I’m pregnant with my first due feb 2024 and you went over so much I didn’t realize happens those first 24 hours. I feel more aware and prepared for what’s to come. Thanks for making this video, so helpful! ☺️
My doctor immediately cut the cord and the nurse took baby for a bath within 15 minutes of birth while my husband stepped out. To birth the placenta, the nurse was pushing repeatly on my abdomen with such force, it was excruciating. Not all doctors in the U.S. automatically do the things they discussed in this video, so you MUST be your own advocate - which can be difficult immediately after givinf birth. Pregnant with my second child and we will not be circumcizing. Wishing the US was more up to date on what's best for babies.
I'm pretty shocked they circumcized their baby and are advocating for others to do it too. It does not seem like there are any real medical benefits to doing it; it's just an unfortunate cultural trapping.
@@ladycaticorn2950 That's trendy in the US. Guess because of the porn industry. People will make excuses that it's more hygenic but that's been thoroughly debunked. Amazing that people are mutilating their baby just for looks. Especially if you're a natal/child healthcare professional.
The best way to have a birth with up to date safe practices is to hire a midwife! The medical industry in the US is bought out by big pharma. All you have to do is request the inserts for the vaccines and shots they give at birth to realize they 1. are puppets following what they are told and don't think for themselves, and 2. just want to do as much as possible to get as much money from you (or your insurance) as possible!
@@ladycaticorn2950there’s literally no benefit and the only “benefits” it has can simply be taught to boys without circumcising. People are just so lazy to actually step up and parent their kid that they’d rather mutilate their genitals than actually take the time to teach them basic bodily care. Most men I’ve seen all have a sort of resentment for being circumcised, and most of that resentment is due to nobody caring about how they’d feel about it as a grown adult.
Ummmm soo Sarah is a total goddess warrior!! I can’t believe she was teaching us about the postpartum room right after giving birth. Talk about dedication. ❤
You are so helpful! So grateful that you were willing to film for our benefit in your first 24 hours - makes us first time expectant parents feel so much more in the know. We appreciate you!
Yay!! That is why we created this channel-we want other parents to feel informed and knowledgeable!! Knowledge is power and we hope it helps you have a better pregnancy and birth experience. Thanks for being here and following along with us!
Delayed cord clamping helps prevent jaundice and it’s severity. Waiting atleast two minutes is what is recommended now. If your doctor tries to clamp is sooner then ask them to please wait just another minute or two. Waiting will cause no harm to mother or baby.
I am actually thankful to hear all this step by step. I know a woman who was NOT cleaned after birth at all. Her husband had to get wipes and try and help clean her up. Of course because he didn't know what to do or where to be gentle it was a painful process. Getting ready to give birth myself I keep hearing everything that is left out. Knowing what to ask for and what treatment we should be getting is key!
Knowledge is power!! Our hope is that the information we provide here helps birthing mamas and patients be knowledgeable and know what to expect so they feel empowered & advocate for themselves and their experience!! Sending you all the smooth labor vibes and hopes for a safe delivery for you soon!! You got this!
Many of your videos have been helpful, but I think this was the most helpful of all. As I stumbled to the bathroom of my hospital room, legs still weakened by the epidural, and activated another cold pad, I replayed this video in my head, thinking "this is normal, expected, I got this." Thank you for taking the time and effort to make this video when you had so much else on your plate.
One pointer - Instead of using creams, you can rub a little breastmilk on the nipple after pumping or feeding, and it helps for them not to dry and crack. That's been working great for me for pumping almost 13 months
This is literally the only thing I found to heal a cut (bite wound 😬) when my baby was 9 months - its the simplest thing but nothing else helped! Let it air dry if you can too!
I had so much birth trauma with my son almost 8 months ago, it was nice to watch this and think about all of the things (good and bad) that I don’t remember.
The grin that her husband made when she said “the vagina is truly an amazing thing.” 😂😂 you can see the agreement all over his face! Thanks for the advice Docs, us expecting mothers appreciate it.
"This is the time for circumcision standardly for most people in the U.S": While it may be a common practice in the US, circumcision is not a necessary or beneficial procedure. In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend routine circumcision, and many medical professionals around the world do not support it either. "It needs to be done later by a neurologist": There are many reasons why a circumcision may need to be performed later in life, such as medical conditions or personal choice. However, it should only be done when absolutely necessary and with proper anaesthesia. "Local anesthetic and sugar water is able to like help keep the baby calm and comfortable during that procedure": While local anaesthesia can help alleviate pain, the procedure itself is still painful and traumatic for the baby. Infants are not able to provide informed consent, and subjecting them to unnecessary pain and risk is unethical. "After that time the skin actually changes and it just becomes like more difficult to do the procedure more bleeding Associated and other things too and so yeah doing it in that first couple days of life is really helpful": This claim is not entirely accurate. While the skin may be thinner and easier to cut in the first few days of life, it is also more delicate and prone to infection. Waiting until the child is older and can make their own informed decision is a more ethical and safe option. "In those first you know 24 hours after they have their circumcision done their their little their penis is a little sore and raw and you have to keep a lot of Vaseline on it constantly": This statement confirms that the procedure causes pain and discomfort for the baby and that constant care and maintenance are necessary to prevent complications. This reinforces the argument that circumcision is unnecessary and puts the infant at risk. In conclusion, circumcision is a personal choice that should be made by the individual when they are old enough to provide informed consent. Infants should not be subjected to unnecessary pain and risk for a procedure that has no medical benefit. Alternative methods of hygiene can be used to maintain penile health, and routine circumcision should not be considered the norm.
@@f.s.2642 All published circumcision videos show that those who are circumcised without adequate anaesthetic treatment (anaesthesia or anaesthetic), suffer immense pain. Infants fall regularly into shock as a reaction to the pain, when being circumcised without effective anaesthesia. This shock is often misinterpreted and the parents believe that their baby would have simply slept through. Actually, in some traditional ritual forms of circumcision not only the outer foreskin} is cut up or off, but rather even the (inner) foreskin is torn down. The comparison with pulling off a patch is safe only from the point of view of the person who tear down the patch or the foreskin, but not from the point of view of the child who suffers the pain. It is at least not a single case known in which a mohel fell in shock after circumcision, while it is regularly in only a few days old boys. Therefore, this comparison is more than cynical. The foreskin of an infant firstly is connected with the glans and thus serves to protect it from everything. One can compare the state of the physiological connection between internal foreskin and glans with the way how fingernails are connected to the underlying tissue.
@@f.s.2642I mean…I’m glad I got to keep ALL the skin on all body parts I was born with? 🤷🏻♀️ would I remember now 37 years later, probably not but I’m still glad. Those nerve endings never grow back and as a newborn you have no voice in what is done to your body. How awful!
I got my ears pierced at 2 and babies get tons of shots. There’s nothing “traumatizing” about an event or pain they won’t remember. They are brand new, everything is scary. Also every single man I have ever met is happy they were cut, so why wouldn’t I bestow that gift on my son? Let parents do what the fuck they want with their kids, preaching doesn’t do anything but cause undue stress on parents of newborns.
Lots of good advice generally. However, I’d like to point out a few things: a women in a coma can give birth to a baby. It is a natural physiological process that DOES NOT necessitate intervention. You might want to consider the possibility of Hypnobirthing; breathing techniques; tens machines; water birthing etc. ALL interventions have consequences. For example: epidural and opioid analgesics can increase drowsiness and nausea/vomiting in the mother and can cause the baby to be unresponsive or have breathing problems when born. Having a caesarean increases the chances of placenta issues and complications in subsequent pregnancies and means you are more likely to need another caesarean. It also has effects on the baby’s breathing as the mucus is not squeezed out as it would be vaginally, not to mention the bonding hormones that are released as the baby is born vaginally. Of course, there are emergency (less than 30minutes fast intervention times) reasons why a caesarean is necessary, but for the vast majority of women, they have been told a caesarean is an emergency (then wait an hour +)- this is not a life/death emergency. Forceps increase the risk of bleeding in your baby’s brain due to the trauma. However, the statistics for clotting complications are 1:9500 (UK figures) and are usually caused by risk factors such as low platelets and haemophilia. If your baby does not have these risk factors, consider why you would need to give your baby Vitamin K. In ED we only give vit K to patients who are actively haemorrhaging. There are countries in Europe that do not routinely administer this treatment unless risk factors have been identified. There is also much evidence for the benefits of delayed cord cutting: wait until your baby has absorbed all their blood back and the cord stops pulsating and turns white. At the end of the day, Labour/birth and your baby is a personal transitional experience. You have the CHOICE. You do not need to be pushed around and told “this is what you’re going to have” etc. Learn and use the: B.R.A.I.N. It doesn’t require many “professionals” continuously disturbing you and your baby unless you are having complications.
