In recovery, I’ve heard it said to newly sober people, “Get a plant, and if it’s still alive after a year, get a dog.” It’s widely advised to not start a relationship in the first two years of recovery, because getting sober is just the beginning of the real work of finding out why you needed the substance and learning other ways to cope without it. That takes time and a dedication that is very energy consuming. I love John and I hope he stays sober and dedicated to healing.
Love seeing friends, especially men, saying "I love you" without a hint of mockery or humor, just genuinely and openly caring for one another. The world needs more love.
Mulaney was sober from 2005 to 2020. He has 15 years of recovery under his belt. Relapse happens but you don’t lose that clean time experience you had. Everyone’s recovery looks different and as a recovering addict I am proud he got up and talked even laughed about it because you have to! It helps remind you how it was and where you are now and where you are going! Well done John!
@@huckleberrylachow2202 when your an addict it is really never fun. Goes downhill and gets dark fast as he shows. Why we cant do that like “normal” people lol. Your mind may say you can but if an addict you cant really and you know this
Totally--No one else could have pulled this off. I also feel that his current no-audience format contributed to the intimate tone of this interview. I can't imagine this interaction having the same genuine, heartfelt quality if it had occurred in a room with tons of folks, instead of just their crew.
Colbert could do it too, I think. I’ve seen it but for the life of me I can’t recall whom he was interviewing. But I agree for sure that Seth conducted this interview beautifully.
@@ProHobbyjogger Yeah, both Colbert and Seth have shown their serious sides in times when human rights and democracy was in jeopardy. The other late night show hosts (no names) seem too insecure/tense/hammy/overcompensating to be able to do that convincingly, so they should stick to their funny bits.
Yeah, I don't think John comes off well at all and it makes it worse to be like "Boy, was I a massive junkie! My behavior...whooo, boy" When it was basically the same as it is here. He was a rich dude with a coke problem, not a violent alcoholic or smackhead. He seems like the same guy with the mask removed.
Seth is great. John is concerning, insofar as I’m concerned about celebrities in recovery. New relationship? 😳 Baby on the way? 😳😳 Good luck with all that!
I dunno... I mean, I'm happy if John is okay, but the way he's presenting himself here strikes me a bit odd. Plus, as far as i know rehab professionals tell you to first come clean with yourself. Meaning the first year you dont start new relationships and certainly not a freakin' new family! You learn to be yourself, manage your life and your sobriety.. you don't go off just finding a new cruch. Anyway, I sure hope he's proving every expert wrong...
@@Sweet.Mother.of.Cheesus I read his girl friend always liked him, knew of him before wedding where they met. Maybe she doesn't care about addiction but I hope she's clean and keeps an eye on him with baby. So much stress with baby along with love.
I love Seth so much. Colin Jost tells a story of Seth talking him into buying a super expensive shirt and tie in Copenhagen and for some reason it endeared him to me more. Even though he then didn't buy anything for himself at the expensive store. His lesson to Jost was still very brotherly: You have worked hard. It's okay to spend your money.
@@mo_7199 according to the self appointed internet detectives, not actual reality. That person is being toxic. How about we stay out of his life beyond what he shares, because he's a human being, not just a celeb. The trend of dehumanizing people and dragging them online, just because we can,with no regard to how iy will affect them, just because they are famous, is disgusting.
Seth treating John similar to how my friends and family have treated me and still treat me during my recovery. With love and respect and empathy. It's enough to make me cry.
Same. I’ve found that it’s so much easier to stay sober when I can go to my support system and say, “I WANT DRUGS, HELP!” Just being able to say it out loud alleviates the pain so much. I’m glad you have support! The wanting never goes away, but it definitely gets easier with time to not scratch the itch. I’ve always compared it to scratching an itch. At first, it’s like having chicken pox and needing pot holders duct taped to your hands, so you don’t scratch. It has now become like feeling a mosquito bite and just being able to put some mental Benadryl on it. It’s also way easier when you have people around who can tell you not to scratch. ❤️
I really like that the video description is "John Mulaney tells Seth about his eventful year." There's no point in having a video that's going to be around forever with the description "John Mulaney talks about his problem with cocaine." Also, his eventful year included his work as well as getting into a new relationship and that he's going to be a father.
Honesty? I feel like he’s been less than honest here. “I was told I did this” “I was told this happened” “we met at your wedding” - it’s partial truth but a careful PR recovery that’s dishonest by omission or convenient forgetfulness
@@weirdloverwilde Are you aware that when you're doing THAT much coke, you truly have no idea or memory of what you're doing? He couldn't remember if he tried. In his 2020 GQ interview, he also mentions memory holes. He's being honest.
I love how real this is. Instead of it being "fine" he actually is talking about real-life problems and real-life events. You can tell that he's being vulnerable. I wish him and his family all the best, and good on you Seth Meyers for helping a friend!
It's both a front, like @kingnexusmocs says, and not. There are so many moments of sincerity but it's also a bit that you can see repeated, if you watch others from this time.
@@is_a_verb What's interesting is that, while he's being so candid, he's also workshopping his set for Baby J. The line between person and performer can be quite blurred sometimes.
@@rottensquid I view it more as his way of processing everything that happened. Like a form of therapy… and as a performer perhaps for him it’s one of the best ways to honestly come to terms, learn, realize, take responsibility for, strengthen, give thanks, and self empower toward moving forward more healthfully in life.
@@heatherfeather7199 Totally see what you mean. It's interesting, there's definitely a weird thing about this kind of "my self is the art" artist where the line between lived experience and onstage persona is blurred. As though only by turning himself into this quirky character can he make sense of who he is and what happened to him. Wes Anderson's Life Aquatic explored this idea, blurring the line between the character's lived experience and his self-conscious performance for the documentary of the experience. In the end, there's no way to really separate them, because mugging for the camera is part of who he is. What was interesting about Baby J is how hyper-aware John is on his public persona throughout the story, from the way he puts out the newspaper at the rehab clinic to the way he tries to take control of the narrative at the intervention. He refers to Mulaney in the third person A LOT. But at the end, he makes clear that his final story isn't the worst of it, it's just the worst he's willing to disclose to us. So that's probably a healthy boundary. After all, we still have to like him in order for him to ply his trade. But he's also acknowledging that the person he's been telling us about is only the edited version of who he had become, not a fictionalized rewriting of history.
i know this is about john but danm. seth is.. literally an angel. i loved him before but now i just love him even more. the ending made me tear up tbh and i heard in his voice that he got emotional too.. hes such a great friend and i love him so much
Yep. He knows his friend is in a really precarious situation, likely to implode in a dramatic fashion, and he knows theres nothing he can do about any of it except be there when the inevitable happens.
"Olivia and this baby have saved me from myself" is arguably the scariest thing a recovering addict could say. That is a humongous red flag and I pray this does not end up the way many people fear it might.
@@harryLime1987 "Anyone near him right now is just enabling him" is the most foolish thing I've ever heard. And "just an addict" is horrific... Treating people like a disposable diaper. NO ONE has ever recovered without friends, family and community. Without people around you, a relapse is completely guaranteed. We find meaning in relationship. I've been on every side of addiction, and i hope and pray that John and Olivia find every happiness and prove themselves great parents and that he never stumbles... And, if he goes, that it is brief and does not destroy his new world. (If there's any alarm bell for me, it's not John making the choice to be a parent.... That early in rehab, no one is making great decisions. But if I were Olivia, I'd be hella nervous to date him, much less make a baby.)
He really cares about his friends and the people he works with. He paid out of his own pocket the staff of the show during the beginning of the pandemic when NBC refused to do so.
@@harryLime1987 It would be Nar-Anon in this case. And the Anonymous part of 12 step programs does not refer to talking about yourself and your experiences. It refers to speaking to anyone regarding who attends meetings and what is discussed. The shared promise of anonymity for yourself and all who attend. I assume by the time people read down to your warning about antidepressants, they are taking things with a grain of salt.
@@harryLime1987 actual psychiatrist here - maybe shut up if you don’t know what you’re talking about. 12 Step programs don’t have traditions about not talking publicly in general - the traditions refer to not *speaking for the programs themselves* in an official capacity publicly (programs of “attraction not promotion”). Individual members are encouraged to share their own stories as they see fit. As for SSRIs - they are some of the most effective medications we have. They don’t work for everyone but they have saved countless lives and are far from placebo - if you actually looked up the studies you’re asking others to look up you would know that.
The hypocrisy of the war on drugs is on full display here. If you're a rich cocaine addict your friends organize an intervention, you go to rehab, and then maybe you get to talk about it as a humorous story on a comedy talk show. If you're a poor cocaine addict you go to jail, then live with the stigma of being an ex-con, possibly felon, for the rest of your live.
as much as this whole situation is none of anyone here’s business and it’s bizarre people feel so free commenting on what should be private matters, you’re nonetheless entirely correct.
If you're poor, your friends can still stage a recovery and work to get you into a state-paid-for program. If Mulaney had done something to be arrested for, it wouldn't have gone quite this way.
@@lulumoon6942 Well, she's said that she is heartbroken that John ended their marriage. I don't think she is in the stage of thinking it's a blessing yet.
His friends like Seth should maybe be like "hey, this is a lot for someone who recently relapsed. Please be careful." And also Seth should say to Olivia "Hey, be wary of the pink cloud John is on..." Jesus. It's genuinely no surprise that a rushed relationship and new baby is tooooo much for a newly "sober" person. Seth's intervention is next. ❤❤❤❤
You know who's probably really happy about John and Olivia having a baby? John's real estate agent EDIT: Hey I apologize if this was in poor taste, I tend to not think before I speak
I went to rehab this year. You have no idea how much an “I love you” can mean to somebody mentally struggling. I never get off a phone call with friends/family without saying it.
@@KingNexusMOCs it's clearly something that John wants to talk about, you're acting like Seth is like 'gotcha, now talk about your trauma'. They are good friends and its wonderful that they're showing its okay to be vulnerable and talk about hard things with supportive people
My heart goes out to Anna and the baby. Sobriety right after a relapse is SO delicate. So to go from being married, divorced, into rehab, and then to a new girlfriend with a child on the way…is very troubling. Especially after his very public opinion about having children.
@@SaminSays He basically said “I don’t know. Maybe we’ll have them one day. Maybe we won’t. But all people do is pressure us like it’s their business.” (Despite the quotes I’m very much paraphrasing)
“I’m told that I was.” Right out of the gate, Mulaney let’s us know things we’re bad. And Seth staging an intervention… wow. Didn’t realize how close their friendship is. Seth probably saved Mulaney’s life. And that Bambi bit was funny AF.
Relevant in a minor way. One kitchen I worked in, the chef told us he was writing a new menu, and needed some names for the dishes. We were all 420 arts students, so this was a mistake on his part already. So he tells us he's making Venison strips, and does anyone have a name for that, and I said "Bambi Sticks." Not sure why he didn't like it. I thought it was fucking great.
I love that he’s talking about his struggles openly. This is what we need!!! We are slowly chipping away at the stigma around addiction & it’s a great thing for our society.
For those of us who have stumbled many times in our recovery, it’s humbling to realize that money alone cannot lift a compulsion; it’s a very difficult process for everyone. And to see John get back up and keep working is a great reminder that relapses don’t have to spiral to prison, insanity or death.
@@ProHobbyjogger I mean he cheated on his wife that stood by him for years, dumped her and then immediately knocked up Olivia Munn after claiming he never wanted kids, so I wouldn't consider this a success story. Especially when they literally tell you to not make major life decisions or date anyone within a year of completing rehab.
Seth is probably one of the only late-night hosts I genuinely like and respect. You can really tell in this interview that they're good friends and really care about each other, and I wish John nothing but the best.
It's hard for me to feel bad for Seth because I can only imagine him sincerely wanting to bring on his incredibly talented friend no matter the circumstances. And the fact that he saw a way to help, probably didn't give it a second thought.
Hunter Crosby, I don't get why you feel bad for Seth. He's been a real friend, providing real help to someone who really needs it. That's a hard thing to do, but it's right and true. I want the very best outcomes for both of these treasures. John seems "bambi-legged" still. I hope his recovery rises up singing. xoxo
This man had 5 years of emotions shoved into like 11 months. Probably the most eventful 2020-21 I've heard so far...praying for all parties. This was a lot.
“Man fresh out of rehab for substance abuse knocks up girlfriend of only a few months. What could possibly go wrong??” Seriously, as a fan of his work I’m rooting for him, but this whole situation seems messy as hell and could very easily end tragically. The odds aren’t exactly in his favor and it’s highly advised to not make huge decisions like this especially in your first years of recovery. I hope he pulls through but I just have a weird feeling in my gut that this doesn’t end well. Hope I’m wrong…
And honestly, as far along as she looks into her pregnancy in pics, she had to have gotten pregnant VERY quickly into them dating in May. She looks 5 - 6 months along
Who cares, he has money and class and she's having a baby and not running from him and his situation. Plus the psychologist told him he needs structure, no?
@@pund_it1811 who cares? Wait till he offs himself from all the stress of having effed up decisions. Doesnt he have friends and family to tell him he effed up? You know his chill, non-chalant persona is precisely a persona? It's all a front. The smiles and the calmness. He's breaking inside - actually no, he's already broken.
I love John but as an addict (sober 20 years) I have gut feeling that he has a long way to go yet. I remember my journey in the early years...i wanted to conquer my addiction and I had periods of success but I kept relapsing...one thing that struck me here was that when I was clean for a couple of months I used to think talking about it in a 'fun' manner showed that I was in control. But I wasnt...I did it to make other people around me comfortable. I hope I'm wrong. John seems like a great guy and the last guy you'd expect to have a drug problem. Just goes to show there isnt a type.
Yes, and it's especially bad because his job is to make people laugh, so when he jokes about his addiction it's natural to laugh, but you know it's just a coping mechanism.
