With regards to it being Guru-centric vs. couple centric, another observation I've made is the matching of the bride and groom's sides' outfits and special entrances for each group vs. sitting in Sangat during Kirtan and being reseated in front of Guru Sahib when appropriate.
could we get a video on sikh engagements for couples who would like to follow maryada and at the same time, maintain a simple wedding? btw, you're doing great!!!
I stopped watching this video when you mentioned not allowing interfaith marriage. This is goes against my interpretation of Sikhism. I believe that your interpretation of this is outdated and is incorrect. Sikhism values love for all, selfless service, humility, compassion, equality and justice for all. You saying this goes against those beliefs and practices. You do not have the right to tell people to only have a Sikh wedding if you practice in the way that you DO! Get off your high horse. So much for being an educational video, you are sharing and spreading false information. Shame on you.
Yes, I agree. In fact it goes totally against Guru Nanak's teachings, who himself said, 'There is no Hindu, there is no Muslim, there is only God'. Was Mata Sulakhni a Sikh when she married? The real answer is it does not matter, because to understand Sikhism is to understand the universality of the Guru and the eternal source and that we all exist in its presence whether we are aware of it or not. To turn someone away from the Gurudwara and Anand Karaj because they are not 'proper Sikhs' or do not fit an arbitrary set of rules (who is and is not a Sikh? Only those who have taken amrit? What about those just born Punjabis but with no connection to the Guru's teachings?) goes entirely against the teachings of the Gurus.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense! Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
litteraly a rule lmfao. written and been practiced and always will be practiced. you saying sikhism already shows me how much you know about "SIKHI". sikhi doesnt mold to your standards and how you precieve it. you do not have the right to tell sikhs how they should practice their religion. what u listed as sikh values sure those are things that sikhs value but what does that have to do with the anand karaj.
Bhenjee, the video was amazing. The spiritual connotation of Anand Karaj has faded away from our community only due to paucity of appropriate and requisite 'parchaar'. With the grace of Guru sahib, I myself am an Amritdhari. I am 20 years of age, and a little confused when it comes to makeup. I am not crazy about it neither do I make it a regular routine, but somedays I put on a lip cream or an eyeliner. I see Amritdhari women of our faith putting on Henna and makeup and being perfectly open about it on social media. I'd be grateful if u elucidate a little about it. Much Love and Chardikala. Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh 🙏🏻💕
Thank you, Balvinder Kaur. I wish I could give you a clear yes or no answer to this question, but I think this is something that most women have to find their own answer to. I personally believe that it’s most important for us to focus on our relationship with our guru and also our relationship with our own bodies. We as women have a lot of insecurities that arise from the society we live in and makeup is one way many women deal with some of those insecurities. Do what you are comfortable with, but don’t forget that the maintaining the 5 kakaars and staying away from the 4 bajjar kurehats (hair removal, eating meat, using recreational drugs, and pre/extra marital affairs) are nonnegotiable rules a Sikh must follow. I hope this helps in some way. 🌸
Omg. Just exactly what I needed to come across. Thank you so much bhenji. I’m going to have Anand karaj in few weeks time & I really needed some guidance. 🙏
How is a garland of flower or a cloth as a palla even change the meaning to the ceremony? Why does it matter if its a clothing or a garland of flower when the intention is the same and causing no harm to anyone? If its one's preference to have flowers instead of the conventional cloth, how is that person wrong? Shouldn't that person have rights and wishes to plan their own wedding ceremony, keeping in mind the intention is still the same.
Hi Navdeep. Thanks for putting this video out there. Though I agree with several of ur points, I strongly disagree on your first point of Gurudawara marriage should only be restricted to sikh. If u believe that then I guess u haven't understood the key learning of Sikhism and Guruji.. but instead fallen pray to haumai and people's biases of what Sikhism should be.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense! Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
Nice video. To be honest during my Anand Karaj I was too focused on myself (focused on my lengha, jewelry, on how I looked etc) that I missed out on all the hymns and hukamnama. I’m looking forward to getting the film so I can watch the shabads properly. The Anand Karaj is the only part of my wedding week I wish I can re-live.
