Huh, I was just thinking about this... I read his ex-wife's diary and letters (that he published) a while ago and it was heartbreaking... One thing that I won't ever forget is her writing to him, "Don't forget I have a rich inner world, try to imagine what it's like (inside of it)" or something similar... It's so sad, he could never understand that women have an inner world, he viewed them as objects.
@@joankennes3230 Yeah, but there is a difference. I doubt there are many male narcissists who forcibly kiss other men. I know there are men who have had experiences w/ other men who violated their personal boundaries with everything from sexual harassment to rape. I just don't know if men experience the feeling that another man thinks he's ENTITLED to their bodies the way women are too often treated by men who think they are entitled to women's bodies.
Well, there is a specific dynamic in a male-female interaction that can have that vibe in a particular way, that, I believe, does not exist in the same way in most male-male interaction. Though I can never know for sure, not being a man. And, even though I consider myself to be an empath, even talking about it with men at length, I still would not fully grasp how it feels like for them. As I, to be honest, can never totally appreciate what another woman feels... even though that feels more accessible to me. Men in general do not realise, for instance, of how aware women are, by nature, of danger, because we are mostly estrogen based creatures and they are not. Testosteron does things to how you perceive things and how you react to them, as does estrogen, that are totally different. I would like to refer to The Male Brain and The Female Brain by Dr. Louann Brizendine and to Alison Armstrong. And everybody has a different balance of these hormones, so it's not even a gender based thing and very individual. But does it really matter? I believe men can endure such entitlement in a different, but no less hurtful and harmful way, just because they are men! Pain can never be a contest, it is an individual experience. Your pain can never be smaller or less significant than mine, even if your experience might seem so to me: your pain is yours and should be acknowledged as is. Any man's pain deserves the same acknowledgement.
@@DonnaBrooks I new one at a job that believed that one guy was gay (all software engineers ) and he harassed him relentlessly just for the shake of it. In one occasion he pinned him in the elevator and push his body on him (I was not present but after the fact the narcissist was telling everybody and the victim did not negate the events). I told the victim to go to RH but he refused, citing a bunch of macho reasons. Kissing and sex are not the only issues, getting beating by a narcissist with a sensitive ego can be equally destructive or worse.
I need to remember to check out the book!! I desperately want to see how his unique and clear communication style translates to a novel work of fiction Edit: *books plural
I'm screaming. 🤣The intimacy was transcendental but they broke up nine months later? And Dr. Grande's dry, "I guess he had some strong feelings there," made it even better.
Just a shoutout, relationships in Russia more than anywhere in the world often end up in death of a woman, so ... watch "Embracing Tyranny to own the Libs" and prevent your country from going down the same road I guess x)
@@qei431. yea I get the vibe sometimes that people really don’t get that everyone’s a little narcissistic sometimes. It feels like people think that just because they don’t fit the diagnosis for the personality disorder that they would never do anything that’s selfish
@Phuk Youu he has almost 700k subscribers, he doesn't need anyone to write comments for him. People like him and his work, what is wrong with you? Seriously, how can anyone write a comment like this?
Dr Grande, Your analogy was so well done.I appreciate you calling out his constant attempts to blame others for his selfish behavior. Thank you Dr Grande for working so hard for us.
I can honestly say I have never been disappointed by any of the videos Dr Grande posts, this was another great one, I had never heard of this story and BTW I have to get that book it sounds as if it's right up my street.
Writing books, developing a very successful RUclips channel, teaching. You must tell us what you do to relax when you achieve 700K subscribers. The hardest working psychologist around.
Hi Dr. Grande, thanks for the speculating on Anna Sorokin. How about doing one on R. Budd Dwyer, the Pennsylvania councilman who committed suicide in a live meeting, though the story goes, he more than likely would not have went to jail. Gotta add the correlation to the movie, "Network - I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to take it anymore!"
From what I read about Dwyer, he was facing a hefty sentence. I also read that sadly, evidence came out that he was in fact innocent. I remember seeing the video of his suicide. It really gave me nightmares for a very long time.
I love it when you plug your books. You looking at it to read the title made me really happy. Thank you for the endless hours of entertainment and your help in learning how to do clinical interviews! Go Dr. G!
I remember Opie and Anthony really gave this guy a trashing because he wanted to sue bars because they have ladies night and he thought that was sexist... I remember Jim Norton made fun of him because he took a hip hop dance class to try to meet women. He wanted to duel with guns down in south America and kill Norton for making fun of him. You can find the audio on RUclips here.
I think feminism means something different in USA than Europe, as in Europe it only means fighting abuse and subjugation of women. Such as women didn't have as many rights and were less represented in their own country. It wasn't until recently women had the right to not be raped by her husband. In USA it seems to be an insult by men who hate women, who spend their time searching out examples of idiots who talk nonsense to say all women who fight against abuse are like that. Funny how they spend to much time online whinging against women, filling comment sections no matter what the subject as an excuse to whine on against feminists and saying what women should want, but no woman finds an abusive misogynist who feels threatened by women who have rights against them to be a turn on. I also think men and women dislike each other more in the USA than Europe as USA women tell men they're disgusting if not cir'cised and some men who had that done develop issues, such as less sensitivity, which they try to take out on women.
I've binged most of your channel in half a week. I absolutely love how you make all this stuff understandable to the lay (ley?) Person like me. Also your dry humor and witt thrown is makes me laugh out loud. Can't get enough of this stuff!
Hey Dr. Grande, I was wondering if you could do a video on 5150 Psychiatric Holds and similar holds, and their efficacy. I work as an EMT and transport many such patients. Many I understand it is for the best, but others I can’t help but think it is a traumatizing experience. I would really like to hear your perspective on this. Thanks!
