9 THINGS A FILIPINA FEARS When Dating a Foreigner

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  • Опубликовано: 5 янв 2025

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  • @SmartGirlPhilippines
    @SmartGirlPhilippines  Месяц назад +31

    Every Filipina has hidden fears when it comes to dating foreigners. Some are normal and some are a little crazy. Fear is the biggest enemy in any relationship, so understanding what her fears are can help you get your relationship off the ground and keep it from stalling out.
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    • @ChochiT0-ddd7fd
      @ChochiT0-ddd7fd Месяц назад +3

      I would hire you to tell scary stories to kids at a campfire while roasting marshmallows. 🙂 You are such a good story-teller and have a cute accent. 🙂

    • @ubon11
      @ubon11 28 дней назад

      The vast majority of single Filipinas who are moms have kids with a Filipino. Fact.

  • @rickconn5293
    @rickconn5293 Месяц назад +242

    A couple of things Foreigner’s fear when dating a Filipino. 1. Is she married, 2. Is she over 18, 3. Will she treat me as a ATM machine. 4. Will she bring her entire family on the second date. 5. Will she lie to me? 6. Dose she have another guy that she is also dating. END

    • @ChochiT0-ddd7fd
      @ChochiT0-ddd7fd Месяц назад +20

      I'd say the top foreigners' fears are:
      - Filipina having many brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, uncles, aunts, cats and dogs to possibly support.
      - That the Filipina is literally owned by her parents. She is too attached to them. She will trust their word over yours. This is very dangerous, even to your life. Like Morena Kaye's father told her after he kicked her and her French husband out of his property where they built a house "why do you care about what he thinks?" (paraphrasing here), that father to me is dangerous. Thank God Morena Kaye stood by her man. Many Filipinas will agree with what their parents order them to do, and I'm sure that will include your expiring.
      All that you mentioned can be verified by the foreigner.

    • @ardshielcomplex8917
      @ardshielcomplex8917 Месяц назад

      Yep, most of them are deceitful without even knowing it, an embedded survalist culture reinforces it

    • @GetOffTheInternetAndTouchGrass
      @GetOffTheInternetAndTouchGrass Месяц назад +3

      Dang, who broke your heart? Lmao Goodluck finding success with ANY nationality with that mindset. Lol

    • @yourijevriend730
      @yourijevriend730 Месяц назад +1

      i hope you heal bro, but with that mindset you only attract the wrong girls, think only what you want and become and you attract your love my friend❤

    • @theconstitutionalveteran5778
      @theconstitutionalveteran5778 Месяц назад +13

      @@GetOffTheInternetAndTouchGrass Those are valid concerns. Are you one of those that think men should just deal with all of that and not be concerned?

  • @superblue1971
    @superblue1971 28 дней назад +57

    My brother married a Filipina girl, we told him not to but he said they were in love. We told him she will divorce him n 5 years when she becomes a citizen through marriage. And in 5 years she divorced him and married a Filipina male and brought him over.

    • @bricology
      @bricology 27 дней назад +16

      Pre-nups would've been a good idea.

    • @pot_of_greed2414
      @pot_of_greed2414 14 дней назад +2

      Oof 💀

    • @seckoya
      @seckoya 10 дней назад

      ​@@bricologyfacts

  • @paulmech2262
    @paulmech2262 29 дней назад +56

    "make sure your pull-out game is strong" 😂😂😂😂
    Subscribed

    • @SovereignStatesman
      @SovereignStatesman 28 дней назад +13

      Vasectomy: $500
      Freedom: PRICELESS

    • @kjhnsn7296
      @kjhnsn7296 28 дней назад +5

      Quick one way airline return flight - PRICELESS..😂😂😂

    • @TeufelHunden-cq6mq
      @TeufelHunden-cq6mq 25 дней назад

      🥃🍺🍻💯‼️​@@SovereignStatesman

  • @boondocksaint1
    @boondocksaint1 28 дней назад +109

    1. He runs out of money
    2. He runs out of money
    3. He runs out of money
    4. He runs out of money
    5. He runs out of money
    6. He runs out of money
    7. He runs out of money
    8. He runs out of money
    9. He runs out of money

    • @blackbird1126
      @blackbird1126 24 дня назад +16

      True story. Just like every other woman.