I’m getting induced at 37 weeks on this Friday with my first baby!!! I’m nervous but I’m super excited! I need to find a pediatrician! This is stressful but a beautiful time ❤
I'm really thankful for these two most videos only talk about mom's journey. As a first time dad it's not easy to find helpful advice for myself. Baby Adrian will be here in 2 months and I still have so much to learn and do.
Just had my baby less than two weeks ago. I want to note for any expectant moms: you can decline the vitamin k n hep b shots, the pku test, n pitocin after birth if you choose - but you’ll want to tell your hospital before n they make you sign a form declining the shots n test. I was hoping to do a home birth initially but my midwives were concerned I would hemorrhage because of lower platelets so I gave birth in the hospital. I declined pitocin after birth unless needed n I ended up being fine n my bleeding went down quickly. It’s up to you to decide what goes in yours n your baby’s bodies! Be both of your advocates. If you can, pls have someone else that will be your advocates as well. I declined the pku test as well but they never provided the form to decline n it was done when I was in the shower - didn’t know until late the same day. Be vigilant n keep an eye on your baby.
My first baby was born at 34 weeks I was not prepared at all and had lung issues and was in the NICU for 10 days his neonatologist was not interested in explaining to me what was happening. He accused me of not being sure how far along I was and was very rude to me. God bless the NICU nurses they were so helpful ❤
Oh, man! First time viewer here. Wish I had access to this kind of content 19 years ago! I took all the classes and read all the books before my first baby, went to a midwife/physician clinic, etc. and was still totally shocked by the experience after birth. I knew all about labor and how hard that would be, but I never even thought about what I would feel like afterwards, besides the obvious fatigue everyone talks about. I still remember my horror when I took a shower in the hospital and felt the damage “down below” while washing. I was just not expecting it, so it was so scary! I think that (the difficulty of my physical recovery) set me up for some serous baby blues and just overall feeling of inability to cope with being a new mom. Don’t worry, we all faired well in the long run and the next two were a breeze comparatively! But thank you for sharing this content. I think it will help so many new mothers and hopefully prevent them from feeling as overwhelmed and scared as I felt.
Oh my, you really filmed the first day after birth! I remember that breathless feeling 😊 taking a shower right after birth is a challenge, every time i raised my hands above my head i nearly passed out, that sudden organ rearrangement is no joke 😅
I didn’t get that golden hour until a few hours later because I had a c section. By the time they put baby on me, I was so exhausted from a 24 hour failed induction that I literally couldn’t keep my eyes open. I was begging for someone to hold my arms up so I wouldn’t drop my baby. She’s 1 month old now and I’m just now starting to really bond with her. I hate that my relationship with her started that way, though I’m glad we’re both safe.
We're so glad you're safe too and realize now that we should have addressed how not everyone get's that "golden hour" experience. It can be very challenging physically and emotionally when the birth process doesn’t go as we hope or plan. While the golden hour is a great time for bonding, as you have already realized, it's not the only time to bond with baby. We are so glad that you and baby are bonding now, and want you to know that no craziness at the time of birth can keep you from loving that little babe and from them loving you back.
I know that first hour is so important. I know I'm not alone in being one of the many women who wasn't able to get the first hour with baby due to complications. And hearing about it so much makes me almost grieve an experience I so dearly wish I could have had. It's heart wrenching. That's nearly 4 years after my son was born it's still raw.
Don’t research too much about it. I also get sad when I remember that. We missed that precious moment but we have a healthy and very happy child. We have an entire life to make up that golden moment.
Congrats on your new baby boy! I also delivered my baby boy last week and introduced him to his toddler sister so I am right there with you mama! Thank you for being honest, and not sugarcoating the realities of this time. So many of these videos glaze over how rough postpartum can be for mama physically. So thank you and congrats
We are SO glad it is helpful!! And congratulations on your little boy!! The first pregnancy is so exciting and a little terrifying. Our hope is to make it a little less scary by helping people be informed and empowered!! Hope you are feeling great and thanks for being here with us.
I remember they had me walk to the bathroom after being stitched up and try to pee. I couldn't do it and then walking back I almost passed out. Thankfully there were enough people to hold me so I didn't hit the floor. When I got down to my postpartum room, they again had me try again and I couldn't. Finally did a few hours later so I didn't have to have a catheter--yay! I remember my stomach feeling so loose and sloshy, the pressure and swelling on my pelvic floor, and challenge it was to pee and poop. Argh, no one also told me that hormones can cause the challenge of pooing postpartum. So for the first 6-8 weeks postpartum, it hurt! Even with stool softeners and Miralax, it was not easy.... Bless you to all the women who do this!!
Congrats on the little one! 😊 Thank you so much for making this video! I’m sure you’re both exhausted with the new baby so I really appreciate you taking the time to make this video and share this vital information with us.
I am so grateful to you guys for giving us these gems of information. I'm expecting my first pretty soon and your videos help to ease my anxiety. Knowing what to expect every step of the way is such a relief. Thank you, thank you, thank you! 💕
I found your channel 2 years ago when me and my then fiance now husband started trying to conceive thanks to fertility treatments and luck we are now happily almost 5 weeks pregnant I've heard so many stories from my friends from my sister and everybody's teasing me about oh you think it's bad now just wait. Thankfully your videos have been so much help and so far knock on wood this has been a pretty easy pregnancy but it's still very early early early early days I can't wait to share these videos with my husband because we both tend to worry about our little tidbit considering how long we've waited for them thank you so much for doing what you do
Thank you for sharing your experience and honesty!! I am due in May and this is so helpful in being prepared to bring our baby boy into the world. I see a lot of negative and opinionated comments, I just want to say what you’re doing is amazing to share information with us.
So glad you mentioned the difficulty of breastfeeding, that was such a shock to me with my first. I like to think that I gave you guys inspiration for your little guy's name 😄 my Bo Henry is 4 months now. Love your honesty and vulnerability! I can't believe you filmed some just after birth - I wanted to just lie down and disappear for a few weeks 😆 Hope y'all are having a great day.
Bo Henry is an AWESOME name!! (Tho I suppose we are biased 😉) Agree 100p that breastfeeding is SO HARD. I thought it was just something that came easily and was a “natural” thing, but wow we had to work so hard to get it to work. Once we got there it was awesome, but I absolutely see why people quit. It’s can be painful, difficult, sooo time consuming, and it is really hard to find good support. Hope you and sweet little Bo are finding your groove now that he’s 4 months old. And thank you for being here with us and sharing your journey and experiences. Other mamas and parents benefit so much from hearing it and knowing they aren’t alone in the breastfeeding struggle!!!
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman Well said! My lactation consultant was truly a saint!! I knew breastfeeding would be some sort of work in progress, because I'd heard others say, "give it at least 2 weeks". I definitely was not expecting to feel like I was breastfeeding a razorblade, lol. It wasn't until 8 weeks that I found breastfeeding to be tolerable and sometimes comfortable. I've never tried the silverettes, but based on my experience I think I would've loved them. No cream ever gave me relief, but hydrogel pads (Medela) were AMAZING on cracked/blistered nipples. I think my stubbornness enabled me to keep trying, because I have a happy, healthy 4 m.o. who is a breastfeeding champ! It truly is beautiful and natural, as well as efficient for travel and financially, doesn't get much better. It has also kept me from getting back my menses; I'll be interested to see how long that continues. Love your channel and truly appreciate your kind reply!
I loved my ONGYN and you look like a really cool doctor. I tell everyone to find an OBGYN that you will love bc you will be married to that person while pregnant. Mine still delivered my babies even if she was not Oncall. Social media was not around with my first baby in 2005. Now she’s graduating in May. I love how informative you guys are!!!! Congratulations on the birth of your son!!!
I’ve not watched this yet but I’ve saved a bunch of your vids to sit down and take notes with my husband. Currently four month. I appreciate you soooo much!! You’ve put so much ease to my journey ♥️
Thank you so so much! And congratulations to you on your first pregnancy-it is a wild ride! So exciting and slightly terrifying. Glad we can be here with you as you get ready for your first baby! Hope you are feeling great and sending hope and luck for a smooth pregnancy and delivery!!
I’m giving birth overseas to my first baby and it’s been pretty terrifying 😅 it’s hard to understand what’s going on with the language barrier but your videos help me so much!
