The TRUTH About TRAUMA?! | PTSD, CPTSD, OSDD and Dissociative Identity Disorder
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- Опубликовано: 13 апр 2019
- "What was your Trauma?" Here are a few reasons why you shouldn't ask people this question!
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Have you ever thought of doing a TEDx Talk? It would be so amazing
Who wants to start the petition for it?
We would LOVE to do this
YYAAAAASSSSS!!!!!
DissociaDID Chelmsford has a TEDx coming up I think. They might still be looking for speakers.
Ester Lima
Omg please let this happen!!!
Here's how I respond when people ask about my trauma: "Ooo! That's a level 500 Friend question. You're only a 2. Sorry."
AMNmrrll perfect. 👌🏻😂
@@scribek3549 thanks!
Amazing 😅
😂
can i steal this? amazing response
I had college professor, who is now a lifelong friend, hug me at my graduation, she had severe PTSD and hugs were a trigger and she always made that clear to her students every year. I tear up, that hug was more meaningful than the diploma. I still don't feel worthy of that hug, and have mad props to her for that courage.
WOW, that's sooo beautiful!😮
I’m not crying, I’m not crying... 😭
One of my friends comforted me by saying (it’s a little silly) “You wouldn’t dig up a grave to check if a body is dead and validate that, so you wouldn’t ask for trauma either”
Edit: oh gosh this is my biggest comment I’m glad people agree I thought it was such a good analogy and has comforted me for sure. Thanks for the heart too means so much 💕
TRUTH! just because you don't know what happened, doesn't mean it's not valid!
"I just wanna check he's dead."
"But... he's been in the ground for 16 years."
"Yeah but... I just wanna check. I don't know how he died."
"Why does it matter?"
"Because he might not really be dead, maybe he's just sleeping."
"Trust me, he's dead. It doesn't matter how he died, that won't change the fact that he is gone. Digging him up won't change what happened to him, it'll just make you look like an idiot and re-traumatise his family."
"Yeah but... I'm just curious."
-sigh-
Just because you're curious, doesn't mean you're entitled to the knowledge of what has happened to somebody. They'll tell you, if and when they want to tell you.
Unless the bell is ringing
YES YES YES YES! This is a *perfect* analogy! 💜💜💜
@@8lavenderrose8 I understood that reference!
“You are not defined by your trauma.”
I needed to hear that tonight. Thank you for this video.
I don't really remember who it was that said this to me, but it's a powerful sentence I hold close to my heart. Slightly paraphrased because it applies to so many situations: "You didn't become a kind, loving person because of trauma. You became kind and loving IN SPITE of it. You would have been kind and loving even without it."
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I thought I already understood PTSD but I actually didn’t realise people experienced the memory as if it was happening in the moment so thank you for this. I thought it was bad already but this makes it way more intense than I realised.
for me i know its not happening its jsut that i reposnd as if it is, and i cant control that response
PTSD is so much more than people realize. I could go from looking, behaving normally, to heart racing, sweaty, breathing fast or gasping because I couldn't breathe, crying or mumbling because I couldn't get words out, vision blurred, dizziness, or even just standing there shocked, staring blankly and not speaking a word. All because of a trigger that sent me into overdrive and my brain essentially told me I was re-living the trauma all over again, instead of just a simple memory. With ptsd you might not know your triggers or can't control how you respond. People who haven't experienced ptsd have no clue how unnerving it is to live like that. For me it took years of therapy to understand my triggers, control my responses, and to feel safe and know I am ok in the moment of a flashback.
With my ptsd it's like I'm actually there in the trauma if I get triggered. It's awful and it forces me to relive it helplessly over and over
Singing Owl yes, it is not like you are just simply thinking about it & cry about what happened. When something or someone triggers your ptsd, it feels as if you have gone back to that time or place and are reliving it. To me with ptsd, it feels like I am there and I remember all of the bad things again. It is like you are in that place and time again. It sucks, but I try to manage
Flashbacks are like that yes. But there’s so much more to PTSD than just flashbacks. There’s dissociation, avoidance, depression, anxiety. I’ve been able to get rid of my flashbacks through a type of therapy called EMDR but I still have to deal with the rest of it. It can get better though. There is hope people!!
I love your big brown eyes so much :) they are soo expressive
thank you! 😍😯
Courtney Pie - ikr and the makeup!!!
I know right it's almost criminal how beautiful her eyes are.
I totally read that as expensive at first... I thought wow that's a weird choice of words 😂 😂 😂 I. Need. Sleep. Lol
Courtney Pie when i first read this I thought it said expensive hahahahaha
PTSD as a "memory-filing error." I like that.
I don't understand why people ask about trauma...
It is trauma. You don't ask a stranger about this. Someone you're not friends with. And even with friends you should ask really carefully and not push them to tell you anything!
that's... basic human knowledge.
