How To Connect With Anyone
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- Опубликовано: 11 фев 2015
- Studies say that 4 minutes of uninterrupted eye contact can increase intimacy. To test this theory out, we brought in six pairs in different stages of their relationship and had them try it. How do you stay connected? Check out the NYT article that inspired the video: nyti.ms/1DiYgWH
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Producer: Georgia Koch
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Camera - Jacob Menache, Sam Heesen, Alan Gregory Dean
Music - The Album Leaf
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When the old couple started to smile at one another, it was the cutest thing ever
I couldn't help but grin. So adorable
Reminded me so much of UP i just cant hold in my tears :)
Anne Tan AW. That's a great reminder!
My sister would agree she doesn't like puppies and babies like most people but instead thinks old people are the cutest things on earth
So all I have to do is awkwardly stare at someone for 4 minutes and we'll fall in love? Dope.
It might be a little more complicated than that, but reading the article we put in the description is a good place to start. :)
SoulPancake nah, I like my way better.
SoulPancake If this is the study by Dr Arthur Aron, there are 36 questions the participants are supposed to ask each other before staring into each other's eyes for 4 minutes. The questions are designed specifically to deepen connections and feelings towards one another, romantic or otherwise.
It would be awesome if you did a separate video where the participants test out the questions, or even one with the questions and the staring :)
DonDrioVerion Where can I find these questions!
Charity Sapphire
Just google something like '36 questions fall in love' and you'll find millions of websites that have them :)
the elderly couple got me crying
same
+Haya AlNaimi yup. the old man was so sweet
yep!
someone must be cutting onions
Same! Bless them, they're so loving and cute
"I do look at your eye sometimes 'cause I am checking your blood sugar." Too cute!
It feels like she somehow missed the point, but her husband hits the nail right on the head.
As a diabetic that comment made me cry😭🙈
"Should've peed first." Quote of my life :')
This is the part I cried at.
He should said that before his death LOL
He is so cool!
OH MY GOD THE ELDERLY COUPLE
+RarestOfAll omg i know right there so cute :D
Yes! The things he said to her made me tear up. ... must be nice to have someone feel that way about you
RarestOfA
I loved the couple with the guy who said he loved looking at his wife without having to talk about work or anything else. That made me cry. You can tell how much he loves her. So powerful!
true omg
sia from-lbc truth
There was so much love in the black guy's eyes :') they were so cute
No
He looked like he was used to laughing and enjoying life. I could very easily be wrong, but it's nice to think of.
this black man made me smile every time i saw his face :D
I know right! He looked so in love with her 😌
+Kirsten Josephs His eyes were full of love.
+hazey mustache dude blazed
he has smiling eyes that is so contagious and dAMN HES SO SWEET
One headbutt and you'd be dead hahaha
the old couple made me cry
same
I was like "why am I crying?!"
i hate onion
✋ 😢
I think it's beautiful to grow old with someone you love
i keep replaying the scene at 1:56 ... i loved the way the husband looked at his wife... my heart melted
You can feel their bond and love of each other
Yes they were so cute. You can see the love. Wow
& she mirrored him! so cute.
Had to cry at that one just saw all of his love to her in that one blink
i hope someone will look at me like that
Omg i know its awkward but i felt so calm when the couples start to look into each other eyes this feeling is so relaxing and it doesn't have anything to do with me but feels good 💗
are we normal ??
hahaha yeah we should know eachother but actually I think we're unique ppl !
my twitter maybe bluesound022
+ameni haji oh my gosh please tell me this worked out! This so cute!!
Mpg me too!! 😢😢❤️😂
The old couple literally almost made me bawl my eyes out. Sometimes I feel like marriage isn't real. I have lived my life around broken marriages & relationships so I forget that it is possible to find someone who is truly meant for you & to stay with them till death.
This video just made me burst into tears when I saw the old couple,they're just the sweetest pair I ever seen^_^
Don't worry...one day you will find your soul mate dude, don't give up yet, someone is out there for you, know that and stay strong, for them.