It might be a comfort to point out that he seems to know this as well. Look at the way he looks at Seth when he says he's glad it's all behind him. This isn't a it's behind you thing. Throughout the conversation he also never describes himself as cured, merely as doing better know. I have some addictive tendencies and haven't struggled through rehab (and hopefully won't have to because I mostly struggle with only cigarettes), but I've read infinite jest and it's a pretty extensive read on dealing with addiction and talking about it. He's definitely still in the danger zone (because I think he'd have to leave Hollywood to be out of it) but it does seem like he's surrounded by people looking after him.
Definitely. That guy's so far out of control I couldn't watch the whole thing, plus his interview is lies start to finish. You were also watching the unraveling of a friendship -- Meyers is trying awfully hard, but that breaking point's pretty close.
Kudos to John for wearing it on his sleeve, but I think this moment belongs to Seth. It's looking like he has been an outstanding friend these past twelve months.
I rewatched this a second time while only looking at Seth, even when he's not the one talking. He really comes across as a genuinely decent wholesome loving guy.
I’m glad that John is doing better but i gotta say it is so heartbreaking to hear he is having a baby with someone after he said about his last relationship that he never wants to have kids. Must be so shocking for his ex wife.
@@OhWellWhatTheHell1 I think it's pretty heartbreaking for his ex wife, Anna Marie, who he married in 2014 and dated for several years before that. Just a few months ago in May 2021, she said, "I am heartbroken that John has decided to end our marriage. I wish him support and success as he continues his recovery." The ink on their divorce papers has barely dried and here he is publicly announcing that he's having a baby with someone he's dated a few months.
@@OhWellWhatTheHell1 Why is everyone here acting like this was a planned pregnancy? People who don’t want kids have children all the time. This is hardly shocking. Tbh, considering the series of choices JM has made over the past year, an unplanned pregnancy sounds par for the course.
All the people who are trying to analyze this are ignoring that Seth Meyers is one of his best friends, and he'd make sure he's okay after this I'm sure.
exactly- it's how rumors get started. we don't know John and we need to trust him. jumping to random conclusions won't help him even if they might be correct (which usually they're not)
But he didn't see the signs the first time, and no one can change someone else, no matter how hard they try. I'm sure he wishes him the best and will continue to be there for him, but ultimately, John will need to be okay on his own, and I hope he actually does that.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone speak so personally, so publicly, so specifically, and so vulnerably about something so difficult. We all aspire to be so honest with ourselves and those we love. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with all of us. And thanks for supporting your friend Seth!
@@jasondownsnet he mad a joke out of it completely. John seems to be making jokes while holding himself accountable. I love letterman but he's pretty scummy.
I think it’s ok to acknowledge the pain that Anna must feel and also be incredibly happy and grateful that John is doing well. I wish them both happiness in their separate lives.
Exactly! And everyone harping on John for saying he never wanted kids, we don’t know the situation. Maybe he did want them, but Ana didn’t and he made the choice to support that. We don’t know, we don’t need to know, so lets be happy!
I'm an addict too, clean 4 yrs and honestly I've never been able to be as open about it as John is....so thank you John this was actually healing for me, and I know it's not easy to be that open. I truly applaud you.... you may never understand how amazing this is for others.
apparently his new stand up is all about his addiction which I think is probably the reason why atm he seems fuctional. but respect to you man, the hardest thing is wanting to help yourself so congrats and you hope you stay strong and stay clean
He's open about it, but he's absolutely not dealing with it. He can play it off for comedy so he doesn't have to deal with it. Stephen Colbert completely pegged him when they did that interview. You don't have to be open to deal.
When Seth put his hand over John’s when he said he’s now grateful for them saving his life, that was so sweet. ❤️ I hope hope he’ll be okay and stuck in this recovery, he’s having an awful lot happen while just beginning this path, and that’s going to complicate it a lot, and I hope he’ll get through this; all the love. 🙏🏼💕
As the daughter of a 15 year sober dad.. First thing I have to say is I am proud of John. It takes a lot of guts to be this open and vulnerable about such personal things. Life is crazy and I hope nothing but the best for this man and his new family. I hope he uses this as an opportunity to turn a new leaf.
The first positive comment (scrolling from the top). What a frightening comment section; I'm naive to basically any of this lifestyle or what it means. But I was also hoping to read kind words from someone, bringing light back into the dark room here. Thank you and congratulations to your father as well :)
@@EmpyreanLightASMR There are plenty of kind words in this comment section. "Kindness" does not always mean "positivity." Most of the comments are stating they are concerned or worried for him, specifically because these commentators are NOT naive about the lifestyle or what it means. Mulaney is in his first year out of rehab, and the first year is very fragile. You're not supposed to make _any_ big life changes, and Mulaney has made at least three, some of the biggest life changes one can make, in fact. Stating concern for that or acknowledging that it's basically a bomb of a situation waiting to explode is not "mean" or "unkind." Just the opposite, it is the most kind to tell someone you like and love that you think they're making a bad decision. Think of it this way; if you were about to step over a cliff, would you prefer someone say "I'm scared for you, please reconsider" or "Go for it, you can do it"? One of these is a kind thing to do. The other is "toxic positivity."
I've watched this three times now, trying to get a read on John, and I can't pretend to understand how cocaine habits work, but my god is Seth a good friend and the only host who could've had an interview with John right now.
Cocaine is actually an easy drug to withdraw from, once you’re in treatment. It’s the drugs addicts often take when they’re in Coke world that are difficult and potentially harmful to stop taking. John made a lot of big life decisions when he should have known better. If he keeps messing up, he will become uninsurable. Good of Seth to support him.
@@Caperhere I would argue that's person to person. Some people as soon as they get off never need it and barely feel urges and others get phantom feelings of being high for years later and eventually break down and go back to using, especially if you're in a bad situation mentally.
No one could of handled this interview with the balance of humor, love, and care like Seth did for John. Such honesty and raw emotion. Proud of them both for being loving and genuine to each other.
the absolute honesty and dry humour throughout this is incredible. I'm so pleased that john is back on his feet and has a healthy support system. it's also very heartwarming to see 2 male friends being openly affectionate and supportive.
It always makes me queasy when someone goes on national television to talk about their new love and their RECENTLY ex-spouse is still (maybe, understandably) reeling. Empathy for Anna. I hope you, Anna, are finding some peace and new life.
@@thetripleas5582 Thank you. I've been in Anna's shoes (so to speak), minus the national television. IT SUCKS. Having your (recent) EX telling it out there on television for all the world to see must be another ring of hell altogether.
Exactly. I cannot imagine just how heart wrenching it would be for your husband, who just divorced you 8 months prior, announce they’re expecting a baby with their rebound. Her being married for so long and no kids and then they divorce and now he’s so giddy about having a kid?? Sucks he had a drug problem but treating your family (ie spouse) like garbage is inexcusable.
Very few divorces are tragic Sharanya. I'm pretty sure we don't know enough about their relationship from a couple jokes a few years apart to proclaim that this divorce is near the top of the list of horrible things that have happened.
No doubt that the situation might have had heartbreak and tragedy. We cannot know what Anna and John must have gone through and during that time. We can only wish them the best. Life is immensely complex. They are lucky they have such wonderful friends.
I actually applaud JM for talking about this and how grateful he is to his friends. It's hard for people to open up, let alone recalling what happened month to month. I hope this inspires people and I hope he's in a better situation today.
For most people, yes, it is difficult to open up about hard things. For John, it seems to be how he likes to deal with his problems. I think he enjoys it. It’s sort of like confession. It gets things off his chest and makes it easier for him. The harder thing to do would be to not discuss it out of respect for Anna. He did the selfish thing. I do applaud him for going to rehab. That’s hard. But not for this.
@@clara-nt9rx He doesn’t need to mention Anna, he discusses personal things with no regard to how it makes her feel, seeing and hearing how “happy” he is now. For years, he told Anna he didn’t want children but now, going on about it, he’s really saying he just didn’t want them with her. I guess I just expected a bit more class or even mere tact from him.
@@laramccully3272 why are you so invested and offended by this? Is Anna some saint? You don't know anything about these people. I guess some man hurt you and you can't understand that some people can leave toxic situations to save themselves. Maybe ending his marriage was part of his healing. You don't know and nobody owes you any closure.
@@MisssKayy, I’m not any more invested than you, or anyone else who took the time to be brave and vulnerable enough to give their honest opinion, and risk being attacked by someone who disagrees or has little life experience or understanding. Yes, I was left with a 3 year-old and 1 year-old when I was 30 and my husband decided he wanted no responsibility and found a 19 year-old who would give him sex and pay to support him while he pretended to invent the next big app. Yes, I feel for Anna and any other woman who has to go through the same awful experience. I’m truly sorry that you lack the ability to feel compassion for others. That must be sad for those close to you.😔
Something about him suddenly deciding to get a haircut is painfully sad after remembering that his ex wife used to cut his hair. I wish both of them nothing but the best.
She has to be feeling torn up. John and Olivia’s thing went public super fast after his divorce and leaving rehab, which points to infidelity.. But nobody except them knows for sure. I saw his newest special live 2 weeks ago. It was hilarious and he talked all about rehab and his addiction but zero mention of Anna or Olivia
@@melissag1364 I saw his show 2 nights ago. He mentioned Olivia and Anna for just a couple minutes in the beginning. It was roughly just “The past year has been wild. I’m with Olivia now and we’re pregnant, but the reviews have been mixed. As if we’re a movie. The kid hasn’t even come out yet! But the youths prefer my ex Anna, which is rough”. Obviously just paraphrasing because I don’t remember the exact words and they lock your phones up. He didn’t make any other mention of it in the rest of the show.
@@heather23renae its also weird cause he called Anna his wife and mentioned her giving him a haircut during his kimmel interview late last year .. if they weren't talking then he wouldn't have mentioned her, let alone get a haircut from her
@@dustmite5887 He did still refer to her as his wife in that interview and mentioned they were quarantined together in dc because of a project she was working on. But i dont think he mentions anything regarding her present tense. Its not that uncommon to still act like ur together if its not public knowledge that u split up. He definitely didnt say anything about her giving him a haircut in that interview ,that was another one from last spring during lock down.
Glad John is okay, but sending good vibes to Anna. I hope she has a friend like Seth, being the quiet one in a public break-up isn't easy. (Edited to include his ex-wife's name. Sorry!)
I so hope his ex is doing well. And that neither hurt the other. I personally relate more to being dumped by someone who i made a lifetime commitment to than being addicted to substances.
I was thinking about her as well. I especially felt for her when he announced that Olivia is pregnant. When he was with his ex he said over and over again that he didn’t want to have kids. Now he’s with Olivia and is thrilled to be a dad. I’m glad John is okay, but my heart really goes out to his ex as well
To be fair, when John & Anna were together he only ever said that *they* ("we") didn't want kids, at least not yet. So for all we know, she didn't want them & he could've gone either way. As for the split itself, it'll take time but she'll be okay.
My wife and I saw him yesterday in New Orleans and his show was amazing! He owned his truth and as a recovering addict myself he was genuine and hilarious. And yes he opened with acknowledging it wasn’t ideal to be in a new relationship right after rehab. Johns show was his best stand up set to date.
I saw him last year in March and he was so good. I got tickets for my birthday and it was truly a wonderful show. He was honest and raw and so so funny.
I wasn’t thrilled he left his wife and all that but he owned it. Any comedian that cover relapse, intervention and recovery the way he does in baby J is brilliant comedian
Im glad he feels safe with Seth because the timing… it’s really all still new and he’d obviously really have to trust Seth to even come. I’m glad they have each other.
@@harryLime1987 a.a has never stated, you aren't supposed to talk about your own addiction, previous drug use, or things you did. Maybe you've confused not talking about or name other people in the meeting, outside of the meeting. Talking about drug addiction is helpful, for the addict.
@@harryLime1987 You are neither privately nor professionally qualified to judge Seth as Co-dependent. That group of SNL actors were and have remained extraordinarily close. I think it is marvelous that they are secure enough ( not just Seth and John; I’ve seen others of that group do it too) to say “I love you.” If you listen to John, it wasn’t just Seth and Fred who were at the intervention from those SNL days. Also, The Twelve Step Program doesn’t work for everyone, so it might not be the best idea to superimpose that model onto whatever John went through. This seems to be a trigger for you. If that is the case, I am sorry for you. Just to let you know that like many of us, I have been impacted, in my case with an alcoholic parent.
@@harryLime1987 He said "coked up Bambi" like the Disney character not "amby." That's why Seth then made a Thumper joke. Thumper is another character from Bambi. So...yeah not a single mention of SSRIS
I’m really glad to see some honest and candid reactions in the comments. Having 30 years’ sobriety, I can tell you that I’m still worried for John, but thrilled that Seth and other friends are so supportive. And I hope Anna is okay. Most of all, this baby needs love and support and I wish the baby all the best.
I was surprised that he got into a new relationship while newly sober, which is generally not considered a good idea, but I do hope all goes well for all involved.
I'm also worried! We usually say don't date in the first year in addition to making any other huge life changes... Having a baby is a GIGANTIC life change and is so challenging. When times are hard with a baby, you want to check out so badly... I don't know why I'm so stressed over a celebrity but I am! Possibly because I just had a baby myself and have been sober for a few years... It's just a lot of red flags ☹️
I definitely think the baby was a bit of an ✨oops✨ but I also know he’s got a great support system and seems genuinely excited about being a dad. And if he falls back off the wagon, he’ll go back to rehab 🤷🏻♀️ not much we can do, although I wish them all the best
@@Topaz_Estrella John’s family demographic is exactly the same as mine. I can guarantee you that his parents will love and care for him and the baby, but this will not be easy for any of them. They also have my best wishes.