A trauma is not a "awww you're sad? let me help you!" kind of thing...
sorry if I sound like a super-smart-better-than-you-whatever but I just don't get it.
I honestly never asked anyone about their trauma. It's none of my business.
Also I want people to come forward with that type of thing without me pushing or implying.
Exactly what I thought!
Unrelated to DID, & food for thought:
People do this to paramedics, nurses, fire fighters, police, emergency dispatchers, corrections officers and army personnel without thinking, either. And often try to seem tough and impress us by offering crass opinions because they think *we are* since we've "seen it all." Which can make someone feel crappy if something bothered them, and drive them to feel pathetic and possibly inadvertently now looking to self-harm.
As if we can dissociate from the dangers we sometimes put ourselves in, and of course from the horrible things the people we serve experience with us, or the things we empathize with that they've gone through.
We can't just be the happy and invunerable hero. It's a face we put on. And often the times you want to run and say, "I'm done: get an adultier adult, or a better me," we realize we've got to hunker down to summon our reserves of 'fight' to think through difficult situations.
And if a service isn't well supported monetarily with appropriate staff, sometimes there's much pressure to get right on the road again. And when it's busy like that, you're more likely to experience multiple crap calls per day because they need to be responded to first.
Yes, we signed up for it in a sense. But no matter how you teach about the issue of PTSD among workers in the emergency services fields, you can't fully prepare. By the nature of the disease, it's impossible to.
Plus, the denial factor. "You'll know when you need help, you're a pro and you've been taught." / "It's ok to cope how I'm coping, I'll know when self-medicating is a problem." / "I don't want to be weak or have to take a medical leave of absence or go on modified off-duty shifts!"
The # of first responder suicides is rising and rising. Because of PTSD & it not bring properly mitigated in advance (working too much, not seeing a therapist until in crisis).
Chloe & The Dissociadid System: what you're doing is so great. Please keep up the amazing work!!
Me too. I don't do that. When they think "Yeah, it's time, it's THAT person, I trust her/him very much, he's/she's my friend" okay, I'm here to hear, to trying to maybe help You a little bit if You want to.
Ikr?! You'd think people would know better
Thank YOU Chloe! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 this was so needed! We’ve heard it so much over the years and everything you’ve said in this is so relatable 💗 thank you so much again! Xx
MultiplicityAndMe I’m so sorry you have to deal with people that don’t understand how personal that information is. I love your system and I love Chloe and her system and I’m so happy I found your channels. I don’t have DID but I am so happy to have the opportunity to learn through you all.
💖💖💖💖💖💖
You're a genuine inspiration and I'm so sorry you want through any trauma xx
I'm studying psychology and thanks to you I've decided that I'm going to specialize in Trauma Disorders.
People can be so insensitive about this topics, specially in disorders as stigmatized as DID. There's tons of research to be done, tons of help to be provided and tons of stigma to be broken.
Thank you for making this channel, you're making the world a better place 🖤
Alfredo Vázquez congratulations! Good luck with your studies and thank you for trying to make a positive difference to the lives of this who have DID
Alfredo Vázquez good luck, that seems like a very interesting study, the brain is amazing and the way it copes with trauma is just amazing
I know this may be late but I'm also wanting to study psychology although I'm still young. Do you have any tips?
Good on you! As someone with a trauma disorder, I thank you. Less stigmatism!
Also, let's not forget the age old: "Oh but that happened ages ago!"
So many people have no idea how much people with trauma fear hearing that. First time I heard that phrase was from my best friend and bully, relating to my great grandmother's death. "It was a year ago, you've got no excuse for being sad still." We were 7. I've heard it far too many times since. "It was ages ago, it's not as if it was recent, it's not as if it even left any lasting marks lol." For the most part, I don't mind talking about my trauma. But some things I will not go into, because they are far too horrific and acknowledging them at all is bad enough.
If someone seems open enough about their trauma, then you can maybe ask a few questions, while assuring them they don't NEED to answer. Some people want to talk about things but can't just say them out of the blue, and can't find the right time to, so asking questions can be helpful. But do not pry too deep, and if they don't seem comfortable, do not pry at all. Also, I'd highly recommend asking if you can ask them questions first. Just to be sure.
1:47 - 2:11 CHLOE CAME FOR THEIR NECKS
Okay but all jokes aside, common sense. It's hard to talk about things that are simply embarassing. Trauma so mentally damaging it rewired your brain is not something you bring up as a conversation starter. No one owes you an explanation, and if they don't feel safe talking to you about this trauma, that's not their fault. It's their trauma. Don't try and pressure someone into telling you anything, especially something that was so damaging. That's the epitome of disregard for someone's mental/emotional health.
I don't know any scenario where I NEED to know someone's trauma. If they decide to share it with me I will support them in any way I can, but if they don't, they don't. It's not my place to ask.
