YOU choose your friends snd lifestyle. Nobody is imposing anything on you. If you feel compelled to do something you don’t feel comfortable with, then the problem is in you. Добродошла у Србију.
Hello Ksenija. First of all, you must know that you came to a country where people love you, your husband and your son. Maybe you can't understand that, but it's true. And that's very important. .We are not all the same and ready for big changes. The first thing that is a problem for you is maybe too much free time and then you think a lot about everything. You have to find something to do, just fill the time and hang out a little with Serbs. Serbs are very hospitable. Especially towards you. Look forward, the past is behind you. Here you can build a beautiful life. It's all up to you. Let go of what happened. See what will happen. If a person is healthy, then his possibilities are unlimited. .Therefore, head forward and into new victories..
Generaly speaking, Serbs love Russians and eastern Slavs in general, but... do you remember what were and still are the monthly taxes for Russians who came here, renting a flat in Belgrade or Novi Sad? Oh, brotherly love. Such a shame for some people among us. Easy money over someone else back. Not nice. Yes, there are such people in every nation, I beleive.
Xeniha, it's like that wherever you go to a new country with small children. I'm from Serbia, I've lived in Canada for five years and it's the same, we've never gone out together or anything, you're alone and you have to take care of the children, there are no parties. Reduce your alcohol and slowly create priorities, life is not all parties, although I know how attractive it is in Serbia. Good luck, friends, and may your second year be more beautiful and organized.
From someone who has lived and partied in both Russia and Serbia, yes Serbian nightlife(and society) is more wild. You can have fun on pretty much any day of the week in Serbia, and there's a range of different places to go. Russian nightlife is more fancy and upscale. The most fun I had though was in Ukraine, in the days when Instagram hadn't become big yet, and people drank a lot more booze. As a man, it's much easier to pick up a girl at a bar/club in Ukraine and Russia. In Serbia the nightlife is more "Fun" but also a big smokey sausage party 🌭😂 where getting a one night stand is difficult(unless you're a girl). Looking forward to my next trip to Serbia though 🇷🇸😁
Hey there. I'm Serbian. My experience with Russians here is that they are mental while drinking. You can't order a simple drink with them, it can't be only rakija/whiskey/beer, it has to be a combination and at least 2 drinks at once. And it doesn't even start before everybody is completely fucked up, dysfunctional. I stopped answering their calls. Learn how to enjoy drinking while staying normal, would be my advice. Get well.
Problem kod Rusa kada piju je to "forsiranje" oko alkohola, tj. tjeraju te da pijes jedan konjak za drugim. Uvijek su takvi bili (moj djed je govorio da jos u Jugoslaviji kada su dolazile delegacije iz SSSR-a, uvijek bi zavrsilo da bi se svi napili). Kasnije sam to vidio i kada sam posjetio obitelj moje zene da forsiraju da pijes. Ja sam u jednom trenutku rekao da ne forsiraju s tim eksanjem jer mi je to bzvz. Mi (kad kazem mi mislim na ex Yu) pijemo za socijalizaciju. U Rijeci i Istri ljudi vole pit vino i pivo, i to je uvijek 2-3 boce max da se opustis. Cak ni u Srbiji nisam nikada imao dojam da me netko "forsira" pit rakiju, uvijek je bio pristup "komsija pa Bog", tj. sto god je tebi udobno, domacin se uvijek slaze, pa makar pio nista. Svidja mi se sto smo s te strane liberalniji, u Rusiji ako ti netko ponudi alkohol ili hranu a odbijes, odmah se pitaju u cemu je problem. Ma bjezi...
Hello there. I have been there and the one thing that "helped" me a lot, was getting really sick and realizing I didn't have my health anymore to simply through it away. If I didn't take care of my body I would be a sorry sight to look at when I reached 50. So I picked up some healthy habits. Same as you ... went to the Gym and from there everything evolved. Started doing Calisthenics and I am off the "loop". Looking back, I just think it was a natural phase young adults have to go through. Every person is different, but one thing is for sure. If you want to take something out of your life (The loop), you need to fill it up with something, otherwise the old habits will creep back in. That was my 5 cents. If nothing else, I give you my solidarity and wishes of good luck!
Ksenia try to forget Belgrade for some period, it is fuck.d up city for mental health. You live close to Novi Sad, they have pretty good night life too, when you have " party invade crisis " try to party once in month in Novi Sad. Someone in comments writed that you have alot of free time, try to spend that time, make another YT channel on russian about your life here ( you speak russian and thats one big plus for you in a far country ) . Try to hang up with some serbian mamas so you can learn more serbian and find job ( p.s. you look so cashier , I see you in Lidl or some shop taking money or bank cards lol ) .Also try to spend weekend with your biggest fortune ( your husband and son ) , travel with them for one day somewhere, visit restaurants , playgrounds or other little towns around you , make some videos there . Daniel is three now, you can do it. I am happy that you are OK and fighting for more positive things.
living separate social lives is a recipe for disaster .. I've been married 37 years ... When my children were small we just didnt go out ..You want your friends or you want your marriage ??
Nah nah mate, doesn’t work for us, I’ve heard that so many times like “omg you go out without your husband wtf?!” Does it mean we both need to be locked at home? :) Each of us happy when one of us have a chance to go and relax. We have a lot of time together. Sometimes it’s okay to take a rest :) I feel sorry for people who don’t have understanding and trustful relationships.
@@SailorNomhey i am a grandmother of three kids iand mother of 2. Please go out the time will come you find a granny like me. Babysitting with me and you go out with husband. Maybe ioffer for you?
Ksenija how many Serbians you are in contact on daily basis with and is there anyone of them you have managed to make some kind of deeper relation with? Your impressions of Serbians seem to have come by the observation of people and our habits from the distance and due to contact via internet, is it so? After all, it is impossible to properly understand mentaity of any nation without ruling its language. Start contact people(Serbians) in what is called a real life and of cource take it easy, Ksendzo :)
2:38 it is called parenting. Once you become a parent, you mature, and now your needs are not most important thing in a world. It is normal. I used to party non stop until I become a parent, literary minimum 1 to 2 times per week, until I was 40. Once I got kids, last 6 years, I think I go to party 4 times per year. And that is ok - I have small kids. Once they grow up a little and become more independant (turn 12, for example), I will be able to return to more frequent partying - but still with measure, as I am a parent now, and maybe needed in the morning :) You will be ok, don;t worry, you changed a lot, came to our amazing country, left friends and culture behind, maybe changed job, changed home etc etc - you will be ok, just give it time to set roots. And welcome to Serbia :)
I can totally relate. I was like that for a period in my late 20s and early 30s. It was a lot of fun and I met incredible people but it was also destructive. I still held all my responsibilities under check (I was a lawyer). You description of the weekend of partying followed by a terrible first few days of the week but being fine by Thurs is exactly my recollection. But it does catch up with you. I was lucky as I had good support from a therapist to figure it out and eventually just prioritized my life responsibilities and was able to curtail the partying. I didn't completely curtail but it toned down to only a few times per year. I'm lucky that it didn't spin out of control to the point of destroying my life as I saw that with some of my friends and acquaintances. With your husband and child, I think you have similar responsibilities. As I got older, I lost interest in partying (for me it was definitely an age thing.... probably delayed as I was not like that at all in my late teens and through University). I wish you luck. I haven't been following your channel but hope to more. Thanks for your honesty and perspective. It's brave. Ignore the judgmental types, unless they are coming from a place of love or truly knowing you and desiring your health and happiness.
So glad to see you back. Was worried about you. Mental health is so important and a lot of people forget about just how important it really is. Its ok to party but everything in moderation right? Really looking forward to your next video. You are blessed with talent and a wonderful family. Please take good care of yourself!
