Why Men Should Pursue Women, Not Chase Them

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  • Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024

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  • @luckyjinxer
    @luckyjinxer 3 года назад +106

    This needs to go viral. Such sound wisdom in a age that desperately needs that.

    • @casualsuede
      @casualsuede 3 года назад +11

      Sadly, I feel this should be common knowledge.

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +5

      Thanks!

    • @sharkdeepwater8
      @sharkdeepwater8 3 года назад +3

      You should check out Kevin Samuels. Kevin is laser focused on relationships. The OG is more eclectic in his advice. The OG gives advice in a way people who don't know can learn.

    • @patriceesela5000
      @patriceesela5000 3 года назад

      Woooorrrd

    • @Dimz30
      @Dimz30 3 года назад +1

      OG style always dropping that knowledge

  • @jamesjohnson1115
    @jamesjohnson1115 3 года назад +60

    The most profound statement I’ve heard in my 56 years on earth: “Something being chased doesn’t want to be caught.” That resonates with me.

  • @real_fjcalabrese
    @real_fjcalabrese 3 года назад +42

    Chasing is desperate and downright unhealthy. When I stopped being desperate my reaction to life improved greatly.

  • @temibobo6147
    @temibobo6147 3 года назад +37

    Respecting boundaries is key. I totally agree. I am glad you cut to the "chase" to emphasize it should be a "pursuit".

  • @SoulTouchathePoet
    @SoulTouchathePoet 3 года назад +44

    Pretty spot on. I say all the time especially to women, I'm not chasing after any woman. That's for boys who haven't matured to that stage of pursuing happiness

  • @blackgrip2316
    @blackgrip2316 2 года назад +3

    "Something that's being chased, doesn't want to be caught". In my 54 years I never considered that fact. You're on point beloved. My approach is always with the attitude "I'm a Prince, that's why...". And they'll end up sweating you, especially if your thorough and staying busy with other obligations. Stay blessed champ...💯💯💯

  • @dezgarrett2790
    @dezgarrett2790 3 года назад +6

    In any situation, no matter who is, desperation can be sensed a mile away. Some people wonder how a dude dates out of his league. One reason is because that guy has learned how to deal with a woman. You have to give a woman the time to miss you. Don't always be accessible to her. No matter what a woman tells you she wants a guy that she feels like is a mystery. A guy thats an open book, she'll read that book and throw it away and never pick it up again. This is good advice from the OG, gets my stamp of approval.

  • @jaysouthmusic8230
    @jaysouthmusic8230 3 года назад +8

    Real men chase their dream and purpose, not women. My father told me to never chase a woman and I've stuck to that advice ever since. Chasing a woman is like Tom chasing Jerry. Tom would always lose in the end because he wasted his time chasing Jerry. Every time you chase a woman, you will always lose in the end

  • @lordkuma7935
    @lordkuma7935 3 года назад +7

    Speaking from experience, desperation leads to bad decisions when it comes to women. Feeling that need can be very real, and lead to very real heartbreak and even worse. I'm blessed to have found that woman who I didn't chase, and didn't need to chase. I pursued her like you described, and it was the right fit. I am living proof that your words ring very true. Salute, my friend!

  • @raymondtarpley3946
    @raymondtarpley3946 3 года назад +5

    Totally concur my brother👏🏿✊🏿. Pursue a woman.....never chase a woman.

  • @noshoesonwithaaxeinmyhand52
    @noshoesonwithaaxeinmyhand52 3 года назад +22

    If you chase.. You will definitely get an advantage taken of.. GREAT VID OG!! SAAAALUTE🔥🔥🔥‼️‼️

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +5

      Salute!

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +6

      love the positive message, but please don't spam the comment section

    • @andyboyize
      @andyboyize 3 года назад

      @@TheStyleOG lol

  • @ForTheLoveOfSuits
    @ForTheLoveOfSuits 3 года назад +21

    I wish I’d had that advice whenI was younger. Took me along time to learn it. Once I stoped chasing women and concentrated on other aspects of my life women actually started to approach me. Women do like a busy assertive man.

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +1

      Indeed they do Michael!

