style is extremely accessible and informative. I'm using your teaching to help me as I go through my own transformation. Thank you! I hope we get to see some new videos soon.
Thank you. Brilliant. Ireland
Thank you good Doctor. I'd like to learn about neuroplasticity and healing from post traumatic stress, or from anything that harms our brain.
Your advice about magnesium n zinc has been very helpful to me. Also helps my medical conditions. Now I promote these things and your vmp to others when appropriate. You are much appreciated. The best to You in 2019 and thank you ever so much for all you do.
It is a true blessing that I found you dear doctor. I had just finished an audio entitled Daughter Detox, reclaiming your life from an unloving mother. I had no idea what it would do to my mind, in fact I didn’t even finish the last 10 minutes. Her demeaning voice is back in my head, poor sleep, weeping, anxiety and panic attacks again. Before I did not know what a narcissist was. Your Covert Narcissistic video helped bring me back a bit. I always gained confidence and short term happiness when distanced from her. I never knew why until I found names for people like me and her. I am an empath seeking to find who I am and understanding for why I was raised unloved.
My suggestion is possibly more on mother daughter interaction. Also On how to stick to your boundaries. I trust you and have found great comfort in each video you have produced.
You are doing gods work as you would be too expensive to go to in person. Thank you thank you thank you!
Thank you so much for all the help you give people who have suffered for so many years from being an Empath without realising what a truly horrendous effect this can have on their lives and how this causes you to attract the Narcissists and Manipulators into your life and the consequent disastrous results. I have only come to full realisation of my own situation within the last year and what I needed to do to reverse the situation, mainly through watching your videos. I was the daughter of a Bipolar mother who ruled me for years from a very early age and it has taken me until now at 68 years of age to redress this situation. I cannot thank you enough. God bless you and your work.
You get into parts of our awareness of self, healing, and integration without slamming the other! You have opened my eyes a little too see myself more clearly when I thought I was such an innocent victim although I know nothing happens in my world without my permission so I'm the cause, not them! I am kinda shocked right now and not sure where to go or what to do, but I thank you for this new awareness in healing and transformation! I'm one of those whose been stuck in self suffering for many years, waiting for someone to come save me! Like Mel Robbins says, "No one is coming to save you!" Sometimes I don't like her! Lol
I feel like no matter what videos you decide to make, they will speak to my life regardless, thank you
Hello, I am so happy I found your channel because I have been exploring the connection between what I eat and my mental state. I have gone whole food plant based and have had many unforeseen benefits. Thank you for all your work and I will keep watching and learning!
Hello from Canada! I'm really glad you've posted these videos. I'm going through a huge struggle in my life right now and videos like this really help me figure out my brain.
I’ve tried to do what I call personal inventory where I try to be open and honest with myself about recognizing where my faults lie, but your videos are presenting new information that makes me think about all the ways I fall short even more. I experienced severe abuse as a child and it left me feeling very broken and I have not had a very successful life because of it. I really grieve for the potential I’ve not been able to realize. Always feels 2 steps forward 2 steps back. I’ve never been able to heal all that damage. It is hard to do the shadow work because I start inevitably looking only at the negative parts of my personality patterns. It is painful and discouraging. I will keep trying until I die.
I would like you to consider a series on core shame. This affect is such a fundamental structure associated with how we can operate healthily in the world. It is primarily a non-verbal, right brain affect and so no amount of cognitive energy has allowed me to resolve my deep, core shame. My defence mechanisms won't even allow me to address the matter from a body brain perspective.
Thank you for your work thus far. It is very insightful material .
Geoff
You have a gift for teaching. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
Awww! I am so happy you feel connected to us! We feel connected to you too and I wish you all the best for 2019! I look forward to all your videos and am so glad you have taken the time to talk about these topics with us. You have helped me greatly. I was just talking to my therapist about you and your last video I saw on the things that annoy us. With your work and hers I was able to answer my questions concerning that. So thank you! 🙏🏼 I would be interested in knowing some extra information on existential crises and how we can get through them. 😅 I am finally breaking some ground but like to get as many perspectives as possible. Thank you again!
