Well if we just started writing authentic characters, this wouldn't be an issue. Men write women how they think they behave and not how their character behaves. Women tend to be better about not making men one-dimensional creatures because they aren't and neither are women. Not a hard concept.
+Anna Starseed I feel like I've described male traits and avoided using personality types but I know that it is coloured by 'my view' of what it is to be a man. For example, I wanted to explain how a man approaches a women with a problem, typically most guys don't think to offer sympathy first because we feel like getting rid of root of the problem will solve it, when that is not what is being asked of us. My next point being about a well known psychological fact that men tend towards compartmentalization thinking whereas women feel life as an continuous stream. Both tend towards addressing the wiring in our brains and how they work naturally. I have spoken about my view on what my culture tells me and it is nothing new than what the next person can tell you, so that part was more my own opinion and observation but I don't believe I have described a personality type, that would be me saying 'men tend to be socially out there and talk to anyone, always want to party and drink.' That would describe an extrovert personality. So whilst I disagree with you, if you feel like I have missed anything do let me know and if I have, I will address it in a future video because I want to revisit this topic. Thank you for your view and comment :)
I totally agree. I'm a real guy and I'm nothing like he described. He was just describing his personality. I think this description would much better suit my older sister or my mom.
I feel the same. Sometimes somebody shares a problem with me and I try to find ways to fix it. Tip: most of the time people don't want you to fix problems for them, they're just sharing 😂 I'm a woman
Holy wow you consciously did the "emotional tangent bit," and then all of a sudden it became a real example of the Freudian slip that the "emotional tangent bit" is a parody of! It's like I just witnessed history or something. Plus you nailed a big problem between male/female communication and actual DID give some female writers an actual example of your bullet point to use for their characters. Thumbs up!
I completely agree. His rant provides great insight into how men think and process feelings. He knowingly (and unknowingly) highlights key differences in masculine and feminine emotional tendencies.
I can't be the only woman who has always found it easier to tell things from a male's perspective...? I'm not sure why I'm watching this video then. lol Most if these things seem more personality specific, but I still enjoyed the video. I like your enthusiastic, spontaneous way of speaking.
While learning how to write, I didn't learn how to write separately for male and female characters. I just learned different personalities as they came into my mind and I'd put them on the character forming--- usually a male character. I also picked up writing guys from books and TV shows featuring a variety of male characters. I suppose I learned how to think like a guy from all those different sources, and now I find it difficult to write women, even though I happen to be one. XD It's weird how my brain works.
W K Cyrokin just write characters first and their genders last. If your character's grandmother dies, they will still be sad and maybe cry. Their mannerisms might be slightly different depending on gender, but if their personality is emotional then he or she will still be emotional. Hope this helps.
I already know that and that's what I thought I said in my comment, as in I come up with a character's personality and the gender kinda comes with the character. As I said, I don't think of them separately, I think of them as personalities first, with the character's gender coming with the character. I'm just better at writing guys so that's usually where the personality ends up taking form.
W K Cyrokin ah I see. When you originally said you were a girl yet guy characters came out naturally I simply assumed. It's my bad. I used to have an actual problem with writing boys. Back in middle school, all my characters were female. I couldn't understand why until I read more books, watched more movies, and actually conversed with my guy friends. Now my characters can have basically any personality and work within my stories regardless of gender. I still end up with more females though. So I guess I'm opposite to you in terms of writing. lol
This is just turned into an ode to your girlfriend and it's completely fucking adorable and I loved it and I REALLY hope you showed her this video!! Also if anything that little rant was the deepest, most genuine insight into the male psyche I've ever seen!
well that quicky escalted from how to write male characters to a personal rant. granted you were doing pretty well in the begining, so I will give you credit there :) however try as I might I can NOT get on board with the men/women problem solving skills. truth is, EVERYBODY rants about stuff without looking for a solution. that is a HUMAN trait! If you feel like you can't fix it, that is what you do. everybody is guilty of taking out our rage in those close to us. its what. people. do. I also think personality has a large play and gender stereotypes come because people tend to date in certain social groups and when those ppl act a certain way we tend to label all males/females as acting that way too. back to writing though: I think a good idea is to get a guy friend to read your work any give you pointers. and here is another way to look at character creation: instead of creating a guy character create a well developed character, then make him a guy. hope this helps!
