Everything that would make a woman an unviable wife has been deemed to be a virtue now. When every woman no longer has the ability to fail all of them will end up failures.
Well said, if it's also true that women are more likely to be influenced by their social network/girlfriends than men are (which does seem true in general) then there's the likelihood of many women who could've been "wife" material who aren't now due to societal pressure or norms. This is kind of like the Peterson quote about integrity only mattering when there's temptation of doing the wrong thing because you know it exists. If you are ignorant of another choice you can't be virtuous for rejecting it. But we're talking about whether the woman would be "wife material" without today's culture, not whether they'd be virtuous.
I used to be mad at the state of modern women. Now I just laugh. Life really is so much better when you just don't focus on chasing them or caring about them.
@@miltonbates6425 It's actually Jesus' fault. ;p From the Gospel of Thomas: "Jesus said: Perhaps men think that I am come to cast peace upon the world; and they do not know that I am come to cast dissensions upon the earth, fire, sword, war. For there will be five who are in a house; three shall be against two and two against three, the father against the son and the son against the father, and they shall stand as solitaries." We're living out the prophetic times of Isaiah now. Not a single upright woman to be found anywhere.
@@jmlkhan5153 Yep; I hear you. She can rationalise anything and the current system lets her have it. She doesn't love you any more.....proceed directly to Family Court for her to collect her share of cash, assets and prizes.
"I have a degree in feminist underwater basket weaving so you must have a phd and make 500k a year. I have 5 children by 5 men so you must not have any children yet, yes I'm 55 but I still expect to have more children with you. I am 4'1" and weigh 420 pounds so you must be 6"3" 220 pounds but it has to be all muscle and if your abs aren't washboard, then just keep swiping. You must make 500k a year but you must also take me on vacation for 7 months every year. Above all else you must never EVER mention that I treat my 17 dogs far better than you or even my own children. "
I used to work in night clubs. We had a few women who would find "the one" every weekend. Not a euphemism. They would find a guy, chat for a while, take him home, and bonk him. Then the next Friday they would be all victimy, complaining that he used them, and by Saturday they would have found another "the one." Did they REALLY believe their own stories - or were they self aware?
These are so called chameleons with crocodile tears, everything they talk and do is contradictory they lie to the world and themselves manipulating and trying to control this incredible fakeness they've created
Growing up I imagined that most people must have been self aware, and only a minority were delusional enough to believe obvious lies or deceive themselves. Then I started seeing that it is the exact opposite: Bosses that cannot tell an obvious sycophant is just sucking up to them, obese people swearing they eat almost nothing every day, habitual liars and cheats that see themselves as trustworthy, poor people electing wealthy ones thinking they will protect the interest of the common man. So, no, most likely they truly believed that each new hook up was going to be Prince Charming. How honest they were and how deep they went while doing each assessment is another matter, of course. A scary amount of people, out there, are simply incapable of critical thinking.
Women, the adult babies of our society, are in love with the idea of love, but don’t want to work towards the values to achieve love. They’re obsessed with the idea of getting married and having their big wedding day, but don’t care about the marriage itself(nor the husband) and the values required for a successful marriage.
Can you remember just over a year ago when women were marrying themselves? The whole 'living the fantasy wedding' but without the groom. Some even married their dog. It was simply the narcissist wet dream of a 'strong, independent woman'. Supposed to be such an assertive act against the patriarchy. It appeared ridiculous to the mainstream from the start and simply another female fantasy that was novel, a kick against tradition and an alternative life choice. And like many other 'strong' declarations of this type, it has died a death once the novelty wears off. You never hear of this now, it was just a passing phase. Hopefully these child-women will be self aware enough to know how foolish they look now and how embarrassing it was for their families, who played along with the charade. They'll expect to receive a pass and probably will, so that the family and everyone involved can save face. Rather than being the act of a strong woman it was just the extreme selfishness and immaturity of a child. Its one of those stories that people will laugh about, years later, with a degree of embarrassment. A laughing stock . An example of women with no accountability and not being held to any level of responsibility! Hopefully those days are coming to a close as demands to be seen as strong and independent leads to them being increasingly held accountable for their actions. And called out on their foolishness.
No woman these days can love anyone more than they love themselves. That's what I've observed even the single mom's problems are. They literally love themselves and their own ego more than their kids. Insane.
Learn from my mistakes, brother-kings: * If she's on Tinder, turn around and walk away. * If she has a partner count equal to or higher than her age, turn around and run away. * If she has a mental condition, carefully walk towards the door without turning your back. Since I'm a fool, I got stuck in such a relationship (with all these points present) and now I feel like I'm drowning in a swamp. Don't be me, gentlemen. Godspeed.
Unfortunately nearly all of them are at least slightly crazy. There are two golden, unbreakable rules in life when it comes to women.... You cannot fix stupid and you cannot fix crazy. To try and do so is to set yourself up for frustration, angst, anger and suffering.
_"If she has a partner count equal to or higher than her age, turn around and run away."_ Joking? ANY partner outside of marriage is NULL AND VOID. Virginity is mandatory, period.
People say a lot. So, I watch what they do. At 56, I'm perfectly fine being single. if a woman comes along who strikes my fancy, great. If not, my life goes on anyway.
It always amazes me how some people (women in this case) think promiscuity is an on/off switch, as if they can get rid of bad habits (cheating and attention seeking) the moment they want to get in a relationship with someone. That’s like thinking you can suddenly play baseball when you’ve been playing basketball for years. Old habits die hard.
Games unreal, seems i picked wrong type sad thing is she was cheating day one bored saying cheating now seems they even talk about on snapchat with other mates and fb messages so its sad!! towards end she slipped up seen all kinds now and its mine field out there….funny seen once a message sent to another lad also me naked its just nuts….it nearly made me feel bad or what if Some just have itch that needs scratching even when your work and theres random bloke working over the road she was 27 so you think make your silly mind up…funny how they message 3/4 different me (inc main BF) that was interesting
An ex of mine literally said to me she liked the idea of arranged marriage. She was given the freedom to run her own romantic and sex life and by age 35, after cheating in multiple relationships, never being satisfied, always demanding more, she had finally realised that she had completely ruined her life, with the privilege and freedom she had.
@@jakeviolet2195 Yep, I agree. Their personal history also conveniently gets heavily edited and rationalised to facilitate improving those "options" that they don't even deserve anyway.
@@JJ-wi2uw Hahaha. Some stray cats seem to beat women at their own game, opportunistically eating from the hands of many, and displaying affection and the illusion of loyalty to extract what they want, before moving on to the next one, rinse and repeat then slinking back for more.
We currently live in a hollow throwaway society where everyone has extremely short attention spans. Long term thinking has given away to instant gratification. Finding a woman worth committing to in today's climate is a truly monumental and exhausting task. Generally, the juice ain't worth the squeeze.
Men have to take ALL the risk. Get married and no matter what happens to lead it to failure, the man gets the blame. She has the law (and the Family Court) on her side and the societal cheer squad cheering her on. It's an abysmal state of affairs.
Can confirm. My 1st wife had over 100 partners before she was 30. By our 1st anniversary I think I was the only one she wasn’t f*cking. By 18 months she left altogether. I believe she genuinely tried , at least at first, but she was way too damaged to bond with anyone.
Time and again I hear men say that they long for a wife and children. Time and again I hear women say that they don't need no man. I don't know what it is going to take for guys to wake up. Aaron Clarey says, "I'm sorry, but it just isn't possible. You were born in the wrong time. There are no women with the qualities necessary for marriage." And the guys immediately say, "Yeah, but how do I get da gurls?"
Many of you describe it like a woman is something that you would get on a supermarket. Maybe they should stop watching p.o.r.n changes of meeting someone significantly increase that way.
@@jakeviolet2195 What makes a good parent? Why being a genuine, patient person with principles separated from a person capable of being a good parent? I just can’t see how disinterested folks without principles and values would add any value to a kids life. Modern Men preach about traditional values all the time but at the end of the day they pursue completely different things. I see what kind of women they are chasing just look at thumbnail of MGTOW content creators. They want the freedom of a single man they want hobbies but they want female to give up her identity to pull the load of raising children. That should occupy her entire existence according to men. Apparently, they even know what makes each woman happy, because according to them women are all the same. Maybe first, sitting down and really thinking about what is it that makes you happy would be a rational solution. Im certain that men who come here beating themselves in the chest that they are over 50 and how “lucky” they are that they are never married or had children are complete lost cases. Why? because, they don’t live their truth of being genuinely happy with themselves. It’s just a mask and projection.
if you've been dating you've probably met the women who say "your a great guy but theres just no sparks" - they want lust, love is built over long term. they want the next rush that comes at the start of a relationship like a kid wants the latest video game but barely played the previous one. They're incapable of sticking it out long term through the everyday stuff because that rush is no longer there.
Been single for about 8 years now. Gave up looking/dating that 8 years ago. If a women was to ask me out. ( Unless there was some extremely strong freakish attraction.) I would tell her NO! That there is no way I can be what she wants. Because women's shopping list is way too big for compromising. Besides! Modern women are WAY to expensive of a hobby. For the extremely little benefit one gets in return. AND it's usually broken when you first get it, and it don't last. No Thank You, I am Out!
Snakes don't cheat, manipulate, or pretend to be something else. "Accepting for who they are" is a cheap excuse and PROMOTES a bad behavior that should be extinguished.
