How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others - Learn 7 key reframes or mindset shifts you need in order to stop comparing yourself with others.
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+Mario Tomic I just bothered to look at his subscriber number. Damn!
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lol. I just started watching all of that stuff. I'd love to attend a Julien Blanc boot camp. :-)
+Mario Tomic | Leo is great, but very deep tho. I like the ''fast-food'' channels aswell such as Brendon Burchard.
Realize there are no others. We are all connected and can only be separated by mental constructs and labels. Then it becomes a collaboration of energy versus a comparison. Great video Leo.
+Aaron Doughty That would be the deepest reframe possible. Will take LOTS of consciousness work to embody that. But a great one to shoot for.
+TeamTripleStar He did.
Buddha Nature..
Love this!
Well.. on the physical level we actually are. Atoms next to other atoms that have just different combinations that create "separate" entities. For example, the human body is whole.. but on a smaller scale.. it is an ecosystem of different bacteria, organs, fungus etc etc.
1. Thank you for never using Jump cuts.
2. Thank you for making your videos concise and helpful.
3. Thank you for existing.
good points (the first one is my favourite)
Re frames suggested
1. Self worth does not exist - No amount of accomplishments ever gives you worth. Sit down and think from where the worth comes from...things don't have worth
2.Human beings are too complex to compare...Apple vs Orange
3.Competition is stupid - Matured adult is creator
4.Yes I have handicaps just like everyone else....accept natural strengths and weaknesses
5.Being normal is overrated - accept you eccentricities
6.I'm too busy loving myself - take ownership of your life
7.I love to see people succeed....
Minal Ondhiya I was looking for this :) thank you just a nice quick review of what I learned :)
This is a great writeup!
Thx you saved-me time Now I can accomplish this
I don’t get it
Thanks for outlining them:)
“You’re a slave to other people’s value assignments”
Wow that line really stood out to me
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I have a big issue with this. I really see myself as a "loser" compared to others considering what I've done in life, and it's hard to shake
I know this feeling very well. Would you be open to tell us what you have done in the past?
Really most ppl are losers. Not in the sense that I'm shaming or saying I am any better. But few ppl live up to their true potential, or perhaps even few are truly happy. In that sense we are all failures. But to label failure or loser is subjective, it's comparing and it's illusionary. It really does not matter. But for the sake of relative realities, I've noticed the most judgemental, shaming, most assigning ppl, argumentative, need to win, subjective ppl in life that are least understanding, practical and loving ppl are the most unhappy. The ones to first throw stones and tell u how ur a failure r the biggest failures. The hurt, hurt others. U must have graditude for everything. Even failures because they teach. Even rude nasty ppl, they teach.
Some ppl chase money so much it loses all meaning. No matter how much they earn it will never be enough. Yet some ppl are penniless and find value in little things. Success is not how much u get, it's how much wht u get profoundly affects u. To be numb because u seek too much is a sad position to be in.
Brandon Davis same
Aye y’all law of attraction change this mindset or you’ll live by it, you deserve to love yourself and be impowered. Know all that confidence is in you, you just have to have the emotional maturity to choose you’re gonna live by the emotion that ultimately lifts you up
I compare myself to myself and look down on no one.my goal is to be better then the person I was yesterday.
+Javier SS how do you mean?
+Lydian77 the only time we should look down on others is if we are helping them up
+Lydian77 lol you definitely have a long way to go.
+Lydian77 no problem, acknowledgement is something all narcissist need. Lol
+Lydian77 right 😪
Imagine if this man never went through what he has been and never decided to push the boundaries we may never have had this channel and this energy and insight would be forever locked away and never actualised, I'm going to take this opportunity and follow it to the top. I would like to thank you for everything you do hats off to you sir...