    • @westfieldartworks8188
      @westfieldartworks8188 3 года назад

      Well said, Michael, and very true. Same goes for me. Your experiences in the past reflect my experiences exactly.

    • @Deephouse_Gent66
      @Deephouse_Gent66 3 года назад +2

      Very true, sir! The busier you are with your own affairs, the more women will notice you and strive to become one of your "affairs."

    • @westfieldartworks8188
      @westfieldartworks8188 3 года назад +3

      @@Deephouse_Gent66 I like how you put that, and totally correct and on point..

  • @buckrogers363
    @buckrogers363 3 года назад +9

    Very well said indeed. You should never chase. Always pursue and even then w/ patience and great care.

  • @micahandrews5241
    @micahandrews5241 3 года назад +5

    I needed to hear this! Get me back focused on PURSUING the woman I've been chasing. Thank you OG!

  • @ImkevinGBro
    @ImkevinGBro 3 года назад +7

    This video is soo accurate I can totally relate brotha! I’m 28 years old and I had this banging chick I would chase back in my early 20s and it was good till it wasn’t and it was brief. Long story short I made myself to available and it came off as desperate and it for sure pushed her away. Now that I’m older I keep myself busy and girls aren’t the number 1 priority. If she isn’t giving you the time of day when you do your part and attempt, I just keep it moving. There is way too much out there to get hung up on one.

  • @Ornelas11B
    @Ornelas11B 3 года назад +33

    I used to chase women. Then I quit drinking. Boy have things changed.

    • @Icythot-m6i
      @Icythot-m6i 3 года назад +3

      @Miles can I get uuuuhhhh, spicy chicken sandwich with cajun fries, WAIT A MINUTE THIS AINT POPEYES!!!!!!!???!?!?

    • @overk1llz
      @overk1llz 3 года назад +5

      Yes when I stopped drinking I realized I was hitting on low quality women.

    • @1960aragorn
      @1960aragorn 3 года назад +1

      Great advice OG 😄! Women are really an important addition to your life IF you want them but not need them! Enjoy the ride but always prioritate your purpose! Don't get to involved and be aware that in todays social media world, she's probably not yours, it's just your turn!

  • @queenofthesouth4205
    @queenofthesouth4205 3 года назад +5

    YAYYYYY Jeff has arrived!!! Sit back and get these lessons sons, nephews, brothers and uncles.

  • @paulwilliams2024
    @paulwilliams2024 3 года назад +2

    Oh just gotta say your channel is vastly under rated

  • @taterandy3958
    @taterandy3958 3 года назад +2

    Words of wisdom.... And mama used to say
    "Take your time young man"
    And mama used to say
    "Don't you rush to get old"
    And mama used to say
    "Take it in your stride"
    And mama used to say
    "Live your life"

  • @roberthenderson9363
    @roberthenderson9363 3 года назад +3

    This is spot on! I have been telling these same things to a friend of mine for years. He is the definition of a “chaser”. I am sending this video to him ASAP

  • @brothertravis7819
    @brothertravis7819 3 года назад +31

    I unsubscribed to all my mgtow channels a couple days ago. Appreciate your content brother 💪

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +6

      Welcome aboard!

    • @patriceesela5000
      @patriceesela5000 3 года назад +3

      Damn...The Style O.G leading men out of the darkness like Jesus did 2000 years ago...hallelujah

    • @brothertravis7819
      @brothertravis7819 3 года назад +2

      @A R Well sir, if you put your foot down and follow the path of God you want have to worry about that unless you plan on being by yourself and jack off the rest of your life. Mgtow are nothing but a group of soft men that let a few women break their heart now they don't wanna deal with women anymore. That's weak. I still wanna date. You gotta put your foot down bro and if she doesn't want to act right get rid of her and just replace her with someone else. Ijs

    • @nmorgan24
      @nmorgan24 2 года назад

      Excuse my ignorance... what is mgtow?

    • @WadælTheDisciple
      @WadælTheDisciple Год назад

      @@nmorgan24 you prob know already but Men Going Their Own Way

  • @spectre5x5
    @spectre5x5 3 года назад +3

    Great stuff! Your happiness starts from within. A woman can add fulfillment in your life but like you say, don't chase them. They won't respect you. Find a gem and get the right one. Women can also smell desperation and it's a turn off for them. Self confidence and self worth comes with experience... the right attitude is that you have a lot to offer her and you are the dude she should want.

