Walking away from a man through my acts of kindness is when I see red flags I'm aware that will not find resolution. Even though Ive expressed my feelings and truth, I've stood my ground. It's only worth to be with a man long term, when he's willing to meet your level, emotionally mature, being vunerable and able to want to be supportive. If it becomes a drain for me over a period and he's not open to change, then it's Time to move on. People need to be made accountable for their actions and not keep being the victim and licking their wounds. There's only so much of my time and compassion I'll express, then we need to seek councilling and not always depend on another...
1) He wants you to have the power to walk away. 2) He wants to experience your dark side. 3) He wants to be able to be weak in your presence sometimes. 4) He secretly wants to be taken off the pedestal you have him on. 5) He wants a woman that takes responsibility for her life. 6) He wants to be challenged respectfully. 7) He wants you to be emotionally expressive.
As a 50 year old man, I personally appreciate the fact that women experience very similar insecurities, anxieties and hopes and loves. Watching some of Clayton's videos has helped me from going into a place of cynicism and bitterness but rather into a place of solace, peace of mind and empathy and shared experiences. Thank you Clayton.
1. My ability to walk away. By this it shows my kindness to him is my choice. 2. He wants to experience my dark side. So that he feels in a relationship with all of me. 3. He wants to be able to be weak in my presence from time to time. 4. Be equal with him. King and Queen. No pedestral. 5. Take responsibility for my life. 6. Challenge him, but don't dismiss him. And challenge myself. 7. He wants me to be emotionally expressive. So he can experience emotions through me. Great stuff. Thanks.
Clayton your emotional intelligence and sensitivity put most men coaches in your field to shame. You are very gifted indeed, thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Too many catch phases and words that don’t ho together or work. Lots of psychobabble here. He’s off of topic and just saying anything without actual accounts for anything.
You bring that energie and 'feel' of a healthy man figure. As someone who grew up missing that, this value that you bring is no less important than the content of the vids - which is golden 🙏✨
I've been w/ the best therapist for a year now. She uses the " I don't have all the answers. " "The answers are in you". I agree Clayton, & for everyone to find a great, productive therapist.
You really bring a deeper level of relationship management perspective that no one else does. You speak to the questions and confusion that even women cannot always come up with, let alone articulate.
1. Power to walk away 2. Wants to experience your dark side 3. He wants to be weak in your presence 4. Take him off of his pedestal 5. Honor yourself and take responsibility 6. Wants you to challenge him but not dismiss him 7. He wants you to be emotionally expressive
I liked the way in the end you linked number 7 to number 2 and you referred us to number 5 in case we don’t get it clearly. Great coach! Awesome video! 👌🏾
Thanks. We all have "weaknesses" as well as "strengths" and demonstrating weakness is strength turned inside out. I'm far from 20 and much closer to 100 but there are certain things my body has always told me...someone's tone,or body language or choice of words I can literally feel as a physical reaction...my stomach will tighten in a good or painful way... woman's intuition is something no one, man or woman should ever ignore ..at my age it's no longer subtle...it literally screams inside me...so, walking away or staying all depends on this guy of mine. I think all seven suggestions are valid...the one thing I could never ever put up with is deception..cheating in an agreed upon monogamous relationship. It just immediately turns off every single positive emotion...and I could walk away calmly. It happened twice in my life...but when they came back to apologize I forgave them but with a smile wouldn't accept them back into my life...their loss...I was a winner!
I’m dating a high quality man for nine months now. I’m doing many of your discussed points, and it’s reassuring knowing that I’m heading in the right direction!! We’re gradually coming into our own within our current relationship. You’ve given some good information, and I appreciate you helping us ladies become better with our quality men. I’ve subscribed and look forward to learning more from your professional prospective! 👏🏻👏🏻
Great advice my friend....I lost my husband at 48 to brain cancer and my son in a tragic accident this sept......being able to be vulnerable on an intimate level..