Every teenager or preteen in middle school should take the time to watch this
hi an eighth grader here! im actually 15 but that doesnt really matter. i didnt go to school for a year and i changed three countries in 3 years. i came to the us a few months ago and started going to school right after, with my self-taught english. now im in second place in my grade but even though the top kid had taken our currenr classes last year, i can’t stop comparing myself to him. i just discovered this channel and many of this channels videos already have a place in my watch later list. i know that most of the middle schoolers are too immature or impatient for this but please remember that there are some exceptions in everything
im in middle school and i love self progress videos
@@seymakilic775 im 17 years old and i first started watching pickup when I was 11 then fitness then self improvement and when I turned 15 I started with spirituality so youre right
@@seymakilic775 you are comparing yourself to others? While I'm comparing myself to you wow. Interesting how it could all be a circle.
ZZZ like you said, its interesting how we always compare ourselves to people who are better than us, no matter the oppurtunities, the different backgrounds, and special learning abilities that we are all given. seems like humankind cant seem to stop aiming for better and not being grateful for what it already has. nice to see an army here btw!
If you are completely aware of your own unique individuality, it becomes the most honorable value that you have. In comparing yourself to others, it is easy to celebrate someone else's beauty, success and talent, without devaluating your own if you are aware of your individuality - or celebrate your own beauty, succes and talent, without devaluating the other. Individuality is unique, and unique is not competitive, dependend nor comparable. So, comparing yourself is not inherently bad. In fact, it is only natural and it serves many obvious purposes. It is how you value yourself within a comparison that makes all the difference.
Donna Roselyn well said. I agree with you. We are born to compare with others. Its how you take into perspective that matters. If comparing yourself to others affects your mind then you are probably devaluing yourself.
I will use some of your words to write about "comparing ourselves to others "and will put your name under it! beautifully written. thanks
I have to disagree with you, Donna. There is a fine, subtle difference between comparing yourself to others and observing their qualities, successes, etc. and so discovering whether it is something you would be able or want to develop within yourself. Leo makes this distinction very clearly. In this way you can see others and yourself as extensions of consciousness, all creating at their own rate and ability. This distinction has been very important for me and my growth, and I find I can truly rejoice in the success etc. of others. Namaste🙏❤️
wonderful advice Nona
i have been listening to your videos for a year now and i just wanna thank u for changing my life .
Does your life has improved
Be my girlfriend Tina lol
Me too!
@@TG-kt9vg lol that was good
I should be paying you money for these insights.
Smörhunden that is your opinion.
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Awesome vidéo, thanks you a lot Leo !
My notes of the video :
7 reframes :
1. No amount of accomplishement gives you worth ! ( spiritual insight)
2. Human-being are too complex to compare.
Differentes experiences, environnement, personnality, ressources, focus . Somme people want work more in spiritual and no money, some will focus on career and neglate health and relationship, some will focus on relationship and neglate career, … We see only the surface on people, the emmerged piece of the ice-berg. So
3. Competition is stupide ! Be a creator …
Focus on you, your own work, your purpose and value.
4. Yes I have handicaps ! Weakness… Reframe them positively and focus on your strenght ! Let go …
5. Being normal is overrated ! The average person is mediocre….
The goal is to be yourself ! The actualization process can be defined as the gradual ability to be ourself, to express our personnality.
6. I am too busy loving myself to having time to compare myself to others
7. I love to see people succeed ! ( Abundance mindset vs scarcity mindset)
Success of others are like a menu that you can take and add what they have to your vision. Divorce the quality of the personne !
8.Being a creator open an infinite ressources and possibilities… ideas are infinite ! …
The only useful and positif comparaison is to see what is possible and expand your vision and how much you can have, transform and get of life …
DESTINATION : SOI-MÊME thank you😊
Thanks man!
I am gratefull for you i will make this comment as a refrence
1] There is no self worth. No amount of accomplishments will give worth to ur life.No human being is better than other human being.
2] Human beings are too complex to compare
3] Competition is stupid
4] I have handicaps. Focus on ur strengths
5] Being normal is over-rated. Being authentic
6] Love urself unconditionally
7] I love to see people succed
I can't believe I discovered this channel so damn late.
