When I finally left my wife after almost 5 years of absolute nightmare, she started chasing me and said: " so you were not weak, you were just kind since you had the balls to leave me". I always had balls but she did 'nt notice them. Because I was kind . I am still kind, but only with people who deserve it.
Intelligent - Less intelligence means easier to manipulate and control the relationship. Get away with things. Loyal - Boring turns her off. Drama/Chaos is fun. Women want to have the one all women want. Kind - They want a “bad boy”. Shows he can’t be controlled or lead by her. Shows he will lead. He will dominate. Understanding - has self respect and smart enough to not put up with hers or others BS.
I've been married 3 times, so I can tell you what they want. 1. The ability to lead the relationship when THEY want. 2. A good provider, must be able to support their lifestyle. 3. Someone who has a good sense of humor, but not toward them because they take everything personally.
As my 96 year old mother told me...women today want too much, and they are not willing to do the work or make any sacrifices to deserve what they want.
Your mother keeps it real. Not all mothers are honest about female nature to help their sons romantically, and not all fathers are honest about male nature to help their daughters.
@@simonl4657 thats why they say in pick up if you see a 10 you should insult her right away that's the only way to get her attention. Because the whole world is praising her
@@ContrarianExpatriate they are treated poorly and cruelly by fellow women of similar age. This is also why beautiful women tend to be friends with each other
This generation of women have been told from birth that they can have it all. They have never been told that everything comes at a price. This works while they are young and attractive.
That's what happens when parents value their daughters over their sons. I knew guys who rode the bus after highschool while their sister had a car bought by the parents. Parents are also more likely to pay for college for daughters rather than sons because "he's a guy he'll make do".
This is why listening to women regarding issues of female psychology is fruitless. What they say they want in public, what they think they want, and lastly what they want in practice are totally different things, and many of them lack the self-awareness to even realize that.
I think that it's probably: 1. Looks. 2. Status. 3. Money. If a low status job makes more money than a high status job women are still more attracted to the high status low income job.
It's so true, I had the nicest guy in the world, but he had zero curiosity, wonder and it was so bizarre, he really didn't know about any topics at all, none, I couldn't stay with him no matter how (nice) he was.
@@JessicaD.-vb9ho No, it's not true. I've known so many women who would spend all their time wanting to talk with me, pretty much every topic. I had a friend of 2 years, she damn near idolized me for intelligence, humor, kindness, etc. She sought my approval of her every thought, really the amount of praise was getting so old, but she still told me "I would date you if you were 15 cm taller". I didn't bring up the subject, I actually never even flirted with her, there was no reason for her to bring it up. What I've learnt is that women are sexually attracted to the most primitive of traits in men, all the indicators of power. They pick the "mute brute" they never have an interesting conversation with, then they find men to complain to about men they chose. Recently I met this woman who's over 10 years my elder, after an hour long conversation she told me over the course of 20 years being with her husband, she's never had such a deep conversation with him. Some naive sap would be flattered and conclude that's proof of what women really want, but just look at what she chose. Women are all talk, they never go for what they say they value. Sexually they reward the men they complain about. Do you honestly think a woman is more impressed that a man would speak 5 languages or that he's strong and muscular? I think you're deluding yourself.
I was a popular Dj in Berlin, I enjoyed great reputation within our scene, there were always many offers from women. Those were my best times as a man. Then I met this woman who wanted me to give up my life in Berlin and move out to New Zealand with her to start a family. Later we had a child. When I then only became a average man who only works for his family and came home in the evening shatterd from work and had gained an additional 10 kilos, she no longer found me attractive and left me for another man.
never underestimate the PRIMAL side of women; it exists, and it is very real. they say, "money doesn't matter, etc.," but it's all bullshit. the top 2000 things they say they want in men are DEFINITELY true, but none of them matter unless she's VERY physically attracted to you... and has envisioned you fucking her ruthlessly.
@@MinimalWave1982 similar story: my gf left me after 3 years of being together as she said she no longer feels emotionally attracted to me, yet she didn't know why. I tried to use my wits to find out how this happened as I was able to speak to her shortly after we broke up. What I found out was: she truly loved me when I was at my prime time, when I was a leader, when I was winning. Then when the life turned around and hardship and struggle followed, her love faded away. I was the same man, just beaten up by life, struggling. Not giving up, but that's how life is. Once you're up and once you're down. Seems like she didn't like to stick around to someone who was battling with life, she needed a winner. A constant winner. It's the sad reality- women want the interesting lifestyle you can provide. Once that is gone, she won't stick around for long to what she perceives as a loser. Now I don't blame her as you can't change what you feel inside of you, but that was a rough realisation nevertheless. I don't despise women but when I'll be at the top again, I won't share much of it to any women that will try to get some freebies. Fool me once..
All that matters is you value yourself. My advice is, get your money up, keep your soul and standards and when dating, date with direct intention. Direct intention scares off a lot of hoes and vapid people in general. There is no faking it until you make it in dating. At some point the jig will be up and you'll know it
Well, the things they value in themselves -- beauty and sexual attractiveness are the things you value the least in yourself. They don't want you to be like them -- beautiful and sexually attractive. But you want them to be that, right? Men and women are direct opposites. It shouldn't be depressing. It is what it is -- challenging. Accept the challenge.
for what it's worth I think you are the salt of the earth. I am a man, so I cannot give you sex (that's what we crave for) but you have my respect. Keep on fighting
I've realized this with my husband of 12 years. He is 6'3", makes around 170k yr, and has the other '6' as well. Back when he made 50k a year, but was very buff due to his job, women were all over him. Now he makes a lot but doesn't flaunt it (it doesn't show) and gained a few pounds, he's now invisible. He's still the same sweet, stoic, respectful, loyal man I fell in love with, but it's crazy to see the massive difference in how women treat him.
Men don't get married to one woman. They figuratively get married to that woman and all her friends. By being tuned into and aware of other women's opinion of your husband, you have confirmed my belief
@@Sapanator you are posting all this information about you and your husband's relationship. That's not so good. Then you comment on other women's opinions of your husband. That's not so good either. Why are you doing that? Putting the shoe on the other foot, would you appreciate your husband doing the same things?
@@Sapanator well maybe think about what I posted. I'm just commenting. Another insight I have is this: your relationship with your husband is arguably the second most important thing in your life. Realize that, and be reverent about those two most important things. Have an attitude of reverance, because certainly someday you will need that.
A friend of mine just separed and his ex changed completely from sweet caring and all that to manipulative mean and all the worst in a matter of no time. Also took away the little daughter. Painfull. He learned the hard way
You should always ask yourself these questions regarding any woman you're involved with. Does she want me or does she just want a relationship with someone? Does she want to have sex with me or just want a sexual relationship? Does she want a wedding or does she want to be MY WIFE?
@@richard_from_england333 believe it or not but if you look hard enough and luck out in her seeking you out there is the occasional anomaly. A woman who understands and enthusiastically adopts to your principal. "This isn't a equal partnership. This isn't about making momma happy so someone else can be happy. My Game, My Rules. Get on my program or Please do Fuck Right Off." If she can deal with that and her company is bearable once the post nut clarity kicks in then maybe...maybe. She might be somewhat more asset than liability.
I spent 20 years married and got divorced. I really don't give a shit what any woman wants anymore. My house, car, money, investments, time and freedom are mine.
This was superbly described in the book "Out of Africa" (written by a woman) about the male-female dynamics in Somalia. The men wanted one thing: a woman. And the women wanted one thing: everything.
Dodge shallow women lol. What kind of woman values your wallet over your loyalty. There are plenty of women who don't care about your bank account. They just want a good dude
Attractive women are the women on the top. More beautiful a woman is more she can get and more she can ask for. It’s like asking rich guys what they want in a woman. They are also at the top and have plenty of options to choose from. Just like very attractive women. This is not what “women” want. It’s what women FROM THE TOP want.
@@allwhatilove914 all women besides sub 5 can get the same guys hot girls get. the point is that women are not valuable enough to commit to. they're all non virgins for starters and their personality traits are relatively the same
Kindness, loyalty and intelligence are the cornerstones of the blue pill. Hypocrisy, thy name is woman. The most important thing is that she receives the envy of her female friends and adversaries. For that you must be tall, have a handsome masculine face, and be of high status. High status can be in the business world, sports world, social world, etc. The more other men look up to you (or fear you) and the more women want you, the more you will score high on her hypergamy scale. Her goal is to win the competition for the "best" guy as judged by her peers.
You can either love women, or understand them, but not both. And when you understand them, it's shocking how cold and heartless they are. The thing is, women think it's clever to leave marriage until later, but by that time most men understand them.
"The most important thing is that she receives the envy of her female friends and adversaries." THIS. THIS. THIS. You need to make a channel. Most do not articulate this correctly as you did. So few men seem to get whamin's true motive. Their motives are always 1.) selfish and 2.) f00lish. They're always rooted in selfishness, insecurity, assumptions, bitterness, malice, greed. They are all virtue-signaling and no virtue.
When facing my wife with her obstinate, selfish, sacastic, mean-spirited, neurotic behavior, she eventually goes into self-regret and gets all lovey-dovey for a day or two before the ugly monster in her reappears. Weekly, it's the same pattern of extremes. I think she actually enjoys being called out, otherwise why would such childishness recur? Dealing with this is stressful and unnecessary. However, it may be common in most women. I hope not, but my loyalty has reached a breaking point. She asks what do I want to do about it, as if it's none if her responsibilty. I said fix it, or we won't have a relationship. Little has changed. Habits are tough to alter. I'm being forced to look around, when it's the last thing I want. There's an old saying about women, "....if it wasn't for sex, there would be a bounty on them."
That’s astounding. Those are the 3 traits that I most value and cultivate in myself. When I was younger I had no problem attracting women but it so happens I had other traits that was attracting them but not the ones I valued most important about myself.
I don't think they openly admitted it , they probably just started mentioning the aspects they valued more without realizing they were grading less valued the other aspects.
No, if the question technique is sound it will exclude any bias. Women will only have to state their preferences, while 'admitting' nothing. Same goes for the better personality tests.
