Resources: Use your style logic to make better choices: - Style logic playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLC2A7hLuux5AXiwvDc-u3qBuUJ2Owsmkh&si=fZfJT2VWJ0O6fHUY - Style logic course: www.stylethoughtsbyrita.com/foundations Work with me: - My calendar: calendly.com/stylethoughtsbyrita/
Rita, general comment - I really love up/down + left/right wording. I think most people have associations to them that are in line with your system and they are easily understandable. When you use gemstones, people have a whole set of associations to gemstones themselves, independently of your system, which muddies their usage and decreases relatability. Plus, it just makes it much much more harder to remember what is what and understand your streams on the fly. Regardless, love your work very much. Warmly, T.
In the last couple of years I've been learning a lot about overconsumption and environmental issues, which are so important, but I've always struggled to feel comfortable spending money on myself, and now I feel totally paralysed. I'm so sick of immediately talking myself out of everything I want and feeling unable to express who I truly am through my style. It's really hard to find advice on undershopping because it seems like way more people have the opposite problem - thanks for making this video!
As someone with moonstone essence *exploration* as energetic medicine is really helping me. I realized I was frustrated by not having enough clothes (I have also become good at decluttering 😅) because of under-shopping. My under-shopping came from seeing shopping as a waste of time (not permitting myself a bit of indulgence) and lack of clarity and inspiration in the first place. I was very serious, anxious and perfectionistic when it came to shopping, to not make mistakes and to find the right thing. Now, applying exploration, I am more relaxed and trying to have more joy and fun while finding new things without a strict goal in mind. (Understanding style logic and energetic medicine for moonstone was helpful in this regard) Where I still struggle is having a vision, a visual inspiration while getting dressed. I almost always get dressed only for the practicalities of the day/the context for where I will be wearing the outfit to, without giving myself the time or permission to develop a vision/story for my outfit. Style in progress, so to speak. Thank you for addressing under-shopping!
I struggle with knowing when it's time to throw an item out when it's something I've enjoyed wearing, but it's starting to wear out. I have a lot of really old clothes that I feel bad getting rid of
Hi Rita, thank you so much for this video 💛 I think that you are right in that I don't give myself permission to dress the way I want. Not because of budget or fear of making a bad purchase, but that the vision I have for myself isn't the way other people around me dress. I live in a "poor" area & so my daily outfits (leggings & T-shirts usually) help me blend in. When I try to dress "better" I feel awkward (I'm Moonstone RD). I know it's probably just a lack of confidence but unfortunately I can't buy that at a store 😕
I feel like I finally have a clear image of the kind of clothes I want to wear, but yet I struggle to find them or find brands that sell them 😅 I know there has never been more availability and variety of clothes to choose from but finding clothes is the hardest part for me! Perhaps I'm not searching for clothes / brands in the best way 🤔
I think building up your shopping skills is a really big part of the style journey as well. Can you give me an example of the types of things you find it difficult to find? Maybe I can help :)
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita Thank you for the response 😊 Ironically I've been looking for a kimono for ages and I've literally just found a bunch of nice options 😂 I realised I was being too vague and just searching 'kimonos' and getting annoyed that only plain, floral or earthy options kept showing up, when I wanted something a bit edgier or moodier. As soon as I searched 'celestial kimono', I found so many ones in my style 😅 Do you recommend being much more specific in general with keywords when searching for clothes / brands? E.g. instead of searching 'edgy clothing brands uk', is it better to add more keywords / change the keywords? Any tips at all would be really appreciated ✨️
@@x-Kennii-x yes I think search words are literally the #1 most important thing to actually finding new things online. Its a great topic for an upcoming stream because this is something everyone can benefit from 🌞
I'm going to watch this video again as I'm a bit overwhelmed. I totally know what the video means. I'm my own barrier to my shopping experience. As an example I went out yesterday just for a browse and saw a pair of khaki linen trousers. Straight away they were a yes because I've been looking for something that's not jeans. After that I could feel the wall go up with the voice in my head going well that won't suit you, not will that,forget that,don't even bother trying that. The only positive I have to take is the times where I've just "known" something would be right,I've been bang on. I need to get better at going past my self built comfort zone
I read somewhere that if your inner voice keeps being negative you should imagine someone you really hate (eg. Politician, celebrity, family member etc.) saying it to you in their voice. Much easier to tell that thought to go away!
