I wish I would have learned to have a realistic understanding of myself as an Infj when I was your age Wenzes! Thankful to find you and…..for me better late than never!
Long before I realized I was an INFJ, I frequently described myself as someone who would spend an hour figuring out how to do a 30 minute job in 15 minutes. For prospective employers, I'd then point out that that doesn't make any sense for something you're only going to do once, but if you let me optimize something you do every day, I can save you a boatload of money!
I am the same. I can see when systems need fixing or streamlining to work better. I am always coming up with better ways to do things, but am not good at convincing others.
@@mariagordanier3404 I don't know where you are in your career, but here's something that helped me early on as an IT consultant. If there is a problem you think you can fix, volunteer to take a look at it. The worst they can say is no, but if it is a pressing problem and nobody else is stepping up, you'll probably get a shot. If, on inspection, you find that it is clearly beyond your skill level, let them know -- but also tell them what you learned about the problem. It might be enough to help them find someone to fix it. Of course, if you CAN fix it, you will have earned a feather to put in your cap, and they might search you out the next time there is a problem! One last thing: Once you have a reputation as a problem solver, don't be afraid to let people know your skills -- just don't be too pushy about it. Humility is a good thing.
@@mariagordanier3404 This is exactly my problem at my current job. I've optimized my own work as much as I can and the only things left I see to be improved involve other people working together, but I know they're never going to listen to me so I've had to accept that it's time to look to my own growth elsewhere.
5 TYPES OF ENTERTAINMENT INFJs LOVE (but keep hidden) 1:00 ENTERTAINMENT #1 Shutting down our mind and enjoying others' energy 4:03 ENTERTAINMENT #2 Predicting outcomes 6:21 ENTERTAINMENT #3 Analyzing people's relationship dynamics 10:26 ENTERTAINMENT #4 Finding Shortcuts 14:05 ENTERTAINMENT #5 "Glowing up" others
Had to smile at predicting outcomes :D Unfortunately I got trangulated by family narcissism pretty much beginning in childhood, and a hoover/discard pattern all through adulthood before the final "purge," (they just wouldn't let me go peacefully, and felt like a prisoner on house arrest while with them). I literally called out there every motivation, step, goal in the process; even predicting where they were going to live based on vacation areas, and this was like a decade before it eventually transpired. Trust your third eye, in the Infj. We aren't necessarily psychics, I think we are incredibly smart, great at gathering information/seeing patterns/puzzles, and strong extroverted feeling gives us the ability to make people transparent. There are fun aspects to being this personality type !?!??!
As a Sigma INFJ it is something that you can't just put down in words, we think that we are small but our shadow shows so much more. Being untouchable and unpredictable is a good treat if you really know that you understand it. To me personally a definition of a personality isn't the fun part, we strife for the unsolved puzzle. We are only complete when we start to know our own strength and limitations. If you have seen Batman how he grows up to become who he is it isn't the ending that speaks everything but it's the struggle through the whole process. From start to finish is the key to success but learning the ropes of how to deal with the process is what counts.
I keep my rave life hidden because, its like entering a whole new world. The vibes are amazing. I can be whoever I want to be, and its all good. Im not judged for my weirdness and its awesome.
It’s like you’re reading my mind with each video, thank you! I like what I call “mindless art” - and is starting an artist project or session without an actual defined “goal” and see what happens. For example, in the last few days I’ve been doing some abstract paintings 🧑🏻🎨 🖼️ and generally I have no idea 🎨🤷🏻 what is it that I’m painting until I’ve been at it for a while… the I can see all the stuff tumbling in my head 😵💫🫨😑😵💫in front of me. It’s super therapeutic - sometimes I do something similar playing musical 🎶 instruments or writing ✍🏼 - sometimes I go ohh 😲 other times I go oh 😑 often I go uuuhhh 😳 🫢🫨🫠🥳 - highly recommended!
The one were you said you just want to lean off someone else's energy. This is what I want to do when I go on vacation. I am so everyday making decisions I want to just let someone else take over all the thinking.
many time I make somebody glow n shine. but then they mashed it up, screwed it up. so I let them, go my own way, and find somebody else, and the process repeat. but I think I enjoyed it
*Efficiency and Being in Someone Else's Wheelhouse* . If I can figure out a more efficient way to do something, I will. I love to enjoy someone else being the planner/host, I get to live in the moment and perhaps learn something new.
