I am jealous of my dog. He gets way more attention from women who want to rub his floppy ears while bending over for him. Then they say "cute dog" or some other nonsense to boost his already inflated ego at my expense. He can urinate in public not problem and social distancing? Ha they come right up to him on a knee bow down to my bowser. I hate my dog truth be known.
You are really good! I resonate to everything ive seen in your videos so far. But THIS ONE??! OMG. This is such an eye opener!! I used to be envious of exactly what you were 🤷🏽♀️
I’m jealous of how my extroverted friend is able to engage and create better experiences with people than myself. Being introverted, I wish I could experience the level of interaction and energy that my friend feels. It’s hard to let go. I think that’s why I chose to go to the same University as him unknowingly to be able to experience his life and dim my energy. Now is the time for me to live my own energy because what I experience through my friend is actually within me. I have the potential to be interactive and engaging, because I already know how it feels like through my friend? Thanks for helping me realize this.
This one hit home. I think INJFs are the biggest fans anyone could ever have. We aren't fans of everyone of course but when we find a person that we admire for their skills and how they seemingly fill their lives up with something they love and do, we really get turned on by that and want to be part of it in some way. If its a celebrity like a musician we buy all their music and read and watch everything possible about them. If its a friend or colleague, we do exactly like you described, we make ourselves small and fill up on them and whatever it is they do or are interested in. We fanboy or fangirl. But this eventually takes its toll on us. I think maybe the majority of the friendships I have ever had have been lopsided like this. I am resolved to not do this again. I will fill up my own space from now on! Thanks Wenzes!
This is so true for me - and especially was in the several years after my brother died. I was so envious of other people’s ability to still enjoy their lives, when I felt like my ability to experience joy was gone. It took a long time to work through all of that, but I’m happy to say I’ve found joy in life again :)
You’ve topped yourself! Excellent topic, well presented. Jealousy - most significant thought of an INFJ. As you say, not of others or what they have. Unfortunately it takes a life time for an INFJ to figure this out. We’ve always been someone else. Your video will help a lot of INFJs to reach that conclusion quicker with less emotional pain. ThankU.
This is BRILLIANT! One of the things I noticed throughout the years, I have seen so many people be envious or jealous and yet l never have had those feelings. I’m always like “good for them! It’s awesome they are happy.” But, our “jealousy” is abstract. It’s not about another person, it’s about a lifestyle or a feeling we are chasing. I love how our minds work ❤️
I kept feeling envy towards others because I kept feeling like I lacked most things. I had to seal it under my face to not hurt others. Strangely, you can feel empathetic for someone who you envy. Emotions are complex. I have started to acknowledge what I have in myself slowly.
Im so glad you posted this bc i used to obsess over a lot of female celebrities while pretending i hated them when in reality i was jealous and couldnt see how i cld live "that life". And ive done it by comparing myself to others on social media as well. ive fallen for guys who wield some kind of power or influence. All the while wishing i had that kind of power and influence and willing to be some kind of side kick. I still backslide on the obsession on social media and female celebs but this vid has gjven me some clarity. I can define my own life and path and embody the energy i want to experience. You're injf genius, Wenzes.🙏🏽
Thats funny you mentioned your INFP bestie. Mine was an INFP also. She was actually trying to convince me (years ago when we took the test) that I was really not an INFJ, and that I was more like her (we had so many other things in common and at the time it made sense. There was a point where I changed that perspective and chose to learn and love me and who I am, as strange as people made me out to be (quirky aquarian, #9, INFJ) I accepted and loved all of those parts of myself. Im so happy where I am today. Not concerned about judgements or my relationships needing to be what others wanted out of me. I love me more. Thats my story and from now on it always will be ❤
I watch this video practically every day since I found it, and I identify with every word. I'm an INFJ man and certain things that never made sense suddenly did. Thanks!
He's assertive without having to be confrontational he's kind fearless but is afraid of being boring which is crazy because he made his life super exciting for himself all by himself his parents were super strict much like mine even guys are drooling over him to be sincere with you as an INFJ I still envy him
Hey, dropping into comments to say that I've been enjoying your videos - it feels SO GOOD to have situations described in terms I can truly follow as an INFJ!