Video was interesting, thank you for sharing. I completely understand you, since I was living abroad for many years and from that ''immigrant'' side I know what you are about, On the other hand, you probably made mistake if you just made friends only at the parties, you should have varieties of other friends (neighbours, parents from your kid, etc) Parties can be great fun, but when you draw the bottom line, those are not really counted as real life, believe you me. And yes it is a great idea to switch from English to Serbian, don;t worry about mistakes and grammar, Serbian and Russian were one langauge (or much more similar than now) until 18 century, so just talk Serbian and you will overcome obstacles. I hope you and your family will find happiness that you deserves in Serbia. Reduce parties and alcohol and you will feel much better and more confident. Kind regards!
Learn to say No to too many invites. Teach your new friend to respect your time and limits you imposed on yourself. Join a sport groups, they tend to live more healthy lifestyles. Go explore nature in Serbia, hiking, there are also great latin dance schools around Belgrade and Novi Sad. Great for cardio workout or a folklor group. You can meet better group of young people, and from my experience those social nights tend to be with way less alcohol, because alcohol is discouraged during dancing since it can be dengerous. I spent last summer in Serbia and i havent been home for more than 10 years. I dont drink, never had since i spent more than 20 years in professional sport. I just say no and thats it. I demand that my rules for myself are to be respected.
hello Ksenya! This was one of the best video I have seen this year! brave and honest! I am pretty sure you will reach your goals by the time! Regards from serbian Sincity 😊❤
The people that you lose after leaving a bad situation are not really friends so don't worry about "losing" anything and do what you need to do for yourself to feel better and get back on track:)
Well, your story caused some blend of emotions in me and some reminiscenses... On one side, I experinced the same things and ups and downs when kids came in my life, but on the other hand- it' s not so tough to switch from party mode to parent melancholy...you just have to give up booze, cigarets, pot, late dining, 5 cofees per a day, chilling and cooling with gang, include some workout 3x a week, and most important-go to bed at 23 h and to wake at 7h in the morning... really, not so tough😂 Stay strong and sharp, all the best to you, and, just to mention-post-Covid Serbia and Belgrade nightlife is a 30% of pre-Covid madness.. Just imagine what I have gone through in years 2014-2015, and you'll feel instantly better😂😂😂
i dont understand drinking and partying thing,but i understand mental health and life in serbia not being for weak ones its rough and im often thinking about leaving my home country,but it is what it is im trying my best
Ok, so this situation with you two alone with the kid would have happened anywhere. I'm Serbian living in Scotland. Me and my husband are alone with our 5 year old. And yes, it's dreadful. We haven't been on a date for ages. But I guess your son goes to nursery during the week, which gives you some time for yourself? Try to make the best of it. About how people work in Russia and Serbia. I'm not sure which proffession were you observing but I'll tell you one thing. I've been working for a while in Moscow as an architect. Drawing submission is the next day, for instance. Our project fee gets down a significant amount of money if we are late. All the Russians are turning their computers off at 17.00 with drawings unfinished. This applies to draftmen/draftwomen and engineers. Serbians are staying till 2 am to finish the drawings, print them out and cut out of the plotter. And I've got a Master Degree, cutting and printing isn't actually my job. This is how we work in Serbia too. When submission is going on it's a mental house. We work on Saturdays, Sundays, day, night, no matter, till the drawings are done. So not sure if those cultural differences :) are applicable to all proffessions. Perhaps you were observing gouverment employees? :)))) And finaly, it's a lot to take for you. You are away from what you've always knew, you're away from your family, starting over, saving money for what you already had in Russia. All new starts are difficult, specially as a family. I'm talking from my own experience. You've got the right aditude, pretty much resilient such as myself :). Hang on, you are getting there.
Well you’re talking about Serbians who work abroad :) well idk, maybe you’re right at some point Anyways thank you so much for your support, it really means a lot to me :)
As born and raised in Belgrade I understand your part about nightlife. I stay away from nighlife. When my forigners ask me what nighclub they should visit I don't know what to say 😀 I more like for house party or to hang out with friends in parks. That is way I like. I never felt pleasant at the nighclubs. Music is too loud, you cannot talk with anyone. You can only dance and drink that's all
I love your new approach towards things, I know you're Russian but try being sober for at least a month... that's how I changed better, and yes; quit parties for some time.
I guess I was still in London when this was released. I'm pretty sure I didn't see it. I would have tried to say something to help cheer you up. 😾 At least you realize what the problems are and you're taking them in hand. Kudos to you! 💫 You may not have become a famous, wealthy RUclipsr this year, but you made friends and admirers, even if you lost a few. Your vlogs are becoming increasingly cinematic from time to time. I can see it in the photography and editing. Maybe you didn't put in enough effort in your view, but I can only imagine that it takes a lot of work for a busy Mum to make one of these videos. It can't be easy. 🎬 Hope you retained all your shit and be like a tiger!
@@SailorNom Sounds like you really were going through a hard time a month ago. I suppose some reflection is in order (it is for me occasionally as well) but I hope you didn't beat yourself up too much. It may feel like it sometimes but you're not alone - your RUclips friends are thinking of you and the family.
I dont know is my problem the same,i am from Serbia ..i am allready in middle 40s but i still afraid if i stay home i will "miss something" ..so even tonight i was tired and at 10 PM friend call me to go out..and even i wanted to stay home and relax i still could not resist ..and in 10 minutes i went out ,get drunk and come home now at 5 A.M...maybe probably same tomorrow
Hey just want to give you support, it is not easy to pack up and leave your home country and change whole life but keep your head up!! And just look ahead, dont look back! And tone down on the drink, it helps😊
Hey at least u admit u had a problem,thats good.I used to be drug addict for years and i had many problems with law but i would always say "oh nah im good im not addicted im just using to have fun".Wich was a huge lie😂i lost like 15kg,lost most of my friends,relations with my family was none...as soon as i admited to myself that i had serious problem i became fully sober in 1 month and its been 6 years im clean from everything. Dont even smoke,drink nothing.Now i cant stand nightlife and all of those clubs and other places.U just have to find something that makes u happy and that makes u feel good,for me that is training.Maybe u should also start training or just find something that will make u happy.It takes a brave person to tell their personal problems to the world and u are a brave person and a smart person i see.I remember your video "Serbs and Russians are not same" and how many ppl got butthurt about it(Serbs)😂😂😂Oh i laughed so hard reading those silly comments.But forgive those ppl they been fed with Serbian state media propaganda for 10+years how we are basically same ppl...that colour of your hair looks way better on u then blonde colour,but thats just my opinion.Your husband/boyfriend is lucky to have such a beautiful and nice girl as u Ksenya.All the best to u,your husband and whole family from Belgrade.
Hi! What a story of yours, good job mate!!! I guess I’ve managed with my problem.. I guess, we’ll see in future 😁. Anyways, what an experience it was with that video 😁😁😁, now I look back and laugh too 😁.
Parties and regular drinking, or drinking in general, are not for someone who is no longer in their 20s. In my 30s, I "discovered" the beauty of socializing during the day, in spaces where I can hear the people I'm with. It's natural - people are nocturnal during adolescence, but most return to a diurnal routine in the second half of their 20s. And alcohol, after a couple of very unpleasant experiences, realizing that I can no longer drink like I did in my 20s, I forever reduced it to one beer every now and then. The child will be a natural multilingual person, I believe you yourself know that this is an advantage.
seems like when you broke the chain? you started chasing your own tail.great fun for a while until you get dizzy or worse catch it "ouch".but i'm glad to see you finally decide to chase something else and i know when you decide what and catch it it will be very tasty . glad to see you back :)
Travelling is a good antistress, if you have money ofc. On your place I would go south, to enjoy sea in Montenegro. Now tourist season is almost over, there are no tourists, it's still kind generally warm and you can get good deals for a cheaper price. PS: consider taking a pet (dog/cat) too, they are a good antristress too.
It's Choice not location. Spiritual Joy over temporary fleshly gratification. Put the cross back on and drop the sword. There is a war on for your soul. Ephesians chapter 6:12
"Bye, bye car, this year we are not gonna buy it, that's pretty sad, jebiga". Now that is a proper Serbian response. Serbs are used to disappointments, they are a part of our daily lives after all.
