I think the key is to drop the labels of how we define ourselves. When I meet other people I do my best not to mentally put them into a box by labeling them. Labels are a form of judgment and cause separation. At a deeper level I believe we are all one so the less labels the less separation. Both towards labeling other people and mentally labeling ourselves. Great video bro and much love!
Aaron you are correct. Somehow the labeling people is pretty strong around many other individuals I know. my spouse always says exactly what you just said here
+Secret Agent I believe the richest people on Earth really do rule the show by the contact with the Gods themselves who created this universe reality. If there is or are gods. They pass down the guidelines to them as well as to any person, accordingly to their own life, position among others, needs and purpose. Why not? Just because we're no longer with a Religious authority in the ultimate control doesn't mean that the current power elite isn't also being guided to rule by 'divine' order. "Divine", Extradimensional, Alien, The Architect from the Matrix, the Aether, quintessence... whatever it is if there always were since the dawn of civilization as we know. If atheists are wrong then that's how it is, no matter how much envy and disgust anyone has against the ruling power elite. Just deal with it... or try to be one of them instead of judging and distancing, which will make anyone more and more poor and embrace poorness in general at some point.
+edymasta thanks for that. I already follows his channel. In fact I have already attended inner engineering and have been initiated to shambhavi. I have also personally seen him at the shambhavi just initiation. Actualized is still a deep look and a different approach to personal development.
+edymasta yes. but don't expect overnight change. It's going to take years and the change will be so gradual, that u will almost not notice anything. It's like slimming down. Between yesterday and today, there is not much of a difference, but one step daily and one day you will realize how far you have come.
I love how realistic this is. Instead of giving very far fetched future scenarios, you give genuine, realistic, common consequences. You provide a lot of value.
Leo, this is be far the most life-changing vid. just rewinding my life, seeing and feeling how I limited myself. Seeing the monster, that is judgement. Thank you for this lesson.
These videos are gold... like my mental have been so fucked for a long time and I just recently started watching these videos and iv been gaining control fast. I cant thank you enough for this mental relief brotha. keep em coming.
Leo, you posted this video 7 years ago (and all of the other videos I've immersed myself in the last 1 month) - I never knew of you until I heard your name in a forum. I came on here to search you out and I think so far I've covered about 19 of your videos. I'm leaving this comment on the 23rd of April 2023. I want to THANK YOU from the very depth of my heart and soul. You have lifted me from the miry clay. You've opened my eyes and all the shackles have fallen off. I am liberated and I will continue to be liberated as I apply all of your principles. I don't know where you are now but wherever you are Leo, please accept my deepest gratitude. You have no idea what you have done for me and others. God bless you and elevate you in all that you do. Amen.
So powerful. I think your best video to date. I have been babysitting my two young cousins since they were born. The boy is 10 and the girl is 5. Both are so smart. The girl, in particular, is pretty vocal and has already started picking up on her parent's judgments about people. One day my aunt and the girl were walking out of a store and some seemingly homeless people asked for money. My aunt said no. The little one later asked why my aunt said no. Her response was the people needed to get a job. Another instance was when my cousin called some people dirty because of the way they were dressed. She's 5. Children don't come into the world like this. I try to flip things around when I'm there and give a different perspective hoping it'll stick. This stuff starts so young. I see it in myself too. I can see where I've hated on rich people and men. We're all taught these things, until we wake up. Your raw, live admission of judgments helped me tremendously. Thank you.
Finally i find the answers to my questions,my doubt,my guilt...i hv exactly been feeling everything u hv said...creating that imaginary self of myself...i hv forgotten tje real me,whatever i do,i judge myself,i am so fake even when i try to be genuine i just cant,im suffering a lot,i thought i had depression..but now i realize it's not...its all the backfiring that's happening
So dead on! You do it without too much thought. Your exercise is perfect. Mindfulness should be practised everyday all day. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you are judging.
Key insight: judging others backfires into judging yourself: so be aware and do that less and less List for 20 minutes: your judgements of others Judgement of yourself
This was awesome Leo. I watch other people on youtube about self help like elliot hulse and some well known speakers like les brown and brendon burchard. However, I like your longer style videos and how they come across as more introspective for long term growth rather than a quick "pump up" motivational piece. Thank you Leo
The World is your mirror is a concept that helped me a lot, with non judgment. when I judge others I judge myself and the other way around. Oneness or non-duality. And it's not some spiritual wo wo.. without any practical application in our life. test it and be mindful about what you actually know about others.. and it's nothing! All you know is that you know the sens perceptions, but they themselves hold no story other than the one you apply. This is has made me appreciate everyone as they are and understand that violence is only grounded in unconscious behaviour and as for myself they are only hurting themselves. therefore conflict is an illusion that only brings suffering on it's own origin. As Jesus said: forgive them father for they know not what they are doing.
I've been into the "Work" for a long time, I 've seen the other side.. I' ve seen the significance of Time and Eternity. Then everithing fell apart. To remember oneself is a constant work and nothing must be taken for granted. I thank you Leo for giving me the opportunity to restart this journey again. There are no such thing as coincidences.
Was listening with one ear while working. Heard something about theft, and WHAM! I remember! I remember my mother stealing once, right in front of me, at Wards. I made a judgment against her, and then I struggled all my childhood and adult life with issues around stealing. Always noticing it, wondering if I'm being stolen from, stealing myself for apparently no reasons, and never understanding why. WHY. NOW I KNOW. BLESS YOU LEO. Bless you. I managed to fight my impulse to steal, but I never knew why. You have changed my life.
when you judge yourself negatively, you are disapproving yourself, you are giving yourself a reason to find yourself rejectable, you start unloving yourself, you see yourself as not good enough. sometimes we disapprove people that we don't find interesting enough, entertaining enough, like if it were their responsibility to entertain us, like a TV channel that we can change if it doesn't please us, the truth is that people don't exist to please you, they only have to be themselves, they only have to live. just like them, you don't have to be a super human, you don't have to be impressive, entertaining, interesting, you just have to be yourself. you are ok just the way you are, embrace yourself as you are, with all your flaws and virtues, the goal is to accept yourself and love yourself.
