Am really proud of you.good that you brought it out it happens to all people including me when i am thin they will say why dont you put some weight..if i have weight they say why dont become thin..werid world but i always wonder the people who say this dont look at them at all 😂but now when i think about it ,def impacted my mental health
Hi Santhi. Thanks for sharing this experience bcos most of the time in our life we come across this kind of experience. I have come across so much of it and it affected negatively on my physical and mental health. It’s so inspiring when you share it and how you approached this. You are a strong woman santhi.
I am sorry you had to go through that, it took me a while to realize and get back to my senses. But now I know. And I don’t tolerate things anymore. I wish our elders would have taught to stand up for ourselves, instead of always saying to ignore.
I can totally relate with you when u spoke about body shaming and having toxic friends in US. Surprisingly, I also had a similar experience during a potluck!! I just love ur openness and honesty🩷Lots of love to you ❤️
I am so sorry you had to go through that. But hey lessons learned. Now we know right. It’s better to have less good friends than many toxic friendships.
Yeah I came here a year ago. Didn’t get any best friend till now. A girl once told me that here u won’t be able to survive without friends. But my experience is different. I believe that one toxic friend is enough to ruin our peace. That girl herself was toxic . She used to make fun of my accent. It’s about quality not quantity.
I usually never commented on any video.I have faced somewhat similar like you.Please do what makes you happy and don’t worry about anyone.There will be always some people who wants to hurt others I feel it’s because there are jealous and insecure about themselves
Thank you for sharing your experience. It feels super good to know that there are people with same views and beliefs as ours. Where ever we go, we stood out and was not meeting the general standards of people. Had so much of bad experiences that we are happy with ourselves now. Thanks Shanti!
You rock gurl! Sorry to hear about your bullying experience. Great that you stood up for urself. Enjoy the holidays. Love to you all ❤🤗. Waiting for Part-2 🤩
I agree with you about body shaming. They act like they care about you and your health. Just because you are overweight doesn’t mean you have cholesterol and fatty liver. Acting like a doctor 😂. Just like you said non of ya business! I have several patients that are thin framed and have high cholesterol. So stop talking if you don’t have anything nice to talk about someone. Keep posting!! I’m a new subscriber ❤
I am so sorry to hear about your experience.We can see clearly how thin you were,that bully had some sort of ego or dissatisfaction within herself which we can’t solve unfortunately.But as a women who had same experience,people in my husband ‘s home would literally take my plate and cut short the food i take,I remembered how insulted I felt,Ippo excercise cheyyunnde health ayi kazhikunnu.I am so proud of you,you are ,beautiful independent and strong.Women to women,I am proud of you❤️
I am so sorry you had to deal with such bad experiences, yes I don’t understand how people don’t realize the impact they make on others. In a world like this we need to protect ourselves. ❤️
Ashwini and Santhi, Sorry you had to go through this bullying from your own family members and friends. This must have hurt so much. It's totally out of line. Good you spoke up against them , otherwise, people take advantage of our silence.
She did it on purpose to hurt you. That’s why never apologised. May be jealous. Be careful about whom you invite in to your life especially in the US. Especially many desi people are extremely jealous of each other. It’s always better to keep your circle smaller with some genuine people.
Totally relatable chechi! Nammude age groupil ullavar valare understanding anu…its these older aunties who keep passing comments and body shaming. Sometime i want to talk back but i dont know what to day…once my husbands aunt commented on my weight and i felt bad ..and he immediately told her that she’s jealous cause she’s skinny 😂 im happy about that but i really wish i would have told her something at that moment…hate such people with no respect for others…u are doing so good chechi dont care about anyone else…
So sad to hear your story ! I don't really know why people are bothered about others life...Maybe that creates a mental satisfaction for them.. Happy that you removed them from your life ....❤❤❤❤Keep going strong
That was a big bad insecurity throwing up on you.they are not your real friends. We all had this kind of people in our life once.only once..!😂 Let them bark.. Focus on your health dear ❤
Yes that’s true! It was a good lesson to be learned 😅. We all get stronger through the choices we make. But yeah it’s so hard to make friends in adulthood 😂
@@santhi_deepuagree… I was just telling someone .. it’s hard to make frnds in 30’s. Like minded positive people are hard to find.. specially in the US. In school ppl would just speak without any inhibitions and be friends ..
