I quit drinking 7 years ago and went from living under a bridge to getting a job as a dishwasher and im now running the kitchen, owning my own home, two vehicles a kayak and a boat. Im also getting married next year and went from not having kids to 3 this year. I would have never have started drinking if i knew what it was keeping me from doing and what i could achieve.
ah man, thats the dream, literally i know it sounds dumb but a bike, kayak, a small fishing boat and owning my home sounds like heaven to me, even if it is quite basic/simple for others.
I quit drinking back in April of this year. My mother was an alcoholic and I decided that I don’t have time for a hangover or to poison my body. Plus I love who I am when I’m sober and I don’t need drinks to have a good time.
People have a small voice inside that warns them.... It says you've had enough.... Your drinking too much ....your making a bad habit... but People choose to ignore that voice.
In 5 days... I'll have a year of sobriety. Honestly, I never thought I'd be able to say that. EVERYTHING is better, I can assure you. If you are contemplating getting sober, you CAN DO IT!!
I have tried and tried for years. I admire all those who can quit. Alcoholism is and has been rampant in my family for generations. I don’t know if I can ever quit.😢
Brother... I was in the Marines myself for 9 years and I struggle every single day. I was drinking around the clock... If I woke up to piss. I was taking a shot of whiskey from the freezer. I still drink about 5 shots daily and slowly trying to get off of it. I was drinking a 5th a day before and even sometimes more than that. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
You can do it man. I gave up in mid July and now I don't miss it, but I do still get occasional cravings. I was a very heavy drinker since a teenager (age 55 now), and recently was getting through a bottle of wine every single night for the past years, and at weekends sometimes 1.5 or 2 bottles in one night. Sadly we sometimes need to get to the worst point before we finally give up. I knew I was digging my own grave fast, so I had to do it. Don't let it get that far. Easy to say I know, but you can do it if you keep trying. Never stop trying, even if you give in.
Go get to a meeting A.A. it's been helping me for about 8 months now. It helps when I'm having a bad day. To talk about anything around people with the same problem
25 weeks sober now! Mario, stay strong! It's not easy. I do feel better and especially better spending money on things I need instead of alcohol. I now have a house and a business. Waaay better off now Bro! Stay Strong!
Wow 6 months is awesome!! Keep on going, it'll be 25 years before u know it! All of my Father's Brother died from bad livers from drinking all day everyday. I watched my uncle pass away from sirocious of the liver on 9/12/2021. Its so hard to stop, he was told years ago he would die if he continued drinking, he tried to stop, had over a year in 2013. But he lost that on a "guys" trip... I miss u Unc, I watched u take ur last breath n got a chance to feel the life leave ur physical body. And on top of that my BEAUTIFUL SOULED Sister Christi passed from Fentanyl on August 18, 2021.. My Mom has 14 years clean now by the grace of God. The alcohol/ opioid PANDEMIC, is KILLING PEOPLE OF ALL KINDS, especially in PHILLY, where this country was founded at!
I was a horrible alcoholic for nearly a decade I gave up and dedicated my life to boxing , i was clean for 3 years 11 months and I relapsed, I'm sober for 24 hours now hopefully I can keep going
Doing the same thing right now, only drank heavy for two years, just gave it up for boxing/mma and two weeks later no urges or anything & feeling way better already!
My Dad was a functioning alcoholic and destroyed our family. My brother has become the person he hates, which is my dad, and is going down the same road. I was a weekend binge drinker most of my adult life but quit drinking 13 months ago. Quitting was the best thing I’ve ever done besides giving my life to Jesus Christ. Everything you said described me, my brother and my dad. Thank you for making this video.
UPDATE: My brother quit drinking 6 months ago. He developed AVN and had to have a hip replacement. He is 54 years old. Drinking alcohol contributed to this medical issue. As for me, 27 months sober and still loving Jesus! 🙌🏻
I’m 17 yrs sober and this channel means nothing unless you get this episode correct. Soberness has changed my life into something I could only dream about.
6 years 6 months 14 days sober. I found a great woman that I love. Enjoy work again. Repaired the relationships that I destroyed. Mainly the one with my son. All because I stopped drinking for just one day. That led to the next day then the next and just kept it going.
@@butfirst..coffee.4609 look up, "esophageal varices,"...something that is likely to happen if you drink and will never happen if you dont...I chose dont.
My mother died of alcoholism. I decided as a kid I’d never touch the stuff. I miss my mom everyday! Mario, you are the real MVP. I’m glad you have PBD to speak into your life!!!
My dad left us early at 63. I remember him starting at the same age I started around 50. I almost feel it's my destiny for the same to happen to me. He died a lonely, angry and sad man
I was never a big drinker but I was a huge binge drinker . Id drink a month worth of alcohol over a weekend and tthen not drink for weeks. I figured what's the point. All I felt was sick and embarrassed at my behavior the day after drinking. I stooped altogether now. If I want a beer there are some tasty non alcoholic beers around now.
@@trembling3674 Nothing like getting up early on the weekend and hitting the beach with a clear head. While my friends all spend the day in bed swearing they wont ever drink again.
I quit drinking and doing drugs a year ago and it forced me to figure out who I was and I’ve turned into a sportsmen, gotten two raises, bought a new truck, saved my relationship, and am building a little family and to think all it took was to just stop and force myself to face those feelings.
@@Servantofthearts good actually, still sober still at the same job baby on the way. Little adversity w losing family but they teach you how to live and die.
I’m 3 months into quitting alcohol and drugs, and I actually feel depressed. I have all these thought and emotions coming up, i feel like I’m starting again but I don’t know the direction
@@jacknottingham9492 youre confronting your situation and that can be depressing for most people and don’t mistake that for a bad thing because really it’s an accomplishment to face those feelings. It’s a sign of growth and that’s something you should be proud of.
I'm really struggling with alcohol right now. Thank you for this. Seems right on time and it also feels like it was made for me. I feel like it's going to kill me if I don't get it under control. Thank you
My father died of alcoholism , suffered an hemorrhagic stroke and died 24 hours after. His brother died of same tragic cause . And the third brother is an alcoholic too. I saw the horror of alcoholism in my family and yet at age 21 I was introduced to it and it took me 12 years to realize that alcohol is my Achilles heel. I hope I will have the courage to stop before it destroys me too. Thanks for this .
This made me very emotional.. thank you 🙏.. I’m 703 days sober today .. everything he has said is spot on .. everything I have wanted has come to me since I have become sober .. it’s life changing for sure .. if your thinking about getting sober .. please please start your journey today .. for a calmer ,more spiritual , content ,full filling life and the positives are never ending 😍..LISTEN TO THIS MAN 🙏🥰🙏🥰
This is beautiful!!!!!!!!! You spoke to me directly. We all have some type of addiction. Praying you stay strong , but if you fall, get right back up. Mercy and Grace are real.
Stay strong Mario! Don't ever let those positive habits slide because if you do that creature in the window is always watching and waiting for a crack in your armor! Great message and inspiring! I'm almost 3 years sober and the stuff that has worked the best for me is keeping a checklist of my positive daily habits and never skipping out on them. Never, no matter what!! Hydrate as soon as I wake up, vitamins, Workout hard as hell, sauna followed by cold water exposure, meditate, work my ass off, eat well, then a nighttime routine of journaling, reading, praying, and a good night of sleep. That's some of the basics that I have to and now get to do each and every day to stay sober. Every person is different, but there's definitely something in this little comment that any alcoholic and addict could use in their life! Thanks again and good luck moving forward!
I’d been struggling with alcohol for over two years and I’ve been completely sober since the past 4 days. When he said “I don’t know why I choose to do what I do”, I completely related to him cuz that’s exactly what I told my mother the last time I woke up after passing out. I’ve finally, 200% resolved to quit every vice ranging from smoking weed, cigarettes, nicotine to other drugs and alcohol. I never want to put those substances in my system ever again. I’ve lost valuable time, made terrible decisions and let myself get influenced by extremely dumb, toxic and mindless people around me. It’s better to be alone and heal yourself than staying around bad people who have no positive impact over your life. Good people will eventually come, but first we have to become worthy of healing. Special thanks to PBD for addressing a very important issue that continues to haunt generations after generations of young men and women losing out on exponential growth in pursuit of momentary satisfaction from substances. Will update here every month!