    • @KlodFather
      @KlodFather 24 дня назад +7

      Thats why its wedding chains not wedding rings 😜👍

    • @davidtesler1198
      @davidtesler1198 23 дня назад +9

      Stop looking in bars, and stick to provinces where morals and traditional values remain

    • @DTreatz
      @DTreatz 20 дней назад

      @@davidtesler1198 province or cities: *AWALT* buddy, wake up

    • @abankse83
      @abankse83 20 дней назад

      @@davidtesler1198 *MOSTLY remain

  • @richardlongmore9301
    @richardlongmore9301 Месяц назад +30

    They don’t like it too rainy and don’t like it to sunny😂 Like a delicate flower 💐

  • @silangchurchofchrist6610
    @silangchurchofchrist6610 Месяц назад +26

    As a very married Minister in the Philippines for almost 8 years now. I can assure you that I have met a multitude of single mothers and never once met one with a mixed blood child. I have also met a multitude of intergenerational couples who are still together.

    • @baconsandwichbaconsandwich727
      @baconsandwichbaconsandwich727 29 дней назад +2

      i met one danish guy did that he said she was crazy but its him just like to drink and take girls from bars in cdo even he had a beautiful young pinay and newborn

    • @ejtaylor73
      @ejtaylor73 14 дней назад

      And I'm sure all those single mothers still pretend to be religious, when they have violated god's word and the morals and values he set.

    • @lostsoul1813
      @lostsoul1813 13 дней назад +1

      Intergenerational, you mean, a generational age difference?

  • @ChochiT0-ddd7fd
    @ChochiT0-ddd7fd Месяц назад +27

    I think you would do a great kindergarten teacher. Your face expressions, your demeanor in general is so cute. 🙂

  • @Iberr1965
    @Iberr1965 Месяц назад +20

    Thank you Irish. I watch many videos that talk about the Philippines and Filipinas, and I always share them with my Filipina Fiance to gage them for truthfulness. She told me you were right on the spot. You even made her laugh with some of the fears you shared, especially about the rain and the sun, but now I know what to do or at lease offer a solution that will work for us both. Again, thank you. You content is always refreshing and we enjoy it very much.

    • @ChochiT0-ddd7fd
      @ChochiT0-ddd7fd Месяц назад +3

      But you have to understand that these are generalizations. See Jhaja from Off Grid Island Family, Selena from Pro Life Traveler, and Morena Kaye. They don't care about the sun, rain, or anything.

    • @SmartGirlPhilippines
      @SmartGirlPhilippines  Месяц назад +2

      @@ChochiT0-ddd7fd these "generalizations" apply to 99% of Filipinas. How could I make a video if I don't generalize?

    • @sidki8TT25
      @sidki8TT25 Месяц назад

      @@SmartGirlPhilippines Gen-eralizations are bad as you don't know every Filipina..

  • @Darkmatter321
    @Darkmatter321 13 дней назад +14

    As some one who is separated from a Filipina my advice is don't do it. You can give them the earth an the sky and at the end you are just a ATM, even after almost 3 decades of being with her. So many examples of bad marriage to Filipinas. But some guys still think their Filipina is different

    • @smeake
      @smeake 8 дней назад

      Spam

  • @PHaurevoir
    @PHaurevoir Месяц назад +9

    Love to listen to your tips and most of them make me smile 😊.
    Never visited so its great value to learn the culture .
    Salamat

  • @ProspectingMonkey
    @ProspectingMonkey Месяц назад +11

    Great video I think you summed up the fears really well. Great job

  • @OzarkRiverBanks
    @OzarkRiverBanks Месяц назад +9

    I promise to be very gentle and supportive!

  • @lutzbassin9321
    @lutzbassin9321 14 дней назад +1

    You deserve your name: Smart Filippina. Well thought out, easy to understand vlogs. Thank you!

  • @nostromorayzar8163
    @nostromorayzar8163 18 дней назад +6

    "Make sure your pull out game is good." Ded...

  • @nalansmartt5901
    @nalansmartt5901 Месяц назад +11

    You are Amazing. You always keep it real. Great video. Tanks for sharing .Be blessed.