I'm writing a novel, and am going back and forth on the idea of killing off my protagonist in the first chapter and basing the book off of the events leading up to his Suicide. But I'm just not sure about that. could you give me some advice on the pros and cons of this concept, because I'm not sure if it will hold readers attention. If they know the protagonist dies.
This actually sounds like a pretty interesting story, I'd definitely read it. I don't know about other people, but this would grab my attention for sure
Just from the first 1:43 minute, I got so many ideas to add in my Camp NaNoWriMo project and things I've forgotten in the outline that I have to add. This is incredibily helpful and was actuallly needed very much!
Lol I actually don't know what to say on this one except that in the end it felt like I was watching a personnal video for your girlfriend haha. It almost felt like a scene in a novel or something like that too though. I have to say that as a woman, it is pretty hard writing in a man's pov. It's pretty hard to understand males sometimes. What I know is different between the two genders is that women tend to overthink everything. They'll find hidden meaning in the simplest of sentences. When in fights, they won't say what bothers them, they might even lie about it expecting the man to magically guess what's wrong cause that proves "he cares about her". I know, it's insane but I honestly blame our hormones, I take no responsibility, haha. Men tend to go straight to the point, they don't usually sugarcoat what they say. Women do it so much so that you might not even know what they mean. Men have a tendency to worry a little less than women, they just stay cool and ignore the problem if not too big. But that's my bias view on it. I think that you generally are more zen. To attempt to prove my point I'll just say, I've never seen a man do yoga. I know, it was a pathetic attempt, but at least I tried.
I have received plenty of 'you should know!' remarks in my time :) HA really enjoyed your comment! When I uploaded it and she watched it she pretty much said 'James, they're going to think you're venting about me.' She found it funny. I think to some degree it's just that all girls hear when they're growing up is all the bad things that men can do, and more emphasis is placed on warning about men whereas we joke about the other aspects of men, that, really...no-one tells you as you grow up how to talk to the other sex or how they work. so some people innocently use those kind of 'tests' and hidden messages because it's clear to them so it must be clear to the recipient. But also, some people I have known have known how to throw curveballs, use hidden meanings as well as the 'argue about many things at once' technique and a man can worry about what it is a woman is actually saying. So THAT'S another thing people can use to write a male character. YOU WOMEN ARE CONFUSING!! Anyway... I won't make incredibly long videos about this.....*clears throat*.....
Oh gosh, here comes the novel lengthed comment. Make yourself some tea and get comfortable. I did it again, I didn't mean to, I swear.... If it helps, women are confusing to women too. My sister's one of the "speech and gesture analysis" kind. It's exhausting to her and to people around her. She finds personal attack where there are none, use the tone of your voice, your words against you. But what I've learned to recognize is that she doesn't necessarily WANT to find, she just genuenly thinks that the clues she gets from your ways of expression (let's call it like that) are true. She ends up fighting over the dubest things because shhe reads too much into it. She hates it, she knows she has that problem but she has no idea of when to trust her insticts then. I find her character very interesting for fiction (she'd probably scream at me for saying I only see her as a tool for fiction, and now she'd be mad that I'm telling you that) haha, see? You can never win with these women. But then you also have the type who let's everything go, like me, I'm kind of her opposite. Shute, I'm the writer, I should be the oe focusing on people's "ways of expression"! haha. I'm the type who'll hear the message and just overlook it if I don't see a point in argueing about it. Probably exhaustig for other people too. I will however, tell you if I don't like what you say or do. In other words my sister would be the type of woman to reply "What do you mean this type of dress doesn't suit me? Are you saying I'm fat?" I would say "Oh, really? You don't think it looks good? But I do, so... Still buying it.." or I'll just say "You're right" and leave it there. That gives no clue on writing male characters except that my sister would drive a man crazy with the constant analysis, and they would reply calmly or they wouldn't even pick up on the clues she includes in her sentences (cause you know, if she can analyse your speech, you can too.) and that would infuriate them. I would probably drive a man crazy for letting everything go. It comes off as if I don't care enough when I actually just can't stand the screaming for no reason. But I'm a very annoying woman too. I'll constantly tell you to put your shoes away, not throw your clothes everywhere, wash the dishes you used. Even things that I don't do myself. I guess girls can use the men they hang out with as examples of a man's pov. And decide how they want them to react. A man who grew up with a lot of sisters will handle more drama than a guy who only had brothers.