This was a difficult watch as someone who has ptsd but I definitely needed to hear it. It made me think about my trauma in a different way so thank you.
Al Ward me too, I felt my heart starting to speed up I had my hands get hot and my mind slipping I had to snap out
same thing:( i almost started having a panic attack and i had to try my best to ground myself
Me too my heart was racing and head was dizzy. Just trying to stay calm but I needed to hear it🥺
I have to admit that I find DID incredibly interesting.. just because it makes me think how complicated and amazing our brains are. I’m not going to deny that at some point I wondered what kind of trauma Some people with DID have gone through, again the reason is that I wanted to understand just how much a child’s mind has to go through before creating an alter.. so you know what I did people?? I freaking googled stories of people who had been already willing to share their stories!! Not asking survivors to talk about something that they have said they won’t talk about it!!! Just because she is online it doesn’t mean she owes us anything! I understand being curious, but that doesn’t mean you need to go around asking people about their most painful memories, some people have already shared the stories but that’s very personal. I have no problem talking about how I was abused with anyone if the topic of abuse comes up, I can talk about it, it doesn’t affect me, but that’s MY decision! It doesn’t have to be everybody’s choice
Abril Akgun
Good on you for looking for people who already willingly shared their stories instead of badgering other people for theirs.
I agree 100%! And good idea, that's a smart sensitive way to learn more about trauma so good on you with that one
There’s a book called switching time a true story about DID, in it they discuss the trauma that person went through, I think reading it helped me understand the extent of the type of traumas that cause these disorders so it helped me understand a lot better why it is so important we are careful about what we say and ask. But please note that it is VERY triggering so please read at your own risk, however it’s a small part of a very informative book!
What people are capable of doing to children is sickening. You don’t have to imagine, its in the papers all the time. Abusers see children as their property, not as living autonomous beings. When I had my son, I was stunned for months because it became so clear to me that the people who were supposed to take care of me just didn’t. Before then I was blaming myself. Becoming a parent brings all of this into focus. You look at your child and all you want to do is keep that person safe. But there are so many people who don’t see children as their responsibility. They see it the other way around, that their children exist to entertain and care for their parents.
Luna Sears I agree with you so much. I look at my little baby boy and I just don’t understand how ANYONE would hurt them.. is sickening..
I'm very sorry that people genuinely don't understand that it's inappropriate to ask you about your trauma. Thank you so much for educating us all, I really hope your video allows somebody, even if it's just one person, to re-evaluate how they act. Thank you💞
Katie S very very well said!!!!
HEY GUYS. IM WATCHING THE VIDEO NOW AND I JUST WANTED TO SAY YOU ALL ARE SUPER LOVELY AND I HOPE YOU ARE HAVING A FANTASTIC DAY/NIGHT
i cant stop crying. this whole channel is beautiful and i feel honored to have found it. i couldnt have described trauma any better, and im going to send this video to everyone that has asked about my trauma. thank you so much for sharing this information as well as your story.
This is the first time I've heard of flashbacks described in this way. Thank you ❤️
off topic, but I'm loving the hair colour! Who chose it this time?
Ikr I love it!
Correct me if I'm wrong but I think it was Ruby?
@@christianf.5553 Ah, ok. Thank you for clarifying :)
Can I just say that with short black hair and the makeup seen in this video, Chloe would look JUST LIKE Snow White!! It would be so cool to see if they tried that sometime:).
@@charmomiletea1642 When I first came across her video (with dark hair), I thought she looked like Snow White too!
Never in my life have I heard ptsd and flashbacks explained in this way. It makes so much sense and I finally have ways to explain what's happening in my brain. I am so glad you were able to do this becoz years on you are still helping people. I can't express my feels of greatfulness rn now. Thankyou
ditto to that - short of we didn't even have this information in the 70's . . . being as young and articulate being able to explain this with such compassion is nothing short of awesome .
The fact that people can show themselves and tell their story In such a vulnerable state and put it online for educations sake is honestly so admirable. Much love. 💞
Chloe, I love how eloquent you speak in these videos. I really enjoy this video and appreciate all the content you and all the alters choose to create. Asking someone about their trauma just isn’t kind, to empathize with people we don’t necessarily need to know what they experienced, we just need to support them in the present. Great video can’t wait for the next one!
Love how eloquent you are in all of your videos, I’ve learnt so much about DID with your channel.
Chloe sweetly asking why these people feel so entitled and then dragggging them in her sweet matter of fact calm manner has been the highlight of my day.
Something that's really important too, sometimes even talking about being triggered can be triggering, even if you don't even remember your trauma.
It's not my job to decide if your trama is valid. I don't know why people think they are entitled to others private information. We don't need to make this any harder for you, we are all here to support you in what you think is best for the system!
Just a note that it's entirely possible - and not particularly uncommon - to have PTSD without having flashbacks. Flashbacks are one of many symptoms experienced in PTSD but they are not required for diagnosis.
