Here's a comment I wrote about this topic under another channel's video. I had a relationship with a person who didnt realise he was autistic. I have a hatred of lying, so it was quite devastating to find out he was not what he had pretended to be. I learned what masking was through him. Unfortunately, I would call masking lying, dishonesty, deceitfulness and a lack of integrity. The word disingenuous just popped into my head, as you said how you want to be more authentic in future. So no, its not a good thing at all. Whom I thought was my soulmate, who thought just like I did, turned out to be a fake. A fraud. Now I cant trust anything he says. I have to remind myself that what I see outwardly and what he says may actually be the opposite of whats actually going on inside his head. Its a shattering thing.
Thanks folks! I wish I’d known I was autistic before I lost my health. I worked in bands and in studios and ended up giving way too much of myself for too long, now I’m really ill and unable to work or have much fun. Eager to connect with other autistic/adhd/chronic illness warriors.
Early in the first presentation, a graph is used to show a Google interest in the words ‘autism’ and ‘masking’. This data is skewed/not really relevant/inappropriate for this use. Can anybody think of another reason why the word ‘masking’ might have dramatically increased in prevalence from March 2020??? The concurrence with the word ‘autism’ might have some significance due to the fact that many Autistics found face coverings sensorially unbearable.
I'm not sure how this is dramatically different from the rest of the human condition. We know that people who feel they are unable to be themselves suffer for it, whether it's due to autism or other 'less socially desirable' characteristics. I would imagine most women, ethnic minorities, LGBT etc., people with trauma histories, people of lower socio-economic status and more are engaging in 'masking' in particular environments for their safety, to protect social status or to secure resources. I'm sorry but I do not follow how this is magically more unique of an experience because it also happens to Autistic people. I'm getting a little fed up with this research trend of adding Autism (and now other NDCs) in front of well-known emotional and behavioural phenomena and pretending that it's new or significantly different - it's distracting and divisive.
Here's a comment I wrote about this topic under another channel's video.
I had a relationship with a person who didnt realise he was autistic. I have a hatred of lying, so it was quite devastating to find out he was not what he had pretended to be. I learned what masking was through him. Unfortunately, I would call masking lying, dishonesty, deceitfulness and a lack of integrity. The word disingenuous just popped into my head, as you said how you want to be more authentic in future. So no, its not a good thing at all. Whom I thought was my soulmate, who thought just like I did, turned out to be a fake. A fraud. Now I cant trust anything he says. I have to remind myself that what I see outwardly and what he says may actually be the opposite of whats actually going on inside his head. Its a shattering thing.
Thanks folks!
I wish I’d known I was autistic before I lost my health.
I worked in bands and in studios and ended up giving way too much of myself for too long, now I’m really ill and unable to work or have much fun.
Eager to connect with other autistic/adhd/chronic illness warriors.
Early in the first presentation, a graph is used to show a Google interest in the words ‘autism’ and ‘masking’. This data is skewed/not really relevant/inappropriate for this use. Can anybody think of another reason why the word ‘masking’ might have dramatically increased in prevalence from March 2020??? The concurrence with the word ‘autism’ might have some significance due to the fact that many Autistics found face coverings sensorially unbearable.
@@lipotrimloser Yes that too, good point.
@@lipotrimloser I had not heard/used the word masking, I used to call it acting.
I'm not sure how this is dramatically different from the rest of the human condition. We know that people who feel they are unable to be themselves suffer for it, whether it's due to autism or other 'less socially desirable' characteristics. I would imagine most women, ethnic minorities, LGBT etc., people with trauma histories, people of lower socio-economic status and more are engaging in 'masking' in particular environments for their safety, to protect social status or to secure resources. I'm sorry but I do not follow how this is magically more unique of an experience because it also happens to Autistic people. I'm getting a little fed up with this research trend of adding Autism (and now other NDCs) in front of well-known emotional and behavioural phenomena and pretending that it's new or significantly different - it's distracting and divisive.
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