My sister in law, living in my home, suffers from severe depression. She only gets out of bed to use the bathroom. She showers maybe once a month, if that. My brother serves her meals in bed. It's getting under my skin. They live in my home because my brother is legally blind. He can see enough to get a plate to her. When she's finished eating, she places her plate on the floor beside the bed and there it stays until I pick it up. I'm so frustrated, and have actually thought about a 5150 for her. I just don't know what to do.
Looks like I've got a new book to buy! Already looking forward to the next one and I haven't even ordered the first yet. Your comment about his 9mo relationship sent me flying into laughter despite how disturbing this man's story is and the things he believed. I feel like I can learn about these things without walking away with that awful burning feeling in my chest that screams at me to be sad and angry. I gain understanding watching as opposed to gaining fear and anger. That's really something else. Thanks so much Dr. Grande 🖖🙂
The subject of today's video describing the experience of a 51 year-old man having sex with a beautiful 23 year-old woman in a relationship which lasted a whole nine months: "...a transcendental relationship from another part of the universe that erases aloneness!" I'll bet he wrote some great poetry when he was in high school!
I am so impressed by your productivity, Dr. G.! A new Video nearly every day and each based on through research and exellently delivered! Thanks a lot for your work and effort! Over here in Germany, I do really appreciate it. Be blessed and stay healthy!
I didn't even make it to the "they separated after nine months" part. It was the "some strong feelings there" that got me. The dry humor is an exquisite vintage. I'm sure these videos do well across the pond. Well done!
I am not at all surprised that a narcissist would resort to murder. I have on occasion, read comments from folks who say 'just ignore them, no one can bother you without your permission'. I have reacted very strongly to these comments. These people are dangerous when crossed and will figure out a way to hurt you from the grave if they are able to. They will walk over every boundary you set and grin while they do it. It took me awhile to understand that they do not think like normal people. So you have to understand their mindset and then get the hell out if you can. Great job Dr. Grande.
Fantastic! Congratulations with the book. Looking forward to reading it. Thanks Dr Grande for working so hard and keeping us all glued to your videos and speculations. Always very interesting
Hey, doctor Grande! Thanks for your channel! It always brings me joy. Loyal viewer here. Keep on going. I was thinking of this topic for a video - how do Insight and mindfulness relate to narcissism? In a lot of presentations, I feel like narcissists claim to be highly mindful and insightful, but I’m interested as to what the actual relationship is between the two.
He was such a freaking weirdo! I loved your analysis, Dr. Grande. You will some day become legendary just like Bob the painter. And I'm gonna brag to everyone I was with you before it was cool 😆 😂🤣
I would love to see one of these shows talk about how so many men are angry that they can't get a woman who is out of their league. You have someone who doesn't take care of themselves and are old, fat and bald who thinks they deserve a 20 year old who goes to the gym daily and puts an incredible amount of effort into her looks.
I hate the entitlement, but I will love to see how you will react to a similar description of women, instead of the bald we can use some description of the saggy breasts etc. The dude problem was not that he was ugly, but that he was a narcissistic monster. The proof is from the victims, one was a MRA layer that died because he was more successful than him.
He was kicked out of a men's rights forum as well (A Voice For Men if i remember right). For saying that violence is a valid option. They wouldn't put up with him after that. I'd love to see that list. The rejection started in childhood. A missing father who wanted him aborted and a mother who angrily regretted his birth. Sounds like she was a very abusive woman. Small wonder he grew to see the world as rejecting of him.
So important when looking at the narcissist, how they are treated by their parents. The main rejection is that of his mother, what we call today, child abuse. He seeks a mother's love in every woman and in his mind rejection by a woman is love. People who are hit by their parents or guardians will often find relationships with violent people and people who who have been mentally abused will often find partners who mentally abuse them. Stands to reason that those who have been rejected will find ways to continue the rejection. The only people who will get into a relationship with a narcissist are very kind and loving people, horrid people will not tolerate a narcissist.
Thank you, Dr. Grande, for taking the time to write on an important issue in every society, the Psychology of Serial Killers. Your work has added another diamond into the treasury of knowledge and information available on important and socially relevant issues. Salud!
@@topsuperseven7910 you may be living a long life but be careful you don’t become one of those people who live the same year over and over again and try to sell it as wisdom because in this particular conversation I know for a fact that you don’t know what you’re talking about. It takes minimum 5 years to get a US citizenship. To even keep a green card the marriage should’ve lasted a minimum of 2 years. This woman, if she could stay in the US, would be staying illegally, and therefore there would be no recourse to support another person (since it’d need to be on a green card that she doesn’t have... can’t just getting US citizenship that easily, don’t believe everything you see on 90 day fiancé or wherever you get this information).
@@topsuperseven7910 literally in the video and the OP comment, it says they were married for 9 months. That means she couldn’t have achieved citizenship in any form.
I went to college with Hollander's victim, the "rival" lawyer. An earnest, friendly, and passionate man was lost. While Hollander can rot, I did find the analysis of his twisted psyche interesting.
"No one is more arrogant toward women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious about his virility." Simone de Beauvoir , The Second Sex
It's funny because coming from a feminist im assuming this is meant to ridicule people that are anxious about their virility rather than an attempt to be understanding.
@@DIVAD291 funny cause I bet you ridicule woman and or feminists who act a certain way towards men, than to understand why they view the world the way they do .. funny how we should all have understanding for all groups of people not just the ones that your views and beliefs say to support. sometimes people aren't ridiculing , they're just pointing out causes and effects..