I have had years of therapy after dealing with a narcissistic father, abusive mother, and antisocial brother. It's so hard to let go of the idea of having a real family of origin, so here I am. I'd like to see a video on breaking down my internal walls of resistance and finally letting go of the past.
Dr. Saad, You have given my life so much light during this past year. I am in the process of a major life transformation, having left a long term marriage that I believed was a good one (but was actually toxic) to finding and owning myself. Your approach is so helpful to me as I need to understand things clearly. You turn complex concepts into common sense ideas. I thank you and will continue to follow your work.
8:13 this is very important when being realistic or truthful about others being overly idealistic about us - an activity we gratefully mopped up at the time but was used against us later on. Protection from idealisation is just as an important step as protection from abuse, or at least that we are aware of it happening at the time.
Thank you for your contributions, Dr. Saad! I have learned a lot from you videos.
This is an EXCELLENT channel. Thank you good sir!
Thank you so much. So good for you to generously provide us not only information and possible action steps, but also to encourage us in the direction of hope! Thank you.
Hi Abdul.
My life as an Empath working as an integrative GP has led me to your site. I really appreciate your work on Empaths and am so grateful to be able to recommend it to my patients.
Your recent Transformation/ Integration work has really helped me “fast track “ my own recovery.
Inner Warrior!! OMG I have artistic representations of her all over the house! Now I am ready to internalise her!!
Sending you much gratitude and Admiration across the “energetic bridge”. God bless you ....and all of us. T
This has given me HOPE.
You are hard but fair. That's all anyone can ask for. Thank you very much
The most useful definition of truth ever!
Thank you Abdul Saad for your very clear, truth searching, helpful talks! We need more psychologists like you in the world
This has been a wonderfully helpful series......I've been faced with a marriage breakdown as my husband is a gambler and I couldn't cope with that lifestyle anymore. In order to move forward I have experienced my own self transformation and these video's have been encouraging and affirming....thank you
Thank you so much!!! You have helped me a lot! Thanks God I found your videos. Be sure you're helping hundreds of people.
I have been following you for well over a year and want to express my sincere gratitude for all your insight and wisdom. You absolutely have awakened my desire to take myself on and transform into the authentic soul I so desire to be. I am so certain that you have made a difference in so many lives and thank you beyond words!
Hi Abdul,
Thank you so much for your videos! I would be interested in content on developing confidence and self-esteem.
Thanks again!
This is now starting to really come to fruition for me. Hard work, humbling and joyful work too. Thank you, Dr Saad.
The approach you utilize in the offering this information and self transformation is done in a way that offers one to digest this with an openness that is invited through your humility and genuine desire to serve the wellness of others. I have more hope and optimism then I have ever experienced in seeking to expand into my authentic self. I raise my hands to you and your work. I am also implementing this experience into my own work - supporting womyn towards their own self actualization and acknowledging our worth in the world as equal and valuable human beings. hiy hiy All My Relations
You have had a profound effect on me and my circumstances, which has been mixed blessings, thank you for your videos.
Thank you so much for blessing your fans with such empowering knowledge . You are truly a God Send ! Namaste
And it's an honour to listen to you.
Authenticity.
I m so blessed to have come across your blog thankyou always for giving many valuable inputs and insight about human nature🙏looking forward for more knowledge
This is what I have known since my awakening that I have needed to do, but wasn't exactly clear on how to go about it until these videos. The hardest thing we can do is look at ourselves, including our shadows, but it is absolutely necessary so we don't continue repeating patterns and remaining stuck! Thanks again!
I would love to see what you just said in writing. You have so much knowledge to share and I so appreciate your ability to explain narcissism in professional and laymen terms. Your work has helped me a great not only understanding narcissism but understanding myself. Thank you so much, keep up the good work, its priceless.
You are helping all of us to become better integrated Humans-with your Kind way of explanation ! Thank you Abdul !!!!
You are amazing. Your videos are the REAL information people should hope to hear during there life.
