Did I Leave YouTube? Life Update, Girl Chat!!

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  • Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
  • so there has been a pause in uploads recently, let's chat about WHY!
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  • @notsograceful
    @notsograceful 3 года назад +4288

    YES. Tons of changes. Quality over quantity relationships. Healthy, true friends wouldn’t put you through that type of dynamic, just like a romantic partner. Relationships that don’t reciprocate authenticity aren’t worth your time. Leaving everything up in the air, vague... it’s fucked up. The confrontation can help with closure but at the end of the day, it’s gonna hurt either way. You’re slowly losing someone you thought was in your support circle. That lingering doubt is the worst part. May you find and nurture healthy relationships that celebrate you and ALL that you are. Celebrating you also means calling you out and being honest if they need to if they have your best interest in mind. Everybody go find an incredible therapist!

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +1278

      Amen and amen! I also find closure to be quite overrated. Once I have made up my mind I don’t need the other person to validate where we stand. I feel like I give the power to them by doing that. I am responsible for how I react and how I feel, I’m not going to sit here and riddle myself with anxiety waiting for the other person to tell me what’s wrong while I’m strung along. We grown! Say how you feel or leave me alone lmao

    • @pegasus1341
      @pegasus1341 3 года назад +8

      🙌🏾

    • @NaturaleeMoni
      @NaturaleeMoni 3 года назад +6

      Amen!

    • @jilla8503
      @jilla8503 3 года назад +5

      WORD!!!!

    • @amberdb04
      @amberdb04 3 года назад +7

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯

  • @AlinaAlign
    @AlinaAlign 3 года назад +716

    ‘Feminine nice-nasty energy’ & ‘throwing rocks then hiding their hands’ are two phrases that are spot on. Passive aggressiveness is never okay.

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +123

      not to the people you love when they’re genuinely trying to spend time and support you! not a nice feeling

    • @alext3480
      @alext3480 3 года назад

      @@jackieaina yes

    • @alext3480
      @alext3480 3 года назад

      exactly it is never okay!

    • @mimij5015
      @mimij5015 3 года назад +2

      Passive aggressiveness is aggressiveness for liars. They are deceptively aggressive. "Passive" is the adjective. It's just a type of aggression.

  • @cynthiamorgan6896
    @cynthiamorgan6896 3 года назад +846

    A wise person once said, "If I didn't do anything to send you away, I'm not going to do anything to bring you back either. In the meanwhile, I'll be right here living life, loving God, and wishing you well."

  • @cashco.9861
    @cashco.9861 3 года назад +76

    Jackie’s ability to carry a conversation and do her makeup simultaneously is over the top impressive to me.

  • @NkNaturalz
    @NkNaturalz 3 года назад +425

    “Breaking up” with a friend hits harder than any breakup with a man.

    • @rachellerockel
      @rachellerockel 3 года назад +3

      Your right sis

    • @chicalertng
      @chicalertng 3 года назад +17

      Hurts like crazy! Especially when you truly loved said friend!

    • @rachoue13
      @rachoue13 3 года назад +8

      Yup! Went through it and it hurts different 😩

    • @Lulu060986
      @Lulu060986 3 года назад +2

      Facts🥺

    • @mimiijir7927
      @mimiijir7927 3 года назад +2

      FACTS

  • @Longhairprettynails
    @Longhairprettynails 3 года назад +2305

    I totally agree with you. I've been on RUclips for 14 years. Even though I have 1 million subs I still have to fight for every view. I'm super grateful but I definitely don't put all my eggs in one basket.

    • @joseisins2341
      @joseisins2341 3 года назад +90

      It's Evie! I didn't know you watch Jackie too 😍! Shout out to all my fav black RUclipsrs.

    • @arikahandy1528
      @arikahandy1528 3 года назад +60

      Evie congrats on the baby! I agree the always push non black nail techs

    • @Longhairprettynails
      @Longhairprettynails 3 года назад +48

      @@joseisins2341 Hey! Yes Jackie is everything ❤

    • @Longhairprettynails
      @Longhairprettynails 3 года назад +34

      @@arikahandy1528 Thank you so much ❤

    • @Bv3276
      @Bv3276 3 года назад +14

      As a black girl that loves doing press on nails, I enjoy watching your videos. Thanks for the black girl nail tech representation and you don’t have to fight for my view. 💕

  • @Jessicaokolie
    @Jessicaokolie 3 года назад +1575

    Aunty Jackie someone had to say it. RUclips has never recommended you to me as much as it has for other RUclipsrs of no colour. This is surprising because I always have to type BLACK makeup RUclipsrs and I thought by now they would realise my preference but NO. Please say it.

    • @Estrellitawilliams
      @Estrellitawilliams 3 года назад +150

      The algorithm is shady as hell.

    • @AsiaLaShelle
      @AsiaLaShelle 3 года назад +56

      That's a FACT!!!

    •  3 года назад +45

      These are facts.

    • @key2urheartg907
      @key2urheartg907 3 года назад +37

      I see no lies!! Smh it’s sad!

    • @natishamoseley6054
      @natishamoseley6054 3 года назад +36

      This is so real! Like I just found Jackie! So disappointing because I really enjoy watching her.

  • @Orang3Creamy
    @Orang3Creamy 3 года назад +837

    ✨✨ people need to understand your professional life isn’t just on RUclips and neither is your bag. This transparency is so refreshing

  • @anitaohia
    @anitaohia 3 года назад +167

    “Some people don’t like you, they just want to have access to you” FACTS 💯!!!!

