I think that guy is an idiot. How dare he meet you under false pretenses and presume to tell you how to be yourself. You are a lovely person and very genuine. As far as his racism comment, that's BS too!
I hate she had to deal with this. Though if I had to say something constructively critical of something you said, he is not an idiot, he is worse. He is a bigoted, hateful, insidious and evil, prick. He was educated enough to hit her where it would hurt the most. He seems dangerous
He was SUPER racist and self-absorbed. He clearly thinks that he's smarter than everyone else. Stay away, what a creep. Glad that you're safe! He's wrong about the world. There are definitely lots of bad people out there, but there are also lots of people with good hearts. I am transgender and I have met lots of people that hate me just for that, but I have also met lots of people who love me no matter what. I hope you meet the people that love you instead of people with hate in their hearts like that guy.
Ugh, I'm sorry this happened to you. It sucks and adds even more trauma to your life. That guy sounds like a malicious sociopath, and it's obvious from livestreams that you do have some small percentage of trolls in your audience. It's a good thing you're okay. Honestly, I don't think you can believe anything he said, as it's all essentially comments from a troll. I personally don't think everyone is racist, and many that are won't think or say they are. As a (black) male subscriber: If you do meet any guys off here, it's a good thing to meet in a very public place as you did. You may also need to try to learn more about them in advance, so maybe things like that would come out sooner.
Ugh this guy is next level awful. I get strong psychopath energy from this story. Also, like, maybe the world doesn't have perfectly pure people in it, but it's got good people who are trying to be better.
Look, here's my opinion, practicalluy everyone has some degree of prejudice in them. Jane Elliot once said that "if you were educated in the American school system and are not a racist you'd be a miracle, because everyone is a bit racitst". But this does not mean you can't be aware of it and work on it! Prejudice is nothing but a cognitive error. A flaw in our need to categorize things! But we can be aware of this and not be slaves to these tendencies. This guy is obviously using this "everyone is a bit racist" statement as an excuse to be an asshole! You deserve better than that! Because we are not slaves to our cognitive flaws or what we were indoctrinated with!
I get over my grape as a kid by setting goals, forgiving myself as in realizing that I deserve more, and it possible for me to work for it. You need to realize that your worthy, strong, and have a future. If you don’t believe you have a future, then it gets 10x harder. So set a goal, even if it’s small. I realized that I don’t need to care, and I don’t need to constantly fight. What I need is peace. All of those things apply to you as well. I know that you can do it, so let it be real. GROWTH MINDSET!!
you cannot trust strangers on the internet. if you want to meet someone in person it's important to talk for several weeks at minimum with facetime calls so you know who you're trusting with your safety. as someone part of many marginalized groups unfortunately horrible people will want to prey on that. please look at the comments on your videos they list some valuable resources for getting help.
He had no right to comment on your looks or tell you to sexualise yourself. Please stay away from these toxic men Also, for all the people commenting telling you to stay away from white people, that’s quite offensive to those of us who aren’t racist. It’s not okay to paint everybody with the same brush. I truly care about your wellbeing and wish the best for you, yet these people tell you to stay away from people like me because of my skin colour. I don’t deny that racism exists in society, but it’s not fair and not okay to treat all white people as racist or to tell you to stay away from white people. There’s good people of all skin colours and it’s not okay to treat all white people with such hatred and prejudice.
Tbf I think you’re undermining how many white people are racist. I think it’s valid to at least be weary of white people for safety reasons. I don’t feel offended as a white person hearing something like that. Of course not all white people are overtly racist, but I think it’s important to consider white habitus. You can be anti-racist and white so long as you acknowledge your wrongs if you say or do something that is racist, you take responsibility for it, don’t defend yourself, or tell the person you harmed how they should react/feel about it.