RIGHT! He is full of such love and light. Have a great day, Anmol! p.s. I would sincerely appreciate your feedback. I just posted my first video-I am on a mission to help people by articulating publicly all that I have earned in learned over the last decade on my self-development journey. I would appreciate your input on the video as it will help me improve. Thank you very much in advance for your time and feedback!
You are spot on, but what makes people judgmental and critical to begin with? I have someone in my life like this, but they aren’t a bad person...I have never understood why they were that way.
Wow this was powerful , I judge myself so harsh all the time . I’m struggling so bad with judgement . But you are right . In order to stop judgement of yourself. You have to stop judging others . Wow doubled edged sword ⚔️
I never judge myself. I have no opinion. But I am constantly on guard simulating others judging me. But this video is brilliant and I didn't realize what it was going to be based on the title.
I get mad when I learn about common judgements. Like judging the panhandlers. I never have the confidence to judge others. I'm the selfish privileged one. Lazy is just a malicious musconstrual the panhandlers tragic reality
As soon as the video ended, I found myself judging my surroundings again. And I got scared by the fact that I'm doing it constantly and I wanted it to stop but It made me feel like I'm stuck in a limbo. I was judging myself judging. So I unleashed my judging habit and let it judge freely while I was paying attention to it. judging stopped but silence followed. I didn't know what to do instead of judging because that's how I lived all my life and maybe the only way my unconsciousness and ego need to stay existent. Not judging meant annihilation of my ego. I found myself trembling and clueless but I thought of a word 'vulnerability'. This is how vulnerable I and humans are. I looked around sitting in a cafe and there were many other people. They all seemed as vulnerable as I am. We are all vulnerable beings looking for a certain shape of life that can possible hold us tight and prevent us from trembling, shaking, being afraid of making mistakes, being ashamed in front of others because we are not good enough and looking like a new born baby without a clue. We are endlessly begging for any kind of assurance or certainty as we are vulnerable from day one. But once you step into this dark, deep murky water with your own feet, stepping into uncertainty or uncharted territory, your life journey will finally, and truly begin. It's okay if you are scared. that's how beautiful our life is.
Thank you for this very insightful video. You are right. When I was little, I used to judge and make fun of other strangers way too much. Karma definitely punished me for it so I learned my lesson.
my god, this exercise made me cry a lot. It's look the bigger picture of many things. It helps me to know about myself more and in another way. Blessings
Yeah... I've realised, that our ego mostly consists of judgements and beliefs, but truth is that life is always much more bigger and broader than any other concept about it. We inevitably going to cut ourselves from opportunities with each judgement we make about themselves and others. Almost like unconsciously building walls and cages on your way. That's why it's important to be mindful about that in order to be free. Thanks, Leo, and take care of yourself.
Thank you!! Never noticed how judgmental i can be! Its amazing. All the shame the guilt that stems from that... Just thank you for clearing that up. Thanks a lot
All these examples are so freaking true! It's frightening! So much work to do on awareness of all these details! It is just everywhere!!! Even though I stopped judging people, all the subconscious is there, acting and refraining me every moment. :(
Emm! That's what stood out most to me in the video, as well. Have you watched a lot of his other videos? They are so helpful. p.s. I would sincerely appreciate your feedback. I just posted my first video-I am on a mission to help people by articulating publicly all that I have earned in learned over the last decade on my self-development journey. I would appreciate your input on the video as it will help me improve. Thank you very much in advance for your time and feedback!
Leo’s style of presenting information which makes you open minded to it , is very special and I think this is very important in this field of self improvement. Alot of people on RUclips who make self improvement may have very good recourses and knowledge but they miss the smart and charismatic way to present it . Thank you leo you’re..... oh excuse me I was about judging you
I just came across your videos tonight. I’ve known people pleasing is one of my worst qualities for quite a while. It’s only been through failing family relationships that I’ve gained the desire to want to sort out what’s really going on. I have a job where I can listen to anything on my phone all night long. I’ll be back for more Leo!
Leo, I'm permanently reflecting myself and get off track in putting myself together, not be forced into suicidal thoughts, I probably judged me about the fact that I'm frustrated, depressed and unsuccessfull in life and now it's a neurotic cycle that has it's roots in my subconciousness and I would need a long long time to break these negative emotions and my ego. But with 21 years I also have a lot of "normal" dutys to follow, in fact, I mess up everything while being trapped inside my head
Hello Leo. I am in lockdown with your videos committed to getting more self-actualised. I have fallen off the beaten track and even lost my wheels. I was shocked to see that my self judgement list was so over crowded when thinking negatively of others and yet, I got stumped when It came to positive judgements for myself , I wrote a rather five. I hope to knock down the walls together because I have been behind these forever.
I don't care if people have a lot of money. I'm happy living a simple life! If I ever came into a lot of money I would have no problem sharing it w others. Your videos are very helpful to me...thank you. 😊
I especially appreciated the insight about making snap judgments when we are young, about how we "don't want to be.." We lose our ability to grow freely into adulthood. Thanks!
Summary Judgement you place on others always imply to you. All judgements you make become a rule for your future events. The problem is you are not accepting the reality. You are being too rigid by creating these rules. These rules are arbitrary. You DONT have to abide by them. You need flexibility. Paper & pen exercise: 1. Make a list of judgements you make on people 2. Make a list of judgements you made about yourself 3. Include +ve & -ve both 4. Make a star next to the item you think will backfire a shit load on you. Stop judging other people to stop judhing yourself. Be mindful of how you judge. Judgement is very subtle. How often do you judge? What jokes do you make on people? Judgement is a double edge sword.
I’ve watched this video when you posted and it really opened my eyes. I thought I changed but watching this now again I realize that I’m still judging a lot. I’m more conscious but still hard not to judge. I judge someone and then at the same moment I’m thinking „no don’t judge, why do you judge?“ but why do I judge in the first place ?
i love how each new video you release is exactly what i need for where im at in my self examination. it almost feels like with each layer of the mind exposed and understood there then comes another predictable layer the person must struggle to grasp before moving on to the next
For the judgements I put a Star next to, I created a separate list with two headings - Old Mindset and New Mindset - to help reprogramme previous biases. I elaborated on the reason I judged certain things in the past and wrote a new perspective next to it ... found it helpful
Hit the nail on the head with this video, Leo. I wasn't aware how much my judgments were destroying me psychologically, but it makes sense. Also, I can attest to your idea about the woman who didn't get love from her mother, then devotes her whole life to her children. A girl I dated for a year is like that: she didn't receive hugs or attention from her mom.She told me that she made a commitment, when she had kids, to not be a mother like that. She has a daughter who is 9 now, but I've noticed how badly her daughter's behavior is. And this woman's life revolves around her daughter, she showers her with attention, love, and discipline. This has made it hard for me to date her, because every time she lets me in closer, she pushes me away and disappears for an extended length. She'll be very hot one day, then ice cold the next. She's also very neurotic: she drinks and smokes heavily. I think I have it figured out now, to a certain degree. Thanks, Leo.