I made it to the end of this video. I watched this one because I think it was shorter than the most recent one. Not really sure why they call it culture shock when you move to a different country and you're depressed and homesick and miserable. I think culture shock means something different like wow this culture is really shockingly different! But they say it happens and it's really depressing. And I'm sure the drinking and partying isn't helping. Or at least not afterwards. I don't know. When I was younger that was not my thing and honestly It still isn't. I guess I was lucky sort of to end up in church in my twenties and just before that and up until I was like oh wow... I was 42 when I moved away and I didn't go back because church wasn't the same down here. Everything changed in my church the same time my husband left me which was a lot of fun. And so many of my friends left. But other than poverty and acute misery and loneliness at least I knew people online. So I had some friends. Not to hang out with though. Not in real life. And one of my friends took the other one and ran away with him. Made sure I was cut out. My ex-husband remarried and then tried to get back with me. All sorts of things were going wrong and my landlady wanted to sell the house so I had no place to live and I ended up in Florida. It's not like I've made lots of friends here either. I have two roommates. Both of them are male. I have some pretty ducks. If I can get myself to go outside. Yesterday was not one of those days. On the other hand Church was... Guilt-inducing and I can't go back because now I have PTSD and I really don't fit anywhere anyway. I've been hanging out on Inside Russia. At least I pray a little bit and I seem to fit in. It would be better if I could type faster. I used to be able to. It's cool that you are learning Serbian :-) I would say that I am stuck in Florida. Although my friends in Boston sort of drifted off to different churches. Sometimes really different ones. Then again when I was married but we had no kids because I didn't want any we didn't hang out with a lot of people cuz we didn't fit in. Mostly we hung out with singles or we hung out with no one because my husband "didn't like having friends." Awesome! And that was different. He told me to get a hobby. I got one. Finally. And somehow behind my back he got a girlfriend. And I didn't know. Guess I'm naive. My minister guessed that he had one because he said men dont leave unless they have somewhere to go. All of this was long ago but... It's the biggest change I had in my life. He got married again and then his wife kicked him out and then he got married a third time and then he died and I found out by a Google search in the middle of the night. And it took me another 6 months to find out what happened. He was the only man I ever loved. And I wasn't into dating... Afterwards for there were reasons. And it's been what almost 30 years? Okay in a couple of years it'll be 30 years. But only 22 since I moved away from home... Boston. Where people are insane. The weather here is nice. No one comes around and says it's illegal to have ducks and takes them away. Not yet but there's always tomorrow. In Massachusetts I had a sparrow I took it to the vet They said it was illegal and they confiscated her. She was a boy by the way. My heart was broken yet again. And it wasn't illegal. People should get their laws straight before they steal people's pets. So there's some doom and gloom. But at least my ducks are pretty. I just wish my Drake was more fertile. I think he has an issue. Or maybe a lack of issue? He's not making a lot of ducklings. Which is too bad because he is pretty and his girls are pretty and he's such a good boy. He doesn't try to have sex with me and he doesn't run away and claw at me when I try to catch him. And he doesn't kill his children. And he waits and lets the girls eat first. But I think he doesn't make a lot of babies either. The ones he makes are very pretty. I hope you will find some positive things that will make you happy. Healthy food and exercise are great for you but they don't make me happy. Talking to my friends even if they're online, watching medical dramas, I read a couple of books, My best friend is consumed with her ukulele... Some things make me happy. There was a man online that was nice to me but I didn't get too close. And then he went somewhere. Not sure what happened. I think I missed some things which happened. But that was probably a good thing. I'm curious about it but I suppose I shouldn't try to find out anything. I suppose if I paid attention to my friends I would have more of them but I don't write anything that's short. That's why I was on Facebook. I could just write things and people would either see them or not and they wouldn't be directed at just one person the way email used to be. But now I seem to spill myself all over RUclips comment sections. It's really too bad you can't find a friend to babysit. I was supposed to be asleep an hour ago maybe an hour and a half... My eye is itchy. Hopefully my eggs haven't exploded in my friends incubator. I can't find my apostrophe. Stupid keyboard. My circadian rhythm is breaking worse than usual. There are so many displaced people... When I go to a thing online and people say where are you at, I don't want to say where I am. I am not Florida girl. I am Boston girl. I think like Boston girl. Florida is a strange place and getting stranger. I tell my brother news from St Petersburg and let him try to guess whether I mean Florida or Russia and half the time he gets it wrong. At least they don't throw us in jail yet. It could be worse, you could be in Russia.
Hey, thank you so much for your time and honesty… I’ve learned a lot about you, that’s awesome, really awesome. Even if some things aren’t really awesome itself, still it’s life and it can be different. ❤️
Based. Remedy is you should have 5 kids and move away from downtown center where is enourmous batle of Evil and Good in Belgrade, while Devil for sure holds downtown area. Who want peacefull life should go to the edge areas (Britain, Canada, Siberia, Australia...), but who want to be in midle of the batle of Good and Evil and feel that expirience, here is the place
Hello Ksenija, thank you for your video. Listening to your videos, I think you would benefit by attending an Orthodox Church liturgy. Turn towards God and you will find amazing friends as well. Belgrade (and Serbia) is a very spiritual place, not just a party town. God bless ☦♥
Job. Find any job that doesn't require much of language and work for a year. However boring, senseless it can be, you can make it for 1 year. You will make enough to pay things you have to pay, and to buy a car. And who knows what kind of experiences, opportunities, etc it could bring. Besposlen pop i jariće krsti. In other words, a lot of free time can lead to a dark places.
I was in Serbia the past two weeks in Belgrade and Novi Sad. It's definitely a nation on the incline. Acting as the Switzerland of the Balkans so far has paid off dividends.
@@SailorNom Serbian people are always welcoming. But I don't have any real Serbian contacts or friends, so I was mostly just on my own most of the time.
@@simeon1234 Sorry. I mean, compared to even late 2021 when I was in Belgrade, current Serbia seems on the upswing. I see plenty of couples pushing their children in strollers. Plenty of new cars. Very fashionable 20 somethings. Plenty of people walking dogs. That's the new trend apparently. Maybe the economy isn't so good outside Belgrade and Novi Sad?
I don't understand your problem. Unless you got hooked on drugs or alcohol or cheated on your husband. You either go out or you don't, you drink or you don't, no one is forcing you to do anything. I live in Canada and I haven't been to a single party in a decade. You're an adult, act like it.
@@SailorNom Maybe because there's no problem or you're doing a poor job of explaining it. Thanks, my mental health is good. It's possible the state of your mental health has nothing to do with staying in or going out, maybe the whole thing is in your head. Anyway good luck, don't be so much fun.
No one described a way of life here. It is bad for your mental healt and yes Belgrade is a sin city, not for a normal family life, you always have a feeling that you missing fun if you don’t go out, it’s just 2 much.
Is Serbia not good for you, but even after a year you are still there? Why? If Serbia is so bad, go to another country and compare how bad or good Serbia actually is, instead of being grateful that we welcomed you into our country, you spit on us at every step. When something doesn't suit me somewhere, I leave that place.
@@SailorNom You don't know what you want. You want to go out here, and as an excuse you find that the problem is Serbia, how can Serbia be a problem for your going out and your drinking? You will have to find someone else to blame for your problem. In the end, I told you that if you don't like Serbia, try to go to Slovenia or Croatia for a month and see if those countries will be a problem or if the problem is in you.
@@SailorNom It's unbelievable how much crap you said in the first 5 minutes of the video, like you're fighting with who will go out on the town, you or your husband, who will take care of the child, when the children come, there are no more outings before you go out for one or two beers and head home. not to get drunk like a pig and not know where you are. Then you talk about your friends, what will they say if you don't go out with them, friends, if they don't have children, they can fuck each other because they have no obligations and you are a parent and you can't behave like that. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be for you and you won't care what your friends say, work and family should not suffer because of marriage, and that's what you just did. The sooner your friends realize that you're a parent and that you can't go out all the time, the sooner they'll accept that situation, but it's not a problem with your friends, the problem is that you don't want to be a parent, but you want to be that girl who doesn't have children or a husband and that he does what he wants, but life is like that and you chose it yourself. So the sooner you stop blaming others for your problems, the easier it will be for you.