I'm happy for other people and don't do jealous or happy. I am bitter that I have had such a difficult life and worked hard and due to invalidating delusional superficial people, it's assumed I havent worked hard to get it
So true. I recognize this pattern in myself a long time ago, mostly in dating or in the choices of that, but since recognizing that I usually got to the stopping point and just stopped with the thoughts or pursuing of anything, And then recognizing just as you said but I need to grow for me and myself, and that even though this may be a process that's part of the fun of experiences just to focus on that and grow, and thanks love the videos are always so helpful in reinforcing these things.
I remember as a young girl , i heard about envy so that i adopted envy towards a person and felt horrible, i didnt like the feeling so i taught myself to not feel that kind of feeling towards anyone and happy to say it was the first and last envious feeling i had...i felt grateful to overcome it...iwhat a terrible feeling...it could have triggered the dark side of me i felt...
Wow. You just explained my whole!! Childhood.. With the Jealousy thing. I was bullied badly as a teenager. Placed survival fear into my body that I am still sometimes having to deal with. Its been the main reason that I self sabotage my accomplishments because I am fearful of the attention from others and that females! Would pick one me again.
What have I caught myself being envious/jealous of ? Earlier in life, I had been jealous of folks who had plenty of money saved up for "rainy days" and such. I became tired of either doing without, or borrowing from others. So, instead of "hating that guy, I became that guy" and began doing what they did in order to get to where they are at. No since in being jealous being that they exhibited capabilities. If they can do it, so can I, and I did.
This was spot on, I’ve been struggling with this for the past few years and you were able to put my experiences/thoughts into words. Thank you! I’m working on bettering myself, walking my own path without minimizing myself and living through another person!
Also his curls I wish I was Capricorn and not Aquarius but we share something in common loyalty to family and friends under tough exterior warm interior we're both basically survivors and we both thrive off it
Now I'm questioning if I'm infj because I've never felt jealous of anyone or anything. I just admire certain qualities of people but never wish I'd be that instead of them. If I believe that thing will be useful for my life, I approach the person and ask how they do it.
Thank you for this, I can relate to it so so much! I did this especially in romantic relationships, I always chose a partner who were extraordinary in some particular profession or skill. Also with narcissistic tendencies. I just realized this lately and now I'm going through a transformation where I realize in order to be fulfilled I have to tap into my own power instead of trying to living on others and make myself feel less because I idealize them. I didn't know that I'm an infj-a and recently at age 30 doing some research and so so many things started making sense. Your channel helps me a lot, thank you and so great that you did the work and tapped into your most authentic self. Keep up with the great content ☺️🤩
Hey Wenzes! Really loving your channel. It's bang on! Where can I find out more information about your programme & coaching please? Thank you for all your hard work - it's much appreciated ☺️.
And I felt like most times I got bullied, because the bully would pride themselves on being normal shamed me for not figuring normal out like them and so they had to make an example of me
I would feel, when others felt awkward being seen with me in public. So being quiet, was the best thing to do, to not embarrass them to protect their image
I'm never envious of anybody because being envious is somebody means they have something that you want if they have something you want that means you have to settle for their life as well for that one thing and I'm good because what's that magic saying if you seek he who seek he shall find I find all kinds of stuff made an Empire lost the empire managed to sink Empires to their knees in an afternoon but I pressed the little thing down at the end of your video where it says it's highlighted like a button and it takes me to other people I don't like that I think out of everyone you're the most on top of the situation than anybody I've ever come across😄😄😒 only thing I ever got jealous or Envy over it's love it's one of the few things I've experienced a lot is love or unconditional love two things that aren't easily found but are hand in hand
I feel envy I guess in the moment. But if a woman makes me feel that way, she'll never see me again. I wish everyone the best. If someone is wealthy then good for them.
That is how I am about Cardi B I would love to meet her. I love her I am happy for her however I'm not jealous of her I dont feel that towards her I see what she is accomplishing and I am happy for her I'm excited for her
When I hear you say " fe" I keep thinking "why is she referring to the molecular abbreviation for iron?" 😅 On a serious note, I've been going through this at work. The growing pains are pretty bad. Thank you for explaining this.👍
As you know everyday is can't be good day but you know we are still learning how to live an epic life and sometimes what we think (event) doesn't go as plan but as an infj we are still wants to make a perfect in everything we do so if this happens to us then we stuck in a point and this causes anxiety how to deal with this and situation if happens?
