Don’t Fight for Attention || Coach Ken Canion

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  • Опубликовано: 26 окт 2024
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    Don’t Fight for Attention || Coach Ken Canion
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Комментарии • 188

  • @GLeon-ov9yu
    @GLeon-ov9yu 2 года назад +138

    “If a man doesn’t fear losing you he will always devalue you.” This is golden, thanks for sharing. 👍🏼

  • @dpharrison7
    @dpharrison7 Год назад +60

    Always be willing to walk away. I rather be alone than settle for disrespect

  • @rijajones4811
    @rijajones4811 7 месяцев назад +9

    Thank you for helping me realise that I do the emotional heavy lifting in all my relationships.
    It stops now! I'm worth more and deserve more than I've been getting in return.

  • @megsmurphy7777
    @megsmurphy7777 2 года назад +67

    I have ALWAYS said, "indifference is so much more damaging than active hate."

  • @carriemoore8207
    @carriemoore8207 2 года назад +87

    We must protect this man by all means necessary. I love listening to him. He always on point and giving u valid advice from a mans standpoint and how they think.

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад +14

      I want to add value to peoples lives

    • @kimyork4945
      @kimyork4945 2 года назад +3

      @@CoachKenCanion Kim from London 😊 I'm looking through RUclips... And came across you... Your videos are so right and I know that... I know you are so so so right... and yes I need to pull back... But it's not easy 😔 and I love that you recognise that... I appreciate your time in posting this... I think my fear is what if it doesn't work... But I know I need to do something different... Every word you say resonates with my situation.. I know I need to self reflect (your other video) wish me luck.. xx

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад +4

      @@kimyork4945 You got this. I am here to support u

    • @kimyork4945
      @kimyork4945 2 года назад +1

      @@CoachKenCanion thank you... Appreciate it... It started this evening and I feel good.. one step at a time and I am trying to be kind to myself... Xx

    • @SeekingGod77
      @SeekingGod77 Год назад +2

      I agree he valuable to us women this stuff works

  • @aleciamoten6867
    @aleciamoten6867 2 года назад +34

    We don't demand what we deserve. We demand what we tolerate. That's good Coach!

    • @beverlytriche4111
      @beverlytriche4111 10 месяцев назад +2

      I have done everything you have requested. I am getting married in June of 2024. Thanks for all your help directing us on a positive path . I appreciate you and all your advice. Now if my grown son can get right, I ll have another blessing.

  • @shirleyamccreemccree6323
    @shirleyamccreemccree6323 7 месяцев назад +4

    I love this guy! Very smart advice!❤

  • @angelfire402
    @angelfire402 Год назад +17

    I agree. Happened to me twice. When I decided just forget it. Months later they both started calling at the same time. I was so hurt. I don't feel anything anymore. I ignore there calls I no longer rush to answer the phone. I don't want to be bothered anymore. Now i get more text and calls. what a shame

  • @carolirvine7663
    @carolirvine7663 Год назад +11

    Excellent advice - Tolerating bad behavior becomes a habit, so when our partner does something nice we think this reaffirms commitment - This is false security and clever ploy men and sometimes women use to stay in control of a relationship.

  • @BrittanyHunter-f6w
    @BrittanyHunter-f6w 8 месяцев назад +3

    When I see your content, it comes through my feed as shorts. Right now I’m going through a breakup and decided to come to your channel, and I am sooooo impressed!!! Thank you so much for doing this work ❤❤❤ binge watching tomorrow

  • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
    @sunshinesunflowerz1647 2 года назад +14

    Not chasing anything, not even goals. If it’s meant that I have it, God will make sure that I have all the tools I need to complete it. In regards to a man, he needs to be whole before he steps to me because you ain’t getting anything for free.
    Yes. I made the distinction between ‘hate’ and ‘indifference’ years ago. Indifference is when you don’t want nothing to do with that person.
    Fall back game on ♾…

  • @alicialandrum2048
    @alicialandrum2048 4 месяца назад +1

    This is good information

  • @anastasiasharidaali8217
    @anastasiasharidaali8217 Год назад +8

    We dont demand what we deserve. We demand what we tolerate. Great advice.

  • @BrittnePtheBestGirl
    @BrittnePtheBestGirl Месяц назад +2

    Just was dealing with this in dating this guy. You are describing him to the T.

  • @falishatucker3486
    @falishatucker3486 Год назад +15

    I love this message so much. I appreciate all that you do. I'm newly single and it's a struggle out here in the dating world. But I'm up for the challenge with your guidance.

  • @tonyaparrott7242
    @tonyaparrott7242 Год назад +6

    Absolutely agree with the posture of INDIFFERENCE!! You are spot on Coach! Keep telling us the RAW truth! This is not easy and I'm so very thankful for your help❤❤❤

  • @MS.M1220
    @MS.M1220 11 месяцев назад +1

    God is my guide first and foremost. This should be everyone’s declaration.

