KEN READS | EPISODE 11: WAS I DATING AN AVOIDANT?

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  • Опубликовано: 4 ноя 2024

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  • @lfg4823
    @lfg4823 Месяц назад +19

    These letters are really cathartic… im slowly realising my avoidant ex and i are never getting back together… he just wants to keep me around for his ego and fear of abandonment

    • @jasevillarreal6667
      @jasevillarreal6667 Месяц назад +6

      It is nice to know we aren't so alone and anomalous. I've realized just how much my ex or exes have just not been working on their communication, even when they had mental healthcare coverage. Now I know that I can expect them to be consistent, honest, and responsive. If not, that's not for me to goad out of them one-sidedly.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Месяц назад +3

      Well said and accurate. Don't promise what you cannot deliver.
      Breaking the cycle is what counts. What you do matters most of all! ♥️
      Don't collect red flags and dealbreakers.

  • @ScottH7651
    @ScottH7651 Месяц назад +12

    my takeaway is if I"m getting jerked around like that, I lose interest. I know it's easy to say but I"m done chasing and putting up with crap like that. Sorry for your pain. I know it too well.

    • @tarkov_6
      @tarkov_6 Месяц назад +4

      Yup, I kept trying to work things out with a DA until they made it clear they didn't care. Lost all interest.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Месяц назад +4

      Healthy relationships are reciprocal. A two lane street. Mutual effort. Based on equality mutuality and reciprocity.
      Also alignment in values beliefs disposition character emotional maturity a blendable lifestyle worldview and shared goals. On the same page. Free of the dealbreakers.

  • @heatherhilderbrand7298
    @heatherhilderbrand7298 Месяц назад +4

    Love this format. Very informative as well as interesting. Keep up the great work.😊❤

  • @g.k.1285
    @g.k.1285 4 дня назад

    Omg, how similar are they?!! My avoidant ex blindsided me and used some lame excuses about family and some distant relatives he needed to help financially🤣 it had nothing to do with me, we had agreed we would take big steps later since we were in a ldr but he started stressing out especially once he met my family. Wow, just wow.

  • @songsforsale427
    @songsforsale427 Месяц назад +4

    Wait..She wants to marry him but she moves to another country?

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Месяц назад +3

      I think you're aware that LDRs are high risk and can be a recipe for disaster. There is also a concern for marriage of convenience. It's hard enough to make a relationship work with someone that lives around the corner.
      Proximity is continuity.
      It's not all on one person's terms.

    • @brennam954
      @brennam954 Месяц назад +2

      This whole relationship was unrealistic and weird. Makes me wonder if she's a bit avoidant too.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Месяц назад

      @@brennam954 Magic fairy dust doesn't make it work out.

  • @sapnapandey5922
    @sapnapandey5922 Месяц назад +2

  • @hetengzhang6940
    @hetengzhang6940 Месяц назад +2