Oh my goodness. when I saw my dad only cared about himself and showed his anger all the time, I guess I judged him.. Leo, you are right. sometimes, you need to care about yourself before other people. sometimes you need to show your feelings. I judged it is bad. Now I have been struggling because of my tendency I always put other people first, ignore my feelings. This video is also very brilliant! Yes, I am going to write about both positive and negative judgement lists that I made about other people and myself. Thanks!
YES judging them based on what you think you know about yourself. Actually it's quite simple and so just knowing that judging others is a reflection of one's self starts a process of creative thinking that brings forgiveness to the world. But you cannot stop judging, but it can only evolve your perception of your self. In time it is an eternal perspective.
To the person who compares himself/herself to others: The time has come for you to stop comparing yourself to other people. All of this comparison is just a game you play. But at what cost? In your mind, you keep thinking that you're not good enough. You create these stories that explain how everyone else is better in some way like he's funnier, she's prettier, he's a better speaker, she's smarter. Notice, that these are just stories. They only exist in your mind. They're only as real as you make them. If you want the truth, you can only find that in your heart. There, you'll realize the essence of your being. You are perfect. You are divine. There's nothing that could ever be better than you, exactly as you are right now. There is no comparison. Your worth is not defined relative to anyone or anything else. You are priceless. You are loved. with infinite love, The Universe, AKA you.
day 10: leo you make me smile. I just today realised that I am a total people pleaser and play the role of the nice girl very well. But at the same time for completely selfish reasons.
These are all things that I knew but no one could ever explain it to me as clearly as you just did. Thank you for all your help in others self awareness.
I can see now how this all connects, how judgments creates beliefs that forms the self image, and how easy and suddle a negative belief can be formed and how far can it spread.my situation is a lot like yours, I always judged my dad as a jerk in the past, and not only me but also my mom, and this made me a people pleaser. From all your videos, this is the one that made the most impact on me. Thank you Leo :D
Hey Leo. Love your videos. I am following you now for 6 months and i really see a good change in myself and i am proud of that. I just wanted to ask you how do I get along with negative people? My whole family is sucking all the positive energy out of me and i feel so miserable. I feel like i have nothing to live for. I would really appreciate it if you reply. Thank you and keep it up
+Miranda Kerr Perhaps not judging people as "negative" may help ;) This constant judgment can only make things worse... see they are doing their best. All the best!
+Actualized.org Leo, don't take me wrong, but "running away" and not facing the judgments one makes towards family members is incoherent to your message.... or am i misinterpreting it? thx
+Miranda Kerr I have a similar problem. Sometimes it's no so easy to maintain that distance. I try to not talk about personal growth topics because most my family has never dealt with them at all. If you try to teach math to a monkey, he will throw shit at you. That's just how it is. However, it's hard to avoid these topics if you (like me) are very passionate about them. It helps, tough, to know what your values are and to be very clear on them. The more uncertain you are the easier it is for people to attack you and drag you down. I recommend you to look for an exercise to find out what your true values are.
It's tough to call yourself out on your shit. Powerful stuff, Leo. Something to watch out for: even after direct consciousness of your true nature, there's still mounds and mounds of these "hidden rules" waiting to be uncovered. Awakening is usually not the end-all-be-all; the real work usually occurs after the fact when you uncover more and more of your conditioning as you become more and more authentic.
I love you man. You are real, and you're brilliant. I hope you never stop, and I hope I am able to come see you speak live and have a chance to meet you. You and Jordan Peterson are my two favorite guys.
This guy is fascinating and really helped me. I saw your videos a year or two ago, but now I'm ready to watch a few of your videos per week. Thank you Leo.
This is one of your better videos in my opinion. You have explained a truth that had totally escaped me. To me, what you have presented here is a practical application of Matt 7:1-2. I know you weren't quoting scripture here but what you have said lines up with scripture, and definitely with my observations. Keep up the good work.
I am so glad I found your channel. I've been struggling a lot recently. I have issues with depression and anxiety and I am trying to find a way to navigate and make sense of it. Thank you again.
Its hard not to judge! I never worked before and when I apply no call backs. I am in college probation for failing so many classes! I can't drive and I have no social life. I am getting fatter and I can't cook healthy! I honesty can't stop judging myself! I wish I had life figure out! Thank you for all your videos! Thanks they help me in the morning and right before bed! Thank you!
hey Leo! I really really appreciate ur video on u RUclips idk how I can possibly repay u honestly it will take me 3 lifetimes in order to show my appreciation. I know I sound crazy but I just thought I'd let u you know I am very very thankful for u an ur work here on RUclips!(:
Thanks bro. I feel i have been all judgement all my life bcoz of my mom who is also judgemental n i judge her d most. It feels like i have been acting all my life based on d judgements i made. U r a lot helpful
Thank you so much Leo. I needed this. I read the book "The Four Agreements". one thing pops up is "don't assume anything". so thanks Leo. Happy New year to you. looking forward to the next Video.
