What I've noticed is that after the assault, Aimee started to dress more "simple", like, she stopped to dress up and wear her colorful and stylish outfits. She starts to wear sweaters and wear her hair in a ponytail. That shows how scared she was and a lot of women face that, because people don't care about the assault, the victim blames herself because of her clothes, and starts to cover herself more and more. It's really sad.
I had an exact same reaction as Aimee to something that happened to me. I was going out for a date after work and a co-worker has seen me. The next morning before I came to work he talked very loudly ot everyone in the office about how slutty I was dressed, that "the skirt was so short I could almost see his panties". My friends told me straight away when I came to work. My manager was out so I went to a guy higher than him and reported it. But that's not what really scarred me. It was the fact that when my manager came back, a girl from my team told him about the situation and he said "well, can you blame her, look at how she dresses to work" and then something about me bending over. The sad part is that I didn't report him and from that time I stopped wearing any skirts, dresses or heels. Because I thought that's inappropriate for work. I never dressed slutty anyways, never wore skirts shorter than knee length and never had a big cleavage. But this made me change it. When I realised it, I said SCCREW HIM and started wearing whatever I want.
@@anticreative1 I'm so sorry that happened to you. Most of the times, we are blamed for whatever happens to us because of our clothing. That is such bullshit, and unfortunately, girls all around the world don't know what to do. People need to understand that our clothes are not the reason why we are assaulted.
The thing is, I always wear extremely long skirts and I wear oversized blouses to avoid being assaulted or cat called but guess what, even how covered I am I still get catcalled and it's annoying that people still blame the clothes.
Wow that hit me hard. I realised I've been dressing less and less feminine less tight fitting clothes to kind of protect me from the make gaze and not get sexualised as much, which is a word way of thinking.
Another part of this storyline that was really important to me was the fact that Aimee DID describe him as being handsome. He wasn’t some ugly or creepy old dude. I feel like a lot of people like to argue that “women only have problems with the attention or advances they receive from ugly guys or guys they’re not attracted to,” when the fact is that any unwanted attention at all is UNWANTED, regardless what the person looks like. We could be attracted to someone or recognize that they’re attractive and still be made uncomfortable by their actions if what they’re doing is wrong. We’re not suddenly okay with being harassed or assaulted just because someone may be good looking.
So important ♥ We often make excuses for people because they are handsome, or didn't 'seem bad', but we're just shooting ourselves in the foot. ANYBODY is capable of sexual assault, no matter what they look like. Even the 'good guys' which I recently realised is such a dangerous label.
Juliana Matamoros i cannot agree more. The casting did a good job to pick an above average looking man instead of the stereotype creepy, slitting, mouse-looking, old and bald man in dirty outfit. And I actually think that’s part of the reason why no one helped her. Because that was decent looking man. The society forgives a man’s indecency very easy as long as he is in general socially acceptable.
This is really important. Reminds me of the Keke Palmer and Trey Songz incident. People thought her complaint wasn't valid because it's freakin Trey Songz. But really, it don't matter. Thanks for this.
"Anger isn't allowed if you're a woman". I feel that so much because years ago I was in a club and a guy forced his way into the women's toilet and tried to push a girl into the cubicle. She couldn't do anything but I got so mad I grabbed him and pushed him out of the bathroom. The girl was thankful but everyone around, even other women blamed me for getting mad and making a scene. That made me even madder and I said 'should I have let him rape that girl'. The answer was 'no but take it easy '. Like I could have taken it easy on a guy that was much bigger than me 'excuse me sir, please don't rape that girl!'. Yeah right, it was my anger that made me strong enough to do something about the situation.
you totally did the right thing. it’s so frustrating that even when being faced with violence/sexual assault/etc that women are expected to be polite. why should we have to be polite to a sexual assaulter???? fuck that
That was incredibly brave of you. You absolutely did the right thing. The woman you helped won’t forget it, and nor will the man you stopped. You courageously sent the message that it was unacceptable, regardless of if everyone listened or not. You’re amazing.
This scene in sex education was so heartbreaking. Aimee was assaulted and initially brushed it off. It wasn’t until she was alone that she truly realized what happened and broke down crying. It’s a sad reminder of all the assault victims who suffer in silence.
@Josh Wood bc you can't let a man be aware of the shit that happens to people without calling them a neek? not a feminist but this mostly comes from guys who wanna seem stronger
I still have sudden flashbacks to that day and I panic when I see a certain type of man (older, tall, tan, muscular, possible vet). They remind me of the man who assaulted me and it makes me want to cry.
A similar thing happened to me two days ago at the grocery store. A guy pulled his pants down in the aisle after I smiled at him to be friendly. I dismissed it for the rest of the day and completely blocked it... at 2am I called my dad crying asking what I had done wrong
@@NaniCS701 at the end of the day it doesn't have to do with genders, sexes whatever it really doesnt, to me at least and i believe to many other people too
@@bluesquirrel2472 i mean its really just a bigger problem for women a lot of men go through sexual assault but not many although almost every girl by 14 has been assaulted. thats why most people only mention women
This plotline made this season even better. Sex education is not afraid to approach tabu subjects and its one of the reasons why this show is so amazing.
That's what I was thinking! This show isn't afraid to tackle mature topics, such as sexuality, sexual assault or masturbation. I loved how they showed how Aimee suffered from severe PTSD after the incident with the bus creep, but her friends rallied around her to make sure that she felt comfortable taking the bus once more. (Also, greetings once more!)😀
I agree but the only thing I didn't understand is that Aimee's reaction to the incident on the bus was as if she didn't care at all and she truly didn't care she showed no signs of distress even at a the police station she was making jokes about it.. it was only when Maeve repeatedly talked about it that must have ingrained something in her head because her behaviour completely changed and it seemed unnatural. I understand they are trying to portray a serious incident and the effects it has on people but her traumatised response didn't fit her care free laid back character. If she had acted traumatised at the start that would have made more sense
I cry every time I watch the moment they get on the bus. Seeing them all come together and taking a stand is so beautiful and empowering even if this whole situation should NEVER HAPPEN!!!
marinanuXD it’s sad because she doesn’t think much of it at first and then we see how she slowly realizes what happened and Starts feeling unsafe and breaking down 😭💔💔💔
It was such an incredible storyline, when they were all smashing up the car makes me cry. The way they dealt with it was so empowering and so great I love this show so much.
This interview should be shown in schools. Kids need to see this, young boys need to learn that this shit isn't ok and young girls need to learn this is never their fault!
I totally agree! I'd however like to add that it's the other way around too (even if it's less common): young boys should also learn that it's not okay if someone does something to them, and similarly, girls should learn that it's not okay to grab a guy's crotch or anything the like (other than self defense, where pretty much everything is fair game).
I agree Plus some girls also need to stop allowing it to happen, and wanting it to happen as it just encourages it. This isn’t all girls but some do this and it’s not good to encourage.
i absolutely cannot stand the thought of other people looking away or dismissing someone CALLING for help, in public. those people have the power to stand up and raise their voices, but choose to ignore those situations. please, if you're ever in a position to call this shit out, do it. there's no reason not to.
One time I saw a man bothering a woman in public. He was not touching her but she obviously didn't want him there. I did not have the courage to say anything about it and I still regret just standing there. I did hang around to make sure he left her alone but I feel like I should have said something...
Mylou I think an alternate way of getting involved is walking up to the girl pretending to know her. You can ask her if she wants to go get a drink and catch up. I don’t have any experience with this sort of situation, but that seems safer than telling the guy to stop.
@@myloujoores2724 i'm sorry to hear that. it's difficult and tense to act in the moment, especially when you see something so... real? so confronting? it's good that you hung around, gestures like that are always appreciated
@candom rommenter yeah that's why i said position. if anything looks even the slightest bit sketchy, i definitely understand that people don't wanna get involved. i'm glad you pointed it out. i admit my approach to this was a bit forward
This week, in Brazil, a man groped a woman in the bus, she screamed but only the women in the bus did something and every single men were in silence. All these women were really helpful because in the next stop the man got arrested. Sorry if there are any english mistake, it's not my first language.
I love the way you talk about it. Because when I read this my first thought was "Well, at least so many women helped" but that's the mindset we have to get away from. The active way you put it, "None of the men helped", is so much more useful because the default should really be everyone helping. It made me so happy how you portrayed it. And I'm glad the guy got arrested and it hopefully gave the sign of sexual assault not being okay to all the people on the bus. Thank you for sharing your story.
As horrible as this incident is, can you imagine, that as an Indian, it sounds like almost nothing to me? I could have just read until the third comma and kept scrolling had I not decided to reply after reading the whole thing. I'll tell you why. I feel so jealous and warm at the same time that there exist countries where men will be arrested for groping women. So many women, girls, preteens even, are groped in my city and everywhere else in the whole wide country that we do not even perceive it as a big deal anymore. I've witnessed creeps pressing against women's saree-clad backs, butts, everywhere in buses, touching them inappropriately amidst crowds, sometimes hovering literally over them in crowded buses and metros, pressing their certain body parts to women's certain body parts; and whenever someone has raised their voices against them, they have been told off by the men with a "You should not opt for public commute if you can't even put up with this." Having said that, they will go home to teach their boys to respect women, and claim they do so too. The women sometimes show support, albeit mostly through nods, and muted disgust. Such is the way assault is normalized in Indian society. Unless it's in the newspaper, we don't even pause to think whether what happened/happens to us on a regular basis is assault or not. It's just not. (I have combined personal and generic experiences here.) I'm twenty, and I can't remember the number of times each one of these things has already happened to me. And how I have went on with life, without having more than 5 minutes of repercussions about them; as has my mother, my grandmother, my aunts, my teachers, and friends, and every other woman I know. That's me. And if you have read upto this, thank you.
“...I’m older and I’ve matured and I’m allowed to be a multifaceted human being, who experiences a range of emotions. And I don’t have a to be a sweet, digestible woman.” I stopped the video and wrote that down in my journal because that is such a fucking great way to put it. Love this show and love Aimee Lou wood so much more now.
Precisely, in the age of the "Me Too" movement, women have got to stand by each other, and be empowered. Sexual assault can happen to ANYONE, so it's important to let anyone who went through similar experiences to Aimee know that they're not alone.😊
Mike Tiwaz the couples that stayed married and didn’t divorce lived miserable lives and ruined their children psychologically. Your little 50’s fantasy is a crock of shit. Traditional family is a myth.
@@robronsuggle6897 Well... according to you then my parents should be miserable more so than the single people.. I have seen no indication of that being the case. They are about as miserable as me a single in his 20'es.. they've been married for close to 30 years now and I don't see any indication why they should be miserable because of marriage.. Honestly I think I am on average more a lot more miserable than they are.
@@imbored9955 ME TOO. Why would you want to stay in a relationship if you're unhappy? It's good that people are being fussier instead of staying with someone for the sake of being in a relationship. If your idea of a relationship involves women not being liberated and parties not being equal then your problem is with how you treat relationships, not with feminism
I watched this scene with my roommate and I started crying since I had an experience like that myself (I'm a man) and he just looked at me not understanding why I was crying. I just didn't get it why he did not understand that that's not okay! Later that wmday we had a walk together and he started catcalling a girl.. He's not my roommate anymore, and that made me realize that sexual assault is a bigger problem than I thought it was
two of my friends watched the whole show in like a week, they talked about everything but the sexual assault part and it makes me sad, that they see it as a taboo or just something weird that just happens
Mads van Peenen Everyone and anyone can be sexually assaulted. Stay strong and don’t let anyone make you feel weak for what you went through. Keep your head up brother. So many people are here to talk.
The way this show explores Aimee and Steve’s relationship is so well done, he isn’t pushy and she doesn’t want to ruin things - it’s so raw, this storyline has made me sob so many times
It was so refreshing to see a supportive and understanding partner! In other show and films the bf would of argued and shouted and blamed the girl for distance.. until she breaksdown...
I'm going to be truthful, Aimee's storyline actually made me realise that I had gone through something similar when I was 20 and 22, I'm almost 25 right now. I thought that it was no big deal but after watching episode 7, I just bawled my eyes out because it made me realise that that wasn't a small thing, it wasn't something to just brush off, that it wasn't okay, and that it did affect me in ways that I didn't even realise.
Im so sorry you went through that, and Twice! But im glad you realised that after watching, and I hope you have someone to talk to about it! Sending u love
I just couldn't stop crying after watching the scene of all the girls getting into the bus. Thank you, truly, for approaching such important issues in such a real way, it is what makes this show so special.
Its annoying af that people feel sorry and protective of characters like aimee but in reality nobody cares about rape victims and bullies the crap out of them shows how 2 faced and fake people seriously wish people would actually care about real victims and not just characters in reality nobody would care or do something like that to help
I hope you have the courage to call out people if they ever behave inappropriately in front of you especially if it's your friends, because that's harder to go against them sometimes. Young boys like yourself are the future and you can shift the norms if you try. I hope you keep that in mind
B C S 14 year old here, I believe the main reason for this is because of how little it’s taught in schools and by parents. Furthermore, memes on instagram ( very popular for boys) tend to make sexist jokes very often (why I stopped following them) and because they’re funny, they become used as kids want to be found funny. So it’s a combination of lack of education and obliviousness.
Every time I walk into my classroom my teacher looks the girls up and down when the skirt is too short we get a detention; he shouldn’t be looking anyway
I am a male and I've exprienced sexual assault too in a train. This story speaks for a percentage of boys too. Thank you for this season, Sex EDUCATION.
Jules Yes! And it’s not a certain type of man, which I appreciate that Sex Education didn’t make him the typical creepy looking guy. I’ve had weird interactions with teen boys (which makes me sad), guys my age, and men who could be my grandfathers. From every background. I feel bad but I’d rather be safe and not start anything so I just keep to myself.
Same and the worst part is that I've been in discussions with men who got mad at women for doing that because "not all men have bad intentions", blaming women again meanwhile this is not at all our fault. We WISH we could trust everyone on the streets, we don't like being scared of strangers but there are many fucked up people out there. And if we would trust random men on the streets and something bad would happen, we would still be blamed because "we should have known". I'm so tired of it.
