You guys open my mind to what it means to be in this kind of relationship. As you know I was married for 10 years and a widow but after I started it to follow you through your old RUclips channel. I got to know my boys. Now after almost three years, it has been amazing and challenging but I wouldn't change it for anything. Thank you guys!!😘♥👍 Btw The boys said "Hello"💖💖💖💖
We love your story Rey! It’s been so fun hearing it develop over the years as we have chatted with each other. Beautiful things have blossomed for you and the boys! 🎉❤ always wishing you all love and happiness
Thank you guys for opening up to us about Polyamory. We don't understand the concept of it at first but we are open to listen to you guys. so THANK YOU. Thank you Jess & Alex (& also Zac) for this time. Love you all guys! 😎🥰💖🏳🌈
I have been with my husband in a monogamous relationship for 26 years. That is what has worked for us, but I do think different things work for all relationships. Honest communication is the key to all successful relationships.
Hello! This video is amazing. My husband and I just recently opened our relationship, and became a throuple for the past 8 months. This is really great to know there are others out there that go through these same things and its nice to see such a positive among all the hatred that is out there! Cant wait for more videos!
Guys...thank you for a great video! Love your easy conversational style...I've been a subscriber for years and enjoy you all as much - if not more - than I did when I found you.....the educational aspects of each of you has been very valuable to me...Terry in Palm Springs.
Thanks for joining us here Terry! So happy you enjoyed the conversation. Hope to do more videos like this soon and include Zac so we can better answer people’s questions
I think you guys set such a loving & healthy example of the possibilities of a poly relationship. One question I’d ask would be how do you set the foundation of equality in the throuple when there’s an established duo; in your case married, & how do you make the new third partner feel equal in the relationship?
This question is for before Zach 😊 how do you deal when you are dating someone and one of you is totally in love and your other partner is not feeling this relationship with the third..
I was involved with a gay married couple for about 6 months. There were a couple of issues with it. The main reason was that one of the guys had a lot of FWB before he was married. Also, he was on several gay sex sites while he was married. His husband traveled continuously for 6 months out of the year. So, many times sex was with the 3 of us plus 1-2 other guys too. It wasn’t a truffle relationship because the guy wanted sex at will with guys he met on sex sites too. He couldn’t understand why I got jealous but it wasn’t just 3 of us. I had to communicate with many people in the “group”. I was hurt in the end but was ok after 2 years.
"compersion” refers to a form of joy in the joy of others. In the world of consensually nonmonogamous relationships, it more specifically relates to the happiness someone finds in their partner seeking out and enjoying sexual and romantic intimacy with other people.
The concept of polyamory is very intriguing. I do have a question and I'm sure it's different for every throuple. Do you have rules when it comes to physical intimacy when let's say Alex is out of town for example. Is that part of the relationship something you reserve for the three of you to always share together ? I apologize if this question is to personal. So very happy for the three of you. ❤❤❤
Hey Jess, Alex, Zack, Thank you for sharing about your relationship and being so open to the public about what it’s like to be in a polyamorous monogamous relationship. ❤ Being in a polyamorous monogamous relationship myself, going for our first 1yr anniversary together next month, and I was always curious to see other people’s experiences and perspectives and insights about their relationship. I do agree that being in this peculiar relationship, you learn about yourself and your partner and what it’s like to love another person outside of your marriage. I’m happy to see that you guys are happy with each other and for each other. After being in this relationship, communication and respect is def. Key to staying in a healthy relationship Please keep the content coming and share your stories experiences with us. 🙏🏼 Can’t wait to see the next video content 👋🏼
Alex works in Project Management, Jess is in the process of opening a new business, Zac works in Content Strategy and Marketing. Would love to share more cooking here soon! His mother just sent him a cookbook with the families recipes 🎉 He does most of the cooking in our home
I'm what people call a "Sigma" , I guess. Intimacy is not hard at all for me, but the relationship is. Also as a gay , masculine dude, I don't feel I have to explain or apologize of who and how I function but never really understood my personality until now. Let's face it, we're not straight nor are we women, so variety will be in our DNA for the rest of our lives so I totally understand , agree and can relate to your personal choices. If you're gay , married and monogamy works for you , all the best but I have NEVER met a gay couple that have been married for years that haven't played or had an open relationship at one point. Either openly or secretly behind each other's back, it happens. As soon as we come to terms not only to be honest but to understand we're males. We function differently from women, and finally understand , we should not be ashamed but understand and love ourselves. Hey if you're not hurting anyone and honest, then it's right for you ! I
You introduced me to a word that I’d never heard before, “compersion”. I feel that that’s the way I treat a partner, in that I take great joy in them feeling joy and pleasure (plus it makes me more aroused). However, just wanted to tell you that you should check on the pronunciation of the word “amicable” at 13:16 (sorry handsome, but you pronounced it incorrectly). Love you guys!!