Same here- my Dads (hopefully he never talks about it with me) 20th AA birthday is in December and I now for a fact if he saw this he would be worried.
Don't get me wrong, I love John, but oh boy am I terrified for him. He's been in and out of rehab and would probably need some time to himself, though quickly went to his now new girlfriend and is having a baby?? I don't know man, lot's of red flags that are making me worry :( My heart goes out to him and Anna.
@Kat Ashley jeez, woman! You’re all over this comment section spewing intolerance. Are you saying Robin Williams wasn’t deserving of sympathy? People’s children who fall into addiction are unworthy of love and support? Happy for you that you are demon-free, but you clearly have zero clue what the drivers of addiction might be for a person, or how scary and depressing it feels.
@Kat Ashley 🤨 no they need compassion so they can get better. Telling anyone how shitty they are doesn’t do anything. Good people can do shitty things and deserve a chance to redeem themselves
@Kat Ashley You are dumping your own personal trauma with 0 compassion. Yes addicts can do terrible things, but nothing is so black&white. I think you need to grow up.
@Kat Ashley I know a recovering addict and he was a complete nightmare when using. He’s super chill and nice now, in recovery. He was acting out a lot of pain from having a bipolar mother. He finally sought treatment and therapy and it was a huge relief. We’re all very happy for him. He is a beloved member of our circle. What I am saying, is that you can still care about, and have compassion for a person even if their addiction is perverting their personality. One must make a distinction between the lost, destructive,, wounded, addicted persona and authentic, pure essence of a person. Life is crazy and messy. People have trauma, mental problems, ADHD, shame. People seek to escape, self-medicate, modulate their brain chemistry. They sometimes fall down the rabbit hole, implode, betray, lie, confound. People wrestle with demons. I don’t engage with active addicts, but I have deep compassion for humanity. “To err is human.” Ps Compassion and empathy are hallmarks of maturity but regardless, I very much appreciated the suggestion to “grow up.” It wax a nice touch.
Never seen John Mulaney so vulnerable. I'm excited to see him get back to comedy and be well. its sad that the world was cruel to him 2 years ago without knowing anything.
Having a baby with a woman you meet straight out of rehab while vulnerable and date for less than 6 months is not a power move and is probably a bad idea
Also the tone he used talking about this whole thing was super weird. “ I am lucky to have met this woman…” - this woman?! You mean Olivia the future mother of your child ?
I constantly worry about John. From the first time I saw him, I have been intrigued, entertained, and concerned. I know very little about Anna, but my heart breaks for her. She must have felt so helpless during his relapse whilst having her own heart broken over the separation. To know that he's having a child with another woman (especially after how much he used to say that he and Anna didn't want children) must be so difficult. I really hope she's doing ok.
Here's the thing I've noticed, even before the baby news: did anyone say Anna was at the intervention? Did she play any role in helping him come to terms with his addiction or encouraging him to get help? That's why I assume he divorced her right after, and no one even mentioned she was a factor in his recovery process. She's supposed to be big biggest supporter & it sounds like, for one reason or another, she didn't even try.
@@pixiebells I think in the timeline John gives in this interview he had already split from his wife in October, then the intervention sounds like it was about December. If he left and cut off contact, then maybe that had something to do with her not being around after
@@pixiebells but also as someone who's dealt with someone with an addiction you can only give so much before you're spent. So I can totally see Anna trying and trying and just not wanting to deal with it anymore.
Agreed. People seem very worried about him because he is famous But they ignore the fact that a woman that has supported him through rough times had to come home to a drugged up man who told her he is having a baby with another woman and he is leaving her. At least now she can find someone better. And sorry, yes he is a good comic, he is handsome and looks very young,. But he is a grown adult who CHOSE to do drugs (at least when he started) , CHOSE to cheat on his wife, CHOSE to hurt everyone around him and be completely focused on his wants. His ex wife can do much better, she deserves better. John was born with everything and throw it all away, I have no sympathy for him. Not when so many people are struggling so hard and have everything stacked against them and he gets everything handed out to him and just wrecks and breaks everything and everyone around him.
So much respect for John for speaking so honestly about the reality of his addiction. Likewise for Seth; neither of these men is in an easy position getting through this, but you can clearly feel the friendship and support through this interview. Love JM! When they say "i love you" to each other it's all the feels.
As a recovering addict, I worry for him. This isn't about Anna or Olivia. Idc who he's with or if he's having a kids. I don't care that a stage performer may not be the same person as his stage performance - it's that this is terrible stress for recovery that is NOT recommended and NEVER a good idea so soon into recovery.
@@ClayJack2095 meh. My mother stopped using, but I sort of became her new addiction. Not healthy either... I hope he's feeling ok. My mom was an emotional wreck.
Incredible stress on recovery, yes. Ideal situation? Absolutely not. But since we don’t know a whole bunch about his journey or the exact timing of everything that went down, not sure how much planning was involved. Wouldn’t be the first “accident”. Depending on how he frames this, the works he puts in, and the support he has, it can and has worked out OK. Being on the receiving end of harsh criticism and judgement definitely undermines recovery.
@@bartwilson2513 I do agree. At the same time, John is a celebrity who made the choice to do interviews so soon. Are the comments from some people right? Not at all. Is John fully aware of how the general public treats celebrities and made the choice to do this interview knowing full well people would say all kinds of stuff? Yes. Would his rehab recommend public appearances ontop of all the other stress so soon into his recovery? No. People are gross, but you sadly will never be able to stop them from saying what they want about you. You have to take yourself out of the equation. I doubt, or at least really hope he isn't, John is obsessing over what people are saying about him and reading these comments. I don't approve of the majority of things people are saying about him, but they aren't me and they aren't you. We aren't them to change their minds and delete the paragraph before posting it. You know? I wish we lived in a world where empathy was more of a thing. We don't. We have to remove ourselves from situations like this for our own sake. All addicts deal with the court of public opinion, mainly family and friends for the average person, on some level. John unfortunately is at a major level. It's still our duty to remove ourselves from the situation if it is detrimental to our recovery.
I'm worried about his Ex-Wife right now. He joked all the time about how he didn't want kids, said how much he loved her everywhere and now he's having a baby and she stays silent about it all out of respect for his career. I'm really happy for John but I think these news are surely tough for his ex wife as well
Agreed. I feel like there's a lot going on behind the scenes and I know that it's his job to be in the public eye, but I really wish he hadn't been so public about it.
First thing I thought of, he was 'happy" on Colbert show I think and said he wasn't ready for kids with Jerry Seinfeld but now, he is. I hope he is happy but his ex must feel awful.
“They’re great, but I love what I do,” the 39-year-old candidly said of kids at the time. “And I love my wife and spending so much time with her and we have a really fortunate life. I get to travel, do stand-up, and our relationship is so wonderful. It’s just something I wouldn’t want to change." Addiction changes a lot and I'm sad he suffers so much but I also hope that child will be loved and it's not a trigger to go back. He's lucky he has great friends.
Very sad how we’ve watched him go from my girlfriend, THATS MY WIFE!!, and now to my ex wife. I truly hope John has a successful recovery, but I mostly hope that Anna Marie Tendler heals from this trauma.
it’s actually none of your or anyone else’s business. the fact that so many people feel at ease to openly speculate on such matters is a strange thing to witness. can we not allow people to have some privacy?
@@funnyhandle lol. Youre clueless. No one told John Mulaney to share his personal life with millions of others. He chose that on his own. Did you not see the video?
This just makes me respect Not only john but Seth even more. Takes a lot of guts and humility to talk about this so freely on Live tv and it had to help a ton having Seth being such a good friend.
Legit said "UGH, this oughta be good" out loud. Seriously though, as an alcoholic it's refreshing to see someone talk about their addiction with candor and humor instead of tiptoeing around it.
@@nakatominocalamari2969 you're right, and it cant be changed now, but it was just irresponsible unfortunately. dating right out of recovery and especially having a baby right out of it is so dangerous + i hope everything works out okay for them.
@@nakatominocalamari2969 Oh please, F OFF DUDE! He's on national TV talking about. Clearly he's making it our business by blabbing about on national TV. Your pompous and arrogant comment is absurd beyond belief.
Geez. On the one hand, I want to congratulate John for sharing everything. On the other, major red flags and there’s a lot of high risk situations on the horizon. I hope he handles it all ok but the major life changes really do not suggest he is as stable as he says.
@@AG-kp4sh You can't just go throwing around the diagnosis of sociopath to someone you don't even know. You don't know what goes behind the scenes and it is unfair to judge someone you've never even met.
I remember watching this and thinking Mulaney was going to die soon and we'd be watching this and saying how foretelling it was. I'm so thankful they saved him.
Seth is def giving me "im happy you're safe and sober now, but damn, you left a great woman and you're rushing into this new relationship" vibes. Of course the majority of us don't know what happened between John and Anna in private, but as someone who has been in Seth's position, the sentiment was palpable on my end. I've seen it happen too many times.
I don't know much about John's ex, but I've seen enough of Olivia to know that they will be raising the kid in separate households soon enough. It's not a marriage situation. I can't imagine how he's ex-wife feels, but there's reports she's also had her on stint in rehab (for emotional support, not drugs/alcohol).
@@bernlin2000 My thoughts exactly. That kid will have all the financial support they need but man…. Would NOT wish this situation on anyone. What a mess for all involved. :(
At lot of people who spend majority of their marriage or relationship in addictions, can’t continue them sober. You’re a completely different person. Whether you were addicted to spouse, they enabled you, you did drugs together, whatever, the dynamics change and alter, and that usually wrecks the relationship. A new fresh start, preferably later than happened to John, works best for sobriety.
"If she does her job well as a mother..." I don't want to make assumptions, but definitely thinking that Seth does not approve of how fast everything is going. He looks one step away from shaking John's shoulders and yelling "WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS?!?!?!?"
the more I learn about Seth the more I come to respect and love him. he's a truly decent and good person who cares about his friends, supports his co-workers and seems to be always there when you need him.
Dude this is genuinely amazing. Two people on national television talking about an issue a lot of people go through, whether that be on John’s or Seth’s end, and working thru the issue together rather than alienating the person struggling with addiction.
you never though, you only knew the wife presented via Johns comedy routines, which would be an embellished view of them for the purposes of jokes. you knew the character of the comedy persona of John Mulaneys wife, not the actual people.
@@stevencgr But of course. Not only do I really not know his ex-wife, I don't really know HIM, just the image he presents on stage. But it WAS his decision to make his wife a prominent part of his comedy routines, so it's not unreasonable for some of his fans to wonder how she's doing. And the fact that she said that "John has decided to end our marriage" suggests that the breakup may not have been amicable. The end of marriages rarely are. That doesn't mean that anyone is the bad guy, especially since we don't know the reasons for the breakup. But it's sad and I feel for those involved.
Yeah, it’s crazy how someone can be the reason your life is better and I wouldn’t get through this without you and I promise to love you forever, to divorced and having a kid with the next person you meet so quick after. We obviously can’t speculate on their personal issues, but the general idea that this happens to so many people and in this case it’s publicized, I mean that just sucks :/
Right…? It’s all so strange. It must’ve been such a slap in the face to be the person trying to stand by your significant other during their addiction and then THEY end it it with you? And then meet someone else and have a child within a year? All quite sad :(
@@patchworkgirl27 It's entirely possibly that she is the reason they didn't want/couldn't have kids, but Mulaney used his comedy to make it seem like it was a WE thing. Either way, as long as both parties are happy and in better places now, that's all that matters
I really love John but man this one hurt so much. I remember him saying so many times in his stand ups how much he loves his wife and how happy he is to have found her. And now new girlfriend and a baby in a few months after their split... I guess we never know whats going on in another persons life (or head), but I feel so bad for Anna
Same i remember him saying he loved that she was so straightforward... If her tummy hurt she would even say that lol... I forget the joke totally but anyway they just seemed ROCK SOLID to me... And so to hear this kind of shocked me and made me really sad just knowing that they really couldnt make it work
It’s not a few months. It’s just been public for a few months. Also you can love someone deeply and still want to get a divorce. Relationships are complicated
What is there to feel bad about? She's no longer married to someone who is an addict and will remain so for the rest of his life, even if he controls it. And the best part is, she can't even take him back, being a codependent, because he burned the bridges. He did the best thing for his ex wife, he released her! Of course it would have hurt less if he didn't end up with a sexy movie star, but hey, small price to pay Ana marie! You may not feel that way, but you are one lucky woman.
@@doncorleone7703 Nah, there are those of us who don't know. We just think our friends are being weird. Seth seems to be like me; just naive and clueless about it all.
@@mbarry415 your pretty much on point here. As someone who went through some addiction struggles I can confirm that yeah, often times it “takes one to know one.” My family and coworkers who weren’t familiar with drugs didn’t pick up on it. I think sometimes they knew I was “a bit off” but couldn’t pinpoint it…but anyone I knew who were familiar with “partying” themselves at some point or another can spot each other from a mile away.
I love the honesty of this conversation! Let's destigmatize addiction and going to rehabilitation and your friends helping you through that! Seth is a great friend and John is lucky to have him.
Agreed on all counts. Also...let's destigmatize healthy drug use itself. There's no such thing as a bad drug....just unhealthy use patterns. Humans love drugs...always have, always will. And burying our head in the sand about that fact LEADS to addiction and constant relapse and societal problems etc etc etc. If we were totally honest about which drugs have which positive and negative attributes...and which people can handle which aspects of those....we'd all be living in a better world. But that takes radical honesty. I'll be honest. I like cocaine a lot. I do it maybe once every 6 months. Usually to do a deep clean of my apartment. Never gotten addicted or used daily. Never had any negative associated with it whatsoever. That's my story. The sort of story you just don't hear, that is never talked about. Coke....it's great for spring cleaning. But don't push it....it can easily get a hook in you. But if you don't let that happen(there are ways) you'll be just fine. Again....honestly.