@@jasmijnvansprengel I agree with you but I am also very angry while reading this Unfortunately,I was a person who thought that I need to be good to everyone,to except everyone but its not my job to do that at all Its not my fault that some gross and weak and pathetic people can't do anything good in life and that they can't keep mouth shut and their penis in their jeans (: They chose to do that Only cowards excuse themselves for hurting other people its like if someone is depressed,do they deserve to die or to be hit on? or if u embarrassed urself or if u r shy or do wrong things in life that didn't hurt anyone,no one doesn't have to hurt u bc of it I am just sick of ppl like this,but I will once punch them in the balls We all need to learn how to protect ourselves
I wish this was anoymous but I was sexually assulted a month ago and after I watched this episode of sex education I felt better, I felt supported, I now know that I'm not alone in this, I know that it's going to be okay. Sure I'm still scared and feel unsafe and constantly paranoid out in public but Aimee's story has assured me that I'll be alright. I've made the decision to get counseling, I wasn't ready before but now I think I am, seeing these strong beautiful women talking makes me feel ready. I'll forever be grateful to sex education and Netflix. I fucking love this show, I feel strong again after crying my eyes out after watching that scene. Thank you Aimee for giving me hope. Much love from a 16 year old xx
Young women to young women, I'm so proud of you for talking about it and making the decision to take control. You've always been strong, we all are. I'm so glad you know that you're capable of anything. Much love to you too xx
While watching this episode I felt horrible for Aimee that this happened to her, but when Maeve said you've been sexually assaulted I thought Maeve was wrong. It's what they said in this video, we think that the things that happen to us aren't heavy enough to be called sexually assaulting but they are. It's so important to get this out in the world.
Its annoying af that people feel sorry and protective of characters like aimee but in reality nobody cares about rape victims and bullies the crap out of them shows how 2 faced and fake people seriously wish people would actually care about real victims and not just characters seriously it's a real problem and people like u treat it like a joke
@@problematicprincess6270 what i meant to say is that it's very important this message is out here because of what happens to people. It's horrible and people should stand up if they witness something like this. Even if the act seems 'small' like touching someone in a private place without consent. It seems like it's not a big deal for people while it definitely is a big deal for the victim. I didn't want to come across like bully.
as a male, who has been sexually assaulted twice. this gives me comfort and confidence. neither of my predators got anything, no jail, no court, nothing. i've been affected for so many years. i have ptsd & depression now, among three other disorders. thank you so much for this part of the show. that staying silent about it, it's not okay. i'm gonna have supporters and just thank you
The scene where they're all smashing the car out of frustration gives me chills every time. I thought it was my favorite scene out of the whole series until I saw the one where they all got on the bus with Aimee. 10/10 we love girls supporting girls
This scene and storyline was the backbone of this season which was so impact and powerfull bringing the girls together showing that Women's can do anything if they come together!!!!! it Was so beautifully directed that each and every moment touched in heart of mine and i realised it just being a boy!!!! I can't even imagine how proud will be the girl's to watch this scene!!!!♥️😍😇
EXACTLY my thoughts! Girls have to stick together to support each other, and I loved that they were all able to reach out to Aimee, and let her know that she wasn't alone!❤😃
ok but like, this interview is obviously so so so important, but meanwhile the men in the cast are dong interviews like "a night in with the boys" with them eating pizza and shit, and i guess that's cool and all, but i actually wanna know their view on this particular situation following Aimee u know? Perhaps what they think about the female empowerment in this season and all that.
@Nicole Leung I don’t believe that anyone is taught to sexual assault people, it’s just the fact that people don’t seem to care enough, especially the government, so people get away with it.
@Nicole Leung Honestly, really agree with you. I'm a young boy that's really getting familiar with feminism and at first I always thought it was weird to say "teach men how to not rape" (Don't think I've worded that well but you get the idea) and now I've taken a full 180 with that view. I definitely would never assault anyone, but I know the system is set in such a way that sexual assault is kind of.. easy to get away with? Just within it it seems like there's not really much of a problem and even men's mindset's are tuned to that. Should most definitely teach men how not to sexually assault!
@Nicole Leung I'm already getting started on reading feminist theory. Really interested, and I watched the ted talk with the same title (yet to read the book but quickly getting to it soon enough) I should also mention: This really doesn't cost me, I do this out of nothing but compassion. I know I might not understand the struggle but that doesn't mean I don't care Still though, I really hope everything turns out great
The first time I watched this scene I thought “oh no that’s bad” but to no degree did I even think for a second going to the cops or that is was actually assault until Maeve said so and I was like “oh yes I guess it is?”. It has literally been so engrained into our culture that I felt like “oh that’s not a big deal” because things like this are constantly normalized and happen so often. BUT they SHOULD NOT be okay and it makes me so sad to realize that I am just as innocent as Amy and that I feel like I have to be more thick skinned and less kind to strangers for safety. I hate that I have to change the way I act and look in public because of the way society normalizes this dynamic.
yeah I feel you!! It's good to have women telling each other that WE own our bodies and no one has the right to touch our bodies without consent. Because men won't tell us that. So the more we, as women, speak up about these things the wider we can spread this message so eventually men won't have this sick idea anymore that they own you and can just touch u whenever they want
And what got me thinking was when they said that you shouldnt ask a ton of questions to the girl. Like "what did you do to make him do that? Did you smile at him" etc etc because even as a woman I probably would have done that because maybe I thought they would want to talk about it and get it out of their system. But now i know to just say sorry and just listen IF they wanna talk about it
it is so refreshing to have darker skinned girls in shows like this. i am indian and it is so rare to have brown girls allowed to be as dark as their male counterparts... i’m so glad we got to see more of olivia and introduce viv this season
@@problematicprincess6270 it has to do with representation. when we see people in media who look like us, who share identities with us, it helps us feel seen and heard.
Freya B honestly the most things i’ve heard about sexual assault are from my black friends (i’m black) but no one hears those stories as bad they just think “lmao he’s crazy”
Such a powerful scene! Happened to me on the metro in Paris last year, a guy started verbally assaulted me for no reason. The metro was packed. I didn't talk back because I was scared and he was drunk, but a girl defended me (Which I am still very grateful for). Then the guy started attacking her and men on the metro started defending her, another woman called the driver to ask him to stop and wait at the next stop until the guy gets off. He eventually got off because everybody was pushing out, it was a beautiful moment in the end but it took a woman to defend me for the others to follow. It took me weeks to be able to get on the metro again because like Aimee I felt safe before but then I realised I wasn't. People DEFEND if you can, STAND UP if you can, because of most of the time, we only need one person to say something. And Please Ladies, carry self-defense item just in case xx
something happened like this to me as well. i was saved by my friend calling me away from the man and we ran away from him. i was so shaken and terrified but i never talked about it. and i haven’t since. it’s been over 2 years
Emma Gately well you just did now :) it’s a good first step! Just acknowledge the trauma, so you can heal cause it took me time to acknowledge it and it still does, but we cannot keep on feeling unsafe, that cannot be our reality! Xx
I’m 61 - Aimee’s scene and this conversation about it moved me to tears. It made me think, “oh my gosh - stuff like that happened to me too.” I started mentally listing all of the times since adolescence I’ve been sexually assaulted. At first I thought it would be a short list, but as I started re-examining the incidents in my head from the correct perspective, I realized it happened dozens of times. From being “catcalled” and “flashed” to being “groped” and even date-raped - I can now say I have been a victim of several sexual assaults. It explains why, even now, I’m afraid to open my door for deliveries or home repair calls. I view strangers with suspicion and wariness because of things that happened as long as 50 years ago. And that’s NOT OKAY. We need to teach our children better. Unwanted touching, leering, comments, sexual contact are NOT OKAY. Especially by people in positions of power or authority over us, like teachers, supervisors, or even parents. Again - thank you to the show runners, cast, and crew for this storyline. Bloody brilliant storytelling. 👍🏼💝
we have to show this video in schools. I'm fifteen, and because I talk about this kind of stuff with classmates, people call me "the feminist". I mean it's okay it's not as if people called me "the Nazi" or something but I mean feminist is not a bad word. It's just people are not informed, and don't realize how critical the situation is. So many boys and even girls have told me I'm exaggerating, I'm making a big deal out of nothing, it only happens to few women... It really is exhausting to be told you're never fighting for the right cause! moreover sexism is probably the only oppression I'll ever have to face, feminism is a cause I'll never stop fighting for. Being sexually assaulted is one of the most traumatizing things that can happen to you, so if you feel the need to talk about it do it, so it doesn't happen to other women edit: I'm so happy other people shared their story down below, finally I found people who are going/went through a similar experience thanx for sharing 💗
maya lavenu honestly I had the same experience🤷🏼♀️ I done a speech on rape culture for my year 11 speaking exam and was made fun of because I was so passionate about the subject. But now I’m sitting my A levels and have grown up so have the people around me and they accept that there are serious issues regarding sexual assault. Hopefully the pop who call you those names will grow up, honestly I think they are all just sheep following the people who say feminisms a bad thing.
That’s the issue! People have gotten this deranged idea that feminism is something that’s bad and annoying, and they use that idea as an excuse to not listen. And other people get introduced to «feminism» as something bad, and they never question it and just go around thinking that’s the facts. It’s so frustrating!
this is really sad but keep fighting! but I will say we shouldn't just fight against oppression that we ourselves will face, we must fight against all of it ! none of us are free until all of us are free!
It's really horrible that women all over the world, from young to old, have to experience these horrible situations. I had a similar experience where this guy was pretending to toss coin but he was really close to me so everytime he tosses the coin his hand would brush off my boob. I was around 13 or 14 that time. I didn't do anything or say anything because I didn't even realize what was happening. I just looked at the guy and didn't say anything but he was all defensive saying things like "it was an accident" and he acted like I was overreacting. I wasn't able to do anything, I was frozen. I was really young back then and I didn't realize how bad it was. But thankfully this show was able to tackle this subject because it made me feel like I wasn't alone (unfortunately) So take care of every women in your life and please please be sensitive enough to not make rape jokes or anything like that
It’s horrible to hear this happened to you I’m sorry. I mean I’m only 15 and since I was about 10 ive had old men look at me or say things even just older teen boys bc I started puberty and development at a younger age and they think that they have the right to do shit to us women. I support you and I know many others will too. X
@@Jackgames-vg7cw That's true and men's sexual assault needs to be discussed more, but unfortunately many men and women brush off men's sexual assault as a joke
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you did get a chance to talk to somebody about it. None of it is your fault and your feelings are valid. Last year I got on the train to go out and meet some friends, and I didn't have enough time to do my makeup so I did it on the train. I recognized that this older man on the other side of the train, was staring at me the whole time, while he was talking on his phone about his wife and other stuff. Then he got up and came over to me, (he was a lot taller than I was, which was already really intimidating) and he said "with tits as big as yours you don't need that much makeup." and then left. At first I didn't even understand him properly, I was just so shocked and started to cry. I think the worst part was that nobody stood up and said something. I know that's not as bad as yours, but that's the last thing that happened to me which really shocked me. I also didn't really feel comfortable using public transport afterwards for quite some time.
It’s also horrible that lots of girls and young women have a ‘when this happens to me’ not an ‘If this happens to me’ mindset because of how common this is and how it’s treated as just something women have to deal with.
Yes, once a male friend of mine asked me how I would react if I was raped. I described in detail how every girl knows that the moment you realize there is no getting out of it, the goal changes from resisting rape to resisting murder. There comes a point when fighting back becomes too much of a risk. So you resign yourself to the fact that this is going to happen, and you do whatever you fucking can to stay alive and dissociate from the situation. I was fourteen and it breaks me that I didn't even have to think about my answer, because I already had one. Also, its fucked up that this is treated as "just something that happens to women" instead of focussing on that this is something that men DO to women. We shouldn't be debating about how low the girls top was, we should be talking about the fact that some man went ahead and raped her.
back when i was in high school was when the metoo movement started. I didn't initially know what it was. But all of a sudden, while scrolling through facebook I saw a bunch of posts that just said "metoo". I though "hm, wonder what that means and why they're all posting the same thing". Like 95 percent of my female facebook friends posted that. When I later learned what it meant, my heart just sank.
A scary thing to think about, is that if this many people have been sexually assaulted. How many people you see in everyday life just walking around have done the assaulting? This was my psychosis that I woke up from, that this issue is an epidemic and I couldn't even see it.
I'm glad you woke up to it. It sucks when some of my friends say ignorant or hurtful things surrounding sexual assault not knowing I've experienced it, and the more they say those things the less willing I am to talk to them about it
The thing is I actually know two guys who have assaulted girls but they’re super popular and just keep living their lives, I think they don’t even know that they have assaulted girls. It’s sick. I know them, I know their names, but it doesn’t mean or change anything.
@@lujorom9172 It's because people continue being friends with them and still maintain contact. If people actually cut ties with abusers and showed them there are actual social consequences for this kind of behaviour, then people won't see they're doing anything wrong.
@@TigerPrawn_ so true. I used to keep following them on Instagram but whenever they posted I thought of the shit they did and got away with so eventually I unfollowed them to ban that energy from my life. It didn’t exactly make much of a difference obviously, but I mostly did it for me. But you’re so right, people have to start cutting these people off.
Something I noticed about Olas story was the keys between her fingers. When I saw that I cried because of the amount of times I’ve done that because I was being followed by a man or chased. It was subtle but when you know, you know.
PLEASE enable closed captions for this video! This conversation is extremely important, so sharing it with as much people around the world would be amazing (plus deaf and heard of hearing as well, of course).
Aimee's explanation from 9:00 is EXACTLY how I was. I was struggling with depression and a very recent heartbreak by infedelity and I had beaten myself up for feeling like shit because I wasn't supposed to feel like how I was feeling. I was the one who was there for people. They called me a ball of sunshine but for months I couldn't feel like it and it pained. But I still refused to go to therapy until I was harrassed at a job interview. It broke me. After the interview I went straight to my best friend's house and wept the entire afternoon until early morning. Not long after, I went to therapy. I was struggling so much because I forced myself to be okay and to understand people during the time when I should be flipping tables and allowing myself to feel the unpleasant emotions. I was younger and naive back then, like Aimee was. But now, I am more mature to let myself be angry when I am angry at people who abuse or assault me. It does get better.
I work at a Children’s Hospital and a lot of the times I see kids come in young girls come in who have been sexually assaulted. And I always try to tell them how great they are for opening up and letting an adult know what happened. And sometimes the stories can be hard to understand or they can be chopped up but it’s not my place to say what happened or what didn’t happen I’m there to make sure that she’s safe in that moment and that she feels like she made the right decision to say something.