  • @ernestcarter7073
    @ernestcarter7073 3 года назад +7

    Thanks for the break down Jeff! You're right about having the right mindset!

  • @theagent7514
    @theagent7514 3 года назад +8

    I can definitely say you have it right. Great video OG!

  • @quest3290
    @quest3290 3 года назад +1

    O.G. Is talking FACTS!!!

  • @BaC0n78
    @BaC0n78 3 года назад +4

    Definitely needed to go back to this video. I recently broke up with my gf but I do still want to find a new person to be with but my mistake when I first got with my ex is that I was chasing women in high school and stuck in a 5 year relationship. Now I'm more mature and taking care of my mental and physical health more than ever. Thank you O.G. 😁

  • @allans7281
    @allans7281 3 года назад

    Man wake up and listen to this man. I’ve had your exact thoughts for several years unfortunately some of my good friends just don’t get it. One things for sure we were not meant to be alone. At the very least guys find a good woman that watches
    your back

  • @glenngray6859
    @glenngray6859 3 года назад +3

    What’s up my bro Og. First thing my G my bro please finish your book . The family needs it. We love and need this wisdom written down to refer back to. Great video as always my bro. Salute my friend.

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +1

      Salute my guy!

    • @jmorgan0829
      @jmorgan0829 3 года назад +1

      Yes!! Yes! A book it greatly needed and a perfect gift for a few male friends I know

  • @ManovSteelo
    @ManovSteelo 3 года назад +6

    Great video (as usual) -- with one tweak. I think "have options" also needs to be added to the mix because that helps draw the line between chasing and pursuing -- even if your ultimate goal is to be with one person, working on different projects simultaneously allows the chaff to be separated from the wheat, and for the undesirables to disqualify themselves from the competition, in the end. Be an equal-opportunity employer and not a recruiter, and you'll do just fine 😉.

  • @liamtruth9596
    @liamtruth9596 3 года назад +1

    i told a friend of mine about this girl i found interest in today and he sent me your video. I'm glad I decided to watch it because you broke this down very good. Thanks a bunch Sir I really appreciate it.

  • @kidclan23able
    @kidclan23able 3 года назад +3

    Thanks Jeff for another great video. I was in a similar situation recently where a girl I dated was asking to be chased. I didn’t push through with it because I didn’t want to bend over backwards for her after just one date and after watching this video I’m glad I made the right decision. SALUTE!!! 💪🏽

  • @mde8682
    @mde8682 3 года назад +6

    That’s great information but their is only a small separation from the two the only difference is not being taken advantage of and know that you have other options no matter who it is you’ll find yourself in a small chase for them to feel appreciated.

  • @qmcsing
    @qmcsing 3 года назад +3

    I like your logical approach to this subject. I prefer my freedom, so I can do whatever I want. But if I do see someone that I’m interested in, I would make it be known I’m interested in her. If she’s not with it, I keep it moving, because I not going to burn emotional energy on a woman that’s not interested in me. Now if a woman is interested in me, and if I find some type of attraction her, then I will engage. So that’s how I handle women....

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +1

      I like that approach!

    • @brothacoffee
      @brothacoffee 3 года назад +1

      Excellent & Logical

    • @ImkevinGBro
      @ImkevinGBro 3 года назад +1

      This guy has been through some experiences good stuff bro

  • @ardenpowers7730
    @ardenpowers7730 3 года назад

    You are 100 % correct !
    Women are not possessions . . . good ones are those who will augment your life and will continue to grow with you for years to come.
    Thanks for sharing . . .

  • @shawnwilliams2381
    @shawnwilliams2381 3 года назад +10

    Been coming with the bangers lately, SALUTE!!!💪

  • @DonLionel
    @DonLionel 3 года назад +2

    OG always spitting that holy word... From Angola 🇦🇴 with love!!🙌🏽

  • @godheadlux
    @godheadlux 3 года назад +14

    The OG with another one 💯

  • @coreyholden4781
    @coreyholden4781 3 года назад +3

    Thank you for Explaining the Difference.😎🙌. The Internet show a lot of misconceptions

  • @Shawntraci
    @Shawntraci 3 года назад +2

    I concur with you on this. It took me some time, but I got to that point. You have to move differently if you want to find that special woman. Great work good Sir. And please keep promoting this type of content, because there is a whole lot of noise out there...

