Ben Folds Five - Brick
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Lyrics:
6 a.m., day after Christmas
I throw some clothes on in the dark
The smell of cold
Car seat is freezing
The world is sleeping
I am numb
Up the stairs to the apartment
She is balled up on the couch
Her mom and dad went down to Charlotte
They're not home to find us out
And we drive
Now that I have found someone
I'm feeling more alone
Than I ever have before
She's a brick and I'm drowning slowly
Off the coast and I'm headed nowhere
She's a brick and I'm drowning slowly
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I've fallen down the hole of 90s nostalgia. But that's okay, life is better down here anyway.
Me too
Yep, im here right now... 98-99
Same friend, same
I'm here with you
OMG I literally just looked at my fiancé and said “oh God I’m gone down a 90s black hole right now.” But seriously...it was the epic decade.
One year later, here we are again at 6AM, day after Christmas. Here's to everybody who keeps coming back to this song year after year. Take care of each other, my friends.
A few hours late, but I made it.. Thanks for your comment.
Happy new year, friend.
You 2 Country buns lol great name btw.
@@A-RonHubbard I always think of that line when Christmas comes around. I’ll have to join you guys in listening to this song on that day.
@@poultonboys3108 Only 11 months now until X-mas, it's right around the corner!
I still can’t believe how much hate they got for this song. It’s by far my favorite of theirs. Gorgeous, honest, haunting. Timeless.
? Hate?
@@last7509 Because this song is about the song writer's own experience with abortion.
@@danielrivas3241 a few people crying in their echo chamber doesn't mean anything to me
Worst song in history of songdom
@@kentunderwood31 C'mon dude. You know there's worse than this.
"And she's alone...and I'm alone"...kills me everytime
"And now I know it"
One of the most honest songs I've ever heard. It takes guts to write about an experience like this and release it on the radio with no agenda. I think this song should be remembered for a long time.
what's it about?
chazzatheninja
This is about a time when he got his girlfriend pregnant and they went to get an abortion.
He's said that he just wanted to be honest about his experience without entering into the larger debate.
I'm just impressed that he can totally open up about it to the masses and be honest about how sucky it was for him and his girlfriend.
wow....
It kind of reminds me of a Crash Test Dummies Song "mmmmmmmmm". Another sad song about experiences released on the radio.
Dunno why everything has to have an agenda. Glad he just let it speak for itself without attaching anything.
I recall in the late 90s, I was 14 years old, sleeping on the floor, listening to the radio at my friend's house in the middle of the night, with my friend and his twin brother sleeping in the same room. I stayed up, hoping to hear this song. At 4am this song miraculously played and I struggled to hold back my tears. My mum had just left the country for good to start a new life. I didn't know it at the time but I was numb. This song, and RHCP's Scar Tissue, were the only songs that could make me feel anything. Thanks for getting me through that.
💖
🥺💔❤️❤️❤️
This song is about abortion.
R/thathappened
music heals
Back once again with my annual comment. See you all again in one year--keep on keepin' on, my friends.
Was it the day after Christmas? I can't believe I missed this song on the day after Christmas. I never forget but I did this year 😢
Hey, at least you're here now--just re-imagine the lyrics to "month after Christmas," and you're good to go! @@micheller2283
missed you this year
Peace
See you next year
90's wasn't a decade. It was an emotion.
Perfectly said.
We were the last to experience life as it was meant to be experienced. I feel awful for kids these days. You cant be exposed to the crap they are and come out okay. I have friends with young kids who feel their kids are as exposed to adult themes at 12 years old as we were at 16, 18, or even 20 back then. The innocence lost.
It was an experience. No cellphones and "platforms" for a holes to say random BS.
....it really was
That’s the realest thing I’ve read in a long time
I lost my daughter as a still born and listen to this song whenever I think of her and gives me a little strength. 1 year later my wife left me for another man and I wanted to end it all. For you people out there who might be going through the same pain, think of those who love you and how much pain you will bring to their life and get professional help. Medication and help doesn't change anything and the pain doesn't go away but it can be the difference between life and death.
I went through a very similar thing. Lost my baby, husband left me (emotionally......and eventually went our separate ways) because of it. But you and I (and others who have experienced a similar thing) are both stronger and better people because of it! And our family and friends will always love us. We need to be here and be strong for them if nothing else.