It's awesome that you found that again to be a reality! I've been married for 8 years! & i love it. It will be tough. It's 2 persons trying to be 1. All in all I'd have it no other way! She's not my best friend....she's my Wife! Better than ANY best friend. Once a person decided to marry their best friend it's officially called Wife or Husband.
They made the video worth while.
I think they really care about each other, they just don't know how to express it. Which is something I see more often in elderly couples. Saying that she only looks into his eyes to check his bloodsugar DOES means she cares about him and wants him to be healthy. Why would you otherwise check someones eyes to make sure he doesn't has an hypo/hyper attack? The problem with being so long together is you get used to each other and take each other for granted. A sit down an talking like they had here (or staring) can make you appreciate each other
Didn't work. She called the police.
hahahahaha!
hahahahahahaha
+Johnny de Andrade same
+Mahid Ahmed 10/10 comment, well done.
That means she wants more. It always works like that.
did this with a dog and it got angry and attacked me
You're not suppose to stare dogs in the eyes. That means you're challenging the dog.
cats eyes too. They will hunt you lol
Combustion69 :)))) Lord have mercy!
Combustion69 OMG 😂😂😂 I can't stop laughing lol my condolences
well that explains why my cat will get agressive when I try to stare it in the eyes
Honestly the best part about this for me is how you can see the different stages of intimacy happening as time goes on.
When they start, they find it uncomfortable, strange, and even try not to laugh. But by the time they reached the end they look completely entranced in the other person. They're able to keep a straight face and stay quiet, without breaking the eye contact. It's incredible to me, and I hope one day I can experience a moment of connection like this and FEEL it. 💙
"I do look at your eyes sometimes because I'm checkin' your blood sugar" so funny. I'm crying. This video evoked such a great mix of emotions.
the connection between the two ladies and the older couple was stunning
"but i do look at your eyes sometimes because i'm checkin' your blood sugar" love it
"Looking at at you, I realize how much I need you." That made me cry because i'm a women with a lot of feelings lol and also, because I feel that way about my boyfriend and my friends and my family. People need other people, whether you're driving each other crazy and making each other inconceivably happy. You need them. All you need is love.
This small video just grew my heart 3 sizes bigger! Eye contact is a huge thing for me. I have an eye turn (or lazy eye), and I used to get teased about it a lot. As a result, I conditioned myself not to look directly into anyone's eyes. Slowly I am growing out of that instinct, but after seeing this video I will be more intentional with my eye contact.
It was truly beautiful to witness the couples truly SEE each other. It's pretty cliche, but I guess the eyes really are the window to the soul. And mine were pretty watery after watching this. Thanks a lot Soul Pancake. No really, thanks a lot! You guys add so much value to my life!
Wow! Thank you for sharing this. We are so glad this video has given you that perspective, and your appreciation means a lot to us too! Good luck with your new intentions.
your comment made me tear up while listening to the music......☺
I have a lazy eye too and I;m very insecure about it. Eye contact is a big challenge for me because sometimes when I look at a person, they look around them trying to figure out what I'm looking at. I know they aren't doing it on purpose but seeing them do that always reminds me that I have a problem. So I tend not to make eye contact, still have that instinct to look away and I don't know how to change it >.
Lax Devi try this
I don't know if it helps or not, but most folks are just trying to figure out where to direct their attention. If you can give them a cue by looking steadily at them through one eye for a bit people won't bumble around and make you uncomfortable when it's the last thing they want.
Damn I thought the first guy was Ryan Higa's friend the guy who handles the cameras
Greg? Lol.
Samantha de la Cruz LOL yes ahahha
Vino Theva *smiles*
***** LMAO
i thought that to it was the mustache lol
That one guy from buzzfeed
Yeah!!!
hahaha yeah I wasn't sure so thank you
yes it is
the one with the curly hair, right?
