Psychotherapist Reacts To James Blunt - Monsters
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Join me, Jim Morris, a licensed psychotherapist, as I react to James Blunt's emotionally charged song "Monsters." I'll delve into the profound themes of grief, loss, and emotional vulnerability conveyed through the lyrics and Blunt's powerful performance. I also explore the psychological impact of the song, discussing how it can resonate with listeners who have experienced similar emotions. Watch and discover how music can be a powerful tool for emotional expression and healing.
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The sadness/helplessness/fear on his face while he pushes through singing this beautiful song to his father is so intense. Like you said anticipatory grief. It’s exactly how I felt for the whole 6 months we had between my Mum’s diagnosis with terminal cancer and her death. You have to get on with it, support them, love them, spend quality time with them al while trying to live some kind of normal life and keep working. But you feel like your heart has already been ripped out.
Thank you for sharing this. Stay strong and shine on!
I felt that 3 times in my life and once for my own death i think if it can be categorized as this because i was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney failure so i was kind of seeing my death slowly creeping up on me but thankfully i got a transplant
The line in the song, I’m not your son, you’re not my father, comes from how they said goodbye to each other when they were deployed to war. He and his father were both officers in the British military and when James was deployed to the Bulkins, he army officer dad said to him, your not my son, I’m not your father, we’re just two grown men saying goodbye. It was their way of detaching themselves emotionally from the situation and also a way of saying I love you I think. He wanted his son to know he saw him as an equal to him, a grown man.
His father served int the Falklands war.
His Dad's quote at the end of the video: "Why is everybody crying? I'm still here."
🤣 Awesome!
I met James in The Balkans during the War. We were both in the Army and deployed there. He's a very special bloke. I recommend his song "No Bravery" he wrote to deal with the his (and very many other soldiers) emotions about that conflict. It helped me deal with my demons a far bit. I'll never forget him going to War in a vehicle with a guitar strapped to the outside 😊.
Outstanding.... Well done, that man.
Having your company minstrel be able to express the unexpressable must have helped many deal with the uncertainty and hazards in the profession of arms.
When I was a little girl & scared at night, my dad would "threaten" the monsters under my bed. I believed they were afraid of him. My dad had severe Alzheimer's at the end of his life & thought I was his mom. When he was scared, I would sleep in the recliner next to his bed. He would feel safe because he believed that the monsters were afraid of me (his mom). That was the hardest thing for me. His passing was almost a relief, knowing he wasn't this ghost of the man he once was.
The time you shared with your dad is so special. Thank you for sharing this beautiful example of love! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. My mother just passed March from it. The long goodbye is what they call it and I think that sadly describes it doesn't it. It's been the hardest thing to deal with and confront from day one and I can't tell you when it ends as I'm still in it. I've had loss but this beast is something different. It's such a cruel monster. I'm sorry you battled it and I am sending you so much positive vibes.
💔💔💔🌻🌻🌻
This brought tears to my eyes. 😢❤
My dad is dying and has dementia. He was a difficult and tough father, but he loved us deeply. He ran for parliament twice, taught himself to build yachts, helped mom run 3 rest homes. It is the disease that is the monster. I love you dad xxx
This was done in one take, completely raw, he was crying for real and it rips you apart.
DAD was dying of kidney disease, stage 4, had donated a kidney years before. Rare blood type no matches to be found. After this song dropped a distant cousin in Australia came forward as a match. Success. Still alive last I knew! Both are military men, so stoicism was a fact as deployments came and death always a looming possibility. Proceeds of record sales are donated to military caritie.
This so g was done in ONE take. His Dad had NOT heard it until til they sat to tape it. I find it incredible that James was able to get through this at all. Secondly, as both father and son had been military men; one of the things they would say to each other when either was deployed was: “I’m not your son, you’re not my father we’re just two grown men saying g good bye.” The fact he implemented this into this song was so touching and so personal. I’ve been touched by this song at so many levels.
Kudo’s to both men’s strength in getting through it like they did.
It wasn't rhe first time he heard the song, James played it for him and asked if he wanted to be in the video. So second time, but still.
none of that is true but I guess one lie repeated many times becomes true, right?
This was the first time his father heard the song. James sang this live for his dad…. I know that I don’t have the strength to do this. Amazing love shown here
The dad received a kidney transplant after a distant cousin saw this video, his father was a kidney donor himself. Like a miracle…they didn’t have even hope before that. James is a very special singer and person. Very feeling…emotional. Lovely music all around, but no, I cannot think if anyone who sounds like him, his voice is very very unique. I watch this video often, helps whenever I feel overwhelmed, to release some anxiety and depression. Thank you.
I'd never heard of this song until I watched teenager Iam Tongi, who had recently lost his father, sing it on American Idol. He later sang a duet with James Blunt, and it was incredibly touching. James was so sweet, helping Iam through the parts of the song that were too emotional for him and comforting him afterwards. James is a class act.