I feel really sorry for people like you who can’t understand just a couple of words in English. I said I don’t blame Serbia, I blame myself, but you didn’t get it :)
@@SailorNom As you said in the title of the video, my mental health has been destroyed since I was in Serbia. Which is more than enough for me to understand that you blame others for your problem, and if I don't understand a word of english, how come we communicate in the same english?
What;s that thing in front? A French bread? a huge potato? Some alien excited to see you? It;s kinda distracting.. lol I;ve been in Serbia 2 days in my life and almost needed an antidepressive.. lol Doesn't hubby work for Heineken? Or am i wrong? In that case The Netherlands would make you more happy.. Its a Dutch company.
конечно Сербия тут не причем))) это просто жизнь без родственников называется, вы же сами сказали, что теперь бабушки и дедушки вам не помогают с ребенком, и поэтому каждый использует свободный денёк по максимуму)
You seem to be a high achiever not greatly suited to placid village life! You require a regular amount of intense stimulation, or you get restless. Maybe with some ADHD in the mix? It is actually a winning quality to have and will bring you success if you channel it right. You can't get away from it but know that it is your biggest strength. Get your headphones on and a headbanging playlist and go run in the forest. Make your own trail, the wilder the better.❤
Dear lady, I simply can't believe that you are so bitter about a city and a way of life...as much as I understood you, where you enjoy and where you feel good, you spit on it, is it possible that you have a bad opinion about something that you enjoy and barely you are waiting for the next date, your story is coherent, you long for something and you spit on it. To me, it looks like this" you meet a good guy, you have a wonderful time with him, you want him again and again and then you find it convenient to spit on him... instead of hang out with people who live a more peaceful life in a family idyll, or you talk about how you go out and get drunk every weekend, or change yourself, the society you live in or maybe your husband... greetings.
I haven't gotten an impression that she was spitting on Belgrade or anybody else. She says that she is weak for the challenges offered by nightlife in Belgrade. if you buy drugs in Amsterdam, where it's legal, and become a drug addict, it's your fault (not amsterdam's fault) and she's aware of that.
Rats that was one more thing I wanted to say. There was. Some other people from Russia were taking a trip to Georgia got stuck in a little town when their car broke down and lo and behold It was the town that I cannot spell where your mother-in-law lives? Or was it your mother? I'm sorry. That boring little town. I said hey! I've heard of that town! They needed three car parts. When was in Moscow and one was in St Petersburg and the other one I don't know, but all three turned up in the town they were in. Or they had been in and they limped back there and fixed the car. So their vacation wasn't destroyed. And I haven't been beyond that point in their story. I was busy on other people's channels. I'm behind all over. But I thought it was amusing that it was the same place. And I came to RUclips because I didn't know any Ukrainians. So how did I end up knowing so many Russians? Well at least they aren't Z people.
Welcome to the club of fucked-up persons! 😂😢 You are trying to get out of your situation. I wish I have your strenght. I had many times, but I failed so often. I have no advice to give you. Do you have any for me?
@@SailorNom What else can I do?! 😐 Good luck, anyway. You are very brave to tell this story to YT. If you wanna talk to someone, I am probably not apropriate person for that. Only if you are desperate, write to me. 🙃
Kako bi bilo da se pisvetis suprugu i sinu..mozda neko pozoriste,biblioteka..porodicni izlazci! Drugo,pricaj srpski da te ceo svet razume ,narocito beogradjani o kojima pricas! Uostalom sta ces u Srbiji kada je tako losa. Probaj zaista da budes bolja verzija sebe!
im serb, and i live in serbia. we a total idiots and thats fact, period. also we a poor nation on average considering west world. so imagine what would like if we have half of western standards (availabile money to spent). those party life would just multiply infinite, no joke. and im not meanning that in positive way.
YOU choose your friends snd lifestyle. Nobody is imposing anything on you. If you feel compelled to do something you don’t feel comfortable with, then the problem is in you. Добродошла у Србију.
Yea, that’s what I said, man.
Hello Ksenija. First of all, you must know that you came to a country where people love you, your husband and your son. Maybe you can't understand that, but it's true. And that's very important. .We are not all the same and ready for big changes. The first thing that is a problem for you is maybe too much free time and then you think a lot about everything. You have to find something to do, just fill the time and hang out a little with Serbs. Serbs are very hospitable. Especially towards you. Look forward, the past is behind you. Here you can build a beautiful life. It's all up to you. Let go of what happened. See what will happen. If a person is healthy, then his possibilities are unlimited. .Therefore, head forward and into new victories..
Thank you very much for support and good advice :)
Living here is unhealthy.that was the reason i moved to the west.psihicaly unhealthy
@user-ci7vu7eo9w hmm
Generaly speaking, Serbs love Russians and eastern Slavs in general, but... do you remember what were and still are the monthly taxes for Russians who came here, renting a flat in Belgrade or Novi Sad? Oh, brotherly love. Such a shame for some people among us. Easy money over someone else back. Not nice. Yes, there are such people in every nation, I beleive.
@jozsefharmat3826 bruuuuuh get a life 😁
Xeniha, it's like that wherever you go to a new country with small children. I'm from Serbia, I've lived in Canada for five years and it's the same, we've never gone out together or anything, you're alone and you have to take care of the children, there are no parties. Reduce your alcohol and slowly create priorities, life is not all parties, although I know how attractive it is in Serbia. Good luck, friends, and may your second year be more beautiful and organized.
Thanks a lot for your support :))))))) trying do my best
From someone who has lived and partied in both Russia and Serbia, yes Serbian nightlife(and society) is more wild. You can have fun on pretty much any day of the week in Serbia, and there's a range of different places to go. Russian nightlife is more fancy and upscale. The most fun I had though was in Ukraine, in the days when Instagram hadn't become big yet, and people drank a lot more booze. As a man, it's much easier to pick up a girl at a bar/club in Ukraine and Russia. In Serbia the nightlife is more "Fun" but also a big smokey sausage party 🌭😂 where getting a one night stand is difficult(unless you're a girl). Looking forward to my next trip to Serbia though 🇷🇸😁
Hahaha so true 😁
Wild partying Serbia
Yeah, not enough whores. That's the issue, my brother in Christ.
Hey there. I'm Serbian. My experience with Russians here is that they are mental while drinking. You can't order a simple drink with them, it can't be only rakija/whiskey/beer, it has to be a combination and at least 2 drinks at once. And it doesn't even start before everybody is completely fucked up, dysfunctional. I stopped answering their calls. Learn how to enjoy drinking while staying normal, would be my advice. Get well.
Yeah there so some sad truth in your words 😅. Thanks for advice anyway :)
There is one Serbian saying: "Know how to drink, know how to live." So, it's on you how to drink.
Problem kod Rusa kada piju je to "forsiranje" oko alkohola, tj. tjeraju te da pijes jedan konjak za drugim. Uvijek su takvi bili (moj djed je govorio da jos u Jugoslaviji kada su dolazile delegacije iz SSSR-a, uvijek bi zavrsilo da bi se svi napili). Kasnije sam to vidio i kada sam posjetio obitelj moje zene da forsiraju da pijes. Ja sam u jednom trenutku rekao da ne forsiraju s tim eksanjem jer mi je to bzvz. Mi (kad kazem mi mislim na ex Yu) pijemo za socijalizaciju. U Rijeci i Istri ljudi vole pit vino i pivo, i to je uvijek 2-3 boce max da se opustis. Cak ni u Srbiji nisam nikada imao dojam da me netko "forsira" pit rakiju, uvijek je bio pristup "komsija pa Bog", tj. sto god je tebi udobno, domacin se uvijek slaze, pa makar pio nista. Svidja mi se sto smo s te strane liberalniji, u Rusiji ako ti netko ponudi alkohol ili hranu a odbijes, odmah se pitaju u cemu je problem. Ma bjezi...