A big shot out to Seth helping John through this part of his life, and then giving him some time on air to just share his truth so openly. That's a pretty great friend.
The more I learn about Seth Meyers, the better he seems. He's always gone out of his way to showcase his friends' talents. He gives credit to his writers, he has supported Amber's show, and he gives Wally a chance to shine and probably make more money by being on air. He is absolutely the type of guy who would help plan an intervention for his friend and then stick close to him to make sure he doesn't relapse. Mulaney is a super talented guy that any show would be lucky to have when he's sober, but I feel like Seth is the one who would take him on in any condition, just to have him nearby. I understand that Seth didn't recognize the problem as soon as he could have because he needed an outside perspective, but giving John that segment when he wasn't at his best probably saved his life. Once the audience pointed out that he seemed off it sounds like Seth and their other friends took a step back and made the realization that probably saved his life. I'm glad that such a genuinely good person has this platform and these resources. There are so many complete and utter dicks in the entertainment industry. It's nice to see the good guy get ahead. Mulaney seems like a genuinely nice person with a lot of love to give too, but he's got to love himself. Most addicts hurt people when they're caught up in their disease, and the nice ones tend to dwell on the guilt so much that it drives them back to it. I hope he has genuinely come out the other side of this, but this seems like a critical time that will make or break him.
good for him for getting sober and becoming a dad but jesus christ i feel bad for anna not to paint her as a victim or something but your drug addicted husband divorcing you and then getting his new girlfriend pregnant and then talking about the whole ordeal publicly has gotta be a stab to the heart
Yeah maybe. Maybe she was a big part of why he had a problem in the first place which is why he divorced her. Point being, no one actually knows anything so why does anybody talk about any of it as if it's their business. Who cares. Let them all live their lives instead of talking about them.
@@bestieswithtesties Honestly, that was my initial thought too. We don’t know what happens behind closed doors. All I know is that I wish him the best.
@Ben DoverSeeing as they both spent the past spring in inpatient treatment programs (for addiction and for mood and eating disorders, respectively), it's fair to say that neither John nor Anna were victims of the other, but rather simply two flawed, struggling, well-meaning, mistake-making humans.
I think no matter what this must be a difficult interview for Seth to do knowing that he knows both Anna & John. Regardless of the details of their separation, this is probably still a very difficult & heartbreaking time for Anna. I hope she can heal and find love again.
This is what true friendship is. Both respect each other and props for John to come on the show and talk about it. Props to Seth for being a friend and willing to still be there through it all. As tough as life is sometimes. This is good.
@D just saw it in an article. These are some of the people in that intervention. “…he revealed how friends including Meyers, Bill Hader, Natasha Lyonne, Fred Armisen and his best friend Nick Kroll persuaded him to go to a clinic”
In recovery it's generally recommended that we avoid romantic relationships for the first year or two. It tends to make it harder to focus on yourself and the work you should be doing on your recovery. I like John and Seth a great deal based on what I know of them. Friendships like theirs can be a powerful tool in recovery and I admire their willingness to talk about it so openly.
Kudos to John for doing this interview, he didn't have to and I hope he didn't feel pressured into it, but I think it could be really helpful for people to better understand and sympathize with people who struggle with addiction. I'm glad Seth is such a good friend for John and I hope things keep getting better for him.
I know he's a comedian and he makes jokes out of dark life situations but I cant Imagine how hard this was for him to tell the world what was truly going on in his life behind the scenes. Im really hoping for positive things for his life, I hope were all wrong and that this relationship and baby do help him stay sober. That being said I also cant imagine annas pain, and I hope she is doing well also.
As I watched this, all I could think was "John is so lucky he has a friend with connections who was willing to take the time to bring him on and literally coach him through all the crazy things going on in his life, to set a sympathetic tone and own the conversation." Seth did him a huge solid here.
i thought the same thing. like i know this is his thing and having had experiences of anything he's gonna tell jokes but these feel kind of genuenly sad, idk maybe its just too soon but I hope everyone involved is doing ok, including his ex wife. 7 years is a long time to then divorce and have a bb :(
Yeah, he probably is hiding a whole lot of real pain and trouble under these jokes. Which makes sense, he is probably not comfortable sharing those details and we have no right to them. I do hope all of those involved are going to be okay. Addictions can be hard to beat.
my heart hurts for anna. and the fact that john said he never wanted children and is now so quickly pregnant with his new girlfriend... i can not imagine the toll that would take on someone...
I definitely had the similar thoughts at first. It's wonderful to be empathetic to people going through a hard time, so it's lovely that you are clearly an empathetic person. But I the more I think on it, the more it comes to me that it's possibly dangerous to speculate state of mind when we have no idea about the circumstances that led to their divorce. It's all so personal and the decision to have children is not just one person's. Also, it's worth noting that John Mulaney always specified that he had no idea if they would change their minds eventually about kids, not that it was something set in stone. You could very well be right that it is a hard journey for Anna Tendler, but I'm going to try not to project as much based on how I think I'd feel in that situation.
@@lono285 I mean, I’m not saying they divorced because of children, absolutely not. Just saying that it’s such a shift, the fact John said he didn’t want to be a father
@@lono285 in all fairness, John Mulaney wont shut up about deep personal details of his life so we have plenty of information about the circumstances of his relationships.
He’s always joking and so it’s hard to tell if he’s just being self deprecating or if he’s actually clueless as to what it means to be an addict. He seems like such a smart and fun person to be around though and hope he is on the right track. Will be a daily battle though !
That's how it is with comics. Sooner than later, the funny facade makes a permanent imprint on the personality, and we find a way to deal with our issues through our humour.
I feel like he’s self deprecating. He’s definitely darker and less quirky in this interview. It’s good that he’s talking about it. But I feel like he’s trying to make it funny and talk about it because it’s in the tabloids and why not joke about it and face it head on?
I very much appreciate how honest he is. I feel like we as a society would do so much better if we could speak this honestly about the highs and low of addiction.
How incredible humanized and compassionate. I am happy to see people have honest conversations on shows that tend to only portray the “bubbly happy” side of everything. I never knew John was struggling with drugs but I am glad to hear he is doing better now. I hope it continues this way.
God bless the producer who decided to make all this one video instead of three separate videos
Absolutely!
FYI If you show up to your minimum wage job high you might get fired, but glad John's landing on his rich white male feet haha
@@amelia0086 thanks. I was not aware, good thing I never LOOK high.
Whaaaat? The manager is high too
i feel like most of seth’s interviews, especially nowadays, are only one video
In recovery, I’ve heard it said to newly sober people, “Get a plant, and if it’s still alive after a year, get a dog.” It’s widely advised to not start a relationship in the first two years of recovery, because getting sober is just the beginning of the real work of finding out why you needed the substance and learning other ways to cope without it. That takes time and a dedication that is very energy consuming. I love John and I hope he stays sober and dedicated to healing.
Wasn't the get a plant thing in the Sandra Bullock movie 28 Days?
@@pjv3185
A movie pulling in plot points from life? Nah!
@@pjv3185 first thing I thought of
I'm worried, too.
I was coming to say something just like this.
Love seeing friends, especially men, saying "I love you" without a hint of mockery or humor, just genuinely and openly caring for one another. The world needs more love.
Guys say I love you all the time to each other you ever met a guy before?
I tell my best friend I love you. No shame
Yes...
But..
Wouldn't being divorced from your wife be better timing to tell someone else you love her?
@@JustAskingForAFriendOfAFriend Did you even read OP's comment? Because that one is about John and Seth.
It's not easy for all of us, but we are getting there.
Mulaney was sober from 2005 to 2020. He has 15 years of recovery under his belt. Relapse happens but you don’t lose that clean time experience you had. Everyone’s recovery looks different and as a recovering addict I am proud he got up and talked even laughed about it because you have to! It helps remind you how it was and where you are now and where you are going! Well done John!
I also think a lot of addicts regret not being able to just have a drink or have a fun experience once in a while without relapsing
@@huckleberrylachow2202 when your an addict it is really never fun. Goes downhill and gets dark fast as he shows. Why we cant do that like “normal” people lol. Your mind may say you can but if an addict you cant really and you know this
💯💯💯
Yes! more people should be supporting him!!
I second this
Gotta say, Seth is the only late night host who can handle this tone well. Seriously glad to see this kind of content
Totally--No one else could have pulled this off. I also feel that his current no-audience format contributed to the intimate tone of this interview. I can't imagine this interaction having the same genuine, heartfelt quality if it had occurred in a room with tons of folks, instead of just their crew.
Colbert could do it too, I think. I’ve seen it but for the life of me I can’t recall whom he was interviewing. But I agree for sure that Seth conducted this interview beautifully.
Same!
@@ProHobbyjogger was it the Anderson Cooper interview? That was awesome.
@@ProHobbyjogger Yeah, both Colbert and Seth have shown their serious sides in times when human rights and democracy was in jeopardy. The other late night show hosts (no names) seem too insecure/tense/hammy/overcompensating to be able to do that convincingly, so they should stick to their funny bits.
Mixed feelings, but a takeaway is Seth Meyers is an angel of a human.
He really is 🥺
Yeah, I don't think John comes off well at all and it makes it worse to be like
"Boy, was I a massive junkie! My behavior...whooo, boy"
When it was basically the same as it is here. He was a rich dude with a coke problem, not a violent alcoholic or smackhead. He seems like the same guy with the mask removed.
Seth is great. John is concerning, insofar as I’m concerned about celebrities in recovery. New relationship? 😳 Baby on the way? 😳😳 Good luck with all that!
I dunno... I mean, I'm happy if John is okay, but the way he's presenting himself here strikes me a bit odd. Plus, as far as i know rehab professionals tell you to first come clean with yourself. Meaning the first year you dont start new relationships and certainly not a freakin' new family!
You learn to be yourself, manage your life and your sobriety.. you don't go off just finding a new cruch.
Anyway, I sure hope he's proving every expert wrong...
@@Sweet.Mother.of.Cheesus I read his girl friend always liked him, knew of him before wedding where they met. Maybe she doesn't care about addiction but I hope she's clean and keeps an eye on him with baby. So much stress with baby along with love.
Seth is truly that one guy you'd want in your corner during a difficult time. He's just a real solid human being
And a cheater
I love Seth so much. Colin Jost tells a story of Seth talking him into buying a super expensive shirt and tie in Copenhagen and for some reason it endeared him to me more. Even though he then didn't buy anything for himself at the expensive store. His lesson to Jost was still very brotherly: You have worked hard. It's okay to spend your money.
@@aneeshaarshad4956 wait rlly?
@@mo_7199 according to the self appointed internet detectives, not actual reality. That person is being toxic. How about we stay out of his life beyond what he shares, because he's a human being, not just a celeb. The trend of dehumanizing people and dragging them online, just because we can,with no regard to how iy will affect them, just because they are famous, is disgusting.
@@louiselaliberte9816 yea, i know. that was dumb of me to say. we shouldn't meddle in other ppl's lives.
Seth treating John similar to how my friends and family have treated me and still treat me during my recovery. With love and respect and empathy. It's enough to make me cry.
So good to hear. Be grateful for those people every day.
You are extremely blessed
Same
and fake laughs
Same. I’ve found that it’s so much easier to stay sober when I can go to my support system and say, “I WANT DRUGS, HELP!” Just being able to say it out loud alleviates the pain so much. I’m glad you have support!
The wanting never goes away, but it definitely gets easier with time to not scratch the itch. I’ve always compared it to scratching an itch. At first, it’s like having chicken pox and needing pot holders duct taped to your hands, so you don’t scratch. It has now become like feeling a mosquito bite and just being able to put some mental Benadryl on it.
It’s also way easier when you have people around who can tell you not to scratch. ❤️
Seth is the dad of the friend group. He already had dad energy, but this cemented it into the annals of history.
Haha, annal
Fr tho good for him
@@parsnipguy2986 ahhh there's my people 😂😂😂
hehe, anals
@@parsnipguy2986 *anus of history
Seth should probably tell John that having a child in his current situation is a terrible idea
"John Mulaney tells Seth about his eventful year." That is a wee bit of an understatement.
Glad he is doing better.
Did he say he hooked up with Olivia Munn....not the worst year..surely.
I really like that the video description is "John Mulaney tells Seth about his eventful year." There's no point in having a video that's going to be around forever with the description "John Mulaney talks about his problem with cocaine." Also, his eventful year included his work as well as getting into a new relationship and that he's going to be a father.
@@johntheball pretty much, I mean that would def turn most bad years around for most ppl
@@johntheball Yes and she's pregnant with his loin fruit.
He sure “stuffed a lot in” this year… love that…
Openly addressing one of life's harsher realities, with humor and honesty. That's what friends are for.
Chris?
Honesty? I feel like he’s been less than honest here. “I was told I did this” “I was told this happened” “we met at your wedding” - it’s partial truth but a careful PR recovery that’s dishonest by omission or convenient forgetfulness
I think the real story here is the gratuitous abuse of free haircuts at 30 Rock.
@@weirdloverwilde Are you aware that when you're doing THAT much coke, you truly have no idea or memory of what you're doing? He couldn't remember if he tried. In his 2020 GQ interview, he also mentions memory holes. He's being honest.
@@sjfu3090 possibly! Tbh I’ve never heard of coke doing that or had that experience but if you say so.
I love how real this is. Instead of it being "fine" he actually is talking about real-life problems and real-life events. You can tell that he's being vulnerable. I wish him and his family all the best, and good on you Seth Meyers for helping a friend!
The whole video is a "fine" front, did you even watch it? It's so uncomfortable
It's both a front, like @kingnexusmocs says, and not. There are so many moments of sincerity but it's also a bit that you can see repeated, if you watch others from this time.