Please continue with these inspiring, extremely useful videos. It is rare that I really leave comments on videos unless it for a very good reason because I mostly get on RUclips for entertainment or information in a simple sense and admire good entertainers from a far hoping that they love what they do and if it is their true passion they will continue... but your content is simply inspiring and refreshing. I love informing myself and bettering my character and these videos give me more a sense of learning, viewing thoughts in a different, new way and see what thoughts of mine are beneficial. I am just turning 19 in about a week and I honestly feel like an old soul sometimes.... I feel like I have so much love, acceptance, kindness, longing to help,ease and inform sort of wisdom/thought process and I wish to make everything in my life the best that I can to my ability... I feel like I've lived longer than my life is because I have so much reflection and connection with my surroundings... idk I hope this makes sense, I went off topic but you rock man. Keep being yourself ❤️
This came at the best moment, and I was looking for a video like this yesterday. It's funny too, that just before I watched this video, I saw a movie and the main character really caught my eye, and I thought, "Wow, he's really cool," but subconsciously, I was comparing myself to him, and that's when insecurity and guilt came, like I wasn't good enough. So I even started emulating him a little bit. Anyway, now I see that those judgements/comparisons happen in almost every facet of my life, and affects my behavior in very harmful ways. Thank you for the insight; this is really going to propel me forward in my personal development. In fact, I can already feel the gears and cogs reworking and shifting in my mind while I find these hidden judgements that've been out-of-sight for so many years.
Oh thank you Leo, resonates perfectly! As a daughter of a very critical father I was suure that I will be completely different.. mostly when we become parents we realized that we had stucked in the same pattern.. unhappy unsatisfied don't knowing why.. finaly in those intense years I can see much more clearly and immediatelly my judgement patterns which are destroying my life... and than.. there is you!🙏 I really admire you for your honesty your openes is admirable.. and sorry for judging...😂 Much love❤️🙏
I love this video! I was so excited because I connected (before you explained it) about judging rich people. My father would judge rich people for wanting material things, and would always shame us for wanting to amount to anything. He only valued hard (physical) work. I've sabotaged my success so many times with money because I felt so guilty for succeeding. I have hte same judgements about other men who in my eyes are jerks and get all the girls but in my relationships i end up being a pleaser, because I'm bad about being a man. I will do this exercise. Thanks for the video!
Wow man thank you thank you thank you in every language, this is the biggest uh ha moment in my life. This was the reason of my miserable life! I been feeling guilty and robotic my whole life! Finally someone just articulated everything I felt!! God bless you! You keep doing what u doing!
+M4dernM4sic If you stop judging you will be perfect as you are. There will be no more need for further "self-improvement". You will go with the flow and do what you want to do in life
+vizuz Yeah I get what you mean :) It's a question of how you want to life your life. But since his videos are about self-improvement, judging is afforded to achieve that.
+M4dernM4sic That's just one side of self-improvement - self-acceptance. After that you are able to do whatever you want, but in non-neurotic way. You can't really accept yourself fully untill you get rid of all judgements, but benefits from it are soooo good.
WOW 16:50 Broke me... My dad was/is super non-expressive. Now I'm a single dad killing myself daily trying to do for my kids and I never take care of myself. I've put put on a ton of weight, I'm always stressed, tired, lonely and they are super ungrateful, so I do even more.
Sometimes judging is great in a way bc like if I judge more in my past I would of made less bad decisions back then with the humans I chose to surround myself around👂...LIKE FOR INSTANCE..I JUDGE NOW ON WAT PEOPLE I WOULD LIKE TO INTERACT MY LIFE WITH SO I WON'T GET INTO THE TROUBLE I DID WITH OTHERS FROM MY PAST💯...AS FAR AS ME JUDGING MYSELF I THINK HIGHLY OF MYSELF NOMATTER WAT HAPPEN IN MY PAST OR FUTURE..I LOOK AT LIFE LIKE THIS:NOBODY IS BETTER THEN ME FOR ME TO BE JUDGE OR TO JUDGE MYSELF..SO TALK TO URSELF WITH THAT STATEMENT EVERYDAY AND I PROMISE YOU ..YOU WILL NEVER JUDGE URSELF👏💯
i've been watching your videos on and off for a little more than a year now and I gotta say that I dont agree with you on some things and also the whole self-help-thing has kinda lost its appeal to me, as my opinion about it has changed BUT this video has really been an eye opener to me. All the judgements i made about (mostly) my mother and also my past self have forced me to become and be the complete opposite and cause me huge anxiety when I can not do that. So thanks for that!
I think the key is to drop the labels of how we define ourselves. When I meet other people I do my best not to mentally put them into a box by labeling them. Labels are a form of judgment and cause separation. At a deeper level I believe we are all one so the less labels the less separation. Both towards labeling other people and mentally labeling ourselves. Great video bro and much love!
Aaron you are correct. Somehow the labeling people is pretty strong around many other individuals I know. my spouse always says exactly what you just said here
+Secret Agent I believe the richest people on Earth really do rule the show by the contact with the Gods themselves who created this universe reality. If there is or are gods. They pass down the guidelines to them as well as to any person, accordingly to their own life, position among others, needs and purpose. Why not? Just because we're no longer with a Religious authority in the ultimate control doesn't mean that the current power elite isn't also being guided to rule by 'divine' order. "Divine", Extradimensional, Alien, The Architect from the Matrix, the Aether, quintessence... whatever it is if there always were since the dawn of civilization as we know. If atheists are wrong then that's how it is, no matter how much envy and disgust anyone has against the ruling power elite. Just deal with it... or try to be one of them instead of judging and distancing, which will make anyone more and more poor and embrace poorness in general at some point.
LoL
dude this doesn't make any sense, what do you actually believe?
Its hard when you naturally do it
This is getting deeper and deeper. This channel has changed my life.
+m4mario check out sadghuru, his channel has an assortment of deep topics
+edymasta thanks for that. I already follows his channel. In fact I have already attended inner engineering and have been initiated to shambhavi. I have also personally seen him at the shambhavi just initiation. Actualized is still a deep look and a different approach to personal development.
+m4mario that's nice. Do you recommend it?
+edymasta yes. but don't expect overnight change. It's going to take years and the change will be so gradual, that u will almost not notice anything. It's like slimming down. Between yesterday and today, there is not much of a difference, but one step daily and one day you will realize how far you have come.
+m4mario us you are right
Your channel is gold
+Phantom Zephyr Ⓥ Agreed.
+Phantom Zephyr Ⓥ It is himself who is Gold!
Gold pales in comparison to this channel.
+Phantom Zephyr Ⓥ Don't judge ;P
Horse Dude
Oh you are right lol :D
I love how realistic this is. Instead of giving very far fetched future scenarios, you give genuine, realistic, common consequences. You provide a lot of value.
Leo, this is be far the most life-changing vid. just rewinding my life, seeing and feeling how I limited myself. Seeing the monster, that is judgement. Thank you for this lesson.