"It's just a stupid bus." Is my favorite line in the entire 2nd season. You take these girls, who are vastly different in so many ways, especially because you have 2 who are pitted against each other, put them in a room and force them to find a commonality. They came together, joined forces and helped one another. It reminded me so much of Mean Girls. I loved this season so much better because it touched on a topic that is so fragile, but it is important to discuss because the reality is, sexual assault happens and it happens all the time. Girls are often so mean to one another, but what happened to Aimee brought them all together and they connected
In year 7 a female teacher all taught us to sit like “proper ladies” so that the boys and male teachers couldn’t see up our dresses when we were sitting. Maybe boys and men should be taught not to look up dresses instead
i agree with the teacher. if youre going to wear a dress you have to understand that sitting with you legs split will make people uncomfortable therefore you should sit properly. unfortunately men have something called a peripheral visions so just because they see down there doesn't mean they were staring or enjoy looking down there and it can make them uncomfortable which is normal human beaviour.
Something we really need to talk about as a society isn't just of how victims can protect themselves during acts of sexual assault but also how witnesses should take action to help someone in trouble. It's not just that people don't step up to help someone in trouble, I think the problem arises from the issue that many don't know how to step up and help in such circumstances.
SNC sin I don’t even think it’s that because so many people have the « it’s noble of my business » mentality and I’m like it’s happening in front of you and you see visible signs of unwanted attention or being inappropriate or anything it doesn’t have to be visible, if you see something that makes you uncomfortable then do something anything call the police, break it up yourself (with respect of how the situation could go) but do something.
Like they all said, most women who regularly take the bus have faced some form of assault. Someone who hasn't faced it will never know how scary and traumatic it is. That's why this was my favorite storyline in season 2. Thank you for talking about it 🧡
When Aimee was assaulted on the bus I wanted to go through my screen and beat the shit out of the man who was assaulting her. I wanted to grab Aimee and give her the biggest hug and tell her that I got her and that she was going to be okay. It really pissed me off that no one stood up for her to help her. Glade Mave stepped up and helped her.
I smiled at a man at a train station once and we discussed if we had both got the right platform. He then sat next to me on the train and continued to talk to me even though I put headphones on. I had to switch trains later and it happened that he had to get on the same one (this was a long train ride, mind). He later asked to see pictures of me and I said no. He then asked for my mobile number (which I gave him because I felt pressured and didn't want it to be awkward for the rest of the train ride because I was already freaked out enough) and also asked where I lived and if he could visit me. He kept ringing me and saying he missed me. I never answered any of his calls. But I still have this fear of trains in a way. I hate that people take advantage of kindness. I used to like to smile at people in the street just to brighten someone's day, but now I often don't even make eye contact.
that's horrible, i'm so sorry... it's so unfair that we can't even smile at someone because they can turn out to be some creep. i used to be very gullible when i was younger, but i've had some incidents with men throughout my life (i'm 24) and ever since then i'm very guarded when i'm out in public because i'm so scared shit like that could happen. i think i'm physically unable to smile at strangers even if i want to.
i was sexual assaulted before, and honestly i feel so thankful that you guys brought this up. it’s so important that people need to take this thing seriously:((
I'm lucky that I've never been physically assaulted, I have been catcalled and verbally assaulted but never physically. The scariest moment was when I was 15 or 16 years old. I worked in a tavern and did the dishes most of the time. One time I had to go through the seating area to put away clean cutlery, I had to pass by some customers. A man was there to eat and drink something with his wife and when I passed by he said (so I could hear) "I want to slap her bum later". His wife didn't say anything. It made me quite uncomfortable but I didn't say anything. When I had to pass by him again I tried to go as quick as possible. Then I was in the kitchen for a while to help there but had to go back to the dishes (in a separate little building). When I went to go back to the dishes the guy who made the comment earlier that day was standing in front of the door. He asked me before I went in if I had signed already, I didn't know what he meant so I said no and he replied with "Watch out, or I'll grab you". I was so scared and I was shaking a lot. I told my boss and he told me he'd keep an eye on the guy for me. After my shift I was waiting on my parents. This guy started whistling at me and calling me over, I ignored him because my shift was over. My boss went over to him and I overheard him say "I want to be served by her, why don't you make her work". My boss told him that my shift was over and that he should leave me alone. To this day, this was still one of the scariest experiences ever.
In front of his fucking wife. That's so gross. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I know from experience how traumatizing this is for a girl who has to manage growing up and developing physically and mentally at that age. For me it was among other things my uncle who would for a long time slap my butt while he hugged me 🤮
@@nadjak3410 his wife is almost certainly a victim of physical and psychological abuse herself. He sounds like a typical bully. Unfortunately if he has children they will more than likely inherit his lack of self esteem and the cycle will go on
the first time I was catcalled was when I was ELEVEN and walking with my two THIRTEEN year old sister (we often got mistaken for triplets so looked roughly the same age and we were NOT mature looking AT ALL; to be TMI but I hadn't even begun puberty and my sisters were only the cusp so we had completely child-like figures) and four men probably early twenties yelled out of a moving car "SHOW US YA PUSSIES". I was ELEVEN. happens way too often still and I'm 20 now and it makes me fucking fume every time. Its humiliating and frightening and I wish people would stop telling us to "take it as a compliment".
It’s weird how we imagine everyone coming to fight for us women during situations like this but really people don’t want to be a part of something like that
In reality no one comes to help us. Almost no one will tell us what we need and want to hear. Someone standing up saying "THIS is WRONG!" Reaffirming us with the notion that no, we are not to sensitive, we are not overreacting - that infact WE are in the right. WE have the RIGHT to say no. To get angry, to defend ourselves with all we have. Most often than not I don't do anything at all, even though I know I could. Because we are listening too much to the voices who try to make us insecure about this. Who question US. But we don't have to listen. I realised now that to get a hold of this problem I have to be the strong one, take that anger and use it for the next person who tries to do something to me. I will not again be disappointed by friends or family, waiting for someone to stand up for me.
I’m crying. This was so powerful. I have severe anxiety when I’m in public because of multiple situations of sexual harassment/assault. It’s a constant internal struggle. Thank you for this
The thing is, Not Every Man is Like That but Every Woman has a story Like That. The way this sort of thing is perceived in the country i live in - Russia - is really discouraging at the moment.
ChrisWalkerTalker Hell yeah! I was literally crying while watching the police scene, cuz, you know, try to imagine reporting sexual assault to Russian police
That scene made me happy and sad at the same time. A similar thing happened to me, as a Kenyan girl living with social anxiety because I was molested at ten and being sexually assaulted several times, I was taught that it was my fault. That it happened because I smiled at them or because of my clothing even though most of my clothings are very loose. I’m glad that Aimee had a support system unlike many girls around the world who unfortunately don’t have any support system and are blamed when such things happen. This season made me laugh, cry, squeal and made me have a rush of different emotions. Thank you for sharing this storyline it has really impacted my life ❤️.
Hey I'm a fellow kpop fan and also a black female who has gone through similar and I hope you're okay now. I pray your future is much better and those demons in your past can never hurt you and your story is true, valid and I believe you x
FF A I’m crying. Thank you very much ❤️ That’s all I wanted, honestly I just wanted someone to believe me however that’s not the reality of my world. Thank you for taking your time and reading my story and going an extra mile to write to me. I really appreciate it. From one black girl to another, thank you very much.
It’s heartbreaking that there is so much gaslighting in so many places. I hope you know that there is an army of women around the world who would stand with you, even if the people around you don’t
This should be shown in schools. I'm a 40-year-old man and I have been in so many toxic men groups ashamed to step up and tell them that they were wrong and was not ok treat or talk or harassing women like that (let alone sexually assaulting). I don't have many male friends today and I got away from those kinds of guy, but I feel ashamed of the fact that I could do more if I was not so concerned about "not make a fuss" and not deal with the backfire while women were suffering things like that done by men that I could even know. The behaviour starts in the small things that man share with each other from one generation to the next. I wish I could have been more proactive when I was young and I think this kind of conversation, with this approach, can really make a huge difference with the young generation. I'm ready now to fight for women when they are not in the room, but unfortunately, I don't have the mental health to be in those rooms as often as I would before. We need to teach the young men so they could not only change their behaviour but also stand up against that old standard and not be silent in situations like that.
She tried to laugh it off at the start. That's so realistic. You initially never want to face the fact that it was a bad situation. Also my friend told me about a really horrible thing that happened to her and she kept saying things like "but it was kind of my fault I should have fought it more" and "I was too drunk anyway" and trying to laugh it off. After coming into college I'm shocked about how often things like this happened. I know it happens to men too of course, but it's shockingly difficult to be a woman and not get assaulted
“They don’t even know they’ve done it” This. It’s a lot harder to back yourself and acknowledge that you were abused when they don’t even realise and will downplay it if you mention it to them, and you try to forgive or justify it because “it wasn’t intentional” “they didn’t know what they were doing” even though you were clearly miserable or didn’t consent. I recently apologised for slapping someone who groped me (I know him, he doesn’t remember the incident but came up to apologise cause he saw what I told his friend) and he told me not to, that if that had happened it was sexual assault and he could only apologise and that’s honestly exactly the attitude I needed. It reminded me to stop making excuses and being so forgiving and actually called it sexual assault which I had originally hesitated to use. Making sure everyone is clear on what isn’t acceptable is really important.
My friend was assaulted on a train in a similar way to the Sex Education plot - we both reported the assault to the police together but there’s a severe lack of discussion surrounding this sadly common experience. I’m happy the show covered this.
28:52 Imagine an 80 or 90 year old woman only now coming forward about her story or hearing a story like hers. Imagine how many of our grandparents and parents and aunties and uncles have these experiences bottled up
I remember my mother telling me how Guys forced her to kiss them as part of a joke when she was 17. Every woman has a story, I believe that there's No Woman that walks through this world without one.
I’ve heard many stories on my family. My grandmother (a jerk slapped on her butt when she was on a baseball match around 1950’s), my grandmother (she had multiple times sexually assaulted in the subway, one time a guy grabbed her and tried to rape her, but she screamed and got him away), my mother (also had multiple attempts of sexual assault from her teenage years to a few years ago, even a school authority said she should be thankful because boys liked her), all had experiences like this. They warned me, how to identify them, how not to be ashamed on that, but society made me think that only happens to beautiful, skinny women, not overweight or obese girls like myself, to be harassed is to be acknowledged as an attractive person. That old thought needs to be turned down forever.
when I was 13, my piano teacher would touch my hands in an awkward way, and I was so confused. He would touch my hands to check if they were too cold, and he would also touch my leg. I didn't know at the time how piano lessons were supposed to be like, but I was so unconftable I stopped playing piano for a few years (sorry for my grammar, english is not my first lenguage, I'm actually brazilian)
Miga, sinto muito pelo que aconteceu com você. Isso é errado e nojento. E nunca peça desculpas pelo seu inglês, é você quem está cedendo o seu primeiro idioma para se comunicar :)
Seeing that episode made me take my own sexual assault seriously. It was a train attendant and he had been on me while we were all alone in the middle of the night. I went home and couldn't go to sleep, I didn't dare to tell anyone. Then I tried to call my mum but I felt silly and just started to cry on the phone, hung up before she answered. I went for two weeks without telling anyone. Then I saw the episode and I called the metro security center to tell them about what had happened. The man I spoke with was very understanding and supportive. Then I told my boyfriend who followed me to the police. It was really a feeling of relief, also since this was not the first time something like that happened to me. I am forever grateful for this show.
“At 14, that girl had been taught that as a girl, you need to be quiet, not get in the way, not make a fuss, you need to be polite. But no one had ever tought to teach her no one has the right to touch you without you consent.” Wow that hit home. I still blame myself for a year of sexual assault with an ex boyfriend. I still don't really believe my therapist when she says it was sexual assault because I didn't (often) say no. I didn't want to make a fuss, didn't want him to feel uncomfortable even though it was horrible for me, so I just said nothing. I became a robot who even offered him sex because I thought I was broken for not liking it. He is to blame for the times I did express bounderies and he did not respect them. But maybe, for all those other times I think I am to blame for not talking, I can blame a fucking sexist society that taught me that my pleasure didn't matter and that I needed to be quiet. Thank you ladies for a wonderful show and this great conversation.
Its been two years since this comment, and i really hope you've grown to understand that it was a very real assault, and that you were in no way to blame, but i still want to give this advice. Anything else but yes, is a no, maybe is no, silence is no, etc. Continuous enthusiastic consent is the only thing required for consensual sex. Hope you're doing well ❣
@@frickincarrie3475 Thank you, your comment is so sweet ❤️ It took me plenty more learning time (and I'm not done yet), but I'm finally in a place where I can name the events as they are: sexual assault. I'm in such a better place now than when I wrote that comment two years ago, and have since met an amazing partner who highly values (enthusiastic) consent. Life is good, and trauma healing is going well ❤️ I hope life has been treating you well too!
@@frickincarrie3475 when someone does something to you that you don't like you either tell them or do something about it. You can't complain about things in your life that you're not trying to change. If you want to be an adult take your responsibilities. It's the guy's fault cause he doesn't get thar she doesn't want to do it but it's also the girl's fault cause she never says anything about it. Man up people. And also go f*uck youself for calling me a rapist you imbecile.
Last year I had my butt grabbed at school by I believe a boy in a grade below me (I was 16). I think he was with a small group of boys and after the one boy did it they all started to laugh. My flight response kicked in and I just speed walked up to where a friend of mine was so I didn't look behind me to see who it was, sadly. I'm so glad I started watching this show, it tackles so many different hard subjects in such a good, easy to understand, and empathize/sympathize with way.
KylieTheGamer In my lower years at school, a boy hugged me who was my friend and he squeezed my bum. I just thought it was normal or ‘friendly’. You are not alone. I feel with sexual assault people assume it’s always older people but it’s not always like that.
@@aliceholden9229 Exactly! I always walked around thinking that I'll get violated by an older man bit never considered that boys can and will do it as well which is just awful. Thank you for your reply, glad this is a safe place.
