Your name story struck a cord with me! For most of my lifetime, people mispronounced it, and I did nothing but let my rage build silently. Finally, I've learned to reclaim my name, correct them in a gracious way, and not let people disrespect me in this way. It's taken years, but that boundary is now in place. Thank you!
@@carolynohara people mispronounce my name all the time but my boss called me by another name to make fun of me. Yes always correct them until they get it right. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Leia, for sharing your thoughts. For me it can be quite hard to stand up for myself. Yet in order to set boundaries, I have to do just that. Maybe it is so hard because it is so important? And we know it is important. I definitely like your soft boundary suggestion. We should not give ultimatums unless it is necessary. Which it certainly can be. How do we know when it is time to set boundaries? I think we just know. In such cases, we need to listen to and trust our inner voice and act on it. When something does not feel right, there is a reason. It might be right for others, however it is not right with me. ☮
@@vickicollingwood4377 yes it seems that setting boundaries comes first from respecting ourselves. It also takes courage because when we don’t value our self worth we fear rejection. Thanks for sharing 🙏💗☮️
My H was driving us around yesterday on our day off and had major road rage. It triggered something in me that I needed to set a boundary with him this morning. I said no more of that, I'm not spending any more of my precious time off with him being in a frustrated mad tear over nothing. He changed right away and was sorry.
Great video Leia. It's so important to set soft boundaries early, otherwise the other person will take a mile instead of an inch from you. Then it will be much harder for you to set future limits as their behavior takes a foothold on you and you become the victim. Conflict resolution and limit setting is so important in relationships, and yes it can be done with kindness.
Thank you for your message about setting boundaries. It really resinated with me. By the way the Armenian mountains and the litle town looks beautiful. I'm a little jealous!😅
Leia, Thank you once again for sharing your thoughts about how we interact with others. Your explorations of comparing kindness with being nice and setting boundaries for self-protection are important for all of us. I think that 'being nice' has its place in interactions with people we don't actually know and with whom we only have limited contact. It is a way of letting small things pass without getting fired up over them. Acting with kindness towards others, whether or not we know them, is to me a way of being respectful of someone's humanity. And I agree with you, that there are instances, particularly with people who we hold dear, when we must place kindness to our own needs (recognizing and setting boundaries) as our primary concern. As with everything in life, it takes practice, and we learn the most after we stumble.
@@Taiflow I've been thinking about the situations in which I've absorbed harsh and misguided words from someone I care about and whether or not it would have been better to protect myself by speaking up. In particular, conversations during which anger has been directed towards me even though I realize the person is actually acting out of fear and frustration about something else. In that moment, it is difficult to speak up with kindness rather than sending anger back at that person. So what I've been practicing is teaching myself to pause before responding, so I can advocate for myself but do it with kindness. Sometimes I can do that, but often I miss the mark.
A very interesting thought we should be respectful of our peers as we would want them to be mindful of us it's good to ne contemplating the very nature of mindfulness
@@Paul-l6d I think it is being more respectful of ourselves. We can’t control how others treat us. We can only set the example of how we want to be treated and then if our peers cross a line we can tell them with kindness that is not how we expect to be treated. So it is the opposite of what you wrote. We respect ourselves so that we can be mindful how our peers treat us. Thank you for your comment.
@@Taiflow Honestly sharing feeling or desires without fear of rejection, or maybe even despite fear of rejection. so often I have not spoken up or set boundaries out of fear to be rejected. I found that my connections with friends and family only grew stronger when I started to be honest with them despite my fears of rejection.
@@dragonboii7361 Thank you, in the personal development world we call that having courageous conversations. I guess we could say then that setting boundaries with kindness requires courage.
Good job on positive relationships with all family or friends. Growing up mom set up boundaries it was called a curfew!!!its funny how it is in todays world boundaries..still a good life lesson for today, it is never too late and I believe in ‘This too shall pass” with help I must add.thank you
Thank you This message came to me at the perfect time. I just spent a very emotional time with my family and needed to remind some of my boundaries. You reminded me to be consistent
@@joannemorris4451 I try hard not to use never and always when arguing with a loved one. We are not one way all the time and they are hurtful words when used this way.
Respect comes from giving respect first and not expecting it to be returned. However, in my experience respect given with humility, always gets the return respect. Just sharing my experience. However, at times setting up boundaries is also very important, and those should be defined as soon as one sees that those are not being respected.
There is not one right way of living one’s life, what one experiences is also not the same others are experiencing. So advises and suggestions that one receives, should be taken with the understanding of one’s own experience and at times adapted based on one’s own life variables.
@@markk7731 ok that is fine although woke witch woman vibes feels like a compliment somehow. Just practice Tai Chi and I will do some posts on Daoist philosophy shortly which might suit you better. There is something for everyone.
Your name story struck a cord with me! For most of my lifetime, people mispronounced it, and I did nothing but let my rage build silently. Finally, I've learned to reclaim my name, correct them in a gracious way, and not let people disrespect me in this way. It's taken years, but that boundary is now in place. Thank you!
@@carolynohara people mispronounce my name all the time but my boss called me by another name to make fun of me. Yes always correct them until they get it right. Thanks for sharing.
Very cool video. Respect for the way you live your life.
