Alexandra Rodriguez "Too Fat to Give Birth"
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Obese women should only gain 11-20lbs during pregnancy. So 10 wasn’t too far off, but yeah. The office was not equipped to deal with it, that’s just the reality. Also, saying she’s so heavy because she’s so muscular is wild delusional.
Yeah, you can tell with all those extra muscles that make her face so round, lmao
and she’s trying to hide all of her chins with that fleece
Foodie Beauty does the same thing. They don't seem to realize that it just draws MORE attention to what they're trying to hide. 😑
exactly what i was thinking. i been lifting consistently for a year and still in normal BMI range.. takes a lot for us females to get muscular enough to get into at least overweight category while not being visibly fat
Where I live, it's zero and often they are pushed to lose. Obesity is the #2 most common preventable cause of birth defects. It is absolutely not ok. Lived it myself, my kid is ok, but nearly wasn't. It sounds mean to be tough about this, but I thank my ob GYN every day that we was kind of an ass.
If you listen closely the ob was referring her to a specialist and hospital who takes care of high risk patients. Alex doesn’t want to be considered high risk. This whole rant is about her and her feelings about BMI and being obese. Not about what is best for her baby.
Thank u not all OBGYN deal with high risk pregnancy and that's what she is
Agree, 100%. She is high risk, the obgyn is referring her to the care she and her baby need. Her over inflated ego and pride prevent her from seeing the risk. She should be thanking her obgyn for the referral but instead rants while driving.
I think it is the way the Ob/gyn handled it.
It was all in the way the Ob/Gyn handled it.
Alex’s version.
I can’t believe she had the nerve to say she’s heavy because of muscle 😂
shes so delusional its not cute or funny, like girl. be so for real!
Srsly!! Delulu ass girl 😂
And talking about having a healthy pregnancy is “thin privilege”…
Very strong cheeks and chins.
It‘s almost the same as saying that you‘re heavy because you have big/heavy bones xD
By her own admission - she lost 110 pounds after gastric bypass and got down to the high 200s. She has noticeably gained weight since then (not kept 95% off) and is CLEARLY over 300 pounds again. There is no world where a 5'7" tall woman can weigh 300 pounds and not have weight be a concern during her pregnancy. She is deluding herself about how high risk this pregnancy will be for her and her baby.
Also, OB's are sued more than almost any other type of doctor. They can only take on high-risk clients if they're qualified to do so. They're not fat-shaming, they are trying to keep her and her baby alive thru the delivery. Such a victim mentality.
Agreed
Alex thinks we don't have eyes.
she is covering her double chin with her jacket so we cant see her buffness
@@bethrocks 😂 truth!
not a victim mentality she is an ABUSER. this woman will directly LIE to your face. She is VERY DANGEROUS and she still has a youtube channel. When channels that spread "misinformation" , will be shut down.
I was told to only gain 10 pounds in my pregnancy and I did it, I am obese (I had a 37 BMI when I got pregnant). Obesity during pregnancy can make your ultrasounds way more difficult, your sugar levels are messed, your breathing gets way harder while pregnant, your articulations become fuzzy while pregnant, so it is easier to fall down and my vertigo did real bad tricks on me while pregnant. And giving birth it is another level while obese, specially if they have to cut you, because the fat can make the wound heal way way slower... So they did the right thing if they were not prepared to care for her the right way.
Hi. Former NICU/ PICU nurse, now NP. People do not realize how much more complications are associated with overweight/ obesity when women try to conceive as well as during pregnancy. This is also why there’s such a drastic increase in cesarean sections and newborn/ neonatal complications. Not uncommon to see newborns stay in the NICU for complications related to maternal diabetes both gestational and type 2 related to obesity. This is a real health crisis, yet these fat acceptance influencers are talking about their health like it’s nothing. Wake the eff up!
It happened to me. But since than have gotten into shape. I feel bad for her . Idk why
Well said coming from a recently retired RN of 35 years
100% family member is a NNP and works in a NICU. The risk to mom and baby is significantly increased. They lady doesn't cares more about her own ego that the well being of her much desired baby
That’s incredibly fat phobic! (Sarcasm in case that wasn’t clear). It’s sad women are putting themselves at risk because of these “inclusive” beliefs
The turtleneck to try and hide from the angle gave me a solid laugh lol
Lmao. I commented on that as well. I thought that was just too damn blatant. It makes her rant comical.
She should wear a compression garment on her double chin like Chantal Foodie Beauty does 😂
She ALWAYS wears that ugly coat like that. She thinks it hides her chins. She’s delusional
I think probably the biggest thing is that she cant accept that her weight is a factor in her pregnancy without also opening the door to the fact that her weight likely could have contributed to her previous miscarriage.
Its a hard pill to swallow and i dont think she's ready to come to terms with that.
Let’s not forget she has financial privilege (since she wants to bring up privilege). A healthy response to this encounter would’ve been her saying she’s getting a nutritionist. She’s mostly angry she is being weight restricted when she already has a stash of cookies and chips for her cravings.
But like, isn't it common knowledge??? Like, Tammy talked sooo much about her wanting to have a healthy pregnancy and that motivated her weight loss? (Was it Tammy or her sister?)
And most weight loss tv programs in the early 2000s talked about needing to be in good shape for a safe pregnancy. Pregnancy is no joke!! My friend was in good shape (after a big weight loss) and still ended up on bed rest for both her pregnancies in the end 2 months or something. Sounded horrible.
Okay but women have miscarriages all the time. Her weight could’ve been a factor but their are so many factors that go into that there’s no need to imply her weight was an issue. It’s rude. People miscarry all the time
We don’t know that her weight contributed to her miscarriage because we know nothing. One in every four women miss carry regardless of their weight
@@ScuttleButtlesagree! What a horrible comment along side of “that’s karma” or “maybe you didn’t take care of yourself”
The doctors office was 100 💯 correct by referring her to a specialist. She should want whats best for the baby.