That one is even more emotional than this... when James touches him and is like take it away, it's yours now too I LOST IT
Also I believe it had been a while since James had played live but he came back to do that one and you could tell he was nervous! It was almost like the roles were reversed
Same here.
This was my first introduction to this song as well, in that setting it really felt like James was the father figure to Iam in the moment. James taking his arm and pulling him through the performance felt like such a healing emotion.
My old man was a monster. He beat the Hell out of me my entire childhood and I was a good kid. Got good grades, never got into trouble. He never came to any of my football games or track meets, traded away the car I wanted to buy from him when I got home from basic on purpose to get back at me for choosing to serve my country instead of selling used cars at his crappy used car lot, never visited me when I was in the hospital for two years recovering from my injuries suffered in the duty, never once said he was proud of me. I forgave him until 12 years ago when he said he'd do it all over again. He died last month. If he's in Heaven, he now knows the mental and physical pain he has caused me. Forgiveness is now between him and God. If you had a horrible father, don't be like him. Learn from his mistakes and be the best damn dad you can. Your kids deserve it.
You make an excellent point; we can certainly learn from non-examples. Glad to hear you want to be a better person. Shine on!
I am so sorry you had a crappy childhood. I am so mad at your father. I had the best parents in the world. So I know what a happy childhood feels like. My siblings and I were very blessed. My parents have passed away too. I hope you find a special person to build a wonderful family. I will pray for you.
I'm sorry you went through that. To me you became a well adjusted human being. God bless you.
Michael, so sorry for your experiences when vulnerable. I'm glad you found a way to discharge resentment in forging your own path as an honourable man in the profession of arms. Service for your country should be recognised for the high risk it is. Thank you for your contributions to the world's safety and security.
May you live all the days of your life....
My sister played this song at my Dad's Celebration of Life and there wasn't a dry eye in the place. My brother almost fell apart.
My dad had a brain tumour that slowly took his memory away. I was with him for the first 6 months or so. We would be up at 2 am drinking coffee. Some days we had two breakfasts as he would forget he already ate. He still drove with me as a passenger for a while until we had to take his keys. He would get scared sometimes which was the hardest part for me. We made sure he was never alone.
My youngest sister had him at her place for the final three months (just down the road) as his physical needs increased. She was a rock star. She had nurses organized, a housecall doctor, medical equipment and other support all ready to go when he moved in to her house. So us three sisters and some of the grandkids rotated and Dad stayed home right to the end. He passed away in the afternoon looking at the lake after we all said good-bye. My sister was holding his hand when he took his last breath. We couldn't have scripted it more peacefully. My brother (youngest) did very little. I understand it was hard on him but I know my Dad would have liked to see him more.
So now three years later, my brother hates my sister and I because we talked Dad out of something. I have no idea what. I think his mother put ideas in his head. He only talks to our middle sister. He got the house and property. There wasn't much else because Dad never had much.
Apologies for dumping all this but this is what the song gives me memories of.
Thank you for sharing this. Stay strong and shine on!
Hugs and love to you
What an amazing gift you gave your dad, taking care of him for so long. I could envision the scene with having coffee together into breakfast and it brought tears to my eyes. 🥹I’m so glad you got that quality time with him and I’m sure he cherished it.❤
James has a more recent song called The Girl That Never Was which is likewise a bit of a gut punch when you realize what it is about. He is able to take the life experiences we all have and deliver them in song form that is both great and heart breaking at the same time. He's able to express the emotions we feel in times of life's challenges. If you have lost a parent to longer term illness, he really hits it on the head with this, the roles reverse and you take the role of caregiver that the parent once has for you.
The love, understanding, and pride shows in daddy’s looks.
I love the way they are sitting with their arms touching, you can tell they are very close! I also love how his dad pats his arm at the end to comfort him, such a loving gesture! 😢
James and his parents lived near me a long while ago at Cley Windmill in norfolk. Their surname is Blount but james changed it to Blunt when he started out as a recording artist.
I always call to mind too that he is a veteran, rose to Captain in the Life Guards regiment of the British Army, served in Kosovo during the war. He has real courage and guts for letting his family love out like this, he deserves great respect for so many things he does, including regular charity support for Médécins Sans Frontières. He’s a wonderful rôle model, as well as a heartbreaking singer.
I've read then when it came to recording this song James told the crew - one shot, that's it. . . I don't have more than that in me. It's evident from watching it how difficult it was to get through so it makes sense he'd only one to do it once. Loved the reaction!
James did a great job with these lyrics , they' re based on a poem written by his sister. The line" i'm not your son your not my father we're just two men saying goodbye" was what they said when as Army Officers they deployed. I served myself and never said "goodbye" when i deployed, it was always something like " see you later ". Even now with two sons serving i don't say "Goodbye" to them.
