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cannot express how nice it is to hear someone else not remember so much of their own life due to depression. sometimes when I say this outloud I know people don’t believe me but I truly struggled so much I can’t remember things. thank you for always being so transparent & open with us. we love you !
I also don't remember a damn thing. People tell me things about my life I would've forgotten if they hadn't brought it up. I was told that it's our minds/bodies protecting ourselves.. any events that elicit strong emotions (even positive ones) are perceived as a threat and our mind blocks it out. I don't know how true this is, but the thought of it is so scary to me. I wanna remember the good stuff too and I can't
@@jazmynnv5831 THIS. it’s not that I’m choosing my body is doing it to protect me - I know that but I still wanna remember something !
I really relate with the pressure you put on yourself for dating and the loneliness that comes with seeing everyone in relationships. Thank you for being so open, helps me feel less alone
society puts so much pressure on women to be in relationships and i feel like i’ve never heard someone speak about it and in this way before. tysm for talking about this and shedding light on what it’s like being a single woman ❤
i’m just getting around to watching this but if you haven’t looked up aromanticism yet, highly recommend doing so! even if you don’t identify with it, a lot of the things you’re talking about like not realizing if someone’s flirting, feeling like you don’t have a script for dating, wondering if you even want a relationship, etc. are heavily discussed and you could find some clarity there 💚
What I exactly know about love is that when you meet exact person - everything started to flow in right direction. I met my amazing loving boyfriend at 21 yo and before him I never even had relationships. I’ve felt loneliness for couple of years,I’ve craved relationships and also felt left behind. What really helped me - is to stop looking for love. I just let it go and stopped looking for love,but continued looking for friend. I was playing with tinder geolocations in order to practice my language, so I was looking for someone just to talk. Swipe left and it’s been 2 more years of long distance with meetings and preparation to move. I don’t know how it goes,but when you really stop intentionally looking for it,thinking about it - it comes. Love is flow,no strict rules and instructions
I am so sorry you are going through this all, but I cannot tell you how grateful I am for you sharing. Your videos help me feel not alone & that someone understands what I’m going through ❤
So many thoughts on what you said. I also have struggled with depression since a very young age. I considered myself a late bloomer as well (only had a very short relationship in 9th grade which I don't even count) and was way too in my head to really date. Nothing made it past the talking stage in college and in hs, I had crushes that never materialized into anything meaningful. I commend you for taking the step to get out of your house more. That alone is putting yourself out there to make organic and genuine connections, both platonic and romantic. I didn't have my first real bf until I was 24. The only reason I'm with him is because we ran into each other a night I was invited out and almost didn't go because I was too depressed and avoiding all my friends lol. You are doing great and even though dating sucks, these tiny steps toward putting yourself out there in any way do mean something! Wishing you love and hope your insomnia calms down soon
girl i hope things are looking up for you. i watch like five of your videos a day to give me the motivation to look after my basic needs.
I've been where you are when it comes to relationships. I've spent years asking myself what was wrong with me because everyone was in relationships but me. But in the last maybe two years I've finally realized that "Having to date" is a society problem and not a me problem. And I'm happy by myself and I know my friends aren't leaving me behind when they get into relationships. As long as I'm happy I don't see why I need to stress about getting into a relationship. What does sometimes stress me out about this: the last couple of months I've been working in a hospice and I sometimes ask myself if the end of life is going to be lonley if I don't have relationships or children. Because most of the time it's the spouse or the children who help out (at least here in germany). But I just need to remind myself that everything's okay and there's no need to stress as long as I am happy with my life as it is right now.
You have 135k people in your corner you got this.
thank you for always sharing the struggles in life because I’ve been struggling the same way, my mental health has taken a toll on my daily life where I have to take a leave of absence. And I’ve been feeling so lost with what I’m doing with my life to try to help myself but it can be struggle without the right support. I relate a lot to the social issue too and I’m glad you got a part time job to help you out the house! I enjoy vlogs like this because I truly resonate with what you say. RUclips is the only social media I’ve been on but if you see this would love to get the chance to have a conversation with you! take care Reese
Girl same with the ghosting!!!!!! Glad I’m not alone
Literally on the same wave length with your dating situation.
