I’m more confused with him wanting her to pay for things even after the wedding yet also being like a housewife.. bro where would she get the money??? A little thinking wouldn’t hurt😒
He was just honestly very insecure about OPs flourishing career and financial independence which doesn't give him the alpha he wants to be. OP Dodged a bullet and also a really strong person!!! Kudos
I hate the fact that even nowadays there are men who expect their wives to give up their careers and become housewives; even expect more than 2 children. Like my guy, in this age and economy, how is a family with more than 4 people suppose to survive with only 1 salary???!!!
He also wanted to rely on her money but wanted her to stop making money 😂 maybe he watches too many podcasts and has no idea how the world really works.
You know your civilization is done for when having more then 2 children is considered some unrealistic expectation. 2 means stagnation even slow decline due to a number of kids dying
Sounds like he wanted to cage the free bird woman. If he could make you practical in his eyes, it would be a huge ego boost. Also don’t think he would be able to verbalize this, he probably has it so ingrained he can’t realize the fault in thinking along these lines.
He thought you were a trad wife because he has never thought of op's career any more than a trad wife job. He doesn't respect her or her contributions. He will always treat her less than. And belittle her self worth
A 6 figure income is not a hobby and there is nothing funny or cute about this kind of passionate and creative profession. He wanted control over her life and not a life with her. He wants her to housekeeper, maid, servant, cook, mating mate, and a baby making machine. This is purely a misogynist warped perception of modern woman. He is insecure, manipulative, controlling, liar, bully, egotistic, and a misogynist. But he couldn't even make his own life successful than her.
I never understood the notion of trying to force someone into sharing your values so that you can be in a relationship, instead of finding someone who already shares your values. Like, what is with the desire of trying to bend someone to your will???? Thats so weird and makes no sense.
The moment you become a mother THAT will be your "job", because the rest of your life is seen as a hobby - if your partner drags you down, the relationship is doomed😮 "If YOU love me, you should compromise" -> let him eat his words - "traditional housewife" has to do ALL the chores [letting her pay for the living costs too is NOT the traditional way - husband has to provide there!] Think of all the million dollar pop-stars: would they make that mony by only singing in their kitchen???
@@samoea19 why do you think almost all housewife have some form of part time job/commercial or semi commercial hobby doing chores doesn't take 8 hrs per day and you'd eventually get bored enough to work
This really sounds like neither of them actually sat down and communicated their expectations for the future. I don't think either is at fault here for the initial conflict. Future expectations is something that should have been talked about a long time ago not at the 5 year mark. This is just poor communication.
@EBaker-bz8gx Did she communicate that with him? Cause at lot of times in relationships the other doesn't actually notice the effort the other one is putting in cause they just think it's normal or not out of the ordinary.
Yes it seems like she was surprised he wanted her to be a housewife as if they never talked about it. But he's not the sharpest tool in the shed if he wanted to rely on her financially while limiting her ability to make money... Also he never considered any compromise on his side, just on hers.
Lol he wanted to trap her, that "miscommunication" is done on purpose to trap you. When you leet, date AND get engaged with someone, it means whatever he/she was doing is fine for you.
If you don’t support each other your relationship will just create resentment and a miserable existence. Yes, you will need to compromise, both have to be willing.
Why can’t he just respect your career and stop undermining it. If it was truly a hobby then why is it bringing some much money. He needs to stop, it’s not like you are throwing it in his face or acting super independent it’s art. It makes no sense being with a guy that talks down about your career or undermines your achievements. Why would she sacrifice her career for a man that looked down on it from day1? Maybe he doesn’t like your independence because he feels you are getting away from him and since you are gaining so much success maybe he feels threatened by that. A lot of men can’t handle that. They want to be the one with the wealth and to control your income because it would come from them. He sabotaged the relationship because it’s not like you were out and about, your art studio was in the home and you were there most of the time. So although you were independent it was in the typical way
Op, if I were you, I would’ve made him an ex so fast and block everyone that sided with him… and go on with my life… and let Aaron have a step ford wife
So if he wants you to be a “traditional housewife” he’s gotta be a traditional hubby- aka he pays ALL the bills, gets you flowers, chocolates, jewelry, takes you on dates once a weeks, and you don’t pay for ANYTHING, even personal expenses. Last time I checked that’s what a “traditional husband” is. They support everything financially.
This man doesn't even respect you, therefore he can't love you; He sees you as a novelty to be trotted out at parties. NTA, run from this man, he will never make you happy.
Your hopefully former fiancee is gaslighting you and denigrating you as a person and an artist. He sounds like someone who will narrow your world until you are barefoot in the kitchen. Aaron is a narcissist and abusive and if he gets his way then he will start to control the financial parts of your life and restrict your access even to your money. Calling you not financially competent. You might be worried about wasting 5 years of your relationship but if you don't break it off your world will narrow until you isolated and financially dependent. He will not change and his parents will only back him up. Run the only worst thing than wasting 5 years is staying in this abusive relationship 5 years and one day more than necessary. Please consider going to counseling because he must have showed some red flags before the problems became an argument. And you need to be able to identify red flag material before any other relationship happens.