You will be fine, do not be to harsh on yourself, we all have been there at some point, so do not worry!
Thank you very much for being so supportive :)
Hello there. I have been there and the one thing that "helped" me a lot, was getting really sick and realizing I didn't have my health anymore to simply through it away. If I didn't take care of my body I would be a sorry sight to look at when I reached 50. So I picked up some healthy habits. Same as you ... went to the Gym and from there everything evolved. Started doing Calisthenics and I am off the "loop". Looking back, I just think it was a natural phase young adults have to go through.
Every person is different, but one thing is for sure. If you want to take something out of your life (The loop), you need to fill it up with something, otherwise the old habits will creep back in.
That was my 5 cents. If nothing else, I give you my solidarity and wishes of good luck!
Man… thanks a lot! There’s a lot of sense in your words. I appreciate it ❤️
Ksenia try to forget Belgrade for some period, it is fuck.d up city for mental health. You live close to Novi Sad, they have pretty good night life too, when you have " party invade crisis " try to party once in month in Novi Sad. Someone in comments writed that you have alot of free time, try to spend that time, make another YT channel on russian about your life here ( you speak russian and thats one big plus for you in a far country ) . Try to hang up with some serbian mamas so you can learn more serbian and find job ( p.s. you look so cashier , I see you in Lidl or some shop taking money or bank cards lol ) .Also try to spend weekend with your biggest fortune ( your husband and son ) , travel with them for one day somewhere, visit restaurants , playgrounds or other little towns around you , make some videos there . Daniel is three now, you can do it. I am happy that you are OK and fighting for more positive things.
Heeeey :) thank you very much for your advice!!! I guess Novi Sad is definitely an option :)
living separate social lives is a recipe for disaster .. I've been married 37 years ... When my children were small we just didnt go out ..You want your friends or you want your marriage ??
Nah nah mate, doesn’t work for us, I’ve heard that so many times like “omg you go out without your husband wtf?!” Does it mean we both need to be locked at home? :) Each of us happy when one of us have a chance to go and relax. We have a lot of time together. Sometimes it’s okay to take a rest :) I feel sorry for people who don’t have understanding and trustful relationships.
@@SailorNomhey i am a grandmother of three kids iand mother of 2. Please go out the time will come you find a granny like me. Babysitting with me and you go out with husband. Maybe ioffer for you?
@Tonasana yea, it’s a good idea, in general…
Samo jako, Ksenija.
Serbia's right place for you.
Pozdrav iz Novog Sada.
Thanks a lot mate :)
Ksenija how many Serbians you are in contact on daily basis with and is there anyone of them you have managed to make some kind of deeper relation with? Your impressions of Serbians seem to have come by the observation of people and our habits from the distance and due to contact via internet, is it so? After all, it is impossible to properly understand mentaity of any nation without ruling its language. Start contact people(Serbians) in what is called a real life and of cource take it easy, Ksendzo :)
2:38 it is called parenting. Once you become a parent, you mature, and now your needs are not most important thing in a world. It is normal. I used to party non stop until I become a parent, literary minimum 1 to 2 times per week, until I was 40. Once I got kids, last 6 years, I think I go to party 4 times per year. And that is ok - I have small kids. Once they grow up a little and become more independant (turn 12, for example), I will be able to return to more frequent partying - but still with measure, as I am a parent now, and maybe needed in the morning :) You will be ok, don;t worry, you changed a lot, came to our amazing country, left friends and culture behind, maybe changed job, changed home etc etc - you will be ok, just give it time to set roots. And welcome to Serbia :)
Hey…. That really helps a lot… thank you :))))) will try to survive till he’s 12 😁
I can totally relate. I was like that for a period in my late 20s and early 30s. It was a lot of fun and I met incredible people but it was also destructive. I still held all my responsibilities under check (I was a lawyer). You description of the weekend of partying followed by a terrible first few days of the week but being fine by Thurs is exactly my recollection. But it does catch up with you. I was lucky as I had good support from a therapist to figure it out and eventually just prioritized my life responsibilities and was able to curtail the partying. I didn't completely curtail but it toned down to only a few times per year. I'm lucky that it didn't spin out of control to the point of destroying my life as I saw that with some of my friends and acquaintances. With your husband and child, I think you have similar responsibilities. As I got older, I lost interest in partying (for me it was definitely an age thing.... probably delayed as I was not like that at all in my late teens and through University). I wish you luck. I haven't been following your channel but hope to more. Thanks for your honesty and perspective. It's brave. Ignore the judgmental types, unless they are coming from a place of love or truly knowing you and desiring your health and happiness.
So glad to see you back. Was worried about you. Mental health is so important and a lot of people forget about just how important it really is. Its ok to party but everything in moderation right? Really looking forward to your next video. You are blessed with talent and a wonderful family. Please take good care of yourself!
Oooh thank you very much Darell! 🫶
Video was interesting, thank you for sharing. I completely understand you, since I was living abroad for many years and from that ''immigrant'' side I know what you are about, On the other hand, you probably made mistake if you just made friends only at the parties, you should have varieties of other friends (neighbours, parents from your kid, etc) Parties can be great fun, but when you draw the bottom line, those are not really counted as real life, believe you me. And yes it is a great idea to switch from English to Serbian, don;t worry about mistakes and grammar, Serbian and Russian were one langauge (or much more similar than now) until 18 century, so just talk Serbian and you will overcome obstacles. I hope you and your family will find happiness that you deserves in Serbia. Reduce parties and alcohol and you will feel much better and more confident. Kind regards!
Thank you so much for understanding and support!!! I really really really appreciate it! ❤️
Learn to say No to too many invites. Teach your new friend to respect your time and limits you imposed on yourself. Join a sport groups, they tend to live more healthy lifestyles. Go explore nature in Serbia, hiking, there are also great latin dance schools around Belgrade and Novi Sad. Great for cardio workout or a folklor group. You can meet better group of young people, and from my experience those social nights tend to be with way less alcohol, because alcohol is discouraged during dancing since it can be dengerous. I spent last summer in Serbia and i havent been home for more than 10 years. I dont drink, never had since i spent more than 20 years in professional sport. I just say no and thats it. I demand that my rules for myself are to be respected.
Добродошла у Србију. Ако ти се не свиђа овде, увек можеш да се преселио. Свако добро. Ни мени није сјајно. Никоме није, сем овима на власти.
hello Ksenya! This was one of the best video I have seen this year! brave and honest! I am pretty sure you will reach your goals by the time! Regards from serbian Sincity 😊❤
Omg thank you very very much!!!!!!! ❤️
The people that you lose after leaving a bad situation are not really friends so don't worry about "losing" anything and do what you need to do for yourself to feel better and get back on track:)
True true!
Well, your story caused some blend of emotions in me and some reminiscenses... On one side, I experinced the same things and ups and downs when kids came in my life, but on the other hand- it' s not so tough to switch from party mode to parent melancholy...you just have to give up booze, cigarets, pot, late dining, 5 cofees per a day, chilling and cooling with gang, include some workout 3x a week, and most important-go to bed at 23 h and to wake at 7h in the morning... really, not so tough😂
Stay strong and sharp, all the best to you, and, just to mention-post-Covid Serbia and Belgrade nightlife is a 30% of pre-Covid madness.. Just imagine what I have gone through in years 2014-2015, and you'll feel instantly better😂😂😂
Really not that tough 😁😁😁
Lucky me I wasn’t here in 2014-2015 😁😁
Thanks a lot man :)
I love the way you finished this video with that "self-motivation" speech :)
Haha thanks :)))
i dont understand drinking and partying thing,but i understand mental health and life in serbia not being for weak ones its rough and im often thinking about leaving my home country,but it is what it is im trying my best
Yea, it is what it is 😁 keep going bro
yea even if everything fails you still have beatiful family keep going for them :D all the best@@SailorNom
Darling, we do our work, but we don't want to die for it! 😂
I get it 😁😁
Ok, so this situation with you two alone with the kid would have happened anywhere. I'm Serbian living in Scotland. Me and my husband are alone with our 5 year old. And yes, it's dreadful. We haven't been on a date for ages. But I guess your son goes to nursery during the week, which gives you some time for yourself? Try to make the best of it.