#4 Optimizing describes where I've gotten to in my current job. I've done all I can for what I do and have been finding it harder and harder to be motivated in the least. It confuses me how others there do not understand why a bigger paycheck isn't enough incentive for me to work more hours, especially since the only things I can see remaining to be optimized are team-oriented and too many are unwilling to do anything about it. So I've had to accept there's nothing left there for me and it's time to move on.
We analyze it and come up with a conclusion but at times, I wake up in the morning and a different concept, a different viewpoint pops in my head. Helps me to look at it from another angle. Yes, we do like shortcuts for optimization, but that would suggest that we know what we want.
#4 is both entertainment and necessity for me. As an INFJ with ADHD and lower energy from health issues, I /have/ to optimize and find shortcuts or else things like cleaning the bathroom or paying bills on time won't consistently happen. One of those things still doesn't (I haven't given up on it, I'm still testing some ideas).
I at times like disturbing the mental mind of a person to the point where they have no choice but to speak positivity about themselves or of the situation it's awesome and they're like yeah I told you it's amazing how a person and pointing out the things that are usually not pointed out and it gives them a whole new way of thinking cultivating expanding and excavating their own mentality and it's just you should have done that a long time ago
... I did every single one of those today !! LOL It really helps to understand how to separate the fun from function in our behaviors. Super helpful and interesting thank you Wenzes and thank you INFJs for being epic :)
Agree with most of all those things. I do most except analyzing relationships as "between persons" I like analyze relations been things, I like to analyze others but not their relations maybe I feel it is very invasive even no one will never knows, may be I will start now XD
People criticised me for being more interested in fictional characters than people so l took up pipe smoking and named them all and gave them an origin story etc. And the smoke keeps non groovy people away 😂
I am thinking what how to make money without being famous keeping my private peace life introvert thing in social media. I dont wanna bw famous.i dont want deep connection with anyone but i wanna earn money 😂😂is it possible ?
Let me go and enjoy their energy but i always choose unhealthy infj may be😂 am i healthy or unhealthy infj ?.i have my own priorities happiness i dont judge anyone but i hate jealous attitude proudy bullying intentiins towards me or i just overthink abt their action n words towards me if my intentiin towards anyone i meet is pure positive but my talking way dressup n broadminded dont match my energy coz i am living n enjoying mom life rather than fren pleasing or proving anything anyone .i dont have exactly any intention towards other pplwatever i wear i do bcoz thats true .why do i have to act like u guys act ? What will i get ? My inner thoughts😂
There are ways jobs can be made fun and mean more than just survival. I'm an INFJ and I've devoted my life to showing people how. If you are interested, My channel talks about ways people can make even the worst job more meaningful and enjoyable.
@@TheHappyGroup already been there and done that with countless jobs. If u have shitty painful agonizing job and you're an INFJ and already tried all the options it is what it is.
What are some of your favorite activities that might not seem "mainstream"?!
Theres a lot, unless it involves nature and being outside. 1 non mainstream hobby has always been enjoying foreign film/ theatre.💜
Making people smile 😁
Languages and etymology. I am not a formally educated person at all. Thanks for asking!! Love your wisdom.
I like to watch trees blow in the wind when I first wake up. It helps my neurological/emotional regulation 🌿💚
I wish I would have learned to have a realistic understanding of myself as an Infj when I was your age Wenzes! Thankful to find you and…..for me better late than never!
Long before I realized I was an INFJ, I frequently described myself as someone who would spend an hour figuring out how to do a 30 minute job in 15 minutes. For prospective employers, I'd then point out that that doesn't make any sense for something you're only going to do once, but if you let me optimize something you do every day, I can save you a boatload of money!
I am the same. I can see when systems need fixing or streamlining to work better. I am always coming up with better ways to do things, but am not good at convincing others.
@@mariagordanier3404 I don't know where you are in your career, but here's something that helped me early on as an IT consultant. If there is a problem you think you can fix, volunteer to take a look at it. The worst they can say is no, but if it is a pressing problem and nobody else is stepping up, you'll probably get a shot. If, on inspection, you find that it is clearly beyond your skill level, let them know -- but also tell them what you learned about the problem. It might be enough to help them find someone to fix it.