Hi guys. I have been following you since your last poly-relationship on youtube. I have no other way, I have no social media (on purpose). I lost track when the adult industry jump. I saw suddenly a suggested video showed Jess. I was thinking that had to do with the adult industry or so that thing (in youtube? o.O). But I was happy to see that after those years you two (+ 1) are back. I'm poly too, but in my case, single looking for other poly guy or two guys. At the moment, without success. Everytime I say I'm poly my datings put strange faces and disappear. I know it is that. I'm quite good looking/body (ok, not a model but quite good), my mental health without any special issues .... but still they don't want that. I feel a kind of resistance to that type of relationships, here in Europe (Berlin). Yes, everyone wants sex, but none a committed relationship, unfortunately. Anyway, Happy to see you back. All the luck for you three guys. Big kiss.
So glad you found us here. Yes, I think dating is very difficult much of the time in "gay world". I know many of our friends struggle with finding meaningful connections with so much hook-up culture. Polyamory adds a whole new tricky element to the mix. Dont give up! we hope you find your person / persons out there. Our relationship was completely unexpected - none of us were seeking it and it just worked out and came together on its own. So glad youre here with us!
‘It was twen ummm a long time ago’ lol As with all relationships communication and compromise is key, I always say you do you, be who you wanna be Great chat Jess & Alex ❤
The worst part about a relationship like this is that you both are married and the third will never have the life you both get. This ONLY works when no one is married. I have been in this before and it never works. The third will ALWAYS feel left out. The married couple will have all the benefits that life gives and the third will be the extra paycheck. I was the third and it was pure hell after a few month in. When it came to car loans or the house mortgage I was always left out. These just don’t work when a couple is married.
That’s your experience, that does not make it the experience of all throuples or all polyamorous people :) That is not our experience so far. Each relationship on this planet (polyamorous or not) is unique and the people in the relationship make choices that are best for their life and happiness. Your experience is valid, but that does not make it true for us or everyone else on the planet.
HI KC AND JAX DID YOU BOTH KNOW LAST JANUARY LATE I FELL OFF TOILET IT HIT MY FACE IT MADE BLEEDING MY NOSE GOT BRUCE UP AND MY HEAD THAT I LAND ON SHOWER FLOOR AND I END UP STAY AT HOSPITAL 4 DAY AND I CAME HOME JAN 28 AND JUST RESTING NOW FEBUARY IM ALL BETTER STILL ON MEDIATION FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE KC AND JAX I LOVE YOU BOTH VERY MUCH HOPE YOUR WORRY ABOUT ME LOVE DAVID
Just remember when you’re married you don’t share yourself with others, you have to be true to your husband! And if you’re not, then it might as well be open and you’ve become 2 faced. I take the marriage vow very serious, ok?
There are a lot of different marriages and relationships around the globe. Each relationship is welcome to apply their marriage rules and guidelines and vows to their relationship and/ marriage as they deem right for themselves… and we will continue to enjoy OUR marriage as we deem right for us. Big proponents of the idea that there is no “one size fits all” relationship type or style. What works for someone else may not work for us - but we still find it beautiful and valid and interesting to see other relationship forms and styles being practiced around the world!
I am 77 and lost my accepting wife to MS after 51 years of marriage. I cared for her for almost 26 years. I am gay and happy to remain single. If I were married to a man, it would have to be monogamous. Most unlikely. That is just me.
So sorry for the loss of your accepting wife! 🕊️ If monogamy is what’s right for you, that’s great! Many relationship styles that work for different people in polyamory. Ours is a version of “monogamy” - we are poly-monogamous - closed relationship between the 3 of us. Thanks for sharing and tuning in!
