Unfreeze Yourself
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
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Key Points
00:00 - Unfreeze Yourself
01:04 - Do circular motions
01:34 - Color, draw, or doodle
02:18 - Use your breath
Omg I just realized that I naturally used to draw a lot as a kid to get out of freeze state. Kids sometimes know how to respond without knowing it 😊
They do! And then sadly adults see it as bad or unproductive and force it out of them 😅
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I agree! "grown-ups" can learn a lot from kids! If only we loosened up a little and played more ❤
Brilliant , Thankyou ❤
Circular motions I've noticed now I do naturally with my feet and fingers a lot
Interesting that cursive writing was taken out of schools, I write in cursive in my journals to get out of freeze..... the circular motions are removed if you print or type.... this is an amazing argument to bring cursive back to school imho.... yet one more way generations are having the ability to self regulate removed so another chemical drug can take its place to treat a symptom instead of cure the cause.
I've been guilty of over doing the healing stuff. I once meditated thrice that day. Then relapsed right back into my old avoidant ways . Do a tiny bit on a day. Like one deep breath. Don't go nuts.
Yuppp! I feel you!!
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I freeze whenever someone yells at me about something even though I didn't do it. My throat is closed, my heart is beating fast and I have hard time breathing and staying calm. The best thing I can do is... to YAWN. Apparently it helps relax the mouth muscles, the throat opens and also the yawning helps you to relax and not take it so seriously.
I figured out how to combat both overwhelm and freezing. Ready? The key is trusting your gut and refusing to be gaslit by people telling you to read your situation in a way that does not match your experience and what your gut says. Thank you Gabor Mate!
Yeees!!! The way my gut is ALWAYS right I don’t even acknowledge that others tell me otherwise. Their opinion is so irrelevant but it can be hurtful if it’s from a loved one.
I quit my nursing job a year ago because of the toxicity and being on call 24/7. I have been frozen since. I beat myself up all the time for being lazy, lethargic, etc fill in the blanks with all the bad names. I rarely leave the house. The Freeze condition sounds spot on. I will try these methods and try to redirect my mental discussion. Thank you for spelling this out.
I have the same thing after teaching for 40 years and getting chronically ill. I was traumatized by my adult son who was manic and in the wrong meds. I couldn’t figure out why I was afraid to drive or do anything! It’s awful after being capable of doing anything, to going into a state of paralysis.
Nursing is incredibly traumatizing. The unspoken command is that you sacrifice yourself -- used to be for the patient, now it is for the system (their $$$). Burnout is common, and actually the sign of a healthy mind....healthy minds can't stay in such a schizo environment.
Boost B vitamins, lay out in the sun, remember all the good you did despite the system, and let the rest go. Plant a garden, or at least a few pots of food & flowers. It will help.
Omg just did the circular motion before you even mentioned the wrists i did it and i bursted out in tears.. just a wave of fear like a child being pushed to walk or move when they dont want to 😭😭 i hope one day to be out of freeze, its been a few years now 😢
A few years here too ❤
You can do it.👍
I’m sorry it’s still impacting you so much!
For what it’s worth, I’m realizing I was in freeze for a large chunk of my life but it doesn’t affect me nearly as much these days.
If I can make the progress I have without having the right words for what I was experiencing, you definitely can!
This is a gross analogy but I think crying during/after long term freeze is like when you quit smoking and you have to cough up all that gunk in your lungs.
Even though they’re not being exposed to poison anymore, it still takes time for your lungs to clear everything out.
When it’s happening it might feel gross but in the long run it’s actually progress.
Thank you for making short but very informative videos. 🌿🙏🏻🌷🙏🏻🌿
Wow thank you so much! It's like you know exactly what I needed to hear today! Sending lots of love to all of my frozen peeps, it's time to move! ❤
4. Singing or humming
5. Hammocking/swinging
6. Fidgeting with a small item like a pocket stone
7. sledging (winter) or swimming (summer) - but it takes maybe too much effort to get started when in freeze mode
Of any sport, swimming has always been my favorite. Maybe this is why...
Pocket stone is a great idea thank u 😀
Knitting, crocheting -- not necessarily even a project, just flat like a scarf. Simple, repetitive, and you can see progress.
@@bendy6626 oh this is why I like solving simple maths problems like 675÷5 on a paper cuz it helps me focus on something. And I feel good when I get the right answer 😀
Thank you so much. Just what I wanted to hear today. No preaching just simple simple things to do. God Bless
I used to draw. And sing. Naturally. All the time.
Me too. Now I can’t even organize things nor pack up to move out of this house that’s way too much work for a single, tiny woman with Lyme and resurfaced infections and autoimmune issues.
I’ve also found that swinging (like on a swing set) helps me a lot to “unlock”. Even as an adult, I love it.