Kaynasou You are a viewer I cannot and will not forget :) I have met people like your sister before so to be honest it made me laugh at places. In a good way. I don't hate her. Ah you're not annoying =]
You are absoluetly right. I re-read the thread after receiving the notification for the comment. I was saying in general men are like that and same for women. You can never find a "one size fits all" description for anything so it shouldn't be read to the letter. Gender does have a correlation with personality and I'll explain why: People have preconceived ideas about how a man should be and how a woman should be and will raise their children according to their perceptions. That may not suffice in explaining every aspect of a personality but the upbringing leaves a permanent mark, if a boy grows up in a household where women do all the house work and men bring the money, they'll assimilate it as "normal". Then again that's not a strict rule since we know that people interpret and react to a common environment differently but the thing is, Man is shaped by the perception others have of him. And of course not all men have an "I don't care" mentality and not all women overthink everything otherwise we would just all be a bunch of walking robots and finding the right person would mean nothing as we'd all be identical haha.
That was a big digression. Your girlfriend should be real happy. very funny to watch. This may seem odd for me to say but I think a large number of men and women think the same. We just choose to act differently.
J. C. Henry I think you have something there :) in my experience, a lot of the difference is down to communication and how we speak to one another. Sometimes we don't always say exactly what we intend to and there's a gulf of interpretation involved and some detective work we impose on the other. Thank you for your comment :) means a lot to hear that you enjoyed the video :)
Interesting video, thanks for talking about the guy perspective :) I think one of the challenges for female writers is how to actually portray these things. Part of that is that many might not be able to identify with these traits enough for them to think of ways to write them. So I guess seeing examples of these things is the best way to understand them. Some of the examples you gave(mainly about how guys listen and respond to girls that are ranting at them) were very helpful :) I can strongly identify with the 'give a solution rather than just listening and offering sympathy' thing because that has been a strong personality trait of mine even though I'm a girl(not as much now, I've tried to work past that since it tends to make people react negatively to me), and I know I inherited that trait from my dad, since that trait's very strong in him. I have a somewhat hard time understanding and identifying with compartmentalization, however. On some level I get it, but at the same time I wonder what the 'rules' are for how compartmentalization works for a guy. ('Work' and 'home' may be separate things, but don't people need to think about them together on some level, because one needs work in order to pay for/maintain the home, and if a worker is doing poorly in one area, it affects their performance in the other...?) Does compartmentalization tend to mean that, say, a guy goes to work and mainly just thinks about work, and when he's at home he doesn't think about work unless something extremely good or bad happened at work that occupies his mind? Like, he'll only think about work when he gets home if he either got a great pay raise/promotion or he lost his job? Also, from what I've seen, men are more likely to express their negative emotions as anger rather than sadness. Or express sadness as anger, I guess. Is that true, from your experience? Many of the times when I've seen guys express negative emotions, it's been some of my louder and more expressive male relatives reacting in anger/ranting about something they don't like, and my boyfriend(who is quiet and keeps to himself) now and then will do things like rant a few sentences about not liking Donald Trump or make some jokes that make his feelings against Trump pretty clear. Same goes for other things that happen to bug him enough bother expressing his irritation out loud to certain people(he seems to mainly express these things around me). Also, just thought of another question. You pointed out how guys tend not to listen to every word in a girl's long rant, but how does that trait impact a long email his girlfriend might send, or perhaps texts his girlfriend sends? I feel like sometimes I get better feedback from my boyfriend when I text him something, and I wonder if that means that guys(or at least my boyfriend) are more likely to read through a text message, think about it and respond to it than they are likely to pay attention, think about, and respond to a verbal conversation?
Great video... but the way you described "this man", in my opinion, is more geared toward society's view on what it is to be a man... keep in mind not all YA novels are set in our time.. many are set in a fantasy/scfi world where the societal views may be way different.
Yeah the problem-solving is where things can get a bit more complex with women. It's not just about the headache itself but WHY she has it. Sometimes she just had a sucky day and needs a hug because that crazy coworker keeps harassing her at work and HR won't do anything. Crap like that. Are men and women really that different in the need for comfort/encouragement? I'm not gonna complain about the same issue repeatedly though. That's annoying. I do want a solution after I get the emotions processed out my system.
