I love her personality. She has quite a lovely balance of being convincing and graceful, gentle and firm. God bless You sister! Thanks for this labor of love.
Sonya, God has gifted you incredibly with the gift of wisdom and teaching! Thank you for your many videos that talk about, not just the surface how-to’s, but the cultivating of souls. Not just our children’s, but first our own! This is the most important work, not the curriculum choices! And this is definitely what I need in this time. (Also need to figure out the curriculum for the year! 😊) Praying for you when you come to mind in this season of illness! You are a blessing!
This video is truly a gold nugget . Every mother needs to watch this 100times over . It’s encouraged me and corrected some of my mistakes I’m so thankful for you Mrs Schaffer . I’ve send this video to every woman I know that has children they have at home .
Authority and Obedience are first and foremost Biblical. Consistent reading/studying specifically both Isaiah and Romans, (but all scripture completely,) as a family, has been a blessing in this area. All authority and obedience is exercised under God. All equally responsible to Trust and Obey, by the power of the Holy Spirit, in the roles we are placed in. Humble servant obedience, coupled with quick repentance and forgiveness, is a prayer on my lips often as a mother. -Danya
Leur obéissance à Dieu s’apprend en nous obéissant premièrement, puisqu’il est écrit « enfant obéissez à vos parents » Notre devoir en retour est de ne rien leur demander d’injuste. Nous avons aussi une grande responsabilité devant Dieu puisque nous devront lui rendre des comptes au sujet de l’autorité qu’il nous a déléguée. Bien-sûr, en grandissant nos enfants doivent apprendre qu’ils doivent obéir aux autorités mais ne devraient jamais obéir à un ordre contraire à la parole de Dieu. Si leur patron leur demande un jour d’être malhonnêtes ou de mentir, ils devront refuser.
Whoa, this is an excellent way of looking at authority. I appreciate it so much and I know my kids will appreciate it when I share it with them! Thanks for putting all your knowledge, skills, and experience on RUclips for us. I've watched 4 of your videos this morning and I'm so grateful for the content in them and am eager to apply them!
I have been a long time follower of these podcasts and this one is my favorite episode! I could sense the Holy Spirit speaking to my heart through Sonya’s words. Thank you so much for presenting Charlotte’s words in such a way that makes them easy to understand and apply to parenting my children! I’m so thankful for SCM. Such a blessing and encouragement.
What a great reminder to keep fighting the good fight with ourselves, so much more is caught then taught. I needed that encouragement, thank you Sonya for being a light set on a hill.
Always on a lookout for new videos from you Sonya 🤗. Thank you for all your hard work... and thanks to the Whole team who help put this together for us!
I am from the UK and find this really interesting. I see where you are coming from but prefer to think of learning as collaborative. I think authority and obedience, unfortunately, have very negative connotations because of all of the historical abuses of authority.
Hi Mandi. This can be a frustrating situation! It is important to set up your expectations right before reading. You may need to gently remind the child daily for a while. You will also need to have a consequence established and shared with the little one when sharing your expectations. I ask my little ones to place their hand on my (it may be my leg or shoulder) while I am reading if they have a thought to share. I will then work to find an appropriate moment to pause (this may be a little while). This may be needed, especially when you have a wide span of ages due to a little ones attention span and needing to slowly grow it. If they are the only child being read to, you can let them know that if they interrupt the reading, you will no longer be able to read that story during that that time (for that day only). If they are sitting with their siblings, you may need to ask them to leave the room so that their siblings can continue hearing the reading. Once the reading is done, I like to say something along the lines of, "I am so sorry you missed out the reading! It was incredibly interesting when..." or "It was funny when..." to tantalize them for future readings.
I have a 6 year old son on the spectrum. He is quite smart and verbal. That said I'm starting his homeschooling shortly. Every non-preferred activity causes rebellion both verbally and acting lazy or running out of the room. I have done a poor job holding consequences and want to improve. Do you have any thoughts?