Me too. It's so wonderful to feel like a kid again sometimes, even if it's just for a brief moment. Swinging is fun in general, at any age. 😊
Thanks for what you're doing. Your little skits are so on point! And these are really practical suggestions, quickly delivered.
After 9 years, this is making me be bawl right now. Grateful, 🙏.
What I really like about your explanations is precisely they are not only holistic they are connected to the science behind them, very helpful indeed.
How do I get myself motivated to get back into life again. I’m stuck and I’ve been stuck since late 2020. I’m not myself. I don’t recognize myself. Become something I don’t like. I’m trying so hard to change. I’ve been in counseling intensely for several years. Read self-help books. I practice meditation. There’s all kinds of things I could mention that I do. Journaling, drawing breathing techniques, and I still feel pretty much the same on a day-to-day basis. Stuck in a slow spiral towards the end of my life With no one there to even witness it.
I love u ❤ believe in yourself you are able
I feel you. I am a witness, my story is similar. You are NOT alone. Are you getting enough time in nature walking barefoot just appreciating those wonders of life? I get too focused on internal and fixing, without balancing what exists that really is beautiful and wonderful. If I look at people, I wrongly focus on the too many problems left to solve.
How about soul retrieval? Sounds like a part of your has left your body - you don’t feel like yourself. Did something happen before you went into freeze? I’ve had that happen and the moment I sort of woke up, I felt a swoosh and that part that left came back and I was myself again. Find someone who does soul retrieval.
I feel you, I have no idea if this'll help at all but I feel similar in a lot of ways, I think I hear that you're trying to "do" a lot and from what I've been learning it seems (maybe I'm speaking personally here but yeah) it may help to try "being" more, I've heard another video that spoke to me where the guy said for many of us we spend so long and try so hard to see ourselves and projects to work on and fix and sometimes we have to get out there and "live" more, find what matters to you and gives your heart joy and makes you feel more like you? You able to connect to your inner child? Find what makes your eyes sparkle in admiration or makes your heart warm? Life isn't all roses as well I know.. but when life feels hopeless, I think we need to find these kinda things that help us want to keep going! I hope you find yourself again and what makes you want to keep living (not just surviving) ❤🫂
Carnivore diet for metabolic, nervous system, hormonal and mental health is life-changing.
When I was a child and now I love to draw smiley faces all over my paper and it calms me down. Now I know why it relaxes me. 😌
For me the breathing exercises is the easiest, so the one I will most likely so consistently. Thank you for all you do. ❤
I do the breathing one too! Simple and unobtrusive to do anytime I find myself not fully breathing or if I'm feeling mentally immobilized. ❤
I’ve been doing all of these things they’ve been really helping me get out of the freeze 🥶 state after being betrayed by someone I considered a friend
I like this presentation, I just learned how to do Neurographic drawing and it unfroze me! It’s easy peasy and is a glorified doodle for me! Thank you! 😊
What's that?
Thank you for mentioning the neurographic art, I love doodling and art in general! 😊
After seeing all the comments about people, swinging, I’m glad to know I’m not the only one at 44 years old who loves to stop by a park for a good swing. It is so relaxing. We definitely need more adult swings at the park.
Gosh, just circling my arms with you during the video gave me some nice breath releases. I do struggle to get that deep breath so I will try it in combination with some circling. I haven't really drawn or doodled since I was a kid and chastised for it. I will try that too sometime.
Thank you Nicole for your amazing videos ❤ it helps us so much in our solo personal healing journey❤
Wow, thank you for the recommendation! This is actually really helpful and not just 'teaser-ing' things on and proclaiming to have a solution but actually SHOWING how it can be done!
Thank you so much from someone suffering through this for 40 years!
I'm so grateful for finding your channel!
Doing something creative is part of my self- therapy. Listen to your Channel, trying to establish a normal behaviour and a less of anxiety.
Talk about fight or flight I tend to run away emotions they literally scare me am still learning not to fear them
Find a meditation app you really like. Do the very short ones. It's more than enough, longer ones are great. Maybe think about working up to them, if necessary.
5 minutes maybe twice a day is all I need right now. 😍
Your video is right on time. After watching your last video I realized that I go into a freeze state constantly! Today I was able to identify it and I forced myself to just get up and dance. Now that Im watching this video I know next time to start with smaller movements to slowly bring myself out of that state. I also keep my doodling book on the table next to me just in case. Your videos have been so helpful and I am so grateful to you!
I waited for this video for so long! Love it and I ll do it today, I ll let u know how it works!
❤thank you
Me too! ❤
@@MirandaQUEENofFISHROCK are you going to give it a shot? I will and I’m excited, I pray and hope it works, I don’t have much time left…
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Thank you ❤
I was doing the circular movements instinctively🙂
I literally was doing these 3 things intuitively 2 weeks ago. Going to restart tomorrow! Thank you for your insight & guidance.