On a psychological level, if this guy you met isn't clinically insane to take HIS precious time to perform something like this, you at least know that he is severely broken inside. Seriously, not a single normal person, not even other neurodivergents would even think about saying things as miserable as this guy did. This guy probably knows that and he is watching this video right now thinking he won some giggles but he took his time to say all that insanity? It makes you wonder who is the clown here really? You -- which had nothing to do with that -- or the guy who pre-planned to say random sh*t to a traumatized person and throwing every single random take he could on his book to troll someone IN REAL LIFE. Girl... he didn't even record you. That's a face to face personal, troll? That's... just very strange. Anyway, I hope you feel better soon, Cassy. Unlike this guy, you're actually helping and contributing substantially to society to your life by reporting and documenting about your feelings. People barely ever do that bc it invades their privacy. But I feel as though you're sacrificing your privacy for a greater good which definitely a heroic and brave thing to do. You save me from loneliness. I've never related so much to a person in my entire life. We're almost the same, but in a different country. I am a gay male subscriber btw, but never been in a relationship. Nihilistic. Traumatized as hell. There are just a few differences which include a slightly better support system, but aside from that even the diagnoses are similar. And other things as well such as misdiagnoses, stumbling upon those CRAZY events all the time. I swear I don't do meet ups or dates anymore (i am really done trying it) bc things like this just KEEPS HAPPENING. Sometimes even worse. Well, I'm glad you're very much alive, Cassy. I appreciate you for being a Fing warrior. Holy cow... you have a better backbone than me that's for sure. I just get jealous sometimes because some people get to live their lives on automatic mode and enjoy the best life and there's us... constantly on a battlefield not even able to begin to enjoy life because we're on survival mode with no way of turning it off. You're great Cassy. This comment was written by heart.
I'm going to speak for myself here; your style (i.e. your hair, accesories, outfit, etc), the way you speak and the things you say make much more of an impression than your race does. I notice it of course, but it feels like a much smaller factor in shaping my perception of you. I know what I'm about to say is anecdotic and probably a very rare occurrence, but my best friend is not only a woman but also physically opposite to me in every other way as well, including race. It's probably a funny sight for other people when we hang out, but it does prove a point. It really is about what's inside in the end, that's not just some platitude
There's a saying that 80% don't care as 20% are glad. Don't satisfy those who like to see you suffer. It's not fair to you. That white racist represents that 20%. Others say it's the other way around. But the truth is there are people who do care but can't find a way to help, which is not our fault. Telling your story does help those who are dealing with the same thing. Try to join an autistic support group near you, so you won't feel so alone, especially when therapy didn't help.
I am so sorry this happened to you. But if he was claiming autism it could be that HE is the one whose been shat on all of his life in his own community for not being NT and he seeked you out to find someone else to dump on so he could feel better and cope. Sounds like he's familiar with "loser energy" indeed. This is why I would always say that expressing romantic interest in ND men is not recommended. Many of them (regardless of their race) interact with women this way. Not all but many.
omg its so rude for him to hate watch ur videos!!! how condescending of him to "want to tell u how the world works". not everyone is racist! he ONLY thinks everyone is racist, because HE is racist, and people naturally assume everybody thinks and feels the same way as them. for example, as a bisexual, i think everyone must be bi because its the only way of being that i know as i have lived it my whole life and i cant imagine being any other way. and this guy, the racist, must not comprehend that it is possible to just not be racist, because he is so racist. he reminds me of this autistic guy friend i had, my first love, he abused me psychologically lol. he was so racist, homophobic, and incredibly sexist, and it severely impacted my self esteem growing up. he thought everybody was just as bigoted as him, truly, and it shocked him when i wasnt. it shocked me when he was. (i have a lot of autistic friends btw i might even be autistic lol idk but yeah im not saying theres a correlation between his condition and bigotry i just mean my ex love reminds me of this asshole in ur life who so happens to also be autistic and racist as fuck). but yeah. im like a white girl and my bestie since 1st grade is black (26 yrs old now) and a good part of our teenage years was spent trying to transform him into being not a bigot anymore. it didnt work lol. we really thought we could change him
No, not everyone is racist. It can really feel like that, I understand- but don’t give up on people. The other day I thought I was getting death stares, but that person then gave me a beautiful compliment. And screw that guy; don’t let attractiveness deceive you, and don’t just meet anybody now that your kinda famous! And I hope your doing better!! And yes, you should love and defend yourself. It’s harder for us victims to do that, but we really shouldn’t stop trying. You are stronger than you think. I will definitely let you know that. Also cute wig.