girl I relate to you so hard on the dating situation but hopefully I can give you some hope:
I was the same as you, had one short relationship (end of HS) then so much was going on in college I forgot all about that relationship and didn’t end up dating anyone else. I totally developed a sense of self during that time though, and post college I knew I wanted to date but was just not up for playing mind games, not acting like myself, etc. I also hadn’t even kissed anyone in 4 years at that point (!!) so I felt like I was completely starting back at square 1, and was starting to see all my friends settle into serious relationships.
anywho so I finally get settled in a new job in a new city post college and decide to put myself out there. I went on one hinge date (went ok, I wasn’t really feeling it though), then went on a second with a different person. that second date was with my now boyfriend of 1.5 years. as soon as I met him I instantly felt comfortable around him and again just totally acted like myself the whole time and to my surprise, it didn’t scare him off!!
all this is to say just keep being yourself and don’t feel like your the only one. I’m sure many people you know in relationships felt the exact same as you before they met the person they’re now with, so keep that in mind!!
Girlllll I've never related to someone so much in the dating department! I'm so late to the party and dating apps destroy all my self confidence. Where do we even start??? Next time I'm feeling all gross and romantically lonely, I'll remember there's so many of us experiencing the same thing
Hi! I’m a regular watcher and am normally a ghost watcher bc social anxiety but I just wanted to let you know that I love your content and that I hope this even helps a little bit with the algorithm issue…
Reese your sofa looks so so beautiful and I love this video so so much you are my inspiration and I wish you have a nice weekend 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Yes! Be yourself off the bat, if they don’t like it it’s not meant to be! It helps both parties not waste any time
maybe you could be aromantic? it's something i've been wondering about myself as well
Its very much okay to be single as I'm myself 24 and dont have relationship. I think it will come around at right time, we definitely cannot compare these things.
Yes!!! I really relate about the relationship part! I have AMAZING friends that I know that care deply about me but at the same time I'm nones prioritys because they all have theirs signicant other that comes first in certains aspects.
I can relate so much to the whole relationship thing. I think I might be asexual but not aromantic, so I actually would like to be in a relationship, but I think I'm so traumatized, "too" mentally ill and blablabla that I just can't even start talking to people (even just to make new friends) so there is nothing going on at all, but everyone around me is in a relationship and I feel so alone. I have so many of the same thoughts you have, so just know you're not alone.
You're SO relatable! Thank you for being so open, it really means a lot to know I'm not the only one
Lol girl I'm 28 never been in a relathionship, have no friends. And honestly - I don't need any, I always like to hang out by myself, for me even beeing around people is exhausting not mention taking to them or trying to carry a meaningfull conversation. I used to be very ashamed of myself because I don't fit in into social norms. But now I accepted myself as I am and don't carry about other people judgments and expectathions.
Honestly the right person will love that you come on strong, and also I used to be the same with not knowing when people were flirting with me or were into me, and then after I sort of did some work on myself and got more in touch with my intuition and sacred sexuality it seemed like all of a sudden I could tell IMMEDIATELY and very clearly and it became SO obvious even if they weren't super obvious about it, so idk if that's helpful but there is hope. It literally used to be such a big joke with my friends that I could never tell even if they were SO obvious. And idk if this applies to you but part of it for me was a deep seeded shadow of this unconscious denial or disbelief that someone could be into me so I wouldn't pick up the signs because of that, if that makes sense. You'll get the hang of it girlie ❤️
I was similarly clueless about successfully striking up conversations with women back in the day, much less making the jump from friendship to dating etc. I always figured that they (women), and few lucky dudes, just naturally knew what was up, and that somehow, I didn't. It's interesting to hear you feeling the same way, despite being one of the people I would think were in the know, attractive, confident, successful, et al. Now I think the dating exchange is a little like catching a fish, where you don't try to reel one in all at once. I also think common interests are one of the best ways for people to eventually find each other. As with all my theories of course, the usual disclaimers apply.
this is such a relatable video reese, thank you so much for talking about it. i really appreciate that you talked about it, even if you're not super comfortable with it. thank you so so much
really feels like talking to a friend ❤☺
I love you, Reese! I’ve been following your journey since basicallyyourbible (lol, yes, really that long), and you’ve always been such an inspiration for me ❤❤
I work third shift and struggle with sleep, my biggest saving grace recently has been taking a magnesium supplement. 200mg everyday, and I’m falling asleep faster, staying asleep, and getting better quality sleep!
girl I seriously think we’re always on the same wavelength as a fellow Gemini. I have been thinking a lot about relationships too and feeling behind for my age.
