⭐Check out my membership club - lot's of EXTRA CONTENT, GIVEAWAYS, FACETIMES: www.patreon.com/rebeccajannee Tilly is leaving to the UK this weekend :( but...... 5,000 likes and she will stay in HK!
My parents used to say 'you look healthy' to me and if I told them I didn't like being told that it would get dismissed and I would be told I was being silly. I think they used to get upset that I couldn't see it from their perspective that it hurt them when I was underweight and to see me looking more 'healthy' had to be a compliment because it made them happier. Sadly it's something we never got past but fortunately, I didn't live with them at that point so much of my healing process is being done without them.
It's because when, for whatever reason, you haven't been able to express the depth and pain of your feelings verbally, you resort to showing them. Saying you look healthy to someone who can't express their pain and despair, other than by physically showing it, equates to dismissing their despair, regardless of intent. I suspect people who self harm feel much the same. Could you explain that to your parents?
My parents are extremely insensitive. I know that they don't mean it, but when they say stuff about my eating issues so nonchalantly, it hurts quite bad for me.
When I was finally recovering from anorexia, my grand parents visited my house (i was beginning to not be fearful of foods and was gaining a healthy relationship with food) and they commented “you aren’t that skinny anymore.” It triggered me, and I locked myself in my bathroom, constantly body checking and crying. A day after that... I started going back to the old ways. I should have known what my grant parents had really meant. They meant that I looked healthier, and all. It’s weird how one silly comment can trigger you. Btw, I used to be really scrawny when I was anorexic. I am thankfully recovering well now, and my relationship with food is somewhat good (still have fear foods) but i’m fighting! If you are recovering, keep working hard because one day, this will end 💖
Absolutely loved the conversation about triggering remarks during recovery..it's something I've particularly struggled with when I think about recovering and unfortunately it holds me back from recovering..the fear or someone making a comment about me finally looking "healthy" or "better". I need to practice like Tyler said by detaching myself from the things people who don't fully understand say. But it is so, so hard. Also on a lighter note, I think you need to end every video with a song now hahah reminds me of TV shows I used to watch as a kid, they always ended like that. A+ Wholesome Content Bec ♥️
for anyone whos watching and struggles with an ed... you've got this !! life is so much more than this nasty disease and we want to be able to be free and live our life to the fullest because we may only live once, and don't live it wishing you hadn't eaten this or that xx
I absolutely agree with the insensitive comments people make during recovery. When I was in the clinic I had to gain weight every week. So one week I gained 1 kilo ( sorry don't know how much this is in pounds 😏) and felt like shit and like a failure. Then we had a group meeting with everyone in the clinic. And the nurse said in front of everyone "let's celebrate her she just gained ...weight!". I was so embarassed and shocked. I couldn't stay there any longer and I just walked out of the meeting and cried in my room. This was so not ok.
The first thing my granny said when she saw me is "oh you look bigger!" I've gained one kilo of the 3 I have to gain to be healthy and I almost died. I feel this
LOVE YOUR HAIR!!! By the by, I finally posted my videos during my recovery process and you inspired me to use my voice and speak out about the dark reality of eating disorders. Love you Bex and so proud of how far you’ve come and thank you for inspiring me to recover
First of all I kept looking at your hair, it’s really gorgeous and I love the color! 😍 Additionally I really love the vibe your videos have, they have a playful approach to serious topics and I feel that makes them so much more easier to talk about and to take in.
I'm in recovery from a 20 year struggle with severe anorexia nervosa (bulimic subtype). I'm gaining weight, getting stronger, getting fit, and when someone tells me I'm looking healthy I REJOOOOOOOOOOOICE! Not to say after only two months following a strict recovery program (on my own with support from friends) that I don't still struggle with insane mental health issues and crazy physical side effects, but I think for some people if you're in an overall positive mental space and ready to recover, it feels amazing when other people notice. Keep up the hard work Rebecca! Killer!
i've finally learned that people only mean well with their "you look healthy now" comments but my biggest issue is when they create an argument over it and refuse to be more open-minded :// imma have to watch this several times bc Rebecca your hair colour is giving me life ??? hahaha
Thts lovly. I recovered in 2017! So my new friends don't know the old me. I don't even tell them. But it's nice u feel ok to be so open. Recover is good.