  • @betsybabf748
    @betsybabf748 3 года назад +59

    I still do my make up every single day home with a large houseful of children who have been remote since March 2020. Why? That is my guaranteed time alone. I've learned that preteen and teen boys will interrupt you no matter what you are doing, but when you ask them questions like, "Would the coral or the rosy pink blush look better with my eyes look today?", "Matte or glossy lip today?", they will leave, and stop coming in to ask you for money, to yell at their brother or to cook for them for the 7th time that morning. It is like magic.

  • @tiffanyledbetterpate6875
    @tiffanyledbetterpate6875 3 года назад +344

    RUclips NEVER recommends black creators to me. I literally have to search it. So you spoke nothing but facts. Love the video as always!! 💗

    • @CrystalDivaLevyNoPainNoBeauty
      @CrystalDivaLevyNoPainNoBeauty 3 года назад +12

      Facts!!!!!

    • @aniimako
      @aniimako 3 года назад +24

      same on insta! no matter how many black women I follow, if I like even just 1 white girl pic they dominate the explore page for WEEKS again, I personally rarely get them recommended.

    • @Adrianarollther
      @Adrianarollther 3 года назад +5

      Same! Gotta search high and low smh

    • @mckenzielee4276
      @mckenzielee4276 3 года назад +14

      Right!! So many black creators are seen as underrated bc RUclips/ media doesn’t push their videos like Caucasian creators....

    • @mariannadestephano4857
      @mariannadestephano4857 3 года назад +2

      I am from the middle east, and it's the same here!

  • @MarlenaStell
    @MarlenaStell 3 года назад +837

    Smaller circle of QUALITY relationships above all else! As you grow Jackie, you'll find your circle smaller and that's a good thing! People will try to take advantage of your success. The higher you climb, the lonelier it SHOULD get. As long as you have Dennis, your family, and that tight circle of trusted friends, it's all you need. Wishing you much love and continued success xoxo

    • @smack8531
      @smack8531 3 года назад +13

      Now that's a word!

    • @joelleasare2449
      @joelleasare2449 3 года назад +4

      Period!!

    • @shinystarsimmy
      @shinystarsimmy 3 года назад

      This right here.......FACTS!!

    • @raregem8886
      @raregem8886 3 года назад +2

      So, true. People can get jealous when you're doing very well in life.

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 3 года назад +2

      I literally learned that in my 30s and now that I just entered the 40/40 club. My circle is small but complete.

  • @beeunderscore
    @beeunderscore 3 года назад +159

    I wasn’t even mad that you were taking a “RUclips break” because I have been enjoying your Instagram content. ‘Lavishly Jackie’ is everything to me because I don’t see a lot of black women living luxurious, balanced and healthy lives without sacrifice and trauma. So I really appreciate the work you’re doing Jackie. I pray that God enlarges your territory and grants you the desires of your heart.

  • @daisysingletary6777
    @daisysingletary6777 3 года назад +336

    Imagine not wanting Jackie to be a bridesmaid. I could never

    • @Timetrae
      @Timetrae 3 года назад +14

      Like I cannot EVEN!! 😒😒

    • @queensolsticespeaks9684
      @queensolsticespeaks9684 3 года назад +6

      Right!!

    • @allana-megward9703
      @allana-megward9703 3 года назад +29

      Jackie be there helping pick some bomb ass dresses, all the make up advice, throwing parties. As if you wouldn't want her in your corner batting for you.

    • @quintecence
      @quintecence 3 года назад +10

      I'd make her the officiant 😂

    • @selalewis9189
      @selalewis9189 3 года назад +7

      @@allana-megward9703 THAT. That right there! That might be the reason. The bride usually wants to be the center and is expected to know all ths stuff. In her mind, she probably didn't want Jackie taking over.

  • @jere9569
    @jere9569 3 года назад +215

    Jackie, after you said, “Hey musties!” in that perfume application tiktok, I’ve actually started applying perfumes when I shower and before bed and I feel so much better in my self knowing that I’ve put effort towards myself FOR myself 💖

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +42

      I love this 🤎🤎🤎

    • @LeaNezz
      @LeaNezz 3 года назад +11

      same! i realized it just makes me happier to smell nice even while staying at home 💙

    • @jere9569
      @jere9569 3 года назад +3

      @@LeaNezz YES!!!! It’s positively helped how I view myself like so much it’s insane

    • @LeaNezz
      @LeaNezz 3 года назад +1

      @@jere9569 love that

  • @AB-ez1eh
    @AB-ez1eh 3 года назад +131

    The past couple years have been so full of loss for me. My mom passed away, then I lost four best friends over that time, and I'm now going through a terrible breakup. I just wish I knew when it got better, but watching your videos/seeing you succeed gives me a little hope

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +56

      I am so so sorry for your loss 🤎

    • @AB-ez1eh
      @AB-ez1eh 3 года назад +13

      @@jackieaina thank you Jackie 💓

    • @QueenBluntdanae
      @QueenBluntdanae 3 года назад +1

      🙏🏾

    • @dianaa3336
      @dianaa3336 3 года назад +1

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @NosferotikaBr
    @NosferotikaBr 3 года назад +1132