+Daniel Ian Monreal My only judgement is that... Leo is the boss.
+Horse Dude For real!
u just solved the biggest issue of my life
Does you solved the problem 4 years later? :)
Leo Earth needs about 150 more years outta you so you better stay healthy!!
His work will live on
These videos are gold... like my mental have been so fucked for a long time and I just recently started watching these videos and iv been gaining control fast. I cant thank you enough for this mental relief brotha. keep em coming.
Leo, you posted this video 7 years ago (and all of the other videos I've immersed myself in the last 1 month) - I never knew of you until I heard your name in a forum. I came on here to search you out and I think so far I've covered about 19 of your videos. I'm leaving this comment on the 23rd of April 2023. I want to THANK YOU from the very depth of my heart and soul. You have lifted me from the miry clay. You've opened my eyes and all the shackles have fallen off. I am liberated and I will continue to be liberated as I apply all of your principles. I don't know where you are now but wherever you are Leo, please accept my deepest gratitude. You have no idea what you have done for me and others. God bless you and elevate you in all that you do. Amen.
The positive judgments part of the video felt like some sort of awakening. Really eye opening video my friend.
27:27 i seriously appreciate that you really went transparent in this exercise, love what you do ✨
I removed my like because I didn't want to judge this video
😂😂😂
Now you are judgemental about judging
So powerful. I think your best video to date.
I have been babysitting my two young cousins since they were born. The boy is 10 and the girl is 5. Both are so smart. The girl, in particular, is pretty vocal and has already started picking up on her parent's judgments about people. One day my aunt and the girl were walking out of a store and some seemingly homeless people asked for money. My aunt said no. The little one later asked why my aunt said no. Her response was the people needed to get a job. Another instance was when my cousin called some people dirty because of the way they were dressed. She's 5. Children don't come into the world like this. I try to flip things around when I'm there and give a different perspective hoping it'll stick. This stuff starts so young. I see it in myself too. I can see where I've hated on rich people and men. We're all taught these things, until we wake up. Your raw, live admission of judgments helped me tremendously. Thank you.
Finally i find the answers to my questions,my doubt,my guilt...i hv exactly been feeling everything u hv said...creating that imaginary self of myself...i hv forgotten tje real me,whatever i do,i judge myself,i am so fake even when i try to be genuine i just cant,im suffering a lot,i thought i had depression..but now i realize it's not...its all the backfiring that's happening
So dead on! You do it without too much thought. Your exercise is perfect. Mindfulness should be practised everyday all day. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you are judging.
Hands down the best person to change my life
Key insight: judging others backfires into judging yourself: so be aware and do that less and less
List for 20 minutes: your judgements of others
Judgement of yourself
Leo does legit have beautiful eyes though
Yes he does :)
That's a judgement lol
And a nice smile with a cute goat tee 😘😍
This was awesome Leo. I watch other people on youtube about self help like elliot hulse and some well known speakers like les brown and brendon burchard. However, I like your longer style videos and how they come across as more introspective for long term growth rather than a quick "pump up" motivational piece. Thank you Leo
Yes! I love the length and depth Leo goes into!
because his content is based on studies not just life experiences which is why his channel is really very helpful
The World is your mirror is a concept that helped me a lot, with non judgment. when I judge others I judge myself and the other way around. Oneness or non-duality. And it's not some spiritual wo wo.. without any practical application in our life. test it and be mindful about what you actually know about others.. and it's nothing! All you know is that you know the sens perceptions, but they themselves hold no story other than the one you apply. This is has made me appreciate everyone as they are and understand that violence is only grounded in unconscious behaviour and as for myself they are only hurting themselves. therefore conflict is an illusion that only brings suffering on it's own origin. As Jesus said: forgive them father for they know not what they are doing.
This video is super on point, especially now that a lot of people are judging themselves for blowing their diet during Christmas lol! Thanks Leo!
+Mario Tomic Hahaha.
I've been into the "Work" for a long time, I 've seen the other side.. I' ve seen the significance of Time and Eternity. Then everithing fell apart. To remember oneself is a constant work and nothing must be taken for granted. I thank you Leo for giving me the opportunity to restart this journey again. There are no such thing as coincidences.
Judging is basicly bad Karma
Positive judgement is a good thing
You've just made a judgment
Both of you
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@@idan7989 How?
I love that you went with such a minimalist aesthetic. It draws all the focus into what you are discussing.
Was listening with one ear while working. Heard something about theft, and WHAM! I remember! I remember my mother stealing once, right in front of me, at Wards. I made a judgment against her, and then I struggled all my childhood and adult life with issues around stealing. Always noticing it, wondering if I'm being stolen from, stealing myself for apparently no reasons, and never understanding why. WHY. NOW I KNOW. BLESS YOU LEO. Bless you. I managed to fight my impulse to steal, but I never knew why. You have changed my life.
what are you saying?
when you judge yourself negatively, you are disapproving yourself, you are giving yourself a reason to find yourself rejectable, you start unloving yourself, you see yourself as not good enough.
sometimes we disapprove people that we don't find interesting enough, entertaining enough, like if it were their responsibility to entertain us, like a TV channel that we can change if it doesn't please us, the truth is that people don't exist to please you, they only have to be themselves, they only have to live.
just like them, you don't have to be a super human, you don't have to be impressive, entertaining, interesting, you just have to be yourself. you are ok just the way you are, embrace yourself as you are, with all your flaws and virtues, the goal is to accept yourself and love yourself.
Honestly thanks
Your channel is gold... Your content deserves acknowledgement and appreciation
RIGHT! He is full of such love and light. Have a great day, Anmol!
p.s. I would sincerely appreciate your feedback. I just posted my first video-I am on a mission to help people by articulating publicly all that I have earned in learned over the last decade on my self-development journey. I would appreciate your input on the video as it will help me improve. Thank you very much in advance for your time and feedback!
You are spot on, but what makes people judgmental and critical to begin with? I have someone in my life like this, but they aren’t a bad person...I have never understood why they were that way.
Wow this was powerful , I judge myself so harsh all the time . I’m struggling so bad with judgement . But you are right . In order to stop judgement of yourself. You have to stop judging others . Wow doubled edged sword ⚔️
I love all the time and effort you put into these videos! They are really helpful :3
He knows.