Do you guys have any tips for when you get those intrusive thoughts like “it’s just one beer you’re good” and end up binge drinking after for weeks? I’ve been in a cycle for the past year now where I have it under control and then lose it and I just want to stop them. I know drinking is doing nothing positive for me but it’s almost like I have two voices in my head. I’ve been working out but I almost makes it so the bad voice gives me an excuse to go grab some beers. I’m 28 years old and sober 5 days now since the new year. I’m determined to quit entirely for my friends and family to be the best version of myself. I look up to you guys for successfully figuring it out for yourselves. Stay blessed.
@@OHDeebeee It took me years to get to a point when I just said no more, that's it. One night I had forgotten to buy my wine and I didn't want to go back to the store. Then I said, I don't want to drink anymore. That was like 8 years ago. Not a drop since. I don't know how I got to there. It just happened. But I had drastically reduced my consumption prior to that. To be honest, whenever I had that urge to go nuts, I had to use will power. I had to force myself to put it down. It takes emense control. It's either to you or you don't. It's a choice, it's a very hard choice, but I don't know any other way. Maybe start going to meetings. I've heard they help.
Day 4 of sobriety, really going to conquer this time... functioning alcoholic, morning, noon, night... hid it well, I think... thank you for your words... gotta get strong, I'm sick right now and I'm still working hard, but it has to be done for my family, for myself, with God's help.... ❤
Thank you Mario for being a real friend, for showing me hope, for letting me know that there is hope because lately I just don’t seem to see hope in me with this alcoholic addiction. You are a real one brother. Hope I can meet you one day. God bless you Mario Aguilar for being there for me through this RUclips video
I have felt real alone in my battle with addiction, especially alcohol. Watching videos like this and seeing others' comments makes me see that I was wrong.
You are never alone brother. We are there to help each other in this battle of addiction of whatever it may be. You got a friend here brother. You are not alone. I’m here for you friend. God bless. Reach out to me any time. Sorry for the late response
Thank you for empowering me to do better for myself. People like you is what makes this world a beautiful place. Thanks for your caring heart brother. Much love. Blessings.
I quit drinking Jan 28th this year. For the past 10 years I've drank bourbon damn near every night. The last 3 I had 2 nights I didn't drink. I woke up and realized I was putting down a fifth every Friday, every Saturday and a pint every Sunday and pints mon-thur. I have a physically demanding job as a metal fabricator and I've been consistently working out at least an hour 5 days a week. I thought I was in good shape and could handle the liquor. I wasn't thinking about the jobs I lost and my wife I've hurt countless times and the things I worked hard for that I destroyed in drunken rage. I watched this video a few days before quitting along with Dan Go's videos. I know everyone's different and it all depends on where you are in life but I'll tell you it only took a day of reflection for me to beat the shakes and craving. I drank to damn much and looking back on it I can barely remember the last 10 years. You can do this. This life, as shitty as it seems with everything going on in the world, is beautiful and it only took me a day to realize how bright it is. It's will power my friend. It's only been a month but I don't even notice the 2 ABC stores I pass on the way home anymore. Your mentality will change so much for the better. Just try friend, I'm praying for you.
This video is phenomenal and also hits home. My drinking has spiraled since the pandemic slowly and I'm a shell of myself. I'm functional, get my work done (granted at not my highest level) and make good money but I've lost my self worth. major depression, insecure, negative thoughts, have become a recluse and all the other things you mentioned regarding how alcohol negatively impacts your life. My biggest struggles to stop are being scared I'll have a seizure, missing work and sharing this with others. Want to do it but don't know where to start. Have no family. It's not easy so much respect to you and having an incredible mentor like PBD to help you find the right path. I think about this every damn day!!!!! 😪
If you read this, I've been drinking since 2018 almost every single night. Functioning alcoholic. I can't remember these years, only bits and fragments. 5 years! Down the drain. I quit alcohol 1 week ago, no seizures, no nausea, you can do it, believe in yourself. But I warn you the insomnia for the first 3-4 nights are insufferable, I'll tell you that much. So be prepared for that. The biggest battle you will have is at night when the "demons" in your head tell you to just have one drink, which is a trap that leads to more drinking. But trust me the benefits FAR FAR OUTWEIGHT the buzz from the poison I used to drink. Sleep quality is FUCKING PHENOMENAL for a start, I eat better, focus better, I'm happier, I feel alive and not like a sluggish piece of shit. Just do it, you will not die quitting, you will die eventually if you keep drinking and it's a horrible death. Set a goal you want to reach, fight for it, visualize it and everytime you want to drink just focus on your goal! Couple of nights of insomnia vs your health and goal. Start now, you have nothing to lose. I wish you well, fight brother.
I’ve been sober and clean since July 14th 2016, a little over 5 years. Thank God for the A.A. Program. And thank God for Gods grace to save a wretch like me. Congratulations on your beautiful new life and your sobriety! Keep up the inspirational and helpful words.
I would say A major benefit, is being able to trust yourself again. Having confidence that you can do the things that you want to deep in your heart without sabotaging it. To regain that power.
@@gert-janvandenberg4156 hahaha yeh i can imagine, when you're sober and looking at drunk people it looks gross... man my non drinking periods are getting bigger... hopefully soon its game over for me in terms of drinking
@@krisb-travel if you truly understood how bad alcohol can be youd quit now and wouldnt even consider dabbling in it. Youre lucky to not know how bad it can get but any dabbling creates a chance that youll find out...
PERSONALLY FOR ME, the things I regret most in life, I did while drunk. Things I wish I could take back, pain I brought to others.. alcohol really hurt me and the people around me.
Very true..without alcohol i would not have made or done most of the dumb crap I have done..all to fit in or be cool..when you were already cool as you were and just needed to focus on building on your interests and making hobbies and skills
Loads of amazing advise in this video. I'm 8 days in after being an Alcoholic for 20 years. I've thrown "everything" at the problem and like Mario I need and have to be healed and want to be healed. Never give up on yourself and each moment is an opportunity to become someone different ✨️
It’s almost 5am right now still drinking. My wife and kids are asleep and I feel like a failure. I hate who I have become. I want to change so bad. If I died tomorrow my family would have nothing because I’ve spent so much money on my addictions. Thank you for this video I really needed this. Tomorrow I’m going tell my wife what’s happening with me and how I want to change. This video hit me right in the feels. Thank you.
Thank you Mario I needed to hear this today. I put my workout clothes on and went for a long walk while listening to you 3 consecutive times. Praise Jesus he always puts people in our lives at the right moment. We just need to understand sometimes he is speaking to us through other people.❤️
I really needed to watch this, great advise. i have been struggling with alcoholism for many years and have decided to get it out of my life. i had my wife and kids and due to my addiction to alcohol i ended up getting deported to mexico 4 years ago. i'm determined to have a better future and be reunited with my kids, here's to my first day sober
I just celebrated today at my noon meeting one month of continued sobriety! I am proud of myself. In the end alcohol consumed me and it was all i thought about everyday. It ruined my life for 30 years but i promised myself i wont let it take anymore of my time or energy!
Good for you! I haven’t drank since January. Best thing for me. Been feeling great!! I had 3 DUIs and drinking has been my only problem in life. I always found myself getting in trouble because I couldn’t control how much I drank when I would drink. I would then black out and do things I would never do sober. I was a such a hateful and dark person. I had money still but not happy. Since not drinking I wake up happy always. I love people now because I now love myself!! ❤️
and you must accept without reservation that all the same things will happen or worse if you ever drink again. Our main problem is that alcohol causes us to ALWAYS want more alcohol. That is why we're alcoholics and other people arent; they dont crave more every time they take a drink because it doesnt have that effect on them. We're cursed for life and abstinence is the only solution. Took me yrs to figure this out. Good luck.
How lost I am with myself n where I am in this life. How I came across ur video n this message that has hit me straight to my core, I can't describe what is going on right now. Tears just flowing n my heart is breaking down. All I can say is thank u for sharing. 😭😭😭😭 💔
5 years sober. I was 33 and had a very successful business. Then the injury. Then the pain. Then the opiates. Lost EVERYTHING. Was knocking on deaths door, and one day I just had enough of that lifestyle. Didn't happen overnight, but after a 4 year run, spending about $60k a year on that stuff, I was tired of being tired. Guess you can call it rock bottom, cause it was. All my friends, family, customers, business associates. Nobody wanted anything to do with me. I either had to get better or no question I'd be dead, especially as Fentanyl started hitting the streets. Anyway, if I can do it anyone can. Rebuilt my business from scratch which wasn't easy. Fast forward to today, life still isn't perfect, but it's pretty damn good.