You are so incredible for recording this after giving birth, thank you so so much for this. I just had my first baby 4 weeks ago to the day and your videos helped me so much to feel prepared and calm. She was born vaginally en caul which was so so cool! Also epidurals are magical, I fully get it now haha 😂
Oh you are so welcome! And CONGRATS to you mama!! What a beautiful birth story you have--it is very rare for babies to be born en caul or "in the veil". (It actually happens in less than 1 in 80,000 births!!) I have only seen a few in my career and they are always really magical. And as you know now--SO ARE EPIDURALS!! Mine were truly life changing lol. :) Congrats again. Hope you are adjusting to life with a newborn and getting to know yourself as MAMA.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman I think you'll find a difference between "born en caul" and "in the veil", with the first the waters don't break during delivery while in the latter they do but the baby has part of the amniotic sac "veiling" the face. The 1:80,000 figure is for both however the former is far rarer still and almost invariably premature.
Thank you so much. I feel it is so important and much more useful to be honest and transparent so other mamas know what to expect!! Even as an OBGYN I was really surprised by how hard postpartum and pregnancy were, so wanted to do all we could to help others be prepared. ❤️
I miss those new born snuggles! Thank you for sharing all of this information! I wish I had these resources when I was a FTM. I was not prepared for how hard/uncomfortable PP was.
Congrats mama!! TWINS!! So exciting. Sending you smooth pregnancy vibes and hoping you are feeling great. YOU GOT THIS. Past the halfway point and sooo excited for you to meet your little ones. Babies can be exhausting but really really wonderful too❤️
There is no need to be nervous. I've had two. I was very scared the first one. The second one...not at all. Now we're trying for my third baby and I am still not scared. But mom's before me told me there's nothing to be scared of and I was still scared with my first lol. I did get the epidural and that really made it a very enjoyable experience. I am sure going natural can be enjoyable too but to each their own. No pressure one way or the other. Anyway, here I am, giving the unwelcome advice I once hated lol. Sorry about that. I just don't want you being scared.
@@Kra-ri6fd I've got a few medical conditions, amd just saw I have a marginal cord insertion on top of those which makes me even higher risk. But all that being said, if I can do it, I want a natural delivery (aside from the almost guaranteed induction) and that's scary too. All I can do is be informed and make the decisions I feel are right at the time. ❤️
You are so so welcome. THIS is exactly why we created the channel. Pregnancy is so exciting but also scary and unknown. I always find I am less anxious if I know what to expect, so our hope is these videos help you feel informed and empowered!! We are so glad you are here with us and best of luck on your journey!!
Thank you for all the information 😊 I'm in the UK and I'm also having a boy in a few weeks. I know they do things here a little differently but it's nice to see what to expect. ❤ Congratulations to you both 🎉
Sarah you look amazing. Love that you did a video in the postpartum bathroom, brings back wonderful memories. I would be interested to hear more about your decision to circumcise given that this seems to be such a heated topic in the mom communities. We circumcise but I always feel so judged.
Why do you think that is? Maybe because you feel deep down inside that it's wrong to cut into perfectly healthy babies. It's just a fashion/cultural thing created by the porn industry.
Great video. So happy for you both. Thank you for putting the energy into getting this out so quickly. I'm 36 weeks with my first and trying to soak up all the advice that I can so this is helpful as always ☺️
@Rachel Duke you are so welcome and YOU GOT THIS!! So close to meeting your little one. Sending you smooth labor vibes and hopes for a safe birth for both of you!!
I’m in Canada and some of these things are a bit different between the US and Canada We don’t do the Hep B shot right after birth It’s only the vitamin K and eye drops for baby Also I have midwife’s and stay under their care for the first 6 weeks. So we don’t go to the family dr till after 6 weeks
One thing that I didn’t know about until my 4th kiddo is that there are two types of bilirubin and both typically get tested. Indirect bili being elevated means you need to nurse more, sunlight, and maybe the light blanket. Direct bili being elevated means there’s a liver issue. My youngest was born with biliary atresia and didn’t know it was even a thing!
You’re absolutely amazing ❤ I’m not expecting but it will be about time in another year or so and birth is terrifying to me as it is to so many other women. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video and all of your other ones. ❤❤❤ helps me feel better when I’m empowered with knowledge. It’s nice not to go in blind :)
There isn’t anything special for a baby. It’s natural and there’s no injury. Dr. told me just do NOT ever try to retract the foreskin, or it can be incredibly painful and harm the baby. It will retract when they’re older. As males get older, you explain to them how to bathe and clean ones penis properly.
Can you make a video explaining why you do circumcision? My husband and I are from different cultures, and for him it's natural and for me it seems really unintuitive why you'd cut parts off the baby if you don't have to.
Yes! We realize that this topic needs a dedicated episode as it is not a routine practice for male infants across the globe. For many, this is a religious decision and/or societal norm. The procedure is safe and completed with local anesthesia. There is additional data that circumcision is associated with decreased rates of urinary tract infections in young boys and in elderly men, as well as lower rates of sexually transmitted infections, penile cancer, and other penile issues. However, these are notably small differences, and not a standard reason for performing the procedure.
@@fsihfhsifihsfshifhis Follow your maternal instinct. In other parts of the world, people don't circumcise and they are fine. Show your husband a video of circumcision (of any age). It is quite painful. I disagree with the two doctors here about pain and the medical benefits. Alas, they are probably trained in the U.S.
@@nickj6138 as an American that grew up in the EU, I completely agree. The studies showing links between increased risk of contracting an STD largely seemed circumstantial, and conducted using participants that weren’t conclusively following a control protocol, and it doesn’t really distinguish whether this increased risk was in any way related to their sexual education levels or how effectively they used protective measures like condoms. Also didn’t take into account lifestyle differences, if I remember correctly. At the end of the day, circumcision in America is HIGHLY the result of stigma and social pressure, and if I have a son, I will not be circumcising unless it is either medically necessary, or he decides that’s what he wants when he is older.
Wow! Twins!? Hope All goes well. Bless you and the babies. I couldn’t image doing that. I’m with my first boy. And this is all so much info one needs to know 😩
Wow filming a video so early postpartum! I couldn’t imagine. As an artist, I barely worked on my art for months. I was working on one piece for like 6 months.
Every postpartum journey is a little different, but we always try to be transparent and share to help other parents prepare!! Sounds like you gave yourself the grace and time you needed to get back to your new normal and your work!!
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman For sure, it's awesome that you feel well enough to still make videos for all of us. I wish you guys well! I hope to be pregnant with number 2 this year :)
It’s so funny because I’m watching this a second time mom and you were mentioning nurses cleaning you up & taking the epidural out, labor was such a blur I honestly don’t remember much…. Haha! This time around I hope to have a calmer labor experience with hopefully no heart decels 🙏 also, congrats on baby!!!
Absolutely! We owe this an episode as there is some debate about circumcision/ethics, etc. We definitely want to discuss the pros/cons/debate in more depth. We actually talked about it a little bit but now realize we didn’t put that footage in cause the video was getting long. 🙈 So keep your eyes out for that episode coming soon!!
That would be a completely wrong approach to a harmful cultural practice, a form of legitimising it! In the case of the American medicalised male exclusive form it is very easy, if you wouldn't cut your daughter why would you cut your son?
@@fritnat I understand where you are coming from. If I had a son I’m sure I’m more on the side of not getting him circumcised. But they had their son circumcised and they themselves are doctors so I wanted to know what lead them down to that decision. It’s a tough decision and education on it from a great source I think would help people make a more informed decision. It’s not right to make decisions for others just because one believes one thing over another.
@@bbrittany38 No sorry but you don't. It is wrong, very wrong, that countries around the world condone this harmful cultural practice in the case of boys and don't give them the protection girls enjoy. It should never be considered a parental choice as you consider it. They may be doctors but doctors are not immune to conforming to the norms of their culture even when it goes against their oath to do no harm. It should never be considered a tough decision not to put one's child through such a harmful practice branding is. Education is often touted as the way forward against such practices however this example demonstrates this is far from always the case. A study has shown that even when parents are fully aware of the harm they still choose to put their children through it when it is expected of them in their community. Pressure on states to live up to their duty to protect their most vulnerable citizens is what is needed and that necessarily involves shaming them into action and by extension practicing communities not least medical professionals aiding in passing it off as medicine.
@disjunction66 You are so welcome! Glad they are helpful-totally believe knowledge is power and patients deserve to know this stuff so they can feel informed and empowered. The unknown is scary!! So the more you know, hopefully there is less fear!!
What a rockstar 🤩 love your videos. You look super healthy and calm and prepared. So positive and reassuring ❤ makes me positive and exciting to have a second in the future
Can you guys make a video on what to expect after an emergency delivery. There's thousands of videos for regular deliveries and nothing could've prepared me for giving birth to my son at 29 weeks after getting severe eclampsia and losing my eyesight, continuous mag drip and not meeting my son for 3 days, and how hard it was too try to pump and recover and be a mother after complications. There's too many of us who go through complicated deliveries and there's absolutely no resources online that can help us deal with those situations.
