We couldn't afford xmas gifts this year so instead we just cooked our favorite meals, made a blanket fort, and did a harry potter marathon. It's not rocket science to show that you care
That last story made my blood boil! I would be so pissed if my partner threw out my Stephen King collection, but at least all of that is replaceable. I am glad that he saw the error of his ways, but it's definitely too little, too late.
Your comment reminded me of when my mom proudly told us how she got my dad to finally throw out his Stephen King collection. He loved to read and that was his favorite author. My mom was always upset about having books that were "evil" in her house and how she prayed and prayed to get him to throw the books out 🙄 It was not fun growing up in that household
My boyfriend trew away my one gremlins gizmo that i loved because it was creepy. And now because he did that we have a house full of Gizmo stuff lol he has learned the error of his way. 😂😂
The last one both talks about his big sacrifice of leaving his family behind to move in with her, but also can't understand her connection to her mother and the late grandmother who raised her (when she has no family around)? Which is it, family relationships are important or not?
That last story almost made me cry. That fact that he ever thought that replacing them would just fix it is beyond me. I have a polar bear stuffed animal I’ve had since I was a baby. I’ve literally never known life without it. If someone I thought had loved me had just thrown it away like it was trash I would never speak to them again. They could go buy me the exact same bear but it wouldn’t matter because it wouldn’t be MY bear. That’s not the bear that got me through elementary school bullies or protected me from monsters under the bed, it’s just some random bear. The replacement dolls aren’t the dolls her mother and grandmother gave her, they’re the same dolls, but they’re not HER dolls. My heart breaks for her. My polar bear came from some random sea world gift shop, these dolls were family heirlooms. She was probably going to pass them down to her children but now she’ll never get the chance. She could and should press charges, especially since he mentioned that some of them were pretty valuable.
The last story broke my heart for both of them, honestly. Obviously he was a huge asshole, but finding out the way he was raised really explained the dismissive attitude and I'm really glad he learned and I'm so sad for her.
The story’s of the brother calling for the wellness check and the trash man ex bf were complete ah’s! The brother could’ve seriously condemned his sister to possible crime charges for something she had no control over. It’s scary. Your body can’t complete a pregnancy and god forbid you’re in a state where they don’t believe you, you’d be in so much danger. Life in prison or possibly having them take your life as punishment! Trash man bf had no right to throw away what wasn’t his! I don’t care if he didn’t like it, it’s not his to dispose of! POS deserved to be dumped! The woman who called the authorities on that tinder date, so Nta! She did the right thing. A person who’s like that has no business working in that industry!
Story 5! I can’t believe there’re people like that. She had no family, the dolls were the only thing she had left of them. She explained why they meant so much to her, they had names! She had a niche, cool, creative, crafty interest and he wanted her to be basic and palatable. My jaw dropped when he said “she has to learn to make sacrifices” whaaat?! For no good reason? Cause some grown men were creeped out and were embarrassed when she chuckled about it. Malicious. She let him into her home and he had the audacity to throw stuff out when he knew how much she loved them. He was sweating, he knew it was wrong. He wanted to see how much of her identity he could strip away. Now he gets to just run back to his (albeit cold sounding) family- and she has an empty shelf. Even if he does manage to replace them all for her, they’re still not the same. That’s made me so upset and angry. I don’t even collect stuff.
I believe the reason why cops are sent for wellness checks is in the event there is a potential body. They would be able to contact further assistance if the person is in need of medical assistance. I'm not saying that should be the first response someone uses because people misuse wellness checks a lot. He stated he knew she was alive because she was on social media, he knew she was okay so there was no need for a wellness check. He didn't even apologize for what his choice did to her. Even if your intentions are good, if your decision harms someone, you apologize and see what you can do to help. I'm making an assumption, but it almost seems like he thought she did something to the baby. I would never question why someone who stated they were pregnant and then no updates.
That last story had me bawling. I am so sentimental and have a collection of porcelain dolls, some from my great grandmother, mother and grandma all 3 have passed. My husband is fine with me proudly displaying them and I would be absolutely crushed if anyone threw them out. Nothing would help or replace these for me. I would have broken up with him too. I hope she is able to replace them as best she can ❤
Re: “Stocking Mom” She went out and bought all the Christmas presents AND the stocking stuffers for everyone except herself, because buying your own Christmas gifts to open in front of your family opening their gifts from you is the most depressing thing imaginable. So she left hers empty, and rather than put something in her stocking on Christmas Eve, her husband took a video where he grabbed her empty stocking and asked her, “Why is this one empty? 😄” and she said, “That’s my stocking, I guess Santa forgot about me.” And he laughs and walks away.
I am a fan of the new opening myself. Very chill. Edit: Oof the last story. I keep thinking of how excited she was to show her hobby and these precious items to him. They're obviously more than toys. I wish there was a way to donate to the ex. My grandma gave my sister and I each a little dollhouse China tea set. We treasured it growing up and my sister asked if I would be willing to give mine up to one of her daughter's (the older one got hers). I agreed in a heartbeat. I don't want kids of my own, but the idea that something my grandma bought us being in their hands warms my heart. I'd be devastated if someone had thrown them out before I had the chance to pass that along. I hope she is doing okay, and that her next partner isn't someone as shallow as the OP was.
The story of the brother sending the cops to his sisters house: I have lived in Japan for 5 years now and EVEN I know about all of the awful reproductive rights violations going on in Texas. He’s clearly of the mindset “if it doesn’t effect me, I don’t need to know about it”. 🙄
31:23 This is why being pregnant in Texas is scary. Because they will do this and investigate if someone calls and has suspicion of trying to induce a miscarriage or getting an abortion now. I'm 11 weeks and I'm not doing anything wrong but it still scares me
i’m not done the video but holy crap story 4 is terrifying i’m glad op called the fbi. maybe he was joking and there was no risk but at the same time, it’s better to be safe than sorry if he was even slightly serious, she might’ve saved a whole bunch of people by reporting him
The last story, op isn't the asshole. He's a monster. Oh my God 😢. I'm still not fully over a stuffed wiley coyote I left at a roller skating rink when I was like 6 and it didn't even have a connection to a lost loved one. Wow.
