+Julia Lucas I'm Polynesian - same tradition. However, my family changed it to feeding the kids first. Then elders - coz it just made sense to settle the kids and have them eat at their little table, so the elders and others could socialize.
I'm African American my mom served my dad then us kids . but for me I serve my baby first and everyone else. last but my son's father is from Ghana so thanks for info on how they serve food :-)
+Mo and Nath yes I also believe you serve the children first but only if they are too young to serve themselves. In west Africa where I'm from elders are served first as it's a sign of respect in my household (however) it was not a strict rule it's just something we knew as part of our morals. :) you're welcome hun.
+Jen321able that's how it should be lol if you're old enough to make your own plate, make your own damn plate lol make a grown ass person's plate for what? XD In the Jamaican culture the adults make their own plate but also the 4 oldest elders get dibs on the four "best" pieces of dessert.
I'm with Tamera. Everyone in my family serves themselves lol. For the kids that can't fix their own plate, their parents fix it for them. There honestly is no order.
Interesting to hear the different perspectives. I was raised like Adrienne, the man always went first (and sometimes the kids). It's really just a cultural norm for some people.
I think it's a cultural thing as well. I'm Polynesian/Asian and my husband eats last. We will feed our elders and our kids first then my husband will make sure I eat. He will eat last even if theirs no food left. He makes sure everyone else is fed.
I was raised in a "help yourself" household. Idk why everyone stressing themselves out about this. Everyone sit at the table and I'll serve you starting with who ever is on the left and work my way around. So whoever wanna be first, be first on my left. Y'all wanna eat or nah?
In the black culture the woman feed the men first and then the children but I feel strongly that the Young children should be fed first. I'm tired of us women having to cater to a man every second of our lives. A grown man should know how to cook and make his own plate and he should also have enough respect to let the kids eat first. Sometimes I hate my culture and never will I ever live by it.
I agree. I am Italian and men eat first whether it be your father, brother, or husband. Your kids will eat second and then you will eat last if you haven't eaten yet. But part of the issue is my they know it is inconvenient for the whole family but they still allow themselves to be servers to men. A man can take care of themselves no matter how much they complain of hunger. My babies come first, especially in an Italian household where a grandma will go crazy if her grandchildren haven't had dinner by 6.
not in my family, the kids was always served first...unless you have an elder like my grandma or grandpa then they get their plates first then the kids
I'm Mexican and I was raised as Adrienne, where you have to serve your man first. I honestly hate it, my man is not missing no hand and he can do it him self, but when he does I have my mom and my aunts on my ass nagging about it. Don't get me wrong, many times I do it because I want to and I know it is one of the many ways a couple treat each other, but let's say I honestly forget to do it sometimes... I don't wanna be treated like I just committed the worst sin in history.
+Zoids Zu Yes! I just wrote the same comment just now. At family parties, sometimes I'm so distracted with visiting, I serve myself and forget to serve my husband. You should hear the comments everyone starts throwing my way. Like, damn, I cook for him every day, can't I get a break?
It's the same in African culture. You feed your elders first. It's out of respect for those who came before you. This topic really depends on the situation though.. If it was a life and death situation, I'm sorry but my children are first, then I'd feed my mother, then my man and then put myself last. However, if it's just a normal family gathering, and everyone is getting food regardless, I'd feed the elders first.
J A. M I never had that idk if it’s where you live but my family always feed the kids plate first than theirs. Unless you are old enough to fix ur own plate and than u can get ur two feets and hands and walk and fix it yourself.
actually I understand what Jeannie is saying. In my culture when you are in a dinning table with your parents or any older person,they have to be serve (well they have to serve themselves of course)but they have too first, than the young ones seconds. That's only during dining, gathering But if you are in the family by yourself as a married person or as settled person, as a parent you have to feed your children first, then your husband, then you (according to my mums)
+Ben Osama i know if you try to serve first or the kid,i tell you no matter the age,you will have a stink eyes from your parent and and hearful from them too later on It's consider rude before an older person. when they get one..then you take some for the kids than the rest eats...however sometimes it also depends on the age of the children...if they are around 1-6 yrs then I guess they have to give us the say to give them foods first...if not the elderly goes first.. It's cultural thing
+Immanuel-Rabbouni The King of Salvation Tamar looked surprised about the kids going last, but when she said "kids go last" she wasn't talking about babies or young children who can't feed themselves yet, she's talking about 12 or 13 year olds that should be doing it themselves to begin with.
My husband and I serve ourselves. Now that we have a child, I'll probably be the one to serve him when he starts eating grown folk food. We don't really follow cultural rules. I believe that if your hands and feet are working fine and you have the God-given strength, then you don't need to be served 💁🏽
Notice at 1:30 when Jeannie was speaking but gets cut off by Adrienne... Adrienne placed her hand on Jeannie's arm and I think I she said sorry or something, and Jeannie's like it's okay. Cuutttteee love them both!