Thank you for this video! Today, October 19, is my 7th sober day after having several relapses, drinking again, stopping, drinking again....I am 81 years old and amazingly I am still in good health. The last time drinking lasted for almost 3 months after 147 days of sobriety. I would start drinking the minute I woke up, very early because I couldn't sleep well, but amazingly, I still functioned. Also amazingly, I experienced a true miracle: From day one of stopping drinking this time, I have had absolutely no withdrawal symptoms! I feel gratitude every day, for many things, and I am beginning to feel joy again. I make it a priority to watch a "sobriety" video every morning, and I will watch this one over and over. Thank you!
I used to binge drink at weekends, and basically had to quit drinking almost completely 8 years ago due to how badly it was compounding my stress, anxiety, and suicidal depression, and I was getting regular blackouts, terrible hangovers and no memory of the previous night. My life is way better now, but I still stay away from alcohol almost completely. I'm scared what kind of mess I would end up in if I ever get drunk again.
This actually made me tear up several times. It is such a blessing to be fortunate enough to have such a struggle in life,to then have the opportunity to overcome it,and reap the rewards and wisdom of facing Adversity and overcoming it. I have also lived something similar, and I wish I could pass on the peace and fullness I have these years because of facing my demons every day. This was amazing to hear.Great video.
Wow I was my couch going thru alcohol withdrawals you know the anxiety the headache and I turned on you it’s 4:30 am man I really appreciate your video it inspired I’m going back to a rehab program . It’s time to change 20 years and 4 dwis later it’s time! Thank you !
7 years sober this year 29 December. Life now is unrecognisable from before. From having noting to owning my own house , new car , engaged to love of my life . To say that it all roses would be a lie do . My social life has pretty much disappeared as most of my circle were drinking friends and we just drifted apart and found out I no longer wanted to be around these people. But having a peace of mind and walking down the street with my head held high is worth it. My advice to Anyone thinking about giving up alcohol is do it you will never look back a whole different world will Open up For you . Also don’t feel the need to tell everyone in your circle . They will find out in there owl Time . Look after yourself and do what it takes to get and stay sober . Good luck
I struggling with alcohol from 14 to now 29yo... after the last booze i decide to make little changes.. wery little step by step.. but build to not return back to the worst i past.... If only i think when i were now if i never drink.. maybe i had more respect.. more money.. more health.. But you never know what happen if you change the past.. maybe i were died in an accident... The point is to start changing slowly... without a mindset like a moovie vitch starts the day after.. but humble start to reduce the devil's personality that lives in you... It's never late.. important is not procrastinate and don't lie to yourself.... and never be confident too much versus alcohol... you must planning well day after day.. and add positive thinks slowly, so they can last longer.. Thanks
Alcohol really affecting my life at the moment been really struggling for almost 3 years now. Drinking alone drinking secretly drinking in excess. I don’t take it to far but I need it after work almost every single day. I want it to end and I know exactly what to do to stop. I think this is one of the better videos I’ve seen on the topic. Thanks for the transparency
I really appreciate the words. I cried throughout the vid becuz of the pain I'm feeling due to the poison. It's a war & Those who created this poison knew exactly what they were doing. In the midst of my addiction & pain, I still send love & positive energy to everyone reading this. Please don't stop. We will overcome this. I promise 🙏
My husband is an alcoholic. I just hate it that he leaves to always go to drink. Like he does try to deal with life. I feel his neglected and abandoned by him. I feel anger towards him because of the drinking. He doesn't care if we have bills gas in car . I'm left to figure things out. So his married to himself. I feel he doesn't notice me at all. I feel sad I just wish my husband would man up be a husband and work on our marriage sober and keep his job. His lost so many great jobs because of his drinking. I can't trust him to do things . If he says his going to the store I feel he may really go to drink for weeks. Thanks for your testimony and sharing. It's good to know some people make it.
I have a serious drinking problem, I know its bad for my health but I enjoy it, it helps me be the most fun version of myself. Life seems bleak without it. I love myself and my life its just more enjoyable drinking
I quit smoking cannabis 15 years ago, as I was a really heavy smoker and it was having a negative impact on my life. Now I’m in a much happier place, and I’m glad to see that you’ve found yours now that you quit drinking.
Im glad i found this video. Im 19.5 years active duty military. Been suffering in silence for years with depression. I know I have a problem but am now able to admit it. Hope tomorrow will be better all i can do is take your advice and take it one day at a time.
First and foremost, thank you man. I have watched a lot of videos and read a ton of books, however this really hit home for me. Finally being sober has completely changed my life and I am honestly just starting on my new journey. I lost so many jobs, friendships, relationships, and self love from alcoholism. Everybody has a different rock bottom so to speak, but it comes down to truly wanting change. Most importantly change for yourself and not because other people want you to. I was so exhausted and I could feel it in my soul. My final wake up call was spending almost a week in the ICU and having to medically detox safely. When I was sitting all alone in the hospital late one night, I had to reflect on where I am in life and all the decisions I have made up to that point. I needed to reflect on all of the people that I have hurt or let down. I had to hit pause on everything around me and just realize that exact moment. Looking at all the IVs sticking out of my arms I knew right then and there that I love myself way more than this. That I (like all of you) am truly deserving of happiness regardless of my mistakes. Most profound thing I noticed was my true calling. That as soon as I get myself better, I AM going to figure out a way to help others. To let others know that they are loved and they deserve to be healthy and happy. Watching your video cemented that more in me. For that, I am sincerely grateful. For anyone struggling with addiction, I wish you nothing but the best and hope you all realize that you are loved and have sincere untapped potential. We can’t give up. We have to love ourselves and learn to meet ourselves again in a whole new light. 🤙🤘
Man.. I finally quit 10-11 weeks ago. I am already realizing so many of the benefits. I appreciate this content and the comments here. Thank you for added motivation!
I am only 2 minutes in and I am so impressed with how well spoken and articulate you are! I have never heard it described better than this and it resonates with me so much. You are truly inspiring thank you. Thank you for sharing your story! 🙏 ❤️
Thank you so so so much this, I'm an entrepreneur and I struggling with alcohol abuse after the loss of my partner in business who also happens to be my Dad, I have left all weight on my wife aswell as kids
Sorry to hear that. But you can do it. I gave up 12-13 weeks ago when I FINALLY realised that alcohol wasn't making anything better. In fact it was making everything way way worse. I had job loss to deal with, but drinking only made me feel like I wanted to stay home and not look for a job. I got into a state where I wouldn't have even been able to hold a job down due to feeling so bad every single day. Realise this my friend - alcohol always works against you, not for you. It will never, and can never, take away any pain or trouble. It only intensifies it. Keep trying, and all the best.
You took a very hard hit. I am so sorry for your loss. Of course you are in pain. Of course you reached for the numbing agent. Lots of us have in these painful situations. But you, right here in the comments have owned whats going on and who its hurting, so you are a step closer to changing course. For me, booze has also been the go to anaesthetic. Also related to the loss of my father. I was a mess for 9 months. But I gradually migrated back to the bicycle and gym and over time less and less to the bottle. It’s a process. Be patient with yourself and be good to yourself. 🙏🏽
I quit smoking and drinking 19 days ago. Right now I'm 31 years old. To fill the void with better things I started running and working out more than I ever did before in my free time. I know this choice will benefit my future. On the surface it's already showing results. It's fantastic when people care about you, but they can't do the work for you. That drive has to come from the inside. When you know for certain you have to change things up. To whoever is reading this I'm proud of you. Now it's your turn to be proud of yourself.