Loooove this video. I had to become more aware of my darkside and learn to be more emotionally expressive. I was raised in a home where that was ridiculed fast forward to now, i ended up pushing my masculine man away because i was being aloof, dismissive, and emotionally cold. Now i appreciate the experience because now i see that being emotional actually gives me leverage. When u are comfortable being vulnerable it will be respected and seen as *gentle* strength. Im not a kid anymore i am safe to express myself fully and gracefully.
It’s not hard to Accept when a man is feeling weak if most of the time he is strong and a go getter . ❤️ Never put anyone on a pedestal. I don’t put men on a pedestal because it’s not sincere . I’d rather him know and understand that I see him as he is which is the bad with the good, because I want him to see me as real as well. It is a huge turnoff when a man puts me on a pedestal. It’s extremely insincere and a turnoff .
This is some deep men psychology here Very interesting and informative video from a very smart man. It does helps to understand how a man really feels deep inside which is what I am more interested on because ‘how he thinks’ is not so difficult to figure out as it is how he ‘truly feels’,which most men never show because of society stigmas on how men should behave etc. Thank you very much
Clayton, this is my Favorite video of yours Ever. I am in those AARP years, and I Actually Learned Something from this! Thank you so much for all you share with us!
This is a masterpiece Clayton, only God can thank you the way you deserved to be thanked. I love how I am allowed to be emotionally expressive in an honest relationship, and also free to take responsibility with my life. These are the things I value the most about being me. :)
This was extremely helpful. It was a strong reminder of a core message I get from your work about being authentic. But also with this video I realized I have been using the knowledge I gain from your work with a man who isn’t healthy. And I believe I finally silenced the voice in my head that has been trying to convince me that your healthy insights into relationships will still work even if he isn’t healthy. Thank you
Hi Clayton, I really enjoy listening to you. If I can be a little brutally honest, my ex boyfriend always distorted my perception of reality.. However the challenge was appreciated but he didn't have a sense of respect for the perceptions. It made me shut down. I felt dismissed all the time. This is how I had to leave him. Major communication lose/win situations. It got isolating and boring. Everything else you mentioned here did work well. In the end of our relationship he was found dating me + 2 more woman. I can never bring myself to his pedestal if or for that reason other great woman. Anita.
It sounds like you practiced tremendous strength in getting out of that situation. I hope that you've been able to create better relationships moving forward.
These are all useful and thank you. What bothers me about these videos is that they are never connected to marriage. When a woman bonds with a man, lets her guard down, reveals her dark side, bonds with him emotionally, absorbs his weak side...she is going to have to let her guard down and get very attached to him. WHY BOTHER IF HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND? Sorry for the caps but I really dont see why its worth the risk.
An added tip, I say to the guy i'm with "Thank you for sharing your feelings ". It shows I appreciate his vulnerability.. 😃😊 Yes!, praising him for vulnerability Is a strength, he said he felt comfortable. 🙄
Wow, almost all these points my boyfriend and I have gone through together. I am so blessed to have him in my life. Ups and downs, we get through anything if the Lord permits. I love watching your videos anyway. God bless and thanks for sharing.
I love that putting down a shield and sword and being open and raw like the boy inside who's not sure of himself. I feel like that as a woman at times whenever I have to do something I've never done before I feel like a kindergartener who's scared of making a mistake. But I try my best to trudge forward to do what I need to do. PS it takes a lot of courage to admit weaknesses or doubts or lack of ability.
Nicely noticed. Especially the feeling like a kindergartener. Often we age regress in relationship to an age we were hurt most relationally in effort to heal that wound.
Clayton!!! I miss you so much! Your material and delivery is so amazing. I’ve got to get back in my routine of watching your videos. You are so good at what you do! Thank you so much for bringing such solid relationship concepts to us❤️
Yes. It's important to express all your emotions in a healthy way. It shows that you know who you are, what you will accept, it helps you form boundaries and you need to be true to yourself by showing these to your potential mate in an honest respectful manner so he can learn Who You Are and know your boundaries otherwise you're not giving him a chance to truly get to know you or understand you and more important chat for him to be honest and open to you about who he is if you can't be honest and open to him. To me that describes putting up walls. There is no place for walls in a healthy relationship.