Oh Jericka. What a birth story-it sounds so traumatic and hard and like you were SO SICK. Thankful you are here to tell the story. Thank you for the idea for an episode and we will add it to our short list!
Completely agree Jericka! So many of us with emergencies that are never addressed in the normal delivery and postpartum stories… it’s like our stories don’t matter since they’re not the perfect birth narrative. I would love to see more stories like ours. Sending you love and strength! ❤
@@rebeccaconradadams1082 definitely!! And there's so many of us out here!!. As a first time mom i had no idea what i was doing then. Now I'm pregnant again and because of how severe it all was it could happen again and having information would make such a big difference.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman thank you so much. Thanks to my amazing medical team we're both great. I hope i don't go through the same thing again with this new pregnancy though.
Thank you for this video. I really appreciate the details, people say you deliver baby then placenta see a lactation consultant, then go home after a while. Nothing mentioned about caring for sore penis after circumcision or how to deal with meconium or that the birth certificate isn't just simply given to you after you fill out the names.
My hospital did not provide any of the items that you talked about like the ice pack pad. And for a lot of the things I had to go out of my way and ask for them specifically like pads, mesh undies, etc. because they weren’t just given. Also I was induced on a Friday and didn’t give birth until 4:19pm, so there weren’t any lactation consultants available during my hospital stay because it was the weekend. During my stay I was having a very difficult time breast feeding and she would not feed. She would latch and then immediately fall asleep. We tried everything to try to keep her awake. I was severely depressed because I couldn’t get her to feed and I kept asking for help and not receiving any. Then by the time we saw the pediatrician on Tuesday I get scolded for my baby losing too much weight and not supplementing with formula. At that point I was so down both me and my husband left that appointment in tears and I went to exclusively pumping because of it all. I was going to have to pump when I went back to work, but this is not the journey I would have chosen.
Thank you so much for sharing this video! My second child was born with a CCHD and thankfully a lovely L&D nurse noticed symptoms that were off. I don’t believe using a pulse ox is standard practice in Canada, I’m in Ontario. It definitely should be as my son’s heart defect (TGA) is apparently fairly easy to miss at anatomy scans.
I’m getting ready to have my 5th child. I really don’t want to stay in the hospital after birth. However, I do know that post delivery care is very important. Is there any way the baby and I can set up outpatient care rather than staying in the hospital? I definitely will be discussing this at my next appointment. Just wanted some feedback from other’s experience.
Did you deliver at st joes hospital in Ypsilanti/Ann arbor? I had my daughter there in January 2021 and my son in October 2022 (21 months apart). I had amazing nurses and doctors! Congrats on your little new one! I hope your daughter enjoys her baby brother as much as my daughter enjoys “her” new baby. I love your guys videos I wish I found your channel before I had my babies but still get so much out of them. Thank you for always being so honest and down to Earth meanwhile giving us evidence based information!
Hey guys! Love your videos and all the great educational information you provide! This one was a bit difficult for me though. You spoke a lot about how crucial the “golden hour” is, trying to nurse, skin to skin with mom etc, etc. Unfortunately however, postpartum looks really different for everyone. Not everyone gets the privilege of getting that hour. In my case, my son was born preterm and was taken to the nicu right away. I’m thankful I did not see this video in those early days, as compounding all of the benefits my child and i missed out on in addition to just how difficult that time was, would have been far too difficult for me. I think for future reference, it may be in better taste to just state how different this time looks for everyone, but what you guys chose to do, and why you made those choices. That would help keep it educational, with out feeling like those who chose or were forced to do something different, did something “wrong”.
@Kristina Good thank you so much for feeling like you could share here as others may have those feelings too and we always want to have space for that. Postpartum (and the first 24 hours) absolutely look different for everyone and the most CRUCIAL things are that mom and baby are safe!! And for some (many) that may mean having baby whisked off to the NICU or mom needing care that doesn’t allow for skin to skin, the golden hour, etc. There is no RIGHT way for it to look, and I’m so sorry if this made you feel that way or like you missed out. There are many things to grieve and process when your baby goes to NICU or you don’t have the birth experience you expected and we can totally see how some of this might have been triggering. There are benefits of the golden hour certainly, but none more important than your babe getting the amazing NICU care he needed. And all the things that happen can totally be established later. All that to say, praying your little one did well in the NICU and that you had support as well. Postpartum is hard enough when there are no complications-then you add NICU visits and a preemie and it’s just a LOT.
It should probably be mentioned that the golden hour is not likely possible if you have a C-section. I got a few precious minutes of skin to skin with my babe after my C-section, but she was taken away for vitals and I was getting stitched up etc. Our golden time was an hour or so later, but it was still beautiful and amazing. 🥰
@@kiki-90 You will do great! Try to stay calm and in the moment. Remember your sweet baby's birth can still be memorable even if it's not the "traditional" way. I embraced the fact that I had no stress worrying about going into labor, when that would happen, where it would happen etc. Congrats on your soon-to-be little one! 🎉
I had a vaginal birth with also 3rd degree perineal tear so I had to be stitched up right after so I didn’t get to get that golden hour at the very first moment but by husband did. It didn’t and don’t matter anyways because you are going to have thousand of boding moments with your baby anyways.
@kellymichele30 thank you so much for your comment and sharing this here. We realized we should have addressed how not everyone get's that immediate "golden hour" experience, and that it may be delayed for some. It sounds like that was your experience and that is still SO AMAZING and so so valuable. Thanks for sharing that for the other c-section mamas here!!
Uhhh regarding lifting we have a saying in Germany: Mama should not lift more than her babys weight for for early portpartum. No, not even the carseat.
As an OBYGN who has been through childbirth multiple times now, what are your thoughts on birth doulas? I’m so nervous about the delivery and my husband and I are both first time parents and I feel like someone knowledgeable “on our team” would be really comforting. Thoughts??
Y’all are so calming and soothing. I’m pregnant with my first and y’all put me at ease!
Same!
Same!
I’m pregnant with my first due feb 2024 and you went over so much I didn’t realize happens those first 24 hours. I feel more aware and prepared for what’s to come. Thanks for making this video, so helpful! ☺️
I am too! Good luck mama!
Also do Feb!
We are also expecting late February. Good luck everyone!
same here
How are you and baby doing??❤️
My doctor immediately cut the cord and the nurse took baby for a bath within 15 minutes of birth while my husband stepped out. To birth the placenta, the nurse was pushing repeatly on my abdomen with such force, it was excruciating. Not all doctors in the U.S. automatically do the things they discussed in this video, so you MUST be your own advocate - which can be difficult immediately after givinf birth. Pregnant with my second child and we will not be circumcizing. Wishing the US was more up to date on what's best for babies.
I'm pretty shocked they circumcized their baby and are advocating for others to do it too. It does not seem like there are any real medical benefits to doing it; it's just an unfortunate cultural trapping.
@@ladycaticorn2950 That's trendy in the US. Guess because of the porn industry. People will make excuses that it's more hygenic but that's been thoroughly debunked. Amazing that people are mutilating their baby just for looks. Especially if you're a natal/child healthcare professional.
In Europe that is not something that is done.... Maybe for some cultural beliefs, but not something that is done at all.... At least as much I know.
The best way to have a birth with up to date safe practices is to hire a midwife! The medical industry in the US is bought out by big pharma. All you have to do is request the inserts for the vaccines and shots they give at birth to realize they 1. are puppets following what they are told and don't think for themselves, and 2. just want to do as much as possible to get as much money from you (or your insurance) as possible!
@@ladycaticorn2950there’s literally no benefit and the only “benefits” it has can simply be taught to boys without circumcising. People are just so lazy to actually step up and parent their kid that they’d rather mutilate their genitals than actually take the time to teach them basic bodily care. Most men I’ve seen all have a sort of resentment for being circumcised, and most of that resentment is due to nobody caring about how they’d feel about it as a grown adult.
Ummmm soo Sarah is a total goddess warrior!! I can’t believe she was teaching us about the postpartum room right after giving birth. Talk about dedication. ❤
Kurt agrees! Sarah is a total rockstar!
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman and so are you for being an awesome support person!
Wow. Birth kind of seems scary
You are so helpful! So grateful that you were willing to film for our benefit in your first 24 hours - makes us first time expectant parents feel so much more in the know. We appreciate you!
Yay!! That is why we created this channel-we want other parents to feel informed and knowledgeable!! Knowledge is power and we hope it helps you have a better pregnancy and birth experience. Thanks for being here and following along with us!
Delayed cord clamping helps prevent jaundice and it’s severity. Waiting atleast two minutes is what is recommended now. If your doctor tries to clamp is sooner then ask them to please wait just another minute or two. Waiting will cause no harm to mother or baby.
