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Being positive and happy all the time is what keep my suitors coming back. No drama and if I have issues going on I never tell them since I am not in a relationship with them. Also I never act needy. If they don't text or forget I just relax and let them do them. I learned that giving them freedom to choose is the best way to know if they are really interested. When a man really wants to be with you. He'll make it happen even when you are not sleeping with him. I date without sex at all. I date the old fashion way. Now I have 3 men who stays in the zone trying to win my heart. Why, because women should learn to love themselves enough that no man is needed to make them happy. Be fulfilled with your own life and he will want to be a part of your world.
Mathew Boggs How to keep him interesting forever 1. Give him your attention 2. Hive him micro challenges ;goal, gap, time line 3. Give him random wet kisses 4. Encourage his space 5. Give your self rejuvenation time 6. Give the relationship variety Have wonderful weekend💐 Accepted Challenge no 6 ! 🤗 What i found relationship always interesting is that we r always in the same vibe, evaluate our relationship and both crave challenges-variety♥️
Was looking for this summary! I gave him challenge to build his arm muscles and be ready that u carry me in your arms on my next birthday . He listened and seemed interested initially but I don’t see him motivated at all ☹️. Never touched those dumbbells after 😜
As a young man I remember the emptiness and the feeling of having no direction in life. From evolutional perspective men have one single task; to take care of the family. That's why young men are often reckless and all over the place. As soon they find someone they typically lose interest in goofing around. The next feeling of emptiness comes when you have kids. Wifes attention goes to the children, as it should, but the man often feels like he is just someone that pays the bills. Remember ladys, that your guy is not made from stone, he needs to feel that you appreciate the things he does for you and the family and here's where Matt's advices comes handy. You need own time as well as a couple. 👍🏻
Kyosti5000 try to organize the nice dates for your wife and hire a nanny one evening a week. Like, one day a week you aren’t parents . You don’t come back home until the kids are in bed. If you can’t afford the weekly nanny try to get friends to keep the kids for you and you do it for them as well once a week :) After work go for a walk with your wife if possible or take a bath with her. If not possible buy her her favorite pastry once a week or flowers Update me on this A question: do you feel like having a family and a wife made you want to work harder and make more money ?
@@legdaytacos62 Thank you for your kind pieces of advice. I love taking care of my family. I often buy something nice to my wife and I really love to se her smile. To answer to your question. I've always been a hard worker. It's just now that I have small kids and a house I need more money to pay for the expenses.
My husband and I have been married for two years now, and we definitely give each other space. My husband is a hobbiest and likes to enjoy his hobbies with his buddies, so they get time together; I get quiet me-time and time to catch-up with girlfriends. It definitely refreshes us and makes appreciate and love each other more when we come back together.
Yes, I agree both persons in a relationship need their space. It's absolutely healthy! If I don't get my time, I feel smothered! Someone who MUST be with their partner every moment is NEEDY!
I have a friend serving in Iraq. I sent a voice reading of a wonderful book called The Velveteen Rabbit. While listed as a children's book, it is about love. In the past I read this book cuddled up with a boyfriend who loved it! Thought I would see how a voice reading would do. He loved it! This way when ever he has had a hard day( he is a surgeon), he has my voice to uplift him.
1. Give him your attention. Let him talk 80percent 2. Mini challenges. 3. Random wet kisses hug him. 4. Encourage him to go fishing. Lol. guy time when hes restless. 5. Give yourself rejuvenation time. Your happy = hes happy. Gift. 6. Variety. Brand new thing every month. Hike.activity. play a game. Movie. Try something different
I agree with him that this 80% HIM/INTERVIEW approach is important on a FIRST DATE in particular. Let him tell you about himself FIRST. One of the mistakes that women make is they reveal too much about themselves and about their expectations right out of the gate without allowing space for a man to make an effort, first to REVEAL HIMSELF AUTHENTICALLY and then to get to know you over time so that you know that the person in front of you is the real him. If you give a man a laundry list of everything you want/expect he will attempt to be those things in order to sleep with you. It's almost irresistible for most men if you hand him a blueprint to yourself on the first date. He has to earn learning about your life by revealing himself so you know whether you are actually interested in him first!
Apologies mam! I am a man and we don't like mind games from women. For us, women are meant to be gentle, soft like flowers with some innocence. If she tries to play this game or some mind game intentionally make us do something then I think we can't trust that woman for a lifetime relationship. Unfortunately! And sometimes, it's a huge turn off.
Not a realistic approach. A long list of demands will not inspire him. Men's list include the woman being a teenage beauty. Can that be fulfilled? It makes the woman appear like someone looking for a slave.
@@krishnatejadubbaka2542 but her comment isn't about playing mind games. Just don't sit on the first date talking about yourself the whole time and the laundry list of things you want. Allow the relationship to unfold naturally and he can learn about the woman over time. There is no "mind game" in that.
and that i find very interesting because i have found that with EVERY relationship ive had as soon as i start asking is when the problems start. its all about him and if not then there's demise.
Because I have a voice and use it... How I choose to do that in no way requires your approval or agreement. Arturo Asael, i see that you are some sort of speaker...your comment is even more bazzaar and arrogant .
When I would ask my man to do little things for me, I felt a better connection to him and thought he was happier I never actually understood what all this meant, now I do! Micro-challenges!
How to keep long distance relationship interesting? Edit: we had long distance relationship for 6 years until last year I moved to his city. I was asking for pandemic. Stop saying it doesn't work. We are living breathing prove that it works. And we are getting married and in my culture marriage is for life.