  • @hotratz69
    @hotratz69 27 дней назад +4

    The warmest rain I ever experienced was in the PI. I was delighted.

  • @DumpsterFire-js6ly
    @DumpsterFire-js6ly 14 дней назад +1

    Always love your raw and humorous advice. I find it informative and refreshing. Thanks!

  • @danielduff5016
    @danielduff5016 Месяц назад +43

    She said smash 😂❤

  • @dangarthemighty0980
    @dangarthemighty0980 24 дня назад +3

    I find this more interesting, in what people from different countries think about people from different countries than their own.

  • @JamesFarmer-f5h
    @JamesFarmer-f5h Месяц назад +4

    This is exactly the things we have gone through. we are just waiting on the day for her to come here now,

  • @icemaun5379
    @icemaun5379 10 дней назад +1

    Honestly, it comes down to the individual, I am engaged to a Filipina and my fiancée made it very clear that she is not like other Filipina woman when it comes to money.
    She actually views it as in insult if I were to try and to give her money as if she was not able to support herself with dignity.
    My advice is to get to know the individual first and understand their circumstances before you make plans to visit them in person.
    Before I went and lived with my girlfriend now fiancée for 2 months in person, we video called everyday for at least 3-4 hours per day during each video call for 6 months before I flew to the Philippines.
    Learn the culture and the family culture, learn about there circumstances and start slow.
    Currently we are working on the K1 visa with USCIS waiting for our NOA2 so we can get married.

  • @international360
    @international360 Месяц назад +7

    Thank you,🎉I like lessons in courtesy...🎉

  • @FrankAsmusJenen
    @FrankAsmusJenen 28 дней назад +4

    Thank you for your advices.

  • @ManilaTom
    @ManilaTom Месяц назад +14

    Her family will always have their hands in your pockets. Be firm. Never give them a dime. It soon becomes thousands. Never talk money with her family. Ever. It’s not their business.

  • @TommyVercetti-z2u
    @TommyVercetti-z2u 24 дня назад +13

    I dated a filipina woman when I was living in Florida. Im average sized but she would tell me it was huge lol. Also she would call me Mr. "My first name", example Mr. Charlie.
    "Oh Mr. Charlie go slow! It so big!"
    Made me feel like the man lol

    • @Dee-ue1rq
      @Dee-ue1rq 18 дней назад +5

      She told me that too but I was " MR DAVE " 😅

  • @gregmccormick3517
    @gregmccormick3517 29 дней назад +6

    You should never make a Filipina or anyone in her family loose face as well or you will have problems hard core. As a foreigner you have to have a open mind and unlearn what you have learned in your country because trust me it is not the same in the Philippines.

  • @CalvinsCorner72
    @CalvinsCorner72 Месяц назад +13

    She should be smart and use protection. We aren’t the one getting pregnant. They should always protect theirselves 😅

    • @gunner5125
      @gunner5125 14 дней назад +3

      Right? I've always thought the same.

  • @wtfchuck9100
    @wtfchuck9100 23 дня назад +9

    I was married to a Filipina for 25 years, the narrator is being truthful about the things she is saying, y’all better listen!
    The one that made me laugh was the sun, the narrator is spot on! For my late wife, The typical attire for the Texas sun was white cotton long sleeve shirt a big hat and sunglasses. 😂
    The way it was explained to me was lighter skin is equated to more success, it meant you worked indoors or professional career.
    Darker skin from the sun meant lower status, someone who worked under the sun, ie agriculture or something to that effect.
    Oh and showers they aren’t at all into the mabajo Puwit
    Dont flame me or report me... political correctness does not exist in PI

  • @henrycarlson7514
    @henrycarlson7514 Месяц назад +3

    So Wise , Thank You .

  • @BelusTraveller
    @BelusTraveller Месяц назад +2

    Some of your points on Some points off, As a Expat going on 5 years Married, We fear your Family Drama #1, It is off the chart, Filipinos fear just about everything, Some is justified, God Bless

  • @kjhnsn7296
    @kjhnsn7296 28 дней назад +7

    Anyone ever think about how Filipino guys feel about these chicks so focused on foreign men?