The third story, holy shit the immediate thought that came to mind when OP said that he didn't see anything about the baby on social media or anything my mind immediately jumped to the idea that she had a miscarriage. There were so many ways he. could have handled that better.
Last week, I went on a team lunch with HR. They were all discussing true crime podcasts and when they asked me if I listen to any, I said "Oh... I listen to these guys that read reddit stories about shit men and assholes" 😹 one of the girls immediately went to "AITA FOR NOT DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND?!" Great team building XD
A lot of wellness checks are done on elderly people. I don’t know why we send cops, but most of the time they call an ambulance as back up just incase the person is injured or deceased. We also have a different PD team for when there is mental health concerns. That team has more training on how to help. (I’m an EMT on the ambulance so I’ve been on quite a few wellness checks)
Story 3: why didnt op reach out to anyone else when he hadn't heard back? Like op couldve reach out to the mom and just asked if she'd heard from sister lately just saying "i tried to reach out to check on her and hadnt heard anything so just wanted to see if you had heard from her". Don't even have to bring up the pregnancy. Why would step 2 after reaching out to the sister be wellness check? I mean the sister was at the mom's house or mom was at sister's house when it happened so clearly mom and sister and estranged? So i guess im confused why OP jumped straight to wellness check
I think this highlights how oblivious the average person is to reality... Wellness checks can have terrible outcomes, especially for the poor, POC and people with mental illness... And when he said she was in Texas, I immediately knew what happened to her... Pregnancy is becoming a liability in a lot of red states... People need to pay attention to the world around them😢😢
Op did try to contact their sister, but she ghosted them. The fact she only told op about the pregnancy op was worried. She did not tell op about the miscarriage. Op's worries are justified. Remember, no other family members knew about the pregnancy.
@@mcorcelius8537 yes ik thats why i said OP could reach out to their mom about the sister w/o even mentioning the pregnancy. It seems as tho OP and the sister were close if op is the only one to know about the pregnancy so i doubt it would seem weird for op to reach out to the mom when the sister didn't respond
@mcorcelius8537 you sound like a narcissist. She's agrown ass woman and perfin her eight to ghost a grown ass man for harassing her. The fact that both you and OP think this is reasonable behavior is batshit crazy. Consider therapy.
There's a story in our street (before we moved in) that a wellness check was called on our neighbour across the road as they hadn't been seen in a while and the pool out the back smelled like ded body. Turns out the guy was a FIFO (fly fly out job, usually mining work) and just hadn't cleaned up. He now hires a Gardner and cleaning services when he's away (I've been here for 2 years and have only seen the guy once. Ever).
My city has a specific team of police (in plain clothes) that when a call for a wellness check on a possible attempting unalive, they are dispatched for it. They look like everyday people and have training and certifications to talk to people correctly. Some friends and I were worried about another friend of ours that was threatening to off himself and at a later date he told us about the cops that showed up.
Calling a wellness check on you because your door was open (even garage) and not seeing you walking about during a deadly pandemic could just mean your neighbors were worried you were in there sick and too weak to get help (but that could just be the “maken sure everyone is ok Texan in me 😂 and yes we do exist I swear) so I kind of get it? But also the people could have just, like, called you? And we send cops because 1. Everything else in underfunded on a disgusting level 2. They can enter a domicile with “probable cause” 🙄😒
I have my grandmothers dolls. Yes, some are creepy as hell but they mean the world to me. If my husband did anything to them. We would need lots of marital help.
I'm not really sentimental about objects but my husband and sister are. I would fight tooth & nail for them to be able to keep whatever they want. Yes I can easily through my things into fire & not feel a thing, but for them, I buy shelves and cool display lighting. I don't have to be like them to respect them.
i LOVE the new intro. i listen while I'm falling asleep and always skipped the other one because it was too intense for that mode lol, the new one fits in perfect it's much more chill
The gift story made me so sad. Last Christmas I was BROKE broke, like rationing groceries broke. I couldn’t even spare $5 for cheap candy or anything. So instead I wrote 12 love letters and gave them to my boyfriend for the 12 days of Christmas. They were on plain lined paper that I’d torn out of an old notebook and were written with a ballpoint pen. Some had little drawings in them, some were more sweet/earnest, some more flirty/raunchy. Didn’t spend an extra cent and he LOVED it. He got me a gift that actually cost some money and I felt guilty for not doing the same until I realised how pleased and appreciative he was and he assured me that it was the best gift he’d ever gotten. I ended up buying him a small “IOU” gift around six months later when I could spare the $15 (I got him two pairs of patterned socks from a video game he loves) and we laughed and called it half Christmas. Money is an excuse to not give an expensive or financially burdensome gift. Not an excuse to not give a thoughtful one.
With the information given in story 1 i agree with ESH BUT: we don't know why they had a break and only his word that they both fucked up. I might be overthinking it but he also only said that the wife worked on her issues and got therapy before asking to get back together. It just very much feels like there's a lot of info missing.
stories 3 and 4 are insane, and also show how horrible it can get when you don't care about things that are important to other people brother from story 3 saying that he shouldn't know about every law in his country when the abortion laws and discussion were so big that it reached my country is insane; I can't even do anything about it, and he's the one who's going to vote in USA and last story just broke my heart, OP's parents clearly fcked his view on toys, but also, gf said they were from her mother and grandma, and that they reminded about both of them, so how could he be so unempathetic and cruel? good thing that he realized how wrong he was, but I also wouldn't be able to stay with someone who would do something so horrible to me
Yea, he said he called a line. A LINE. A FUCKING HOTLINE. Not the police. This wasn't a wellness check, he definitely had something nefarious in mind (considering how the most well-known hotline in Texas is used for suspected abortions) Fuck this guy.