Alcohol has caused nothing but chaos in my life. On January 1st 2020 I once again decided to stop drinking. I was building up my confidence, losing weight and going to the gym consistently then after 8 months and 15 or so days I decided to have one drink. Little did I know that one drink would lead me to 2 and half years of more on and off drinking. It would lead me to again hurting the people closest to me with careless words, again not being present in anything and again being emotionally lost. My weight in the last 2.5 years has gone from 180lbs to 215lbs. I’m here again trying to start over and have 5 days without any alcohol and 5 days straight of going to the gym. Anyone out there thinking about just having one drink I’d say to you that I don’t know how long that one drink will push your life back. It could be days, months or even years like me. What I do know is that you WILL ALWAYS regret it. My biggest takeaway from this video is always love yourself. You’re worth it, you’re not alone and you can do anything you put your mind to.
Whatever the addiction, alcohol, shopahol, sexahol, workahol, don't ask why the addiction, but rather what is the underlying pain that is the source for the addiction. Dr. Gabor Mate', The Wisdom of Trauma
Wow! In simple words I randomly found myself in same exact situation and feelings. I’ve been struggling for I’d say a decade. My capabilities where reduced through out my 20’s into barely getting by. I had no idea what was happening to me, lost until a recent event where I had a reality check. Luckily I’ve been able push through & was supported. I was left alone with all the broken pieces. It felt heavy with all the things that have been going wrong up until this point. Watching this today really connected with me deep inside & I suddenly felt understood by another soul. I came to the comments section, which I never do, & saw another community of loving souls. Thank you for this video on so many levels. All love.
Incredibly well said. Fantastic story. Great message. Ive been off alcohol for over 8 months. One of the best choices I ever made. Life changes In a big way. Learn to love yourself if you don't know how to already. I love you! Have a great day friends 🤠
Mario, Thank you so much for this video. It took a great amount of courage to admit these things publicly to such a large audience. I’m two months down and feeling better than ever! You’ve truly inspired me!
I have the highest respect for a person who admits that he/she has an addiction problem & wants a change.. I have been down that road and it was ugly and hurtled my loved ones now sober for years & it’s great waking up and no hangover
I haven't had a single drink in over 1 year and 9 months. One of the best decisions I've ever made. Not that I had a problem with drinking but I felt the party years in my early 20s were wasted on frivolous drinking and partying. Since I stopped drinking I've been more productive than ever before, made more money then ever before and learned to be one with myself. When you stop drinking you also learn very quickly who are the people you actually enjoy spending time with. I recommend everyone trying sober for at least 90 days. I can guarantee you will see tremendous positive results in your life!
I quit drinking probably 10-12 years ago, just got disgusted with who it made me and what it made my life. Cold turkey and never wanted it again. I’ve quit smoking cold turkey and hardest of all quit dipping cold turkey. It just comes down to mindset, you control what you ingest. Make no excuses and and there will be no regrets just stop.
You are quite a down to earth guy and I’m sure it took a lot of intestinal fortitude to make this video. To share your experience in order to help others. God bless you and thank God for your friend.
Currently trying to get enlisted into the military so I can get another chance at paving a new future! I’m convinced from prior experience that if I don’t do this I ain’t ever gonna change my toxic ways!
@@LK-bz9sk man I’m the reason for my bad habits & in my current situation this just seems the best most convenient option! I keep getting choked up & full of tears when thinking about this while army thing, just send my aptitude test in Friday so hopefully hear back early this week. But same goes brother we all struggle with shit in our own way my guy.
I relate to a lot of what u said and haven’t had a drop of alcohol in 45 days. Thank You for sharing & inspiring me to stay the course so my 7 year old daughter has the best Dad she can have so she can be the become the best woman she can be
Thank you for your message brother . Your message definitely resonates with me, I have a life changing story too similar to yours and my life is so much better now. God bless you and your family.🙏👍
Huge brother. Drinking was an impediment in my life even if it wasn’t a daily vice. In my relationships, family, business, etc. Changing my lifestyle has been one of the best decisions in life. Thank you for the vulnerability. I feel more focused in life, my marriage, as a dad, a business owner, etc.
Amen brother, this is pretty real. To those who scroll pst this, just know it doesnt matter what rock bottom you hit, everyone has their own rock bottom. Im going on 4 years of recovery now never had i thought i could achieve what I am achieving now, but choosing to want to change has turned me from a hopeless dope fiend to a dopeless hope fiend.
Connect with Mario on Instagram @aguilarsocial or www.Minnect.com
I quit drinking 7 years ago and went from living under a bridge to getting a job as a dishwasher and im now running the kitchen, owning my own home, two vehicles a kayak and a boat. Im also getting married next year and went from not having kids to 3 this year. I would have never have started drinking if i knew what it was keeping me from doing and what i could achieve.
Big respect, brother. 💯🤙
Well done mate. Inspiring.
That’s incredible! Well done.
Love these kinds of stories, congrats on your sobriety and success!
ah man, thats the dream, literally i know it sounds dumb but a bike, kayak, a small fishing boat and owning my home sounds like heaven to me, even if it is quite basic/simple for others.
I quit drinking back in April of this year. My mother was an alcoholic and I decided that I don’t have time for a hangover or to poison my body. Plus I love who I am when I’m sober and I don’t need drinks to have a good time.
100,000%….. expensive poison
Good luck to you!
@@cindystaff2932 Sugar
Well done. Thats huge. 🙏🏽
congrats man! What do you do when you feel like celebrating? Alcohol is so intertwined with good times/celebrating thats its hard to break it.
“The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.” - Samuel Johnson
People have a small voice inside that warns them.... It says you've had enough.... Your drinking too much ....your making a bad habit... but People choose to ignore that voice.
@@imout671 like he said...if you BELIEVE and LOVE in YOURSELF...YOU WILL CONQUER...much love..
How do you find the time to comment on every video on grants and Patrick’s and everyone else’s channel? You’re a beast I see you ever here
Damn. What an accurate statement.
Great comment
In 5 days... I'll have a year of sobriety. Honestly, I never thought I'd be able to say that. EVERYTHING is better, I can assure you. If you are contemplating getting sober, you CAN DO IT!!
I have tried and tried for years. I admire all those who can quit. Alcoholism is and has been rampant in my family for generations. I don’t know if I can ever quit.😢
Congratulations your not a alcoholic no more
@BeStill-zy5ye thank you so much...ive maintained my sobriety and hitting the gym hard. 1 day at a time 1% Better every day!
😊😊😊
4 months ago I quit drinking cold turkey😮. Not as hard as I thought and I drank a lot.
Brother... I was in the Marines myself for 9 years and I struggle every single day. I was drinking around the clock... If I woke up to piss. I was taking a shot of whiskey from the freezer. I still drink about 5 shots daily and slowly trying to get off of it. I was drinking a 5th a day before and even sometimes more than that. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
You can do it man. I gave up in mid July and now I don't miss it, but I do still get occasional cravings. I was a very heavy drinker since a teenager (age 55 now), and recently was getting through a bottle of wine every single night for the past years, and at weekends sometimes 1.5 or 2 bottles in one night. Sadly we sometimes need to get to the worst point before we finally give up. I knew I was digging my own grave fast, so I had to do it. Don't let it get that far. Easy to say I know, but you can do it if you keep trying. Never stop trying, even if you give in.
Thank you for your service and I wish you the inner strength to continue in the right direction.
Go get to a meeting A.A. it's been helping me for about 8 months now. It helps when I'm having a bad day. To talk about anything around people with the same problem
Thank you for your service, I pray that you will get well 🙏🙏. Reach out for help if you need it my friend. Godspeed.
God bless you brother!
25 weeks sober now! Mario, stay strong! It's not easy. I do feel better and especially better spending money on things I need instead of alcohol. I now have a house and a business. Waaay better off now Bro! Stay Strong!
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Congrats WOOHOO!!!! Keep it up Martin!!!
Wow 6 months is awesome!! Keep on going, it'll be 25 years before u know it!
All of my Father's Brother died from bad livers from drinking all day everyday.
I watched my uncle pass away from sirocious of the liver on 9/12/2021. Its so hard to stop, he was told years ago he would die if he continued drinking, he tried to stop, had over a year in 2013. But he lost that on a "guys" trip...
I miss u Unc, I watched u take ur last breath n got a chance to feel the life leave ur physical body.
And on top of that my BEAUTIFUL SOULED Sister Christi passed from Fentanyl on August 18, 2021..
My Mom has 14 years clean now by the grace of God.