About how people work in Russia and Serbia. I'm not sure which proffession were you observing but I'll tell you one thing. I've been working for a while in Moscow as an architect. Drawing submission is the next day, for instance. Our project fee gets down a significant amount of money if we are late. All the Russians are turning their computers off at 17.00 with drawings unfinished. This applies to draftmen/draftwomen and engineers. Serbians are staying till 2 am to finish the drawings, print them out and cut out of the plotter. And I've got a Master Degree, cutting and printing isn't actually my job. This is how we work in Serbia too. When submission is going on it's a mental house. We work on Saturdays, Sundays, day, night, no matter, till the drawings are done. So not sure if those cultural differences :) are applicable to all proffessions. Perhaps you were observing gouverment employees? :))))
And finaly, it's a lot to take for you. You are away from what you've always knew, you're away from your family, starting over, saving money for what you already had in Russia. All new starts are difficult, specially as a family. I'm talking from my own experience. You've got the right aditude, pretty much resilient such as myself :). Hang on, you are getting there.
Well you’re talking about Serbians who work abroad :) well idk, maybe you’re right at some point
Anyways thank you so much for your support, it really means a lot to me :)
As born and raised in Belgrade I understand your part about nightlife. I stay away from nighlife. When my forigners ask me what nighclub they should visit I don't know what to say 😀 I more like for house party or to hang out with friends in parks. That is way I like. I never felt pleasant at the nighclubs. Music is too loud, you cannot talk with anyone. You can only dance and drink that's all
Sometimes dance and drinks is all you need 😁
@@SailorNom Pop a pill and hit a rave if that is you need.
I love your new approach towards things, I know you're Russian but try being sober for at least a month... that's how I changed better, and yes; quit parties for some time.
Gotcha. Thank man :)
I guess I was still in London when this was released. I'm pretty sure I didn't see it. I would have tried to say something to help cheer you up. 😾
At least you realize what the problems are and you're taking them in hand. Kudos to you! 💫
You may not have become a famous, wealthy RUclipsr this year, but you made friends and admirers, even if you lost a few. Your vlogs are becoming increasingly cinematic from time to time. I can see it in the photography and editing. Maybe you didn't put in enough effort in your view, but I can only imagine that it takes a lot of work for a busy Mum to make one of these videos. It can't be easy. 🎬
Hope you retained all your shit and be like a tiger!
Aw Tim!!!! Spirit booster!!! Thank you for heartwarming words ❤️❤️❤️
@@SailorNom
Sounds like you really were going through a hard time a month ago. I suppose some reflection is in order (it is for me occasionally as well) but I hope you didn't beat yourself up too much. It may feel like it sometimes but you're not alone - your RUclips friends are thinking of you and the family.
@tsegulin I’m pretty fine now :) figured the shit out I guess
I dont know is my problem the same,i am from Serbia ..i am allready in middle 40s but i still afraid if i stay home i will "miss something" ..so even tonight i was tired and at 10 PM friend call me to go out..and even i wanted to stay home and relax i still could not resist ..and in 10 minutes i went out ,get drunk and come home now at 5 A.M...maybe probably same tomorrow
Damn bro… that’s what I’m talking about…
Bro thats life, no matter how you choose, you will regret it. You will always think how would it be if i did it different.
Under Belgrad sleeps old legendary Vavilon !!! Trust me girl !!
Hi Kseniya,a year already time flies,good your learning serbian,,you probably be more relaxed then onece you learned it more ,take care
Thank you Trev ❤️
I am interested in your sober life and would like to follow your problems and successes. Much love to you and family.
Thank you… I hope there will be more content about it :)
Hey just want to give you support, it is not easy to pack up and leave your home country and change whole life but keep your head up!! And just look ahead, dont look back! And tone down on the drink, it helps😊
Hey :) thank a lot mate :) I really appreciate it ❤️❤️
Hey at least u admit u had a problem,thats good.I used to be drug addict for years and i had many problems with law but i would always say "oh nah im good im not addicted im just using to have fun".Wich was a huge lie😂i lost like 15kg,lost most of my friends,relations with my family was none...as soon as i admited to myself that i had serious problem i became fully sober in 1 month and its been 6 years im clean from everything. Dont even smoke,drink nothing.Now i cant stand nightlife and all of those clubs and other places.U just have to find something that makes u happy and that makes u feel good,for me that is training.Maybe u should also start training or just find something that will make u happy.It takes a brave person to tell their personal problems to the world and u are a brave person and a smart person i see.I remember your video "Serbs and Russians are not same" and how many ppl got butthurt about it(Serbs)😂😂😂Oh i laughed so hard reading those silly comments.But forgive those ppl they been fed with Serbian state media propaganda for 10+years how we are basically same ppl...that colour of your hair looks way better on u then blonde colour,but thats just my opinion.Your husband/boyfriend is lucky to have such a beautiful and nice girl as u Ksenya.All the best to u,your husband and whole family from Belgrade.
Hi! What a story of yours, good job mate!!! I guess I’ve managed with my problem.. I guess, we’ll see in future 😁.
Anyways, what an experience it was with that video 😁😁😁, now I look back and laugh too 😁.
Parties and regular drinking, or drinking in general, are not for someone who is no longer in their 20s. In my 30s, I "discovered" the beauty of socializing during the day, in spaces where I can hear the people I'm with. It's natural - people are nocturnal during adolescence, but most return to a diurnal routine in the second half of their 20s. And alcohol, after a couple of very unpleasant experiences, realizing that I can no longer drink like I did in my 20s, I forever reduced it to one beer every now and then. The child will be a natural multilingual person, I believe you yourself know that this is an advantage.
Absolutely agree on everything you said… that’s a pity I’m not in my 20s anymore 😁😁😁
Рад, что вы переехали из России! Как бы грустно это не звучало…
Спасибо! :)
seems like when you broke the chain? you started chasing your own tail.great fun for a while until you get dizzy or worse catch it "ouch".but i'm glad to see you finally decide to chase something else and i know when you decide what and catch it it will be very tasty . glad to see you back :)
Thanks mate :)
Travelling is a good antistress, if you have money ofc. On your place I would go south, to enjoy sea in Montenegro. Now tourist season is almost over, there are no tourists, it's still kind generally warm and you can get good deals for a cheaper price. PS: consider taking a pet (dog/cat) too, they are a good antristress too.
Naaaah the main point is “if you have time” :))
We have a lot of damn cats in the yard :)
And third comment: After all that food and drinks, you look excellent. Actually even better than year ago.
It's Choice not location. Spiritual Joy over temporary fleshly gratification. Put the cross back on and drop the sword. There is a war on for your soul. Ephesians chapter 6:12
Right
@@SailorNom Verse corrected-meant 6:12
"Bye, bye car, this year we are not gonna buy it, that's pretty sad, jebiga".
Now that is a proper Serbian response.
Serbs are used to disappointments, they are a part of our daily lives after all.
Hahaha I’m integrating 😁
What do you mean when you say you do "wild stuff"?
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Sounds like Ksenia needs to grow up and get a job.
🤷🏻♀️ maybe
why dont you move to ns?
my husband works here
ждал что в конце ты откусишь от батона) спасибо за выпуск, значит я не один такой, ну разве что без тусовок в белграде..
Ооооооо а это хорошая идея концовки 😁
Рада, что я тоже не одна)
I made it to the end of this video. I watched this one because I think it was shorter than the most recent one.