First story- I think the wife fucked up in the first story too, both of them fucked up about not talking about the terms of the break either, but he’s being a little bit of an asshole for thinking he can have both when the wife clearly doesn’t want that. Sadly it could been avoided if they talk beforehand and I don’t blame him for falling in love with someone else after your partner cheats, but can’t force a poly relationship on anyone. You just got to choose and I would say just pick your new girlfriend. He seems much happy about both of them being open after all and he changed too- I have a feeling he wouldn’t be as happy with a possible close relationship with his wife if he chooses her.
I don’t think he’s being an asshole because he wants to redefine the relationship. Sounds like & the gf are polyamorous. That doesn’t make him an asshole- seems like he doesn’t have the language to describe what he wants to do now. Maybe a case of not what he’s saying but how he’s saying it. He and the wife have serious communication issues. 🤦🏾♀️ The wife needs to create her pentameters - if she wants a monogamous marriage.
@@Taewills It's okay if he wants to be polyamorous now, but it's clear the wife doesn't want it and for him to drag it out or force polyamorous (which I'm not saying he is gonna do, but it's gonna come off that way) because he "doesn't want to make a choice" is a bit asshole behavior. I don't blame him at the end because it's the miscommunication that brought them here and it's nice he understands what he wants, but it be unfair to himself, the gf, the wife, and the children if he doesn't make a choice.
A wellness check is calling to have authority’s go to someone’s house to see if that person is okay. Sometimes they find people who have passed away this way
For the first story I wouldn't say both are assholes, they just weren't smart for not setting these rules down for the break. But he was definitely the asshole because you should never be trying to get revenge on your loved ones, which is obviously why he found his girlfriend
I always thought the old intro had the F bomb! Was never 💯 sure but always thought it was funny about Josh giving Sean a hard time about cursing and demonetization at the beginning of each show. Mystery solved
Happy new year boysss🎉🥳, I love the new intro for the new year as well! No longer getting yelled at by a cancelled celebrity🤣though I only found this channel late 2023 it’s become one of my favs and I cant wait to see more for 2024🎉🎉
Regarding wellness checks - a lot of ambulance crews will not go in without police ensuring the scene is ok for them. Really the sister should have reached out to the brother, that's kind of weird she told him and then went radio silent. He probably made the wrong move, but yeah, that was a weird one.
The brother told on himself with his wording: he called a hotline. You would call non emergency police or 911 in Texas to organize a wellness check. Him finding a hotline was absolutely him snitching/reporting a possible termination. Esp since the sister apparently lives near at least their mother who could have checked in so going to the cops before contacting other family?? He absolutely was trying to get her caught for something.
4:28 Opie, before you said your wife wanted to reconcile, I was about to call her a hypocrite; But this just sounds like yet another case of wanting to have your cake and eat it too. You are better off divorcing your wife, and just continue to be there for your children, because clearly, your wife is not willing to be in an open relationship, even if y'all both slept with other people during the separation. The both of you are wrong for that (ESH), but for this right here? YTA. You're only going to hurt your wife and your children by doing this. Just let her go, move on with your new love life, and co-parent with your ex-wife.
My area did a small little like soft launch of sending an EMT and a cop for wellness checks together and I wish it had taken off because apparently it worked SUPER WELL like EMTs are trained to deal with A LOT more than cops are and then if there is a medical need then there is zero wait time calling for medical assistance!
Honestly, I've found you guys and I listen with whatever I'm doing. Thank you for the entertaining, and im about to post to reddit with my stories. Have fun
All three of you are the complete antithesis of everyone I've ever dated in terms of respecting women. I admire that, and I wish i would have had more respect for myself in the past to not put up with the utter disrespect I've endured my whole life. Now that I'm old enough to know better, it's a bit too late, but I am rather enjoying my 9th year of being single 😅
Hey. You leaving you learn. I lost 13 years of my life to a narcissist. We can't all get it right on our first try. But I am pleased to say that I have been blessed to be in a loving relationship for the past 2 years now.
17:21 I just want to note how you looked as you read “And made myself look pretty for him” the way you seemed more gloomed reading that I just appreciate that idk if it was intentional or not but as a female who has felt the “Make myself pretty for this moment” and you end up feeling like a clown, thank you. Also I much would rather a personalized gift. Its not that the gift was 5 dollars but i am pretty sure she would have loved her favorite milk (chocolate strawberry vanilla), or plushie from dollar store.the least he coulda done was made a dinner even just mac n cheese, Poured the wine made it a little fancy, And than seduced her. As well as been a lil funny and put a ribbon on his thing. Just saying coulda made the best out of thw worst instead of throwing money at her
My husband is bad at stockings in the sense he gets stocking gifts that won't fit in the stocking 😂 they aren't like wildly expensive or anything before anyone calls me spoiled but he refuses to unbox anything in case I need to exchange it so for the past 2 years I have gotten my stocking duct taped to my stocking gift😂😂😂😂 honestly 12/10 love it because the effort is there but so is his silly fun personality 😂 the mom stockings in the story just made me sad😢 these women deserve better!
From the bottom of my heart and I'm sure other quiet individuals thank you so so so much for just changing the opening. I can just listen without rushing to try to hit fast forward thru the yelling. I know I know, a bunch of us are snowflakes lol. Buts it's such a chill podcast and I know I'm not the only one relieved by the change. I know people will probably complain it's not as catchy but just as many if not more of us are glad we aren't being startled. I'm sure you'll continue to tinker and eventually find a new one again but for now thank you for just changing it already. Thanks again guys!
I feel at least in that last story she helped him become a better man and future parent which wasn't her job, nor was it fair, but people in the future will unknowingly be thankful and treated with the respect they deserve thanks to her.
