I get hassled by sex pest local yokal men in my area whare I reside and they don't seem to understand it's as insulting to me to be sexually harrased as pork is to a Muslim! I'm celibate and I identify as a non sexual non gender being!
I want to say I loved your book! You're a hero and I read it on occasion still to make my day better. Everything you have done is amazing and I cannot be more thankful enough!
5:15 This seems silly, complaining about warning women against putting themselves in vulnerable situations as "victim blaming" rather than telling criminals not to be criminals! We certainly can and should try to understand the mental and emotional frameworks of criminals, how they justify and understand their actions without their conscience being invoked, and probably it will be the reformed criminals who can think back about their distorted thinking and then use that information to help others not fall into the same behaviors.
I'm so glad you are doing these videos. This has been done to me and it has really helped me identify the troubles I've had dealing with this. Thank you so much.
Totally agree with what you say and I am huge fan. I work with young people who have experienced sexual assault sometimes and I see them if they have been reported missing. I was also sexually assaulted at the age of 13 .. many years ago! I am unsure what your point is of the assessments made of what is happening in their lives when they are placed at high risk of CSE? I would be genuinely interested in the language you think we should be using to change this. My life at home when it happened to me was pretty awful and back then I wish someone had asked me what was happening for me at home. Maybe it would have given me an opportunity to say? Maybe someone could have helped me to understand that I could say no.. maybe someone may have helped me after the rape that took my virginity. Took me many years to talk about it to my counsellor and when my experience was validated it went away. Lucky for me i had an amazing counsellor. Thanks for shaking up the way we view this subject.. x
Dear Dr. Eaton, why do you feel so uncomfortable and avoid eye contact with your viewers? How do you want to pass your message when you don't dare to look at us who see you on the screen? P.S. What happened to the other 6 comments?
You say it’s not real concern for the victim…. It’s real. I can’t always be present to protect the women in my life but my words can go with them. This basic truth is why people are so quick to offer their words to the misfortunes of others. There are things a woman can do to mitigate risk. It’s not her fault if she is raped and hasn’t mitigated risks but what good does it do women to tell them that all risks are the same? Walking alone at night in an unfamiliar area IS riskier than walking with friends during the day and pointing this out isn’t victim blaming, it’s obviously true. Of course it’s always the rapist who is wrong. So don’t make it easy for a rapist to get away with it by telling women that all risks are the same.
Where do you get your information? Do you work in domestic violence? Have you ever considered that maybe your statements are not accurate to womens experience, DV, public research?
Interesting. So, why does “walking alone at night in an unfamiliar area” have to be considered as “riskier”? The problem with victim blaming lies here. Exactly here. It means the VICTIM is at the wrong time and place. And the perpetrators have the right to be wherever and whenever. This is an upside down way of thinking. And ultimately the question is how comes that we’re at risk at all???!!! How comes that “women at risk” is so naturally spoken in our society? And no one picks their head up that “hang on a minute….why do women have to be attacked on the first place?” Where’s our freedom to live, think, speak, walk…etc. freely wherever and whenever?
@@katalinmenyhart9263It's considered riskier because it is riskier. This is something that even a 10 year old would understand. If my friend wants to go to an area that is dangerous, why do you think I should do, let her go to or discourage her from going there? I would be a bad friend if I let her go there. Nobody is saying rapists have a right to rape people at those areas. The reality is that those areas are dangerous and if you truly care about wanting to protect victims, you need to prevent them from going there. Literally nobody thinks this is a good thing, but this is reality and constantly whining about it is a waste of time and will get us no where. You cannot do whatever you want without the risk of consequences, grow the fuck up out of your childish mentality and understand that there are risks and consequences in life and you can never be truly free from them, the only way to help women is by not letting them make bad decisions that put them in danger. It's not about who's "in the wrong" or "who's in the right" It's about pragmatic safety and keeping people from ending raped. If a victim walks into a dark alley way, it doesn't matter if she had a right to do that, she still end up being raped. You can be right and end up raped or you could be wrong or still be alive and well. Choose one.
Is so strange that if you are mugged nobody doubts you and actually empathise, but if you are raped it’s a completely different story
No, it's actually the other way around.
Rape is heavily frowned upon
I get hassled by sex pest local yokal men in my area whare I reside and they don't seem to understand it's as insulting to me to be sexually harrased as pork is to a Muslim! I'm celibate and I identify as a non sexual non gender being!