Thank u for this video. I am American and I am Gursikh my fiancé is Punjabi and he is also Gursikh we both have taken Amrit. I am trying to make his Mom understand that we would only have a Gursikh marriage and I do not want to have any of the Punjabi or Hindu traditions in our wedding simply because I respect all of our Gurus and I am not a confused Sikh. She loves me very much and respects my decision but she is sad that I won’t have the henna painted on my hands and feet or have any nose pins or jewelry or sindoor on me. She is also Sikh but not an Amritdhari so she still follows Punjabi and or Hindi traditions. I have nothing against it but I do not follow these traditions. I only follow Gursikh traditions. Again thank u for ur video u explained everything very well.🙏🏽
I feel frustrated when I hear people say that the ceremony of Anand Karaj within interfaith marriage is not accepted in gurdwaras. My mother is Punjabi Sikh and my dad is white caucasian antheist however my brothers and I were raised by our nanima also punjabi Sikh. And its Sikhs with these opinions which made my parents marriage much more difficult . Guru Nanak states we are all one so in this modern world why are we not embracing this message?????? So many young Sikhs from a two Sikh parent household getting married nowadays can’t even speak punjabi and don’t even understand the kirtan or Shabads they listen too. How is that any different to being of another faith as long as they respect Guruji. As Guruji states you can dress in religious robes but it does not make you a religious person. What you are saying is not taught anywhere just purely made up
In a nutshell, keep everything sober, solemn, simple, respectful, MODEST, HUMBLE. Practice HUMILITY. HUMILITY IS FORGOTTEN IN SIKH WEDDINGS. Everything does not have to be grandiose. Bragging and flaunting and showing off only results negativity and materialism. And I am sure no one wants to start off their lives with negativity. Brides and Grooms need to understand that they are there to make a solemn declaration of merging their lives together with GURU SAHIB as their witness, seek GURU SAHIB blessing and unit both families to become one. All this vanity, grandiosity, public-displays-of-affection is a representation of insecurity, fear, weakness and doubt. Seriously get a grip on reality and come out of your oblivious minds (especially the brides). And AND SAVE YOUR MONEY FOR YOUR FUTURE LIVES. And lastly, BRIDES-TO-BE, please Be mindful of your exposure, respect the sacredness of yourselves. “EVERYTHING” does not have to be on display for the whole world; especially in a religious and solemn setting. Please be mindful of your modesty and dignity. By doing so, you gain positive attention and represent your family members in a noble manner.
Please try to understand what is being said, only a couple who fully accept the Guru and no other are permitted to have an Anand Karaj. This is not just a marriage, it is a spiritual union with the Guru.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense! Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
I don’t agree nor disagree with your last point tbh. I’m also a feminist too and frankly don’t care that I’d be walking behind, however if this really wasn’t such a big deal to people then brides walking ahead would also be no issue. The practise ever so slightly confirms some peoples misogynistic mindsets so it’s not fair to say that people who are fussed about it don’t understand, symbolism can be very important to people’s sentiments. Ofc when you have different views on symbolism you understand it differently, i think at the end of the day you’re not wrong in your point, it doesn’t matter, but that also means it shouldn’t matter if people want to do 2 fere with the groom ahead snd 2 with the bride. After all the main point should be having Guru ji to your side. Apologies if I’ve made any mistakes in what I said, it’s just how I understood your point, which is why again I neither agree nor disagree, I think it’s very nuanced and if the right thing is done (with Guru ji to the side) then it shouldn’t matter if people opt to have the bride ahead too. I also have a question, for some context I do not have the greatest relationship with my father, and I don’t wanna go into much detail (and also do not want a debate about parental values etc or comments like “but he’s your father”, I’m very happy that other people have fathers that were present and non-ab@sive, this was not my experience,) that disclaimer aside, is it absolutely necessary for my dad to be the one to hand me the palla? I suppose this again ties into symbolism, It’s a small part of the day that I can ignore but even thinking about it makes me sad, I believe if the palla for me should be done at all it should be my mum, but preferably I’d like to skip it, is that even possible?
sister, can you share more abt why the palla is not tied and about why the father is the one handing the palla? why can no one assist partners to get up?