Eddie Murphy in Raw said it best about every female “what have you done for me lately” and this hook up culture accelerates that way of thinking, a woman will move on as soon as she is bored or see’s another shiny new toy with higher value in her mind
I've observed it quite often with many women their loyalty is dependent on their perceived opportunities. The exception to this I've noted is she wasn't able to marry/partner-up but also made very good money. At best she was able to pair up laterally but then became frustrated with the man due to him having expectations of her comparable to her expectations of him. And so to address this "issue", she dumped him.
You reap what you sow. Sow an act, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny. Men trying to keep their lives stable won't want a party girl. Thrill chasers will leave you in boredom.
Our culture not only encourages women to indulge in their hypergamy, it downright exploits it. A woman can never find what she wants in just one man because she wants extremely rare and often contradictory traits. Hookup culture is exactly what is going to happen if men don't rein in their hypergamy. Monogamy is essential for a healthy society but I don't think humans are naturally monogamous. We are only as loyal as our options and women have all the options today.
Funnily enough, as a young man I knew a guy that people referred to as 'Sadim'. They inverted the word 'midas' because everything he touched turned to that very same substance.
I am 23 and we broke up with my first serious girlfriend 2 months ago. We talked for 3 months and we were lovers for 9 months. At the start of the relationship she was saying she always wanted to be loved like this and later she told me she fell for me. She never opened herself completely but she was getting more caressing and more open about her feelings as the months passed by. And though i always felt the distance i never gave up on her. Everything was nice but she was saying things like: "i want to experience everything in life so that i wont regret one day when i'm old.". And i was like yeah sure, i want most of those things maybe we can do them together if our relationship develops. But she also said things that i ignored because i loved her such as:"We should be able to flirt with others by giving notice if it benefits us." and something like maybe polygamy is in human nature. Later we had some incidents that broke my trust in her, nothing too big but i started to be anxious when i havent heard from her for a while. So when she went to erasmus we decided to break up. And 3-4 days after we broke up and she arrived to her dormitary, i fished her to tell me stuff and i found that she was already flirting with 2 guys. In her hometown her family was restricting lots of thing to her. And at the end i felt like i was just a safe harbor till she got more liberated in erasmus. So from my experience i believe people change when they are in a different environment especially if they are remorseless and unconcerned about things from their old life. And i believe it has always been in her just waiting for the right environment. After this i started to think how can i protect myself from girls like this. And believe me normally i can smell cheap personality and stay away from that but she was smart and complex and she had a basis for her thoughts. She taught me that really getting to know a person is really hard. It is like solving a linear equation system with n unkowns. You need to be in different environments and situations with that person to really get to know such a person like you need n equations to solve a linear equation system with n unknowns. Anyways i can keep writing lol. Thank you for this video and apologies if my english is wrong. It is not my mother tongue.
I think people who came from divorce, or unmarried parent figures in their life are ruddarless, needy, and searching to fill the empty gap, which almost guarantees an endless cycle of despair .
Exactly. That's why I waited until mid 40's to marry and got a vasectomy in my 30s. No child of mine was going to suffer from a broken home. Someone had the break the viscous cycle of disfunction.
Divorce sometimes is a blessing in disguise for the kids. You know what's worse? 2 parents that scream at each other every day and the kid living in that lunatic environment. And I mean scream, not just yell. In some cultures divorce is a no no, and it's really tragic. Sometimes it's necessary.
I have one pair of shoes....the pair I like and wear evrywhere....until they begin to leak when I step in a puddle...and even then I'll avoid the puddles, until they nearly fall off my feet.....these days, shoes last me 2 years at the most... Once upon a time, one could have them repaired or re-soled....for a longer term relationship...*sigh* Luckily, I never married or had kids...retired and fairly happy...
@@bullfighter42 I work in a log yard part time, cutting rounds out of logs for firewood...for the exercise and spending money....and subsistence gardening with garlic as my specialty crop. I raise German Red and Canadian Continental....also have a bike with a sidecar for summer fun.....also am a craigslist hunter...
Always searching, never finding. Voids in one's life are difficult to fill, when introspection is lacking. When is the last time you spoke with an Introspective woman?
I’m like....um...like...yeah? Like --you know? Like-- yasss queeeeen!!! Social media is making women hysterical and ultra entitled.... Gad dam nightmare honestly. Don’t chase. Ever. Only thing worse than being alone is being with someone that makes you feel alone.
"I'm just searching for that one guy to settle down with" - words of inveterate alcoholic who says he can stop drinking and start living healthy life if he wanted to. Meanwhile 20 years of booze almost destroyed his liver.
Maybe this all started when they were children who were spoiled by their parents? A single parent home where a mom wanted to live their lives vicariously through their daughters or a dad who spoiled them with materialistic things. I’ve noticed that people, man or woman who manipulate to get their way are never happy for the long term except for the moment they have gotten their way, and then the cycle repeats itself never caring about anything but getting their way.
Looking for "the One" may actually be a red flag. It means that they're looking for that perfect person who can match their personality like a glove (or as an accessory), rather than finding a relationship that through give and take is rewarding. This may also affect men the same way, although I'd be interested in whether One-itis is our delusion instead; rather than finding someone who is an accessory we make ourselves fit the other.
Lack of empathy is a major pointer for narcissist and psychopath. I dont think I have ever seen empathy in a woman, including my mother. It always felt like it is just for the show, if there are witnesses present. Immaturity was always a turn-off, since school days and to this day. I cant tolerate this and I always wonder how guys even stand these overgrown clowns in relationships. Must be a very lonely and miserable existance behind their confident smiles, knowing they cant rely on anyone and all burdens are on them.
It started with the internet and e-mail, messenger and later on texting on the first mobiles. My first ex started private e-mailing a coworker late 90's after being 'not happy' Before all that, it was not very easy to sneak around. It did happen, but it would cost way more effort. Nowadays many people have dozens of options floating around in their social media ecosystem. It's almost impossible to have a 100% genuine and exclusive emotional connection with someone these days.
As much as the trope of "eat pray love travel" is a sort of jab at the sort of attention seeking female, I know of a number of guys in their 50's that do the exact same thing - they just can't wait for that next tropical vacation. You know them. Snowbirds. Some people seem to be highly predisposed to always seek novel experiences (travel, intimacy, material gain, ideals, ideas), even if it means leaving relationships in the dust. It's got to be some sort of trait derived from high openness, perhaps, combined with other factors. I'm not a jet-setter or one that needs to globe trot to find myself, but I like exploring new ideas, hobbies and new ways to approach said creative hobbies on a regular basis. I just messed around with using fibreglass resin and old denim jeans to make composite material for knife handles. Using lead weights scavenged from an old surgical microscope made in West Germany as a press while the epoxy cured. Yes, an overly specific example. I may not be a intimate, sensual man-hoe, but I am, in no doubt and absolute dirty garden tool for new ideas, and how those new ideas have their way with me. I Cannot say if I am/was predisposed to monogamy or to be promiscuous. However I sure wouldn't enjoy the 1950's tradcon nirvana. Dudes like myself are always the out group, no matter the era. My parents weren't worried about me bringing home girls in highschool, they were worried about me burning the house down with Tesla coils. Same chaotic tendency, different outlet.
Red Pill explosion in my brain. My gut knew all of this but my heart covered it over. My heart wanted 'true love' while my gut was like, "go ahead, see what it's like." You get about 15 minutes of true love before the bottom falls out.
So imagine for a moment, you spent your childhood learning that you were oppressed, then spent your teens on tiktok dancing in a bikini to 30k likes of unknown older men, and any other post not in a bikini garners at the most 10% of the views and likes of the bikini posts. Imagine that in your teens and twenties you were attracted to what other people wanted, because your brain works on social validation, so you chase what's already someone else's, and when you attain it you validate yourself through someone else's heartbreak. You or the guy then get bored quickly after being inserted by that of which you chased and ghost each other. You go home to study your university degree in useless studies and graduate into a human resources role or remain a barista. You are never held accountable in your role as those above you are too scared to mentor you. You reach the age of 30-35, it is now impossible to get attention, you go home to cats and wine and watch make up vlogs to try to look appealing to men who will never take you. You settle for a beta and spend $30000 on IVF that fails. He leaves because he wants children. You then see he marries a 26 year old. You go home to your cats, wine and antidepressants. You are nothing. And that gentleman is what you are missing out on. We are the prize.
Wow. Super valid. I can even identify those flaws (inconsistency) in me. I've tried to keep a few ladies, work with them, have a family, and it usually breaks down when I refuse to be a doormat. Have them as accountable as I am, and they act so unreasonable. I've had standards I can stand by, theirs vary by age. I can ask what I could do about it... I can also not need to settle down, compromise, and accept the ones who MIGHT finally decide to be human, too (after dealing with the wall properly, like a human). Unbridled "accept everything" feminism hurts them pretty bad in the end. A philosophy of equality WITH standards would be much healthier. I dig this guy's style- expressive, considerate, accurate. Helps me feel less crazy here amongst the rest.
All this knowledge from the past few years coupled with my experience with woman has essentially black 💊 me. Not sure if its a good or bad thing, but theres no coming back from it now. A part of me feels dead inside because of it but another part feels relief that I'm no longer on the hook for marriage and the gf experience.
There’s no coming back, but man you have been truly blessed to have eyes to see. The world is yours to do as you please. For me all this makes me go to the extreme in masculinity (not shaving, lifting weights, sleeping, eating non processed food, no fapping) Doing things that make me man and that women cant do...I love it. Goodluck bro.
