I'm an ugly man. I am in my sixties now. I have never had a relationship. It used to bother me, but now I'm not interested anymore. I live on my own which I prefer, and I do things that I like. You have a good sense of humor and that's a quality. Some people are shallow, they put great emphasis on looks and beauty. Some attractive people are good people too. They don't judge. I like you.
I actually have been in a sexual relationship before, but I haven't really felt secure enough in myself or prepared enough in other things to try to go for an actual relationship. I'm like you, I've already given up, and I'm on a mission to not let it bother me and just be a good person. Thank you!
@@ACrownofFlowers Thanks Gabe for your kind words. You have to do what is right for you. I was a people pleaser always seeking approval from people. I found that when I did that , some people would expect me to always be that way. Also people would take advantage.
@@ACrownofFlowers I know what you mean. I struggle at times. I used to beat myself up. I dont do that anymore. Do good things that make you happy. At least I'm not In an abusive relationship with someone. Some people are, and they are trapped. Be kind to yourself and have people that you feel comfortable with in your life. Don't associate with people who you don't feel comfortable with. It's very important. Best Wishes to you Gabe..I know how you feel, it's hard, but keep positive.
@@carltwidle9046 thank you so much, Carl. It's nice to see that there's someone with direct experience of what I'm talking about from a very similar situation.
I have learnt to accept how I am. I have a disfigured face with scarring on my head and face. People are put off by my face. What happened to me wasnt my fault. People stare at me sometimes, but I'm used to it now. They are only thinking what happened to me to get the scarring. Good hearing you. From Carl in New Zealand.
@@Kierispet159 Thank you, I do accept it but there was a time where I would get upset. I remember looking at myself in the mirror and thinking how ugly I look. I became an alcoholic because I was unhappy. That's behind me now, and I am sober. And have been for a number of years. My life is better.
@@Kierispet159 I do have a good friend and we get together for a coffee and a chat. People sometimes stare at me but I'm used to it now. Thanks for your kind words. From Carl.
You're not ugly at all man, you seem like a very kind and understanding soul, and if people can't appreciate that then that is their own issue. For you to get on here and talk about things so personal to you, truly shows how much stronger of an individual you are than any of them. Being different is a good thing, as it allows you to see the true faults our society so easily dismisses as being "out of place". If you ask me, I think you will make an amazing spokesperson, you're words meant a lot to me, and it's not often a video comes across my recommended that I actually sit through. Thanks for sharing with the world, because the world certainly needs more people such as yourself!
I’m from the Bronx and know ugly! It’s how people treat each other that makes them ugly. My friend your not ugly, your a gift of God here to teach the ignorant. God bless you!!
Im an ugly girl and this is really a horrible way to live. You dont like look at the mirror, cant make friends, cant have a relationship. Everyone is beautiful or average people. I feel sometimes ashmed to just live in this body with ugliness. I hope people like us find the peace to live. Wish you good luck man.
Same to you. I have personally adopted a philosophy of life which seeks to let go of all desire, and I feel like that's the best way for people like us to move forward. Just remember that the moment you decide you don't want to live is the moment that they win.
Same here. Im 16 and as a teenager i wanna experience having a boyfriend or going out with friends, but i am Always so ashemed and i feel pathetic even just for asking someone out. I have a crush on a boy, he Is really pretty and he Is a good person, i dont think he would ever judge me, but everytime i walk in front of him, i cover my face and try to be as small as possible so he wouldnt notice me. Ive Always wanted to talk to him or write to him, but his life is full of beatiful people and i just dont fit in it. I had a group of friends, whenever they wanted to take a pic or whatever, i had Always said that i am shy, but in reality i Just cant stand how i look. Eventually, I ended the relationship with them cause i felt like nothing compared to them. I just was the funny one cause it's the only thing i could be. I tried to change my style, my hair, i tried any kind of makeup, but that just made me feel worse. We're not alone, we're just in the wrong place. We don't need people with judging eyes in our lives, even if we are the first to judge ourselves. Let's love ourselves for who we are and spend every drop of sweat on us, we are worth it. ❤️
@@U9YYE3Agreed. That picture thing is too relatable. One time a girl in middle school asked me to take a picture with her, and I did. She said she was going to post it online, but I literally saw her delete it right in front of me. I also tell people that I'm shy taking pictures, but in reality I just don't like the way I look. Stay strong gals. Don't let anyone gaslight you about your own existence.
@@ACrownofFlowers I'm glad there are people outside that feel the same as me, even if it is kinda sad. Thank you for your kind words, keep It up, we got It ❤️
Fuck man this broke my heart. You seem very smart and articulate, this world is just brutal. Wish you the best my man, happiness is possible for you don't give up on it completely.
I really appreciate that you think that about my videos. I know some of the things I say are controversial, but I always try to be nuanced at the same time.
Ugly is a mindset. You are super fucking cool and you have a great sense of humor. I would much rather hang out with you than someone who’s pretty on the outside but vapid on the inside. You’re doing great.
I’m going to be honest. I’m not sure why RUclips recommended this video to me but I’m happy I was able to find your channel bro. I know it’s hard but never let others judge you based on appearance. I just want you to know that those people don’t matter to someone that’s has an amazing soul likes yours bro. You truly have something that will never fade but only grow with the more you experience in life. You are beautiful dude and I hope you never feel differently.
Please keep making these videos man. Very very few of us have heard your perspective. Very honest with no sugar coating. Its been very impactful to watch your videos and it's only the 2nd one.
💗💗Thank you dearly for sharing your truth Darling! You are incredibly charismatic and brilliantly insightful! I am currently watching all of your videos today! Subscribed! 💗💗
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. I really enjoyed your insight. Also, your smile is contagious. Stay strong and good luck with your Master’s!
Please be kind to yourself. You seem to be an intelligent and thoughtful person, one who clearly has tremendous emotional strength. People do have have unkind reactions to those who are different, but most people will get over any feelings of discomfort once they get to know you as a person. Best wishes in anything you do.
Man you are so brave, you're not ugly and sometimes people just don't know how to interact with something they don't understand. Keep your head up, you seem awesome!
Yeah, I understand. I hold no malice towards the people I talked about in this video, it's just frustrating. In fact, the one girl that I talked to I saw again about 7 months after making this video to give her a graduation gift that I got her.
Thank you, I appreciate it. And yes, it's more just about people not really interacting that much with us. We automatically fear what we don't understand.
The world can be hard to deal with a lot of the time. I agree that people stay away from people that aren’t the same in some way. Keep going dude! I have autism so my disability is not always perceived immediately. This only makes it harder for me. We are all trying to stay happy. I think I have given up on finding someone to be with. I enjoy company of friends and pets and family. Also you’re funny as hell lol
You're clearly a very smart person, and your unique position gives you a lot of wisdom. I hope your videos gain more popularity since you have a lot to teach.
One thing I’ve had even to learn about my father and fathers in general the way the father’s love is different from mother’s love. In a sense a mother loves you as you are; a father loves your potential and pushes you to challenges your the hand you’re dealt. He loves you but the same way a mother loves you. Also man your so eloquent in the way you talk. Anyone who actually listens to you will never think you are a r-word that person was tripping. I know you don’t need hear this from me, but keep on achieving greatness regardless what society views as attractive thats the way of the stoic!
I would like to say that you touched my heart just now. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you how kind and wonderful you are. I do not think you are ugly. I'm sorry that people don't find themselves including you. That breaks my heart and thank you for teaching me. How to be more thoughtful of how someone would feel in a like wise situation. I'm sorry that people have been unkind to you. For reasons that are out of your control. I want to extend my heart and hand to you. Just know, That I understand you. I can understand someone else like you and learn how to make them feel loved and included. You're amazing. I feel so grateful to have come by you and your content. I cannot wait to see more of you ❤
I’ve come across a lot of people who are considered “attractive” but when you know more about them, you realize how ugly they are as a person. You’re such an awesome and beautiful person that it would be stupid for someone to ignore that about you. Keep that light in you bro and don’t let anyone bring you down.
@@ACrownofFlowers I’ll quote DemiDemi who said “Tough times never last, only tough people last” Ik it can be rough at times but we must keep going man. There’s people out there who appreciate you and see you for who you truly are, those are the people we gotta keep going for :D
You are far from ugly brother, in fact you are truly quite a handsome guy! As you would smile and laugh throughout the video, I would instantly smile as well, it is such an absolute beautiful sight to see! Know that you are an incredibly inspiring being, the strength you display is a true inspiration to all who cross paths with you! Although one may display negativity, it is simply projections of how they feel about themselves, for they see the beauty in you and it can be triggering to one who is insecure. Continue to seek, show, and be of love in all that is done, for your path is a very special one, one that only your soul could genuinely handle :) In every way you are an absolute beautiful being brother !! Much peace, love, and joy surround you Gabe ❤️
It’s always those who looks good that thinks they’re unattractive that’s why he thinks he’s ugly. Alternatively, it is often the excessively arrogant individuals, who hold such high standards that not even the most best looking, intelligent and good-hearted influencers could meet, that end up appearing rather unremarkable in terms of appearance.
You're not ugly, the difficulties you have to go through are though and I hope life hasnt been too tough on you, keep your head up man hope it all gets better
Dude I just wanna say you're awesome and thanks for making this video. You're also a decent looking bloke, better looking than me, good jaw, good brows, good face shape. Own it, you're also Hella funny and intelligent. A good girl is gonna love you no problem and I love your attitude of "having an obligation to love each other even if people don't do it to us" what a powerful flipping comment! You remind me a lot of my cousin and he's happily married with kids, you've got this. Rock on brother! 👍
I appreciate it dude. This video was made almost a year and a half ago and nowadays I'm more focused on trying to form or break into a friend group. I'm also going to start volunteering after I graduate from graduate school as well.