  • @DB-gu6tf
    @DB-gu6tf 9 месяцев назад +3

    Thanks Coach Ken. I used your advice. I pulled back just a tiny bit and he knew he needed to adjust himself. That opened up an opportunity to communicate. It was so beautiful. Our connection continues to grow because I’m not making the mistakes I used to. I’m really happy right now….thanks to you coach.

  • @chiobabe2180
    @chiobabe2180 11 месяцев назад +2

    Best advice I heard from a guru. And a sane blk man at that. Lord protect this man! ❤

  • @adaofcharles1217
    @adaofcharles1217 Год назад +5

    Forget how I feel, think on what I deserve 👏👏👏

  • @moraemepasikhani9153
    @moraemepasikhani9153 День назад

    You are a brilliant coach. God bless your wife as well.

  • @yolandawestbrook8240
    @yolandawestbrook8240 4 месяца назад +2

    I miss my father. He would give me good advice like this. Glad to find a RUclips daddy.

  • @aviwedyantyi5535
    @aviwedyantyi5535 4 месяца назад +1

    Thanks alot

  • @mzdee7021
    @mzdee7021 2 года назад +7

    Until the pain of staying the same becomes GREATER than the pain it takes to CHANGE....you WON'T ❤️❤️

  • @lawandalivingston3603
    @lawandalivingston3603 2 года назад +25

    So glad I came across the video. So applicable to me right now. Thanks ❤️

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад

      Thank you for watching my channel. Please share

  • @r314522s
    @r314522s 2 года назад +12

    I totally agree with you especially with the toy analogy. Thank you

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for watching

    • @latrice3748
      @latrice3748 2 года назад +1

      I could really use your help lol

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад

      @@latrice3748 email me at kencanion@gmail.com

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад

      @@latrice3748 email me at kencanion@gmail.com

  • @ayrakwa1
    @ayrakwa1 2 года назад +11

    Very good advice Coach!

  • @BrittnePtheBestGirl
    @BrittnePtheBestGirl Месяц назад

    All your old videos are coming right in clutch omg. Thanks you Ken!!

  • @Mikeismybaby02
    @Mikeismybaby02 Год назад +8

    in my current situation I'm so happy I ran across your videos they help me in my weak moments.

  • @wandasmall1433
    @wandasmall1433 2 года назад +11

    This video has very great information. Thanks for sharing. Now how about hitting that like button to show our appreciation

  • @tiffanycrenshaw5421
    @tiffanycrenshaw5421 8 месяцев назад +2

    This is some dam good advice!

  • @cathyjackson5675
    @cathyjackson5675 2 года назад +7

    I Thank God for you

  • @shaunierockett4964
    @shaunierockett4964 Год назад +7

    A woman must create the standard✨and a man must either adhere or not♥️chin check tht ninja if he falls below the standards‼️Got it✅

  • @iwig2714
    @iwig2714 6 месяцев назад +1

    Omg this was FACTS so on point. Keep blessing us. I walked away 10 years was too long 😢

  • @misstruth1115
    @misstruth1115 2 года назад +22

    That’s why I’m practicing no sex outside of a marriage bed.

  • @nikkinikki3001
    @nikkinikki3001 9 месяцев назад +1

    Chasing vs attracting, I love that logical breakdown. Thank you.

  • @stephaniebaker5519
    @stephaniebaker5519 2 года назад +10

    Thank you!! Much needed insight. Love this!! Thank you!!!!thank!!!you thank you!!!

  • @luzimarah8907
    @luzimarah8907 2 года назад +12

    Thank you sir! Thank you for giving valid advice from a man’s standpoint and telling us how they think. It meant a lot for me bc I don’t have that male figure in my life that I can pick up the phone to ask for advice from. So since I don’t have that in my life I look forward to your videos. So…. Once again thank you for your advice!!

  • @christinaringo2535
    @christinaringo2535 2 года назад +11

    After listening to this I had to subscribe
    You are Amazingly HONEST!!!
    Thank you ❤️

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад

      Thank you. I really want to empower people

  • @angeg100
    @angeg100 2 года назад +6

    I just came across your videos. You are a God send. I was meant to see your videos.. I have made colossal mistakes in with this man.. I am going to correct them now, by walking away. It's been almost 3 years. My needs are not being met, I have complained, said I am done and still allowed him back in. I wished him a happy birthday yesterday, he did not even reply. My pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing. Thank you so very much for what you do. Stay Blessed.. 🧡🧡🧡🧡

  • @demechiakirkland5146
    @demechiakirkland5146 Год назад +6

    Thank you for showing me another way to communicate how I truly feel without feeling like I am the one that's running him down. This video was extremely helpful 👏. I was raised in a house full of men but I still have a lot to learn about the man in my personal life. Thank you for helping me to understand on my journey.