Well he is not wrong on people being racist I worked at a bank for four years and yes everyone and customers showed racism and no it wasn’t always directed at me personally and this is coming from a black woman. Also you do have to becareful because you don’t want to give off that energy and don’t let people take things from you and tell you who you are and work on getting self care so you can find yourself in this world. Also he is not wrong for saying money rules this world.. because “money talks” But he is not right for making fun of you just because those things are true. Yes as black people we don’t want to be here either but we can’t suicide ourselves for it..😅
You are a good kind, genuine person! Very sweet, intelligent, articulate, and beautiful! When you possess all of those attributes, some people will try approach in ugly ways because you remind them of what they are not! So never mind what you should have done or said! As others said, please DO NOT meet random people in person. Protect yourself physically and emotionally! There will always be some knucklehead who wants to drag u down to their level! Most people are good and honest , but make them prove that to you first! YOU ARE FABULOUS 🎉🎉 💕
Pursue your calling--where your gifts and skills meet the needs of the liberation movements. You tend to find men of higher caliber out "among the people" than on the apps.
that dude was an actual loser. you deserve love thats deeper than the ocean itself. you shouldn't do anymore charity work meeting a bum crusty musty like that. he was obviously intimidated by you, and projected his own issues onto you, yikes. please, please be safe and love yourself enough to not settle for effeminate losers that can only afford to take you to dunkin donuts on the first date. Decenter men completely until you are confident to not feel you need validation from them. healing looks good on you babe.
No, everyone is not "just a little bit racist"; this guy is full of it!! I'm happy that you got out of that situation safely & that you won't be putting yourself in danger this way again. What a sad & pathetic little man to "hate watch" videos - does he have nothing better to do with his life?! I've managed to not swear in my comment, although I said a lot out loud while I was typing it!! 💚
while this guy is an asshole and most of what he said was just rude, there is some truth to his words. there are groups of people whose goal is to pit races (and the main political parties) against each other to distract from what is really happening in this country. some just want money and power, but others want total collapse and chaos. I won't go too deep into it because it is absolutely terrible for your mental health. without money or power, the only thing we can really do is be good to one another. protect one another and protect ourselves. aside from all that which probably seems like crazy talk, i'm glad you're out of that situation and away from that woman. i'm also glad that you won't meet up with strange men anymore. wishing you healing and happiness.
I don’t think everyone is but it’s more than you’d like to think. There are awesome people who aren’t racist but the existence of those people doesn’t mean you should let your guard down. It’s natural to want to put your guard down, want connections and give people the benefit of the doubt but predators and bad faith actors know this and will use that knowledge to gain access to you. Wishing you the best❤
The world works according to one’s beliefs. Whatever he told you, applies to him only. His beliefs are about him and his life. It has nothing to do with you. Disregard and move on.
Sweetheart, you need to be careful who you allow to speak into your life. I pray that you master the art of taking a deep breath and walking away from a person and/or situation as soon as it doesn't feel right. You have the right to walk away at anytime honey, take some deep breaths, walk away and continue to take deep breaths. 🙏
It's a good idea with what you said to not meet any male subscribers or go on dates, people can have the wrong intentions. You look beautiful😊
I think that guy is an idiot. How dare he meet you under false pretenses and presume to tell you how to be yourself. You are a lovely person and very genuine. As far as his racism comment, that's BS too!
I hate she had to deal with this. Though if I had to say something constructively critical of something you said, he is not an idiot, he is worse. He is a bigoted, hateful, insidious and evil, prick. He was educated enough to hit her where it would hurt the most. He seems dangerous
He was SUPER racist and self-absorbed. He clearly thinks that he's smarter than everyone else. Stay away, what a creep. Glad that you're safe! He's wrong about the world. There are definitely lots of bad people out there, but there are also lots of people with good hearts. I am transgender and I have met lots of people that hate me just for that, but I have also met lots of people who love me no matter what. I hope you meet the people that love you instead of people with hate in their hearts like that guy.