Hey man I can relate to you on a level. Being a little plump in my teenage years, I am literally invisible to people especially boys in my college. Iam underestimated by very much everybody until I topped my university not once but thrice. After that awkward teenage phase and losing some weight, I can feel me being overwhelmed by the attention Iam receiving from both genders. I kinda like the attention but I feel like I'm missing my freedom from before. It's like I'm under 24-hr surveillance now. I didn't even know that I was invisible until then. Now that I'm a bit fat again, I can feel that attention withdrawal. I love the hypocrites being out of the bag man. But again, there are few rare people who treated me the same every day and there's my family who love me to the moon and back. Honestly, I don't want to associate with shallow people. Beauty can be a double-edged sword my friend. Hope you will find that someone who loves you for you. Not for your appearance, money, or any other thing. Because every innocent and good person deserves someone to love them like that.
Stay strong brother don't let people who say bad stuff get to you as success will come your way and more people will be jealous to elevate themselves they will try to drag you down and make you depressed. Many people will do that but mark my words you will find some people that will see you for more than what you see in yourself.
Many ppl say ppl are mean to others, especially because they're socially and physically lower than them is out if jealousy is a lie. It's literally a form of entertainment for these types. They don't need to clown a ugly short guy with less going for them, to feel good. It's called, ego, arrogance, and superiority complex. It's not cool to be a prick to people who obviously were dealt a raw deal but human nature has reared its ugly head since know time and it's nit going anywhere. Looks play a pivotal roll in dating and friendships like it or not. Yes, there's exceptions to the rule but that's foolish to use as a defense.
not to sound corny or anything but seeing you laugh and be humorous about the situation, really brightens my mood man. thank you for the video! Best wishes to you brother
STOP!! NOBODY'S UGLY! It's an ugly term. Ugliness is on the inside. These are not just words. There is tremendous beauty in good people. Breaks my freakin' heart when I hear people talk this way. God Bless You.
I appreciate your words man and I wish I could believe you, but my experience tells me otherwise. What you say would be true if we lived in an ideal world. (I wish we lived in that world, but we don't).
I am in a same situation in my life just like you, but it seems like you are a person with a diamond heart..... Which is really attractive...., love u bro and keep sharing your experiences to the world ♥️♥️♥️🙂👍🏻
I’ll probably sound like a lot of other guys on here but I just wanted to tell you my man I cried watching that. I know in some ways how you feel. I always hated how I look big forehead massive eyebrows scar on my head and a lump on my nose I can’t get rid of I hate how I look I’ve tried to change but I there’s only so much I can do. My parents never wanted to officially put me down in schools as “retarted” or special needs but they always put me in those special classes and refused to tell me if I was or not. because I struggled to learn anything and socialize I’ve only ever had 1 girlfriend it lasted 3 weeks I know how hard it is. I never had a lot of friends to hang out with I have 1 friend and he barley talks to me now. Your video makes and keeps me trying to do the right things like you said don’t hate keep pushing moving forward you seem like a really smart good person I hate this world more people like you thank you ❤❤
I relate to you a lot. I'm an 18 year old girl who went through a "glow up" and I will never forget what it was like to be a fat, ugly 14 year old. I was 5'2 140 pounds. I felt myself so much when you brought up the point of people not wanting to associate with you.. I had 2 friends. And those 2 friends also happened to be fat. I had stage 3 uterine cancer which caused me to need to remove my part uterus at a young age, and because of that I had to be on a constant stream of pills which made me gain weight, and because of the radiation my hair was short. I wasn't talked to often, the only time I would be mentioned was to be made fun of. I got called a boy, butter pants, basically any character that was fat and had short hair. It ruins you. One or two comments are whatever, but when you can FEEL their eyes on you because they want to find a reason, any at all, to make fun of you, you just... feel like an animal in a zoo. You really begin to question if its worth going in public anymore. I also resonate with the only people talking to you are those who are "used" to it. When I was 15 I had fallen ill with cancer again, however it was extremely early stage and only needed 2 rounds of chemo. I met a girl who shared a hospital room with me. She was skinny and tall.. but she also had uterine cancer. She was the first person to talk to me, not out of pity or desperation, but out of really wanting a friend.. I was 17 when I lost all the weight and went down to 100 pounds. The difference in how people treat me is day and night. People actually talk to me and LISTEN. I think that's the biggest difference.. No one listened when I was the fat ugly girl. It's given me issues, though. Now I can't talk to people without the voice in the back of my head going "Would you still like me if I was fat?"
Dang bro, same. I also grew up being chubby as well. My dad was extra obese as well as being Latino which predisposes you to being THICC. For me it was different because no one wants to bully the kid in a wheelchair but they still didn't include me in anything. I never got invited to anything, etc. And about your diagnosis, I'm sorry you had to go through that, but I'm glad you're still with us. I know how brutal it can be for girls, It's probably even more brutal than for guys from what I've heard. Also, I can say sometimes that I've zoned out with women because I thought they were too pretty, so it's not only about being ugly, but it seems like in your situation it probably was. I really hope that you can use your experiences to fight that type of judgment wherever you can.
dude, you aint ugly- idk why but i got jealous by your lips XD and yeah dont wait to care what others think or say about you cuz you have unique personality that most of the ppl lacks and ik you can make it out. you have a whole life ahead of you stay strong and confident soldier. we loves you!❤🩹
My friend, you’re not ugly, you’re a beautiful soul living in an ugly world. You’ll meet a good friend, a wonderful woman in your life, don’t lose hope, you have a good heart, don’t let this ugly world screw with it
Though possibly, saying this out if pity is not much kinder then just outright speaking the truth. Sure he may find love so on so fourth, but it's going to take a very unique situation and person for this to happen. Woman can be cruel as sin to guys they deem undesirable and they are programmed regardless of virtue signaling they may do, to want the best they can get and being a kind guy who's wholesome is usually not even a factor and if it os, it's after the initial sexual attraction. So maybe don't offer up false hope.
I appreciate that. I have actually been with a woman before, but that was like a FWB-type situationship. But I've never been in an actual adult "relationship".
English is not my native and I rarely write a comments, so I'm sorry in advance if I would have mistakes. I just really want to say that you are not ugly or something, you're very interesting and kind person, and there are people who understand it, not everyone cuz it's impossible to please everyone, but they are exist. I'll tell you my story. One year ago I was extremely overweight, and I thought that if Iose weight, someone will like me. But this didn't happen when I lose it. Then I realized that all our problems in our head.And this is not just quote. I don't want to decrease your problems, because I clearly understand that compared with me you can't do it better. But you definitely can change your mind about yourself on a good side. If people don't want talk to you because of your appearance, it is not your fault, it's their. It is shows their low self-esteem, and I guess you don't need to talk to people with low self-esteem. But for talking with people with normal self-esteem you need to increase your one's. Its really necessary because you wouldn't feel confident in circle of this kind of people. As you can already understand I proved these advices myself in my own experience, and I would like to get them when I started. I hope this comment will help to someone. Have a good day)
I appreciate it my man, but I'm not chasing anyone anymore. This was just to get out my frustrations. I have said elsewhere on other videos that I'm not chasing women or men. Take care and once again I appreciate your kind words.
Personally i think you are rlly cute and your eyes are beautyfull , and that shit about being attractive or ugly depends on the person , there will be people that will like you or not and that's completely fine , sometimes i feel ugly and I realize that I feel attractive when I'm healthy and taking care of myself . but then i just dont give a fk because i know real people will value me about who im as a human . Keep it up and never let anyone make you feel bad abt looks , we are all humans at the end , the important is to take care of yourself and staying helathy and positive that is very attractive ❤
Brother, don't let your lazy eye bother you too much! It's a quirk sure! But own it, there's always something about one self that you don't like. And a lazy eye is not the worst. You're perfect the way you are, and owning it is the way forward.
Yes you are good looking. More people than we all realize feel uncomfortable or insecure at times in crowds or unfamiliar surroundings or around others they don't know. Just know It may not be you.
Hi Gabe, i am watching ur video and it feels me with sorrow. I think that a lot of human being are insecure and want beautiful people to surround them to fill there void. I am not what u could beautiful or average looking but i meet an girl who is an artist and what u could call beautiful. She liked my personality and kindness. She had bad experience before when she went for looks. She wanted to change her fate. We have now 2 children and 8 yrs as an couple. What i want to say to u is that there are special women out there that don´t care about ur physical appearance. Bwt, i think u are goodlooking and i can really see ur beautiful personality. I sat here in Sweden i wished that i was a female and then i would contact u. i really think that there are these beautiful souls out there that don´t care about physical apperance, my girlfriend is one of them. So there is big hope for u Gabe. A lot of love from Sweden!
@@ACrownofFlowers I have subscribed to your channel, who knows, maybe i come and visit in the states in the near future. i Would really like to know u, i don´t really enjoy the company of mainstream people. i get along fine with them but deepinside i feel lonely when i am surrounded by them
You're not ugly my dear ,there's always gonna be someone who admires you secretly and likes you for who you are and they literally miss you.Its hard to accept this fact after being suffered from body hatred from decades of life ,but trust me God always has a plan he loves each one of us .Life was meant to be lived and enjoyed thinking about our imperfections won't bring us any good thouh its good to have self-realisation, acceptance and improvement to change and gear ourselves to the best version of ourselves.
I understand that, and there was one girl that I think was secretly crushing on me and I fumbled it. I take full responsibility for that. But the thing is if most don't show it, it doesn't make a difference whether or not they're secretly harboring it. And of course it's always good to improve as a person, that takes an entire lifetime, but so many more flawed people than me are able to have fulfilling friendships and stuff, and it just bothers me that I put in the work and have nothing to show for it. Thank you for the compliment!
What???? You are not ugly. Your looks are fine! Whatever bad things people may say, it is all superficial. Keep talking. Grow your channel and let everyone know your genuine spirit. Good luck in everything that you do!! 💞
I don't think you're ugly i think youre very handsome and intelligent as a human not for a disabled person and im not saying that to be nice keep youre head up love and dont forget to be kind to you're self we are rooting for you and i wish for confidence and peace coming youre way ❤
Hey man, enjoying your video's, I've subscribed. You mentioned this girl who changed her demeanor when meeting you, I was wondering if you considered maybe the possibility that she didn't know what to do, that maybe she was, after seeing you, unsure about how to act with you? It might have made her nervous and more self aware. I think a lot of people just don't really have the rulebook in terms of how to behave with situations they are not familiar with. That said, I've had similar experiences with online encounters. In the sense that the person, changes their demeanor after meeting you for real. People, online, I think will build up a specific image of the other person for themselves and if the person diverges too far from that, it can, unfortunately, break down that created image. Also a lot of people can appear more confident online and not be the same in person. Anyway, wish you the best. You are a smart and cool dude!