I'm writing a character with PTSD, and this was an amazing explanation. Thank you.
Girl you rock.
I have a friend who has DID, PTSD and some other things. Although I suffered trauma myself I was 12 when it started. She was much younger. I help her and support her as much as I can but I would never dream of asking her to tell me about her trauma. It would be a very cruel thing to do to someone. I have seen many comments on your videos when people ask this and it makes my mind flip wondering why they would need to know.
Thank you for the videos you have produced. They have helped me to learn more about something I had no knowledge of before and helped me to understand my friend and her alters and their needs much better.
I love that you recognize that this painful question doesn't always come from unkind intentions, but sometimes from a desire to empathize or more deeply understand. Having said that, I appreciate you educating people about this being an unacceptable question, despite the intentions.
Thank you for this video. I am suffering from PTSD and this is so so so important. I love all of you in the system and love this channel.
I'm sorry that anyone with trauma related disorders have to deal with such inconsiderate inquires. It is an honor to be told by someone what conditions they deal with or have had. Knowing that information does not entitle anyone to details or further information. I don't know that it is ever appropriate to ask someone what trauma they have experienced in their life even if you become super close to them. If you care about someone you don't want to see them suffer. It is more appropriate to say, "If you ever want to talk about anything, I'm truly here for you. I care about you and nothing that you share about your life will change that."
It never ceases to amaze me how insensitive people can be. I am sorry that you had trauma in the first place, and sorry that you have to relive it when people ask intrusive questions.
Thank you so much for this channel; you are a good teacher!
Hello! I saw somewhere you were having a rough one, I hope you are in good care and I send all the love I can to your whole system and loved ones. Just want to chip in a good word, you are incredibly brave, smart and generous. The way you research and share on a topic so vulnerable and close to you is really amazing and it is something I am desperately looking for in all aspects of social support and awareness, regarding all the -isms and stigmas, and yeah, I guess I wanted you to know how special this is and how much hope it gives to see a pearl in the ashes. You are incredible not despite but even more so because of your struggles and the way you are reacting to them with kindness and generosity. I see the amount work you do and appreciate every part of it, even taking time to be away from it. Thank you
Thank you for your great comment, thanks to it I see that DissociaDID is still there, and it is great to know that they are ok.
I'm one of the new subscribers, I don't even know if Nin will read this but your videos about dealing with mental health have been of incredible help.
You have been helping many people and have given so much, sometimes putting yourself at risk in benefit of others. I am truly grateful for your braveness of being in Anthony's video, otherwise me and many people would have never found such helpful videos.
So...basically my brain just said Error 404, can‘t process this happening rn. Damn.
I thought it was normal for people to invade on my past until I went to therapy and tried telling my therapist and broke down and she told me I'm not ready to talk about my story. Now I feel confident enough to tell people I'm not okay with talking about it and I feel so much better
Can you do the Pottermore sorting quiz with some of your alters? I think it would be fun to see what houses they’re in
Or an mbti!!
Thank you so much for this video!! Some people just don’t understand, I’ve had people be like, “yeah I think I know what it’s like to have PTSD!”
But they don’t have it, so they don’t know, and I’m like sure Jan. 🙄 but you all of you guys so much, great video as always!! ❤️❤️
I personally am very interested/curious about trauma and it's effect on the brain from a psychological point of view but I would never dream of asking someone about their personal trauma, why would you do that? I honestly can't put into words how just sort of sick that makes me feel, asking someone something so personal without consent to. I'm so sorry that people have been asking you about your trauma through youtube (I've been following you for a while now and it always makes me sad when I see people ask questions about you experience) I hope that having made this video, you'll get less questions about it! Much love xx
Also just want to say, you've liked 3 of my comments now and every time you do I have a little (big) fangirl moment😂💕
I get told "if you won't tell me what you went through then it didn't really happen" or "oh well whatever happened must not have been to bad you'll get over it" 😐😪
I've once read a book that was basically an autobiography of a woman that took around 30 years before being diagnosed with DID and right at the beginning of the book, it states that, for privacy reasons, all of the names were altered (including hers, obviously).
When I found your channel, it reminded me of that book and why privacy can be so important. As much as she might've wanted to share her story to alert people and show the horrible things that can go unnoticed, she doesn't want people going after her to ask intrusive questions. And I imagine that, as much as you're here to educate us, you're not here to be bringing up those memories and putting yourself in bad places for the sake of internet curiosity.
I'm glad for this video. I had been worried about people not really thinking through before asking you something like this, so I hope this helps anyone anywhere think twice before asking about trauma to anyone they meet.
I'm baffled by how articulated you are, even with difficult topics like this. You're a great teacher. Keep taking care of yourself, you're amazing.
You explain things so well, and I have learned so much from your videos. Thank you for using your experience to be an advocate for those with DID and similar disorders, and to teach those of us who do not have those disorders how to be friends with and communicate with those who do.