There was a study that Wheat Waffles talks about where they asked women to rank things for themselves and they listed Looks as number four. Then they asked them to rank things for the average woman and they listed Looks as number one.
I have been married 3 times, so I think I can speak about what women (at least these) wanted. Each one wanted me to put everything I had in jeopardy for them, and thus allow them access that I could not control. Now I'm not saying I wanted to control them, I just wouldn't give them the access to control me, in other words, I didn't ignore our joint bank acct that the first wife ran the books on, I had a prenuptial with the second that I wouldn't tear up, the third, I wouldn't sell a house I had lived in for 25 years and owned outright to follow her to a job in a different state and live in an apartment, they all wanted to make me vulnerable to them, and I refused. They still tried to change that, some for a couple years one 10 years, but in the end when they knew I wouldn't give it up, they left. Lucky me actually.
@@stefanisilva2493 yeah I'm like this all seemed pretty reasonable request from the women. At the end of the day he's the one who can't keep a marriage lol.
I've found that they won't even talk to you if they don't find you to be susceptible to manipulation. That's when I stopped talking to the lot of them.
All these RUclips influencers come from a lacking powerless perspective. Take the power back. We are the gatekeepers to relationships. If they don’t have what we are looking for, then they’re just recreational use only
I think the more intelligent a man becomes generally the less automatically impressed he is with these kinds of women. The more intelligent a man becomes the more he tends to value solitude. Its not to say he will not find these types of women desirable, but they will not necessarily be more desirable than his own free time and lifestyle and if they threaten that it becomes not worth it. These types of women may also come across as shallow and immature which tends to make the physical attraction diminish.
It's hard to imagine what a women can give a man these days that they would risk blowing up their life over. It's literally nothing. Why would you hand over the actual keys to your life with nothing but intangible unspoken promises in return. It's a scam that bad women have wielded over good men to such an extent that younger generations won't touch women anymore or start families. "Nah give me the ai fembot"
I think I can speak on behalf of most men when I say..."Quelle suprise!" I remember joining the police as as a young cop and being partnered with a wisened, battered old cop who was near retirement. I will ALWAYS remember what he said about women: "Snakes with tits." I laughed about it at the time, but 30+ years later I realise this man had simply lived and observed...
3:03 Finally somebody said it. The three attributes women value the LEAST (of the ones available to choose on the list) are intelligence, loyalty, and kindness.
Fantastic study, I’ve said it a million time before and I’ll say it again. Women do not want an intelligent man! They used to call them nerds in high school, smart asses as adults and definitely the least important quality a man can have. Hell it might make him harder to manipulate. Loyalty is also low on that list. Women rather be the mistress of the billionaire than the wife of the janitor. As for kindness. Women who are physically abused by their husbands and boyfriends routinely come back to those men. All sorts of ink has been spilled describing the psychological conditions why these abused women go back to these men. The reality is that women couldn’t care less about “kindness”. They just want a “better” man than the next woman even if that means a black eye every now and then.
@@confaffalator “almost” is the key word in that sentence. I think it’s better to know how women fundamentally act, think and behave so you can act accordingly. No need to get mad at women for being women. Just keep in mind that you can always trust them to do and behave the way women do, as per the above. I think that’s fairly red pill.
@@joygibbons5482 sure, but it is probably 'adequately intelligent'- past that you would probably be put off by a genius that suffered in other areas of attraction
They want to control the relationship. They want to be the moral center of the relationship. They want to feel intellectually superior. Then when they are bored with you, they want to leave without being seen as users. If a guy is loyal and won't cheat on them, leaving him puts them in a bad light. An intelligent man is a threat because he will make them feel inadequate. A kind guy they can take advantage of but they may end up feeling guilty about it. This explains why most women tend to look for free meals while guys hate dating.
I get it. I look to my relationships for emotional bonds, reliably, and shared values. If one is perceived to be slacking and I'm leaving in 6 months. I grieved the loss of the relationship and I left him. My ex husband got addicted to opiates after a doctor prescription and it tore apart our marriage and he looked to a meth head girlfriend for validation and cheaper options in meth and heroin. He dumped me but I followed through on divorce when he changed his mind. Next 3 year relationships and he yelled at my mom and former step daughter actively alienating members others of my family where they were never allowed in the house. I tried to keep him by quitting smoking then exercise to lose the post smoking weight gain. Eventually it seemed like he would never compromise to my values to my family while he was good on being reliable and we had good emotional bonds. The sacrifice of my family seemed too great that I wanted to break up with next challenge. He told me 4 months after he left the house that he could have been nicer to my family and apologized to them 🤯. I knew he would never do that because I asked him. He wanted to argue about me wanting my family over for holidays and birthdays that I dropped it. I knew his ego is too great and he is better off without me because he would never apologize or compromise to my needs. I got a mortgage in my name so I wouldn't rely on a guy solely for his financial resources. Just emotional bonds, shared values, and chores reliable. He helps with 1/4 of the living expenses. I am in a relationship that fills that need. I am reliable, kind, and giving to him as well. Dating every week is important for emotional bonds. Just time to conversation free of our responsibilities to the home and work. We can date at Burger King or a nature walk. Under $25 we take turns paying. Over that number and we are going dutch. He is my best friend and the person I rely on most in this world...we can't neglect each other. We have to talk about stupid TV shows and aliens. We have to listen to each other's music and sing the best parts just to see the other one smile or laugh at how stupid it is.
Deep down, everybody know what women want. But it is a hard pill to swallow to be seen as a success object and nothing more. Men created the romantic love idea and started to idealize women to shield themselves from a grim reality. It is painfull to understand that you are highly replaceable and that she is sniffing for a better partner all the time.
Really depends on the type of women you are dating, I know enough women that will stick with their man. Mostly they are religious or bound by some sort of believe tho. Your typical western woman however, I would never trust that. Especially since I have experienced more traditional women now.
I think that the origin of romance can be traced back to Queen Elanor of Aquitane and her " court of love " which attempted to make men more user friendly to Women by promoting chivalry based on ancient Celtic values . This led to the romances of the court of King Arthur which still have a strong influence on Western culture.
Sounds about right. In their younger years, it's all about fun and spontaneity, so they pick the guys that are self centered borderline sociopaths. Then months down the line they complain that he's not loyal or kind 🤔
Nope. It's entirely about looks. Good looking men always have plenty of support and approval, and are taught that they can get away with pretty much anything so they never have had to modulate their behavior, this "self centered borderline sociopaths." Once that relationship breaks apart she'll move on to the next "jerk" and so on
As said in Scarface... the guys that lay low, keep a low profile. They last. The guys that want it all. Women, flash, respect. They don't last. Greed is a murderer.
@jewishmcloin1933 Flashy cars, mansions, automatic rifles, expensive dinners... these things are visible, and scream illegal wealth. You don't need them to conduct business. If you have the discipline to stay modest you can spend a lifetime in safe luxury without attracting police, FBI and DEA attention.
Capricious is more accurate, but as a simplified statement, I'd agree with you. But that FEMALE quality of capriciousness coupled with their intrinsic hypergamy fueled by familiarity ('boredom') within any relationship over time, coupled with lustful desire and opportunity without ANY social constraints or repercussions in the Dystopian society in which we live in the west today society leads to them exercising intrinsic perfidiousness.
You CANNOT look for motherly love from a wife (caring, kindness, forgiving, comforting, gentle, caretaking, devoted, careful, etc) but a wife CAN look for fatherly love from a husband (discipline, teaching, protecting, motivating, knowledgeable, patient, busy, confident, etc)
The problem with these qualities is that usually sub-5 weak, poor insecure nerds have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits. All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.
there is generally nice woman for nice guy so, fair enough I guess. This research only did to "attractive" woman. I'm guessing they're the woman who put quality in body, (beauty) status & attraction so, I guess it made sense.
My EX was a Narcissist. She didn't actually love me. She just loved being loved, and treated with love by me. She loved how I made her feel, not me. As a person, I was actually irrelevent to why she was with me. Because what she loved was about Self - was focused inward on herself. Not outward on me, and who I was. I truly wasn't a factor in the formula to her, just how I made her feel. And it certainly was never about US. I was a resource. One she didn't want to lose. But I, the man, was no more the focus of her emotions that a woman feels love for a dildo. Absolutely a tragedy that anyone should be that emotionally maladjusted. To all men out their: Never stand for that from a woman. To all women out there: If you have no more regard for men as human beings than she does, then gasping out your last breathe alone, except for your cats, is too good for you. (Second time around I won the lottery. Some think I found a Unicorn. But it's not true. Any woman can choose to be a pearl of great price, if they desire to. But today, they encourage each other to be nothing but cannibalistic narcissists, and call it Feminism. Then, they try to blame men for the choices they make.)
Not surprised tbh. The things they want the most are tied to what is more exciting, at the risk of missing out on kindness, loyalty and inteligence (to an extent)
Yes, that rings true. I was sold this lie growing up in the Church, the 3 things women care less about, and I look back and understand why I was rejected so much. I thought I was supposed to be open and honest with my feelings and be loyal and caring...I immediately got friendzoned. At the time I never understood. Glad I've woken up to the truth.
As someone who grew up in the church: I can not think of any other group that so thoroughly worships the Lord of Lies as Churchians. I think it is because they are so (self) righteous that they never need to reflect on whether they are doing wrong.
@@troydunn8463 Your Protestant priests are borderline (if not actually) outright heretical. Protestantism failed through and though, Hell, even LGBTQA+ alphabet gang infiltrated this "religion". What was once noble attempt of ditching highly centralized and corrupt Roman Catholic Vatican instead became highly decentralized and corrupt heresy. Go towards the east and you'll meet women that talk about duty just as much as men do, because their version of Christianity hasn't fallen to heresy and patriarchal, monogamic, monotheistic non idolatry values are still held. Even Jung talked about (despite being grandfather of modern psychology) idea of "religious instinct" in people. Where religion falls mental instability breeds, alongside idolatry replacements *cough* astrology *cough*. Go back to origins and most orthodox Christianity there is, where priests are priests and not boy lovers, and monks are monks.