This series has been fantastic. I've waited with baited breath for what was to come in all subsequent videos. It's very wise and profound of you to provide precise vocabulary and framework which I find so helpful in moving from a place of confusion and doubt to curiosity and self acceptance. I've also been lucky enough to do one year of DBT and feel that your work weaves in very well with it. Also helpful beyond measure was you finishing with a list of observable indicatores to an integrated self. If I could make a request for further topic, I would ask for an exploration of how our family systems change and are challenged when an elderly parent develops dementia. It is a challenge in my family and, as the yougest daughter, I feel that my older sisters have resorted to old patterns of using me as an emotional punching bag similar to when we were adolescents. I've only been feeling able to stay true to myself and state clear boundaries with them within the last year or so and they aren't taking it well. Thanks you for all that you do and Happy New Year to you and your family!
I wish to have topics revolving around peer-to-peer abuse or bullying among teens that commonly transpire both in school and in cyberspace. This might not be a new phenomenon but the rising degree of violence exhibited by the juvenile bullies are shocking, much more, their pride of having their victims abused in public and with videos or tweets in social media as platforms to showcase these acts. I also want to know how a bullied minor can recover from peer-to-peer abuse. Thank you and a toast to 2019. More power to this channel!
Thank you for all of the work that you do. For people like myself who must rely predominantly on self-directed development, you are doing such a service. You help distill complex concepts into understandable and practical terms.
thank you, Dr Saad. I have watched you so many times, I too feel a connection through these wires & screens. I understand more about myself and my loved ones, and i feel very grateful for your help and understanding.
I found your videos today and listened to the whole series on self transformation as well as several others. Thank you so much.
topic1: how to heal from mental brake down, burn out, etc. dealing with the regret of the damage done to ones self from allowing this to happen.
topic 2: medication, anti depressants, anti anxiety tablets. Self medication. The burden of being addicted to them and the notion that one might not fully be able to heal themselves with out confronting their true self while under the influence of them.
All of your topics have been outstanding. When thinking of more to cover...(1) how to appropriately let go of things from the past, allowing for process and not suppressing, but also not dwelling - actually the same for emotions...(2) healthy emotional life, (3) how to reparent oneself
The “harmony of reality”...sweeter words were never spoken. :) I have learned so much from all of your series and cannot thank you enough. I feel more grounded, more at peace, less anxious, less serious, and that has been the pivot point for me. The capacity for humor was missing in my life. I have surprised myself when noticing when I giggle or laugh aloud. I now understand that for too long I was responding to reality in a way that continually sucked my inner joy and made it so difficult to relax, to feel free. Your work has helped me not just in understanding the dynamics in the roles of narcissists and empaths but in understanding addiction more as well. Happy New Year!
you were there at the right time for me. i am so grateful.feeling love for you
Thanks Sr Saad. You`re videos are absolutely fantastic. Thanks for your compassion and honesty. Andre, Cape Town.
Just what I needed. Just Knowing this information is making a change in my self-perception. Thanks a lot
Beautiful! I am seeing this series late, but it is very good. Thank you so very much for your videos. Grateful for your knowledge and your ability to be so giving. Thank you so very much. Blessings to you.
I would love to learn more about the integration process for those who are grieving--how does one transform while integrating the truth of a previously unimaginable loss?
Marvelous video.
This is the place I have begun to experience "autonomy" being able to navigate through life, the people and circumstances that arise.
So much easier not getting caught up.
Thank you soooo much for all of your videos. I've watched just about all of them and they are incredibly informative and validating. I feel a surge of hope as I learn more about whats happened to me, what Im going through now and that I am not the only one in the type of journey Im on.
Please consider doing a series on individuals who grew up under emotional neglect and how one would work through that into integration, restoration and wholeness.
Thank you!
What an amazing series! Such gift! Thank you very much Mr. Saad!
Thank you very much for your detailed insight into psychological issues. I would very much like to explore the bridge between the mind and the body. In particular, I would very much like to understand how physical activity plays a part in personal integration. I would be interested to know if physical activity can help psychologically.