His father had a terminal kidney disease, but after this video came out, a cousin came forward and gave him a kidney. So far he is doing well.
So glad to hear he’s doing better! Thanks 🙏
@@MusicHealsHQ The "helplessness", that James and his family felt, was that none of them were suitable matches to James' father so they could not help Charles (the father). They searched every avenue by the time James wrote this song. When the Video was released, a distant cousin saw it and decided to get tested, on the off chance he matched. He did. @kracine9582 condensed it perfectly but I just wanted to explain the "fear and helplessness, portrayed in the clip.
It also is noteworthy that Charles Blount only had the one kidney to rely on because he had donated a kidney for another person.
The control of emotions you see are from them both being military men .. the line " I'm not your son your not my father we are just two grown men saying goodbye " is what his dad said to James when he was going of to war and was scared
You nailed how it feels to know someone is going to die, and there's nothing we can do about it 😢
Thank you for watching. Peace and love to you and yours.
I would highly recommend No Bravery. James wrote it while dealing with his experience as a serving officer during the war in the Balkans. The Girl That Never Was is also very personal and painful. James is a Bard. His lyrics are alway incredible ❤️. Thank you for the insightful reaction.
I've never seen a live performance of No Bravery in which it's clear that James is still angry over that time. The Radio 2 Live performance that came out during the first lockdown in 2020 caused the cameras in the room to shake, and he's just in his house.
Absolutely so well said! I discovered James Blunt just a few months ago with this song. I am , or was a musician,and I am absolutely just amazed,that’s not even enough,by his music and as you said incredible lyrics. Also he is really underrated,not in Europe but here in the states. I don’t think I heard anyone come even close to him, not just his unique voice but the way he can express his emotions and feelings in his songs and still singing amazingly. He is one of a kind, I always think I listened to most of his songs and then I find yet another one. Just blown away,no matter how many times I listen to a song. Take care 😊
I took care of my mother (and best friend) during her struggle with ovarian cancer. We fought for 4 years and I became the mother, she the child. One thing I did was sit in her bedroom during the night, while she slept because she told me the scariest hours were in the middle of the night. Everyone was asleep but she would wake up and know she was dying. So from then on, when she opened her eyes in the night, I was there. I couldn’t bear for her to be afraid. Together we laughed, alone we cried.
Thank you for sharing this. Shine on!
I nursed my father through terminal asbestos cancer 12 years ago this September. I still relive his last 2 weeks in my head most nights.....I cant remember what he looked like before cancer took control, literally have to have photos of him around so that I remember. This song reminds me of my older brother sitting with my dad, reading his bible to him....
Now Im facing the end of my own life. Its quite a perspective, I look forward to the new adventure.....but this song will always make me cry.
Thank you for sharing your love and care for others. Sending you encouragement, strength, and love for healing! Shine on!
when the video was over everyone in the room was crying except daddy. he looked at everyone and said why are u all crying im still here
That’s lovely. Any chance your dad has any Irish blood in the family ? So like my dad
This was not rehearsed. His father had never heard this. James sang this in one take. He refused to do another take and didn't allow autotune. It's why we are so deeply touched. There is nothing fake about this.
I know that's a great story, but its just not true. I've seen it on social media, but go do a deep dive and you'll see that this version of the story is fairly accurate, but not totally. His dad had heard it before. James said he WAS very nervous playing it for him the first time (which wasn't the video) but it went ok. The scene wasn't a single take, but wasn't many. They had some technical issues that made them have to stop a few times. The good news is his dad recovered and didn't pass away.
Thank you for this beautiful reaction.
In my experience of losing my parents a month apart after many years of ill health having been their primary carer, being with them at their deathbeds, and then my life partner who died from cancer, you somehow find the strength to do whatever you have to do at the time, but pay the price afterwards.
So glad the video spoke to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you! 🤟❤️🎵🙏
Thankfully a distant family member donated a kidney and his father is still alive and well. The song moves me like no other.
James has a hilarious self-deprecating self of humor. He not only sings like an angel, he makes me laugh!
They served in the military together. His fatber being a high ranking officer and the line: I'm not your Son and your not my father was inspired by a speech his dad had made to him in the military saying you're not my son and I'm not your father, and basically that they are soldiers now. Etc etc. I can't remember the specifics but he sang this in one shot on tbis day, so his father could hear it. His dad isn't someone who shows outward types of emotions but is very proud of his son..They're very close. They thought the dad was going to die but luckily he got the transplant but it was a terrifying time I am sure.
I think we as people who love to watch reactors, like to connect sometimes, & showing vulnerability with us, does that......thank you for being real & raw with us, & really appreciate your feedback & analysis 💗💗💗
Absolutely!! I really appreciate your support! 🤟😎🎵🙏
I agree!❤ Love the vulnerability & comments. You just gained a new subscriber!