I had this same incident in my life ,I was having medications for depression that was the time one lady came to me (she was close to me )and commented on my body ,it was one of the worst comment ever . I went and told her the next day that it was crossing my boundaries and my mental health is getting affected because of this . She told she will repeat it and never said sorry to me .🤞🥲
Well said dear… Sorry to hear about your bad experience. Even am still facing this bullying issue. But what if we are facing bullying from our very very close relatives? Am facing that actually.. I know, that person is saying for my good but I always feel negative and tend to eat more and gain more weight😢 Cannot say anything to that person as it’s a closest relation. I watch your workout videos to get motivated. Yes, I get motivated and think I must start doing exercises but the very next day I become lazy… Guess I have to figure out how to remove laziness. Enthenkilum tips or suggestions undo?🫣
I am sorry you have to deal with it. With relatives it’s even more difficult. But make your point and be clear with the boundaries. Sometimes they only need a hint to back out. But being silent about it is only going to make it worse for you mentally. Don’t be afraid to defend yourself, if you did nothing wrong.
@ Yes, with relatives it’s very difficult. I understood what you said dear. If I be silent, it’s going to affect me mentally and I know that’s what has been happening for sometime now. Thank you so much dear and it means a lot 🤗
I usually never commented on any video.I have faced somewhat similar like you.Please do what makes you happy and don’t worry about anyone.There will be always some people who wants to hurt others I feel it’s because there are jealous and insecure about themselves
I usually never commented on any video.I have faced somewhat similar like you.Please do what makes you happy and don’t worry about anyone.There will be always some people who wants to hurt others I feel it’s because there are jealous and insecure about themselves
Am really proud of you.good that you brought it out it happens to all people including me when i am thin they will say why dont you put some weight..if i have weight they say why dont become thin..werid world but i always wonder the people who say this dont look at them at all 😂but now when i think about it ,def impacted my mental health
Hi Santhi. Thanks for sharing this experience bcos most of the time in our life we come across this kind of experience. I have come across so much of it and it affected negatively on my physical and mental health.
It’s so inspiring when you share it and how you approached this.
You are a strong woman santhi.
I am sorry you had to go through that, it took me a while to realize and get back to my senses. But now I know. And I don’t tolerate things anymore. I wish our elders would have taught to stand up for ourselves, instead of always saying to ignore.
I can totally relate with you when u spoke about body shaming and having toxic friends in US. Surprisingly, I also had a similar experience during a potluck!! I just love ur openness and honesty🩷Lots of love to you ❤️
I am so sorry you had to go through that. But hey lessons learned. Now we know right. It’s better to have less good friends than many toxic friendships.
@ Yes, exactly 👍
Yeah I came here a year ago. Didn’t get any best friend till now. A girl once told me that here u won’t be able to survive without friends. But my experience is different. I believe that one toxic friend is enough to ruin our peace. That girl herself was toxic . She used to make fun of my accent. It’s about quality not quantity.
I usually never commented on any video.I have faced somewhat similar like you.Please do what makes you happy and don’t worry about anyone.There will be always some people who wants to hurt others I feel it’s because there are jealous and insecure about themselves
Thank you for sharing your experience. It feels super good to know that there are people with same views and beliefs as ours. Where ever we go, we stood out and was not meeting the general standards of people. Had so much of bad experiences that we are happy with ourselves now. Thanks Shanti!
It is good to know that we are not alone in this experience. 😊
I really loved the way you stand out for yourself and your thoughs❤❤
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You rock gurl! Sorry to hear about your bullying experience. Great that you stood up for urself. Enjoy the holidays. Love to you all ❤🤗. Waiting for Part-2 🤩
Thanks, I will probably upload on Monday.
Eagerly waiting for Part 2 🤗
I will upload tonight, kids were sick during weekend so didn’t get time to edit.
Please add English subtitles.. found you on TikTok and became an instant follower on Intsa and YT.. ❤ love your videos… please add English subtitles 😢
I just love your vlogs. Your presentation and simplicity makes you different.Brush off negativities and always be happy❤
I will, thanks for the love ❤️
Well said girl 👏👏
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You said clearly very well ❤
Well said ❤
Ningal adipoli super couple aanu. Eppozhum ningal chirichirikkunnathe kaanananu njangalkkishttam❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Sending in lots of love and hugs to u dear .. thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Veedinte purth eragiya oru hedset ath nirbandha 😊😊
Well said chechi you are truly inspiring us, keep going what you love for to do chechii ❤ with lots of love 😘😘
Thank you so much! It means a lot to me.