In Kenya (and I've heard this amongst Black Ameticans too), you never go back to a man you left. He comes begging for you or you're moving on _forwards ever backwards never._ That first OP's wife is going to learn the hard way why you never go crawling back to a man flawed enough you needed time from.
Idk, maybe I just don't understand the culture around wellness checks, and maybe I have a negative view of them bc of the ways they end up in the news and bc I'm not used to sth like that, but... Ngl, if I lived in america as a POC and my neighbor called cops to my house instead of just knocking like a normal person...I'd find a way to sue them or make their life as unpleasant as possible for a few months
Finaly I came to YT, I listen You guys on spotyfiy. For now I'm on #110, but I will make it to more "fresh" one. This is fun to listen and more to watch. I like listening You three when I do my everyday chores. I hope that his podcast will be lasting for years :D I'm glad that You keep on going with predicSEANs :P
Doll guy: i am with y'all if he did that to me or a friend his stuff would be in the apartment dumpster befote he got home. He could get it from there. Throwing out family heirlooms is vicious.
It doesn't matter that he was trying to find replacements he tossed heirlooms. Like there is literally nothing one can do to make up for it. Also cackling that she insta-broke up with him after he showed her the reddit.
Like you guys said, just actions of affection are fine. Make a card, cook dinner that takes some real effort, and give her a massage. He is absolutely nuts.
In the last story I was kinda sad for both at the end. Obviously he is the AH but it seems he completely lacks the social competence to see and that seems to be because of his parents. So hearing that he slowly came to an understanding how that hurts someone, makes me feel bad for him too because that means he was raised in a way that made him have extremely shitty social skills even though he has the capability of understanding and seems to be willing to do so. So bottom line of course he is the AH but the parents seem to be the bigger AHs.
The polyamory one is a hard one. So my partner and I opened up to polyamory but it is a lot of discussion beforehand. I feel like he's a little bit more of a hole because he's like telling demanding rather than saying hey let's have a conversation about this. I love people and I'd like to be with you both would you be open to that and then making his decision. However there is definitely an issue of lack of communication on both sides on what a separation meant what was allowed not a laugh and what would happen if someone realizes they've fallen in love with more than one person. The conversation of what if one of us realizes we're polyamorous. They definitely need to sit down and have a better conversation, and possibly and just the relationship as husband and wife
31:38 he orded a wellness check because nobody was talking to him when he tried to reach out. He was *_in the dark_* about her miscarriage, and for that, i say NTA.
The wellness check just to check on her would have been enough. He didn't need to light her up TO THE POLICE IN A FREAKING RED STATE about her having been pregnant. He knew WTF he was doing and he criminalized her pregnancy and miscarriage. He is TA.
It wasn’t that he couldn’t afford a gift, he didn’t WANT to give her anything. He just didn’t care. Men like that are just insulting because they just don’t think of woman as people.
Story 1- he may not know it yet but he sounds polyamorous. It’s not technically an open relationship which is with your main but having sex with others… Polly relationships is in loving relationships with more than 1 person. I’m an open relationship person. I just don’t really ever have feelings for others anymore lol
I loved the old intro, I always danced to it 😁 but if it triggered some, or idk what the problem is, then probably it’s for the best. The new one is also great
So i saw the stocking tik toks and my solution was to communicate to my bf that i will fill his and our friend Sam's stocking, and i would like him to fill mine. He did and it was nice and communication won.
32:07 My thoughts are just it was a plain wellness check. Those can be normal, like hey. Seeing if you're alive. Also, snitching to fam is worse than a stranger. I'd just wait until I could check myself though
The last story made me so mad- I had something similar happen to me. I’m super into BTS and I found them during a really hard period of my life after I lost my mom my (now ex) when we were together took all of my albums and photocards and burned them because he thought it was “childish” and I needed to “let them go and grow up” immediate breakup. At least he seems sorry about it but at her expense :///
Not going to lie, me and my little girl are not a fan of the new music. She has been dancing to the song since she was 8 months old (15 months now) and now she doesn’t 😢! Hopefully it will grow on us. I do like the catch phrases in it!
We couldn't afford xmas gifts this year so instead we just cooked our favorite meals, made a blanket fort, and did a harry potter marathon. It's not rocket science to show that you care
That last story made my blood boil! I would be so pissed if my partner threw out my Stephen King collection, but at least all of that is replaceable. I am glad that he saw the error of his ways, but it's definitely too little, too late.
Right!! Some were family heirlooms :(
Right, I have almost all of my stuffed animals I've ever had I think I would end up in a physical fight.
Your comment reminded me of when my mom proudly told us how she got my dad to finally throw out his Stephen King collection. He loved to read and that was his favorite author. My mom was always upset about having books that were "evil" in her house and how she prayed and prayed to get him to throw the books out 🙄
It was not fun growing up in that household
My boyfriend trew away my one gremlins gizmo that i loved because it was creepy. And now because he did that we have a house full of Gizmo stuff lol he has learned the error of his way. 😂😂
Yeah it’s very much a “cool motive, still murder” type of situation for me.
The last one both talks about his big sacrifice of leaving his family behind to move in with her, but also can't understand her connection to her mother and the late grandmother who raised her (when she has no family around)?
Which is it, family relationships are important or not?
He called the uterus police in Gilead on his own sister?!!! Because people "have lives"??!!! No words.
That last story almost made me cry. That fact that he ever thought that replacing them would just fix it is beyond me. I have a polar bear stuffed animal I’ve had since I was a baby. I’ve literally never known life without it. If someone I thought had loved me had just thrown it away like it was trash I would never speak to them again. They could go buy me the exact same bear but it wouldn’t matter because it wouldn’t be MY bear. That’s not the bear that got me through elementary school bullies or protected me from monsters under the bed, it’s just some random bear. The replacement dolls aren’t the dolls her mother and grandmother gave her, they’re the same dolls, but they’re not HER dolls. My heart breaks for her. My polar bear came from some random sea world gift shop, these dolls were family heirlooms. She was probably going to pass them down to her children but now she’ll never get the chance. She could and should press charges, especially since he mentioned that some of them were pretty valuable.