It explains why; when I was a teenager I was a total asshol3, I was really aggressive & violent , selfish , rude , arrogant, egocentric person and I got every girl I wanted.
i really wonder whether you guys actually watch the video or not. The research shows what the most attractive women (according to men) want, NOT the average women. The title itself is misleading, even the research's title is ATTRACTIVE Women Want it All.
I'm 38 and I've felt only one relationship, ever, where my intelligence was appreciated. It's usually a negative. Women hate feeling dumb when they don't understand what you're talking about or when you correct them for simply being...wrong about things. Then they go on and project to us that we can't "handle" strong intelligent women. Yeah, ok. My ex-wife would constantly not understand complex thoughts I was trying to share, get enraged by that (as if I was intentionally being obtuse or saying things randomly rather than her not being able to grasp the concepts). It ruined her image of being the smartest person in the room all time time.
Women don't do well with abstract thinking. At least, a 150 IQ woman will discuss abstract concepts at the level of a 100 IQ man, even if her cognitive bandwidth is huge.
Same thing with my wife. She can't handle my intelligence and deals with it by interrupting, screaming, crying and calling me "abusive" simply because I'm right most of the time. I never shout or yell when we're having a discussion. She does that. She doesn't like or understand logic. She's not a dummy, she's just not as smart as I am, and she's too emotional. The emotional part is what gets in her way. She'd be right a lot more often if she wasn't such a grown up child.
Wow! I always knew that I was abnormal. The three things that most women in this study find the least important are the most important to me. Intelligent, loyalty and kindness are what I look for first. That’s the kind of man I chose to raise my kids with. We’re together 50 years now. I recommend these qualities when looking for a life partner
The problem with these "good" qualities is that usually weak, poor insecure sub-5's have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits. All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.
The key is to remember that a relationship with a woman shouldn’t ever be the focus of your life. They aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to a lifestyle. Family and your children and your vocation/hobbies should be the true focus of your life. Just my opinion.
It is a very reasonable conclusion. We should be kind and loyal to ourselves, don't forget that women are only loyal to their feelings. That means that once she has no feelings for you, you are done.
This is spot on. There's no reason to be depressed about what's presented here. You just rearrange your reality to deal with it. I focus on my hobbies and physical fitness. If the wifey wants to come along for the ride that's great. If not I'm still fine.
As a conventionally unattractive but highly intelligent woman who actually values empathy, loyalty and intellect above all else, I found this oddly comforting. The thin pretty women are welcome to the men who don't have those primary attributes as far as I'm concerned. Feeling a bit less envious of the beautiful people today, thanks!
You have no idea what a pick me you sound like right now. Do you know how easy it is for men to fake empathy and be kind for a while to get you to trust them? Some things they can’t fake for long? Wealth, generosity and the ability to actually protect and provide for you.
It doesn't matter if they are attractive or not, they all want the same thing...They don't want it all, they all want more. Even if they had everything in the world, they are looking around to find MORE. Like drug addicts, the high you get from taking it diminishes and you need more and more until you either die from an overdose or die trying to get it.
This is because they are spiritually deficient. They cannot understand that happiness IS contentment. They are narcissists. All of their sense of self comes from external sources, nothing comes from within.
True. A woman's desires have no off-switch. Nature never installed one in them, because there was no benefit. It would only have been detrimental to their role as resource-accumulators. The concept of contentment, so important to men, is completely alien to them.
Have you seen the latest commercials for “Miss More”? Or the Chili’s “Dining for 1” commercial? The American Fefail is the perfectly engineered useless consumer/eater.
The women who did this can't be very smart. There were 21 qualities for these women to choose from. It went from 0.1 to 0.4, higher number was more attractive. For example, we know Intelligence (IQ) is the biggest predictor of wealth. This was at the bottom of the pile. After IQ is conscientiousness (industriousness), but it was the 4th least attractive quality. HOWEVER, above those qualities was 2 traits directly related to wealth, at almost double the attractive value. They don't recognize the two sources of a high value men, they only look at the end product. .22 Good Earning Capacity .19 Potential Income [expressed in dollars] .13 Ambition and Industriousness .10 Intelligent They're idiots. :'D
The problem with these "good" qualities is that usually weak, poor insecure sub-5's have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits. All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.
i was always good at school, so I naturally valued intelligence. As a young man I kind of assumed that translated into a large income. As an older guy I've learned that intelligence has nearly NOTHING to do with how much someone can make!
@@patnor7354 Most women can't take a joke, and being funny won't get you laid, rest assured. Lord knows I've reduced quite a few women to tears but they still had eyes for the big beeferoni guys.
Women WANT what they don't NEED and what they NEED they don't WANT it's really as simple as this is typed and this can go for men as well My father told me once he said I KNOW WHAT YOU WANT BUT THAT AIN'T WHAT YOU NEED
Through dating and having been married, I have to agree. Suppressing my kindness has actually helped most specifically. I am not rude, but I don’t cater to my dates.
Being kind just dries up those panties. It turns out war brides don't mind you conquer their village, it is a turn on for you to slaughter another and another age ad infinitum. They LOVe it! They'd get off on their captors killing another village vs. releasing the men from their. Those beautiful flowers.
I agree. Men tend to take extremes with these things (myself included, in my teens and 20s, to early 30s). A lot of guys (especially "nice guys") are selfless for selfish reasons. Women who are experienced can usually sense that (and likely have a few "nice guy" stories that went bad). Unless provoked, I'm never rude or nasty to women. I'm straight forward and honest-that's what's gotten me laid a few times this last year..But there is a seduction to it, and each seduction varies by the man's personality.
Fair point, but I find that It's easier to be decent, accommodating and transparent for my own peace of mind. You can spot someone who mistakes kindness for weakness a mile away, you see the real person early and I won't play games for anyone. It prolongs the inevitable if someone is a bad fit for you. I guess being completely emotionally and financially self sufficient makes my 'strategy' a little more sustainable.
Some of my kindness was predicated on the need for validation. That is the kindness I suppress. What is left is actually kindness that comes naturally, without a care of what it gets me. But I certainly have stopped doing kind things for my need to be validated by a partner, or even to prove it to my God. Still a work in progress
@@Cars1Gunz1and1Weights It's commonly known as the "subtle contract" where a guy does a nice thing for a girl hoping (really expecting) something in return. When the confident guy does something kind, he doesn't expect anything in return (except maybe a thank you). Part of it is people pleasing behavior (both men & women do it) and there are dozens of reasons why it could have come about in our personality. It's the subconscious mindset of "maybe if I give more first, I'll get more." Along with the masculine energy of showing loyalty by giving full attention and granting her every wish, in other words, trying to impress. This had merit some evolutions ago, and there is a time & place to give your undivided attention to her (once steady monogamy comes about), but modern day it comes off as needy. The confident guy is more focused on other things, this communicates he wants her but doesnt need her. That's what's attractive. It also makes her feel like she's in a position of power- she's being given a clear choice.
@@sarahrobertson634 Some men do, true, but the difference is many men don't know what they're getting into. From what I've observed, many women openly admit to chasing bad boys but then go all surprised Pikachu face when the obvious happens, yet they still keep doing the same behavior which keeps giving them the same results.
@@sarahrobertson634 Like I said, MANY time men don't realize it, implying that SOME of the times they do, but many women are 304s on the down low which more and more women are openly admitting to these days like how more and more openly admit to going after bad men. Men and women are different with different problems and both groups behave differently IN GENERAL (which means not all). You can find examples of just about anything, but simultaneously one can also notice general patterns of behavior with groups of people, in this case, men and women. Most men with sense and all men with self respect don't chase 304s, but many women regardless of what type openly admit or showcase through their actions to getting with bad men and complaining about good men being boring or some other negative thing. That's a major difference between men and women.
@Blacque But if those women get with bad boys, then clearly some men are getting with women, therefore means that they can have them lol. Your logic is flawed.
@Blacque I never said most men are bad boy Chads lol. You keep putting words in my mouth. You're far too overreactive. Men are not to blame for what now? Can you be specific, please? I can't follow this. I never mentioned anything about sympathy, I was just stating the general truth. The fact that you're getting so emotional over this tells far more about your thinking than it does about what I'm saying. You may want to introspect and investigate for your own sake.
There is another peer reviewed study out there that determined: Women can forgive, perhaps even (if the guy is lucky) have a tolerance to her partner having a physical relationship with another women, but not an emotional one. Just the opposite, men can forgive, perhaps even tolerate his partner having an emotional relationship with another man, but not a physical one.
Tell me you didn't read the survey without telling me you didn't read the survey. Most of the top valued qualities involved wanting to have children and taking good care of them.
I always hated the concept of arranged marriages. But after hearing about arranged marriages from the perspective of people that live in that sort of culture, our way is no better.
Yeah as time goes on, they make more sense - stops women chasing chad/tyrone, or blowing up their marriages over trivial bs and puts the focus on making the family successful - not just on the women being successful
Arranged marriages would be a nightmare! You have no clue what you are going to get. She could be a psycho who will cut your weaner off in the middle of the night.
You're looking at it how a man looks at it...Your traits is more of what men look for in women (along with looks too). Women have great value on money, looks, and status (but not like "popular guy" but more of where he is in life..If he works alone, he should be making money at it to be independent). What you describe are a bonus..Honestly, as a man, you should doing what you can to hit those traits for your own sake.
If you look attractive, then you will be percieved as valuable, no matter what character you have. The guy in the clip is talking smack and I don't even mean to look down on him. He is just trying to keep society intact by lying to himself.
Congratulations, women don’t care much about those… but men do! Enjoy being a reliable and respected peer or leader of any group you find yourself in. You will probably go far.
If Intelligence, loyalty and kindness are the least wanted by women, it says a lot about the current state of morality in the society, unless the women surveyed are not representative of the general population.
And the study was well-before social media, simping, Likes, causing inflated egos, over-inflated market value, entitlement, and swiping right on only the highest quality males no matter how unattractive the female actually is in reality. Things are now exponentially worse because of these factors, putting countless women in the "delusional" category.
If there are no thirsty men simping, friending, following, or clicking likes on these women's profiles on social media platforms, then their over-inflated market value would decrease, would it not?