Don’t listen to the negative comments you can find someone local who could still end up cheating and lying to you. You run the risk with all relationships. The same rules he says can be applied to LDR.
I try not to hit my anger for my bf. When I felt angry,gently tell him how sad I was. Because an angry face is hard to love. I watching this video from japan. It was helpful for me! I can learn English and about love at the sametime. Thank you so much!
Thanks Mat, for another great video! I"m in a relationship with a man that has a career that causes him to be "dark"(he can't call or text) during the assignment. I write him letters to read when he returns, called After Dark Letters. I create guessing games, send him photos of funny things I see while I'm out and about, and I even code the letters so he has to figure out the order to read them. It's a way I can feel like I'm still connected and I can't wait until he gets home to see what I've created for him. P.S. He doesn't read the letters in front of me. I allow him time to read them by himself.
When each one is individually happy in his own world, and the other worries that he continues to be. Happiness is magnificent in your relationship. That's it. ✨🌈💞
Mathew I love minute 10! VERY important in every relationship! I have ended with love of my life cause he never permited me to have my own time or go somewhere without him. He had big problems with selfesteem and we were young that time. But that means everything. And doesn't matter how much you love someone you cannot support being only dedicated to him.
Hi, Mathew! I just want to congratulate you for your very successful youtube channel! I know you will go a long, long way! I have been consistently watching and gaining a lot of wisdom from your videos. You have been such a big guide towards my journey, in my love life and life in general. More power to you! God bless! 😊
“Hey honey, I’d love to do something new this weekend, would you take me out?” Four possible outcomes to this situation 1. Sure, sounds fun… plan something I’m down to do 2. Sure, sounds fun! (Weekend comes and he asks what I planned) 3. Can’t gotta work 4. He says sure then completely forgets
I have found that telling to each other new curious things keeps the relationship and him interested. I just write down some cool pieces of knowledge I get through my studies-conversations with others-media etc. which I think will interest him. In this way every time we see us I have some content he will listen with pleasure and will learn something from it. As I really appreciate people which can teach me something, open some new view, I also try to share to be interesting. Another thing is a list of really curious, deep questions which we have made (Internet sources) and try at least once a week to ask ourselves some questions to know a bit more of each other. The third positive thing I can mention is switching languages. Once a week we make an English day when we only speak English which adds a big variety to the story.
sounds helpful, i'm w him for 10 years and sometimes he kinda ignores me and i feel so... i don't know how to explain this... miserable? But yeah, relationship between me and my man is sometimes hard . but at least i enjoy every moment w him in bed . he was always so bad there but after i bought him 6 packs of natural drops spanish fly he wanted me to buy more of them (i think he literally said 100) so great results
My guy and I don’t live together and we can only see each other once a week. (Living and work situations) Neither of us is much of a texter and we don’t call each other much either. I find that we are always excited to see each other and the time we spend together is always great. Eventually we’ll spend more time together and more frequently but for now I think it helps that we’re slowly building a strong foundation of friendship and respect
That sounds like a perfect relationship. I like doing my own thing and I definitely don’t want to live with anymore. A close friend once a week sounds great!
I really like videos like this one which is aimed at people who are in relationships. I am married for almost 10 years and there are some nice reminders and good advice in this video. - Would love to see more of this kind of videos.
The part he says "I felt good because she felt good" Couldn't relate to more. I don't mind if *hit rains as long I can see her smiling. I know I've been a good husband and a father taking care of my family. Men are hardwired that way I guess.
Oh my heavens, every guy I've had a date with has talked non stop about himself. I encourage it of course as otherwise there would be no conversation as they never ask even a reciprocal question. And the one thing in common is they like to make sure you know when his birthday is and what he likes to do to celebrate....when they are over 50! Seriously.
Love your video, i think that's great advice! I found that not talking over text much or at all helps. For example if it's absolutely necessary you can text your man what he needs to know or whatever but other than that just exclusively communicate face to face. I feel like that makes life way easier and more relaxed because you don't have to care about what's happening on your phone or worry about your partner when you're with friends or at work. This might come across wrong but if both partners are on the same page about this, I find it very rejuvenating.
I tell him what I like about what he does so he gets the reward and so he will be more apt to do it again! For instance, we only see each other every or every other week. He chooses to call me every day. I love that and I have told him so! I value our phone callls!
Hi Mathew I just wanted to say I’m in a long distance relationship and all your wonderful videos give me imagination to continue to keep our fired up!!!! Thx for just being YOU!!! I’m very grateful 🙏🏼
So true i asked my hubby to wake me up at 5am and after I challenging him to do so he set his phone to 5am and when the alarm went off he literally wake me up he was very excited
My guy is a gamer. So I definitely give him his space. I’m like a few other people reading their comments. I am in a long distance relationship. How do you keep it fresh and exciting when you’re not together?
Since we have been on this quarantine we had to find new things and new ways to “date” from indoors. We still go out sometimes we aren’t hermits but with all this going on in the world it’s difficult. We started finding new foods and making them, we got subscription boxes from universal yum and hunt a killer, he’s been teaching me card games I’ve never played, we find local places that offer take home boxes like from the painting place. We buy the home kit pick it up and follow the video (like a paint and sip at home).
Such an interesting and informative ways and believed it's perfect. Well, my LDR I did not meet yet I let him take his time to do his thing what you called space and let him breathe not obligating him to see him most of his free time to chat. I observed he is happy with it. Liked let him talk more by getting his attention and give him a challenge
Matt, you are a gem! 🦄 You've got this thing figured out ! I'm so proud of you as a fellow human being! 👼🏆🙏💝 Honest! I can't thank you enough for the work you do 👍🙏 AMEN !