Awesome video! With twisting the palla around the hand, I think that's more of an anxiety thing than symbolic. Most of the ladies I know and my wife all said they were terrified of dropping it😂
Yes, interfaith “anand karaj” does happen in many gurdwaras around the world, but according to the Sikh Rehat Maryada, it is not allowed. Many gurdwara sahib committees do not follow maryada and are simply following the money.
@Prem Grewal Its really funny to see monay/clean shaven people talk on sikhi. I mean literally🤣🤣 A person who himself does not follow religion is giving lecture about dos/don'ts. Its like an engineer telling a doctor how to "repair" a patient🤣🤣🤣 All right, jokes apart, there is no term called "interfaith anand karaj". Anand karaj can happen ONLY between 2 sikhs. Come on, bro there are literally thousands of video on RUclips explaining the meaning of anand karaj and rehat maryada. I don't believe in spoonfeeding. Research it yourself. And those gurudwara who do "interfaith anand karaj" are run by greedy coconuts like you
@@TheNavdeepKaur Spoken like a true sikh. Now that's the answer I would expect from a dastaar wearing singhni. More power to you sis! I was a Muslim but converted to sikhi few years back( bcoz islam is trash, no offence anyone). I will also one day take amrit and become a gursikh singh like your husband. I do keep kesh and wear turban and read gurbaani. Proud to be a sikh! Waheguruji ka khalsa Waheguruji ke fateh🙏🙏🙏
@@premgrewal Unfortunately you're right and the fault is of UK gurudwaras who are run by "pseudo sikhs". Such people don't give a fu** about sikhi and care only about money and cheap Bollywood love instead of guruji. But still, it does not mean that such marriages are correct. There are plenty of gurudwaras worldwide who don't allow such disgraceful things. UK sikhs are sleeping maybe
Sikhism is not the centre of my universe but I still got married in a gurdwara so why tell people they can’t have inter faith marriages I think you will find it’s from gurdwara to gurdwara if they perform a mixed inter faith marriage what a silly video
@livleen kaur it’s just a stupid video I’ve literally been to a gurdwara in India and it had all these pellets in one of the side rooms all over the floor I asked my auntie what they were and she said they were lil packets of drugs yep in a temple I’m telling you some of the people who run gurdwaras even in India are corrupt I wouldn’t listen to this garbage too closely it’s basically her interpretation of what she thinks Sikhism is in Canada a gurdwara covered up the death of a Sikh girl in India cos she married who she wanted still both were in the Sikh religion the mom and uncle ordered her killing and they had links with a gurdwara based in Canada good and bad in every culture and it starts from the top
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense! Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
@livleenkaur8355 A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense! Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense! Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense! Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
Comment here and let me know if you learned something new! Or share your own advice, tips, and insights with other viewers here! 😊
With regards to it being Guru-centric vs. couple centric, another observation I've made is the matching of the bride and groom's sides' outfits and special entrances for each group vs. sitting in Sangat during Kirtan and being reseated in front of Guru Sahib when appropriate.
TheNavdeepKaur very nice video naveeep!
could we get a video on sikh engagements for couples who would like to follow maryada and at the same time, maintain a simple wedding? btw, you're doing great!!!
Thanks for the suggestion, @Phavanjit Kaur. Working on the Engagement video this month--hope to have it out by next month! 😀
@@TheNavdeepKaur ਬੇਟਾ ਤੁਸੀ ਠੀਕ ਹੋ 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I stopped watching this video when you mentioned not allowing interfaith marriage. This is goes against my interpretation of Sikhism. I believe that your interpretation of this is outdated and is incorrect. Sikhism values love for all, selfless service, humility, compassion, equality and justice for all. You saying this goes against those beliefs and practices. You do not have the right to tell people to only have a Sikh wedding if you practice in the way that you DO! Get off your high horse. So much for being an educational video, you are sharing and spreading false information. Shame on you.
Yes, I agree. In fact it goes totally against Guru Nanak's teachings, who himself said, 'There is no Hindu, there is no Muslim, there is only God'. Was Mata Sulakhni a Sikh when she married? The real answer is it does not matter, because to understand Sikhism is to understand the universality of the Guru and the eternal source and that we all exist in its presence whether we are aware of it or not. To turn someone away from the Gurudwara and Anand Karaj because they are not 'proper Sikhs' or do not fit an arbitrary set of rules (who is and is not a Sikh? Only those who have taken amrit? What about those just born Punjabis but with no connection to the Guru's teachings?) goes entirely against the teachings of the Gurus.