I wish I wouldve had this video a few years ago when I was in the throws of a very painful breakup. At the time, because of feeling so blindsided and unbearably heartbroken, I wasn't able to fully see how my own role, actions, and shortcomings also contributed to his decision to fully walk away. Our time together was a whirlwind romance and a crash and burn type end. Too much to fully express here. But I just wanted to say that your words really resonated and yours and Jack's videos always have me growing and learning how to better myself, my thinking and my approach to men. And hopefully one day I'll have another opportunity to be that wonderful partner to someone who's also a wonderful partner to me as well...Thanks Clayton..your work and your words are valuable to so many:)
Excellent thank you! That talk has helped me a lot! Your open & honest face is like a tonic. I'll be coming back to you for more advice....Isn't RUclips great? Peace & Love from the UK
Thank you for your honesty! It’s refreshing bc is women usually feel left out of their deep feelings! I’m speaking for the women of the 50/60’s. We were raised to be the subservient one in the relationship. I have a problem with that bc I need an equal partner bc I’m a leader and I also need a leader. I would never want to run a man. I want a man that can take me on equally in every area. I need someone to not compete but to do with me. Thank you for your real truth about men. So many men have been taught to not feel! I’m truly sorry for the way boys are raised. I raised my sons to feel and own their feelings. It’s not about macho it’s about humbling your ego to be one with the women if your dreams.
Your video is wonderful. I love how you break everything down. This really resonates with the last guy I was with I know he wanted those things you named. Thank you.
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Omggg.. these things are so true. I learned them the hard way but fortunatly early enough to turn my relationship around. 6 years later its at its very best..
Watched the first point: 100%. That's why I love the saying "don't take my kindness for weakness" And: check! Definitely some qualities regarding number 2 haha 😉 Can I refer my next guy to you regarding your opinion that showing my dark side is an honor to him? (no I'm not bad girl, but definitely go wild when you give me rubbish) And jokes apart, I so agree! If one doesn't show up for him/herself, that's poison for a relationship which you want to be truthful and strong/ connected. Apart from the boredom that comes along with scary "harmony always and at any price" Love nr. 3.
Thank you once again for this practical advice on the complexities of healthy relationships! Wishing the younger me had this advice on men. That first one definitely got me.
Clayton Olson Coaching With regards to my marriage...I made this mistake as I felt bound by my commitment. Leaving was never the option...but in hindsight, I can see how the relationship lost its value.
My problem is I have a lot of talents and my education is up there .Usually they start to run after you tell them .Yes I have a couple of degrees ,yes I can do that .I been single since 2006 .Still waiting for the right guy .
Look in to author john gray phd(wrote men are from mars/women from venus and a lot of other books) HUGELY insightful...I find that listening to Clayton and john gray has changed my life!
I like those 7 points. Thanks for sharing. I experienced when I am open about my dark side and show emotions (and i am still of course trying to make him feel that's I'm coming from a position of love) he shuts down, makes his decision and tells me he lost confidence that he can make me happy. Since then I'm always smiling. :) ...
I love your honesty; I’m a very goal oriented person and I identify with you . Thank you for this video. I would love to find a person with such maturity!!
Wow! Masterful! And I could check off how each one is happening in a Key relationship even though it’s not a romantic one. Very pleased with myself ☺️ and how the relationship has grown deeper because all these points have been activated.
Thank You and Thank God! On the right track because what you describe is AUTHENTICITY - nothing else is attractive to me, so hallelujah that he wants that too.
Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay
Wow I can relate! I’m trying to play it cool with my new boyfriend just so he doesn’t think I’m crazy because of past experiences.. after watching ur video, I feel like I can just be myself & not be afraid of expressing myself. Thank you so much. You are a very wise man 😊
Thanks for all the great feedback thus far. Here is a Free Masterclass for Single Women: claytonolsoncoaching.com/3-keys-to-being-relationship-ready
Reciprocity! Absolutely! It is a mature love!