I'm with Adrienne here. My mother was Latina and she told us that the men are always served first and the kids usually go last, but obviously you would serve really small infants first.
asian culture and middle eastern is the same. Elders, then adults THEN children. Its VERY disrespectful to start feeding the child with the elders. I remember one of the perks of getting older was that I dont get the scraps anymore XD
aisha that's like African culture as has been said before but at the same time my family makes sure that there's enough food so that the kids are able to have a proper full meal and not the scraps because that's not cool and it isn't healthy
Not really I'm pretty middle Eastern and we obviously feed the children first. Who let's small kids go hungry and feeds the adults?😂 That's just basically human logic
If i had children, they would be first! Hands down! but since i don't, I would feed myself. I don't have a man and my dad feeds my mom so yeaaa 😂 easy question
That part I'll forever be confused by that I cooked and gotta serve you first unless you're too short to reach the stove as in under 8 years old make your own plate tf
I used to think the same thing until I got married. I don't know what it is but I take pride in serving/catering to my husband. I also know that he'll return the favor for me in other ways.
+Ashley Vaughan When you fall in love with someone worthy, you won't view it as submission, but you will see it as honoring. And don't think the honor is not returned, it goes both ways.
I love Tay Tay but what's that face she made when Jeanie talked about her culture? I'm Asian and we were raised up knowing how to pay respect to elders, teachers and monks. We always think they are superior to us. We would give a portion from every plate to elders who are sitting at the table, it goes by age like Jeanie said.
It wasn't a bad face. She asked a question. She was curious. She asked more questions about her culture. Don't start this feud between Tamar and Jeannie lol
+Nora Green I dont think she was trying to be rude but you gotta be careful with the side comments about other's people cultures and views. This may be The Real but having a different kind of view, way or perspective doesn't have to be a bad thing. Tamera had a different opinion but she just awwww in interest unlike Tamar who had to verbally disagree with Jeanie's point in a disgusting way. As much as I hate the Tamar vs Jeannie comments - its hard to ignore when the shade is sometimes obvious
Simply Massa In the respect your elders way but my family you feed the kids first than the adults eat but I started fixing my own food when I was 10 or 11 bc my parents wanted to show me more independence than I already had. Also bc I was old enough. I’ve been mature since a very young age so my parents trust me a lot. I never heard of feeding ur elders first that’s a new one for me just saying.
I am African (Cameroonian) and I will agree with Jeannie. I will serve my parents, then my kids, my husband and then myself. It's all about respect (the way my culture sees it).
+Lydie And Anthony VLOGS exactly. I think this explains whats wrong with a lot of kids today. they're used to the world revolving around them and they never learn to fend for themselves or serve/respect others.
+Lydie And Anthony VLOGS True. I'm Samoan, so I guess that's considered Asian in a way, and it works that way for us too. Elders eat first. You serve your parents their plates and then you can eat. Kids ALWAYS eat last.
Haha, what Loni said. There are some times when I really have to say to myself in my head "If I don't take care of / feed myself, I can't take care of/feed anyone else" because I'm pushing myself to the limit. But other wise dinner is set on the plate for everyone at the dinner table and we ALL eat together. Babies will get assistance if needed.
Watching this...I couldn't help but remember Jeanie's story about her dad and how he would bring food home (chicken or some treat) and he would let his wife and kids eat and wouldn't eat because he wanted them to get enough. Then at night he would go in the garbage and get the scraps...I can't think about that without crying. THAT'S A MAN!!!!!!!!!
oh no, i’m just thinking if that was my dad. uh uh, he deserves better than scraps. as a kid, i was more selfish and would want the food, but now that i am older and watching him age and all that he’s done for me, he should get the food he wants
It all really depends on the situations. The kids should definitely eat first but I also feel that the elderly should eat first as well. Like Tamar said there are a few elderly people in my family who has high blood pressure and diabetes and you always have to watch and take care of them and make sure that they are getting the right meals and proper nutrition. And there's the kids who can't really feed themselves or take care of themselves and you have to make sure that they are okay as well.
+Keyera Jennings Even if you have kids...according to the bible the spouse goes first...so if you're making your plate, then your husband gets his plate first. The kids, then yourself.
Kids should be fed first. The men should be fed LAST. The whole "yo man works hard" is stupid and ignorant. I work just as hard or even more. I cooked the food, I decide. Men need to know their place.
Also, in most African cultures bc the man provide the what we called "money for food," or "food money," daily, bc most African women cook daily, the woman ask the man what he wants to eat. She cooks according to his request. Most African men bk home are always out to work. They work really hard bc they provide everything. When he returns home, the kids, mom or everyone has already eaten. He's most times the last to eat. His wife, almost always serves him.
My man and I would have to rotate. Ain't no him and then me all the damn time. We BOTH have to be treated with priority. Now if I were a stay at home and my man was bringing in the bread and butter, it would be rightfully be he and then I.
The question was literal and they literally said kids first Tamara and tamar...man first Adrienne...elders Jennie ie. Mom and dad. You may not get the question was literal for whatever reason but in many cultures they take who gets served their meal first very seriously. My grandma ALWSYS fed the man of the house first. I find that trash and ALWAYS feed children first.