Of course, if you CAN fix it, you will have earned a feather to put in your cap, and they might search you out the next time there is a problem!
One last thing: Once you have a reputation as a problem solver, don't be afraid to let people know your skills -- just don't be too pushy about it. Humility is a good thing.
Yes!!
@@mariagordanier3404 This is exactly my problem at my current job. I've optimized my own work as much as I can and the only things left I see to be improved involve other people working together, but I know they're never going to listen to me so I've had to accept that it's time to look to my own growth elsewhere.
5 TYPES OF ENTERTAINMENT INFJs LOVE (but keep hidden)
1:00
ENTERTAINMENT #1
Shutting down our
mind and enjoying
others' energy
4:03
ENTERTAINMENT #2
Predicting outcomes
6:21
ENTERTAINMENT #3
Analyzing people's
relationship dynamics
10:26
ENTERTAINMENT #4
Finding Shortcuts
14:05
ENTERTAINMENT #5
"Glowing up" others
Oh great now I don't have to watch the video🙄 jk I've been that guy before.
@@2QAYL1138 😃😃😃😃😃
Had to smile at predicting outcomes :D Unfortunately I got trangulated by family narcissism pretty much beginning in childhood, and a hoover/discard pattern all through adulthood before the final "purge," (they just wouldn't let me go peacefully, and felt like a prisoner on house arrest while with them). I literally called out there every motivation, step, goal in the process; even predicting where they were going to live based on vacation areas, and this was like a decade before it eventually transpired. Trust your third eye, in the Infj. We aren't necessarily psychics, I think we are incredibly smart, great at gathering information/seeing patterns/puzzles, and strong extroverted feeling gives us the ability to make people transparent. There are fun aspects to being this personality type !?!??!
As a Sigma INFJ it is something that you can't just put down in words, we think that we are small but our shadow shows so much more. Being untouchable and unpredictable is a good treat if you really know that you understand it. To me personally a definition of a personality isn't the fun part, we strife for the unsolved puzzle. We are only complete when we start to know our own strength and limitations. If you have seen Batman how he grows up to become who he is it isn't the ending that speaks everything but it's the struggle through the whole process. From start to finish is the key to success but learning the ropes of how to deal with the process is what counts.
When you said that we enjoy analysing other peoples dynamics i burs out in laughter coz that is precise. :D :D :D
My joy is in the fact that I have a mysterious knowledge that I am of the truth and the darkness hates me 🎉👏✨🤗
Same 🙌🏻✨
I feel same
How true!
I wont invest my unnecessary empath towards other without any benefit 😂 lesson learned
I keep my rave life hidden because, its like entering a whole new world. The vibes are amazing. I can be whoever I want to be, and its all good. Im not judged for my weirdness and its awesome.
Wooop wooop 🎶
It’s like you’re reading my mind with each video, thank you! I like what I call “mindless art” - and is starting an artist project or session without an actual defined “goal” and see what happens. For example, in the last few days I’ve been doing some abstract paintings 🧑🏻🎨 🖼️ and generally I have no idea 🎨🤷🏻 what is it that I’m painting until I’ve been at it for a while… the I can see all the stuff tumbling in my head 😵💫🫨😑😵💫in front of me. It’s super therapeutic - sometimes I do something similar playing musical 🎶 instruments or writing ✍🏼 - sometimes I go ohh 😲 other times I go oh 😑 often I go uuuhhh 😳 🫢🫨🫠🥳 - highly recommended!
Nailed it.
The one were you said you just want to lean off someone else's energy. This is what I want to do when I go on vacation. I am so everyday making decisions I want to just let someone else take over all the thinking.
many time I make somebody glow n shine. but then they mashed it up, screwed it up. so I let them, go my own way, and find somebody else, and the process repeat. but I think I enjoyed it
Oh, my goodness! I’m a retired jury consultant - a pretty good one if you ask me :D Who knew it was entertainment #2!!