Thank you 🙏 ❤ Whatbyou do, passing along these tools is helping to heal the world ❤❤
What I do is start visualizing a Boat Sailing out Deep into the sunset or the sunshine Feeling the breeze on my face Drifting Out of my mind slowly Into the water
3 men in my life:
the first -
was just a very young girl,
with zero self esteem,
and a much older,
VERY abusive man
the second -
was a symptom of self loathing
the third -
was a result of despair and desperation
I PRAY I CHANGE THIS PATTERN
I PRAY I HEAL
I pray the next man,
will be the last one.
the true one.
the real one.
I vibrate
I radiate
I create
Thank you for these tips!!! I get into freeze state at work all of the time due to burnout. I’ll definitely be using these.
Drawing calms me down. Should be asleep right now. Thank you for your videos ❤
I will definitely try these! Thank you so much for sharing these tips💕🕊🙏
I will try this. The video about the dissociation helped me a lot to come out from derealization. This will help me too
i'm very excited about option 2!!!!!!!! ^^ thank you =)
You nailed at ‘your body will feel safe to move’! I forget to breathe fully. Im so thankful you popped up in my feed. 🙏💚
I'm a leg wiggler this helps me move again 😅 also I've found playing vr helps me have less freeze episodes
Thank you so much for making these videos ❤
I love #2. Had started adult coloring books a while back and that has been my go to. Thanks these are great 💜
These tools seem easy but also promising, thank you for sharing.
Thank you Nicole you are a godsend ❤❤
I moved to Ireland from Vermont to get married to someone and live the rest of my life with him and it didn’t work out. I knew enough to leave and come back to my home but I’ve been in a fresh state for about eight months now combination adrenaline, anxiety and worse some panic attacks. It’s strange because I’m surrounded by woods a beautiful home three cats, plenty of friends but I can’t relate to any of it much. Your video has helped. I’m usually a very active person and I can’t wait to get back to my old self
Lately, I've been craving coloring and have noticed my body wanting to do circles! Our bodies truly know how to heal. We just have to listen. Thanks for wisdom!
Interesting hearing about holding your breath. For so many years of my life I held my breath all the time. Really interesting to think about that in this context.
Draw or paint , not always to draw anything but cause I just like the way the brush feels on the canvas , I end up covering it up with the next session anyway, but its soothing
Thank you! 🥰
Thank you so much!♥️…very helpful steps to practice….
Thank you so much for this ❤
Thank You 🙏
My anxiety was so bad this week. I was stuck in a freeze state & dissociating. Couldnt go to the gym or practice anything it led to a tense tummy ache & throwing up. I'm going to try these hacks
My overwhelming response is freeze is disassociate.
👏👌your tips are always very valuable and helpful! Thx for sharing it on here. I tried all three methods. First one the circular motion is helpful to unfreeze at all. Just to change the channel wave in the brain. Breathing the third is the must effective one I find. That might be personally as since Covid I deal with lung challenges and it kind of helps here too. Like I just feel every breath brings more energy and easy flow immediately. Colour draw just shifts my mind into a new tusk. I love creative work but I guess it doesn’t help with the actual de freezing. Colour draw might want to get me into something new with colours and paints 🎨😅😂. I did a lot of Mandala drawing as daily tusk in a burnout rehab some years ago. It was the first learning of mindfulness for starters. For me de freezing is something with exercise that’s how my body gets it most easily done and get outside into nature. At the moment I am in a golfing 🏌️ training course. The total focus on the ball I find extremely de-freezing I forget everything around me, will be tired after two hours as I tend to 💯 focus but feel great 😂😁and come out as balanced and happy and energetic.
Thanks ❤
Thank you so much. ❤
Thank you so much for this 😊 this is so important.... I've been frozen for 58 years
Ha! I'm always circling my feet at the ankles, or sometimes doing figure 8s with my feet and legs
Thank you! 🙏
The wrist and hand movement .. I did that as a child when i was unable or "too lazy" to get out of bed when I didn't have to go to school.
Thank you so much
I just finished a six month period with a series of deadlines I had to meet (and this is volunteer work; I'm supposed to be retired!) I've noticed that for the past several months I just can't get myself out of bed in the morning. I'm sleeping around ten hours a night and feel like I need more. I've had some of the other symptoms, too, like losing track of time and not being able to connect.
I'm going to try these suggestions and see if they help.
