Milestones - End of Life Care in Acute Hospitals

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @sharon22669
    @sharon22669 2 года назад +16

    A dear friend was seemingly unconscious. She cried when I came to see her. She cried when I said it's her time to rest. She cried when her son came. I kept talking and rubbing her hand. She was gone just hours later. I believe 100% she could hear us until the end.

  • @jkth4500
    @jkth4500 3 года назад +19

    I'm so proud of my daughter who is a palliative care doctor in a hospice, I know in my heart that she helps people like this after seeing her grandmother die in a local hospital where she was treated appallingly, I think it shaped her career path.

  • @irenemesecke3076
    @irenemesecke3076 5 лет назад +69

    This video made me cry, 8 years ago my husband died with lung cancer, we brought him home, he wanted to die at home, with his three daughters around him. He was trying to hold on for me and his girls, he was getting weaker and weaker. The hardest decision I had ever made was to give him the permission to die. I promised him that I would take care of his daughters and grandchildren. Each daughter spent a few hours with him talking to him about the fun they had. My youngest stayed with him and he waited till she was asleep and then he passed.

    • @Laurie_Tinsley
      @Laurie_Tinsley 4 года назад +11

      Im so sorry for your loss.

    • @mariannenimon2746
      @mariannenimon2746 4 года назад +9

      So sorry for your loss! I just lost my Mom 6 weeks ago & was by her side when she took her last breath. Dying is not easy!!

    • @tundrawomansays5067
      @tundrawomansays5067 3 года назад +5

      @@mariannenimon2746 I am so sorry for the death of your mom, Ms. Nimon. It seems we struggle coming into this world and barring a sudden death, we struggle going out as well. How fortunate your mom was to have such a lovely daughter-but I’m sure you’d see it more as your great fortune to have such a mom. Please take care, my friend: You need some TLC as well.

  • @ChefWife67
    @ChefWife67 5 лет назад +39

    Just went through this exact same scenario with my dad....end stage lung cancer, COPD, kidney failure,... 2 weeks after losing my sister ,and my mother in August.... my brother passed in 1990.... such a difficult time....but I agree...being open and honest is the best for everyone 😢

    • @Laurie_Tinsley
      @Laurie_Tinsley 4 года назад +8

      I lost my Dad two years ago to lung cancer and COPD. He died exactly the same way this video portrayed. It was hard knowing that he was dying, but I was relieved to know he wasnt suffering. He died at home with all of us around him. Sorry for your loss. I know how hard it was to lose your Dad.

    • @fpoli6082
      @fpoli6082 4 года назад

      I am very sorry for your loss, please watch this, i hope it helps
      ruclips.net/video/QIjoCE1QV94/видео.html

  • @cpmffeilberg4970
    @cpmffeilberg4970 5 лет назад +28

    Thank God mom had a living will. Not that she used it when it came down to resuscitation. She didn't want to be kept alive on machines but when push came to shove she chose to use the machines at first, but when she fought as long as she was able she indicated to just keep her comfortable. She went to palliative care where she died peacefully 2 days later, on January 15th 2019. RIP mom.

  • @ryansenft3315
    @ryansenft3315 2 года назад +3

    One of my sisters is a hospice nurse. We also lost our stepdad to Cancer in 2017. Knowing my sister, I think she would really strive to listen to the patient and the family. Nurses are crucial members of the care team.

  • @Laurie_Tinsley
    @Laurie_Tinsley 4 года назад +34

    My husband and I will be going through this soon. My husband was diagnosed with Head and neck cancer 8 years ago. He has fought it twice and went into remission. It has come back a third time and the doctors say there is little they can do. He is on immunotherapy to slow down the progression, but he is now in a lot of pain and doesnt have the energy he used to have. Im not sure how much longer he has, months, maybe a year? Only God knows. Thank you for the video....it makes me feel better that they can make him comfortable and keep him from suffering in his last days.