Stay strong my man
I'm sorry
I hope things have been better since then. You are strong, and those of us who have been to that dark place know what you're feeling. You can turn it around.
I am sorry for your pain. May joy find you in these terrible times.
This is actually one of most stunningly beautiful piano intros and compositions I have ever heard.
I watching muted, haven’t heard this song since the 90’s YET as a musician I can still hear the melody of the intro.
It’s a really simple intro.
Beautiful song but that’s pretty standard pop song shit bruva.
Don't forget Counting Crows colorblind.
It's not fancy, but I completely agree. That simple intro invokes emotion very well.
Listening in 2023 ❤️❤️❤️
Still makes me cry. This song hits home. I gave my baby girl to a couple who tried to have a child for 19 years. Her name is Ava. She will be 14 June 5th. I gave birth to her. Two days later, I handed her over. It broke me. But I know I made the right decision. She's happy and healthy. I couldn't give her the life she deserved. She's a constant on my mind 😔❤️
I feel you💗💔💗 I have a similar story to yours, same time too. Sending you loads of love
Do you have any kids of your own now?
@@rollmops3113 thank you so much ❤️ I hope you're doing well. I'm sending lots of love right back to you! Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays 🌟🌟🌟
@@TimmyTickle I do! He's 6 years old ☺️ And the light of my life ❤️ I've been clean and sober for 12 years now. I can be the mom I've always wanted to be!
That's beautiful.❤
When this song came out I was I dad with two young boys. This song took me back to an episode that I was involved in , back in my 20’s. A girl from college got pregnant( didn’t know who was responsible) but two of her friends called me , asking if I could drive to a clinic. I agreed. I’ll never forget the ride back. This poor young woman was devastated by what had just happened. Her two friends held her and offered what support they could. This memory has never left me. When ever I hear this song , it takes me back to that day.
Jesus understands and forgives. He loves you so much!
...but was it the day after chistmas?
❤❤❤❤
@@TheMoonwillow23 If the church is any indication, Jesus also loves little boys.
@@TheMoonwillow23 You missed it. The vast majority of women who have abortions feel relief, not regret. Being in tears like that is pretty common when such a weight is off of one's shoulders, you know. That might not be the case here, but you assume too much.
The first few lines "smell of cold, car seat is freezin" speaks to something so deep in me, it's hard to put into words.
Leaving my annual "6AM, day after Christmas" comment at the appropriate date/time. We won't be here at this moment again for another year, so let's take a moment to appreciate it.
Wow thought I was the only one who listened to this every year day after Christmas.
I'm here though 6 am is too early to be up when you don't need to be!
A few hours late, sorry. See you next year ;)
Awesome comment!
Okay William Montgomery
Why don't songs like this get on the 90s playlists? This was a big song back then.
Because modern day feminists might find out it’s about the deep regret of having an abortion
This is what they want us to forget..we were young and depressed like the youth today.
not acording to Ben. "People ask me what this song's about... I was asked about it a lot, and I didn't really wanna make a big hairy deal out of it, because I just wanted the song to speak for itself. But the song is about when I was in high school, me and my girlfriend had to get an abortion, and it was a very sad thing. And, I didn't really want to write this song from any kind of political standpoint, or make a statement. I just wanted to reflect what it feels like. So, anyone who's gone through that before, then you'll know what the song's about." being sad about something isnt the same as regret. Regret implies you would make a diffrent choice and nothing I have seen says otherwise.
If Ben could tell you about life...he may have transposed it into a song of death and acquisition...
I will never get sick of this song.
Same. One of my favorite songs ever
Now that I'm an adult.... I finally understand the whole of this song. So deep and so beautiful. I was such a stupid dumb teenager.
Egh... your good
We all were
Anti-abortion song?
This song and singing is so terrible I don't care what it's about...
@@kellydixson9221 Excuse you
Few decades dare to be as depressing and melancholic as the 90s
Ikue P In other words, as earnest. Less bullshitty.
Yep
+Ikue P Unless your into rap
+HuxStee7 a Horse with no Name even that was darker- 2pac, Biggie, NWA (early) Jay Z. What big rappers are actually talking about real issues and struggles now?