As a group we need to educate the people around us about what is right and what is wrong and it shouldn’t matter what your age, gender or sexuality is we are all human and we all go through life together and if we can’t stand up for each other and support each other no one is going to be able to make a difference and stop predators and this show is bringing people all over the world together and talking about topics that are “taboo” and showing people that this is not okay and that you are not alone.
I was on my way home from uni. It was a short tube ride, I did it everyday. It wasn't too busy but not empty so it didn't take me long to notice someone following me down the platform. I walked all the way up and back down just to make sure. He even started speaking to me. I ignored him until the train came. Of course he followed me on...and all the way down to the other side of the carriage. I was shitting myself. There was one woman who noticed and sat next to me, she said she'd stay with me until I got off. The guy stood closely, watching me and eventually left when he realised I wasn't 'alone'. I'll never forget her kindness.
something that has always bugged me is what they talk about towards the end: how our curriculum in school doesn’t talk about any of this stuff. In my public high school and middle school, i never learned about brith control, or how to put on a condom, or rape, or sexual assault, or how to report something, or anything. They act like if they ignore it it will go away and it makes me so damn mad.
It makes me feel angry and sad that it is so common for women (and probably some men) to be sexually assaulted in public around the world. I used to live in Japan and my younger sister was groped in a packed train in Tokyo when she was a teenager. Inappropriate touching is so common here that they even coined the term "chikan", meaning "a man who gropes in public". She told me that she was so scared and felt vulnerable but she kind of gave up seeking help from other people around her in that situation because she knew that it would embarrass herself and knew that this basically happens every day anywhere to lots of women. It was shocking when I first heard the story from my sister and I was ashamed about having not known this for ages. I really appreciate this show clearly depicted the issue so that lots of people can finally realise that this is a huge problem that should not be ignored.
I live in Tokyo as well; one day I was waiting to cross the train tracks when this guy winked at me and started moving closer, and then he followed me for half an hour, was right behind me the whole way across the scramble crossing until I found the (guy) friend that I was meeting up with.
@@gracemoses8896 That sounds quite creepy and scary. Thank you for sharing that with me. It's crazy that a lot of women experience being harassed and threatened. I think more people should recognise this because if lots of people are aware of it, each of us can keep a watch on those bad people and don't let it happen.
I did an exchange year in Tokyo when I was 16. On the way to our sports day during morning rush hour, a boy from another school touched my leg and started moving his hand upwards. I moved away; it happened again. I didn't really speak Japanese yet and therefore didn't know what to say. I put my sports bag between us and thankfully that kept him far away enough until I could get off. In a way, I'm really glad it wasn't on my normal train as I never had to get onto that one again, meaning I was unlikely to be in the same waggon again as the guy. My trust in people has been shaken since
I grew up in a country where this is a very taboo subject but a lot of the teenagers I know watch the show. I think the show handled Aimee’s storyline very well and in a realistic way which may open people’s eyes to such an important issue that they do not notice or speak about otherwise. I think that is also what makes this show so powerful. Thank you all for including such a strong message that many can relate to, and that needs to be handled better in our society. ❤️
Consent and respect for women needs to be taught in schools - too many men see women as sexual objects. I don't know a single woman who can walk down the street without a man or a group of men cat-calling her or shouting at her. I don't know a single woman who hasn't be groped by men. Yes, women can also assault / harass men sexually, but it is overwhelmingly men (not all men, but still) who do this. It's not okay
Absolutely incredible, the fact that young women & girls are seeing this and feeling empowered and not alone really helps a young generation of people understand these issues. Thank you Sex Education!
I am a crime victim advocate for my Deaf and Hard of Hearing community, and I am so disappointed to see this video NOT captioned at all.. As much as I favored this Sex Education 2nd season, I was so glad to see several crime victimization topics were brought up and talked about this time :) . I wanted to show more of interviews related to this, and I realized I cannot with this video... Shoot. So disappointing
Plus there aren't any captions capabilities on here. We Deafies have tolerated the auto-generated captions, which I am fine with it, but there aren't any captions available whatsoever for this video. I do LOVE Sex Education so much, and I was so looking forward to enjoying what they were saying in this video. Just so bummed that I could not enjoy it fully without captions. I am hoping they will see my comment and put in captions afterwards because we do have Deaf and Hard of Hearing communities everywhere in the world that watch Sex Education :)
The scary thing is how everyone look away like imagine if it was you going through it you would never want anyone to look away. I hope people watching this interview and the scene that you shouldn't look away or shut up.
As a guy who truly believes that every person of every gender are equal and should be treated as such, the scene with all the women on the bus had me in tears. We need to look after each other people. Please if you ever see anything like what Aimee went through happen in front of you, speak up and help! 🖤
Absolutely LOVE that this was based off a real experience of a writer, and not created from a privileged man who does not understand. You can truly truly truly see how the narrative shifts and how differently it is portrayed.
I love this so much. We shouldn't be living in a world where any girl/woman fears being alone or even in public. I was sexually assaulted when I was 15. And it's shocking that it happens to younger people. I remember thinking it was my fault. Maybe my shorts were too short. Maybe I should have not smiled. I guess I spent time just blaming myself when I had nothing to do with this horrible man's actions. This video brings up issues that are very very real. Sex Education season 2 literally helped me feel supported and not alone. I hope people realise we should start focusing on the abuser not on what could have made it happen. It is in no way the woman's fault.
I was so happy when I saw this storyline on the show. It seemed to come at the perfect time because for the last couple of months I have been finally facing all the sexual trauma I have been through. I was like Aimee (character) and brushed it off my shoulders and blamed it on myself. It happens far too much and women/girls don’t talk about it because we feel so alone/scared/don’t want it to define us. I was assaulted on a full school bus every weekend (going to track meets) it was always super early in the morning and everyone would go to sleep/quietly talk/listen to music. I would tell him no, N-O, very clearly. I didn’t want to say it loudly or scream because I didn’t want to disturb anyone. I got caught in blaming myself for not making a scene, but then recently at the movie theater a man sat next to me in an empty theater and stared at me even lifting the arm rest. I froze, I told my sister and she reported him and scared him off before he could touch me. Once again, I didn’t want to ruin the movie over something that people would think is small. The joking thing is sooo true, that’s what kept me from facing the truth for so long. The next generation of girls deserve to be taught to make a scene and not to accommodate to people who want to hurt you!
There’s soooooo many encounters and memories that Ive suppressed because I’ve gaslighted myself saying it wasn’t ‘that bad’ or ‘it was my fault’. It’s not okay and I’m thankful for this show. This show has changed lives.
sin nombre this is how a character grows deep and in real life, how a human grow up. The more real the pain it feels, the more significant the transformation is. It would me sadder if they never let her show how much she is suffering and how she handled the pain step by step.
Aimee’s storyline made me cry so much because i think every girl has had a story like that and this conversation with the actresses and the creators was very refreshing and emotional. I’m glad sex education had a storyline so truthful and raw. The whole range of emotions shown by aimee and the support of the girls. I’m truly thankful
Like they'd already said, I really appreciate that this arc validates the "smaller" forms of sexual assault. I catch myself and many of my friends trying to downplay their traumas because "it wasn't violent" or "there wasn't penetration". It's important to showcase sexual assault as this wide spectrum and not just the very worst end of it.
I’m so glad to see all this support for something we have been told is ‘just what happens’ our whole lives. I was overseas and already terrified of the possibilities and risks, in a country in which I couldn’t speak the language. I got on a bus after a beautiful dinner with my friends and it was packed like a sardine can. I was standing near the front door and I could feel this man breathing down my neck and I turned around and gave him a look as to say stop. he was middle age and a lot bigger than me. he kept getting closer and closer and eventually I was pushed up against the glass in between the seats and the pole towards the front. I was in a such a panic I was looking around for someone else to help because I couldn’t do or say anything in the anxiety of the moment. people were looking back and half smiling, looking down to see him grinding up on me and then looking away. I was mumbling but I couldn’t do or say anything. as I ran off the bus at the next stop I texted all of my friends for some support and was unsurprised to hear that something like this has happened to them too and not to worry because ‘things like this always happen, it’s normal’. how is that acceptable? I’m so so happy and feel so much more confident and safe knowing that there is representation of what I thought was a simple everyday occurrence on television presented as what it is; sexual harassment/assault. I’m sorry to all the women & men who have experienced something like this and props to sex education for being a great fucking show.
I’m currently in high school and a while ago our head teacher and head of year held all of the girls back after assembly and told us off about our skirt lengths because some of the girls like wearing shorter skirts, of course some of them are a bit too short and I wouldn’t wear them but whatever makes them comfortable? And she made us all line up and put our hands at our sides, and if our skirt was the same length or longer than the tips of our fingers we could go, if it wasn’t we got held back and I was wearing trousers so I got up and left. Her excuse for this was “it is making the Male teachers very uncomfortable and distracted and could affect other teenage boys hormones” and that angered me the most, not only did she shame us in front of other teachers and our friends for having an “inappropriate skirt length” she said it distracted Male teachers as if it was our fault because if a grown man is distracted by a teenage girls legs then should they really be a teacher?
My comment was removed for containing naughty language pertaining to the harassment/assaults/abuse I've had in my life. Censoring these stories is not helpful. Silencing women is not helpful.
Me and my friend recently had a purge of these kind of stories that we had never told anyone and I just realized it was right after we had both watched the new series of sex education.
Watching this has made me think back on so many occasions where I've been harassed in public places and never even considered it that big of a deal and just got on with it. As if you should expect that to happen to you and there's nothing you can do about it. Thank you for having this conversation!
This plotline is the reason I went to the police about my assault.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Sending hugs 💜
I’m so sorry this happened to you :(
Kitty S 🥰🥰
im sorry you had to go through this yet proud of you for going to someone as i know its scary to do that but it gets better
im glad :)
What I've noticed is that after the assault, Aimee started to dress more "simple", like, she stopped to dress up and wear her colorful and stylish outfits. She starts to wear sweaters and wear her hair in a ponytail. That shows how scared she was and a lot of women face that, because people don't care about the assault, the victim blames herself because of her clothes, and starts to cover herself more and more. It's really sad.
I had an exact same reaction as Aimee to something that happened to me. I was going out for a date after work and a co-worker has seen me. The next morning before I came to work he talked very loudly ot everyone in the office about how slutty I was dressed, that "the skirt was so short I could almost see his panties". My friends told me straight away when I came to work. My manager was out so I went to a guy higher than him and reported it. But that's not what really scarred me. It was the fact that when my manager came back, a girl from my team told him about the situation and he said "well, can you blame her, look at how she dresses to work" and then something about me bending over. The sad part is that I didn't report him and from that time I stopped wearing any skirts, dresses or heels. Because I thought that's inappropriate for work. I never dressed slutty anyways, never wore skirts shorter than knee length and never had a big cleavage. But this made me change it. When I realised it, I said SCCREW HIM and started wearing whatever I want.
@@anticreative1 I'm so sorry that happened to you. Most of the times, we are blamed for whatever happens to us because of our clothing. That is such bullshit, and unfortunately, girls all around the world don't know what to do.
People need to understand that our clothes are not the reason why we are assaulted.
The thing is, I always wear extremely long skirts and I wear oversized blouses to avoid being assaulted or cat called but guess what, even how covered I am I still get catcalled and it's annoying that people still blame the clothes.
Wow that hit me hard. I realised I've been dressing less and less feminine less tight fitting clothes to kind of protect me from the make gaze and not get sexualised as much, which is a word way of thinking.
so are you saying what you wear doesn't matter?
Another part of this storyline that was really important to me was the fact that Aimee DID describe him as being handsome. He wasn’t some ugly or creepy old dude. I feel like a lot of people like to argue that “women only have problems with the attention or advances they receive from ugly guys or guys they’re not attracted to,” when the fact is that any unwanted attention at all is UNWANTED, regardless what the person looks like. We could be attracted to someone or recognize that they’re attractive and still be made uncomfortable by their actions if what they’re doing is wrong. We’re not suddenly okay with being harassed or assaulted just because someone may be good looking.
So important ♥ We often make excuses for people because they are handsome, or didn't 'seem bad', but we're just shooting ourselves in the foot. ANYBODY is capable of sexual assault, no matter what they look like. Even the 'good guys' which I recently realised is such a dangerous label.
Ugh THIS yes
Juliana Matamoros i cannot agree more. The casting did a good job to pick an above average looking man instead of the stereotype creepy, slitting, mouse-looking, old and bald man in dirty outfit. And I actually think that’s part of the reason why no one helped her. Because that was decent looking man. The society forgives a man’s indecency very easy as long as he is in general socially acceptable.
This is really important. Reminds me of the Keke Palmer and Trey Songz incident. People thought her complaint wasn't valid because it's freakin Trey Songz. But really, it don't matter. Thanks for this.
Juliana Matamoros fucking preach
"Anger isn't allowed if you're a woman". I feel that so much because years ago I was in a club and a guy forced his way into the women's toilet and tried to push a girl into the cubicle. She couldn't do anything but I got so mad I grabbed him and pushed him out of the bathroom. The girl was thankful but everyone around, even other women blamed me for getting mad and making a scene. That made me even madder and I said 'should I have let him rape that girl'. The answer was 'no but take it easy '. Like I could have taken it easy on a guy that was much bigger than me 'excuse me sir, please don't rape that girl!'. Yeah right, it was my anger that made me strong enough to do something about the situation.
you totally did the right thing. it’s so frustrating that even when being faced with violence/sexual assault/etc that women are expected to be polite. why should we have to be polite to a sexual assaulter???? fuck that
That was incredibly brave of you. You absolutely did the right thing. The woman you helped won’t forget it, and nor will the man you stopped. You courageously sent the message that it was unacceptable, regardless of if everyone listened or not. You’re amazing.
you are so brave, people like you inspire me!
You are a hero in every sense of the word.
@@maddiejames9813 .
This scene in sex education was so heartbreaking. Aimee was assaulted and initially brushed it off. It wasn’t until she was alone that she truly realized what happened and broke down crying. It’s a sad reminder of all the assault victims who suffer in silence.
@Josh Wood imagine downplaying sexual assault to seem more masculine. must be sad
@Josh Wood bc you can't let a man be aware of the shit that happens to people without calling them a neek? not a feminist but this mostly comes from guys who wanna seem stronger
I still have sudden flashbacks to that day and I panic when I see a certain type of man (older, tall, tan, muscular, possible vet). They remind me of the man who assaulted me and it makes me want to cry.