I dont feel sorry that the truth doesnt hold up to your “updated” interpretation of sikhism.
Sikhism cant be molded to suit your whims and fancies.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense!
Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
litteraly a rule lmfao. written and been practiced and always will be practiced. you saying sikhism already shows me how much you know about "SIKHI". sikhi doesnt mold to your standards and how you precieve it. you do not have the right to tell sikhs how they should practice their religion. what u listed as sikh values sure those are things that sikhs value but what does that have to do with the anand karaj.
Bhenjee, the video was amazing. The spiritual connotation of Anand Karaj has faded away from our community only due to paucity of appropriate and requisite 'parchaar'. With the grace of Guru sahib, I myself am an Amritdhari. I am 20 years of age, and a little confused when it comes to makeup. I am not crazy about it neither do I make it a regular routine, but somedays I put on a lip cream or an eyeliner. I see Amritdhari women of our faith putting on Henna and makeup and being perfectly open about it on social media. I'd be grateful if u elucidate a little about it. Much Love and Chardikala. Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh 🙏🏻💕
Thank you, Balvinder Kaur. I wish I could give you a clear yes or no answer to this question, but I think this is something that most women have to find their own answer to. I personally believe that it’s most important for us to focus on our relationship with our guru and also our relationship with our own bodies. We as women have a lot of insecurities that arise from the society we live in and makeup is one way many women deal with some of those insecurities.
Do what you are comfortable with, but don’t forget that the maintaining the 5 kakaars and staying away from the 4 bajjar kurehats (hair removal, eating meat, using recreational drugs, and pre/extra marital affairs) are nonnegotiable rules a Sikh must follow.
I hope this helps in some way. 🌸
@@TheNavdeepKaur indeed :)
Omg. Just exactly what I needed to come across. Thank you so much bhenji. I’m going to have Anand karaj in few weeks time & I really needed some guidance.
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How is a garland of flower or a cloth as a palla even change the meaning to the ceremony? Why does it matter if its a clothing or a garland of flower when the intention is the same and causing no harm to anyone? If its one's preference to have flowers instead of the conventional cloth, how is that person wrong? Shouldn't that person have rights and wishes to plan their own wedding ceremony, keeping in mind the intention is still the same.
Hi Navdeep. Thanks for putting this video out there. Though I agree with several of ur points, I strongly disagree on your first point of Gurudawara marriage should only be restricted to sikh. If u believe that then I guess u haven't understood the key learning of Sikhism and Guruji.. but instead fallen pray to haumai and people's biases of what Sikhism should be.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense!
Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
Nice video. To be honest during my Anand Karaj I was too focused on myself (focused on my lengha, jewelry, on how I looked etc) that I missed out on all the hymns and hukamnama. I’m looking forward to getting the film so I can watch the shabads properly. The Anand Karaj is the only part of my wedding week I wish I can re-live.
Thank u for this video. I am American and I am Gursikh my fiancé is Punjabi and he is also Gursikh we both have taken Amrit. I am trying to make his Mom understand that we would only have a Gursikh marriage and I do not want to have any of the Punjabi or Hindu traditions in our wedding simply because I respect all of our Gurus and I am not a confused Sikh. She loves me very much and respects my decision but she is sad that I won’t have the henna painted on my hands and feet or have any nose pins or jewelry or sindoor on me. She is also Sikh but not an Amritdhari so she still follows Punjabi and or Hindi traditions. I have nothing against it but I do not follow these traditions. I only follow Gursikh traditions. Again thank u for ur video u explained everything very well.🙏🏽
Awesome video kaur ji... Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 🙏🙏🙏
I feel frustrated when I hear people say that the ceremony of Anand Karaj within interfaith marriage is not accepted in gurdwaras. My mother is Punjabi Sikh and my dad is white caucasian antheist however my brothers and I were raised by our nanima also punjabi Sikh. And its Sikhs with these opinions which made my parents marriage much more difficult . Guru Nanak states we are all one so in this modern world why are we not embracing this message?????? So many young Sikhs from a two Sikh parent household getting married nowadays can’t even speak punjabi and don’t even understand the kirtan or Shabads they listen too. How is that any different to being of another faith as long as they respect Guruji. As Guruji states you can dress in religious robes but it does not make you a religious person. What you are saying is not taught anywhere just purely made up
“Walk down the aisle” is in itself very western. Just pointing this with a lot of love.