Thankful
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Awesome! Thank You!!!
Walking away from a man through my acts of kindness is when I see red flags I'm aware that will not find resolution. Even though Ive expressed my feelings and truth, I've stood my ground. It's only worth to be with a man long term, when he's willing to meet your level, emotionally mature, being vunerable and able to want to be supportive. If it becomes a drain for me over a period and he's not open to change, then it's Time to move on. People need to be made accountable for their actions and not keep being the victim and licking their wounds. There's only so much of my time and compassion I'll express, then we need to seek councilling and not always depend on another...
1) He wants you to have the power to walk away.
2) He wants to experience your dark side.
3) He wants to be able to be weak in your presence sometimes.
4) He secretly wants to be taken off the pedestal you have him on.
5) He wants a woman that takes responsibility for her life.
6) He wants to be challenged respectfully.
7) He wants you to be emotionally expressive.
Thanks for the outline, Princess. This will be added to the description soon.
Thank you ✨🙏
@@claytonolsoncoaching princess?
Tf is wrong with you
@@jimmoefoe1471 ha - that's her name.
@@claytonolsoncoaching Oh I thought you said it to channeling science.
As a 50 year old man, I personally appreciate the fact that women experience very similar insecurities, anxieties and hopes and loves. Watching some of Clayton's videos has helped me from going into a place of cynicism and bitterness but rather into a place of solace, peace of mind and empathy and shared experiences. Thank you Clayton.
You're welcome and I really appreciate this share.
1. My ability to walk away. By this it shows my kindness to him is my choice.
2. He wants to experience my dark side. So that he feels in a relationship with all of me.
3. He wants to be able to be weak in my presence from time to time.
4. Be equal with him. King and Queen. No pedestral.
5. Take responsibility for my life.
6. Challenge him, but don't dismiss him. And challenge myself.
7. He wants me to be emotionally expressive. So he can experience emotions through me.
Great stuff. Thanks.
This wrong
To walk away is to end my life 💔
Nice succinct summary
Clayton your emotional intelligence and sensitivity put most men coaches in your field to shame. You are very gifted indeed, thank you for sharing your wisdom.
What a compliment. Thank you.
I’m black I just found you I love your advice! You’re awesome 🤩
Yeah I was just thinking the same thing. He out classes all of them. No point listening to anyone else.
@@jackie5046 you are very sweet. I hope you’ve been following some of my recent content.
This guy is so gifted. I resonate with his content more than anything else I have watched. Thank you!!
Teresa Ross why thank you
Too many catch phases and words that don’t ho together or work. Lots of psychobabble here. He’s off of topic and just saying anything without actual accounts for anything.
I do too, he is so knowledgeable and can explain himself where I “get it” love this
Clayton is “the coach!” to help women understand intimate connection & deep growth!
Debby Handrich thanks for always being in my corner! 🙏
You bring that energie and 'feel' of a healthy man figure. As someone who grew up missing that, this value that you bring is no less important than the content of the vids - which is golden 🙏✨
That comment made my night. Thank you :)
@Senada Pasic I am not sure I understand you. Can you explain?
I've been w/ the best therapist for a year now.
She uses the " I don't have all the answers. "
"The answers are in you".
I agree Clayton, & for everyone to find a great, productive therapist.
Thanks for sharing
You really bring a deeper level of relationship management perspective that no one else does. You speak to the questions and confusion that even women cannot always come up with, let alone articulate.
What a great comment. Thank you, Cindy! Wonderful reflection
Most of this can be switched into the role of what a quality woman wants as well. Thank you 💗🙏🌎
So true
Yes I do agree .. I feel most women are strong 💪🏼. … men need women …., where as women can survive on their own.