True Jeanie. Back here in South Africa, black South Africans believe that the elders go first, while Coloured South Africans will feed their children first. Being familiar with both cultures I can truly say that the black South Africans are more respectful of their elders than their coloured counterparts.
Absolutely not sweetheart. Not everything South Africans do is related to their "ancestors". One of the core values in our Black South African homes is respect and honoring the elderly. This is what motivates the serving order. Personally I've seen the benefits of this in the greater scope of things, our kids generally grow to be respectful and that is what makes the world a better place.
Kimberley Davids I think its a great value to enforce in a young persons life in any culture/household. It is unfortunately lacking in western society. I was suggesting that might be a possibility (as to why) for at least some households that practice this, seeing there are cultural/religious ties concerning ancestral honor for many african, asian as well as aboriginal faiths...Just a thought
The kid first for me, but I'd hesitate between my mom and my husband. But then again, my mom wouldn't let me take care of her, and she'd probably slap me in the face if I left my husband with an empty plate to do so.
just like Adrienne, in my culture, you feed your husband first. it's a sign of respect as the head of the household and as the provider for the home - even if you work as well - you have to honor his position in the home and in the family. I understand the whole feed the kids first because they can't take care of themselves yet. I used to think that way as well but the me I thought about it, I also know and feel that as your kids grow, your teaching them to be independent. one day, they're going to leave the nest and it'll just be you and hubby. he shouldn't have to wait that long to be honored by default because the kids are long gone. anyway, I will also like to add, that the key word is hubby - not boyfriend getting husband privileges. if there is no ring, my kids will most definitely come first. but I am married and my husband has worked very hard to support us while I went to school and still works very hard to provide for us. he deserves his plate first because none of us would have a plate if it weren't for him. I recently started working again and as my fellow provider and as the head of the table, he will always eat first.
it's not common in today times in America which is sad but usually the eldest relatives are looked at as the most wise and experienced members of the family. their guidance means a great deal to everyone younger than them. and all I thought about when adrienne said you serve the man first is lions. like the guy has to definitely eat to protect the family if need be. like he needs to be fed and at maximum strength to keep everyone else safe and taken care of...
It pisses me off so much that tamar says the Asian culture is backwards ... So disrespectful she thinks everyone is supposed to do it like her? Im so sick of her can we get a new 5th host PLEASE
Yeah she said something like that was back in the day. I think she only likes to look at things in her perspective and not pay much care to any others. In African culture and i'm sure in other cultures as well it's the same too we usually feed our elders first.
I wouldn't have said that on camera to Jeanie, but I kind of agree with Tamar. The kids should be fed first. they cant feed themselves. The elders should be wise enough and mature enough to have the patience to wait and serve themselves. But that's just my opinion
Yep. Man first. This goes in line w/ keeping your Spouse happy because one day that child is going to leave the house & you don't want to wake up 18 yrs later & realize you forgot about your husband all this time. This is one area that can help keep you in that mindset. I have no kids yet so I'll see how I do…
+She Loves not that he can't serve you. Not all however. It appears to be that more women than men take on the role of delving too much into parenthood where the husband isn't shown he proper attention. And I come from the Ideal where you put your spouse before your children. Now I speak for myself, hence I shared my experience. But not that husband couldn't serve the wife at all.
I agree with Adrienne because in my family you serve the men or your man first and the kids come last(I'm South African). I think that's what happens in all African cultures but different households do things differently.
In African culture or I should say Ndebele culture - toddlers are served first probably whilst some of the food that adults eat is still being served. This is to make sure that they aren't pestering adults for food when it's eating time. Then elders are served first and then children and you serve yourself last.
I’m Italian and we tend to have lots of family dinner parties so this is what I observed. Grandparents (elders) get served first, then the older men and women goes next, then people like me, then the young ones. Young children don’t sit with the adults so they tend to have their food plated already.
In a scenario where the children are 3 and up, I would serve my husband first, mom (she's a guest), children, then myself and we would all eat TOGETHER after we bless the food.
+Michelle Talley Yes...or how about, i'm probably eating while i'm making plates or cooking anyway so by the time everybody has their food, i'm not that hungry so it works out. LOL...
i love how they all differ from one another, but still agree harmoniously in the end without having to change their identity and their preferences or opinions.
Yes Jeannie, that relates to African culture too. "Elders go first"
That's what I thought ( we do that in my country too)... I'm African too !!
+Julia Lucas I'm Polynesian - same tradition. However, my family changed it to feeding the kids first. Then elders - coz it just made sense to settle the kids and have them eat at their little table, so the elders and others could socialize.
+Ivy Ose Yup!
I'm African American my mom served my dad then us kids . but for me I serve my baby first and everyone else. last but my son's father is from Ghana so thanks for info on how they serve food :-)
+Mo and Nath yes I also believe you serve the children first but only if they are too young to serve themselves. In west Africa where I'm from elders are served first as it's a sign of respect in my household (however) it was not a strict rule it's just something we knew as part of our morals. :) you're welcome hun.