In a nutshell, keep everything sober, solemn, simple, respectful, MODEST, HUMBLE. Practice HUMILITY.
HUMILITY IS FORGOTTEN IN SIKH WEDDINGS. Everything does not have to be grandiose. Bragging and flaunting and showing off only results negativity and materialism. And I am sure no one wants to start off their lives with negativity. Brides and Grooms need to understand that they are there to make a solemn declaration of merging their lives together with GURU SAHIB as their witness, seek GURU SAHIB blessing and unit both families to become one. All this vanity, grandiosity, public-displays-of-affection is a representation of insecurity, fear, weakness and doubt.
Seriously get a grip on reality and come out of your oblivious minds (especially the brides).
And AND SAVE YOUR MONEY FOR YOUR FUTURE LIVES.
And lastly, BRIDES-TO-BE, please Be mindful of your exposure, respect the sacredness of yourselves.
“EVERYTHING” does not have to be on display for the whole world; especially in a religious and solemn setting. Please be mindful of your modesty and dignity. By doing so, you gain positive attention and represent your family members in a noble manner.
Great content. This is a much needed video!! Loved it.
Thank you, I’m trying to create content that answers the questions I’ve come across at some point in my life so far. 😊
thankyou for this
I'm photographing a Sikh wedding this Friday, may I ask what I should wear and expect?
Excellent video penji, keep it up.
Raj Paji, Scotland.
I am a Muslim and wanted to gain some knowledge about the Sikh marriage. The video was very informative, Thanks you.
Very informative video thankyou bhenji
I feel religion is one and are separated by us Ek onkar there is only one heaven and one hell. So I feel somewhere we all are wrong in some way
Awesome video lesson for the new couples they will learn a lot from this video specially my son thank you very much
Thank you so much xx
Waheguru ji ka Khalsa waheguru ji ke fathe.
Sister plz make a video on Dastar or dumala.
Completely disagree couldn’t keep watching once you said interfaith weddings are not ok.
Its just beacuse another caste person can't change his her religion for partner
Please try to understand what is being said, only a couple who fully accept the Guru and no other are permitted to have an Anand Karaj. This is not just a marriage, it is a spiritual union with the Guru.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense!
Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
Should've watched further
I don’t agree nor disagree with your last point tbh. I’m also a feminist too and frankly don’t care that I’d be walking behind, however if this really wasn’t such a big deal to people then brides walking ahead would also be no issue. The practise ever so slightly confirms some peoples misogynistic mindsets so it’s not fair to say that people who are fussed about it don’t understand, symbolism can be very important to people’s sentiments. Ofc when you have different views on symbolism you understand it differently, i think at the end of the day you’re not wrong in your point, it doesn’t matter, but that also means it shouldn’t matter if people want to do 2 fere with the groom ahead snd 2 with the bride. After all the main point should be having Guru ji to your side. Apologies if I’ve made any mistakes in what I said, it’s just how I understood your point, which is why again I neither agree nor disagree, I think it’s very nuanced and if the right thing is done (with Guru ji to the side) then it shouldn’t matter if people opt to have the bride ahead too.
I also have a question, for some context I do not have the greatest relationship with my father, and I don’t wanna go into much detail (and also do not want a debate about parental values etc or comments like “but he’s your father”, I’m very happy that other people have fathers that were present and non-ab@sive, this was not my experience,) that disclaimer aside, is it absolutely necessary for my dad to be the one to hand me the palla? I suppose this again ties into symbolism, It’s a small part of the day that I can ignore but even thinking about it makes me sad, I believe if the palla for me should be done at all it should be my mum, but preferably I’d like to skip it, is that even possible?
sister, can you share more abt why the palla is not tied and about why the father is the one handing the palla? why can no one assist partners to get up?