I am actually thankful to hear all this step by step. I know a woman who was NOT cleaned after birth at all. Her husband had to get wipes and try and help clean her up. Of course because he didn't know what to do or where to be gentle it was a painful process. Getting ready to give birth myself I keep hearing everything that is left out. Knowing what to ask for and what treatment we should be getting is key!
Knowledge is power!! Our hope is that the information we provide here helps birthing mamas and patients be knowledgeable and know what to expect so they feel empowered & advocate for themselves and their experience!! Sending you all the smooth labor vibes and hopes for a safe delivery for you soon!! You got this!
Many of your videos have been helpful, but I think this was the most helpful of all. As I stumbled to the bathroom of my hospital room, legs still weakened by the epidural, and activated another cold pad, I replayed this video in my head, thinking "this is normal, expected, I got this."
Thank you for taking the time and effort to make this video when you had so much else on your plate.
One pointer - Instead of using creams, you can rub a little breastmilk on the nipple after pumping or feeding, and it helps for them not to dry and crack. That's been working great for me for pumping almost 13 months
This is literally the only thing I found to heal a cut (bite wound 😬) when my baby was 9 months - its the simplest thing but nothing else helped! Let it air dry if you can too!
I’m 5 weeks away from my second and I can’t believe how good you look after just having your second!! ❤❤
Thank you! We wish you and your babe a safe birth, and a "smooth" start to being a mother of 2! It's a wild ride.
I had so much birth trauma with my son almost 8 months ago, it was nice to watch this and think about all of the things (good and bad) that I don’t remember.
The grin that her husband made when she said “the vagina is truly an amazing thing.” 😂😂 you can see the agreement all over his face! Thanks for the advice Docs, us expecting mothers appreciate it.
"This is the time for circumcision standardly for most people in the U.S": While it may be a common practice in the US, circumcision is not a necessary or beneficial procedure. In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend routine circumcision, and many medical professionals around the world do not support it either.
"It needs to be done later by a neurologist": There are many reasons why a circumcision may need to be performed later in life, such as medical conditions or personal choice. However, it should only be done when absolutely necessary and with proper anaesthesia.
"Local anesthetic and sugar water is able to like help keep the baby calm and comfortable during that procedure": While local anaesthesia can help alleviate pain, the procedure itself is still painful and traumatic for the baby. Infants are not able to provide informed consent, and subjecting them to unnecessary pain and risk is unethical.
"After that time the skin actually changes and it just becomes like more difficult to do the procedure more bleeding Associated and other things too and so yeah doing it in that first couple days of life is really helpful": This claim is not entirely accurate. While the skin may be thinner and easier to cut in the first few days of life, it is also more delicate and prone to infection. Waiting until the child is older and can make their own informed decision is a more ethical and safe option.
"In those first you know 24 hours after they have their circumcision done their their little their penis is a little sore and raw and you have to keep a lot of Vaseline on it constantly": This statement confirms that the procedure causes pain and discomfort for the baby and that constant care and maintenance are necessary to prevent complications. This reinforces the argument that circumcision is unnecessary and puts the infant at risk.
In conclusion, circumcision is a personal choice that should be made by the individual when they are old enough to provide informed consent. Infants should not be subjected to unnecessary pain and risk for a procedure that has no medical benefit. Alternative methods of hygiene can be used to maintain penile health, and routine circumcision should not be considered the norm.
AGREEEEEDDD
Lmao informed consent … it’s a piece of skin they’re cutting off, they aren’t castrating the kid. Calm down.
@@f.s.2642 All published circumcision videos show that those who are circumcised without adequate anaesthetic treatment (anaesthesia or anaesthetic), suffer immense pain. Infants fall regularly into shock as a reaction to the pain, when being circumcised without effective anaesthesia. This shock is often misinterpreted and the parents believe that their baby would have simply slept through.
Actually, in some traditional ritual forms of circumcision not only the outer foreskin} is cut up or off, but rather even the (inner) foreskin is torn down. The comparison with pulling off a patch is safe only from the point of view of the person who tear down the patch or the foreskin, but not from the point of view of the child who suffers the pain. It is at least not a single case known in which a mohel fell in shock after circumcision, while it is regularly in only a few days old boys. Therefore, this comparison is more than cynical.
The foreskin of an infant firstly is connected with the glans and thus serves to protect it from everything. One can compare the state of the physiological connection between internal foreskin and glans with the way how fingernails are connected to the underlying tissue.
@@f.s.2642I mean…I’m glad I got to keep ALL the skin on all body parts I was born with? 🤷🏻♀️ would I remember now 37 years later, probably not but I’m still glad. Those nerve endings never grow back and as a newborn you have no voice in what is done to your body. How awful!
I got my ears pierced at 2 and babies get tons of shots. There’s nothing “traumatizing” about an event or pain they won’t remember. They are brand new, everything is scary. Also every single man I have ever met is happy they were cut, so why wouldn’t I bestow that gift on my son?
Let parents do what the fuck they want with their kids, preaching doesn’t do anything but cause undue stress on parents of newborns.
Lots of good advice generally. However, I’d like to point out a few things: a women in a coma can give birth to a baby. It is a natural physiological process that DOES NOT necessitate intervention. You might want to consider the possibility of Hypnobirthing; breathing techniques; tens machines; water birthing etc. ALL interventions have consequences. For example: epidural and opioid analgesics can increase drowsiness and nausea/vomiting in the mother and can cause the baby to be unresponsive or have breathing problems when born. Having a caesarean increases the chances of placenta issues and complications in subsequent pregnancies and means you are more likely to need another caesarean. It also has effects on the baby’s breathing as the mucus is not squeezed out as it would be vaginally, not to mention the bonding hormones that are released as the baby is born vaginally. Of course, there are emergency (less than 30minutes fast intervention times) reasons why a caesarean is necessary, but for the vast majority of women, they have been told a caesarean is an emergency (then wait an hour +)- this is not a life/death emergency.
Forceps increase the risk of bleeding in your baby’s brain due to the trauma. However, the statistics for clotting complications are 1:9500 (UK figures) and are usually caused by risk factors such as low platelets and haemophilia. If your baby does not have these risk factors, consider why you would need to give your baby Vitamin K. In ED we only give vit K to patients who are actively haemorrhaging. There are countries in Europe that do not routinely administer this treatment unless risk factors have been identified.
There is also much evidence for the benefits of delayed cord cutting: wait until your baby has absorbed all their blood back and the cord stops pulsating and turns white.
At the end of the day, Labour/birth and your baby is a personal transitional experience. You have the CHOICE. You do not need to be pushed around and told “this is what you’re going to have” etc. Learn and use the: B.R.A.I.N.
It doesn’t require many “professionals” continuously disturbing you and your baby unless you are having complications.
I’m getting induced at 37 weeks on this Friday with my first baby!!! I’m nervous but I’m super excited! I need to find a pediatrician! This is stressful but a beautiful time ❤
did you get induced because you were in some sort of danger?
I'm really thankful for these two most videos only talk about mom's journey. As a first time dad it's not easy to find helpful advice for myself. Baby Adrian will be here in 2 months and I still have so much to learn and do.
Just had my baby less than two weeks ago. I want to note for any expectant moms: you can decline the vitamin k n hep b shots, the pku test, n pitocin after birth if you choose - but you’ll want to tell your hospital before n they make you sign a form declining the shots n test. I was hoping to do a home birth initially but my midwives were concerned I would hemorrhage because of lower platelets so I gave birth in the hospital. I declined pitocin after birth unless needed n I ended up being fine n my bleeding went down quickly. It’s up to you to decide what goes in yours n your baby’s bodies! Be both of your advocates. If you can, pls have someone else that will be your advocates as well. I declined the pku test as well but they never provided the form to decline n it was done when I was in the shower - didn’t know until late the same day. Be vigilant n keep an eye on your baby.
Thank you for this comment
My first baby was born at 34 weeks I was not prepared at all and had lung issues and was in the NICU for 10 days his neonatologist was not interested in explaining to me what was happening. He accused me of not being sure how far along I was and was very rude to me. God bless the NICU nurses they were so helpful ❤
💔💔💔💔I hate hearing this 😖😖 it breaks my heart
Oh, man! First time viewer here.
Wish I had access to this kind of content 19 years ago! I took all the classes and read all the books before my first baby, went to a midwife/physician clinic, etc. and was still totally shocked by the experience after birth. I knew all about labor and how hard that would be, but I never even thought about what I would feel like afterwards, besides the obvious fatigue everyone talks about. I still remember my horror when I took a shower in the hospital and felt the damage “down below” while washing. I was just not expecting it, so it was so scary! I think that (the difficulty of my physical recovery) set me up for some serous baby blues and just overall feeling of inability to cope with being a new mom. Don’t worry, we all faired well in the long run and the next two were a breeze comparatively! But thank you for sharing this content. I think it will help so many new mothers and hopefully prevent them from feeling as overwhelmed and scared as I felt.