I'm in a similar boat. There have been a couple times where I could have spoke and initiated a conversation irl but the moment I consider it I remember all of the burdens that often come with dealing with them and she is likely the same as the rest, therefore she has no importance. Even if there was a rare few decent ones out there they are literally getting defeated by women they never met 😂😂
I saw a study a few months ago on the neuroanatomy of pair bonding; it indicated that, for women, the ability to form strong emotional bonds with a man is triggered by sex but is inversely proportional to the number of sexual encounters. After a certain number of encounters (and I can't remember the number) the pair bonding "circuitry" does not function anymore. In a monogamous relationship this presents no problem. It creates a massive problem for hookup culture because at some point women become neurologically unable to form a healthy, stable relationship with a man. The implications of that are really terrifying for women, especially if they have been deceived into thinking that they can hook up repeatedly and not suffer any consequences.
Thanks, mate. This gave me the final push I needed to pull myself out of a toxic relationship. You can't blame them. No arguments are needed or of any use. They're simply incapable of that.
Every content creator says, 'let me know your thoughts below', but they rarely actually respond - just an observation. My personal experience shines a light on why males may have lower ability for long term, it's quite simple, with experience we become wise to female nature. The love blinkers are removed increasingly quickly, each time revealing more and more of true female nature. We become less controlled by testosterone with age and just say no. We become far more alert and reserved entering new relationships in order to self preserve.
Yep the validation they give woman is insane with all the guys they get messenging them but it all comes to a sticky end when they lose their youth. The attention dries up fast then you hear " where is all the good men"
I used to be capable of a LTR. I wanted desperately to have a family. Thank God I now know true freedom. Freedom is addicting. I'm in love and committed to freedom.
Women are never interested in the guy they are with, just the experience, being able to post couples pictures and feel like a "winner" by societal standards. That's why men who get left for another so quickly are left confused and frustrated. No such thing as building relationship equity. Whatever time/money/feelings invested, it's all erased come the break up. Men and women come to the table with completely different mindsets but these are conveyed and expressed using common words. No fixing this. Just make the best of a bad situation I guess.
I cringe when a couple i know tell me they met on Tinder. If i was ever in that position, i would probably lie and say we met at Woolworths or something
Definitely a chance that its imprinted but fixed, because relationship with parents has a big impact. Promiscuous women often have daddy issues. Girls from broken homes have their first sex younger. That's pretty much common sense. The guy version is getting into trouble, stealing, fighting, petty crime, etc.
My First wife was my ""first"" my 2nd wife was my ""30th"" I WAS once in love with first wife maybe a few other GFs but as I got more experience with wahmen I found it harder and harder to tolerate even the smallest of faults. I think back and look at that 1st wife and think ""OMG ! I would NEVER tolerate her today""
Looking for "the one" is a dangerous cycle of rinse and repeat. It's idealisation at its finest and usually a cluster b personality trait. Once you realise that no one is perfect the better off you'll be.
Yep the problem for these woman is they are looking for the perfect man who simply doesn't exist so as soon as the guy shows any flaw they don't work on the relationship they just dump him. It's not a problem while they are young because they have so many guys messenging them but it all changes when they hit 40.
If you value security... Japan values contentment, America values excitement, the Dutch (me) values being normal and not being flamboyant, it all depends:)
Whenever there’s a train wreck or plane crash, there’s never any single cause, it’s always a chain of events that led up to the event; when you are dealing with a female there are many variables at play, emotionally,socially,hormones, self esteem and or awareness, accountability which is rare and other things but I think you guys have a general idea of what I’m saying. One has to have inner peace and balance first before you can add any type of value to anyone’s life. My personal thoughts speaking from experience I don’t feel as though a female is capable of long term relationships, eventually one of the variables I pointed to earlier will rear it’s ugly head , as the train is traveling on the track one of the bolts fall off one of the wheels, then another bolt and another and off the cliff she goes taking you with her but only if you are emotionally attached. Hypergamy is real guys.
I can state with certainty that the only stable relationship I have is with my body. Working out, eating well, remaining disciplined to my body 6 days a week is the only long term relationship I have. I look at the scale and I look at the mirror but it’s the journey that I am addicted to. The journey is a lot of times repetitive and routine, a lot of friends, family cannot relate. You get told that your boring and won’t budge your routine for them, but it's s really all I have, I just have the scale and the mirror on my journey. I could have been more successful in life if I knew that early on
Last chick I hungout with asked what Im currently watching on Netflix, I said I dont have netflix and Id never give my money to the pedos that run it after that Cuties movie. She just smiled and nodded, like she couldnt compute what I was saying.
I was raised Mormon, my attitude towards dating and relationships was forever shaped by that, I was taught that "families are forever" and when looking for a partner, look for one that you'll be with for eternities... but you only have a few years to find them because the organisation puts social pressure and stigma on the unmarried. Here's a thought, women who are provocative and sleep around and chase these experiences, have just as much ability as entering a long term monogamous relationship as a guy who has been rejected hundreds or thousands of times, or has dated that many women without entering a relationship or having physical intimacy. If you'd like me to go more in depth, let me know.
@@KrazyKratosFan Okay, so to expand on my hypothesis/theory, I would point out that neither the provocative woman or the rejected/selective male has positive experience (if any) with long term relationships. Now you don't need experience to have a successful relationship and it would seem that experience is what causes issues with long term relationships. However, we understand that women are psychologically affected by being provocative, HuMan suggests that perhaps it's not a result of being provocative, just the nature of the person in general (until they reach the wall it seems). I would suggest that man that has been rejected so many times will grow quite a bit of disdain for women, or a form of desperation. If he starts receiving positive attention from a woman and he has interest in her, he may get excited and start behaving in a similar fashion to hypergamous women, looking for better opportunities, cheating etc. Or if he has courted many women without sleeping with them, he would have a broad understanding of what he likes and doesn't like in women, and be more likely to be picky, or desperate (depending on how much attention he gets and the quality of that attention). Similarly to young attractive women, a high quality male that receives a lot of positive attention from females is less likely to settle for one. The issue and solution lies in cultural practices and social control systems. A tribal culture may have arranged marriages, or bigger tribes may have big ceremonies where the young single people perform a cultural ritual and select a mate/life partner amongst the group. They may also have a crime and punishment system in places that punishes the infidel partners. Other forms of control may be female circumcision so as to prevent a woman receiving too much stimulation from sex, thus lowering her temptation. Women have been given a lot more freedom and protection than men. Family law courts punish men, but MAY shame a women, but not likely. Courting systems and practices are no longer followed. It is essentially prostitution only nowadays. Which I suppose, is the most natural form of mating. However it does not do well for a society/civilisation. Which I think is the objective of the elites, or just a natural phenomena which occurs as a consequence to overpopulation. Society building thrives of it is providing for men. Societal decay thrives if it is providing for women.
They are only fooling themselves. I told myself I could lose weight if I wanted to. I told myself that until I 23. And it's wasnt until 2 years ago when I realized if I didn't lose the weight then I may never the chance to do it the future. But that's the difference. I snapped out of my own fog.before it was too late. Most ladies wont.
The quickening rate of evolutionary change that came with the industrial revolution has far exceeded our ability to grasp what is happening to us as a species. It’s difficult to assess objectively, while we are living in it and through it. Where it leads, I haven’t a clue, but I like considering it for my own entertainment!
I'm with you. Now with the digital nomads everyone is looking for "the last undiscovered place" I wish the would leave those places undiscovered. Not specifically related to your comment... bear with me.
Yes you see on so many american podcasts they ask the woman want they want and so often the guy has to be 6ft plus and earning 100K minimum. They are talking about less than 5% of the male working population in the US.
This is a sum of alot of things, but short answer i think is these these days: No, she cant and wont. She might certainly think she can, but unfortunately women are very good about "fooling themselves" to think whatever it is that think they want - the "I love you for ever (..for now)." A longer answer: Society, culture, religion, laws...all have become such as they either support or even encourage women to get rid of the guys. If a woman grows up in either in single mom family or broken up family, doesnt have any relative to show healthy longterm relationships and all the media she sees, listens to or reads are about glorifying womens single life - nvm if she meets some feminists ...its all about telling women they should have fun right now, how they are so independent and if the man isnt basically slave to her, he isnt worth her. ...then how could she ever be able to have a long lasting relationships? its foreign concept to her. In the past genders (and families) had concrete need to stick together for survival and support - well now the daddy government has taken over. Religion and its morality is less and less of a thing to people. There is really no social pressure to stick together when things get difficult, in fact the woman probably gets social gratification the moment she reveals on her social media how she left him and is now strong and independent etc. Frankly its all very "me" and "right now" centric these days. Instant, disposable relationships. It was just the other day i read the news article how some 36y finnish woman is trying to explain how "leaving relationship where everything was fine was her lifes most difficult decision". Reading the thing, she had good husband and children and everything was fine and good, but then she got job where she could travel and ...that was the reason to go single? Rest of the article she is explaining how she doesnt anymore judge anyone for having any kind of "different" relationships, cheating or having "vacation from family" or whatever. Also she explains how now young men are interested in her now and how being single in 35's is more interesting than it was in 25's. So basically the article is all about telling the reader how great it is for her to "get free" of the husband and kids. ...really, there is no winning. Even if you think you catch good woman and make good family life with her - well, the media is there telling her how great and exciting life she is missing every day. there isnt really a single source of media or anything else telling her how good idea it is to stick with the family - its all about personal freedom. ...and ofcourse in few years time she will hit the wall, but thats ofcourse nothing people are supposed to talk about.
" Marriage is the closest thing to a grenade...you pull the pin with the wedding day and signatures, then wait for the huge, monumental explosion of explosions preceded by many smaller ones...and if it doesn't go that way, one of you dies and utterly destroys it in a single breath, or lack of one". Would I ever get married again?...ask me if I would pull a pin out of a grenade and you have your answer..both are way too explosive!!! Sonic Foxx.