A similar thing happened to me two days ago at the grocery store. A guy pulled his pants down in the aisle after I smiled at him to be friendly. I dismissed it for the rest of the day and completely blocked it... at 2am I called my dad crying asking what I had done wrong
@@RealMexFoodShouldntGiveUDrrhea I'm sorry, I hope you are okay ❤
“We’ve all been there, but we shouldn’t have all been there” really sums it up
Poor females, all of them have been assaulted by mean men. Kapp.
@@NaniCS701 at the end of the day it doesn't have to do with genders, sexes whatever it really doesnt, to me at least and i believe to many other people too
@@bluesquirrel2472 i mean its really just a bigger problem for women a lot of men go through sexual assault but not many although almost every girl by 14 has been assaulted. thats why most people only mention women
@@bluesquirrel2472 thats why people bring gender into becasue its a daily occurence for women
@@NaniCS701 Poor men who feel weak because women where empowered to tell their stories of sexual harrasment
This plotline made this season even better. Sex education is not afraid to approach tabu subjects and its one of the reasons why this show is so amazing.
That's what I was thinking! This show isn't afraid to tackle mature topics, such as sexuality, sexual assault or masturbation. I loved how they showed how Aimee suffered from severe PTSD after the incident with the bus creep, but her friends rallied around her to make sure that she felt comfortable taking the bus once more. (Also, greetings once more!)😀
@@trinaq Oh hey honey. Nice seeing you here. Right?! Fuck me this is an amazing show and i can't wait for season 3
*taboo
@@ANKITPANDEY-vm8kx lmao you're right i guess i was too excited i forget how to write.
I agree but the only thing I didn't understand is that Aimee's reaction to the incident on the bus was as if she didn't care at all and she truly didn't care she showed no signs of distress even at a the police station she was making jokes about it.. it was only when Maeve repeatedly talked about it that must have ingrained something in her head because her behaviour completely changed and it seemed unnatural. I understand they are trying to portray a serious incident and the effects it has on people but her traumatised response didn't fit her care free laid back character. If she had acted traumatised at the start that would have made more sense
Aimee's storyline and when she groups up with the girls is probably one of the best on TV and the best on the show
I'm crying.
I cry every time I watch the moment they get on the bus. Seeing them all come together and taking a stand is so beautiful and empowering even if this whole situation should NEVER HAPPEN!!!
marinanuXD it’s sad because she doesn’t think much of it at first and then we see how she slowly realizes what happened and Starts feeling unsafe and breaking down 😭💔💔💔
The ONLY thing they all have in common is sexual assault/guys being gross or creepy. That really sends a strong message and it's a great storyline
It was such an incredible storyline, when they were all smashing up the car makes me cry. The way they dealt with it was so empowering and so great I love this show so much.
This interview should be shown in schools.
Kids need to see this, young boys need to learn that this shit isn't ok and young girls need to learn this is never their fault!
I totally agree! I'd however like to add that it's the other way around too (even if it's less common): young boys should also learn that it's not okay if someone does something to them, and similarly, girls should learn that it's not okay to grab a guy's crotch or anything the like (other than self defense, where pretty much everything is fair game).
YES !!!
@@eline8087 yea i agree
We shouldn't even need to be taught how tf do people think this is ok...
I agree
Plus some girls also need to stop allowing it to happen, and wanting it to happen as it just encourages it. This isn’t all girls but some do this and it’s not good to encourage.
i absolutely cannot stand the thought of other people looking away or dismissing someone CALLING for help, in public. those people have the power to stand up and raise their voices, but choose to ignore those situations. please, if you're ever in a position to call this shit out, do it. there's no reason not to.
One time I saw a man bothering a woman in public. He was not touching her but she obviously didn't want him there. I did not have the courage to say anything about it and I still regret just standing there. I did hang around to make sure he left her alone but I feel like I should have said something...
Mylou I think an alternate way of getting involved is walking up to the girl pretending to know her. You can ask her if she wants to go get a drink and catch up. I don’t have any experience with this sort of situation, but that seems safer than telling the guy to stop.
@@myloujoores2724 i'm sorry to hear that. it's difficult and tense to act in the moment, especially when you see something so... real? so confronting? it's good that you hung around, gestures like that are always appreciated
@@asther1884 you're right, there are always risks in situations like that. really good idea
@candom rommenter yeah that's why i said position. if anything looks even the slightest bit sketchy, i definitely understand that people don't wanna get involved. i'm glad you pointed it out. i admit my approach to this was a bit forward
This week, in Brazil, a man groped a woman in the bus, she screamed but only the women in the bus did something and every single men were in silence. All these women were really helpful because in the next stop the man got arrested.
Sorry if there are any english mistake, it's not my first language.
Luíza Ferreira we need more things like this in latinoamerican country’s
I love the way you talk about it. Because when I read this my first thought was "Well, at least so many women helped" but that's the mindset we have to get away from. The active way you put it, "None of the men helped", is so much more useful because the default should really be everyone helping. It made me so happy how you portrayed it. And I'm glad the guy got arrested and it hopefully gave the sign of sexual assault not being okay to all the people on the bus. Thank you for sharing your story.
As horrible as this incident is, can you imagine, that as an Indian, it sounds like almost nothing to me? I could have just read until the third comma and kept scrolling had I not decided to reply after reading the whole thing. I'll tell you why. I feel so jealous and warm at the same time that there exist countries where men will be arrested for groping women. So many women, girls, preteens even, are groped in my city and everywhere else in the whole wide country that we do not even perceive it as a big deal anymore. I've witnessed creeps pressing against women's saree-clad backs, butts, everywhere in buses, touching them inappropriately amidst crowds, sometimes hovering literally over them in crowded buses and metros, pressing their certain body parts to women's certain body parts; and whenever someone has raised their voices against them, they have been told off by the men with a "You should not opt for public commute if you can't even put up with this." Having said that, they will go home to teach their boys to respect women, and claim they do so too. The women sometimes show support, albeit mostly through nods, and muted disgust. Such is the way assault is normalized in Indian society. Unless it's in the newspaper, we don't even pause to think whether what happened/happens to us on a regular basis is assault or not. It's just not. (I have combined personal and generic experiences here.) I'm twenty, and I can't remember the number of times each one of these things has already happened to me. And how I have went on with life, without having more than 5 minutes of repercussions about them; as has my mother, my grandmother, my aunts, my teachers, and friends, and every other woman I know.
That's me.
And if you have read upto this, thank you.
@@abhisikta6904 I totally agree with you.
i think your english is great :) thank you for sharing this!
“...I’m older and I’ve matured and I’m allowed to be a multifaceted human being, who experiences a range of emotions. And I don’t have a to be a sweet, digestible woman.”
I stopped the video and wrote that down in my journal because that is such a fucking great way to put it.
Love this show and love Aimee Lou wood so much more now.
Elizabeth Garcia digestible is what really got me
@@mintberrycrunchhhh33 me too! I stopped for a second and was like "damn. I have never heard it put like that and that is exactly how I feel."
When u need to teach urself that u can feel other emotions, not just being happy emotionless robot
I just did a screenshot of your comment haha that is 100% correct
This season showed true feminism. Its having differences but coming together to empower each other.
Precisely, in the age of the "Me Too" movement, women have got to stand by each other, and be empowered. Sexual assault can happen to ANYONE, so it's important to let anyone who went through similar experiences to Aimee know that they're not alone.😊
And it’s done without kicking all men to the curb too, they really did it right.
Mike Tiwaz the couples that stayed married and didn’t divorce lived miserable lives and ruined their children psychologically. Your little 50’s fantasy is a crock of shit. Traditional family is a myth.
@@robronsuggle6897 Well... according to you then my parents should be miserable more so than the single people.. I have seen no indication of that being the case. They are about as miserable as me a single in his 20'es.. they've been married for close to 30 years now and I don't see any indication why they should be miserable because of marriage.. Honestly I think I am on average more a lot more miserable than they are.
@@imbored9955 ME TOO. Why would you want to stay in a relationship if you're unhappy? It's good that people are being fussier instead of staying with someone for the sake of being in a relationship. If your idea of a relationship involves women not being liberated and parties not being equal then your problem is with how you treat relationships, not with feminism
I watched this scene with my roommate and I started crying since I had an experience like that myself (I'm a man) and he just looked at me not understanding why I was crying. I just didn't get it why he did not understand that that's not okay! Later that wmday we had a walk together and he started catcalling a girl.. He's not my roommate anymore, and that made me realize that sexual assault is a bigger problem than I thought it was
This comment breaks my heart
Sorry for what you've been through, hope you'll find someone talk about it
two of my friends watched the whole show in like a week, they talked about everything but the sexual assault part and it makes me sad, that they see it as a taboo or just something weird that just happens
Have an internet hug, my friend. None of us are alone in this for better or worse ♥
Mads van Peenen Everyone and anyone can be sexually assaulted. Stay strong and don’t let anyone make you feel weak for what you went through. Keep your head up brother. So many people are here to talk.
The way this show explores Aimee and Steve’s relationship is so well done, he isn’t pushy and she doesn’t want to ruin things - it’s so raw, this storyline has made me sob so many times
"I think I'm ready for a hug"
It was so refreshing to see a supportive and understanding partner! In other show and films the bf would of argued and shouted and blamed the girl for distance.. until she breaksdown...
Kinda sucks they break up
Aimee is disgusting she basically raped adam
I'm going to be truthful, Aimee's storyline actually made me realise that I had gone through something similar when I was 20 and 22, I'm almost 25 right now. I thought that it was no big deal but after watching episode 7, I just bawled my eyes out because it made me realise that that wasn't a small thing, it wasn't something to just brush off, that it wasn't okay, and that it did affect me in ways that I didn't even realise.
😭😭😭
Im so sorry you went through that, and Twice! But im glad you realised that after watching, and I hope you have someone to talk to about it! Sending u love
Much love! Sorry such thing happened to you.
@@asther1884 Thank you, yeah, I've talked to my sister and a close friend of mine
Thank you for all the love~
@@denisegaspar7433 Thank you for the love and support~
I just couldn't stop crying after watching the scene of all the girls getting into the bus.
Thank you, truly, for approaching such important issues in such a real way, it is what makes this show so special.
Its annoying af that people feel sorry and protective of characters like aimee but in reality nobody cares about rape victims and bullies the crap out of them shows how 2 faced and fake people seriously wish people would actually care about real victims and not just characters in reality nobody would care or do something like that to help
I did cry while I was watching that scene
As a 13 year old guy, I am so sad that this happening is “normal” in society. Absolutely disgusting.
It’s awesome that at such a young age you know how to respect and treat women. Sadly, some other kids your age, don’t believe in your values.
B C S It’s kinda sad that me just being logical and not idiotic is “awesome” when it should be normal, but thanks!
I hope you have the courage to call out people if they ever behave inappropriately in front of you
especially if it's your friends, because that's harder to go against them sometimes.
Young boys like yourself are the future and you can shift the norms if you try. I hope you keep that in mind
B C S 14 year old here, I believe the main reason for this is because of how little it’s taught in schools and by parents. Furthermore, memes on instagram ( very popular for boys) tend to make sexist jokes very often (why I stopped following them) and because they’re funny, they become used as kids want to be found funny. So it’s a combination of lack of education and obliviousness.
Yeah, as a 13 year old girl I've already been through sexual assault and I'm so happy a person my age gets it at least a tiny bit.
When the girls helped Aimee I bursted crying because although I haven’t experienced such situations, the support was an amazing thing.
At my old high school, they banned skirts because they were distracting for the male teachers which now I think about it is insane!!
Well that's gross.
mia palmer eww
they banned yoga pants at my high school for the same reason
Every time I walk into my classroom my teacher looks the girls up and down when the skirt is too short we get a detention; he shouldn’t be looking anyway
What the heck 😳 That's so disturbing
Netflix, this video needs subtitles and needs to be uploaded in all Netflix channels. Please!
Yuna Fagundes +
PLEASE
I totally agree with you - This video needs to be widely viewed by lots of people around the world, not just in the english-speaking countries.
I agree
Yes!
I am a male and I've exprienced sexual assault too in a train. This story speaks for a percentage of boys too. Thank you for this season, Sex EDUCATION.
Im so sorry
I am survivor of that as well. It did hurt and mess me up for life because of it. It did happened to me at work by older man in the wheelchair.
you did not deserve that at all, and there is absolute NO excuse for anybody to do such a disgusting thing to another person:/ it wasn't your fault
they dont care about us
I don’t even smile at men in public anymore. I feel like just smiling could give the wrong idea. How has it come to this?
Jules Yes! And it’s not a certain type of man, which I appreciate that Sex Education didn’t make him the typical creepy looking guy. I’ve had weird interactions with teen boys (which makes me sad), guys my age, and men who could be my grandfathers. From every background. I feel bad but I’d rather be safe and not start anything so I just keep to myself.
I catch myself multiple times pulling a "bitch face" in public on purpose just so I won't be approached by men. It's so sad.
Same and the worst part is that I've been in discussions with men who got mad at women for doing that because "not all men have bad intentions", blaming women again meanwhile this is not at all our fault. We WISH we could trust everyone on the streets, we don't like being scared of strangers but there are many fucked up people out there. And if we would trust random men on the streets and something bad would happen, we would still be blamed because "we should have known". I'm so tired of it.
@@jasmijnvansprengel Couldn't have sad that better❤️
@@jasmijnvansprengel
I agree with you but I am also very angry while reading this
Unfortunately,I was a person who thought that I need to be good to everyone,to except everyone but its not my job to do that at all
Its not my fault that some gross and weak and pathetic people can't do anything good in life and that they can't keep mouth shut and their penis in their jeans (:
They chose to do that
Only cowards excuse themselves for hurting other people
its like if someone is depressed,do they deserve to die or to be hit on?
or if u embarrassed urself or if u r shy or do wrong things in life that didn't hurt anyone,no one doesn't have to hurt u bc of it
I am just sick of ppl like this,but I will once punch them in the balls
We all need to learn how to protect ourselves
I wish this was anoymous but I was sexually assulted a month ago and after I watched this episode of sex education I felt better, I felt supported, I now know that I'm not alone in this, I know that it's going to be okay. Sure I'm still scared and feel unsafe and constantly paranoid out in public but Aimee's story has assured me that I'll be alright. I've made the decision to get counseling, I wasn't ready before but now I think I am, seeing these strong beautiful women talking makes me feel ready. I'll forever be grateful to sex education and Netflix. I fucking love this show, I feel strong again after crying my eyes out after watching that scene. Thank you Aimee for giving me hope. Much love from a 16 year old xx
M J you’re not alone and I’m so sorry that happened to you 💛 I was assaulted by someone a year ago. We’ll get through this.