This was a very wise and well said video, thanks Chloe :) You're such a beautiful soul (and set of souls, too). Thanks for always educating the rest of us who don't have first hand experience. Sending you all lots of love
for those who are curious- descriptive mentions of abuse and trauma coming up-;
a part of my trauma was my abuser brainwashing me to think im exactly like him, and that was reinforced by even other people that were being abused by him at the time because i was the strongest one. i acted as a shield for everyone else as much as i could, but that also means i absorbed and internalized a lot of his traits and methods and the harm.
ive been having trouble with my job lately because i have a lot of absences, and i recently explained how bad my flashbacks get and how its really unreasonable to expect me to know ahead of time when itll happen and call in while its happening because im basically not there, or on the floor screaming, sobbing, and throwing up while its happening. and id really rather that not bleed into my professional life at all for.. obvious reasons.
i had my roommate call in for me as soon as i could communicate it, give brief details about me possibly needing to be hospitalized so theyd take it seriously but not press for info, but we got an extremely insensitive and difficult to deal with reaction, and i was basically shoved back balls deep into my flashbacks again, and it took me another 3 hours to recover. i lost that day of pay, and if my psych wasnt so great with emails, i wouldve had to pay $20 for a doc note, which is required at this point. i only make minimum wage and ive got bills and rent to pay or ill end up back with my abuser. and they know this.
and i feel like im forced to explain everything and work way harder than everyone else just to keep my job despite 3 years of loyalty, and i never wanted any of them to know any of this horrific shit in the first place. the strain is getting to me. my abuser also had a hard time keeping a job because he'd start conflict with people on purpose a lot over petty things, and then he'd blame his mental illness and guilt us if we even so much as mentioned any discomfort from the economic instability. we were only kids. but sometimes i think im just a copy of him. and its so hard to separate myeslf from it all sometimes, because im literally like this because of him, and im literally half his genetics. and i wonder why i cant just get my shit together like everyone else, and why couldnt he get his fucking shit together.
i started crying like a fucking baby at around 10~11 minutes in. i feel so broken and sometimes i really believe i wasnt meant to exist in the first place, that my brain shouldnt have adapted and everything wouldve been better if i had just died. and i just really needed to see this video today. youre giving me a lot of comfort in a really.. not ok time for me. so thank you.
I absolutely love this channel so much. The entire video was so inspirational and educational, and every single time you post a video, it’s always giving me more knowledge on stuff that I hadn’t known before. And this part doesn’t matter as much, but I absolutely love the setting, it looks so warm and honestly gave me a sense of calmness
Hi. It's always a pleasure to listen to you talk about trauma DID Etc. I find I get so much out of each video and you do such a great job of delivering the information and content. Again thank you for this video.
I’m really glad you made this video, it’s important for people to hear.
I've just recently discovered ur Channel and this video helped me so much. I am dealing rn with some really really bad memories right now and it teared me down for almost 6 years.
But this video blessed my heart and gave me hope. Mostly because of the part with the "your trauma doesn't define you". It really felt so great to hear that.
Thank you.
I really enjoy your videos. You explain things in such a way that is both eloquent and yet accessible, even to people who don't arrive at your channel with much background knowledge on the topic, or even any at all. I always leave your videos having learned something.
Thanks for educating us!
i find your videos extremely interesting and educating, every time i watch one of your videos i feel more informed and understand much more than i did in the past about any kind of disorder. thanks so much for helping us all understand and be more aware of effects or processes of any kind of disorder. i love you all and admire you infinitely, have a great day! 💗💗💗
Thank you so so much for this video! It was very validating to hear that others suffer with not remembering their trauma. For me, I know there was trauma but I don’t remember the specifics surrounding it and it’s always made me question wether or not I’m making it up and it is very comforting to know that others go through the same thing ❤️ *your trauma does not define you!!!!*
I just started watching your guys channel last night and I've already gone on a binge of watching the videos you guys make. I love how you are raising awareness for not only your mental illnesses but most of them out there. I'm a new supporter of your channel and I hope that many others can find the information they need from your channel and I hope people can learn and end all the stereotypes around mental illnesses. Keep up the great work! Lots of love for everyone in the system
I love how seriously you address subjects like this, the way you speak about it is so engaging and I feel like I'm learning so much.
I'm glad you addressed this as people can be very rude when pushing for information, and if must be awful to deal with.
As someone with DPDR I have trouble with this. Lots of of my trauma is still an issue and affects my daily life. Thank you for speaking on this topic. I know I have a different dissociative disorder but this channel has helped me in my understanding of DID. Hope you can continue making great content ❤💕
This is so important
I had an ex who watched me have a flashback episode, and proceed to tell me "you are faking. This isn't real"
I’m so sorry you had to go through that trauma and then have someone devalue you in that way. Thank you for sharing that experience with us so we can truly understand how horrific PTSD and other types of flashbacks are, and see how unhelpful being doubtful or dubious is.