I can identify so much with this.. lol.. but I think many people that I "envy" definetely have narcissistic traits..can you explain this to me? I also sometimes experience that as having a crush on someone..There is so much more to say on this topic and I would really like a second video! Oh And it happes a lot with esfps, isfps, enfps..heelp
There are some people, I have been with such person, who are mentally challenging. They come to you with the tale I'm so misarable, everything I begin ends badly, help me to thrive, but the truth is this people resist your help and that kind of people make me feel envy, but that's the axact thing. They don't know how you feel, just like you don't know how the other person thinks about a sertain situation. So it's easy to fall into envy and anger, but don't do it. There are people you ment to be with, there are people who arn't. You don't have to fall into a big drama to understand that this, this or this person is not for you, close the door till the moment is right.
Wenzes, Does that mean that our absorbation of emotions won't be strong as before? If yes, I seek for inspiration and something that would impact so I feel I'm feeling , people emotions and their way of life inspire me
i know that nobody in an infantile arrested development totalitarian state like the one we live in is ever really happy, much less fulfilled. That said, I still get a little jealous/envious from time to time but I just let it go and say "God bless him/her." Nobody in a society of greed and selfishness can ever express their "true self" because it hasn't even developed. There is no joy in a society like this nor is there any real living. Miserable, frustrated, desperately unhappy infants. I've lived a long time. I'm more or less fully developed.
@@Wenzes I'm not "unfulfilled" nor do I need a conventional "fulfillment." I already stepped out of imposed restrictions. I visited Europe a long time ago and woke up. I am fully developed yet always update my "software." The people around me don't know what they need to be happy and they won't find it until they wake and grow up.
In this I dont. Or maybe subconsciously I derail the situation. I feel emotions with other people. If they are happy, sad or angry. My reaction to it may not match theirs. For instance my friend purchased and new pickup. He was thrilled. I wasn't, however I tried to appear to be. He did it at the worst possible time in his life. He will pay more for it than his house. Assuming he manages to keep eather one. For the most part Americans live a lie. The image they present is false. Both to themselves and others. When they say. " Look at me, I'm important and Successful" I know what means the vast majority of the time. " I'm in debt for the rest of my life. I own and have payed for none of this crap" No jealousy or envy.
What have you caught yourself being envious/jealous of?
All those you see in others you carry in yourself as well👍👍👍
I am jealous of my dog. He gets way more attention from women who want to rub his floppy ears while bending over for him. Then they say "cute dog" or some other nonsense to boost his already inflated ego at my expense. He can urinate in public not problem and social distancing? Ha they come right up to him on a knee bow down to my bowser. I hate my dog truth be known.
You are really good! I resonate to everything ive seen in your videos so far. But THIS ONE??!
OMG. This is such an eye opener!!
I used to be envious of exactly what you were 🤷🏽♀️
😉👍
I’m jealous of how my extroverted friend is able to engage and create better experiences with people than myself. Being introverted, I wish I could experience the level of interaction and energy that my friend feels. It’s hard to let go. I think that’s why I chose to go to the same University as him unknowingly to be able to experience his life and dim my energy. Now is the time for me to live my own energy because what I experience through my friend is actually within me. I have the potential to be interactive and engaging, because I already know how it feels like through my friend? Thanks for helping me realize this.
I don't find myself ever being envious or jealous. If I ever do (don't recall) it's so short and brief to be of any significance. (100% INFJ-A)
@Grimlock Arts,same here.
Fellow INFJ-A
Same here. I dont get the point of being envious - i think it should be, be happy for others and work on urself
This one hit home. I think INJFs are the biggest fans anyone could ever have. We aren't fans of everyone of course but when we find a person that we admire for their skills and how they seemingly fill their lives up with something they love and do, we really get turned on by that and want to be part of it in some way. If its a celebrity like a musician we buy all their music and read and watch everything possible about them. If its a friend or colleague, we do exactly like you described, we make ourselves small and fill up on them and whatever it is they do or are interested in. We fanboy or fangirl. But this eventually takes its toll on us. I think maybe the majority of the friendships I have ever had have been lopsided like this. I am resolved to not do this again. I will fill up my own space from now on! Thanks Wenzes!
