The video identifies the complexity of caring for an elderly person with dementia of any type. When interventions are done with caring, and empathetic intentions, no actions can be labeled as bad ,unless malice is intended. My siblings and I are caring for our Mom, moderate to severe Alzheimer. Each day is different and what worked yesterday may not work today. Thus, in my opinion this video reflected reality in the lives of the person with dementia and their care givers, family and health care professionals. Thanks for sharing ,best regards 💚
A lot of elder speak going on from the caregiver in this video. Lily is an adult who has dementia, she is not a child that needs to be spoken to like one.
@@johncase1353 my fathers a mental health nurse and my mother is a specialist nurse, I am going into care assistant work myself, I can tell you talking to the elderly like they are children is not a good practice, in fact it's hardly used anymore, it's very patronizing and even used on the ones who are perfectly capable to look after themselves. They are not regressing back to being a child it's a very old wives myth. They are vulnerable adults not children. This video is not very good, it's very patronizing and im shocked at some of the examples used. So if your not a Dr either, which isn't how you determine if your loved ones are cared for btw, don't tell others they cant have an opinion, if your entitled to yours, they are entitled to theirs. I was also a carer for my Granny who had dementia, i never once talked to her this way, nor did the other live in carers.
I am a care assistant and the way some of the nurses talked to Lily was not appropriate. In school we are taught to talk to the elders as mature adults, no matter what illness they may have. We are not supposed to do what is commonly referred to as “elder talk.” As that is seen as disrespectful to the elders. You can talk in a friendly, gentle tone. But do not be like. “Ohh those biscuits were so hard to chew, weren't they?’ do not undermine the elder. Especially do not call them “cutie, sweetie, my little muffin. “These are adults, who may have been put into a vulnerable position, due to their illness. They are not children, treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve. I know this is what not to do and what to do, showing both the positive and negative aspects of this care, but please if you ever go into this field, refrain from using elder talk.
I hope this is a video about what not to do. Ie Talking to her as if she’s a toddler for God’s sake ‘How are you sleeping’. Immediate fill in answer by nurse rather than wait or expect no answer from his mother. That’s ok. Talking about what might happen ‘down the line’ while casually leaning in the doorway in earshot of mother. This is no casual conversation and requires privacy, close attention, empathy and time. Carer wearing a fixed saccharin smile. Should she go back to hospital? No! She’s dying. That’s unstoppable. It’s what we will all do. She should have had roses and soft music that she likes before this point in time. She was unconscious, unresponsive, not just asleep. Why wasn’t the son called sooner so he could have sat with her and been able to say whatever he wanted to say?
The carer is so patronising. Who does she think she is talking to? Her cat? The Nurse should have talked to the Nurse in her office. The mother is not deaf. That is why she is agitated being surrounded by people who treat her like she is not an adult.
What a great nurse!
The video identifies the complexity of caring for an elderly person with dementia of any type. When interventions are done with caring, and empathetic intentions, no actions can be labeled as bad ,unless malice is intended. My siblings and I are caring for our Mom, moderate to severe Alzheimer.
Each day is different and what worked yesterday may not work today. Thus, in my opinion this video reflected reality in the lives of the person with dementia and their care givers, family and health care professionals. Thanks for sharing ,best regards 💚
A lot of elder speak going on from the caregiver in this video. Lily is an adult who has dementia, she is not a child that needs to be spoken to like one.
Are you a nurse or a Doctor? Have you have to worry and/or care for someone with dementia, where they might not recognize people everyday.
@@johncase1353 my fathers a mental health nurse and my mother is a specialist nurse, I am going into care assistant work myself, I can tell you talking to the elderly like they are children is not a good practice, in fact it's hardly used anymore, it's very patronizing and even used on the ones who are perfectly capable to look after themselves. They are not regressing back to being a child it's a very old wives myth. They are vulnerable adults not children. This video is not very good, it's very patronizing and im shocked at some of the examples used. So if your not a Dr either, which isn't how you determine if your loved ones are cared for btw, don't tell others they cant have an opinion, if your entitled to yours, they are entitled to theirs. I was also a carer for my Granny who had dementia, i never once talked to her this way, nor did the other live in carers.
@@Emberchariot that’s the point of the video. It’s shows aspects of both good and poor care.
This video heartbreaking 😢
Talk to her like an adult and x
I am a care assistant and the way some of the nurses talked to Lily was not appropriate. In school we are taught to talk to the elders as mature adults, no matter what illness they may have. We are not supposed to do what is commonly referred to as “elder talk.” As that is seen as disrespectful to the elders. You can talk in a friendly, gentle tone. But do not be like. “Ohh those biscuits were so hard to chew, weren't they?’ do not undermine the elder.
Especially do not call them “cutie, sweetie, my little muffin. “These are adults, who may have been put into a vulnerable position, due to their illness. They are not children, treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve. I know this is what not to do and what to do, showing both the positive and negative aspects of this care, but please if you ever go into this field, refrain from using elder talk.
As an ex senior in a dementia unit it used to drive me nuts, I was forever telling carers to speak to them as adults not children.
Om pure and
Why do you talk about the mother in front of her.? You're upsetting her.
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I hope this is a video about what not to do. Ie
Talking to her as if she’s a toddler for God’s sake
‘How are you sleeping’. Immediate fill in answer by nurse rather than wait or expect no answer from his mother. That’s ok.
Talking about what might happen ‘down the line’ while casually leaning in the doorway in earshot of mother. This is no casual conversation and requires privacy, close attention, empathy and time.
Carer wearing a fixed saccharin smile.
Should she go back to hospital? No! She’s dying. That’s unstoppable. It’s what we will all do.
She should have had roses and soft music that she likes before this point in time.
She was unconscious, unresponsive, not just asleep. Why wasn’t the son called sooner so he could have sat with her and been able to say whatever he wanted to say?
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The carer is so patronising. Who does she think she is talking to? Her cat? The Nurse should have talked to the Nurse in her office. The mother is not deaf. That is why she is agitated being surrounded by people who treat her like she is not an adult.
Why are older people spoken to like children or babies?! Even dementia residents don’t act like children. This ‘role play’ is pathetic.