Having witnessed more than one flashback (my ex, who I'm still friends with, is former military), anyone who can fake a flashback with the level of vividness of the real thing deserves all the acting awards. They may also deserve a kick in the teeth, but that's another issue.
Thank you all for always being such a supportive and caring system, i'm very glad that I found my way to your channel since I subed and became a part of the journey couples of months? I honestly lost track of the exact time to when, anyway continue the great work and be proud of yourself you've gone through a lots and deserve lots of love and respect. -_Love from a viewer_
when you said being asked to explain trauma and feeling invalid because you cant exactly remember/explain it correctly hit so close to home.
I'm studying to become a therapist, and I just don't understand how people would just randomly ask anyone about their trauma. As a therapist I will have to be able to ask questions like that, and it's honestly so difficult to learn how and when you can appropriately touch on the subject (taking into account that you can't wait too long because you need that information to decide on the therapy)
I have received so much help through your channel. Thank you so much for doing this for us
Thank you for every single video you do. It's helping me understand so much. You're truly wonderful for all you do for people with trauma
Thank you SO much for making this video! For making this entire channel actually!
I love your videos. You give logical explanations as to why one might have certain psychological and mental responses ❤️❤️
"You are as wholly yourself as if you had not experienced your trauma" I needed to hear that, thank you
Hi to everybody in the DissociaDID system :)
Your channel got recommended to me a few days ago and I've been watching a lot of your videos since.
It's not only extremely educational and fascinating to learn what DID really is but also that I find your personalities (I've mostly seen Cloe, Nadia, Sally and Kyle so far) to be very sweet and caring. Everybody is beautiful in their unique way and all of you have so many good important things to say and exciting stories to tell.
I hope you (or anyone who reads this) are having a wonderful day.
Lots of love and sunshine from Switzerland 😘
I love your videos because despite having PTSD and trauma and knowing about it. YOU STILL SOMEHOW TEACH ME NEW THINGS CONSTANTLY. It's truly amazing.
I don’t even want to know about your trauma. That should be between the person and their therapist who can help them and are professionals in that area
One of my favourite videos this was so well explained!
Never quite understood flashbacks like this before ~
You're a very good teacher
Hi Chloe and everyone from the DissociaDID system! I'd like to thank you all so much for taking time to educate people (like myself) who don't have DID and providing such a great conversations to be started about mental health in general. I just recently found out my best friend since childhood has DID and watching your videos have help us both better understand DID and helped us get closer together. I've only ever met two of her alters and even then I didn't even know that they weren't her main host (I'm still not quite sure how to reference the alter that I've known most of my life) but even though DID is still new to me and kind of hard to understand for someone who doesn't have it, watching your videos is really helpful in being supportive for her. Her (known) system is still small but hopefully in the future when there may be more alters appearing I'll be able to be there and be even more informed on how to make them feel like they can be safe at least when they are with me. So thank you so much for making these videos!
Only at the beginning of the video, but you've already said something SO important, like please don't ask someone about their trauma❤️
I love this video so far (but pretty sure I'll love it as a whole as well cuz duhh I always do - you explain it perfectly❤️)
So amazing! Love you so much! You really shine a positive light on mental illnesses. I personally don't have DID but if I did I would be grateful for this channel. KEEP DOING GREAT!!!! MWA
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I am LITERALLY dying, YOU ACTUALLY LIKED MY COMMENT! I'm now wondering which alter it was.....
I've been watching these videos for about a week now and what a godsend. I don't have DID but I for sure have some kind of dissociative disorder (haven't ever seen someone for a proper diagnosis), and I never realized how incredibly helpful and validating it can be to see and hear someone talking about their experiences and other people's experiences that are so similar to mine. It's also SO comforting to see someone living with it and being relatively okay. I've never been brave enough to reach out to other people who might have the same thing that I do, so seeing an opening like this into a community that I belong to but have never been able to interact with has been so comforting.
tl;dr: I cannot thank you enough for being so eloquent, graceful and brave making this channel. It's helped me more than I can articulate.
I'm a therapist, and you explained PTSD (and DID) very well in layman's terms that others can understand, while still being accurate, great job! And I definitely agree with the overall message of the video too. In a lot of cases it's just simply not appropriate to ask details of someone's trauma. It's certainly humbling and an honour when anyone shares intimate details such as a trauma, and I've felt this both personally and professionally. As you mentioned, a lot of the time people are asking from genuine curiosity and/or desire to empathise, but likely without actually thinking about the impact that could have on the person holding the trauma. Everyone is different, but I've found a good starting point for someone with a friend/family member etc. that they know has a trauma-based disorder to build that bridge would be along the lines of "thank you for telling me you have X disorder, I won't ask for details but I'm happy to talk about anything around it with you, if / when you'd like to. Please let me know if there's anything I can do."