You got to be careful my sister!!
Ugh, I'm sorry this happened to you. It sucks and adds even more trauma to your life. That guy sounds like a malicious sociopath, and it's obvious from livestreams that you do have some small percentage of trolls in your audience. It's a good thing you're okay.
Honestly, I don't think you can believe anything he said, as it's all essentially comments from a troll.
I personally don't think everyone is racist, and many that are won't think or say they are.
As a (black) male subscriber: If you do meet any guys off here, it's a good thing to meet in a very public place as you did. You may also need to try to learn more about them in advance, so maybe things like that would come out sooner.
About learning about them first, don't forget about the red flags/things that seem suspicious.
Ugh this guy is next level awful. I get strong psychopath energy from this story. Also, like, maybe the world doesn't have perfectly pure people in it, but it's got good people who are trying to be better.
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This guy sounds sick. holy shit
He is very sick 🤮🤢
Look, here's my opinion, practicalluy everyone has some degree of prejudice in them. Jane Elliot once said that "if you were educated in the American school system and are not a racist you'd be a miracle, because everyone is a bit racitst". But this does not mean you can't be aware of it and work on it! Prejudice is nothing but a cognitive error. A flaw in our need to categorize things! But we can be aware of this and not be slaves to these tendencies. This guy is obviously using this "everyone is a bit racist" statement as an excuse to be an asshole! You deserve better than that! Because we are not slaves to our cognitive flaws or what we were indoctrinated with!
awwww youre such a sweetie pie i can just tell ur a good person
You seem so sweet, very intelligent & kind hearted. Stay safe and God bless you 🙏💝
"as a fellow autistic" oh for fs, that guy is HORRIBLE. You have to weed out THOSE dudes before they even sit down, they're the WORST
You need to stand up for yourself. Period.
I get over my grape as a kid by setting goals, forgiving myself as in realizing that I deserve more, and it possible for me to work for it. You need to realize that your worthy, strong, and have a future. If you don’t believe you have a future, then it gets 10x harder. So set a goal, even if it’s small. I realized that I don’t need to care, and I don’t need to constantly fight. What I need is peace. All of those things apply to you as well. I know that you can do it, so let it be real. GROWTH MINDSET!!
you cannot trust strangers on the internet. if you want to meet someone in person it's important to talk for several weeks at minimum with facetime calls so you know who you're trusting with your safety. as someone part of many marginalized groups unfortunately horrible people will want to prey on that. please look at the comments on your videos they list some valuable resources for getting help.
He had no right to comment on your looks or tell you to sexualise yourself. Please stay away from these toxic men
Also, for all the people commenting telling you to stay away from white people, that’s quite offensive to those of us who aren’t racist. It’s not okay to paint everybody with the same brush. I truly care about your wellbeing and wish the best for you, yet these people tell you to stay away from people like me because of my skin colour.
I don’t deny that racism exists in society, but it’s not fair and not okay to treat all white people as racist or to tell you to stay away from white people. There’s good people of all skin colours and it’s not okay to treat all white people with such hatred and prejudice.
I don't think all white people are racist. I know you're not racist ❤️
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Tbf I think you’re undermining how many white people are racist. I think it’s valid to at least be weary of white people for safety reasons. I don’t feel offended as a white person hearing something like that. Of course not all white people are overtly racist, but I think it’s important to consider white habitus. You can be anti-racist and white so long as you acknowledge your wrongs if you say or do something that is racist, you take responsibility for it, don’t defend yourself, or tell the person you harmed how they should react/feel about it.
Also P.S. I agree with you on everything else.