Oh my, you really filmed the first day after birth! I remember that breathless feeling 😊 taking a shower right after birth is a challenge, every time i raised my hands above my head i nearly passed out, that sudden organ rearrangement is no joke 😅
I didn’t get that golden hour until a few hours later because I had a c section. By the time they put baby on me, I was so exhausted from a 24 hour failed induction that I literally couldn’t keep my eyes open. I was begging for someone to hold my arms up so I wouldn’t drop my baby. She’s 1 month old now and I’m just now starting to really bond with her. I hate that my relationship with her started that way, though I’m glad we’re both safe.
We're so glad you're safe too and realize now that we should have addressed how not everyone get's that "golden hour" experience. It can be very challenging physically and emotionally when the birth process doesn’t go as we hope or plan.
While the golden hour is a great time for bonding, as you have already realized, it's not the only time to bond with baby. We are so glad that you and baby are bonding now, and want you to know that no craziness at the time of birth can keep you from loving that little babe and from them loving you back.
I know that first hour is so important. I know I'm not alone in being one of the many women who wasn't able to get the first hour with baby due to complications. And hearing about it so much makes me almost grieve an experience I so dearly wish I could have had. It's heart wrenching. That's nearly 4 years after my son was born it's still raw.
Don’t research too much about it. I also get sad when I remember that. We missed that precious moment but we have a healthy and very happy child. We have an entire life to make up that golden moment.
Congrats on your new baby boy! I also delivered my baby boy last week and introduced him to his toddler sister so I am right there with you mama! Thank you for being honest, and not sugarcoating the realities of this time. So many of these videos glaze over how rough postpartum can be for mama physically. So thank you and congrats
Can't tell you how much I appreciate yalls channel! I am learning so much, so thank you! I am currently 22 weeks and we are having a boy🥰
We are SO glad it is helpful!! And congratulations on your little boy!! The first pregnancy is so exciting and a little terrifying. Our hope is to make it a little less scary by helping people be informed and empowered!! Hope you are feeling great and thanks for being here with us.
@The Doctors Bjorkman aww thank you so much and for responding!
I remember they had me walk to the bathroom after being stitched up and try to pee. I couldn't do it and then walking back I almost passed out. Thankfully there were enough people to hold me so I didn't hit the floor. When I got down to my postpartum room, they again had me try again and I couldn't. Finally did a few hours later so I didn't have to have a catheter--yay! I remember my stomach feeling so loose and sloshy, the pressure and swelling on my pelvic floor, and challenge it was to pee and poop. Argh, no one also told me that hormones can cause the challenge of pooing postpartum. So for the first 6-8 weeks postpartum, it hurt! Even with stool softeners and Miralax, it was not easy....
Bless you to all the women who do this!!
Congrats on the little one! 😊 Thank you so much for making this video! I’m sure you’re both exhausted with the new baby so I really appreciate you taking the time to make this video and share this vital information with us.
I am so grateful to you guys for giving us these gems of information. I'm expecting my first pretty soon and your videos help to ease my anxiety. Knowing what to expect every step of the way is such a relief. Thank you, thank you, thank you! 💕
The best part of my recovery other than the baby herself was the blood transfusions to treat my PPH. Game changer. I felt SOOO much better afterwards!
I am 30 weeks pregnant with my third baby. This video is very informative that I saved it and I watch it over and over. Thank you!❤❤❤❤
I found your channel 2 years ago when me and my then fiance now husband started trying to conceive thanks to fertility treatments and luck we are now happily almost 5 weeks pregnant I've heard so many stories from my friends from my sister and everybody's teasing me about oh you think it's bad now just wait. Thankfully your videos have been so much help and so far knock on wood this has been a pretty easy pregnancy but it's still very early early early early days I can't wait to share these videos with my husband because we both tend to worry about our little tidbit considering how long we've waited for them thank you so much for doing what you do
Thank you for sharing your experience and honesty!! I am due in May and this is so helpful in being prepared to bring our baby boy into the world. I see a lot of negative and opinionated comments, I just want to say what you’re doing is amazing to share information with us.
Thank you for sharing the details and offering knowledge, advice, and guidance to women everywhere! 🙏 💝
About to have a baby via c-section anytime now.. so happy with the videos, and glad you’ll do a newborn series this time… perfect timing 🤣
Sending you all the smooth c-section vibes!! Praying you have an easy recovery and safe delivery. So excited for you to meet your little one so soon!!
So glad you mentioned the difficulty of breastfeeding, that was such a shock to me with my first. I like to think that I gave you guys inspiration for your little guy's name 😄 my Bo Henry is 4 months now. Love your honesty and vulnerability! I can't believe you filmed some just after birth - I wanted to just lie down and disappear for a few weeks 😆 Hope y'all are having a great day.
Bo Henry is an AWESOME name!! (Tho I suppose we are biased 😉) Agree 100p that breastfeeding is SO HARD. I thought it was just something that came easily and was a “natural” thing, but wow we had to work so hard to get it to work. Once we got there it was awesome, but I absolutely see why people quit. It’s can be painful, difficult, sooo time consuming, and it is really hard to find good support. Hope you and sweet little Bo are finding your groove now that he’s 4 months old. And thank you for being here with us and sharing your journey and experiences. Other mamas and parents benefit so much from hearing it and knowing they aren’t alone in the breastfeeding struggle!!!
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman Well said! My lactation consultant was truly a saint!! I knew breastfeeding would be some sort of work in progress, because I'd heard others say, "give it at least 2 weeks". I definitely was not expecting to feel like I was breastfeeding a razorblade, lol. It wasn't until 8 weeks that I found breastfeeding to be tolerable and sometimes comfortable. I've never tried the silverettes, but based on my experience I think I would've loved them. No cream ever gave me relief, but hydrogel pads (Medela) were AMAZING on cracked/blistered nipples. I think my stubbornness enabled me to keep trying, because I have a happy, healthy 4 m.o. who is a breastfeeding champ! It truly is beautiful and natural, as well as efficient for travel and financially, doesn't get much better. It has also kept me from getting back my menses; I'll be interested to see how long that continues.
Love your channel and truly appreciate your kind reply!
I loved my ONGYN and you look like a really cool doctor. I tell everyone to find an OBGYN that you will love bc you will be married to that person while pregnant. Mine still delivered my babies even if she was not Oncall. Social media was not around with my first baby in 2005. Now she’s graduating in May. I love how informative you guys are!!!! Congratulations on the birth of your son!!!
I’ve not watched this yet but I’ve saved a bunch of your vids to sit down and take notes with my husband. Currently four month. I appreciate you soooo much!! You’ve put so much ease to my journey ♥️
Love that you say bonding with family instead of bonding with mom. We love some inclusive language!
You guys are the best, I love having you on my first pregnancy journey! Wishing you and your family health and happiness!
Thank you so so much! And congratulations to you on your first pregnancy-it is a wild ride! So exciting and slightly terrifying. Glad we can be here with you as you get ready for your first baby! Hope you are feeling great and sending hope and luck for a smooth pregnancy and delivery!!
❤thank you soo much! ❤
I’m giving birth overseas to my first baby and it’s been pretty terrifying 😅 it’s hard to understand what’s going on with the language barrier but your videos help me so much!
You are so incredible for recording this after giving birth, thank you so so much for this. I just had my first baby 4 weeks ago to the day and your videos helped me so much to feel prepared and calm. She was born vaginally en caul which was so so cool! Also epidurals are magical, I fully get it now haha 😂
Oh you are so welcome! And CONGRATS to you mama!! What a beautiful birth story you have--it is very rare for babies to be born en caul or "in the veil". (It actually happens in less than 1 in 80,000 births!!) I have only seen a few in my career and they are always really magical. And as you know now--SO ARE EPIDURALS!! Mine were truly life changing lol. :) Congrats again. Hope you are adjusting to life with a newborn and getting to know yourself as MAMA.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman I think you'll find a difference between "born en caul" and "in the veil", with the first the waters don't break during delivery while in the latter they do but the baby has part of the amniotic sac "veiling" the face. The 1:80,000 figure is for both however the former is far rarer still and almost invariably premature.
Congratulations on the birth of your baby!
Thank you so so much!
After baby contractions where a shock. That's something I'd let new moms know 😊 great video guys. And congratulations on your adorable new baby son 😁
I’m due in 3 months with my first, thank you so much for sharing, it helps me feel more prepared!
Great job mama !!! I hope you heal quickly ! 💗💗💗💗 thank you for being so open and sharing!