The last story broke my heart for both of them, honestly. Obviously he was a huge asshole, but finding out the way he was raised really explained the dismissive attitude and I'm really glad he learned and I'm so sad for her.
I agree. At the very least she helped make him a better parent than his in future.
The story’s of the brother calling for the wellness check and the trash man ex bf were complete ah’s! The brother could’ve seriously condemned his sister to possible crime charges for something she had no control over. It’s scary. Your body can’t complete a pregnancy and god forbid you’re in a state where they don’t believe you, you’d be in so much danger. Life in prison or possibly having them take your life as punishment!
Trash man bf had no right to throw away what wasn’t his! I don’t care if he didn’t like it, it’s not his to dispose of! POS deserved to be dumped!
The woman who called the authorities on that tinder date, so Nta! She did the right thing. A person who’s like that has no business working in that industry!
Story 5! I can’t believe there’re people like that. She had no family, the dolls were the only thing she had left of them. She explained why they meant so much to her, they had names! She had a niche, cool, creative, crafty interest and he wanted her to be basic and palatable. My jaw dropped when he said “she has to learn to make sacrifices” whaaat?! For no good reason? Cause some grown men were creeped out and were embarrassed when she chuckled about it. Malicious. She let him into her home and he had the audacity to throw stuff out when he knew how much she loved them. He was sweating, he knew it was wrong. He wanted to see how much of her identity he could strip away. Now he gets to just run back to his (albeit cold sounding) family- and she has an empty shelf. Even if he does manage to replace them all for her, they’re still not the same. That’s made me so upset and angry. I don’t even collect stuff.
31:22 This person called "a line here in Texas" for a wellness check.. not the police. That was a tip line
He wanted that sweet sweet 10k
This right here!!
I believe the reason why cops are sent for wellness checks is in the event there is a potential body. They would be able to contact further assistance if the person is in need of medical assistance.
I'm not saying that should be the first response someone uses because people misuse wellness checks a lot. He stated he knew she was alive because she was on social media, he knew she was okay so there was no need for a wellness check. He didn't even apologize for what his choice did to her. Even if your intentions are good, if your decision harms someone, you apologize and see what you can do to help. I'm making an assumption, but it almost seems like he thought she did something to the baby. I would never question why someone who stated they were pregnant and then no updates.
That last story had me bawling. I am so sentimental and have a collection of porcelain dolls, some from my great grandmother, mother and grandma all 3 have passed. My husband is fine with me proudly displaying them and I would be absolutely crushed if anyone threw them out. Nothing would help or replace these for me. I would have broken up with him too. I hope she is able to replace them as best she can ❤
Re: “Stocking Mom” She went out and bought all the Christmas presents AND the stocking stuffers for everyone except herself, because buying your own Christmas gifts to open in front of your family opening their gifts from you is the most depressing thing imaginable. So she left hers empty, and rather than put something in her stocking on Christmas Eve, her husband took a video where he grabbed her empty stocking and asked her, “Why is this one empty? 😄” and she said, “That’s my stocking, I guess Santa forgot about me.”
And he laughs and walks away.
She even bought stuff for the _dog’s_ stocking.
I am a fan of the new opening myself. Very chill.
Edit: Oof the last story. I keep thinking of how excited she was to show her hobby and these precious items to him. They're obviously more than toys.
I wish there was a way to donate to the ex. My grandma gave my sister and I each a little dollhouse China tea set. We treasured it growing up and my sister asked if I would be willing to give mine up to one of her daughter's (the older one got hers). I agreed in a heartbeat. I don't want kids of my own, but the idea that something my grandma bought us being in their hands warms my heart.
I'd be devastated if someone had thrown them out before I had the chance to pass that along. I hope she is doing okay, and that her next partner isn't someone as shallow as the OP was.
The story of the brother sending the cops to his sisters house: I have lived in Japan for 5 years now and EVEN I know about all of the awful reproductive rights violations going on in Texas. He’s clearly of the mindset “if it doesn’t effect me, I don’t need to know about it”. 🙄
The #1 Dude literally said "I want my cake and eat it too AITH!?"
31:23 This is why being pregnant in Texas is scary. Because they will do this and investigate if someone calls and has suspicion of trying to induce a miscarriage or getting an abortion now. I'm 11 weeks and I'm not doing anything wrong but it still scares me
i’m not done the video but holy crap story 4 is terrifying
i’m glad op called the fbi. maybe he was joking and there was no risk but at the same time, it’s better to be safe than sorry
if he was even slightly serious, she might’ve saved a whole bunch of people by reporting him
The last story, op isn't the asshole. He's a monster. Oh my God 😢. I'm still not fully over a stuffed wiley coyote I left at a roller skating rink when I was like 6 and it didn't even have a connection to a lost loved one. Wow.
The third story, holy shit the immediate thought that came to mind when OP said that he didn't see anything about the baby on social media or anything my mind immediately jumped to the idea that she had a miscarriage. There were so many ways he. could have handled that better.
I get the feeling that Opie did not call for a wellness check. I get the feeling that he called for a possible illegal abortion check.
That second story reminds me of one of my favourite quotes. "The bar is on the ground and yet you're here in hell, limbo dancing with the devil"
Last week, I went on a team lunch with HR. They were all discussing true crime podcasts and when they asked me if I listen to any, I said "Oh... I listen to these guys that read reddit stories about shit men and assholes" 😹 one of the girls immediately went to "AITA FOR NOT DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND?!"