They say that love diminishes every number of years .. But my love has been 9 years .. Every time I think that I have overcome it .. I find I return to it strongly ..
So very untrue...I have been with my mate 40 yrs and we are more in love and even have more sex than ever....the sex gets better with age because men can last much longer,,women are multiorgasmic, and theynhave more time to.imduñge their senses in play...it can be an incredible time of life with the right partner...better than ever!
You know when you have a crush on someone ? And you can't stop thinking about that person 🤭 I find myself fantasizing when you're dating and in a relationship with someone helps keep it interesting , especially for the long term ! ❤️😁
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Give him chances to show off. Find something he's really good at, and take an interest in it, give him the chance to show off his expertise in that area. This is really good at the beginning of a relationship because again, it gives him the chance to show off and show you a good quality of his. And you taking an interest in something he loves? He's gonna go nuts if he's even a little attracted to you.
Hi there, Mat. I've been watching your videos for a while now, and as someone in a long-term relationship, can I just offer my sincere thanks for your insights into the male psyche? Sometimes life gets busy, and it's easy to forget to appreciate our favourite person, but your words have reminded me to pay him some proper attention. So, again, thank you.
Give him attention is what i did on many first dates. They thought i was fantastic but i knew they were not for me. I'm still on my journey yet very close to the goal yet closer to a forever relationship and appreciate advice here. Thank you Mat.
It’s amazing how different the advice is from relationship coach to relationship coach The women relationship coaches say NEVER kiss a man first always let him kiss you 😘 because it’s being masculine to assert yourself in this way. The woman should lean back and be the receiver of her man pursuing her. they also say do NOT show much attention to a man because he then doesn’t see a women as a challenge and is thus not interested in her. Who do we believe ?....
Hi Mathew Boggs. Inlove watching your vlogs. I am a Single mum of two Girls. And i am Currently in a LDR. I learned now how to my man keeps his interest on me. Thank you for this vlog..
Michelle Brown you show them attention when they are in front of you. To lean back: be the master of the time. Always be the one ending the date. Don’t message them first when you are away from them . Post amazing stuff you do on social media.
Magically read his mind? Lol you don’t “keep someone”. They decide to stay with you or leave. Yes, partners that are healthy and communicate well have a much better shot than the rest of us, but it’s ultimately up to each individual to decide what they’ll do.
Great advice Mat-- give him micro-challenges-- such a great way to look at the relationship and what men continually seem to need to be happy. Love it! Thank-you!
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I tell him how beautiful he looks. Yes, beautiful. Not handsome or any other manly way to say the exact same thing. "You look beautiful today" He loves that and always finds ways to dress up for me.
I tell my man, you've earned a coupon if our conversation is great! And text him fill in the blank questions. Keeps him interested in a cute way. He loves it! He'll text, can I use my coupon today.. It's the cutest!! When he's acting distant, I'll say, I challenge you to earn another coupon, the other one expired!! 🤣🤣🤣
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I'm in complete awe of this. I read a book with a similar message, and it was astonishing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Human Needs Psychology in action... love how you can take the best things from the Gottman's, Helen Fisher, Cloé and Tony and more, and then be able to make it easily understandable and immediately actionable. Bravo! :)
This is so mind-blowing I always get so bored when men talk to much, I feel they are not interested in me. What s the difference between a guy trying to impress and a selfish egocentric person?
Matt, what do you think about Dr. John Gray's research on NOT letting a man talk more than you? He mentions that talking more than you makes him like himself instead of you... What are your thoughts on this? I've heard conflicting messages...
I'm an extrovert, inverted by heartlessness (I'm 29% introverted, to be specific): I'm not Anti-Social, however Pro Me. The Anti-Social is an Introvert, who has no heart, therefore only wears an extroverted heart on his sleeve (pretend love for others): Mr.x is such a man. Does that explain it enough for you?
@@kre8504 No am not asking for an explanation.. am saying how to love them and understand the other because you are both too different... Like for example let's say am an extrovert attracted to an introvert and sometimes its just difficult because am not used to such cases so he would help us understand introverts love language and extrovert
@@Kristinngechi24 Oh, okay: I guess that is different for sure. I don't know quiet how to explain that one. I know as an extrovert, I like expressing love. I imagine its not so easy for an introvert to express his feelings (I imagine them as a closed book, that has a lock, you need the right keys to open), I imagine they are the opposite. I know men don't typically express their feelings, they must really feel like they are with someone whom they are comfortable/safe in sharing their feelings, as they are I believe typically taught not to wear their feelings on their sleeves, @ least that is what I've learned so far. As an Extrovert & Introvert: life has taught me, it is abt with the being with the right person & timing that I share my feelings: I'm more expressive of my feelings, just don't always make it obvious unless my love for that person is known by them. Maybe that would take a more in depth look in order to understand it?
Hey Mat, I’m one of your silent viewer. Here I come back to square one and I’m trying to apply your advices to my current situation which is getting to know each other. So,how to ask micro challenges to our potential partner? ( not boyfriend yet) and this is LDR. Hoping to get your opinion on this🙏.Thank you and more success to your channel from Cebu Philippines!