Is commendable that the woman following her dreams secondly I want to say that if you're going to follow your dreams harvest your eggs having children the youth has the best viable eggs 🤷🏼♀️ and no woman should live with regret.
@@gabrielaaguilera2770 Yes I have heard this, but I also dont have Wax covered eyes or a waxball for brains so I am rather aware that at least 80% of those stories are fake and just took the piss. but jest looking at this the meteoric rise of an artist based just with a few if even alleged big commission works. on its own pretty unbelievable but possible. Take on top that she is single or had a broken off engagement at the time. And you have a story that would make inevitable international headlines just for the narrative that could be pushed with the story. And now add her story ... oh boy there would be nothing else that you would here for weeks from some panellists because they have an unbelievable girl boss story. But it is an AI narrated feel good story on RUclips.
OP is sure over reacting. Maybe the fiance got nervous about wedding and is acting up. Else how can one explain she was with him for 5 years and the behaviour never bothered her...
I don’t think so. I think she was too nice and gave him the benefit of the doubt for too long, until it was right in her face. Happens to people all the time, we try to see the best in others, until we realize they aren’t really on our team at all
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I’m more confused with him wanting her to pay for things even after the wedding yet also being like a housewife.. bro where would she get the money??? A little thinking wouldn’t hurt😒
That's the "Alpha male" weirdo mentality. Guys like this don't want a wife and partner. They want a mother they can have sex with.
I commented before seeing yours😅
He was just honestly very insecure about OPs flourishing career and financial independence which doesn't give him the alpha he wants to be. OP Dodged a bullet and also a really strong person!!! Kudos
6 figure income is not a hobby and says alot about your talent.
That shes lying about it
I hate the fact that even nowadays there are men who expect their wives to give up their careers and become housewives; even expect more than 2 children.
Like my guy, in this age and economy, how is a family with more than 4 people suppose to survive with only 1 salary???!!!
He also wanted to rely on her money but wanted her to stop making money 😂 maybe he watches too many podcasts and has no idea how the world really works.
Right. It doesn't even cross their minds the amount of pressure that would put on them 😂
You know your civilization is done for when having more then 2 children is considered some unrealistic expectation.
2 means stagnation even slow decline due to a number of kids dying
@TsukinoUtokkisounds like you watch the podcasts
Sounds like he wanted to cage the free bird woman. If he could make you practical in his eyes, it would be a huge ego boost. Also don’t think he would be able to verbalize this, he probably has it so ingrained he can’t realize the fault in thinking along these lines.
He thought you were a trad wife because he has never thought of op's career any more than a trad wife job. He doesn't respect her or her contributions. He will always treat her less than. And belittle her self worth
A 6 figure income is not a hobby and there is nothing funny or cute about this kind of passionate and creative profession. He wanted control over her life and not a life with her. He wants her to housekeeper, maid, servant, cook, mating mate, and a baby making machine. This is purely a misogynist warped perception of modern woman. He is insecure, manipulative, controlling, liar, bully, egotistic, and a misogynist. But he couldn't even make his own life successful than her.
OP is actually such an inspiration
I never understood the notion of trying to force someone into sharing your values so that you can be in a relationship, instead of finding someone who already shares your values.
Like, what is with the desire of trying to bend someone to your will???? Thats so weird and makes no sense.
Because they're on a power trip where they'd break you. These people are abusive, as simple as that
@@MarokoJin yes and also it's convenient to them. a lot of men are lucky to even get a girlfriend
The moment you become a mother THAT will be your "job", because the rest of your life is seen as a hobby - if your partner drags you down, the relationship is doomed😮
"If YOU love me, you should compromise" -> let him eat his words - "traditional housewife" has to do ALL the chores [letting her pay for the living costs too is NOT the traditional way - husband has to provide there!] Think of all the million dollar pop-stars: would they make that mony by only singing in their kitchen???
So ....shes gonna pay all the household bills AND be a housewife.
It is the kind of housewife job: you can work from home and choose your own working hours.
@maxmustermann-zx9yq no a housewife does not work. If both people work then both people take care of the household.
@@samoea19 why do you think almost all housewife have some form of part time job/commercial or semi commercial hobby
doing chores doesn't take 8 hrs per day and you'd eventually get bored enough to work
He never considered changes to his career.
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Thank you!!!
This really sounds like neither of them actually sat down and communicated their expectations for the future. I don't think either is at fault here for the initial conflict. Future expectations is something that should have been talked about a long time ago not at the 5 year mark. This is just poor communication.
Op stated she compromised whereas Aaron didn't.