The alcohol/ opioid PANDEMIC, is KILLING PEOPLE OF ALL KINDS, especially in PHILLY, where this country was founded at!
Congratulations. Keep strong bto
Congratulations . I hope you treat yourself. Proud of you even 👍☘✌
I was a horrible alcoholic for nearly a decade I gave up and dedicated my life to boxing , i was clean for 3 years 11 months and I relapsed, I'm sober for 24 hours now hopefully I can keep going
get back on your feet and fight!
@@druegeme your God damn right💪 , I appreciate you
Doing the same thing right now, only drank heavy for two years, just gave it up for boxing/mma and two weeks later no urges or anything & feeling way better already!
Can I ask what led you back to drinking? Triggers ect because I stopped for 2 n half years and then relapsed.
You can do it. I am 5 days sober now
My Dad was a functioning alcoholic and destroyed our family. My brother has become the person he hates, which is my dad, and is going down the same road. I was a weekend binge drinker most of my adult life but quit drinking 13 months ago. Quitting was the best thing I’ve ever done besides giving my life to Jesus Christ. Everything you said described me, my brother and my dad. Thank you for making this video.
Dam. My family is very similar and it takes a strong person to break some family curses.
I drink on a Saturday night once a month. Do you think i have a problem?
Bless you keep Going on God's path you can't go wrong with Jesus
UPDATE: My brother quit drinking 6 months ago. He developed AVN and had to have a hip replacement. He is 54 years old. Drinking alcohol contributed to this medical issue. As for me, 27 months sober and still loving Jesus! 🙌🏻
@@HappyVillaging Glory be to God for all things
I’m 17 yrs sober and this channel means nothing unless you get this episode correct. Soberness has changed my life into something I could only dream about.
and then there's me: sober for 8 yrs but my life is worse than when I drank HOWEVER, Im still so happy to be sober and will always be no matter what.
6 years 6 months 14 days sober. I found a great woman that I love. Enjoy work again. Repaired the relationships that I destroyed. Mainly the one with my son. All because I stopped drinking for just one day. That led to the next day then the next and just kept it going.
I woke up this morning. After drinking and the first video in my feed was this. Thanks Mario.
Same. We can do this.
@@butfirst..coffee.4609 look up, "esophageal varices,"...something that is likely to happen if you drink and will never happen if you dont...I chose dont.
@@joejones9520❤❤❤
My mother died of alcoholism. I decided as a kid I’d never touch the stuff. I miss my mom everyday! Mario, you are the real MVP. I’m glad you have PBD to speak into your life!!!
My dad left us early at 63. I remember him starting at the same age I started around 50. I almost feel it's my destiny for the same to happen to me. He died a lonely, angry and sad man
I was never a big drinker but I was a huge binge drinker . Id drink a month worth of alcohol over a weekend and tthen not drink for weeks. I figured what's the point. All I felt was sick and embarrassed at my behavior the day after drinking. I stooped altogether now. If I want a beer there are some tasty non alcoholic beers around now.
@@trembling3674 Nothing like getting up early on the weekend and hitting the beach with a clear head. While my friends all spend the day in bed swearing they wont ever drink again.
I am trying to build up the confidence to order an N/A at a club when I go with my dad. But for now decaf or a Diet Coke will have to do, lol
@@jawnmorrison110 You would probably be surprised how many people are drinking n/a drinks at bars now.
Exactly, NA has come a long way since O'Doul's. Not that O'Doul's is terrible, but it's not a very exciting first impression.
@@trembling3674 not sure why we do it , same.
I quit drinking and doing drugs a year ago and it forced me to figure out who I was and I’ve turned into a sportsmen, gotten two raises, bought a new truck, saved my relationship, and am building a little family and to think all it took was to just stop and force myself to face those feelings.
How are you
@@Servantofthearts good actually, still sober still at the same job baby on the way. Little adversity w losing family but they teach you how to live and die.
I’m 3 months into quitting alcohol and drugs, and I actually feel depressed. I have all these thought and emotions coming up, i feel like I’m starting again but I don’t know the direction
@@jacknottingham9492 youre confronting your situation and that can be depressing for most people and don’t mistake that for a bad thing because really it’s an accomplishment to face those feelings. It’s a sign of growth and that’s something you should be proud of.
@@legion3073 thank you, I appreciate your words. I know that I am on a journey to greatness, some days it’s hard to see that. :)
2 minutes in......and I know this guy is on point. Resonates to the core. God Bless him....and He is.
I'm honestly shaking.
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I'm really struggling with alcohol right now. Thank you for this. Seems right on time and it also feels like it was made for me. I feel like it's going to kill me if I don't get it under control. Thank you
I am hopeful you will have the strength to end this struggle.
Ive been battling it myself brother,but with prayer and god we can be done with it
You got this Jason! The valuetainment fam is cheering you to good health fam.
Same.
Sending you love and strength Jason..Believe in yourself..YOU WILL WIN THIS FIGHT!!
My father died of alcoholism , suffered an hemorrhagic stroke and died 24 hours after. His brother died of same tragic cause . And the third brother is an alcoholic too. I saw the horror of alcoholism in my family and yet at age 21 I was introduced to it and it took me 12 years to realize that alcohol is my Achilles heel. I hope I will have the courage to stop before it destroys me too. Thanks for this .
How are you doing? 🙏🏻
This made me very emotional.. thank you 🙏.. I’m 703 days sober today .. everything he has said is spot on .. everything I have wanted has come to me since I have become sober .. it’s life changing for sure .. if your thinking about getting sober .. please please start your journey today .. for a calmer ,more spiritual , content ,full filling life and the positives are never ending 😍..LISTEN TO THIS MAN 🙏🥰🙏🥰
Thank you. This has found me at the exact right moment in my life. Much, much love.
I don’t like the person I’ve become. Alcohol brings out the worst in me. Thank you for this video, and the inspiration.
Thank you, Mario. That was fantastic. I'm 31 and a few weeks sober after a decade-long addiction with alcohol.
“What maintains one vice could bring up two children.” - Benjamin Franklin
hey i see you on coffee zilla lol cool!
@@dixztube hey I see you here
Beautiful
What does that mean?
@@dixztube - Casey is a SMART dude
This is beautiful!!!!!!!!! You spoke to me directly. We all have some type of addiction. Praying you stay strong , but if you fall, get right back up. Mercy and Grace are real.
Stay strong Mario! Don't ever let those positive habits slide because if you do that creature in the window is always watching and waiting for a crack in your armor! Great message and inspiring! I'm almost 3 years sober and the stuff that has worked the best for me is keeping a checklist of my positive daily habits and never skipping out on them. Never, no matter what!! Hydrate as soon as I wake up, vitamins, Workout hard as hell, sauna followed by cold water exposure, meditate, work my ass off, eat well, then a nighttime routine of journaling, reading, praying, and a good night of sleep. That's some of the basics that I have to and now get to do each and every day to stay sober. Every person is different, but there's definitely something in this little comment that any alcoholic and addict could use in their life! Thanks again and good luck moving forward!
I’d been struggling with alcohol for over two years and I’ve been completely sober since the past 4 days. When he said “I don’t know why I choose to do what I do”, I completely related to him cuz that’s exactly what I told my mother the last time I woke up after passing out. I’ve finally, 200% resolved to quit every vice ranging from smoking weed, cigarettes, nicotine to other drugs and alcohol. I never want to put those substances in my system ever again. I’ve lost valuable time, made terrible decisions and let myself get influenced by extremely dumb, toxic and mindless people around me. It’s better to be alone and heal yourself than staying around bad people who have no positive impact over your life. Good people will eventually come, but first we have to become worthy of healing.
Special thanks to PBD for addressing a very important issue that continues to haunt generations after generations of young men and women losing out on exponential growth in pursuit of momentary satisfaction from substances.
Will update here every month!
I quit years ago... even as just a social drinker, its made a huge impact.
Great video guys 🙏6+ years sober here and undoubtedly the best decision i have ever made in my life.
Agree 110% !! 3+ years sober! Well done!
I'm at 10 years, and Yep, best decision ever.