I CRIED WHEN THOSE OLD COUPLES SAID AFTER THE 4 MINUTES!!! T___T i've been watching this on repeat
this whole video made me cry, these people look so in love to me omlll, even the strangers lmfao
old man is actually marvel comics writer STANLEE
I'd love to do this with somebody some day
After Dawn yeah he's been creeping... he also sent me a private message saying "hey Abby not gonna make it weird like some of these dudes so hit me up sometime on my channel or on google plus if you ever wanna chit chat hottie =) peace"
And yeah I'm a minor. Almost 18 lol
After Dawn I don't care. Do whatever you want
After Dawn hah yeah I have been ignoring him for the most part. I'm going to continue to do so. Being called pretty over the internet is one thing but what he's doing is a whole different thing. Hopefully he will realize
After Dawn your the creep here haha stalking my channel and posting my url....pretty sick. People should be more worried about you instead. Get a life loser
you probably have an attractive male in mind. yeah that's right I'm a psychic
SoulPancake, you've outdone yourself. There was so much emotion in this that I found myself crying from happiness just by watching the silent love between these beautiful souls. Thank you!
Nare Hov Thank you! :) That means so much to us.
SoulPancake Whats the music to this video? It's beautiful.
something so simple,yet makes you happy something we don't see often. Eyes are the window to our souls thanks for the video
TheZygno The song is The Light by The Album Leaf (;
what?
A performance artist named Marina Abramovich did this. People lined up to look her in the eyes for as long as they can and it had the same effect. People started crying. Perhaps the eyes are truly the windows to the soul. :')
Oh, thats right! I saw that it was on netflix streaming in the us. The part with her former partner, wow. They'd met earlier that day, but still, sitting down? Multitudes in that gaze.
I don't get why people react like this honestly
Mangatique Miko some people can sense more emotions and thoughts than others. Like empaths or whatever. I have definitely made prolonged eye contact with someone and felt pain and suffering from them. It was slightly uncomfortable but I could also see trust in her eyes. Hard to explain
@@corriejo3655 Oh that sounds really particular :0
Ohh her story
THE ELDERLY COUPLE MADE ME ALMOST CRY THEY WERE SO ADORABLE AND IN LOVE
With my social anxiety I would be TERRIFIED
Dude, I have a terrible social anxiety and I have done this with like 10 people, guys and girls for 1 minute each in a row. It was crazy.
Zheeph Woah, really? Do tell?
Zheeph Yes! Do tell!
I had social anxiety as well but I overcame this with the help of a therapist. we talked a lot and she pushed me to ask "embarrassing" questions to strangers (I had to ask where the next super market was while standing in front of it), ask strangers about the time or just ask them how to get some where. It really helped and i'm glad I did it! :)
Zheeph ***** Thank you, both, for your input
I wish I could do this with a mirror so that I could love myself
you totally can, it's a lovely expression of care for yourself.
Don't love yourself too much though, don't want to go the way of Narcissus.
LMAO
samsvo Lol only stare into the mirror for 2 minutes to stay humble lol
I Wish I Could Do This With A Mirror So That I Could Love Myself*
There's something very beautiful about that black couple. The intensity she had in her stare and his wholehearted smile.
I'll admit it, the old couple made me emotional.
man, that couple that have been married for 55 years - i cant even imagine how crazy it must be looking into your loved ones eyes after all that time. I wonder if they still see each other as they were back when they were so much younger.
1:50 that guy looks like a fuckin' wood elf from Skyrim.
Lmao true
LOL
***** Y'know it's funny when you rocket snots
www.carlsguides.com/walkthroughs/skyrim/pictures/races/woodelf.jpg
...Anything wrong with Wood elfs, Imperial?
The man and woman with the kid - I could feel their chemistry. This whole video made me tear up. Connecting to someone with your eyes only is a pretty powerful thing.
I love this video. I must say I've watched it over and over again :)
noris redondo We're so glad to hear that! Thanks for the support!
My pleasure!! Keep em coming!
+noris redondo You are so beautiful
you have deep need for trust and truthful ♡
she has adorable eyes and smile!!!!
"i should have peed first" that's so me xD
Ugh... now I'm crying
Remember: It's not a staring contest, you are allowed to blink. ;)
Me too!!!
not just you
me too...
same here!!!
The eyes are the mirror of the soul.
Sometimes they can hypnotize, sometimes take control.
Eyes reflect the inner world of someone.
Wether they are spiritual, worldly, in love, or like fun.
When eyes are bright, clear and they shine, the heart is pure and clean.