This is so true for me - and especially was in the several years after my brother died. I was so envious of other people’s ability to still enjoy their lives, when I felt like my ability to experience joy was gone. It took a long time to work through all of that, but I’m happy to say I’ve found joy in life again :)
You’ve topped yourself! Excellent topic, well presented. Jealousy - most significant thought of an INFJ. As you say, not of others or what they have. Unfortunately it takes a life time for an INFJ to figure this out. We’ve always been someone else. Your video will help a lot of INFJs to reach that conclusion quicker with less emotional pain. ThankU.
This is BRILLIANT! One of the things I noticed throughout the years, I have seen so many people be envious or jealous and yet l never have had those feelings. I’m always like “good for them! It’s awesome they are happy.” But, our “jealousy” is abstract. It’s not about another person, it’s about a lifestyle or a feeling we are chasing. I love how our minds work ❤️
I kept feeling envy towards others because I kept feeling like I lacked most things. I had to seal it under my face to not hurt others. Strangely, you can feel empathetic for someone who you envy. Emotions are complex. I have started to acknowledge what I have in myself slowly.
Im so glad you posted this bc i used to obsess over a lot of female celebrities while pretending i hated them when in reality i was jealous and couldnt see how i cld live "that life". And ive done it by comparing myself to others on social media as well. ive fallen for guys who wield some kind of power or influence. All the while wishing i had that kind of power and influence and willing to be some kind of side kick. I still backslide on the obsession on social media and female celebs but this vid has gjven me some clarity. I can define my own life and path and embody the energy i want to experience. You're injf genius, Wenzes.🙏🏽
😀...glad it was helpful 😊
Thats funny you mentioned your INFP bestie. Mine was an INFP also. She was actually trying to convince me (years ago when we took the test) that I was really not an INFJ, and that I was more like her (we had so many other things in common and at the time it made sense. There was a point where I changed that perspective and chose to learn and love me and who I am, as strange as people made me out to be (quirky aquarian, #9, INFJ) I accepted and loved all of those parts of myself. Im so happy where I am today. Not concerned about judgements or my relationships needing to be what others wanted out of me. I love me more. Thats my story and from now on it always will be ❤
I watch this video practically every day since I found it, and I identify with every word. I'm an INFJ man and certain things that never made sense suddenly did. Thanks!
He's assertive without having to be confrontational he's kind fearless but is afraid of being boring which is crazy because he made his life super exciting for himself all by himself his parents were super strict much like mine even guys are drooling over him to be sincere with you as an INFJ I still envy him
Hey, dropping into comments to say that I've been enjoying your videos - it feels SO GOOD to have situations described in terms I can truly follow as an INFJ!
Happy they are helpful 😊
I'm happy for other people and don't do jealous or happy. I am bitter that I have had such a difficult life and worked hard and due to invalidating delusional superficial people, it's assumed I havent worked hard to get it
So true. I recognize this pattern in myself a long time ago, mostly in dating or in the choices of that, but since recognizing that I usually got to the stopping point and just stopped with the thoughts or pursuing of anything, And then recognizing just as you said but I need to grow for me and myself, and that even though this may be a process that's part of the fun of experiences just to focus on that and grow, and thanks love the videos are always so helpful in reinforcing these things.
Glad the videos are helpful 😊
great video, it is all true, I now have to go and reflect on my envy
I remember as a young girl , i heard about envy so that i adopted envy towards a person and felt horrible, i didnt like the feeling so i taught myself to not feel that kind of feeling towards anyone and happy to say it was the first and last envious feeling i had...i felt grateful to overcome it...iwhat a terrible feeling...it could have triggered the dark side of me i felt...
Wow. You just explained my whole!! Childhood.. With the Jealousy thing. I was bullied badly as a teenager. Placed survival fear into my body that I am still sometimes having to deal with. Its been the main reason that I self sabotage my accomplishments because I am fearful of the attention from others and that females! Would pick one me again.