I knew judging people was inturn harming yourself. I didn't know how exactly. These make much sense. Thank you
I really like your videos so far, Leo.
Pro tip: remember that when one finger points at someone else four more fingers are pointing right back at you.
I never judge myself. I have no opinion. But I am constantly on guard simulating others judging me. But this video is brilliant and I didn't realize what it was going to be based on the title.
I get mad when I learn about common judgements. Like judging the panhandlers. I never have the confidence to judge others. I'm the selfish privileged one. Lazy is just a malicious musconstrual the panhandlers tragic reality
As soon as the video ended, I found myself judging my surroundings again. And I got scared by the fact that I'm doing it constantly and I wanted it to stop but It made me feel like I'm stuck in a limbo. I was judging myself judging. So I unleashed my judging habit and let it judge freely while I was paying attention to it. judging stopped but silence followed. I didn't know what to do instead of judging because that's how I lived all my life and maybe the only way my unconsciousness and ego need to stay existent. Not judging meant annihilation of my ego. I found myself trembling and clueless but I thought of a word 'vulnerability'. This is how vulnerable I and humans are. I looked around sitting in a cafe and there were many other people. They all seemed as vulnerable as I am. We are all vulnerable beings looking for a certain shape of life that can possible hold us tight and prevent us from trembling, shaking, being afraid of making mistakes, being ashamed in front of others because we are not good enough and looking like a new born baby without a clue. We are endlessly begging for any kind of assurance or certainty as we are vulnerable from day one. But once you step into this dark, deep murky water with your own feet, stepping into uncertainty or uncharted territory, your life journey will finally, and truly begin. It's okay if you are scared. that's how beautiful our life is.
You miss important one on your list which is first on mine: "He/She is so judgmental"
haha that's so me
Thank you for this very insightful video. You are right. When I was little, I used to judge and make fun of other strangers way too much. Karma definitely punished me for it so I learned my lesson.
One has to embrace and embody both masculine and feminine qualities in oneself.
Thanks Leo. I'm watching your old episodes. It's totally worth it.
Actualized.org thank you Leo for trying to make this world more Conscious.
I can't stop laughing when leo shows the real authenticity of him about judging himself
my god, this exercise made me cry a lot. It's look the bigger picture of many things. It helps me to know about myself more and in another way. Blessings
Yeah... I've realised, that our ego mostly consists of judgements and beliefs, but truth is that life is always much more bigger and broader than any other concept about it. We inevitably going to cut ourselves from opportunities with each judgement we make about themselves and others. Almost like unconsciously building walls and cages on your way. That's why it's important to be mindful about that in order to be free.
Thanks, Leo, and take care of yourself.
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Thank you!! Never noticed how judgmental i can be! Its amazing. All the shame the guilt that stems from that... Just thank you for clearing that up. Thanks a lot
All these examples are so freaking true! It's frightening! So much work to do on awareness of all these details! It is just everywhere!!! Even though I stopped judging people, all the subconscious is there, acting and refraining me every moment. :(
Emm! That's what stood out most to me in the video, as well. Have you watched a lot of his other videos? They are so helpful.
p.s. I would sincerely appreciate your feedback. I just posted my first video-I am on a mission to help people by articulating publicly all that I have earned in learned over the last decade on my self-development journey. I would appreciate your input on the video as it will help me improve. Thank you very much in advance for your time and feedback!
Thanks Leo. This one made me cry. For you, for me, for all of us. We're so hard on ourselves and each other. I love your perspective. Very helpful
It's amazing how all the work you've done has manifested. I applaud your courage (here I'm judging..). Great work. Thank you.
Leo’s style of presenting information which makes you open minded to it , is very special and I think this is very important in this field of self improvement.
Alot of people on RUclips who make self improvement may have very good recourses and knowledge but they miss the smart and charismatic way to present it .
Thank you leo you’re..... oh excuse me I was about judging you
I just came across your videos tonight. I’ve known people pleasing is one of my worst qualities for quite a while. It’s only been through failing family relationships that I’ve gained the desire to want to sort out what’s really going on. I have a job where I can listen to anything on my phone all night long. I’ll be back for more Leo!
Leo, I'm permanently reflecting myself and get off track in putting myself together, not be forced into suicidal thoughts, I probably judged me about the fact that I'm frustrated, depressed and unsuccessfull in life and now it's a neurotic cycle that has it's roots in my subconciousness and I would need a long long time to break these negative emotions and my ego. But with 21 years I also have a lot of "normal" dutys to follow, in fact, I mess up everything while being trapped inside my head
Hello Leo. I am in lockdown with your videos committed to getting more self-actualised. I have fallen off the beaten track and even lost my wheels. I was shocked to see that my self judgement list was so over crowded when thinking negatively of others and yet, I got stumped when It came to positive judgements for myself , I wrote a rather five. I hope to knock down the walls together because I have been behind these forever.
I don't care if people have a lot of money. I'm happy living a simple life! If I ever came into a lot of money I would have no problem sharing it w others. Your videos are very helpful to me...thank you. 😊
So right Leo!!! You're awesome!!! Oops that was a judgement...
This was a new way of thinking about Judgments that I never thought about. You helped me expand my understanding. Thank you.
I especially appreciated the insight about making snap judgments when we are young, about how we "don't want to be.." We lose our ability to grow freely into adulthood. Thanks!
thank you Leo you are so wise and I found that the more I judge the more I feel guilty and inferior to others.
Summary
Judgement you place on others always imply to you.
All judgements you make become a rule for your future events.
The problem is you are not accepting the reality. You are being too rigid by creating these rules. These rules are arbitrary. You DONT have to abide by them.
You need flexibility.
Paper & pen exercise:
1. Make a list of judgements you make on people
2. Make a list of judgements you made about yourself
3. Include +ve & -ve both
4. Make a star next to the item you think will backfire a shit load on you.
Stop judging other people to stop judhing yourself.
Be mindful of how you judge. Judgement is very subtle. How often do you judge? What jokes do you make on people?
Judgement is a double edge sword.