My mom always fed us kids first. And if you're old enough you can make your own damn plate, lol.
+Jen321able that's how it should be lol if you're old enough to make your own plate, make your own damn plate lol make a grown ass person's plate for what? XD In the Jamaican culture the adults make their own plate but also the 4 oldest elders get dibs on the four "best" pieces of dessert.
Naturalista Nas Exactly! And that dessert rule is interesting, I notice a lot of older people have big sweet tooth's, lol.
***** yes they so do!
Most time the cook eats first, than it goes by handicap
That's lack of custom. Western civilization. What culture are you??
1:31 was so cute when adrienne accidentally asked for Tamera as Jeannie was mid sentence and she patted her hand saying sorry haha
they always Cut her off
+Danny Nguyen lol yess I noticed that too aww
They have a cute friendship. they didn't even have to talk thier hands spoke for them lol
Yeah I caught that
Yeah that was really sweet
After Tamar was talking Jeanie was about to talk but Adrianne said tam and then apolligized and I think that's so great how they treasure each other
I saw that too. So cute!
malaea winsington THAT WAS SO CUTE!!!
Jane Ryan I don’t get what happened?
@@shivairas6717 Adrienne accidentally cut off jeannie and as a way of saying sorry she put her hand on her arm.
Khariana Hampton oh thx
"Well I go by the Airplane culture" BWAHAHA
Damn Loni, you so funny!
I'm crying at Loni's response😂
Ikr 😂😂😂
+Celina Noemi Yes, it was the best.
Celina V Me to😃😃
I was actually surprised at Tamar's answer. I agree with her. Exactly in that order.
I'm with Tamera. Everyone in my family serves themselves lol. For the kids that can't fix their own plate, their parents fix it for them. There honestly is no order.
Interesting to hear the different perspectives. I was raised like Adrienne, the man always went first (and sometimes the kids). It's really just a cultural norm for some people.
Same I've been raised where the man goes first
Empressive old school rofl
I think it's a cultural thing as well. I'm Polynesian/Asian and my husband eats last. We will feed our elders and our kids first then my husband will make sure I eat. He will eat last even if theirs no food left. He makes sure everyone else is fed.
@@luvinafool143 yh like African/Carribean
Misogynistic AF.
kids,mom,hubby,me
lowkey i probably have eaten in the process of cooking LMAO!
Not gonna lie, it would be: Mum, hubby, kids, me.
This is definitely the truth
hahahahahahah same
I hated growing up and my mom always fed my dad first then us then herself. I think kids/elders should b first. bte, who is rochelle and naomi???
Rochelle is a blogger who is friends with Latoya forever
+tyerra1213 ohhhh ok, thnx
+tyerra1213 use to be latoya's friend they are no longer friends
Why do people teach putting able bodied men before a helpless child? How did that make you feel growing up?
***** Didn't know that. I don't watch Keeping up with the Ratchets anymore
I think it should be
Kids
Elders
Man/yourself he can do it himself or take turns
I agree
Omg!! the lil girl on that meme picture is Naomi Rochelle (crazylightskin) daughter lol....
OMG she does
Omg it is!
I saw that too lol
lool yess
+sarah alii I thought it was too! Wow.
I was raised in a "help yourself" household. Idk why everyone stressing themselves out about this. Everyone sit at the table and I'll serve you starting with who ever is on the left and work my way around. So whoever wanna be first, be first on my left. Y'all wanna eat or nah?
😂😂😂
Loni caught me off guard with that lol!
In the black culture the woman feed the men first and then the children but I feel strongly that the Young children should be fed first. I'm tired of us women having to cater to a man every second of our lives. A grown man should know how to cook and make his own plate and he should also have enough respect to let the kids eat first. Sometimes I hate my culture and never will I ever live by it.
I agree. I am Italian and men eat first whether it be your father, brother, or husband. Your kids will eat second and then you will eat last if you haven't eaten yet. But part of the issue is my they know it is inconvenient for the whole family but they still allow themselves to be servers to men. A man can take care of themselves no matter how much they complain of hunger. My babies come first, especially in an Italian household where a grandma will go crazy if her grandchildren haven't had dinner by 6.
not in my family, the kids was always served first...unless you have an elder like my grandma or grandpa then they get their plates first then the kids
I am haitian, they have tried to brainwash me with this nonsense. I objected, ABSOLUTELY NOT..
Nahhh In black culture at least I know African American culture lets kids go first
Actually it depends.... Because i remember at church when we eat the elders go first
I'm Mexican and I was raised as Adrienne, where you have to serve your man first. I honestly hate it, my man is not missing no hand and he can do it him self, but when he does I have my mom and my aunts on my ass nagging about it. Don't get me wrong, many times I do it because I want to and I know it is one of the many ways a couple treat each other, but let's say I honestly forget to do it sometimes... I don't wanna be treated like I just committed the worst sin in history.
+Zoids Zu men love their food and they get angry if not fed. they are like gremlins
+Mia Walker lmao "gremlins", you killed me 😂😂😂.