Thank you very much for this video, Dr. Grande. This hits close to home since I have a brother in the same level of narcissism as this guy. It's very hard. Dr. Grande I will be buying your book because I know I will be learning a lot. Great video as always!!!!
@@Melinamiu007 not surprising you think you are entitled to make baseless assumptions 🤷♂️🙈 P.s. I have absolutely no problem with women, respecting women or getting with women.. I just like pissing off feminists and lettering them expose their entitlement and stupidity 😏😘
Great analysis I like watching your videos It helps to understand some behaviors around me and try to improve myself also 🙂 By the way I m also learning English which is not my native language Thx
Love this channel. Will definitely be getting your book and will also recommend it to friends. All these uploads AND a book - you spoil us. I don’t know where you find the time. Thanks for all the hard work. ❤️😁
I just purchased your book, “The Psychology Of Notorious Serial Killers” on Audible ! I actually had looked for your book, “Harm Reduction” but didn’t find it there. Once I saw the end of this video when you talked about “The Psychology Of Notorious Serial Killers” I checked and found it! Woo! I’m excited to clean my house listening to it lol! Also,! You’re about to hit 1 mill!!!!!!!! BOOOOOOM!!!!!
Hey Dr. Grande! Could you please do a video on "adult adoption"? Yep, it really exists & I think it'll someday be the next Tiger King phenomenon. Might as well get to talking about it now.
People project onto the world their personal experiences. Feminists do this too. “Men are pigs”. I’ve heard that from feminist women a thousand times. Some men are pigs and they generalize that to all men. A man treated badly by women just might think that all women are bad. It’s how people analyze the world.
@@sliglusamelius8578 he wasn't anti-feminist, he was just anti. Anti women, people, world. As per Dr Grande's analysis: total narc and psychopath. Same goes for some people labeling themselves as feminist. Or religious this or that. Or race this or that. Or politics this or that. Etcetera. Projection in itself may come natural, for better or for worse, but growing up means you learn to question that reflex and consciously decide to differentiate. Oh yeah, and learn to be accountable for your own part in the events.
@@joankennes3230 very well said. To me people are people just trying to make sense of this world. If you think badly of things/people then eventually those things/people will become ‘bad’ to you. You develop a bias and if you don’t actually learn accountability for your own part in the world, control your own actions and thoughts, you’ll start to project, or emulate what you don’t like, be it anger, envy, intolerance, violence and never really understand that you could control it all by controlling(monitoring) your own reactions and actions to events and people in your life.
This man terrorized everybody around him fir a long time. . I will loose sleep just thinking about the judge who lost her son. Your analysis specially the point you made about narcissistic rage are spit on. At the end of this sad story you gave us the gift. Will it be just paper or there’s a chance for digital version?
Im always sad when I hear stories like this. Of course for those killed and affected by the aggressor, but also for the man himself. He was imprisoned in his life and in his own twisted thinking. He never allowed himself an opportunity to achieve any of his more normal desires. He lived in his skewed perception and in a world full of threats. What a miserable existence!
Dr. Grande, congratulations on the book. Your work ethic is an inspiration. I was disappointed when I listened to the audiobook sample and it wasn’t you reading it. Doesn’t seem as enjoyable to listen to your words in someone else’s voice.
I have an important question, Dr. Grande.... Do you ever sleep? I continue to be in awe of your Incredible work ethic, and not just for 5 days a week, but 7!!🥇 And now we hear you've written a book too. I cannot Wait to read it, and I hope to collect several of your works in the future!! Congratulations, Dr. Grande!! 🌠
Imagine if you gave a narcissist extreme power, like putting him in charge of a country. That would be bad. If he was voted out in a later election he probably wouldn’t accept the result, filing lawsuits, threatening people and in the end trying something violent.
Dr Grande, thank you for your always interesting videos. Would you comment on the Nanny murders in NYC a few years ago. Yoselyn Ortega is her name. Thank you.
I was wondering why you didn't put your face on the cover of your book, and then I pictured it in my mind--your face, that title above it--and I realized why. 😆 Good call! 😉 And congratulations!
Yeah John Wayne Gacy is more the Democrat type. He was a Democrat precinct captain. He even had his photo taken with Jimmy Carter's wife...which she signed "To John Gacy. Best wishes. Rosalynn Carter."
By the way, have you seen the mansion that the Obama's just bought in Martha's Vineyard? It is absolutely obscene how huge and lavish it is. Kinda surprising, since they just 2-3 years ago bought a Washington DC mansion and built a huge 15-foot-high wall around it.
Dr. Grande "in a book"? That's a dream come true. I jumped from this video straight to Amazon and pre-ordered me a copy. I CAN NOT wait to read this gem 😍📖💗.
Interesting suggestion, but it’d be more helpful to explain how the movie depicts autism wrong and in stigmatizing ways, than to focus on a specific person. Address how it fits into the larger societal patterns, over necessarily being about one specific person.
I interacted with Den Hollander back in 2013, as well as Mark Angelucci. I don't believe Hollander was ever part of the National coalition for men, but a men's rights group in New York which is how I crossed paths with him. He was very contradictory and absurd in many ways. I may be able to provide some information about him.
Congratulations on your book, Dr Grande! Thought you might be interested in the recent case from St Petersburg, Russia, where History assistant professor Sokolov killed and dismembered his student/lover and tried to get rid of the evidence. It’s a really bright example of a narcissist and an interesting one since all his career and life choices were documented and described thoroughly. Please consider it for analysis.
Yes! The book comes also in Kindle form which is great because book publishers are in a conspiracy to save paper by using really small print yet charge the same price...