What have I caught myself being envious/jealous of ? Earlier in life, I had been jealous of folks who had plenty of money saved up for "rainy days" and such. I became tired of either doing without, or borrowing from others. So, instead of "hating that guy, I became that guy" and began doing what they did in order to get to where they are at. No since in being jealous being that they exhibited capabilities. If they can do it, so can I, and I did.
👏👏👍
Hey, Mr. Goodwrench! I like that!
Ngaaw Maann!...he got the goodwrench!. Ratchettt... 👈😆🙋
I envy one male celebrity he's good looking super charismatic and shares his accomplishments with other people easily
This was spot on, I’ve been struggling with this for the past few years and you were able to put my experiences/thoughts into words. Thank you! I’m working on bettering myself, walking my own path without minimizing myself and living through another person!
Great self awareness and precise explanation ma'am
Also his curls I wish I was Capricorn and not Aquarius but we share something in common loyalty to family and friends under tough exterior warm interior we're both basically survivors and we both thrive off it
Jealousy is when you care for someone and want him or her to be happy with you envy is wanting someone's career looks or "perfect" lifestyle
Now I'm questioning if I'm infj because I've never felt jealous of anyone or anything. I just admire certain qualities of people but never wish I'd be that instead of them. If I believe that thing will be useful for my life, I approach the person and ask how they do it.
You're a healthy INFJ. 🥰
No we don't or even can't get jealous ...
Thank you so much ...
You are very intelligent person, thanks for helping us I didn't understand why I feel so much jealous
Thank you for this, I can relate to it so so much! I did this especially in romantic relationships, I always chose a partner who were extraordinary in some particular profession or skill. Also with narcissistic tendencies. I just realized this lately and now I'm going through a transformation where I realize in order to be fulfilled I have to tap into my own power instead of trying to living on others and make myself feel less because I idealize them. I didn't know that I'm an infj-a and recently at age 30 doing some research and so so many things started making sense. Your channel helps me a lot, thank you and so great that you did the work and tapped into your most authentic self. Keep up with the great content ☺️🤩
Hey Wenzes! Really loving your channel. It's bang on! Where can I find out more information about your programme & coaching please? Thank you for all your hard work - it's much appreciated ☺️.
Hey G G, you find all the information on my website www.wenzes.com 😊👍
@@Wenzes thank you 💜
I would get jealous about how others can be so normal, and why i always felt so alien
Why it was so easy for them, to be so normal and I was hated for my gifts and how that made me stand out
I didn't always feel like a unicorn, I felt ostracized for being so different from other people even if we came from the same community
And I felt like most times I got bullied, because the bully would pride themselves on being normal shamed me for not figuring normal out like them and so they had to make an example of me
So rebelling and doing the things, people would try to talk me out of forced me to feel proud of myself for no reason
I would feel, when others felt awkward being seen with me in public. So being quiet, was the best thing to do, to not embarrass them to protect their image
Fantastic video!!! This has been my favourite so far of yours, great insight and inspirational growth mindset!!
Solid 👊.
Insightful point
I'm never envious of anybody because being envious is somebody means they have something that you want if they have something you want that means you have to settle for their life as well for that one thing and I'm good because what's that magic saying if you seek he who seek he shall find I find all kinds of stuff made an Empire lost the empire managed to sink Empires to their knees in an afternoon but I pressed the little thing down at the end of your video where it says it's highlighted like a button and it takes me to other people I don't like that I think out of everyone you're the most on top of the situation than anybody I've ever come across😄😄😒 only thing I ever got jealous or Envy over it's love it's one of the few things I've experienced a lot is love or unconditional love two things that aren't easily found but are hand in hand
Bingo 🎯💯👍🏾
Amazing video Wenzes, thanks
I feel envy I guess in the moment. But if a woman makes me feel that way, she'll never see me again. I wish everyone the best. If someone is wealthy then good for them.