I still feel I've been built from my childhood to chase these long term relationships. I don't know, this just is something that I always admired. It is a shame (for people that feels this way) that nowadays, this is just... The way it is...
It’s not the number of partners. Rather, people who have low self control sleep around because they have low self control. People with low self control are incapable of a monogamous relationship. Low self control correlates strongly and positively with a host of behaviors that provide short term immediate gratification. See Michael Gottfredson and Travis Hirshi’s seminal work...A General Theory of Crime.
Important questions to ask while on a date. I wish I would have asked before my mistake. I highly recommend using the questions he states during this video. You will get insight into her true nature. They will also help guys be honest with themselves. Thanks for sharing!
As a Man that was predisposed to long term monogamy... also recently Divorced... the dating scene is terrifying. The grass is greener mentality is rampant... I'm not telling you to bow out fellas, that's the easy way out, if you want to find fulfillment in a relationship... Put in the work, hunt down the RIGHT woman, create a plan have questions to ask her determine if she's capable and willing... But maybe wait until your 30s because I'll keep it real you don't know shit in your 20s about yourself or women.
I think being predisposed to long-term relationship matters, but just only to an extent. The major factor in their life experience is the habits cultivated throughout their lives. It is scientifically known that neuroplasticity is greater in early development (puberty to 25), the chances of it occurring decreases massively after that age. It is still possible to do it, but it requires a type of commitment and conscious effort unlikely to be seen in the average person. The older the women you are trying to interact with. (especially, if above 25 years old) The more unlikely she is to change her bad behaviour.
Many partners? The addictive pattern of her having only temporary partners, can easily become hard-wired into a woman's personality. That pattern repeats itself when she is not able to stay with a relationship-type guy who is doing everything right.. In todays world, her addiction means it's very dangerous for a man to even consider a cohabitation or marriage commitment.
Everyone is too soft. Very few people are going to talk to older people these days (they already know everything). If they did, talk to older couples, they'd find out these people have been to hell and back with everything life throws at you. That's when you get these couples that are devoted to each other. But, everybody is soft now and/or unwilling to put in the work. They bail out at the first sign of trouble instead of facing it head on as a team.
Hi Human you know how that single mother used me and wasn’t emotionally available. It took me 18 months to get over her ... now I have met a a woman that has never been married or has kids . She is a doctor and German and a quality person . Early days but this is an advancement over the last .. I have my guard up but she is chasing me . Let’s see what happens.
When the fences came down, women ran away like they were on fire. We've watched it for decades now. They wanted a vacation from social responsiblity and 'duty'. Can't really blame them, it was awfully tempting. But their expectation was that when they were 'ready' they could always go 'home' and settle down. Men didn't run off, at least at first. We had a civilization to maintain. But now that more and more men are leaving women are finding that that 'home' is empty and the locks have been changed. They're not 'our' women anymore. Fair enough. We're not 'their' men anymore either.
It settling down misconstrued to mean settling for someone who’s not your optimal best!? I’m 38 I think the young people well younger than me think it means settling for less to settling down. Great video HuMan always thought provoking! David - CTA
The sooner people realize, that brain is hardwired for ignoring predictable, regular and mundane and focus on something new - that it is evolutionary equivalent of Shannon's law ( most information is carried by most unique / least probable event ) - the better. EVERYTHING will loose thrill or excitement when time and routine does its job. That's how brain works and working against it is futile. So constant excitement requires constant change and that, by definition, excludes stability. Unless this trend is harnessed into individual (or mutual) hobby or planned activities and stability is left for relationship - the results are inevitable.
Great topic for discussion huMAN. It is a learned behavior and not innate. Take for example a new born baby, pure and innocent. As a child ages, that child is still innocent until there are external influences that will shape the child's behavior - good or bad. Those influences can come from the family/home life, extended family, other children, neighborhood, and of course media and social influences. A child can be taught morals and most importantly self-respect and they will probably grow up to value relationships and virtue. A child can also learn destructive behavior which it seems the media constantly focuses on degenerate lifestyles and how exciting and cool is to be a part of the hookup culture. Guys, if you have a son or daughter teach them self-respect at a young age. You will need to lead by example, and your chances of bringing up a high-value child with self-respect will improve.
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Everything that would make a woman an unviable wife has been deemed to be a virtue now. When every woman no longer has the ability to fail all of them will end up failures.
well put.
I like this post. Heres an extra thumbs up 👍
The inversion of values has taken place. The death of society will follow.
This subversion was not an accident. It was actively pushed for, funded, and supported. Feminism was never a grassroots movement.
Well said, if it's also true that women are more likely to be influenced by their social network/girlfriends than men are (which does seem true in general) then there's the likelihood of many women who could've been "wife" material who aren't now due to societal pressure or norms. This is kind of like the Peterson quote about integrity only mattering when there's temptation of doing the wrong thing because you know it exists. If you are ignorant of another choice you can't be virtuous for rejecting it.
But we're talking about whether the woman would be "wife material" without today's culture, not whether they'd be virtuous.
I used to be mad at the state of modern women. Now I just laugh. Life really is so much better when you just don't focus on chasing them or caring about them.
sad.. but true
@@Ashcroft1313 What's sad about it? Chasing women and/or making them your primary focus seems sadder to me.
@@miltonbates6425 what is sad is that.. it had to come to this( guys losing interests) and somehow Men (Simps) are the ones blame for all this.
@@Ashcroft1313 Men share a large part of the blame...along with the media/popular culture, the government, and the judicial system.
@@miltonbates6425 It's actually Jesus' fault. ;p
From the Gospel of Thomas:
"Jesus said: Perhaps men think that I am come to cast peace upon the world; and they do not know that I am come to cast dissensions upon the earth, fire, sword, war. For there will be five who are in a house; three shall be against two and two against three, the father against the son and the son against the father, and they shall stand as solitaries."
We're living out the prophetic times of Isaiah now. Not a single upright woman to be found anywhere.
When Tinder is the dating standard and OnlyFans is growing, we're all screwed.
Well... not all of us are getting screwed 😆 (me incl.), but yes, our society is dying.
This is exactly the world that women want when hypergamy goes unchecked.
@@josephsherman5288 If you’re married, even worse, with kids, it’s only a matter of time before you learned the hard way that gynocentrism is no joke.
Africa will take over the world in the coming centuries. How ironic. :D
spot on dude
The idea of getting into a new relationship is like a getting a second job that I don't want.
Lmfao!!!! Perfectly said
Having a girlfriend is like having a bill collector that calls you everyday.
It's like buying a second hand car for showroom price. It usually comes with a million miles on the odometer.
Getting a second job and you actually have to pay the '' employer '' instead.
Epic
It's not just the high partner count; its also the stratospheric levels of entitlement and ego...... and the manipulative games that never end.
For me it is definitely primarily this, this is what i cant stand
@@jmlkhan5153 Yep; I hear you. She can rationalise anything and the current system lets her have it. She doesn't love you any more.....proceed directly to Family Court for her to collect her share of cash, assets and prizes.
Boyfriend/husband position available: You must be a top tier man. Please normal men do not apply.
"I have a degree in feminist underwater basket weaving so you must have a phd and make 500k a year. I have 5 children by 5 men so you must not have any children yet, yes I'm 55 but I still expect to have more children with you.
I am 4'1" and weigh 420 pounds so you must be 6"3" 220 pounds but it has to be all muscle and if your abs aren't washboard, then just keep swiping. You must make 500k a year but you must also take me on vacation for 7 months every year.
Above all else you must never EVER mention that I treat my 17 dogs far better than you or even my own children. "
@@Glasshopper That would be so sad, if it did not hit so close to the truth
@@mercenarymike1397 it's almost a poe, give it a little more time and it will be.
@@Glasshopper someone sounds like a salty male 🤣
@@ur_friendlyneighborhoodcommie more like it hit too close to home for you so you attempt shame tactics.
I used to work in night clubs. We had a few women who would find "the one" every weekend. Not a euphemism. They would find a guy, chat for a while, take him home, and bonk him.
Then the next Friday they would be all victimy, complaining that he used them, and by Saturday they would have found another "the one."
Did they REALLY believe their own stories - or were they self aware?
These are so called chameleons with crocodile tears, everything they talk and do is contradictory they lie to the world and themselves manipulating and trying to control this incredible fakeness they've created
Growing up I imagined that most people must have been self aware, and only a minority were delusional enough to believe obvious lies or deceive themselves. Then I started seeing that it is the exact opposite:
Bosses that cannot tell an obvious sycophant is just sucking up to them, obese people swearing they eat almost nothing every day, habitual liars and cheats that see themselves as trustworthy, poor people electing wealthy ones thinking they will protect the interest of the common man.
So, no, most likely they truly believed that each new hook up was going to be Prince Charming. How honest they were and how deep they went while doing each assessment is another matter, of course. A scary amount of people, out there, are simply incapable of critical thinking.
They love every minute of it. Even the tears. The think the emotional ups and downs might as well be a drug.
@@malcolmapplet4313 That's very true. I've known a number of girls absolutely addicted to drama.
If there is none, they create it.
Worked in nightclubs for over 8 years. The things i've seen... I now have trust issues
Women:
“Im tired of the party life and wanna settle down now.”
Menopause:
“Hi, how are you?”
..... and Cats. Meowwww.
Correction.
Menopause:
"Hi. Now that I'm in No Man's Land, My standards are even more insane than when I could get a man.