I am so glad you didn’t stop the video before you say James’ dad pat his arm to comfort him at the end. So many do! That part finishes me off because the father is still trying to comfort the son even though the roles are reversing 😢
I feel like I have some sort of PTSD after taking care of my mother up until her death. She was the best woman I’ve ever known. My best friend. And she fought so hard for so long. And I moved in and nursed her at the end. All the while my step father was being his usual asshole self. I did everything for her, while working remotely and dealing with a chronic pain disorder I have. Then the family imploded after she died. And I kept so much of the horror of her ending to myself to protect my brothers.
I spent a few years after travelling and just running away from myself. I’ve since spent 7 years becoming a recluse and hiding myself away. I only have the energy to take care of the tasks to keep myself alive while dealing with severe constant pain.
So all that along with a lot of trauma from my past… I think I’m pretty shut down. But I’m not depressed per se. I feel content being on my own with my cat.. probably because it’s easy and I’ve always been a lone wolf. Sometimes I wonder if there’s something wrong with me that I like my own company too much 🤷♀️
Now my father is in stage 4 cancer and I know I’ll be called upon to do his end of life care… I’m dreading it. But it’s what we do for family, even those we aren’t close to.
Thank you for sharing your some of your story. Caring for others can be draining. Please invest in some self-care also. You can find a therapist near you at www.psychologytoday.com
Best to you and yours. 🤟❤️🎵🙏
One thing I hadn't notice before, but now makes the whole song. They are leaning in towards each other slightly, all the way through the song, gaining strength and comfort, to say the things that need saying in the lyrics of the song!
This is my first time seeing one of your reactions. I subbed as I appreciate your thoughts as a psychotherapist. Music has always been my escape (like meditation) since I was a kid. Now, music, and reaction videos, have been my balm and what has gotten me through the last couple of years. It started with a phone call telling me my brother was in a hit-and-run accident on his motorcycle. He was left on the side of the road. He was in a coma for 3 months. While this was going on, I got a phone call to get to the hospital ASAP, my father-in-law had collapsed. We were too late, and he passed while we were on our way there. Days later, I got the call that my brother passed. One funeral on Monday, the other on Friday. Then my mom became ill as she couldn't handle losing her son, I kept taking her to doctors who kept sending her home. Four months later, I lost my mom. My husband and I were scrambling to take care of his mom and my dad. I had to become my uncle's Power of Attorney at the same time, as he, the patriarch of the family, started to decline. I lost my uncle 7 months ago, and we just lost my mother-in-law a few weeks ago. When you lose loved ones, and you are trying to mourn, the paperwork and legalities can push anyone over the edge. Songs like this one are so powerful, because the songs allow you the moments to sit and cry -- to heal -- to know you are not alone. Avi Kaplan's music has been my favorite go-to, and I hope you check out some of his work.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Love and prayers for strength to you and yours. I’m glad you’re here. 🤟❤️🎵🙏
@@MusicHealsHQ Thank you for your kind words. One day at a time....
I’m blessed that my parents are young and I still have my father, but this song makes me SOB every time. I worked as a caregiver for a while, and for a funeral home recently. This song specifically reminds me of loved ones on hospice as well as loved ones with dementia or Alzheimer’s..the line about it’s his turn to chase the monsters away reminds me of the almost infant and childlike fear in memory care patients.
Truly heartbreaking.
The moment that always gets me is when his dad grabs his arm to comfort him. just a little rub with his thumb
tears every time
I spoke with my Father on Monday, February 26th. We got off the phone because dinner was done. 10 hours later i received a call that my Dad suffered a simultaneous heart attack and stroke, causing him to fall off a ladder, breaking his neck. He was 76 years old. I was 49. 4 months later, im still broken, paralyzed in any movement. After a 12 hour drive to reach the hospital he was in, myself, along with my brother and sister, had to make the decision to take him off life support, as he was considered brain dead. I am broken, lost, angry, stagnant, guilty and alone. My superman died. Help me Dad, I dont know what to do.
I’m sincerely sorry to hear that. As your hero, there must be many positive feelings and memories you have about your father. A hero inspires strength and courage in others. I know he’d be proud to know his son is carrying on his legacy. A professional can also help you move forward. You can find one near you at www.psychologytoday.com
I’m glad you’re here. Sending love and prayers to you and yours.
You need to review Mike and the mechanics in the living years this song touched me as much as chase the monsters away…
Goodbye My Lover, No Bravery, Carry You Home, and The Girl Who Never Was are other songs of his you should react to as well. You may recognize his voice from the song “You’re Beautiful”. It was a big hit played everywhere.