Thanks, dude. I would agree with you more if I had said more than than like five words to her. Also, I was expecting her to look sort of different, because she was a person that used a lot of filters and stuff, well I don't really think my demeanor towards her really change and her personality was what I expected. Like I said, I do understand what you're saying though. I definitely think that played a role.
@@ACrownofFlowers I understand, ultimately I trust your experience of what you lived through. Just throwing some propositions into the pool of propositions. :)
I am ugly and I have accepted it. It hurts to see my friends have people have crushes on them and the only reason people really knew me was from my friends. Sometimes my friends say things that hurt my feelings like how my face isn’t symmetrical and how my smile is too gummy and how many pimples I have on my face and why I keep the same hair style for a long time and how my personality isn’t the best and how “unhealthy” I am (I’m not unhealthy I just eat certain foods more then other foods.) I hate looking myself in the mirror. it sucks being ugly but you can’t pity yourself forever. But to the creator, you’re not ugly, true ugliness is someone who is a bad person or someone who is disrespectful. You seem like the nicest man I’ve seen on here. :)
I'm so sorry to hear that. I can relate. I hope your friends don't treat you badly even if their friends do. (Edit: I just read your expanded comment and I'm sorry, but you're totally right about everything you said after that. I hope you can find friends that don't make fun of you at all. And I thank you very much for saying that).
I hope no one will hurt you, because you deserve happiness. And if I lived closer to you I would be happy to go out for a beer to watch some football game or something.
@@ACrownofFlowers i hope you recover from the problem you have.BTW,you aren't ugly.Just average.Girls don't like you because of your physical disability.If you grow broccoli hairs you may get a girl still.Also you are white.So it's not over for you yet
I don’t see a way to contact you privately, so here it goes. I have just begun to create my own channel. It’s like a vlog for therapy thoughts and introspection. That’s when I discovered your channel, just checking out others along similar lines.
I know that you are young,your hormones level crank up by now (teenager),you are more attracted to the opposite gender,but believe me,it is better for you to focus on your life and career..Forget about girls and focus on yourself and family.YOUR LIFE WILL BE MUCH BETTER.TRUST ME..God bless you kid...😇😇
Your personality is better than any looks. I'm considered at least decent looking by regular standards but I'm a social wreck and people expect me to magically make girls appear out of nowhere. I fumbled a girl who'd be considered ugly by societal standards.
I mean as far as my ethnicity goes, I think I actually did win the genetic lottery? Because I'm light skin from a Latin American country. My condition was entirely the environmental and the result of brain damage early on in life, but thanks and good luck to you too.
omg really !! bro your smile is gorgeous you should NOT listen to them , you shouldn't hide your pretty smile ( I'M SAYING THE TRUTH ) and sorry for my bad english @@ACrownofFlowers
i've made a fake profile on instagram of an ugly face , at first it was for fun but then i got really dissapointed in some people , but i saw alot of people's true colours it's amazing the way you get judged
Yeah, and like I said I will never say that it means everything to people, because there are obviously examples of people with disabilities that have great friend groups and great relationships, but that's not the experience of most.
I have a deformed face, Quasimodo, which is worse for a woman to be. Society is nastier towards deformed people, but far worse towards women with deformity, because we women suppose to all look like OF models or something. I am 41 years old and now don't care. People either accept me or go away. I have no time to deal with stoopidity from judgemental nasty folks who are unappreciated by what we can offer to the world. Also from experience, I had seen that the people within the system, those who work with the disable, but are not disable themselves, are the most judgemental nastiest folks around. They don't care about us, they want is the credit or glory that comes with helping the disable without knowing fully what it is like fully (I know there is a term for it but I had forgotten it). I am so sorry you had to witness that. However, it does not shock or surprise me by it, considering my own experience as a disable woman and how normies (the nondisable) treat and view us as. I dealt with cruelty and nasty bs (sorry for the language) of nondisable folks since birth. I was born with my disabilities and deformities. If I had control over it I would've made myself more beautiful, but I have no choice on it and I am not going to wear 20 pounds of make up and wear clothes from exploitative fast fashion trend nonsense only to be a joke at the end anyways. BTW, I think you are wonderful and normal looking, but I see your personality and humor with yourself (your soul). Those people are blind by their sense of pride, lust, greed and so forth. Remember Matthew 20:16 So the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen. Also Matthew 5:5 “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
I completely agree that disabled women have it worse. I've said as much in other videos on this channel. I'm so sorry you've had to go through that and I wish nothing but strength and peace to you.
I’m a woman and I’m being completely genuine when I say you’re actually really cute and just from this video you seem to have a great sense of humor. From other comments you seem to have decided to be cool with being alone but if your feelings about that ever change I think there’s definitely someone out there who could appreciate you!
Thank you. This video was made about a year and a half ago and my position has changed slightly. I feel like I could definitely find someone who was also disabled and or neurodivergent, and I would be very happy with that. I really appreciate your comment and I find your username hilarious. The SCUM Manifesto is definitely on my list of books I have to read eventually.
@@ACrownofFlowers That’s great man. You seem kind and thoughtful and I’m sure you could make someone really happy. And I totally recommend the SCUM manifesto, it’s hilarious and I hate when people portray Valerie Solanas simply as some crazy lady who sh0t Andy Warhol.
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800Thank you so much. And I mean, to be fair to Valerie, she kind of was. 😂 My three times great-grandmother Vicenta Laparra de la Cerda (Reyes) was a radical, disabled Guatemalan feminist. She started the first feminist newspaper in Guatemala, and I think the second or third in Latin America. She and my grandfather were exiled a whole bunch of times because of that and the newspaper got banned a bunch of times. I have to be honest that especially when I was younger it was hard for me not to have resentment towards women because of the rejection that I faced, but learning about her story, as well as some honest conversations with my older brother and other family members led me to calm down. I'm still dealing with a lot of that resentment, but I'm in a way better place now then I was back then and even a year and a half after posting this video. Anyway, I hope you can take some time to also look at the video that I made on my grandmother: ruclips.net/video/RjKOdsHmM-c/видео.html
@@ACrownofFlowers I watched that video and read her Wikipedia page(translated) and she sounds absolutely phenomenal! You should be very proud to be her descendant, she sounds so ahead of her time. It’s crazy to think that she was promoting female education and helping to make women’s voices heard over a century ago and there are still places today where we don’t get that right. I can totally sympathize with radicalization in regard to feelings about the opposite s3x, although in my case it had nothing to do with rejection. As a young teen I was very religious and only concerned with having a big family and being as appealing as possible to a potential husband. As I got older and dealt with various difficulties in life and learned more & more about the world I became almost prejudiced towards men. I still struggle with it because there are indeed a lot of dangerous men out there who hate and abuse women, children and animals or would if they got the opportunity. But part of maturing is realizing that you can’t hold an entire group accountable for the crimes of a percentage of them. I’m so glad that Vicenta helped to inspire you to let go of some of your resentment. As long as you continue to do introspection and approach life with an open mind and true empathy I’d like to think she would be proud of you!
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 yeah, she was one also one of the very few at that time that was calling for any sort of acknowledgment or help for disabled people as well. Which you can't really say about a lot of feminists even today. And I agree, even today women's rights in Latin America are sort of questionable. Wow, I'm sorry you had to go through that. My mom was a model back in Guatemala when she was younger and she faced a lot of the same pressure as you. In a lot of religious countries, women's only value is basically to have children, and even during my resentful phase I never believed that. But I have both seen how my mom is basically objectified by so many men that she has to constantly be on the lookout. And part of the reason why I "gave up" on romantically pursuing women (and to a lesser extent) men, is because I didn't want to and I still don't want to be one of those guys. I've turned my focus to friendship because I've already been involved with a woman and it made me realize that s-x alone wasn't going to make me happy- but just because other people were superficial and only cared about looks, that I didn't have to be that way. And as you say, like it literally doesn't make any sense to be prejudiced and dislike an entire half of the population. I was also very religious, and in fact, it's funny because the Bible calls us to be completely celibate. Both Paul and Jesus give people an out because they realize that if they didn't that would be disastrous for society, but it is interesting that they forsake physical pleasure in favor of friendship. And I have to be honest. I always think about that and that's what I'm striving to do. I fail a lot of the time because I'm human, but I really feel like that's the way. I don't actually believe in God anymore though-I'm more of an agnostic when it comes to the actual existence of God, and a de facto atheist in day-to-day life. Thank you so much. I really hope that she would have been proud of me as well. One of the principal goals of this channel is to provide a third way for men between some of the more radical takes of some feminists as well as do people like Andrew Tate (who I really despise). All that being said, I wish you luck on your journey of healing as well. I'm glad you were able to come to see yourself as more than just your reproductive faculty. I also appreciate your sympathies with my struggle and hope to see more of you on the channel. 😁
Hi my friend, I was watching a video showing the biggest male fashion models of the 90's and when it was finished your video loaded. At the start of your video I thought that you were one of those male models as well doing a video of your own, so you are definitely not ugly. Your medical condition presents some challenges but absent of those, your facial features would rank high on the Golden ratio scale. I'm sure a lot of commenters lend support by sharing their own stories of being ugly. I have a different story to share with you at the risk of sounding like an arrogant and self absorbed A-hole, I hope to share with you another side of ugly that few people talk about. From an early age I was considered good looking. I've had girlfriends everywhere I'd go to school since the first grade. It was an uncomfortable experience dealing with girls who would scream when they saw me walking down the halls or going to class after recess. They would literally crowd around me at lunch time. I can't tell you how many fights that I got into growing up because other guys were jealous of me. I was literally in multiple fights per year every year until I graduated high school. I became really good at beating people's A$$es and I hit the weight room on a regular basis because I had to. In my junior year of high school the two hottest girls in the school, both seniors, asked me out at the same time so I took them both out at the same time and the three of us would hang out together all of the time until they got in a fight over me on Halloween night in my car while I was still driving. I had to stop and pull over to break them up. One of them ended up on the show The Girls Next Door with Hugh Hefner. I went on to my 20's and 30's slaying as many girls as possible and the end result is that it was a huge waste of time and money . I got zero fulfillment from it, a ton of drama from the women, I got in a ton of fights and lost my sense of smell. I find it really hard to go into social settings like bars and clubs because the process starts all over again, where women with boyfriends put their arms around me to make their boyfriends jealous and I get in a fight, or I meet a girl who turns out to be a psycho with baby fever. or my buddy's girlfriend is trying to sleep with me behind his back which is disgusting to me. You see the ugliest parts of human nature and the world we live in when you are an attractive man. I made a consorted effort to make myself ugly by gaining 50 Lbs on purpose and dressing like $hit to avoid the unwanted attention and keep the ugly side of humanity at bay. I consider myself a recluse and I enjoy avoiding people at all costs. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. The best thing to do is to just enjoy life as best as you can. -Kindest regards.
