This made me cry so hard. There is so much trauma with adoption. I have had my eyes opened to the realities of it all. The “savior” idea is what gets me - you weren’t saved from anything. You lost so much. Of course you have loving adoptive parents, in your case, but you should be able to have all the emotions and feelings. There is no single narrative, as you said. I love that you explain this and let others know how hard this is to deal with. So happy you could meet your family, and I applaud you for speaking out on adoptee trauma
This is strange, adopting is one of the best things an individual can do and there are so many reasons why people put up their children for adoption. Nothing of value was lost in most cases and they were better off being adopted.
I'm so proud of you. You're so incredibly brave. Searching for your birth family, it's honestly been one of the most heartbreaking experiences that I've ever experienced. I also discovered that I had siblings. A half-sibling, but mine nonetheless.
@@Amy-ms6wj I grew up as an only child and craved a sibling. My brother had to live with our mother and we have a ten year age gap. So by the time I met him he was already ten years old and went his entire life without knowing I existed. We are pretty close now, he moved from the US to London recently and end of November 2022 I’ll be moving to Ireland to be closer to him.
I am also a transracial adoptee, latino and mestizo with autism, from Chile living in Denmark for 45 years, for me it is a deep emotional trauma, the alienation, anxiety, stress and insecurity will be with me until the day I die,
Thank you for this video. I want to bring back my time if I could when I was in same boat as so lost and not understandung why I'm being told about my real identity and why it's so hard to talk about my adoption and how does my mother look like asking my adoptive parents. Glad I never give up my search with in 49 years, I was reunited to my Birth Mom last Jan 11,24. It was the most beautiful feelings I ever had that I finally found the missing of my real identity. Thanks to The Leah and Blair Slog who help me through sharing short clip on FB searching my Bio Mom. And thanks God that we are being guided and had all the informations that we need to locate her that day. Yes it is painful in every adoptee to go through confusion, lost, separated, unwanted and most of all NO LOVE 😔
My dad didn't even have a birth certificate and we aren't sure exactly where he's born besides the region. The only reason anyone knows who his parents are, is because he was sold to his uncle. And the man who he thought was his uncle was his bio dad. Reason for the sale, the dad didn't like the skin colour of any of his children. So he got rid of them all and put his then wife in a mental institution.
Totally understood! It basically means adoption of a child from one racial group to another racial group (me, an Asian adoptee, being adopted by Caucasian parents)
We've had the pleasure of walking beside this young woman for the past 21 years. We are very, very proud of you Mikayla!
This is so beautiful. ❤️❤️❤️I hope I can do this for a child soon. What a beautiful family.
Mikayla is simply amazing Ed!!
@@sydneyzaremba8018 Thanks Syd. It's so good to hear from you!!! I hope you're doing well.
This made me cry so hard. There is so much trauma with adoption. I have had my eyes opened to the realities of it all. The “savior” idea is what gets me - you weren’t saved from anything. You lost so much. Of course you have loving adoptive parents, in your case, but you should be able to have all the emotions and feelings. There is no single narrative, as you said. I love that you explain this and let others know how hard this is to deal with. So happy you could meet your family, and I applaud you for speaking out on adoptee trauma
Hi Katie! Thank you for listening.
This is strange, adopting is one of the best things an individual can do and there are so many reasons why people put up their children for adoption. Nothing of value was lost in most cases and they were better off being adopted.
I'm so proud of you. You're so incredibly brave. Searching for your birth family, it's honestly been one of the most heartbreaking experiences that I've ever experienced. I also discovered that I had siblings. A half-sibling, but mine nonetheless.
Why was it heartbreaking? I hope things turned out okay for you. You deserve all the love in the world. ❤️
@@Amy-ms6wj I grew up as an only child and craved a sibling. My brother had to live with our mother and we have a ten year age gap. So by the time I met him he was already ten years old and went his entire life without knowing I existed. We are pretty close now, he moved from the US to London recently and end of November 2022 I’ll be moving to Ireland to be closer to him.
I’m going to cry listening to how hard her parents worked. I am only at them sending her photos so they knew she was safe.. boutta sobbbbb
Thank you for sharing your truth about adoption! Well said! How you talked about amplifying adoptee voices was spot on! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for truth and your pure authenticity.
Hi everyone! Two year update-I found my eldest sister! She is actually one year older than me and not 10 years like my tedx suggested!
Fantastic!!!! Congratulations Mikayla, what a story.
I wish my bio mother was still alive. This story was beautiful
As a white adoptee raised by white parents, I felt a lot of the same feelings. I looked and acted nothing like my adopted family. Great speech!
I am also a transracial adoptee, latino and mestizo with autism, from Chile living in Denmark for 45 years, for me it is a deep emotional trauma, the alienation, anxiety, stress and insecurity will be with me until the day I die,
Beautiful talk, thanks you.
Thank you for this video. I want to bring back my time if I could when I was in same boat as so lost and not understandung why I'm being told about my real identity and why it's so hard to talk about my adoption and how does my mother look like asking my adoptive parents.
Glad I never give up my search with in 49 years, I was reunited to my Birth Mom last Jan 11,24. It was the most beautiful feelings I ever had that I finally found the missing of my real identity.
Thanks to The Leah and Blair Slog who help me through sharing short clip on FB searching my Bio Mom. And thanks God that we are being guided and had all the informations that we need to locate her that day.
Yes it is painful in every adoptee to go through confusion, lost, separated, unwanted and most of all NO LOVE 😔
I attended High school and went to school with a lot of Vietnamese students. So I know Chinese and Vietnamese people growing up in Houston
So incredible!!!! 🤩💗
Thank you🥰
My dad didn't even have a birth certificate and we aren't sure exactly where he's born besides the region. The only reason anyone knows who his parents are, is because he was sold to his uncle. And the man who he thought was his uncle was his bio dad. Reason for the sale, the dad didn't like the skin colour of any of his children. So he got rid of them all and put his then wife in a mental institution.
love this ! what are her socials
Hi! It’s MikaylaSummerfield!
The way transracial is up there made me feel like you’re apart of the LGBT community ..
Totally understood! It basically means adoption of a child from one racial group to another racial group (me, an Asian adoptee, being adopted by Caucasian parents)
I'm NOT grateful