I hope people find this (and the Entropy System's) video really useful, you both have explained this topic in a clear and assertive way whilst not also demonizing or telling anyone off for being naturally curious. (Although yes if someone is asking in order to validate that's much less OK.)
Unrelated note, but looking super pretty! Love the hair and makeup. Your eyes look stunning :)
Great video. I have PTSD and some other mental health problems and you make a lot of great points that are very relatable.
I Love the music in these videos. I find myself humming it in my head during the day.
I'm so glad you made this video! I'm a new subscriber and I have had PTSD for a very long time. Almost any time I mention it, certain people will ask me "oh, why do you have PTSD?" or "what's your trauma?" It makes me really nervous to get those questions because it's like reliving the experience. Granted, I have been in therapy for over 10 years and I have finally come to a point where I am not constantly plagued by the memories, but I still get panic attacks and I still have my triggers, like certain smells and certain sounds. I really appreciate where you guys are doing here and you guys are so brave all the time! Please keep being so strong and keep being the community's voice! I love you guys!
Thank you so much for this video, this was so incredibly well spoken and on point, it made me learn a lot! I already had a rough idea on PTSD, but your explanation was so beautifully simple and at the same time logical - i think it gave me such a better understanding on the whole disorder. I myself didn't go through such a trauma (....i think, some things are a bit unclear) and i really hope i never made the mistake of just asking a person out of the blue about something as personal as that, but i will from now on definitely keep your words in my mind to as well keep that from happening further on, so that no one has to feel unsafe around me.
I really love your channel. You’ve educated me a lot about mental health ❤️❤️. I also have a question: when an alter is born or created do they immediately know what is their purpose or job in the system ? Do they know they are in a DID system ?
I'm pretty sure she's answered this before, but no! Not every alter will know they are an alter or know their role! ❤️
Roles and jobs can also change with time for an alter!
It depends on the alter - some do and some don't; it just depends. And, as previously mentioned, jobs can also change with time
Hey, I'm still learning about my own alters but, from I can understand, some do and some don't. So my first alter Poppy knew who I was, the people in my life and that she was the start of a system. Other alter Christopher, also knew about the fact he was an alter and knew about the other alters (at least a couple of them) but not much about my life and the people in it. Kitty, however, did not know she was an alter, she has talked about having a brother (the body doesn't have one), and was the host for a few years although she looks very differently to me etc. It really depends, just as I (the host) identify with this body and its lífe, have only begun to have knowledge of the system for a year and I don't have a lot of memories. We're all alters.
Hope this helps.
It all depends on the system and the alter.
I am blown away by how beautifully you discuss this sensitive topic. Well done. I am especially touched by "You are as wholly yourself as you would have been if you had never experienced a trauma." I needed to hear those words today.
THIS. On so many levels, this. I cried watching Wyn’s video the first time, and I’ve cried again this time. *My trauma does not define me and I will not give it credit for the person I’ve become.* Write it on my mirror, tattoo it on my leg, print it on sticky notes, keep a copy in my purse, whatever it takes - I am embedding this message in my life. Thank you for all you do, Chloe (and all DID RUclips systems spreading education and awareness!) xx ❤️
The way you explain things is honestly so comforting. You have an energy about you that's like a really really good and close friend. Not sure how to explain it further. But appreciate it in general and for own struggles and trying to sort things out.
You help even more than you know.. ♡
Thank you for being here for others especially those who are alone and confused, or even just lost.
You're that light in the darkness that helps reassure not everything is purely dark after all.
You make sense of things.. Haven't even asked but after hearing it, confirmed it needed to be known. Immense gratitude! ♡ So amazing.
Really needed to know so much of this because everyone should, to understand, but the timing..
The timing in itself is comforting/reassuring.
Thank you and wishing you the best!
This helps with understanding overall, indeed ♡
... Thank you. I watched this, nodding along with all the things you were saying, having seen these things happen before.
Then, at the end, you quoted Wyn, and it hit me like a wall. I have often in the past attributed positive aspects of my personality to past trauma. Perhaps as a way to deal, who knows.
This video makes me realise how counterproductive it is to do that, that I need to own the good things about me, rather than giving credit to trauma.
... Thank you.