On a psychological level, if this guy you met isn't clinically insane to take HIS precious time to perform something like this, you at least know that he is severely broken inside. Seriously, not a single normal person, not even other neurodivergents would even think about saying things as miserable as this guy did. This guy probably knows that and he is watching this video right now thinking he won some giggles but he took his time to say all that insanity? It makes you wonder who is the clown here really? You -- which had nothing to do with that -- or the guy who pre-planned to say random sh*t to a traumatized person and throwing every single random take he could on his book to troll someone IN REAL LIFE. Girl... he didn't even record you. That's a face to face personal, troll? That's... just very strange.
Anyway, I hope you feel better soon, Cassy. Unlike this guy, you're actually helping and contributing substantially to society to your life by reporting and documenting about your feelings. People barely ever do that bc it invades their privacy. But I feel as though you're sacrificing your privacy for a greater good which definitely a heroic and brave thing to do. You save me from loneliness. I've never related so much to a person in my entire life. We're almost the same, but in a different country. I am a gay male subscriber btw, but never been in a relationship. Nihilistic. Traumatized as hell. There are just a few differences which include a slightly better support system, but aside from that even the diagnoses are similar. And other things as well such as misdiagnoses, stumbling upon those CRAZY events all the time. I swear I don't do meet ups or dates anymore (i am really done trying it) bc things like this just KEEPS HAPPENING. Sometimes even worse. Well, I'm glad you're very much alive, Cassy. I appreciate you for being a Fing warrior. Holy cow... you have a better backbone than me that's for sure. I just get jealous sometimes because some people get to live their lives on automatic mode and enjoy the best life and there's us... constantly on a battlefield not even able to begin to enjoy life because we're on survival mode with no way of turning it off.
You're great Cassy. This comment was written by heart.
I’m sorry you went through this experience. You seem like you’d be a good candidate for psychedelic/plant medicine. Look into it and keep safe please.
Agreed on the plant medicine front!
You have a heart of gold and you most assuredly don't deserve this ever.
I'm going to speak for myself here; your style (i.e. your hair, accesories, outfit, etc), the way you speak and the things you say make much more of an impression than your race does. I notice it of course, but it feels like a much smaller factor in shaping my perception of you. I know what I'm about to say is anecdotic and probably a very rare occurrence, but my best friend is not only a woman but also physically opposite to me in every other way as well, including race. It's probably a funny sight for other people when we hang out, but it does prove a point. It really is about what's inside in the end, that's not just some platitude
I support you. Before you date anyone else, read "The Rules" by Ellen Fein. Please. I want you to stay safe and thrive, my friend.
There's a saying that 80% don't care as 20% are glad. Don't satisfy those who like to see you suffer. It's not fair to you. That white racist represents that 20%. Others say it's the other way around. But the truth is there are people who do care but can't find a way to help, which is not our fault. Telling your story does help those who are dealing with the same thing. Try to join an autistic support group near you, so you won't feel so alone, especially when therapy didn't help.
unbelievable and terrible! you are awesome, take care
I am so sorry this happened to you. But if he was claiming autism it could be that HE is the one whose been shat on all of his life in his own community for not being NT and he seeked you out to find someone else to dump on so he could feel better and cope.
Sounds like he's familiar with "loser energy" indeed.
This is why I would always say that expressing romantic interest in ND men is not recommended. Many of them (regardless of their race) interact with women this way. Not all but many.
omg its so rude for him to hate watch ur videos!!! how condescending of him to "want to tell u how the world works". not everyone is racist! he ONLY thinks everyone is racist, because HE is racist, and people naturally assume everybody thinks and feels the same way as them. for example, as a bisexual, i think everyone must be bi because its the only way of being that i know as i have lived it my whole life and i cant imagine being any other way. and this guy, the racist, must not comprehend that it is possible to just not be racist, because he is so racist. he reminds me of this autistic guy friend i had, my first love, he abused me psychologically lol. he was so racist, homophobic, and incredibly sexist, and it severely impacted my self esteem growing up. he thought everybody was just as bigoted as him, truly, and it shocked him when i wasnt. it shocked me when he was. (i have a lot of autistic friends btw i might even be autistic lol idk but yeah im not saying theres a correlation between his condition and bigotry i just mean my ex love reminds me of this asshole in ur life who so happens to also be autistic and racist as fuck). but yeah. im like a white girl and my bestie since 1st grade is black (26 yrs old now) and a good part of our teenage years was spent trying to transform him into being not a bigot anymore. it didnt work lol. we really thought we could change him
No, not everyone is racist. It can really feel like that, I understand- but don’t give up on people. The other day I thought I was getting death stares, but that person then gave me a beautiful compliment. And screw that guy; don’t let attractiveness deceive you, and don’t just meet anybody now that your kinda famous! And I hope your doing better!!