Hello again from a dane living in Norway. I am goanna buy the book. I have worked with, what we call here, traumatizid youth, and a good proportion of them of course have a mental disorder including the additional Institutional-disorder or affect as I call it. Many of them becomes criminals in all sorts of crimes incl. rape and murder. I have many yrs experience and regard Dr. Todd Grande the most skilled, including the most skilled articulator within his field. We like him a lot here. I listen to him and he have brought me several times to reexamine what I have learned and worked with, so to speak. I am going to explore if he have authored other books than the one he shows here, and simply buy all of them. Thank you Dr. Todd Grande.
Grande...if there were a disorder called " asshole personality disorder" what would it entail. What traits? And what existing disorder would in your opinion, best fit this title? I believe my husband may have it.
“It’s just a little book” You are too humble Dr G! Congratulations on your book being published!!!
what Book?
@@julio-iz3sk check on Amazon, it's called "The psychology of notorious serial killers" by the one and only Todd Grande Phd.
Ya, congrats Dr. Grande!
I like how he glanced at the cover, as if to check, before telling us the name of the book.
I’m literally pausing to buy it
When you said “they separated after 9 months” I cracked up
Fancy seeing you here Natalie, love your videos!!!
Me, too
His wife transcended right out of there.
Long enough to get American citizenship, and then she was out the door.
love that green card
Huh, I was just thinking about this... I read his ex-wife's diary and letters (that he published) a while ago and it was heartbreaking... One thing that I won't ever forget is her writing to him, "Don't forget I have a rich inner world, try to imagine what it's like (inside of it)" or something similar... It's so sad, he could never understand that women have an inner world, he viewed them as objects.
Huh wtf does that mean?
Not just women: people in general are just commodities for a narcissist.
@@joankennes3230 Yeah, but there is a difference. I doubt there are many male narcissists who forcibly kiss other men. I know there are men who have had experiences w/ other men who violated their personal boundaries with everything from sexual harassment to rape. I just don't know if men experience the feeling that another man thinks he's ENTITLED to their bodies the way women are too often treated by men who think they are entitled to women's bodies.
Well, there is a specific dynamic in a male-female interaction that can have that vibe in a particular way, that, I believe, does not exist in the same way in most male-male interaction. Though I can never know for sure, not being a man. And, even though I consider myself to be an empath, even talking about it with men at length, I still would not fully grasp how it feels like for them. As I, to be honest, can never totally appreciate what another woman feels... even though that feels more accessible to me.
Men in general do not realise, for instance, of how aware women are, by nature, of danger, because we are mostly estrogen based creatures and they are not. Testosteron does things to how you perceive things and how you react to them, as does estrogen, that are totally different. I would like to refer to The Male Brain and The Female Brain by Dr. Louann Brizendine and to Alison Armstrong.
And everybody has a different balance of these hormones, so it's not even a gender based thing and very individual.
But does it really matter? I believe men can endure such entitlement in a different, but no less hurtful and harmful way, just because they are men!
Pain can never be a contest, it is an individual experience. Your pain can never be smaller or less significant than mine, even if your experience might seem so to me: your pain is yours and should be acknowledged as is. Any man's pain deserves the same acknowledgement.
@@DonnaBrooks I new one at a job that believed that one guy was gay (all software engineers ) and he harassed him relentlessly just for the shake of it. In one occasion he pinned him in the elevator and push his body on him (I was not present but after the fact the narcissist was telling everybody and the victim did not negate the events). I told the victim to go to RH but he refused, citing a bunch of macho reasons. Kissing and sex are not the only issues, getting beating by a narcissist with a sensitive ego can be equally destructive or worse.
A big "HIP HIP HOORAY" for our dear Dr Grandes book success.
What book????
@@dj-dq4lr He actually has 2 books coming out he tells you about them at the end of the video, ones about "serial killers" :) I have to have it.
@@maureeningleston1501 that sounds awesome
I need to remember to check out the book!! I desperately want to see how his unique and clear communication style translates to a novel work of fiction
Edit: *books plural
I'm screaming. 🤣The intimacy was transcendental but they broke up nine months later? And Dr. Grande's dry, "I guess he had some strong feelings there," made it even better.
Same. I choked on my Mountain Dew laughing, lol.
Ahahaha i laughed so hard
Fifty-one year old dork getting lucky with a hot 23 year old Russian chick? 'Course he said it was transcendental!
Just a shoutout, relationships in Russia more than anywhere in the world often end up in death of a woman, so ... watch "Embracing Tyranny to own the Libs" and prevent your country from going down the same road I guess x)
She probably had an affair
Just a reminder I'm not diagnosing anybody; only speculating what could be happening with a homicidal anti-feminist lawyer like this.
I love this too.
HAHAHA
LoL rolling here
"A cautionary tale when a narcissist gains any kind of legitimacy or power" - should be the subtitle of this video
Sadly we have a lot of structures in institutions that facilitate narcissist to flourish in their disorder.
@Pojka ding ding ding!
@F.W. we're all a little narcissistic
@@qei431. yea I get the vibe sometimes that people really don’t get that everyone’s a little narcissistic sometimes. It feels like people think that just because they don’t fit the diagnosis for the personality disorder that they would never do anything that’s selfish
Like the Democrat party
You are so humble, you wrote a book and another one is coming? Congratulations, dear Dr. Grande, heading to Amazon right now!!
@Phuk Youu I live in Germany and adore Dr. Grande, this is your business because? Lol
@Phuk Youu but thank you, apparently my English is not that bad since I am not a native speaker :D
@Phuk Youu he has almost 700k subscribers, he doesn't need anyone to write comments for him. People like him and his work, what is wrong with you? Seriously, how can anyone write a comment like this?