It’s absolutely possible for obese patients to not gain any to minimal weight during pregnancy actually, and some end up loosing weight because they switch to healthier diet, it has no risk for the baby, in fact it’s better for them.
society doesn’t “only want to cater to certain people.” her weight is objectively dangerous for the fetus. she needs to take this seriously and get over herself. her weight complicates pregnancy and delivery, and because of that she should have been referred to a specialist. she’s high risk. they’d refer someone over 40 to a special obgyn too. it’s nothing personal.
With these people, everything is personal! All they care about is doing what they want.
It's even more serious, obesity is #2 behind smoking for preventable birth defects. Lived it myself, love that my doc was an asshat. I did very well managing my weight & gest diabetes, but had a NICU baby (likely unrelated but didn't help), I can assure Alexandra that if something goes wrong, it will be with her every single day. Even when everything turns out fine, as my situation luckily did, I think constantly about it, 23 yrs later.
Actually over 35 gets you a MFM
Well I was 36 on baby#2 but my OB doc was still comfortable with having me as a patient. I also was extremely active, worked as a PACU nurse up to my due date with my son and had to stop working with that daughter of mine at 38 weeks because I’d dislocated my knee and fell around 37 weeks and then at 38, had some pre-term labor. And although it was difficult for me to stop 2 weeks early because of finances, I didn’t argue with my doc - I did what she told me. Had my daughter at 39 weeks as a hurricane was starting to come through but fortunately it turned at the last minute and we weren’t a direct hit.
Is your CAP button not working? Not capitalizing the first letter of each sentence?
Hope it's broken, because you come across as being uneducated.
She's delusional about being "very muscular" when she has close to zero muscle mass, and also about having kept 95% of her weight off. She's not taking this seriously.
I mean, I have no doubt she's strong. She's carrying an extra 150 lbs of weight around with her all the time. The problem is that she can't actually use that strength for much else cause it's occupied moving her. As long as all it's doing is adding extra strain to her joint, bones, and organs, it's pretty much useless until she drops the unnecessary.
Ranting to the point you're about to have an anxiety attack while pregnant and driving is dumber than anything in her actual rant.
"I'm very heavy because I've been working out since 10"
I was so unbelievably PISSED OFF when she said this. You should look up her parents. She comes from a line of abusers and liars. She is a very deceitful person.
But I've only been working out consistently for the last year 🙄
She's really playing the victim here. Maybe the doctor could've said things nicer but it is recommended that obese women not gain much weight during pregnancy due to the risks. That's part of why it's recommended to be at a healthy weight before getting pregnant.
And while BMI isnt foolproof, unless someone has a ton of muscle, they're probably unhealthy if they're in the obese category.
just look at her. she objectively weighs way too much
It's her MO.
What we heard her rant about was only her side of the story..not the actual truth. The doctor would have explained the risks of a morbidly obese woman being pregnant. She didn't like what she was told..
She may have been exercising for a long time, but she's not The Hulk.
They don't have to tell it nicely. They're telling the truth, and they could clearly see that she had surgery and didn't think she'd come back fat! She just wants somebody to kiss her ass and hold her hand!
as a women who struggles with infertility. its super common for OBGYN's and fertility clinics to have BMI guidelines. It makes it more difficult and challenging when already struggling.
Exactly! I lost weight for my health and fertility clinic guidelines. It’s statistics. Over 40 BMI you can have crazy issues in pregnancy. It just made sense to me and I attacked that as a goal to overcome rather than complain.
Yep. Logically they would rather focus on helping people that has a better chance of success rather than waste their time on someone more likely to fail because it'll tank their statistics and make them look like they're not doing their job. Not to mention the safety of their clients.
Also, maternal obesity is right behind smoking for preventable birth defects. It's very dangerous, actually it's still too many docs who aren't tough. I helped with the medical education around this, but most of our docs are pretty aware already. 0 weight gain or even loss are frequently goals for obese momma's to be. I did overgain from a 0 goal, but 15 lbs of gain was good for an obese woman (I'm regular now), and it did prevent my poor choices from worsening my son's overall prognosis. We were in a big children's hospital NICU with babies who wouldn't all go home...you can bet I had to face myself in the mirror when I realized how close we'd come to tragedy. I did have alllll the screening, we have funky chromosomes in my family, but my son's defect was undetectable prenatally. All this to say, obese women cannot ensure pregnant is healthy, and it's a bit like having a Camel every night.a little Dr & society pushback is GOOD. My doc was mean to keep me in line w food, but was a big ol teddy bear when my son was born & we had to get on a plane 2 hrs later.
@@CarissaBelair absolutely. I know the history of BMI and everything is rooted in eugenics etc, but when we get to a BMI of 40, it’s undeniable that being 40kg/m2 is a LOT of pressure and weight on our body systems, regardless of if it’s 40kg of fat or muscle or cement or whatever. It’s strain on the body, especially the cardiovascular system. I finally got my BMI down to 39.8 and getting below 40 was a huge milestone for me. Still a long way to go on my journey and I don’t plan to lose sleep over whether my BMI is 25 or 28 by the end of all this, but being able to see my BMI as a measure of how much strain I’m putting on my heart and watching that drop is so meaningful to me ❤
@@Lau3464l That’s wonderful! Proud of you!
She unfortunatly can't face the truth. She is not capable to accept any good advice.
She can't. It's everyone else's fault.
Alex always rants about medical providers treating her "badly"...Dermatologist, now OBGYN etc. The only Doctors are those she shopped around for her failed WLS, I guess, they are ok in her book. Alex acts like the world needs to bend the knee to her because she is obese. Guess Doctors in the Northeast has never faced someone like her, a unique little snowflake. That's how she acts.