1. Power to walk away
2. Wants to experience your dark side
3. He wants to be weak in your presence
4. Take him off of his pedestal
5. Honor yourself and take responsibility
6. Wants you to challenge him but not dismiss him
7. He wants you to be emotionally expressive
Great summary
I liked the way in the end you linked number 7 to number 2 and you referred us to number 5 in case we don’t get it clearly. Great coach! Awesome video! 👌🏾
C. Ingabire 🤟
Thanks. We all have "weaknesses" as well as "strengths" and demonstrating weakness is strength turned inside out. I'm far from 20 and much closer to 100 but there are certain things my body has always told me...someone's tone,or body language or choice of words I can literally feel as a physical reaction...my stomach will tighten in a good or painful way... woman's intuition is something no one, man or woman should ever ignore ..at my age it's no longer subtle...it literally screams inside me...so, walking away or staying all depends on this guy of mine. I think all seven suggestions are valid...the one thing I could never ever put up with is deception..cheating in an agreed upon monogamous relationship. It just immediately turns off every single positive emotion...and I could walk away calmly. It happened twice in my life...but when they came back to apologize I forgave them but with a smile wouldn't accept them back into my life...their loss...I was a winner!
I’m dating a high quality man for nine months now. I’m doing many of your discussed points, and it’s reassuring knowing that I’m heading in the right direction!! We’re gradually coming into our own within our current relationship. You’ve given some good information, and I appreciate you helping us ladies become better with our quality men. I’ve subscribed and look forward to learning more from your professional prospective! 👏🏻👏🏻
Thanks for sharing!
Great advice my friend....I lost my husband at 48 to brain cancer and my son in a tragic accident this sept......being able to be vulnerable on an intimate level..
So sorry for your losses. Hurt to read this. 🙏🏽
@@Dreamsareareality thanks so much! I rise every day to make God and my angels proud!! May God Bless You all the days of your life!
I hope you have been on a path of healing and finding meaning and joy again.
I'm just happy the wall behind you isn't painted white.
Me too.
🙄👍
thzt's so funny
I honestly don't get this ..but I do really love the blue. 😁 So calming for the eyes.
@@angelaevans6580 ya yet true.
Am glad it's not white
Loooove this video. I had to become more aware of my darkside and learn to be more emotionally expressive. I was raised in a home where that was ridiculed fast forward to now, i ended up pushing my masculine man away because i was being aloof, dismissive, and emotionally cold. Now i appreciate the experience because now i see that being emotional actually gives me leverage. When u are comfortable being vulnerable it will be respected and seen as *gentle* strength. Im not a kid anymore i am safe to express myself fully and gracefully.
Jess Pera thank you for sharing. I’m sure many watching this video benefit from hearing your perspective on this.
Excellent video - encouraging deep, authentic and conscious connection. Thank you 🙏🏼
Divine Light that’s exactly it
I have never heard these things before. I so appreciate you sharing deeper concepts and realities. Gratitude!
I appreciate you and your comment. I hope you’re continue to get value from my more recent videos
It’s not hard to Accept when a man is feeling weak if most of the time he is strong and a go getter . ❤️ Never put anyone on a pedestal. I don’t put men on a pedestal because it’s not sincere . I’d rather him know and understand that I see him as he is which is the bad with the good, because I want him to see me as real as well. It is a huge turnoff when a man puts me on a pedestal. It’s extremely insincere and a turnoff .
This is by far the best advice I’ve came across on RUclips after watching thousands of nonsense videos seriously . You’re amazing 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🌞
Same
Thank you!
Having a man validate how I have been hurt by others, doesn’t make me weak. It only makes him know me better.
Yep
Clayton, Thank You for sharing men’s psychology and mindset! Your teaching is awesome.
I appreciate you! Hope you’re subscribed and checking out my newest content
I have to say; this is one of the greatest video I have ever listened to!! Thank you!! Great insights!!
Love that you love this!
This is some deep men psychology here
Very interesting and informative video from a very smart man.
It does helps to understand how a man really feels deep inside which is what I am more interested on because ‘how he thinks’ is not so difficult to figure out as it is how he ‘truly feels’,which most men never show because of society stigmas on how men should behave etc.
Thank you very much
🎇
Thank you, mitzkitty!
Clayton, this is my Favorite video of yours Ever. I am in those AARP years, and I Actually Learned Something from this! Thank you so much for all you share with us!