For the next video you should write down on different peaces of paper "snack, snack, dinner, lunch, breakfast" And pick one peace of paper everytime you need to eat. Pd: Love your videos ❤
this is so amazing, and so very accurate. Though it's not their intent, my family will say to this day things that in spite of being in recovery that will ocassionally make me uncomfortable, second-guess myself, and wonder if what I'm doing is right. Grateful to see that somebody as inspiring as you has people in her life that love and support you.
Hahaah the hand-holding drama, my husband does the same!! And I totally get what you mean with "You look healthy", it's like a dagger sometimes! LOVEE these vids and hope you all are doing well! good luck with all the rain !
Hey I have an idea for a new format! How about we (as in, your fans from all over the world) send you our favorite snacks and goods and, in general, food that is typical of our countries, and you and Tyler (and Bear of course) taste test them?
my dads girlfriend keeps saying how she didnt eat dinner or she only eats this or that she keeps saying how she only eats one serving for no reason or she only walks the whole day and ate only this then shell say when my dad is worried when she doesnt eat anything at lunch shell say she used to skip it anyway or shell say i didnt eat rice today or i only eat rice now i hate how she boast about her eating when i am trying to recover but oh well i am still continuing with my recovery journey and i didnt fall for the thoughts even if how much i am triggered with her also i dont eat with her i wait until she is done so i wont be triggered because whenever i eat with her i always notice how she tries tobeat small ajd goddamn i just quit looking at her whenileating and avoids any food related topics
you got this!!! i know that must be really discouraging. just remember, you are more than your body and what other people think about bodies. recovery is a long journey!!! im going through it rn. we’re in this together.
You can also ask her to stop saying that she almost ate nothing everytime, because it is triggering for you. I’m sure she’ll understand, you can do this!
Just from reading your comment it sounds like she may have a problematic relationship with food herself... Being proud of how little you eat seems like a red flag.
@@susanne1310 i know,and im afraid that she got it from me. i will be really really be upset when im the caused of her having ed i wish shes fine really even tho i get annoyed sometimes i dont want people to think that its ok to have ed :(
Oh my fucking TYLER 👏🏻 I cannot fathom being around that amount of emotional intelligence , so thankful for you, your honesty and your whole spirit Bec !!! 🍀
I’ve been following Rebecca’s journey and I have to say I really see a difference in the way she eats. Keep doing what you’re doing😍 you’ve gone super far ☺️💞
I have binge eating disorder and I wouldn’t have a problem with people saying I’m healthy at all. Funnily no one has ever said that. However I do hate when I lose weight and people compliment me on that. Cause losing weight is just a different part of my eating disorder and it doesn’t necessarily mean I am of healthy mind or body. Basically don’t comment on someone’s looks.
Just wanna say thank you on behalf of everyone that watches these vids, for putting the effort in and brightening peoples day! wishing you all the best, take care :) looking forward to watching the vid now!
Love your channel and content! Great video editing skills! And obviously also a great video. If you don't mind me asking, what video editor do you use and/or recommend? #askingforafriend
Coming from someone who is also recovering from an ED, i just don't understand how she supposedly eats this much everyday and is still skinny. idk i just feel like she restricts when shes not making these videos. not hating/being rude. im really just curious
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Tilly is leaving to the UK this weekend :( but...... 5,000 likes and she will stay in HK!
My parents used to say 'you look healthy' to me and if I told them I didn't like being told that it would get dismissed and I would be told I was being silly. I think they used to get upset that I couldn't see it from their perspective that it hurt them when I was underweight and to see me looking more 'healthy' had to be a compliment because it made them happier. Sadly it's something we never got past but fortunately, I didn't live with them at that point so much of my healing process is being done without them.
It's because when, for whatever reason, you haven't been able to express the depth and pain of your feelings verbally, you resort to showing them. Saying you look healthy to someone who can't express their pain and despair, other than by physically showing it, equates to dismissing their despair, regardless of intent.
I suspect people who self harm feel much the same.
Could you explain that to your parents?