Well, that's certainly flattering of you to say. There was a woman who commented here along similar lines, and I have to agree. I haven't seen stable marriages or relationships in my life, most people seem to be very miserable in them. And your experience is exactly why I've sort of just given up on the whole thing, because you're right. I don't want to support or live in a world that is like that. My mom was actually a model, and she has told me much the same thing. I will say though that you are still lucky to at least have options, and to have girls that you wanted want you. I have never had that. I wish that before I had given up I could have at least been with more than one girl, it's too late now, though.
Hi. Try to not think with ur mind what im gonna say now...but with your soul: Being born and to live in a body with " malfunctions" , your soul choose to play this game of life on hardcore, much respect to your soul bro for this "choice". Stay strong and balanced friend. Oh and being ugly means nothing! Remember that.
I was recommended this video because I was looking up videos about feeling ugly. I'm normally considered "attractive" but I don't really see it. I was raised by a mother who struggled with perfectionism and projected that to me. Looks has always been her biggest insecurity and she was critical of me and others all the time. Despite that if that wasn't enough, we live in a world where young girls are also being sexualized. There is a ridiculous expectation of beauty standards and all the products to reach that. The beauty industry as a whole is insane. Additionally, biologically men are wired to go after attractive women. That's why so many women are competitive biologically it's how we are wired. Like the animal kingdom. So my standard or beauty for a woman more specifically myself is high. Which makes me feel like I'm never enough. So it frustrates me that that matters so much. I'm far more than looks, like many of us are in these comments. Yet some of us place our worth on our appearance and on a personal note, not because I think that or value that but because everyone else seems to. And if we depend on others for many things, then it feels like well damn, guess what I think or feel about myself is irrelevant I think what I am trying to say though is I appreciate your share. So courageous of you! I respect and admire that! I would totally hang with you if I could. You are my kind of a person. Not based on appearance or material things. Who you are. Everyone else who is attractive and after all that other BS is overrated and I wish sometimes I didn't have to live in this world where we struggle over shit like this. Excuse my french. Thank you for reminding me of many important things! Sending you a big ol hug!!! ❤
Wow, I appreciate you being so vulnerable and sharing that here in the comments with me. And I have to say that I relate a lot to what you're saying. I'm originally from Guatemala and my mom was a model, and she always wanted me to look a certain way (i.e. I could never grow my hair out long because it naturally sticks up and she didn't want me to have cabello de indio, or I couldn't wear the shoes that I wanted to because she thought they looked ugly even though they were comfortable for me). I was also always left out of stuff because of being in a wheelchair. No one was ever outright mean to me, but I could tell that I was the odd one out. And thank you very much, it's my pleasure to put content like this out. Obviously I know they're just words but I appreciate your willingness to hang out with me and if you don't mind my saying so I think you're very pretty. And I agree with you that I wish the world wasn't so focused on looks. If you want to talk more my email for this channel, askgabequestions@gmail.com is always open for comments questions and anything else. Sending you a big hug back.
You have to think about the things you have and be grateful for it, I'm not talking about God and those things, for example I always repeat to myself that there are people who have bigger problems than mine. At least you can see, hear and speak, imagine having been blind or dumb or deaf, or born without your hands. Head up bro. Greetings from Chile.
Hey bro like i wouldn't worry too much what gurls see us as ay. I'm a good looking guy yet i remain invisible to the opposite gender for like almost my entire life, so this tells me it's not always about looks that gets the gurl.. but i guess it depends on their perception what's most attractive to them wether be certain facial features or how you carry yourself as a whole. Bro what's weird tho is there's so many fish in the sea,, but because the social media dictates how a person should look and be like, ppl will mis out on whats real and so we start to loose the natural connections we once had before tech took over our lives. So even tho im healthy and good looking it's still isn't enough to compete in todays society so im with you bro, and i believe our lord Jesus will continue everyday to inrich our inner self to overcome our negative mind set ppl have towards eachother. Because to him we are all beautiful in his eyes and at the end of the day that's all that really matters. GBU ✨✌️
Hey man. Same. Honestly, I've done so much to improve myself as a person, I work out, I'm well read, etc. At this point I've kind of just given up And have decided to work towards all helping the Hispanic and disabled communities-I going to was always going to do that, but I never thought it would become the main focus of my life after graduating with my masters in like 2 weeks. And yeah, I'm just like you. I've turned towards the teachings of Christ because I went through a phase where I had extremely negative thoughts towards women, And I still struggle a lot resentment, but Christ helps me get through it through his example.
That rocks bro 🤜🤛 niiiice. Yeh HE has a way of setting us up for great things.There's nothing better than finding your purpose in life. And you never know some lucky lady will come along and love you for you. I still believe that. Take care bro.
I'm an ugly man. I am in my sixties now. I have never had a relationship. It used to bother me, but now I'm not interested anymore. I live on my own which I prefer, and I do things that I like. You have a good sense of humor and that's a quality. Some people are shallow, they put great emphasis on looks and beauty. Some attractive people are good people too. They don't judge. I like you.
I actually have been in a sexual relationship before, but I haven't really felt secure enough in myself or prepared enough in other things to try to go for an actual relationship. I'm like you, I've already given up, and I'm on a mission to not let it bother me and just be a good person. Thank you!
@@ACrownofFlowers Thanks Gabe for your kind words. You have to do what is right for you. I was a people pleaser always seeking approval from people. I found that when I did that , some people would expect me to always be that way. Also people would take advantage.
@@carltwidle9046 I have unfortunately had similar things happen. I really hope to be able to not let those things make me bitter.
@@ACrownofFlowers I know what you mean. I struggle at times. I used to beat myself up. I dont do that anymore. Do good things that make you happy. At least I'm not In an abusive relationship with someone. Some people are, and they are trapped. Be kind to yourself and have people that you feel comfortable with in your life. Don't associate with people who you don't feel comfortable with. It's very important. Best Wishes to you Gabe..I know how you feel, it's hard, but keep positive.
@@carltwidle9046 thank you so much, Carl. It's nice to see that there's someone with direct experience of what I'm talking about from a very similar situation.
I have learnt to accept how I am. I have a disfigured face with scarring on my head and face. People are put off by my face. What happened to me wasnt my fault. People stare at me sometimes, but I'm used to it now. They are only thinking what happened to me to get the scarring. Good hearing you. From Carl in New Zealand.
Thanks, Carl. I really appreciate. Still just nice to get it all out.
@@Kierispet159 Thank you, I do accept it but there was a time where I would get upset. I remember looking at myself in the mirror and thinking how ugly I look. I became an alcoholic because I was unhappy. That's behind me now, and I am sober. And have been for a number of years. My life is better.
@@Kierispet159 I do have a good friend and we get together for a coffee and a chat. People sometimes stare at me but I'm used to it now. Thanks for your kind words. From Carl.
I'm so sorry brother
@@nategalt5613Don't pitty one of the toughest men on the planet. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
You're not ugly at all man, you seem like a very kind and understanding soul, and if people can't appreciate that then that is their own issue. For you to get on here and talk about things so personal to you, truly shows how much stronger of an individual you are than any of them. Being different is a good thing, as it allows you to see the true faults our society so easily dismisses as being "out of place". If you ask me, I think you will make an amazing spokesperson, you're words meant a lot to me, and it's not often a video comes across my recommended that I actually sit through. Thanks for sharing with the world, because the world certainly needs more people such as yourself!
Thank you. I really appreciate it, and if you really are staying home dad like your username suggests, I respect that a lot.
I’m from the Bronx and know ugly! It’s how people treat each other that makes them ugly. My friend your not ugly, your a gift of God here to teach the ignorant. God bless you!!
Thanks!
Well said
Kind words, bro.
Human nature, we automatically like to exclude weak and inferior from our groups, it is naturally in our psyche that helped us survive.
@@LOL_MANN but I'm not inferior. That's simply a cultural assumption.
Im an ugly girl and this is really a horrible way to live. You dont like look at the mirror, cant make friends, cant have a relationship. Everyone is beautiful or average people. I feel sometimes ashmed to just live in this body with ugliness. I hope people like us find the peace to live.
Wish you good luck man.
Same to you. I have personally adopted a philosophy of life which seeks to let go of all desire, and I feel like that's the best way for people like us to move forward. Just remember that the moment you decide you don't want to live is the moment that they win.
Same here.
Im 16 and as a teenager i wanna experience having a boyfriend or going out with friends, but i am Always so ashemed and i feel pathetic even just for asking someone out.
I have a crush on a boy, he Is really pretty and he Is a good person, i dont think he would ever judge me, but everytime i walk in front of him, i cover my face and try to be as small as possible so he wouldnt notice me. Ive Always wanted to talk to him or write to him, but his life is full of beatiful people and i just dont fit in it.
I had a group of friends, whenever they wanted to take a pic or whatever, i had Always said that i am shy, but in reality i Just cant stand how i look. Eventually, I ended the relationship with them cause i felt like nothing compared to them. I just was the funny one cause it's the only thing i could be.
I tried to change my style, my hair, i tried any kind of makeup, but that just made me feel worse.
We're not alone, we're just in the wrong place.
We don't need people with judging eyes in our lives, even if we are the first to judge ourselves.