Loved loved loved this sit down chill podcast style video really please do more 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💙and know you’re not alone in any way so many people feel the same as you and can relate☺️
I'm so proud of you. Just keep going ❤️
so important for everyone, especially young people, to save as much as they can when they have excess income. you never know when your circumstances are going to change or inflation is gonna kick in really bad, and we still gotta hang around for half a century.
The whole dating section sounds exactly how I was at 24...and now at 35. It's such a frustrating and lonely experience to just not be good at meeting people or getting to the next step (for me this includes irl friends). No advice, just another late bloomer trying to figure out how to date
I relate to seeing all your friends dating and you being alone. I’ve only really had 3 relationships but none of them are good and healthy. I haven’t tried to date in so long I don’t know if I could.
i feel similarly about dating. i’m 25 and want marriage, pregnancy, children, etc., but at the same time i’m on the aroace spectrum so it’s very rare for me to even experience actually liking someone.
High five to you, my fellow ace 🥹🖐️ I don’t want to have children or go through childbirth, but damn, it can get lonely out here…
Your feelings are valid. It doesn't matter if someone has it worse, your feelings still matter.
I think the world has changed since 2020. Some people are more cautious about new relationships. I'm in my 30's and still single but not looking. I'm trying to figure out this new world we'ee in.
I have a friend who has insomnia issues and after trying everything on the market, she finally got results with a sleep therapist - to save you from paying for therapy, the advice was to start by going to bed with the purpose of only going to sleep for a few hours (i.e. sleep from 12-5 if you only typically sleep 4 hours normally) and then gradually increase. Hope it helps!
Have you tried magnesium gel or cream? You can put it on any aching pain or on the bottoms of your feet to help with sleep! It’s sooo helpful and applying magnesium topically is the best way for your body to absorb it!
I feel so similar to you about dating! I just stopped looking and I’m hoping as I meet more people I will open up more
What you were saying about romance reminds me sm of the song "Love Me Back" by Bene Stockwell
it could be your catto who wakes you up, walking around the house at night, doing cat things \o.o
I have had insomnia my whole life. My dad told me I used to wake him up at 1 am for cheerios when i was a kid. I used to just stare at the ceiling during nap time waiting for it to end. It got to the point where I actually talked to my psychiatrist about it around september of 2021. She put me on a sleeping pill that didnt really help me. Then she put me on Trazodone and oh my god its been a game changer for me. Honestly, it has helped me so so much. Its non habit forming, and i never feel groggy the next day
ALSO girl. I didnt find the right guy for me until I was 25 and didnt end up with him till I turned 29. Go at your own pace. The right person WILL come along when they’re supposed to 🤎
Reese girl I'm legit the same!!!! I relate to you so much in terms of relationships like I've been single for almost 4 years and id love to be in one but I work in a mostly female environment so I have the most amazing women around me but I'm not meeting guys and I REFUSE to get dating apps I hate them so I'm just in this well ill be alone forever vibe. Like I have amazing friends. amazing job I live independently so my next step is relationships but I don't know how to get to that lol
Love love love this video!
I have a feeling the next video will be "..sooo, I found someone very special.."😊
I love your videos. I wish I had them when I was that young. It would have made that part of my life much more maneagable.. just to know that I'm not the only one feeling like that, it would have helped a lot. There must be many young people you are helping by being authenticaly you, and thank you for it.
(Fyi, we do find a soulmate, we do get our stuff together, but we still work on our mental health a lot😅)
Heavy. Good sleep is essential.. my friend took a sleeping course once. I thought it was to start a week with the minimal amount of sleep you think you actially sleep and then work, workout, eat, hobby like usual and then of that goes well you increase the sleep. But it takes courage to proceed. She's sleeping better since then but she has to do this a few times a year.
And yet, since you hadn't had a lot of sleep, you still post a honest, helpful vid. Don't beat yourself up. But i must not be the one who says it 🫣 i hear it too from my psych, every f*cking time..