Great team building XD
A lot of wellness checks are done on elderly people. I don’t know why we send cops, but most of the time they call an ambulance as back up just incase the person is injured or deceased. We also have a different PD team for when there is mental health concerns. That team has more training on how to help. (I’m an EMT on the ambulance so I’ve been on quite a few wellness checks)
Story 3: why didnt op reach out to anyone else when he hadn't heard back? Like op couldve reach out to the mom and just asked if she'd heard from sister lately just saying "i tried to reach out to check on her and hadnt heard anything so just wanted to see if you had heard from her". Don't even have to bring up the pregnancy. Why would step 2 after reaching out to the sister be wellness check?
I mean the sister was at the mom's house or mom was at sister's house when it happened so clearly mom and sister and estranged? So i guess im confused why OP jumped straight to wellness check
Without more context, I imagine this isn't the first time OP has behaved this way. sounds like he has control issues and just wanted to be aggressive.
I think this highlights how oblivious the average person is to reality... Wellness checks can have terrible outcomes, especially for the poor, POC and people with mental illness... And when he said she was in Texas, I immediately knew what happened to her... Pregnancy is becoming a liability in a lot of red states... People need to pay attention to the world around them😢😢
Op did try to contact their sister, but she ghosted them. The fact she only told op about the pregnancy op was worried. She did not tell op about the miscarriage. Op's worries are justified. Remember, no other family members knew about the pregnancy.
@@mcorcelius8537 yes ik thats why i said OP could reach out to their mom about the sister w/o even mentioning the pregnancy. It seems as tho OP and the sister were close if op is the only one to know about the pregnancy so i doubt it would seem weird for op to reach out to the mom when the sister didn't respond
@mcorcelius8537 you sound like a narcissist. She's agrown ass woman and perfin her eight to ghost a grown ass man for harassing her. The fact that both you and OP think this is reasonable behavior is batshit crazy. Consider therapy.
51:12 The way John and Sean just gave up all hope for this man is hilarious.
I do love the eye contact with the camera!!! 😂
There's a story in our street (before we moved in) that a wellness check was called on our neighbour across the road as they hadn't been seen in a while and the pool out the back smelled like ded body. Turns out the guy was a FIFO (fly fly out job, usually mining work) and just hadn't cleaned up. He now hires a Gardner and cleaning services when he's away (I've been here for 2 years and have only seen the guy once. Ever).
That last story is so sad, my heart broke. I’m a huge fan of dolls and I have some that were my mom’s and late grandma’s too :( F that guy
My city has a specific team of police (in plain clothes) that when a call for a wellness check on a possible attempting unalive, they are dispatched for it. They look like everyday people and have training and certifications to talk to people correctly. Some friends and I were worried about another friend of ours that was threatening to off himself and at a later date he told us about the cops that showed up.
Calling a wellness check on you because your door was open (even garage) and not seeing you walking about during a deadly pandemic could just mean your neighbors were worried you were in there sick and too weak to get help (but that could just be the “maken sure everyone is ok Texan in me 😂 and yes we do exist I swear) so I kind of get it? But also the people could have just, like, called you?
And we send cops because
1. Everything else in underfunded on a disgusting level
2. They can enter a domicile with “probable cause” 🙄😒
I have my grandmothers dolls. Yes, some are creepy as hell but they mean the world to me. If my husband did anything to them. We would need lots of marital help.
I'm not really sentimental about objects but my husband and sister are. I would fight tooth & nail for them to be able to keep whatever they want. Yes I can easily through my things into fire & not feel a thing, but for them, I buy shelves and cool display lighting. I don't have to be like them to respect them.
4:28 TL;DR: *_ESH_* for fucking around during your separation, but for asking for polyamory when your wife is clearly monogamous, *_YTA._*
i LOVE the new intro. i listen while I'm falling asleep and always skipped the other one because it was too intense for that mode lol, the new one fits in perfect it's much more chill
I love the new song!! I forgot about it from last episode and was pumped to hear it again today 😊
The gift story made me so sad. Last Christmas I was BROKE broke, like rationing groceries broke. I couldn’t even spare $5 for cheap candy or anything. So instead I wrote 12 love letters and gave them to my boyfriend for the 12 days of Christmas. They were on plain lined paper that I’d torn out of an old notebook and were written with a ballpoint pen. Some had little drawings in them, some were more sweet/earnest, some more flirty/raunchy. Didn’t spend an extra cent and he LOVED it. He got me a gift that actually cost some money and I felt guilty for not doing the same until I realised how pleased and appreciative he was and he assured me that it was the best gift he’d ever gotten. I ended up buying him a small “IOU” gift around six months later when I could spare the $15 (I got him two pairs of patterned socks from a video game he loves) and we laughed and called it half Christmas. Money is an excuse to not give an expensive or financially burdensome gift. Not an excuse to not give a thoughtful one.
I absolutely appreciate the Loiter Squad reference from Sean! No one ever knows what I'm saying with that reference lol
With the information given in story 1 i agree with ESH BUT: we don't know why they had a break and only his word that they both fucked up. I might be overthinking it but he also only said that the wife worked on her issues and got therapy before asking to get back together. It just very much feels like there's a lot of info missing.
stories 3 and 4 are insane, and also show how horrible it can get when you don't care about things that are important to other people
brother from story 3 saying that he shouldn't know about every law in his country when the abortion laws and discussion were so big that it reached my country is insane; I can't even do anything about it, and he's the one who's going to vote in USA
and last story just broke my heart, OP's parents clearly fcked his view on toys, but also, gf said they were from her mother and grandma, and that they reminded about both of them, so how could he be so unempathetic and cruel? good thing that he realized how wrong he was, but I also wouldn't be able to stay with someone who would do something so horrible to me
Stroy 4: I bet the brother wanted to make sure she didn't have an abortion.
If that's remotely true, that makes him even more of TA.
Yea, he said he called a line. A LINE. A FUCKING HOTLINE.
Not the police.
This wasn't a wellness check, he definitely had something nefarious in mind (considering how the most well-known hotline in Texas is used for suspected abortions)
Fuck this guy.