Thanks ☺️
I’ve watched this video when you posted and it really opened my eyes. I thought I changed but watching this now again I realize that I’m still judging a lot. I’m more conscious but still hard not to judge. I judge someone and then at the same moment I’m thinking „no don’t judge, why do you judge?“ but why do I judge in the first place ?
i love how each new video you release is exactly what i need for where im at in my self examination. it almost feels like with each layer of the mind exposed and understood there then comes another predictable layer the person must struggle to grasp before moving on to the next
For the judgements I put a Star next to, I created a separate list with two headings - Old Mindset and New Mindset - to help reprogramme previous biases. I elaborated on the reason I judged certain things in the past and wrote a new perspective next to it ... found it helpful
You're a good person man, thank you for all these really helpful videos
Hit the nail on the head with this video, Leo. I wasn't aware how much my judgments were destroying me psychologically, but it makes sense. Also, I can attest to your idea about the woman who didn't get love from her mother, then devotes her whole life to her children. A girl I dated for a year is like that: she didn't receive hugs or attention from her mom.She told me that she made a commitment, when she had kids, to not be a mother like that. She has a daughter who is 9 now, but I've noticed how badly her daughter's behavior is. And this woman's life revolves around her daughter, she showers her with attention, love, and discipline. This has made it hard for me to date her, because every time she lets me in closer, she pushes me away and disappears for an extended length. She'll be very hot one day, then ice cold the next. She's also very neurotic: she drinks and smokes heavily. I think I have it figured out now, to a certain degree. Thanks, Leo.
Oh my goodness. when I saw my dad only cared about himself and showed his anger all the time, I guess I judged him.. Leo, you are right. sometimes, you need to care about yourself before other people. sometimes you need to show your feelings. I judged it is bad. Now I have been struggling because of my tendency I always put other people first, ignore my feelings. This video is also very brilliant! Yes, I am going to write about both positive and negative judgement lists that I made about other people and myself. Thanks!
YES judging them based on what you think you know about yourself. Actually it's quite simple and so just knowing that judging others is a reflection of one's self starts a process of creative thinking that brings forgiveness to the world. But you cannot stop judging, but it can only evolve your perception of your self. In time it is an eternal perspective.
To the person who compares himself/herself to others:
The time has come for you to stop comparing yourself to other people. All of this comparison is just a game you play. But at what cost? In your mind, you keep thinking that you're not good enough. You create these stories that explain how everyone else is better in some way like he's funnier, she's prettier, he's a better speaker, she's smarter. Notice, that these are just stories. They only exist in your mind. They're only as real as you make them. If you want the truth, you can only find that in your heart. There, you'll realize the essence of your being. You are perfect. You are divine. There's nothing that could ever be better than you, exactly as you are right now. There is no comparison. Your worth is not defined relative to anyone or anything else. You are priceless. You are loved.
with infinite love,
The Universe, AKA you.
day 10: leo you make me smile. I just today realised that I am a total people pleaser and play the role of the nice girl very well. But at the same time for completely selfish reasons.
These are all things that I knew but no one could ever explain it to me as clearly as you just did. Thank you for all your help in others self awareness.
There is so much value in your videos, I would literally pay for that stuff.
me too if I coud
I can see now how this all connects, how judgments creates beliefs that forms the self image, and how easy and suddle a negative belief can be formed and how far can it spread.my situation is a lot like yours, I always judged my dad as a jerk in the past, and not only me but also my mom, and this made me a people pleaser. From all your videos, this is the one that made the most impact on me. Thank you Leo :D
Yes great point - our judgements about others are always us projecting a quality that we have inside but haven't quite integrated yet.
you leo totally changed my life...omg, so gratefull to have found this channel
Hey Leo. Love your videos. I am following you now for 6 months and i really see a good change in myself and i am proud of that. I just wanted to ask you how do I get along with negative people? My whole family is sucking all the positive energy out of me and i feel so miserable. I feel like i have nothing to live for. I would really appreciate it if you reply. Thank you and keep it up
+Miranda Kerr I try to keep a safe distance from family. It's almost impossible to change family. Let them live their lives and you live yours.
Lol I go threw the exact same thing. Jim Rome said "sometimes you need to stay in touch but out of reach"
+Miranda Kerr Perhaps not judging people as "negative" may help ;) This constant judgment can only make things worse... see they are doing their best. All the best!
+Actualized.org Leo, don't take me wrong, but "running away" and not facing the judgments one makes towards family members is incoherent to your message.... or am i misinterpreting it? thx
+Miranda Kerr I have a similar problem. Sometimes it's no so easy to maintain that distance. I try to not talk about personal growth topics because most my family has never dealt with them at all. If you try to teach math to a monkey, he will throw shit at you. That's just how it is.
However, it's hard to avoid these topics if you (like me) are very passionate about them. It helps, tough, to know what your values are and to be very clear on them. The more uncertain you are the easier it is for people to attack you and drag you down. I recommend you to look for an exercise to find out what your true values are.
straight threw out the n word like a g... love how unapologetically himself leo is!
The "N" word 😄
Lmao wondered if anyone noticed. I was shocked
Man, you don't know how much I respect you!
7:27 I was actually shocked when you slipped up I always get deep into the video because you're so consistent.
hahahaha mee too!!
It's tough to call yourself out on your shit. Powerful stuff, Leo. Something to watch out for: even after direct consciousness of your true nature, there's still mounds and mounds of these "hidden rules" waiting to be uncovered. Awakening is usually not the end-all-be-all; the real work usually occurs after the fact when you uncover more and more of your conditioning as you become more and more authentic.
+DiagonalHorizon That's correct. Enlightenment is only the beginning of real self-development work. Which is why it's so important. A new hope.
I love you man. You are real, and you're brilliant. I hope you never stop, and I hope I am able to come see you speak live and have a chance to meet you. You and Jordan Peterson are my two favorite guys.
This guy is fascinating and really helped me. I saw your videos a year or two ago, but now I'm ready to watch a few of your videos per week. Thank you Leo.
Btw, i really appreciate your honesty and not trying to trick our minds or deceive us in any way! This video is exactly what i need!
This is one of your better videos in my opinion. You have explained a truth that had totally escaped me. To me, what you have presented here is a practical application of Matt 7:1-2. I know you weren't quoting scripture here but what you have said lines up with scripture, and definitely with my observations. Keep up the good work.
For my list, I would add "judgmental" as well...