Men are natural providers and that involves providing solutions to problems. You're wired like that kfkdkd it's all more direct and concise I guess and we women are detailed and broad in scope AF kfnsnsnsn
I need a little help. I have a male character (elf) who, when he was young was OCD and still is supposed to be OCD. (Obssession with appearances and not just his own. Even if his home is a mess he physically is not) He then experiences war and loss that causes him to have PTSD. He still functions! He is a extremely smart and very literate and all BUT I am having issue portraying a STRAIGHT! MALE character with both OCD and PTSD without him seeming like a distracted, neurotic, gay guy.
Mhhh point n°4 seems like the source of mansplaining to me 😂😂😂 Women often just want to share how they feel or a problem they have for the sake of sharing and informing the other, not to find a solution (that they might already have thought about..)
lol the way your describing girls reminds me more of my dad... then again my mom and sister and i all dislike drama, we vent to each other and move on, and tend to not hang out with women as much at work because their a skittish pain in every ones ass, their afraid of their boss or they do everything they can to get out of work..... really i wanna bitch slap the lot of them, maybe it's just my area though.
This was quite funny as horrible as that sounds! Your words are basically the thoughts of every male on this planet towards their girlfriend or wife at some point in the relationship. So whether or not you really covered everything, I can bloody well say your story/reaction was just as informative as explaining a simple point on a list, but in a much more 'genuine' tone and with IRL examples. XDD
How did this go from writing to a rant about your relationship? LOL. After watching this...I have a bit more clue about why you call yourself the Procrastinating Writer lol.
lol - I think I needed help on how to write men, and after watching your video - I know - nothing about how to write men. Just kidding. Love your video. :) But Basically it's a contradiction - men help and then they don't help. :) And Women are NUTS. :)
when you came for writing tips and got a very long emotional speech that you didn't expect
...and that emotional speech was more enjoyable then you expected.
No they are great examples :D Girls really are like that, all girls
Hah - boy, that certainly degenerated quick from 'how to write male characters' to 'honey, you're driving me crazy!'
+Steve Donoghue He's a jerk a major sexist basically saying men r better than women.!
Lupus Incidus Your the troll shut the fuck up wasn't talking to u don't care for ur biased ass pov so stfu loser.!
"I am a man, therefore I am men. Write your men like ME!"
That was one of the most romantic things I've ever heard.
Me too!!
I find there's way more examples of female writers making compelling male characters than male writers making compelling female characters
I feel that's simply because women don't understand men, and men don't understand women.
Well if we just started writing authentic characters, this wouldn't be an issue. Men write women how they think they behave and not how their character behaves. Women tend to be better about not making men one-dimensional creatures because they aren't and neither are women. Not a hard concept.
well, compelling is subjective. Your own perception might influence what you see as compelling.
You're not talking about male characteristics, you are describing a personality type.
+Anna Starseed I feel like I've described male traits and avoided using personality types but I know that it is coloured by 'my view' of what it is to be a man.
For example, I wanted to explain how a man approaches a women with a problem, typically most guys don't think to offer sympathy first because we feel like getting rid of root of the problem will solve it, when that is not what is being asked of us.
My next point being about a well known psychological fact that men tend towards compartmentalization thinking whereas women feel life as an continuous stream. Both tend towards addressing the wiring in our brains and how they work naturally.
I have spoken about my view on what my culture tells me and it is nothing new than what the next person can tell you, so that part was more my own opinion and observation but I don't believe I have described a personality type, that would be me saying 'men tend to be socially out there and talk to anyone, always want to party and drink.' That would describe an extrovert personality. So whilst I disagree with you, if you feel like I have missed anything do let me know and if I have, I will address it in a future video because I want to revisit this topic. Thank you for your view and comment :)
I totally agree. I'm a real guy and I'm nothing like he described. He was just describing his personality. I think this description would much better suit my older sister or my mom.
I'm a girl and this vid describes me pretty well haha.