Ell Guy Immortal Technique, JMT, Rite hook etc...
I wish I could live in the 90's for eternity
Things will never be like the 90's again. I'm just thankful I was a part of it. Bittersweet
I wish this man would get more love. I've seen him play solo, and with an orchestra. The best musical concert I've ever been to
I had totally forgotten about this song, when the other day my art teacher put it on in class and I immediately remembered it.. my dad used to play this song while sitting by himself on the couch at 3 am getting drunk off cheap wine. it sounds crazy but now that he’s gone I sometimes wish that I’d hear this song coming from the living room..
Did he wake you up playing it
@@heeheehawhawheehee I could never fall asleep knowing he was out there, and the sound of the music on the stereo always rumbled through the whole house making it next to impossible to fall asleep
Sorry
😥
Sorry for your loss I recently lost my dad and music makes the memories flood in
God damn. I miss the 90`s. Almost brings a tear to my eye.
nicholasyoder i feel you. Feeling a bit nostalgic right now and had to play this song.
I'd be honored if some 90s fans would take a listen to my acoustic piano & vocal performances of Arms of an Angel by SARAH MCLACHLAN, Long December by the COUNTING CROWS, and Mmm Mmm Mmm Mmm by the CRASH TEST DUMMIES on my channel in tribute to 3 great 90s standards. Live acoustic with no digital editing. Thanks and peace out.
@@willritter4076 I'm already subscribed lol
Hey me to I know how you feel the 90s was the best now it's just a bunch of bullshit
Same here, I miss this era of music. I watch all these 90's videos and makes me want to cry.
I feel like I'm in good company here. Feeling nostalgic about the 90s with strangers and we are all separated by time. Some years ago, some a few months, me today. Same sentiments though.
Here, time becomes space.
Yess sir January27th 1990
And me today
This came out during high school for me. Our adult neighbor had a paper route to help his family on top of his job. He worked hard. He needed a break during Christmas time. So, my mom and I took over for him for a couple weeks so he could spend time with family. I remember disliking getting up so early during my school break, but I have find memories even 20 years later spending those early mornings with my mom while we listened to the radio and delivered papers. I always loved it when this song came on. Love you mom.
Came here because this song came on the radio the other day, I hadn't heard it for years and I finally got a chance to listen from an adult perspective (I was relatively young when this song was released and didn't really understand what it was about). The heaviness of this song brought tears to my eyes and made me hear it like it was brand new.
Same here.. Very different understanding of it to back when I was in school.. It's a very cold song..
Apparently it was worse when it was first written.. Ben didn't write the chorus another band member did - apparently it breaks up the heaviness of the song because the original version was much too sombre.
heids418 same.....I just listened to it on repeat 5 times and realised how sad it is. I was maybe 15 when this was on the radio. I never really listened to the lyrics, but now I'm hearing it as a 33 year old woman and almost near tears for this girl I've never met. Music is such an amazing conduit for emotions.
Sarah Says same here. I'm slightly older than you, but had that same experience.
Brick , inside ir outside . Wish I broke then . And we broke each other
Hearing this song now gives me so much more appreciation for it and makes me proud of my music choices as a youngster lol
In The Know: Ben Folds understandably struggled to write “Brick,” a song about his high school girlfriend’s abortion. With such a delicate experience on his hands, he admitted that the choruses he came up with sounded too literal. Luckily Darren Jessee provided the refrain, “She’s a brick and I’m drowning slowly/ off the coast and I’m headed nowhere” for Folds’ distressed falsetto. Carried by a somber piano melody and underscored by Jessee’s subdued drumming, it manages to sound serene in spite of the emotional turmoil behind each of Folds’ troublesome scenes.
This song is about an abortion? How do you know?
Weird, The Verve Pipe wrote a song about abortion too, both were hits around the same. Wonder if it was the same chick.
Best comment on this list. 👍
Anthony Caputo - I thought it was pretty obvious.
"As weeks went by it showed that she wasn't okay" I always thought this song was about HIV/Aids
I had forgotten about this song until I heard it on The Wilds. So melancholic. The cello is particularly beautiful. I don't identify with the song personally but the sadness is palpable
I am literally watching The Wilds right now! Weird, because I haven't heard it in the show yet.