Let's love ourselves for who we are and spend every drop of sweat on us, we are worth it. ❤️
@@U9YYE3Agreed. That picture thing is too relatable. One time a girl in middle school asked me to take a picture with her, and I did. She said she was going to post it online, but I literally saw her delete it right in front of me. I also tell people that I'm shy taking pictures, but in reality I just don't like the way I look. Stay strong gals. Don't let anyone gaslight you about your own existence.
@@ACrownofFlowers I'm glad there are people outside that feel the same as me, even if it is kinda sad.
Thank you for your kind words, keep It up, we got It ❤️
@@U9YYE3 ❤️❤️
Fuck man this broke my heart. You seem very smart and articulate, this world is just brutal. Wish you the best my man, happiness is possible for you don't give up on it completely.
Thanks. I'll try my best!
This channel is a gem. your videos are engaging and you're totally cool
I really appreciate that you think that about my videos. I know some of the things I say are controversial, but I always try to be nuanced at the same time.
I appreciate kindness over good looks 😊
That's great! Thanks for not giving into this superficial world.
Thats what all say, doesnt really translate in the real world though lol
You are a handsome young man!! Your heart is beautiful and that is what is very important!!! Stay sweet !
Thank you I I'm trying very hard to keep a pure heart!
Ugly is a mindset. You are super fucking cool and you have a great sense of humor. I would much rather hang out with you than someone who’s pretty on the outside but vapid on the inside. You’re doing great.
I appreciate the sentiments!
Cope harder, cuckhold.
I’m going to be honest. I’m not sure why RUclips recommended this video to me but I’m happy I was able to find your channel bro. I know it’s hard but never let others judge you based on appearance. I just want you to know that those people don’t matter to someone that’s has an amazing soul likes yours bro. You truly have something that will never fade but only grow with the more you experience in life. You are beautiful dude and I hope you never feel differently.
Thank you my man I'm glad you found this!
You got a nice smile man nothing more to bring to this world than bright young man happy within himself.
You're very kind, sir. Thank you!
You have an amazing smile
Thank you sir.
This was randomly recommended to me today, and damn I really needed this. Feels really good to know I’m not alone. I would have sat with you guys 💗
I appreciate that. I'm glad I could help!
Please keep making these videos man. Very very few of us have heard your perspective. Very honest with no sugar coating. Its been very impactful to watch your videos and it's only the 2nd one.
Thank you. It means that my mission is working.
💗💗Thank you dearly for sharing your truth Darling!
You are incredibly charismatic and brilliantly insightful!
I am currently watching all of your videos today!
Subscribed! 💗💗
Thank you, I hope you enjoy. Some of my opinions I consider maybe controversial, but I always try to be nuanced about it!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. I really enjoyed your insight. Also, your smile is contagious. Stay strong and good luck with your Master’s!
Thank you so much Ryan.
Thanks for being vulnerable my freind. You have opened my eyes further
Glad I could help.
Please be kind to yourself. You seem to be an intelligent and thoughtful person, one who clearly has tremendous emotional strength. People do have have unkind reactions to those who are different, but most people will get over any feelings of discomfort once they get to know you as a person. Best wishes in anything you do.
Thank you. It's just hard after that initial time.
I just love your smile, it breaks through like sunshine so beautiful
Thank you so much! That's very sweet and poetic of you.
Man you are so brave, you're not ugly and sometimes people just don't know how to interact with something they don't understand. Keep your head up, you seem awesome!
Yeah, I understand. I hold no malice towards the people I talked about in this video, it's just frustrating. In fact, the one girl that I talked to I saw again about 7 months after making this video to give her a graduation gift that I got her.
You are definitely not ugly but I also understand why people can be cruel when it comes to disabilities.
Thank you, I appreciate it. And yes, it's more just about people not really interacting that much with us. We automatically fear what we don't understand.
The world can be hard to deal with a lot of the time. I agree that people stay away from people that aren’t the same in some way. Keep going dude! I have autism so my disability is not always perceived immediately. This only makes it harder for me. We are all trying to stay happy. I think I have given up on finding someone to be with. I enjoy company of friends and pets and family. Also you’re funny as hell lol
Same here and same to you my man. Thank you so much!
You're clearly a very smart person, and your unique position gives you a lot of wisdom. I hope your videos gain more popularity since you have a lot to teach.
Wow, thank you!
One thing I’ve had even to learn about my father and fathers in general the way the father’s love is different from mother’s love. In a sense a mother loves you as you are; a father loves your potential and pushes you to challenges your the hand you’re dealt. He loves you but the same way a mother loves you.
Also man your so eloquent in the way you talk. Anyone who actually listens to you will never think you are a r-word that person was tripping.
I know you don’t need hear this from me, but keep on achieving greatness regardless what society views as attractive thats the way of the stoic!
The way of the stoic and the Christian hahaha. Thanks my dude, that's a good point about male and female socialization.
I would like to say that you touched my heart just now. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you how kind and wonderful you are. I do not think you are ugly. I'm sorry that people don't find themselves including you. That breaks my heart and thank you for teaching me. How to be more thoughtful of how someone would feel in a like wise situation. I'm sorry that people have been unkind to you. For reasons that are out of your control. I want to extend my heart and hand to you. Just know, That I understand you. I can understand someone else like you and learn how to make them feel loved and included. You're amazing. I feel so grateful to have come by you and your content. I cannot wait to see more of you ❤
That's very kind of you. I hope you enjoy my content. Thank you!
Damn stacies have this side too i thought they just run away when they see us ugly people.
I’ve come across a lot of people who are considered “attractive” but when you know more about them, you realize how ugly they are as a person.
You’re such an awesome and beautiful person that it would be stupid for someone to ignore that about you.
Keep that light in you bro and don’t let anyone bring you down.
Thank you so much. I'm really trying, but it's tough.
@@ACrownofFlowers I’ll quote DemiDemi who said “Tough times never last, only tough people last”
Ik it can be rough at times but we must keep going man. There’s people out there who appreciate you and see you for who you truly are, those are the people we gotta keep going for :D
@@doto5845 so true. Thank you brother.
@@ACrownofFlowers Np dude ✌🏻
I think you have the most infectious smile and an adorable laugh😊 subscribed because youre awesome and so cute❤
Aww thank you. ❤️
You are far from ugly brother, in fact you are truly quite a handsome guy! As you would smile and laugh throughout the video, I would instantly smile as well, it is such an absolute beautiful sight to see! Know that you are an incredibly inspiring being, the strength you display is a true inspiration to all who cross paths with you! Although one may display negativity, it is simply projections of how they feel about themselves, for they see the beauty in you and it can be triggering to one who is insecure. Continue to seek, show, and be of love in all that is done, for your path is a very special one, one that only your soul could genuinely handle :) In every way you are an absolute beautiful being brother !! Much peace, love, and joy surround you Gabe ❤️
Thank you my friend!
It’s always those who looks good that thinks they’re unattractive that’s why he thinks he’s ugly. Alternatively, it is often the excessively arrogant individuals, who hold such high standards that not even the most best looking, intelligent and good-hearted influencers could meet, that end up appearing rather unremarkable in terms of appearance.
@@lilithhecataniangoddessesm187 I truly appreciate that sentiment.
You're not ugly, the difficulties you have to go through are though and I hope life hasnt been too tough on you, keep your head up man hope it all gets better
Thank you dude!
Dude I just wanna say you're awesome and thanks for making this video. You're also a decent looking bloke, better looking than me, good jaw, good brows, good face shape. Own it, you're also Hella funny and intelligent. A good girl is gonna love you no problem and I love your attitude of "having an obligation to love each other even if people don't do it to us" what a powerful flipping comment! You remind me a lot of my cousin and he's happily married with kids, you've got this. Rock on brother! 👍
I appreciate it dude. This video was made almost a year and a half ago and nowadays I'm more focused on trying to form or break into a friend group. I'm also going to start volunteering after I graduate from graduate school as well.
Hey man I can relate to you on a level. Being a little plump in my teenage years, I am literally invisible to people especially boys in my college. Iam underestimated by very much everybody until I topped my university not once but thrice. After that awkward teenage phase and losing some weight, I can feel me being overwhelmed by the attention Iam receiving from both genders. I kinda like the attention but I feel like I'm missing my freedom from before. It's like I'm under 24-hr surveillance now. I didn't even know that I was invisible until then. Now that I'm a bit fat again, I can feel that attention withdrawal. I love the hypocrites being out of the bag man. But again, there are few rare people who treated me the same every day and there's my family who love me to the moon and back. Honestly, I don't want to associate with shallow people. Beauty can be a double-edged sword my friend. Hope you will find that someone who loves you for you. Not for your appearance, money, or any other thing. Because every innocent and good person deserves someone to love them like that.
Yeah, it's worse for girls. Since guys can make up for it in other ways, but generally speaking, girls can't. Thank you for sharing your story.
O my goodness !!CONGRATULATIONS on your scholarship…that’s amazing 🙆🏼♀️
Lol thank you. This was a year and a half ago I just graduated using that scholarship with my master's degree, completely debt-free.
Stay strong brother don't let people who say bad stuff get to you as success will come your way and more people will be jealous to elevate themselves they will try to drag you down and make you depressed. Many people will do that but mark my words you will find some people that will see you for more than what you see in yourself.
Thank you. I hope that one day I won't have to live out of pure spite and resentment against others.
Many ppl say ppl are mean to others, especially because they're socially and physically lower than them is out if jealousy is a lie. It's literally a form of entertainment for these types. They don't need to clown a ugly short guy with less going for them, to feel good. It's called, ego, arrogance, and superiority complex. It's not cool to be a prick to people who obviously were dealt a raw deal but human nature has reared its ugly head since know time and it's nit going anywhere. Looks play a pivotal roll in dating and friendships like it or not. Yes, there's exceptions to the rule but that's foolish to use as a defense.
@@remissiveslave I agree.
not to sound corny or anything but seeing you laugh and be humorous about the situation, really brightens my mood man. thank you for the video! Best wishes to you brother
Thanks man! Same to you!
STOP!! NOBODY'S UGLY! It's an ugly term. Ugliness is on the inside. These are not just words. There is tremendous beauty in good people. Breaks my freakin' heart when I hear people talk this way. God Bless You.