My parents are extremely insensitive. I know that they don't mean it, but when they say stuff about my eating issues so nonchalantly, it hurts quite bad for me.
When I was finally recovering from anorexia, my grand parents visited my house (i was beginning to not be fearful of foods and was gaining a healthy relationship with food) and they commented “you aren’t that skinny anymore.” It triggered me, and I locked myself in my bathroom, constantly body checking and crying. A day after that... I started going back to the old ways. I should have known what my grant parents had really meant. They meant that I looked healthier, and all. It’s weird how one silly comment can trigger you.
Btw, I used to be really scrawny when I was anorexic.
I am thankfully recovering well now, and my relationship with food is somewhat good (still have fear foods) but i’m fighting! If you are recovering, keep working hard because one day, this will end 💖
Absolutely loved the conversation about triggering remarks during recovery..it's something I've particularly struggled with when I think about recovering and unfortunately it holds me back from recovering..the fear or someone making a comment about me finally looking "healthy" or "better". I need to practice like Tyler said by detaching myself from the things people who don't fully understand say. But it is so, so hard.
Also on a lighter note, I think you need to end every video with a song now hahah reminds me of TV shows I used to watch as a kid, they always ended like that.
A+ Wholesome Content Bec ♥️
for anyone whos watching and struggles with an ed... you've got this !! life is so much more than this nasty disease and we want to be able to be free and live our life to the fullest because we may only live once, and don't live it wishing you hadn't eaten this or that xx
I absolutely agree with the insensitive comments people make during recovery. When I was in the clinic I had to gain weight every week. So one week I gained 1 kilo ( sorry don't know how much this is in pounds 😏) and felt like shit and like a failure. Then we had a group meeting with everyone in the clinic. And the nurse said in front of everyone "let's celebrate her she just gained ...weight!". I was so embarassed and shocked. I couldn't stay there any longer and I just walked out of the meeting and cried in my room. This was so not ok.
The first thing my granny said when she saw me is "oh you look bigger!" I've gained one kilo of the 3 I have to gain to be healthy and I almost died. I feel this
The beginning. I feel you, Rebecca. I too, wish had three identical twins and a giant McD box to dance to retrowave songs.
I'm glad you told me this...I thought it was just me. phew
LOVE YOUR HAIR!!! By the by, I finally posted my videos during my recovery process and you inspired me to use my voice and speak out about the dark reality of eating disorders. Love you Bex and so proud of how far you’ve come and thank you for inspiring me to recover
I love the heart-to-heart conversation at the end.. really heartwarming
Let’s pretend I didn’t watch this video earlier, and am now watching it for the very first time.
What was your first impression Natacha?
Rebecca Jane I absolutely loved it, especially the singing at the end;) also gotta try fried burritos
First of all I kept looking at your hair, it’s really gorgeous and I love the color! 😍
Additionally I really love the vibe your videos have, they have a playful approach to serious topics and I feel that makes them so much more easier to talk about and to take in.
I'm in recovery from a 20 year struggle with severe anorexia nervosa (bulimic subtype). I'm gaining weight, getting stronger, getting fit, and when someone tells me I'm looking healthy I REJOOOOOOOOOOOICE! Not to say after only two months following a strict recovery program (on my own with support from friends) that I don't still struggle with insane mental health issues and crazy physical side effects, but I think for some people if you're in an overall positive mental space and ready to recover, it feels amazing when other people notice. Keep up the hard work Rebecca! Killer!
i've finally learned that people only mean well with their "you look healthy now" comments but my biggest issue is when they create an argument over it and refuse to be more open-minded ://
imma have to watch this several times bc Rebecca your hair colour is giving me life ??? hahaha
oh my goodness im so proud of u. you've helped me so much with your kind words and immeasurable wisdom. i love u. n i love ur hair :-)
Your hair is stunning!!! Amazing video as always!❤️❤️❤️
drinking coffee despite giving me anxiety is ME EVERYDAY!!! I drink as if I DONT KNOW WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN
Sam Elle HAHAHHAHAH literally me
oooo i feel this is the beginning of a coffee anxiety support group
@@laiagimenez2688 YIKES, HAHAHAH
@@SamElle sis same😥 i tried stopping stopping it for 2 days. key word here: TRIED
@@ambrosial3286 omg when i tried stopping, i was so cranky and irritated!!! NOT MY BEST SELF
Thts lovly. I recovered in 2017! So my new friends don't know the old me. I don't even tell them. But it's nice u feel ok to be so open. Recover is good.