    Miles Jai editing your videos is everything to me

    • @MsElfaba
      @MsElfaba 3 года назад +97

      The editing makes so much more sense now and I am here for it

    • @brownsugr111
      @brownsugr111 3 года назад +24

      I had no idea, but I'm living for it 😂✨

    • @ChynaCosmicCabuki
      @ChynaCosmicCabuki 3 года назад +4

      Oh wow nvr knew thanks

    • @ThatsHotBtch
      @ThatsHotBtch 3 года назад +2

      Beauty for your booty

  • @JDS001
    @JDS001 3 года назад +508

    I’ve had this exact same situation, some people will act your friend but never will be or have been your friend, despite all the effort and support you’ve given that person. They just drop when they can’t be arsed with you or gain their next victims, they want evidence against you to prove that’s why they dropped you/not friends anymore and say that’s why you’re a bad person etc. It’s tough and mentally fucked. It’s exhausting.
    Sometimes it’s just better to leave these people like you did and close the chapter despite no explanation of why they did what they did despite how frustrating it may be! There are just some nasty people in this world

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +185

      I leave they asses alone now and mind my business! Learned my lessons the hard way 😭

    • @JDS001
      @JDS001 3 года назад +26

      @@jackieaina me too unfortunately, but I learnt I can’t ever blame myself for it. They’re the problem!
      Also love the make up look and have missed your videos!!🤍

    • @aliciaofcocoastyles2040
      @aliciaofcocoastyles2040 3 года назад +2

      I totally agree sis 👍🏾

    • @tashaharris4920
      @tashaharris4920 3 года назад +1

      Yes.

    • @JamConcerned
      @JamConcerned 3 года назад +3

      I agree best to leave it alone, I confronted my friend who had gone through some very tough times together.

  • @passport3763
    @passport3763 3 года назад +65

    When Jackie spoke about being celibate really resonated with me because these days I feel like women judging other women for being or not being celibate is actually caused by the way society makes us view sexuality. Like the more I think about the more it makes sense, there is no other reason for straight women to judge other straight women for that. I think part of it is also s*x and women is almost like a competition, which is really dumb because it’s a competition you can’t win, damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Just stay safe y’all

  • @AintGoin
    @AintGoin 3 года назад +50

    the crazy thing is, i’ve found as i get older that when people create these problems with you that they never voiced, it’s often because they’re jealous of you, your life, your success, or how they perceive you to be in their head and they just don’t know how to deal with it. glad you got away from a toxic situation quickly

  • @NicoleSlays
    @NicoleSlays 3 года назад +243

    I'm basically isolating myself and found out I really don't have any true friends 😔 it's been a rough start of the year for sure...

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +226

      just remember that everything is temporary, the right people who love you will find you trust me!

    • @PinkRedBrisk
      @PinkRedBrisk 3 года назад +20

      Same. I lost a relationship with my friends of 10 years during a really tough moment in my life. I needed them and they had nothing for me lol, I'm just kinda existing right now😅

    • @wendy28
      @wendy28 3 года назад +31

      Girl same! Unless I reach out-no one bothers to call or text. But when you have something that benefits them-then they all over you. 😒😒😒

    • @wendyi6829
      @wendyi6829 3 года назад +2

      Hang in there gurl!

    • @GetWellSoonR.E.M.
      @GetWellSoonR.E.M. 3 года назад +2

      Hang in there! You will find good people who love you for you!

  • @MelissaAlatorre
    @MelissaAlatorre 3 года назад +555

    wow, everything you said in this video spoke VOLUMES to me, especially about putting all of our energy into a company aka RUclips and not receiving anything in return, thank you Jackie, also miss you and Denis!

  • @AlanaMelissa
    @AlanaMelissa 3 года назад +136

    It’s okay sis I literally follow you on other platforms so I feel like I never went without your content 👌🏾

  • @kdawes24
    @kdawes24 3 года назад +69

    Jackie I had a “friend” who did the same to me. Felt like I was walking on eggshells with her & I couldn’t understand why. She eventually tried to find something to be mad about to justify falling out with me. It was so hurtful. Never again. I can tell the signs of a fake friend now.

  • @Roxcii
    @Roxcii 3 года назад +34

    I avoid confronting “friends” who have stopped talking to me too, I didn’t know exactly how to describe it but the way you described it is my exact reason. It never works out in my favor, in fact it makes the situation worse even if I approach it in the most nicest way possible.

  • @EichelleZaleka
    @EichelleZaleka 3 года назад +191

    You can legitimately just say you need space or that you don’t want to be friends. Passive aggression is never effective

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +94

      and I would 100% understand it too! friendships take work! sometimes we tap out in different seasons 😭

  • @SheReaDelSol
    @SheReaDelSol 3 года назад +566

    Jackie: Ya feel me?
    Me: Felt, sis. Go awf. Missed you darling.

  • @nordeenburke8375
    @nordeenburke8375 3 года назад +344

    Whenever, wherever, whoeva... everything stops for Jackie!!!!!

    • @ifrahjama2215
      @ifrahjama2215 3 года назад +7

      A big mood lolll

    • @thequeennala956
      @thequeennala956 3 года назад +6

      “I stopped the world
      Male or female, it make no difference, I stop the world
      World stop...
      Carry on”

  • @selalewis9189
    @selalewis9189 3 года назад +217

    You guys are missing the _real_ story. Jackie is letting us watch her do her eyebrows.