+Zoids Zu Yes! I just wrote the same comment just now. At family parties, sometimes I'm so distracted with visiting, I serve myself and forget to serve my husband. You should hear the comments everyone starts throwing my way. Like, damn, I cook for him every day, can't I get a break?
+This Anonymous OMG, yaaas! Thank you! You know exactly what I mean (:
I’m Mexican and kids eat first. Usually with the dad. Then the mom
It's the same in African culture. You feed your elders first. It's out of respect for those who came before you.
This topic really depends on the situation though.. If it was a life and death situation, I'm sorry but my children are first, then I'd feed my mother, then my man and then put myself last. However, if it's just a normal family gathering, and everyone is getting food regardless, I'd feed the elders first.
J A. M I never had that idk if it’s where you live but my family always feed the kids plate first than theirs. Unless you are old enough to fix ur own plate and than u can get ur two feets and hands and walk and fix it yourself.
actually I understand what Jeannie is saying. In my culture when you are in a dinning table with your parents or any older person,they have to be serve (well they have to serve themselves of course)but they have too first, than the young ones seconds. That's only during dining, gathering But if you are in the family by yourself as a married person or as settled person, as a parent you have to feed your children first, then your husband, then you (according to my mums)
Wow
+Ben Osama i know if you try to serve first or the kid,i tell you no matter the age,you will have a stink eyes from your parent and and hearful from them too later on It's consider rude before an older person. when they get one..then you take some for the kids than the rest eats...however sometimes it also depends on the age of the children...if they are around 1-6 yrs then I guess they have to give us the say to give them foods first...if not the elderly goes first.. It's cultural thing
it's similar to Arab culture, we love respect older people
+Immanuel-Rabbouni The King of Salvation Tamar looked surprised about the kids going last, but when she said "kids go last" she wasn't talking about babies or young children who can't feed themselves yet, she's talking about 12 or 13 year olds that should be doing it themselves to begin with.
Yeah same it's usually you serve the elders + babies first and then the kids (like the small children) and then the older kids/teens go last
Never thought about it but Adrienne was right..my mom would always serve my dad first when they were together, then us kids, then herself .
Children come first. All day every day. Children, mom, husband, then yourself. Or you and your husband at the same time.
No, they don't.
exactly
Kids don't come first for everything.
+C Ali they do for me
IRN REP And that's why so many marriages don't last.
LOL Loni!!!!! There's a difference between food and oxygen!!!!!
Is there ? is there, though ? :)
Esther Grace Without oxygen, you die. Without food, you die. I don't see any difference.
1:28 DYING, Adrienne cutting off Jeannie and then going "oh" and squeezing her arm!!
My husband and I serve ourselves. Now that we have a child, I'll probably be the one to serve him when he starts eating grown folk food. We don't really follow cultural rules. I believe that if your hands and feet are working fine and you have the God-given strength, then you don't need to be served 💁🏽
You always serve elders, first.
Notice at 1:30 when Jeannie was speaking but gets cut off by Adrienne... Adrienne placed her hand on Jeannie's arm and I think I she said sorry or something, and Jeannie's like it's okay. Cuutttteee love them both!
+Janelle W Right?? Proves that these girls are R E A L friends!
Y'all peep 1:32? 😂😂💀😭 they need to stop doing Jeanie like that 😭
Lmao!! Omg I love Loni's response!!! YASSS! Feed yourself first!
Im black and in my house my mom always made my dad a plate first so im with the cheetah girl lol
"So I'm with the cheetah girl" GIRRRRRRLLL YOU KILLED ME 😂😂😂😂
same
+Estefania Gutierrez Lmfao
+Estefania Gutierrez Lmfao
+Estefania Gutierrez Lmfao
Kids under 12-13 should always come first, the adults work it out from there
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Man, kids ,mom,you
actually leave the mom out because mom's can make their meals
+Sheila Nistor your man can too lol
sarah phinees Like seriously.
I'm with Adrienne here. My mother was Latina and she told us that the men are always served first and the kids usually go last, but obviously you would serve really small infants first.
Everything is hot to jeannie 😂 and of course adrienne is serving her man first, I mean, she did come up with "do something nice for a grown man" day 😂
OMG I had forgotten about that xD
+kalifa simmonds lol! when did that "do something nice for a grown man" thing happen?? I don't think I've seen that one
asian culture and middle eastern is the same. Elders, then adults THEN children. Its VERY disrespectful to start feeding the child with the elders. I remember one of the perks of getting older was that I dont get the scraps anymore XD
+aisha L African culture too ! Would seem weird to us if the kids are eating and the elders not
aisha that's like African culture as has been said before but at the same time my family makes sure that there's enough food so that the kids are able to have a proper full meal and not the scraps because that's not cool and it isn't healthy
aisha middle eastern is asian too
Not really I'm pretty middle Eastern and we obviously feed the children first. Who let's small kids go hungry and feeds the adults?😂 That's just basically human logic
Sahar Azizkhani forreal
If i had children, they would be first! Hands down! but since i don't, I would feed myself. I don't have a man and my dad feeds my mom so yeaaa 😂 easy question
feed the kids first...its not that deep
lol true
different culture, respect
wait but why are women expected to serve their grown ass husbands? they can serve themselves lmaoooo what is this?