@Phuk Youu ah, a completely empty fake account. Forget it.
Right?? I didn't know !
I often wonder if it is a surprise to
Dr Grande, that he has ended up making a living being a popular, well loved RUclipsr.
"....bringing misery to others as an attempt to bring glory to himself.... " This world has too many like this regrettably!
Is there ever a reason beside self defense?
@@fatherscarecourtsdont1389 never seen a more truthful statement on the internet.
@@fatherscarecourtsdont1389 I’m not reading that. Learn how to type correctly.
Dr Grande, Your analogy was so well done.I appreciate you calling out his constant attempts to blame others for his selfish behavior. Thank you Dr Grande for working so hard for us.
"So he had some strong feelings there, I guess! They separated after nine months!" Funniest thing I've heard all week! Great video, Dr. Grande!
Have to appreciate the delivery
@@kevinross6235 Right!?!? It was classic!
Yeah this was pure gold!!
I can honestly say I have never been disappointed by any of the videos Dr Grande posts, this was another great one, I had never heard of this story and BTW I have to get that book it sounds as if it's right up my street.
Congrats on your book Dr Grande!!!
This is such sad case. Mark and Daniel were killed for no reason. Great video Dr Grande!!
I'm sure he did think that killing the judge's husband and child would bring her the most pain.
Writing books, developing a very successful RUclips channel, teaching. You must tell us what you do to relax when you achieve 700K subscribers. The hardest working psychologist around.
Great suggestion for a 700K sub video.
I think we Grande is a doctor of counselling? Not sure tho...
:)
@@HumanimalChannel counselor and supervisor. He said so several times. Not sure if he is still actively seeing (many) clients at this time, though.
@@joankennes3230 yes. Not psychologist
@@HumanimalChannel I am not sure either
Hi Dr. Grande, thanks for the speculating on Anna Sorokin. How about doing one on R. Budd Dwyer, the Pennsylvania councilman who committed suicide in a live meeting, though the story goes, he more than likely would not have went to jail. Gotta add the correlation to the movie, "Network - I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to take it anymore!"
That’s a great idea 👍👍
“Gone”... wouldn’t have “gone” to jail.
From what I read about Dwyer, he was facing a hefty sentence. I also read that sadly, evidence came out that he was in fact innocent. I remember seeing the video of his suicide. It really gave me nightmares for a very long time.
Hey man! Nice Shot!
Congratulations on publishing your first book!
I'm so happy for him, I'm sure all his subscribers will buy a copy.
@@maureeningleston1501 Except for us broke ones, but I have hope because the city libraries are soon to reopen :-)
@@martineldritch Yeah !!! I must admit I"m broke too, but I know if I put on my petted lip act, my daughter will treat me. :-)
@@martineldritch - Hope your library opens soon. My own has been the only thing to get me through this.
I love it when you plug your books. You looking at it to read the title made me really happy. Thank you for the endless hours of entertainment and your help in learning how to do clinical interviews! Go Dr. G!
Discovered this channel about a month ago and it's become one of my favorites with his analysis and especially his dry sense of humor 😄 .
I remember Opie and Anthony really gave this guy a trashing because he wanted to sue bars because they have ladies night and he thought that was sexist... I remember Jim Norton made fun of him because he took a hip hop dance class to try to meet women. He wanted to duel with guns down in south America and kill Norton for making fun of him. You can find the audio on RUclips here.
I remember that! He said Peru turned a blind eye to dueling.
Darn, the last time I heard of a real life duel was in Mexico a few years back, both men had been drinking tequila.
@@CesarClouds yep. Tequila does that to you.😂
@@littleredwitch Lol
I think feminism means something different in USA than Europe, as in Europe it only means fighting abuse and subjugation of women. Such as women didn't have as many rights and were less represented in their own country. It wasn't until recently women had the right to not be raped by her husband. In USA it seems to be an insult by men who hate women, who spend their time searching out examples of idiots who talk nonsense to say all women who fight against abuse are like that. Funny how they spend to much time online whinging against women, filling comment sections no matter what the subject as an excuse to whine on against feminists and saying what women should want, but no woman finds an abusive misogynist who feels threatened by women who have rights against them to be a turn on.
I also think men and women dislike each other more in the USA than Europe as USA women tell men they're disgusting if not cir'cised and some men who had that done develop issues, such as less sensitivity, which they try to take out on women.
I've binged most of your channel in half a week. I absolutely love how you make all this stuff understandable to the lay (ley?) Person like me. Also your dry humor and witt thrown is makes me laugh out loud. Can't get enough of this stuff!
Lay.
He's definitely awesome! 👍😃
Hey Dr. Grande, I was wondering if you could do a video on 5150 Psychiatric Holds and similar holds, and their efficacy. I work as an EMT and transport many such patients. Many I understand it is for the best, but others I can’t help but think it is a traumatizing experience. I would really like to hear your perspective on this. Thanks!
My sister in law, living in my home, suffers from severe depression. She only gets out of bed to use the bathroom. She showers maybe once a month, if that. My brother serves her meals in bed. It's getting under my skin. They live in my home because my brother is legally blind. He can see enough to get a plate to her. When she's finished eating, she places her plate on the floor beside the bed and there it stays until I pick it up. I'm so frustrated, and have actually thought about a 5150 for her. I just don't know what to do.
To all homicidal maniacs who later plan to take their own life, please do the latter first. Thank you
"Sometimes being controversial is all that's required to be on television" - Yes, I've noticed that even more lately!
I'm so glad you've put out a book! You have a rich vein to mine for the next ones.