  • @happyhere8965
    @happyhere8965 3 года назад +42

    As Oprah wisely said, (paraphrasing here) as you continue to succeed in life, some of the people you know will begin to lose oxygen and drop. Don't react. Wish them well, wave goodbye and skip happily along on your path. Those who are meant to be in your life will stick around. That's a fact.

  • @rachallthetime
    @rachallthetime 3 года назад +289

    Grieving the loss friendship, especially when there is no room for correction, is probably one of the worst kinds of pain because like why?

    • @DajaM08
      @DajaM08 3 года назад +11

      Yes yes yes.

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +93

      exactly! especially when that person could and should give you the benefit of the doubt but chooses not to!

    • @rachallthetime
      @rachallthetime 3 года назад +18

      @@jackieaina i personally feel triggered because it makes you question the strength and length of your friendship... because a real friend would allow room for correction

    • @rachallthetime
      @rachallthetime 3 года назад +6

      @Jaimie Blosser that's the hard part. It's almost like death

    • @christinetobiasz
      @christinetobiasz 3 года назад +12

      I could never trust a person like who Jackie is describing!! I’ve had that happen to me before and I cut her the hell out of my life because she was toxic. Some friends are only for a season in your life 😏

  • @BiNkYdInKyDo
    @BiNkYdInKyDo 3 года назад +250

    I lost a friend, a girl that I felt was one of my greatest friends ever, over a disagreement about the temperature in our apartment... 🙃 so I 100% feel you on that being friends with people who don't like you and are looking for any excuse to get out of the friendship. That shit deadass felt like a breakup, it hurt that much and I was so confused about it for sooo long.

    • @a.b.2405
      @a.b.2405 3 года назад +7

      Losing a friend sucks so much!

    • @SweetdreamsOFU
      @SweetdreamsOFU 3 года назад +8

      I lost one over my comment on a hairstyle.... that wasn't on her head.

  • @kaley5730
    @kaley5730 3 года назад +327

    I would rather get a video from you every once in a while that you enjoyed making than consistent uploads that make you miserable. I hope you’ve been enjoying life 💜

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +82

      thank you babes, I hope you enjoyed the video! loved catching up with yall

    • @carmen5358
      @carmen5358 3 года назад

      Same!!! ❤️

    • @carmen5358
      @carmen5358 3 года назад

      @@jackieaina Thank you for making a video, loved catching up with you too!!! ❤️

  • @patrickstarrr
    @patrickstarrr 3 года назад +374

    This videooooooo is my moooooooood. Jackie the GOAT.

  • @cassandrawilkins5168
    @cassandrawilkins5168 3 года назад +101

    I can’t stand when “friends” have a problem and won’t talk to you about it. I’m always honest with my friends if I have an issue with something they said or did.

  • @enc1971
    @enc1971 3 года назад +138

    I must admit, I’ve been feeling so differently about makeup over the past year. Watching someone putting on makeup when I don’t anymore just hits differently than it did prior to 2020. I’m really more into skincare and self-care these days, so I can appreciate the transition away from makeup application towards other things.

    • @cutiepie8o
      @cutiepie8o 3 года назад +4

      Completely agree the same is how I feel

    • @heyylatosha
      @heyylatosha 3 года назад +6

      That skincare hits differently 😂🤍

    • @tieranyt
      @tieranyt 3 года назад +1

      I fee the exact same way!

  • @shivs2280
    @shivs2280 3 года назад +49

    I had a group of girlfriends who would always leave me out of plans and talk shit about me. It took me YEARS to break away from them, but I finally did and I’m so much more happier and confident.

    • @aniimako
      @aniimako 3 года назад +4

      I'm glad you managed to do it! I recently did the same after not being able to for years but the instant relief I felt was insane. so worth it. I'm glad you're doing well!

    • @sucretheworld6597
      @sucretheworld6597 3 года назад +2

      Good for you! 👏🏽👏🏽✨✨

  • @Nancy-tr1qp
    @Nancy-tr1qp 3 года назад +86

    Sometimes the garbage takes itself out 🤷‍♀️ it’s hurts your heart but clears your vision 🙃

    • @royalt538
      @royalt538 3 года назад +3

      💯💯💯💯

    • @DianaMillan
      @DianaMillan 3 года назад +1

      Perfect description!

  • @olivianicolazzo5105
    @olivianicolazzo5105 3 года назад +25

    Okay the "don't let anyone make you feel guilty about doing something that feels authentic to you" really hit different

  • @Pielover45ful
    @Pielover45ful 3 года назад +135

    The fact that people still can't have direct conversations to resolve conflict IN THEIR 30s???? That terrifies me

    • @mauriceyork5011
      @mauriceyork5011 3 года назад +10

      In their 40’s too hunny I’m shooketh

  • @Fashionlifestyle_Official
    @Fashionlifestyle_Official 3 года назад +353

    RUclips is getting really comfortable with these double unskippable ads

    • @emilygarza8640
      @emilygarza8640 3 года назад +22

      i hope at the very least jackie makes more money off of them bc i keep my adblock on for everyone else

  • @MeekahLynne
    @MeekahLynne 3 года назад +172

    Im convinced, those thumbs down don't moisturize, dont use primer and their eyelids crease. Carry on

    • @adrienneroxanne9833
      @adrienneroxanne9833 3 года назад +3

      😂😂😂

    • @nomsayolisa1804
      @nomsayolisa1804 3 года назад +1

      Facts😆😆😆

    • @josephine1840
      @josephine1840 3 года назад +1

      i know they ain’t wearing spf!!!