My two issues with the study is the sample size and the date 2008. The study was conducted before the iphone dating and social media apps like tinder Instagram Snapchat etc.
The goal post moves as a woman’s mood changes. They want a strong man one day. A sensitive one the next. They won’t tell you which one. It’s your job to figure it out. Don’t guess wrong. That’s the start of a fight.
And this is why very attractive women are just eye candy and nothing else. I could never sacrifice developing my intelligence and personality to go for things attractive women prefer because in the end, once attractiveness starts to fade, what's left?
Wow. The lowest 3 attributes on the totem pole were intelligence, kindness, and loyalty. I totally understand why they want fitness and money, but I would've expected it to be closer. It's not the fact that kindness, loyalty, and intelligence aren't on top, it's the fact that they are on the very bottom, the most disposable. Humanity pretends it's more idealistic than it claims to be. Again, I don't blame people for wanting what they want. It's just the fact that something based on morals is the least important says something about our world. And women carry themselves like they're more moral than men. They don't deserve that assumption.
I'm definitely the last three things, but I won't change in order to get a good-looking gold digger. I will rather be alone. ;-) I treat people the way I want to be treated.
I put all my points in those three traits to such a ridiculous extent that its the main signal I send out , wow, I completely misjudged the human condition
Keep in mind that while intelligence may not be selected for as a primary factor...it does figure heavily in gaining/ being ( some of) the other things that are selected for.
If you believe that you're out of your mind. Some of the most successful men I know are also some of the dumbest. They've succeeded by being highly sociable and agreeable. Networking trumps competency.
@@halycon404 possibly to some minor extent, but the majority of cases don’t follow this exception. If you’re not already born into large amount of wealth, there isn’t much networking you can do from a economic standpoint, if you aren’t competent enough for the job position.
People who expect others do to all the work have a long list of things they want. But the list is very short for those who have to work for all those things themselves. Growing up as a kid I remember my father telling me....what you want...and what you get ....are two different things.......
What I really detest, is when people ask you to click like on a post before the video has even bloody started!! How the hell can you like something before you have watched it,; when they do this i refrain from clicking like even if it is good.Ask at the end then you have a good chance of me liking.take note!
Example (from this study): "Several studies find circumstantial support for this hypothesis. Two studies found that women who were younger and higher on self-rated attractiveness specified a longer list of traits that they sought or required in a potential mate than did women lower in these key markers of mate value (Pawlowski and Dunbar, 1999)"
This is really interesting. You present a study that tells men what we already knew, but many women on RUclips tell us that women really want confident men, and that looks, age, income etc. don't mean that much.
Women lie since they don't what they're attracted to. It'd also make them look bad so they virtue signal and say easy to digest things. In private they try to get g-banged by criminals.
The top correlated values were, in order: 1.) Desire for home and children (0.4) 2.) Tied: Emotional Stability + Maturity | Sex Appeal (0.3) 3.) Tied: Raising Children Well (0.28) | Physically Attractive (0.28) 4.) Older than self (0.25) 5.) Tied: Being a Loving Partner (0.24) | likes children (0.24) The categories and correlation between desire and attractiveness were the following: Genetic: more masculine (0.2), physically attractive(.28), good looking (I assume face) (0.2), sex appeal (0.3), physically fit (0.23), intelligent (0.1) Investment: potential income (0.19), good earning capacity (0.22), college graduate(0.22), ambition and industriousness(0.13), favorable social status/ranking(0.14), older than self (0.25) Parenting: Desire for home and children(0.4), fond of children(0.23), likes children(0.24), raising children well(0.28), emotional stability + maturity(0.3), kind and understanding (0.12) good partner indicators: being a loving partner(0.24), devoted to you(0.14), loyal (0.11)
I agree with that last comment. Regardless of what a woman wants or finds attractive, a man has to be true to himself first. If a lady doesn’t like it, she’s not worth the time.
That's why attractive men can paradoxically have it tough sometimes: expectations are higher for attractive men so it's harder to meet her wants and needs
When I finally left my wife after almost 5 years of absolute nightmare, she started chasing me and said: " so you were not weak, you were just kind since you had the balls to leave me". I always had balls but she did 'nt notice them. Because I was kind . I am still kind, but only with people who deserve it.
I'm trying to find my kindness again...I lost it due to social media, and the dating world being hard on me. I'ma remember this comment
Nobody is weaker than the American Fefail. Men tolerate them . . . until they don’t.
Never let them confuse your kindness for weakness. You’re not weak.
5 years why did you leave sooner then?
Sounds like the story of my life
The problem is not what they want, the problem is how little they offer in return.
Sheesh!!!! Bingo!!!
Very deep and concerning
today's modern woman feels that all she needs is a functioning vagina, some make-up and uh... that's about it.
Gold!
Best comment!
Absolutely my friend….they bring a peach!
You nailed it!
Dang, women cared the least about intelligent, loyal, and kind / understanding.
That's a mind-warp.
Intelligent - Less intelligence means easier to manipulate and control the relationship. Get away with things.
Loyal - Boring turns her off. Drama/Chaos is fun. Women want to have the one all women want.
Kind - They want a “bad boy”. Shows he can’t be controlled or lead by her. Shows he will lead. He will dominate.
Understanding - has self respect and smart enough to not put up with hers or others BS.
Great wrap-up 👍
The high rate of single motherhood basically tells you all.
@@KCN007 those contradict lol
@joshuacadavez1191…yes, and that perfectly fits with the stated notion of many women liking a bad boy.
I've been married 3 times, so I can tell you what they want. 1. The ability to lead the relationship when THEY want. 2. A good provider, must be able to support their lifestyle. 3. Someone who has a good sense of humor, but not toward them because they take everything personally.
“Good provider” had been a polished way of covering up for Gold Diggers
Sounds like you are being manipulated and treated like a doormat. 😮
😂😂😂
LOL - fast way for her to lose repsect for you....
@@Wisdom122 that’s literally how most men r treated
As my 96 year old mother told me...women today want too much, and they are not willing to do the work or make any sacrifices to deserve what they want.
💯
Is your mother free? Would like to propose her…
Your mother is a WISE WOMAN
Your mother keeps it real. Not all mothers are honest about female nature to help their sons romantically, and not all fathers are honest about male nature to help their daughters.
Very based and wise woman.
Re: Kindness. Possible attractive people undervalue kindness because they are regularly treated well?
You made a good point.
Yep, had a 10 girlfriend, she thinks everyone is kind and generous... and they are... to her
@@simonl4657 thats why they say in pick up if you see a 10 you should insult her right away that's the only way to get her attention. Because the whole world is praising her
Sometimes attractive people (women especially) are treated poorly (or even cruelly) out of pure envy and competition.
@@ContrarianExpatriate they are treated poorly and cruelly by fellow women of similar age. This is also why beautiful women tend to be friends with each other
This generation of women have been told from birth that they can have it all. They have never been told that everything comes at a price. This works while they are young and attractive.
"L'oreal - because you're worth it". 30 years of conditioning (pun intended) later....
Not just that they can have it all, they're told that they deserve it all because they're all perfect girl-boss queens.
That's what happens when parents value their daughters over their sons. I knew guys who rode the bus after highschool while their sister had a car bought by the parents. Parents are also more likely to pay for college for daughters rather than sons because "he's a guy he'll make do".
Yupp exactly that’s why college are like 65% girls
Things start to change once they hit the wall and their value goes down
This is why listening to women regarding issues of female psychology is fruitless. What they say they want in public, what they think they want, and lastly what they want in practice are totally different things, and many of them lack the self-awareness to even realize that.
Absolutely bang on you are!
A man loves a woman. A woman loves what a man can do for her.
"Women are human beings, men are human doings"
@@TheHMSBrosunderrated comment.
It's biological
@@emmanueljoshuad.parreno22 No it isn't that's just an excuse for the behavior of women.
This slight difference could run into millions of dollars.
1. Looks
2. Money
3. Status
1 Status
2 Money
3 Looks
Remember the literature professor who bangs all the young students?
@@Robinson8491 facts the manager at any job can smash all the female employees
Like the high school quarterback or the bartender
1. Status
2. Status
3. Status
1. MONEY!!
2. MONEY
3. the rest
I think that it's probably:
1. Looks.
2. Status.
3. Money.
If a low status job makes more money than a high status job women are still more attracted to the high status low income job.
Intelligence and loyalty are two of the most important qualities in a person, in pretty much any capacity.
It's so true, I had the nicest guy in the world, but he had zero curiosity, wonder and it was so bizarre, he really didn't know about any topics at all, none, I couldn't stay with him no matter how (nice) he was.
@@JessicaD.-vb9ho No, it's not true. I've known so many women who would spend all their time wanting to talk with me, pretty much every topic. I had a friend of 2 years, she damn near idolized me for intelligence, humor, kindness, etc. She sought my approval of her every thought, really the amount of praise was getting so old, but she still told me "I would date you if you were 15 cm taller".
I didn't bring up the subject, I actually never even flirted with her, there was no reason for her to bring it up.
What I've learnt is that women are sexually attracted to the most primitive of traits in men, all the indicators of power. They pick the "mute brute" they never have an interesting conversation with, then they find men to complain to about men they chose.
Recently I met this woman who's over 10 years my elder, after an hour long conversation she told me over the course of 20 years being with her husband, she's never had such a deep conversation with him. Some naive sap would be flattered and conclude that's proof of what women really want, but just look at what she chose.
Women are all talk, they never go for what they say they value. Sexually they reward the men they complain about.
Do you honestly think a woman is more impressed that a man would speak 5 languages or that he's strong and muscular? I think you're deluding yourself.
Not according to 55% of the population…
@@JessicaD.-vb9holol throw away a good man cause he bores you🤡
Don't forget honesty and integrity
I want everything in life too. The difference between myself and women is that I’m willing to work for it and earn it without entitlement.