I agree with you about body shaming. They act like they care about you and your health. Just because you are overweight doesn’t mean you have cholesterol and fatty liver. Acting like a doctor 😂. Just like you said non of ya business! I have several patients that are thin framed and have high cholesterol. So stop talking if you don’t have anything nice to talk about someone. Keep posting!! I’m a new subscriber ❤
I am so sorry to hear about your experience.We can see clearly how thin you were,that bully had some sort of ego or dissatisfaction within herself which we can’t solve unfortunately.But as a women who had same experience,people in my husband ‘s home would literally take my plate and cut short the food i take,I remembered how insulted I felt,Ippo excercise cheyyunnde health ayi kazhikunnu.I am so proud of you,you are ,beautiful independent and strong.Women to women,I am proud of you❤️
I am so sorry you had to deal with such bad experiences, yes I don’t understand how people don’t realize the impact they make on others. In a world like this we need to protect ourselves. ❤️
Ashwini and Santhi, Sorry you had to go through this bullying from your own family members and friends. This must have hurt so much. It's totally out of line.
Good you spoke up against them , otherwise, people take advantage of our silence.
Eda I have a similar experience ❤.. loved the way you explained … ❤❤❤❤
I am so sorry, people can be really insensitive sometimes. ❤️
Really loved it🫂🥹
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Love from ekm ❤
Nice video 👍👍❤️❤️
She did it on purpose to hurt you. That’s why never apologised. May be jealous. Be careful about whom you invite in to your life especially in the US. Especially many desi people are extremely jealous of each other. It’s always better to keep your circle smaller with some genuine people.
Chechi thin ayitt erikkanum.weight kurayanum entha cheyyaa
Consistent ayit exercise cheyya, healthy ayit kazhikka.
Okkk chechi @@santhi_deepu
Totally relatable chechi! Nammude age groupil ullavar valare understanding anu…its these older aunties who keep passing comments and body shaming. Sometime i want to talk back but i dont know what to day…once my husbands aunt commented on my weight and i felt bad ..and he immediately told her that she’s jealous cause she’s skinny 😂 im happy about that but i really wish i would have told her something at that moment…hate such people with no respect for others…u are doing so good chechi dont care about anyone else…
So sad to hear your story ! I don't really know why people are bothered about others life...Maybe that creates a mental satisfaction for them.. Happy that you removed them from your life ....❤❤❤❤Keep going strong
Yeah may be, but I was also too naive at that time. But you know every bad experience is a lesson.
@@santhi_deepu exactly 💯
That was a big bad insecurity throwing up on you.they are not your real friends. We all had this kind of people in our life once.only once..!😂
Let them bark..
Focus on your health dear ❤
Yes that’s true! It was a good lesson to be learned 😅. We all get stronger through the choices we make. But yeah it’s so hard to make friends in adulthood 😂
@@santhi_deepuagree… I was just telling someone .. it’s hard to make frnds in 30’s. Like minded positive people are hard to find.. specially in the US. In school ppl would just speak without any inhibitions and be friends ..
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I had this same incident in my life ,I was having medications for depression that was the time one lady came to me (she was close to me )and commented on my body ,it was one of the worst comment ever .
I went and told her the next day that it was crossing my boundaries and my mental health is getting affected because of this .
She told she will repeat it and never said sorry to me .🤞🥲
Gud u told her.. Please stay away from such toxic people. ❤
Good for you, protecting our boundaries is really important. Sometimes people can be very insensitive
Well said dear… Sorry to hear about your bad experience. Even am still facing this bullying issue. But what if we are facing bullying from our very very close relatives? Am facing that actually.. I know, that person is saying for my good but I always feel negative and tend to eat more and gain more weight😢 Cannot say anything to that person as it’s a closest relation. I watch your workout videos to get motivated. Yes, I get motivated and think I must start doing exercises but the very next day I become lazy… Guess I have to figure out how to remove laziness. Enthenkilum tips or suggestions undo?🫣
I am sorry you have to deal with it. With relatives it’s even more difficult. But make your point and be clear with the boundaries. Sometimes they only need a hint to back out. But being silent about it is only going to make it worse for you mentally. Don’t be afraid to defend yourself, if you did nothing wrong.
@ Yes, with relatives it’s very difficult. I understood what you said dear. If I be silent, it’s going to affect me mentally and I know that’s what has been happening for sometime now. Thank you so much dear and it means a lot 🤗
I usually never commented on any video.I have faced somewhat similar like you.Please do what makes you happy and don’t worry about anyone.There will be always some people who wants to hurt others I feel it’s because there are jealous and insecure about themselves
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I usually never commented on any video.I have faced somewhat similar like you.Please do what makes you happy and don’t worry about anyone.There will be always some people who wants to hurt others I feel it’s because there are jealous and insecure about themselves
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