*Efficiency and Being in Someone Else's Wheelhouse* . If I can figure out a more efficient way to do something, I will. I love to enjoy someone else being the planner/host, I get to live in the moment and perhaps learn something new.
#4 Optimizing describes where I've gotten to in my current job. I've done all I can for what I do and have been finding it harder and harder to be motivated in the least. It confuses me how others there do not understand why a bigger paycheck isn't enough incentive for me to work more hours, especially since the only things I can see remaining to be optimized are team-oriented and too many are unwilling to do anything about it.
So I've had to accept there's nothing left there for me and it's time to move on.
We analyze it and come up with a conclusion but at times, I wake up in the morning and a different concept, a different viewpoint pops in my head. Helps me to look at it from another angle. Yes, we do like shortcuts for optimization, but that would suggest that we know what we want.
I feel so called out 😂
I wasn’t expecting that 😊
#4 is both entertainment and necessity for me. As an INFJ with ADHD and lower energy from health issues, I /have/ to optimize and find shortcuts or else things like cleaning the bathroom or paying bills on time won't consistently happen. One of those things still doesn't (I haven't given up on it, I'm still testing some ideas).
I at times like disturbing the mental mind of a person to the point where they have no choice but to speak positivity about themselves or of the situation it's awesome and they're like yeah I told you it's amazing how a person and pointing out the things that are usually not pointed out and it gives them a whole new way of thinking cultivating expanding and excavating their own mentality and it's just you should have done that a long time ago
You're just describing me!!
Getting in others mind that are thinking of me gives me headache
... I did every single one of those today !! LOL It really helps to understand how to separate the fun from function in our behaviors. Super helpful and interesting thank you Wenzes and thank you INFJs for being epic :)
I feel like you are showing by dirty laundry. The downside is predicting disaster. I can see that coming also, and I can get very depressed.
Agree with most of all those things. I do most except analyzing relationships as "between persons" I like analyze relations been things, I like to analyze others but not their relations maybe I feel it is very invasive even no one will never knows, may be I will start now XD
Thank you , Wenzes for this one!
Super helpful as always! Thank you Wenze❤❤❤❤
Doing these things are like breathing for me. I wouldn't categorize them as "entertainment" - is breathing entertainment?
The fun side of INFJ!
People criticised me for being more interested in fictional characters than people so l took up pipe smoking and named them all and gave them an origin story etc.
And the smoke keeps non groovy people away 😂
Hey, what is the INFJ boot camp basically? Is it online,in person, how to get in......?
No bad faith or competitions. We wont hurt anyone. Ok?
Ok. Give me a then so we can talk in code secretly to drive people mad. As friends.
Describes me so well!!!!!
I am thinking what how to make money without being famous keeping my private peace life introvert thing in social media. I dont wanna bw famous.i dont want deep connection with anyone but i wanna earn money 😂😂is it possible ?
Let me go and enjoy their energy but i always choose unhealthy infj may be😂 am i healthy or unhealthy infj ?.i have my own priorities happiness i dont judge anyone but i hate jealous attitude proudy bullying intentiins towards me or i just overthink abt their action n words towards me if my intentiin towards anyone i meet is pure positive but my talking way dressup n broadminded dont match my energy coz i am living n enjoying mom life rather than fren pleasing or proving anything anyone .i dont have exactly any intention towards other pplwatever i wear i do bcoz thats true .why do i have to act like u guys act ? What will i get ? My inner thoughts😂
here im hoping Wenzes will say things Im not agreeing, always ended up agreeing anyway....😂 why infj always ended up similar.
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Jobs aren't for fun. They're for survival, people can't afford to just say Adios to go chase dreams. That's not realistic.
Right? I'll just startaming RUclips videos and hope I get 500k followers in the first month lol
There are ways jobs can be made fun and mean more than just survival. I'm an INFJ and I've devoted my life to showing people how. If you are interested, My channel talks about ways people can make even the worst job more meaningful and enjoyable.
@@TheHappyGroup already been there and done that with countless jobs. If u have shitty painful agonizing job and you're an INFJ and already tried all the options it is what it is.
@@TheHappyGroup why r u on other ppls channels trying to recruit ppl??
@@TheHappyGroup how old are you btw?
I'm an iNFJ and none of your types of entertainment entertain me. smh.
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