Right. She can't even face her multiple chins, hence the jacket zipped to her lips.
She's hiding from the truth like she hides her double chin
First of all she shouldn’t be recording while driving. Especially with a baby.
Yes, I was wishing she’d stop taking her hands off the steering wheel.
Y'all will complain about anything and everything
Y'all will complain about anything and everything
@@velvetthunder3856 yikes take
@@velvetthunder3856ok Alex
this is not about today's video specifically, but i really appreciate how you only react to the most relevant parts of whatever you show in videos here! your videos always feel concise and well structured
I appreciate that!
The BMI cap is for high-risk pregnancies, and some practices don't want the liability. There are OBs that specialize in all the issues that can come with being pregnant and significantly overweight or obese. I doubt her weight is because of muscle mass. I just really don't.
Of course! It's a CYA matter. Their attorneys have to avoid get sued. Imagine her falling off a gurney because under anesthesia she'd needed to be moved physically. They'd have to bring in a crane! Motherhood was intended for normal women not Sherman tanks. Wanna get pregnant? Stop eating, for crying out loud!!
Yep, the liability is probably key. I bet it came from their insurance company. Implement this limit or pay more in malpractice premiums.
Muscle mass my ass. Less mobility and more cravings during pregnancy is the typical outcome during most pregnancies
This clinic must have had a cap of 50 BMI too, so it's not like it was a low level BMI cap!
I literally cannot imagine struggling with fertility and especially pregnancy loss, being told that I was high risk, and screaming about discrimination instead of being focused on doing everything thing in my power to make sure this pregnancy is a healthy one.
I think that overweight and obese patients should be able to access quality medical care without issues, but I would also want to know if a practice didn’t feel confident in caring for me
They can! Quality for her means a high risk specialist that can monitor her better and more frequently because they have less patients and can focus on quality care rather than being a revolving door to check on all of their pregnant patients. She just didn’t like being told that she’d be referred because of her weight, even though she knew this would be the case and that’s why she got weight loss surgery before trying to get pregnant.
OBGYN that deal with morbidly obese women are high risk pregnancy. They have to go to a specialist
I've done ultrasound on a very overweight patient who was approaching the due date. The doctor was trying to figure out if the baby had flipped head down (in preparation for birth) or if we were going to consider a c-section. I felt so bad for this lady. We needed 3 techs to do the scan. One to do the actual scanning, the other 2 of us held her stomach out of the way. And we couldn't see anything. Ultrasound is really good as seeing through water (which is why you can't pee before your scan, we're using your bladder as a good viewing window) but it's real bad at seeing through fat. It makes everything look like fog. The doctor kept reordering the scan in the hopes that another tech would be able to get the images, but we all took a go but literally couldn't find the baby. I'm sure the experience for the patient was just awful. I think about that patient a lot and hope she and the kiddo are ok.
This is anecdotal, but my obese mother actually lost weight during both her pregnancies due to bad morning sickness (obviously not good) and eating better for our health. This was the 90s/early 2000s so I don’t know if this is recommended anymore, but the doctors were super happy with her weight loss because it improved things like her blood pressure that made the pregnancy safer.
There is a fundamental misunderstanding about just how dangerous pregnancy can be. I myself had a miscarriage that caused herhorraging and needed an emergenct D & C, followed by a pregnancy where I ballooned 40lbs and had to have a scheduled C-Section because the baby was laying transverse. Mind you, that was the BEST CASE SCENARIO. The only reason my outcomes were so positive was that my top priority was avoiding emergency situations.
If she at all wants to try for a minimally invasive pregnancy and/or a natural birth, she should JUMP at the chance to work with specialists. When pregnancies go wrong, they go wrong FAST.
Where are these muscles that give her the same BMI as Jason Momoa? 🧐
😂
A lot of overweight/obese people actually do lose weight while pregnant, it’s quite normal and healthy
only gaining ten lbs isn’t crazy considering she’s already over 300-350 lbs.
I lost 40 each pregnancy. But both ended up in emergency c-section bc of pre-eclampsia. Which is higher risk for over weight women.
Yup, I was around 38bmi when I got pregnant and I lost 12lbs my first trimester (not due to morning sickness) and overall I only gained around 13 pounds which was mostly fluid. I did have gestational diabetes so I had to be very careful with my diet. I lost around 25-30lbs 2 weeks after giving birth
It's not recommended to lose weight while pregnant.
@@FupademaIf you’re obese, it is.
High BMI + being a Bariatric patient, is probably more likely the reason for needing a specialized OB/GYN. IMO
Anybody in the FA space who wants to argue how "muscular" they are because they "workout regularly" is almost certainly delusional. Go look at competitive body-builders who are even abusing "supplements" and realize that most people are barely "going through the motions" at the gym and see what people who put on serious muscle actually look like and their weight to BF ratio. This is a lie.
I agree. I put this in another comment already but claiming to be muscular without addressing the body fat ratio is bull. If you’re 50% body fat (like I am, but I’m working on it lol), sure you might have a lot of muscle under there to drag your body around and keep you upright, but that’s not meaningful when you account for the ratio with body fat. We might as well just start calling tall people inherently muscular because they must have more muscle than short people.
Chikara Transformations/Ilona did a reaction video and said exactly this, using herself (she’s a buff body builder with high bmi because of how muscular she is) as a comparison! It’s laughable that Alexandra essentially compares herself to someone like Ilona.
@@nataliej19827 Yup, I've followed her channel for a few years now and she really calls things as she sees them.
Muscle also burns more calories inherently. If she was eating an appropriate amount of calories per day with “so much muscle”, she would naturally be losing body fat. She can’t accept reality.