Thank you, Dotti. I appreciate your comment!
This is a masterpiece Clayton, only God can thank you the way you deserved to be thanked. I love how I am allowed to be emotionally expressive in an honest relationship, and also free to take responsibility with my life. These are the things I value the most about being me. :)
🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️
This was extremely helpful. It was a strong reminder of a core message I get from your work about being authentic.
But also with this video I realized I have been using the knowledge I gain from your work with a man who isn’t healthy. And I believe I finally silenced the voice in my head that has been trying to convince me that your healthy insights into relationships will still work even if he isn’t healthy.
Thank you
Miss Neena great distinction. Thank you!
Hi Clayton,
I really enjoy listening to you.
If I can be a little brutally honest, my ex boyfriend always distorted my perception of reality.. However the challenge was appreciated but he didn't have a sense of respect for the perceptions. It made me shut down. I felt dismissed all the time. This is how I had to leave him. Major communication lose/win situations. It got isolating and boring. Everything else you mentioned here did work well. In the end of our relationship he was found dating me + 2 more woman. I can never bring myself to his pedestal if or for that reason other great woman.
Anita.
It sounds like you practiced tremendous strength in getting out of that situation. I hope that you've been able to create better relationships moving forward.
These are all useful and thank you. What bothers me about these videos is that they are never connected to marriage. When a woman bonds with a man, lets her guard down, reveals her dark side, bonds with him emotionally, absorbs his weak side...she is going to have to let her guard down and get very attached to him. WHY BOTHER IF HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND? Sorry for the caps but I really dont see why its worth the risk.
These things should be present to enter into a marriage. If you're not willing to risk, then it makes relationships very surface and one dimensional.
I would say that these apply to all stages.
Excellent teaching!!! Very clear and concise.
An added tip, I say to the guy i'm with
"Thank you for sharing your feelings ".
It shows I appreciate his vulnerability.. 😃😊
Yes!, praising him for vulnerability
Is a strength, he said he felt comfortable. 🙄
Nice tip, Wendi!
I already do all of these! I love that men want these things. Your insight and knowledge are very validating and supportive, thank you!
Beautiful.
Wow, almost all these points my boyfriend and I have gone through together. I am so blessed to have him in my life. Ups and downs, we get through anything if the Lord permits. I love watching your videos anyway. God bless and thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing. I hope your relationship his strong and connected still.
This video feels genuine.
Thanks, Susan!
" You Nailed It ". Clear and Concise explanation.
Thank you!
I love that putting down a shield and sword and being open and raw like the boy inside who's not sure of himself. I feel like that as a woman at times whenever I have to do something I've never done before I feel like a kindergartener who's scared of making a mistake. But I try my best to trudge forward to do what I need to do.
PS it takes a lot of courage to admit weaknesses or doubts or lack of ability.
Nicely noticed. Especially the feeling like a kindergartener. Often we age regress in relationship to an age we were hurt most relationally in effort to heal that wound.
Clayton!!! I miss you so much! Your material and delivery is so amazing. I’ve got to get back in my routine of watching your videos. You are so good at what you do! Thank you so much for bringing such solid relationship concepts to us❤️
Awww thank you!
Thank You! Honest. Heart. Sharing what Men dont say but want Women need to know. Mars vs Venus...UNITE! Live. Laugh. Love!
You're welcome!
I just adore your videos! They are so profound ❤️❤️❤️! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!
Hi Dr Clayton appreciate your share, well explained I can sort of relate this to some of my own experiences and understand this More thanks
Yes. It's important to express all your emotions in a healthy way.
It shows that you know who you are, what you will accept, it helps you form boundaries and you need to be true to yourself by showing these to your potential mate in an honest respectful manner so he can learn Who You Are and know your boundaries otherwise you're not giving him a chance to truly get to know you or understand you and more important chat for him to be honest and open to you about who he is if you can't be honest and open to him. To me that describes putting up walls. There is no place for walls in a healthy relationship.
Yes yes
I have never seen a more fresh topic and your teaching style is clear and concise.