His values and his videos are priceless and yet they are absolutely free. Thank you so much man for turning our lives around !!!
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I like how deep and articulate this talk is, while at the same time, uses plain, straight-forward language that any layperson can understand and relate to. This is full of great insights.
I thought ( or my ego thought) I was doing well in life until I started watching your videos. Thanks Leo for giving me a mental kick in the ass!
35:25 to 38:24 that's the healthiest, best attitude. Very good explaination. Such truth. Amazing.
What you think is what you become. Think positive and center your life around these positive thoughts, and happiness will come to you. It's just meant to happen that way. Negativity will attract negativity, and likewise positive thoughts will attract positive things. It's all about the mindset.
Something that makes me feel really special is the fact that being only 16 I can, from your videos that make one think out of the box and question our socitey, get amazing advice/perspectives for the rest of my hopefully long lasting life. That truly excites me and I have to be grateful for your existence
What happened now
You have really inspired me. I had started losing myself comparing myself with people. thanks for this reminder.
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I came to realize that:
1. What scares me, I must face head on.
2. What I dread doing, I must do that first. What I dislike, I must learn to appreciate.
3. What I love, I must be indifferent towards it.
4. What I am, I must improve.
5. Who I am, I must find out more.
6. What I do, I must do better.
7. What I desire, I must be focused and work towards it religiously.
8. What I need to do, is never give up!
"Soon you will have forgotten all things. Soon all things will have forgotten you." - Marcus Aurelius
Point #1 actually changed my mood for the better.
This is a great gift to all who find it. Thank you.
Leo, I have shared your videos with my friends, but not one has listened! Why are they not as excited to learn? It reminds me of when the University of Kentucky announced that everyone who works there can now attend classes for free, why very few people signed up? I went back, took me a long time, but for me, it was an enormous blessing!!
Angela DeLorenzo Sometimes people don't understand the treasure they have been looking for so long is right under their feet ....but good for those who do 😋 ...like us
We know how amazing and life changing this channel is ..
Let the fools ignore it :)
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I love the 7th reframe, incredibly powerful.
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This video really helped me to see life in a more hopeful way. Reminded about self growth being very inspiring. Rip depression.
The key you mentioned I feel like is the lack of self esteem. Thank you for sharing these insights.
I've been having issues with myself and my negative, toxic outlook for years. I was first put in a youth psych ward when I was 16, and it seemed as though after every 'breakthrough' I quickly devolved into my previously neurotic state. I'm 25 now, and it had only gotten worse. i had literally not left my house in a year, never walked out of the front door once. honestly, finding your videos was the best thing that has happened to me in this regard. your videos have made breakthroughs in a matter of months, versus the years of work I've put in via other avenues. thank you, leo. thank you with every bit of me. I left my house a few days ago, and I feel alive again. looking forward to this path of self actualization and owning my life.
Hello , i know this was a long time ago. But i hope that everything is going Well for you 😊
You're an inspiration, a breath of fresh air and I appreciate the time you gave us all with this wonderful video.
Thank You!
This man's mind, understanding of himself, others and all of humanity and all life in an intellectual and spiritual way, and his ability to articulate in an authentic way, are a gift to mankind.
THIS VID CAME IN THE RIGHT TIME
I love watching actualized.org and I have recommended it to so many people who I know are lost and could benefit from these videos. Delighted the resource is here....
I definitely can relate to the 4th one. I have a handicap and still learning to accept it. I feel I'm at 85% of acceptance. More time will be needed in order to fully accept. I enjoy your videos cause it is guidance for becoming a better individual.
Great. I've suffered with 'neurotic comparison' my whole life. I have a friend i used to call in tears on a regular basis when i was younger and she would pick up the phone, hear my tears and ask me "are you comparing yourself to others or projecting into the future?". And while I've discovered some of your reframes for myself over the years, casually and inconsistently, in listening to this talk for the second time now, it's really sticking with me and making a difference. Thank you. I'll be listening again. And to more of your stuff.