I am so glad I found your channel. I've been struggling a lot recently. I have issues with depression and anxiety and I am trying to find a way to navigate and make sense of it. Thank you again.
Yoooo! The selfish mom judgment was mine. Oh boy, did I get my karma exactly as Leo explained it! This vid was deep.
Its hard not to judge! I never worked before and when I apply no call backs. I am in college probation for failing so many classes! I can't drive and I have no social life. I am getting fatter and I can't cook healthy! I honesty can't stop judging myself! I wish I had life figure out! Thank you for all your videos! Thanks they help me in the morning and right before bed! Thank you!
hey Leo! I really really appreciate ur video on u RUclips idk how I can possibly repay u honestly it will take me 3 lifetimes in order to show my appreciation. I know I sound crazy but I just thought I'd let u you know I am very very thankful for u an ur work here on RUclips!(:
Thanks bro. I feel i have been all judgement all my life bcoz of my mom who is also judgemental n i judge her d most. It feels like i have been acting all my life based on d judgements i made. U r a lot helpful
I’m almost 40, I’ve struggled my entire life and just realized the root of my insecurities.
Thank you very much Leo, you helped to not put people in boxes
Thank you so much Leo. I needed this. I read the book "The Four Agreements". one thing pops up is "don't assume anything".
so thanks Leo. Happy New year to you. looking forward to the next Video.
Please continue with these inspiring, extremely useful videos. It is rare that I really leave comments on videos unless it for a very good reason because I mostly get on RUclips for entertainment or information in a simple sense and admire good entertainers from a far hoping that they love what they do and if it is their true passion they will continue... but your content is simply inspiring and refreshing. I love informing myself and bettering my character and these videos give me more a sense of learning, viewing thoughts in a different, new way and see what thoughts of mine are beneficial. I am just turning 19 in about a week and I honestly feel like an old soul sometimes.... I feel like I have so much love, acceptance, kindness, longing to help,ease and inform sort of wisdom/thought process and I wish to make everything in my life the best that I can to my ability... I feel like I've lived longer than my life is because I have so much reflection and connection with my surroundings... idk I hope this makes sense, I went off topic but you rock man. Keep being yourself ❤️
Hey Leo, i just wanted to say thank you being such a positive influence in my life. you keep shit real no matter what and i appreciate you!
This came at the best moment, and I was looking for a video like this yesterday. It's funny too, that just before I watched this video, I saw a movie and the main character really caught my eye, and I thought, "Wow, he's really cool," but subconsciously, I was comparing myself to him, and that's when insecurity and guilt came, like I wasn't good enough. So I even started emulating him a little bit. Anyway, now I see that those judgements/comparisons happen in almost every facet of my life, and affects my behavior in very harmful ways. Thank you for the insight; this is really going to propel me forward in my personal development. In fact, I can already feel the gears and cogs reworking and shifting in my mind while I find these hidden judgements that've been out-of-sight for so many years.
this guy has made a lot of change in my life and I'm really really great full for you leo
Oh thank you Leo, resonates perfectly! As a daughter of a very critical father I was suure that I will be completely different.. mostly when we become parents we realized that we had stucked in the same pattern.. unhappy unsatisfied don't knowing why.. finaly in those intense years I can see much more clearly and immediatelly my judgement patterns which are destroying my life... and than.. there is you!🙏 I really admire you for your honesty your openes is admirable.. and sorry for judging...😂 Much love❤️🙏
I love this! Thank you for opening my eyes, nearly every point you made resonated with me.
I love this video! I was so excited because I connected (before you explained it) about judging rich people. My father would judge rich people for wanting material things, and would always shame us for wanting to amount to anything. He only valued hard (physical) work. I've sabotaged my success so many times with money because I felt so guilty for succeeding. I have hte same judgements about other men who in my eyes are jerks and get all the girls but in my relationships i end up being a pleaser, because I'm bad about being a man. I will do this exercise. Thanks for the video!
+Marcin .Gorecki Good insights!
Wow man thank you thank you thank you in every language, this is the biggest uh ha moment in my life. This was the reason of my miserable life! I been feeling guilty and robotic my whole life! Finally someone just articulated everything I felt!! God bless you! You keep doing what u doing!
If one wants to improve, one has to judge. Therefore judging oneself is important for self-improvement
+M4dernM4sic If you stop judging you will be perfect as you are. There will be no more need for further "self-improvement". You will go with the flow and do what you want to do in life
+vizuz Yeah I get what you mean :) It's a question of how you want to life your life. But since his videos are about self-improvement, judging is afforded to achieve that.
+M4dernM4sic That's just one side of self-improvement - self-acceptance. After that you are able to do whatever you want, but in non-neurotic way.
You can't really accept yourself fully untill you get rid of all judgements, but benefits from it are soooo good.
WOW 16:50 Broke me...
My dad was/is super non-expressive. Now I'm a single dad killing myself daily trying to do for my kids and I never take care of myself. I've put put on a ton of weight, I'm always stressed, tired, lonely and they are super ungrateful, so I do even more.
Sometimes judging is great in a way bc like if I judge more in my past I would of made less bad decisions back then with the humans I chose to surround myself around👂...LIKE FOR INSTANCE..I JUDGE NOW ON WAT PEOPLE I WOULD LIKE TO INTERACT MY LIFE WITH SO I WON'T GET INTO THE TROUBLE I DID WITH OTHERS FROM MY PAST💯...AS FAR AS ME JUDGING MYSELF I THINK HIGHLY OF MYSELF NOMATTER WAT HAPPEN IN MY PAST OR FUTURE..I LOOK AT LIFE LIKE THIS:NOBODY IS BETTER THEN ME FOR ME TO BE JUDGE OR TO JUDGE MYSELF..SO TALK TO URSELF WITH THAT STATEMENT EVERYDAY AND I PROMISE YOU ..YOU WILL NEVER JUDGE URSELF👏💯
i've been watching your videos on and off for a little more than a year now and I gotta say that I dont agree with you on some things and also the whole self-help-thing has kinda lost its appeal to me, as my opinion about it has changed BUT this video has really been an eye opener to me. All the judgements i made about (mostly) my mother and also my past self have forced me to become and be the complete opposite and cause me huge anxiety when I can not do that. So thanks for that!