Thank you so much. I feel it is so important and much more useful to be honest and transparent so other mamas know what to expect!! Even as an OBGYN I was really surprised by how hard postpartum and pregnancy were, so wanted to do all we could to help others be prepared. ❤️
I miss those new born snuggles! Thank you for sharing all of this information! I wish I had these resources when I was a FTM. I was not prepared for how hard/uncomfortable PP was.
So happy your baby come into the world happy and healthy 💕 congratulations
I’m 24 weeks pregnant with twins and this is my first pregnancy. Thank you so much for this!
Congrats mama!! TWINS!! So exciting. Sending you smooth pregnancy vibes and hoping you are feeling great. YOU GOT THIS. Past the halfway point and sooo excited for you to meet your little ones. Babies can be exhausting but really really wonderful too❤️
I'm having my first baby in 9 days in Aoteroa New Zealand and this was really helpful, thank you!
Thank y'all for sharing all this information. I love hearing from your point of views at doctors and parents.
Congratulations on your 2nd baby ❤️
This was so helpful for FTM! Thank you so much for the tips and detailed breakdown of what to expect.
Love how you explained this. I'm 16 weeks. Not nervous yet, but I'm getting there.
Thank you and good luck!
There is no need to be nervous. I've had two. I was very scared the first one. The second one...not at all. Now we're trying for my third baby and I am still not scared. But mom's before me told me there's nothing to be scared of and I was still scared with my first lol. I did get the epidural and that really made it a very enjoyable experience. I am sure going natural can be enjoyable too but to each their own. No pressure one way or the other. Anyway, here I am, giving the unwelcome advice I once hated lol. Sorry about that. I just don't want you being scared.
@@Kra-ri6fd I've got a few medical conditions, amd just saw I have a marginal cord insertion on top of those which makes me even higher risk. But all that being said, if I can do it, I want a natural delivery (aside from the almost guaranteed induction) and that's scary too. All I can do is be informed and make the decisions I feel are right at the time. ❤️
Thank you so much for your videos, I feel less anxious after listening to your videos
You are so so welcome. THIS is exactly why we created the channel. Pregnancy is so exciting but also scary and unknown. I always find I am less anxious if I know what to expect, so our hope is these videos help you feel informed and empowered!! We are so glad you are here with us and best of luck on your journey!!
This was an awesome video! I'm due in a few months (with my first) and I'm so thankful you were willing to share this information!
Thank you so much, and best of luck to you and your little one!
My baby girl is due January 4th, 2024 ❤ This video was very informative. Thank You 😇💓
Thank you for all the information 😊 I'm in the UK and I'm also having a boy in a few weeks. I know they do things here a little differently but it's nice to see what to expect. ❤ Congratulations to you both 🎉
Thank you so much for all the explanation! My scheduled c section is in 2 weeks and I am quite nervous! Congratulations ❤❤❤ baby boy is so so so cute
Thank you for your knowledge. However I am so surprised that circumcising is such a common practise in some parts of the world still.
Sarah you look amazing. Love that you did a video in the postpartum bathroom, brings back wonderful memories. I would be interested to hear more about your decision to circumcise given that this seems to be such a heated topic in the mom communities. We circumcise but I always feel so judged.
Why do you think that is? Maybe because you feel deep down inside that it's wrong to cut into perfectly healthy babies. It's just a fashion/cultural thing created by the porn industry.
Great video. So happy for you both. Thank you for putting the energy into getting this out so quickly. I'm 36 weeks with my first and trying to soak up all the advice that I can so this is helpful as always ☺️
@Rachel Duke you are so welcome and YOU GOT THIS!! So close to meeting your little one. Sending you smooth labor vibes and hopes for a safe birth for both of you!!
I’m in Canada and some of these things are a bit different between the US and Canada
We don’t do the Hep B shot right after birth
It’s only the vitamin K and eye drops for baby
Also I have midwife’s and stay under their care for the first 6 weeks. So we don’t go to the family dr till after 6 weeks
Your dedication is incredible! Thank you for making this video.
Ok soooo besides the point, but the Nancy Wheeler resemblance is amazing!
One thing that I didn’t know about until my 4th kiddo is that there are two types of bilirubin and both typically get tested. Indirect bili being elevated means you need to nurse more, sunlight, and maybe the light blanket. Direct bili being elevated means there’s a liver issue. My youngest was born with biliary atresia and didn’t know it was even a thing!
You’re absolutely amazing ❤ I’m not expecting but it will be about time in another year or so and birth is terrifying to me as it is to so many other women. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video and all of your other ones. ❤❤❤ helps me feel better when I’m empowered with knowledge. It’s nice not to go in blind :)
Would love to hear any special care instructions for those of us who don’t choose circumcision (since that’s not standard in Europe).
You don't have to do anything with it. Don't retract the foreskin. Wash it like you would wash a finger
Do NOT pull back the foreskin. I just saw a video by a german midwife about it.
There isn’t anything special for a baby. It’s natural and there’s no injury. Dr. told me just do NOT ever try to retract the foreskin, or it can be incredibly painful and harm the baby. It will retract when they’re older. As males get older, you explain to them how to bathe and clean ones penis properly.
You don’t need to do anything special. Clean what is seen.
Congratulations for having your baby
Congratulations!! 🎉 Just wondering what your reasons behind circumcising Bo was and your thought process behind it as medical professionals!
So helpful thank you!
so so so helpful. Can't thank you guys enough.
Can you make a video explaining why you do circumcision? My husband and I are from different cultures, and for him it's natural and for me it seems really unintuitive why you'd cut parts off the baby if you don't have to.
Yes! We realize that this topic needs a dedicated episode as it is not a routine practice for male infants across the globe. For many, this is a religious decision and/or societal norm. The procedure is safe and completed with local anesthesia. There is additional data that circumcision is associated with decreased rates of urinary tract infections in young boys and in elderly men, as well as lower rates of sexually transmitted infections, penile cancer, and other penile issues. However, these are notably small differences, and not a standard reason for performing the procedure.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman really appreciate the thoughtful answer!
@@fsihfhsifihsfshifhis Follow your maternal instinct. In other parts of the world, people don't circumcise and they are fine. Show your husband a video of circumcision (of any age). It is quite painful. I disagree with the two doctors here about pain and the medical benefits. Alas, they are probably trained in the U.S.
Here boys who have issues might be circumsized as teens/pre-teens if doctors recomend. But most of them aren't. UTIs and STDs are still rare.
@@nickj6138 as an American that grew up in the EU, I completely agree. The studies showing links between increased risk of contracting an STD largely seemed circumstantial, and conducted using participants that weren’t conclusively following a control protocol, and it doesn’t really distinguish whether this increased risk was in any way related to their sexual education levels or how effectively they used protective measures like condoms. Also didn’t take into account lifestyle differences, if I remember correctly. At the end of the day, circumcision in America is HIGHLY the result of stigma and social pressure, and if I have a son, I will not be circumcising unless it is either medically necessary, or he decides that’s what he wants when he is older.
Thank you so much for the information ❤🙏🏻 and the time you put 🙏🏻 however I get more scared as I listen 😅🫣🫣 I’m due in January
Watching this 4 mo pregnant with twins thinking to myself "what the f#ck did I get myself into" 😭
Wow! Twins!? Hope
All goes well. Bless you and the babies. I couldn’t image doing that. I’m with my first boy. And this is all so much info one needs to know 😩
Congratulations on your baby boy!
Wonderful Wonderful video, thanku for the heads up !
Wow filming a video so early postpartum! I couldn’t imagine. As an artist, I barely worked on my art for months. I was working on one piece for like 6 months.
Every postpartum journey is a little different, but we always try to be transparent and share to help other parents prepare!! Sounds like you gave yourself the grace and time you needed to get back to your new normal and your work!!
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman For sure, it's awesome that you feel well enough to still make videos for all of us. I wish you guys well! I hope to be pregnant with number 2 this year :)
It’s so funny because I’m watching this a second time mom and you were mentioning nurses cleaning you up & taking the epidural out, labor was such a blur I honestly don’t remember much…. Haha! This time around I hope to have a calmer labor experience with hopefully no heart decels 🙏 also, congrats on baby!!!
Can you guys go over benefits and negatives of not circumcising and circumcising
Absolutely! We owe this an episode as there is some debate about circumcision/ethics, etc. We definitely want to discuss the pros/cons/debate in more depth. We actually talked about it a little bit but now realize we didn’t put that footage in cause the video was getting long. 🙈 So keep your eyes out for that episode coming soon!!
That would be a completely wrong approach to a harmful cultural practice, a form of legitimising it! In the case of the American medicalised male exclusive form it is very easy, if you wouldn't cut your daughter why would you cut your son?