@@is_a_verb What's interesting is that, while he's being so candid, he's also workshopping his set for Baby J. The line between person and performer can be quite blurred sometimes.
@@rottensquid
I view it more as his way of processing everything that happened. Like a form of therapy… and as a performer perhaps for him it’s one of the best ways to honestly come to terms, learn, realize, take responsibility for, strengthen, give thanks, and self empower toward moving forward more healthfully in life.
@@heatherfeather7199 Totally see what you mean. It's interesting, there's definitely a weird thing about this kind of "my self is the art" artist where the line between lived experience and onstage persona is blurred. As though only by turning himself into this quirky character can he make sense of who he is and what happened to him. Wes Anderson's Life Aquatic explored this idea, blurring the line between the character's lived experience and his self-conscious performance for the documentary of the experience. In the end, there's no way to really separate them, because mugging for the camera is part of who he is.
What was interesting about Baby J is how hyper-aware John is on his public persona throughout the story, from the way he puts out the newspaper at the rehab clinic to the way he tries to take control of the narrative at the intervention. He refers to Mulaney in the third person A LOT. But at the end, he makes clear that his final story isn't the worst of it, it's just the worst he's willing to disclose to us. So that's probably a healthy boundary. After all, we still have to like him in order for him to ply his trade. But he's also acknowledging that the person he's been telling us about is only the edited version of who he had become, not a fictionalized rewriting of history.
It's odd seeing John talk about his drug problem in such recent language and not like "back in college, I smoked crack and now I'm a square"
He mentioned he started drinking at 13, never a good thing
Sadly, it's pretty common for addicts to relapse, even after years of being clean.
Its odd but quite refreshing to be so open and honest about it.
@@deb9806
And people call marijuana the gateway drug... ALCOHOL is the gateway drug.
It was the bloody pandemic... I remember him saying that
Let’s take a moment to acknowledge what a good friend Seth Meyers is.
i know this is about john but danm. seth is.. literally an angel. i loved him before but now i just love him even more. the ending made me tear up tbh and i heard in his voice that he got emotional too.. hes such a great friend and i love him so much
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Yeah, Seth was definitely fighting back the tears there at the end.
I love that he truly accepts John with love at all stages in his life, good or bad. A true friend is a rare thing.
Agree
Yep. He knows his friend is in a really precarious situation, likely to implode in a dramatic fashion, and he knows theres nothing he can do about any of it except be there when the inevitable happens.
"Olivia and this baby have saved me from myself" is arguably the scariest thing a recovering addict could say. That is a humongous red flag and I pray this does not end up the way many people fear it might.
Olivia and this baby have helped saved me from myself
What do you mean?
@@Hecateofcrossroads codependency in early recovery
@@harryLime1987 did you just copy and paste that whole narrative from somewhere? You lost me after “single mom stuff”
@@harryLime1987 "Anyone near him right now is just enabling him" is the most foolish thing I've ever heard. And "just an addict" is horrific... Treating people like a disposable diaper.
NO ONE has ever recovered without friends, family and community. Without people around you, a relapse is completely guaranteed. We find meaning in relationship. I've been on every side of addiction, and i hope and pray that John and Olivia find every happiness and prove themselves great parents and that he never stumbles... And, if he goes, that it is brief and does not destroy his new world.
(If there's any alarm bell for me, it's not John making the choice to be a parent.... That early in rehab, no one is making great decisions. But if I were Olivia, I'd be hella nervous to date him, much less make a baby.)
I feel like Seth is such a good supporting friend, the kind of friend you need that will say I’m here for you and I love you!
He really cares about his friends and the people he works with. He paid out of his own pocket the staff of the show during the beginning of the pandemic when NBC refused to do so.
@@norm-fy5mo wait really? Thats so good of him but at the same time is a shame that nbc didn't
@@harryLime1987 worry about yourself bozo. This just looks like two dudes that care about each other
@@harryLime1987 It would be Nar-Anon in this case.
And the Anonymous part of 12 step programs does not refer to talking about yourself and your experiences. It refers to speaking to anyone regarding who attends meetings and what is discussed. The shared promise of anonymity for yourself and all who attend.
I assume by the time people read down to your warning about antidepressants, they are taking things with a grain of salt.
@@harryLime1987 actual psychiatrist here - maybe shut up if you don’t know what you’re talking about. 12 Step programs don’t have traditions about not talking publicly in general - the traditions refer to not *speaking for the programs themselves* in an official capacity publicly (programs of “attraction not promotion”). Individual members are encouraged to share their own stories as they see fit. As for SSRIs - they are some of the most effective medications we have. They don’t work for everyone but they have saved countless lives and are far from placebo - if you actually looked up the studies you’re asking others to look up you would know that.
The hypocrisy of the war on drugs is on full display here. If you're a rich cocaine addict your friends organize an intervention, you go to rehab, and then maybe you get to talk about it as a humorous story on a comedy talk show. If you're a poor cocaine addict you go to jail, then live with the stigma of being an ex-con, possibly felon, for the rest of your live.
Very very true
as much as this whole situation is none of anyone here’s business and it’s bizarre people feel so free commenting on what should be private matters, you’re nonetheless entirely correct.
absolutely 100% true but we shouldnt bring down his recovery
If you're poor, your friends can still stage a recovery and work to get you into a state-paid-for program. If Mulaney had done something to be arrested for, it wouldn't have gone quite this way.
@@funnyhandle John's on here talking about it so he made it everyone's business.
I can’t even imagine what Anna is going through. I hope she’s able to heal from all this and find someone who loves and supports her.
We don't know what precipitated the split, could be a blessing for her.
Me too I feel horrible she’s such an angel
@@lulumoon6942 Pretty sure it was John
Based on this timeline given here, I’m glad one ended before the other began.
@@lulumoon6942 Well, she's said that she is heartbroken that John ended their marriage. I don't think she is in the stage of thinking it's a blessing yet.
He’s lucky he has friends like Seth who love him and had an intervention to help him.
@@harryLime1987 girl wtf
@@harryLime1987 can you shut the hell up thanks girl
@@harryLime1987 what
His friends like Seth should maybe be like "hey, this is a lot for someone who recently relapsed. Please be careful." And also Seth should say to Olivia "Hey, be wary of the pink cloud John is on..." Jesus. It's genuinely no surprise that a rushed relationship and new baby is tooooo much for a newly "sober" person. Seth's intervention is next. ❤❤❤❤
@@HelloClarice80 "feeling bad about everything all the time means I'm smart"
You know who's probably really happy about John and Olivia having a baby?
John's real estate agent
EDIT: Hey I apologize if this was in poor taste, I tend to not think before I speak
First thing I thought... then it made me a little sad.
no no no no no 💀💀💀💀
Also, i bet that, after John and Anna got divorced, he finally got the Best buy rewards card he wanted so bad
God that's a good one.
"Could be a nursery"
I just appreciate that they ended by telling each other “I love you.” So wholesome.
Super sweet.
Seth seems to do that with his comedian friends. I like to see a man be open about loving his friends
I went to rehab this year. You have no idea how much an “I love you” can mean to somebody mentally struggling. I never get off a phone call with friends/family without saying it.
We should all hope we have at least one friend like Seth in our lives.
We should all strive to be the friend like Seth in someone else's.
Can I get a friend like John?
🏔️
Striving to just have one friend tbh
Well said.
The real lucky ones would actually have Seth as a friend
John is so himself when he’s around Seth, and especially in this clip. They are true friends.
Poor John, having that joyless scumbag for a friend.
@@frankie3010????? wtf did seth meyers do?
A true friend wouldn't have his friend expose or talk about very personal information like this on television.
It's because they both have autism
@@KingNexusMOCs it's clearly something that John wants to talk about, you're acting like Seth is like 'gotcha, now talk about your trauma'. They are good friends and its wonderful that they're showing its okay to be vulnerable and talk about hard things with supportive people
My heart goes out to Anna and the baby. Sobriety right after a relapse is SO delicate. So to go from being married, divorced, into rehab, and then to a new girlfriend with a child on the way…is very troubling. Especially after his very public opinion about having children.
what did he say about having children? even a paraphrase would be appreciated because i cant find it anywhere!
@@SaminSays I remember once he said he was too busy to have kids and that him and Anna (his ex wife) we're happy with their life
@@SaminSays ruclips.net/video/HTEUgy1GuDg/видео.html around the 4 minute mark
Thank you guys
@@SaminSays He basically said “I don’t know. Maybe we’ll have them one day. Maybe we won’t. But all people do is pressure us like it’s their business.” (Despite the quotes I’m very much paraphrasing)
“I’m told that I was.”
Right out of the gate, Mulaney let’s us know things we’re bad.
And Seth staging an intervention… wow. Didn’t realize how close their friendship is. Seth probably saved Mulaney’s life.
And that Bambi bit was funny AF.
Relevant in a minor way.
One kitchen I worked in, the chef told us he was writing a new menu, and needed some names for the dishes. We were all 420 arts students, so this was a mistake on his part already. So he tells us he's making Venison strips, and does anyone have a name for that, and I said "Bambi Sticks."
Not sure why he didn't like it. I thought it was fucking great.
@@richarquis Okay but that’s legit hilarious. I’d totally order that.
Yeah, that was fun.
I know! Discovering John and Seths friendship through this was a phenomenal story
In his current shows he talks about the intervention a lot
I love that he’s talking about his struggles openly. This is what we need!!! We are slowly chipping away at the stigma around addiction & it’s a great thing for our society.
For those of us who have stumbled many times in our recovery, it’s humbling to realize that money alone cannot lift a compulsion; it’s a very difficult process for everyone. And to see John get back up and keep working is a great reminder that relapses don’t have to spiral to prison, insanity or death.
You are right, it is what we need to hear. It is funny BUT also very real.
@@ProHobbyjogger I mean he cheated on his wife that stood by him for years, dumped her and then immediately knocked up Olivia Munn after claiming he never wanted kids, so I wouldn't consider this a success story. Especially when they literally tell you to not make major life decisions or date anyone within a year of completing rehab.
@@edithputhy4948 That is a LOT of negative to deal with ....
@@edithputhy4948 he and Anna have been at least separated since last September, please do not act like you know them personally
Seth is probably one of the only late-night hosts I genuinely like and respect. You can really tell in this interview that they're good friends and really care about each other, and I wish John nothing but the best.
John is not funny at all. The only reason people laugh is because they feel bad because he has autism
He probably knew about the affair the whole time.
I feel really bad for Seth in all of this but so glad he stepped in. Sounds like he "gave" John the job to keep an eye on him. He's a good friend.
Reminds me of what Kevin Smith did for Jason Mews.
I honestly noted this last year already, when John was clearly suffering from the uncertain situation. Offering him something to focus on.
It's hard for me to feel bad for Seth because I can only imagine him sincerely wanting to bring on his incredibly talented friend no matter the circumstances. And the fact that he saw a way to help, probably didn't give it a second thought.
Hunter Crosby, I don't get why you feel bad for Seth. He's been a real friend, providing real help to someone who really needs it. That's a hard thing to do, but it's right and true.
I want the very best outcomes for both of these treasures. John seems "bambi-legged" still. I hope his recovery rises up singing. xoxo
Seth is an amazing human being. Wow, one would be so lucky to have Seth as a friend 💛💙💛
This man had 5 years of emotions shoved into like 11 months. Probably the most eventful 2020-21 I've heard so far...praying for all parties. This was a lot.
I know. And I thought I went through it 😓
i wish someone would listen to my problems. johns seems like a dreamboat compared to mine
@@haarlembrando no need to compare trauma. get a therapist
“Man fresh out of rehab for substance abuse knocks up girlfriend of only a few months. What could possibly go wrong??” Seriously, as a fan of his work I’m rooting for him, but this whole situation seems messy as hell and could very easily end tragically. The odds aren’t exactly in his favor and it’s highly advised to not make huge decisions like this especially in your first years of recovery. I hope he pulls through but I just have a weird feeling in my gut that this doesn’t end well. Hope I’m wrong…
And honestly, as far along as she looks into her pregnancy in pics, she had to have gotten pregnant VERY quickly into them dating in May. She looks 5 - 6 months along
I completely agree
@@kelseylong698 there’s tons of rumors he cheated on his wife so the pregnancy could also be a result of that. but either way, this is crazy messy.
Who cares, he has money and class and she's having a baby and not running from him and his situation. Plus the psychologist told him he needs structure, no?
@@pund_it1811 who cares? Wait till he offs himself from all the stress of having effed up decisions. Doesnt he have friends and family to tell him he effed up? You know his chill, non-chalant persona is precisely a persona? It's all a front. The smiles and the calmness. He's breaking inside - actually no, he's already broken.
I absolutely love how open John is with his recovery. We need so much more of this. Normalize recovery. Normalize vulnerability. Love you John.
I love John but as an addict (sober 20 years) I have gut feeling that he has a long way to go yet. I remember my journey in the early years...i wanted to conquer my addiction and I had periods of success but I kept relapsing...one thing that struck me here was that when I was clean for a couple of months I used to think talking about it in a 'fun' manner showed that I was in control. But I wasnt...I did it to make other people around me comfortable.
I hope I'm wrong. John seems like a great guy and the last guy you'd expect to have a drug problem. Just goes to show there isnt a type.
Yes, and it's especially bad because his job is to make people laugh, so when he jokes about his addiction it's natural to laugh, but you know it's just a coping mechanism.
Hope you are doing well, Randy. ❤️
@@lpp20-r3l Me, too. I'm glad you're doing well, Randy.
It might be a comfort to point out that he seems to know this as well. Look at the way he looks at Seth when he says he's glad it's all behind him. This isn't a it's behind you thing. Throughout the conversation he also never describes himself as cured, merely as doing better know. I have some addictive tendencies and haven't struggled through rehab (and hopefully won't have to because I mostly struggle with only cigarettes), but I've read infinite jest and it's a pretty extensive read on dealing with addiction and talking about it.
