How to Have Conversations That Actually Improve Your Relationships

If you want to have conversations that actually improve your relationships, the secret lies in the way you listen, not in the words you speak. #shorts
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I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men.
I help divorced men move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same.
DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.

[@mikkis668]

More on this topic would be great. That "listening between the lines" is not easy nor natural...

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

Awesome feedback, thank you. I will put it in my content creation list!

[@ijordo]

The Divorce Legend of RUclips. Pay attention gentleman. Listen to what she says, i have appreciated her perspective on things so much and has helped me see the world with new eyes.

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

Thanks Jordan!

[@ShailendraBaranwal-y1c]

'Genuinely listen ' even when all they talk is crap.

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

There is always a reason people say what they do. I think the key to having happier relationships is to learn to read between the lines - why are they talking 'crap'? What is it that they need you to hear/understand or see? Despite a lot of propaganda here on youtube and other outlets, people (men and women both) want connection, freedom and safety. When we're missing any of those things we often behave in odd ways or say strange things in misguided strategies to get them.

[@markgamache6377]

Mostly this is good advice, unless your interlocutor is toxic (NPD or BPD for example). Also consider divorced people tend to have a higher incidence of personality disorders.