You know, that's that old school Cater 2 U type of loving.
tbh it just reminded me of gender roles lol bc a lot of families I know expect women to do all the cooking and serving and catering 😩
(Or at least the large majority of it)
That part I'll forever be confused by that I cooked and gotta serve you first unless you're too short to reach the stove as in under 8 years old make your own plate tf
I used to think the same thing until I got married. I don't know what it is but I take pride in serving/catering to my husband. I also know that he'll return the favor for me in other ways.
I'm with Loni. Myself, girl if I'm dying of starvation, how am I gonna help your ass out? lol
Serve your man first??? See this is why I'm single. Why can't we all serve ourselves?!?!! Tf?
Looooool
+Ashley Vaughan am with you on that lol
+Ashley Vaughan exactly
+Ashley Vaughan When you fall in love with someone worthy, you won't view it as submission, but you will see it as honoring. And don't think the honor is not returned, it goes both ways.
***** It's not nonsense, but hey don't take a 33 yr old married woman's advice. lol. We're still good.
I love Tay Tay but what's that face she made when Jeanie talked about her culture? I'm Asian and we were raised up knowing how to pay respect to elders, teachers and monks. We always think they are superior to us. We would give a portion from every plate to elders who are sitting at the table, it goes by age like Jeanie said.
It wasn't a bad face. She asked a question. She was curious. She asked more questions about her culture. Don't start this feud between Tamar and Jeannie lol
+Nora Green I dont think she was trying to be rude but you gotta be careful with the side comments about other's people cultures and views. This may be The Real but having a different kind of view, way or perspective doesn't have to be a bad thing. Tamera had a different opinion but she just awwww in interest unlike Tamar who had to verbally disagree with Jeanie's point in a disgusting way. As much as I hate the Tamar vs Jeannie comments - its hard to ignore when the shade is sometimes obvious
She just does not like Jeannie! So anything she says annoys her
She made the same face I did...yall feed grown folks over kids who can't serve themselves? Interesting
Myself.
bye everyone else can handle their food
right !
Facts
Yesss!!! 😂😂
+pepelishis shitty mom, future kids on drugs tbh
LOL amen kuddos to you for saying it is
My kids, then me. My momma and my spouse can serve themselves
+aradaisy lol
MO Moses That's how it is Mo lol
love it 😂😂
Yeapppp
African culture and Asian culture are similar In that way as well.
and Arabic culture we love respect olders
and Arabic culture we love respect olders
Simply Massa In the respect your elders way but my family you feed the kids first than the adults eat but I started fixing my own food when I was 10 or 11 bc my parents wanted to show me more independence than I already had. Also bc I was old enough. I’ve been mature since a very young age so my parents trust me a lot. I never heard of feeding ur elders first that’s a new one for me just saying.
I am African (Cameroonian) and I will agree with Jeannie. I will serve my parents, then my kids, my husband and then myself. It's all about respect (the way my culture sees it).
+Lydie And Anthony VLOGS exactly. I think this explains whats wrong with a lot of kids today. they're used to the world revolving around them and they never learn to fend for themselves or serve/respect others.
+Lydie And Anthony VLOGS True. I'm Samoan, so I guess that's considered Asian in a way, and it works that way for us too. Elders eat first. You serve your parents their plates and then you can eat. Kids ALWAYS eat last.
You can tell Adrienne and Jeannie have a real, genuine friendship outside of the show
Haha, what Loni said. There are some times when I really have to say to myself in my head "If I don't take care of / feed myself, I can't take care of/feed anyone else" because I'm pushing myself to the limit. But other wise dinner is set on the plate for everyone at the dinner table and we ALL eat together. Babies will get assistance if needed.
This isn't a meme, this is some random post they found on Facebook that had over 500 likes.
Watching this...I couldn't help but remember Jeanie's story about her dad and how he would bring food home (chicken or some treat) and he would let his wife and kids eat and wouldn't eat because he wanted them to get enough. Then at night he would go in the garbage and get the scraps...I can't think about that without crying. THAT'S A MAN!!!!!!!!!
Omg! Yes i remember too that made me Cry😔😩
oh no, i’m just thinking if that was my dad. uh uh, he deserves better than scraps. as a kid, i was more selfish and would want the food, but now that i am older and watching him age and all that he’s done for me, he should get the food he wants
It all really depends on the situations. The kids should definitely eat first but I also feel that the elderly should eat first as well. Like Tamar said there are a few elderly people in my family who has high blood pressure and diabetes and you always have to watch and take care of them and make sure that they are getting the right meals and proper nutrition. And there's the kids who can't really feed themselves or take care of themselves and you have to make sure that they are okay as well.
Biblically, the spouse goes first.
Not if you have small kids
+Keyera Jennings Even if you have kids...according to the bible the spouse goes first...so if you're making your plate, then your husband gets his plate first. The kids, then yourself.