He's definitely still in the danger zone (because I think he'd have to leave Hollywood to be out of it) but it does seem like he's surrounded by people looking after him.
Definitely. That guy's so far out of control I couldn't watch the whole thing, plus his interview is lies start to finish. You were also watching the unraveling of a friendship -- Meyers is trying awfully hard, but that breaking point's pretty close.
Kudos to John for wearing it on his sleeve, but I think this moment belongs to Seth. It's looking like he has been an outstanding friend these past twelve months.
I rewatched this a second time while only looking at Seth, even when he's not the one talking. He really comes across as a genuinely decent wholesome loving guy.
I’m glad that John is doing better but i gotta say it is so heartbreaking to hear he is having a baby with someone after he said about his last relationship that he never wants to have kids. Must be so shocking for his ex wife.
i don't think it's heartbreaking news that he's having a kid
@@OhWellWhatTheHell1 I think it's pretty heartbreaking for his ex wife, Anna Marie, who he married in 2014 and dated for several years before that. Just a few months ago in May 2021, she said, "I am heartbroken that John has decided to end our marriage. I wish him support and success as he continues his recovery." The ink on their divorce papers has barely dried and here he is publicly announcing that he's having a baby with someone he's dated a few months.
@@OhWellWhatTheHell1 Why is everyone here acting like this was a planned pregnancy? People who don’t want kids have children all the time. This is hardly shocking. Tbh, considering the series of choices JM has made over the past year, an unplanned pregnancy sounds par for the course.
To be honest, he probably didn’t want kids until he met Olivia. It just takes the right person.
@D Not you getting asshurt over an online comment. C’mon dude, that’s pretty pathetic in itself.
All the people who are trying to analyze this are ignoring that Seth Meyers is one of his best friends, and he'd make sure he's okay after this I'm sure.
exactly, ppl should stop playing being professional. we've seen how playing detectives on tiktok goes.. it's not okay at all and weird as hell
exactly- it's how rumors get started. we don't know John and we need to trust him. jumping to random conclusions won't help him even if they might be correct (which usually they're not)
But he didn't see the signs the first time, and no one can change someone else, no matter how hard they try. I'm sure he wishes him the best and will continue to be there for him, but ultimately, John will need to be okay on his own, and I hope he actually does that.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone speak so personally, so publicly, so specifically, and so vulnerably about something so difficult. We all aspire to be so honest with ourselves and those we love. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with all of us. And thanks for supporting your friend Seth!
This appearance would have been more stressful to me than the intervention!
Very well described! It was so personal that I was so uncomfortable watching it! I love John & Seth ! I feel like I had to add that!!!
Well then I suggest you watch David Letterman admits to an affair with a young staffer and being blackmailed about live on tv.
@@jasondownsnet he mad a joke out of it completely. John seems to be making jokes while holding himself accountable. I love letterman but he's pretty scummy.
???? this was a total PR move
I think it’s ok to acknowledge the pain that Anna must feel and also be incredibly happy and grateful that John is doing well. I wish them both happiness in their separate lives.
This is the comment I needed to digest all this
he's not "doing well" he's about to have a newborn baby with someone he barely knows when he's been public about never wanting children
@@dawnhunter2558 you must know john very well then!!
Exactly! And everyone harping on John for saying he never wanted kids, we don’t know the situation. Maybe he did want them, but Ana didn’t and he made the choice to support that. We don’t know, we don’t need to know, so lets be happy!
If only he would have the decency to do so and not just mention her as an extra in his movie. He is a true narcissist.
I'm an addict too, clean 4 yrs and honestly I've never been able to be as open about it as John is....so thank you John this was actually healing for me, and I know it's not easy to be that open. I truly applaud you.... you may never understand how amazing this is for others.
apparently his new stand up is all about his addiction which I think is probably the reason why atm he seems fuctional. but respect to you man, the hardest thing is wanting to help yourself so congrats and you hope you stay strong and stay clean
Congrats on the sobriety!
Congrats 👏
He's open about it, but he's absolutely not dealing with it. He can play it off for comedy so he doesn't have to deal with it. Stephen Colbert completely pegged him when they did that interview. You don't have to be open to deal.
When Seth put his hand over John’s when he said he’s now grateful for them saving his life, that was so sweet. ❤️ I hope hope he’ll be okay and stuck in this recovery, he’s having an awful lot happen while just beginning this path, and that’s going to complicate it a lot, and I hope he’ll get through this; all the love. 🙏🏼💕
As the daughter of a 15 year sober dad.. First thing I have to say is I am proud of John. It takes a lot of guts to be this open and vulnerable about such personal things. Life is crazy and I hope nothing but the best for this man and his new family. I hope he uses this as an opportunity to turn a new leaf.
The first positive comment (scrolling from the top). What a frightening comment section; I'm naive to basically any of this lifestyle or what it means. But I was also hoping to read kind words from someone, bringing light back into the dark room here. Thank you and congratulations to your father as well :)
@@EmpyreanLightASMR There are plenty of kind words in this comment section. "Kindness" does not always mean "positivity." Most of the comments are stating they are concerned or worried for him, specifically because these commentators are NOT naive about the lifestyle or what it means. Mulaney is in his first year out of rehab, and the first year is very fragile. You're not supposed to make _any_ big life changes, and Mulaney has made at least three, some of the biggest life changes one can make, in fact.
Stating concern for that or acknowledging that it's basically a bomb of a situation waiting to explode is not "mean" or "unkind." Just the opposite, it is the most kind to tell someone you like and love that you think they're making a bad decision.
Think of it this way; if you were about to step over a cliff, would you prefer someone say "I'm scared for you, please reconsider" or "Go for it, you can do it"?
One of these is a kind thing to do. The other is "toxic positivity."
@@GoddoDoggo That's a great point. I was seeing the concern written in such a worried state that I didn't take it as kindness I guess.
@@EmpyreanLightASMR Yeah but they are saying it to turn bad and I can guarantee you that they will be crying when they see him happy with his life
much respect to you.!
I've watched this three times now, trying to get a read on John, and I can't pretend to understand how cocaine habits work, but my god is Seth a good friend and the only host who could've had an interview with John right now.
Seth isn't a good anything.
@@frankie3010 do you know him personally?
Cocaine is actually an easy drug to withdraw from, once you’re in treatment. It’s the drugs addicts often take when they’re in Coke world that are difficult and potentially harmful to stop taking. John made a lot of big life decisions when he should have known better. If he keeps messing up, he will become uninsurable.
Good of Seth to support him.
@@frankie3010 internet troll I presume?
@@Caperhere I would argue that's person to person. Some people as soon as they get off never need it and barely feel urges and others get phantom feelings of being high for years later and eventually break down and go back to using, especially if you're in a bad situation mentally.
No one could of handled this interview with the balance of humor, love, and care like Seth did for John. Such honesty and raw emotion. Proud of them both for being loving and genuine to each other.
WELL SAID👍🏼
the absolute honesty and dry humour throughout this is incredible. I'm so pleased that john is back on his feet and has a healthy support system. it's also very heartwarming to see 2 male friends being openly affectionate and supportive.
It always makes me queasy when someone goes on national television to talk about their new love and their RECENTLY ex-spouse is still (maybe, understandably) reeling. Empathy for Anna. I hope you, Anna, are finding some peace and new life.
@@thetripleas5582 Thank you. I've been in Anna's shoes (so to speak), minus the national television. IT SUCKS. Having your (recent) EX telling it out there on television for all the world to see must be another ring of hell altogether.
Exactly. I cannot imagine just how heart wrenching it would be for your husband, who just divorced you 8 months prior, announce they’re expecting a baby with their rebound. Her being married for so long and no kids and then they divorce and now he’s so giddy about having a kid?? Sucks he had a drug problem but treating your family (ie spouse) like garbage is inexcusable.
This.
@@eveganderson guessing you are under 30 or from Tennessee
@@eveganderson Evie, that is why I inserted the "maybe". By the way, which interview, when, which outlet?
Watching John’s transition from MY wife to my ex-wife is honestly so tragic.
have u triedkeeping ur mouth absolutely SHUT
His new baby will be just another prop in his stand up comedy.
Very few divorces are tragic Sharanya. I'm pretty sure we don't know enough about their relationship from a couple jokes a few years apart to proclaim that this divorce is near the top of the list of horrible things that have happened.
@@AG-kp4sh yeah probably.
No doubt that the situation might have had heartbreak and tragedy. We cannot know what Anna and John must have gone through and during that time. We can only wish them the best. Life is immensely complex. They are lucky they have such wonderful friends.
The: "How was it for you?" about the intervention, his laugh 😭😭😭🤣🤣
I actually applaud JM for talking about this and how grateful he is to his friends. It's hard for people to open up, let alone recalling what happened month to month. I hope this inspires people and I hope he's in a better situation today.
For most people, yes, it is difficult to open up about hard things. For John, it seems to be how he likes to deal with his problems. I think he enjoys it. It’s sort of like confession. It gets things off his chest and makes it easier for him. The harder thing to do would be to not discuss it out of respect for Anna. He did the selfish thing. I do applaud him for going to rehab. That’s hard. But not for this.
@@laramccully3272 He didn't even mention anna once? hes only talking about his own life.
@@clara-nt9rx He doesn’t need to mention Anna, he discusses personal things with no regard to how it makes her feel, seeing and hearing how “happy” he is now. For years, he told Anna he didn’t want children but now, going on about it, he’s really saying he just didn’t want them with her. I guess I just expected a bit more class or even mere tact from him.
@@laramccully3272 why are you so invested and offended by this? Is Anna some saint? You don't know anything about these people. I guess some man hurt you and you can't understand that some people can leave toxic situations to save themselves. Maybe ending his marriage was part of his healing. You don't know and nobody owes you any closure.
@@MisssKayy, I’m not any more invested than you, or anyone else who took the time to be brave and vulnerable enough to give their honest opinion, and risk being attacked by someone who disagrees or has little life experience or understanding. Yes, I was left with a 3 year-old and 1 year-old when I was 30 and my husband decided he wanted no responsibility and found a 19 year-old who would give him sex and pay to support him while he pretended to invent the next big app. Yes, I feel for Anna and any other woman who has to go through the same awful experience. I’m truly sorry that you lack the ability to feel compassion for others. That must be sad for those close to you.😔
I am so thankful that John is okay - and feel privileged to be able to listen in what feels like a personal conversation between two close friends.
Something about him suddenly deciding to get a haircut is painfully sad after remembering that his ex wife used to cut his hair. I wish both of them nothing but the best.
She has to be feeling torn up. John and Olivia’s thing went public super fast after his divorce and leaving rehab, which points to infidelity.. But nobody except them knows for sure. I saw his newest special live 2 weeks ago. It was hilarious and he talked all about rehab and his addiction but zero mention of Anna or Olivia
@@melissag1364 I saw his show 2 nights ago. He mentioned Olivia and Anna for just a couple minutes in the beginning. It was roughly just “The past year has been wild. I’m with Olivia now and we’re pregnant, but the reviews have been mixed. As if we’re a movie. The kid hasn’t even come out yet! But the youths prefer my ex Anna, which is rough”. Obviously just paraphrasing because I don’t remember the exact words and they lock your phones up. He didn’t make any other mention of it in the rest of the show.
@@melissag1364 he says in this video that he moved out of their house before he relapsed. So there’s that 🤷♀️
@@heather23renae its also weird cause he called Anna his wife and mentioned her giving him a haircut during his kimmel interview late last year .. if they weren't talking then he wouldn't have mentioned her, let alone get a haircut from her
@@dustmite5887 He did still refer to her as his wife in that interview and mentioned they were quarantined together in dc because of a project she was working on. But i dont think he mentions anything regarding her present tense. Its not that uncommon to still act like ur together if its not public knowledge that u split up. He definitely didnt say anything about her giving him a haircut in that interview ,that was another one from last spring during lock down.
Glad John is okay, but sending good vibes to Anna. I hope she has a friend like Seth, being the quiet one in a public break-up isn't easy.
(Edited to include his ex-wife's name. Sorry!)
I so hope his ex is doing well. And that neither hurt the other. I personally relate more to being dumped by someone who i made a lifetime commitment to than being addicted to substances.
@@newengresearch1287 I relate to both.
I so hope Anna will recover, and thrive. THIS must be so hurtful to see, hear about, experience. UGH.
I was thinking about her as well. I especially felt for her when he announced that Olivia is pregnant. When he was with his ex he said over and over again that he didn’t want to have kids. Now he’s with Olivia and is thrilled to be a dad. I’m glad John is okay, but my heart really goes out to his ex as well
To be fair, when John & Anna were together he only ever said that *they* ("we") didn't want kids, at least not yet. So for all we know, she didn't want them & he could've gone either way. As for the split itself, it'll take time but she'll be okay.
My wife and I saw him yesterday in New Orleans and his show was amazing! He owned his truth and as a recovering addict myself he was genuine and hilarious. And yes he opened with acknowledging it wasn’t ideal to be in a new relationship right after rehab. Johns show was his best stand up set to date.
Man I wanna see it so bad but I don't live in the states, guess i'll have to wait for the special
I saw him last year in March and he was so good. I got tickets for my birthday and it was truly a wonderful show. He was honest and raw and so so funny.
I wasn’t thrilled he left his wife and all that but he owned it. Any comedian that cover relapse, intervention and recovery the way he does in baby J is brilliant comedian
Im glad he feels safe with Seth because the timing… it’s really all still new and he’d obviously really have to trust Seth to even come. I’m glad they have each other.
Um okay.
@@harryLime1987 a.a has never stated, you aren't supposed to talk about your own addiction, previous drug use, or things you did.
Maybe you've confused not talking about or name other people in the meeting, outside of the meeting.
Talking about drug addiction is helpful, for the addict.