Here is a strategy :
Don’t go out in public
Leo, firstly im from lebanon so in case that I'll have some difficulties explainning my own emotions and feelings, so the reason why I'm commenting here is because of u, unfortunatly I had an issue about what life is about and who to be confident and all that stuff until, one day i started getting into motivation and youtube to flip that around and i have been watching all your videos lately in about 2 years from now and i have tottaly changed everything about myself.
Finally i want to thank your for all the effort and energy that u put in to go deeply in these kind of stuff. much love man peace
Wow its good to know my thought process is "normal" and I can fix this. Thank you
It is true. If you stop comparing what you have and just enjoy it, accept it, things change.
I never compare myself to others and that is why I don't feel jealousy.
awesome mindset :) I am trying to get there too!
I think what you meant is envy. Jealousy is when you think someone's gonna take something away from you. & Envy is when you want something which others have
FYI, at this point, I click the "like" button on your videos before they even start. Your insight is literally changing my life one video at a time so thank you for sharing.
Love your subject matter! Always refreshing.
Strange how I always thought I wouldn't compare myself to others, but in reality I actually did. Even after about one and a half year of self-actualisation.
Thanks Leo.
After just watching this video i am feeling liberated. I cant wait to repeat this every day to my mind and finally form new belifs. Awesome video leo
The stopping comparing physical appearances part is so hard for me because I've been doing this my entire life, and just fantasizing about how maybe I would be able to live an enjoyable life if I was just attractive. I've ruined the majority of my life just doing that alone.
Going to watch this everyday. This is a huge issue for me. Thanks for this.
I really like the 'love reframe'. I've been struggling recently with comparing myself to my female friends, and I would NEVER begrudge them anything that may make their lives better, ever. I love them, and I'm happy for them if they're happy but I do sometimes find myself getting a bit mad/sad at myself for not having specific things, but I LOVE the idea of just adding those things to my life list.
What a brilliant idea. Happiness for all.
I was thinking to myself the other day, "how do I turn off that annoying obsessive social part of my brain". Well thanks Leo lol
Comparisons between yourself and the people around you can sometimes stop you from building a meaningful friendships, people get so stuck on envy & jealousy a dangerous game to live by. Overcoming this habit allows you be compassionate and humble and a better human being. Thank you Leo your amazing as always 🎉👍
Leo I love you and your videos you really helped me
+Enforged Thanks!
Okay. Ima cry now, I needed this because I have this problem & it makes me feel ugly on the inside.
I'm so glad he makes these videos, they always calm my anxiety. 💋 love you Leo!! Keep it up!!
lots of ways to kill anxiety, exercise and breathing exercises are good and cbt , also your hot lol
Yes
Such a enlightening speech!! Society and even our parents have taught us to constantly compare ourselves to others, it is time to consciously stop this bad habit! Thank you for this!!
Very well made video Leo but there are 2 more things:
8. being in the present moment
9. being unshakable
also the top of the food chain is awareness
Thank you sooo much for your great videos! I think these are the kind of teachings that me and all the people need to reach the best versions of themselves and don't get distracted by useless self-destructive thoughts
I fucking love you leo, thank you so much for these videos man
+shamroz khawaja take notes
I've just completed the 30 day challenge. 20 mins meditation each day ... I,ve actually been doing it a little longer each day. I'm a 53 year old man and I wish someone had told me to do this 30 years ago. Just the last 30 days has changed me so much, and it's all positive. Thank you Leo for putting yourself out there. For me life is becoming magical already, in comparison to what it was. You want to be a nobody ... i'm nowhere near that stage yet .. just now you are a F..king legend.
I'm an athlete, and I work hard to improve my skills.
so no matter how good I'll be or how much effort I will put into it- it doesn't make me worth anymore than anyone else (if at all).
then why am I participating in competitions? why do I get a medal? it's wrong because why do I get something that someone else doesn't? I'm not worth anything.
i don't run after the titles, I'm not hungry for success. but I have experienced the fear of being knocked off of number one.
so how should I go about this? put away my medals and trophies? stop competing?
stop training altogether?