Hi Rhonda, Grace and peace to you. Make sure you give yourself grace on this autism journey. Sonya has a free mp3 download that provides biblical hope and encouragement that helped her after her daughter was diagnosed with autism: simplycharlottemason.com/store/lessons-from-the-valley/ We’ve recorded this podcast on special needs that may address some of the habit training questions you have with your sweet boy: simplycharlottemason.com/blog/habits-q-a-special-needs-one-at-a-time/ If there is anything else we can do to assist and support you, please feel free to reach out to us. ❤️
Hi, Thank you for reaching out with this question! Here are a few recommendations. 1. When starting to target the habit of obedience, start small. Choose a very simple command that she is capable of doing as well as you can choose fun commands (e.g. giving directions that are part of an anticipated activity). The goal here is to teach her about obedience. When we are teaching a new habit we want to provide our children with living examples of this idea, set them up for success, and walk them through forming that new habit at the level that they are ready for. Here is a post that is helpful in thinking through the difficulty of the command. Even if you think she "should" be able to obey a given directive at this time, if she is not, we want to make it easy at the beginning and reinforce the correct path of obedience rather than making it difficult at the start and having her choose her familiar path of disobedience which is already easier for her at this point. simplycharlottemason.com/blog/5-ways-to-work-on-the-habit-of-obedience/ 2. In an age appropriate way, it will also be helpful to her to sit down and have a conversation about your expectations and consequences for disobedience. Consequences we can tend to think of as always being a punishment, which they can be, but not always. In a Charlotte Mason approach, we strive to use educative consequences as much as possible. Our goal is for our children to learn to choose the right path the next time, essentially in this case learn to obey. Here is a helpful post on consequences: simplycharlottemason.com/blog/habits-q-amp-a-consequences/ 3. This post is a collaboration that Sonya did with Ginger Hubbard. Ginger has a lot of parenting resources and practical advice on how to deal with obedience. As parents it can be easy to fall into a pattern of interacting with our children where we are giving them too many chances to obey which leads them to think that they have a choice and we don't really mean it yet. This may not be the case with your child, however the ideas presented in this post can be very helpful in thinking through how you as the parent have responded to the disobedience in the past and how this may (or may not) be contributing to the struggle that you are currently having. Here is a link to that post that goes into more detail. simplycharlottemason.com/blog/6-discipline-mistakes-parents-make/
did anyone else cry listening to this??
God's design is so beautiful
This is so, so good! I feel like I need to watch this every morning before our day starts 😆
I feel the same way! I am hoping to mimic her consistent, calm tone as well :)
It would be beneficial if I watched it every day as well
Yes me too!
I love her personality. She has quite a lovely balance of being convincing and graceful, gentle and firm. God bless You sister! Thanks for this labor of love.
Elle met bien en évidence cet équilibre qui émane de la Bible. J’aime beaucoup le don d’oratrice que Dieu lui a donné pour transmettre sa parole ❤
Sonya, God has gifted you incredibly with the gift of wisdom and teaching! Thank you for your many videos that talk about, not just the surface how-to’s, but the cultivating of souls. Not just our children’s, but first our own! This is the most important work, not the curriculum choices! And this is definitely what I need in this time.
(Also need to figure out the curriculum for the year! 😊)
Praying for you when you come to mind in this season of illness! You are a blessing!
Thank you for your kind words and feedback. Your prayers for Sonya are very much appreciated.
This video is truly a gold nugget . Every mother needs to watch this 100times over . It’s encouraged me and corrected some of my mistakes I’m so thankful for you Mrs Schaffer .
I’ve send this video to every woman I know that has children they have at home .
Authority and Obedience are first and foremost Biblical. Consistent reading/studying specifically both Isaiah and Romans, (but all scripture completely,) as a family, has been a blessing in this area. All authority and obedience is exercised under God. All equally responsible to Trust and Obey, by the power of the Holy Spirit, in the roles we are placed in. Humble servant obedience, coupled with quick repentance and forgiveness, is a prayer on my lips often as a mother.
-Danya
I pray without ceasing for the obedience of my children. More than anything, Lord, I pray for their obedience to You and only You.
Leur obéissance à Dieu s’apprend en nous obéissant premièrement, puisqu’il est écrit « enfant obéissez à vos parents » Notre devoir en retour est de ne rien leur demander d’injuste. Nous avons aussi une grande responsabilité devant Dieu puisque nous devront lui rendre des comptes au sujet de l’autorité qu’il nous a déléguée.
Bien-sûr, en grandissant nos enfants doivent apprendre qu’ils doivent obéir aux autorités mais ne devraient jamais obéir à un ordre contraire à la parole de Dieu. Si leur patron leur demande un jour d’être malhonnêtes ou de mentir, ils devront refuser.
Whoa, this is an excellent way of looking at authority. I appreciate it so much and I know my kids will appreciate it when I share it with them! Thanks for putting all your knowledge, skills, and experience on RUclips for us. I've watched 4 of your videos this morning and I'm so grateful for the content in them and am eager to apply them!
Thanks for your feedback, so glad you found this helpful!
I have been a long time follower of these podcasts and this one is my favorite episode! I could sense the Holy Spirit speaking to my heart through Sonya’s words. Thank you so much for presenting Charlotte’s words in such a way that makes them easy to understand and apply to parenting my children! I’m so thankful for SCM. Such a blessing and encouragement.
What a great reminder to keep fighting the good fight with ourselves, so much more is caught then taught. I needed that encouragement, thank you Sonya for being a light set on a hill.
The arbitrary obedience part was so good.
So glad you enjoyed this post!
True Gold!! Thank you we appreciate this channel so much!!
OMG!! This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
You are so welcome! So glad you enjoyed this episode.
Sonya, I so appreciate everything you do!
Thank you for your kind words!
Thank you for talking about subtle topics that few others touch upon.
You are very welcome!
Always on a lookout for new videos from you Sonya 🤗. Thank you for all your hard work... and thanks to the Whole team who help put this together for us!
This was one of the best videos you've done! Thank you so much for these good reminders.
Thank you! Her quotes are so amazing! I can’t believe someone thought so deeply about a subject and carefully pinned the words.
Oh Sonya, thank you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
You're very welcome!