@EBaker-bz8gx Did she communicate that with him? Cause at lot of times in relationships the other doesn't actually notice the effort the other one is putting in cause they just think it's normal or not out of the ordinary.
Yes it seems like she was surprised he wanted her to be a housewife as if they never talked about it. But he's not the sharpest tool in the shed if he wanted to rely on her financially while limiting her ability to make money... Also he never considered any compromise on his side, just on hers.
Lol he wanted to trap her, that "miscommunication" is done on purpose to trap you.
When you leet, date AND get engaged with someone, it means whatever he/she was doing is fine for you.
If you don’t support each other your relationship will just create resentment and a miserable existence.
Yes, you will need to compromise, both have to be willing.
I need this person's name and art
Why can’t he just respect your career and stop undermining it. If it was truly a hobby then why is it bringing some much money. He needs to stop, it’s not like you are throwing it in his face or acting super independent it’s art. It makes no sense being with a guy that talks down about your career or undermines your achievements. Why would she sacrifice her career for a man that looked down on it from day1? Maybe he doesn’t like your independence because he feels you are getting away from him and since you are gaining so much success maybe he feels threatened by that. A lot of men can’t handle that. They want to be the one with the wealth and to control your income because it would come from them. He sabotaged the relationship because it’s not like you were out and about, your art studio was in the home and you were there most of the time. So although you were independent it was in the typical way
I think it was the success. He couldn’t handle it. I also wonder if he even realized that. I have a feeling he didn’t
Op, if I were you, I would’ve made him an ex so fast and block everyone that sided with him… and go on with my life… and let Aaron have a step ford wife
Girl 🏃♀️ run!😮
So if he wants you to be a “traditional housewife” he’s gotta be a traditional hubby- aka he pays ALL the bills, gets you flowers, chocolates, jewelry, takes you on dates once a weeks, and you don’t pay for ANYTHING, even personal expenses. Last time I checked that’s what a “traditional husband” is. They support everything financially.
Sometimes I wish these vids had links to the original reddit posts cause this has me curious on several things mentioned later in the video...
I understand the story needs to drag on but, the first red flag is the biggest deal breaker! Thus, no wedding!
Doesn't mean it ,still keeps doing it ..if it doesnt stop,leave
I thought the title said cancer 😭
This man doesn't even respect you, therefore he can't love you; He sees you as a novelty to be trotted out at parties. NTA, run from this man, he will never make you happy.
This sounds like a cat-lady’s fever dream!
Your hopefully former fiancee is gaslighting you and denigrating you as a person and an artist. He sounds like someone who will narrow your world until you are barefoot in the kitchen. Aaron is a narcissist and abusive and if he gets his way then he will start to control the financial parts of your life and restrict your access even to your money. Calling you not financially competent. You might be worried about wasting 5 years of your relationship but if you don't break it off your world will narrow until you isolated and financially dependent. He will not change and his parents will only back him up. Run the only worst thing than wasting 5 years is staying in this abusive relationship 5 years and one day more than necessary. Please consider going to counseling because he must have showed some red flags before the problems became an argument. And you need to be able to identify red flag material before any other relationship happens.
I don’t like drawing, but I like coloring
Good on for moving forward and you didn’t needed Aaron in the first place I hope that you will appreciate what you do and not by criticising you
Is commendable that the woman following her dreams secondly I want to say that if you're going to follow your dreams harvest your eggs having children the youth has the best viable eggs 🤷🏼♀️ and no woman should live with regret.
How did she not realize that he was stalking her?
How many times does on “realize” something, only to remain in the same situation.
Why is she mad at him for talking to family about the relationship? She talks to everyone known and unknown. She is so dumb.
Aaron sounds like a text book narcissist.
6 figure income that is fulfilling as an artist?
Someone really likes to draw furry corn.
Did your wax covered ears couldn’t catch on the fact that her art is displayed and sold in art galleries and a lot of other stuff?
@@gabrielaaguilera2770 Yes I have heard this, but I also dont have Wax covered eyes or a waxball for brains so I am rather aware that at least 80% of those stories are fake and just took the piss.
but jest looking at this the meteoric rise of an artist based just with a few if even alleged big commission works. on its own pretty unbelievable but possible. Take on top that she is single or had a broken off engagement at the time. And you have a story that would make inevitable international headlines just for the narrative that could be pushed with the story. And now add her story ... oh boy there would be nothing else that you would here for weeks from some panellists because they have an unbelievable girl boss story.
But it is an AI narrated feel good story on RUclips.
OP is sure over reacting. Maybe the fiance got nervous about wedding and is acting up. Else how can one explain she was with him for 5 years and the behaviour never bothered her...
I don’t think so. I think she was too nice and gave him the benefit of the doubt for too long, until it was right in her face. Happens to people all the time, we try to see the best in others, until we realize they aren’t really on our team at all