YEAH I AM ALL BETTER NOW KC AND JAX YOUR ROOMMATE IS CUTE OH I HAVE 1200 DOLLS I ONLY COLECTION THEM I DON'T PLAY WITH THEN IT MAKES ME GAY OR NOT THEYARE WOTH LOT MONEY LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰
A GOOD CONVERSATION...AS (LONG) AS EVERYONE GETS IT...AND LIVES UP TO IT. IF YOUR APARTMENT WERE BIGGER, YOU MIGHT EVEN CONSIDER A QUADRUPLE. ANYWAY, YOU DID A GOOD JOB BEING OPEN AND AFFIRMING YOUR COMMITMENT. WE LUVED YOUR FRANKNESS!! NOW GET IN BED!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!
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You guys open my mind to what it means to be in this kind of relationship. As you know I was married for 10 years and a widow but after I started it to follow you through your old RUclips channel. I got to know my boys. Now after almost three years, it has been amazing and challenging but I wouldn't change it for anything. Thank you guys!!😘♥👍 Btw The boys said "Hello"💖💖💖💖
Oh! Alex don't change. You are still as funny as ever. Love you mate!! I love you too Jess!💖
We love your story Rey! It’s been so fun hearing it develop over the years as we have chatted with each other. Beautiful things have blossomed for you and the boys! 🎉❤ always wishing you all love and happiness
Thank you guys for opening up to us about Polyamory.
We don't understand the concept of it at first but we are open to listen to you guys. so THANK YOU.
Thank you Jess & Alex (& also Zac) for this time. Love you all guys! 😎🥰💖🏳🌈
Each relationship is unique with who it involves and what is right for that relationship. Happy to share a glimpse of what works for us! 🤗💛💛💛
I have been with my husband in a monogamous relationship for 26 years. That is what has worked for us, but I do think different things work for all relationships. Honest communication is the key to all successful relationships.
That’s fantastic! Congratulations on 26 years 🎉🥰
Hello! This video is amazing. My husband and I just recently opened our relationship, and became a throuple for the past 8 months. This is really great to know there are others out there that go through these same things and its nice to see such a positive among all the hatred that is out there! Cant wait for more videos!
So great to hear of others like us!
My husband and I have been in an open, polyamorous relationship for almost 40 years. I am happy to see videos like yours.
His is so incredible to hear! Congratulations on 40 years together! 💛💛💛
@@JessAlexZac We find that living in Long Beach, CA, the environment is far more welcoming to our relationship. We can be open.
Guys...thank you for a great video! Love your easy conversational style...I've been a subscriber for years and enjoy you all as much - if not more - than I did when I found you.....the educational aspects of each of you has been very valuable to me...Terry in Palm Springs.
Thanks for joining us here Terry! So happy you enjoyed the conversation. Hope to do more videos like this soon and include Zac so we can better answer people’s questions
Great explanation: 14:11 - u get joy in seeing ur partner enjoy with someone else.
I think you guys set such a loving & healthy example of the possibilities of a poly relationship. One question I’d ask would be how do you set the foundation of equality in the throuple when there’s an established duo; in your case married, & how do you make the new third partner feel equal in the relationship?
This question is for before Zach 😊 how do you deal when you are dating someone and one of you is totally in love and your other partner is not feeling this relationship with the third..
How do you all feel when one partner is with the other without you
I was involved with a gay married couple for about 6 months. There were a couple of issues with it. The main reason was that one of the guys had a lot of FWB before he was married. Also, he was on several gay sex sites while he was married. His husband traveled continuously for 6 months out of the year. So, many times sex was with the 3 of us plus 1-2 other guys too. It wasn’t a truffle relationship because the guy wanted sex at will with guys he met on sex sites too. He couldn’t understand why I got jealous but it wasn’t just 3 of us. I had to communicate with many people in the “group”. I was hurt in the end but was ok after 2 years.
"compersion”
refers to a form of joy in the joy of others.
In the world of consensually nonmonogamous relationships, it more specifically relates to the happiness someone finds in their partner seeking out and enjoying sexual and romantic intimacy with other people.