You're a God send for me!! Thank you for the amazing work you do!! ❤️ Healing feels so amazing! ❤️
Dealing with individuals with sharp elbows in the workplace can really tip me over. People who instantly say NO to change, then fight like hell for a status quo that was quaint, but comfortable to those bullies. There is a fine line between being cooperatively compliant and being the doormat for a bully.
I really appreciated this series and the simple format of you sitting in your office. ❤
Thanks Dr. Saad! Just watching your videos has helped me to evolve from a pathological empath towards a whole person (a journey I realize I already had begun on my own). I would love to see a video on setting appropriate boundaries and when and how to compromise. I think empaths early in the healing process can sometimes go overboard in refusing to compromise in any situation. We know we need to set boundaries but have little practice doing it. This can lead to problems at work or with the good people in our life who actually want to support us.
I was able to identiry from your final list of attributes of an integrated empath, the 4 areas where I am not managing well, also to appreciate from the others that I am making progress. Thanks you.
Dr. Saad, Greetings from Connecticut, USA. I enjoy your videos and watch them often. They’re easy to watch and listen to because I think you’re authentic and believable, sweet and approachable, skillful and deeply knowledgeable. Psychology is not my field but I like to measure myself against your analyses to see if I’m all right and I trust you. Occasionally, I check out other psychology videos but find them unwatchable. Listening to you is quite captivating. Thanks, Michael
You are a gift to humanity. Thank you
You have helped many of us. Thanks for your dedication to making these videos. All the best in 2019!🇨🇦
Great stuff, very helpful. Ideas grieving the old childhood wounds and reparenting. Thanks much
Self transformation is important for success.
Connection - yes we are out here receiving our personal therapy, reading spiritual and poetic texts that enrich our lives, and we receive an insightful and caring boost from you. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your gift you send to me from your home office. I gratefully share your gifts often. May you & all you love have blessed & prosperous year. 💞💓💞 #WeCreate #TeamEarth
You have helped me so much. I have gone through the narcissistic empath series. I wish there was more about how to deal with breaking off with the Narcissist. I am dealing with panic, shame guilt at having cut him out and don't know what to do.
Thank you for blessing us with your insights. You are very good!
God bless you. Your content has been affirming and very helpful.
I really dig your integrated approach. Thank you for your work.
Thank you for your time, content and energy! Very clear, relatable and easy to listen too good job :)
I don't know if I'm an empath, but I am very self conscious around people. I feel like there's something wrong with me, or that people are always looking at me and judging. I feel exhausted and overwhelmed just with the day to day. I am sensitive to my environment. As far as transformation, what you say is very logical. It all makes sense, but the emotional state is another matter. How do you harmonize what you're really feeling with logical thinking? It's hard.
Thank you for this content, it's been of immense value to me.
Dr., you are such a wonderful find!
I feel a valuable connection with you as well. I'm so grateful for all of your work and the contribution you've made to my self-transformation and integration. Happy New Year!! I look forward to your coming videos, whatever they may be.
Please do a series on what you just mentioned on the awakening and having unity and connection i.e. spirituality
Thank you Dr for your videos and your knowledge. I love listening to what you have to offer. Thank you. I pray God increases you in your knowledge
My life has really been a blessing considering I've been an empath surrounded by some narcissist who have taken important place in my life. I've kind of escaped safetly from them even having to change from continent and having to start all over again. I'm a more or less recognized artist and found out some people just come to me to take my experience but not as friends.. Thanks. But with your words I'm sure I will be more cautious and continue life in an optimistic way. Thanks!!! Sometimes...I find people who envy my progress... I recognize it but still hurts a little. If you could tell about how to reject or accept or whatever... this. Thanks!!!
Truth in its spiritual sense, IS balance🐝Gratitude✨
Thank you so much, all of your videos are so helpful and have made a real difference in my progress.
Great series. Very healing and informative. Thanks.
More great info, Happy New Year to you and many blessings!