Young women to young women, I'm so proud of you for talking about it and making the decision to take control. You've always been strong, we all are. I'm so glad you know that you're capable of anything. Much love to you too xx
You're not alone 🧡
@@charliebutera5636 we definitely will because we're strong capable women and a big 🖕🏽 to those awful men who think they have a right over our bodies.
Maryam Jogee HELL YEAH 💪
While watching this episode I felt horrible for Aimee that this happened to her, but when Maeve said you've been sexually assaulted I thought Maeve was wrong. It's what they said in this video, we think that the things that happen to us aren't heavy enough to be called sexually assaulting but they are. It's so important to get this out in the world.
Its annoying af that people feel sorry and protective of characters like aimee but in reality nobody cares about rape victims and bullies the crap out of them shows how 2 faced and fake people seriously wish people would actually care about real victims and not just characters seriously it's a real problem and people like u treat it like a joke
@@problematicprincess6270 what i meant to say is that it's very important this message is out here because of what happens to people. It's horrible and people should stand up if they witness something like this. Even if the act seems 'small' like touching someone in a private place without consent. It seems like it's not a big deal for people while it definitely is a big deal for the victim. I didn't want to come across like bully.
same i didnt think it was a big deal at first but this really made me understand how the smaller things really have an effect
as a male, who has been sexually assaulted twice. this gives me comfort and confidence. neither of my predators got anything, no jail, no court, nothing. i've been affected for so many years. i have ptsd & depression now, among three other disorders. thank you so much for this part of the show. that staying silent about it, it's not okay. i'm gonna have supporters and just thank you
hatty sykes if you ever want to talk about it I’m here for you
sending all my love
The scene where they're all smashing the car out of frustration gives me chills every time. I thought it was my favorite scene out of the whole series until I saw the one where they all got on the bus with Aimee. 10/10 we love girls supporting girls
Kaitlyn Rainville yes omg
I specifically added the song during the car smashing scene to my Spotify playlist because that scene is so powerful.
warjikin what song was it?
Corinna Popescu Mama Cass Make Your Own Kind of Music
This scene and storyline was the backbone of this season which was so impact and powerfull bringing the girls together showing that Women's can do anything if they come together!!!!! it Was so beautifully directed that each and every moment touched in heart of mine and i realised it just being a boy!!!!
I can't even imagine how proud will be the girl's to watch this scene!!!!♥️😍😇
EXACTLY my thoughts! Girls have to stick together to support each other, and I loved that they were all able to reach out to Aimee, and let her know that she wasn't alone!❤😃
@@trinaq exactly 😇♥️
Kids fry
ok but like, this interview is obviously so so so important, but meanwhile the men in the cast are dong interviews like "a night in with the boys" with them eating pizza and shit, and i guess that's cool and all, but i actually wanna know their view on this particular situation following Aimee u know? Perhaps what they think about the female empowerment in this season and all that.
Good point 👏🏾
agree!!!
@Nicole Leung I don’t believe that anyone is taught to sexual assault people, it’s just the fact that people don’t seem to care enough, especially the government, so people get away with it.
@Nicole Leung Honestly, really agree with you. I'm a young boy that's really getting familiar with feminism and at first I always thought it was weird to say "teach men how to not rape" (Don't think I've worded that well but you get the idea) and now I've taken a full 180 with that view. I definitely would never assault anyone, but I know the system is set in such a way that sexual assault is kind of.. easy to get away with? Just within it it seems like there's not really much of a problem and even men's mindset's are tuned to that. Should most definitely teach men how not to sexually assault!
@Nicole Leung I'm already getting started on reading feminist theory. Really interested, and I watched the ted talk with the same title (yet to read the book but quickly getting to it soon enough)
I should also mention: This really doesn't cost me, I do this out of nothing but compassion. I know I might not understand the struggle but that doesn't mean I don't care
Still though, I really hope everything turns out great
The first time I watched this scene I thought “oh no that’s bad” but to no degree did I even think for a second
going to the cops or that is was actually assault until Maeve said so and I was like “oh yes I guess it is?”. It has literally been so engrained into our culture that I felt like “oh that’s not a big deal” because things like this are constantly normalized and happen so often. BUT they SHOULD NOT be okay and it makes me so sad to realize that I am just as innocent as Amy and that I feel like I have to be more thick skinned and less kind to strangers for safety. I hate that I have to change the way I act and look in public because of the way society normalizes this dynamic.
yeah I feel you!! It's good to have women telling each other that WE own our bodies and no one has the right to touch our bodies without consent. Because men won't tell us that. So the more we, as women, speak up about these things the wider we can spread this message so eventually men won't have this sick idea anymore that they own you and can just touch u whenever they want
i felt the same way. it doesn't hit like it should hit. it's just so normalized.
And what got me thinking was when they said that you shouldnt ask a ton of questions to the girl. Like "what did you do to make him do that? Did you smile at him" etc etc because even as a woman I probably would have done that because maybe I thought they would want to talk about it and get it out of their system. But now i know to just say sorry and just listen IF they wanna talk about it
Me too. I thought it was normal.
me too☹️
This show does everything so well man
it is so refreshing to have darker skinned girls in shows like this. i am indian and it is so rare to have brown girls allowed to be as dark as their male counterparts... i’m so glad we got to see more of olivia and introduce viv this season
What does that have to do with rape ?
Jk
@@problematicprincess6270 it has to do with representation. when we see people in media who look like us, who share identities with us, it helps us feel seen and heard.
Freya B honestly the most things i’ve heard about sexual assault are from my black friends (i’m black) but no one hears those stories as bad they just think “lmao he’s crazy”
And Cal this season (3)
Such a powerful scene! Happened to me on the metro in Paris last year, a guy started verbally assaulted me for no reason. The metro was packed. I didn't talk back because I was scared and he was drunk, but a girl defended me (Which I am still very grateful for). Then the guy started attacking her and men on the metro started defending her, another woman called the driver to ask him to stop and wait at the next stop until the guy gets off. He eventually got off because everybody was pushing out, it was a beautiful moment in the end but it took a woman to defend me for the others to follow. It took me weeks to be able to get on the metro again because like Aimee I felt safe before but then I realised I wasn't. People DEFEND if you can, STAND UP if you can, because of most of the time, we only need one person to say something. And Please Ladies, carry self-defense item just in case xx
I am really sorry that you went through such an ordeal. It's brilliant that you were supported by the people around you. We need more of that
@@alicefeasey6795 I absolutely agree, we need more of that! Thank you for your comment :)
something happened like this to me as well. i was saved by my friend calling me away from the man and we ran away from him. i was so shaken and terrified but i never talked about it. and i haven’t since. it’s been over 2 years
Emma Gately well you just did now :) it’s a good first step! Just acknowledge the trauma, so you can heal cause it took me time to acknowledge it and it still does, but we cannot keep on feeling unsafe, that cannot be our reality! Xx
@@emmagately8797 well done. if you can, report it.
I’m 61 - Aimee’s scene and this conversation about it moved me to tears. It made me think, “oh my gosh - stuff like that happened to me too.”
I started mentally listing all of the times since adolescence I’ve been sexually assaulted. At first I thought it would be a short list, but as I started re-examining the incidents in my head from the correct perspective, I realized it happened dozens of times. From being “catcalled” and “flashed” to being “groped” and even date-raped - I can now say I have been a victim of several sexual assaults.
It explains why, even now, I’m afraid to open my door for deliveries or home repair calls. I view strangers with suspicion and wariness because of things that happened as long as 50 years ago. And that’s NOT OKAY.
We need to teach our children better. Unwanted touching, leering, comments, sexual contact are NOT OKAY. Especially by people in positions of power or authority over us, like teachers, supervisors, or even parents.
Again - thank you to the show runners, cast, and crew for this storyline. Bloody brilliant storytelling. 👍🏼💝
we have to show this video in schools. I'm fifteen, and because I talk about this kind of stuff with classmates, people call me "the feminist". I mean it's okay it's not as if people called me "the Nazi" or something but I mean feminist is not a bad word. It's just people are not informed, and don't realize how critical the situation is. So many boys and even girls have told me I'm exaggerating, I'm making a big deal out of nothing, it only happens to few women... It really is exhausting to be told you're never fighting for the right cause! moreover sexism is probably the only oppression I'll ever have to face, feminism is a cause I'll never stop fighting for. Being sexually assaulted is one of the most traumatizing things that can happen to you, so if you feel the need to talk about it do it, so it doesn't happen to other women
edit: I'm so happy other people shared their story down below, finally I found people who are going/went through a similar experience thanx for sharing 💗
maya lavenu honestly I had the same experience🤷🏼♀️ I done a speech on rape culture for my year 11 speaking exam and was made fun of because I was so passionate about the subject. But now I’m sitting my A levels and have grown up so have the people around me and they accept that there are serious issues regarding sexual assault. Hopefully the pop who call you those names will grow up, honestly I think they are all just sheep following the people who say feminisms a bad thing.
That’s the issue! People have gotten this deranged idea that feminism is something that’s bad and annoying, and they use that idea as an excuse to not listen. And other people get introduced to «feminism» as something bad, and they never question it and just go around thinking that’s the facts. It’s so frustrating!
this is really sad but keep fighting! but I will say we shouldn't just fight against oppression that we ourselves will face, we must fight against all of it ! none of us are free until all of us are free!
@@oliviaconway9246 yeah sorry that's what I meant. I won't fight only for myself just so people, including me, won't have to face it ever again
Fight on fierce warrior, remember you’re not fighting alone
It's really horrible that women all over the world, from young to old, have to experience these horrible situations. I had a similar experience where this guy was pretending to toss coin but he was really close to me so everytime he tosses the coin his hand would brush off my boob. I was around 13 or 14 that time. I didn't do anything or say anything because I didn't even realize what was happening. I just looked at the guy and didn't say anything but he was all defensive saying things like "it was an accident" and he acted like I was overreacting. I wasn't able to do anything, I was frozen. I was really young back then and I didn't realize how bad it was. But thankfully this show was able to tackle this subject because it made me feel like I wasn't alone (unfortunately) So take care of every women in your life and please please be sensitive enough to not make rape jokes or anything like that
It’s horrible to hear this happened to you I’m sorry. I mean I’m only 15 and since I was about 10 ive had old men look at me or say things even just older teen boys bc I started puberty and development at a younger age and they think that they have the right to do shit to us women. I support you and I know many others will too. X
@@jessicacarolyn5906 I'm also only 15. Thank you really, means a lot. I'm so sorry we have to experience this and many others
It’s not just women u know
@@Jackgames-vg7cw That's true and men's sexual assault needs to be discussed more, but unfortunately many men and women brush off men's sexual assault as a joke
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you did get a chance to talk to somebody about it. None of it is your fault and your feelings are valid.
Last year I got on the train to go out and meet some friends, and I didn't have enough time to do my makeup so I did it on the train. I recognized that this older man on the other side of the train, was staring at me the whole time, while he was talking on his phone about his wife and other stuff. Then he got up and came over to me, (he was a lot taller than I was, which was already really intimidating) and he said "with tits as big as yours you don't need that much makeup." and then left. At first I didn't even understand him properly, I was just so shocked and started to cry. I think the worst part was that nobody stood up and said something. I know that's not as bad as yours, but that's the last thing that happened to me which really shocked me. I also didn't really feel comfortable using public transport afterwards for quite some time.
It’s also horrible that lots of girls and young women have a ‘when this happens to me’ not an ‘If this happens to me’ mindset because of how common this is and how it’s treated as just something women have to deal with.
Yes, once a male friend of mine asked me how I would react if I was raped. I described in detail how every girl knows that the moment you realize there is no getting out of it, the goal changes from resisting rape to resisting murder. There comes a point when fighting back becomes too much of a risk. So you resign yourself to the fact that this is going to happen, and you do whatever you fucking can to stay alive and dissociate from the situation. I was fourteen and it breaks me that I didn't even have to think about my answer, because I already had one.
Also, its fucked up that this is treated as "just something that happens to women" instead of focussing on that this is something that men DO to women. We shouldn't be debating about how low the girls top was, we should be talking about the fact that some man went ahead and raped her.
@@qweed54 I hope you are ok, that's absolutely awful
Some males have gone through the same thing :c
back when i was in high school was when the metoo movement started. I didn't initially know what it was. But all of a sudden, while scrolling through facebook I saw a bunch of posts that just said "metoo". I though "hm, wonder what that means and why they're all posting the same thing". Like 95 percent of my female facebook friends posted that. When I later learned what it meant, my heart just sank.
@@luc8692BRUH. NO ONE ISNT SAYING THAT THEYRE NOT EXCEPT OTHER MEN.
A scary thing to think about, is that if this many people have been sexually assaulted. How many people you see in everyday life just walking around have done the assaulting? This was my psychosis that I woke up from, that this issue is an epidemic and I couldn't even see it.
I'm glad you woke up to it. It sucks when some of my friends say ignorant or hurtful things surrounding sexual assault not knowing I've experienced it, and the more they say those things the less willing I am to talk to them about it
wow. just woww
The thing is I actually know two guys who have assaulted girls but they’re super popular and just keep living their lives, I think they don’t even know that they have assaulted girls. It’s sick. I know them, I know their names, but it doesn’t mean or change anything.
@@lujorom9172 It's because people continue being friends with them and still maintain contact. If people actually cut ties with abusers and showed them there are actual social consequences for this kind of behaviour, then people won't see they're doing anything wrong.
@@TigerPrawn_ so true. I used to keep following them on Instagram but whenever they posted I thought of the shit they did and got away with so eventually I unfollowed them to ban that energy from my life. It didn’t exactly make much of a difference obviously, but I mostly did it for me. But you’re so right, people have to start cutting these people off.
Something I noticed about Olas story was the keys between her fingers. When I saw that I cried because of the amount of times I’ve done that because I was being followed by a man or chased. It was subtle but when you know, you know.