I felt all these same ,at a same level
That is how I am about Cardi B I would love to meet her. I love her I am happy for her however I'm not jealous of her I dont feel that towards her I see what she is accomplishing and I am happy for her I'm excited for her
😊👍
When I hear you say " fe" I keep thinking "why is she referring to the molecular abbreviation for iron?" 😅
On a serious note, I've been going through this at work. The growing pains are pretty bad. Thank you for explaining this.👍
Wenzes...little Kim though?Not that would be an interesting thumbnail😁
I'm with you on Mary J though lol
This is very very true !
As you know everyday is can't be good day but you know we are still learning how to live an epic life and sometimes what we think (event) doesn't go as plan but as an infj we are still wants to make a perfect in everything we do so if this happens to us then we stuck in a point and this causes anxiety how to deal with this and situation if happens?
Thank you for another video :)
Love the Lil Kim reference. She was our Cardi B young ppl
Thank you wenzes for this video✨
yup yup you got it
😀👍
🤯On target 🤯
Needed this. ✨🌟✨
I can identify so much with this.. lol.. but I think many people that I "envy" definetely have narcissistic traits..can you explain this to me? I also sometimes experience that as having a crush on someone..There is so much more to say on this topic and I would really like a second video! Oh And it happes a lot with esfps, isfps, enfps..heelp
There are some people, I have been with such person, who are mentally challenging. They come to you with the tale I'm so misarable, everything I begin ends badly, help me to thrive, but the truth is this people resist your help and that kind of people make me feel envy, but that's the axact thing. They don't know how you feel, just like you don't know how the other person thinks about a sertain situation. So it's easy to fall into envy and anger, but don't do it. There are people you ment to be with, there are people who arn't. You don't have to fall into a big drama to understand that this, this or this person is not for you, close the door till the moment is right.
ENFJ gaslightning you? *looks at the enfj in my life* "bro, we gotta talk!"
Haha 😉
My husband is a ENFJ and he does gaslight me a lot!
Not the jelous type...true. Te trickster
What do you do when you no ther cheats and they lie about it make me feel guilty
Good afternoon 😊 Gorgeous 😍 😘 💕 ✨ ❤ 💖I love ur videos 📹
HI Wenzes,,,,may i chat with you
Wenzes,
Does that mean that our absorbation of emotions won't be strong as before?
If yes, I seek for inspiration and something that would impact so I feel I'm feeling , people emotions and their way of life inspire me
Not the case at all. I'm not delusional or crazy. It's not envy
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Just because I have a strong admiration for Elizabeth Warren, doesn't mean I'm jealous enough to become a gungho politician.
Yea I will read up on her policies and resolutions but not become her
How did you fill up your space with your energy?
i know that nobody in an infantile arrested development totalitarian state like the one we live in is ever really happy, much less fulfilled. That said, I still get a little jealous/envious from time to time but I just let it go and say "God bless him/her." Nobody in a society of greed and selfishness can ever express their "true self" because it hasn't even developed. There is no joy in a society like this nor is there any real living. Miserable, frustrated, desperately unhappy infants. I've lived a long time. I'm more or less fully developed.
I totally believe you can be fulfilled once you step out of self imposed restrictions...there is always room to ‚develope more‘
@@Wenzes I'm not "unfulfilled" nor do I need a conventional "fulfillment." I already stepped out of imposed restrictions. I visited Europe a long time ago and woke up. I am fully developed yet always update my "software." The people around me don't know what they need to be happy and they won't find it until they wake and grow up.
💙
i love your videos so much but their are too long
LOL, politician and authentic, there is an oxymoron.
No Infj are not jealous. People want them or perceive to be jealous bcoz they want to gain the Infj attention.
In this I dont. Or maybe subconsciously I derail the situation.
I feel emotions with other people. If they are happy, sad or angry. My reaction to it may not match theirs.
For instance my friend purchased and new pickup. He was thrilled.
I wasn't, however I tried to appear to be.
He did it at the worst possible time in his life. He will pay more for it than his house. Assuming he manages to keep eather one.
For the most part Americans live a lie. The image they present is false. Both to themselves and others. When they say. " Look at me, I'm important and Successful" I know what means the vast majority of the time.
" I'm in debt for the rest of my life. I own and have payed for none of this crap"
No jealousy or envy.
I am a mature INFJ. This doesn't apply to me. I have NEVER been envious of anyone's life. I'm happy when others are happy.