  • @ghiggs5096
    @ghiggs5096 29 дней назад +6

    My experience with filipina's was nothing but disappointment. Tried to get with several of them here in the US and couldn't get the time of day. Even tried one of those filipina dating sites and nada! Finally said the hell with them.

    • @kjhnsn7296
      @kjhnsn7296 19 дней назад +3

      @@ghiggs5096 you said the key. They are already here in the US!😄

  • @rusty-n4o
    @rusty-n4o 25 дней назад +2

    love this vlog

  • @israelayoade
    @israelayoade 11 дней назад

    This was funny af 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

  • @stephenstadtmiller8149
    @stephenstadtmiller8149 28 дней назад +1

    Thanks. You made a great video.

  • @marcialsantiago8383
    @marcialsantiago8383 Месяц назад +4

    Come to think about it...
    I've courted a few Pinays. And they always prodded at me having another gf somewhere else.

  • @chethaynes5802
    @chethaynes5802 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you very much

  • @theneedtoknowchannel9041
    @theneedtoknowchannel9041 Месяц назад +4

    I like your accent 😊

  • @johnroge2463
    @johnroge2463 9 дней назад

    greetings from the netherlands

  • @MeltiahNye
    @MeltiahNye 27 дней назад +1

    I'm married to a Filipina and these are all true.

  • @Nordic_Sky
    @Nordic_Sky Месяц назад +25

    No. 1 about the "D" is definitely true. My wife is Thai, and she has corroborated this. I guess lots of guys in SE Asia are hung like acorns.

    • @Brian-n3c
      @Brian-n3c 29 дней назад

      😂

    • @rungfang27
      @rungfang27 27 дней назад

      I was joking with a friend from SE Asia, and said you must Piss on your balls, in a serious voice he said no I stretch before I pee lol!

    • @MarkMcCullough-y5s
      @MarkMcCullough-y5s 25 дней назад +4

      Hung Lo must be a myth then😂.

    • @temodeed
      @temodeed 8 дней назад

      @@rungfang27 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @pascaltremblay8314
    @pascaltremblay8314 29 дней назад +9

    How about guys that had the snip snip operation and can't have kids anymore ?

    • @colonelfustercluck486
      @colonelfustercluck486 22 дня назад +3

      don't tell anyone... cos a few of them want a 1/2 foreign baby and are looking for a donor.
      And, if she turns up accusing you of getting her pregnant, just say "Congratulations, who is the father?"
      So you are good both ways.... unless you get serious and then you would have to confess. Most will want kids if they get serious.

  • @simona.1085
    @simona.1085 5 дней назад

    very cute today, Irish

  • @jaymic1
    @jaymic1 26 дней назад

    Very good video.

  • @TheUnatuber
    @TheUnatuber 16 дней назад +1

    The sun *and* rain???

  • @Baribrotzer
    @Baribrotzer 26 дней назад

    Many others have said this: She fears that he will want to date HER - rather than the 100-strong extended family ruled by her fearsome old great-grandma, who says upon meeting him:
    "How much money you make?"
    "(foreigner answers)"
    "Not enough!"

  • @chris818529
    @chris818529 27 дней назад +3

    I would love to date a Filipina girl

  • @sylvainlafreniere
    @sylvainlafreniere 10 дней назад

    Taking a shower very often might have the idea if freshness, nut doesn't leave space to the microbiolife associate strictly to grow on the skin. This is very bad. In fact medical study showed that a bath per 7 days like it was done 50 years ago is the best for health.

  • @ay5667
    @ay5667 Месяц назад +21

    He has NO money 😂😂

  • @MrTreeman1979
    @MrTreeman1979 Месяц назад +8

    #1 woooo i dodged a bullet lol

  • @mikep4823
    @mikep4823 12 дней назад +1

    Afraid of rain lolll Do they not answer the phone at night because of being
    afraid of the dark😜

  • @warblerblue
    @warblerblue 23 дня назад +2

    Whats the 9 THINGS A FILIPINA FEARS When Dating a local?