@@tia_ln not even. The actual impact of BMR for muscle vs fat is 6 vs 4 call per lb. Don't spend that extra 50 cal all in one place now....
This is such 2007 video quality, like it’s genuinely nostalgic RUclips 😂
she knew full well she was gonna post this and play the victim
When she said "Yarmayn, my husband," I knew exactly that was the moment when I knew she made this video specifically to go viral. Her viewers know her husband's name. But, to specify exactly who he was, that was the tell.
Because she is a woman who is at a higher weight (whether she's in the overweight category or the obese category or has a high bmi or whatever) she will automatically be classed as having a higher risk pregnancy. It's the reality because there is an increased risk of complications at a highercweoght, not to mention the medical centre possibly needong equipment that can accomodate much larger women. It's not discrimination.
THE THUMBNAIL! Her face being this massive 2 years after bypass and she’s only 10 weeks pregnant is CRAZY. And sure Jan she’s Muscle Bob Buff Pants! 😂😂
The lack of self awareness is shoking to me. She said she had a miscarriage with this ObGyn last year and then the practice changed their BMI policy. Unless there were other obese women who also experienced complications at the same time at the same place, the policy change was BECAUSE of her.
How can that thought not cross her mind? My first anxiety would be about how bad my situation would have to be that I changed an entire practice's policy. That is terrifying.
Not to mention, bringing a child into this world without the commitment to stay alive long enough to raise them is so deeply cruel.
I don’t know why after watching three reactions to this video, it never occurred to me that she was part of the reason they instituted a BMI cap. Whoa
Just because they've updated their BMI policy after she, an obese woman, had a miscarriage considering how freaking common (unfortunately) miscarriages are with all women able to have children... Lol it's just a funny thing to assume they changed it bc SHE had a miscarriage, she cannot be their only patient to miscarry nor is she their only obese patient
It's unlikely, miscarriages arent uncommon sadly. It is more likely that it is an issue with insurance.
She’s going to gain 100lbs and blame water weight. There’s zero accountability
As a woman who is childfree by choice, I find it deeply irresponsible and extremely concerning that she is this delusional, and un-self-aware, especially because she is planning to have a child. Not only is what she says anti-science (and anti-reality), not only is it irresponsible and dangerous to herself and others to be driving and making her video at all while pregnant and close to a "panic attack" from her feelings being hurt, but she's genuinely excusing herself from taking proper care of her own pregnancy. By extension, you can only guess how she'll be once she actually has a kid. She's choosing to have hurt feelings and whine about it in such a dangerous way. She's quite obviously not ready to have a child, and it's concerning to think that she might have one and raise them with misinformation about their health, and demonstrating dangerous habits like driving while filming a RUclips video. Being pregnant and going through childbirth is known to be physically taxing for the mother and child- even for women who are at a healthy weight. She cares more about her own feelings and ego being hurt from reality, than she does about the health and safety of herself and her possible future child. Not to mention, with a miscarriage already occurring, you'd think she'd care enough to try and do whatever she needs to ensure her pregnancy comes to term, instead of reacting in such a way.
How is a childfree person able to consider all this, when she- wanting to have kids- doesn't?
The problems this kid may grow up with because of this behavior is sad! How does she not get that? Maybe things will change with the actual birth, but for now, she has a LOT of work to do on herself before she has a kid. IMHO, at least.
She needed this reality check and instead of learning and improving and caring about what's best for her and her possible baby, she decided to do this. Like, ma'am... Be forreal.
I agree, but not only some obese people are not ready for this responsibility. I would say around a quater is quite bad parents (few are horrible), most are doing more or less OK. Some might give good food but criticize too much others do the opposite etc.
Only very few people I see do really good parenting in all aspects of life, still obviously not flawless, but that's normal.
I did think about kids sometimes but I always had to admit, that I'm a bit irreseponsible and hedonistic and having to put myself back for the next 15-20 years and be responsible for not just myself probably would not suit me and I probably would neighter be a happy mum nor a good one. So I didn't do it and now I'm over 40, menopause is near and I'm glad I didn't give in to this just sporadic appearing wish.
“I am very muscular” girl if you don’t-
Girl if you're so convinced that your excess weight is "so much muscle," go get a body composition analysis.
Excellent idea!!
As a woman who miscarried, if my physician told me I needed to see a different provider for better care for my baby, I would do it in a heartbeat no questions asked. I’ve got a pretty average BMI, so I’m not worried about this, but she needs to understand that it’s for the betterment of her care.
I feel bad for her. She needs a high risk team, with experience...for her and her baby's health.
Yeah they should've let the clients know.
I had my son high risk, as he was early. The day I delivered was the day I met my new doctor. My original doctor wanted me in with the experts, and I'm grateful.
Her feeling are hurt. And she's in denial about being so "muscular".
She's been denied life insurance because of her obesity, AND now she's considered a high risk pregnancy and been denied her choice of doctors because if her obesity.
Like it or not, she is high risk.
"A lot of information"? Nope. it was a single fact. Can't speak for how it was actually delivered, but I suspect this is more of a recipient issue than from their staff.
She has said she’s gained back more than 5
That opening, how you were awkwardly trying not to respond to her, um, delusion, was the realest thing I've seen in ages.
I was obese when pregnant and I gained 22lbs total. I actually lost weight in the first trimester because of severe food aversion. The pounds I did gain was from fluid, blood, placenta and the baby itself. I promptly lost it and more following birth.
She has zero excuse.
I gained 10 pounds and the baby weighed 8. Thank God.
She's delusional in thinking that the BMI system doesn't apply to her.