@@harryLime1987 You are neither privately nor professionally qualified to judge Seth as Co-dependent. That group of SNL actors were and have remained extraordinarily close. I think it is marvelous that they are secure enough ( not just Seth and John; I’ve seen others of that group do it too) to say “I love you.” If you listen to John, it wasn’t just Seth and Fred who were at the intervention from those SNL days. Also, The Twelve Step Program doesn’t work for everyone, so it might not be the best idea to superimpose that model onto whatever John went through.
This seems to be a trigger for you. If that is the case, I am sorry for you. Just to let you know that like many of us, I have been impacted, in my case with an alcoholic parent.
@@harryLime1987 Thank you, and all my best.
@@harryLime1987 He said "coked up Bambi" like the Disney character not "amby." That's why Seth then made a Thumper joke. Thumper is another character from Bambi. So...yeah not a single mention of SSRIS
I’m really glad to see some honest and candid reactions in the comments. Having 30 years’ sobriety, I can tell you that I’m still worried for John, but thrilled that Seth and other friends are so supportive. And I hope Anna is okay. Most of all, this baby needs love and support and I wish the baby all the best.
I was surprised that he got into a new relationship while newly sober, which is generally not considered a good idea, but I do hope all goes well for all involved.
I'm also worried! We usually say don't date in the first year in addition to making any other huge life changes... Having a baby is a GIGANTIC life change and is so challenging. When times are hard with a baby, you want to check out so badly... I don't know why I'm so stressed over a celebrity but I am! Possibly because I just had a baby myself and have been sober for a few years... It's just a lot of red flags ☹️
I definitely think the baby was a bit of an ✨oops✨ but I also know he’s got a great support system and seems genuinely excited about being a dad. And if he falls back off the wagon, he’ll go back to rehab 🤷🏻♀️ not much we can do, although I wish them all the best
@@Topaz_Estrella John’s family demographic is exactly the same as mine. I can guarantee you that his parents will love and care for him and the baby, but this will not be easy for any of them. They also have my best wishes.
Same here- my Dads (hopefully he never talks about it with me) 20th AA birthday is in December and I now for a fact if he saw this he would be worried.
Don't get me wrong, I love John, but oh boy am I terrified for him. He's been in and out of rehab and would probably need some time to himself, though quickly went to his now new girlfriend and is having a baby?? I don't know man, lot's of red flags that are making me worry :(
My heart goes out to him and Anna.
exactly :( and the fact that he's with Olivia is so weird to me ?? idk the whole situation is odd
@Kat Ashley jeez, woman! You’re all over this comment section spewing intolerance. Are you saying Robin Williams wasn’t deserving of sympathy? People’s children who fall into addiction are unworthy of love and support? Happy for you that you are demon-free, but you clearly have zero clue what the drivers of addiction might be for a person, or how scary and depressing it feels.
@Kat Ashley 🤨 no they need compassion so they can get better. Telling anyone how shitty they are doesn’t do anything. Good people can do shitty things and deserve a chance to redeem themselves
@Kat Ashley You are dumping your own personal trauma with 0 compassion. Yes addicts can do terrible things, but nothing is so black&white. I think you need to grow up.
@Kat Ashley I know a recovering addict and he was a complete nightmare when using. He’s super chill and nice now, in recovery. He was acting out a lot of pain from having a bipolar mother. He finally sought treatment and therapy and it was a huge relief. We’re all very happy for him. He is a beloved member of our circle.
What I am saying, is that you can still care about, and have compassion for a person even if their addiction is perverting their personality. One must make a distinction between the lost, destructive,, wounded, addicted persona and authentic, pure essence of a person.
Life is crazy and messy. People have trauma, mental problems, ADHD, shame. People seek to escape, self-medicate, modulate their brain chemistry. They sometimes fall down the rabbit hole, implode, betray, lie, confound. People wrestle with demons. I don’t engage with active addicts, but I have deep compassion for humanity. “To err is human.”
Ps Compassion and empathy are hallmarks of maturity but regardless, I very much appreciated the suggestion to “grow up.” It wax a nice touch.
Never seen John Mulaney so vulnerable. I'm excited to see him get back to comedy and be well. its sad that the world was cruel to him 2 years ago without knowing anything.
I am so proud of him for getting sober and baby j was so funny
Seth is like the greatest and supportive friend , WE NEED MORE SETH
Having a baby with a woman you meet straight out of rehab while vulnerable and date for less than 6 months is not a power move and is probably a bad idea
The way that you said this, top notch
Also the tone he used talking about this whole thing was super weird. “ I am lucky to have met this woman…” - this woman?! You mean Olivia the future mother of your child ?
Do you know Olivia Munn? If not, it's probably a bad idea to offer an opinion at this early stage.
Perhaps he thought it in bad taste to mention her without asking her permission. Mullaney is a bit old-fashioned and very courteous.
I constantly worry about John. From the first time I saw him, I have been intrigued, entertained, and concerned.
I know very little about Anna, but my heart breaks for her. She must have felt so helpless during his relapse whilst having her own heart broken over the separation. To know that he's having a child with another woman (especially after how much he used to say that he and Anna didn't want children) must be so difficult. I really hope she's doing ok.
Here's the thing I've noticed, even before the baby news: did anyone say Anna was at the intervention? Did she play any role in helping him come to terms with his addiction or encouraging him to get help? That's why I assume he divorced her right after, and no one even mentioned she was a factor in his recovery process. She's supposed to be big biggest supporter & it sounds like, for one reason or another, she didn't even try.
@@pixiebells I think in the timeline John gives in this interview he had already split from his wife in October, then the intervention sounds like it was about December. If he left and cut off contact, then maybe that had something to do with her not being around after
@@pixiebells but also as someone who's dealt with someone with an addiction you can only give so much before you're spent. So I can totally see Anna trying and trying and just not wanting to deal with it anymore.
@@GoogleUser-fb4lr wasn’t the intervention in September, he relapsed in October and then he went back
Agreed.
People seem very worried about him because he is famous
But they ignore the fact that a woman that has supported him through rough times had to come home to a drugged up man who told her he is having a baby with another woman and he is leaving her.
At least now she can find someone better.
And sorry, yes he is a good comic, he is handsome and looks very young,. But he is a grown adult who CHOSE to do drugs (at least when he started) , CHOSE to cheat on his wife, CHOSE to hurt everyone around him and be completely focused on his wants.
His ex wife can do much better, she deserves better.
John was born with everything and throw it all away, I have no sympathy for him. Not when so many people are struggling so hard and have everything stacked against them and he gets everything handed out to him and just wrecks and breaks everything and everyone around him.
So much respect for John for speaking so honestly about the reality of his addiction.
Likewise for Seth; neither of these men is in an easy position getting through this, but you can clearly feel the friendship and support through this interview.
Love JM! When they say "i love you" to each other it's all the feels.
As a recovering addict, I worry for him. This isn't about Anna or Olivia. Idc who he's with or if he's having a kids. I don't care that a stage performer may not be the same person as his stage performance - it's that this is terrible stress for recovery that is NOT recommended and NEVER a good idea so soon into recovery.
Yeah I feel bad for those kids growing up with an addictive parent was not fun I hope he pulls himself together
@@ClayJack2095 meh. My mother stopped using, but I sort of became her new addiction. Not healthy either... I hope he's feeling ok. My mom was an emotional wreck.
Incredible stress on recovery, yes. Ideal situation? Absolutely not. But since we don’t know a whole bunch about his journey or the exact timing of everything that went down, not sure how much planning was involved. Wouldn’t be the first “accident”. Depending on how he frames this, the works he puts in, and the support he has, it can and has worked out OK. Being on the receiving end of harsh criticism and judgement definitely undermines recovery.
@@bartwilson2513 I do agree. At the same time, John is a celebrity who made the choice to do interviews so soon. Are the comments from some people right? Not at all. Is John fully aware of how the general public treats celebrities and made the choice to do this interview knowing full well people would say all kinds of stuff? Yes. Would his rehab recommend public appearances ontop of all the other stress so soon into his recovery? No.
People are gross, but you sadly will never be able to stop them from saying what they want about you. You have to take yourself out of the equation. I doubt, or at least really hope he isn't, John is obsessing over what people are saying about him and reading these comments. I don't approve of the majority of things people are saying about him, but they aren't me and they aren't you. We aren't them to change their minds and delete the paragraph before posting it. You know?
I wish we lived in a world where empathy was more of a thing. We don't. We have to remove ourselves from situations like this for our own sake. All addicts deal with the court of public opinion, mainly family and friends for the average person, on some level. John unfortunately is at a major level. It's still our duty to remove ourselves from the situation if it is detrimental to our recovery.
@@corbeau-_- I'm so sorry. That is terrible for you. I hope you find great love and peace, my friend. Be well.
I'm worried about his Ex-Wife right now. He joked all the time about how he didn't want kids, said how much he loved her everywhere and now he's having a baby and she stays silent about it all out of respect for his career. I'm really happy for John but I think these news are surely tough for his ex wife as well
Agreed. I feel like there's a lot going on behind the scenes and I know that it's his job to be in the public eye, but I really wish he hadn't been so public about it.
First thing I thought of, he was 'happy" on Colbert show I think and said he wasn't ready for kids with Jerry Seinfeld but now, he is. I hope he is happy but his ex must feel awful.
That's one of the worst things as an ex.
She has way more restraint than I ever could.
“They’re great, but I love what I do,” the 39-year-old candidly said of kids at the time. “And I love my wife and spending so much time with her and we have a really fortunate life. I get to travel, do stand-up, and our relationship is so wonderful. It’s just something I wouldn’t want to change."
Addiction changes a lot and I'm sad he suffers so much but I also hope that child will be loved and it's not a trigger to go back. He's lucky he has great friends.
Very sad how we’ve watched him go from my girlfriend, THATS MY WIFE!!, and now to my ex wife. I truly hope John has a successful recovery, but I mostly hope that Anna Marie Tendler heals from this trauma.
“John Mulaney Bull?”
it’s actually none of your or anyone else’s business. the fact that so many people feel at ease to openly speculate on such matters is a strange thing to witness. can we not allow people to have some privacy?
@@funnyhandle lol. Youre clueless. No one told John Mulaney to share his personal life with millions of others. He chose that on his own. Did you not see the video?
@@funnyhandle he did an interview detailing his personal life to the world, but somehow it’s not okay for me to comment on it? weeeeird.
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This just makes me respect Not only john but Seth even more. Takes a lot of guts and humility to talk about this so freely on Live tv and it had to help a ton having Seth being such a good friend.
Legit said "UGH, this oughta be good" out loud.
Seriously though, as an alcoholic it's refreshing to see someone talk about their addiction with candor and humor instead of tiptoeing around it.
anyone else notice that he's doing exactly what they tell you not to do within a year of leaving rehab? in a relationship, having a baby, etc
Cocaine is a hell of a drug
It's none of your business.
@@nakatominocalamari2969 you're right, and it cant be changed now, but it was just irresponsible unfortunately. dating right out of recovery and especially having a baby right out of it is so dangerous + i hope everything works out okay for them.
@@nakatominocalamari2969 and yet he’s talking about it on national tv??
@@nakatominocalamari2969 Oh please, F OFF DUDE! He's on national TV talking about. Clearly he's making it our business by blabbing about on national TV. Your pompous and arrogant comment is absurd beyond belief.
Geez. On the one hand, I want to congratulate John for sharing everything. On the other, major red flags and there’s a lot of high risk situations on the horizon. I hope he handles it all ok but the major life changes really do not suggest he is as stable as he says.
He's basically a walking red flag now
Completely in denial and not wanting to take responsibility...the arrogance he is exuding here is of a sociopath.
@@AG-kp4sh You can't just go throwing around the diagnosis of sociopath to someone you don't even know. You don't know what goes behind the scenes and it is unfair to judge someone you've never even met.
@@AG-kp4sh what arrogance? All I see is humility and a sense of humor
I never thought I’d be more worried about John Mulaney than I constantly am about Pete Davidson
I remember watching this and thinking Mulaney was going to die soon and we'd be watching this and saying how foretelling it was. I'm so thankful they saved him.
maybe its my years in recovery but hearing someone come out of rehab and father a kid is not a 'congrats' moment its a 'oh god protect that poor kid'
Seth is def giving me "im happy you're safe and sober now, but damn, you left a great woman and you're rushing into this new relationship" vibes. Of course the majority of us don't know what happened between John and Anna in private, but as someone who has been in Seth's position, the sentiment was palpable on my end. I've seen it happen too many times.
I don't know much about John's ex, but I've seen enough of Olivia to know that they will be raising the kid in separate households soon enough. It's not a marriage situation. I can't imagine how he's ex-wife feels, but there's reports she's also had her on stint in rehab (for emotional support, not drugs/alcohol).
@@bernlin2000 My thoughts exactly. That kid will have all the financial support they need but man…. Would NOT wish this situation on anyone. What a mess for all involved. :(
Yeah, Seth had that "all-of-my-friends-are-now-in-midlife-and-going-through-a-divorce" patient energy.
At lot of people who spend majority of their marriage or relationship in addictions, can’t continue them sober. You’re a completely different person. Whether you were addicted to spouse, they enabled you, you did drugs together, whatever, the dynamics change and alter, and that usually wrecks the relationship. A new fresh start, preferably later than happened to John, works best for sobriety.
"If she does her job well as a mother..." I don't want to make assumptions, but definitely thinking that Seth does not approve of how fast everything is going. He looks one step away from shaking John's shoulders and yelling "WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS?!?!?!?"
the more I learn about Seth the more I come to respect and love him.
he's a truly decent and good person who cares about his friends, supports his co-workers and seems to be always there when you need him.
Dude this is genuinely amazing. Two people on national television talking about an issue a lot of people go through, whether that be on John’s or Seth’s end, and working thru the issue together rather than alienating the person struggling with addiction.