😂
Same
That's a bass, yo. But yes, certainly beautiful.
@@bcz3548 are you on season 2?
That's a bass, my dude.
Sitting here drowning slowly in my own tears I just lost my wife of 10 years 13 days ago it was all of a sudden and unexplained she did leave me with the best thing I've had in my life so far which is our little 3½ year old boy who is doing more taking care of me than I am taking care of him I still don't know how I'm going to make it but I've got to do it for him
Damn man, I’m sorry. I’m a father of 3 boys. Just keep breathing. And take it a moment at a time. It’s going to be sad for a long time.
Don't worry, life you gives you angels and he's one of them. You will find your footing and the both of you will be okay, trust me, you'll be okay. Don't give up.
Much love brother! I'm here to tell you things will get brother your little son needs you..
I sincerely hope you guys are doing okay. Keep fighting bro.
Quite possibly from the clit shot vakkscene
This is one of the most haunting, heart breaking songs ever.
Driving back to her apartment
For the moment we're alone
But she's alone
And I'm alone
And now I know it
That part kills me every time I hear it.
+Kiley Willard He's in a conflict of love... To choose the brick or the woman
pat waddington he's talking about how he fell in love and got her pregnant and had to get an abortion
Yea, not sure what pat is going on about. Who would choose a brick over a woman???
Beautiful, even with that same chord played over and over and no vibrato with his voice. Always have loved this song.
Did you's think I was being serious? :\
I remember just getting my drivers license and my dad bought me an old 1989 for Taurus. I spend a hundred or two on a "skip resistant" portable cd player with a "tape deck attachment". This is a CD that I worre out driving during High School. Nostalgia is a hell of a drug.
My son was conceived right before christmas while we were still a mess. We were discussing abortion and we decided not go through with it. I love my son so much. He saved me from myself.
I have 5 kids and I could never make that decision, but the lyrics I understand and I understand being so heartbroken for sure.
My mother and father were recommended abortion because my mother had so medical conditions. I'm 27 now and thankful for the decisions made.
@@jasonf2024 It's not like you would know the difference.
Good; that's what choice is.
@@scottcharney1091ok buddy boy
Listening in 2021. Needed some 90's nostalgia. This was always one of my favorites. Beautiful but heartbreaking. 💙
hearts to you
Same. Remembered it out of nowhere. Never saw the music video until now 💜
the fact that ben folds is not a dominant cultural icon today tells you everything you need to know about popular music and culture
dtdt
My wife had our eldest at 16 .. Tough times.. 25 years later still together and strong as ever..
Sounds like you guys enjoyed giving each other the old 'Kingsbray Chookie' from a young age.
Congratulations 🍻
This is truly wonderful. So happy you've made it together. Being married and having children is definitely an amazing and beautiful thing, and, it also takes a LOT of work! A lot of dedication and commitment. It's truly not easy, and it's so worth it. 💕
I'm sure it was so hard but better than the alternative I think. You all made it through!
I had an abortion at 16. Do you not understand this song???? 🙄
It's truly one of the saddest stories put to song. It's difficult to balance the feelings of helplessness/ desperation and regret/guilt in order to preserve one's own ego. It's soul crushing to feel forced to do something you don't want to do but must because you see no alternative solutions
This song still makes me cry. I had to make that decision at 16 and it still hurts to this day. This is a very hard song to listen to but it helps in a way. Thanks for sharing this story even though I'm sure it was hard to do.
😔😔😔😔 life must be go on, its ok to cry and to be sad that is the sign that you are brave.
You didn’t have to make the decision, just to be clear. It’s okay to forgive 16 year old you and find peace, though.
@@heatherwillis5505 shut up heather
@@JG-kk1mr She’s right.
I’m sure the regret of making such a choice is hard to bear, and I pity you. But I won’t say that you don’t deserve the emotional pain that comes with doing something so reprehensible.
Comment sections of 90’s videos are full of my peers and trolls are nowhere to be found. We’re a special group, 90’s kids. Stay sweet. Stay strong.
Yesssirrr
Always
Untouched by gen z and it's blissful
Thumbs up to that.
Last generation before we gave birth to depravity.