John I love your channel and I agree with you 95% of the time but this is that 5%. The issue here is Alex is a known liar, she has a long history of lying and being caught out, it hasn't just been once and the majority of the information she has given here are lies. According to her she is 5ft 7 and (still according to her) her weight after gastric bypass was 297lbs which in my opinion is absolutely outrageous, there is no way that can be considered healthy. She has not kept 95% of it off, anyone with eyes can see that, in my opinion she has gained over half of it back and it has only been 2 years since her surgery so she should still be in the losing phase. She constantly gets caught out editing her photos to make herself look slimmer than she is yet still considers herself to be part of the body positivity parade. None of it makes sense. At the weight and height she is considered morbidly obese and the word morbid is in there for a reason. She is dangerously overweight especially when pregnancy is concerned. I had a very healthy pregnancy at a healthy weight and it is the hardest thing I have ever done, I can't imagine how difficult it would have been had I been this grossly overweight as well. It is unfortunately a fact that these very unhealthy pregnancies can be very dangerous for both mother and baby and therefore it is incredibly important that she finds herself in the right place with the proper care and the fact she said "you don't always need to have that" suggesting she is willing to risk the baby because her feelings have been hurt is quite frankly disgusting. She is also lying when she stated about not knowing about the dangers of morbidly obese pregnancy - the REASON she had gastric bypass was so she could safely get pregnant and start a family but she still failed to lose the weight and went ahead and tried to conceive anyway. I don't think she should have even been trying to get pregnant at the weight she is at until she gets her health in control, the idea that she is muscular is ridiculous and I can't believe she could even say that out loud. Drs advise morbidly obese patients (to this extent) to only gain around 10lbs in pregnancy so that is not shocking news. She needs to put the health of that baby first but she is too busy worrying about her feelings being hurt because someone told her the truth, this is not the healthy pregnancy that she wanted.
I started this video sympathetic and open minded but girl come on your BMI is not over the cap because of muscle and your blood work coming back “normal” doesn’t negate the risks of being a high risk obese pregnancy
Please hear me - speaking from medical knowledge AND experience with pregnancy while fat. What Alexandra is doing is, in terms of actual results, like complaining that fertility doctors discriminate against smokers. Pregnancy is different from most types of healthcare. Obesity is still, i believe, the #2 most common preventable cause of birth defects, after smoking. I had to give presentations (written by a top epidemiologist) on this for a previous job, as an obese (now I'm healthy weight....via illness. Yay?) woman who herself had an obese pregnancy. And a child with a birth defect. Likely it was unrelated in this case, but my weight put my son at greater risk when he was in the NICU. That feels horrible! Hes 23 & doing great, his issue was repaired fully, but it does not feel good to even type this. Fat women need to have the same social pressures as smokers when it comes to pregnancy. Get yourself right before you even think of a fertility specialist!!!! I had a birth control mess up, and even i should have been doubly careful, knowing i was high risk. This was just as doctors were starting to discuss this, but the general public still doesnt know that maternal obesity is basically a lit cigarette. Giving those presentations and having to take responsibility for my choices in public at work SUCKED but since I was still fat, it worked out well. Others, speaking from experience as moms & nurses, who were also big, participated and we had some pretty deep moments and gained real understanding of the issue and taught the "thins" (well half of em were formerly heavy) some tips for communication and support. It's one of the projects I'm most proud of in my career!
PS when fertility time is running out, and the mom to be can't possibly lose weight in time, there are ways to dramatically improve health for both mom & baby during a planned obese pregnancy, but momma has to be willing to stick to a weight LOSS diet thru pregnancy & needs to start folic acid & nutrient supplementation several months before conception. And if there's gestational diabetes, it must be managed very very tightly. Insulin if needed. It's probably easier to spend 3-4 yrs losing first, tbh.
She has admitted in the past that a big reason she got the bypass to help with her issues of not being able to get pregnant. So I’m not sure how she is playing like she doesn’t get how her weight could be an issue with her pregnancy?
If youre covering up your double chin with a turtle neck jacket, I don't think muscle was the issue pushing the BMI
I stopped listening when she uttered the words: "thin privilege"
Then I was unable to take her seriously.
privilege is NOT being a working mother. Alex will NEVER have to deal with PTO and FMLA.THAT IS PRIVILEGE!
Then you’re not very smart or observant. Of course thin people are treated better than fat people in our society. Even in childhood. Fat kids are relentlessly tormented.
Ironic isn't it? She is making money doing crap content and sitting at home being lazy all day. That is privilege. Doesn't have to be on her feet for 12 plus hours a day.
Her friends didn't have "thin privilege". They just were nowhere near the BMI cap and so of course it was irrelevant for them. She is going to be a nightmare for anyone dealing with her about her child at any age.
As a obese woman I lost weight during my pregnancy and that's completely normal. I was also high risk.
I have absolutely no problem with doctors having a cap because of the risk alone.
As a person who nearly died in childbirth here’s what I think happened here:
Childbirth is exceptionally dangerous. The USA has the highest mortality rates for pregnant persons and infants in the developed countries. And we just lost the right to safe abortions including those necessary to save the life of the mother.
OBGYNs all over the country are facing prosecution just for providing healthcare to their patients. Entire pregnancy wards are shutting down in certain areas.
It doesn’t matter how much muscle she has. The reality is that she also has a significant fat deposit around her midsection that will affect her growing baby and she needs speciality healthcare to address that issue. Depending on how much weight she gains she may require special equipment. I know this because the average weight a woman gains in pregnancy is 35 pounds. I gained double of that, so there are absolutely needs which must be addressed.
She needs special treatment and her current practice is unable to provide it. While it would have be kinder to tell her in a more empathetic way, but in today’s world, I don’t think her doctor had much of a choice. Both she and her doctor could be arrested for murder if she miscarries or something goes wrong during the birth. Her size is unequivocally is increasing her risk for a safe pregnancy.
This is entirely misinformation
@@NGC_290what part is misinformation?