I want to say I loved your book! You're a hero and I read it on occasion still to make my day better. Everything you have done is amazing and I cannot be more thankful enough!
What's the title of the book and where is it sold in North America? Thanks if u can reply.
5:15 This seems silly, complaining about warning women against putting themselves in vulnerable situations as "victim blaming" rather than telling criminals not to be criminals!
We certainly can and should try to understand the mental and emotional frameworks of criminals, how they justify and understand their actions without their conscience being invoked, and probably it will be the reformed criminals who can think back about their distorted thinking and then use that information to help others not fall into the same behaviors.
I'm so glad you are doing these videos. This has been done to me and it has really helped me identify the troubles I've had dealing with this. Thank you so much.
Absolute hero this woman.
Totally agree with what you say and I am huge fan. I work with young people who have experienced sexual assault sometimes and I see them if they have been reported missing. I was also sexually assaulted at the age of 13 .. many years ago! I am unsure what your point is of the assessments made of what is happening in their lives when they are placed at high risk of CSE? I would be genuinely interested in the language you think we should be using to change this. My life at home when it happened to me was pretty awful and back then I wish someone had asked me what was happening for me at home. Maybe it would have given me an opportunity to say? Maybe someone could have helped me to understand that I could say no.. maybe someone may have helped me after the rape that took my virginity. Took me many years to talk about it to my counsellor and when my experience was validated it went away. Lucky for me i had an amazing counsellor. Thanks for shaking up the way we view this subject.. x
Don't they used that for female preps
Dear Dr. Eaton, why do you feel so uncomfortable and avoid eye contact with your viewers? How do you want to pass your message when you don't dare to look at us who see you on the screen? P.S. What happened to the other 6 comments?
Because she's full of ish and knows it!!!!!!!
Because she knows she’s trying to sell you shitty books for £15-£20.
You say it’s not real concern for the victim…. It’s real. I can’t always be present to protect the women in my life but my words can go with them. This basic truth is why people are so quick to offer their words to the misfortunes of others. There are things a woman can do to mitigate risk. It’s not her fault if she is raped and hasn’t mitigated risks but what good does it do women to tell them that all risks are the same? Walking alone at night in an unfamiliar area IS riskier than walking with friends during the day and pointing this out isn’t victim blaming, it’s obviously true.
Of course it’s always the rapist who is wrong. So don’t make it easy for a rapist to get away with it by telling women that all risks are the same.
Where do you get your information? Do you work in domestic violence? Have you ever considered that maybe your statements are not accurate to womens experience, DV, public research?
Interesting. So, why does “walking alone at night in an unfamiliar area” have to be considered as “riskier”? The problem with victim blaming lies here. Exactly here. It means the VICTIM is at the wrong time and place. And the perpetrators have the right to be wherever and whenever. This is an upside down way of thinking.
And ultimately the question is how comes that we’re at risk at all???!!! How comes that “women at risk” is so naturally spoken in our society? And no one picks their head up that “hang on a minute….why do women have to be attacked on the first place?”
Where’s our freedom to live, think, speak, walk…etc. freely wherever and whenever?
@@marleyofficialmediaSimple, common sense.
@@katalinmenyhart9263It's considered riskier because it is riskier. This is something that even a 10 year old would understand. If my friend wants to go to an area that is dangerous, why do you think I should do, let her go to or discourage her from going there? I would be a bad friend if I let her go there. Nobody is saying rapists have a right to rape people at those areas. The reality is that those areas are dangerous and if you truly care about wanting to protect victims, you need to prevent them from going there. Literally nobody thinks this is a good thing, but this is reality and constantly whining about it is a waste of time and will get us no where. You cannot do whatever you want without the risk of consequences, grow the fuck up out of your childish mentality and understand that there are risks and consequences in life and you can never be truly free from them, the only way to help women is by not letting them make bad decisions that put them in danger. It's not about who's "in the wrong" or "who's in the right" It's about pragmatic safety and keeping people from ending raped. If a victim walks into a dark alley way, it doesn't matter if she had a right to do that, she still end up being raped. You can be right and end up raped or you could be wrong or still be alive and well. Choose one.
Telling men ot to rape is as to say "We should make all crime illegal"
Also I see women being excused more than blamed for stuff.