Do you guys have any tips for when you get those intrusive thoughts like “it’s just one beer you’re good” and end up binge drinking after for weeks? I’ve been in a cycle for the past year now where I have it under control and then lose it and I just want to stop them. I know drinking is doing nothing positive for me but it’s almost like I have two voices in my head. I’ve been working out but I almost makes it so the bad voice gives me an excuse to go grab some beers. I’m 28 years old and sober 5 days now since the new year. I’m determined to quit entirely for my friends and family to be the best version of myself. I look up to you guys for successfully figuring it out for yourselves. Stay blessed.
@@OHDeebeee It took me years to get to a point when I just said no more, that's it. One night I had forgotten to buy my wine and I didn't want to go back to the store. Then I said, I don't want to drink anymore. That was like 8 years ago. Not a drop since.
I don't know how I got to there. It just happened. But I had drastically reduced my consumption prior to that. To be honest, whenever I had that urge to go nuts, I had to use will power. I had to force myself to put it down. It takes emense control. It's either to you or you don't. It's a choice, it's a very hard choice, but I don't know any other way. Maybe start going to meetings. I've heard they help.
@@OHDeebeee Read my post above, before this happens to you.
Day 4 of sobriety, really going to conquer this time... functioning alcoholic, morning, noon, night... hid it well, I think... thank you for your words... gotta get strong, I'm sick right now and I'm still working hard, but it has to be done for my family, for myself, with God's help.... ❤
How are you holding up brother?
Been there. You can do it!
Thank you Mario for being a real friend, for showing me hope, for letting me know that there is hope because lately I just don’t seem to see hope in me with this alcoholic addiction. You are a real one brother. Hope I can meet you one day. God bless you Mario Aguilar for being there for me through this RUclips video
You have the power in you to choose, big love to you man, good luck, I know you can push through this.
I have felt real alone in my battle with addiction, especially alcohol. Watching videos like this and seeing others' comments makes me see that I was wrong.
You are never alone brother. We are there to help each other in this battle of addiction of whatever it may be. You got a friend here brother. You are not alone. I’m here for you friend. God bless. Reach out to me any time. Sorry for the late response
Thank you for empowering me to do better for myself. People like you is what makes this world a beautiful place. Thanks for your caring heart brother. Much love. Blessings.
I quit drinking Jan 28th this year. For the past 10 years I've drank bourbon damn near every night. The last 3 I had 2 nights I didn't drink. I woke up and realized I was putting down a fifth every Friday, every Saturday and a pint every Sunday and pints mon-thur. I have a physically demanding job as a metal fabricator and I've been consistently working out at least an hour 5 days a week. I thought I was in good shape and could handle the liquor. I wasn't thinking about the jobs I lost and my wife I've hurt countless times and the things I worked hard for that I destroyed in drunken rage. I watched this video a few days before quitting along with Dan Go's videos. I know everyone's different and it all depends on where you are in life but I'll tell you it only took a day of reflection for me to beat the shakes and craving. I drank to damn much and looking back on it I can barely remember the last 10 years. You can do this. This life, as shitty as it seems with everything going on in the world, is beautiful and it only took me a day to realize how bright it is. It's will power my friend. It's only been a month but I don't even notice the 2 ABC stores I pass on the way home anymore. Your mentality will change so much for the better. Just try friend, I'm praying for you.
This video is phenomenal and also hits home. My drinking has spiraled since the pandemic slowly and I'm a shell of myself. I'm functional, get my work done (granted at not my highest level) and make good money but I've lost my self worth. major depression, insecure, negative thoughts, have become a recluse and all the other things you mentioned regarding how alcohol negatively impacts your life. My biggest struggles to stop are being scared I'll have a seizure, missing work and sharing this with others. Want to do it but don't know where to start. Have no family. It's not easy so much respect to you and having an incredible mentor like PBD to help you find the right path. I think about this every damn day!!!!! 😪
If you read this, I've been drinking since 2018 almost every single night. Functioning alcoholic. I can't remember these years, only bits and fragments. 5 years! Down the drain. I quit alcohol 1 week ago, no seizures, no nausea, you can do it, believe in yourself. But I warn you the insomnia for the first 3-4 nights are insufferable, I'll tell you that much. So be prepared for that. The biggest battle you will have is at night when the "demons" in your head tell you to just have one drink, which is a trap that leads to more drinking. But trust me the benefits FAR FAR OUTWEIGHT the buzz from the poison I used to drink. Sleep quality is FUCKING PHENOMENAL for a start, I eat better, focus better, I'm happier, I feel alive and not like a sluggish piece of shit. Just do it, you will not die quitting, you will die eventually if you keep drinking and it's a horrible death. Set a goal you want to reach, fight for it, visualize it and everytime you want to drink just focus on your goal! Couple of nights of insomnia vs your health and goal. Start now, you have nothing to lose. I wish you well, fight brother.
I’ve been sober and clean since July 14th 2016, a little over 5 years. Thank God for the A.A. Program. And thank God for Gods grace to save a wretch like me. Congratulations on your beautiful new life and your sobriety! Keep up the inspirational and helpful words.
The rooms bring so much healing. ❤
I have 10 months clean and sober today praise God.
Wonderful words........just stopped drinking 6 days ago!
I would say A major benefit, is being able to trust yourself again. Having confidence that you can do the things that you want to deep in your heart without sabotaging it. To regain that power.
Proud of you man. On a similar path myself.
Haven't had a drop of alcohol in 5 years, don't miss it.
@@alistairfreedom2456 Yes to both questions, also being sober around drunk people is a great motivator for me.
@@gert-janvandenberg4156 hahaha yeh i can imagine, when you're sober and looking at drunk people it looks gross... man my non drinking periods are getting bigger... hopefully soon its game over for me in terms of drinking
I'd give my right arm to be you
@@andreasvictorious3991 Stay strong my Friend, the journey is tough but the reward is huge.
@@krisb-travel if you truly understood how bad alcohol can be youd quit now and wouldnt even consider dabbling in it. Youre lucky to not know how bad it can get but any dabbling creates a chance that youll find out...
I'm almost 3 years sober from alcohol baby!! I'm happy to hear that your doing well brother
PERSONALLY FOR ME,
the things I regret most in life, I did while drunk. Things I wish I could take back, pain I brought to others.. alcohol really hurt me and the people around me.
Have you read Allen Carr's books? Life changing ❤️
Very true..without alcohol i would not have made or done most of the dumb crap I have done..all to fit in or be cool..when you were already cool as you were and just needed to focus on building on your interests and making hobbies and skills
I know exactly how you feel. Acknowledge the past, don’t dwell on it, use it to guide your trajectory moving forward.
Loads of amazing advise in this video. I'm 8 days in after being an Alcoholic for 20 years. I've thrown "everything" at the problem and like Mario I need and have to be healed and want to be healed. Never give up on yourself and each moment is an opportunity to become someone different ✨️
It’s almost 5am right now still drinking. My wife and kids are asleep and I feel like a failure. I hate who I have become. I want to change so bad. If I died tomorrow my family would have nothing because I’ve spent so much money on my addictions. Thank you for this video I really needed this. Tomorrow I’m going tell my wife what’s happening with me and how I want to change. This video hit me right in the feels. Thank you.
You're doing well. Today, I quit. Alcohol messed up a lot of things for me. Thank you.
Thank you Mario I needed to hear this today. I put my workout clothes on and went for a long walk while listening to you 3 consecutive times. Praise Jesus he always puts people in our lives at the right moment. We just need to understand sometimes he is speaking to us through other people.❤️
I really needed to watch this, great advise. i have been struggling with alcoholism for many years and have decided to get it out of my life. i had my wife and kids and due to my addiction to alcohol i ended up getting deported to mexico 4 years ago. i'm determined to have a better future and be reunited with my kids, here's to my first day sober
How you holding up bro?
Thanks for sharing your story! One day at a time, I’ve been sober for 37 years.
I wish I could click "like" 36 more times!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just celebrated today at my noon meeting one month of continued sobriety! I am proud of myself. In the end alcohol consumed me and it was all i thought about everyday. It ruined my life for 30 years but i promised myself i wont let it take anymore of my time or energy!
Keep it up, Great job! - Kai
Same here. Good move 😎
Good for you! I haven’t drank since January. Best thing for me. Been feeling great!! I had 3 DUIs and drinking has been my only problem in life. I always found myself getting in trouble because I couldn’t control how much I drank when I would drink. I would then black out and do things I would never do sober. I was a such a hateful and dark person. I had money still but not happy. Since not drinking I wake up happy always. I love people now because I now love myself!!