Jim, I had the same reaction as you when the view panned out and his dad showed up in the scene. I was shocked and burst into tears, over the steady tears that were already flowing. I found this song after my mom had passed away from glioblastoma. I felt every word of James. My dad has also passed away so this song gets me every time I watch it - which is countless times by now. I appreciate the gentleness and love James expresses in this song. I feel the same way towards my parents. Thank you for reacting to this song. Thank you for giving words to why this song matters so much to people like me.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m glad you’re here! 🤟❤️🙏🎵
@@MusicHealsHQ 🥰🤟❤️
I have seen this video over a hundred times and I cry each time. I love the song, it’s beautiful with such a amazing story. Much respect for both of them for sharing their story.
Now you need to watch the video of James performing this song with Iam Tongi on American Idol. Iam was a 17-year-old kid whose father passed away a couple months before he auditioned for the show. This was his audition song and they brought James in to sing it with him live on the show. Iam won the competition that season, and their performance will forever be one of the show's greatest moments. James was so compassionate in the way he got Iam through that performance.
James embodies all of Kubler-Ross's stages of grief and impending death. This performance do real, such a vocal struggle but with beauty, grace, anguish and a myriad of other conflicting emotions. The "monsters" need to be chased away so he can handle the possibility of his father leaving too soon. Thank you, James, my 31 yr old daughter left too soon and this helps.
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Both James and his father were Captains in the British army (?). Whenever James got deployed they would always say “I’m not your son. You’re not my father. We’re just two grown men saying good-bye” was always what they said to each other. That is his real father and was the very first time his dad heard the song
That’s amazing! Thanks for sharing this! 🙏🎵❤️🤟
Correction: Charles Blount is a Colonel (ret.).
@@thomasmacdiarmid8251 yeah that’s why I put the (?) bc I want 100% sure their rankings
James was a Lieutenant, his father was a Lieutenant Colonel, his father explained that they say that because his father being a senior officer, he couldn't show his son any favoritism over others. His father had heard this before and insisted on being in the video. James wanted to do it all in a live one-take to capture the raw emotion. On a good note, when they ended the video, his dad looked at everyone and said, "Why's everyone crying? I'm still here."
I was just going to say they were both in the army... mad respect for both of them as well as all our armed forces
Thank you for what I feel is a very insightful reaction. I think the line that gets to me the most is when he says "...no need to forgive, no need to forget, I know your mistakes and you know mine..." I take it as, no matter what arguments we've had or things we disagree on, right here, right now, none of that matters, I love you.
Unfortunately, I missed the opportunity to have that conversation with my father. While I regret that, I hope that my children will be able to have that conversation with me. (Preferably, many many years from now)
I love music by James Blunt. I recommend you listen to other songs.
Monsters isn't the only song that'll make you cry.
James served in the British armed services and retired as a captain.
His songs are all very heartfelt.
The tears and agony on his face from the beginning of the song are striking, and it makes me wonder how he can sing this beautiful song through the tears and emotions he's feeling.
If you haven't seen it already please see Sam Tompkins - Hero (Live at Hammersmith Apollo)
lost my dad just over 2 years ago. I tried to be his rock when my mam passed away and dedicated my life to make sure I took his mind off it and travel around the world with him. When he passed, I then took the role to make sure the family was fine while trying to sort out his estate. My family say I have the emotions of a Vulcan but when I first heard this song about a year after his passing, it just destroyed me. I finally understood subconsciously what I have been doing. I vowed never to hear this song again but after seeing your like, it took me over 30 mins to click on the link to hear what a professional analysis would say, and I totally agree with you. You need to understand that grief effect people in so many ways and no matter how you deal with it or what people perceive about you, that is how you deal with it.
It took courage for you to watch the video and share your comment! I’m really glad you found it helpful, and I encourage you to stay strong! Glad you’re here!
Peculiar and fantastic voice of James Blunt.
We cannot help but be moved by the rawness and composition in terms of music and lyrics.
Each one will search within themselves for similar visceral and exintentional experiences.
It was especially my turn to scare away monsters with my mother's terminal dementia...
I left all my problems frozen and accompanied her the last few months in the only way I knew how, with love and tenderness.
A smile and joy came out of me that I hadn't had in years, she didn't know who she was, but she always smiled at me.
Thanks for your reaction.