@@Larry_Sycamore men definitely on pause....
- "Was it worthy"?
Nah, party life is tired of her, new batch of 18yo coming every day
Women, the adult babies of our society, are in love with the idea of love, but don’t want to work towards the values to achieve love. They’re obsessed with the idea of getting married and having their big wedding day, but don’t care about the marriage itself(nor the husband) and the values required for a successful marriage.
Can you remember just over a year ago when women were marrying themselves? The whole 'living the fantasy wedding' but without the groom.
Some even married their dog.
It was simply the narcissist wet dream of a 'strong, independent woman'. Supposed to be such an assertive act against the patriarchy.
It appeared ridiculous to the mainstream from the start and simply another female fantasy that was novel, a kick against tradition and an alternative life choice.
And like many other 'strong' declarations of this type, it has died a death once the novelty wears off. You never hear of this now, it was just a passing phase.
Hopefully these child-women will be self aware enough to know how foolish they look now and how embarrassing it was for their families, who played along with the charade.
They'll expect to receive a pass and probably will, so that the family and everyone involved can save face.
Rather than being the act of a strong woman it was just the extreme selfishness and immaturity of a child. Its one of those stories that people will laugh about, years later, with a degree of embarrassment. A laughing stock .
An example of women with no accountability and not being held to any level of responsibility!
Hopefully those days are coming to a close as demands to be seen as strong and independent leads to them being increasingly held accountable for their actions. And called out on their foolishness.
No woman these days can love anyone more than they love themselves. That's what I've observed even the single mom's problems are. They literally love themselves and their own ego more than their kids. Insane.
Learn from my mistakes, brother-kings:
* If she's on Tinder, turn around and walk away.
* If she has a partner count equal to or higher than her age, turn around and run away.
* If she has a mental condition, carefully walk towards the door without turning your back.
Since I'm a fool, I got stuck in such a relationship (with all these points present) and now I feel like I'm drowning in a swamp.
Don't be me, gentlemen. Godspeed.
They all have a mental condition. Cluster b personality disorder. It comes from their abuse of social media.
Salyut Komrad !
Unfortunately nearly all of them are at least slightly crazy. There are two golden, unbreakable rules in life when it comes to women.... You cannot fix stupid and you cannot fix crazy. To try and do so is to set yourself up for frustration, angst, anger and suffering.
I agree and I'm a woman.
_"If she has a partner count equal to or higher than her age, turn around and run away."_
Joking? ANY partner outside of marriage is NULL AND VOID. Virginity is mandatory, period.
People say a lot. So, I watch what they do.
At 56, I'm perfectly fine being single. if a woman comes along who strikes my fancy, great. If not, my life goes on anyway.
I'm 55 and lovin life. Go where I please, when I please, and do as I please. What's not to like???
David...in 21 years I’ll be 56, what led you to where you are? Have you always been single? Or did you do the family thing in the past?
@@billreddy7593 yes and also If you decide to let a woman go to your place, she isnt having headeche in bed.
40, single dad but happy 🙂
Been married twice being on my own is great and finding myself again I still see a woman on my terms and it works well that way ☺️ 59 here
At 55 and I've lived a interesting life, i can honestly look a woman in the eyes and tell her THANK GOD I NEVER MARRIED. Timmy C
I'm 55 too and breathing a sigh of relief that I'm single...
52. Ditto
I never got married because I take marriage seriously...
48, Ditto
21, never plan to marry. All the marriages in my family give me a headache, and those arent even my own relationship.
It always amazes me how some people (women in this case) think promiscuity is an on/off switch, as if they can get rid of bad habits (cheating and attention seeking) the moment they want to get in a relationship with someone. That’s like thinking you can suddenly play baseball when you’ve been playing basketball for years. Old habits die hard.
Well said.
Games unreal, seems i picked wrong type sad thing is she was cheating day one bored saying cheating now seems they even talk about on snapchat with other mates and fb messages so its sad!! towards end she slipped up seen all kinds now and its mine field out there….funny seen once a message sent to another lad also me naked its just nuts….it nearly made me feel bad or what if
Some just have itch that needs scratching even when your work and theres random bloke working over the road she was 27 so you think make your silly mind up…funny how they message 3/4 different me (inc main BF) that was interesting
An ex of mine literally said to me she liked the idea of arranged marriage. She was given the freedom to run her own romantic and sex life and by age 35, after cheating in multiple relationships, never being satisfied, always demanding more, she had finally realised that she had completely ruined her life, with the privilege and freedom she had.
She just likes the idea of someone else taking the responsibility for her love life - never mind that she would still be an alley cat.
@@ljessel6612 Yep, I can't disagree with that. Now she's an alley cat-lady.
@@jakeviolet2195 Yep, I agree. Their personal history also conveniently gets heavily edited and rationalised to facilitate improving those "options" that they don't even deserve anyway.
@@nevertethered6386 Stray cats is evidence that there are women that even cats cannot tolerate.
@@JJ-wi2uw Hahaha. Some stray cats seem to beat women at their own game, opportunistically eating from the hands of many, and displaying affection and the illusion of loyalty to extract what they want, before moving on to the next one, rinse and repeat then slinking back for more.
We currently live in a hollow throwaway society where everyone has extremely short attention spans. Long term thinking has given away to instant gratification. Finding a woman worth committing to in today's climate is a truly monumental and exhausting task. Generally, the juice ain't worth the squeeze.
It's the equivalent of looking through a sewer full of shit trying to find a diamond.
@@ikedysonlive7511 If you find something hard in the sewer, it's probably a kidney stone.
Men have to take ALL the risk. Get married and no matter what happens to lead it to failure, the man gets the blame. She has the law (and the Family Court) on her side and the societal cheer squad cheering her on. It's an abysmal state of affairs.
pretty sure there isn't any juice at all
You'r right 👏🏻
“…they’re hollow shells wearing different fashionable masks through time …”
yup, no matter how good they look they're almost always vapid empty vessels
Can confirm. My 1st wife had over 100 partners before she was 30. By our 1st anniversary I think I was the only one she wasn’t f*cking. By 18 months she left altogether. I believe she genuinely tried , at least at first, but she was way too damaged to bond with anyone.
Thanks for sharing. Very valuable/helpful insight for me.
I would like to say "YIKES!!!". But with the current batch of women, I suspect 100 is a rookie number at this point.
@@chuckysmaria6466 this was back in the early 90’s
@@Nexus974
YIKES!!!
Did you know she had slept with so many guys before you married her?
Time and again I hear men say that they long for a wife and children. Time and again I hear women say that they don't need no man. I don't know what it is going to take for guys to wake up. Aaron Clarey says, "I'm sorry, but it just isn't possible. You were born in the wrong time. There are no women with the qualities necessary for marriage." And the guys immediately say, "Yeah, but how do I get da gurls?"
A lot of men hear what you are saying but they don't think it applies to them. It only happens to other men dontcha know it?
Many of you describe it like a woman is something that you would get on a supermarket. Maybe they should stop watching p.o.r.n changes of meeting someone significantly increase that way.
@@vkrgfan Women are not free thus are on a market. Haven't watched porn in almost two years and have less interest in dating since.
@@jakeviolet2195
What makes a good parent? Why being a genuine, patient person with principles separated from a person capable of being a good parent?
I just can’t see how disinterested folks without principles and values would add any value to a kids life.
Modern Men preach about traditional values all the time but at the end of the day they pursue completely different things.
I see what kind of women they are chasing just look at thumbnail of MGTOW content creators.
They want the freedom of a single man they want hobbies but they want female to give up her identity to pull the load of raising children. That should occupy her entire existence according to men.
Apparently, they even know what makes each woman happy, because according to them women are all the same.
Maybe first, sitting down and really thinking about what is it that makes you happy would be a rational solution.
Im certain that men who come here beating themselves in the chest that they are over 50 and how “lucky” they are that they are never married or had children are complete lost cases.
Why? because, they don’t live their truth of being genuinely happy with themselves. It’s just a mask and projection.
VK RGFAN great example of nagging, the exact thing thats pushing us all away from women.
if you've been dating you've probably met the women who say "your a great guy but theres just no sparks" - they want lust, love is built over long term.
they want the next rush that comes at the start of a relationship like a kid wants the latest video game but barely played the previous one. They're incapable of sticking it out long term through the everyday stuff because that rush is no longer there.
We are so lucky to have huMan.
She rose from the streets & to the streets she shall return
Been single for about 8 years now. Gave up looking/dating that 8 years ago.
If a women was to ask me out. ( Unless there was some extremely strong freakish attraction.) I would tell her NO! That there is no way I can be what she wants. Because women's shopping list is way too big for compromising. Besides! Modern women are WAY to expensive of a hobby. For the extremely little benefit one gets in return. AND it's usually broken when you first get it, and it don't last. No Thank You, I am Out!
I don't blame a snake for being a snake. I just accept them for what they are and go my own way.
Snakes don't cheat, manipulate, or pretend to be something else. "Accepting for who they are" is a cheap excuse and PROMOTES a bad behavior that should be extinguished.
They have forked tongues
@@executor142You can shame them if you want, I do. Doesn't do any good though if there's 10 white knights to one of us.
@@neilmcdougall4927 Some of them do! And colorful tattoos like poisenous frogs.
Great video. The dog you feed is the one who gets stronger.
The more you indulge in a bad habit, the harder it is to break that habit.
The wolf you feed is the one that gets stronger.
Thanks hamster you feed gets stronger.