SAME with the relationships!!! + i know u didn't ask for advice, so feel free to ignore it, but i sometimes have phases when i wake up around 3 am and can't go back to sleep and CBD oil seems to be helping me. the science on it isn't definitive, so it's a long shot, but just wanted to put ut out there in case someone doesn't know about it
My 2nd piece of advice is to skip the talking part on tinder entirely. Go with your gut and ask the man out. They love it and then you get to just talk like normal. I usually ask them out (if we vibe) during the first conversation like within 1-2 hours of matching. Nobody wants to play 20 questions or awkwardly message back and forth for a week first. Be bold!! :) :)
I relate to the lonely feeling but i'm the opposite, i have a boyfriend but we only see each other one day a week and my few friends have busy lives so i have no one to talk to 5-6 days a week
Hey Reese. While i was listening to you say that you don't know the rules i was thinking: what makes you think any of us has a clue about how it works 😅? I think we're all kinda winging it, there's no right way to play the game of dating and relationship. And you're right, it is hard to tell if somebody is flirting with you or just being nice. This is all very difficult because it's all so subtle in that phase. But I think that if someone really likes you the will let you know. And also, maybe instead of relying on their signals, you could send some clear ones if you're finding someone interesting. And it's totally understandable what you said about feeling lonely there's nothing to be embarrassed about. I myself am in a relationship that sometimes doesn't really convince me but I don't wanna feel alone while all my friends have boyfriend, so I'm trying to make it work because, well first of all we have a lot of love for each other, but also being alone seems more scary than putting the extra effort. And I'm not ashamed of feeling this way because not wanting to feel alone is just a very human and normal feeling. I'm also a late bloomer, he's my first boyfriend and we started dating when I was 25. You're not alone. Lastly, I think that having more interactions now because of your new job will help you practice interacting with people, and maybe who knows, you can meet someone. Or maybe not, meeting someone is really difficult! Anyways, thanks for sharing. Anyone who doesn't get to listen to you doesn't know what they're missing. Sending you lots of love ❤
See I feel the exact same way as you do about relationships but about friendships. I really want a core group of friends but it’s hard to meet people at 31 and I always seem to come in too strong in friendships and end up scaring people away.
love your videos
Loving your videos. Thank you. Love you California Joanna
youre like an older sister to me (im only 22)
Insomnia really sucks. I find if I'm not able to get enough sleep it really negatively affects my potential health and other health problems I have like pain.
Just a thought: have you ever looked into aromantic and asexual spectrum identities? Not everyone feels romantic or sexual feelings right away/consistently/at all. X
I think it is very good for you getting a part time job. It will give you structure and decrease you feeling isolated
Ask your girlfriends some tips about dating. They can be honest with you about their first impressions of you.
I have insomnia and I found that going to the doctor's asking for a low dose sleeping pill helped me a lot. I have issues falling and going to sleep. Hopefully this helps.
I’m so confused how long were u at the ER cuz it takes about 5 hours for our ER to see you, you have to come in there literally dying for anyone to help you
Maybe you’re asexual Reese! I had similar feelings and realised I was asexual and only “wanted” to be in a relationship because everyone around me was in one and it was the “normal” thing to do. Also, as I continue to watch your video I realise a lot of the experiences you describe like tone of voice coming across wrong or not knowing what to say are very common experiences described by some of my friends on the spectrum. Has your psych ever brought the possibility of ASD up to you?
THE WAY YOU TALKED ABOUT DATING IS SOMETHING IVE ALWAYS THOUGHT!!! like did y'all take a class in dating and relationships that i missed or something?!! you put it so goddamn perfectly my jaw is actually on the floor. tysm for posting this and making me feel less lonely. (not alone because we never truly are!)
Not a class but I learned everything through my parents. I am very very fortunate to come from a household where my parents openly expressed their love for one another. They were also so honest with us about how even though they were in love, sometimes they fought and had disagreements. That's how I learned to date through them. I mainly just watched them as a kid and was like, "Yeah, I want that."