The love you shared lives and shines through you! ❤️
My Dad passed away at the end of February, with my brother and myself, as well as a support worker coming in to help 4 days a week, looking after him until the end. I am not sure how many times i used this song to prop myself up so many times. I worked full time throughout, my brother part time, and between the two of us and the support worker managed, though it was not easy all the time. Many of the things you mentioned are true. I did find i neglected my own care, and sleep especially latterly. I know i found strength through it, though i did not share it with any member of the family. I found solace latterly, that we were able to keep Dad at home, exactly where he wanted to be. My brother and i also found a good friend in the support worker, who seemed to fit right in with the routine that Dad had
Thank you for sharing this. You and your brother provided a wonderful gift to your father. Sacrifice and loyalty are acts of love that convey respect and honor. Sending positive thoughts and prayers to you and yours. 🙏❤️🤟🎵
When my husband passed away 4 years ago, I was 35 and had no understanding of what all went into having a spouse or loved one pass and me have to deal with all of the paperwork. It was very overwhelming and felt like a knife gutting me even more with every form and obstacle I kept getting hit with. It is very helpful to have someone you trust to help you with these things because I also was not in the correct state of mind to be doing a lot of the things I had to do.
You are so right. Thank you for sharing this. Glad you’re here! 🤟❤️🎵🙏
@@MusicHealsHQ Thank you for your wonderful and knowledgeable insight into the world of music therapy
That's where I'm at right now. It's been three weeks and it seems like the hole just keeps getting deeper. The notifications alone, the forms, trying to raise money to pay the funeral home - it's so much more than anything I expected.
@@LadyIarConnacht I am so very sorry for your loss. Know you are not alone and it does get easier. You never “get over it”, like people tend to say, you just learn to live with the pain. Make sure you have someone you can trust to help you make unbiased decisions. I know for about 2 yrs after my husband I honestly couldn’t think or remember anything at all. Those 2 yrs are a blur even now. Again I am sorry you are going through this. My thoughts are with you!! 🙏🏻🕊️☮️❤️🥰
Also, Ed sheeran supermarket flowers is the one song that get me. It was played at my mums funeral, and again, so real
Q! I have watched so many reactions to this and more times than not people say “is that his dad?“ And I think “Do you not see his face? He looks just like his dad!”
So thank you for being aware that there is an incredibly strong familial resemblance.
As someone whos currently caring for their love one has dementia and kidney problems ive been trying to balance my work life and taking care of them i became emotional and basically a loose cannon taking my anger out on everyone until my dad told me we can beat this together this song made me appreciate life with him more and to try to spend every moment I have with him
So glad the two of you are providing each other with strength. This is also a great example of love. Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way! ❤️🙏💪
I went through this first with my dad and then with my mom. It is agonizing but it’s nothing like losing a child. I think of my dad every day.
Sending love and prayers your way. ❤️🙏
They did it in one take, don’t ask me how because I lose my shit no matter how many times I hear it!
The Blount family can trace their military lineage back to the 13th century in England so stoicism is inherent in them. It's a wonderful song well done.
Well done ! Love love this song, ripped my heart out when I first heard it! I've been through too many deaths...Thank you for sharing this! Very helpful. I know that music heals.. I have ALWAYS thought that! Thank you!
Thanks for shining your light my way. 😊
Hi Master Jim. You possibly are familiar with his voice an earlier song he wrote & sang named "Your Beautiful". He has also written & performed a number of other songs that project powerful feelings. Thanks for a stellar reaction. brb
Thank you! Shine on!
I have done it 2x in my life its really hard when all u can do is make them as comfortable as you can may u rest in peace Carmen and Dad love and miss you too
Thank you for explaining anticipatory grief. I know what I feel but didn't have a term for it. My Daddy was diagnosed with Parkinson's then Lung cancer not too long after. I joined a grief support group but felt like I didn't belong at first because I have not yet gone through his loss. I just felt like I was going through the 5 stages, still am. So thank you for touching on that. 🙏❤️
So glad it helped! Thank you for being here. 😎🤟🎵🙏❤️
I've had to experience something similar and very recently. Your analysis is perfect, and it helps me heal, so thank you!
I'm so glad! Thanks for sharing this! ❤️🤟🎵🙏
When my grandma was going to pass away she was not herself anymore. She reacted and said things like she was back in her childhood. She has not noticed anyone in the room and she was under morphine. It has showed me that some monsters from her childhood came back and I tried to calm her like her mother would do.
Knowing the whole story this always reminds me of the Monty python skit,”I’m not dead yet”
James Blunt's song The girl that never was is also about his grief when he and his wife lost a baby to miscarriage. He uses music to heal.
I also have a video for that one here on the channel. Enjoy!
You nailed it.
Went through this situation recently, and the emotions and challenges were exactly as you described.
Thanks for sharing this! Glad you’re here! ❤️😎🙏
He also wrote The Girl That Never Was for healing. Others that reflect personal experience are Carry You Home and No Bravery.
My mother died suddenly in an accident when I was 30. I wished for anticipatory grief. I wished I could say goodbye. 22 years later my father just turned 89. He’s not even “sick” but the anticipatory grief is crushing. I’m a daughter, not a son, but every time I hear this song I heal a little more.