Yesss...more self respect...and I feel we can always reset boundaries and if the relationship blows, it blows....sending peace n love. :)
Thank you Leia, for sharing your thoughts. For me it can be quite hard to stand up for myself. Yet in order to set boundaries, I have to do just that. Maybe it is so hard because it is so important? And we know it is important. I definitely like your soft boundary suggestion. We should not give ultimatums unless it is necessary. Which it certainly can be. How do we know when it is time to set boundaries? I think we just know. In such cases, we need to listen to and trust our inner voice and act on it. When something does not feel right, there is a reason. It might be right for others, however it is not right with me. ☮
Iv only just started to set boundaries I relate to the self respect took a long time for me to realize my worth . Blessed be x
@@vickicollingwood4377 yes it seems that setting boundaries comes first from respecting ourselves. It also takes courage because when we don’t value our self worth we fear rejection. Thanks for sharing 🙏💗☮️
My H was driving us around yesterday on our day off and had major road rage. It triggered something in me that I needed to set a boundary with him this morning. I said no more of that, I'm not spending any more of my precious time off with him being in a frustrated mad tear over nothing. He changed right away and was sorry.
@@tanktop25 nice 👌
Great video Leia. It's so important to set soft boundaries early, otherwise the other person will take a mile instead of an inch from you. Then it will be much harder for you to set future limits as their behavior takes a foothold on you and you become the victim. Conflict resolution and limit setting is so important in relationships, and yes it can be done with kindness.
Thanks again for your advice. I've needed it 🙌 😌 🙏
Appreciate your honesty and vulnerability.
Thank you for your message about setting boundaries. It really resinated with me. By the way the Armenian mountains and the litle town looks beautiful. I'm a little jealous!😅
Leia, Thank you once again for sharing your thoughts about how we interact with others. Your explorations of comparing kindness with being nice and setting boundaries for self-protection are important for all of us. I think that 'being nice' has its place in interactions with people we don't actually know and with whom we only have limited contact. It is a way of letting small things pass without getting fired up over them. Acting with kindness towards others, whether or not we know them, is to me a way of being respectful of someone's humanity. And I agree with you, that there are instances, particularly with people who we hold dear, when we must place kindness to our own needs (recognizing and setting boundaries) as our primary concern. As with everything in life, it takes practice, and we learn the most after we stumble.
@@tamarzinn850 yes we learn better through our failures than our successes. It’s too bad cause sometimes that super painful.
@@Taiflow I've been thinking about the situations in which I've absorbed harsh and misguided words from someone I care about and whether or not it would have been better to protect myself by speaking up. In particular, conversations during which anger has been directed towards me even though I realize the person is actually acting out of fear and frustration about something else. In that moment, it is difficult to speak up with kindness rather than sending anger back at that person. So what I've been practicing is teaching myself to pause before responding, so I can advocate for myself but do it with kindness. Sometimes I can do that, but often I miss the mark.
Beautiful place!
A very interesting thought we should be respectful of our peers as we would want them to be mindful of us it's good to ne contemplating the very nature of mindfulness
@@Paul-l6d I think it is being more respectful of ourselves. We can’t control how others treat us. We can only set the example of how we want to be treated and then if our peers cross a line we can tell them with kindness that is not how we expect to be treated. So it is the opposite of what you wrote. We respect ourselves so that we can be mindful how our peers treat us. Thank you for your comment.
I always enjoy your 38 min video. Thank you for your work.
@@MrResearcher122 there are many more in the Silver membership on Taiflow.com
Thank you for sharing your journey, The best way to feel connected to the people around us is through openness and a willingness to be vulnerable.
@@dragonboii7361 what does it mean to be vulnerable in your opinion?
@@Taiflow Honestly sharing feeling or desires without fear of rejection, or maybe even despite fear of rejection. so often I have not spoken up or set boundaries out of fear to be rejected. I found that my connections with friends and family only grew stronger when I started to be honest with them despite my fears of rejection.
@@dragonboii7361 Thank you, in the personal development world we call that having courageous conversations. I guess we could say then that setting boundaries with kindness requires courage.
Good job on positive relationships with all family or friends. Growing up mom set up boundaries it was called a curfew!!!its funny how it is in todays world boundaries..still a good life lesson for today, it is never too late and I believe in ‘This too shall pass” with help I must add.thank you
@@mygrammie1946 you are welcome 🙏
Thank you
This message came to me at the perfect time. I just spent a very emotional time with my family and needed to remind some of my boundaries.
You reminded me to be consistent
@@liselake7095 Im glad this helped!
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It was very helpful!
Your example describes my (late) parents! Not a good way to live your life. Thank you for this thoughtful message.
@@joannemorris4451 I try hard not to use never and always when arguing with a loved one. We are not one way all the time and they are hurtful words when used this way.
Respect comes from giving respect first and not expecting it to be returned. However, in my experience respect given with humility, always gets the return respect. Just sharing my experience. However, at times setting up boundaries is also very important, and those should be defined as soon as one sees that those are not being respected.
There is not one right way of living one’s life, what one experiences is also not the same others are experiencing. So advises and suggestions that one receives, should be taken with the understanding of one’s own experience and at times adapted based on one’s own life variables.
@@Shaheen.Premani 🙏💗☮️
YOGA SAYS THAT ANGER IS A WASTED EMOTION, AND I CAN BE VERY DESTRUCTIVE. BEN FRANKLIN SAYS, WHAT BEGINS IN ANGER ENDS IN SHAME.
@@AnnaMae3838 yes it does
You giving off woke wchite women vibes. Hard pass!
@@markk7731 ok that is fine although woke witch woman vibes feels like a compliment somehow. Just practice Tai Chi and I will do some posts on Daoist philosophy shortly which might suit you better. There is something for everyone.
@@markk7731 this is a perfect example of someone who is not treating me with respect.