I feel the same. Sometimes somebody shares a problem with me and I try to find ways to fix it. Tip: most of the time people don't want you to fix problems for them, they're just sharing 😂
I'm a woman
Holy wow you consciously did the "emotional tangent bit," and then all of a sudden it became a real example of the Freudian slip that the "emotional tangent bit" is a parody of! It's like I just witnessed history or something. Plus you nailed a big problem between male/female communication and actual DID give some female writers an actual example of your bullet point to use for their characters. Thumbs up!
+Looters Revue (J. Lyon Layden) You must b joking he basically bitched & complained abt women.!
I completely agree. His rant provides great insight into how men think and process feelings. He knowingly (and unknowingly) highlights key differences in masculine and feminine emotional tendencies.
@@jennakenna7252 yes he did and in a way I am! I’m not agreeing with his complaints I’m pointing out the irony and psychology!
I can't be the only woman who has always found it easier to tell things from a male's perspective...? I'm not sure why I'm watching this video then. lol
Most if these things seem more personality specific, but I still enjoyed the video. I like your enthusiastic, spontaneous way of speaking.
Same! I find most of my characters are male.. it just comes easier to me, I guess😂
While learning how to write, I didn't learn how to write separately for male and female characters. I just learned different personalities as they came into my mind and I'd put them on the character forming--- usually a male character. I also picked up writing guys from books and TV shows featuring a variety of male characters. I suppose I learned how to think like a guy from all those different sources, and now I find it difficult to write women, even though I happen to be one. XD
It's weird how my brain works.
W K Cyrokin just write characters first and their genders last. If your character's grandmother dies, they will still be sad and maybe cry. Their mannerisms might be slightly different depending on gender, but if their personality is emotional then he or she will still be emotional. Hope this helps.
I already know that and that's what I thought I said in my comment, as in I come up with a character's personality and the gender kinda comes with the character. As I said, I don't think of them separately, I think of them as personalities first, with the character's gender coming with the character. I'm just better at writing guys so that's usually where the personality ends up taking form.
W K Cyrokin ah I see. When you originally said you were a girl yet guy characters came out naturally I simply assumed. It's my bad. I used to have an actual problem with writing boys. Back in middle school, all my characters were female. I couldn't understand why until I read more books, watched more movies, and actually conversed with my guy friends. Now my characters can have basically any personality and work within my stories regardless of gender. I still end up with more females though. So I guess I'm opposite to you in terms of writing. lol
Am a guy and I bitch and am straight
Awwww, you're such a sweetie to your girlfriend....
But you used half of the video talking to the camera like its your girlfriend... XD
I just love how he blurts it all out. very graphic. I learnt a lot about how men think in general.
This is just turned into an ode to your girlfriend and it's completely fucking adorable and I loved it and I REALLY hope you showed her this video!! Also if anything that little rant was the deepest, most genuine insight into the male psyche I've ever seen!
I've read a lot about male characteristics, and this fits in with all of the sensible studies. :) Thanks.
well that quicky escalted from how to write male characters to a personal rant. granted you were doing pretty well in the begining, so I will give you credit there :) however try as I might I can NOT get on board with the men/women problem solving skills. truth is, EVERYBODY rants about stuff without looking for a solution. that is a HUMAN trait! If you feel like you can't fix it, that is what you do. everybody is guilty of taking out our rage in those close to us. its what. people. do. I also think personality has a large play and gender stereotypes come because people tend to date in certain social groups and when those ppl act a certain way we tend to label all males/females as acting that way too.
back to writing though: I think a good idea is to get a guy friend to read your work any give you pointers. and here is another way to look at character creation: instead of creating a guy character create a well developed character, then make him a guy. hope this helps!
Awwwwww that part of "how we felt when we met" was so fkn cute
this seems a bit personal and tinted to only your perception, it was entertaining tho 😭😭👌
I think this will help me with my male point of view characters. Thank you
Go White Balance making me look yellow =]
I'm writing a novel, and am going back and forth on the idea of killing off my protagonist in the first chapter and basing the book off of the events leading up to his Suicide. But I'm just not sure about that. could you give me some advice on the pros and cons of this concept, because I'm not sure if it will hold readers attention. If they know the protagonist dies.
I've just saw your comment and out of curiosity I'd like to ask if you've finished your novel?
This actually sounds like a pretty interesting story, I'd definitely read it. I don't know about other people, but this would grab my attention for sure
Things got poetic quite quickly.