CONGRATULATIONS on getting your book published Dr. Grande!!! Whoop Whoop!!!
Looks like I've got a new book to buy! Already looking forward to the next one and I haven't even ordered the first yet.
Your comment about his 9mo relationship sent me flying into laughter despite how disturbing this man's story is and the things he believed. I feel like I can learn about these things without walking away with that awful burning feeling in my chest that screams at me to be sad and angry. I gain understanding watching as opposed to gaining fear and anger. That's really something else. Thanks so much Dr. Grande
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Oh cute, looks like I'll get it one day after my birthday 😊🙌
The subject of today's video describing the experience of a 51 year-old man having sex with a beautiful 23 year-old woman in a relationship which lasted a whole nine months: "...a transcendental relationship from another part of the universe that erases aloneness!" I'll bet he wrote some great poetry when he was in high school!
Ofcause, way back when he did not have sex in another part of the universe - you know what I mean😂😂😂
I like how in the introduction of your book, you give us the story of how and why you chose profiling. Congratulations! :)
Congrats on the book, Dr G!!
I am so impressed by your productivity, Dr. G.! A new Video nearly every day and each based on through research and exellently delivered! Thanks a lot for your work and effort! Over here in Germany, I do really appreciate it. Be blessed and stay healthy!
"Meet the Spartans" Haha. I thought for sure that he was about to say, "22 Jumpstreet."😂
I was cackling at that!
22nd Jump Street was hilarious. :)
I didn't even make it to the "they separated after nine months" part. It was the "some strong feelings there" that got me. The dry humor is an exquisite vintage. I'm sure these videos do well across the pond. Well done!
I am not at all surprised that a narcissist would resort to murder. I have on occasion, read comments from folks who say 'just ignore them, no one can bother you without your permission'. I have reacted very strongly to these comments. These people are dangerous when crossed and will figure out a way to hurt you from the grave if they are able to. They will walk over every boundary you set and grin while they do it. It took me awhile to understand that they do not think like normal people. So you have to understand their mindset and then get the hell out if you can. Great job Dr. Grande.
I can't wait to see this! I've wished Dr.Grande would cover this! I think I'm becoming addicted to this channel! ❤
Congratulations on the publishing of your book, Dr. Grande! I’ve been looking forward to this.
Just bought the book! So excited to read it!
Fantastic! Congratulations with the book. Looking forward to reading it.
Thanks Dr Grande for working so hard and keeping us all glued to your videos and speculations. Always very interesting
Hey, doctor Grande! Thanks for your channel! It always brings me joy. Loyal viewer here. Keep on going. I was thinking of this topic for a video - how do Insight and mindfulness relate to narcissism? In a lot of presentations, I feel like narcissists claim to be highly mindful and insightful, but I’m interested as to what the actual relationship is between the two.
Thank you for such an informative video, Dr. Grande!
Huge congratulations on your book(s)!!! I'm definitely going to buy and read them!!!
He was such a freaking weirdo! I loved your analysis, Dr. Grande. You will some day become legendary just like Bob the painter. And I'm gonna brag to everyone I was with you before it was cool 😆 😂🤣
You are right! I can see that too. 😍
@ozymandias nero nulifidian Bob Ross, I imagine. The "Happy Little Trees" guy. :)
I have no idea who he is, but I know I will enjoy Dr Grandes "speculation".
@@thijsbergman2424 I think you're being way too polite, lol.
@@thijsbergman2424 Hahahahahahahahahahahaha. Thank you I needed a good laugh.
I didnt know either who he was. Still finishing his analysis 😊
I would love to see one of these shows talk about how so many men are angry that they can't get a woman who is out of their league. You have someone who doesn't take care of themselves and are old, fat and bald who thinks they deserve a 20 year old who goes to the gym daily and puts an incredible amount of effort into her looks.
I hate the entitlement, but I will love to see how you will react to a similar description of women, instead of the bald we can use some description of the saggy breasts etc. The dude problem was not that he was ugly, but that he was a narcissistic monster. The proof is from the victims, one was a MRA layer that died because he was more successful than him.
@Pojka call ur mom and apologize
Congratulations on your 'little book', Dr Grande. I'm sure it's going to be delightful, with your trademark humour amply sprinkled across.
Dear doctor, you are unbelievable! You have your job, this channel, and you write books! Chapeau, my virtual friend. All my respect! XX
I’m excited about your book!
He was kicked out of a men's rights forum as well (A Voice For Men if i remember right). For saying that violence is a valid option. They wouldn't put up with him after that. I'd love to see that list.
The rejection started in childhood. A missing father who wanted him aborted and a mother who angrily regretted his birth. Sounds like she was a very abusive woman. Small wonder he grew to see the world as rejecting of him.
Pre ordered my book. Very excited to read it. Congrats on getting published. Very excited for what is ahead for you.
So important when looking at the narcissist, how they are treated by their parents. The main rejection is that of his mother, what we call today, child abuse. He seeks a mother's love in every woman and in his mind rejection by a woman is love. People who are hit by their parents or guardians will often find relationships with violent people and people who who have been mentally abused will often find partners who mentally abuse them. Stands to reason that those who have been rejected will find ways to continue the rejection. The only people who will get into a relationship with a narcissist are very kind and loving people, horrid people will not tolerate a narcissist.
Thank you, Dr. Grande, for taking the time to write on an important issue in every society, the Psychology of Serial Killers. Your work has added another diamond into the treasury of knowledge and information available on important and socially relevant issues. Salud!
Thank you for explaining the narcissist’s view on their own death. Miss your videos about narcissism.