  • @waltmosher9171
    @waltmosher9171 Месяц назад +5

    I get the Bid D reference but not sure what "anos" mean, and online tagalog translations dont help (smelly, burnt)

    • @SmartGirlPhilippines
      @SmartGirlPhilippines  Месяц назад +4

      Ano means what...so it's just slang for your "what."

    • @bricology
      @bricology 27 дней назад +1

      Not sure where she's from, but it isn't safe to presume that all Filipinos are speaking Tagalog. There's also Cebuano/Visayan, Ilocano & Hiligayno, which have tens of millions of speakers.

    • @houserental5424
      @houserental5424 6 дней назад

      @@bricologyok PC karen

  • @morrignoo
    @morrignoo 24 дня назад +2

    the fear bonus number 1 sounds like give money to my family

  • @BSPIVEY100
    @BSPIVEY100 Месяц назад +3

    Is there a meaning to your pretty sash and necklace ?😊

  • @viperdemonz-jenkins
    @viperdemonz-jenkins 21 день назад

    all understandable.

  • @1987whynot1987
    @1987whynot1987 13 дней назад

    And how does 1 go about meeting a philippine girl, I've had this question for a while now

  • @marcusrex77
    @marcusrex77 26 дней назад

    Hey, that was good. But what is "bump uglies?" from #7. 🤣🤣😆😆

  • @thebruce1026
    @thebruce1026 Месяц назад +1

    She gets use to it, now she loves it lol

  • @davidhall3747
    @davidhall3747 Месяц назад +2

    The Filipina fears playing second fiddle if the foreigner she meets is married. Got it.

    • @SmartGirlPhilippines
      @SmartGirlPhilippines  Месяц назад +2

      No. She fears being killed or attacked or threatened.

    • @davidhall3747
      @davidhall3747 Месяц назад

      @@SmartGirlPhilippines
      Makes sense considering how women get very jealous when it comes to infidelity.

    • @colonelfustercluck486
      @colonelfustercluck486 28 дней назад

      second fiddle.... lucky to be in the orchestra

  • @jnuem
    @jnuem Месяц назад +10

    I love your color, don't bleach yourself ever. Brown pinay is the best, not white one

    • @kunguru1058
      @kunguru1058 Месяц назад

      No diddy

    • @houserental5424
      @houserental5424 6 дней назад

      Are you going to change the asian beauty standard? How presumptuous

  • @ElmshornBoy
    @ElmshornBoy 4 дня назад

    I am marrierd to a Half-Filipina and do not have any problems. But when it rains she cancels all plans.

  • @georgthullberg8667
    @georgthullberg8667 Месяц назад +5

    Heh, I guess there must be some truth in the old rumors. I once had an affair with a Filipina. Sometimes she would pull her face and say "Oh, but it's so big!" And I'm only average 🤭 On the other hand, maybe she was just sweet-talking me.

    • @eddiejohnson4434
      @eddiejohnson4434 23 дня назад

      Asians are small. It makes sense cuz in general the women of a group match the men, if you know what I mean

  • @slickwilly4613
    @slickwilly4613 12 дней назад

    This lady speaks like she has lived in the states for decades

  • @mikevaldez4895
    @mikevaldez4895 Месяц назад +1

    let her eat rice and fish. if not she be unhappy especially if there hamburger and fries only.

  • @tuvia4082
    @tuvia4082 27 дней назад

    There's a song : It ain't the meat, it's the motion, something like that.

  • @mikelit-e9q
    @mikelit-e9q Месяц назад

    Filipina needs to observe her foreigner, especially if he doesn't introduce you to his friends or family,

  • @pablorages1241
    @pablorages1241 15 дней назад

    I thought it might be the ANOS in the @NUS

  • @sidki8TT25
    @sidki8TT25 Месяц назад

    This is a great video.

  • @nicholaswilliams429
    @nicholaswilliams429 Месяц назад

    FIRST❤️

  • @voyagespascheres6536
    @voyagespascheres6536 28 дней назад

    I'm think of travelling. 47 canadian. I search so many way To going to a place and having someone.
    Not a big... it's ok.
    I shower and I want to do activity but I'm not rich.
    I have many question.

  • @randeldaniel5437
    @randeldaniel5437 21 день назад

    Sadly they don’t have to worry about that with me 😢

  • @ChochiT0-ddd7fd
    @ChochiT0-ddd7fd Месяц назад

    I see.

