Beautiful and meaningful words. I find my distraction from pain and sorrow in several ways; in nature, as its beauty soothes and heals, in my hobbies of knitting and photography, which takes my mind away from the feelings as I have to concentrate on what I am doing, and walking my dog, as she always brings me joy.
This was lovely. I think that in my culture we tend to be socialized that grief needs to be done in a miserable, depressed way. Sometimes we better memorialize those for whom we grieve by finding joy in their memory, life or hobbies. I’m sorry for your loss. We will never have the joy of of new life without the loss of life. 💗
Thank you, and I completely agree with you. It seems that, here in Denmark at least, we either avoid the topic of death or, when it does enter our lives, struggle to verbalize it or even normalize it. Which makes it all the more difficult to deal with - which is crazy given that it’s the one thing we all need to deal with, both regarding loved ones and ourselves ❤️
So sorry to hear of your sad loss Helle. I hope your short break will help you and your family. I thank you for sharing your thoughts, which I find very interesting. Sending love to you and your family
I don't know exactly how your videos appear in my list, but I'm so happy that has happened. As far as I live in Ukraine I have difficult times now and your videos help me a great deal. The nature of Denmark, your voice, your thoughts, the music you use, give me the opportunity to relax for a moment and to clear my mind. Thank you very much!
I've found distraction can sometimes feel as if you're not dealing with something... ignoring what you should be dealing with. But what I'm realizing is that it's getting me through something I have no control over and trying to find happiness through the loss. At first "happiness" is simply survival. I don't feel happy but I've moved one foot forward and then two. Like a locomotive... I'm building up steam. You definitely got me thinking this morning.
Sounds like the man who picked and arguement with you was an angel in disguise :) You have a really inviting, warm voice. I really enjoyed this video, thank you!
It is lovely to spend time with you Helle - very thought provoking and meditative...I share many of your opinions on things and welcome getting to know you through your musings. Thank you for sharing your life in this way.
Interesting point of view! Of course the flip side is if we don’t eventually process the emotion we are taking a break from, those distractions can slip into addictions of a varied sort. I certainly love my daily distractions! Even daydreaming is a wonderful way to take a break when we need to. ❤
Oh but I agree with that, completely. It’s a coping mechanism, not an escape. It’s sort of similar to when we experience a shock: our bodies (ideally) don’t let us take it all in at once because our systems need to take it slowly. We need to breathe and heal, or learn to live with it, one microstep at a time 💜
Peace to you and your family's hearts. Enjoy the get-a-way for these few days. Very smart pair of boots too :-) I've never done a cold water dip before, well intentionally.
I agree about the distractions!, especially in this very uncertain world we now find ourselves in! I have my new job, so that keeps me distracted,.Please take care! Until next time!
I so enjoy your musings in addition to the knitting. My condolences on your family's loss. It is like being untethered when your parents have both died, and I image the same with grandparents for those who have known grandparents (I didn't really know mine). I tried to buy En Dodsnat but wasn't able to even buy the Kindle version if I don't live in Denmark, but I see that it was made into a movie released in 2021, As in Heaven (Du Som er I Himlen). You likely know that already. Though I wish the book were translated as I'd prefer to read, I see I can access the movie on Amazon for a rental fee. I've experienced what you described since the death of my husband. I planned distractions for Christmas times in advance, for example, and the strategy has worked well. The waves of grief come, but I can still move forward and even experience joy. I had written down hilarious things he said through the years, and since his death I've laughed out loud while reading them, a gift he gave me that continues even in my sorrow.
My condolences to you as well. You sound as if you are making some very healthy decisions, acknowledging the grief when it comes but still going on to live you life, with some precious ‘gifts’ your husband left behind. All the best to you 🩵 and thank you for your message.
I read somewhere that you can distract yourself easily by just picking up a pen and writing with your non-dominate hand, sounds like a challenge, it is supposed to create new pathways in your brain, guess I will be giving this a try, lol 😂 😂
Because you are in Denmark it's strange to hear you say that someone argued with you over something so seemingly trivial. I always imagined that most Danes are agreeable people (atleast to other Danish people). In another video you said your home was robbed a few years ago. This caught my attention because I have this idealised image of Denmark in my mind ("happiest country in the world" and all that). I wouldn't have thought any home robberies would occur in a small, quint Danish city. I know it's very naive of me though :)
Hi Daniel, I can (sadly) assure you that there are as many idiots, bad drivers, etc here as in most other European countries. I think our reputation in the world (rather than naivete on your part) means people are shocked when they hear this sort of thing. And perhaps, also, when people are generally comfortable (like many are here) they complain more about trivial things …
Absolutely beautiful and perfect for this subject
Thank you for your meaningful and heartfelt message. I always look forward to these videos❤
Thank you!
Beautiful and meaningful words. I find my distraction from pain and sorrow in several ways; in nature, as its beauty soothes and heals, in my hobbies of knitting and photography, which takes my mind away from the feelings as I have to concentrate on what I am doing, and walking my dog, as she always brings me joy.
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My knitting is my abstraction from dwelling on unhappy surroundings, like gale force winds for days on end. Or events I cannot change.
My condolences.
As a Catholic, my distraction is daily Mass. It reassures me, centers me & give me so much hope!!!