I am desperate for guidance because I don't know what to do anymore. If I can repair my relationship, whats going on with my boyfriend what he wants or what he's thinking, or if things are just in my head out of fear. We've been together for 3 years and lived together nearly the whole time. Long story short but he started to really pull away from me 9 months ago, I finally asked him in April what was going on and he said he loves me and is in love with me but that he feels like the spark and passion is completely gone, and that we've become best friends. Yet he tells me he is still in love with me and doesn't want to hurt me or him hurt but thinks its at a dead end. He has claimed we've done things to fix it but we haven't. We just got back into the same routine every day and only took 1 camping trip together. Whenever there is anything upsetting or conflict with our relationship (has happened about 5 times since April) he goes back to saying that he still thinks nothing has changed, he still feels that the relationship isn't going anywhere, that he doesn't think we can bring it back and doesn't know how. I've asked him over and over again what he wants, and what he needs, if he wants to break up or take a separation and he always says "idk". He will go from doubting it all and saying its done, to reaching over and pulling me close to him wanting to cuddle, and writing notes on our fridge saying "thank you for all you do for us, I love you, you're amazing", and every so often has days where he just writes me all day telling me I"m gorgeous and he loves me etc. HELPPPP!! I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should walk away and take a break or keep fighting to rebuild. I know I killed the attraction long ago because I was always so insecure, negative and a downer to be around, and I never did anything to encourage him, lift him up or make him feel good. But now idk what to do to fix this. some one please help, I'm desperate to find a direction
#1 what if he’s not a talker?! Especially on the first date, some people are shy.. My actual SO said maybe 4 words on our first date. Not many more on the second lol. I did the remark to him, and he said that he was actually really enjoying hearing and watching me talk 🤷🏻♀️ oki. Now, He talks a little bit more but he’s still not a talkative person.. just his normal personality. We have those very quite moments that we actually enjoy both.. I can talk, but I too have my moments when I’m silent, and we’re both comfortable with the silence, as long as we can see and touch each other, we’re good 😊
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Being positive and happy all the time is what keep my suitors coming back.
No drama and if I have issues going on I never tell them since I am not in a relationship with them.
Also I never act needy. If they don't text or forget I just relax and let them do them.
I learned that giving them freedom to choose is the best way to know if they are really interested.
When a man really wants to be with you.
He'll make it happen even when you are not sleeping with him.
I date without sex at all.
I date the old fashion way.
Now I have 3 men who stays in the zone trying to win my heart.
Why, because women should learn to love themselves enough that no man is needed to make them happy.
Be fulfilled with your own life and he will want to be a part of your world.
Great advice!
Yes!❤❤ im in this
Amazing!!❤
So true!❤ I am like that naturally!
Very true ❤️ I hope you finally get to meet The One and that you have a beautiful life with him!
My partner actually said to me "You are gravity! You are continually pulling me to you!" And that caused my heart to melt even more!!!!!
"The universe doesn't see your intention. It sees your attention." That hit home to me!
Where your focus goes energy flows!
Mathew Boggs
How to keep him interesting forever
1. Give him your attention
2. Hive him micro challenges ;goal, gap, time line
3. Give him random wet kisses
4. Encourage his space
5. Give your self rejuvenation time
6. Give the relationship variety
Have wonderful weekend💐
Accepted Challenge no 6 ! 🤗
What i found relationship always interesting is that we r always in the same vibe, evaluate our relationship and both crave challenges-variety♥️
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Was looking for this summary! I gave him challenge to build his arm muscles and be ready that u carry me in your arms on my next birthday . He listened and seemed interested initially but I don’t see him motivated at all ☹️. Never touched those dumbbells after 😜
you just saved 13minutes of my life
Step number 1: Find a man like Mat.
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Just be yourself. The right one will find you intresting for eternal ❤️
Being myself means accepting the fact that I’ll be alone for life 😫💔 and I can’t have that
I want kids and a family too someday
@@rbuk001 being single is not that bad. I'm loving it more now that I am in my forties.
The only problem is that most have horrible personalities.
Being oneself means being a B*tch.
Get away from this channel
You can’t fake love. Just be who you are and he will find you.
Challenges don’t work for narcissists. They always expect something in return, they don’t thrive off of hugs and love
So don't be with a narcissist
No one does kid.
@@AnantyaV pretty sure it was just some it advice man
Unfortunately, nothing works on a narcissist lol
As a young man I remember the emptiness and the feeling of having no direction in life. From evolutional perspective men have one single task; to take care of the family. That's why young men are often reckless and all over the place. As soon they find someone they typically lose interest in goofing around.
The next feeling of emptiness comes when you have kids. Wifes attention goes to the children, as it should, but the man often feels like he is just someone that pays the bills. Remember ladys, that your guy is not made from stone, he needs to feel that you appreciate the things he does for you and the family and here's where Matt's advices comes handy. You need own time as well as a couple. 👍🏻
Kyosti5000 try to organize the nice dates for your wife and hire a nanny one evening a week. Like, one day a week you aren’t parents . You don’t come back home until the kids are in bed. If you can’t afford the weekly nanny try to get friends to keep the kids for you and you do it for them as well once a week :)
After work go for a walk with your wife if possible or take a bath with her. If not possible buy her her favorite pastry once a week or flowers
Update me on this
A question: do you feel like having a family and a wife made you want to work harder and make more money ?
@@legdaytacos62 Thank you for your kind pieces of advice. I love taking care of my family. I often buy something nice to my wife and I really love to se her smile.
To answer to your question. I've always been a hard worker. It's just now that I have small kids and a house I need more money to pay for the expenses.
As a woman, I appreciate your comment and advice :) I hope to someday do this when I am married.