The wife of 9 months probably changed her name and moved to avoid this psychopath. Great news about the book .Congratulations Dr. Grande 🪴🪴🪴🪴
I'm glad she lived to tell the tale. It must of been horrible.
@@topsuperseven7910 jeez, you are jaded. Read the comment of Jëss????? below.
@@topsuperseven7910 you may be living a long life but be careful you don’t become one of those people who live the same year over and over again and try to sell it as wisdom because in this particular conversation I know for a fact that you don’t know what you’re talking about. It takes minimum 5 years to get a US citizenship. To even keep a green card the marriage should’ve lasted a minimum of 2 years. This woman, if she could stay in the US, would be staying illegally, and therefore there would be no recourse to support another person (since it’d need to be on a green card that she doesn’t have... can’t just getting US citizenship that easily, don’t believe everything you see on 90 day fiancé or wherever you get this information).
She probably noticed that he was incapable of forming emotional connections. No doubt he also always wanted it _his way_ too.
@@topsuperseven7910 literally in the video and the OP comment, it says they were married for 9 months. That means she couldn’t have achieved citizenship in any form.
I went to college with Hollander's victim, the "rival" lawyer. An earnest, friendly, and passionate man was lost. While Hollander can rot, I did find the analysis of his twisted psyche interesting.
It's crazy how people can kill people
It's crazier that everyone is capable of it.
"No one is more arrogant toward women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious about his virility."
Simone de Beauvoir , The Second Sex
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It's funny because coming from a feminist im assuming this is meant to ridicule people that are anxious about their virility rather than an attempt to be understanding.
@@DIVAD291 It's an accurate description of murderous men who deserve to suffer much more than ridicule.
@@DIVAD291 it is not meant to ridicule - it's an observation.
@@DIVAD291 funny cause I bet you ridicule woman and or feminists who act a certain way towards men, than to understand why they view the world the way they do .. funny how we should all have understanding for all groups of people not just the ones that your views and beliefs say to support. sometimes people aren't ridiculing , they're just pointing out causes and effects..
Thank you very much for this video, Dr. Grande. This hits close to home since I have a brother in the same level of narcissism as this guy. It's very hard.
Dr. Grande I will be buying your book because I know I will be learning a lot. Great video as always!!!!
You look up “entitled” in the dictionary, I’m sure his photo would be there.
Something that he had in common with the feminists 🤷♂️🙈🤣
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@@Melinamiu007 not surprising you think you are entitled to make baseless assumptions 🤷♂️🙈
P.s. I have absolutely no problem with women, respecting women or getting with women.. I just like pissing off feminists and lettering them expose their entitlement and stupidity 😏😘
@@splifstar85 you seem very angry about something
@@mewpertybewtox7887 you seem to be disingenuous 😏
I haven't even finished watching this video, but I've already bought the book and audiobook, just in case I go blind/deaf I can still enjoy it ❤
I love your episodes Dr. Grande. I'm wondering with the new charges of Josh Duggar, if you could do an analysis of him. Keep up the great work!!
Great analysis
I like watching your videos
It helps to understand some behaviors around me and try to improve myself also 🙂
By the way I m also learning English which is not my native language
Thx
Love this channel. Will definitely be getting your book and will also recommend it to friends. All these uploads AND a book - you spoil us. I don’t know where you find the time. Thanks for all the hard work. ❤️😁
Please read it and publish on Audible so I can listen to it while working.
Cannot wait to get this book!
I just purchased your book, “The Psychology Of Notorious Serial Killers” on Audible ! I actually had looked for your book, “Harm Reduction” but didn’t find it there. Once I saw the end of this video when you talked about “The Psychology Of Notorious Serial Killers” I checked and found it! Woo! I’m excited to clean my house listening to it lol!
Also,! You’re about to hit 1 mill!!!!!!!! BOOOOOOM!!!!!
Wow Dr G, a new video every day. Do you ever take a day off? I’m looking forward to reading the new book. Congrats! 🌵
Hey Dr. Grande! Could you please do a video on "adult adoption"? Yep, it really exists & I think it'll someday be the next Tiger King phenomenon. Might as well get to talking about it now.
Adult adoption is a wonderful thing for people who create a chosen family. It can help create a support system and community
Tiger King?
It’s interesting hearing this. So he basically projected his personal experience into the whole world 🤪 and he calls us women crazy
People project onto the world their personal experiences. Feminists do this too.
“Men are pigs”. I’ve heard that from feminist women a thousand times. Some men are pigs and they generalize that to all men.
A man treated badly by women just might think that all women are bad. It’s how people analyze the world.
@@sliglusamelius8578 he wasn't anti-feminist, he was just anti. Anti women, people, world. As per Dr Grande's analysis: total narc and psychopath. Same goes for some people labeling themselves as feminist. Or religious this or that. Or race this or that. Or politics this or that. Etcetera.
Projection in itself may come natural, for better or for worse, but growing up means you learn to question that reflex and consciously decide to differentiate.
Oh yeah, and learn to be accountable for your own part in the events.
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I agree thanks.
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Typo: Project not protect lol. Stupid phones.
@@joankennes3230 very well said.
To me people are people just trying to make sense of this world. If you think badly of things/people then eventually those things/people will become ‘bad’ to you. You develop a bias and if you don’t actually learn accountability for your own part in the world, control your own actions and thoughts, you’ll start to project, or emulate what you don’t like, be it anger, envy, intolerance, violence and never really understand that you could control it all by controlling(monitoring) your own reactions and actions to events and people in your life.
Bought the book because I love the subject, and I want to support Dr. G. Keep on keeping on.