    • @johnslater8998
      @johnslater8998 4 года назад +3

      Laura T - Mine’s at the same crossroads. Liver cancer. We only found out a few weeks ago. He starts chemo next week, but we’re looking at months as well. It’s hard.

    • @lesleyallinson8738
      @lesleyallinson8738 4 года назад +3

      My friend died after been told she was dying of lung cancer and secondary brain cancer, she died 8 weeks later I cant believe this she never even suffered any pain. Luckily she told me she wasn't afraid of dying

    • @Laurie_Tinsley
      @Laurie_Tinsley 4 года назад +4

      @@lesleyallinson8738 So sorry to hear about your friend. Your friend was very brave.

    • @carolinegerlach1644
      @carolinegerlach1644 3 года назад +6

      It’s been a year since your comment. I hope you are feeling love and comfort, no matter what the situation.

    • @cowser67
      @cowser67 3 года назад +3

      Hope the best for your family.

  • @couponsanddailybargains
    @couponsanddailybargains 4 года назад +8

    I just recently lost a good friend of mine to cancer. It was so hard to see my friend go. I never really understood why my friend was not recovering. Watching this video gaved me a better understanding of what was going on. Thanks.

  • @patriciasheets8818
    @patriciasheets8818 4 года назад +13

    I feel so bad for his daughter, he must have been a very good daddy

  • @applejellypucci
    @applejellypucci 5 лет назад +21

    Everyone should have a care team that is so straight forward. They explained the process and what to expect very well.

  • @drk7031
    @drk7031 2 года назад +6

    My dad is going through this and this is heartbreaking to watch . It’s very realistic . the doctors words are very similar to my dad was told

    • @Blenduu
      @Blenduu Год назад +1

      ❤🙏🏼

  • @billiembadjie9668
    @billiembadjie9668 4 года назад +34

    The doctors should have relieved his pain before the serious discussion. Wrong to let the patient be in so much pain. I found the doctor cold and casual, whereas the nurse Stephen showed compassion to both patient and daughter. Sad scene, the end of life can be for some.

    • @asw654
      @asw654 3 года назад +3

      A lot of doctors are cold and casual unfortunately, especially at larger hospitals where you often get more than one doctor (general, specialists - e.g. pulmonologist for lung cancer, anesthesiologists, etc), and you'll inevitably get one who is more callous.
      One of the doctors in contact with us just ambushed my mother and father with "the discussion", and it almost seemed like he was trying to force us to accept that my father could die from any operations. Sure he was probably rushed but I didn't appreciate him making my mom cry like that in his callous rush.

    • @jeanmyers1787
      @jeanmyers1787 2 года назад +1

      Totally agree with you, most important thing is to keep cancer pain free. Unfortunately this is NHS.

  • @htd4lifesavagefam547
    @htd4lifesavagefam547 5 лет назад +9

    I felt the same exact way the daughter felt . Dont anyone here know my mom or have a clue! Er doc says well mrs bailey you're cancers back your dying. No one told us till then . I'll never forget.

  • @rebasimpson6296
    @rebasimpson6296 2 года назад +2

    I really like this doctor with his way with the patient and daughter. it's important they know everything.

  • @traceymanzano4015
    @traceymanzano4015 Год назад +1

    I would rather total honesty,than magical thinking! Also,please dont ask me to fight anything,just to stay here for you! If Im dying and in pain,please administer as much painkillers that will keep me comfortable until my death.