  • @meatman2024
    @meatman2024 3 года назад +5

    You definitely got it right . Wish I had the internet when I was growing up because I’d made better decisions when I came to women

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +1

      Appreciate that Vegan!

    • @meatman2024
      @meatman2024 3 года назад

      @Miles i like Buddha 😉

  • @harpr5530
    @harpr5530 3 года назад +29

    Never chase a bus or a women....because when you get left behind the whole world laughs at you.

    • @richardrussell4065
      @richardrussell4065 3 года назад +1

      damn thats good

    • @taterandy3958
      @taterandy3958 3 года назад

      Absolutely

    • @lloydkline1518
      @lloydkline1518 3 года назад

      Professional men do not chase woman; some great looking guys do not chase woman my late female cat got pregnant by neighbors male cat he chase her

  • @dwaynebellmon1202
    @dwaynebellmon1202 3 года назад +4

    Great! Information don't chase, replace in some cases

  • @The369Souljaman
    @The369Souljaman 3 года назад +4

    I asked out a girl from my work in person and she said yes!
    However, she says she has exams going on right now, so I said “No worries, if you want to hangout afterwards, text me.” Since then we just been making small talk with flirting here and there at work. Also texting a little bit but not blowing up her phone.
    Hopefully it works out between us. Till then I’m focusing on my own life 👌🏽

    • @ImkevinGBro
      @ImkevinGBro 3 года назад +2

      Yea bro sounds like your doing the right thing. I like how you give her the option to text you. If she does then cool if not then that’s cool too. At least you know how she feels if she does or doesn’t hit you back.

    • @xMikeyHardyx
      @xMikeyHardyx 3 года назад +2

      Oi what’s the update on this chief?

    • @catrashoo
      @catrashoo 2 года назад

      @@xMikeyHardyx She had a boyfriend 😟

  • @thetherapeuticcoacht.7260
    @thetherapeuticcoacht.7260 3 года назад +7

    Teach Sir! There are very classy beautiful and loving women out here that will respond to a honorable pursuit.... if you chasing me, it means I’m running and you don’t want anyone running from you.❤️ much love to you men living and loving us correctly.

  • @MoeJames1986
    @MoeJames1986 3 года назад +3

    I don't even like running- what I look like chasing a woman? Great video!

  • @bryantworley2922
    @bryantworley2922 3 года назад +2

    I don't have much to say, except that you have spoken words of truth, especiallyabout the "kind" and "nice" guys.👍

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад

      appreciate the feedback Bryant!

  • @chrisbunka
    @chrisbunka 3 года назад

    Yes! My sentiments exactly! Life is lived in the gray areas! We must learn to succeed in the areas that aren’t so clear-cut.

  • @davegibbs6423
    @davegibbs6423 3 года назад

    Excellent Style O.G.! All men need to see this.
    This is the dad talk most men don’t hear!

  • @westfieldartworks8188
    @westfieldartworks8188 3 года назад +1

    Wish I could give this video 10 thumbs up. Spent most of my younger life CHASING, not pursuing, unfortunately. Lack of direction and purpose in life creates men who chase, IMO. Thanks Jeff, and Salute.

  • @stevewise1656
    @stevewise1656 3 года назад +3

    Intention, perspective, and confidence will help you find the RIGHT women. This is a two way street, so gauge interest and ask yourself if that woman is worth pursuing.

  • @gneyman
    @gneyman 3 года назад

    That which is valuable does not impose itself

  • @Mr.Edwards233
    @Mr.Edwards233 3 года назад

    Salute on the vid O.G. Years ago I was once that chaser, hard chaser. Many lessons learned and plenty of mistakes made... Whew boy. Now I'm a very patient pursuer. But more about constant pursuit of my goals and purposes. Keep up the good work sir.