I appreciate your words man and I wish I could believe you, but my experience tells me otherwise. What you say would be true if we lived in an ideal world. (I wish we lived in that world, but we don't).
I am in a same situation in my life just like you, but it seems like you are a person with a diamond heart..... Which is really attractive...., love u bro and keep sharing your experiences to the world ♥️♥️♥️🙂👍🏻
Thank you so much, I appreciate the support!
You're awesome. I'm glad I found your channel.
Thank you!
It’s so wild to me, our perception of ourselves is often so different from the way others perceive us. I find you really good looking.
I really appreciate that. I just wish I had better luck with even just meeting new friends. I'm going to keep trying though, that's for sure!
I’ll probably sound like a lot of other guys on here but I just wanted to tell you my man I cried watching that. I know in some ways how you feel. I always hated how I look big forehead massive eyebrows scar on my head and a lump on my nose I can’t get rid of I hate how I look I’ve tried to change but I there’s only so much I can do. My parents never wanted to officially put me down in schools as “retarted” or special needs but they always put me in those special classes and refused to tell me if I was or not. because I struggled to learn anything and socialize I’ve only ever had 1 girlfriend it lasted 3 weeks I know how hard it is. I never had a lot of friends to hang out with I have 1 friend and he barley talks to me now. Your video makes and keeps me trying to do the right things like you said don’t hate keep pushing moving forward you seem like a really smart good person I hate this world more people like you thank you ❤❤
I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you could relate. And thank you very much!
I relate to you a lot. I'm an 18 year old girl who went through a "glow up" and I will never forget what it was like to be a fat, ugly 14 year old. I was 5'2 140 pounds. I felt myself so much when you brought up the point of people not wanting to associate with you.. I had 2 friends. And those 2 friends also happened to be fat.
I had stage 3 uterine cancer which caused me to need to remove my part uterus at a young age, and because of that I had to be on a constant stream of pills which made me gain weight, and because of the radiation my hair was short. I wasn't talked to often, the only time I would be mentioned was to be made fun of. I got called a boy, butter pants, basically any character that was fat and had short hair. It ruins you. One or two comments are whatever, but when you can FEEL their eyes on you because they want to find a reason, any at all, to make fun of you, you just... feel like an animal in a zoo. You really begin to question if its worth going in public anymore.
I also resonate with the only people talking to you are those who are "used" to it. When I was 15 I had fallen ill with cancer again, however it was extremely early stage and only needed 2 rounds of chemo. I met a girl who shared a hospital room with me. She was skinny and tall.. but she also had uterine cancer. She was the first person to talk to me, not out of pity or desperation, but out of really wanting a friend..
I was 17 when I lost all the weight and went down to 100 pounds. The difference in how people treat me is day and night. People actually talk to me and LISTEN. I think that's the biggest difference.. No one listened when I was the fat ugly girl. It's given me issues, though. Now I can't talk to people without the voice in the back of my head going "Would you still like me if I was fat?"
Dang bro, same. I also grew up being chubby as well. My dad was extra obese as well as being Latino which predisposes you to being THICC. For me it was different because no one wants to bully the kid in a wheelchair but they still didn't include me in anything. I never got invited to anything, etc. And about your diagnosis, I'm sorry you had to go through that, but I'm glad you're still with us. I know how brutal it can be for girls, It's probably even more brutal than for guys from what I've heard. Also, I can say sometimes that I've zoned out with women because I thought they were too pretty, so it's not only about being ugly, but it seems like in your situation it probably was. I really hope that you can use your experiences to fight that type of judgment wherever you can.
Bless you brother ❤
Thank you.
dude, you aint ugly- idk why but i got jealous by your lips XD and yeah dont wait to care what others think or say about you cuz you have unique personality that most of the ppl lacks and ik you can make it out. you have a whole life ahead of you stay strong and confident soldier. we loves you!❤🩹
Thank you. I'm in my last semester of grad school right now and after that I want to volunteer in my community.
My friend, you’re not ugly, you’re a beautiful soul living in an ugly world. You’ll meet a good friend, a wonderful woman in your life, don’t lose hope, you have a good heart, don’t let this ugly world screw with it
Even though I already have given up the chase, I still appreciate it.
@@user-iq4yu9ux4g that was exactly my thinking, man.
Though possibly, saying this out if pity is not much kinder then just outright speaking the truth. Sure he may find love so on so fourth, but it's going to take a very unique situation and person for this to happen. Woman can be cruel as sin to guys they deem undesirable and they are programmed regardless of virtue signaling they may do, to want the best they can get and being a kind guy who's wholesome is usually not even a factor and if it os, it's after the initial sexual attraction. So maybe don't offer up false hope.
I REALLY think you're actually handsome.and you've got the sense of humour needed to charm anyone anyway. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!
I appreciate that. I have actually been with a woman before, but that was like a FWB-type situationship. But I've never been in an actual adult "relationship".
English is not my native and I rarely write a comments, so I'm sorry in advance if I would have mistakes. I just really want to say that you are not ugly or something, you're very interesting and kind person, and there are people who understand it, not everyone cuz it's impossible to please everyone, but they are exist.
I'll tell you my story. One year ago I was extremely overweight, and I thought that if Iose weight, someone will like me. But this didn't happen when I lose it. Then I realized that all our problems in our head.And this is not just quote. I don't want to decrease your problems, because I clearly understand that compared with me you can't do it better. But you definitely can change your mind about yourself on a good side. If people don't want talk to you because of your appearance, it is not your fault, it's their. It is shows their low self-esteem, and I guess you don't need to talk to people with low self-esteem. But for talking with people with normal self-esteem you need to increase your one's. Its really necessary because you wouldn't feel confident in circle of this kind of people. As you can already understand I proved these advices myself in my own experience, and I would like to get them when I started.
I hope this comment will help to someone.
Have a good day)
I appreciate it my man, but I'm not chasing anyone anymore. This was just to get out my frustrations. I have said elsewhere on other videos that I'm not chasing women or men. Take care and once again I appreciate your kind words.
I feel you bro. Respect.
Thank you, brother!
what makes you attractive is high and good self esteem be joyful in any way you can live life is the best way possible
I appreciate the kind words.
It’s no problem I like spreading the truth God bless have a good day
You too.
Personally i think you are rlly cute and your eyes are beautyfull , and that shit about being attractive or ugly depends on the person , there will be people that will like you or not and that's completely fine , sometimes i feel ugly and I realize that I feel attractive when I'm healthy and taking care of myself . but then i just dont give a fk because i know real people will value me about who im as a human . Keep it up and never let anyone make you feel bad abt looks , we are all humans at the end , the important is to take care of yourself and staying helathy and positive that is very attractive ❤
I really appreciate it.
Some of the best teachers go through the most!
Yep, that's how we develop our power.
First of all you are not ugly You're a good human being
I appreciate it.
Hey man, you aren’t ugly in my eyes. People should only care about personality and rarely about looks. Stay strong brother.
I appreciate it, dude.
Bless you brother!!
Thank you!
You’ll never be as ugly as cruelty.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Thanks. I like your username and the pun. I haven't had to worry about sig figs since high school.
Brother we work with what we have. Confidence &charisma is everything. Jesus over you & yours. Fake it till we make, hold on.
Godspeed brother.
I think you’re quite cute, and funny 💖 I understand how you feel too, but I feel better hearing your experience
I'm glad I could help!
Brother, don't let your lazy eye bother you too much! It's a quirk sure! But own it, there's always something about one self that you don't like. And a lazy eye is not the worst. You're perfect the way you are, and owning it is the way forward.
I'm trying. It wouldn't be so bad if both my eyes weren't lazy.
Yes you are good looking. More people than we all realize feel uncomfortable or insecure at times in crowds or unfamiliar surroundings or around others they don't know. Just know It may not be you.
I appreciate your kind words. And I do realize that it just may be the fact that people aren't used to seeing disabled people in person.
Hi Gabe, i am watching ur video and it feels me with sorrow. I think that a lot of human being are insecure and want beautiful people to surround them to fill there void. I am not what u could beautiful or average looking but i meet an girl who is an artist and what u could call beautiful. She liked my personality and kindness. She had bad experience before when she went for looks. She wanted to change her fate. We have now 2 children and 8 yrs as an couple. What i want to say to u is that there are special women out there that don´t care about ur physical appearance. Bwt, i think u are goodlooking and i can really see ur beautiful personality. I sat here in Sweden i wished that i was a female and then i would contact u. i really think that there are these beautiful souls out there that don´t care about physical apperance, my girlfriend is one of them. So there is big hope for u Gabe. A lot of love from Sweden!
I'm currently not even pursuing women, but I appreciate your comment-I really do.
@@ACrownofFlowers I have subscribed to your channel, who knows, maybe i come and visit in the states in the near future. i Would really like to know u, i don´t really enjoy the company of mainstream people. i get along fine with them but deepinside i feel lonely when i am surrounded by them
@@TheFarzad85 thank you, dude. I feel the same way a lot of the times, too.
You're not ugly my dear ,there's always gonna be someone who admires you secretly and likes you for who you are and they literally miss you.Its hard to accept this fact after being suffered from body hatred from decades of life ,but trust me God always has a plan he loves each one of us .Life was meant to be lived and enjoyed thinking about our imperfections won't bring us any good thouh its good to have self-realisation, acceptance and improvement to change and gear ourselves to the best version of ourselves.
I understand that, and there was one girl that I think was secretly crushing on me and I fumbled it. I take full responsibility for that. But the thing is if most don't show it, it doesn't make a difference whether or not they're secretly harboring it. And of course it's always good to improve as a person, that takes an entire lifetime, but so many more flawed people than me are able to have fulfilling friendships and stuff, and it just bothers me that I put in the work and have nothing to show for it. Thank you for the compliment!
@@ACrownofFlowers yep bro keep moving on and improving that's life we gonna make it someday 😉👊🏼
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Don’t laugh at yourself don’t let people take advantage of you sending love to you gabe my RUclips recommendations are so real
Hahaha. I just have never wanted to take my disability too seriously.
What???? You are not ugly. Your looks are fine! Whatever bad things people may say, it is all superficial. Keep talking. Grow your channel and let everyone know your genuine spirit. Good luck in everything that you do!! 💞
Thank you, ma'am.