    • @adrienneroxanne9833
      @adrienneroxanne9833 3 года назад

      @@josephine1840 lmao!!!! I love 30spf! 😂😂😂 I'm trying to order some and this silly bish in Texas keeps playing with my sunscreen order. 😒 She kept saying she sent it but it hasn't left Texas. 🤦‍♀️. I love that Neutrogena Hydro Boost one I have a feeling it's being discontinued. 😢

  • @julieg46
    @julieg46 3 года назад +101

    Toxic narcissism is a friendship killer, but on the other hand being friends with a narcissist is distinctly unpleasant. It takes a while to stop internalizing the damage...'what did I do wrong!?'...when that relationship ends, but once it hits you that that person is damaged and you can't fix them it's a huge relief to realize you escaped.

    • @bellabukuru
      @bellabukuru 3 года назад +10

      EXACTLY. WORDS FOR WORDS. damaged people always act in a VERY strange and evil way... I’m so glad I’m not friend that narcissic girl lord thank you!!

  • @muyo77
    @muyo77 3 года назад +48

    That friend has "girl runs out of the room because you're supposed to chase her" vibes. I'm not here for it. I had a friend like that and when she ran out of the room I got up and locked the door behind her.

  • @SimplySherelle
    @SimplySherelle 3 года назад +108

    Whew! The friendship conversation 🙌🏾

  • @monicastylemuse
    @monicastylemuse 3 года назад +933

    You dropped nothing but gems boo!!!! 👏🏾

  • @regina_staben
    @regina_staben 3 года назад +131

    I only have 4 really close girlfriends. Only 2 reached out to wish me a happy birthday last week. Sometimes the little things that matter to you mean the most in friendships.

    • @vnessaw
      @vnessaw 3 года назад +4

      It was my bday too last week! And yea a good number of my oldest friends didn’t say anything to me too.. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @_zory
      @_zory 3 года назад

      When is your birthday? Just seeing if I have a bday twin. Mine is 2/21

    • @regina_staben
      @regina_staben 3 года назад +1

      @@_zory happy belated birthday 🥳 mine was 2/15

    • @regina_staben
      @regina_staben 3 года назад +1

      @@vnessaw happy belated birthday 🥳

    • @_zory
      @_zory 3 года назад +1

      @@regina_staben HBD! 🎂🦋🙏🏿💕

  • @jeanettejbeauty6374
    @jeanettejbeauty6374 3 года назад +822

    Hey girl 💕 Missed you, but I see you on IG 🤩

    • @lillyc5805
      @lillyc5805 3 года назад +5

      And I see her more on tictok too.

    • @OrincyWhyteDesigns
      @OrincyWhyteDesigns 3 года назад +1

      And the TikTok content is literally TOP NOTCH !!!!! Top tier

  • @mininjas
    @mininjas 3 года назад +2

    Wow I went through the same thing last year. An end of a friendship that could have been cleared up with a conversation. Instead, that person wants to take time to tell you what you did wrong (with little evidence, but I digress), without giving an opportunity for discussion and possibly some correction of behavior. I personally think people have internal power struggles and project it on others.

  • @bekerz7880
    @bekerz7880 3 года назад +40

    I had a "friend" like that she hurt me many times deeply, but I wish her well. I'll never allow her an opportunity to get close to me again though.

  • @LorissaNelson
    @LorissaNelson 3 года назад +1216

    Whewwwwwwwwwww HONAYYYYYYYYYYYY THIS CONVERSATION ABOUT FAKE FRIENDSHIPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The same thing happened to me last year and it hurt me SO bad and I’m still not kinda over it but still. Lol lord

    • @ToyaEd.
      @ToyaEd. 3 года назад +14

      but it helps you to notice who is your friend or not

    • @kaylakayla8713
      @kaylakayla8713 3 года назад +22

      SAME GIRL SAME !!!! It makes you take a step back and really evaluate EVERYTHING and it’s hurtful when you’ve been genuine to someone for years

    • @kiarawade
      @kiarawade 3 года назад +33

      Sometimes them friend breakups be hurting worse than romantic ones !!!

    • @MartinaClarke
      @MartinaClarke 3 года назад +3

      @@kiarawade ⬆️ facts.

    • @myarenea1125
      @myarenea1125 3 года назад

      Girl same! 😭

  • @jayebchillen
    @jayebchillen 3 года назад +80

    I saw this post once that said "you may have been the villain in that persons story" and that changed my mindset completely when it came to how I looked at friendship breakups

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +21

      ooooo woooooow

    • @kareenakareena3133
      @kareenakareena3133 3 года назад +9

      Yeah I've had that. Where if someone would ask about an ex friend I would say I'm sure they are good. I haven't seen them in a while. I later found out they were trash talking me and I was the villan in the story

    • @edwardsjarje
      @edwardsjarje 3 года назад +2

      That’s deep.

  • @AshleaAnnya
    @AshleaAnnya 3 года назад +151

    When certain people say “support” they mean “stop your life for me when EYE say so.” My mother used to call this “rainy day jealousy”. Basically, “I’m jealous of you and I’m waiting for the right ‘rainy day’ in our friendship to make you miserable whilst still hiding MY insecurities.” This wedding was that friend’s rainy day moment but in reality they have been storming for years about you, girl. Blessings to you and don’t stop being you ❤️

    • @cynthiahoward2285
      @cynthiahoward2285 3 года назад +9

      Tell your mom thank you for me.! This happened to me too . I’m ok now because I blessed to have several life long friends but it was an eye opener. ❤️

    • @asalwaysashntir
      @asalwaysashntir 3 года назад +6

      That’s a wonderful name for it.