I was a popular Dj in Berlin, I enjoyed great reputation within our scene, there were always many offers from women. Those were my best times as a man. Then I met this woman who wanted me to give up my life in Berlin and move out to New Zealand with her to start a family. Later we had a child. When I then only became a average man who only works for his family and came home in the evening shatterd from work and had gained an additional 10 kilos, she no longer found me attractive and left me for another man.
never underestimate the PRIMAL side of women; it exists, and it is very real. they say, "money doesn't matter, etc.," but it's all bullshit.
the top 2000 things they say they want in men are DEFINITELY true, but none of them matter unless she's VERY physically attracted to you... and has envisioned you fucking her ruthlessly.
Very common story😞
The first mistake you made is following her decision ( moved to n Zealand)
@@cheikhniang2693 i know
@@MinimalWave1982 similar story: my gf left me after 3 years of being together as she said she no longer feels emotionally attracted to me, yet she didn't know why. I tried to use my wits to find out how this happened as I was able to speak to her shortly after we broke up. What I found out was: she truly loved me when I was at my prime time, when I was a leader, when I was winning. Then when the life turned around and hardship and struggle followed, her love faded away. I was the same man, just beaten up by life, struggling. Not giving up, but that's how life is. Once you're up and once you're down. Seems like she didn't like to stick around to someone who was battling with life, she needed a winner. A constant winner. It's the sad reality- women want the interesting lifestyle you can provide. Once that is gone, she won't stick around for long to what she perceives as a loser. Now I don't blame her as you can't change what you feel inside of you, but that was a rough realisation nevertheless. I don't despise women but when I'll be at the top again, I won't share much of it to any women that will try to get some freebies. Fool me once..
The things that I value the most in myself are the things they value the least in me. Quite depressing.
All that matters is you value yourself. My advice is, get your money up, keep your soul and standards and when dating, date with direct intention. Direct intention scares off a lot of hoes and vapid people in general. There is no faking it until you make it in dating. At some point the jig will be up and you'll know it
@@michaeljmyers1995 Thank you for your insight, it seems very good advice and I appreciate it.
Well, the things they value in themselves -- beauty and sexual attractiveness are the things you value the least in yourself. They don't want you to be like them -- beautiful and sexually attractive. But you want them to be that, right? Men and women are direct opposites. It shouldn't be depressing. It is what it is -- challenging. Accept the challenge.
for what it's worth I think you are the salt of the earth. I am a man, so I cannot give you sex (that's what we crave for) but you have my respect. Keep on fighting
Basically proof women are simply EVIL. It’s really just that simple. They value negative character traits, while they dislike positive ones.
I've realized this with my husband of 12 years. He is 6'3", makes around 170k yr, and has the other '6' as well. Back when he made 50k a year, but was very buff due to his job, women were all over him. Now he makes a lot but doesn't flaunt it (it doesn't show) and gained a few pounds, he's now invisible. He's still the same sweet, stoic, respectful, loyal man I fell in love with, but it's crazy to see the massive difference in how women treat him.
Men don't get married to one woman. They figuratively get married to that woman and all her friends. By being tuned into and aware of other women's opinion of your husband, you have confirmed my belief
@@davidh7799 what
@@Sapanator you are posting all this information about you and your husband's relationship. That's not so good. Then you comment on other women's opinions of your husband. That's not so good either. Why are you doing that? Putting the shoe on the other foot, would you appreciate your husband doing the same things?
@@davidh7799 Hun, it's an observation. It's not that deep.
@@Sapanator well maybe think about what I posted. I'm just commenting. Another insight I have is this: your relationship with your husband is arguably the second most important thing in your life. Realize that, and be reverent about those two most important things. Have an attitude of reverance, because certainly someday you will need that.
A friend of mine just separed and his ex changed completely from sweet caring and all that to manipulative mean and all the worst in a matter of no time. Also took away the little daughter. Painfull. He learned the hard way
You should always ask yourself these questions regarding any woman you're involved with.
Does she want me or does she just want a relationship with someone?
Does she want to have sex with me or just want a sexual relationship?
Does she want a wedding or does she want to be MY WIFE?
Why would you want a woman other than for sex?
@@richard_from_england333 believe it or not but if you look hard enough and luck out in her seeking you out there is the occasional anomaly. A woman who understands and enthusiastically adopts to your principal.
"This isn't a equal partnership. This isn't about making momma happy so someone else can be happy.
My Game, My Rules.
Get on my program or Please do Fuck Right Off."
If she can deal with that and her company is bearable once the post nut clarity kicks in then maybe...maybe. She might be somewhat more asset than liability.
The answer is no
Why? Before asking what she wants ask yourself what do you want or why would you want it?
All relationships are transactional. No one wants you for you. That’s reserved for women, children, and pets
I spent 20 years married and got divorced. I really don't give a shit what any woman wants anymore. My house, car, money, investments, time and freedom are mine.
This was superbly described in the book "Out of Africa" (written by a woman) about the male-female dynamics in Somalia. The men wanted one thing: a woman. And the women wanted one thing: everything.
"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."
Robert de Niro couldn't say it better...
HI enjoyed watching Heat so much back in the day but this sentence makes so much more sense with hitting 40 😂😂😂
SO TRUE!!!!
The only thing videos like yours have taught me is that I should stay single
It teaches how to dodge bullets
Dodge shallow women lol. What kind of woman values your wallet over your loyalty. There are plenty of women who don't care about your bank account. They just want a good dude
Or forget about attractive women. They are spoiled and hard to please.
Attractive women are the women on the top. More beautiful a woman is more she can get and more she can ask for.
It’s like asking rich guys what they want in a woman. They are also at the top and have plenty of options to choose from. Just like very attractive women.
This is not what “women” want. It’s what women FROM THE TOP want.
@@allwhatilove914
all women besides sub 5 can get the same guys hot girls get. the point is that women are not valuable enough to commit to. they're all non virgins for starters and their personality traits are relatively the same
Kindness, loyalty and intelligence are the cornerstones of the blue pill. Hypocrisy, thy name is woman. The most important thing is that she receives the envy of her female friends and adversaries. For that you must be tall, have a handsome masculine face, and be of high status. High status can be in the business world, sports world, social world, etc. The more other men look up to you (or fear you) and the more women want you, the more you will score high on her hypergamy scale. Her goal is to win the competition for the "best" guy as judged by her peers.
They want a baby face in China, not a handsome masculine face
You can either love women, or understand them, but not both. And when you understand them, it's shocking how cold and heartless they are.
The thing is, women think it's clever to leave marriage until later, but by that time most men understand them.
"The most important thing is that she receives the envy of her female friends and adversaries."
THIS. THIS. THIS. You need to make a channel. Most do not articulate this correctly as you did.
So few men seem to get whamin's true motive. Their motives are always 1.) selfish and 2.) f00lish. They're always rooted in selfishness, insecurity, assumptions, bitterness, malice, greed. They are all virtue-signaling and no virtue.
@@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 hit the nail on the head with that one.
@@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Maybe the society you men have created has made women that way?
When facing my wife with her obstinate, selfish, sacastic, mean-spirited, neurotic behavior, she eventually goes into self-regret and gets all lovey-dovey for a day or two before the ugly monster in her reappears. Weekly, it's the same pattern of extremes. I think she actually enjoys being called out, otherwise why would such childishness recur? Dealing with this is stressful and unnecessary. However, it may be common in most women. I hope not, but my loyalty has reached a breaking point. She asks what do I want to do about it, as if it's none if her responsibilty. I said fix it, or we won't have a relationship. Little has changed. Habits are tough to alter. I'm being forced to look around, when it's the last thing I want. There's an old saying about women, "....if it wasn't for sex, there would be a bounty on them."
That’s astounding. Those are the 3 traits that I most value and cultivate in myself. When I was younger I had no problem attracting women but it so happens I had other traits that was attracting them but not the ones I valued most important about myself.
What shocks me the most is how honest these women responded. I always knew this being the truth but never heard a woman openly admitting to it.
I don't think they openly admitted it , they probably just started mentioning the aspects they valued more without realizing they were grading less valued the other aspects.
No, if the question technique is sound it will exclude any bias. Women will only have to state their preferences, while 'admitting' nothing. Same goes for the better personality tests.
@@_PJW_ good point. A well-designed survey knows how to extract the truth and sort through the BS.
They weren't honest at all. Go deeper down the rabbit hole neo.
There was a study that Wheat Waffles talks about where they asked women to rank things for themselves and they listed Looks as number four. Then they asked them to rank things for the average woman and they listed Looks as number one.
I have been married 3 times, so I think I can speak about what women (at least these) wanted. Each one wanted me to put everything I had in jeopardy for them, and thus allow them access that I could not control. Now I'm not saying I wanted to control them, I just wouldn't give them the access to control me, in other words, I didn't ignore our joint bank acct that the first wife ran the books on, I had a prenuptial with the second that I wouldn't tear up, the third, I wouldn't sell a house I had lived in for 25 years and owned outright to follow her to a job in a different state and live in an apartment, they all wanted to make me vulnerable to them, and I refused. They still tried to change that, some for a couple years one 10 years, but in the end when they knew I wouldn't give it up, they left. Lucky me actually.
This is what you call blue pill to the bone, damn.
Just a normal men not doing what many women do for them (not saying this ones would). Nothing new.
They wanted you vulnerable and at their mercy? If that ain't narcissism, then I don't know what is.
@@stefanisilva2493 yeah I'm like this all seemed pretty reasonable request from the women. At the end of the day he's the one who can't keep a marriage lol.
I've found that they won't even talk to you if they don't find you to be susceptible to manipulation. That's when I stopped talking to the lot of them.
my mouth dropped at the traits that were dispensable because intelligence, loyalty and kindness are literally at the top of mine 😭😭
Who cares what they want. They need to worry about what you want. Take the power
Bingo!!
All these RUclips influencers come from a lacking powerless perspective. Take the power back. We are the gatekeepers to relationships. If they don’t have what we are looking for, then they’re just recreational use only
@@dd032894
You are talking like you are a Chad (maybe you are) but 95% of other men are not.
@@nikokapanen82women will use any guy including chads. If the money stops they will leave. There needs to be an upside for us too
Amen!!!
I think the more intelligent a man becomes generally the less automatically impressed he is with these kinds of women. The more intelligent a man becomes the more he tends to value solitude. Its not to say he will not find these types of women desirable, but they will not necessarily be more desirable than his own free time and lifestyle and if they threaten that it becomes not worth it. These types of women may also come across as shallow and immature which tends to make the physical attraction diminish.