That is correct! Order.
Awww look at Rochelles daughter naomi in the kids picture
+liseebaby omggg i paused and thought the same !!
Which Rochelle, from the Saturdays?
crazylightskingirl from yt loool
+AJ K didn't they use a picture of latoya just the other week lol
+liseebaby really which video
Kids should be fed first. The men should be fed LAST. The whole "yo man works hard" is stupid and ignorant. I work just as hard or even more. I cooked the food, I decide. Men need to know their place.
j5hp men need to know their place? Spoken like a true single woman.
j5hp it’s all about being courteous and loving and caring... we don’t always have to be selfish
ugotserved911 😂😂probably
@@ugotserved911 you sound ugly
women need to learn they place seriously. in other cultures you would be crucified for the typical American way of life
My family is Italian and we're like Jeannie. The elders always go first and the kids always go last.
Also, in most African cultures bc the man provide the what we called "money for food," or "food money," daily, bc most African women cook daily, the woman ask the man what he wants to eat. She cooks according to his request.
Most African men bk home are always out to work. They work really hard bc they provide everything. When he returns home, the kids, mom or everyone has already eaten. He's most times the last to eat. His wife, almost always serves him.
Loni got me screaming! Love it!
"The kids get the scraps"! 😂😂😂😂 Tamar just doesn't care!!!!
LOL Loni last comment was hilarious
Kids first, parents second, then my man and I serve ourselves
I'm with Jeannie. I don't have any kids, but the way I think it should go is.
1. My Mom/Man
2. My Kids
3. Me
hold the phone ! is that little girl on the pic collage Rochelle clark's daughter naomi ???? if you are a customer let me know your thoughts lol
It is (:
I didn't even notice until I read your comment! It sure looks like her
I love how Naomi's picture is up there lol
I knew that was Naomi
+Diane Ayetan Naomi from Rochelle's Vlog's right? I thought she looks just like her, is it really her?
Did no one else notice how when Adrienne cut Jeanie off they ended up having a little hand holding moment that was too cute!
Jeannie looking fabulous!!
My man and I would have to rotate. Ain't no him and then me all the damn time. We BOTH have to be treated with priority. Now if I were a stay at home and my man was bringing in the bread and butter, it would be rightfully be he and then I.
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I think they took the "eating" aspect of the question too literally, obviously we know kids have a schedule, but where do they stand in your life?
+Leah E lol yeah that's what I got from the question too. Who do you put first or make your main priority
The question was literal and they literally said kids first Tamara and tamar...man first Adrienne...elders Jennie ie. Mom and dad. You may not get the question was literal for whatever reason but in many cultures they take who gets served their meal first very seriously. My grandma ALWSYS fed the man of the house first. I find that trash and ALWAYS feed children first.
please.. SERVE YOUR DAMN SELF!!! 😂😂😂
True Jeanie. Back here in South Africa, black South Africans believe that the elders go first, while Coloured South Africans will feed their children first. Being familiar with both cultures I can truly say that the black South Africans are more respectful of their elders than their coloured counterparts.
+Kimberley Davids Hmm. The elders going first might have to do with religious/cultural practices that believe in honoring ancestors once they pass
Absolutely not sweetheart. Not everything South Africans do is related to their "ancestors". One of the core values in our Black South African homes is respect and honoring the elderly. This is what motivates the serving order. Personally I've seen the benefits of this in the greater scope of things, our kids generally grow to be respectful and that is what makes the world a better place.
Kimberley Davids I think its a great value to enforce in a young persons life in any culture/household. It is unfortunately lacking in western society. I was suggesting that might be a possibility (as to why) for at least some households that practice this, seeing there are cultural/religious ties concerning ancestral honor for many african, asian as well as aboriginal faiths...Just a thought
+Nessa I had not thought of it in that way... But I totally agree with you that is a possibility.
Yeah! I agree with Adrienne! My mom is forever serving my dad first and always leaves me hanging lmao
In my Culture it is Survival Of The Fittest
+rwar W what's your culture?
rwar 😂😂😂😂 this must be Africa.
The kid first for me, but I'd hesitate between my mom and my husband. But then again, my mom wouldn't let me take care of her, and she'd probably slap me in the face if I left my husband with an empty plate to do so.
the little girl in the meme is Naomi,Rochelle Clarks daughter lol..
+Helga G Pataki lol yes!! I had to pause for a sec. She is so cute!
ohhh yeah i see that too
OMG I KNEW IT I HAD TO DO A TRIPLE TAKE
Is that Naomi (Rochelle's daughter)? Everyone uses the same print ads.
+pgit92 i was thinking the same thing! I was like hol up whats naomi doing here lmao
Yes that is naomi ❤️
who is naomi
who is naomi
who is naomi
I just love how Loni said it...
My choices are Me. Myself. and I.