Eddie Murphy in Raw said it best about every female “what have you done for me lately” and this hook up culture accelerates that way of thinking, a woman will move on as soon as she is bored or see’s another shiny new toy with higher value in her mind
That's also the title of a Janet Jackson song in 1986, just sayin' ...
I've observed it quite often with many women their loyalty is dependent on their perceived opportunities.
The exception to this I've noted is she wasn't able to marry/partner-up but also made very good money. At best she was able to pair up laterally but then became frustrated with the man due to him having expectations of her comparable to her expectations of him. And so to address this "issue", she dumped him.
You reap what you sow. Sow an act, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny. Men trying to keep their lives stable won't want a party girl. Thrill chasers will leave you in boredom.
Got with a narcissist spending chick... You can tell i got called "cheap" when not wanting to recklessly pay for alot of useless and overpriced items.
@@xantonify sounds familiar.
No. They do not understand reciprocity
Very true.. I learned this multiple times, no matter how many times I told myself "I just picked the wrong one"
Exactly. No matter how many things you have done for them in the past, they only care about what you are doing for them right now.
Briffault's law, cheat code to understanding them. 😁
Correction
They don't care.
Our culture not only encourages women to indulge in their hypergamy, it downright exploits it. A woman can never find what she wants in just one man because she wants extremely rare and often contradictory traits. Hookup culture is exactly what is going to happen if men don't rein in their hypergamy. Monogamy is essential for a healthy society but I don't think humans are naturally monogamous. We are only as loyal as our options and women have all the options today.
Woman have the options till their looks fade then have to face up to their lifetime of bad decisions.
Many Modern women develop the "Reverse Midas Touch" ..... everything they touch turns to shit.
Funnily enough, as a young man I knew a guy that people referred to as 'Sadim'. They inverted the word 'midas' because everything he touched turned to that very same substance.
Can we please drop this lame of an excuse as '' Modern '' and just accept what they always were.
@@olympusentertainment2638 Fair point. Their tendencies were always there and now have become weaponised via societal enablement.
My uncle 'Mad Jack'
used to say :
''When a man’s resentment for women exceeds his lust, he then becomes wise”
-
Wow, that is very true
From one of the early huMan post the term I remember is "pretty little dream killer", perfect.
I am 23 and we broke up with my first serious girlfriend 2 months ago. We talked for 3 months and we were lovers for 9 months. At the start of the relationship she was saying she always wanted to be loved like this and later she told me she fell for me. She never opened herself completely but she was getting more caressing and more open about her feelings as the months passed by. And though i always felt the distance i never gave up on her. Everything was nice but she was saying things like: "i want to experience everything in life so that i wont regret one day when i'm old.". And i was like yeah sure, i want most of those things maybe we can do them together if our relationship develops. But she also said things that i ignored because i loved her such as:"We should be able to flirt with others by giving notice if it benefits us." and something like maybe polygamy is in human nature. Later we had some incidents that broke my trust in her, nothing too big but i started to be anxious when i havent heard from her for a while. So when she went to erasmus we decided to break up. And 3-4 days after we broke up and she arrived to her dormitary, i fished her to tell me stuff and i found that she was already flirting with 2 guys. In her hometown her family was restricting lots of thing to her. And at the end i felt like i was just a safe harbor till she got more liberated in erasmus. So from my experience i believe people change when they are in a different environment especially if they are remorseless and unconcerned about things from their old life. And i believe it has always been in her just waiting for the right environment. After this i started to think how can i protect myself from girls like this. And believe me normally i can smell cheap personality and stay away from that but she was smart and complex and she had a basis for her thoughts. She taught me that really getting to know a person is really hard. It is like solving a linear equation system with n unkowns. You need to be in different environments and situations with that person to really get to know such a person like you need n equations to solve a linear equation system with n unknowns. Anyways i can keep writing lol. Thank you for this video and apologies if my english is wrong. It is not my mother tongue.
I think people who came from divorce, or unmarried parent figures
in their life are ruddarless, needy, and searching to fill the empty gap,
which almost guarantees an endless cycle of despair .
I'm from broken family. My parents relationship is at least 50% of the reason why I will never marry.
@@kubasniak i feel you.. My mom is good but her nagging makes my intestines turn inside.
kubasniak Same. Mother divorced twice, stepdad was a great guy.
Exactly. That's why I waited until mid 40's to marry and got a vasectomy in my 30s. No child of mine was going to suffer from a broken home. Someone had the break the viscous cycle of disfunction.
Divorce sometimes is a blessing in disguise for the kids. You know what's worse? 2 parents that scream at each other every day and the kid living in that lunatic environment. And I mean scream, not just yell. In some cultures divorce is a no no, and it's really tragic. Sometimes it's necessary.
I have one pair of shoes....the pair I like and wear evrywhere....until they begin to leak when I step in a puddle...and even then I'll avoid the puddles, until they nearly fall off my feet.....these days, shoes last me 2 years at the most...
Once upon a time, one could have them repaired or re-soled....for a longer term relationship...*sigh*
Luckily, I never married or had kids...retired and fairly happy...
What do u do with your time?
@@bullfighter42 I work in a log yard part time, cutting rounds out of logs for firewood...for the exercise and spending money....and subsistence gardening with garlic as my specialty crop. I raise German Red and Canadian Continental....also have a bike with a sidecar for summer fun.....also am a craigslist hunter...
Always searching, never finding. Voids in one's life are difficult to fill, when introspection is lacking. When is the last time you spoke with an Introspective woman?
Being that most of them are empty vessels; introspection is pointless.
They are incapable of that. They have no shame because shame and care go together. There is always another dick.
"I can hop off the CC anytime I want" . Reminds me of Mark Twain - "I can quit smoking any time I want, after all, I've done it a thousand times"!
I’m like....um...like...yeah? Like --you know? Like-- yasss queeeeen!!!
Social media is making women hysterical and ultra entitled....
Gad dam nightmare honestly. Don’t chase. Ever.
Only thing worse than being alone is being with someone that makes you feel alone.
"I'm just searching for that one guy to settle down with" - words of inveterate alcoholic who says he can stop drinking and start living healthy life if he wanted to. Meanwhile 20 years of booze almost destroyed his liver.
Good question. 'Women are hooked on the journey'. Nice
Maybe this all started when they were children who were spoiled by their parents? A single parent home where a mom wanted to live their lives vicariously through their daughters or a dad who spoiled them with materialistic things. I’ve noticed that people, man or woman who manipulate to get their way are never happy for the long term except for the moment they have gotten their way, and then the cycle repeats itself never caring about anything but getting their way.
Spoilt overgrown pieces of sheet and they dare to call themselves 'women', these are clowns and feminists
Looking for "the One" may actually be a red flag. It means that they're looking for that perfect person who can match their personality like a glove (or as an accessory), rather than finding a relationship that through give and take is rewarding. This may also affect men the same way, although I'd be interested in whether One-itis is our delusion instead; rather than finding someone who is an accessory we make ourselves fit the other.
I agree. Looking for "the one" is a form of idealisation. No body is perfect and with that on look in life your doomed.
There are 7 billion soulmates....pick one. Love is a verb.
Using shopping as an analogy for the way women pick men, genius just genius. So true.
No, culture has something to do with it.. I'm automatically turned off by immaturity and the lack of emphathy towards me.
Agreed
Lack of empathy is a major pointer for narcissist and psychopath. I dont think I have ever seen empathy in a woman, including my mother. It always felt like it is just for the show, if there are witnesses present.
Immaturity was always a turn-off, since school days and to this day. I cant tolerate this and I always wonder how guys even stand these overgrown clowns in relationships. Must be a very lonely and miserable existance behind their confident smiles, knowing they cant rely on anyone and all burdens are on them.
Word Up!
Women aren't taught empathy towards men and never have. Nature doesn't require them to be empathetic towards men.
Bird up!
I just think social media has destroyed all relationships
It started with the internet and e-mail, messenger and later on texting on the first mobiles. My first ex started private e-mailing a coworker late 90's after being 'not happy'
Before all that, it was not very easy to sneak around. It did happen, but it would cost way more effort.
Nowadays many people have dozens of options floating around in their social media ecosystem.
It's almost impossible to have a 100% genuine and exclusive emotional connection with someone these days.
As much as the trope of "eat pray love travel" is a sort of jab at the sort of attention seeking female, I know of a number of guys in their 50's that do the exact same thing - they just can't wait for that next tropical vacation. You know them. Snowbirds. Some people seem to be highly predisposed to always seek novel experiences (travel, intimacy, material gain, ideals, ideas), even if it means leaving relationships in the dust. It's got to be some sort of trait derived from high openness, perhaps, combined with other factors. I'm not a jet-setter or one that needs to globe trot to find myself, but I like exploring new ideas, hobbies and new ways to approach said creative hobbies on a regular basis. I just messed around with using fibreglass resin and old denim jeans to make composite material for knife handles. Using lead weights scavenged from an old surgical microscope made in West Germany as a press while the epoxy cured. Yes, an overly specific example.
I may not be a intimate, sensual man-hoe, but I am, in no doubt and absolute dirty garden tool for new ideas, and how those new ideas have their way with me. I Cannot say if I am/was predisposed to monogamy or to be promiscuous. However I sure wouldn't enjoy the 1950's tradcon nirvana. Dudes like myself are always the out group, no matter the era. My parents weren't worried about me bringing home girls in highschool, they were worried about me burning the house down with Tesla coils. Same chaotic tendency, different outlet.
See my other comment - that's basically, how our brain works.
Red Pill explosion in my brain. My gut knew all of this but my heart covered it over. My heart wanted 'true love' while my gut was like, "go ahead, see what it's like." You get about 15 minutes of true love before the bottom falls out.