It's hard to imagine what a women can give a man these days that they would risk blowing up their life over. It's literally nothing. Why would you hand over the actual keys to your life with nothing but intangible unspoken promises in return. It's a scam that bad women have wielded over good men to such an extent that younger generations won't touch women anymore or start families. "Nah give me the ai fembot"
Hit the nail on the head.
Very good points!
I think I can speak on behalf of most men when I say..."Quelle suprise!"
I remember joining the police as as a young cop and being partnered with a wisened, battered old cop who was near retirement.
I will ALWAYS remember what he said about women: "Snakes with tits." I laughed about it at the time, but 30+ years later I realise this man had simply lived and observed...
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
kind of disrespectful to snakes I think
😂😂❤😂
Bitter men...
Unfair on snakes. I like them.
3:03 Finally somebody said it. The three attributes women value the LEAST (of the ones available to choose on the list) are intelligence, loyalty, and kindness.
This guy gives you the HARDEST red pills ever in a relaxed, conversational and approachable way. Bravo, sir!
Fantastic study, I’ve said it a million time before and I’ll say it again. Women do not want an intelligent man! They used to call them nerds in high school, smart asses as adults and definitely the least important quality a man can have. Hell it might make him harder to manipulate. Loyalty is also low on that list. Women rather be the mistress of the billionaire than the wife of the janitor. As for kindness. Women who are physically abused by their husbands and boyfriends routinely come back to those men. All sorts of ink has been spilled describing the psychological conditions why these abused women go back to these men. The reality is that women couldn’t care less about “kindness”. They just want a “better” man than the next woman even if that means a black eye every now and then.
The reason no one will talk about this is because it is so bleak. But it is true.
Funny, I always loved intelligent men and would choose one over a less intelligent but more monetarily successful alternative
This pill is unusually dark in colour. It appears almost black.
@@confaffalator “almost” is the key word in that sentence. I think it’s better to know how women fundamentally act, think and behave so you can act accordingly. No need to get mad at women for being women. Just keep in mind that you can always trust them to do and behave the way women do, as per the above. I think that’s fairly red pill.
@@joygibbons5482 sure, but it is probably 'adequately intelligent'- past that you would probably be put off by a genius that suffered in other areas of attraction
They want to control the relationship. They want to be the moral center of the relationship. They want to feel intellectually superior. Then when they are bored with you, they want to leave without being seen as users. If a guy is loyal and won't cheat on them, leaving him puts them in a bad light. An intelligent man is a threat because he will make them feel inadequate. A kind guy they can take advantage of but they may end up feeling guilty about it. This explains why most women tend to look for free meals while guys hate dating.
From a 10,000 foot view...I think you nailed it my friend!
I’d like to give you the Pulitzer Prize
I get it. I look to my relationships for emotional bonds, reliably, and shared values. If one is perceived to be slacking and I'm leaving in 6 months. I grieved the loss of the relationship and I left him.
My ex husband got addicted to opiates after a doctor prescription and it tore apart our marriage and he looked to a meth head girlfriend for validation and cheaper options in meth and heroin. He dumped me but I followed through on divorce when he changed his mind.
Next 3 year relationships and he yelled at my mom and former step daughter actively alienating members others of my family where they were never allowed in the house. I tried to keep him by quitting smoking then exercise to lose the post smoking weight gain. Eventually it seemed like he would never compromise to my values to my family while he was good on being reliable and we had good emotional bonds.
The sacrifice of my family seemed too great that I wanted to break up with next challenge. He told me 4 months after he left the house that he could have been nicer to my family and apologized to them 🤯. I knew he would never do that because I asked him. He wanted to argue about me wanting my family over for holidays and birthdays that I dropped it. I knew his ego is too great and he is better off without me because he would never apologize or compromise to my needs.
I got a mortgage in my name so I wouldn't rely on a guy solely for his financial resources. Just emotional bonds, shared values, and chores reliable. He helps with 1/4 of the living expenses. I am in a relationship that fills that need. I am reliable, kind, and giving to him as well.
Dating every week is important for emotional bonds. Just time to conversation free of our responsibilities to the home and work. We can date at Burger King or a nature walk. Under $25 we take turns paying. Over that number and we are going dutch.
He is my best friend and the person I rely on most in this world...we can't neglect each other. We have to talk about stupid TV shows and aliens. We have to listen to each other's music and sing the best parts just to see the other one smile or laugh at how stupid it is.
Or, to simplify: they are pure selfishness.
I actually think they equate kindness with weakness, at least subconsciously.
"Women know women, and they hate each other." - Al Bundy
Fucking amazing! I feel like most guys know this already from experience but to hear researchers validate this experience with a study is still nuts
Why is it nuts? If science doesn't confirm what you already know then it's bad science.
Deep down, everybody know what women want. But it is a hard pill to swallow to be seen as a success object and nothing more. Men created the romantic love idea and started to idealize women to shield themselves from a grim reality. It is painfull to understand that you are highly replaceable and that she is sniffing for a better partner all the time.
Really depends on the type of women you are dating, I know enough women that will stick with their man. Mostly they are religious or bound by some sort of believe tho. Your typical western woman however, I would never trust that. Especially since I have experienced more traditional women now.
definitely agree that men are the true romantics.
@@53strat55be cautious: women are biologically driven (compared to morally) and more alike than they are different.
@@redpilljesus 100% true. All women are same subconsciously.
I think that the origin of romance can be traced back to Queen Elanor of Aquitane and her " court of love " which attempted to make men more user friendly to Women by promoting chivalry based on ancient Celtic values . This led to the romances of the court of King Arthur which still have a strong influence on Western culture.
Sounds about right. In their younger years, it's all about fun and spontaneity, so they pick the guys that are self centered borderline sociopaths. Then months down the line they complain that he's not loyal or kind 🤔
Nope. It's entirely about looks. Good looking men always have plenty of support and approval, and are taught that they can get away with pretty much anything so they never have had to modulate their behavior, this "self centered borderline sociopaths." Once that relationship breaks apart she'll move on to the next "jerk" and so on
As said in Scarface... the guys that lay low, keep a low profile. They last. The guys that want it all. Women, flash, respect. They don't last. Greed is a murderer.
Would you be willing to expand upon this thought? I’m a little confused but curious
@jewishmcloin1933 Flashy cars, mansions, automatic rifles, expensive dinners... these things are visible, and scream illegal wealth. You don't need them to conduct business. If you have the discipline to stay modest you can spend a lifetime in safe luxury without attracting police, FBI and DEA attention.
The three values that I as a man value most (intelligence, loyalty, and kindness) are the three values that women value the least 😂😂
"Women are treacherous, you don't need that in your life" - my mother. Woman has yet to be wrong lol
Capricious is more accurate, but as a simplified statement, I'd agree with you. But that FEMALE quality of capriciousness coupled with their intrinsic hypergamy fueled by familiarity ('boredom') within any relationship over time, coupled with lustful desire and opportunity without ANY social constraints or repercussions in the Dystopian society in which we live in the west today society leads to them exercising intrinsic perfidiousness.
My mom told me that nice guys just get sheet on.
lol. listen to your mom. listen this once.
Thats a based mom right there
You CANNOT look for motherly love from a wife (caring, kindness, forgiving, comforting, gentle, caretaking, devoted, careful, etc) but a wife CAN look for fatherly love from a husband (discipline, teaching, protecting, motivating, knowledgeable, patient, busy, confident, etc)
Intelligence, loyalty, kindness and understanding are qualities found in the 'Nice Guy'
The problem with these qualities is that usually sub-5 weak, poor insecure nerds have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits.
All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.
nice guys aren't intelligent lol
Yep and everyone knows nice guys finish last.
there is generally nice woman for nice guy so, fair enough I guess. This research only did to "attractive" woman. I'm guessing they're the woman who put quality in body, (beauty) status & attraction so, I guess it made sense.
@user-db7jw8rw7x. In the 1950s
My EX was a Narcissist. She didn't actually love me. She just loved being loved, and treated with love by me. She loved how I made her feel, not me. As a person, I was actually irrelevent to why she was with me. Because what she loved was about Self - was focused inward on herself. Not outward on me, and who I was. I truly wasn't a factor in the formula to her, just how I made her feel. And it certainly was never about US.
I was a resource. One she didn't want to lose. But I, the man, was no more the focus of her emotions that a woman feels love for a dildo.
Absolutely a tragedy that anyone should be that emotionally maladjusted.
To all men out their: Never stand for that from a woman.
To all women out there: If you have no more regard for men as human beings than she does, then gasping out your last breathe alone, except for your cats, is too good for you.
(Second time around I won the lottery. Some think I found a Unicorn. But it's not true. Any woman can choose to be a pearl of great price, if they desire to.
But today, they encourage each other to be nothing but cannibalistic narcissists, and call it Feminism. Then, they try to blame men for the choices they make.)
Not surprised tbh. The things they want the most are tied to what is more exciting, at the risk of missing out on kindness, loyalty and inteligence (to an extent)
Yes, that rings true. I was sold this lie growing up in the Church, the 3 things women care less about, and I look back and understand why I was rejected so much. I thought I was supposed to be open and honest with my feelings and be loyal and caring...I immediately got friendzoned. At the time I never understood. Glad I've woken up to the truth.
The god in monotheistic religions is controlling an abusive relationship. And as we now know people who are being abused cannot see it
@BuildTheFutureYouWant As for that last part, a lot of women describe THEMSELVES that way like it's a badge of honor.
As someone who grew up in the church:
I can not think of any other group that so thoroughly worships the Lord of Lies as Churchians.
I think it is because they are so (self) righteous that they never need to reflect on whether they are doing wrong.