  • @carolarchibald6944
    @carolarchibald6944 Год назад +1

    Thanks coach Ken you have opened my eyes so wide. I put in so much and get nothing back.

  • @neicyluv553
    @neicyluv553 Год назад +2

    I deserve BETTER! Amen.

  • @kimbellas6874
    @kimbellas6874 Год назад +2

    Coach your saving my life love you❤

  • @amaal1
    @amaal1 Год назад +3

    Much needed to hear this. Thank you. Back in the dating pool.🙏🏽

  • @peacelove280
    @peacelove280 Год назад +2

    Awesome, Beautiful, and Wise message!!

  • @marissaali2233
    @marissaali2233 22 дня назад

    I second that u have had a major impact on my life perspectives and reconditioning my mindset

  • @ChoeneNkoana
    @ChoeneNkoana Год назад +4

    I'm back in the dating pool, and your lessons are valuable. Thank you.

  • @Cherryblossom-fg1pl
    @Cherryblossom-fg1pl 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thankyou so much ❤

  • @Almediale
    @Almediale 2 года назад +5

    Great advice

  • @Amaviv09
    @Amaviv09 Год назад +2

    This got to me at the right time, thank you coach

  • @angieangie9062
    @angieangie9062 Год назад +2

    Thanks

  • @AnnieTangerine8714
    @AnnieTangerine8714 8 месяцев назад +1

    I have done like EVERYTHING wrong.... everything.....and now my once amazing relationship is a mess....and yes, I dont wanna lose him. He is a great guy. I hope I am not too late. And actually I hope that while pulling back, if it doesn't work, it will prepare me to walk away. Cause right now I am not willing to walk away...God help me

  • @marialacerda6593
    @marialacerda6593 Год назад +5

    My guide is the Holy Spirit !!!!

  • @marissaali2233
    @marissaali2233 22 дня назад

    Amazing advice I always chase this relationship ❤️

  • @kellymarsh8541
    @kellymarsh8541 2 года назад +6

    Excellent advice

  • @sharhondariley
    @sharhondariley 10 месяцев назад +1

    I appreciate this wisdom so much ❤

  • @JusttRaquel
    @JusttRaquel Год назад +2

    Wow, some nuggets here . Thank you 😊.

  • @jollymboya1069
    @jollymboya1069 2 года назад +3

    Well put..

  • @Braveh3artGirl
    @Braveh3artGirl 9 месяцев назад +1

    This is AMAZING advice. Thank you so much ❤

  • @preese100
    @preese100 2 года назад +3

    Impactful!

  • @RosemaryBashiru-pn3ns
    @RosemaryBashiru-pn3ns Год назад +1

    Thank you coach

  • @empressnaja
    @empressnaja 2 года назад +3

    This is Absolutely!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✊🏿✊🏿👍🏾👍🏾 Spot on advice to live by.

  • @Delaine2005
    @Delaine2005 2 года назад +2

    Thank you! This was on time!!!

  • @neicyluv553
    @neicyluv553 2 года назад +2

    Man, speak yo ish! This is so true!!

  • @annmohabir5043
    @annmohabir5043 11 месяцев назад +1

    So true

  • @mosedimayo1919
    @mosedimayo1919 2 года назад +3

    Just came across your Channel and i must say u made a lot of sense for me...much love🙌🙏keep teaching.

  • @reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100
    @reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100 Год назад +2

    This message was powerful. Thank you so much. 💪🏽💯🙏🏽

  • @tinatina4131
    @tinatina4131 2 года назад +4

    Thanks for keeping it real coach. 🙏🏼

  • @dkay1888
    @dkay1888 2 года назад +2

    Truth.... Thanks

  • @taraday3719
    @taraday3719 2 месяца назад

    I needed this thank u!

  • @Lovice-n9z
    @Lovice-n9z Год назад +1

    Thanks so much for the advice 😊

  • @shirelsummers9185
    @shirelsummers9185 2 года назад +4

    Love your wisdom.. Very good info!

  • @Gg-rssystG8
    @Gg-rssystG8 2 года назад +2

    There you go.

  • @gaylabrown8028
    @gaylabrown8028 2 года назад +3

    I recently subscribed to you! I love listening to your videos and you’re a major blessing to me seriously!!! Thank you so much!❤️

  • @nivniv7844
    @nivniv7844 Год назад +3

    I like your personality. Subscribed

  • @paulaharvey186
    @paulaharvey186 2 года назад +2

    Thanks!