Thanks for the clarity on this term! 🩵🩵🩵
The concept of polyamory is very intriguing. I do have a question and I'm sure it's different for every throuple. Do you have rules when it comes to physical intimacy when let's say Alex is out of town for example. Is that part of the relationship something you reserve for the three of you to always share together ? I apologize if this question is to personal. So very happy for the three of you. ❤❤❤
Listening is key. I talk a lot and should listen more than talk! Your shirts look great👍
Thank you for the insight 🩵🩵🩵
Thanks. I now have a better understanding of what you guys are talking about. Gary
Thanks for tuning in Gary 🩵🩵🩵
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Alex I love your facial expressions...Wishing you three much love in the future...
SMOKING HOT 🔥
Hey Jess, Alex, Zack,
Thank you for sharing about your relationship and being so open to the public about what it’s like to be in a polyamorous monogamous relationship. ❤
Being in a polyamorous monogamous relationship myself, going for our first 1yr anniversary together next month, and I was always curious to see other people’s experiences and perspectives and insights about their relationship. I do agree that being in this peculiar relationship, you learn about yourself and your partner and what it’s like to love another person outside of your marriage. I’m happy to see that you guys are happy with each other and for each other. After being in this relationship, communication and respect is def. Key to staying in a healthy relationship
Please keep the content coming and share your stories experiences with us. 🙏🏼
Can’t wait to see the next video content 👋🏼
Love this! Thank you so much for sharing with us about your polyamorous relationship 🎉🩵
Happy (Early) 1 year Anniversary to you all!!
I can’t get one person to be in a relationship with never mind a third. God bless you guys I wish you well.
thank you so much
opinions 'scholpinions', it's only about love and you three exemplify it. Beautiful.
Interesting
What type of jobs do you have now? The 3 of you should write a cookbook. How do you decice who cooks. When I started following you Alex was a chef
Alex works in Project Management, Jess is in the process of opening a new business, Zac works in Content Strategy and Marketing.
Would love to share more cooking here soon! His mother just sent him a cookbook with the families recipes 🎉 He does most of the cooking in our home
I'm what people call a "Sigma" , I guess. Intimacy is not hard at all for me, but the relationship is. Also as a gay , masculine dude, I don't feel I have to explain or apologize of who and how I function but never really understood my personality until now. Let's face it, we're not straight nor are we women, so variety will be in our DNA for the rest of our lives so I totally understand , agree and can relate to your personal choices. If you're gay , married and monogamy works for you , all the best but I have NEVER met a gay couple that have been married for years that haven't played or had an open relationship at one point. Either openly or secretly behind each other's back, it happens. As soon as we come to terms not only to be honest but to understand we're males. We function differently from women, and finally understand , we should not be ashamed but understand and love ourselves. Hey if you're not hurting anyone and honest, then it's right for you ! I
This was really interesting. Thanks so much for sharing and being so open guys! 💛
So glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for tuning in and joining us 🩵🩵🩵
Hey my loves sending you three lots of love ❤❤❤
Thank you for the love! Much love and happiness to you as well 🩵🩵🩵
You introduced me to a word that I’d never heard before, “compersion”. I feel that that’s the way I treat a partner, in that I take great joy in them feeling joy and pleasure (plus it makes me more aroused). However, just wanted to tell you that you should check on the pronunciation of the word “amicable” at 13:16 (sorry handsome, but you pronounced it incorrectly). Love you guys!!
Well, that question was answered
Hi guys. I have been following you since your last poly-relationship on youtube. I have no other way, I have no social media (on purpose). I lost track when the adult industry jump. I saw suddenly a suggested video showed Jess. I was thinking that had to do with the adult industry or so that thing (in youtube? o.O). But I was happy to see that after those years you two (+ 1) are back.
I'm poly too, but in my case, single looking for other poly guy or two guys. At the moment, without success. Everytime I say I'm poly my datings put strange faces and disappear. I know it is that. I'm quite good looking/body (ok, not a model but quite good), my mental health without any special issues .... but still they don't want that. I feel a kind of resistance to that type of relationships, here in Europe (Berlin). Yes, everyone wants sex, but none a committed relationship, unfortunately.
Anyway, Happy to see you back. All the luck for you three guys. Big kiss.