My husband and I have been married for two years now, and we definitely give each other space. My husband is a hobbiest and likes to enjoy his hobbies with his buddies, so they get time together; I get quiet me-time and time to catch-up with girlfriends. It definitely refreshes us and makes appreciate and love each other more when we come back together.
Every guy needs their space, so do woman 100%
Yes, I agree both persons in a relationship need their space. It's absolutely healthy! If I don't get my time, I feel smothered! Someone who MUST be with their partner every moment is NEEDY!
Everything the video said applies to both genders.
I have a friend serving in Iraq. I sent a voice reading of a wonderful book called The Velveteen Rabbit. While listed as a children's book, it is about love. In the past I read this book cuddled up with a boyfriend who loved it!
Thought I would see how a voice reading would do. He loved it! This way when ever he has had a hard day( he is a surgeon), he has my voice to uplift him.
Wow!
Great idea.
And giving instead of demanding.
Unique approach.
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1. Give him your attention. Let him talk 80percent
2. Mini challenges.
3. Random wet kisses hug him.
4. Encourage him to go fishing. Lol. guy time when hes restless.
5. Give yourself rejuvenation time. Your happy = hes happy. Gift.
6. Variety. Brand new thing every month. Hike.activity. play a game. Movie. Try something different
Thank you!
I like this
Matt I don't kiss on the first date.Im trying to.get to know him
Hugs and kisses
Let him talk 80% of the time? Because THAT sounds like a healthy, egalitarian relationship 😅
I agree with him that this
80% HIM/INTERVIEW approach is important on a FIRST DATE
in particular.
Let him tell you about himself FIRST. One of the mistakes that women make is they reveal too much about themselves and about their expectations right out of the gate without allowing space for a man to make an effort, first to REVEAL HIMSELF AUTHENTICALLY and then to get to know you over time so that you know that the person in front of you is the real him.
If you give a man a laundry list of everything you want/expect he will attempt to be those things in order to sleep with you. It's almost irresistible for most men if you hand him a blueprint to yourself on the first date. He has to earn learning about your life by revealing himself so you know whether you are actually interested in him first!
Apologies mam! I am a man and we don't like mind games from women. For us, women are meant to be gentle, soft like flowers with some innocence. If she tries to play this game or some mind game intentionally make us do something then I think we can't trust that woman for a lifetime relationship. Unfortunately! And sometimes, it's a huge turn off.
Not a realistic approach.
A long list of demands will not inspire him.
Men's list include the woman being a teenage beauty. Can that be fulfilled?
It makes the woman appear like someone looking for a slave.
Not all man are wired the same !! Or not all women want the same things . Just a thought
@@krishnatejadubbaka2542 but her comment isn't about playing mind games. Just don't sit on the first date talking about yourself the whole time and the laundry list of things you want. Allow the relationship to unfold naturally and he can learn about the woman over time. There is no "mind game" in that.
FYI-this is not only how men feel, women like and require the same sort of treatment...
Truth!
Yes you are very right.
and that i find very interesting because i have found that with EVERY relationship ive had as soon as i start asking is when the problems start. its all about him and if not then there's demise.
Because I have a voice and use it... How I choose to do that in no way requires your approval or agreement. Arturo Asael, i see that you are some sort of speaker...your comment is even more bazzaar and arrogant .
That's when I knew my marriage was over, when he no longer needed anything from me or asked anything of me.
Damn I love how he is all about his wife! 🌸 #Luckyher🥰
I have so much respect for men who are crazy in love with their wives (1man:1woman).
Trishamol Thomas I love that about Matt too.
Me too! I question dating coaches that are single. lol
The way it should be
of course, he has to be an example of his own sayings
While this will help... it will still depend on what kind of a man you picked.
Yes! Thank God i picked the right BF!
When I would ask my man to do little things for me, I felt a better connection to him and thought he was happier I never actually understood what all this meant, now I do! Micro-challenges!
I do my own thing. He lives me more.
To make a man like Matt, obviously you need good parents also. He has had good upbringing.
How to keep long distance relationship interesting?
Edit: we had long distance relationship for 6 years until last year I moved to his city. I was asking for pandemic. Stop saying it doesn't work. We are living breathing prove that it works. And we are getting married and in my culture marriage is for life.
Don’t do long distance relationships..! It just doesn’t work..
@@geneviveross4234: You're so right it doesn't work, cuz that person most likely cheating on you. Or lying to you about something !!
Lookup Matthew Coast
Find someone local.
Don’t listen to the negative comments you can find someone local who could still end up cheating and lying to you. You run the risk with all relationships. The same rules he says can be applied to LDR.
I try not to hit my anger for my bf.
When I felt angry,gently tell him how sad I was.
Because an angry face is hard to love.
I watching this video from japan.
It was helpful for me!
I can learn English and about love at the sametime.
Thank you so much!
Thanks Mat, for another great video! I"m in a relationship with a man that has a career that causes him to be "dark"(he can't call or text) during the assignment. I write him letters to read when he returns, called After Dark Letters. I create guessing games, send him photos of funny things I see while I'm out and about, and I even code the letters so he has to figure out the order to read them. It's a way I can feel like I'm still connected and I can't wait until he gets home to see what I've created for him. P.S. He doesn't read the letters in front of me. I allow him time to read them by himself.
When each one is individually happy in his own world, and the other worries that he continues to be. Happiness is magnificent in your relationship. That's it. ✨🌈💞
Give him, and yourself, the space! You both need that.