Abandon the heresy of Protestantism. Go orthodox
@@troydunn8463 Your Protestant priests are borderline (if not actually) outright heretical. Protestantism failed through and though, Hell, even LGBTQA+ alphabet gang infiltrated this "religion". What was once noble attempt of ditching highly centralized and corrupt Roman Catholic Vatican instead became highly decentralized and corrupt heresy. Go towards the east and you'll meet women that talk about duty just as much as men do, because their version of Christianity hasn't fallen to heresy and patriarchal, monogamic, monotheistic non idolatry values are still held. Even Jung talked about (despite being grandfather of modern psychology) idea of "religious instinct" in people. Where religion falls mental instability breeds, alongside idolatry replacements *cough* astrology *cough*. Go back to origins and most orthodox Christianity there is, where priests are priests and not boy lovers, and monks are monks.
It explains why; when I was a teenager I was a total asshol3, I was really aggressive & violent , selfish , rude , arrogant, egocentric person and I got every girl I wanted.
Dude your handle is Cybertron. You didn’t get nothin lmaoooooo
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Thanks! Can’t say I like your message at all, but you’re speaking truth.
Eve had it all: A perfect garden, a mate created by God, and stress free life. And she still wanted more. Good luck, men!
i really wonder whether you guys actually watch the video or not. The research shows what the most attractive women (according to men) want, NOT the average women. The title itself is misleading, even the research's title is ATTRACTIVE Women Want it All.
2:40 = intelligent, loyal, kind and understanding.... women DID NOT care about! let that sink in!
I'm 38 and I've felt only one relationship, ever, where my intelligence was appreciated. It's usually a negative. Women hate feeling dumb when they don't understand what you're talking about or when you correct them for simply being...wrong about things. Then they go on and project to us that we can't "handle" strong intelligent women. Yeah, ok. My ex-wife would constantly not understand complex thoughts I was trying to share, get enraged by that (as if I was intentionally being obtuse or saying things randomly rather than her not being able to grasp the concepts). It ruined her image of being the smartest person in the room all time time.
Women don't do well with abstract thinking. At least, a 150 IQ woman will discuss abstract concepts at the level of a 100 IQ man, even if her cognitive bandwidth is huge.
Touché!
There is even a word for this when a women feels dumb when someone is talking about something: mansplaining.
Same thing with my wife. She can't handle my intelligence and deals with it by interrupting, screaming, crying and calling me "abusive" simply because I'm right most of the time. I never shout or yell when we're having a discussion. She does that. She doesn't like or understand logic. She's not a dummy, she's just not as smart as I am, and she's too emotional. The emotional part is what gets in her way. She'd be right a lot more often if she wasn't such a grown up child.
doesnt matter of raw intellect, it is who is "right".
Wow! I always knew that I was abnormal. The three things that most women in this study find the least important are the most important to me. Intelligent, loyalty and kindness are what I look for first. That’s the kind of man I chose to raise my kids with. We’re together 50 years now. I recommend these qualities when looking for a life partner
Thank you for taking the time to link to the study (and as always, great videos!)
Yes, I know, I am too intelligent, loyal and kind for women.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
You forgot to say too poor
The problem with these "good" qualities is that usually weak, poor insecure sub-5's have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits.
All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.
The key is to remember that a relationship with a woman shouldn’t ever be the focus of your life. They aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to a lifestyle. Family and your children and your vocation/hobbies should be the true focus of your life. Just my opinion.
It is a very reasonable conclusion. We should be kind and loyal to ourselves, don't forget that women are only loyal to their feelings. That means that once she has no feelings for you, you are done.
This is spot on. There's no reason to be depressed about what's presented here. You just rearrange your reality to deal with it. I focus on my hobbies and physical fitness. If the wifey wants to come along for the ride that's great. If not I'm still fine.
I would argue that ALL PEOPLE WANT IT ALL!!! And it is just not fair say that only women want it all.
Intelligence, loyalty, and kindness are basically all I have to offer...
As a conventionally unattractive but highly intelligent woman who actually values empathy, loyalty and intellect above all else, I found this oddly comforting. The thin pretty women are welcome to the men who don't have those primary attributes as far as I'm concerned. Feeling a bit less envious of the beautiful people today, thanks!
Common! You'll take a man these so called thin beautiful girls having if there is hint of possibilities to have some positive characteristics.
@@gagadonim3354 Um, pretty sure that's what I said...?
@@Shutzie27 Humans don’t chose who we are attracted to. It’s like your favorite dish, you don’t chose wether you like it or not, you simply do.
@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001 Um, literally not how the neurobiological process of attraction works, at all, but thanks.
You have no idea what a pick me you sound like right now. Do you know how easy it is for men to fake empathy and be kind for a while to get you to trust them? Some things they can’t fake for long? Wealth, generosity and the ability to actually protect and provide for you.
It doesn't matter if they are attractive or not, they all want the same thing...They don't want it all, they all want more. Even if they had everything in the world, they are looking around to find MORE. Like drug addicts, the high you get from taking it diminishes and you need more and more until you either die from an overdose or die trying to get it.
This is because they are spiritually deficient. They cannot understand that happiness IS contentment. They are narcissists. All of their sense of self comes from external sources, nothing comes from within.
True. A woman's desires have no off-switch. Nature never installed one in them, because there was no benefit. It would only have been detrimental to their role as resource-accumulators.
The concept of contentment, so important to men, is completely alien to them.
Best way to put it:
The grass is always greener on the other side for women.
Have you seen the latest commercials for “Miss More”?
Or the Chili’s “Dining for 1” commercial?
The American Fefail is the perfectly engineered useless consumer/eater.
Monkey Branching, the way of life since forever
Sounds like intelligence, kindness, loyalty are taken for granted. Trampled under heels marching to get to the more hollow rewards.
The women who did this can't be very smart.
There were 21 qualities for these women to choose from. It went from 0.1 to 0.4, higher number was more attractive. For example, we know Intelligence (IQ) is the biggest predictor of wealth. This was at the bottom of the pile. After IQ is conscientiousness (industriousness), but it was the 4th least attractive quality. HOWEVER, above those qualities was 2 traits directly related to wealth, at almost double the attractive value. They don't recognize the two sources of a high value men, they only look at the end product.
.22 Good Earning Capacity
.19 Potential Income [expressed in dollars]
.13 Ambition and Industriousness
.10 Intelligent
They're idiots. :'D
Getting more hollow rewards for the sake of it is their purpose in life
The problem with these "good" qualities is that usually weak, poor insecure sub-5's have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits.
All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.
holy crap, intelligence, loyalty and kindness are all I've got!
I'm finding this sad and somewhat distressing, but also it's ringing true.
i was always good at school, so I naturally valued intelligence. As a young man I kind of assumed that translated into a large income. As an older guy I've learned that intelligence has nearly NOTHING to do with how much someone can make!
When they say they want intelligence, what they really want is _fun_. Good jokes wothout end.
im intelligent. i prefer freedom instead of much money. so i just work as much as bare minimum.
@@patnor7354 Most women can't take a joke, and being funny won't get you laid, rest assured. Lord knows I've reduced quite a few women to tears but they still had eyes for the big beeferoni guys.
It does if you work the right field, like IT. But I've come to learn the need for non-technical skills as well, as much as those annoy me.
That's not my impression. There's a huge correlation between many forms of intelligence and income in the modern world. Maybe not all.
you are killing it Doc! hats off for sharing htis information to all the men across the world. Cheers and keep it up.
Women WANT what they don't NEED and what they NEED they don't WANT it's really as simple as this is typed and this can go for men as well My father told me once he said I KNOW WHAT YOU WANT BUT THAT AIN'T WHAT YOU NEED
Through dating and having been married, I have to agree. Suppressing my kindness has actually helped most specifically. I am not rude, but I don’t cater to my dates.
Being kind just dries up those panties. It turns out war brides don't mind you conquer their village, it is a turn on for you to slaughter another and another age ad infinitum. They LOVe it! They'd get off on their captors killing another village vs. releasing the men from their. Those beautiful flowers.
I agree. Men tend to take extremes with these things (myself included, in my teens and 20s, to early 30s). A lot of guys (especially "nice guys") are selfless for selfish reasons. Women who are experienced can usually sense that (and likely have a few "nice guy" stories that went bad). Unless provoked, I'm never rude or nasty to women. I'm straight forward and honest-that's what's gotten me laid a few times this last year..But there is a seduction to it, and each seduction varies by the man's personality.
Fair point, but I find that It's easier to be decent, accommodating and transparent for my own peace of mind. You can spot someone who mistakes kindness for weakness a mile away, you see the real person early and I won't play games for anyone. It prolongs the inevitable if someone is a bad fit for you.
I guess being completely emotionally and financially self sufficient makes my 'strategy' a little more sustainable.
Some of my kindness was predicated on the need for validation. That is the kindness I suppress. What is left is actually kindness that comes naturally, without a care of what it gets me. But I certainly have stopped doing kind things for my need to be validated by a partner, or even to prove it to my God. Still a work in progress
@@Cars1Gunz1and1Weights It's commonly known as the "subtle contract" where a guy does a nice thing for a girl hoping (really expecting) something in return. When the confident guy does something kind, he doesn't expect anything in return (except maybe a thank you).
Part of it is people pleasing behavior (both men & women do it) and there are dozens of reasons why it could have come about in our personality. It's the subconscious mindset of "maybe if I give more first, I'll get more." Along with the masculine energy of showing loyalty by giving full attention and granting her every wish, in other words, trying to impress. This had merit some evolutions ago, and there is a time & place to give your undivided attention to her (once steady monogamy comes about), but modern day it comes off as needy. The confident guy is more focused on other things, this communicates he wants her but doesnt need her. That's what's attractive. It also makes her feel like she's in a position of power- she's being given a clear choice.
All the more evidence that going my own way was the best decision I have ever made.
the decision was made for you
@@mattzx003explain
What I have noticed in my life is how women can be totally delusional about their attractiveness and worth.
The reality is too hard to handle for them so they stay delusional.
Least important:
- Intelligent
- Loyal
- Kind
Women: Don't go for good character traits
Also women: "Why do I keep getting cheated on?! Men are trash!"
Can't make this sh t up.
@@sarahrobertson634 Some men do, true, but the difference is many men don't know what they're getting into. From what I've observed, many women openly admit to chasing bad boys but then go all surprised Pikachu face when the obvious happens, yet they still keep doing the same behavior which keeps giving them the same results.