I can definitely relate to the whole relationship aspect of this. I’m 29 and still have never been in a relationship with anyone, and its difficult to deal with when it seems like everyone around you thats the same age is getting married and having kids. But I also don’t want to rush into things just for the sake of being with someone. I want it to happen naturally and have a real genuine connection with someone. I really appreciate you being open and honest about all of this. It makes me feel less alone. I feel like we definitely deserve to have great relationships in our lives. I would love to see you do more content like this when you can, just like chatty life updates (especially about mental health and relationships) and what’s on your mind at the current moment.
This is me 😫
I hate that we’re all out here being so hard on ourselves. You having had that day with the ER and saying ‘i didn’t do anything else after that’ girl!!! U did so much!!!! U did enough!!! And being tired the next day? Totally ok!!! Completely understandable!!! Its frustrating to be so tired and ‘having to do stuff’. 😢 but digitally hugging you. I hope you’re giving yourself grace, you’re doing what you can and you’re doing it well
It sounds to me like you’re ready for a “real” relationship; one without games, one where both parties accept each other for who they are, imperfections and all, and one where two whole people come together to share their lives, not “complete” that of the other person.
I don’t see anything wrong with that, that’s called being real and it’s a rare gem in today’s society. Keep doing you and shining your light and the right people who can match that WILL come along ❤
hey Reese, I don't want to overshare on the internet but let me just say that I completely related to the part where you talk about relationships. im in my late 20s, my friends are getting married one by one, im single (LOL) and not doing anything about it. I do feel the loneliness sometimes..I don't know where im going with this but I just wanted to say you are not alone on how you feel. thank you for being vulnerable with us ❤
I feel like dating/relationships are one of those things that you have to just jump into in order to learn. I always put so much pressure on myself to prepare for things that mostly require learning on the spot, as-you-go. Very hard and scary but liberating when you let go of that need for control
I understand the whole “my personality doesn’t come through text” thing. I met my boyfriend of a year on Tinder and we met up in person really quickly (the day after we matched actually). I never liked to chat a lot over text before meeting someone in real life, cause keeping conversation going over text is hard!
I want you to know that I 100% relate to everything you said about dating, especially as a 27 yr old 7th wheel in my friend group. I love myself and think that I'm a genuinely cool person but romance just does not compute for me. I've never had a solid relationship and the whole process is just embarrassing to me. I wish you the best, because I know it's rough out there
god everything you are saying about your feelings towards and about relationships is so relatable, literally exactly how i feel. and also how you can't remember most of your teenage/high school years and early adulthood. this candid conversation has brought me so much comfort, knowing that i'm not alone with a lot of these feelings/worries that you mention
I'm suffering with sleep too, and it's making me miserable
To make matters worse, i caught a cold .. literally I'm in a slump and it's hard to get out of it
Thank you so much for this video
You seem like genuinely a kind person
One of the best pieces of advice I found for dating is put yourself in places where you’ll attract people like you! So hang out at a bookstore, craft meetup, something like that :) Where you spend your time is where you’re most likely to meet people who share similar interests! Girl I just want to see you happy, let me be ur personal hype man haha
idk if you’ll see this and this may be sooo annoying to here but i was in the same place where i wanted a relationship but nothing was working and when i finally let go of the idea of having a relationship, it literally just happened and now i’m with the best bf ever. so understanding, likes me FOR ME WOW. LOL but seriously i think don’t worry about how old you are rn and what stage of life you’re in. just put yourself out there more (that job will def help) and it’ll come to you. don’t question how or when. just try to let go by focusing on other things and plans :)
And in terms of dating - I think that honesty and level of “I really don’t know what I’m doing” is super charming. It will attract the right human!! Being yourself will never turn away the wrong person. And a relationship is a HUGGEEE exploration of yourself since you have a human foil to reflect yourself back to you. Anyways! It’s okay if it feels weird and unnatural to you, it becomes easier with practice, and truly, honesty! Your honest self is your hottest self 🫶🏼 And you are more than enough!