Mathew I love minute 10! VERY important in every relationship! I have ended with love of my life cause he never permited me to have my own time or go somewhere without him. He had big problems with selfesteem and we were young that time. But that means everything. And doesn't matter how much you love someone you cannot support being only dedicated to him.
Sounds like he was controlling
Hi, Mathew! I just want to congratulate you for your very successful youtube channel! I know you will go a long, long way! I have been consistently watching and gaining a lot of wisdom from your videos. You have been such a big guide towards my journey, in my love life and life in general. More power to you! God bless! 😊
“Hey honey, I’d love to do something new this weekend, would you take me out?”
Four possible outcomes to this situation
1. Sure, sounds fun… plan something I’m down to do
2. Sure, sounds fun! (Weekend comes and he asks what I planned)
3. Can’t gotta work
4. He says sure then completely forgets
lol why waiting for him to take you out when you can take him out instead? Men also appreciate women with determination and power
I have found that telling to each other new curious things keeps the relationship and him interested. I just write down some cool pieces of knowledge I get through my studies-conversations with others-media etc. which I think will interest him. In this way every time we see us I have some content he will listen with pleasure and will learn something from it. As I really appreciate people which can teach me something, open some new view, I also try to share to be interesting. Another thing is a list of really curious, deep questions which we have made (Internet sources) and try at least once a week to ask ourselves some questions to know a bit more of each other. The third positive thing I can mention is switching languages. Once a week we make an English day when we only speak English which adds a big variety to the story.
sounds helpful, i'm w him for 10 years and sometimes he kinda ignores me and i feel so... i don't know how to explain this... miserable? But yeah, relationship between me and my man is sometimes hard . but at least i enjoy every moment w him in bed . he was always so bad there but after i bought him 6 packs of natural drops spanish fly he wanted me to buy more of them (i think he literally said 100) so great results
I gave all my attention, he just take me for granted.
My guy and I don’t live together and we can only see each other once a week. (Living and work situations) Neither of us is much of a texter and we don’t call each other much either. I find that we are always excited to see each other and the time we spend together is always great. Eventually we’ll spend more time together and more frequently but for now I think it helps that we’re slowly building a strong foundation of friendship and respect
Hmmm Idk that sounds great if it works for BOTH of you I hope you have a timeline for increasing the level of contact and I wish you all the very best
That sounds like a perfect relationship. I like doing my own thing and I definitely don’t want to live with anymore. A close friend once a week sounds great!
I really like videos like this one which is aimed at people who are in relationships. I am married for almost 10 years and there are some nice reminders and good advice in this video. - Would love to see more of this kind of videos.
The part he says "I felt good because she felt good" Couldn't relate to more. I don't mind if *hit rains as long I can see her smiling. I know I've been a good husband and a father taking care of my family. Men are hardwired that way I guess.
Oh my heavens, every guy I've had a date with has talked non stop about himself. I encourage it of course as otherwise there would be no conversation as they never ask even a reciprocal question. And the one thing in common is they like to make sure you know when his birthday is and what he likes to do to celebrate....when they are over 50! Seriously.
Love your video, i think that's great advice! I found that not talking over text much or at all helps. For example if it's absolutely necessary you can text your man what he needs to know or whatever but other than that just exclusively communicate face to face. I feel like that makes life way easier and more relaxed because you don't have to care about what's happening on your phone or worry about your partner when you're with friends or at work. This might come across wrong but if both partners are on the same page about this, I find it very rejuvenating.
I tell him what I like about what he does so he gets the reward and so he will be more apt to do it again! For instance, we only see each other every or every other week. He chooses to call me every day. I love that and I have told him so! I value our phone callls!
Thanks for giving us the clues- and being a freaking genius!!!!!
Hi Mathew
I just wanted to say I’m in a long distance relationship and all your wonderful videos give me imagination to continue to keep our fired up!!!! Thx for just being YOU!!!
I’m very grateful 🙏🏼
I smile and giggle every time Matt mentions his Family anecdotes!! :)
So true i asked my hubby to wake me up at 5am and after I challenging him to do so he set his phone to 5am and when the alarm went off he literally wake me up he was very excited
My guy is a gamer. So I definitely give him his space. I’m like a few other people reading their comments. I am in a long distance relationship. How do you keep it fresh and exciting when you’re not together?
Look up Matthew Coast
Rose Soto THANKS!!!!
You are absolutely welcome! Helena Heart, Adrienne Everheart. And Matthew Coast along with this Matthew are the best!
I love the challenge to do new things once a month to create new experiences! I cant wait to start this!
Since we have been on this quarantine we had to find new things and new ways to “date” from indoors. We still go out sometimes we aren’t hermits but with all this going on in the world it’s difficult. We started finding new foods and making them, we got subscription boxes from universal yum and hunt a killer, he’s been teaching me card games I’ve never played, we find local places that offer take home boxes like from the painting place. We buy the home kit pick it up and follow the video (like a paint and sip at home).
thank you for this video i believe ladies need videos like this frequently.
Do you mean they lack basic knowledge on how to do basic things?
Such an interesting and informative ways and believed it's perfect. Well, my LDR I did not meet yet I let him take his time to do his thing what you called space and let him breathe not obligating him to see him most of his free time to chat. I observed he is happy with it. Liked let him talk more by getting his attention and give him a challenge
I really love your content and advices. Please please do make a content like this for long distance relationships 😊
I'm in an ldr.
Its honestly the same thing. Everything Matt says can be applied to any relationship.