I just ordered your book and can't wait to read it. :)
This man terrorized everybody around him fir a long time. . I will loose sleep just thinking about the judge who lost her son. Your analysis specially the point you made about narcissistic rage are spit on. At the end of this sad story you gave us the gift. Will it be just paper or there’s a chance for digital version?
Im always sad when I hear stories like this. Of course for those killed and affected by the aggressor, but also for the man himself. He was imprisoned in his life and in his own twisted thinking. He never allowed himself an opportunity to achieve any of his more normal desires. He lived in his skewed perception and in a world full of threats. What a miserable existence!
I'm not sure that he could change? If he had narcissism/NPD, how would he know/care what other people are thinking/feeling or what is 'normal'?
There was a song out about a decade ago that describes him, "I'm a Pimp in my own Mind"
Dr. Grande, congratulations on the book. Your work ethic is an inspiration. I was disappointed when I listened to the audiobook sample and it wasn’t you reading it. Doesn’t seem as enjoyable to listen to your words in someone else’s voice.
Congratulations on your book Dr Grande. You’re a star! ⭐️
I am so excited your book is available!😍Thank you Dr Grande for your analysis! Definitely getting your book!💙💙
I have an important question, Dr. Grande.... Do you ever sleep?
I continue to be in awe of your Incredible work ethic, and not just for 5 days a week, but 7!!🥇
And now we hear you've written a book too. I cannot Wait to read it, and I hope to collect several of your works in the future!!
Congratulations, Dr. Grande!! 🌠
Imagine if you gave a narcissist extreme power, like putting him in charge of a country. That would be bad.
If he was voted out in a later election he probably wouldn’t accept the result, filing lawsuits, threatening people and in the end trying something violent.
Like a Capitol Riot?
Dr Grande, thank you for your always interesting videos. Would you comment on the Nanny murders in NYC a few years ago. Yoselyn Ortega is her name. Thank you.
Many congratulations on your books’ publication. I look forward to reading it.
Looking good, Dr. G! Love the shirt color and background! Great video as usual! 😁
I was wondering why you didn't put your face on the cover of your book, and then I pictured it in my mind--your face, that title above it--and I realized why. 😆 Good call! 😉 And congratulations!
His presidential preferences are a reasonable candidate for "least surprising thing in the world."
Yeah John Wayne Gacy is more the Democrat type. He was a Democrat precinct captain. He even had his photo taken with Jimmy Carter's wife...which she signed "To John Gacy. Best wishes. Rosalynn Carter."
The name of our favourite spray tan disaster ran through all our heads instantly. Dr Grande need not have expended energy naming him!
By the way, have you seen the mansion that the Obama's just bought in Martha's Vineyard? It is absolutely obscene how huge and lavish it is. Kinda surprising, since they just 2-3 years ago bought a Washington DC mansion and built a huge 15-foot-high wall around it.
Congratulations on your book, Dr. Grande!
Would love to see a review of Q Into the Storm and a profile of Ron Watkins.
Congrats on almost 800k subscribers!! 👏👐🎉
Dr. Grande "in a book"? That's a dream come true. I jumped from this video straight to Amazon and pre-ordered me a copy. I CAN NOT wait to read this gem 😍📖💗.
700k video coming up in 3.... 2.... 1.... About good soil types for your indoor plants.
Great idea! LOL!
Hey Dr. G. I bought your book!. Can't wait tor receive it. I hope you get loads of orders. Best Wishes from a long time subscriber.
Dr Grande, please evaluate Sia...there is a lot of controversy surrounding her movie "Music".
Interesting suggestion, but it’d be more helpful to explain how the movie depicts autism wrong and in stigmatizing ways, than to focus on a specific person. Address how it fits into the larger societal patterns, over necessarily being about one specific person.
I interacted with Den Hollander back in 2013, as well as Mark Angelucci. I don't believe Hollander was ever part of the National coalition for men, but a men's rights group in New York which is how I crossed paths with him. He was very contradictory and absurd in many ways. I may be able to provide some information about him.
Congratulations on your book, Dr Grande! Thought you might be interested in the recent case from St Petersburg, Russia, where History assistant professor Sokolov killed and dismembered his student/lover and tried to get rid of the evidence. It’s a really bright example of a narcissist and an interesting one since all his career and life choices were documented and described thoroughly. Please consider it for analysis.
Yes! The book comes also in Kindle form which is great because book publishers are in a conspiracy to save paper by using really small print yet charge the same price...
Congratulations on the book! How exciting 😀 💯💯
Well done on the book. 👏👏👏
Hello again from a dane living in Norway. I am goanna buy the book. I have worked with, what we call here, traumatizid youth, and a good proportion of them of course have a mental disorder including the additional Institutional-disorder or affect as I call it. Many of them becomes criminals in all sorts of crimes incl. rape and murder. I have many yrs experience and regard Dr. Todd Grande the most skilled, including the most skilled articulator within his field. We like him a lot here. I listen to him and he have brought me several times to reexamine what I have learned and worked with, so to speak. I am going to explore if he have authored other books than the one he shows here, and simply buy all of them. Thank you Dr. Todd Grande.
Grande...if there were a disorder called " asshole personality disorder" what would it entail. What traits? And what existing disorder would in your opinion, best fit this title? I believe my husband may have it.
Oh wow a book! I never saw that coming Dr. Grande!🤠💕Ps I’m not being facetious.
Just got Dr Grande’s book on Audible, very excited!
Yay! Just bought your book on kindle, can’t wait to read it. Congratulations.
I wish we had doctors like you in every subject. Your very thorough and knowledgeable. Humanity could use more people like you
Thank you for another thoroughly brilliant analysis peppered with your inimitable delivery. Such a horrible crime...