  • @donnajordan3540
    @donnajordan3540 Год назад +5

    I had to stop fighting, I’m gone

  • @newyorkdiva3
    @newyorkdiva3 2 года назад +2

    Thank you.

  • @yolandagreen9180
    @yolandagreen9180 Год назад +1

    Good stuff thank you

  • @Chilly-Bibee
    @Chilly-Bibee 2 года назад +4

    I just found you and you are awesome!! Thank you.

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад +1

      AHHHH, Thank You so much. Please share

    • @Chilly-Bibee
      @Chilly-Bibee 2 года назад

      @@CoachKenCanion I did already!

  • @donnajordan3540
    @donnajordan3540 Год назад +2

    I appreciate the advice you give always 😊

  • @farahkibriya6311
    @farahkibriya6311 Год назад +4

    At least he is articulate and can speak eloquently

  • @avanellejean-marie6740
    @avanellejean-marie6740 Год назад +1

    Awesome advice thank you appreciate you coach blessings.

  • @ElaineSimplyEL
    @ElaineSimplyEL 2 года назад +1

    TRUTH!!!! THANK YOU!

  • @QueensFirst
    @QueensFirst 2 года назад +4

    I needed this TADAY!!!!

  • @pelegrineginindza5605
    @pelegrineginindza5605 Год назад +1

    Im definitely going to apply ds

  • @rahdancecompany5443
    @rahdancecompany5443 Год назад +6

    Chin checked mine and he got mad and went silent.

  • @sony3246
    @sony3246 Год назад +7

    It's crazy to me that any of this game playing is needed. Two human beings should be able to respect and love each other without all of this extra.

  • @giaalston9092
    @giaalston9092 9 месяцев назад

    I’m afraid of losing the friendship. Which is why I keep fighting for the relationship. I make excuses that he is dealing with grief, and loss of a close loved one, that he is adjusting to being a single father, he just isn’t ready for a relationship. I know and say all these things but still fight for the friendship and relationship that we had for so many years, and he is inconsistent, and pushing my love away. How do I be there for him without involving my emotions or feelings for him? Which normally leads to sex and giving into what he wants?

  • @sherondadavis8907
    @sherondadavis8907 2 года назад +8

    I kept going back only to go through a repeated cycle.

    • @gletsayaaasantewaa2793
      @gletsayaaasantewaa2793 4 месяца назад

      I’ve been there too sis. I had to decide I was more important than the relationship, and finally walked away…

  • @Mikeismybaby02
    @Mikeismybaby02 Год назад +2

    dealing with this now with my husband I'm separated from. Thanks

  • @chrisharris2367
    @chrisharris2367 2 года назад +6

    Hi, can this dynamic work in marriage?
    Thanks for the video; I like the positivity.

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад +3

      Yes, absolutely

    • @Mikeismybaby02
      @Mikeismybaby02 Год назад +1

      @@CoachKenCanion that's exactly what I needed to know cause he is tripping. i never thought I would have to play cat and mouse game in my marriage

  • @sherondadavis8907
    @sherondadavis8907 2 года назад +3

    1st time seeing video.

    • @CoachKenCanion
      @CoachKenCanion  2 года назад

      Hope you enjoyed it!

    • @sherondadavis8907
      @sherondadavis8907 2 года назад

      Yes it was very useful. I keep asking why i keep going back..what am i doing wrong..feeling like maybe it is me..why cant i openly talk to him about shifts that i see without it turning into him getting upset. Me learning things not going to change. Its a lot sir lol. Im just looking ti be better for me and if i ever meet someone who really sees me and wants to grow with me i wont be so untrusting and nervous that they gonna do the same thing. And that im not either through my triggers and trauma from hurt in life and relationships. Sorry for the ling post.

  • @ms_may_gyen
    @ms_may_gyen Год назад +4

    💯💯💯 I have a few different “guides” as long as their aligned with my core values.
    -relationship
    -financial
    -spiritual
    -academic
    -entrepreneurship

  • @classykatina3574
    @classykatina3574 Год назад +2

    Thank you for sharing this. It makes a lot of sense. 💎

  • @kashmeererock7261
    @kashmeererock7261 2 года назад +6

    Love ur vids. Wish I found this one a month sooner😪

    • @neicyluv553
      @neicyluv553 2 года назад +1

      Wish I knew this 32 years ago but here we are...

  • @roshelleanncalilao1764
    @roshelleanncalilao1764 2 года назад

    This is so Nice, i recently subscribe. Good thing I came across one of your video, it could save ME and HIM. accurate👍

  • @pamelaclary6805
    @pamelaclary6805 Год назад +1

    It takes too much to be with one, don't put yourself through it, you'll be better off.

  • @kymberleybyrd6998
    @kymberleybyrd6998 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much, this help me so much. I really needed this message ❤️💫🙏🏽