And OBs get sued far more than almost any other type of doctor.
All states allow abortion if the mother’s life is at risk.
I'm a doctor from a developing nation, here we have limited resources for obstetrics care, the straps in our ultrasounds are standard for average women and there are only so many of us doctors and nurses working every shift.when the straps of the ultrasounds don't fit a woman, we have to stay with her until she gives birth to keep the monitor and ultrasound in place, neglecting the other women who are in labor and also need continuous monitoring. During labor, the baby can die or go into distress in a matter of minutes i honestly think women who are obese and don't do anything to try and lose weight before they get pregnant or at least not gain so much during the pregnancy are extremely selfish and recklesd
Wow, sounds like you need better resources.
@@roseparade_ we do. But until our politicians stop stealing money from the State and actually invest in our health system, us citizens have to be responsable with how we use the resources we do have. It's funny how patients, when we explain this situation to them, are quick to claim their rights, but there is not a word about personal responsability. Not a word about how they might affect their own babies and the other women who are also giving birth and need to be monitored closely
It sounds to me like she would rather the hospital not inform her that they cannot safely care for her just to not get her feelings hurt than have them tell the truth, however uncomfortable it is.
idk, i kinda like this setup. it kinda gives google hangouts livestream, and that’s the kind of nostalgia i needed today to cheer me up 😌
My 3rd pregnancy had me weighing 220lbs, and I was borderline gestational diabetes. I don't know what she weighs, but there are so many risks that come with a high weight pregnancy. I really hope she stays active and eats whole foods.
Well, think it is at 300 or so.
Wow.... that first 20 seconds told me so much. I'm still 100 lbs. overweight and I'm doing my best to get it off. I'm glad to see you're uploading good videos :) Thanks in advance!
I think it's funny that she says there's "no way" to not gain more than 10lbs because when I got pregnant with my first I was 165lbs and only gained 9lbs and then lost 40lbs after I had her.
I’ve actually seen research coming out showing that obesity (in terms of body fat) is actually underestimated when using BMI.
I just think it’s important to point out because when people complain about BMI, they only ever discuss it over diagnosing obesity.
I know people say they “understand” how serious obesity is but they really don’t. It’s so normalized that it’s not really possible to. They understand it the same way a smoker understands that smoking is bad. As in they don’t “get it” until it’s too late. And even then they may not really get it. It’s not just obesity, people don’t take diabetes seriously.
I was fortunate enough to have participated in cadaver dissections this year and it really gave me a whole new understanding of how serious visceral fat is. I thought I understood, but it wasn’t until I was able to see the difference between the cadavers. Seeing the visceral fat in a man who would just be considered a person who was built large was so eye opening. To avoid making this any longer, just trust me when I say that the discussions on visceral fat are not happening enough and when they do happen, they just don’t do the topic justice.
Absolutely! A lot of people are living completely sedentary lives, and as a result have very low musculature. An alarming number of people may only have an overweight BMI at worst, but have the same amount of visceral fat as a severely obese person.
If person doesn’t trust the BMI scale - ok, do a DEXA scan. You probably won’t like the results because in reality BMI is actually one of the most forgiving ways of measuring fat.
great post. very informative.
I can’t fathom how you can be doing one of the most important things in a woman’s life and not want to do everything possible to be healthy….blaming the gym on your obesity is crazy
It was not fat discrimination. It was literally a practice watching their own safety and liability. More offices may do this soon. She needs to chill. Alex also loves to play victim. No one shoves the spoon down her face. Yes she has definitely tried many avenues of bettering herself but when the camera is off she is a glutton. Sending her positive safe pregnancy vibes
John, please, surely you are not agreeing that she weighs 300 plus pounds because she is so muscular. Watch even one of her clothing try on videos or when she is not all bundled up in her size 2X or 3X jacket. Her visceral fat is very high, her stomach is large, and her arms have no muscle tone or definition. She also uses filters to look smaller in her videos. Anyone who wants to be kind to her should urge her to be honest with herself and open to learning as many details as possible about the risks of being this size or larger while pregnant.
High BMI makes you a high risk pregnancy. Not all offices are equipped for high risk, or their insurance or hospital won't allow them.
I’m confused didn’t she get surgery to lose weight ? Why she look like that now ? Is this an old footage ?
Alex was around 400 lbs when she had her surgery. She should have lost at least 200 lbs. I lost 100 lbs and had my surgery at the same time as Alex. But that 100 lbs loss got me to 164. Not 300 where Alex is. Alex's pregnancy is extremely high risk due to her obesity. That's all her own fault. She ate herself to where she is and chose food over her health.
And no Alex... you are not muscle. Stop it.
I'm going to cut her some slack - she's pregnant, and these appointments put you in a super vulnerable state, often times with your pants off and parts exposed to the doctors. I agree that her saying she's heavy because she "works out" is highly delusional, but as an individual who has also lost close to 100 lbs I do understand her frustration with the weight conversation coming back up out of nowhere because it makes you feel like, "Really? Then what was all that for?"
She also had gastric bypass and has basically gained back everything she lost. This is the face of bypass….
@@kristygal4583I had the surgery in 2020 and I’ve lost 150+ pounds and have managed to keep it all off.
She is the perfect example of what not to do after weight loss surgery
Problem is she has other rants like this about fat acceptance. This isnt her first time posting something like this. She wants to go viral for the money. Another thing is that while she may has loss 100 pounds initiall, shs gained mor than 1/3 back
it is not highly delusional regarding her "workouts"; this woman is a LIAR of the extreme. Too many of you let her pass through with her behavior. The level of LIES from a BARIATRIC channel. Her channel needs to be banned.