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and you must accept without reservation that all the same things will happen or worse if you ever drink again. Our main problem is that alcohol causes us to ALWAYS want more alcohol. That is why we're alcoholics and other people arent; they dont crave more every time they take a drink because it doesnt have that effect on them. We're cursed for life and abstinence is the only solution. Took me yrs to figure this out. Good luck.
@Girls on film No, not anyone can become addicted, in fact most people who drink dont have any problems with it.
Your story is my story exactly!💕
The story of my life, I just got my fourth dui and I’m afraid my wife is going to leave. I’m so depressed right now.
Been over 6 months for me and it has had a massive positive impact on my life 🙏
How lost I am with myself n where I am in this life. How I came across ur video n this message that has hit me straight to my core, I can't describe what is going on right now. Tears just flowing n my heart is breaking down. All I can say is thank u for sharing. 😭😭😭😭 💔
5 years sober. I was 33 and had a very successful business. Then the injury. Then the pain. Then the opiates. Lost EVERYTHING. Was knocking on deaths door, and one day I just had enough of that lifestyle. Didn't happen overnight, but after a 4 year run, spending about $60k a year on that stuff, I was tired of being tired. Guess you can call it rock bottom, cause it was. All my friends, family, customers, business associates. Nobody wanted anything to do with me. I either had to get better or no question I'd be dead, especially as Fentanyl started hitting the streets.
Anyway, if I can do it anyone can. Rebuilt my business from scratch which wasn't easy. Fast forward to today, life still isn't perfect, but it's pretty damn good.
how can i do this?
@@anacarlotahv7065 Ana, I see you want to heal yourself. Its been two weeks have you been able to find ways to help yourself?
@@megapure4667 Not really, I'm still looking
Life will always be hard. Quitting makes its a bit easier.
Have you heard of Allen Carr's books?
Thank you for this video! Today, October 19, is my 7th sober day after having several relapses, drinking again, stopping, drinking again....I am 81 years old and amazingly I am still in good health. The last time drinking lasted for almost 3 months after 147 days of sobriety. I would start drinking the minute I woke up, very early because I couldn't sleep well, but amazingly, I still functioned. Also amazingly, I experienced a true miracle: From day one of stopping drinking this time, I have had absolutely no withdrawal symptoms! I feel gratitude every day, for many things, and I am beginning to feel joy again. I make it a priority to watch a "sobriety" video every morning, and I will watch this one over and over. Thank you!
I used to binge drink at weekends, and basically had to quit drinking almost completely 8 years ago due to how badly it was compounding my stress, anxiety, and suicidal depression, and I was getting regular blackouts, terrible hangovers and no memory of the previous night. My life is way better now, but I still stay away from alcohol almost completely. I'm scared what kind of mess I would end up in if I ever get drunk again.
I have my moments. Almost died but still continue to fuck up. This video had .me in tears because its real talk thank you
Religion can help to defeat alcohol. I've seen it many times.
This actually made me tear up several times. It is such a blessing to be fortunate enough to have such a struggle in life,to then have the opportunity to overcome it,and reap the rewards and wisdom of facing Adversity and overcoming it. I have also lived something similar, and I wish I could pass on the peace and fullness I have these years because of facing my demons every day. This was amazing to hear.Great video.
Wow I was my couch going thru alcohol withdrawals you know the anxiety the headache and I turned on you it’s 4:30 am man I really appreciate your video it inspired I’m going back to a rehab program . It’s time to change 20 years and 4 dwis later it’s time! Thank you !
7 years sober this year 29 December. Life now is unrecognisable from before. From having noting to owning my own house , new car , engaged to love of my life . To say that it all roses would be a lie do . My social life has pretty much disappeared as most of my circle were drinking friends and we just drifted apart and found out I no longer wanted to be around these people. But having a peace of mind and walking down the street with my head held high is worth it. My advice to
Anyone thinking about giving up alcohol is do it you will never look back a whole different world will
Open up
For you . Also don’t feel the need to tell everyone in your circle . They will find out in there owl
Time . Look after yourself and do what it takes to get and stay sober . Good luck
I know your suffering been there thank GOD I’m not a part of that life style anymore GOD bless you in your recovery
I struggling with alcohol from 14 to now 29yo... after the last booze i decide to make little changes.. wery little step by step.. but build to not return back to the worst i past....
If only i think when i were now if i never drink.. maybe i had more respect.. more money.. more health..
But you never know what happen if you change the past.. maybe i were died in an accident...
The point is to start changing slowly... without a mindset like a moovie vitch starts the day after.. but humble start to reduce the devil's personality that lives in you...
It's never late.. important is not procrastinate and don't lie to yourself.... and never be confident too much versus alcohol... you must planning well day after day.. and add positive thinks slowly, so they can last longer..
Thanks
Alcoholism is one of the worst addictions there is. A lot of people don't realize it, but it's one of the few withdrawals that can actually kill you.
Alcohol really affecting my life at the moment been really struggling for almost 3 years now. Drinking alone drinking secretly drinking in excess. I don’t take it to far but I need it after work almost every single day. I want it to end and I know exactly what to do to stop. I think this is one of the better videos I’ve seen on the topic. Thanks for the transparency
Amazing courage Mario! Never Give Up!
I really appreciate the words. I cried throughout the vid becuz of the pain I'm feeling due to the poison. It's a war & Those who created this poison knew exactly what they were doing. In the midst of my addiction & pain, I still send love & positive energy to everyone reading this. Please don't stop. We will overcome this. I promise 🙏
I tried to be sober for 90 days . Now, I started again and things are getting worst
I AM A ALCOHOLIC...I CALLED JESUS CHRIST,THE FIGHT IS BEING WON.
My husband is an alcoholic. I just hate it that he leaves to always go to drink. Like he does try to deal with life. I feel his neglected and abandoned by him. I feel anger towards him because of the drinking. He doesn't care if we have bills gas in car . I'm left to figure things out. So his married to himself. I feel he doesn't notice me at all. I feel sad I just wish my husband would man up be a husband and work on our marriage sober and keep his job. His lost so many great jobs because of his drinking. I can't trust him to do things . If he says his going to the store I feel he may really go to drink for weeks. Thanks for your testimony and sharing. It's good to know some people make it.
Sorry to hear. How y’all holding up?
I have a serious drinking problem, I know its bad for my health but I enjoy it, it helps me be the most fun version of myself. Life seems bleak without it. I love myself and my life its just more enjoyable drinking
This was right on time! 3 days sober from alcohol.
My little brother!!! Proud of you!!! My family and I love you tremendously 🙏🏼❤️💪🏼😎
I quit smoking cannabis 15 years ago, as I was a really heavy smoker and it was having a negative impact on my life. Now I’m in a much happier place, and I’m glad to see that you’ve found yours now that you quit drinking.
I'm a month in and plan to keep going. Tired of weed
Im glad i found this video. Im 19.5 years active duty military. Been suffering in silence for years with depression. I know I have a problem but am now able to admit it. Hope tomorrow will be better all i can do is take your advice and take it one day at a time.
Thank you for serving this country! May you find the guidance you need and thrive! God bless you.
Thanks for sharing such a personal journey !
I’m 2 months sober today. I’m all in. Alcohol is bigger than me. I won’t mess with it. I don’t need it. Gods bless brother.
First and foremost, thank you man. I have watched a lot of videos and read a ton of books, however this really hit home for me. Finally being sober has completely changed my life and I am honestly just starting on my new journey. I lost so many jobs, friendships, relationships, and self love from alcoholism. Everybody has a different rock bottom so to speak, but it comes down to truly wanting change. Most importantly change for yourself and not because other people want you to. I was so exhausted and I could feel it in my soul. My final wake up call was spending almost a week in the ICU and having to medically detox safely. When I was sitting all alone in the hospital late one night, I had to reflect on where I am in life and all the decisions I have made up to that point. I needed to reflect on all of the people that I have hurt or let down. I had to hit pause on everything around me and just realize that exact moment. Looking at all the IVs sticking out of my arms I knew right then and there that I love myself way more than this. That I (like all of you) am truly deserving of happiness regardless of my mistakes. Most profound thing I noticed was my true calling. That as soon as I get myself better, I AM going to figure out a way to help others. To let others know that they are loved and they deserve to be healthy and happy. Watching your video cemented that more in me. For that, I am sincerely grateful. For anyone struggling with addiction, I wish you nothing but the best and hope you all realize that you are loved and have sincere untapped potential. We can’t give up. We have to love ourselves and learn to meet ourselves again in a whole new light. 🤙🤘
Most honest content on stopping alcohol I've seen. Thank you!