Wow!!! I will treasure this valuable information!!! Thank you so much Matt
Hello mazol
Unfortunately after letting him talk 80% of the time, he rarely allows me to speak without interrupting me 😟
Maybe there is little of interest in what you say.
@@arturo165 Exactly, so he’s not the one for me.
@@MsRight-sb5ds so may wrong ones! right?
@@arturo165 yep
@@MsRight-sb5ds girl I'm already bored with you. It's you. You are the problem.
Matt, you are a gem! 🦄 You've got this thing figured out ! I'm so proud of you as a fellow human being! 👼🏆🙏💝 Honest! I can't thank you enough for the work you do 👍🙏 AMEN !
Now I get it why am still single 😂
HA HA HA HA
They say that love diminishes every number of years .. But my love has been 9 years .. Every time I think that I have overcome it .. I find I return to it strongly ..
So very untrue...I have been with my mate 40 yrs and we are more in love and even have more sex than ever....the sex gets better with age because men can last much longer,,women are multiorgasmic, and theynhave more time to.imduñge their senses in play...it can be an incredible time of life with the right partner...better than ever!
You know when you have a crush on someone ? And you can't stop thinking about that person 🤭
I find myself fantasizing when you're dating and in a relationship with someone helps keep it interesting , especially for the long term ! ❤️😁
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Give him chances to show off. Find something he's really good at, and take an interest in it, give him the chance to show off his expertise in that area. This is really good at the beginning of a relationship because again, it gives him the chance to show off and show you a good quality of his. And you taking an interest in something he loves? He's gonna go nuts if he's even a little attracted to you.
craving is a common word in Matt's videos 😂❤
Hi there, Mat. I've been watching your videos for a while now, and as someone in a long-term relationship, can I just offer my sincere thanks for your insights into the male psyche? Sometimes life gets busy, and it's easy to forget to appreciate our favourite person, but your words have reminded me to pay him some proper attention. So, again, thank you.
I love the time with friends we do this regularly it’s a refresh button
Give him attention is what i did on many first dates. They thought i was fantastic but i knew they were not for me.
I'm still on my journey yet very close to the goal yet closer to a forever relationship and appreciate advice here. Thank you Mat.
Trying together hobbies which we haven't mutual is fun...🤣😅🙈❤ I recommend it to everyone.😊
Love your positive attitude to relationships.
Hello ettie
It’s amazing how different the advice is from relationship coach to relationship coach The women relationship coaches say NEVER kiss a man first always let him kiss you 😘 because it’s being masculine to assert yourself in this way. The woman should lean back and be the receiver of her man pursuing her. they also say do NOT show much attention to a man because he then doesn’t see a women as a challenge and is thus not interested in her. Who do we believe ?....
Im a clinical psychologist the female non professional advice givers are giving the WRONG advice if they are saying this.
Fashionals! I love that word. Thanks for this video, Matt. Been a while since I got some new tips from u. Best regards.
Hi Mathew Boggs. Inlove watching your vlogs. I am a Single mum of two Girls. And i am Currently in a LDR. I learned now how to my man keeps his interest on me. Thank you for this vlog..
How to find the balance between showing them attention, leaning back, showing youre i retested yet leaving room for them to chase?
Michelle Brown you show them attention when they are in front of you. To lean back: be the master of the time. Always be the one ending the date. Don’t message them first when you are away from them . Post amazing stuff you do on social media.
Magically read his mind? Lol you don’t “keep someone”. They decide to stay with you or leave. Yes, partners that are healthy and communicate well have a much better shot than the rest of us, but it’s ultimately up to each individual to decide what they’ll do.
My friend who is the Youngest of eight kids said he felt like he had 9 parents. Someone was always telling him what to do…..well into adulthood.
haha, im fourty and only now starting to understand men little bit. partly thanks to him right there!
Great advice Mat-- give him micro-challenges-- such a great way to look at the relationship and what men continually seem to need to be happy. Love it! Thank-you!
@@oscarwilliamson1264 Hi Oscar, you made my day, thank-you for the compliment. I will be 65 in a couple of weeks, a proud grandmother.
@@oscarwilliamson1264 I live in L.A., and thank-you for your interest, but you are way too young for me. Good luck to you!
@@oscarwilliamson1264 Hi Oscar, yes you are too young, and I have a boyfriend. But thank-you.
@@oscarwilliamson1264 I don't use social media platforms, but you can send me your email address and I can put you on my mailing list. I do plan to launch a RUclips in Nov. and can send you an announcement.
Hello lynda
I tell him how beautiful he looks. Yes, beautiful. Not handsome or any other manly way to say the exact same thing. "You look beautiful today" He loves that and always finds ways to dress up for me.
I tell my man, you've earned a coupon if our conversation is great! And text him fill in the blank questions. Keeps him interested in a cute way. He loves it! He'll text, can I use my coupon today.. It's the cutest!! When he's acting distant, I'll say, I challenge you to earn another coupon, the other one expired!! 🤣🤣🤣
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I played "20 questions with my guy he loved it via text"
I'm in complete awe of this. I read a book with a similar message, and it was astonishing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Human Needs Psychology in action... love how you can take the best things from the Gottman's, Helen Fisher, Cloé and Tony and more, and then be able to make it easily understandable and immediately actionable. Bravo! :)
for me my talent in singing keep my man interested with me because when i am feeling sad or happy iwll just sing for him his favorite melody .....
Great video thank you! (and may I just say your wife is an extremely lucky woman!)