When they are dark, empty, and cold the person is distant and mean.
So, always look inside someone eyes and see if you can make a connection.
If you want to ignore someone, or show affection.
💣💥💣💥💣💥
I screenshot your poem. loved it buddy. Btw where are you from?
@@suryagurung7893 Thank you. I am from Netherlands. I often love to share positive messages in the form of a simple rhyme so it is more relatable. When I look back now I am often not satisfied with my old use of words, and I correct them a little :D
Hypnotizing shy ppl can't even think of it
This sounds embarrasing but I was crying watching strangers look into each other ( sorry for my bad grammar)
+Anh Mai It shows you have a kind heart :) Maybe one day you will do the same- look into someone's eyes with love.
+Gandalf The Grey I hope so, thank you 😊
+Anh Mai that is the most cute comment ive seen *-* you do have a kind heart , you will find someone ;)
+Dude thank you!
Also your grammar was fine!
im going to do this to my crush hopefully he doesnt think im crazy
Tip: Tell your crush you saw a cute video that you want to test out, and if your crush gives in: bingo. ;)
offer him some ass instead ...
Say it's a staring competition
yep
Marsha Browne you should practice with me :)
Wow that is beautiful. You can see them sort of falling in love again. The joy they felt, that connection. It so beautiful.
It is like they learned something so important about each other, like a secret that they can't even understand.
And on that day all were laid.
But you weren't
well said sort of falling for each other again and we got to see it.Love is the most powerful thing on this planet.
Cody Warren
except magnets of course. magnets are stroooong
As a person who once used to be so full of life and the center of attention, I now deal with extreme anxiety in any social setting and avoid being around people due to many inside and outside factors BUT watching these videos on this channel and others has made me very appreciative and feel more connected especially in a time where we ALL are consumed with our phones & the internet in which we feel like we have access to so much yet its all limited interaction and socially akward connections.... We need this!! i need this.... It CHALLENGES us to engange in something more deeper than a profile, a tweet and even deeper into our own insecurities as individuals collectively
Watching them connect made me cry tears of happiness.
I once got my two young men children to do an experiment with me. They were 18 and 22 years of age at the time. We sat across from each other and just looked into each others eyes for two solid minutes. No talking. We had always been a close family. But after this we became much closer.
How easy it can be to allow the windows of your soul to open up onto the view of another's.
❤💛💚💙💜💖
Pause at 1:25...oh, mama mia!!! He is GORGEOUS!!!
Courtney Renee She's a woman ;)
Haha!!! 😂😂I was talking about the boy that lady was staring at. XD
***** Oops...
😂😂😂😂😂
Sorry, my bad...
XD
And i fell in love...
I feel like an idiot now...
Not only u ;P
Kaja Szolowska I'm glad I'm not the only one
that old couple got me in my damn feelings
i have a feeling if i participated in this theory i would cry within those 4 minutes and i cant figure out why
Human connection can be an incredibly moving and tear-inducing thing!
It is a melancholy.
A sadness of the indulgent kind.
It tears you apart but you
Crave more.It's beautiful and
Mysterious but dangerous nonetheless.
madison dragotta I cried watching it...in a happy way.
madison dragotta have you seen the artist Marina Abramovic The Artist is Present video in which she and complete strangers stared at one another? It's profoundly moving. I think crying is a fundamentally human response in so many ways here ❤
Because humans and all life is connected and we hate without realizing it and our subconscious soul whatever you want to call it knows we feel deeply for all humans
that old couple is actually EVERYTHING I want in a relationship. the man was so funny and he kept joking around and the way he talked about his wife made me so warm inside lol idk
Why was i smiling all the way through?! :)
me too :)
Same here.. 😊
You weren't alone. :)
because you saw the love, honey. i was smiling too. it made me feel better.
Totally had a stupid grin on my face the whole time.
The older couple was soooo adorable! Life goals right there
This was so beautiful and moving. And I gotta say it - girl in beanie, DAMN.
Last year, I was in a directing class and used this process to help two of my actors who were not romantically inclined towards each other to connect. It worked very well! Lots of laughs! Thank you!