I just realized how much I think like a guy. I'm a girl.
Just from the first 1:43 minute, I got so many ideas to add in my Camp NaNoWriMo project and things I've forgotten in the outline that I have to add. This is incredibily helpful and was actuallly needed very much!
Lol I actually don't know what to say on this one except that in the end it felt like I was watching a personnal video for your girlfriend haha. It almost felt like a scene in a novel or something like that too though. I have to say that as a woman, it is pretty hard writing in a man's pov. It's pretty hard to understand males sometimes. What I know is different between the two genders is that women tend to overthink everything. They'll find hidden meaning in the simplest of sentences. When in fights, they won't say what bothers them, they might even lie about it expecting the man to magically guess what's wrong cause that proves "he cares about her". I know, it's insane but I honestly blame our hormones, I take no responsibility, haha. Men tend to go straight to the point, they don't usually sugarcoat what they say. Women do it so much so that you might not even know what they mean. Men have a tendency to worry a little less than women, they just stay cool and ignore the problem if not too big. But that's my bias view on it. I think that you generally are more zen. To attempt to prove my point I'll just say, I've never seen a man do yoga. I know, it was a pathetic attempt, but at least I tried.
I have received plenty of 'you should know!' remarks in my time :) HA really enjoyed your comment! When I uploaded it and she watched it she pretty much said 'James, they're going to think you're venting about me.' She found it funny. I think to some degree it's just that all girls hear when they're growing up is all the bad things that men can do, and more emphasis is placed on warning about men whereas we joke about the other aspects of men, that, really...no-one tells you as you grow up how to talk to the other sex or how they work.
so some people innocently use those kind of 'tests' and hidden messages because it's clear to them so it must be clear to the recipient. But also, some people I have known have known how to throw curveballs, use hidden meanings as well as the 'argue about many things at once' technique and a man can worry about what it is a woman is actually saying. So THAT'S another thing people can use to write a male character. YOU WOMEN ARE CONFUSING!!
Anyway...
I won't make incredibly long videos about this.....*clears throat*.....
Oh gosh, here comes the novel lengthed comment.
Make yourself some tea and get comfortable. I did it again, I didn't mean to, I swear....
If it helps, women are confusing to women too. My sister's one of the "speech and gesture analysis" kind. It's exhausting to her and to people around her. She finds personal attack where there are none, use the tone of your voice, your words against you. But what I've learned to recognize is that she doesn't necessarily WANT to find, she just genuenly thinks that the clues she gets from your ways of expression (let's call it like that) are true. She ends up fighting over the dubest things because shhe reads too much into it. She hates it, she knows she has that problem but she has no idea of when to trust her insticts then. I find her character very interesting for fiction (she'd probably scream at me for saying I only see her as a tool for fiction, and now she'd be mad that I'm telling you that) haha, see? You can never win with these women. But then you also have the type who let's everything go, like me, I'm kind of her opposite. Shute, I'm the writer, I should be the oe focusing on people's "ways of expression"! haha. I'm the type who'll hear the message and just overlook it if I don't see a point in argueing about it. Probably exhaustig for other people too. I will however, tell you if I don't like what you say or do. In other words my sister would be the type of woman to reply "What do you mean this type of dress doesn't suit me? Are you saying I'm fat?"
I would say "Oh, really? You don't think it looks good? But I do, so... Still buying it.." or I'll just say "You're right" and leave it there.
That gives no clue on writing male characters except that my sister would drive a man crazy with the constant analysis, and they would reply calmly or they wouldn't even pick up on the clues she includes in her sentences (cause you know, if she can analyse your speech, you can too.) and that would infuriate them.
I would probably drive a man crazy for letting everything go. It comes off as if I don't care enough when I actually just can't stand the screaming for no reason. But I'm a very annoying woman too. I'll constantly tell you to put your shoes away, not throw your clothes everywhere, wash the dishes you used. Even things that I don't do myself. I guess girls can use the men they hang out with as examples of a man's pov. And decide how they want them to react. A man who grew up with a lot of sisters will handle more drama than a guy who only had brothers.