I really doubt it. She cheats on him. Everyone knows
Mat thanks so much this changed my whole life about when u said let ur man talk 80 percent of the time
This is so mind-blowing I always get so bored when men talk to much, I feel they are not interested in me. What s the difference between a guy trying to impress and a selfish egocentric person?
That one dislike gotta go sis🙄🤦 hop off the page if you don't fw Boggs
I’m glad I found your channel! You have fresh ideas and good humor! Love that!❤️
How do you do this on a long distance relationship? How do you keep him interested?
I would like to know this too?
Deep convos
My Him definitely loves the attention I give him and being intentional when loving him according to his love language.
😂😂😂😂 being the youngest is tough lol @ the biting
Mat if you can actually promise that … you’re a genius…
We like to talk about traveling. We discuss all the different types of trips we could take together.
Matt, what do you think about Dr. John Gray's research on NOT letting a man talk more than you? He mentions that talking more than you makes him like himself instead of you...
What are your thoughts on this? I've heard conflicting messages...
The only page I believe in and note all its points is your page
Love your vids. Make one for men. How to keep a woman intrested.
You should do a video on how to understand an introvert being an extrovert and vice versa
I'm an extrovert, inverted by heartlessness (I'm 29% introverted, to be specific): I'm not Anti-Social, however Pro Me. The Anti-Social is an Introvert, who has no heart, therefore only wears an extroverted heart on his sleeve (pretend love for others): Mr.x is such a man. Does that explain it enough for you?
@@kre8504 No am not asking for an explanation.. am saying how to love them and understand the other because you are both too different... Like for example let's say am an extrovert attracted to an introvert and sometimes its just difficult because am not used to such cases so he would help us understand introverts love language and extrovert
@@Kristinngechi24 Oh, okay: I guess that is different for sure. I don't know quiet how to explain that one. I know as an extrovert, I like expressing love. I imagine its not so easy for an introvert to express his feelings (I imagine them as a closed book, that has a lock, you need the right keys to open), I imagine they are the opposite. I know men don't typically express their feelings, they must really feel like they are with someone whom they are comfortable/safe in sharing their feelings, as they are I believe typically taught not to wear their feelings on their sleeves, @ least that is what I've learned so far. As an Extrovert & Introvert: life has taught me, it is abt with the being with the right person & timing that I share my feelings: I'm more expressive of my feelings, just don't always make it obvious unless my love for that person is known by them. Maybe that would take a more in depth look in order to understand it?
Thanks Boggs! Great advice ! 🙌🏽
Filling your own cup 😋🥰 that’s some great advice
Hey Mat, I’m one of your silent viewer. Here I come back to square one and I’m trying to apply your advices to my current situation which is getting to know each other. So,how to ask micro challenges to our potential partner? ( not boyfriend yet) and this is LDR. Hoping to get your opinion on this🙏.Thank you and more success to your channel from Cebu Philippines!
I am desperate for guidance because I don't know what to do anymore. If I can repair my relationship, whats going on with my boyfriend what he wants or what he's thinking, or if things are just in my head out of fear.
We've been together for 3 years and lived together nearly the whole time. Long story short but he started to really pull away from me 9 months ago, I finally asked him in April what was going on and he said he loves me and is in love with me but that he feels like the spark and passion is completely gone, and that we've become best friends. Yet he tells me he is still in love with me and doesn't want to hurt me or him hurt but thinks its at a dead end. He has claimed we've done things to fix it but we haven't. We just got back into the same routine every day and only took 1 camping trip together. Whenever there is anything upsetting or conflict with our relationship (has happened about 5 times since April) he goes back to saying that he still thinks nothing has changed, he still feels that the relationship isn't going anywhere, that he doesn't think we can bring it back and doesn't know how.
I've asked him over and over again what he wants, and what he needs, if he wants to break up or take a separation and he always says "idk". He will go from doubting it all and saying its done, to reaching over and pulling me close to him wanting to cuddle, and writing notes on our fridge saying "thank you for all you do for us, I love you, you're amazing", and every so often has days where he just writes me all day telling me I"m gorgeous and he loves me etc.
HELPPPP!! I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should walk away and take a break or keep fighting to rebuild. I know I killed the attraction long ago because I was always so insecure, negative and a downer to be around, and I never did anything to encourage him, lift him up or make him feel good. But now idk what to do to fix this. some one please help, I'm desperate to find a direction
Look into author John gray phd (wrote mars/venus and about 15 other books) hugely insightful...listening to him and matt has changed my life!✌❤
#1 what if he’s not a talker?! Especially on the first date, some people are shy.. My actual SO said maybe 4 words on our first date. Not many more on the second lol. I did the remark to him, and he said that he was actually really enjoying hearing and watching me talk 🤷🏻♀️ oki. Now, He talks a little bit more but he’s still not a talkative person.. just his normal personality. We have those very quite moments that we actually enjoy both.. I can talk, but I too have my moments when I’m silent, and we’re both comfortable with the silence, as long as we can see and touch each other, we’re good 😊
I’m a singel mom living in Sweden 🇸🇪 i find it hard dating, after my husband past away to cancer 4 years ago.
I gave up for everthing. It will never happen anyway.
You are all about making a man happy … what does he think when I ignore him . .?
Thanks Matthew for this great instructive video. Really appreciated. Bless 🤗
Love all your videos~ What should we do if our man are in midlife crisis? Do you have a video for that? Thank you Matt!
Giving him guy time is fantastic idea
Love your video from Somali .😍👍 Thank you. I'll try that 😊