Loving the new intro, much less of a jump scare that the last one was!
First story- I think the wife fucked up in the first story too, both of them fucked up about not talking about the terms of the break either, but he’s being a little bit of an asshole for thinking he can have both when the wife clearly doesn’t want that. Sadly it could been avoided if they talk beforehand and I don’t blame him for falling in love with someone else after your partner cheats, but can’t force a poly relationship on anyone. You just got to choose and I would say just pick your new girlfriend.
He seems much happy about both of them being open after all and he changed too- I have a feeling he wouldn’t be as happy with a possible close relationship with his wife if he chooses her.
I don’t think he’s being an asshole because he wants to redefine the relationship. Sounds like & the gf are polyamorous. That doesn’t make him an asshole- seems like he doesn’t have the language to describe what he wants to do now. Maybe a case of not what he’s saying but how he’s saying it.
He and the wife have serious communication issues. 🤦🏾♀️ The wife needs to create her pentameters - if she wants a monogamous marriage.
@@Taewills It's okay if he wants to be polyamorous now, but it's clear the wife doesn't want it and for him to drag it out or force polyamorous (which I'm not saying he is gonna do, but it's gonna come off that way) because he "doesn't want to make a choice" is a bit asshole behavior. I don't blame him at the end because it's the miscommunication that brought them here and it's nice he understands what he wants, but it be unfair to himself, the gf, the wife, and the children if he doesn't make a choice.
The last story 😢 I can relate in some way to her bec my mother also already died when I was just 15. 😢
A wellness check is calling to have authority’s go to someone’s house to see if that person is okay. Sometimes they find people who have passed away this way
For the first story I wouldn't say both are assholes, they just weren't smart for not setting these rules down for the break. But he was definitely the asshole because you should never be trying to get revenge on your loved ones, which is obviously why he found his girlfriend
the difference between the first guy and his wife is that she only slept with someone. he got into a full on relationship
I always thought the old intro had the F bomb! Was never 💯 sure but always thought it was funny about Josh giving Sean a hard time about cursing and demonetization at the beginning of each show. Mystery solved
Happy new year boysss🎉🥳, I love the new intro for the new year as well! No longer getting yelled at by a cancelled celebrity🤣though I only found this channel late 2023 it’s become one of my favs and I cant wait to see more for 2024🎉🎉
Me yelling at the screen; THEY ARE NOT TOYS!!!!!
Regarding wellness checks - a lot of ambulance crews will not go in without police ensuring the scene is ok for them. Really the sister should have reached out to the brother, that's kind of weird she told him and then went radio silent. He probably made the wrong move, but yeah, that was a weird one.
Did the dude in the last story not see Toy Story 3? I could never forgive this guy. Ever.
The brother told on himself with his wording: he called a hotline. You would call non emergency police or 911 in Texas to organize a wellness check. Him finding a hotline was absolutely him snitching/reporting a possible termination. Esp since the sister apparently lives near at least their mother who could have checked in so going to the cops before contacting other family?? He absolutely was trying to get her caught for something.
4:28 Opie, before you said your wife wanted to reconcile, I was about to call her a hypocrite; But this just sounds like yet another case of wanting to have your cake and eat it too. You are better off divorcing your wife, and just continue to be there for your children, because clearly, your wife is not willing to be in an open relationship, even if y'all both slept with other people during the separation. The both of you are wrong for that (ESH), but for this right here? YTA. You're only going to hurt your wife and your children by doing this. Just let her go, move on with your new love life, and co-parent with your ex-wife.
My area did a small little like soft launch of sending an EMT and a cop for wellness checks together and I wish it had taken off because apparently it worked SUPER WELL like EMTs are trained to deal with A LOT more than cops are and then if there is a medical need then there is zero wait time calling for medical assistance!
Honestly, I've found you guys and I listen with whatever I'm doing.
Thank you for the entertaining, and im about to post to reddit with my stories. Have fun
All three of you are the complete antithesis of everyone I've ever dated in terms of respecting women. I admire that, and I wish i would have had more respect for myself in the past to not put up with the utter disrespect I've endured my whole life. Now that I'm old enough to know better, it's a bit too late, but I am rather enjoying my 9th year of being single 😅
Hey. You leaving you learn. I lost 13 years of my life to a narcissist. We can't all get it right on our first try. But I am pleased to say that I have been blessed to be in a loving relationship for the past 2 years now.
@@esmooth919 that's amazing! And you probably appreciate it even more knowing how it used to be.
17:21 I just want to note how you looked as you read “And made myself look pretty for him” the way you seemed more gloomed reading that I just appreciate that idk if it was intentional or not but as a female who has felt the “Make myself pretty for this moment” and you end up feeling like a clown, thank you.
Also I much would rather a personalized gift. Its not that the gift was 5 dollars but i am pretty sure she would have loved her favorite milk (chocolate strawberry vanilla), or plushie from dollar store.the least he coulda done was made a dinner even just mac n cheese, Poured the wine made it a little fancy, And than seduced her. As well as been a lil funny and put a ribbon on his thing. Just saying coulda made the best out of thw worst instead of throwing money at her
My husband is bad at stockings in the sense he gets stocking gifts that won't fit in the stocking 😂 they aren't like wildly expensive or anything before anyone calls me spoiled but he refuses to unbox anything in case I need to exchange it so for the past 2 years I have gotten my stocking duct taped to my stocking gift😂😂😂😂 honestly 12/10 love it because the effort is there but so is his silly fun personality 😂 the mom stockings in the story just made me sad😢 these women deserve better!
From the bottom of my heart and I'm sure other quiet individuals thank you so so so much for just changing the opening. I can just listen without rushing to try to hit fast forward thru the yelling. I know I know, a bunch of us are snowflakes lol. Buts it's such a chill podcast and I know I'm not the only one relieved by the change. I know people will probably complain it's not as catchy but just as many if not more of us are glad we aren't being startled. I'm sure you'll continue to tinker and eventually find a new one again but for now thank you for just changing it already. Thanks again guys!