I appreciate the extra context. I was just commenting on this specific instance where she's upset at her OBGYN but I understand why people are criticizing her and some of her deluded statements. @@KezDezHanzz
I was told with my second pregnancy that I should only gain 15 to 20lbs because of weight at that time. Some weeks i gained, some weeks i lost and ultimately i only gained 12 lbs. I focused on having better nutrition and kept active with walking and swimming almost daily. I developed a strong core and recovery was a breeze, even with having a c section. Its doable to an extent if done safely and with help from professionals. Im thankful i worked harder my second pregnancy because with my 1st i thought every day was an all i can eat buffet and gained 40 lbs ha.
When she wails about "no empathy"...but she had a miscarriage about a year ago, she have not put in a lot of effort to lose the weight she needs to lose. Sure she excercise two or three times a week with some online company but gladly offset that with coffeedrinks full of sugar and flavoured syrups and junkfood. The one who does not show empathy to Alex is Alex. herself. Miscarriages and dangerously prematures can happen to anyone but it happen more often with obese and seriously underweight people. Obese people are often more difficult to diagnose so I would think it may be an insurance issue.
I'm not sure they "should" inform about it beforehand before they can actually see that the person is about to exceed that BMI cap. Ralistically they could have presumed that Alex would have made more of an effort to lose the weight before going for another pregnancy if she already had a miscarriage (however they turn the @ss is behind I guess, it would have been just as prejudiced to send personal notes to people who were fat a fair long time ago but may have lost a lot since). I'm also sure that they could make an estimation if she was athlethic built but I doubt Alex would have a better case with for instance waist to height ratio measurement.
Also annoying she's driving while filming.
THIS!!!!!
So many drive while filming...do you point this out in skinny peoples videos as well.. Cause if not. You're a hypocrite...
BMI pissed me off while I was processing for enlistment in the military. I was 5’6 with a triple DDD bra size which I CANNOT CONTROL. I do not look overweight, never have. They demanded I lose weight, until I was the weight that I was in MIDDLE SCHOOL. Keep in mind, in middle school I was barely eating because of neglect. Woman should be measured for breast and bum size, because that is natural, and something we don’t control. I had a very thin waist and neck, wrist, ect. The weight didn’t account for my proportions which definitely are not evenly distributed. BMI assumes that your weight is evenly distributed.
damn i just thought "i wonder if he uploaded anything" and here it is
same! i was binging his old videos
I think overweight and obese people should be treated with the same care and respect as anyone else. That being said, when I was pregnant, I wanted to know that my care provider was equipped and confident to handle my pregnancy (I’m not overweight, but I was an older mom). The health of mom and baby should come first, and if she needs to transfer to the high risk OB department, then that should be understandable. What’s not understandable is the way her OB framed it. Letting her know she was considered as having a high risk pregnancy and then referring her to the high risk office shows they are competently managing her health and keeping that as a priority, not just eliminating her because her BMI doesn’t conform to their standards.
I couldn't safely deliver at my 1st choice hospital either. I was around 350 pounds, and my weight required more specialized equipment in the event of an emergency. I know birth can be dangerous, and I wanted to be in the safest place possible.
Losing weight during pregnancy is not a problem when you weigh as much as she does. She shouldn’t diet, but I bet you if she just ate the way she’s supposed to in order to get the baby the nutrients they need, she would lose weight. I’ve carried 3 babies to term, and at her age and weight, she’s high risk. Being as heavy as she is, is really quite dangerous and risky during pregnancy. She’s not heavy from exercise, that’s just delusional. I’m athletic with a low body fat percentage, and I’ve had gestational hypertension twice. It’s very dangerous. If I’d been heavier, it would have been worse. She’s at an increased risk for just about everything that can go wrong in pregnancy, including stillbirth and pre-eclampsia.
Obstetricians have the second highest rate of malpractice lawsuits (second only to plastic surgeons) because people love to sue doctors and when you don’t have a perfect delivery, you blame the doctor. I do not blame these doctors for weeding out those individuals who pose the highest risk of having complications. They go to school for too long and work too hard for people with complicated health issues to put them at risk. This is the reality of what happens when you cause this level of damage to your body. You become high risk for complications.
I worked in an OBGYN practice that had a bmi cap and we would refer people constantly to a high risk office. Like it was literally just policy bc the doctors there weren’t specialized in high risk, and being over a certain bmi automatically makes you higher risk with pregnancy. She is so dense
Just a comment from a fat girl working on weight loss. Your content is entertaining, your videos are constantly on repeat and your personality is humbling. Keep being you O2B.
my question is why would she willingly want a doctor who cannot guarantee that they can safely treat her? like wouldnt you be happy that they understand their limits and sent you to someone who specializes in it more😭
Right. If I were in her shoes, I'd be happy to receive more specialised care.
Her and Anna from Glitter and Lazers could be sisters of de lu lu
As a nursing student, this is a GOOD outcome for her. Being obese is a major risk factor for so many things. I’ve watched a very simple surgery performed on an obese woman and after watching I can’t imagine how difficult a C-section would be. I know it’s hard to leave a clinic you love but at the end of the day she’s so much better off finding doctors who are equipped to take care of her and her baby than to have doctors who aren’t confident. Health care workers must engage in best practice and they chose to protect both themselves and their patient. Good on her office.