I don't think you're ugly i think youre very handsome and intelligent as a human not for a disabled person and im not saying that to be nice keep youre head up love and dont forget to be kind to you're self we are rooting for you and i wish for confidence and peace coming youre way ❤
Thank you.
Hey man, enjoying your video's, I've subscribed.
You mentioned this girl who changed her demeanor when meeting you, I was wondering if you considered maybe the possibility that she didn't know what to do, that maybe she was, after seeing you, unsure about how to act with you? It might have made her nervous and more self aware. I think a lot of people just don't really have the rulebook in terms of how to behave with situations they are not familiar with.
That said, I've had similar experiences with online encounters. In the sense that the person, changes their demeanor after meeting you for real. People, online, I think will build up a specific image of the other person for themselves and if the person diverges too far from that, it can, unfortunately, break down that created image. Also a lot of people can appear more confident online and not be the same in person.
Anyway, wish you the best. You are a smart and cool dude!
Thanks, dude. I would agree with you more if I had said more than than like five words to her. Also, I was expecting her to look sort of different, because she was a person that used a lot of filters and stuff, well I don't really think my demeanor towards her really change and her personality was what I expected. Like I said, I do understand what you're saying though. I definitely think that played a role.
@@ACrownofFlowers I understand, ultimately I trust your experience of what you lived through. Just throwing some propositions into the pool of propositions. :)
@sebastianweilhammer3101 I appreciate that, but you're right to point out that it was probably more than one thing in combination with other things!
I am ugly and I have accepted it. It hurts to see my friends have people have crushes on them and the only reason people really knew me was from my friends. Sometimes my friends say things that hurt my feelings like how my face isn’t symmetrical and how my smile is too gummy and how many pimples I have on my face and why I keep the same hair style for a long time and how my personality isn’t the best and how “unhealthy” I am (I’m not unhealthy I just eat certain foods more then other foods.) I hate looking myself in the mirror. it sucks being ugly but you can’t pity yourself forever. But to the creator, you’re not ugly, true ugliness is someone who is a bad person or someone who is disrespectful. You seem like the nicest man I’ve seen on here. :)
I'm so sorry to hear that. I can relate. I hope your friends don't treat you badly even if their friends do. (Edit: I just read your expanded comment and I'm sorry, but you're totally right about everything you said after that. I hope you can find friends that don't make fun of you at all. And I thank you very much for saying that).
@@ACrownofFlowers you’re welcome man I wish you the best 💕
@@user-kur0m1b4b11 same to you.
Dude, you're not ugly. You're intelligent, good humored and honesty have a lot going for you
Thank you, sir.
It’s not good to lie
@@Rawfish_lowercase I wasn't talking about you
Intelligence in males is not enough in our current times
@@moglet12345 first, did I say he was just intelligent? Second, shut up.
Sorry for what you went through ❤❤❤
It's okay!
I hope no one will hurt you, because you deserve happiness. And if I lived closer to you I would be happy to go out for a beer to watch some football game or something.
I appreciate the sentiment.
@@ACrownofFlowersI want to be your bro.Take love from different side of the world ❤
@@Blackpill149 Thank you, I appreciate it man. Stay strong!
@@ACrownofFlowers i hope you recover from the problem you have.BTW,you aren't ugly.Just average.Girls don't like you because of your physical disability.If you grow broccoli hairs you may get a girl still.Also you are white.So it's not over for you yet
I have a lazy eye too and it makes me cry and i think your a handsome boy it will be ok.
Thank you, and I'm sorry that it makes you cry.
I am so sorry bro i hope you are doing good ( you are actually cute )
Thank you. I'm trying. Just studying for my master's degree right now. Nothing too big. Hopefully I get to take a break from school soon.
Hi bro, good vibes from here 🙌🏻
Thanks!
I think you look handsome :) You have a beautiful soul.
Thank you! I appreciate that you think that.
You sound like a cool dude. I wonder what your chair is made of to support your HUGE BALLS. Kudos to you my friend. Keep rolling.
Hahaha. Thanks bro.
You’re cool man have a good heart it’s always about personality I don’t have a girlfriend at all still single life it’s really BS fuck up society.
Thanks dude. I'm more disappointed that can't join a friend group.
Hey dude your not ugly you look like a pretty kind hearted person. Whoever told you that your ugly is wrong.
I appreciate that you feel that way!
love bro, keep your head up.
reach out if you ever need a homie.
Thanks. Check the about section of the channel if you want to contact me through my email for this channel.
I don’t see a way to contact you privately, so here it goes. I have just begun to create my own channel. It’s like a vlog for therapy thoughts and introspection. That’s when I discovered your channel, just checking out others along similar lines.
That's great! I'll definitely check your channel out.
You're not ugly, society makes us think like that. you're awesome and kind hearted and pretty funny! Never loose your hope.
I really appreciate that.
I know that you are young,your hormones level crank up by now (teenager),you are more attracted to the opposite gender,but believe me,it is better for you to focus on your life and career..Forget about girls and focus on yourself and family.YOUR LIFE WILL BE MUCH BETTER.TRUST ME..God bless you kid...😇😇
I'm not a kid. I'm 25, and I was 24 when I made this video lol. But thank you, I guess.
Your personality is better than any looks. I'm considered at least decent looking by regular standards but I'm a social wreck and people expect me to magically make girls appear out of nowhere. I fumbled a girl who'd be considered ugly by societal standards.
That's also happened to me.
Sadly, Humans are obssessed with aesthetics, and those who haven't won the genetic lottery lost. Best of luck to you bro.
I mean as far as my ethnicity goes, I think I actually did win the genetic lottery? Because I'm light skin from a Latin American country. My condition was entirely the environmental and the result of brain damage early on in life, but thanks and good luck to you too.
You have a great smile 😃
Thank you!
Man personality can make up for so much
And it did... Once from 2018-2020, but not since then.
I wish you all the best, I hope you are well.
Thank you, same to you.
It’s all about the inside. God loves you for who you are. And people might not like you but it’s ok.
I wish it really was like that, but my experience in the experience of countless others says otherwise.
NOOOO, you're not ugly at all 😭 dude you look so handsome! ❤
I appreciate that.
Real compliment: your teeth is amazing and i can tell your back is amazing because of your shoulders.
Thanks. I really appreciate it!
You look and sound like a good man bro!❤
I appreciate that!
You have beautiful smile bro ( no joke it is actually very pretty)
I appreciate that you think that. People, especially my parents, always told me not to smile in pictures.
omg really !! bro your smile is gorgeous you should NOT listen to them , you shouldn't hide your pretty smile ( I'M SAYING THE TRUTH ) and sorry for my bad english @@ACrownofFlowers
@@nnadeouf thank you!
You got a pretty symetrical face and decent eye brows man, you are per definition not ugly
Thanks.
i've made a fake profile on instagram of an ugly face , at first it was for fun but then i got really dissapointed in some people , but i saw alot of people's true colours it's amazing the way you get judged
Yeah, and like I said I will never say that it means everything to people, because there are obviously examples of people with disabilities that have great friend groups and great relationships, but that's not the experience of most.
Start lookmaxxing god is with you...
I've been looksmaxxing and statusmaxxing dude.
@@ACrownofFlowers don't worry! consistency is the way to heaven, so don't count days, keep on doing, u will achieve it trust me❤️🤙.
@@user-il6vc1xc8v thank you dude. I'm really trying to make it better for myself and others.
I have a deformed face, Quasimodo, which is worse for a woman to be. Society is nastier towards deformed people, but far worse towards women with deformity, because we women suppose to all look like OF models or something. I am 41 years old and now don't care. People either accept me or go away. I have no time to deal with stoopidity from judgemental nasty folks who are unappreciated by what we can offer to the world.
Also from experience, I had seen that the people within the system, those who work with the disable, but are not disable themselves, are the most judgemental nastiest folks around. They don't care about us, they want is the credit or glory that comes with helping the disable without knowing fully what it is like fully (I know there is a term for it but I had forgotten it). I am so sorry you had to witness that. However, it does not shock or surprise me by it, considering my own experience as a disable woman and how normies (the nondisable) treat and view us as. I dealt with cruelty and nasty bs (sorry for the language) of nondisable folks since birth. I was born with my disabilities and deformities. If I had control over it I would've made myself more beautiful, but I have no choice on it and I am not going to wear 20 pounds of make up and wear clothes from exploitative fast fashion trend nonsense only to be a joke at the end anyways.
BTW, I think you are wonderful and normal looking, but I see your personality and humor with yourself (your soul). Those people are blind by their sense of pride, lust, greed and so forth.
Remember Matthew 20:16 So the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen.
Also Matthew 5:5 “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
I completely agree that disabled women have it worse. I've said as much in other videos on this channel. I'm so sorry you've had to go through that and I wish nothing but strength and peace to you.
Nobody is ugly, everybody is beautiful in their own way.
Thanks!
@@ACrownofFlowers Nothing man, THANK YOU for being a beautiful human being and sharing your story with us, huge blessing.
@@markonikolic6897 I'll try!
I’m a woman and I’m being completely genuine when I say you’re actually really cute and just from this video you seem to have a great sense of humor.
From other comments you seem to have decided to be cool with being alone but if your feelings about that ever change I think there’s definitely someone out there who could appreciate you!
Thank you. This video was made about a year and a half ago and my position has changed slightly. I feel like I could definitely find someone who was also disabled and or neurodivergent, and I would be very happy with that. I really appreciate your comment and I find your username hilarious. The SCUM Manifesto is definitely on my list of books I have to read eventually.
@@ACrownofFlowers That’s great man. You seem kind and thoughtful and I’m sure you could make someone really happy.
And I totally recommend the SCUM manifesto, it’s hilarious and I hate when people portray Valerie Solanas simply as some crazy lady who sh0t Andy Warhol.
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800Thank you so much. And I mean, to be fair to Valerie, she kind of was. 😂 My three times great-grandmother Vicenta Laparra de la Cerda (Reyes) was a radical, disabled Guatemalan feminist. She started the first feminist newspaper in Guatemala, and I think the second or third in Latin America. She and my grandfather were exiled a whole bunch of times because of that and the newspaper got banned a bunch of times.