I think some others have also mentioned James's song "The Girl that Never Was." I highly recommend you give that one a listen for the channel as I think it will resonate with (and comfort) many people. It's on a subject many people are hesitant or unable or can't find the words to talk about, and I think we need to talk about it more. But definitely bring tissues!
Thanks for your great thoughts on this song!
Thanks! Coming soon!
I can't tell you how many times I've watched this video and I cry every time!! He's Amazing! And you must watch Carry you Home, No Bravery, Both relating to his time in the balkans Oh My goodness! Also The Girl that never was.
I cry every time I hear this song. Same with Sleeping at Last's song Saturn. ❤
Love the reaction my friend. Empathy is the only thing keeping this world from complete destruction
wow! that song came out not long after my father passed. He battled cancer for 4 years and what you said about the child neglecting themself hit me hard. I did suffer a major depression while he was fighting, I just felt like I wasn't doing enough. Very good reaction and loving how you explain things
So glad to hear it was helpful. Thanks for being here. Shine on!
You need to react to James and Tongi from American Idol play this! Tongi had just lost his father, auditioned with this song. It was super emotional in the audition. Top three James comes and performs this live with him after not doing a live show for a really long time. You could tell James was actually super nervous, Tony lost an emotionally and James you can see him like touch him and say take it away it's yours now too, and off he goes with it and onto a win American Idol! I've watched many many seasons of American Idol and I have cried many times but never like I had in that performance
This was most true of my Maternal grandmother & paternal grandfather.
Alzheimer’s and Dementia divorced them from their timelines & left them longing for those they love, but can no longer recognize. 😢💜
James Father was a Calvary Officer so he may not show as much emotion as others, James only did this in one take because of how difficult it was to do. The song is amazing, and I enjoyed your analytics on it♥
Glad to hear it! 🙏
That feeling of helplessness is so real. Both my grandma and my oldest brother are on their deathbeds right now the feeling of mourning someone before they are gone is such a painful and hard to explain emotion.
I’m sincerely sorry to hear that. Sending love and prayers to you and yours! ❤️🤟🎵
James is a special man, a prolific song writer with a one of a kind voice. It isn’t easy to keep singing when you cry. Yes, his parents are happy and he has two sisters. When his Dad got a kidney and he wouldn’t have if James hadn’t released this song, James made a new video of this song. With his Dad getting well it doesn’t have the same impact. This version brings everyone undone.
His dad, who had only recently been diagnosed with stage 4 kidney disease and was not expected to survive, although they did eventually find a donor and he made it. Both James and his dad are former officers in the British military. First time I heard this was 3 days after my Dad passed away and it broke me I lost my Dad 5 years ago this August after he fell and hit his head sadly he didn't survive it caused a bleed on his brain I sadly never had the chance to tell him I loved him and that hurts but i know he is at peace now.
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They both served in the British Army. Song done in one take. I don’t know how he got through it. I was nursing my youngest sister through stage 4 pancreatic stage 4 cancer at the time,so I can relate. He sings the song “beautiful” , that was popular.
Nearing the end my dad said "I'm getting weaker hon" as I helped him out of his bed. I replied "I know dad because I'm having to be stronger".
Your analysis of this was so true and validating. Thank you.
Your strength and love brought comfort to your dad. Shine on!
Thank you for this. I can't get over my Dad's death.. i helped with my mom with Dad's care. I was exactly in this situation saying goodbye just he and I with harp music in the background. He was closer to me than my mom. I knew he was passing and everyone else was in denial. I had an argument with my mom to call family to get into town immediately. She was mad but because of this I got her to get everyone in town in time prior to his final day except an uncle. My Dad had Alzeimers but ultimately passed from lung cancer ...mesothelioma he got from serving in the military in the 60s. His service eventually took him much earlier than his Alzeimers would have. He suffererf in front of my eyes to breathe and such physical pain I felt happy he was getting peace finally. Hundreds of people came to Dads memorial but simply am not okay: even now heading into the 2 year anniversary of his death in October. I was very lucky to have him 80 years and he was the only one who has shown me care and love in this planet except pets. My family left have since completely fractured and I face this cold world estranged. Not by my choice. I'm terrified i wont ever seet adult children again.
Thank you for sharing this. Your dad sounds like a true warrior. It also sounds like he really cared about you deeply. And that he would want you to enjoy a fulfilling life. What a wonderful legacy…If you want help with experiencing more healing in this area, please visit www.psychologytoday.com to find a therapist in your area. I’m glad you’re here! 🤟🎵❤️🙏
Enjoyed your commentary. Thanks! I’ve listened to this song dozens of times still can’t get through it without tears. It was so healing to me when my own father passed about a year and a half ago. Especially the lyric “no need to forgive, no need to forget. I know your mistakes and you know mine”. It’s permission to move on from all the mistakes and/or things we wish we had done differently in the relationship, which is such a kind and caring gift to give. In the end, none of that is important.