  • @lorddeezy4391
    @lorddeezy4391 3 месяца назад

    Definitely, more men need to understand this.

  • @ousamaabdu794
    @ousamaabdu794 3 года назад

    You are one of the most pragmatic and rationale when it comes to advice.. Salute Brotha style O.G!

  • @joecortez2332
    @joecortez2332 3 года назад +4

    Salute to you! May you keep having great success👍🏼

  • @philipwrencher2941
    @philipwrencher2941 3 года назад

    Very subtle differences had to learn to respect my own boundaries and know my true values. Thought needing the woman sounded nicer and shouted the value I gave her and didn’t realize it was devaluing me.

  • @howardhodge3622
    @howardhodge3622 3 года назад +1

    You hit it right on the money OG.

  • @johnyoung9113
    @johnyoung9113 3 года назад +1

    Something getting chased, usually doesn't want to get caught. ⛓

  • @trainboy15
    @trainboy15 3 года назад +1

    Uncle Jeff always dropping the knowledge. For a 25 year old male, I need to hear information like this.

  • @demarcusduopu2780
    @demarcusduopu2780 3 года назад +2

    Always giving me more knowledge n information that OG

  • @williamdavis5789
    @williamdavis5789 2 года назад

    Jeff, your videos should been seen by all men. It would solve a great deal of problems. Well done

  • @clesser87
    @clesser87 3 года назад +3

    I love watching your videos Jeff you are the MAN!!! Salute!!!😁

  • @themarvelousdandy7463
    @themarvelousdandy7463 3 года назад +1

    thank you sir, you just made it all make sense for me now.

  • @dwaynearthur1476
    @dwaynearthur1476 3 года назад +1

    Speak that TRUTH , correct Style OG ! 👍🏽🔥🔥.

  • @Oxfordstudios
    @Oxfordstudios 3 года назад

    You've got a very healthy approach that's very refreshing.

  • @reggaeriderr
    @reggaeriderr Год назад

    I appreciate ur mature look on the attire and female game

  • @CarlosAcosta-bq6yy
    @CarlosAcosta-bq6yy 3 года назад +1

    Hey man thanks for this video!
    This girl I was seeing for 18 months just dumped me and I texted her so many times I realize I was showing weakness . Started chasing her until she blocked my phone #.

  • @demondrerandolph2021
    @demondrerandolph2021 3 года назад +1

    This is knowledge that father's don't pass cuz they running the streets. I needed this thank you OG

  • @isaiahjackson4530
    @isaiahjackson4530 3 года назад

    Yet another good one OG... and to add on to your point “a woman should be an asset to your life, not the main focus”

  • @darrickbrisco5016
    @darrickbrisco5016 3 года назад

    Excellent video great analogy when u said a bank robber doesn’t want to get caught by police

  • @brentshern6199
    @brentshern6199 3 года назад

    Salute Mr Style OG, yes I have been a chaser. I'm learning now to catch red flags early on and not to get attached too soon. Also every woman I did chase or pursue, I ended up better off without.

  • @pierregeorge9050
    @pierregeorge9050 3 года назад

    Style OG, you continue to drop knowledge. Single men listen up. Pursue and don’t Chase. It’s about finding that special women. Salute to the family.

  • @RAF71chingachgook
    @RAF71chingachgook Год назад

    Well written and well delivered. Good stuff!

  • @johntowns802
    @johntowns802 3 года назад

    That's deep I am recently divorced and find myself leaning towards the chase....

  • @zacqueeentertainment7336
    @zacqueeentertainment7336 3 года назад +1

    Excellent advice as always. Keep up the great work.

  • @carlaspears2467
    @carlaspears2467 3 года назад

    This video is on point Jeff.
    Huge difference between being chased vs. being pursued. Thank you for clarifying.

  • @ravipeiris4388
    @ravipeiris4388 3 года назад +4

    Please create more videos like these as all men, including a middle age man like myself, can benefit from advice like this....or take a refresher course :)
    Ravi Peiris M.D.

  • @teddystyles2307
    @teddystyles2307 3 года назад +4

    Great piece as usual!