Might sound weird but i think what has helped me the most with bouts of insomnia is doing way less than more. Like if i have a bad night of sleep not letting myself obsess about it or think about it at all when i wake up.not doing a ton of things to compensate. I notice the less i obsess about sleep and how im gonna sleep that night the wayy better i sleep . Also certain things like teas, yoga, meditation b4 bed can help but only have made things harder for me because i'm putting so much pressure on myself to feel good and fall asleep instantly. That might be the case for you too I'm not sure. What's helped me is every time i notice myself spiral about sleep or how it's gonna go that night i redirect my attention to something else. I feel like, that way, sleep becomes a neutral topic for me again and gets me out of that funk. Then, i start sleeping at night normally again because I feel wayy less stressed about it and not so "on alert"
Tldr: less pressure/obsessing abt sleep=way better sleep patterns(at least in my case) :)
For worrying about being too much or not enough, whenever I feel like this I try to remember that I want to be with a person who likes all of me, also if its meant to happen it’s going to happen. Hope your feeling better
re: dating convo
ME FREAKING TOO. thank you x10 for sharing your thoughts and experiences because they are so much more universal than any of us think
This was refreshing.
I dont know about the views because i rewatch all your videos so i can do chores along with you ( body doubling - adhd) but im sending you love so things get better ❤
I relate to this so much. I’ve been working on liking myself in therapy and once i’ve started getting there I’ve needed to work on sleep because it’s been awful. It seems like no matter the suggestion I just can’t get good sleep. Then there’s the dating thing- i’m 22 and have never been in a relationship and every time i talk to people i feel like i’m on a different planet and don’t know the rules. i’ve only been on a few first dates and they never go well. And i don’t even really have that many friends so i can’t just spend time with them. always feel like i love my friends more than they love me, and romance is difficult when i can’t even cultivate a friendship. you aren’t alone Reese, being a 20-something sucks
Gosh are you me??? The pressure is real to date as well.. I’m asexual and it’s not easy looking for someone who wouldn’t ever expect any physical affection from me 🥲 And yes, I do experience romantic feelings and I don’t want to end up alone, but who would accept me for not wanting to have sex like ugh. Thanks for being vulnerable with all of us, I know it must be hard to say all of this out loud ajsjsjh
25, never had a real boyfriend before
This video has made me feel like I am not alone.
Reese, it breaks my heart to hear that there's so much shame and incompleteness around platonic love not being "enough". I think we in a western society put far too much emphasis on romantic love instead of other, equally worthy forms of love. I think the greeks identified 7 forms of love, including romantic. Anyway - I would look up ace-aro spaces online - it sounds like even if you don't eventually identify that way, you might benefit from hearing about how they approached dating and how they learned they were ace or aro or both. Just a thought - from someone who identifies as ace themselves. I love your candidness as always and remember, dating isn't the end all be all. Though I could be saying that just cuz I got dumped lmao
you know reese, i never commented on a video of yours before, but here i think i’d like to say something… i understand you have made a lot of progress with self image and self love and i don’t want to discredit that (our experiences with life are very similar in some ways), but hearing you say you love yourself and soon after that saying that you don’t see yourself as deserving of a romatic relationship - this is not loving to yourself at all. i would say that by repeating this to yourself you make yourself believe it and things turn out to confirm it, as in confirmation bias. i relate to having crap mental health and thinking "no one deserves to experience me if im like this", but i have come to the realisation that this is very wrong. just because you struggle with a mental ilness you don’t deserve love? why? you should know you deserve to be loved and to feel loved no matter what, because your ilness might be shit, but you are not the illness, you are a person. if someone actually likes you, they have interest in you, like spending time with you, your personality, you share interests, they feel comfortable around you - don’t you think they can make that choice themselves, as in, if they do or don’t want to be here even for your low points? you don’t owe anyone to have perfect mental health, you don’t owe anyone anything, it’s not about being flawless (and i think you know that). i hope any of what i said made at least a bit of sense. i just honestly find you very admirable - you always strive for the better, even when it’s hard, you are very independent and honestly, you just radiate this safe, nonjudgemental energy, and have always seemed like such a good person to me. i guess what i wanted to say was that you shouldn’t even look for the people who want to play the "games" - there are plenty of those who will do that with them, but you don’t have to. don’t feel like you have to pretend to be someone else, because the more you do that, the less the chance of attracting someone you would really click with. 24 is young as heck and i just hate seeing you be harsh on yourself. you got this, and you are not alone, life is tricky for most of us. sorry for the long ass comment 😅
Reese, I totally relate to your stuff about relationships! I feel like I come off too strong as well because I'm so used to being so close with my friends. I'm 26 right now and when I was 23/24 I felt so alone because all my friends were in long term relationships. I did'nt go on a first date until I was 25! I made a hinge account, was about to delete it and decided to message one more guy. I realized hes the male version of me LOL. We've been dating for a year now! :)
Also, congrats on your part time job! Will you do work day in your lifes? Morning/night routine after work? Office clothes outfits?