  • @debthomas2041
    @debthomas2041 3 года назад +22

    It took me two days to watch this video just cause ya girl is battling depression however this video spoke to me cause it’s so relatable!! Thanks Jackie... You a true queen..

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 3 года назад +4

      Feel better soon.... I’ve been there 🙏🏾 there’s light at the end. Trouble don’t last always. I cast down the spirit of heaviness and decree the spirit of joy over your life.

    • @debthomas2041
      @debthomas2041 3 года назад +1

      @@Glamrocs thanks so much, it means a lot to me that you reached out.. GOD BLESS! ✨✨

    • @brooklynforever1990
      @brooklynforever1990 3 года назад +1

      This to shall pass sis 🙏🏽

    • @debthomas2041
      @debthomas2041 3 года назад

      @@brooklynforever1990 ✨✨✨

  • @SolarTTauri
    @SolarTTauri 3 года назад +36

    "Secretly don't like me.."
    You just put so simply something I couldn't quite put my finger on with some people around me. Wow.

  • @ladyschatze9159
    @ladyschatze9159 3 года назад +248

    I understand you Jackie whole heartly. I'll take what you give me on RUclips. I don't do social media. I protect my energy by not being on IG or any other social platform.

    • @christalburgess3013
      @christalburgess3013 3 года назад +36

      Right! RUclips and pinterest is all I use.

    • @lexnicole97
      @lexnicole97 3 года назад +8

      def agree. Twitter, RUclips, and Pinterest is it for me!
      IG just seems tooo much for me.

    • @deedeel5977
      @deedeel5977 3 года назад +2

      Same 😊

    • @Annieyogi
      @Annieyogi 3 года назад +14

      I’ve started going on IG much less. It started making me antsy. RUclips has become my salvation. So I totally understand.

    • @mishachilume2628
      @mishachilume2628 3 года назад +4

      @@christalburgess3013 saaaame😅💕🔥 people think there's something wrong with being 22 and not being on the platforms. I'm the weirdo 😂

  • @kerrythomson4586
    @kerrythomson4586 3 года назад +385

    Re: bridesmaid moment - Bridezilla was salty because she thinks you should have been making her wedding a focal point in your life. Don’t even think twice about it. Real women, real friends, can pick up where you left off no matter how long you have spent apart.

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +237

      I didn't think of it that way but that's what mutual friends are saying too...and I wasn't the only bridesmaid that got kicked out so idk home girl was going through some thangs I guess 😭

    • @mon6745
      @mon6745 3 года назад +31

      This! Was my experience too, like the world could be burning down and someone needs a convo about hair styles 🙄

    • @Mandiandthecity
      @Mandiandthecity 3 года назад +11

      I had this experience too, I was the matron of honor and got kicked out for making a comment that I would give a pair of earrings that I mistakenly bought away 🥴

    • @joseisins2341
      @joseisins2341 3 года назад +3

      @@Mandiandthecity People are crazy.

    • @eduagonzalez
      @eduagonzalez 3 года назад +15

      @@jackieaina girl if that’s the case you dodged a bullet ! She probably wanted you to foot the bill for most of it anyway 🙄

  • @PlatinumD
    @PlatinumD 3 года назад +1027

    That friend is JEALOUS!!!

  • @BeWellBrandon
    @BeWellBrandon 3 года назад +20

    Shout out to you being vocal about celibacy. Everyone has their own journey, and it’s their own to walk. People should respect someone else’s choices that don’t affect anyone else. I’ve gone through some things as that’s where I am now.

  • @RoseeKobi
    @RoseeKobi 3 года назад +94

    Post quarantine friendship update : no friends

  • @jaymontez7642
    @jaymontez7642 3 года назад +127

    This is the content I’d want, makeup doesn’t need to be in the forefront. I feel like you enjoyed making this video and I enjoyed watching it.

  • @theredrubyclub
    @theredrubyclub 3 года назад +77

    It’s the “in a secret competition with me” for me 😭 the whole friend conversation was so relatable!! I’ve always had friends who just want to get close to me but genuinely don’t want to know me. They secretly don’t like me or are jealous of me smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ love your videos Jackie ❤️

  • @Marvynkeita
    @Marvynkeita 3 года назад +47

    I was honestly wondering when a lil break was coming. I love that you gave yourself this time.

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +25

      we all need a little time! thank you for being here

  • @gessellier7007
    @gessellier7007 3 года назад +4

    I love how you talk about past mistakes in such a open and honest way, it shows so much growth and so much strength in your character.

  • @ashontisharkey
    @ashontisharkey 3 года назад +11

    OMG I had the same EXACT thing happen to with my best friend of 20 years! I’m still trying to recover.

  • @kiingalysha
    @kiingalysha 3 года назад +80

    The friend thing happened to me a couple years ago, except mine was a whole group of friends. I had felt things were off for a while, I even asked one of them if everyone was mad at me. He hugged me and told me they all loved me. Weeks later I was ejected from the group because “they needed a break” from me. All this time, I had been there for all of them, listened to them when they needed a friend, helped clean their apartment when they moved, etc. One of them told me that they had been feeling a type of way for a while but they never gave me the chance to correct whatever behavior was bothering them. It was extremely hard for me losing 6 friends at once, but it also strengthened a real friendship in my life.