This was lovely. I think that in my culture we tend to be socialized that grief needs to be done in a miserable, depressed way. Sometimes we better memorialize those for whom we grieve by finding joy in their memory, life or hobbies. I’m sorry for your loss. We will never have the joy of of new life without the loss of life. 💗
Thank you, and I completely agree with you. It seems that, here in Denmark at least, we either avoid the topic of death or, when it does enter our lives, struggle to verbalize it or even normalize it. Which makes it all the more difficult to deal with - which is crazy given that it’s the one thing we all need to deal with, both regarding loved ones and ourselves ❤️
So sorry to hear of your sad loss Helle. I hope your short break will help you and your family.
I thank you for sharing your thoughts, which I find very interesting. Sending love to you and your family
Thanks so much, Karen. Love to you, too ❤️
As in the real world, happiness and sadness, goes together. Thanks for sharing your way of looking at things.
Thank you, Rony. And you are absolutely right 🌷
I don't know exactly how your videos appear in my list, but I'm so happy that has happened. As far as I live in Ukraine I have difficult times now and your videos help me a great deal. The nature of Denmark, your voice, your thoughts, the music you use, give me the opportunity to relax for a moment and to clear my mind. Thank you very much!
I wish you peace and love in Ukraine 💙💛 All the best, Helle.
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I've found distraction can sometimes feel as if you're not dealing with something... ignoring what you should be dealing with. But what I'm realizing is that it's getting me through something I have no control over and trying to find happiness through the loss. At first "happiness" is simply survival. I don't feel happy but I've moved one foot forward and then two. Like a locomotive... I'm building up steam.
You definitely got me thinking this morning.
You express it exactly how I meant: it is a coping mechanism when there is nothing you can do about circumstances 💗 Much love to you!
That was deep and true and beautiful. I really enjoyed your words. I hope you are writing them down.
Sounds like the man who picked and arguement with you was an angel in disguise :) You have a really inviting, warm voice. I really enjoyed this video, thank you!
I thought the same but also I think it was her perceptiveness and distillation or reframing of that experience-a moment of conflict-that made him so.
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It is lovely to spend time with you Helle - very thought provoking and meditative...I share many of your opinions on things and welcome getting to know you through your musings. Thank you for sharing your life in this way.
Oh, that’s so kind of you to say. It is appreciated 🙏🏻💙
Interesting point of view! Of course the flip side is if we don’t eventually process the emotion we are taking a break from, those distractions can slip into addictions of a varied sort. I certainly love my daily distractions! Even daydreaming is a wonderful way to take a break when we need to. ❤
Oh but I agree with that, completely. It’s a coping mechanism, not an escape. It’s sort of similar to when we experience a shock: our bodies (ideally) don’t let us take it all in at once because our systems need to take it slowly. We need to breathe and heal, or learn to live with it, one microstep at a time 💜
Hi Helle. Thank you for sharing such a lovely message. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much, Carla 😘❤️
Thank you for sharing ❤️🌻
My pleasure. Thank you for stopping by 🌺
Beautiful episode, Helle.
Thank you so much 😌
Peace to you and your family's hearts. Enjoy the get-a-way for these few days. Very smart pair of boots too :-) I've never done a cold water dip before, well intentionally.
Thank you very much, Marcus. Can highly recommend cold water dips btw.
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Lovely uplifting video Helle. I am sorry for your loss. Have a good trip.
Thank you so much, my friend! 🌷
I agree about the distractions!, especially in this very uncertain world we now find ourselves in! I have my new job, so that keeps me distracted,.Please take care! Until next time!
Thank you, Katherine. I agree, and yes a new job can be a perfect distraction and renewal 😊
I so enjoy your musings in addition to the knitting. My condolences on your family's loss. It is like being untethered when your parents have both died, and I image the same with grandparents for those who have known grandparents (I didn't really know mine). I tried to buy En Dodsnat but wasn't able to even buy the Kindle version if I don't live in Denmark, but I see that it was made into a movie released in 2021, As in Heaven (Du Som er I Himlen). You likely know that already. Though I wish the book were translated as I'd prefer to read, I see I can access the movie on Amazon for a rental fee. I've experienced what you described since the death of my husband. I planned distractions for Christmas times in advance, for example, and the strategy has worked well. The waves of grief come, but I can still move forward and even experience joy. I had written down hilarious things he said through the years, and since his death I've laughed out loud while reading them, a gift he gave me that continues even in my sorrow.
My condolences to you as well. You sound as if you are making some very healthy decisions, acknowledging the grief when it comes but still going on to live you life, with some precious ‘gifts’ your husband left behind. All the best to you 🩵 and thank you for your message.
Thank you very much.
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Thank you very much 😊
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Beautiful video 📹
You’re very kind, Waseem. Thank you! 😌
Nice presentation
Thank you, Pegu 💓
Good job
Thank you 😌
I read somewhere that you can distract yourself easily by just picking up a pen and writing with your non-dominate hand, sounds like a challenge, it is supposed to create new pathways in your brain, guess I will be giving this a try, lol 😂 😂
Because you are in Denmark it's strange to hear you say that someone argued with you over something so seemingly trivial. I always imagined that most Danes are agreeable people (atleast to other Danish people). In another video you said your home was robbed a few years ago. This caught my attention because I have this idealised image of Denmark in my mind ("happiest country in the world" and all that). I wouldn't have thought any home robberies would occur in a small, quint Danish city. I know it's very naive of me though :)
Hi Daniel, I can (sadly) assure you that there are as many idiots, bad drivers, etc here as in most other European countries. I think our reputation in the world (rather than naivete on your part) means people are shocked when they hear this sort of thing. And perhaps, also, when people are generally comfortable (like many are here) they complain more about trivial things …
I like that comment, "When people are generally comfortable they complain more about trivial things".
Very well put, and very true.