@@sarahrobertson634 Like I said, MANY time men don't realize it, implying that SOME of the times they do, but many women are 304s on the down low which more and more women are openly admitting to these days like how more and more openly admit to going after bad men. Men and women are different with different problems and both groups behave differently IN GENERAL (which means not all). You can find examples of just about anything, but simultaneously one can also notice general patterns of behavior with groups of people, in this case, men and women. Most men with sense and all men with self respect don't chase 304s, but many women regardless of what type openly admit or showcase through their actions to getting with bad men and complaining about good men being boring or some other negative thing. That's a major difference between men and women.
@Blacque But if those women get with bad boys, then clearly some men are getting with women, therefore means that they can have them lol. Your logic is flawed.
@Blacque I never said all. I specifically said many. Hell, I actually agree with you in your second to last sentence.
@Blacque I never said most men are bad boy Chads lol. You keep putting words in my mouth. You're far too overreactive.
Men are not to blame for what now? Can you be specific, please? I can't follow this.
I never mentioned anything about sympathy, I was just stating the general truth. The fact that you're getting so emotional over this tells far more about your thinking than it does about what I'm saying. You may want to introspect and investigate for your own sake.
I had a woman once tell me she valued success over decency.
I think many (most?) women do, that particular women was just more honest than most.
A man who sacrifices decency for success will sooner or later sacrifice decency in his personal relationships as well.
There is another peer reviewed study out there that determined: Women can forgive, perhaps even (if the guy is lucky) have a tolerance to her partner having a physical relationship with another women, but not an emotional one. Just the opposite, men can forgive, perhaps even tolerate his partner having an emotional relationship with another man, but not a physical one.
It's good to be Patrick Bateman then
All the other women you asked that question lied to you. She was the one honest one. Do you still have her number?
That tells men to go somewhere Else other Than the USA for women !✅
Yes, it’s partially through, but don’t bring them back to the USA because just a few years they get Americanized. 😂
@@davidbereczky5319 I know I’m in Thailand now and I live in the USA.
As if you can focus on a specific inherent quality... Stay independent and authentic, guys, do what you like.
1. Money
2. Power
3. More Money
Tell me you didn't read the survey without telling me you didn't read the survey.
Most of the top valued qualities involved wanting to have children and taking good care of them.
money doesn't matter
only looks
rich cucks gets cheated on with poor chads
keep coping you can become rich and become attractive
you can't
game over
Looks and height are literally number one. Women will deny it all day long but it's the truth. I've seen it countless times.
No need for the word literally in your sentence.
@@melissachartres3219 you must be a female, only a female would say something like that
@@slayer7682 Didn't you really mean- that i LITERALLY must be a female?
@@melissachartres3219 nope
@@slayer7682 Oh come on! Didn't you actually want to type something like: Like... literally nope, homeboy.
If that surprises researchers then those researchers get no play!!😂😂
"You can't always get what you want." --- Rolling Stones
Arranged marriage was the most genius thing our ancestors ever came up with.
I always hated the concept of arranged marriages. But after hearing about arranged marriages from the perspective of people that live in that sort of culture, our way is no better.
Yeah as time goes on, they make more sense - stops women chasing chad/tyrone, or blowing up their marriages over trivial bs and puts the focus on making the family successful - not just on the women being successful
Arranged marriages would be a nightmare! You have no clue what you are going to get. She could be a psycho who will cut your weaner off in the middle of the night.
@GrnXnham I think that sort of shit is way more common under our system
@@GrnXnham you can say same thing about dating with any person nowadays.
Intelligence, loyalty, and kindness are literally my three strongest qualities, how the heck does that even happen 😭
You're looking at it how a man looks at it...Your traits is more of what men look for in women (along with looks too). Women have great value on money, looks, and status (but not like "popular guy" but more of where he is in life..If he works alone, he should be making money at it to be independent). What you describe are a bonus..Honestly, as a man, you should doing what you can to hit those traits for your own sake.
If you look attractive, then you will be percieved as valuable, no matter what character you have. The guy in the clip is talking smack and I don't even mean to look down on him. He is just trying to keep society intact by lying to himself.
Welcome to Hell
Have you been in less than 5 "relationships"?
Congratulations, women don’t care much about those… but men do! Enjoy being a reliable and respected peer or leader of any group you find yourself in. You will probably go far.
The most unequal deal in history.
If Intelligence, loyalty and kindness are the least wanted by women, it says a lot about the current state of morality in the society, unless the women surveyed are not representative of the general population.
And the study was well-before social media, simping, Likes, causing inflated egos, over-inflated market value, entitlement, and swiping right on only the highest quality males no matter how unattractive the female actually is in reality. Things are now exponentially worse because of these factors, putting countless women in the "delusional" category.
Exactly... I always say this .. Even 5 or 6 girl's ego is highly inflated on social media and she wants 8 or 9 rated guy. It is crazy!
If there are no thirsty men simping, friending, following, or clicking likes on these women's profiles on social media platforms, then their over-inflated market value would decrease, would it not?
@@karllarsen8797 Of course it would. I slam simps every chance I get. They are a pathetic embarrassment to men everywhere.
Yes and pigs will also fly@@karllarsen8797
My two issues with the study is the sample size and the date 2008. The study was conducted before the iphone dating and social media apps like tinder Instagram Snapchat etc.
Do you think the results would be different if done today?
@@fabrizi7362 Are you kidding? If you haven't seen the drastic change that's occurred, you're either ignorant or naive.
That would only make the results worse.
@@fabrizi7362 yes I think it would be a lot worse
@@airthrowDBT yes of course
The goal post moves as a woman’s mood changes. They want a strong man one day. A sensitive one the next. They won’t tell you which one. It’s your job to figure it out. Don’t guess wrong. That’s the start of a fight.
I think this is very true of men - most men would prefer their partner had these characteristics but they do value other characteristics more.
This ABSOLUTELY describes my soon to be ex-wife!
Keep staying with her mate...keep ploughing on with hee
@Random Geezer Hand her the divorce papers moments before climax, refuse to elaborate, and leave. Would be a kingly move
And this is why very attractive women are just eye candy and nothing else. I could never sacrifice developing my intelligence and personality to go for things attractive women prefer because in the end, once attractiveness starts to fade, what's left?
Good, don't compromise who you are to accomodate monsters. Stay true to you.
How I wish I met a person like you when I was young, some 40 years ago. However, never it is too late for a dose of wisdom. Thanks.
Life is too short to not appreciate the good in people around you.
Wow. The lowest 3 attributes on the totem pole were intelligence, kindness, and loyalty. I totally understand why they want fitness and money, but I would've expected it to be closer. It's not the fact that kindness, loyalty, and intelligence aren't on top, it's the fact that they are on the very bottom, the most disposable.
Humanity pretends it's more idealistic than it claims to be. Again, I don't blame people for wanting what they want. It's just the fact that something based on morals is the least important says something about our world. And women carry themselves like they're more moral than men. They don't deserve that assumption.
I'm definitely the last three things, but I won't change in order to get a good-looking gold digger. I will rather be alone. ;-) I treat people the way I want to be treated.
Whatever a woman has, she wants one more thing, which is....more. No matter how much they have they always want more, it's never enough.
I put all my points in those three traits to such a ridiculous extent that its the main signal I send out , wow, I completely misjudged the human condition
Keep in mind that while intelligence may not be selected for as a primary factor...it does figure heavily in gaining/ being ( some of) the other things that are selected for.
If you believe that you're out of your mind. Some of the most successful men I know are also some of the dumbest. They've succeeded by being highly sociable and agreeable. Networking trumps competency.
she'll pick muscles and a strong jaw line over intelligence. did you listen to the podcast?
@@halycon404 possibly to some minor extent, but the majority of cases don’t follow this exception. If you’re not already born into large amount of wealth, there isn’t much networking you can do from a economic standpoint, if you aren’t competent enough for the job position.
People who expect others do to all the work have a long list of things they want. But the list is very short for those who have to work for all those things themselves. Growing up as a kid I remember my father telling me....what you want...and what you get ....are two different things.......
What I really detest, is when people ask you to click like on a post before the video has even bloody started!! How the hell can you like something before you have watched it,; when they do this i refrain from clicking like even if it is good.Ask at the end then you have a good chance of me liking.take note!
Example (from this study): "Several studies find circumstantial support for this hypothesis. Two studies found that women who were younger and higher on self-rated attractiveness specified a longer list of traits that they sought or required in a potential mate than did women lower in these key markers of mate value (Pawlowski and Dunbar, 1999)"
This is really interesting. You present a study that tells men what we already knew, but many women on RUclips tell us that women really want confident men, and that looks, age, income etc. don't mean that much.
Women lie since they don't what they're attracted to. It'd also make them look bad so they virtue signal and say easy to digest things. In private they try to get g-banged by criminals.
The top correlated values were, in order:
1.) Desire for home and children (0.4)
2.) Tied: Emotional Stability + Maturity | Sex Appeal (0.3)
3.) Tied: Raising Children Well (0.28) | Physically Attractive (0.28)
4.) Older than self (0.25)
5.) Tied: Being a Loving Partner (0.24) | likes children (0.24)
The categories and correlation between desire and attractiveness were the following:
Genetic: more masculine (0.2), physically attractive(.28), good looking (I assume face) (0.2), sex appeal (0.3), physically fit (0.23), intelligent (0.1)
Investment: potential income (0.19), good earning capacity (0.22), college graduate(0.22), ambition and industriousness(0.13), favorable social status/ranking(0.14), older than self (0.25)
Parenting: Desire for home and children(0.4), fond of children(0.23), likes children(0.24), raising children well(0.28), emotional stability + maturity(0.3), kind and understanding (0.12)
good partner indicators: being a loving partner(0.24), devoted to you(0.14), loyal (0.11)
Thanks, that’s useful. So young women (presumably) want someone who’s good in bed that they can have a family with.
I agree with that last comment. Regardless of what a woman wants or finds attractive, a man has to be true to himself first. If a lady doesn’t like it, she’s not worth the time.
That's why attractive men can paradoxically have it tough sometimes: expectations are higher for attractive men so it's harder to meet her wants and needs