    • @nicoleb5415
      @nicoleb5415 3 года назад +2

      Lmfaoooo I had something like this happen to me in jhs...haven’t been the same (friendship wise) since

    • @ashlauren613
      @ashlauren613 3 года назад +2

      OMG, the same thing happened to me when I was in high school. I started getting calls one by one saying they needed to take a break. I lost my entire friend group in the matter of 1 day. Shit was traumatizing af. Mind you I was always that friend going the extra mile trying to include everyone but the second I showed a moment of weakness they dropped me like a hot potato .

  • @Shonnaevirgooo
    @Shonnaevirgooo 3 года назад +43

    I’m living for all sides of Jackie because you went from auntie Jackie to my rich girlfriend jackie who wear Versace to brunch and tells stories about traveling the world

  • @ruthorekogbe
    @ruthorekogbe 3 года назад +87

    Death to one-sided friendships in 2021 🥳. I've weeded out a lot of 'friends' since the pandemic started 😌

  • @GD-fu1xu
    @GD-fu1xu 3 года назад +1

    I just want to say thank you for sharing such personal details about difficulties with friendships. What you described has been a reoccurring cycle in my life and I used to ask myself.. what did I do to warrant this? It’s taken me years to realize it has everything to do with them, and much less to do with me. After grieving those losses I realize how much I’ve grown from it. I’m more selective about who I share my space and energy with these days. Thank you for always being so real, it’s inspiring!

  • @Maames
    @Maames 3 года назад +11

    Sometimes God removes certain friends out of your life to clear a path for your greatness. And you never understand why that happens till you get to where He is taking you... Shine on gyal. 🙌🏾😘

  • @lekrishalee6066
    @lekrishalee6066 3 года назад +11

    @jackieaina that whole story reminded me of when Oprah said "you can't be friends with people who want to be you". I never forgot that and have strived to keep girls in my circle that are genuine.

  • @WillOnAWhim
    @WillOnAWhim 3 года назад +482

    heyyyyyy!

  • @XxPinkGlitterGirlxX1
    @XxPinkGlitterGirlxX1 3 года назад +54

    I need Jackie showing me the bougie lifestyle. I need that kick in the butt to work for what I want. She doesn’t know, but Jackie’s my unofficial life coach! ❤️

  • @katherinealeman8565
    @katherinealeman8565 3 года назад +66

    Jackie is a Leo and Leo’s are LOYAL TILL THE END. So I know exactly how she feels about this whole friend situation.

    • @desianeal7147
      @desianeal7147 3 года назад +2

      Til the end and to a fault at times.

  • @bigcatenergy3707
    @bigcatenergy3707 3 года назад +6

    Jackie, when I tell you I FEEL THIS so much. I’m grateful for this really real and relatable convo on womanhood, false friendships and authenticity. When you are unapologetically you and shine as bright as you do, insecure people WILL act in all the ways your saying. Leave them to their BS and keep on shining 💜

  • @aronc24
    @aronc24 3 года назад +162

    This was suuuuch a nice moment. Never forget that other people choices and actions are not yours or your responsibility. If they be shady, that is their choice. They can have fun with that and I will wave like a good Christian. BYE.

  • @mimitweet1
    @mimitweet1 3 года назад +26

    I actually love lavishly Jackie. Everything about it screams refreshing and authentic. You can see your personality through the videos and it gives us a peak of what you like besides make up and etc. keep shining!

  • @breonna3254
    @breonna3254 3 года назад +25

    I love “that’s not my portion anymore.” Such a true statement that I’ve started to use for various aspects and relationships of my life. It has truly helped us all for the best.

  • @hopesneddon7426
    @hopesneddon7426 3 года назад +7

    "Big Friendship" is a great book written by two friends about how friendship, interracial relations, and growing as a person. I listened to the audiobook and it was great.

  • @SensationallySilky
    @SensationallySilky 3 года назад +5

    A fb friend posted something this morning that resonated with me and this post: You should never worry about matching energy, only giving enough of yourself to anything such that you don't feel burdened. Talk about confirmation. Thanks Jackie!

  • @surrealbeauty4520
    @surrealbeauty4520 3 года назад +47

    Some people are like roots on a tree, there for the long haul, some are like leaves and they change with the season.

  • @LottyDotty05
    @LottyDotty05 3 года назад +68

    Someone's rejection is God's protection. I feel like I can relate to you so much! Remember: you can feed someone but send them a to go plate. You can love from one but do it from the balcony!

    • @alexpress5375
      @alexpress5375 3 года назад +1

      I like that a lot. I will thank God for rejection now!

  • @arreyah2671
    @arreyah2671 3 года назад +49

    Honestly Jackie could only ever upload girl chats every now and then while she gets ready and i’d be so content 😂

  • @sunnystone83
    @sunnystone83 3 года назад +1

    Let me just say that I absolutely LOVE your channel! You’re one of the few creators that I trust my teenage daughters to watch and even encourage them to watch. They are my chocolate dolls and I LOVE how confidence and little chats inspire them. I wish you were local and had the opportunity to actually talk with them as a mentor. Please keep doing what you’re doing! I’m proud of you and pray you have all your heart desires.