  • @GIguy
    @GIguy 3 года назад +3

    omg….this is EXACTLY how my beloved dear uncle Steve, who was also my godfather, died a short time ago, same cancer, same liver and kidney failure, same everything, it’s like watching him die all over again, and my heart is broken. The last few days he lay unconscious in bed, he stopped eating, refused any fluids, then stopped talking….a few days of laying in bed on heavy pain meds, aside from the occasional coughing fit, but not aware of his surroundings, with one foot in eternities door, and he was gone. No words can describe the pain you feel, it was as though my heart was ripped out of my chest, a part of me died that day, right along with him…I shouldn’t have watched this, it’s far too real. I’m right back in the hospital room now, watching uncle Steve take his last few breaths and hearing that horrific “death rattle” (mucus secretions build up, the patient can’t clear it, so they make a ghastly sound that haunts me forever). I appreciate describing to people what it’s like losing a loved one like this, but this video was so much like what I went through, the only difference is,, we’re white, that’s it, everything else is exactly the same, it’s just brought it all rushing back like a flood, I can’t even see my computer screen, got to go, I can’t watch anymore and I can’t talk anymore, my emotions are crippling me, and part of me wishes I could join him right now, dammit I miss him so much, Rest In Peace uncle Steve 😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰

  • @crystaljohnson394
    @crystaljohnson394 3 года назад +3

    This is the same thing that happen to me with my dad.but the doctor did not give my dad nothing. I miss him. R.i.P dad

  • @charlotteehrhart9922
    @charlotteehrhart9922 2 года назад +4

    Beautifully presented. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @velyzta02
    @velyzta02 4 года назад +3

    This what doctor all around the world should inform to the patient...

  • @sallybush6454
    @sallybush6454 Год назад

    The truth stops all the doubt...just be truthful...we can all prepare and get our heads around losing our precious loved ones.

  • @lindaravenhill5556
    @lindaravenhill5556 6 лет назад +18

    Thank you for this video. It is so necessary. I hope it encourages more people to have these conversations.

  • @mimomeep6091
    @mimomeep6091 3 года назад +3

    Crying. Well-made film. Thanks for the work put into this. Learned a lot of different perspectives.

  • @stephaniehuber8051
    @stephaniehuber8051 4 года назад +2

    I don't know whether to like it or loath it, because the set up and experience, are just like she was thinking. That was in accordance to myself having been so ill.x

  • @withgoddess7164
    @withgoddess7164 6 лет назад +16

    Really well done!!! ⚘

  • @martharodriguez6125
    @martharodriguez6125 2 года назад +2

    It's very sad for the family to understand that the staff and the patient communicate better when their not around. The patient asks questions and communicates all their worries, but when a loved one is there they don't want to worry them so they stay quiet. I know it's so very hard for the family. I've seen this too many times. We become selfish when we don't want our loved one to die 😔 However they're the ones suffering.

  • @seafoodlover2010
    @seafoodlover2010 3 года назад +2

    I think this was very good...no beating around the bush

  • @peachesandcream.2612
    @peachesandcream.2612 6 лет назад +5

    Very good, but I wonder if there should have been more communication before things came to this stage. I also felt that the nurse should have been more insightful of the patient and his daughter. Thank you for posting,

  • @gogrape9716
    @gogrape9716 2 года назад +1

    Here in Canada we have legislation called MAID. Medical assistance in dying. People can apply for the procedure under strict guidelines. Autonomy over ones life is merciful... I have included this in My living will....

  • @user-nubiangoddess
    @user-nubiangoddess 4 года назад +7

    I think this man actually died in real life. He's a Jamaican singer who lived in the u k.

  • @TheKhalidM
    @TheKhalidM 3 года назад +7

    Watched this video with my class, now I'm revisiting it to point out some medical errors
    (Apologies for being heartless)
    1. Nurse should've washed his hands before dealing with the patient
    2. Nurse should only discuss patient info with his primary care doc, not just a random doc passing by since it is a HIPAA violation. On top of that, the patient was able to hear them.
    3. Daughter was correct. The female doctor should've not walked in since he's not her patient.
    4. The male Doctor actually seemed happy when telling him the cancer was spreading lol. 10+ years in med school and still no manners lol.
    5. (Maybe I'm wrong), but if the patient has a chest infection (possibly pneumonia) where are your N95s people?!
    6. Nurse should've checked his vital signs before assuming he is dead.