Happy brick day 2022 everyone. If you're still coming back here every December 26th at 6:00 a.m. after all this time, you are a freaking legend.
Happy Brick Day!
Lol were Brick-heads
I listen to this every 12-26 at 6 AM. The last gasp of talent and talented musicians the 90's had. And ...the last good decade. Let's face it....life sucked starting Sept 11... to now in 2020.
On another depression nostalgic kick again. Being 45 blows. Take me back to the 90’s.
I feel ya, buddy
We had the best years tho. 🙏
#GenX
Growing old sucks..56 is coming up.Ouch.
2 years later im right there with you at 47. Ugh will anything ever be as good again😢
Ben Folds writes some of the most emotionally wrenching lyrics I've ever heard. I knew this was about an abortion the first time I ever heard it and became an instant fan of his music. Evaporated is another song that takes you to the same emotional place that drove those lyrics. It's an exceptional talent and I think it helps the more sensitive among us feel a little less alone.
Apparently he didn't write it though. I believe it was the drummer who wrote this song, Darren Jessee
@@duffman18 I think it was a collaboration, with Darren being responsible for the chorus.
“Now that I have found someone,
I’m feeling more alone,
Than I ever have before”
Fuckin gold. No matter what the situation is, I think everyone can relate to this on some level.
This song found me at a particularly vulnerable time in my life. It absolutely blew me away. It was this line that got me
Gawd have I related to that line a few times in my adult life.
Sad, but true....to be with someone and feel more alone. We have much spiritual growing to do as humans
I sing this every year this day. Since I was a teen. So sad. Heard them play live in the middle of Atlanta at night about 15 years ago. To have him play a baby grand in the middle of the street and a 1000 people singing this together. Was nostalgic yet heartbreaking.
Where in Atlanta?
@@pagemastrogiovanni9195 yes it was a summer concert called on the Bricks..i also saw Cake there that summer too
@@augustmoon5596 I love ❤️ Cake...especially 'The Going the Distance" song. The reason I asked is because I have lived in Atlanta for the past 35 years since I was a college student at Emory and I was/am a frequent concert goer to The Masquerade, Atlanta Symphony, The Fox Theater, Tabernacle, Lakewood Amphitheater (now it something else), Georgia Dome, The Roxy....so on and so forth. I spent a great deal of time in Little 5 Points and at different music festivals like Lalapalooza, Lilith Fair, Pot Festival, Jazz Festival...but somehow I missed this. I was just wondering if it was in one of these spots.
@@augustmoon5596 From my research I think I went to one of the free On the Bricks concerts in Centennial Park about 20 years ago to see Sting. It was wonderful!
From an article:
"Atlanta Prepares For ‘On The Bricks’
Billboard Staff
4/24/2002
Rising neo-soul star India.Arie will headline the inaugural show of Atlanta’s 2002 On the Bricks free weekly concert series. Set for May 24 in the city’s Centennial Olympic Park, the bill for the opening event will also feature singer/songwriter John Mayer, modern rock act the Calling, and locally based singer/songwriter Chrystina Lloree.
While the full schedule for the series is not yet announced, many artists who will perform in the park throughout the summer have been confirmed, including Michelle Branch, They Might Be Giants, Cracker, Blues Traveler, Sister Hazel, former Whiskeytown member Caitlin Cary, Will Hoge, the Smithereens, and Edwin McCain."
Now she's feeling more alone
Then she ever has before
This hits especially hard today.
The end part, "For the moment we're alone. She's alone, and I'm alone, and we know it" always gets me
Mariah Carey may have the most iconic Christmas song, but Ben Folds can lay claim to the most iconic Day After Christmas song
Oh geez, that Mariah Carey song is the absolute worst Christmas song. Followed closely by that Paul McCartney Christmas song. Unfortunately they seem to both be the most played.
I love this whole album. I was so fortunate to work with them when I was at Epic Records when they debuted! 38 years later and I'm still in the music industry. It's the best!!!!
I was, trying to get back in. Merry cmas..happy bolidays.
Judy Ross aka Judith Rosenfarb!! rock on
Such a heartfelt song. I wish people still wrote like this
You don’t like drill beats and mumbling?