  • @mikettaanderson6901
    @mikettaanderson6901 3 года назад +10

    I'm literally 17 going through this with ex friends...i had to cut every single one off because they didn't know how to be good friends and have conversations, they would just ghost me whenever i "did" something leaving me confused if I had hurt them...then they'd come back when they needed something and that's when I knew that I was never the problem, I cant wait to meet friends on my level mentally because every friendship I'm in I always offer more to the table and I'm over it lol, I'm at the point where if you don't bring what I bring Ima keep it pushing because I always end up hurt and I'm tired. I thought it got easier with age but i guess not lol! (btw auntie your killing it on tik tok, I'm moving into an apartment for college soon and would love if you could do some classy amazon/cb2 etc. home favs and necessities)

  • @uncommonfavor674
    @uncommonfavor674 3 года назад +95

    Let the false friends continue to fall off. Maturity comes to everyone at different times. Everyone is not equipped to receive the luxury of being your friend. Jealousy is a monster. Embrace you, at every stage and every age. I don’t watch you for makeup, although I love your expertise...I don’t watch you for luxury although I love to see all the places you go...I watch you because you’re you. If I see you everyday or once a year I know I’ll get 100 percent Jackie. Real is real, and I’m here for real 💜

  • @rachelcochran3979
    @rachelcochran3979 3 года назад +31

    Girl yes during quarantine I separated from my husband and lost a best friend but that was a beautiful lesson learned now.

  • @SINDER3LLA88
    @SINDER3LLA88 3 года назад +31

    I definitely experienced that friend situation. I actively reached to talk or hang out, yet she “cut me off” because I wasn’t there for her at one point... but I’ve been actively trying to talk. So I understand

  • @Hershea1
    @Hershea1 3 года назад +3

    The friend situation part resonated with my spirit. I too have experienced “friends” like this every decade. I am no longer allowing this energy in my life. I am like you. I move on and I don’t ask question.

  • @darlacarpenter1224
    @darlacarpenter1224 3 года назад +4

    I have enjoyed this video thoroughly. It was like hanging out with an old friend I haven't seen for a while. Love your transparency !

  • @tislamdennis2137
    @tislamdennis2137 3 года назад +209

    i was sitting here trying to figure what the Q and C words were... and it just hit me LMFAOOOOOOOO 😭😭😭😭

    • @NitaP05
      @NitaP05 3 года назад +2

      Please lmk cause I’m out of things to google to figure it out 😫

    • @justebbs5832
      @justebbs5832 3 года назад +36

      @@nombre1248 quarantine and Covid/Coronavirus

    • @NitaP05
      @NitaP05 3 года назад +4

      Wait. Dang I figured it out and came back to comment but @just ebbs beat me to it lol

    • @sequoiac6223
      @sequoiac6223 3 года назад +5

      @@justebbs5832 THANK YOU

    • @paulaprintz6678
      @paulaprintz6678 3 года назад +2

      @Just Ebbs Thank you! I was sooooo confused!!

  • @elaina8336
    @elaina8336 3 года назад +29

    Ever considered making a podcast? I’d love it!

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  3 года назад +27

      amongst the 12 other platforms I run? 😭 right now I just don't have the time

    • @elaina8336
      @elaina8336 3 года назад +9

      @@jackieaina understandable! I can’t believe you replied 😭

  • @zebrinasworld9833
    @zebrinasworld9833 3 года назад +42

    You’re one of the most realist & smart creator I’ve come across on RUclips. I am surprise you don’t have at least 10M subscriber’s. But I’m happy you. Keeps GROWING and making BOSS MOVES. God’s continued blessings.

  • @Swanksbishhy
    @Swanksbishhy 3 года назад +12

    I feel like over COVID a lot of friendships have been tested but only the strong and true will last. Maybe it was just time for the relationship to end...it’s sad

  • @Champbailie
    @Champbailie 3 года назад

    So in regards to the friendship. I have been through this over and over no matter how I try to avoid it.Toxic Women sometimes want to posses you or the things you have and when don't turn over all your thoughts, feelings and time to them, they will turn on you. Period

  • @7309alicia
    @7309alicia 3 года назад +30

    That friendship story triggered the hell outta me, cause that’s how my friendship with who I considered my best friend ended.

  • @JazUpMyStyle
    @JazUpMyStyle 3 года назад +33

    I totally feel you when it comes to black/brown creators on RUclips. I’m not known yet, but I do notice the lack of opportunities for creators who look like me. I’m still very small and I already experienced some discrimination within the beauty industry from well known brands so, I can only imagine how it may be for you. I’m still supporting you and loving your content on your other social media platforms. Keep shinning!

  • @nichellecherry8168
    @nichellecherry8168 3 года назад +26

    IMAGINE having jackie as a friend as tryna play her. MADNESS

  • @LongBeachKelz
    @LongBeachKelz 3 года назад

    I am PROUD to be one of the 3.5 million subscribers! 👏🏽 I don’t have ANY social media, so I don’t get to see all the greatness you’re doing elsewhere 😉 praying for continued success

  • @amberrichardson8080
    @amberrichardson8080 3 года назад +1

    Looking good, looking refreshed. I’m glad you took a break and that you know that RUclips not reciprocating is a not your cross to bare. I admire you so much! Please continue to inspire and shine bright for us. Shoot for the beyond and you don’t have to keep your head down for being incredible. You’ve worked hard and earned this ❤️