Thank you so much! I’m really glad to hear about the healing you’re experiencing! Shine on! ❤️🤟🎵🙏
Lost my dad to suicide because his dad done the same (my granda) - scottish.
This song gets me every single EFFIN time.
Thanks for this breakdown.
Instant subscribed.
Nice x
Welcome and thanks for being here! Stay strong! 💪
My father was in hospice 8 years ago, I couldn't handle in home, mentally or physically, so I had to make the call to send him to in hospital care. I struggle with that decision every day.
Thank you for sharing this with us. Sending love and prayers to you and yours. ❤️🙏🎵
My grandmother had dementia. It was strange to grieve someone while they were still alive but that's what it felt like to me. She had eight kids and they took turns caring for her at home until a few days before she passed. The doctors couldn't believe she'd progressed so far in the disease with family carers instead of hospice.
When everyone came to say their final goodbyes, I remember seeing my dad just sitting in a chair by her bed while everyone took their turn at her bedside. I asked mom if he was okay and she said that, as the oldest son, he wanted to show them that he was going to be there for them since they had lost both parents. That affected me more than anything because he was being so strong for them while grieving his own mother. In my mind, I saw him as a little boy crying by his mom's bed and a grown man, sitting in stoic silence for the family. That image still brings me to tears if I dwell on it too long.
When many of us were kids, we asked whoever was putting us to bed to check under our bed to make sure there were no monsters hiding under our bed.
The older I get and the more times I say good bye to my family,
friends and even beloved pets that have left, the less I believe in death. Everyone of them has returned in a dream that is something more than just a dream within 3 days to show me that they are still around, that they are ok if im ok and that they are waiting for me. Those dreams comfort and give me strength when i miss them most and im so very grateful for them 🕊
I literally was writing his voice is only comparable to his own which is the great James Blunt and possibly the Bee Gees but you took the words out of my mouth LOL
I first heard this song when I was deeply depressed from losing my last family member, my mom. This song helped me realize that I wasn't alone with my greif and helped me see the positive. He said every word I said to my mom.
Interesting fact, both James and his dad were pilots in the Royal Air Force. When they would go on duty they would say to each other "" I'm not your son and youre not my father, we're just two grown men saying goodbye " Plus he did this video in one take !!
Thank you James Blunt
James Blount (Blunt was the name he uses as a musician) and his father Charles Blount were both in the British Army (not Royal Air Force) Charles Blount was a Colonel and James was a Captain..
My mother was ill from Dec 2019 to Nov 2023 when she passed away. I had to take care of everything and had to put her in a retirement home. I mourned my mother while she was alive and was angry at myself for feeling relieved when she passed. So many emotions that still exist today. I feel every sung word for better and for worse.❤
Your integrity is an encouragement for others! Thank you for being here and sharing with us! 🤟❤️🙏🎵
This was done in a single session, and tugs on everybody's heart when they listen to it.
I had never known of this song until my dad had some serious medical episodes. Somehow it found me. And it absolutely destroys me every time. Dad is 83 & battling a form of sepsis they've never seen. I'm no where ready to say goodbye to my parents, it's always been us 3.
Thank you Music Heals. Your sensitivity and take on this song were spot on and very much appreciated.
So glad! Shine on! 😎🤟❤️🎵
I’ve lost father and brother during cancer treatment. Mother survived the cancer treatment but it left her body devastated and she had a twelve year decline from it. My father was almost twenty years before them.
Love and blessings to you and yours.
His father managed to get a transplant that saved his life but even with that there's always a fear that it might not last and fail. A beautiful song and all of us would like that reciprocal love that they have.
Loved your reaction to this. I rediscovered James a few months ago and second a previous comment for you to react to No Bravery or to Someone Singing along or Goodbye my lover...or better yet to all of those
New subscriber. Lots of love from Spain
I love this song.
Talking about music that heals, I don't know if you ever heard of the group Pentatonix. They are an amazing acapella group that has the best harmonizing. They have 3 grammies and just got the star on the walk of fame. I hope you give them a listen to. They've sang Hallelujah, Imagine, The Prayer, Bohemian Rhapsody, and they do a lot of Their original music. Have a great day.
Awesome. I’ll check it out! 🙏🎵
I spent a week or so on the river with my dad during the 4th of July vacation, for 9 days.... in Nebraska... returned home after vacation about four hundred miles away, and the next day got the phone call.... he'd gone home from his cabin, poured a cup of coffee, and laid down to relax. His coffee was still warm when they found him.... thank God the last thing I said to him was "I love you Dad"....
My condolences to you and yours. Spending that time on the river with your father is such a special gift. Your last words to him say it all. His legacy is alive in you. Praying for you and your family!🙏❤️