Day after Christmas 2019. Atlanta airport on a layover. Thinking of what’s beautiful in my life and what isn’t. God bless all you guys.
This song just made me realize one day (praying not) my daughter may be in this situation. And it terrified me to think she would have to go through this alone. Parents teach your kids safety and make them understand that you've got their backs no matter what situation they find theirselves in. They should never be afraid to come to you.
or just teach your daughter to not sleep around
I'm not ever going to have kids, but I understand that fear.
@@unrelatedcoma don't be naive. Teenagers will always try to fuck. You can't teach them not to, any more than you can teach a dog to not try and grab food when you're cooking. It's just instinctual for them. Teach teenagers to practice safe sex. Always wear a condom. And even get teenage girls the copper implant that prevents pregnancy and use that in combination with condoms, to prevent pregnancies AND STI's
You've gotta be really naive to think you can tell a teenager to not have sex. If you do that, all they'll do is have sex anyway but they'll hide it from you, and they won't practice safe sex because you haven't taught them about it, so they'll get pregnant, or they'll get gonorrhoea or herpes or the clap, or whatever.
You're an irresponsible parent if you don't teach teenagers about safe sex
@@unrelatedcoma It doesn't take "sleeping around" (as you put it) to get pregnant. Besides, why would you want to punish her?
@@unrelatedcoma yeah that will just work... guess what? push your kids to act a certain way under FORCE and not constructive advice, they'll absolutely do that thing to spite you. it's better that kids be educated about safe sex and birth control, as to not NEED to be in this situation.
my high school crush was obsessed with this band, we've been friends since then, just mentioned the crush and he said he still feels it. here listening to shit he loves to get out those feelings of what could have been when he lived here :/
Here to listen to it morning after Xmas. Giving me the same feels it gives you. I just hope heaven is as cool as the 90s. Id go back for just about anything.
This song came out about two years after I got out of high school, when I was going through some serious sh*t in my life. It wasn't about abortion for me, but about a dead end relationship that was destroying both of us.
It helped me through it, and helped me move on.
The power of art. "don't forget the songs that saved your life."
That is exactly how I interpreted this song. I was a young teenager when this came out in a messy and toxic relationship with my daughters father.
I'm so glad that Ben Folds had a true hit. He's such a great artist, most like him never get a crack at popular radio.
I'm so sorry he was inconvenienced by a woman he had sex with. An abortion? Geez, what an ordeal... for the man.
@michelleeverett8125 what? Lol
This album is the second thing I ever shoplifted. I was 12 years old... 36 years old now and still love this shit!
Do it again!!!!
@@jesseb5447 PERIODT
I am calling the police
This song is Absolutely Beautiful/Heartbreaking/Honest to the core. Think I have a Major Crush on Ben Folds❤❤
God would understand
I'm 36 when I was 16 i listened to this song and would be so depressed I almost killed myself. That feeling has never left me. I hear this song now as a grown man divorced twice with two daughters and I'm lost but not as lost as I was when I was younger. If you're young and you want to end it all just know life isn't always about being happy its about balance. It's okay to be depressed its normal. You can do this thing called life.
Thank you I needed this
Cheers man this really was what I needed
Love, Joshua Bailey.
This song closes up my throat too but you have to Stay strong Brother. You never know when life will turn for the best. Im 45 and have just come out of 10 years of hell. Im enjoying existing for the first time in 10 years. Remember to talk to people (anyone) when/if you need to and remember there are millions of us just like you battling with depression. YOU ARE NOT AND NEVER WILL BE ALONE.
The journey to finding the best part in life is that sweet point where you realise that life is amazing, and that beautiful realisation will always stick with you. I love where I am going in life, even though I have no idea what is happening and what the future holds, but holding that truth that nothing in life is truly bad and all what seems terrible is a perfect moment or realisation in the making just seems to make everything in this world worth seeing and being there for. I've been through some shit, as we all have no matter what life we lead, but thats the reason we become the best version of ourselves in the future that we can work towards today. There's some wisdom I couldn't put into every sentence of my comment, but finding the gold in you experiences is all the reason to keep doing what your doing.
Let yourself be the person you aspire to and be honest to you each step of the way, that’s my way to live life.
Enjoy your day, everybody. And if it sucks, it'll be lead up to better times.