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Resources:
Use your style logic to make better choices:
- Style logic playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLC2A7hLuux5AXiwvDc-u3qBuUJ2Owsmkh&si=fZfJT2VWJ0O6fHUY
- Style logic course: www.stylethoughtsbyrita.com/foundations
Work with me:
- My calendar: calendly.com/stylethoughtsbyrita/
Rita, general comment - I really love up/down + left/right wording. I think most people have associations to them that are in line with your system and they are easily understandable. When you use gemstones, people have a whole set of associations to gemstones themselves, independently of your system, which muddies their usage and decreases relatability. Plus, it just makes it much much more harder to remember what is what and understand your streams on the fly. Regardless, love your work very much. Warmly, T.
I agree, I like the quadrants wording better!
In the last couple of years I've been learning a lot about overconsumption and environmental issues, which are so important, but I've always struggled to feel comfortable spending money on myself, and now I feel totally paralysed. I'm so sick of immediately talking myself out of everything I want and feeling unable to express who I truly am through my style. It's really hard to find advice on undershopping because it seems like way more people have the opposite problem - thanks for making this video!
As someone with moonstone essence *exploration* as energetic medicine is really helping me.
I realized I was frustrated by not having enough clothes (I have also become good at decluttering 😅) because of under-shopping. My under-shopping came from seeing shopping as a waste of time (not permitting myself a bit of indulgence) and lack of clarity and inspiration in the first place.
I was very serious, anxious and perfectionistic when it came to shopping, to not make mistakes and to find the right thing.
Now, applying exploration, I am more relaxed and trying to have more joy and fun while finding new things without a strict goal in mind.
(Understanding style logic and energetic medicine for moonstone was helpful in this regard)
Where I still struggle is having a vision, a visual inspiration while getting dressed. I almost always get dressed only for the practicalities of the day/the context for where I will be wearing the outfit to, without giving myself the time or permission to develop a vision/story for my outfit. Style in progress, so to speak.
Thank you for addressing under-shopping!
You’re so good at breaking down an abstract issue into practical solutions.
I struggle with knowing when it's time to throw an item out when it's something I've enjoyed wearing, but it's starting to wear out. I have a lot of really old clothes that I feel bad getting rid of
Hi Rita, thank you so much for this video 💛
I think that you are right in that I don't give myself permission to dress the way I want. Not because of budget or fear of making a bad purchase, but that the vision I have for myself isn't the way other people around me dress. I live in a "poor" area & so my daily outfits (leggings & T-shirts usually) help me blend in. When I try to dress "better" I feel awkward (I'm Moonstone RD). I know it's probably just a lack of confidence but unfortunately I can't buy that at a store 😕
I feel like I finally have a clear image of the kind of clothes I want to wear, but yet I struggle to find them or find brands that sell them 😅 I know there has never been more availability and variety of clothes to choose from but finding clothes is the hardest part for me! Perhaps I'm not searching for clothes / brands in the best way 🤔
I think building up your shopping skills is a really big part of the style journey as well. Can you give me an example of the types of things you find it difficult to find? Maybe I can help :)
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita Thank you for the response 😊 Ironically I've been looking for a kimono for ages and I've literally just found a bunch of nice options 😂 I realised I was being too vague and just searching 'kimonos' and getting annoyed that only plain, floral or earthy options kept showing up, when I wanted something a bit edgier or moodier. As soon as I searched 'celestial kimono', I found so many ones in my style 😅 Do you recommend being much more specific in general with keywords when searching for clothes / brands? E.g. instead of searching 'edgy clothing brands uk', is it better to add more keywords / change the keywords? Any tips at all would be really appreciated ✨️
@@x-Kennii-x yes I think search words are literally the #1 most important thing to actually finding new things online. Its a great topic for an upcoming stream because this is something everyone can benefit from 🌞
@@StyleThoughtsbyRita oooh 👀 I will be eagerly awaiting this stream 😁
I'm going to watch this video again as I'm a bit overwhelmed. I totally know what the video means. I'm my own barrier to my shopping experience. As an example I went out yesterday just for a browse and saw a pair of khaki linen trousers. Straight away they were a yes because I've been looking for something that's not jeans. After that I could feel the wall go up with the voice in my head going well that won't suit you, not will that,forget that,don't even bother trying that.
The only positive I have to take is the times where I've just "known" something would be right,I've been bang on. I need to get better at going past my self built comfort zone
I read somewhere that if your inner voice keeps being negative you should imagine someone you really hate (eg. Politician, celebrity, family member etc.) saying it to you in their voice. Much easier to tell that thought to go away!
Omg I needed this