I like the new intro much more than the previous one; the previous one gave me jump scares and was deafeningly loud
Love the new song guys! shows what the show is about more clearly with the 2023 catchphrases :D
27:48 ILLEGAL...... Oh wait they're siblings. I'm beyond traumatized.😂😂
I have Pediophobia (fear of dolls), and I would have just noped out of the apartment. Terrifying
the intro is nice but I kinda miss saying "for the 5th time, its your boy sean" along with the intro
I feel at least in that last story she helped him become a better man and future parent which wasn't her job, nor was it fair, but people in the future will unknowingly be thankful and treated with the respect they deserve thanks to her.
I miss the old intro and I like when you look at the camera - my own, probably unpopular, opinion - aita? 😂
I also really liked the old intro. I miss it 😅🤣🙊
In Kenya (and I've heard this amongst Black Ameticans too), you never go back to a man you left. He comes begging for you or you're moving on _forwards ever backwards never._ That first OP's wife is going to learn the hard way why you never go crawling back to a man flawed enough you needed time from.
I neeeeed an update of the 4th storyyy
Please don't look directly into your cameras 😂
I LOVE the new music! It seems branded to who you guys are.
The bar is low. Continues to be proven.
Idk, maybe I just don't understand the culture around wellness checks, and maybe I have a negative view of them bc of the ways they end up in the news and bc I'm not used to sth like that, but...
Ngl, if I lived in america as a POC and my neighbor called cops to my house instead of just knocking like a normal person...I'd find a way to sue them or make their life as unpleasant as possible for a few months
Finaly I came to YT, I listen You guys on spotyfiy. For now I'm on #110, but I will make it to more "fresh" one. This is fun to listen and more to watch. I like listening You three when I do my everyday chores. I hope that his podcast will be lasting for years :D I'm glad that You keep on going with predicSEANs :P
Doll guy: i am with y'all if he did that to me or a friend his stuff would be in the apartment dumpster befote he got home. He could get it from there. Throwing out family heirlooms is vicious.
It doesn't matter that he was trying to find replacements he tossed heirlooms. Like there is literally nothing one can do to make up for it.
Also cackling that she insta-broke up with him after he showed her the reddit.
The intro is awesome!
I like the new song a lot cause it’s mellow. I just wish the host sound bites were louder.
Like you guys said, just actions of affection are fine. Make a card, cook dinner that takes some real effort, and give her a massage. He is absolutely nuts.
In the last story I was kinda sad for both at the end. Obviously he is the AH but it seems he completely lacks the social competence to see and that seems to be because of his parents. So hearing that he slowly came to an understanding how that hurts someone, makes me feel bad for him too because that means he was raised in a way that made him have extremely shitty social skills even though he has the capability of understanding and seems to be willing to do so. So bottom line of course he is the AH but the parents seem to be the bigger AHs.
i like the new intro music and animation
Please don't look at me again. Lol 😅 I'm here for the parasocial relationship, looking at be like that will change things
I love the new theme song 🎵
The polyamory one is a hard one. So my partner and I opened up to polyamory but it is a lot of discussion beforehand. I feel like he's a little bit more of a hole because he's like telling demanding rather than saying hey let's have a conversation about this. I love people and I'd like to be with you both would you be open to that and then making his decision. However there is definitely an issue of lack of communication on both sides on what a separation meant what was allowed not a laugh and what would happen if someone realizes they've fallen in love with more than one person. The conversation of what if one of us realizes we're polyamorous.
They definitely need to sit down and have a better conversation, and possibly and just the relationship as husband and wife
Love, love the new theme song!
31:38 he orded a wellness check because nobody was talking to him when he tried to reach out. He was *_in the dark_* about her miscarriage, and for that, i say NTA.
The wellness check just to check on her would have been enough. He didn't need to light her up TO THE POLICE IN A FREAKING RED STATE about her having been pregnant.
He knew WTF he was doing and he criminalized her pregnancy and miscarriage.
He is TA.
Love the new intro! ❤
It wasn’t that he couldn’t afford a gift, he didn’t WANT to give her anything. He just didn’t care.
Men like that are just insulting because they just don’t think of woman as people.
the new intro was so nice!
I really like the new theme song!!!!!
Happy New Year my dudes, will miss the old intro but I'll embrace the new one
Story 1- he may not know it yet but he sounds polyamorous. It’s not technically an open relationship which is with your main but having sex with others… Polly relationships is in loving relationships with more than 1 person. I’m an open relationship person. I just don’t really ever have feelings for others anymore lol
I love the new song!
I loved the old intro, I always danced to it 😁 but if it triggered some, or idk what the problem is, then probably it’s for the best. The new one is also great
Back scratches and make us laugh thats all we want. So enough of this whole women are complicated nonsense.
So i saw the stocking tik toks and my solution was to communicate to my bf that i will fill his and our friend Sam's stocking, and i would like him to fill mine. He did and it was nice and communication won.
NEW INTROOOO!!
32:07 My thoughts are just it was a plain wellness check. Those can be normal, like hey. Seeing if you're alive. Also, snitching to fam is worse than a stranger. I'd just wait until I could check myself though
The last story made me so mad- I had something similar happen to me. I’m super into BTS and I found them during a really hard period of my life after I lost my mom my (now ex) when we were together took all of my albums and photocards and burned them because he thought it was “childish” and I needed to “let them go and grow up” immediate breakup. At least he seems sorry about it but at her expense :///
My only issue with the song is it's so much louder than the rest of the video.
The timestamps are definitely inaccurate.
Not going to lie, me and my little girl are not a fan of the new music. She has been dancing to the song since she was 8 months old (15 months now) and now she doesn’t 😢! Hopefully it will grow on us.
I do like the catch phrases in it!