Not really sure why they call it culture shock when you move to a different country and you're depressed and homesick and miserable. I think culture shock means something different like wow this culture is really shockingly different! But they say it happens and it's really depressing. And I'm sure the drinking and partying isn't helping. Or at least not afterwards. I don't know. When I was younger that was not my thing and honestly It still isn't. I guess I was lucky sort of to end up in church in my twenties and just before that and up until I was like oh wow... I was 42 when I moved away and I didn't go back because church wasn't the same down here. Everything changed in my church the same time my husband left me which was a lot of fun. And so many of my friends left. But other than poverty and acute misery and loneliness at least I knew people online. So I had some friends. Not to hang out with though. Not in real life. And one of my friends took the other one and ran away with him. Made sure I was cut out. My ex-husband remarried and then tried to get back with me. All sorts of things were going wrong and my landlady wanted to sell the house so I had no place to live and I ended up in Florida. It's not like I've made lots of friends here either. I have two roommates. Both of them are male. I have some pretty ducks. If I can get myself to go outside. Yesterday was not one of those days.
On the other hand Church was... Guilt-inducing and I can't go back because now I have PTSD and I really don't fit anywhere anyway. I've been hanging out on Inside Russia. At least I pray a little bit and I seem to fit in. It would be better if I could type faster. I used to be able to.
It's cool that you are learning Serbian :-)
I would say that I am stuck in Florida. Although my friends in Boston sort of drifted off to different churches. Sometimes really different ones. Then again when I was married but we had no kids because I didn't want any we didn't hang out with a lot of people cuz we didn't fit in. Mostly we hung out with singles or we hung out with no one because my husband "didn't like having friends." Awesome! And that was different. He told me to get a hobby. I got one. Finally. And somehow behind my back he got a girlfriend. And I didn't know. Guess I'm naive. My minister guessed that he had one because he said men dont leave unless they have somewhere to go. All of this was long ago but... It's the biggest change I had in my life. He got married again and then his wife kicked him out and then he got married a third time and then he died and I found out by a Google search in the middle of the night. And it took me another 6 months to find out what happened. He was the only man I ever loved. And I wasn't into dating... Afterwards for there were reasons. And it's been what almost 30 years? Okay in a couple of years it'll be 30 years. But only 22 since I moved away from home... Boston. Where people are insane. The weather here is nice. No one comes around and says it's illegal to have ducks and takes them away. Not yet but there's always tomorrow. In Massachusetts I had a sparrow I took it to the vet They said it was illegal and they confiscated her. She was a boy by the way. My heart was broken yet again. And it wasn't illegal. People should get their laws straight before they steal people's pets.
So there's some doom and gloom. But at least my ducks are pretty. I just wish my Drake was more fertile. I think he has an issue. Or maybe a lack of issue? He's not making a lot of ducklings. Which is too bad because he is pretty and his girls are pretty and he's such a good boy. He doesn't try to have sex with me and he doesn't run away and claw at me when I try to catch him. And he doesn't kill his children. And he waits and lets the girls eat first. But I think he doesn't make a lot of babies either. The ones he makes are very pretty.
I hope you will find some positive things that will make you happy. Healthy food and exercise are great for you but they don't make me happy. Talking to my friends even if they're online, watching medical dramas, I read a couple of books, My best friend is consumed with her ukulele... Some things make me happy. There was a man online that was nice to me but I didn't get too close. And then he went somewhere. Not sure what happened. I think I missed some things which happened. But that was probably a good thing. I'm curious about it but I suppose I shouldn't try to find out anything. I suppose if I paid attention to my friends I would have more of them but I don't write anything that's short. That's why I was on Facebook. I could just write things and people would either see them or not and they wouldn't be directed at just one person the way email used to be. But now I seem to spill myself all over RUclips comment sections.
It's really too bad you can't find a friend to babysit.
I was supposed to be asleep an hour ago maybe an hour and a half... My eye is itchy.
Hopefully my eggs haven't exploded in my friends incubator. I can't find my apostrophe. Stupid keyboard.
My circadian rhythm is breaking worse than usual.
There are so many displaced people...
When I go to a thing online and people say where are you at, I don't want to say where I am. I am not Florida girl. I am Boston girl. I think like Boston girl. Florida is a strange place and getting stranger. I tell my brother news from St Petersburg and let him try to guess whether I mean Florida or Russia and half the time he gets it wrong. At least they don't throw us in jail yet.
It could be worse, you could be in Russia.
Hey, thank you so much for your time and honesty… I’ve learned a lot about you, that’s awesome, really awesome. Even if some things aren’t really awesome itself, still it’s life and it can be different. ❤️
2:28 and I've given up and am scrolling the comments. Someone's got to stop making excuses and grow to be an adult. - Good Luck
Where have you learned english? I realy like your accent.
In the uni, I have a bachelor degree in linguistics :)
Based. Remedy is you should have 5 kids and move away from downtown center where is enourmous batle of Evil and Good in Belgrade, while Devil for sure holds downtown area. Who want peacefull life should go to the edge areas (Britain, Canada, Siberia, Australia...), but who want to be in midle of the batle of Good and Evil and feel that expirience, here is the place
It’s actually exciting to live that close to the centre of where Evil lives 😁
dont warry about anything about that wedding, you can have green skin, bigger problem if you aint cheer with rakija (plum brandy), nazdorovlje :)
Got it 😁
Reduce the "baking powder" after midnight and you'll be fine 😎
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Hello Ksenija, thank you for your video. Listening to your videos, I think you would benefit by attending an Orthodox Church liturgy. Turn towards God and you will find amazing friends as well. Belgrade (and Serbia) is a very spiritual place, not just a party town. God bless ☦♥
Job. Find any job that doesn't require much of language and work for a year. However boring, senseless it can be, you can make it for 1 year. You will make enough to pay things you have to pay, and to buy a car. And who knows what kind of experiences, opportunities, etc it could bring. Besposlen pop i jariće krsti. In other words, a lot of free time can lead to a dark places.
I've been 30 years here. Mental gone. Health gone. It doesn't exist.
Sorry about that
I was in Serbia the past two weeks in Belgrade and Novi Sad. It's definitely a nation on the incline. Acting as the Switzerland of the Balkans so far has paid off dividends.
But was it fun? :)
@@SailorNom Serbian people are always welcoming. But I don't have any real Serbian contacts or friends, so I was mostly just on my own most of the time.
@homelessjesse9453 got it
On the incline? Can you please elaborate more? many Serbs wouldn´t agree.
@@simeon1234 Sorry. I mean, compared to even late 2021 when I was in Belgrade, current Serbia seems on the upswing. I see plenty of couples pushing their children in strollers. Plenty of new cars. Very fashionable 20 somethings. Plenty of people walking dogs. That's the new trend apparently. Maybe the economy isn't so good outside Belgrade and Novi Sad?
I don't understand your problem. Unless you got hooked on drugs or alcohol or cheated on your husband. You either go out or you don't, you drink or you don't, no one is forcing you to do anything. I live in Canada and I haven't been to a single party in a decade. You're an adult, act like it.
I can explain my problem to you, but I can’t understand it for you. Don’t be too boring, cheers.
@@SailorNom Maybe because there's no problem or you're doing a poor job of explaining it.
Thanks, my mental health is good. It's possible the state of your mental health has nothing to do with staying in or going out, maybe the whole thing is in your head. Anyway good luck, don't be so much fun.
ну и да, не всегда надо набирать больше обещаний чтобы вынырнуть, иногда надо просто позволить себе расслабиться
Согласна…
No one described a way of life here. It is bad for your mental healt and yes Belgrade is a sin city, not for a normal family life, you always have a feeling that you missing fun if you don’t go out, it’s just 2 much.
Yep, absolutely true
Omg, bread!! 😂😂😂
Yaaaaaaaas! I’m so creative, aren’t I? 😁😁😁
Definitely 👍 😂
Is Serbia not good for you, but even after a year you are still there? Why? If Serbia is so bad, go to another country and compare how bad or good Serbia actually is, instead of being grateful that we welcomed you into our country, you spit on us at every step. When something doesn't suit me somewhere, I leave that place.