PLEASE enable closed captions for this video! This conversation is extremely important, so sharing it with as much people around the world would be amazing (plus deaf and heard of hearing as well, of course).
There are captions now!
Aimee's explanation from 9:00 is EXACTLY how I was. I was struggling with depression and a very recent heartbreak by infedelity and I had beaten myself up for feeling like shit because I wasn't supposed to feel like how I was feeling. I was the one who was there for people. They called me a ball of sunshine but for months I couldn't feel like it and it pained. But I still refused to go to therapy until I was harrassed at a job interview. It broke me. After the interview I went straight to my best friend's house and wept the entire afternoon until early morning.
Not long after, I went to therapy. I was struggling so much because I forced myself to be okay and to understand people during the time when I should be flipping tables and allowing myself to feel the unpleasant emotions. I was younger and naive back then, like Aimee was. But now, I am more mature to let myself be angry when I am angry at people who abuse or assault me. It does get better.
@Catalina George Morales It's not just women, it's just mostly women. Men have experiences like this too, it's just rarer. I'm one of the few
I work at a Children’s Hospital and a lot of the times I see kids come in young girls come in who have been sexually assaulted. And I always try to tell them how great they are for opening up and letting an adult know what happened. And sometimes the stories can be hard to understand or they can be chopped up but it’s not my place to say what happened or what didn’t happen I’m there to make sure that she’s safe in that moment and that she feels like she made the right decision to say something.
thankyou for being there for them 💕
"It's just a stupid bus." Is my favorite line in the entire 2nd season. You take these girls, who are vastly different in so many ways, especially because you have 2 who are pitted against each other, put them in a room and force them to find a commonality. They came together, joined forces and helped one another. It reminded me so much of Mean Girls. I loved this season so much better because it touched on a topic that is so fragile, but it is important to discuss because the reality is, sexual assault happens and it happens all the time. Girls are often so mean to one another, but what happened to Aimee brought them all together and they connected
In year 7 a female teacher all taught us to sit like “proper ladies” so that the boys and male teachers couldn’t see up our dresses when we were sitting. Maybe boys and men should be taught not to look up dresses instead
especially men. if youre worried about adult men looking up a 12 year olds dress maybe you should fuckn fire them
i agree with the teacher. if youre going to wear a dress you have to understand that sitting with you legs split will make people uncomfortable therefore you should sit properly. unfortunately men have something called a peripheral visions so just because they see down there doesn't mean they were staring or enjoy looking down there and it can make them uncomfortable which is normal human beaviour.
I sent this video to my friendship group and they all ignored it... says a lot
Georgia Wilson I hate that we feel like we can’t talk about it and if we do we’re weird
I love how sex ed tackled this issue in a realistic way
Something we really need to talk about as a society isn't just of how victims can protect themselves during acts of sexual assault but also how witnesses should take action to help someone in trouble. It's not just that people don't step up to help someone in trouble, I think the problem arises from the issue that many don't know how to step up and help in such circumstances.
SNC sin when good people keep being silent, the bad people win.
exactly!
SNC sin I don’t even think it’s that because so many people have the « it’s noble of my business » mentality and I’m like it’s happening in front of you and you see visible signs of unwanted attention or being inappropriate or anything it doesn’t have to be visible, if you see something that makes you uncomfortable then do something anything call the police, break it up yourself (with respect of how the situation could go) but do something.
There are free intervention trainings online to teach people how to intervene in street harassment
YES!
Like they all said, most women who regularly take the bus have faced some form of assault. Someone who hasn't faced it will never know how scary and traumatic it is. That's why this was my favorite storyline in season 2. Thank you for talking about it 🧡
When Aimee was assaulted on the bus I wanted to go through my screen and beat the shit out of the man who was assaulting her. I wanted to grab Aimee and give her the biggest hug and tell her that I got her and that she was going to be okay. It really pissed me off that no one stood up for her to help her. Glade Mave stepped up and helped her.
@@aproe610 what do you think?
@@aproe610 Wanking on someone is sexual assault.
I smiled at a man at a train station once and we discussed if we had both got the right platform. He then sat next to me on the train and continued to talk to me even though I put headphones on. I had to switch trains later and it happened that he had to get on the same one (this was a long train ride, mind). He later asked to see pictures of me and I said no. He then asked for my mobile number (which I gave him because I felt pressured and didn't want it to be awkward for the rest of the train ride because I was already freaked out enough) and also asked where I lived and if he could visit me. He kept ringing me and saying he missed me. I never answered any of his calls. But I still have this fear of trains in a way. I hate that people take advantage of kindness. I used to like to smile at people in the street just to brighten someone's day, but now I often don't even make eye contact.
So true 🙁
That must feel so scary.
So fucked up that women are afraid to smile at people. I’ve never even thought twice about doing it, because I’m male. I’m so sorry.
that's horrible, i'm so sorry... it's so unfair that we can't even smile at someone because they can turn out to be some creep. i used to be very gullible when i was younger, but i've had some incidents with men throughout my life (i'm 24) and ever since then i'm very guarded when i'm out in public because i'm so scared shit like that could happen. i think i'm physically unable to smile at strangers even if i want to.
I'm so sorry you got targeted by that creep. Those people take away our trust of people in general, and it's awful. You're not alone ❤️
Laurie is so incredibly brave for sharing her story through Aimee’s performance. Just wow.
I don't know how, but every time something serious happens to Aimee in the show, my mum starts chopping onions.
talk to Mom openly. Be Brave.
@@queerbrunchwoclondon8696 wtf? I'm so confused as to what you just said
@@cindr_ just saying to speak to your Mom. That's all. nothing more. Peace.
Ok? I'm so confused why u want me to chat me mum
@@cindr_ why not?
Aimee is such a good actress, she understands her character so well
i was sexual assaulted before, and honestly i feel so thankful that you guys brought this up. it’s so important that people need to take this thing seriously:((
I'm lucky that I've never been physically assaulted, I have been catcalled and verbally assaulted but never physically. The scariest moment was when I was 15 or 16 years old. I worked in a tavern and did the dishes most of the time. One time I had to go through the seating area to put away clean cutlery, I had to pass by some customers. A man was there to eat and drink something with his wife and when I passed by he said (so I could hear) "I want to slap her bum later". His wife didn't say anything. It made me quite uncomfortable but I didn't say anything. When I had to pass by him again I tried to go as quick as possible. Then I was in the kitchen for a while to help there but had to go back to the dishes (in a separate little building). When I went to go back to the dishes the guy who made the comment earlier that day was standing in front of the door. He asked me before I went in if I had signed already, I didn't know what he meant so I said no and he replied with "Watch out, or I'll grab you". I was so scared and I was shaking a lot. I told my boss and he told me he'd keep an eye on the guy for me. After my shift I was waiting on my parents. This guy started whistling at me and calling me over, I ignored him because my shift was over. My boss went over to him and I overheard him say "I want to be served by her, why don't you make her work". My boss told him that my shift was over and that he should leave me alone. To this day, this was still one of the scariest experiences ever.
In front of his fucking wife. That's so gross. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I know from experience how traumatizing this is for a girl who has to manage growing up and developing physically and mentally at that age. For me it was among other things my uncle who would for a long time slap my butt while he hugged me 🤮
You matter ❤️. Don't minimize your experience by saying "I'm lucky I've never been physically assaulted."
@@nadjak3410 his wife is almost certainly a victim of physical and psychological abuse herself.
He sounds like a typical bully.
Unfortunately if he has children they will more than likely inherit his lack of self esteem and the cycle will go on
the first time I was catcalled was when I was ELEVEN and walking with my two THIRTEEN year old sister (we often got mistaken for triplets so looked roughly the same age and we were NOT mature looking AT ALL; to be TMI but I hadn't even begun puberty and my sisters were only the cusp so we had completely child-like figures) and four men probably early twenties yelled out of a moving car "SHOW US YA PUSSIES". I was ELEVEN. happens way too often still and I'm 20 now and it makes me fucking fume every time. Its humiliating and frightening and I wish people would stop telling us to "take it as a compliment".
It’s weird how we imagine everyone coming to fight for us women during situations like this but really people don’t want to be a part of something like that
Rookie Teenager diffusion of responsibility. Psychologically it's common for a lot a crimes.
In reality no one comes to help us. Almost no one will tell us what we need and want to hear. Someone standing up saying "THIS is WRONG!" Reaffirming us with the notion that no, we are not to sensitive, we are not overreacting - that infact WE are in the right. WE have the RIGHT to say no. To get angry, to defend ourselves with all we have.
Most often than not I don't do anything at all, even though I know I could. Because we are listening too much to the voices who try to make us insecure about this. Who question US. But we don't have to listen. I realised now that to get a hold of this problem I have to be the strong one, take that anger and use it for the next person who tries to do something to me. I will not again be disappointed by friends or family, waiting for someone to stand up for me.
As a man who got assaulted at the age of 7 (18 years ago), I'm glad to see such a side story done so well and tastefully.
I’m crying. This was so powerful. I have severe anxiety when I’m in public because of multiple situations of sexual harassment/assault. It’s a constant internal struggle. Thank you for this
The thing is, Not Every Man is Like That but Every Woman has a story Like That.
The way this sort of thing is perceived in the country i live in - Russia - is really discouraging at the moment.
ChrisWalkerTalker Hell yeah! I was literally crying while watching the police scene, cuz, you know, try to imagine reporting sexual assault to Russian police
That scene made me happy and sad at the same time. A similar thing happened to me, as a Kenyan girl living with social anxiety because I was molested at ten and being sexually assaulted several times, I was taught that it was my fault. That it happened because I smiled at them or because of my clothing even though most of my clothings are very loose. I’m glad that Aimee had a support system unlike many girls around the world who unfortunately don’t have any support system and are blamed when such things happen. This season made me laugh, cry, squeal and made me have a rush of different emotions.
Thank you for sharing this storyline it has really impacted my life ❤️.
Hey I'm a fellow kpop fan and also a black female who has gone through similar and I hope you're okay now. I pray your future is much better and those demons in your past can never hurt you and your story is true, valid and I believe you x
FF A I’m crying. Thank you very much ❤️
That’s all I wanted, honestly I just wanted someone to believe me however that’s not the reality of my world.
Thank you for taking your time and reading my story and going an extra mile to write to me. I really appreciate it.
From one black girl to another, thank you very much.
Wishing you all the best
It’s heartbreaking that there is so much gaslighting in so many places. I hope you know that there is an army of women around the world who would stand with you, even if the people around you don’t
This should be shown in schools. I'm a 40-year-old man and I have been in so many toxic men groups ashamed to step up and tell them that they were wrong and was not ok treat or talk or harassing women like that (let alone sexually assaulting). I don't have many male friends today and I got away from those kinds of guy, but I feel ashamed of the fact that I could do more if I was not so concerned about "not make a fuss" and not deal with the backfire while women were suffering things like that done by men that I could even know. The behaviour starts in the small things that man share with each other from one generation to the next.
I wish I could have been more proactive when I was young and I think this kind of conversation, with this approach, can really make a huge difference with the young generation.
I'm ready now to fight for women when they are not in the room, but unfortunately, I don't have the mental health to be in those rooms as often as I would before.
We need to teach the young men so they could not only change their behaviour but also stand up against that old standard and not be silent in situations like that.
Netflix, you are doing absolutely great sweetie.
She tried to laugh it off at the start. That's so realistic. You initially never want to face the fact that it was a bad situation. Also my friend told me about a really horrible thing that happened to her and she kept saying things like "but it was kind of my fault I should have fought it more" and "I was too drunk anyway" and trying to laugh it off. After coming into college I'm shocked about how often things like this happened. I know it happens to men too of course, but it's shockingly difficult to be a woman and not get assaulted
“They don’t even know they’ve done it” This. It’s a lot harder to back yourself and acknowledge that you were abused when they don’t even realise and will downplay it if you mention it to them, and you try to forgive or justify it because “it wasn’t intentional” “they didn’t know what they were doing” even though you were clearly miserable or didn’t consent. I recently apologised for slapping someone who groped me (I know him, he doesn’t remember the incident but came up to apologise cause he saw what I told his friend) and he told me not to, that if that had happened it was sexual assault and he could only apologise and that’s honestly exactly the attitude I needed. It reminded me to stop making excuses and being so forgiving and actually called it sexual assault which I had originally hesitated to use. Making sure everyone is clear on what isn’t acceptable is really important.
My friend was assaulted on a train in a similar way to the Sex Education plot - we both reported the assault to the police together but there’s a severe lack of discussion surrounding this sadly common experience. I’m happy the show covered this.
28:52 Imagine an 80 or 90 year old woman only now coming forward about her story or hearing a story like hers. Imagine how many of our grandparents and parents and aunties and uncles have these experiences bottled up
I remember my mother telling me how Guys forced her to kiss them as part of a joke when she was 17. Every woman has a story, I believe that there's No Woman that walks through this world without one.
I’ve heard many stories on my family. My grandmother (a jerk slapped on her butt when she was on a baseball match around 1950’s), my grandmother (she had multiple times sexually assaulted in the subway, one time a guy grabbed her and tried to rape her, but she screamed and got him away), my mother (also had multiple attempts of sexual assault from her teenage years to a few years ago, even a school authority said she should be thankful because boys liked her), all had experiences like this. They warned me, how to identify them, how not to be ashamed on that, but society made me think that only happens to beautiful, skinny women, not overweight or obese girls like myself, to be harassed is to be acknowledged as an attractive person.
That old thought needs to be turned down forever.
when I was 13, my piano teacher would touch my hands in an awkward way, and I was so confused. He would touch my hands to check if they were too cold, and he would also touch my leg. I didn't know at the time how piano lessons were supposed to be like, but I was so unconftable I stopped playing piano for a few years (sorry for my grammar, english is not my first lenguage, I'm actually brazilian)
Giovana Farias i hope ur okay now that’s so wrong please speak up about this and tell someone 💕
Miga, sinto muito pelo que aconteceu com você. Isso é errado e nojento.
E nunca peça desculpas pelo seu inglês, é você quem está cedendo o seu primeiro idioma para se comunicar :)
Seeing that episode made me take my own sexual assault seriously. It was a train attendant and he had been on me while we were all alone in the middle of the night. I went home and couldn't go to sleep, I didn't dare to tell anyone. Then I tried to call my mum but I felt silly and just started to cry on the phone, hung up before she answered. I went for two weeks without telling anyone. Then I saw the episode and I called the metro security center to tell them about what had happened. The man I spoke with was very understanding and supportive. Then I told my boyfriend who followed me to the police. It was really a feeling of relief, also since this was not the first time something like that happened to me. I am forever grateful for this show.