So glad you found us here. Yes, I think dating is very difficult much of the time in "gay world". I know many of our friends struggle with finding meaningful connections with so much hook-up culture. Polyamory adds a whole new tricky element to the mix.
Dont give up! we hope you find your person / persons out there. Our relationship was completely unexpected - none of us were seeking it and it just worked out and came together on its own.
So glad youre here with us!
@@JessAlexZac 😘
‘It was twen ummm a long time ago’ lol
As with all relationships communication and compromise is key, I always say you do you, be who you wanna be
Great chat Jess & Alex ❤
So happy you enjoyed it 🩵🩵🩵
Zac es.precioso❤
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The worst part about a relationship like this is that you both are married and the third will never have the life you both get. This ONLY works when no one is married. I have been in this before and it never works. The third will ALWAYS feel left out. The married couple will have all the benefits that life gives and the third will be the extra paycheck. I was the third and it was pure hell after a few month in. When it came to car loans or the house mortgage I was always left out. These just don’t work when a couple is married.
That’s your experience, that does not make it the experience of all throuples or all polyamorous people :)
That is not our experience so far.
Each relationship on this planet (polyamorous or not) is unique and the people in the relationship make choices that are best for their life and happiness.
Your experience is valid, but that does not make it true for us or everyone else on the planet.
Just found ur channel and already intrigued
Hope you enjoy the content! Welcome to the channel 🤗
Beautyfull 💖🌹💖🌹💖🌹
Thanks for tuning in 🎉🩵🩵🩵
Now that you’ve left the adult industry, what career are you pursuing? You have a business degree, correct?
Yes, I have an MBA.
I am currently in the process of opening a new business 🎉😊
@@JessAlexZac Good for you. Best of luck. 😉🤞🍀
Sound is very low
Lost one of our mics 🫣 so we shared one - will work on that
HI KC AND JAX DID YOU BOTH KNOW LAST JANUARY LATE I FELL OFF TOILET IT HIT MY FACE IT MADE BLEEDING MY NOSE GOT BRUCE UP AND MY HEAD THAT I LAND ON SHOWER FLOOR AND I END UP STAY AT HOSPITAL 4 DAY AND I CAME HOME JAN 28 AND JUST RESTING NOW FEBUARY IM ALL BETTER STILL ON MEDIATION FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE KC AND JAX I LOVE YOU BOTH VERY MUCH HOPE YOUR WORRY ABOUT ME LOVE DAVID
Hope all is better now David 😊❤️🩹
Just remember when you’re married you don’t share yourself with others, you have to be true to your husband! And if you’re not, then it might as well be open and you’ve become 2 faced. I take the marriage vow very serious, ok?
There are a lot of different marriages and relationships around the globe.
Each relationship is welcome to apply their marriage rules and guidelines and vows to their relationship and/ marriage as they deem right for themselves… and we will continue to enjoy OUR marriage as we deem right for us.
Big proponents of the idea that there is no “one size fits all” relationship type or style. What works for someone else may not work for us - but we still find it beautiful and valid and interesting to see other relationship forms and styles being practiced around the world!
I am 77 and lost my accepting wife to MS after 51 years of marriage. I cared for her for almost 26 years. I am gay and happy to remain single. If I were married to a man, it would have to be monogamous. Most unlikely. That is just me.
So sorry for the loss of your accepting wife! 🕊️
If monogamy is what’s right for you, that’s great! Many relationship styles that work for different people in polyamory. Ours is a version of “monogamy” - we are poly-monogamous - closed relationship between the 3 of us.
Thanks for sharing and tuning in!
YEAH I AM ALL BETTER NOW KC AND JAX YOUR ROOMMATE IS CUTE OH I HAVE 1200 DOLLS I ONLY COLECTION THEM I DON'T PLAY WITH THEN IT MAKES ME GAY OR NOT THEYARE WOTH LOT MONEY LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰
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A GOOD CONVERSATION...AS (LONG) AS EVERYONE GETS IT...AND LIVES UP TO IT. IF YOUR APARTMENT WERE BIGGER, YOU MIGHT EVEN CONSIDER A QUADRUPLE. ANYWAY, YOU DID A GOOD JOB BEING OPEN AND AFFIRMING YOUR COMMITMENT. WE LUVED YOUR FRANKNESS!! NOW GET IN BED!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!