"the kids get the scraps?!" Tamar had me squealing lol why did she say it like that lol?
just like Adrienne, in my culture, you feed your husband first. it's a sign of respect as the head of the household and as the provider for the home - even if you work
as well - you have to honor his position in the home and in the family. I understand the whole feed the kids first because they can't take care of themselves yet. I used to think that way as well but the me I thought about it, I also know and feel that as your kids grow, your teaching them to be independent. one day, they're going to leave the nest and it'll just be you and hubby. he shouldn't have to wait that long to be honored by default because the kids are long gone. anyway, I will also like to add, that the key word is hubby - not boyfriend getting husband privileges. if there is no ring, my kids will most definitely come first. but I am married and my husband has worked very hard to support us while I went to school and still works very hard to provide for us. he deserves his plate first because none of us would have a plate if it weren't for him. I recently started working again and as my fellow provider and as the head of the table, he will always eat first.
"Put the oxygen mask on you first..." LOL!
When Jeannie was about to say something Adrienne said Tam she interuppted Jeannie but started rubbing her hand saying sorry theyre so cute
I'm with Loni!! Yep oxygen mask on me first! Yasss! I cant serve my mom, my kid and my man if I'm not well. 😆
Just cause the man is "served" first doesn't mean he eats first, he just gets the first plate. That's all it is.
Domiiniique Moore that’s right. He may get his plate first but we’re all eating at the same time
The kids, mother, man, myself.
That was a good one Loni lool
LMFAO “well I go by the airplane Culture...” Loni is my hero
why they got Rochelle Clarke child up thier
it's not common in today times in America which is sad but usually the eldest relatives are looked at as the most wise and experienced members of the family. their guidance means a great deal to everyone younger than them. and all I thought about when adrienne said you serve the man first is lions. like the guy has to definitely eat to protect the family if need be. like he needs to be fed and at maximum strength to keep everyone else safe and taken care of...
It pisses me off so much that tamar says the Asian culture is backwards ... So disrespectful she thinks everyone is supposed to do it like her? Im so sick of her can we get a new 5th host PLEASE
Yeah she said something like that was back in the day. I think she only likes to look at things in her perspective and not pay much care to any others. In African culture and i'm sure in other cultures as well it's the same too we usually feed our elders first.
I wouldn't have said that on camera to Jeanie, but I kind of agree with Tamar. The kids should be fed first. they cant feed themselves. The elders should be wise enough and mature enough to have the patience to wait and serve themselves. But that's just my opinion
@@chanelhamilton4840
Just because something has been done and tolerated for years doesn't necessarily make it right. so i agree with you.
My dad was always served first and it wasn't a big deal
Yep. Man first. This goes in line w/ keeping your Spouse happy because one day that child is going to leave the house & you don't want to wake up 18 yrs later & realize you forgot about your husband all this time. This is one area that can help keep you in that mindset. I have no kids yet so I'll see how I do…
+Mary H. So if the spouse should be kept happy why can't he serve you?
+She Loves not that he can't serve you. Not all however. It appears to be that more women than men take on the role of delving too much into parenthood where the husband isn't shown he proper attention. And I come from the Ideal where you put your spouse before your children. Now I speak for myself, hence I shared my experience. But not that husband couldn't serve the wife at all.
Mary L. a
Mary L. Your husband isn't gonna stay just because you feed him first.
I agree with Adrienne because in my family you serve the men or your man first and the kids come last(I'm South African). I think that's what happens in all African cultures but different households do things differently.
Yes, im hispanic and serving your man first is definitely what is "supposed" to be done. Even in very informal settings like at BBQ parties and all.
Wow i would fucking hate my parent if he/she didn't feed me first
In Morocco we don't have this problem, cause it's usually one big plate and we all eat from it 😂
Ahh that’s so cool! 🤩
In African culture or I should say Ndebele culture - toddlers are served first probably whilst some of the food that adults eat is still being served. This is to make sure that they aren't pestering adults for food when it's eating time.
Then elders are served first and then children and you serve yourself last.
Yassss! #NdebeleSquad!! 😎
+Jay M yaaay!! Yebo mnawam'
Shona over here ! But same
I’m Italian and we tend to have lots of family dinner parties so this is what I observed. Grandparents (elders) get served first, then the older men and women goes next, then people like me, then the young ones. Young children don’t sit with the adults so they tend to have their food plated already.
In a scenario where the children are 3 and up, I would serve my husband first, mom (she's a guest), children, then myself and we would all eat TOGETHER after we bless the food.
I’m my Latin household. They always fed kids first then adults all together. Mom, dad, grandma, uncle.
my babies eat first, my mom and myself
+Michelle Talley Yes...or how about, i'm probably eating while i'm making plates or cooking anyway so by the time everybody has their food, i'm not that hungry so it works out. LOL...
Shelley Shell boom! That works also
Have a blessed day.
What about your man ?
itsjustasimplestory yeah, if I had one
It’s so interesting how every culture is different for this unwritten rule
My man first lol Idk, just want to make him feel like a King.
Tiffany Malone is your man doing the cooking?
i love how they all differ from one another, but still agree harmoniously in the end without having to change their identity and their preferences or opinions.
awweww NAOMI lool she look just like jordan here
"The kids get the scraps" - Tamar. LOL
I'm with Loni!