  • @FemininitywithMommaGail
    @FemininitywithMommaGail 3 года назад +1

    Love this! Good Stuff! Men are natural hunters. I do believe that a man should pursue. I have used the word chase because there are a lot of hungry desperate woman who chase men. Pursue is much more respectable! Great Job HQOG.🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

  • @cortezwonhunnit8582
    @cortezwonhunnit8582 3 года назад

    Big Facts brotha. I hv stepped my game up in a major way ever since I subscribed 2yrs ago Thanx alot Stylish OG

  • @jerrygerardi8552
    @jerrygerardi8552 3 года назад

    Good words of wisdom, sir... Reminds me of the classic R&B song from the early 1980s by Junior: "Mama used to say... Take your time, young man!"

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +1

      Don't you rush to get to get old!

    • @jerrygerardi8552
      @jerrygerardi8552 3 года назад

      (High pitch voice) LIVE YOUR LIFE!!! 👊😎👍

  • @latinkeys1
    @latinkeys1 3 года назад +1

    Sir, you are a beast, a fountain of knowledge. Have you ever been told you sound like Samuel Jackson?

  • @davidpaige904
    @davidpaige904 3 года назад

    Very informative Jeff! I agree if you don't set boundaries and have the right mindset you will experience relationship issues and fall victim to simpin.

  • @moo1654
    @moo1654 3 года назад

    You're on point OG... as you mentioned having options until you've finalized your pursuit how do you tell the women? Do you just fade them. Can you drop a video on that subject. How to finalize your pursuit

  • @jayfrankcastle9203
    @jayfrankcastle9203 3 года назад

    I learn this at an early age...and I am grateful for it. O.G. keep the content coming my G!

  • @marquesgeiger11
    @marquesgeiger11 3 года назад

    Excellent video lil different form your other content. But the delivery and message was digestible.

  • @TheBoomBoxGuru
    @TheBoomBoxGuru 3 года назад

    This video just confirmed I'm on the right path when it comes to this subject

  • @torreywalker8607
    @torreywalker8607 2 года назад

    Hey man! Great video as always. I was curious if you have ever discussed the difference between asking for a girls number. Or you Giving her yours.
    I PERSONALLY like to give mine out. Do you have a video on this subject O.G?

  • @toreyholden3263
    @toreyholden3263 3 года назад

    Preparation over desperation

  • @kenneth7826
    @kenneth7826 3 года назад

    Jeff...well said...i was measured in my approach to getting to know my future wife..no regrets...married 41 years..salute....

  • @Deephouse_Gent66
    @Deephouse_Gent66 3 года назад

    Yet another post of very good advice. Anything truly worth having only comes with patience.

  • @jc128744
    @jc128744 3 года назад

    Beautifully and articulately said sir. I am sure that there are are lot of men who have benefited greatly from this.

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад +1

      Appreciate the feedback!

  • @donalddavenport7136
    @donalddavenport7136 3 года назад +1

    What's up jeff.donald from Cincinnati checking in.once again you are so on point.keep up the great work btw I'm a pursuiter as always Salute

    • @TheStyleOG
      @TheStyleOG  3 года назад

      Right on!

    • @donalddavenport7136
      @donalddavenport7136 3 года назад

      jeff your videos are so on point.i just wanna know how you have became so successful in dating I hope this is not a dumb question

  • @michaelclarke7939
    @michaelclarke7939 2 года назад

    You are totally right.

  • @john172867
    @john172867 3 года назад

    Nice presentation... I like the way you explained the difference.

  • @Jebro439
    @Jebro439 3 года назад

    Great Spin on the topic. You get wiser by the day brother.

  • @brothacoffee
    @brothacoffee 3 года назад

    Excellent breakdown of the difference between the two. I agree 💯 because I've had similar thoughts about this topic except you articulate it waaaaay better than I could. Thank you OG👍🏼

  • @Saveren_
    @Saveren_ 3 года назад +1

    Perfect definition. I love all of this.

  • @Rain-qu3fp
    @Rain-qu3fp 3 года назад

    solid advice on your entire channel, thanks for everything.

  • @emanx2600
    @emanx2600 3 года назад

    I just found your channel today and I'm hooked with your videos. Thank you Sir..