I have to be honest that especially when I was younger it was hard for me not to have resentment towards women because of the rejection that I faced, but learning about her story, as well as some honest conversations with my older brother and other family members led me to calm down. I'm still dealing with a lot of that resentment, but I'm in a way better place now then I was back then and even a year and a half after posting this video.
Anyway, I hope you can take some time to also look at the video that I made on my grandmother:
ruclips.net/video/RjKOdsHmM-c/видео.html
@@ACrownofFlowers I watched that video and read her Wikipedia page(translated) and she sounds absolutely phenomenal! You should be very proud to be her descendant, she sounds so ahead of her time. It’s crazy to think that she was promoting female education and helping to make women’s voices heard over a century ago and there are still places today where we don’t get that right.
I can totally sympathize with radicalization in regard to feelings about the opposite s3x, although in my case it had nothing to do with rejection. As a young teen I was very religious and only concerned with having a big family and being as appealing as possible to a potential husband. As I got older and dealt with various difficulties in life and learned more & more about the world I became almost prejudiced towards men. I still struggle with it because there are indeed a lot of dangerous men out there who hate and abuse women, children and animals or would if they got the opportunity. But part of maturing is realizing that you can’t hold an entire group accountable for the crimes of a percentage of them. I’m so glad that Vicenta helped to inspire you to let go of some of your resentment. As long as you continue to do introspection and approach life with an open mind and true empathy I’d like to think she would be proud of you!
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 yeah, she was one also one of the very few at that time that was calling for any sort of acknowledgment or help for disabled people as well. Which you can't really say about a lot of feminists even today. And I agree, even today women's rights in Latin America are sort of questionable.
Wow, I'm sorry you had to go through that. My mom was a model back in Guatemala when she was younger and she faced a lot of the same pressure as you. In a lot of religious countries, women's only value is basically to have children, and even during my resentful phase I never believed that. But I have both seen how my mom is basically objectified by so many men that she has to constantly be on the lookout. And part of the reason why I "gave up" on romantically pursuing women (and to a lesser extent) men, is because I didn't want to and I still don't want to be one of those guys. I've turned my focus to friendship because I've already been involved with a woman and it made me realize that s-x alone wasn't going to make me happy- but just because other people were superficial and only cared about looks, that I didn't have to be that way. And as you say, like it literally doesn't make any sense to be prejudiced and dislike an entire half of the population.
I was also very religious, and in fact, it's funny because the Bible calls us to be completely celibate. Both Paul and Jesus give people an out because they realize that if they didn't that would be disastrous for society, but it is interesting that they forsake physical pleasure in favor of friendship. And I have to be honest. I always think about that and that's what I'm striving to do. I fail a lot of the time because I'm human, but I really feel like that's the way. I don't actually believe in God anymore though-I'm more of an agnostic when it comes to the actual existence of God, and a de facto atheist in day-to-day life.
Thank you so much. I really hope that she would have been proud of me as well. One of the principal goals of this channel is to provide a third way for men between some of the more radical takes of some feminists as well as do people like Andrew Tate (who I really despise).
All that being said, I wish you luck on your journey of healing as well. I'm glad you were able to come to see yourself as more than just your reproductive faculty. I also appreciate your sympathies with my struggle and hope to see more of you on the channel. 😁
Hi my friend, I was watching a video showing the biggest male fashion models of the 90's and when it was finished your video loaded. At the start of your video I thought that you were one of those male models as well doing a video of your own, so you are definitely not ugly. Your medical condition presents some challenges but absent of those, your facial features would rank high on the Golden ratio scale. I'm sure a lot of commenters lend support by sharing their own stories of being ugly. I have a different story to share with you at the risk of sounding like an arrogant and self absorbed A-hole, I hope to share with you another side of ugly that few people talk about. From an early age I was considered good looking. I've had girlfriends everywhere I'd go to school since the first grade. It was an uncomfortable experience dealing with girls who would scream when they saw me walking down the halls or going to class after recess. They would literally crowd around me at lunch time. I can't tell you how many fights that I got into growing up because other guys were jealous of me. I was literally in multiple fights per year every year until I graduated high school. I became really good at beating people's A$$es and I hit the weight room on a regular basis because I had to. In my junior year of high school the two hottest girls in the school, both seniors, asked me out at the same time so I took them both out at the same time and the three of us would hang out together all of the time until they got in a fight over me on Halloween night in my car while I was still driving. I had to stop and pull over to break them up. One of them ended up on the show The Girls Next Door with Hugh Hefner. I went on to my 20's and 30's slaying as many girls as possible and the end result is that it was a huge waste of time and money . I got zero fulfillment from it, a ton of drama from the women, I got in a ton of fights and lost my sense of smell. I find it really hard to go into social settings like bars and clubs because the process starts all over again, where women with boyfriends put their arms around me to make their boyfriends jealous and I get in a fight, or I meet a girl who turns out to be a psycho with baby fever. or my buddy's girlfriend is trying to sleep with me behind his back which is disgusting to me. You see the ugliest parts of human nature and the world we live in when you are an attractive man. I made a consorted effort to make myself ugly by gaining 50 Lbs on purpose and dressing like $hit to avoid the unwanted attention and keep the ugly side of humanity at bay. I consider myself a recluse and I enjoy avoiding people at all costs. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. The best thing to do is to just enjoy life as best as you can. -Kindest regards.
Well, that's certainly flattering of you to say. There was a woman who commented here along similar lines, and I have to agree. I haven't seen stable marriages or relationships in my life, most people seem to be very miserable in them. And your experience is exactly why I've sort of just given up on the whole thing, because you're right. I don't want to support or live in a world that is like that. My mom was actually a model, and she has told me much the same thing. I will say though that you are still lucky to at least have options, and to have girls that you wanted want you. I have never had that. I wish that before I had given up I could have at least been with more than one girl, it's too late now, though.
Hi. Try to not think with ur mind what im gonna say now...but with your soul: Being born and to live in a body with " malfunctions" , your soul choose to play this game of life on hardcore, much respect to your soul bro for this "choice". Stay strong and balanced friend. Oh and being ugly means nothing! Remember that.
I'm reading the Sufi scholar ibn al-Arabi right now, and that sounds like something he would say/write.
I was recommended this video because I was looking up videos about feeling ugly. I'm normally considered "attractive" but I don't really see it. I was raised by a mother who struggled with perfectionism and projected that to me. Looks has always been her biggest insecurity and she was critical of me and others all the time. Despite that if that wasn't enough, we live in a world where young girls are also being sexualized. There is a ridiculous expectation of beauty standards and all the products to reach that. The beauty industry as a whole is insane. Additionally, biologically men are wired to go after attractive women. That's why so many women are competitive biologically it's how we are wired. Like the animal kingdom. So my standard or beauty for a woman more specifically myself is high. Which makes me feel like I'm never enough. So it frustrates me that that matters so much. I'm far more than looks, like many of us are in these comments. Yet some of us place our worth on our appearance and on a personal note, not because I think that or value that but because everyone else seems to. And if we depend on others for many things, then it feels like well damn, guess what I think or feel about myself is irrelevant
I think what I am trying to say though is I appreciate your share. So courageous of you! I respect and admire that! I would totally hang with you if I could. You are my kind of a person. Not based on appearance or material things. Who you are. Everyone else who is attractive and after all that other BS is overrated and I wish sometimes I didn't have to live in this world where we struggle over shit like this. Excuse my french. Thank you for reminding me of many important things! Sending you a big ol hug!!! ❤
Wow, I appreciate you being so vulnerable and sharing that here in the comments with me. And I have to say that I relate a lot to what you're saying. I'm originally from Guatemala and my mom was a model, and she always wanted me to look a certain way (i.e. I could never grow my hair out long because it naturally sticks up and she didn't want me to have cabello de indio, or I couldn't wear the shoes that I wanted to because she thought they looked ugly even though they were comfortable for me). I was also always left out of stuff because of being in a wheelchair. No one was ever outright mean to me, but I could tell that I was the odd one out.
And thank you very much, it's my pleasure to put content like this out. Obviously I know they're just words but I appreciate your willingness to hang out with me and if you don't mind my saying so I think you're very pretty. And I agree with you that I wish the world wasn't so focused on looks. If you want to talk more my email for this channel, askgabequestions@gmail.com is always open for comments questions and anything else. Sending you a big hug back.
You have to think about the things you have and be grateful for it, I'm not talking about God and those things, for example I always repeat to myself that there are people who have bigger problems than mine. At least you can see, hear and speak, imagine having been blind or dumb or deaf, or born without your hands. Head up bro. Greetings from Chile.
Very true. Greetings from the USA and Guatemala.
Hey bro like i wouldn't worry too much what gurls see us as ay.
I'm a good looking guy yet i remain invisible to the opposite gender for like almost my entire life, so this tells me it's not always about looks that gets the gurl.. but i guess it depends on their perception what's most attractive to them wether be certain facial features or how you carry yourself as a whole. Bro what's weird tho is there's so many fish in the sea,, but because the social media dictates how a person should look and be like, ppl will mis out on whats real and so we start to loose the natural connections we once had before tech took over our lives.
So even tho im healthy and good looking it's still isn't enough to compete in todays society so im with you bro, and i believe our lord Jesus will continue everyday to inrich our inner self to overcome our negative mind set ppl have towards eachother. Because to him we are all beautiful in his eyes and at the end of the day that's all that really matters. GBU ✨✌️
Hey man. Same. Honestly, I've done so much to improve myself as a person, I work out, I'm well read, etc. At this point I've kind of just given up And have decided to work towards all helping the Hispanic and disabled communities-I going to was always going to do that, but I never thought it would become the main focus of my life after graduating with my masters in like 2 weeks. And yeah, I'm just like you. I've turned towards the teachings of Christ because I went through a phase where I had extremely negative thoughts towards women, And I still struggle a lot resentment, but Christ helps me get through it through his example.
That rocks bro 🤜🤛 niiiice. Yeh HE has a way of setting us up for great things.There's nothing better than finding your purpose in life. And you never know some lucky lady will come along and love you for you. I still believe that. Take care bro.
@@icyhot1740 you too. 🤗