I love the sport and enjoy making new elements and skills within the sport. love the feeling I get when I try new things and be creative. I enjoy the challenge whether or not I succeed to overcome them or not.
Noga Divone I arm wrestle competitively and I have the same problem but I think the solution is to go into the competition not with the mindset that “I’m gonna do my best to win this comp”. Say instead “im going to do everything in my power to do my best and if I can do that then I have succeeded”
I can't believe I never thought about turning my envy into a vision. This is perfect, I don't even have to visualize it, all I need to do is watching the people of whom I am jealous and getting myself motivated. These all make sense!
Your videos are extremely helpful and useful to me. Thank you
Eternal Gratitude Leo,’To have Profound love for your Life ‘has got to be one of the most inspiring sentences i’ve heard this year.In our Technological age We have forgotten the Internals are sooooo much more than the Externals.
The World needs now more than ever before people that are Alive-
So ask yourself what-
makes me come ALIVE? and then go out into the world and DO IT.
•You can rise up from anything
•You can completely recreate yourself
•Nothing is permanent you are not stuck
•You have choices, you can think new thoughts, plan new plans and dream new dreams.
•You can learn something new
•You can create new habits
••••
All That matters is you decide today and never look back!!!
PEEEEACE
God bless you LEO🤩
This is great advice! I feel my head is exploding with these thoughts
This popped up 6 yrs later but apparently I needed this msg! Thank you Leo! Happy 2023! ✨
Your words are amazing , I just can’t describe how much our life’s can change in a blink of eye by your words .
I couldn't dial into your videos at first, until I actually DECIDED that I need to change myself. Who I am, what I think and how I think. Between self help books and your site, I've found a new freedom. Im so excited about the things I'm learning about myself. I sometimes fall off, but am quickly back on.
I've done very well in life, but it was this that made me realize that earthly possessions are a temporary high, they are truly awesome when they don't define our joy, but add to it.
Thanks Leo.
Thank you for the inspiring video! You have definitely straighten our mindsets on how we should see ourselves and deal with comparison that has been deeply rooted in our genes.
Love the part that we are the creator of our own lives!
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28: 12 - reminded me of a quote - “Show me a sane man and I will cure him for you.” - Carl Jung.
Holy shit i just spend 1 hour to watch this. *pat myself on the back*
I know, me too :D I enjoyed it, he is such a smart person who loves to give good advice to people, I learned a lot
Very informative. One analogy that has helped me gain more self-awareness .
Picture yourself in a dark room, completely submersed in darkness in front of you is a door. Your whole life your looking up down left right every direction for a solution to your problem. Imagine I told you all you have to do is look forward and open the door. The door is you, you’ve analyzed everything around you in the external world with massive frustration you have forgotten that answer is within. Once I noticed this I realized my attitude towards other people was my biggest problem and it has changed my whole perspective.
Leo I love you you have changed my life
Been watching many videos from Actualized.org over the past few days. Really good! Helped me a lot!
Leo for world president!
Please!
Thank you for sharing new perspective.. Leo im frm lower class family in Southeast Asia and im here in middle east working and using and access free net here.. im drowning your juicy and deep content of your video. I can do my work while listening. This helps me a lot. I love reading books but i cant even afford to buy high quality self help book.. but your videos are full of wisdom and guides and technic. Bless you Leo!
Love from the Middle East ❤️
Thank you sir, I'm learning a lot from your videos.
You're my favorite person on RUclips. I love you so much! Thank you for existing
We love you Leo
I am so inspired by your talks. You are helping me to feel hope and happiness. Thank you! More importantly, you are helping me to see what's real.
I'm crying in the bathroom because I am the only one who can't publicly speak and sing like everybody else. I hate myself
I don't really care about being popular in school anymore. It doesn't even matter.