I didn’t say that it’s bad bruh, watch the video or get a life :)
@@SailorNom You don't know what you want. You want to go out here, and as an excuse you find that the problem is Serbia, how can Serbia be a problem for your going out and your drinking? You will have to find someone else to blame for your problem. In the end, I told you that if you don't like Serbia, try to go to Slovenia or Croatia for a month and see if those countries will be a problem or if the problem is in you.
@@SailorNom It's unbelievable how much crap you said in the first 5 minutes of the video, like you're fighting with who will go out on the town, you or your husband, who will take care of the child, when the children come, there are no more outings before you go out for one or two beers and head home. not to get drunk like a pig and not know where you are. Then you talk about your friends, what will they say if you don't go out with them, friends, if they don't have children, they can fuck each other because they have no obligations and you are a parent and you can't behave like that. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be for you and you won't care what your friends say, work and family should not suffer because of marriage, and that's what you just did. The sooner your friends realize that you're a parent and that you can't go out all the time, the sooner they'll accept that situation, but it's not a problem with your friends, the problem is that you don't want to be a parent, but you want to be that girl who doesn't have children or a husband and that he does what he wants, but life is like that and you chose it yourself. So the sooner you stop blaming others for your problems, the easier it will be for you.
I feel really sorry for people like you who can’t understand just a couple of words in English. I said I don’t blame Serbia, I blame myself, but you didn’t get it :)
@@SailorNom As you said in the title of the video, my mental health has been destroyed since I was in Serbia. Which is more than enough for me to understand that you blame others for your problem, and if I don't understand a word of english, how come we communicate in the same english?
No one can escape himself...
True
What;s that thing in front? A French bread? a huge potato? Some alien excited to see you? It;s kinda distracting.. lol I;ve been in Serbia 2 days in my life and almost needed an antidepressive.. lol Doesn't hubby work for Heineken? Or am i wrong? In that case The Netherlands would make you more happy.. Its a Dutch company.
It’s a bread. Bread talks podcast :)
No, he’s not, it was a name of their team
Ah ok.. :) Kinda hoped it was an alien though. @@SailorNom
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конечно Сербия тут не причем))) это просто жизнь без родственников называется, вы же сами сказали, что теперь бабушки и дедушки вам не помогают с ребенком, и поэтому каждый использует свободный денёк по максимуму)
Точно так)
Mi u Srbiji imamo izreku,koja kaže : "S kim si,takav si..."
Znači,promeni okolinu,promeni loše društvo i to je već pola posla... Dobrodošli u BG 😊
Thanks man :))
You seem to be a high achiever not greatly suited to placid village life! You require a regular amount of intense stimulation, or you get restless. Maybe with some ADHD in the mix? It is actually a winning quality to have and will bring you success if you channel it right. You can't get away from it but know that it is your biggest strength. Get your headphones on and a headbanging playlist and go run in the forest. Make your own trail, the wilder the better.❤
Hmm… sounds nice and promising 🤔😏 hey thank you :) those are useful words..
Ксения, вы с мужем сбежали в Белград, чтобы выпить и повеселиться, пока сербы воюют за Россию.
Устал воевать небось уже?
@@SailorNom Я тот же хер и в Москве, и здесь, если у тебя нет границ, то ты идешь не на ту сторону
Learn English or Russian bruh. I’ve no idea what you’re talking about
Dear lady, I simply can't believe that you are so bitter about a city and a way of life...as much as I understood you, where you enjoy and where you feel good, you spit on it, is it possible that you have a bad opinion about something that you enjoy and barely you are waiting for the next date, your story is coherent, you long for something and you spit on it. To me, it looks like this" you meet a good guy, you have a wonderful time with him, you want him again and again and then you find it convenient to spit on him... instead of hang out with people who live a more peaceful life in a family idyll, or you talk about how you go out and get drunk every weekend, or change yourself, the society you live in or maybe your husband... greetings.
Thanks for your honest opinion :)
@@SailorNom you welcome
I haven't gotten an impression that she was spitting on Belgrade or anybody else. She says that she is weak for the challenges offered by nightlife in Belgrade. if you buy drugs in Amsterdam, where it's legal, and become a drug addict, it's your fault (not amsterdam's fault) and she's aware of that.
my wife goes to work to socialize
Well not the worst scenario 😁
Why do you keep bread like that? You are realy lost
Leave the kid with friends for one night and go together.
Russia is better?????? Your mental health doesn't have nothing with the place you are living. Maybe you just have mental issue
Maybe :)
Girl,sounds like u are neizivljena,stay good dont do drugs
Thanks :)
Simple stop using drugs, especial bad speed! :D
Or start using drugs! :D
AHAHHAHAHAH oh maaaaate 🙃
Rats that was one more thing I wanted to say. There was. Some other people from Russia were taking a trip to Georgia got stuck in a little town when their car broke down and lo and behold It was the town that I cannot spell where your mother-in-law lives? Or was it your mother? I'm sorry. That boring little town. I said hey! I've heard of that town! They needed three car parts. When was in Moscow and one was in St Petersburg and the other one I don't know, but all three turned up in the town they were in. Or they had been in and they limped back there and fixed the car. So their vacation wasn't destroyed. And I haven't been beyond that point in their story. I was busy on other people's channels. I'm behind all over. But I thought it was amusing that it was the same place.
And I came to RUclips because I didn't know any Ukrainians. So how did I end up knowing so many Russians? Well at least they aren't Z people.
Tikhoretsk? It’s still Russia :)
Nemoj da jedeš govna i da se proseravaš, rusi i srbi braća zauvek za vjek i vjekova!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🇷🇺❤️🇷🇸
Thanks 😁
Welcome to the club of fucked-up persons! 😂😢 You are trying to get out of your situation. I wish I have your strenght. I had many times, but I failed so often. I have no advice to give you. Do you have any for me?
Yes. Keep trying :)
@@SailorNom What else can I do?! 😐
Good luck, anyway. You are very brave to tell this story to YT. If you wanna talk to someone, I am probably not apropriate person for that. Only if you are desperate, write to me. 🙃
Huh :) alright, thanks mate
Недостаје ти Христос...а да кренеш можда на Литургију, сестро православна?❤
😂
...jebiga
Пьяная часто? С таким fashion outlook Ты еще не видела Иришку чики пики!😂😂
Знаем Иришку)
Where are you from?
Russia
Хех, ако ти је срање овде увек можеш у Украјину отићи 😛😛😛 срећан пут?
Otvorila ti se dizna u Srbiji 🤣
Lol
Kako bi bilo da se pisvetis suprugu i sinu..mozda neko pozoriste,biblioteka..porodicni izlazci! Drugo,pricaj srpski da te ceo svet razume ,narocito beogradjani o kojima pricas! Uostalom sta ces u Srbiji kada je tako losa. Probaj zaista da budes bolja verzija sebe!
Thanks a lot 🙏
Причај на Руском или Србском језику а не на том гадном енг
You need group therapy
im serb, and i live in serbia. we a total idiots and thats fact, period. also we a poor nation on average considering west world. so imagine what would like if we have half of western standards (availabile money to spent). those party life would just multiply infinite, no joke. and im not meanning that in positive way.
I understand 😅
DUSO AKO TI JE MENTALNO ZDRAVLJE UGROZENO U SRBIJI TI IDI U AAMERIKU KAKAV GLUP VIDEO KAO DA KORISTI JOS NESTO SEM ALKOHOLA
Take sometimes pill of xanax, sometimes MDMA pill, less alcohol and your life will be happy and relaxed here, that's how things work in Serbia!
To tako nije istina. Niko u Srbiji tako ne živi osim propalica. Normalni ljudi imaju posao i porodicu i već posle dvadeset i pete ih smore izlasci.
😁😁😁 oh bruh
@@saska2782 Jedi parizer I cuti
@@x-man4966 ne mogu da rizikujem trovanje hranom moram da idem na posao da biste vi sa bombonicama mogli da se lecite besplatno
Fujjjj ksenia bayyy😂