Kaynasou You are a viewer I cannot and will not forget :) I have met people like your sister before so to be honest it made me laugh at places. In a good way. I don't hate her. Ah you're not annoying =]
+Kaynasou sounds you're a Libra. not that you don't care.you Don't argue and do confrontation. .sis sounds like a Virgo. .lol..like me!
You are absoluetly right. I re-read the thread after receiving the notification for the comment. I was saying in general men are like that and same for women. You can never find a "one size fits all" description for anything so it shouldn't be read to the letter. Gender does have a correlation with personality and I'll explain why: People have preconceived ideas about how a man should be and how a woman should be and will raise their children according to their perceptions. That may not suffice in explaining every aspect of a personality but the upbringing leaves a permanent mark, if a boy grows up in a household where women do all the house work and men bring the money, they'll assimilate it as "normal". Then again that's not a strict rule since we know that people interpret and react to a common environment differently but the thing is, Man is shaped by the perception others have of him. And of course not all men have an "I don't care" mentality and not all women overthink everything otherwise we would just all be a bunch of walking robots and finding the right person would mean nothing as we'd all be identical haha.
"We're home stop finding things to worry about" I'm a girl and i constantly CONSTANTLY think this about my mother and grandmother
That was a big digression. Your girlfriend should be real happy. very funny to watch. This may seem odd for me to say but I think a large number of men and women think the same. We just choose to act differently.
J. C. Henry I think you have something there :) in my experience, a lot of the difference is down to communication and how we speak to one another. Sometimes we don't always say exactly what we intend to and there's a gulf of interpretation involved and some detective work we impose on the other. Thank you for your comment :) means a lot to hear that you enjoyed the video :)
The Ultimate Guy Logic monologue needs to be published and reproduced infinitely. If I had a man who said that to me I'd marry him on the spot.
Interesting video, thanks for talking about the guy perspective :)
I think one of the challenges for female writers is how to actually portray these things. Part of that is that many might not be able to identify with these traits enough for them to think of ways to write them. So I guess seeing examples of these things is the best way to understand them. Some of the examples you gave(mainly about how guys listen and respond to girls that are ranting at them) were very helpful :)
I can strongly identify with the 'give a solution rather than just listening and offering sympathy' thing because that has been a strong personality trait of mine even though I'm a girl(not as much now, I've tried to work past that since it tends to make people react negatively to me), and I know I inherited that trait from my dad, since that trait's very strong in him. I have a somewhat hard time understanding and identifying with compartmentalization, however. On some level I get it, but at the same time I wonder what the 'rules' are for how compartmentalization works for a guy. ('Work' and 'home' may be separate things, but don't people need to think about them together on some level, because one needs work in order to pay for/maintain the home, and if a worker is doing poorly in one area, it affects their performance in the other...?) Does compartmentalization tend to mean that, say, a guy goes to work and mainly just thinks about work, and when he's at home he doesn't think about work unless something extremely good or bad happened at work that occupies his mind? Like, he'll only think about work when he gets home if he either got a great pay raise/promotion or he lost his job?
Also, from what I've seen, men are more likely to express their negative emotions as anger rather than sadness. Or express sadness as anger, I guess. Is that true, from your experience? Many of the times when I've seen guys express negative emotions, it's been some of my louder and more expressive male relatives reacting in anger/ranting about something they don't like, and my boyfriend(who is quiet and keeps to himself) now and then will do things like rant a few sentences about not liking Donald Trump or make some jokes that make his feelings against Trump pretty clear. Same goes for other things that happen to bug him enough bother expressing his irritation out loud to certain people(he seems to mainly express these things around me).
Also, just thought of another question. You pointed out how guys tend not to listen to every word in a girl's long rant, but how does that trait impact a long email his girlfriend might send, or perhaps texts his girlfriend sends? I feel like sometimes I get better feedback from my boyfriend when I text him something, and I wonder if that means that guys(or at least my boyfriend) are more likely to read through a text message, think about it and respond to it than they are likely to pay attention, think about, and respond to a verbal conversation?
I feel like this may have gotten slightly personal, hard to pick up on, but it's there if you look for it.
This was his relationship therapy session
Great video... but the way you described "this man", in my opinion, is more geared toward society's view on what it is to be a man... keep in mind not all YA novels are set in our time.. many are set in a fantasy/scfi world where the societal views may be way different.