Because John so lovingly and frequently joked about her, I feel like I know his ex. My heart goes out to her.
Agreed!
you never though, you only knew the wife presented via Johns comedy routines, which would be an embellished view of them for the purposes of jokes. you knew the character of the comedy persona of John Mulaneys wife, not the actual people.
@@stevencgr But of course. Not only do I really not know his ex-wife, I don't really know HIM, just the image he presents on stage. But it WAS his decision to make his wife a prominent part of his comedy routines, so it's not unreasonable for some of his fans to wonder how she's doing. And the fact that she said that "John has decided to end our marriage" suggests that the breakup may not have been amicable. The end of marriages rarely are.
That doesn't mean that anyone is the bad guy, especially since we don't know the reasons for the breakup. But it's sad and I feel for those involved.
My heart is broken for how hard this must be for his ex wife. But so glad to see him out of rehab and doing well. Long may it continue!
Yeah, it’s crazy how someone can be the reason your life is better and I wouldn’t get through this without you and I promise to love you forever, to divorced and having a kid with the next person you meet so quick after. We obviously can’t speculate on their personal issues, but the general idea that this happens to so many people and in this case it’s publicized, I mean that just sucks :/
Yeah... And now he's having a kid... Which , he was adimet of not having when he was married.... Oy.... His ex wife needs support
Right…? It’s all so strange. It must’ve been such a slap in the face to be the person trying to stand by your significant other during their addiction and then THEY end it it with you? And then meet someone else and have a child within a year? All quite sad :(
@@patchworkgirl27 It's entirely possibly that she is the reason they didn't want/couldn't have kids, but Mulaney used his comedy to make it seem like it was a WE thing. Either way, as long as both parties are happy and in better places now, that's all that matters
@@TheForestFamily it's tough for me to at least watch old John mulaney because half of his jokes are about him and his ex wife
I really love John but man this one hurt so much. I remember him saying so many times in his stand ups how much he loves his wife and how happy he is to have found her. And now new girlfriend and a baby in a few months after their split... I guess we never know whats going on in another persons life (or head), but I feel so bad for Anna
Same i remember him saying he loved that she was so straightforward... If her tummy hurt she would even say that lol... I forget the joke totally but anyway they just seemed ROCK SOLID to me... And so to hear this kind of shocked me and made me really sad just knowing that they really couldnt make it work
It’s not a few months. It’s just been public for a few months. Also you can love someone deeply and still want to get a divorce. Relationships are complicated
What is there to feel bad about? She's no longer married to someone who is an addict and will remain so for the rest of his life, even if he controls it. And the best part is, she can't even take him back, being a codependent, because he burned the bridges. He did the best thing for his ex wife, he released her! Of course it would have hurt less if he didn't end up with a sexy movie star, but hey, small price to pay Ana marie! You may not feel that way, but you are one lucky woman.
He did stand up way before he was married. He’s being doing stand up since 2002, check out his first album in 2009 the top part .
Same
seth keeps squeezing john’s hand you can tell he care and loves his friend so much
imagine if we all had friends like seth. if anyone's reading this and struggling, people care and i hope you know that its never too late to change
to think you think seth meyers wasn’t around his “friend “ coked up affirms how non observant people are . you know when someone is coked up
@@doncorleone7703 Im just referring to how he helped his recovery & intervention ?
@@doncorleone7703 Nah, there are those of us who don't know. We just think our friends are being weird. Seth seems to be like me; just naive and clueless about it all.
@@mbarry415 your pretty much on point here. As someone who went through some addiction struggles I can confirm that yeah, often times it “takes one to know one.” My family and coworkers who weren’t familiar with drugs didn’t pick up on it. I think sometimes they knew I was “a bit off” but couldn’t pinpoint it…but anyone I knew who were familiar with “partying” themselves at some point or another can spot each other from a mile away.
Really hope Anna is doing well, bless her lil heart.
i can’t imagine going through a divorce and months later seeing your ex is having a baby with his new girlfriend
@@mollywilkerson4964 And ur famous ex with his new famous gf so everyone can watch. Awful
I love the honesty of this conversation! Let's destigmatize addiction and going to rehabilitation and your friends helping you through that! Seth is a great friend and John is lucky to have him.
Agreed on all counts.
Also...let's destigmatize healthy drug use itself.
There's no such thing as a bad drug....just unhealthy use patterns.
Humans love drugs...always have, always will. And burying our head in the sand about that fact LEADS to addiction and constant relapse and societal problems etc etc etc.
If we were totally honest about which drugs have which positive and negative attributes...and which people can handle which aspects of those....we'd all be living in a better world.
But that takes radical honesty.
I'll be honest. I like cocaine a lot. I do it maybe once every 6 months. Usually to do a deep clean of my apartment. Never gotten addicted or used daily. Never had any negative associated with it whatsoever. That's my story. The sort of story you just don't hear, that is never talked about.
Coke....it's great for spring cleaning. But don't push it....it can easily get a hook in you. But if you don't let that happen(there are ways) you'll be just fine.
Again....honestly.
addiction is horrifying and dangerous. we can de-stigmatize suicide too but it is still terrible.
A big shot out to Seth helping John through this part of his life, and then giving him some time on air to just share his truth so openly. That's a pretty great friend.
The more I learn about Seth Meyers, the better he seems. He's always gone out of his way to showcase his friends' talents. He gives credit to his writers, he has supported Amber's show, and he gives Wally a chance to shine and probably make more money by being on air. He is absolutely the type of guy who would help plan an intervention for his friend and then stick close to him to make sure he doesn't relapse. Mulaney is a super talented guy that any show would be lucky to have when he's sober, but I feel like Seth is the one who would take him on in any condition, just to have him nearby. I understand that Seth didn't recognize the problem as soon as he could have because he needed an outside perspective, but giving John that segment when he wasn't at his best probably saved his life. Once the audience pointed out that he seemed off it sounds like Seth and their other friends took a step back and made the realization that probably saved his life.
I'm glad that such a genuinely good person has this platform and these resources. There are so many complete and utter dicks in the entertainment industry. It's nice to see the good guy get ahead.
Mulaney seems like a genuinely nice person with a lot of love to give too, but he's got to love himself. Most addicts hurt people when they're caught up in their disease, and the nice ones tend to dwell on the guilt so much that it drives them back to it. I hope he has genuinely come out the other side of this, but this seems like a critical time that will make or break him.
I'm glad someone else see this and though about this. I hope the people in his orbit do as well.
Well said
This is so eloquent and perfect. My thoughts exactly.
good for him for getting sober and becoming a dad but jesus christ i feel bad for anna not to paint her as a victim or something but your drug addicted husband divorcing you and then getting his new girlfriend pregnant and then talking about the whole ordeal publicly has gotta be a stab to the heart
Yeah maybe. Maybe she was a big part of why he had a problem in the first place which is why he divorced her. Point being, no one actually knows anything so why does anybody talk about any of it as if it's their business. Who cares. Let them all live their lives instead of talking about them.
@@bestieswithtesties Honestly, that was my initial thought too. We don’t know what happens behind closed doors. All I know is that I wish him the best.
@@bestieswithtesties we’re talking about it because he is, he’s the one putting all his businesses out there not us
@@natalinagarcia4667 because -he is- you want to
@Ben DoverSeeing as they both spent the past spring in inpatient treatment programs (for addiction and for mood and eating disorders, respectively), it's fair to say that neither John nor Anna were victims of the other, but rather simply two flawed, struggling, well-meaning, mistake-making humans.
I think no matter what this must be a difficult interview for Seth to do knowing that he knows both Anna & John. Regardless of the details of their separation, this is probably still a very difficult & heartbreaking time for Anna.
I hope she can heal and find love again.
Yeah you could definitely feel at some times that Seth wanted to mention Anna's name, but I feel maybe John put that in the no talk zone maybe
She'll be just fine. $$$$$
@@Beth-ie Yeah, but money doesn't solve everything.
@@katelynbrown98 what makes you think she actually loved him? She told you that?
@@MisssKayy this is a weirdly aggressive comment. what makes you think she didn't love him? they were together for a long time.
This is what true friendship is. Both respect each other and props for John to come on the show and talk about it. Props to Seth for being a friend and willing to still be there through it all. As tough as life is sometimes. This is good.
Totally relate to how weird it would be to have Fred Armisen be dead serious. I think I'd just explode.
I'll bet it was similar to Steve-O seeing Johnny Knoxville be totally serious in his intervention.
I can totally imagine him being very intense, scary intense.
Same! Also I now want a list of people in that intervention so I can imagine them all being dead serious.
@D just saw it in an article. These are some of the people in that intervention.
“…he revealed how friends including Meyers, Bill Hader, Natasha Lyonne, Fred Armisen and his best friend Nick Kroll persuaded him to go to a clinic”
@@Pozenboot Seeing how crazy they all were really puts Steve-o into perspective when they get serious about him, man. Hope that fella's happy
"I'm told I took a job here." I pray that John continues to take care of himself.
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i think that part was a joke
(i hope)
Prayer only has the same effect as meditation. Useless beyond that. The gods never come through.
His entire story seemed all over the place lol
E.M. Smiley - That was the 90's for me. I only remember what people told me i did. Whole decade with only vague memories.
In recovery it's generally recommended that we avoid romantic relationships for the first year or two. It tends to make it harder to focus on yourself and the work you should be doing on your recovery. I like John and Seth a great deal based on what I know of them. Friendships like theirs can be a powerful tool in recovery and I admire their willingness to talk about it so openly.
I was hoping someone would mention this. I wish the best for John but the sudden relationship surprised me
I agree.
Kudos to John for doing this interview, he didn't have to and I hope he didn't feel pressured into it, but I think it could be really helpful for people to better understand and sympathize with people who struggle with addiction. I'm glad Seth is such a good friend for John and I hope things keep getting better for him.
Anna Marie, man. My heart goes out to her.
I know he's a comedian and he makes jokes out of dark life situations but I cant Imagine how hard this was for him to tell the world what was truly going on in his life behind the scenes. Im really hoping for positive things for his life, I hope were all wrong and that this relationship and baby do help him stay sober. That being said I also cant imagine annas pain, and I hope she is doing well also.
As I watched this, all I could think was "John is so lucky he has a friend with connections who was willing to take the time to bring him on and literally coach him through all the crazy things going on in his life, to set a sympathetic tone and own the conversation." Seth did him a huge solid here.
i thought the same thing. like i know this is his thing and having had experiences of anything he's gonna tell jokes but these feel kind of genuenly sad, idk maybe its just too soon but I hope everyone involved is doing ok, including his ex wife. 7 years is a long time to then divorce and have a bb :(
Yeah, he probably is hiding a whole lot of real pain and trouble under these jokes. Which makes sense, he is probably not comfortable sharing those details and we have no right to them. I do hope all of those involved are going to be okay. Addictions can be hard to beat.
I'm glad someone else said this because my first thought was they're laughing... But it's not really funny at all 😞
Telling his story could have been very helpful.
Addiction steals lives and I am glad he has so much support around him.
Can some one just look at him and say, I'm glad he is trying his best to be good, regardless of his past.
my heart hurts for anna. and the fact that john said he never wanted children and is now so quickly pregnant with his new girlfriend... i can not imagine the toll that would take on someone...
I definitely had the similar thoughts at first. It's wonderful to be empathetic to people going through a hard time, so it's lovely that you are clearly an empathetic person. But I the more I think on it, the more it comes to me that it's possibly dangerous to speculate state of mind when we have no idea about the circumstances that led to their divorce. It's all so personal and the decision to have children is not just one person's. Also, it's worth noting that John Mulaney always specified that he had no idea if they would change their minds eventually about kids, not that it was something set in stone. You could very well be right that it is a hard journey for Anna Tendler, but I'm going to try not to project as much based on how I think I'd feel in that situation.
@@lono285 I mean, I’m not saying they divorced because of children, absolutely not. Just saying that it’s such a shift, the fact John said he didn’t want to be a father
@@Nonesovile96 it's not
@@lono285 in all fairness, John Mulaney wont shut up about deep personal details of his life so we have plenty of information about the circumstances of his relationships.
I love how honest this interview was and he gave us the timeline ! But man he just went straight for that ex wife card !😭
He’s always joking and so it’s hard to tell if he’s just being self deprecating or if he’s actually clueless as to what it means to be an addict. He seems like such a smart and fun person to be around though and hope he is on the right track. Will be a daily battle though !
That's how it is with comics. Sooner than later, the funny facade makes a permanent imprint on the personality, and we find a way to deal with our issues through our humour.
He’d have to be severely self-deprecating if so. Dangerously so imo
He knows. I think this is just his personality. The only difference is now his struggles are out in the open instead of hidden.
I feel like he’s self deprecating. He’s definitely darker and less quirky in this interview. It’s good that he’s talking about it. But I feel like he’s trying to make it funny and talk about it because it’s in the tabloids and why not joke about it and face it head on?
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That "dinner isn't a priority for someone on cocaine" comment was gold.
I very much appreciate how honest he is. I feel like we as a society would do so much better if we could speak this honestly about the highs and low of addiction.
That was by far the most honest, and beautiful way to explain the problems with drug addiction…. Thank you John for being so honest! 🙂
We need more Seth Meyers in this world.
Nah. There's already too much...
Can't like this comment enough. What a blessing would be to have at least one Seth Meyers in your life.
@@FefiBurgos Absolutely agreed. I can only wish for a friend this good.
I love the honesty and his friendship with Seth. Be well John
Ditto! And STAY well, John! You are an absolute treasure.
How incredible humanized and compassionate. I am happy to see people have honest conversations on shows that tend to only portray the “bubbly happy” side of everything. I never knew John was struggling with drugs but I am glad to hear he is doing better now. I hope it continues this way.