Love your vids, been watching since you were in highschool, wishing you all the best bestie!
i'm so sorry you are struggeling with money! ☹️ i've been a viewer since we were both 15 or 16 and your videos really make my day whenever i watch them. have you ever thought about starting a patreon or something to make some extra money? i would totally pay like 10$ a month or more in order to support you and i imagine a lot of other regulars would, too! maybe that's something to consider❤️
Theory: you might just be asexual? Nothing wrong with you, just not interested in being with someone? It could be something to consider as you're exploring relationship nonsense. :)
I might be completely wrong here, but I feel like I related to this a little too much. Periods of not sleeping and also periods of feeling really depressed, and then getting better may not just be insomnia and depression. I had both of those symptoms and it actually ended up being bipolar disorder. Its a spectrum and a lot of people don’t have manic episodes all the time, some mainly have depressive episodes or mixed episodes where it feels like your brain can’t stop spinning and you can’t sleep. Those people have a harder time getting diagnosed.
Obviously I’m not your doctor or anything and I’m not trying to diagnose you. But maybe consider looking up some of the symptoms and see if any of them feel a little too familiar.
I only mentioned this because my life got a lot easier after my diagnosis and now I know how to take care of myself a little better. I hope you get though this hard time ❤️
Hiiiiiii (a regular here!!) I used to be the same with dating and then it finally clicked so don't give up hope. Also don't rule out the fact that u might not be straight! It felt so hard for me to flirt with men but flirting with openly bi women came sooooo naturally to me. I'm bi and in a relationship w/ a man now & loving it but yeah it took a relationship w/ a woman for me to understand dating 😅
hii reese, i obviously don't know you personally but maybe you could look into asexuality and being aromantic. they might help you get some answers to how you're feeling. sending lots of love
Oh the way that I feel you girl. I am 25 yo. I feel like all the people around me are getting married. Meanwhile I am living alone with my cat having only few close friends. Last 2 relationships I had ended super quickly, like those men just got over me in a blink of an eye. I know my value and I am unwilling to play games and accept bare minimum. I guess I am just starting to accept that it is what it is and I am on my own and all I got is me. Alsoooo I do suffer from insomnia too exept I usually cannot fall asleep. But there have been times when if I wake up in the night I will not fall asleep again. I need to take meds for that but they are not strong enough. Insomnia is an awful issue and IT IS A REAL DIFFICULT PROBLEM. Hugs from Poland
This might be a too personal question, but I wanted to ask if ad-money from RUclips is an important section of income for you. I always try to watch the whole ad and not skip it after 5 seconds because I want to support you, but does that make any difference for you or does it not matter at all?
we're like THE SAME person, i love u so much, u always make me feel validated and ur an incredible person
I have bartonellosis from a bug bite and it started w red lines from the bite and exhaustion I’m not tryna make you paranoid but just watch your symptoms and do your research to make sure u get adequate attention as bartonellosis might require longer abx
reese i’m sending lots of love your way 🫶🏼 take care of yourself girlie
You can substitute teach to supplement your income and create your own schedule 👍🏻😀
omg i love that you mentioned you college boyfriend haha i was wondering if we were ever gonna talk about him again
Try cherry juice or kiwis right before bed to help with sleep + ashwagandha
I feel the same way when I'm trying to date. I don't feel like myself at all while trying and all of the guys I was really into ghosted me as well lmao
Everything you just said I relate so much!!! About the insomnia, always feeling tired, being a lot when meeting new ppl. I also act like I’ve already know them and share a lot upfront. I’ve never felt so validated until this video! I have depression and anxiety and it’s so hard to live in a world where it’s always “you always have to do something if not you’re lazy” kind of mindset. I’m in a constant loop of oh I’m depressed but I can’t go to therapy bc I don’t have a job, but I need to get a job in order to survive, but can’t do that bc I’m depressed and so fort.
Thank you for talking about loneliness. I have felt it more intensely than ever lately and it's so comforting knowing others are going through it too.