So I’ve gone through 2 of my 3 pregnancies with a bmi of 32-33. My first pregnancy my bmi was 30-31. I have a lot of thoughts but first is that when you’re obese, it is totally possible (and safe!) to gain zero weight or even lose weight. It takes a lot of care, it’s vital to be sure you’re getting enough calories to nurture yourself and your baby and at the same time not overdue it to where you’re gaining more. It wasn’t unrealistic for the dr to ask if she could stay under 10lb weight gain, though it’s highly unlikely for her and I could definitely see that being stressful if she knew she’d be dropped as a patient. My last pregnancy was a scheduled c-section, I was obese and severely anemic and had to be put under anesthesia due to a severe hemorrhage (I lost over 2L of blood 😣) it’s absolutely a high risk situation and trust me - YOU WANT A DR WHO IS QUALIFIED TO CARE FOR YOU!! If a dr is telling me they’re not qualified to take care of me, I’m going to listen!! Maybe the dr could’ve been nicer about it, maybe she is remembering based on how she felt rather than what was said. But this is one of those face the music moments - hopefully she’ll find a dr who will be qualified to take care of her and nudge her toward taking her health (and her baby’s health!) more seriously 🤞❤️
I feel terrible for her but this is reality. It's dangerous to be pregnant and give birth when overweight.
I don't. She had years to lose weight before getting pregnant. She had a fxking gastric bypass and still couldn't lose weight!!!! She chose to get pregnant!
Damn she straight up set a new rule for the practice.. and she didnt even check it. 😅
I am obese and I found out I was pregnant last January. I made sure to take care of myself and I ended up losing 19 lbs during my pregnancy. My OB team never treated me any differently but we both understood that it could obviously come with risks. I did everything they suggested and never got offended. Thankfully I had an amazing journey with no complications except for some hypertension towards the end. I had a beautiful daughter with no issues, I recovered with no issues, and I’ve since continued my journey to being healthier. I thought about what I needed to do for myself for my baby, not to be selfish.
Some offices simply cannot provide what she might need but she just enjoys playing the victim. If she is this way with her OB and think she knows all, I hate to see how she is going to be with her child’s pediatrician.
She’s giving Foodie Beauty with the chin spanx in this video.
I remember a nurse coworker who told me was like 7 months pregnant and because of her morbid obesity I could not tell that she was pregnant. Fortunately for her both she and the baby were ok and I’m happy to report that she was finally able to get to a healthy weight herself.
I work at eye center surgery center. We have a BMI cap of 50. Liability with anesthesia we give. It's more risky. Also any patient between 45-50bmi needs medical clearance with their PCP before surgery. It's for their safety. They need more professional anesthesia distributers that know how to cater and give right amounts to obese patients. It's a hard conversation to be had but all the patients I've explained it to have received it very well
Imagine if she needed a c section. Wouldn’t you want a surgeon who is well versed with that procedure on larger bodies? I feel and that she doesn’t have much of a choice but there are a lot of factors that can make you a “high risk pregnancy” and I would think if you fall into that category you want a doctor and team with that kind of experience
She really believes that she’s going to sail through the next 9months and it’s going to be a breeze aside from cravings and morning sickness. The last trimester is a beast regardless of health conditions and she already struggles to breathe and walk.
There are so many health concerns that happen when you're pregnant - overweight or not - that often disappear after the baby comes. I am 130 pounds and still got tested for gestational diabetes and started having heart related fainting when I was pregnant and saw specialists. Being overweight makes you significantly more likely to have those issues! It isnt worth the risk.
Medical bias against weight definitely exists but this isnt a case of that. A specialist is the right way to go for her and her baby.
Its the zip up turtle neck that I cant handle
She's trying to hide her muscles
Body fat percentage should be more of a concern on top of the BMI. Cause clearly a woman can be 25% fat but still be “obese.”
Yeah, but that’s immediately obvious so that’s never a concern IRL. Body fat percentage should be used because BMI tends to underestimate obesity, not overestimate it.
I was considered "geriatric" during my last pregnancy. It was UNDERSTOOD by me that not every OBGYN office could handle my pregnancy. She is making a mountain out of this.
BMI is absolutely not the end all be all of determining health, but most people can clearly tell this lady isn't healthy. I think it's sad she believes she can't lose as much weight as she's gaining from her pregnancy if according to her she's already working out and eating healthy. Pregnancy creates an additional calorie expenditure and can be a perfectly good excuse to focus on health and weight loss, but most use it as an excuse to go to the other end of the spectrum, like miss Rodriguez is doing.
I’m currently struggling with infertility. My bmi is 39 but a year ago was 45. The fertility doctor made me promise to actively work on losing weight in order to prescribe me the meds. It’s helped and I’m down 60 lbs! It didn’t offend me at all because I know that it’s dangerous to be obese and carry a child. But I also get where she’s coming from
That’s amazing! Good job!
Thank you ❤️
she gasps for air in her vlogs
I made sure when i was obese not to become pregnant because as a nurse i knew how much it stressed not only the mother but especially the baby. Only when i lost all the weight and kept it off for a while did i decide to try for pregnancy, did it, had an uneventful delivery and a healthy baby. Never would i have knowingly become pregnant at her weight, i've seen too many bad complications directly related to this issue.
I was in a high risk group when I was pregnant because of other health problems. When your doctor says you need someone who specializes in pregnancies involving your type of biology to minimize risk, that’s a GOOD thing! They are keeping you SAFE!
Not gonna defend the BMI, we all know that it's a number and should be looked at with other things considered! But knowing a lot of gym girls, women don't really get to high 20s in BMI by training naturally!
her bmi is like 38
@@boosqueezy241838? Hahah more like 50
This whole rant comes off very selfish to me. Like I do understand why she was upset but she’s more focused on the fact that they wont accept higher BMI than the fact that perhaps her BMI could impact the birth of her child. How is she more concerned about her feelings being hurt than her baby possibly being impacted?! And if it is the case that a doctor might not be well equipped to handle the birth of your child due to your body when wouldn’t you want to go to most well equipped place for this at least for the sake of your unborn child?! Jesus.
Her pride and ego prevent her from understanding that her obgyn gave her the best care by referring her to specialist care. She should be thanking her obgyn, the risks for a bad outcome are much higher for overweight women. Instead she rants while driving, this is a dangerous practice