So imagine for a moment, you spent your childhood learning that you were oppressed, then spent your teens on tiktok dancing in a bikini to 30k likes of unknown older men, and any other post not in a bikini garners at the most 10% of the views and likes of the bikini posts. Imagine that in your teens and twenties you were attracted to what other people wanted, because your brain works on social validation, so you chase what's already someone else's, and when you attain it you validate yourself through someone else's heartbreak. You or the guy then get bored quickly after being inserted by that of which you chased and ghost each other. You go home to study your university degree in useless studies and graduate into a human resources role or remain a barista. You are never held accountable in your role as those above you are too scared to mentor you. You reach the age of 30-35, it is now impossible to get attention, you go home to cats and wine and watch make up vlogs to try to look appealing to men who will never take you. You settle for a beta and spend $30000 on IVF that fails. He leaves because he wants children. You then see he marries a 26 year old. You go home to your cats, wine and antidepressants. You are nothing.
And that gentleman is what you are missing out on. We are the prize.
Wow. Super valid. I can even identify those flaws (inconsistency) in me. I've tried to keep a few ladies, work with them, have a family, and it usually breaks down when I refuse to be a doormat. Have them as accountable as I am, and they act so unreasonable. I've had standards I can stand by, theirs vary by age. I can ask what I could do about it... I can also not need to settle down, compromise, and accept the ones who MIGHT finally decide to be human, too (after dealing with the wall properly, like a human). Unbridled "accept everything" feminism hurts them pretty bad in the end. A philosophy of equality WITH standards would be much healthier. I dig this guy's style- expressive, considerate, accurate. Helps me feel less crazy here amongst the rest.
All this knowledge from the past few years coupled with my experience with woman has essentially black 💊 me. Not sure if its a good or bad thing, but theres no coming back from it now. A part of me feels dead inside because of it but another part feels relief that I'm no longer on the hook for marriage and the gf experience.
There’s no coming back, but man you have been truly blessed to have eyes to see. The world is yours to do as you please. For me all this makes me go to the extreme in masculinity (not shaving, lifting weights, sleeping, eating non processed food, no fapping) Doing things that make me man and that women cant do...I love it. Goodluck bro.
@@bullfighter42 Thanks man. Best of luck to you as well. Its a journey to figure ourselves out now.
I'm in a similar boat. There have been a couple times where I could have spoke and initiated a conversation irl but the moment I consider it I remember all of the burdens that often come with dealing with them and she is likely the same as the rest, therefore she has no importance. Even if there was a rare few decent ones out there they are literally getting defeated by women they never met 😂😂
Same here and well said.
I saw a study a few months ago on the neuroanatomy of pair bonding; it indicated that, for women, the ability to form strong emotional bonds with a man is triggered by sex but is inversely proportional to the number of sexual encounters. After a certain number of encounters (and I can't remember the number) the pair bonding "circuitry" does not function anymore. In a monogamous relationship this presents no problem. It creates a massive problem for hookup culture because at some point women become neurologically unable to form a healthy, stable relationship with a man. The implications of that are really terrifying for women, especially if they have been deceived into thinking that they can hook up repeatedly and not suffer any consequences.
Thanks, mate. This gave me the final push I needed to pull myself out of a toxic relationship. You can't blame them. No arguments are needed or of any use. They're simply incapable of that.
"The oaths of a woman I inscribe on water." - Sophocles (Ancient Greek playwright Born 496 BC)
Every content creator says, 'let me know your thoughts below', but they rarely actually respond - just an observation.
My personal experience shines a light on why males may have lower ability for long term, it's quite simple, with experience we become wise to female nature. The love blinkers are removed increasingly quickly, each time revealing more and more of true female nature. We become less controlled by testosterone with age and just say no.
We become far more alert and reserved entering new relationships in order to self preserve.
Online dating apps are highly addictive. You nailed this video... Like most addictions, long term, they are devastatingly destructive.
Addictive ? They are quite depressing to me.
@@JorgeCampos12345 Most drugs are a depressant
Yep the validation they give woman is insane with all the guys they get messenging them but it all comes to a sticky end when they lose their youth.
The attention dries up fast then you hear " where is all the good men"
Women want all the benefits of a Long term relationship, without any of the responsibility. Had a kid with one of those types, bad idea.
I used to be capable of a LTR. I wanted desperately to have a family.
Thank God I now know true freedom. Freedom is addicting. I'm in love and committed to freedom.
Women are never interested in the guy they are with, just the experience, being able to post couples pictures and feel like a "winner" by societal standards. That's why men who get left for another so quickly are left confused and frustrated. No such thing as building relationship equity. Whatever time/money/feelings invested, it's all erased come the break up. Men and women come to the table with completely different mindsets but these are conveyed and expressed using common words. No fixing this. Just make the best of a bad situation I guess.
I cringe when a couple i know tell me they met on Tinder. If i was ever in that position, i would probably lie and say we met at Woolworths or something
Definitely a chance that its imprinted but fixed, because relationship with parents has a big impact. Promiscuous women often have daddy issues. Girls from broken homes have their first sex younger.
That's pretty much common sense.
The guy version is getting into trouble, stealing, fighting, petty crime, etc.
My First wife was my ""first""
my 2nd wife was my ""30th""
I WAS once in love with first wife maybe a few other GFs but as I got more experience with wahmen I found it harder and harder to tolerate even the smallest of faults. I think back and look at that 1st wife and think ""OMG ! I would NEVER tolerate her today""
A relationship with your bank account??
You present such a great understanding and sharp perspective of everything, you are truly a hero thanks for what you do
I love the idea of looking if a person have a long-therm hobby or not
Looking for "the one" is a dangerous cycle of rinse and repeat. It's idealisation at its finest and usually a cluster b personality trait. Once you realise that no one is perfect the better off you'll be.
Yep the problem for these woman is they are looking for the perfect man who simply doesn't exist so as soon as the guy shows any flaw they don't work on the relationship they just dump him.
It's not a problem while they are young because they have so many guys messenging them but it all changes when they hit 40.
If you value security... Japan values contentment, America values excitement, the Dutch (me) values being normal and not being flamboyant, it all depends:)
The dutch value normal? Ehhh no. Way 2 tolerant here, most dutch people value weirdness.
Another great Video huMan, I am glad I found your channel a few years back.. I wish I had found it sooner.
Whenever there’s a train wreck or plane crash, there’s never any single cause, it’s always a chain of events that led up to the event; when you are dealing with a female there are many variables at play, emotionally,socially,hormones, self esteem and or awareness, accountability which is rare and other things but I think you guys have a general idea of what I’m saying. One has to have inner peace and balance first before you can add any type of value to anyone’s life. My personal thoughts speaking from experience I don’t feel as though a female is capable of long term relationships, eventually one of the variables I pointed to earlier will rear it’s ugly head , as the train is traveling on the track one of the bolts fall off one of the wheels, then another bolt and another and off the cliff she goes taking you with her but only if you are emotionally attached. Hypergamy is real guys.
I can state with certainty that the only stable relationship I have is with my body.
Working out, eating well, remaining disciplined to my body 6 days a week is the only long term relationship I have.
I look at the scale and I look at the mirror but it’s the journey that I am addicted to.
The journey is a lot of times repetitive and routine, a lot of friends, family cannot relate.
You get told that your boring and won’t budge your routine for them, but it's s really all I have, I just have the scale and the mirror on my journey.
I could have been more successful in life if I knew that early on
My story is exactly the same. And after working on my body , im only focused on me and what makes me happy
She's waiting for the right one. The waiting room is, other guy's bedrooms.
Hobbies: Netflix, Instagram ("content creator"), traveling ("wanderlust"), partying ("carpe diem"), reading? offcourse: "500 shades of grey"
Last chick I hungout with asked what Im currently watching on Netflix, I said I dont have netflix and Id never give my money to the pedos that run it after that Cuties movie. She just smiled and nodded, like she couldnt compute what I was saying.
I was raised Mormon, my attitude towards dating and relationships was forever shaped by that, I was taught that "families are forever" and when looking for a partner, look for one that you'll be with for eternities... but you only have a few years to find them because the organisation puts social pressure and stigma on the unmarried.
Here's a thought, women who are provocative and sleep around and chase these experiences, have just as much ability as entering a long term monogamous relationship as a guy who has been rejected hundreds or thousands of times, or has dated that many women without entering a relationship or having physical intimacy. If you'd like me to go more in depth, let me know.
@@KrazyKratosFan I've got to do some things, but I will expand later on today.
@@KrazyKratosFan Okay, so to expand on my hypothesis/theory, I would point out that neither the provocative woman or the rejected/selective male has positive experience (if any) with long term relationships. Now you don't need experience to have a successful relationship and it would seem that experience is what causes issues with long term relationships. However, we understand that women are psychologically affected by being provocative, HuMan suggests that perhaps it's not a result of being provocative, just the nature of the person in general (until they reach the wall it seems). I would suggest that man that has been rejected so many times will grow quite a bit of disdain for women, or a form of desperation. If he starts receiving positive attention from a woman and he has interest in her, he may get excited and start behaving in a similar fashion to hypergamous women, looking for better opportunities, cheating etc. Or if he has courted many women without sleeping with them, he would have a broad understanding of what he likes and doesn't like in women, and be more likely to be picky, or desperate (depending on how much attention he gets and the quality of that attention). Similarly to young attractive women, a high quality male that receives a lot of positive attention from females is less likely to settle for one.
The issue and solution lies in cultural practices and social control systems.