  • @mcdonaldh56yahooca
    @mcdonaldh56yahooca 5 лет назад +6

    A good enactment of how it is

  • @BecD1983
    @BecD1983 3 года назад +2

    My mum has terminal cancer.
    Diagnosed September 2020.

    • @BecD1983
      @BecD1983 3 года назад +1

      She died 13/4 💜

  • @midnyte6195
    @midnyte6195 2 года назад +1

    😭 good film

  • @snakebitepellehue
    @snakebitepellehue 5 лет назад +3

    Did anyone notice the music at the end is the same that plays in "Wit", while Emma Thompson's character passes away?

    • @johnslater8998
      @johnslater8998 4 года назад

      Gaby Champion - Thanks for catching that.

  • @antd8259
    @antd8259 5 лет назад +4

    Nicely put together

  • @catman8670
    @catman8670 3 года назад +14

    Just give the patient pain meds when he’s dying, stop the BS.

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 4 года назад +8

    There is no point keeping people alive, who r suffering.

  • @74Spirit1
    @74Spirit1 4 года назад +20

    The doctors should have been more compassionate.

    • @michaeld8443
      @michaeld8443 4 года назад +4

      You do know this is a created and produced video lmao

    • @virginiafry9854
      @virginiafry9854 3 года назад

      This video is of actors and not real life!

    • @74Spirit1
      @74Spirit1 3 года назад

      Scripted or not, I have seen this in REALITY, and I stand with what I said that the doctor in the video should be more compassionate!

    • @Coco-dz3id
      @Coco-dz3id 3 года назад +1

      I felt it was handled very well.Most pts know they are dying. Niceties and “ beating around the bush” only confuses them. I could only hope in the times of open & honesty for all the patients.bThat this model is used often. In my years of nursing, I have found that once the darkness of this discussion is done, most patients are very peaceful with their reality.

  • @melissanelson2849
    @melissanelson2849 3 года назад

    Thanks for the upload. I really need to hear and know this . I’m my mothers caregiver then her daughter 🙏🌹👩👧

  • @seand67
    @seand67 4 года назад +5

    The doctor was so cold.....

    • @ICPadict36
      @ICPadict36 4 года назад +1

      most US doctors are just like her if not worse

  • @cynicannkeel8899
    @cynicannkeel8899 2 года назад +1

    If they pumped James full of painkillers before the dr dealt with the facts about his illness, James' will be too sedated to participate in the decisionmaking, to the realities of what he's facing.
    The daughter's having a hard time accepting that, at this point, her father is terminally ill, treatment is no longer an option, and she needed to be a part of this discussion.

  • @geripinto1906
    @geripinto1906 Год назад

    It happened the same way for my dad

  • @komelqazi
    @komelqazi 5 месяцев назад

    Heart breaking

  • @Tanja060100
    @Tanja060100 2 года назад +1

    Is this acting or is it a real program?

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 4 года назад +1

    I have a living will.

  • @FatumaAdem-i9q
    @FatumaAdem-i9q 4 года назад +2

    Is he Dr or actor

  • @kingjdmi344
    @kingjdmi344 3 года назад +1

    This is JUST HOW IT GOES!! Only for the poor. You get what you pay for. So sad!

  • @LivinLaVidaLaura
    @LivinLaVidaLaura 4 года назад +2

    The woman dr is exactly what makes the hospital a horrid place. All those different doctors to come and see her father. The daughter is right. All these random dr’s who come in they just have hear say from the other dr’s and nurses. Her little attitude and then agreeing to see the patient looking irritated, is just so real. I have been in and out of hospitals for 10 years. I know that the nurses ignored him with his pain. Horrible horrible.
    The end of care dr the way he has his little slight annoyance in his eyes and mouth when the daughter says no no no is very awful.