And yes, you should love and defend yourself. It’s harder for us victims to do that, but we really shouldn’t stop trying.
You are stronger than you think. I will definitely let you know that. Also cute wig.
Well he is not wrong on people being racist
I worked at a bank for four years and yes everyone and customers showed racism and no it wasn’t always directed at me personally and this is coming from a black woman.
Also you do have to becareful because you don’t want to give off that energy and don’t let people take things from you and tell you who you are and work on getting self care so you can find yourself in this world.
Also he is not wrong for saying money rules this world.. because “money talks”
But he is not right for making fun of you just because those things are true.
Yes as black people we don’t want to be here either but we can’t suicide ourselves for it..😅
You are a good kind, genuine person! Very sweet, intelligent, articulate, and beautiful! When you possess all of those attributes, some people will try approach in ugly ways because you remind them of what they are not! So never mind what you should have done or said! As others said, please DO NOT meet random people in person. Protect yourself physically and emotionally! There will always be some knucklehead who wants to drag u down to their level! Most people are good and honest , but make them prove that to you first! YOU ARE FABULOUS 🎉🎉 💕
Sorry you experienced that.
Pursue your calling--where your gifts and skills meet the needs of the liberation movements. You tend to find men of higher caliber out "among the people" than on the apps.
❤❤❤ thanks for uploading hun 🫂
that dude was an actual loser. you deserve love thats deeper than the ocean itself. you shouldn't do anymore charity work meeting a bum crusty musty like that. he was obviously intimidated by you, and projected his own issues onto you, yikes. please, please be safe and love yourself enough to not settle for effeminate losers that can only afford to take you to dunkin donuts on the first date. Decenter men completely until you are confident to not feel you need validation from them. healing looks good on you babe.
No, everyone is not "just a little bit racist"; this guy is full of it!! I'm happy that you got out of that situation safely & that you won't be putting yourself in danger this way again. What a sad & pathetic little man to "hate watch" videos - does he have nothing better to do with his life?! I've managed to not swear in my comment, although I said a lot out loud while I was typing it!! 💚
while this guy is an asshole and most of what he said was just rude, there is some truth to his words. there are groups of people whose goal is to pit races (and the main political parties) against each other to distract from what is really happening in this country. some just want money and power, but others want total collapse and chaos. I won't go too deep into it because it is absolutely terrible for your mental health. without money or power, the only thing we can really do is be good to one another. protect one another and protect ourselves.
aside from all that which probably seems like crazy talk, i'm glad you're out of that situation and away from that woman. i'm also glad that you won't meet up with strange men anymore.
wishing you healing and happiness.
I don’t think everyone is but it’s more than you’d like to think. There are awesome people who aren’t racist but the existence of those people doesn’t mean you should let your guard down. It’s natural to want to put your guard down, want connections and give people the benefit of the doubt but predators and bad faith actors know this and will use that knowledge to gain access to you.
Wishing you the best❤
…… also, I saw you on Soft White Underbelly! I believe Mark was quite impressed with you as well! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Please don't post his email as no good will come of it.
That is wild.
The world works according to one’s beliefs. Whatever he told you, applies to him only. His beliefs are about him and his life. It has nothing to do with you. Disregard and move on.
Sweetheart, you need to be careful who you allow to speak into your life. I pray that you master the art of taking a deep breath and walking away from a person and/or situation as soon as it doesn't feel right. You have the right to walk away at anytime honey, take some deep breaths, walk away and continue to take deep breaths. 🙏