I’m listening to this at 6am…day after Christmas
Can we please go back to having great music like the 90s produced. I miss this stuff so much!
I finally understand this song. It's completely different now.
i honestly still dont know the answer to what the meaning an ive tried for yrs to understand it ive listened repeatedly but im finally going to ask since i seen this post. would or could u please help me out an understanding it.
So poignant. My heart goes out to everyone who finds themselves in this situation. Thank you, Ben, for expressing your pain so beautifully.
probably one of the greatest songs ever written.
The first few chords of this playing and I already have chills. I hear this song and I am 14 again watching video hits on a rainy Saturday morning and catching this for the first time.
It's the subtle deep breathe at 0:44. I feel it in my chest every time i hear this song. I love it.
Beautiful absolutely haunting description of pain of loss and the weight of guilt, lies, loss, and grief that I deeply felt when the song was initially released that is now so close to exactly my experiences in 2016 that it’s a little strange for me but oddly comforting. I’ve always loved Ben Folds Five and this makes me want to play the piano again. Thank you
This song takes me back to winter break in a suburb in Chicago. Mid to late 90s. Shoveling the freaking driveway as fast as I can so I can go back inside and read comics and listen to Q101.
Musicians can be brave and this is a perfect example.
Such a good song. Wonderful to hear it again after all these years.
I still do this at 6am day after Christmas. This is the only tradition i created from my own interest. Jesus lives
You and me both buddy…we’re all “brick heads”
His feeling in his voice and face makes me cry every time I watch this... But it's my favorite song .. the true and honesty in life is what makes this song perfect.
This and Freshman by The Verve - beautiful, sad, nostalgic
For sure...
For sure.
I often listen to them back to back when I listen to one or the other.
I started thinking about that song halfway through this one...
Yes!!!!!!
I first heard the song Christmas morning. I think it was 1997! I can't explain what the song makes me feel to another person. The song is pretty heavy though.
I remember hearing the song when I was a kid, and wasn’t really a big fan. Thought it was another dramatic love song. Listening to it now in my 30’s, I never knew how sad and powerful this song is. I’m nearly in tears, such an amazing track.
This song still gives me shivers like 20 years later
For me it's the flip side to this song . My son Andrew came when i was a 17 year old junior. What if you never we're. Questions I've asked myself , what if I never got to see my baby boys eyes when everyone told me I was to young to be a father? Glad you are here andrew, when all my friends were getting addicted to pills you saved my life by your existence I know I had to do right by you glad you are here my sweet son I love you and this song very much
Good for you, kids are an amazing live changing experiance.
Me too my now husband and I were at the clinic 17 years old and the nurse says your boyfriend is insisting on talking to you...he comes in.. has tears in his eyes...he asks me to marry him no matter what I decide.. but he hopes we can keep the baby...my daughter is now 16 I'm 34 my husband is 35 and we just celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. She was 3 months premature. I learned to never take my children for granted. I'm so very thankful 🙏❤️
Beautiful 💖
DJ at the local pub karaoke reckons this song suits my voice, I will try as appreciation and for you being a good dad to your son, well done...
Every life matters. Make the most of it.
Ben Folds is way under rated. Amazing artist.
I literally lived this song. I couldn’t even listen to it until recently.
@@motherandson6223 this is a pretty messed up link to post to someone who had a traumatic event occur. Also why do you choose to believe God is a unforgiving God that chooses to punish people to eternal hell unless they repent in a certain way? If God created us and is all powerful and loving then God understands that we aren't perfect and we do what we feel is necessary in the moment. That site doesn't help someone in pain feel better and you should feel ashamed.
@@mattypuddingfingers6562 Child murder is not a traumatic event; it is a serious sin. There's forgiveness for the sin of child murder through Christ alone.
@@motherandson6223 you sound like you've been brainwashed by the death cult your in.
Same. I listen to it now, and it helps me grieve. It came out literally months after going through the whole thing. I used to get sick and shake when it came on the radio. Now, it makes me feel more human.
@@motherandson6223 Embryos aren't children.