Wonderful. So glad it landed the way it did.
Thanks for sharing these great points!!💯
Thank you!
I wish I wouldve had this video a few years ago when I was in the throws of a very painful breakup. At the time, because of feeling so blindsided and unbearably heartbroken, I wasn't able to fully see how my own role, actions, and shortcomings also contributed to his decision to fully walk away. Our time together was a whirlwind romance and a crash and burn type end. Too much to fully express here. But I just wanted to say that your words really resonated and yours and Jack's videos always have me growing and learning how to better myself, my thinking and my approach to men. And hopefully one day I'll have another opportunity to be that wonderful partner to someone who's also a wonderful partner to me as well...Thanks Clayton..your work and your words are valuable to so many:)
Thank you!
Excellent thank you! That talk has helped me a lot! Your open & honest face is like a tonic. I'll be coming back to you for more advice....Isn't RUclips great? Peace & Love from the UK
Haven’t heard that before. Thank you!
Thank you for your honesty! It’s refreshing bc is women usually feel left out of their deep feelings! I’m speaking for the women of the 50/60’s. We were raised to be the subservient one in the relationship. I have a problem with that bc I need an equal partner bc I’m a leader and I also need a leader. I would never want to run a man. I want a man that can take me on equally in every area. I need someone to not compete but to do with me. Thank you for your real truth about men. So many men have been taught to not feel! I’m truly sorry for the way boys are raised. I raised my sons to feel and own their feelings. It’s not about macho it’s about humbling your ego to be one with the women if your dreams.
Hey man thank you so much for those videos. Those are actually saving my life.
I hope they continue to do so and help you create the life you want.
Best relationship advice I've ever heard
Amazing
I love it! This is serious advise. Really deep and real. Super interesting. I’m learning so much with your videos. Thank you!!!
Thank you!
The color contrast you got there is really nice. ♥️
Oh thank you!
@@claytonolsoncoaching You're welcome! 🤗
Your video is wonderful. I love how you break everything down. This really resonates with the last guy I was with I know he wanted those things you named. Thank you.
Excellent. Thank you for the feedback.
So yeah I casually just strolled in on by far the most accurate content on this topic I’ve seen over God knows how many years
Rudi! Thanks for the love. Appreciate your comment.
Wow! Best advice I've ever heard
Thank you so much
Love hearing this.
Absolutely love how deep your talks are!💕
Klaudia Lacayo I try to keep it deep!
This is great!! You are great!! Just started following you!! It all makes so much sense. Thank you for all the insight!!
I hope you still are following!
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i love your advice all so fascinating love it
Thank you so much. I hope you've continued to watch the evolution of the channel.
This is my 1st time listening to you and I want to experience more 😊
I hope you have been watching my videos!
Thank you for the webinar A im signed up and cant wait!!
Powerful!! I appreciate the insight!!
You're welcome
Thanks! Your information is extraordinary.
I really appreciate that.
Mr. Olson, you and your teaching partner are brilliant. My deepest gratitude to both of you for sharing your wisdom.
Thank you!
Super Great Content! Thank you.
Thank you!
amazing video, Clayton, really appreciate you sharing. Plus, I must say, I agree!:) Thank you !
Aw thanks. I hope you still are watching my newer ones.
Omggg.. these things are so true. I learned them the hard way but fortunatly early enough to turn my relationship around. 6 years later its at its very best..
Thanks, Leslie.
Some very brillant points .
Thank you!
Another great interesting video...many thanks
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Watched the first point: 100%. That's why I love the saying "don't take my kindness for weakness"
And: check! Definitely some qualities regarding number 2 haha 😉 Can I refer my next guy to you regarding your opinion that showing my dark side is an honor to him?
(no I'm not bad girl, but definitely go wild when you give me rubbish)
And jokes apart, I so agree! If one doesn't show up for him/herself, that's poison for a relationship which you want to be truthful and strong/ connected. Apart from the boredom that comes along with scary "harmony always and at any price"
Love nr. 3.