Awesome video! Hope you are doing well sir!
I have a headache, its about my story, can you fix it for me?
I loved this video!
HAHAHAHA I love your videos and I just found your channel
Came for the writing tips, stayed for the rant. That was great lol
Wow.. that escalated quickly😮
personal issues overtaken this video!
i emphathise with you friend! i know da feelz...
Yeah the problem-solving is where things can get a bit more complex with women. It's not just about the headache itself but WHY she has it. Sometimes she just had a sucky day and needs a hug because that crazy coworker keeps harassing her at work and HR won't do anything. Crap like that.
Are men and women really that different in the need for comfort/encouragement? I'm not gonna complain about the same issue repeatedly though. That's annoying. I do want a solution after I get the emotions processed out my system.
Thank you Sir
Haha
We liked this video too! Thanks mate
you are AWESOME bro!
#RESPECT
Complaining to HR does nothing helpful. :/
hahaha! LMAO!!! thanks for the giggle!! tell her to ignore Stacy!!!
You are so interesting. (: Thank you for the help!
Men are natural providers and that involves providing solutions to problems. You're wired like that kfkdkd it's all more direct and concise I guess and we women are detailed and broad in scope AF kfnsnsnsn
This is so true that it's sad.
I kinda feel like I should file a complaint on Stacy on their behalf...
I need a little help. I have a male character (elf) who, when he was young was OCD and still is supposed to be OCD. (Obssession with appearances and not just his own. Even if his home is a mess he physically is not) He then experiences war and loss that causes him to have PTSD.
He still functions! He is a extremely smart and very literate and all BUT I am having issue portraying a STRAIGHT! MALE character with both OCD and PTSD without him seeming like a distracted, neurotic, gay guy.
Chaotic Deer Just make sure you're writing actual OCD, and not OCPD, which is what a lot of people mistakenly call OCD.
*Me wanting to know how to write male characters*
You: My girlfriend
I stopped listening like half way through the rant and started noticing that my brother does that too. Is that a guy thing I should take note of?
+Katie Wilson there's a trend among us...
+Procrastinating Writer ok thanks for letting me know :)
But you're going back to work to deal with Stacy tomorrow. Tick tock
Haha omg how have I never seen your channel before!?
well he needed to get some things of his chest lmao
I’m no psychology expert. But something tells me you have some issues with your gf. I think you need to communicate with her a little more
Damn your took. C'est la vie. Your still scrumptious.... 3:)
So i didn't learn anything about writing men, I just learned that you find your wife confiding in you annoying.
awesome
That rant though lmao
Mhhh point n°4 seems like the source of mansplaining to me 😂😂😂
Women often just want to share how they feel or a problem they have for the sake of sharing and informing the other, not to find a solution (that they might already have thought about..)
lol the way your describing girls reminds me more of my dad... then again my mom and sister and i all dislike drama, we vent to each other and move on, and tend to not hang out with women as much at work because their a skittish pain in every ones ass, their afraid of their boss or they do everything they can to get out of work..... really i wanna bitch slap the lot of them, maybe it's just my area though.
This was quite funny as horrible as that sounds! Your words are basically the thoughts of every male on this planet towards their girlfriend or wife at some point in the relationship. So whether or not you really covered everything, I can bloody well say your story/reaction was just as informative as explaining a simple point on a list, but in a much more 'genuine' tone and with IRL examples. XDD
This is exactly what I was thinking after watching this video but didn't know how to say it.
i like you
I'm slightly annoyed to your gestures. Maybe lessened your hands throwing so then I can focus well.
How did this go from writing to a rant about your relationship? LOL. After watching this...I have a bit more clue about why you call yourself the Procrastinating Writer lol.
lol - I think I needed help on how to write men, and after watching your video - I know - nothing about how to write men. Just kidding. Love your video. :) But Basically it's a contradiction - men help and then they don't help. :) And Women are NUTS. :)
tangent
Well that escalated quickly XDXDXD
Well this was a delight XD XD XD
LOL...
I'm hoping you were going for laughs.
Youre Awe-some.
You rambled too much.
This could've been the greatest advice ever but the presentation was so awful I could barely focus.
Weak.
Can you put on a mask? You're face is quite distracting >//////
I watched a rant, left with still no idea how to write a male character…🫠