God Bless All ✝️ if your dealing with any kind of substance abuse. Day 6 for me as well. Interesting timing for this clip... Thank you 🇺🇸
Best wishes on your journey!
Man.. I finally quit 10-11 weeks ago. I am already realizing so many of the benefits. I appreciate this content and the comments here. Thank you for added motivation!
I am only 2 minutes in and I am so impressed with how well spoken and articulate you are! I have never heard it described better than this and it resonates with me so much. You are truly inspiring thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story! 🙏 ❤️
God is good I stopped drinking the day before Thanksgiving 🙌 much respect brother stay strong
Thank you so so so much this, I'm an entrepreneur and I struggling with alcohol abuse after the loss of my partner in business who also happens to be my Dad, I have left all weight on my wife aswell as kids
Sorry to hear that. But you can do it. I gave up 12-13 weeks ago when I FINALLY realised that alcohol wasn't making anything better. In fact it was making everything way way worse. I had job loss to deal with, but drinking only made me feel like I wanted to stay home and not look for a job. I got into a state where I wouldn't have even been able to hold a job down due to feeling so bad every single day. Realise this my friend - alcohol always works against you, not for you. It will never, and can never, take away any pain or trouble. It only intensifies it. Keep trying, and all the best.
You took a very hard hit. I am so sorry for your loss. Of course you are in pain. Of course you reached for the numbing agent. Lots of us have in these painful situations. But you, right here in the comments have owned whats going on and who its hurting, so you are a step closer to changing course. For me, booze has also been the go to anaesthetic. Also related to the loss of my father. I was a mess for 9 months. But I gradually migrated back to the bicycle and gym and over time less and less to the bottle. It’s a process. Be patient with yourself and be good to yourself. 🙏🏽
Bro well done! One of the best move in my whole life, 3 years SOBER! Alcohol does not exist for me today!
I quit smoking and drinking 19 days ago. Right now I'm 31 years old. To fill the void with better things I started running and working out more than I ever did before in my free time. I know this choice will benefit my future. On the surface it's already showing results. It's fantastic when people care about you, but they can't do the work for you. That drive has to come from the inside. When you know for certain you have to change things up. To whoever is reading this I'm proud of you. Now it's your turn to be proud of yourself.
Thank you, Mario.
Alcohol has caused nothing but chaos in my life. On January 1st 2020 I once again decided to stop drinking. I was building up my confidence, losing weight and going to the gym consistently then after 8 months and 15 or so days I decided to have one drink. Little did I know that one drink would lead me to 2 and half years of more on and off drinking. It would lead me to again hurting the people closest to me with careless words, again not being present in anything and again being emotionally lost. My weight in the last 2.5 years has gone from 180lbs to 215lbs. I’m here again trying to start over and have 5 days without any alcohol and 5 days straight of going to the gym. Anyone out there thinking about just having one drink I’d say to you that I don’t know how long that one drink will push your life back. It could be days, months or even years like me. What I do know is that you WILL ALWAYS regret it. My biggest takeaway from this video is always love yourself. You’re worth it, you’re not alone and you can do anything you put your mind to.
Keep going. You got this. Every day is a new chance to be better
@@elicohen5073 thanks, still going strong. 36 days now of working out daily and no alcohol. I’ve dropped 2 notches on my belt already.
Thanks Guys..... Patrick, always raising our awareness!! Mario, Good luck brother!!!
Whatever the addiction, alcohol, shopahol, sexahol, workahol, don't ask why the addiction, but rather what is the underlying pain that is the source for the addiction. Dr. Gabor Mate', The Wisdom of Trauma
Wow! In simple words I randomly found myself in same exact situation and feelings. I’ve been struggling for I’d say a decade. My capabilities where reduced through out my 20’s into barely getting by. I had no idea what was happening to me, lost until a recent event where I had a reality check. Luckily I’ve been able push through & was supported. I was left alone with all the broken pieces. It felt heavy with all the things that have been going wrong up until this point.
Watching this today really connected with me deep inside & I suddenly felt understood by another soul. I came to the comments section, which I never do, & saw another community of loving souls. Thank you for this video on so many levels. All love.
Going throught now to the tee. Gonna go to a rehab to help. I want to make changes!! Thank u for this video
Incredibly well said. Fantastic story. Great message. Ive been off alcohol for over 8 months. One of the best choices I ever made. Life changes In a big way. Learn to love yourself if you don't know how to already. I love you! Have a great day friends 🤠
Yeah.. it’s so true.. I am struggling with alcoholism..
Mario,
Thank you so much for this video. It took a great amount of courage to admit these things publicly to such a large audience. I’m two months down and feeling better than ever! You’ve truly inspired me!
I have the highest respect for a person who admits that he/she has an addiction problem & wants a change.. I have been down that road and it was ugly and hurtled my loved ones now sober for years & it’s great waking up and no hangover
I haven't had a single drink in over 1 year and 9 months. One of the best decisions I've ever made. Not that I had a problem with drinking but I felt the party years in my early 20s were wasted on frivolous drinking and partying. Since I stopped drinking I've been more productive than ever before, made more money then ever before and learned to be one with myself. When you stop drinking you also learn very quickly who are the people you actually enjoy spending time with. I recommend everyone trying sober for at least 90 days. I can guarantee you will see tremendous positive results in your life!
I quit drinking probably 10-12 years ago, just got disgusted with who it made me and what it made my life. Cold turkey and never wanted it again. I’ve quit smoking cold turkey and hardest of all quit dipping cold turkey. It just comes down to mindset, you control what you ingest. Make no excuses and and there will be no regrets just stop.
You are quite a down to earth guy and I’m sure it took a lot of intestinal fortitude to make this video. To share your experience in order to help others. God bless you and thank God for your friend.
This is one of the most honest, inspirational revelations I've heard! Thank you. I intend to listen to it many times.
Currently trying to get enlisted into the military so I can get another chance at paving a new future! I’m convinced from prior experience that if I don’t do this I ain’t ever gonna change my toxic ways!
Thanks for the inspiring testimony mate 👍👍
Naming the problem, owning it and having a plan is most of the battle. You’re on your way. You hang tough and chase that better life and goals. 🙏🏽💯
@@LK-bz9sk man I’m the reason for my bad habits & in my current situation this just seems the best most convenient option! I keep getting choked up & full of tears when thinking about this while army thing, just send my aptitude test in Friday so hopefully hear back early this week. But same goes brother we all struggle with shit in our own way my guy.
@@LK-bz9sk same goes as in I hope the best for you & the rest of your life brother 👍🇦🇺
Do what you feel you need to do. Speak with a counselor first. It's damn hard.
Thx sooooooo much for your transparency!!! It changed my life...14 days sober... Praise God 😁
I relate to a lot of what u said and haven’t had a drop of alcohol in 45 days. Thank You for sharing & inspiring me to stay the course so my 7 year old daughter has the best Dad she can have so she can be the become the best woman she can be
At 19:20 I was in tears ...thank you for your bravery...i want to change ...thanks for inspiring myself and others...
Thank you for your message brother . Your message definitely resonates with me, I have a life changing story too similar to yours and my life is so much better now. God bless you and your family.🙏👍
Huge brother. Drinking was an impediment in my life even if it wasn’t a daily vice. In my relationships, family, business, etc. Changing my lifestyle has been one of the best decisions in life. Thank you for the vulnerability. I feel more focused in life, my marriage, as a dad, a business owner, etc.
Amen brother, this is pretty real. To those who scroll pst this, just know it doesnt matter what rock bottom you hit, everyone has their own rock bottom. Im going on 4 years of recovery now never had i thought i could achieve what I am achieving now, but choosing to want to change has turned me from a hopeless dope fiend to a dopeless hope fiend.