@@fritnat I understand where you are coming from. If I had a son I’m sure I’m more on the side of not getting him circumcised. But they had their son circumcised and they themselves are doctors so I wanted to know what lead them down to that decision. It’s a tough decision and education on it from a great source I think would help people make a more informed decision. It’s not right to make decisions for others just because one believes one thing over another.
@@bbrittany38 No sorry but you don't. It is wrong, very wrong, that countries around the world condone this harmful cultural practice in the case of boys and don't give them the protection girls enjoy. It should never be considered a parental choice as you consider it. They may be doctors but doctors are not immune to conforming to the norms of their culture even when it goes against their oath to do no harm. It should never be considered a tough decision not to put one's child through such a harmful practice branding is. Education is often touted as the way forward against such practices however this example demonstrates this is far from always the case. A study has shown that even when parents are fully aware of the harm they still choose to put their children through it when it is expected of them in their community. Pressure on states to live up to their duty to protect their most vulnerable citizens is what is needed and that necessarily involves shaming them into action and by extension practicing communities not least medical professionals aiding in passing it off as medicine.
@@bbrittany38 exactly which is why in the wonderful USA its an elective procedure.
Thanks for the educational videos! Pregnancy and labor are scary, and extra info really helps with that.
@disjunction66 You are so welcome! Glad they are helpful-totally believe knowledge is power and patients deserve to know this stuff so they can feel informed and empowered. The unknown is scary!! So the more you know, hopefully there is less fear!!
What a rockstar 🤩 love your videos. You look super healthy and calm and prepared. So positive and reassuring ❤ makes me positive and exciting to have a second in the future
Can you guys make a video on what to expect after an emergency delivery. There's thousands of videos for regular deliveries and nothing could've prepared me for giving birth to my son at 29 weeks after getting severe eclampsia and losing my eyesight, continuous mag drip and not meeting my son for 3 days, and how hard it was too try to pump and recover and be a mother after complications. There's too many of us who go through complicated deliveries and there's absolutely no resources online that can help us deal with those situations.
Oh Jericka. What a birth story-it sounds so traumatic and hard and like you were SO SICK. Thankful you are here to tell the story. Thank you for the idea for an episode and we will add it to our short list!
Completely agree Jericka! So many of us with emergencies that are never addressed in the normal delivery and postpartum stories… it’s like our stories don’t matter since they’re not the perfect birth narrative. I would love to see more stories like ours. Sending you love and strength! ❤
@@rebeccaconradadams1082 definitely!! And there's so many of us out here!!. As a first time mom i had no idea what i was doing then. Now I'm pregnant again and because of how severe it all was it could happen again and having information would make such a big difference.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman thank you so much. Thanks to my amazing medical team we're both great. I hope i don't go through the same thing again with this new pregnancy though.
Very helpful, thank you! ❤
Thank you for this video. I really appreciate the details, people say you deliver baby then placenta see a lactation consultant, then go home after a while. Nothing mentioned about caring for sore penis after circumcision or how to deal with meconium or that the birth certificate isn't just simply given to you after you fill out the names.
Congratulations🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗🥳🥳🥳🥳Happy Birthday Baby🤗🤗
Thank you sooooo much!
This was really helpful, thank you so much!
My hospital did not provide any of the items that you talked about like the ice pack pad. And for a lot of the things I had to go out of my way and ask for them specifically like pads, mesh undies, etc. because they weren’t just given. Also I was induced on a Friday and didn’t give birth until 4:19pm, so there weren’t any lactation consultants available during my hospital stay because it was the weekend. During my stay I was having a very difficult time breast feeding and she would not feed. She would latch and then immediately fall asleep. We tried everything to try to keep her awake. I was severely depressed because I couldn’t get her to feed and I kept asking for help and not receiving any. Then by the time we saw the pediatrician on Tuesday I get scolded for my baby losing too much weight and not supplementing with formula. At that point I was so down both me and my husband left that appointment in tears and I went to exclusively pumping because of it all. I was going to have to pump when I went back to work, but this is not the journey I would have chosen.
This helps SOOO much! thank you!!
I just want to know why Kurt's eyes are so freaking beautiful and sooo blue! 😍
As an autistic, watching you guys interrupting each others thought processes makes me 😵💫
Thank you so much for sharing this video! My second child was born with a CCHD and thankfully a lovely L&D nurse noticed symptoms that were off. I don’t believe using a pulse ox is standard practice in Canada, I’m in Ontario. It definitely should be as my son’s heart defect (TGA) is apparently fairly easy to miss at anatomy scans.
I’m getting ready to have my 5th child. I really don’t want to stay in the hospital after birth. However, I do know that post delivery care is very important. Is there any way the baby and I can set up outpatient care rather than staying in the hospital? I definitely will be discussing this at my next appointment. Just wanted some feedback from other’s experience.
Great info but this makes me so grateful I was able to birth at home.
Did you deliver at st joes hospital in Ypsilanti/Ann arbor? I had my daughter there in January 2021 and my son in October 2022 (21 months apart). I had amazing nurses and doctors! Congrats on your little new one! I hope your daughter enjoys her baby brother as much as my daughter enjoys “her” new baby. I love your guys videos I wish I found your channel before I had my babies but still get so much out of them. Thank you for always being so honest and down to Earth meanwhile giving us evidence based information!
I like your channel it's helped me learn a lot
That is awesome and exactly why we created this channel!! Glad you are here with us!!
Hey guys! Love your videos and all the great educational information you provide! This one was a bit difficult for me though. You spoke a lot about how crucial the “golden hour” is, trying to nurse, skin to skin with mom etc, etc. Unfortunately however, postpartum looks really different for everyone. Not everyone gets the privilege of getting that hour. In my case, my son was born preterm and was taken to the nicu right away. I’m thankful I did not see this video in those early days, as compounding all of the benefits my child and i missed out on in addition to just how difficult that time was, would have been far too difficult for me. I think for future reference, it may be in better taste to just state how different this time looks for everyone, but what you guys chose to do, and why you made those choices. That would help keep it educational, with out feeling like those who chose or were forced to do something different, did something “wrong”.
@Kristina Good thank you so much for feeling like you could share here as others may have those feelings too and we always want to have space for that. Postpartum (and the first 24 hours) absolutely look different for everyone and the most CRUCIAL things are that mom and baby are safe!! And for some (many) that may mean having baby whisked off to the NICU or mom needing care that doesn’t allow for skin to skin, the golden hour, etc. There is no RIGHT way for it to look, and I’m so sorry if this made you feel that way or like you missed out. There are many things to grieve and process when your baby goes to NICU or you don’t have the birth experience you expected and we can totally see how some of this might have been triggering. There are benefits of the golden hour certainly, but none more important than your babe getting the amazing NICU care he needed. And all the things that happen can totally be established later. All that to say, praying your little one did well in the NICU and that you had support as well. Postpartum is hard enough when there are no complications-then you add NICU visits and a preemie and it’s just a LOT.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman you guys are so awesome!!
I see where you came from but the notion you wanted was given in the video.
It should probably be mentioned that the golden hour is not likely possible if you have a C-section. I got a few precious minutes of skin to skin with my babe after my C-section, but she was taken away for vitals and I was getting stitched up etc. Our golden time was an hour or so later, but it was still beautiful and amazing. 🥰
I'm going to have a c_section. Your comment calmed me down , and made me smile, thank you 😊
@@kiki-90 You will do great! Try to stay calm and in the moment. Remember your sweet baby's birth can still be memorable even if it's not the "traditional" way. I embraced the fact that I had no stress worrying about going into labor, when that would happen, where it would happen etc.
Congrats on your soon-to-be little one! 🎉
I had a vaginal birth with also 3rd degree perineal tear so I had to be stitched up right after so I didn’t get to get that golden hour at the very first moment but by husband did. It didn’t and don’t matter anyways because you are going to have thousand of boding moments with your baby anyways.
Thanks for this comment bc I didn’t know this! 😊
@kellymichele30 thank you so much for your comment and sharing this here. We realized we should have addressed how not everyone get's that immediate "golden hour" experience, and that it may be delayed for some. It sounds like that was your experience and that is still SO AMAZING and so so valuable. Thanks for sharing that for the other c-section mamas here!!
Uhhh regarding lifting we have a saying in Germany: Mama should not lift more than her babys weight for for early portpartum.
No, not even the carseat.
This is great advice! Thank you for sharing. :)
As an OBYGN who has been through childbirth multiple times now, what are your thoughts on birth doulas? I’m so nervous about the delivery and my husband and I are both first time parents and I feel like someone knowledgeable “on our team” would be really comforting. Thoughts??
You guys look great considering how exhausted I’m sure you are!! Great video
Thank you so much!
So helpful 😊
Hi doc sarah, where did you buy your robe? Kindly help with the link. Thank you