Thanks for sharing, Diana! Some good insight here
This is phenomenal information! Thank you!
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Thank you once again for this practical advice on the complexities of healthy relationships! Wishing the younger me had this advice on men. That first one definitely got me.
Ret yep, not many expect it
Clayton Olson Coaching With regards to my marriage...I made this mistake as I felt bound by my commitment. Leaving was never the option...but in hindsight, I can see how the relationship lost its value.
My problem is I have a lot of talents and my education is up there .Usually they start to run after you tell them .Yes I have a couple of degrees ,yes I can do that .I been single since 2006 .Still waiting for the right guy .
Look in to author john gray phd(wrote men are from mars/women from venus and a lot of other books) HUGELY insightful...I find that listening to Clayton and john gray has changed my life!
I like those 7 points. Thanks for sharing. I experienced when I am open about my dark side and show emotions (and i am still of course trying to make him feel that's I'm coming from a position of love) he shuts down, makes his decision and tells me he lost confidence that he can make me happy. Since then I'm always smiling. :) ...
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This is Brillant! Thank you!
CJB63 glad you think so
I love your honesty; I’m a very goal oriented person and I identify with you . Thank you for this video. I would love to find a person with such maturity!!
I’m glad this content landed and thank you for the compliment. I hope you’re have found what you’ve been looking for
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Wow! Masterful! And I could check off how each one is happening in a Key relationship even though it’s not a romantic one. Very pleased with myself ☺️ and how the relationship has grown deeper because all these points have been activated.
I’m so glad it landed. I hope you’ve been following my recent content and getting value out of it
Why SECRETLY?! When do they grow the balls to ACTUALLY TELL?
Teeve exactly, so how will the rest of the world know this? This should go viral like the Corona Virus.
Lol love it
Thank you for this, its very educational.
Excellent 🙏
This is some serious Juice👌🏾
Haha love it. Thanks
Really really great I do Clayton. I was surprised at these...can’t thank you enough 💓
You're welcome. I'm glad they made a difference
thanks for sharing this :) it's very usefull for my relationship that iam in now
I hope that relationship is still going strong or you've moved on and learned something important.
Very rare understanding of men AND women! Thank You!
Love that feedback thank you!
Thank You and Thank God! On the right track because what you describe is AUTHENTICITY - nothing else is attractive to me, so hallelujah that he wants that too.
Thats right! Authenticity is the common thread.
Excellent information!
Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay
Thank you
This one by far has been the best one ever .....thank you so much for your insights
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OMG I love this video!! Thank you Clayton 💜🙏🏼🌟
Thank you!
Clayton loved the content and well spoken! I guess you wouldn’t be surprised to hear women value those same qualities in a man too.
Yes, not surprising
You are fantastic! Dr
I try to be. Thank you. ;)
Hello Clayton, thank you for todays video. I found it has given me a great deal of inspiration to go forward. Best wishes from the United Kingdom.
Great information for an authentic loving relationship. Thank you very much Clayton!
You’re welcome Tina!
I have done that in every single relationship I have had with a man. I leave, forever...
Wow. Interesting perspective ;) I like.
Excellent. I hope it has helped.
So refreshing. I really seek to be a supportive and awesome wife someday...thanks so much!
I hope that has continued to unfold and you are in a relationship with a wonderful man.
So much confirmation here. Much gratitude!!! 🙏
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Wow thanks this is amazing !
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Awesome stuff
Excellent.
Dear Clayton, wise words and great insights. It all makes sense. Thank you.
You are very welcome. I hope you have kept watching my newer videos
First time and a Sub. Great video. Thanks
Wonderful
This was such an enlightening video for me. Thank u
You are so welcome, Lorie
Brilliant video. Thank you!
You're welcome!
Wow I can relate! I’m trying to play it cool with my new boyfriend just so he doesn’t think I’m crazy because of past experiences.. after watching ur video, I feel like I can just be myself & not be afraid of expressing myself. Thank you so much. You are a very wise man 😊
Wonderful. Yes, I want the viewers of this video to feel more free to be themselves.