A tribal culture may have arranged marriages, or bigger tribes may have big ceremonies where the young single people perform a cultural ritual and select a mate/life partner amongst the group.
They may also have a crime and punishment system in places that punishes the infidel partners. Other forms of control may be female circumcision so as to prevent a woman receiving too much stimulation from sex, thus lowering her temptation.
Women have been given a lot more freedom and protection than men. Family law courts punish men, but MAY shame a women, but not likely. Courting systems and practices are no longer followed. It is essentially prostitution only nowadays. Which I suppose, is the most natural form of mating. However it does not do well for a society/civilisation. Which I think is the objective of the elites, or just a natural phenomena which occurs as a consequence to overpopulation. Society building thrives of it is providing for men. Societal decay thrives if it is providing for women.
I love your stuff human. That transition from the black and white intro to you talking was awesome.
They are only fooling themselves. I told myself I could lose weight if I wanted to. I told myself that until I 23. And it's wasnt until 2 years ago when I realized if I didn't lose the weight then I may never the chance to do it the future. But that's the difference. I snapped out of my own fog.before it was too late. Most ladies wont.
The quickening rate of evolutionary change that came with the industrial revolution has far exceeded our ability to grasp what is happening to us as a species. It’s difficult to assess objectively, while we are living in it and through it. Where it leads, I haven’t a clue, but I like considering it for my own entertainment!
I'm with you. Now with the digital nomads everyone is looking for "the last undiscovered place" I wish the would leave those places undiscovered. Not specifically related to your comment... bear with me.
@@malcolmapplet4313 Bears are welcomed guests in the reality of the digital cave..
It's simple: Unstable childhood = Unstable relationships.
This definitely plays a role.
They pratically all wish/want the mythical HVM who will commit to her. In love with the life style.
Yes you see on so many american podcasts they ask the woman want they want and so often the guy has to be 6ft plus and earning 100K minimum.
They are talking about less than 5% of the male working population in the US.
This is a sum of alot of things, but short answer i think is these these days: No, she cant and wont. She might certainly think she can, but unfortunately women are very good about "fooling themselves" to think whatever it is that think they want - the "I love you for ever (..for now)."
A longer answer: Society, culture, religion, laws...all have become such as they either support or even encourage women to get rid of the guys. If a woman grows up in either in single mom family or broken up family, doesnt have any relative to show healthy longterm relationships and all the media she sees, listens to or reads are about glorifying womens single life - nvm if she meets some feminists ...its all about telling women they should have fun right now, how they are so independent and if the man isnt basically slave to her, he isnt worth her. ...then how could she ever be able to have a long lasting relationships? its foreign concept to her.
In the past genders (and families) had concrete need to stick together for survival and support - well now the daddy government has taken over. Religion and its morality is less and less of a thing to people. There is really no social pressure to stick together when things get difficult, in fact the woman probably gets social gratification the moment she reveals on her social media how she left him and is now strong and independent etc. Frankly its all very "me" and "right now" centric these days. Instant, disposable relationships.
It was just the other day i read the news article how some 36y finnish woman is trying to explain how "leaving relationship where everything was fine was her lifes most difficult decision". Reading the thing, she had good husband and children and everything was fine and good, but then she got job where she could travel and ...that was the reason to go single? Rest of the article she is explaining how she doesnt anymore judge anyone for having any kind of "different" relationships, cheating or having "vacation from family" or whatever. Also she explains how now young men are interested in her now and how being single in 35's is more interesting than it was in 25's. So basically the article is all about telling the reader how great it is for her to "get free" of the husband and kids. ...really, there is no winning. Even if you think you catch good woman and make good family life with her - well, the media is there telling her how great and exciting life she is missing every day. there isnt really a single source of media or anything else telling her how good idea it is to stick with the family - its all about personal freedom. ...and ofcourse in few years time she will hit the wall, but thats ofcourse nothing people are supposed to talk about.
" Marriage is the closest thing to a grenade...you pull the pin with the wedding day and signatures, then wait for the huge, monumental explosion of explosions preceded by many smaller ones...and if it doesn't go that way, one of you dies and utterly destroys it in a single breath, or lack of one".
Would I ever get married again?...ask me if I would pull a pin out of a grenade and you have your answer..both are way too explosive!!!
Sonic Foxx.
You are always so on the money and congrats almost at 100k!
I still feel I've been built from my childhood to chase these long term relationships. I don't know, this just is something that I always admired. It is a shame (for people that feels this way) that nowadays, this is just... The way it is...
Human you are so spot on!
It’s just another Westfield trip for the ladies when it comes to dating men!
It’s not the number of partners. Rather, people who have low self control sleep around because they have low self control. People with low self control are incapable of a monogamous relationship. Low self control correlates strongly and positively with a host of behaviors that provide short term immediate gratification. See Michael Gottfredson and Travis Hirshi’s seminal work...A General Theory of Crime.
Women : choose wisely.
Men : NEVER settle.
Important questions to ask while on a date. I wish I would have asked before my
mistake. I highly recommend using the questions he states during this video. You will get insight into her true nature. They will also help guys be honest with themselves. Thanks for sharing!
As a Man that was predisposed to long term monogamy... also recently Divorced... the dating scene is terrifying. The grass is greener mentality is rampant... I'm not telling you to bow out fellas, that's the easy way out, if you want to find fulfillment in a relationship... Put in the work, hunt down the RIGHT woman, create a plan have questions to ask her determine if she's capable and willing... But maybe wait until your 30s because I'll keep it real you don't know shit in your 20s about yourself or women.
I think being predisposed to long-term relationship matters, but just only to an extent. The major factor in their life experience is the habits cultivated throughout their lives. It is scientifically known that neuroplasticity is greater in early development (puberty to 25), the chances of it occurring decreases massively after that age. It is still possible to do it, but it requires a type of commitment and conscious effort unlikely to be seen in the average person. The older the women you are trying to interact with. (especially, if above 25 years old) The more unlikely she is to change her bad behaviour.
And these habits rely on biological instincts to reinforce themselves. The habits practised around those instincts will tend to stay throughout life.
Incredible content. Thoughtful, insightful, reflective and delivered calmly
This is some of the most insightful commentary I've ever heard.
Experience is a wonderful thing. It enables you to recognize a mistake the second time you make it, and avoid it before it happens the third time.
Many partners? The addictive pattern of her having only temporary partners, can easily become hard-wired into a woman's personality. That pattern repeats itself when she is not able to stay with a relationship-type guy who is doing everything right.. In todays world, her addiction means it's very dangerous for a man to even consider a cohabitation or marriage commitment.
Everyone is too soft. Very few people are going to talk to older people these days (they already know everything). If they did, talk to older couples, they'd find out these people have been to hell and back with everything life throws at you. That's when you get these couples that are devoted to each other. But, everybody is soft now and/or unwilling to put in the work. They bail out at the first sign of trouble instead of facing it head on as a team.
Sorry, but didn't "older people" basically create this mess for posterity?
Hi Human you know how that single mother used me and wasn’t emotionally available. It took me 18 months to get over her ... now I have met a a woman that has never been married or has kids . She is a doctor and German and a quality person . Early days but this is an advancement over the last .. I have my guard up but she is chasing me . Let’s see what happens.
Let her listen to Motorhead's "The chase is better than the catch".
@@ЕвгенийПопов-м3ц9ю meaning ?
Treat her like you’re levels above her which you are otherwise she will just disrespect you, eventually
When the fences came down, women ran away like they were on fire. We've watched it for decades now. They wanted a vacation from social responsiblity and 'duty'. Can't really blame them, it was awfully tempting.
But their expectation was that when they were 'ready' they could always go 'home' and settle down.
Men didn't run off, at least at first. We had a civilization to maintain. But now that more and more men are leaving women are finding that that 'home' is empty and the locks have been changed.
They're not 'our' women anymore. Fair enough. We're not 'their' men anymore either.
Women in online dating are like a kid in an ice cream shop trying to choose a flavor except they keep bringing more flavors out every 60 seconds.
Many thoughts and analogies pop into my head as you speak these words. Empires rise and they ultimately fall.
The more I watch married at first, the more I remove myself from the opposite gender!
Have you seen friendlyjordies p*sstake of mafs? 😂😂😂 some funny s**t
It settling down misconstrued to mean settling for someone who’s not your optimal best!? I’m 38 I think the young people well younger than me think it means settling for less to settling down.
Great video HuMan always thought provoking! David - CTA
The sooner people realize, that brain is hardwired for ignoring predictable, regular and mundane and focus on something new - that it is evolutionary equivalent of Shannon's law ( most information is carried by most unique / least probable event ) - the better. EVERYTHING will loose thrill or excitement when time and routine does its job. That's how brain works and working against it is futile. So constant excitement requires constant change and that, by definition, excludes stability. Unless this trend is harnessed into individual (or mutual) hobby or planned activities and stability is left for relationship - the results are inevitable.
Great topic for discussion huMAN. It is a learned behavior and not innate. Take for example a new born baby, pure and innocent. As a child ages, that child is still innocent until there are external influences that will shape the child's behavior - good or bad. Those influences can come from the family/home life, extended family, other children, neighborhood, and of course media and social influences.
A child can be taught morals and most importantly self-respect and they will probably grow up to value relationships and virtue. A child can also learn destructive behavior which it seems the media constantly focuses on degenerate lifestyles and how exciting and cool is to be a part of the hookup culture.
Guys, if you have a son or daughter teach them self-respect at a young age. You will need to lead by example, and your chances of bringing up a high-value child with self-respect will improve.