Thank you ❤️
The practical tips are useful but more importantly for me was how to treat yourself along with doing these things because I've been trying these kinda techniques for ages tbh but still with mindset I gotta do it perfectly and "right" and being incredibly critical and stressing myself out tryna throw everything possible at myself to help try fix everything wrong with me.. not a helpful approach at all and just feel shittier like I'm doing all the things that should help for how long and I'm STILL not "better" yet.. yeah I gotta work with myself in a much more patient and compassionate way man or I really am setting myself up for failure ❤
Thank you❤
I did the circular motion with my wrists and arms, just for fun. But for some reason, I found myself smiling whilst doing it. How interesting.
I think I just automatically freeze in the morning. This is a great reason to start the day with slow circular motions!
I'm in freeze state, and also an accomplished artist...but I haven't draw regularly in years. The fact everyone around me knows me as The artist™ and sees me not doing anything adds to the shame and freezing to not do anything... This video is so good. I'll try to doodle again, to help myself. The circle thing is also good. The breathing thing actually kinda makes me anxious for some reason? It's kind of difficult.
I realise as I am watching this, I have gone back into a freeze state after struggling to take a next big step, trying to break up that step into smaller ones then my shame cycle set in and now I've stopped and wondering why I can't start again. Almost in tears just moving my arm in a circular motion. I have a doodle I just started with lines and connected circles...OMG! 😭😭😭
I puzzle and feel my body. For me it is crucial to see afterwards what triggers the freeze state and when I am ready change my behavior afterwards, like setting bounderies. It is a slow proces getting out of freeze...
Maybe a little synchronicity going on? The circular movements? I started using Indian Clubs last week - they look vaguely like bowling pins. Used as a training regime by Asian Indian and Persian wrestlers for millenia in a series of circular movements for the arms and shoulders.
I just came across this video and was thinking that it’s sounds a lot like me. I have Complex Regional Pain Syndrome and menopause concurrently. My pain never fully reconciles although I’ve had a spinal cord stimulator implanted. I cannot tell if my fatigue is from physical pain or menopause or emotional stress. All I know is that I’ve spent the last week in bed, not wanting to talk to anyone, even my husband, my kids or my friends. If I go to my anesthesiologist, it’s CRPS, if I go to my GP, it’s menopause but I know that I’m in there somewhere trying to get away from my emotional stress as well.
Nicola thank you for being nothing like a traditional shrink and I love that about you! ❤❤❤
Thank you.
Freeze= stuck energy
Nature, Art Therapy, Body Brushing, Exercise, The Tapping Method good tools.( I do some of the above)😊
Good stuff.
Can you please 🙏 do more guided meditation 🧘🏾♀️
Can you make a video about cardiophobia id really appreciate it
What i really want to know is how to change so I don't shift into this state subconsciously all of the time, every day when I come home, ect.
00:00 - Unfreeze Yourself
01:04 - Do circular motions
01:34 - Color, draw, or doodle
02:18 - Use your breath
Energy drinks work for me, only now it's 3am and raining out so I can't mow the lawn.
Thank you. Wondering if this will work for lethargy.
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I have reasons for not trusting the field of psychology YET I see your holistic aspects seem to allow me to connect with the process of therapy for my body which I haven't taken care of on a different level, can you recommend a website to connect with a holistic therapist in my area? Generation X has a specific set of beings with a "conventional" therapy ideology.....Holistic Therapy is all so new (week) sadly, there are so many pictures of me as a young child I'm in a freeze state OR a seizure ...I will let you know which method helps me, "staring off into space isn't always innocent its a warning Sezure time
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Interesting… I have been naturally doing this
Is there anyone familiar with the Drama Triangle technique and if this sort of ‘therapy’ could be helpful with CPTSD?
I've been in 24/7 derealisation for the past year now. I never feel present. I guess this is a freeze state. Would these techniques work for this, even though it's a constant state? Would you be able to do a video on derealisation disorder and how to come out of it? Thanks 🙂
How about to knit or crochet?
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These solutions are for how to get out of situational freeze. These solutions will likely not work for someone who is in a chronic freeze state. Speaking from my own personal experience, I already do all of these things and similar, and I am still stuck in functional freeze.
What is functional freeze?
I’m constantly frozen 🥶
Is there a online place where I can get help with my mental state, I'm pretty screwed from several years now and to make matters worse I'm 37 now my lower back went out real bad 3 years ago and won't get fixed everyone's given up on me
Will appreciate your help if could recommend an effective online psychologist or therapist
Sending blessings your way. I wish I knew someone to recommend, but I don't, just wishing you the best.
What if you freeze in public while people are bullying you? What do you do then?
Is that a Philly accent I hear? 🥰
But I'm not in a freeze state. I made 4 lamps in the last two days.
Ok but let’s think about why your body does it and what it requires from you. Your body puts you in freeze because something was dangerous. You need to find out what’s dangerous, or what you think is dangerous, not just shut the fire alarm off!
Didn’t work
You let people be frozen for a week. Kinda messed up.