  • @JenniferDrake-pn7ns
    @JenniferDrake-pn7ns 3 года назад

    ✨💫🌟♥️

  • @LadyOaksNZ
    @LadyOaksNZ 3 года назад +3

    Dramatized... not real

  • @leesimmons9091
    @leesimmons9091 4 года назад +6

    The Dr is a bit cold its hard i know

    • @jenessasaeger1182
      @jenessasaeger1182 4 года назад +1

      I don't think so...She understood her dad was sick but needed to wake up to the fact that he is dying. She was in denial and the frank discussion helped her to understand why further treatment and revisitation is a bad idea. Even after the discussion she was in denial a bit and this happens all the time. Often time we wait until it's too late to discuss end of life issues and patient wishes which as the doc stated leads to needless suffering.

    • @travel.with.frances
      @travel.with.frances 3 месяца назад

      I don’t think so. The truth is surely uncomfortable but once it goes through, it will set you free. My family and I had this conversation with a palliative care doctor in my mother’s bedside. It was a good way to keep everyone on the same page looking forward. People have different opinions but all have to come into terms with their loved one’s eventuality. It’s not for their attachment but for their patient’s best interest.

  • @weareallbeingwatched4602
    @weareallbeingwatched4602 4 года назад +1

    Is this the "Liverpool Care Pathway?".
    What's with those mouth swabs? Eh?

  • @rossdaboss1959
    @rossdaboss1959 4 года назад +6

    Isaiah 53:5, But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes, we are healed. For salvation, people just need to follow the way they did it in Acts? They were baptized in the water and of the spirit. Here's why! The gospel is the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. If we are to follow him, we must do the same thing. Death= repentance, Burial = baptism, and resurrection = being filled with the Holy Ghost and rising again from the dead. That's what Acts 2:38 is. We must obey the gospel, 2 Thessalonians 1:8-9, in flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that OBEY NOT THE GOSPEL of our Lord Jesus Christ... Matthew 7:21-23, Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that DOETH THE WILL OF MY FATHER which is in Heaven. St John 3:3-5, EXCEPT a man be born of WATER AND OF THE SPIRIT, he cannot enter into the kingdom of GOD. We can't come up with our own gospel. Galatians 1:8-9, But though we or an angel from heaven preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed. Don't be cursed. One way for all people. Jews, Gentiles, and Samaritan. Our salvation has to match-up with the scriptures and no scriptures on the subject can be taken away. Eternity is TOOO long to be WRONG! st John 5:39, Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me. The gospels show what Christ has done on the cross for us. The book of Acts shows us the beginning of Christ's Church and how to enter the Church, obeying Acts 2:38. The letters were written to the Church to show us how to behave now that we are born again into the Church. It's better to walk alone than to walk with a crowd going in the wrong direction. Are we supposed to follow the teachings of the apostles? Acts 2:42, They continued steadfastly in the apostle's doctrines. Ephesians 2:20, We are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief cornerstone. Jesus Christ was our perfect example back to God. He was baptized and received the Holy Ghost and we must be baptized and receive the Holy Ghost. He was holy and walked in righteousness and we must be holy and walk in righteousness. He died and rose again, and we must die to the things of this world and rise to walk in the newness of life. He prayed to the father showing us how to pray to the father. If you believe in this message, help spread it in the name of Jesus Christ. God bless you.

    • @jeanseide2955
      @jeanseide2955 3 года назад

      How do I get the Holy Ghost

    • @rossdaboss1959
      @rossdaboss1959 3 года назад

      @@jeanseide2955 One has to first believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins. We need to be willing to obey Acts 2:38 like it was when the church got started. Acts 2:38, Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
      Acts 5:32, And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.
      Many are being taught that you don't need to be baptized of the water and the Spirit, but John 3:5, says differently. John 3:5, Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.
      Find a place where it's just you and God. Start calling out to God. John 4:24, God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.
      Be willing to give us everything to God in your mind. Tell God exactly what you want and believe that he will give it to you. It took me about 45 minutes before I started to fill his presence so don't run away after a few minutes. Everything was coming to my mind as I was calling out to him but I kept calling and trying to concentrate on him. I believe when you start getting in the Spirit you will start to fill his presence. These will help too. Praying for you. ruclips.net/video/ijqzuOpRmd8/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/rfZztzcb9mA/видео.html

    • @jeanseide2955
      @jeanseide2955 3 года назад

      @@rossdaboss1959
      So when you baptize it should be in the name of the father and of the son and of the holy ghost or spirit?