Awesome video!!
Thank you so much phen ji
Thanks you 💗🌺
What does one do if they are not able to sit on the floor?
Levitate
Yes I Did
Bibi Ji good work !!!
Awesome video!
With twisting the palla around the hand, I think that's more of an anxiety thing than symbolic.
Most of the ladies I know and my wife all said they were terrified of dropping it😂
😂 That’s true, I’ve heard that from many women as well.
Disagree with you unfortunately, we have been to many interfaith Anand Karaj's in the UK. Maybe it's a difference to Gurdwaras outside the UK
Yes, interfaith “anand karaj” does happen in many gurdwaras around the world, but according to the Sikh Rehat Maryada, it is not allowed. Many gurdwara sahib committees do not follow maryada and are simply following the money.
@Prem Grewal Its really funny to see monay/clean shaven people talk on sikhi. I mean literally🤣🤣 A person who himself does not follow religion is giving lecture about dos/don'ts. Its like an engineer telling a doctor how to "repair" a patient🤣🤣🤣
All right, jokes apart, there is no term called "interfaith anand karaj". Anand karaj can happen ONLY between 2 sikhs. Come on, bro there are literally thousands of video on RUclips explaining the meaning of anand karaj and rehat maryada. I don't believe in spoonfeeding. Research it yourself. And those gurudwara who do "interfaith anand karaj" are run by greedy coconuts like you
@@TheNavdeepKaur Spoken like a true sikh. Now that's the answer I would expect from a dastaar wearing singhni. More power to you sis! I was a Muslim but converted to sikhi few years back( bcoz islam is trash, no offence anyone). I will also one day take amrit and become a gursikh singh like your husband. I do keep kesh and wear turban and read gurbaani. Proud to be a sikh! Waheguruji ka khalsa Waheguruji ke fateh🙏🙏🙏
@@mehar134 just saying from my experience bro lol. Non Sikh Anand karaj ceremonies are fine in the UK. Pretty common in fact
@@premgrewal Unfortunately you're right and the fault is of UK gurudwaras who are run by "pseudo sikhs". Such people don't give a fu** about sikhi and care only about money and cheap Bollywood love instead of guruji. But still, it does not mean that such marriages are correct. There are plenty of gurudwaras worldwide who don't allow such disgraceful things. UK sikhs are sleeping maybe
From what direction lawan should be taken from right side or left side of guru sahib ??
Sikhism is not the centre of my universe but I still got married in a gurdwara so why tell people they can’t have inter faith marriages I think you will find it’s from gurdwara to gurdwara if they perform a mixed inter faith marriage what a silly video
It’s their ego and the want to make sikhi and gurdwaras exclusive. It is silly.
@livleen kaur it’s just a stupid video I’ve literally been to a gurdwara in India and it had all these pellets in one of the side rooms all over the floor I asked my auntie what they were and she said they were lil packets of drugs yep in a temple I’m telling you some of the people who run gurdwaras even in India are corrupt I wouldn’t listen to this garbage too closely it’s basically her interpretation of what she thinks Sikhism is in Canada a gurdwara covered up the death of a Sikh girl in India cos she married who she wanted still both were in the Sikh religion the mom and uncle ordered her killing and they had links with a gurdwara based in Canada good and bad in every culture and it starts from the top
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense!
Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
@livleenkaur8355 A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense!
Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
Interfaith weddings not ok can u explain why?
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense!
Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.
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Interfaith weddings not ok can u explain why?
She clearly said feel free to do that, but it’s not valid for anand karaj.
A non baptised Sikh can have an interfaith marriage by law i.e. a court marriage or civil ceremony. Sikhi has no problem with this. During the Anand Karaj, however, the couple must bow down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji means you are giving your HEAD to your Guru. A non-Sikh should not be bowing down to Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they do not wish to accept the Guru as their own and if they do bow in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, that would be equivalent of taking the Muslim Shahada and then saying your not a Muslim. Makes no sense!
Please feel free to reply if you have any more questions, I am not having a go at you or saying my opinion just simply stating Sikhi's view on this.