I don't get why some men think that our bodies are their property...
aimee is so articulate and has such a way w words , i love it
I might be reaching but Aimee (the actress) seems like she's about to cry when her character gives excuses to what happened
“At 14, that girl had been taught that as a girl, you need to be quiet, not get in the way, not make a fuss, you need to be polite. But no one had ever tought to teach her no one has the right to touch you without you consent.”
Wow that hit home. I still blame myself for a year of sexual assault with an ex boyfriend. I still don't really believe my therapist when she says it was sexual assault because I didn't (often) say no. I didn't want to make a fuss, didn't want him to feel uncomfortable even though it was horrible for me, so I just said nothing. I became a robot who even offered him sex because I thought I was broken for not liking it. He is to blame for the times I did express bounderies and he did not respect them. But maybe, for all those other times I think I am to blame for not talking, I can blame a fucking sexist society that taught me that my pleasure didn't matter and that I needed to be quiet.
Thank you ladies for a wonderful show and this great conversation.
Its been two years since this comment, and i really hope you've grown to understand that it was a very real assault, and that you were in no way to blame, but i still want to give this advice. Anything else but yes, is a no, maybe is no, silence is no, etc. Continuous enthusiastic consent is the only thing required for consensual sex. Hope you're doing well ❣
@@frickincarrie3475 Thank you, your comment is so sweet ❤️ It took me plenty more learning time (and I'm not done yet), but I'm finally in a place where I can name the events as they are: sexual assault. I'm in such a better place now than when I wrote that comment two years ago, and have since met an amazing partner who highly values (enthusiastic) consent. Life is good, and trauma healing is going well ❤️
I hope life has been treating you well too!
Of course you would never blame yourself. There's always someone else to blame, right?
@@aselliofacchio Coercing somone into sex is rape. If you defend this, I'm assuming you're a rapist too, just for general safety.
@@frickincarrie3475 when someone does something to you that you don't like you either tell them or do something about it. You can't complain about things in your life that you're not trying to change. If you want to be an adult take your responsibilities. It's the guy's fault cause he doesn't get thar she doesn't want to do it but it's also the girl's fault cause she never says anything about it. Man up people. And also go f*uck youself for calling me a rapist you imbecile.
Last year I had my butt grabbed at school by I believe a boy in a grade below me (I was 16). I think he was with a small group of boys and after the one boy did it they all started to laugh. My flight response kicked in and I just speed walked up to where a friend of mine was so I didn't look behind me to see who it was, sadly. I'm so glad I started watching this show, it tackles so many different hard subjects in such a good, easy to understand, and empathize/sympathize with way.
You should have slapped him
I am sorry that that happened to you. That is disgusting
KylieTheGamer In my lower years at school, a boy hugged me who was my friend and he squeezed my bum. I just thought it was normal or ‘friendly’. You are not alone. I feel with sexual assault people assume it’s always older people but it’s not always like that.
@@aliceholden9229 Exactly! I always walked around thinking that I'll get violated by an older man bit never considered that boys can and will do it as well which is just awful. Thank you for your reply, glad this is a safe place.
@@alicefeasey6795 🥰❤
As a group we need to educate the people around us about what is right and what is wrong and it shouldn’t matter what your age, gender or sexuality is we are all human and we all go through life together and if we can’t stand up for each other and support each other no one is going to be able to make a difference and stop predators and this show is bringing people all over the world together and talking about topics that are “taboo” and showing people that this is not okay and that you are not alone.
I was on my way home from uni. It was a short tube ride, I did it everyday. It wasn't too busy but not empty so it didn't take me long to notice someone following me down the platform. I walked all the way up and back down just to make sure. He even started speaking to me. I ignored him until the train came. Of course he followed me on...and all the way down to the other side of the carriage. I was shitting myself. There was one woman who noticed and sat next to me, she said she'd stay with me until I got off. The guy stood closely, watching me and eventually left when he realised I wasn't 'alone'. I'll never forget her kindness.
something that has always bugged me is what they talk about towards the end: how our curriculum in school doesn’t talk about any of this stuff. In my public high school and middle school, i never learned about brith control, or how to put on a condom, or rape, or sexual assault, or how to report something, or anything. They act like if they ignore it it will go away and it makes me so damn mad.
It makes me feel angry and sad that it is so common for women (and probably some men) to be sexually assaulted in public around the world. I used to live in Japan and my younger sister was groped in a packed train in Tokyo when she was a teenager. Inappropriate touching is so common here that they even coined the term "chikan", meaning "a man who gropes in public". She told me that she was so scared and felt vulnerable but she kind of gave up seeking help from other people around her in that situation because she knew that it would embarrass herself and knew that this basically happens every day anywhere to lots of women. It was shocking when I first heard the story from my sister and I was ashamed about having not known this for ages. I really appreciate this show clearly depicted the issue so that lots of people can finally realise that this is a huge problem that should not be ignored.
I live in Tokyo as well; one day I was waiting to cross the train tracks when this guy winked at me and started moving closer, and then he followed me for half an hour, was right behind me the whole way across the scramble crossing until I found the (guy) friend that I was meeting up with.
@@gracemoses8896 That sounds quite creepy and scary. Thank you for sharing that with me. It's crazy that a lot of women experience being harassed and threatened. I think more people should recognise this because if lots of people are aware of it, each of us can keep a watch on those bad people and don't let it happen.
Wataru I completely agree. It’s ridiculous that this is accepted as normal in our society and that nothing is done about it.
I did an exchange year in Tokyo when I was 16. On the way to our sports day during morning rush hour, a boy from another school touched my leg and started moving his hand upwards. I moved away; it happened again. I didn't really speak Japanese yet and therefore didn't know what to say. I put my sports bag between us and thankfully that kept him far away enough until I could get off. In a way, I'm really glad it wasn't on my normal train as I never had to get onto that one again, meaning I was unlikely to be in the same waggon again as the guy. My trust in people has been shaken since
I grew up in a country where this is a very taboo subject but a lot of the teenagers I know watch the show. I think the show handled Aimee’s storyline very well and in a realistic way which may open people’s eyes to such an important issue that they do not notice or speak about otherwise. I think that is also what makes this show so powerful. Thank you all for including such a strong message that many can relate to, and that needs to be handled better in our society. ❤️
Consent and respect for women needs to be taught in schools - too many men see women as sexual objects. I don't know a single woman who can walk down the street without a man or a group of men cat-calling her or shouting at her. I don't know a single woman who hasn't be groped by men. Yes, women can also assault / harass men sexually, but it is overwhelmingly men (not all men, but still) who do this. It's not okay
As a gay guy, why tf are there men that actually cat call?? Like, I don’t see a cute guy and express that publicly to him
porn is the reason for that
Bravo. I’ve not watched this show but now I will. AND being heard, being seen and acknowledged is our core need. And friends with sledgehammers.
Absolutely incredible, the fact that young women & girls are seeing this and feeling empowered and not alone really helps a young generation of people understand these issues. Thank you Sex Education!
And also young boys will see this too ♥
cx45830 Yes true! Both will learn something from the show, it’s brilliant
I am a crime victim advocate for my Deaf and Hard of Hearing community, and I am so disappointed to see this video NOT captioned at all.. As much as I favored this Sex Education 2nd season, I was so glad to see several crime victimization topics were brought up and talked about this time :) . I wanted to show more of interviews related to this, and I realized I cannot with this video... Shoot. So disappointing
@candom rommenter I have NO idea whats being said... I am Deaf
Plus there aren't any captions capabilities on here. We Deafies have tolerated the auto-generated captions, which I am fine with it, but there aren't any captions available whatsoever for this video.
I do LOVE Sex Education so much, and I was so looking forward to enjoying what they were saying in this video. Just so bummed that I could not enjoy it fully without captions. I am hoping they will see my comment and put in captions afterwards because we do have Deaf and Hard of Hearing communities everywhere in the world that watch Sex Education :)
There are English captions now!
@@fchow20 OMIGosh! Thank you for letting me know! :) :) :) Wish I could thank the person who did the captions! Inbox me, please. :)
The scene with the girls all on the bus POWERFUL, well done Sex Education for delivering this topic.
The scary thing is how everyone look away like imagine if it was you going through it you would never want anyone to look away. I hope people watching this interview and the scene that you shouldn't look away or shut up.
As a guy who truly believes that every person of every gender are equal and should be treated as such, the scene with all the women on the bus had me in tears. We need to look after each other people. Please if you ever see anything like what Aimee went through happen in front of you, speak up and help! 🖤
Absolutely LOVE that this was based off a real experience of a writer, and not created from a privileged man who does not understand. You can truly truly truly see how the narrative shifts and how differently it is portrayed.
More people need to listen to this.
I love this so much. We shouldn't be living in a world where any girl/woman fears being alone or even in public. I was sexually assaulted when I was 15. And it's shocking that it happens to younger people. I remember thinking it was my fault. Maybe my shorts were too short. Maybe I should have not smiled. I guess I spent time just blaming myself when I had nothing to do with this horrible man's actions. This video brings up issues that are very very real. Sex Education season 2 literally helped me feel supported and not alone.
I hope people realise we should start focusing on the abuser not on what could have made it happen. It is in no way the woman's fault.
are you doing better ?
I was so happy when I saw this storyline on the show. It seemed to come at the perfect time because for the last couple of months I have been finally facing all the sexual trauma I have been through. I was like Aimee (character) and brushed it off my shoulders and blamed it on myself. It happens far too much and women/girls don’t talk about it because we feel so alone/scared/don’t want it to define us. I was assaulted on a full school bus every weekend (going to track meets) it was always super early in the morning and everyone would go to sleep/quietly talk/listen to music. I would tell him no, N-O, very clearly. I didn’t want to say it loudly or scream because I didn’t want to disturb anyone. I got caught in blaming myself for not making a scene, but then recently at the movie theater a man sat next to me in an empty theater and stared at me even lifting the arm rest. I froze, I told my sister and she reported him and scared him off before he could touch me. Once again, I didn’t want to ruin the movie over something that people would think is small. The joking thing is sooo true, that’s what kept me from facing the truth for so long. The next generation of girls deserve to be taught to make a scene and not to accommodate to people who want to hurt you!
cherie bomb I am so sorry you had to go through these experiences
There’s soooooo many encounters and memories that Ive suppressed because I’ve gaslighted myself saying it wasn’t ‘that bad’ or ‘it was my fault’.
It’s not okay and I’m thankful for this show.
This show has changed lives.
Are there any guys watching this? This show is great, but to the general boy public; has this message reached them?
Yes, it was terrible to watch
Yes it definitely has! But noone discussed Eric's assault
@@kumarvikramaditya9636 Because boys doesn't matter. It goes both ways.. But some people don't wanna accept when it happened to boys..
@@Nnnn2313-j2b wow!!!😫😫😫
@@kumarvikramaditya9636 its the truth
Aimee: Stop fighting over a stupid boy!!! * starts crying *
Me: 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 why, why did u make her suffer so much this season 😭😭😭😭😭😭
sin nombre this is how a character grows deep and in real life, how a human grow up. The more real the pain it feels, the more significant the transformation is. It would me sadder if they never let her show how much she is suffering and how she handled the pain step by step.
Aimee’s storyline made me cry so much because i think every girl has had a story like that and this conversation with the actresses and the creators was very refreshing and emotional. I’m glad sex education had a storyline so truthful and raw. The whole range of emotions shown by aimee and the support of the girls. I’m truly thankful
Like they'd already said, I really appreciate that this arc validates the "smaller" forms of sexual assault. I catch myself and many of my friends trying to downplay their traumas because "it wasn't violent" or "there wasn't penetration". It's important to showcase sexual assault as this wide spectrum and not just the very worst end of it.
I’m so glad to see all this support for something we have been told is ‘just what happens’ our whole lives. I was overseas and already terrified of the possibilities and risks, in a country in which I couldn’t speak the language. I got on a bus after a beautiful dinner with my friends and it was packed like a sardine can. I was standing near the front door and I could feel this man breathing down my neck and I turned around and gave him a look as to say stop. he was middle age and a lot bigger than me. he kept getting closer and closer and eventually I was pushed up against the glass in between the seats and the pole towards the front. I was in a such a panic I was looking around for someone else to help because I couldn’t do or say anything in the anxiety of the moment. people were looking back and half smiling, looking down to see him grinding up on me and then looking away. I was mumbling but I couldn’t do or say anything. as I ran off the bus at the next stop I texted all of my friends for some support and was unsurprised to hear that something like this has happened to them too and not to worry because ‘things like this always happen, it’s normal’. how is that acceptable? I’m so so happy and feel so much more confident and safe knowing that there is representation of what I thought was a simple everyday occurrence on television presented as what it is; sexual harassment/assault. I’m sorry to all the women & men who have experienced something like this and props to sex education for being a great fucking show.
I’m currently in high school and a while ago our head teacher and head of year held all of the girls back after assembly and told us off about our skirt lengths because some of the girls like wearing shorter skirts, of course some of them are a bit too short and I wouldn’t wear them but whatever makes them comfortable? And she made us all line up and put our hands at our sides, and if our skirt was the same length or longer than the tips of our fingers we could go, if it wasn’t we got held back and I was wearing trousers so I got up and left. Her excuse for this was “it is making the Male teachers very uncomfortable and distracted and could affect other teenage boys hormones” and that angered me the most, not only did she shame us in front of other teachers and our friends for having an “inappropriate skirt length” she said it distracted Male teachers as if it was our fault because if a grown man is distracted by a teenage girls legs then should they really be a teacher?
This makes me so mad, that girls and women are taught to cover up so the boys and men don't get distracted.
My comment was removed for containing naughty language pertaining to the harassment/assaults/abuse I've had in my life. Censoring these stories is not helpful. Silencing women is not helpful.
Me and my friend recently had a purge of these kind of stories that we had never told anyone and I just realized it was right after we had both watched the new series of sex education.
Watching this has made me think back on so many occasions where I've been harassed in public places and never even considered it that big of a deal and just got on with it. As if you should expect that to happen to you and there's nothing you can do about it. Thank you for having this conversation!