Hubert cumberdale you should hang out with nerds, modern world would not exist with out them.
+76h21 I totally agree! It is the mind that has given us all that we see which is artificial and abstract. Yes, the esthetics have played a role in the perpetuation of the human species. However, it is the mind of the people past that have given the opportunity for the perpetuation of the species.
+Ye Oo You're cool.
This is one of the most underrated self-development channels on youtube. In my view, your channel deserves much more attention because you keep creating high quality and high value content.
Great video! Exactly what I needed. :)
It's definitely a mental pleasure to watch your video with no noise and curtain closed.
Your abundant facial expressions, as well as concise background, draw our attention and avoid distraction.
in the beginning I was following this, but towards the end I lost you. you say that there's not value to any object, just what we place on it, but then at the same time you say you study remarkable human beings and look up to them. if everything is worthless, meaningless, then why are you placing meaning on certain characteristics rather than others? what's the point of self development ?
To use the mindsets that help you and drop the ones that don't. If you study remarkable people you'll pick up great mindsets, and live an awesome life. It's still all meaningless though, your ego doesn't want to accept that. It wants to feel pride and superiority.
Meaning works in a practical sense. You want to be happy for example, but this happiness only has meaning in a practical sense. It makes u feel good. But to the cosmos, when u die, it will not matter. To whomever cares if ur happy, when they die then literally no one and nothing will care if u were happy or not. So his lessons apply to the practicality of how u want to live, but it doesn't matter at all fundamentally. But what brings us most happiness is presence. Even some ppl find pleasure from pain so I thoroughly believe presence bring pleasure. It's that most ppl lose presence when they experience pain. They try to run from it mentally, and it's quite natural it actually takes a lot of training to for example stab urself in the foot and give total intentional focus to it. But in a practical sense there's not really a reason to intentionally hurt urself but life wears on us, there's all sorts of aches and pains we do our best to ignore. So it's all about what's practical. But u actually heal when u focus on those pains.
i always have this problem of comparing myself to this certain person like ‘oh this person wouldn’t have done this’ or ‘do what that person would’ve done’ and it makes me feel really bad about myself so i hope i can find myself and make my own decisions for myself!
Thank you Leo for this great work it is highly appreciated and am grateful to have found your channel, tremendously helpful in my life, this video was another eye opener to add to the mind :)
Money, cars, bitches....A JEDI NEEDS NOT THESE THINGS.
One of the only channels on youtube worth subscribing to
This stuff can help people and change lives and he always seems soo genuine
a great great great great great great great great channel and a great video all love and respect to you iam your fan from egypt
You still watching him?
Leo, you're changing my life. Thank you for all you do.
well, according to my faith, we have 100% self worth from jesus.
care to elaborate on that?
100% of zero is still 0
Ray Hoop that's sad
I absolutely embrace the info you teach. You present priceless material in a clear and progressive fashion. Ty!!
How to stop others comparing themselves to me?
leo i would like to thank very much man you have been playing a good role in life ever since
i stumbled on your videos man. keep coming them i dint know i could control my emotions its just mind blowing once again Thanks. Mulenga from Africa(Zambia)
thank you sir... its really really inspiring for me.. thank you so much...:)
thank you so much because now i can truly enjoy my highschool life because i realize that life is too short and to turly be happy we have to put all of our energy in things that benefit our life and make us a better person everyday
Leo is a beast
If u feel like u are not good enough for others don’t feel down because all you have to focus is yourself, your family, and your close friends those popular people that think they cool because they have more likes, they have more followers and people are attracted to them they are gonna be the one who are gonna be lacking and soon gonna lose that fame because as they get older their future is gonna haunt them our future is gonna be bright because we act as ourselves and not comparing to others we are all human beings
What do you think of Alan Watts' views?
YES LEO! I was just noticing myself doing this today then I come on and see that you uploaded a video about it. thank you!
It's so beautiful the work you do! I'm so grateful for bein able to watch you and learn from you.
The good stuff!