This blessed me so much this morning. Thank you for making it so plain.
Boy oh boy did I need to hear this today!
This is the best parenting advice iv heard
Thank God for this Channel, I have learned a lot
Glad to hear it!
Thank you, Sonya ❤
So much biblical truth in this message!
Is this a podcast or a preaching!??? 😄
❤
Thank you, I enjoyed watching this episode
Thank you so much! This is a wonderful reminder and confirmation on a day when I needed it dearly.
Such an important point!!!
So missed. This is foundational to our children’s education.
Thank you!
Thank you for describing this so well
I am from the UK and find this really interesting. I see where you are coming from but prefer to think of learning as collaborative. I think authority and obedience, unfortunately, have very negative connotations because of all of the historical abuses of authority.
Thank you for your comments and thoughts on this topic!
Very encouraging!
This is so good!! Thank you for sharing!! ❤️
Excellent video
This was amazing 👏 🙌 😍 ❤ 😭
Thank you
Woow thank you
You are very welcome!
What is the appropriate thing to do when you have a 5 or 6 year old who is constantly interrupting your reading to comment on what's being read?
Hi Mandi. This can be a frustrating situation! It is important to set up your expectations right before reading. You may need to gently remind the child daily for a while. You will also need to have a consequence established and shared with the little one when sharing your expectations. I ask my little ones to place their hand on my (it may be my leg or shoulder) while I am reading if they have a thought to share. I will then work to find an appropriate moment to pause (this may be a little while). This may be needed, especially when you have a wide span of ages due to a little ones attention span and needing to slowly grow it. If they are the only child being read to, you can let them know that if they interrupt the reading, you will no longer be able to read that story during that that time (for that day only). If they are sitting with their siblings, you may need to ask them to leave the room so that their siblings can continue hearing the reading. Once the reading is done, I like to say something along the lines of, "I am so sorry you missed out the reading! It was incredibly interesting when..." or "It was funny when..." to tantalize them for future readings.
@@SimplyCharlotteMason thank you so much for the advice, I greatly appreciate it. 😍 I will give these a try.
your voice is a treat to the ears and content to the 💓....btw how old is ur daughter?
Thank you Sonja. I appreciate all your help. Any chance I can get you to come visit for a bit?
Thank you for your kind words!
I have a 6 year old son on the spectrum. He is quite smart and verbal. That said I'm starting his homeschooling shortly. Every non-preferred activity causes rebellion both verbally and acting lazy or running out of the room. I have done a poor job holding consequences and want to improve. Do you have any thoughts?
Hi Rhonda,
Grace and peace to you. Make sure you give yourself grace on this autism journey.
Sonya has a free mp3 download that provides biblical hope and encouragement that helped her after her daughter was diagnosed with autism:
simplycharlottemason.com/store/lessons-from-the-valley/
We’ve recorded this podcast on special needs that may address some of the habit training questions you have with your sweet boy:
simplycharlottemason.com/blog/habits-q-a-special-needs-one-at-a-time/
If there is anything else we can do to assist and support you, please feel free to reach out to us. ❤️
my daughter is very "rebellious " what is the next step when she dosen't want to obey , what to do
Hi, Thank you for reaching out with this question! Here are a few recommendations.
1. When starting to target the habit of obedience, start small. Choose a very simple command that she is capable of doing as well as you can choose fun commands (e.g. giving directions that are part of an anticipated activity). The goal here is to teach her about obedience. When we are teaching a new habit we want to provide our children with living examples of this idea, set them up for success, and walk them through forming that new habit at the level that they are ready for. Here is a post that is helpful in thinking through the difficulty of the command. Even if you think she "should" be able to obey a given directive at this time, if she is not, we want to make it easy at the beginning and reinforce the correct path of obedience rather than making it difficult at the start and having her choose her familiar path of disobedience which is already easier for her at this point.
simplycharlottemason.com/blog/5-ways-to-work-on-the-habit-of-obedience/
2. In an age appropriate way, it will also be helpful to her to sit down and have a conversation about your expectations and consequences for disobedience. Consequences we can tend to think of as always being a punishment, which they can be, but not always. In a Charlotte Mason approach, we strive to use educative consequences as much as possible. Our goal is for our children to learn to choose the right path the next time, essentially in this case learn to obey. Here is a helpful post on consequences:
simplycharlottemason.com/blog/habits-q-amp-a-consequences/
3. This post is a collaboration that Sonya did with Ginger Hubbard. Ginger has a lot of parenting resources and practical advice on how to deal with obedience. As parents it can be easy to fall into a pattern of interacting with our children where we are giving them too many chances to obey which leads them to think that they have a choice and we don't really mean it yet. This may not be the case with your child, however the ideas presented in this post can be very helpful in thinking through how you as the parent have responded to the disobedience in the past and how this may (or may not) be contributing to the struggle that you are currently having. Here is a link to that post that goes into more detail.
simplycharlottemason.com/blog/6-discipline-mistakes-parents-make/
Thank you Sonja. I appreciate all your help. Any chance I can get you to come visit us for a bit?
Glad that you found this post encouraging!