For the next video you should write down on different peaces of paper "snack, snack, dinner, lunch, breakfast" And pick one peace of paper everytime you need to eat.
Pd: Love your videos ❤
THE FRIENDS REFERENCE MADE MY DAY
is no one gonna talk about how she needs a grammy award for her performance
this is so amazing, and so very accurate. Though it's not their intent, my family will say to this day things that in spite of being in recovery that will ocassionally make me uncomfortable, second-guess myself, and wonder if what I'm doing is right. Grateful to see that somebody as inspiring as you has people in her life that love and support you.
That odd moment when you dont know what you want to comment but you still want to comment something
Hahaah the hand-holding drama, my husband does the same!! And I totally get what you mean with "You look healthy", it's like a dagger sometimes! LOVEE these vids and hope you all are doing well! good luck with all the rain !
Hey I have an idea for a new format! How about we (as in, your fans from all over the world) send you our favorite snacks and goods and, in general, food that is typical of our countries, and you and Tyler (and Bear of course) taste test them?
my dads girlfriend keeps saying how she didnt eat dinner or she only eats this or that she keeps saying how she only eats one serving for no reason or she only walks the whole day and ate only this then shell say when my dad is worried when she doesnt eat anything at lunch shell say she used to skip it anyway or shell say i didnt eat rice today or i only eat rice now i hate how she boast about her eating when i am trying to recover but oh well i am still continuing with my recovery journey and i didnt fall for the thoughts even if how much i am triggered with her also i dont eat with her i wait until she is done so i wont be triggered because whenever i eat with her i always notice how she tries tobeat small ajd goddamn i just quit looking at her whenileating and avoids any food related topics
you got this!!! i know that must be really discouraging. just remember, you are more than your body and what other people think about bodies. recovery is a long journey!!! im going through it rn. we’re in this together.
You can also ask her to stop saying that she almost ate nothing everytime, because it is triggering for you. I’m sure she’ll understand, you can do this!
Just from reading your comment it sounds like she may have a problematic relationship with food herself... Being proud of how little you eat seems like a red flag.
@@susanne1310 i know,and im afraid that she got it from me. i will be really really be upset when im the caused of her having ed i wish shes fine really even tho i get annoyed sometimes i dont want people to think that its ok to have ed :(
@@sophburgess8819 Thank you!!
We love someone who stans one direction
Me❤
The moment she mentioned Harry Styles my heart went 📈
Lucca Vanhoutte omg same
@@luccavanhoutte5553 omg same, I got so exited
Bec: "Tribbiani's quit."
Me; understanding the joke: "I wonder what people who don't watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S will think of this joke..."
I thought she was saying she wanted to quit the workout to go eat at a place called tribbianis 🤣
Me
Oh my fucking TYLER 👏🏻 I cannot fathom being around that amount of emotional intelligence , so thankful for you, your honesty and your whole spirit Bec !!! 🍀
hello!!!!!! so proud of how far you have come!!!!! and hello tilly!!
your hair looks amazing !!!
Tbh her entire self is amazing hehe ♡
I’ve been following Rebecca’s journey and I have to say I really see a difference in the way she eats. Keep doing what you’re doing😍 you’ve gone super far ☺️💞
I ate a McDonald’s breakfast today :-) and I felt good about it! Haha thank u bec for these videos 😌
that sounds so yummy !! hehe i’m proud of u
Living for this, all so well spoken! Ahaha, and loved the ending - very creative ;)
I have binge eating disorder and I wouldn’t have a problem with people saying I’m healthy at all. Funnily no one has ever said that. However I do hate when I lose weight and people compliment me on that. Cause losing weight is just a different part of my eating disorder and it doesn’t necessarily mean I am of healthy mind or body.
Basically don’t comment on someone’s looks.
That puppy is adorable!!! Oh and Bear is cute too.