I like how some try not to smile but fail but i specialy like that you could see the love of one person to another just by how they look in their eyes.
HOW CUTE IS THE ELDERLY COUPLE!
I think this may be one of the most powerful things I've ever seen. You can see so much of a persons life from their eyes. They tell stories otherwise unseen.
Caity Allen who
mine tell stories of fear and dread, I awake fear in other people's eyes and they grow scared and get intimidated by me, its super fun everytime.
Personnally i stare subconsciously at people but i completely hate when people stare to me or I have to look at someone's eyes.
The elderly couple were so cute to me when I first saw them (55 year couple) "I should have went pee first"😂😂
I often watch videos like this to gain insight into humanity.
And every time I do, I leave disappointed...with more questions than answers.
The people in these videos, much like many of the people in these comments, only reaffirm my already dwindling hope in humanity, and the sheer magnitude of human among the earth, further extinguish my fire.
They only document how alone, isolated, lost and without purpose we are as an entity. Brings to light a question I have sought the answer to for over a decade now.
What are people thinking? What is going through a "normal" human's brain? Because it is drastically different than what is in mine. How do you live with someone 50 years, and never see them? Then what is marriage built on? A script, and playbook, dependence, obligation, tradition or in more common words, just because???
This is the bain of my existence... I'm too aware of the world, to thrive in the world.
Meh
Yes, the world is corrupt and broken, but you have to oversee that. You have to trust, not search for, that there's good in this world. And, you have to trust that YOU can make the world a beautiful place, and that YOU can be that beacon of hope for humanity. Inspire people because it will bring you smiles that you never knew existed from your heart once you see the way people notice your kindness, and that it's making them kind too. And you'll see that yes, the world is and always will be corrupt, but there's still love, and beauty, and individuality, and inspiration. I hope you see the world as a beautiful place, because I believe that people are corrupt, but people are also very beautiful. Sincerely, Mikaela.
meh
Mikaela Argyrakis Thank You for restoring my faith in humanity Mikaela. I wish there were more people in the world like you. Maybe if we work together, we could make that happen. May I look into your eyes for 4 minutes? ;o)
Shawn S
I'm nearly 30 and my isolation seems to only be getting worse...
It took 30 years to get a girlfriend, who is my only friend, but we continue to encounter situations... She knows "these things", but I'm often lost at sea, and I can't count on her to always be there to save me. I feel this will be the factor in her leaving me.
I try to talk to her about it...but she doesn't understand me. Our relationship is that of keeper & puppy.
It continually confounds me that no one, at least in my reality, can explain themselves. The only time I'm truly happy is in nature. I think that's the answer, society is extraterrestrial, and I missed my chance to be indoctrinated, so my only hope for peace is to leave society. Only in the company of other terrestrial beings will life make sense.
That older couple had me in tears lol. I hope they're able to continue living a long and healthy life together.
I could never do this, if i look in someones eyes i tear up and people may think its awkward
CalmGameshow I do the same sometimes
What the old men said to his wife after the 4 min made me cry like a baby
Oh my goodness...The couple married 55 years... the couple married 2 years... So wonderful to see true love still exist.
I thought that was Greg from Nigahiga
He does look alot like Greg haha
OMG SAME XD
Yep...I mean how many people have got that same damn mustache? xD
sherif hesham xD
Same I clicked on this cause I thought it was Greg but good vid anyways
I love this exercise - I've done this before and experienced the powerful connection that forms between the two people.
You guys captured that emotional exchange so beautifully! Thank you for moving me to tears once again =)
The senior citizen couple was my favorite reaction, especially the husband's answer. He made me cry. After 55 yrs of marriage their love stood the test of time. It was so nice to their faces brighten up when they started to dance, it was just, simply beautiful.
Someone plz tell me it's Greg, Ryan Higa's crew!!!! Anyway, this video is just awesome ^^
I guess, yes
no, it' not...but I was thinking the same thing :D
only reason this vid caught my eye XD
No he isn't Greg lol. But I thought so too! Greg's moustache looks better tho. xD
im not the only one
the girl with the beanie is legit making me question my sexuality lol
Thokozile simwawa same lol
Juliet Jj I just came on here to comment this😂
Right? I mean damn.