    • @rossdaboss1959
      @rossdaboss1959 3 года назад

      @@jeanseide2955 In the name of Jesus Christ or Lord Jesus. It's on one of those videos I sent.

    • @dc.pentrumesteri4893
      @dc.pentrumesteri4893 2 года назад

      Go to the obsessed church and let go of people with their diseases and read the tact and your children if you have an abortion

  • @bethking9830
    @bethking9830 4 года назад +4

    Seems like acting, not real. Forgive me if I am wrong

  • @Miss_Loving
    @Miss_Loving 3 года назад +2

    Dear friend, the "Good News" is the Gospel of Jesus Christ which is, "Christ died for our sins; He was buried, and He rose again the third day according to the scriptures." (1st Corinthians 15: 3-4)
    The "Good News" of Jesus Christ is the Way, the Truth, and the Life to salvation. Confess that you are a sinner in need of our Savior. Receive the truth of Jesus Christ and believe Him this very moment.
    Precious believer, may Father God our Creator, through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior and the Holy Spirit bless you and keep you abundantly now and forever! Amen! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @mariateresiacecilia
    @mariateresiacecilia 2 года назад

    What an arogant doctor bad and cold !!!

  • @marioncannon9924
    @marioncannon9924 5 месяцев назад

    Some people are so stupid. Of course it's actung

  • @SimplyASweetHeart
    @SimplyASweetHeart 5 лет назад +5

    So so sad omg

  • @debbies5030
    @debbies5030 5 лет назад +8

    Where is the Chaplin? No talk about the most important business that should be talked to him about. Getting back to Faith in God.

    • @lorilewlewis4915
      @lorilewlewis4915 4 года назад +3

      Perhaps he doesn't want the Vicar involved!!!!!!!!

    • @johnslater8998
      @johnslater8998 4 года назад

      That really is a different film. This film is important for what it covers. A film on faith at the end of life could also be important to many people. If someone makes it, I hope it’s as well done as this one.

    • @74Spirit1
      @74Spirit1 4 года назад

      Very perceptive. Hospices do employ a chaplain that is part of the team.

    • @H20x3
      @H20x3 3 года назад +2

      They nurse offered him a chaplain - it's the patient's choice

    • @tundrawomansays5067
      @tundrawomansays5067 3 года назад +1

      Keep working on your plan to ensure *you* are working on your personal agenda, “Getting back to Faith in God.” Leave others to determine their *OWN* priorities.

  • @lilgeorge34
    @lilgeorge34 3 года назад +1

    I don't believe this I think its a set up these people are acting.

  • @ingehumphries8039
    @ingehumphries8039 3 года назад +2

    Horrid acting

  • @kathycowan2221
    @kathycowan2221 2 года назад +1

    That doctor sucks.

  • @jamesmurillo144
    @jamesmurillo144 7 месяцев назад

    Oh its fake

  • @espr7564
    @espr7564 4 года назад +3

    Bad acting

    • @MsAchampion
      @MsAchampion 4 года назад +1

      It does look plastic, however the message is all too clear unfortunately. At some point we all must face this with ourselves or our family members. ❤

  • @elainecooke156
    @elainecooke156 2 года назад

    Not really sure what the point of this poorly acted story is other than to scare people about unnecessarily and deliberately make some care professionals look awful.

  • @ICPadict36
    @ICPadict36 4 года назад +1

    terrible actress lol

  • @monkeynuts2964
    @monkeynuts2964 3 года назад

    bad acting sheeesh