I've been in love with this song from the moment it was released. Few others completely capture the pathos of love gone bad; you hear it in this singer's voice --- the flatness is exactly how one feels at their very lowest point. That this group has chosen a subject matter as important as this deserves kudos. There is a lesson that comes through...without being preachy; that takes skill. A simple yet haunting melody...I listen to this song a dozen times in a row, each time falling deeper and deeper into new shades of meaning.
Ben Folds. One of the greatest storyteller musicians of our generation.
Well folks, it is yet again 6 AM day after Christmas in 2022. Here’s to another year!
It's currently 6am, the day after Christmas.
I came here to say that dammit.
Merry xmas
In the 70s we had very few options and none of them were good. Suffered with many friends, cried too many times and wished we had been more responsible, many regrets and far too much heartbreak. So many of us still wonder. Not me. My daughter will be 39 this year and I am so grateful for everyday that she has been a part of my life. I am blessed and one of the lucky ones
Well said
To think your generation is unique to feel this way is genuinely idiotic.
This song made me so grateful for my daughter. I am so glad that her mother and I never considered anything besides bucking up and doing the right thing. Good on you for doing the same, especially considering how much harder it was back then!
@@xcvx16 Where in her comment did she say or imply that?
@@xtrnl999 Perhaps you Didn't do the "right thing". Nothing wrong with an abortion. Nobody ever sees the kid and the kid...if you want to call it that, never knows. Abort it. Be done with it.
This is Ben Folds best song in my opinion. Love how deep it is. A story untold but experienced by so many.
It's one-of-a-kind, honest and brave. Underappreciated. Your last sentence is too true and well stated.
Heavy memories attached to this song. It still makes my heart ache a little hearing it - but in the most beautiful way.
This song should have at least FIVE TIMES the views! Such a powerful and achingly beautiful composition.
So sad and so beautiful. This song always makes me cry
Just heard about Ben Folds and looked him up. Man. The 90's woulda been a bit better if I'd known about him then. This is a perfect thing.
25 years later here we are 6 am the day after christmas the year 2022. Best wishes my friends
I love how many people are here from 90's nostalgia. At the time I never thought I'd ever miss it, couldn't wait for the time to pass. Now all I want is to be able to go back. Life is strange...
Went through this with my girlfriend around the time this came out...still brings me to tears to hear this...
Well you did unalive a baby so it probably should do that
Always think of this song at 6am day after Christmas.
sisaggie I woke up at 5:50 day after Christmas for no reason. I figured it was fate.
I wonder why?? Lol but you and i both since i heard this song when i was like 11
Also the counting crowes has a song lyric that goes its 330 am on Tuesday it doesn't get much worse this. In beds in little rooms in buildings in the middle of the lives which are completely meaningless. I seem to think of that when i wake up early on a Tuesday. Bout 330 or so
@@samuelwalkingstick2949 Perfect Blue Buildings. I love every bit of that album!
I'm gonna play this song at 6 AM day after Christmas.
This hits particularly hard today.
What's worse than being alone, is being with someone who makes you feel more alone than when you're by yourself.
Really in all seriousness, this song is freaking amazing..20 years later!💔😭😭😭
its 6am the day after christmas right now for me.
Going to see him Thursday night at the Beacon, NYC. I saw him there years ago and it was hands down the most impressive and unforgettable live show I've ever experienced. This man is an amazing musician!! A friend who came with me didn't know his music before the show but left a huge fan.
The 90's were the last decade of truly great music
And yet parents in the 90s would have said the music today is just noise lol
Yes
Found out I was pregnant with my daughter I was getting ready to start college really wanted to do it I wanted to go and get it done but the doctor had reminded me that I was pretty far along ( literally didn't know I was pregnant) when I found out she was already developed a lot like everything but lungs which was half developed this was all at 3 mos 8 days ( she couldve been born at 6 mos and wouldn't have been a preme) I prayed and I prayed God to take it away but he didnt for a reason now I have two daughters and I'm a single mom yes they both have the same father I think of this song and I think of how scared I was I'm looking at that first sonogram and how my whole life had changed from a care free kid to a mom trying to do her best to raise her kids right without help. There before the grace of GD there go I.
Prayer never works, thats why.
It's amazing how a good song like this can convey its story so clearly without explicitly outlining it in the lyrics. That is the power of music
Sentimental feelings resurface while listening to this song. So sad!