For real tho!!
Thokozile simwawa I knoooow 😭
omg the old couple!!!!
The black guy was the best, he made me the happiest out of all of them :)
"I should have peed first" lmaoo seriously XD they were so funny, truly a touching video!
the older couple
I just starting tearing up like a maniac in the middle of the video.... I just think of all their history together and their love for each other and actually appreciate what they have infront of them. So emotional for me
I teared up! What a powerful lesson/reminder of how simple it is to connect with another soul. Beautiful!
This is something I'd love to do and to do with someone I want to know more with. Eyes as the window of one soul tells so many things that words are not enough to explain it all. Bravo!
that guy's from buzzfeed?
i cried so much..its crazy how you can see the love they all have for each other. just beautiful
"I realized how much I need you"😭😭😭😭and when the elderly couple started dancing..ugh too much on my heart😭😭💙
3:53 i never comment but this phrase released the tear I've been containing omg
2:02 he looks so in love I can't
I actually had to do this before with someone I knew very little of and it helped ease ourselves and after the 4 minutes I felt much more comfort with that person. I would love to do this with someone dear to me to bring us closer and have that special 4 minute connection. thank you for the video :)
This is REALLY REALLY GREAT! I did this once in a yoga workshop - complete stranger- it turned my day completely around - all for the absolute best!!
Forever grateful for Rainn Wilson and his team for producing this type of content, it's so beautiful to capture these moments. Such wholesome, heartwarming stuff 💘
Step 1: Buy the grandest mustache you can find on ebay
This is nice video staring each other. I couldn't stop my tears falling from my eyes of the beautiful couple who married for 55 years. This video make each couple realize how they need and love each other.
I cant believe I just discovered this channel. I love this so much , its so beautiful so pure
Oh my gosh the guy with the grey beanie had the cutest smile ever I just wanted to jump through the screen and hug him
I actually think that it's a girl.....
Anna-Maria Helou lmao still, that smile kills
+Sleeping Pi11s Yup!! Agreed
***** Possibly... welp, we can't check for ourselves!
I'm pretty sure the person in the gray beanie is transitioning and would prefer to be called a man....
Eye contact is really powerful. I remember I was doing something with one of my guy friends that I didn't find attractive to me (but I could see how others would find him attractive) and we didn't have any romantic feelings for each other but we just kind of caught each others eye at the same time and we stayed like that for like 20 seconds and it felt so weird and was a nice feeling. I can only imagine what 4 minutes straight like that feels like.
the couple that have been married 55 years honestly brought tears to my eyes! so sweet!
This was the loveliest thing I've seen on RUclips... Brought a tear to my eye
This is amazing. Thank you for this SoulPancake.
thank YOU for watching!
I'm so emotional over this... I love it.
I love this! I've been with my wonderful husband for 17 years now and we're still working on eye contact like this.
I wish the title of this video was something like 'How to increase intimacy' or something like that. It would be helpful when sharing this video if it didn't say 'how to connect with anyone'. With that title most people won't realize this is something for couples trying to increase their intimacy within a relationship.
I just found your channel and I'm already in love 😭😭 definitely subscribing
Love the guys comment: So nice to just look at each other without all the usual pointless talking about problems... Just enjoy the view and being together... Brilliant!
I cried so badd this is beautiful
I can't handle the fact that the music is the Olitz theme from Scandal. anytime they have this heart wrenching moment with each other, often looking into each other's eyes, they play this freaking music. I am already conditioned to cry at this piece of music. this video was just beautiful.
I teared up, what they said to each other is so beautiful.
I really hate humans but this was just amazing to watch
yeh mahhn those damn humans
#fuckhumans
#JeSuisHumans
Dude..you're human...😂😂😂
Courtney Renee sure lol
The Album Leaf - the light
Osama Gamal Thank you!!!!!
3:41 YES! Just staring, or sitting or being in the same space without talking about nonsense is so refreshing.
Attempted something like this before and you can't help but smile both people by the end of it are completely lost within each others eyes that they zone out from the rest of the world and where it takes you is so beautiful you never want to leave