Love the background!! Love your videos! 😊
I absolutely love the way that you explain trauma, trauma memories, flashbacks and triggers in a clear and understandable way that people who don’t experience those things would be able to digest easily. I think you did an astounding job with this video. Thank you so much
You are so well spoken, and your explanations are so easy to follow. I'm so glad you started this channel thus allowing us to learn more and behave in a more sensitive way. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video. I personally struggle with PTSD and this video is incredibly helpful already for explaining what I have to go through, and why its difficult to explain my traumas
hi! ive been binge watching you guys' channel whilst studying recently and ive grown to appreciate it and you guys so so much! i'm about to go into a diploma in health care/psychology and i was beginning to doubt what i was going to go into due to my own struggles which causes my motivation and energy to be very very skewed and low. my goal is to become a clinical psychologist or mental health nurse and to change others lives and be able to be a support figure for those that need it, learning about DID, PTSD etc from your channel as well as all of you personally have completely re-sparked my motivation in using my life to help others and you've all reassured me i want to go into helping others, your content has made me so much more excited to go into psychology and helping others with mental health disorders and illnesses as well as finding new ways to support them.
i have been watching your videos on trauma and PTSD and you just opened so many doors for me. i was diagnosed with it by my therapist and psychiatrist a couple of years ago and never understood why because it wasn't properly explained to me. i just thought "oh, i just have anxiety because of this thing, etc." flashbacks and other symptoms were never explained to me in a way that i understood, so i just thought it might've been a misdiagnosis. i feel like i understand now they might've been trying to bring this to light a step at a time, because watching these feelings has unlocked a lot of deep and heavy emotions inside me, but i needed to know this. i needed to understand myself. you are doing a wonderful thing here with your channel, and i am so incredibly proud of you (as a system, and each individual alter). thank you to everyone. so much
Oh goodness thank you! No one can say it enough. I hate having someone overhear me telling a close friend that I had a flashback (PTSD) and people butting in asking me why
Finally someone said it ❤
I'm glad she is going to explain this! Question: Do any of these go away?
Omg I love you profile pic. Billie is QUEEN 😍👸👑👑👑
@@raine2353 correct
I don't think effects and results of trauma goes away. Management of it is the best way to deal with this.
@@alexcole4970 ohhh okay it depends on the persons mind
@@GeeaRCee ohhh okay yah that makes sense
Chloe and the dissociDID system, I don’t have DID but I’m a wife of someone who has possibly had the condition and you all have helped me deal”?” With the new situation I’m experiencing with my wife. Hope all is well and I hope that you’re safe
Thank you for this video!
TRIGGER WARNING!! D*ath
Once someone asked me what it was like to watch someone die and I felt pressured to explain it to them even though it made me upset. I went home and thought about that day for the rest of the night and it ruined the rest of my day. So please never ask about trauma useless the person says its ok and NEVER make them feel pressured to explain it.
Every time someone discusses PTSD or CPTSD, which is what I personally suffer from (among other things) it makes me feel panicky and disossiative. The way you ended your video was very grounding and helped bring me back down from that internal terror. I want and need to talk about it, to learn more about it, to see other people represent what it means and that is why I watch well-thought-out videos such as yours. So thank you for both discussing the effects of trauma and providing grounding back as well.
this is such a great explanation of this for folks who don't have trauma. another thing i think it's important to bring up is that consent is SO important in any discussion about trauma. even if you are a traumatized person who wants to talk about your trauma, you NEED to give the other person some warning and ask for their consent first. i know a lot of people are okay joking about their trauma openly, even with people they don't know that well. but the thing is, you never know what other people are dealing with (especially if you don't know them that well). for example, my sister had a friend over the other day who i had only met once or twice. she is not aware of my trauma as i'm not comfortable discussing it with people i'm not very close to. during a perfectly normal conversation, she made a joke about the sexual trauma that occurred to her as a child very bluntly and out of the blue. this immediately triggered me into dissociation and i had to leave the room and hide out for pretty much the rest of the day. i cannot state how important consent always is in any conversation about trauma.
Gawsh this is such an important video. Nobody owes you anything when it comes to sharing personal things. Just because someone posts online about their life and they may share some things and leave out others, doesn't make it okay to ask for more. RUclipsrs, bloggers and advocates are people with actual lives, not just someone in a 14 minute video. Also like you and Wyn said, trauma and DID does not define me. That's so important.
All of your videos are sooo amazing. And wow the info about flashbacks and memory was so helpful! It helped me realize why I feel like I don’t have ptsd anymore, it kind of faded away bit I hadn’t seen a therapist since the diagnosis ... but I processed the experience and it is now a memory! Thank you 💕
Thank you so much for these videos. Ive been binge watching them lately. I do not have DID. But I still find so much information for my diagnosis. I am 34 and I'm finally in a place to process my cptsd but I still am having trouble realizing those things really happened to me. I dont remember any of my childhood before 6th grade. But I kept getting these what i now know is flashbacks. I still don't know if I believe myself that these things really happened to me. Some days I can tell my therapist it has. Others, I tell her no it never happened. I'm confused and scared and always felt like I was just crazy and had a big imagination. But there are too many signs now and I just cant deny it anymore. Thank you so much for these videos. I'm not sure I would still be here without them and the other WONDERFUL resources and groups I've found online. The way you describe trauma and PTSD is the one description that has made sense for me. 💚💚💚