I mean when you start a video speaking of one direction you know it’s gonna be a good one
Omg haha!! We love Harry styles, he’s the greatest human being, and the most beautiful😭 perfect!
Omg, your bff‘s fall (05:03) is EPIC 💯😂
Hahahaaa my cat reacted when you miauwed 😂😂😂 love every video of you 💕
I love her editing
Ooh bec.... I love you, your fam and especially your videos.... So unique and inspiring 😍💯❤️
tbh i like zayn better too. like his whole style is more my thing. but i respect the harry stans
Where did you buy that shirt and your hair accessories if you don't mind me asking? They're so cute
Yaay im kinda early.. 🎉🎉✌️😍
Sending love rebecca.. ur one of my inspirations♥️♥️♥️♥️
intro is everything
*liking purely for the Friends quote* joking your videos are amazing but I really loved that 😂
Just wanna say thank you on behalf of everyone that watches these vids, for putting the effort in and brightening peoples day! wishing you all the best, take care :) looking forward to watching the vid now!
this video made me so happy
Your videos never fail to make me happy
i love this new content! is so much healthier!
I mean, I love Harry AND Zayn so I would get on with you both very well😂 Ahh, your video, as always, made me smile❤️
Your hair is so cute
my dog woke up and barked at your cat impression lol
My cat looked really confused when you made that cat noise
Can you share your workout routine sometime?
i just watched paul blart mall cop and tyler looks like the main character
You always find a way to make me laugh bec 😂 I love you so much ❤️❤️
I love the introoo haha😍😂!!!
I LOVED THE DEEPTALK
i think we ALL want to be harry styles
he needs to write an 8 week course on how to be him
Love your channel and content! Great video editing skills! And obviously also a great video. If you don't mind me asking, what video editor do you use and/or recommend? #askingforafriend
too early to comment but love you bec!
it is never too early to comment:)
omg i laughed so hard i love your sense of humour aahhahahaha
how tall are u and Tyler? X
3:30 OH MY GODDDD DO YOU HEAR ME SCREAMING
his name is Elio :)
Sometimes very well meaning people say some very insensitive things
I ❤️the and the videos are amazing to watch and you are so inspirational.
You are iconic. Harry Styles is also iconic. So doesn’t that make you and Harry Styles one and the same by default?
LOVE YOUR HAIR !!!
What's the name of the intro song?
Coming from someone who is also recovering from an ED, i just don't understand how she supposedly eats this much everyday and is still skinny. idk i just feel like she restricts when shes not making these videos.
not hating/being rude. im really just curious
Yeah, I think so too and people always get mad when I point it out. I think it has to do with her vigorous exercise routines as well.
Some people just have really fast metabolism
@@liza.h even if u have a "fast metabolism" you still gain a lot of weight by eating tons of food.
@@miskay5526 she is gaining weight tho. And she isnt eating like toooons
How are all your videos so great!?
Hola becc! Quieres hablar un poco de español? Jajaja me encantan tus videos, gracias por tanto, perdón por tan poco
I love all your outfits 🤤🤤
Tyler kinda looks like Richard from friends
Why every video is no longer than 10 min?
so much love😙😙😙
Yay❤another video!!!👏💘🤩
Omg this video is so cute
I need a Tyler in my life☺
Her boyfriend kinda looks like Tom Hardy...
Hey! I saw your insta story and came immediately
thanks rebecca for inspiring me, I’ve done so much because of you! btw if y’all want to support my journey, my recovery instagram is @rellrecovery 🥺
The Louis Tomlinson erasure in this video smh😞
❤️❤️❤️
Earlyyyyyyy!!!!
wooo
I challenge u to have nestle cerelac sissy...... 😊😊😊😊
wow i loooooooooooooove you becca
Never been this early
Congratulations on your PB! :)
@@BecJane OMG I LOVE YOU YOU'RE AMAZING
"Boyfriend of the year award" hahaha
to me `you look healthy`would mean ´oh you gained weight`aka you got fat.. so weird, right?
Can I kidnap Bear?
early 😛
So Tyler, you don't like Harry Styles huh? What's wrong with uuuu🤣😠
Jesus saves🧡