  • @distortionfreak
    @distortionfreak 28 дней назад

    I want one

  • @117rebel
    @117rebel 19 дней назад

    The girl in the video is so pretty!

  • @truth6242
    @truth6242 29 дней назад

    Ooh my girl's name is same Sharlene Irish (Shai for short) .. When it is sunny she hides from the sun, she even hid by a wall after we were already out walking together. The sun came out and she ran and hid. Strange. Well she found out about my D and was scared at first but now she has been with me 6 yrs. LOL

  • @joesmith9053
    @joesmith9053 14 дней назад

    why are the women afraid of rain ??

  •  20 дней назад +1

    That you don't have enough money?

  • @timothybright7064
    @timothybright7064 28 дней назад

    I never heard any Filipinos speak about Insurance or insurance policies do they have them? Also talk about Drivers Education please. We drive on The Right Side not The Left, I'd think it would be very Difficult for me to transition.

    • @sureshmukhi2316
      @sureshmukhi2316 27 дней назад

      Of course Filipinos do have insurance. Filipinos drive on the right too. Former American colony

  • @Woodsmasher
    @Woodsmasher 11 дней назад

    I've just seen shorts of people there chilling under the rain, selling goods and playing cards.... 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @Flights-gq8po
    @Flights-gq8po Месяц назад

    You are smart. If I was younger and you liked me, and you were single...........I would want to be together with you.

  • @stephensparks9084
    @stephensparks9084 28 дней назад +1

    3:25 Filipino me are the biggest offenders.

  • @miguelgonzalez6213
    @miguelgonzalez6213 Месяц назад

    #1 must only be the Filipinas in the PI, because that doesn't seem to be a fear here in the states. LOL

  • @approachingtarget.4503
    @approachingtarget.4503 13 дней назад +1

    Leave Filipino in Filipino!!!

  • @eddiejohnson4434
    @eddiejohnson4434 23 дня назад +1

    I’m big for a black guy. You don’t need all of that, unless you’re dating mostly black chicks or US white women. In Asia it’s mostly an obstacle to overcome. Average white foreigner is big enough. This makes sense because the women aren’t huge.

    • @houserental5424
      @houserental5424 6 дней назад

      Are you the international viginal depth arbiter?

  • @actorDannyCastellon
    @actorDannyCastellon 26 дней назад

    Wow you look Beautiful 🥰

  • @johnroge2463
    @johnroge2463 9 дней назад

    i must say the most want to escape the poor country

  • @Dee-ue1rq
    @Dee-ue1rq 18 дней назад

    I thought it was a filipino not a filipina? That was the correct term

  • @robbatayaki5505
    @robbatayaki5505 Месяц назад +1

    Foreigner is a 3 if from Korea 😂😂😂

  • @Troy-b4n
    @Troy-b4n 27 дней назад

    Being taken off to a DiddyFreaksoffs and.......

  • @kennygopal
    @kennygopal Месяц назад +2

    Oh u mean big banana LOL

    • @AninePlus
      @AninePlus 29 дней назад

      No.. It is a big "D" not a big "B"anana ?

  • @macklinantonie6245
    @macklinantonie6245 Месяц назад

    🙌❤️🙌

  • @Solipher
    @Solipher 19 дней назад

    Im confused by your final point, is this a woman or a pet?

  • @kjhnsn7296
    @kjhnsn7296 28 дней назад

    This chick is a madam..

  • @lolroflpmsl
    @lolroflpmsl 18 дней назад

    Sex before marriage...

  • @horstguenterstahr7728
    @horstguenterstahr7728 28 дней назад

    A German in the Philippines, what did he do in Germany for 40 years, did the women run away from him.

  • @bigglesharrumpher4139
    @bigglesharrumpher4139 Месяц назад +5

    Monty Pythons Biggus Dickus.

  • @HowtoLiv365
    @HowtoLiv365 Месяц назад +1

    Your teeth blind me, I like that 😁

  • @krakoosh1
    @krakoosh1 Месяц назад +4

    There’s a reason why God commanded us to not have sex unless married